School wounds also translate as family wounds, because at home, the parents are to act as agents for the school and expected to affirm the school’s prominence in the child’s life. As all of us know who once had our kids in school. 😢When you think about this whole dynamic it is quite sad and honestly traumatic in many cases
This has been a massive revelation for me since deschooling myself and beginning to unschool my children. So many of my insecurities and hesitations are very much from school!! But, I'm now trying to nurture those things within myself, find that confidence and say "I am worthy, I have a voice and it's important"! Thank you for your content I always look forward to a new video!
Powerful content. Illuminating ✨ I spent 1.5 years unschooling my kiddos. Finding our rhythm. Due to many reasons my children are back in school. And it breaks my heart that we cannot continue on the unschooling path. But here’s the thing! I can hybrid our healing and joy experiences with their school experience. Just because I’m not in a position to unschool with them doesn’t mean we can’t evolve together and heal some of these wounds. It’s more work maybe, and a bit confusing, but as their ally I can help to right some of the wrongs they pick up at school. In our case it isn’t all or nothing. It’s both, because that’s the best we can do now. And I’m grateful for that and for the insight and community of the unschooling mentality.
Spot on, my wild free little people are helping me heal those wounds as I explore this beautiful way of life with them 🤗 I always appreciate your videos!
A lack of self trust and a constant looking externally for the answer/the best course of action is what I see most. When someone tries to make decisions based on their own internal guidance people can get defensive because they are so subconsciously attached to looking outside themselves.
This sounds like my personal story! Exactly what I was thinking and feeling all this time hmmm someone needs to make a film about it aye 😉 thanks Lucy!! see you in 'Healing your school wounds'.
Yes! Yes! Yes! So many school wounds for so many of us. I was a really shy child and school was completely overwhelming for me, it wasn’t until I left that I felt confident enough to be creative through art, writing and doing the things I love. I even went back and trained to be a teacher, but had the same struggles that I had as a child! I’ve signed up for your course. See you on 1st November!
I relate to this so much! I also trained and worked as a teacher and looking back, many of the same experiences came up as from my school days. Thanks for sharing! X
@@lb282012 it’s funny isn’t it? I wanted to be a teacher so that children didn’t feel as scared and unhappy in school as I was, but it actually just compounded my early experiences and made me see how restricted teachers are with what they can do. Now I just share free learning resources on my website! I love doing that.
How glad I am to find you again Lucy! Since you left your Lulastic channel that I haven't seen you, so it's like meeting a dear friend again :) . Nice to listen to you again and your refreshing reflections I cannot agree more with you. In my case I am still revisiting all my school and family traumas. It's been almost 4 years since I gave birth and started a journey that I couldn't imagine possible that is to learn to relearn that other education is possible. In my country (Spain) unschooling and homeschooling are illegal so it's very complicated to go off the sistem and in some regions even dangerous (you could face time in prison). We have till the 6th anniversary of our daughter to make a decision of what kind of education she is going to have and whether we want to take the legal risks. Fortunately, where we live there is an alternative school and maybe she could go there until secondary school starts but there are risks as well. Thanks for the support and for your wise mind (blond now!). Take care you and your beautiful family 💜🌈
Wow Lucy, Never thought of that. How you can trace one’s absence of boundaries back to school… but it’s true! That utter lack of boundaries cost me the most harm…and I can’t even imagine being raised in a home culture where I was taught the importance of them. It is so vital for our kiddos…
Hi Lucy. Finally got round to watching this! And so glad I did! The part about testing made me think of something I was discussing with my husband the other day… we are unschooling 3 kids… what we noticed when they had freedom from school was that their interest in things like reading just rocketed. I have always found it such a weird concept that schools ‘test’ children on reading… so weird?! Because it’s such a personal thing right? What we take from a book is so subjective… and shouldn’t the measure be on how much enjoyment is taken from it? Rather than understanding…. because enjoyment surely is what will encourage a lifelong love and passion for reading and will make u want to do it more? So how can children develop a LOVE for reading when the message is that you have to do it in a certain way that is right and correct?! Talk about sucking the joy!!! I used to be a school teacher so find myself constantly fighting with myself as I have an urge to quiz my daughter on what she got out of the 5th Harry Potter book… and then I think WHOA… STOP u prat, she is enjoying it so don’t kill her passion!!! Anyway sorry for rambling but wanted to share that thought! We are shortly travelling to Spain where the children will learn how to harvest olives and grapes from their ancestors land to make olive oil and wine… now THATS something worth teaching and learning 😜👏🏼 Much love Lucy xxx
Thank you Lucy, for this amazing video. I think it's a message many, many people around the world can relate to, and I hope brings clarity to many aspects of their lives and the society they're in. It has taken me years to come to understand the wounds the schooling systems I've grown up with have given me, and I now see its mark in my every day. Thank you for sharing your insights, and I hope many people find this video and your amazing channel 🙏
I think this is very powerful. I feel a lot of my school wounds come from going to boarding school. It wasn’t just during school hours the intensity of peer pressure and conforming was everywhere. It changed my whole personality in some ways that I seldom feel like I am my true self as I built many masks to avoid any negativity from peers and adults
I am a passionate Unschooler of my 3 beautiful children, but phwooooooar dude - does this light my fire even more. So grateful for you, the work you do and what you share. So important. Thank you! Love to all 🌈✨ what blessed babies to be held with such freedom and love.
