We 1st gen. hmong meka get hit the hardest. I had to forge my parents signatures to do drivers ed and sport. and got my license by 16 years old because i always wanted a Nissan Skyline. 35years old now, Master mechanic and now owner of a r34 skyline. 😊
Maikia, I found your story to be very engaging and thought-provoking. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your father needed to witness your achievements, as it may have helped him to recognize the mistakes, he made in not supporting you and your siblings when you guys needed him most.
It's good to forgive if the person who wronged you is repentant because forgiveness is not so much about letting the other person off the hook as it is for you to be able to let go of the anger and hurt so that you can live a life free of those negative feelings. However, just because you forgave him doesn't mean that he can expect you back in his life, that's not how things work necessarily. You and your siblings are not obligated to have your father back in your lives if you guys are not willing or ready---if this should be the case, none of you have anything to feel guilty of, just your father who will have regrets for the rest of his life for throwing away a perfectly good family for his own selfish desires! However, as much as I dislike to point this out considering how selfish and hurtful he was to the whole family, if you can forgive him and still has some love in your heart for him, then to prevent regrets in your own life, it might be an okay thing to reconnect with him as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Listen to your heart and let it lead you to a decision that you can live with without regrets later. There is no right or wrong answer, just what you are comfortable with and are willing to live with.
I'm very proud of you Mai Kia. Life has a way to come in full circle to good ppl like you and your husband. Very proud you became a Dr and dealt with very difficult backgrounds with your dad. Glad you are a loving daughter to your mom. Your dad has to come to term with his wrongs.
Very touching and inspiring Story. It’s very sad that our elder parents are so narrowminded and constantly thinking negative, making false assumption all the time, and not support their children in further education. Especially that our parents favor the son more than the daughters. I was also a victim but I’m so glad that I push past my parents.
Hmoob tej laus ib txwm (always) hais paj lug tias "Me nyuam tsis hwm tsis hlub niam txiv ces tsis tau ntuj ntoo, niam txiv tsis hlub menyuam ces tsis tau zoo" ces yog li tus txiv tsev no tiag. Yus siab hlob tsis hlub yus tus txij nkawm "uas yog niam nkauj txhav qaib nraug txhav noog", thiab yus cov menyuam "uas yog yus li roj ntsha thaum yus tseem hluas los" ces zoo li no tiag. Nrog tus txiv tsev no tu siab kawg li os.
Wowwww very inspiring story to all the parents out there always love and support your kids no matter what you brought them into this world if u cant support them than dont create them u never know what life will bring them to become successful!😊
MaiKia, so sorry to hear about your parents divorce and what you (your siblings) went through. But congratulations on your big success without anything holding you down. So proud of you. Even though your parents didn't love each other, they still loves you and didn't wanted you to make a mistake. But you were lucky and ended up with your love, not only with him but a medical doctor. I wish our hmong parents can understand and stop cheating when there's kids involved, but those stupid men just do whatever they want...Wow, what a coincidence your dad ended up in your care. I know your dad hurted your mom and you kids, but deep down he loves you all and wound never hurt you.. Forget the past, he's your father and you knew he may not be there forever, so hope you kids could forgive him and maybe you kids could do an arrangement to see him. It would be the greatest gift you kids could do for him before he dies...You don't have to do anything big for him, but just let him know where you all are now...He knows what he did wrong and Karma got him good for not loving your mom. Love him as a father but not more. Best of luck to you and your family.
Ntuj aw cas nej yuav yug los yuam kev rau ib leej txiv liam2 g tsim nyog yog koj txiv li os. Koj niam nej muaj hmoo heev koj niam tseem yug tau 3 leeg tub tseem xav tau baum cas ntxiv es ho yuav phem li cas no koj txiv yeej siab phem ntshaw2 tus niam yau xwb mas. Koj txiv lub siab phem g hlub nej cov me nus muag kev npam yuav raws cuag ib hnub xwb...so happy for nej cov siblings 👍❤❤❤😂😂😢
What a sad story. Im glad you are now sucessful in life sister. Remember, if you're not successful, maybe your dad wont even acknowledge you or your siblings. You cannot unclaimed him because he is your biological father nonetheless, but you have every right to move on and or dont have to connect with him/his life if you and your siblings wish. He gets what he deserved. Im glad you and your siblings, and mother are doing well. Wish you all the best, sis.
