It literally leaves an energetic scar on your heart chakra which is your number one most important chakra.. even if you don’t believe in chakras it’s written in the Bible Proverbs 4:23 New Living Translation 23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
When you divorce and stay single for awhile afterwards you begin to enjoy your sense of freedom. Not having to do whats expected if you're in a relationship. Peace is a needed and powerful thing.
It's like once you have been married or in a long-term relationship, you've seen it, been there and done that, and you might not want to do it again. Like Phaedra Parks said, "The only woman who wants a husband is the woman who hasnt had one."
@@cierrabennett206: Phaedra Parks😆…a healthy marriage (none perfect of course) makes all the difference in the experience. Never doing it again because he was so good to you, died and can’t be replaced is one thing. It’s another to be married many years to a person that drains your mental and everything else. That can take years off of your life and make you run and never look back. Learn, grow, and love again.
That doctor is on point! Social media has truly screwed up society!!! No one wants to be alone. I found love at almost 50. I stayed single until I knew I was truly ready to give my all to someone after a terrible breakup. Hurt people hurt people! Stay single until it’s right for you but, don’t give up on love all together because you’ve been hurt!
Yes, I agree. The doctor was definitely on point social media has run a lot of peoples reflection of marriage, relationships, and even family. A lot of people are just bitter and haven’t grieved or took the necessary steps to healing as he said and just passing around hurt💔may GOD forgive & help us to get right…..
@@jesusmykingisvictory1541 Exactly, and for those of them in the public eye, the public demands that they speak on what really went down and who’s the first to get a new boo. Etc. It’s so pathetic.
Men really need to be held accountable for there promiscuous behavior , making multiple families and breaking up families is not healthy and happy for the mother or children . When you marry a person , stick it out !
Why doesn’t this have a million likes!! I get they were are going through changes as an age of our history comes to an end but I still feel like the easiest relationship to be in is a monogamous one. They are the MOST rewarding as well. When you look at a husband and wife that makes it to 40-60 years married it gives you a feeling that can’t be replaced because marriage STANDS for something.
@@Swirlworld77 no it’s not. Irreconcilable differences is the main reason why women file for divorce. Check your statistics. And it has been the main reason ever since most states got rid of no fault divorces
Yeah but she can meet someone in canada or the uk she has access to men that us regual everyday women dont..she ia choosing to not pursue love again bcz of her kevin experience
Been single for 12 years now, literally no dates, no phone relationships. I seen too many bad breakups, toxic marriages and my second marriage was truly psychologically abusive on his part. He was a chronic liar, lazy, scary, beta man. Married to him for 11 years. Regret it greatly.
My sentiments exactly, Tamika. I’ve been single so long that I don’t want anyone in my space 24/7. He needs a be a busy man who travels often. I’m open to marriage but not the traditional way. I’m even open to living in separate homes.
She doesn't have to change her mind. No such thing as the "right man." If she doesn't want to be married again that is perfectly fine. Marriage is not the end all be all.
I dont wanna be married again either. I feel exactly how she feels ...my 20s were dedicated to my marriage now that im free at 35...i want to just enjoy life.
My mom would always say that she didn't want to even be bothered with a man. I honestly didn't not understand why until I was 5 years into my marriage. If my husband and I ever divorce. I think I would want to keep my freedom too.
It sounds like you wouldn't mind divorcing your husband. Don't stick around if your marriage is not serving you. Make a 1-5 year plan (depending on your current circumstances) and get out. Give him his freedom, and take yours. Get educated and stash money if you need to
I agree with Kevin Hart's ex wife he wants to waste all those year's when someone else is on their mind black men need too stop treating black women like garbage 🗑
“To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).
I enjoy doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, organizing, grocery shopping, giving massages etc. I’m naturally a giver. I’m a #6 and my Lifepath is service. Everyone of us is different.
@@rosej5029There are plenty of things that you do when single that you may do differently once married. I am a woman and I expect my husband to handle taking out the trash. When I was single I did it but now I don't. Of course there may be days when I still have to do that but in marriage there should be a division of labor. What's the point of being married if we just live the exact same way as when we are single if that's the case I can just get a friend and not a husband.
She’s super beautiful and always so gracious in interviews. I hate to see her not enjoying the fruits of what looks like her investment in Kevin hart. He’s moved on with family #2 and you’re alone, that doesn’t sit well with most ppl. I hope she experiences happiness in its highest form.
Yooooooo you better speak!!!! The devil’s lie was all up in much this conversation and people who are not cemented in the word of God will mistake lies and call it truth.
Preach. People today are afraid to admit that they failed in their marriages and it,s ok. Whatever doesn't kill you can only make you stronger. We don't have to act like everything is ok when we know it,s not ok. Because the worst thing that you can ever do is to lie to yourself...