AND I feel this all so so deeply. Like every wound I have carried into my adult life came from school trauma. It makes so much sense. Its so beautiful to have such an awareness to keep this the hell out of my children's lives ♥️
Hi Lucy, I really like to join the workshop, but have difficulties signing up. For some reason I get the message, that the system already have my e-mailadress, but when I try to get a new password, the system doesn't recognise my e-mail. What to do? Thanks ☺️🙃
@@LucyatLifeWithoutSchool Somehow I could not send a mail to that e-mail-adress. I got the message, that it does not exist. Maybe I have better luck next time ☺️🙈
School wounds also translate as family wounds, because at home, the parents are to act as agents for the school and expected to affirm the school’s prominence in the child’s life. As all of us know who once had our kids in school. 😢When you think about this whole dynamic it is quite sad and honestly traumatic in many cases
This has been a massive revelation for me since deschooling myself and beginning to unschool my children. So many of my insecurities and hesitations are very much from school!! But, I'm now trying to nurture those things within myself, find that confidence and say "I am worthy, I have a voice and it's important"! Thank you for your content I always look forward to a new video!
Yay beautiful! That’s the way 👏👏👏
Powerful content. Illuminating ✨ I spent 1.5 years unschooling my kiddos. Finding our rhythm. Due to many reasons my children are back in school. And it breaks my heart that we cannot continue on the unschooling path. But here’s the thing! I can hybrid our healing and joy experiences with their school experience. Just because I’m not in a position to unschool with them doesn’t mean we can’t evolve together and heal some of these wounds. It’s more work maybe, and a bit confusing, but as their ally I can help to right some of the wrongs they pick up at school. In our case it isn’t all or nothing. It’s both, because that’s the best we can do now. And I’m grateful for that and for the insight and community of the unschooling mentality.
Yes, one hundred percent yes! 🥰❤️🙏🔥
Spot on, my wild free little people are helping me heal those wounds as I explore this beautiful way of life with them 🤗 I always appreciate your videos!
A lack of self trust and a constant looking externally for the answer/the best course of action is what I see most. When someone tries to make decisions based on their own internal guidance people can get defensive because they are so subconsciously attached to looking outside themselves.
This sounds like my personal story! Exactly what I was thinking and feeling all this time hmmm someone needs to make a film about it aye 😉 thanks Lucy!! see you in 'Healing your school wounds'.
Oh yay, thanks for watching and I’ll see you at the workshop ☺️
Everything you say makes sense, especially the creativity
Wow getting the warm fuzzy tingles at 13 mins. Love this content. You're so soothing and inspiring 🥰
Also very interested in that workshop!
Yes! Yes! Yes! So many school wounds for so many of us. I was a really shy child and school was completely overwhelming for me, it wasn’t until I left that I felt confident enough to be creative through art, writing and doing the things I love. I even went back and trained to be a teacher, but had the same struggles that I had as a child! I’ve signed up for your course. See you on 1st November!
I really hear that, I feel like shy kids are forced to act soooo counter to their natural state! Love to you ❤️
I relate to this so much! I also trained and worked as a teacher and looking back, many of the same experiences came up as from my school days. Thanks for sharing! X
@@lb282012 it’s funny isn’t it? I wanted to be a teacher so that children didn’t feel as scared and unhappy in school as I was, but it actually just compounded my early experiences and made me see how restricted teachers are with what they can do. Now I just share free learning resources on my website! I love doing that.
❤One of the main reasons I am becoming a marriage and family therapist is to help others and myself heal from school wounds.