Tam li kuv paub mas lawv them los lawv yeej txiav neb cov nyiaj los them thiab vim kuv muaj 6 Leej tub thiab ntxhais kawm tau Dr ua kws kho mob thiab fab kawm ntawv
Thank your father for belittling you, shaming you and abandoning you, your mom and siblings. His selfishness, disloyalty, and mistreatment fueled you to be the best that you can be today.
Hmong father always prefers boy than girl. I have boys and girls, but I love my daughters as much as my sons. I have 2 doctors daughter. They love me as much as the sons or may be even more. Nowadays, love your children equally, no matter a boy or a girl. You reap what you sow.
Tu siab tag, xyov yuav thaum twg peb tej niam tej txiv mam Txawj sib hlub thiab hlub tej menyuam os lawv aw. Tsi yog tuaj kawm kev txawj ntse tebchaws nov hos tuaj kawm Liam xwb os Hmoob.
Tus niag neeg txiv dev xuab li niag txiv tsev no mas cia kom nws tsis muaj chaw tuag xwb mas zoo dua, nws yog ib tug neeg uas tsis tab cuab xav mus ua txiv aub nyob teb chaws Nplog xwb tamsim no thiaj li npam nws.
Niag neeg phem lwj liam ces yeej phem tsis yog tim ub tim no. Niag tsiaj ces yeej yog tsiag lam ho yog tsiag ces muab tua rau tsoom kwv tij noj ib pluag kom tag thiaj tsis tau hais.
What ur father did to u is unforgiveable. U & ur siblings have no obligation to have a relationship with him. He only acknowledges u now bcuz he has no one else to rely on.
Mloog mas tusiab kawg lis. 😢Txhob siab phem2 rau yus tus niam loj thiab tes meyuam nawb. We don't know what the future holds and when you may need them again. A good lesson to all parents especially the deadbeat fathers out there.
So proud of you! You were lucky to have met your husband at that age to help lead you where you are today. As for your father, he deserves it. You don’t have to forgive him. Let him be by himself. He did it to himself.
Cas koj yuav hais lus phem ua luaj rau tus ntxhais no nas zoo li koj cas tsis nyob twj ywm tim nplog zoo li koj tuaj nyob teb chaws no los nyhav av xwb os
Kuv ma nyiam mloog neej neeg sib nrhiav tau zoo li no heev
We 1st gen. hmong meka get hit the hardest. I had to forge my parents signatures to do drivers ed and sport. and got my license by 16 years old because i always wanted a Nissan Skyline. 35years old now, Master mechanic and now owner of a r34 skyline. 😊
koom koj uas ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I cry what good story 😢
Maikia, I found your story to be very engaging and thought-provoking. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your father needed to witness your achievements, as it may have helped him to recognize the mistakes, he made in not supporting you and your siblings when you guys needed him most.
Great story. Thank you for sharing
You are so beautiful Jenny.
Thank you ❤
@@8Loj8zoo aww... thank you!
❤😢what a great outcome for her glad she push forward
Kuv ntxub cov ntxais mus tsoob lwm haiv neeg tshaj plaws.
Wow.....caag lub ntuj tseem lem leej txiv tsi zoo nuav lug ntsib leej ntxhais zoo hab os ntuj os teb awd....
Thank you for your story
Sister, I'm proud of you as a medical doctor 💓! Forgive someone who had hurt you is hard. You're a great doctor who can forgive your father 😢
It's good to forgive if the person who wronged you is repentant because forgiveness is not so much about letting the other person off the hook as it is for you to be able to let go of the anger and hurt so that you can live a life free of those negative feelings. However, just because you forgave him doesn't mean that he can expect you back in his life, that's not how things work necessarily. You and your siblings are not obligated to have your father back in your lives if you guys are not willing or ready---if this should be the case, none of you have anything to feel guilty of, just your father who will have regrets for the rest of his life for throwing away a perfectly good family for his own selfish desires! However, as much as I dislike to point this out considering how selfish and hurtful he was to the whole family, if you can forgive him and still has some love in your heart for him, then to prevent regrets in your own life, it might be an okay thing to reconnect with him as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Listen to your heart and let it lead you to a decision that you can live with without regrets later. There is no right or wrong answer, just what you are comfortable with and are willing to live with.
Christian preacher preaching different forgiveness is the right answer.
Yog 1 zaj zoo kawg thov qhuas koj nawb me ntxhais tej niag laus ces tsis txawj xav li os... tsuav koj caum tau koj tus npau suav xwb mas mog
I'm very proud of you Mai Kia. Life has a way to come in full circle to good ppl like you and your husband. Very proud you became a Dr and dealt with very difficult backgrounds with your dad. Glad you are a loving daughter to your mom. Your dad has to come to term with his wrongs.
Very touching and inspiring Story. It’s very sad that our elder parents are so narrowminded and constantly thinking negative, making false assumption all the time, and not support their children in further education. Especially that our parents favor the son more than the daughters. I was also a victim but I’m so glad that I push past my parents.
Yog muaj tseeb muab leej txiv xa mus nplog tdis need cov neeg zoo li ntawd nyob USA ua tsaug
Hmoob tej laus ib txwm (always) hais paj lug tias "Me nyuam tsis hwm tsis hlub niam txiv ces tsis tau ntuj ntoo, niam txiv tsis hlub menyuam ces tsis tau zoo" ces yog li tus txiv tsev no tiag. Yus siab hlob tsis hlub yus tus txij nkawm "uas yog niam nkauj txhav qaib nraug txhav noog", thiab yus cov menyuam "uas yog yus li roj ntsha thaum yus tseem hluas los" ces zoo li no tiag. Nrog tus txiv tsev no tu siab kawg li os.
Mi ntxhais aw koj mas tsaj lij heev. Pab koj zoo siab os mog.
Wowwww very inspiring story to all the parents out there always love and support your kids no matter what you brought them into this world if u cant support them than dont create them u never know what life will bring them to become successful!😊
Ua neeg nyob tiam no, leejtwg yog tus siab phem rhuav lub neej ces yeej npam, tsis tau zoo neej nrog luag zejzog.
Peb Hmoob yog ib haiv neeg tsis muaj meej mom siab npaum Meskas, uas yog ib haiv neeg ntiajteb no suav tias yog ib haiv neeg muaj meej mom siab dua ntais, tab sis Meskas tsis cais (discriminate) peb thaum lawv paub tias lawv tus tub/ ntxhais nyiam thiab hlub peb lawm ces lawv txhawb xwb vim lawv yog ib haiv neeg muaj kev hlub. Peb Hmoob cov laus yog cov tseem coj thiab xav li yav thaum ub tias tsis xav txuam yuaj (mix) nrog neeg txawv nqaij tawv ces lawv thiaj txwv tej tub ntxhais xwb. Tab sis peb tuaj nyob lub teb chaws uas neeg thoob ntiajteb tuaj nyob. Yog li no, tsim nyog peb yuav tsum yoog nom tswv txoj cai thiab haiv neeg Meskas txoj kev xav thiaj yuav ua rau peb muaj taus txoj kev hlub li luag nawb.
MaiKia, so sorry to hear about your parents divorce and what you (your siblings) went through. But congratulations on your big success without anything holding you down. So proud of you. Even though your parents didn't love each other, they still loves you and didn't wanted you to make a mistake. But you were lucky and ended up with your love, not only with him but a medical doctor. I wish our hmong parents can understand and stop cheating when there's kids involved, but those stupid men just do whatever they want...Wow, what a coincidence your dad ended up in your care. I know your dad hurted your mom and you kids, but deep down he loves you all and wound never hurt you.. Forget the past, he's your father and you knew he may not be there forever, so hope you kids could forgive him and maybe you kids could do an arrangement to see him. It would be the greatest gift you kids could do for him before he dies...You don't have to do anything big for him, but just let him know where you all are now...He knows what he did wrong and Karma got him good for not loving your mom. Love him as a father but not more. Best of luck to you and your family.
Ntuj aw cas nej yuav yug los yuam kev rau ib leej txiv liam2 g tsim nyog yog koj txiv li os. Koj niam nej muaj hmoo heev koj niam tseem yug tau 3 leeg tub tseem xav tau baum cas ntxiv es ho yuav phem li cas no koj txiv yeej siab phem ntshaw2 tus niam yau xwb mas. Koj txiv lub siab phem g hlub nej cov me nus muag kev npam yuav raws cuag ib hnub xwb...so happy for nej cov siblings 👍❤❤❤😂😂😢
What a sad story. Im glad you are now sucessful in life sister. Remember, if you're not successful, maybe your dad wont even acknowledge you or your siblings. You cannot unclaimed him because he is your biological father nonetheless, but you have every right to move on and or dont have to connect with him/his life if you and your siblings wish. He gets what he deserved. Im glad you and your siblings, and mother are doing well. Wish you all the best, sis.