How glad I am to find you again Lucy! Since you left your Lulastic channel that I haven't seen you, so it's like meeting a dear friend again :) . Nice to listen to you again and your refreshing reflections I cannot agree more with you. In my case I am still revisiting all my school and family traumas. It's been almost 4 years since I gave birth and started a journey that I couldn't imagine possible that is to learn to relearn that other education is possible. In my country (Spain) unschooling and homeschooling are illegal so it's very complicated to go off the sistem and in some regions even dangerous (you could face time in prison). We have till the 6th anniversary of our daughter to make a decision of what kind of education she is going to have and whether we want to take the legal risks.
Fortunately, where we live there is an alternative school and maybe she could go there until secondary school starts but there are risks as well.
Thanks for the support and for your wise mind (blond now!). Take care you and your beautiful family 💜🌈
BIG YES TO THIS WHOLE VIDEO
p.s. love you lucy, stay brave
SO MANY YESES!
You nailed it Lucy!! Thank you for articulating so beautifully!!
Wow Lucy, Never thought of that. How you can trace one’s absence of boundaries back to school… but it’s true! That utter lack of boundaries cost me the most harm…and I can’t even imagine being raised in a home culture where I was taught the importance of them. It is so vital for our kiddos…
Beautiful. Thank you. This identification will help me heal.
It will! YAY!
Hi Lucy. Finally got round to watching this! And so glad I did!
The part about testing made me think of something I was discussing with my husband the other day… we are unschooling 3 kids… what we noticed when they had freedom from school was that their interest in things like reading just rocketed.
I have always found it such a weird concept that schools ‘test’ children on reading… so weird?! Because it’s such a personal thing right? What we take from a book is so subjective… and shouldn’t the measure be on how much enjoyment is taken from it? Rather than understanding…. because enjoyment surely is what will encourage a lifelong love and passion for reading and will make u want to do it more? So how can children develop a LOVE for reading when the message is that you have to do it in a certain way that is right and correct?! Talk about sucking the joy!!!
I used to be a school teacher so find myself constantly fighting with myself as I have an urge to quiz my daughter on what she got out of the 5th Harry Potter book… and then I think WHOA… STOP u prat, she is enjoying it so don’t kill her passion!!!
Anyway sorry for rambling but wanted to share that thought!
We are shortly travelling to Spain where the children will learn how to harvest olives and grapes from their ancestors land to make olive oil and wine… now THATS something worth teaching and learning 😜👏🏼
Much love Lucy xxx
Thank you Lucy, for this amazing video. I think it's a message many, many people around the world can relate to, and I hope brings clarity to many aspects of their lives and the society they're in. It has taken me years to come to understand the wounds the schooling systems I've grown up with have given me, and I now see its mark in my every day. Thank you for sharing your insights, and I hope many people find this video and your amazing channel 🙏
I think this is very powerful. I feel a lot of my school wounds come from going to boarding school. It wasn’t just during school hours the intensity of peer pressure and conforming was everywhere. It changed my whole personality in some ways that I seldom feel like I am my true self as I built many masks to avoid any negativity from peers and adults
Thank you for your beautiful encouragement Hana! May we all be healed from our school wounds ❤️
I am a passionate Unschooler of my 3 beautiful children, but phwooooooar dude - does this light my fire even more.
So grateful for you, the work you do and what you share. So important. Thank you!
Love to all 🌈✨ what blessed babies to be held with such freedom and love.
AND I feel this all so so deeply. Like every wound I have carried into my adult life came from school trauma. It makes so much sense. Its so beautiful to have such an awareness to keep this the hell out of my children's lives ♥️
Yes! Let’s create the new for the next generation! 🙏🙏🙏
Hey Lucy, these last three videos you made have been so practical and helpful for me on many levels.
Thank you, I got so much out of them x
And I thought, I'm not schoolwounded.. Litlle did I realise.
Hi Lucy,
I really like to join the workshop, but have difficulties signing up. For some reason I get the message, that the system already have my e-mailadress, but when I try to get a new password, the system doesn't recognise my e-mail. What to do? Thanks ☺️🙃
Oh, that's weird! Send us a message on lifewithouschoolvlog@gmail.com with the email address you are trying to use.
@@LucyatLifeWithoutSchool Somehow I could not send a mail to that e-mail-adress. I got the message, that it does not exist. Maybe I have better luck next time ☺️🙈
I think Lucy missed the ‘t’ off ‘without’ in the email address??
It all makes sense when you consider that the school system is designed to produce obedient workers