Ntsej muag laus tsam no pov koj khawv hwv lauj yod
Lwm tiam cais peb twb ua rooj vag guas koj lawm ov
Life is a crash course..what are the odds
Tam li kuv paub mas lawv them los lawv yeej txiav neb cov nyiaj los them thiab vim kuv muaj 6 Leej tub thiab ntxhais kawm tau Dr ua kws kho mob thiab fab kawm ntawv
Very good story. Hais tau zoo thiab hais tau tu siab kawg. Thank you for sharing.
Thank your father for belittling you, shaming you and abandoning you, your mom and siblings. His selfishness, disloyalty, and mistreatment fueled you to be the best that you can be today.
Awwww. I feel your mom’s pain. Only a mom would love you like that.
I can forgive but I can’t forget! Honestly he doesn’t deserve you & your siblings anymore. u should just be loyal to your mother.
Your dad got what he wanted, people who cheated never end up good
Hmong father always prefers boy than girl. I have boys and girls, but I love my daughters as much as my sons. I have 2 doctors daughter. They love me as much as the sons or may be even more. Nowadays, love your children equally, no matter a boy or a girl. You reap what you sow.
Twb muaj 3 tug tub lawm los tsis txaus ces yog tim koj txiv siab coob xwb os
Tuag tsis tuag thaum yau tsis hlub yus tej ntxhais maj zaum no pom lox ?
Niag ntsej muag laus puaa txaj muag nab ?
Tu siab tag, xyov yuav thaum twg peb tej niam tej txiv mam Txawj sib hlub thiab hlub tej menyuam os lawv aw. Tsi yog tuaj kawm kev txawj ntse tebchaws nov hos tuaj kawm Liam xwb os Hmoob.
Loser father- homeless. Forgive but don’t forget. He’s looking for financial support & a place to live.
Tus niag neeg txiv dev xuab li niag txiv tsev no mas cia kom nws tsis muaj chaw tuag xwb mas zoo dua, nws yog ib tug neeg uas tsis tab cuab xav mus ua txiv aub nyob teb chaws Nplog xwb tamsim no thiaj li npam nws.
Niag neeg phem lwj liam ces yeej phem tsis yog tim ub tim no. Niag tsiaj ces yeej yog tsiag lam ho yog tsiag ces muab tua rau tsoom kwv tij noj ib pluag kom tag thiaj tsis tau hais.
Wow I’m so……. proud of you god bring Dad to meet you because he dis respect he daughters
He only claimed you guys cause you guys are well off now.
Nws mus phov sia tuag tim nplog xwb
Proud of you achieve your goals and forgiveness for your dad, Hmong man always think grass on other side is better that’s why he is the loser now
Please forgive him. Aman
Tu siab tshaj plaws li os
Mi ntxhais aw . Tsis muaj ib yam uas tu siab tshaj lawm. 😂 ib leej txiv siab phem tshaj li koj txiv lawm. 😂😂
Haub yau tus tib neeg siab phem os yom cas txog thaum kawg yus tus ntxhais tseem rov qab ua doctor kho yus thiab lauj yom npam los yog hmoov zoo ne
😂
If it was me I would have said kuv TSI YOG koj tu ntxhais. Koj tu ntxhais tuag long time ago.....
Mus ua qhev xwb es cas nej hos hais tias ua neej muaj muaj lawm no hehehe ruam tiag
Koj tus aib pog maiv kiab no khij xuaj heev nawb, ua cas koj tseem mus cuab rau mes kas thiab ???
Anyone who sin is a slave to sin.
Koj txiv mas siab phem tshaj plaws twb tsis nco qab txog pug thaum ub ntshai tsam tsis tau koj niam es cia li muab koj pog lawv tso pov tseg es khiav kiag nrog koj niam lawv tuaj teb chaws mekas no lawm. Cov txiv neej Hmoob siab phem2 li no mloog ua kev kawm nawb.
Wow you look beautiful today sister Jenny 🥰
thank you🥰
What ur father did to u is unforgiveable. U & ur siblings have no obligation to have a relationship with him. He only acknowledges u now bcuz he has no one else to rely on.
Mloog mas tusiab kawg lis. 😢Txhob siab phem2 rau yus tus niam loj thiab tes meyuam nawb. We don't know what the future holds and when you may need them again. A good lesson to all parents especially the deadbeat fathers out there.
So proud of you! You were lucky to have met your husband at that age to help lead you where you are today. As for your father, he deserves it. You don’t have to forgive him. Let him be by himself. He did it to himself.
Cas koj yuav hais lus phem ua luaj rau tus ntxhais no nas zoo li koj cas tsis nyob twj ywm tim nplog zoo li koj tuaj nyob teb chaws no los nyhav av xwb os