I pray their hearts are healed. Hurt will keep us from experiencing the beauty of marriage as God designed. These lady are saying I don't want to be married but they want the benefits of being in companionship. Create the marriage how God designed it and all that other stuff y'all determine who will do what. There are a lot of men that don't mind cooking.
I love being a wife, but think it’s going to be extremely difficult to find a man that shares my lifestyle. A sober lifestyle, not lustful, no social media (besides TH-cam), monogamous, and carries himself as a “taken” person.
WDYM by not lustful? Please ensure that you and future man discuss this in detail. I’ve seen men and women accommodate their spouses’ sexual desires initially, knowing that they can’t sustain. Too many marriages end due to sexual incompatibility.
All things are possible if you believe JESUS said. Jer 32:27 is there Anything too hard for me... God can give you what you want and he can EXCEED IT🙏🙌 ASK..
I tried it three times and I can honestly say all of my three relationships were with different type of men. I tried to never date the same man over again, lol 😂 and it still bit me in the butt. I have experienced it all sisters, a cheater, domestic abuser, lying manipulator, porn addictive, jobless narcissist… the list goes on. So I can say today no more drama, I want to live the rest of my days in peaceful mind. I have grown children and I’m happy being alone. It’s not easy to find a good man so I am all set.
You hope that her ex husband that threw her away is proud of her?? I don't think it works like that😂 That's kind of a weird wish. Her husband is the one who caused her pain. I don't think that he has any right to be proud of her and I don't think they have that sort of relationship.
I understand, I am in this space as well. Women are getting tired of the feminine men that not protect or provide. We providing for ourselves now and really can care less if we have a man or not. We love our peace.
It’s unresolved trauma that some adult men bring to relationships. All those experiences from childhood stay harbored within. I bet most adults never confront their childhood abuser, the neglectful parent, etc. Instead the person who becomes the punching bag are their partners unfortunately. What people have to realize is that those children grow up to be adults eventually and if they have an unresolved past more than like they will inflict the same hurt onto the person or people that love them the most. So, now you have black American women that are refusing to be in relationships with black men and vice versa.
Statistically, the majority of women who tie the knot end up seeking a divorce down the road. It seems that the institution of marriage has failed to serve women's best interests. Sadly, many women only come to this realization post-marriage vows. Society tends to downplay this truth by discouraging younger women from heeding the advice of their older counterparts and dismissing divorced women as bitter. But, the reality is that divorced women have a clear understanding of marriage, leading many of them to opt out of remarrying unless there are financial gains involved. This isn't about bitterness; it's about the experience of having your rose-tinted glasses removed by way of reality checks..
If they told the truth women wouldn’t do it. Society uses women to uplift men, he steps on her back to become better and more successful. It’s all about status. This is a man’s world and women are used as objects in their games but we’re slowly waking up.
Torrei said "Anytime soon" - she never said never.....and that makes sense. She just spent the bulk of her adulthood catering to other people. Her children and her ex...and I don't feel like she's ashamed of that journey because she still bares the name Hart but it sounds like now she want some years to have fun, be selfish, forge her own identity, and do her like she's never been able to. She's only around 45 - mid life crisis age - not saying she's having one, but it's fair to say it's fair for her to figure herself out right now. I also think Torrei may be more into a balanced companionship and those too can be sacred. Everything doesn't have to be registered with the state or brought down in a white dress, but I don't think she's opposed to that. I'm sure she sees how her ex is even treating his new wife.
They were only married 7 years and she has been divorced for over 13 years what you are saying she spent the bulk of her life catering to him is a flat out lie. She is not getting married because she doesn't want to lose that alimony and the fame that comes with that last name. Do you hear yourself. Imagine if men told women what you are saying about marriage! "Everything doesn't have to be registered with the state or brought down in a white dress" that is just BS talk to help you make your point but the majority of the women want to be married. Like cut it out!!
@@jp5685 she was married to him for 7 years but still raised his kids for 18 - do you hear yourself? It's as if you didn't read anything I posted. You can drop your name and still have alimony, and like I said, she started her career with her name while WITH kevin....if Tina Turner kept her name with dignity, why can't she? Regardless of what "the majority of women" want, this is a panel of divorcee's with their own unique experiences sharing why she don't desire it after what she's been through AND see what others are going through. Please gain a wider perspective.
@@Heyu7her3 Her children don't have a thing to do with her not wanting to change her name that is just an excuse. If he was a broke woman beater I can guarantee you she wouldn't have a problem changing her name. She knows what comes with that last name and no one would know who she was without it.
@jp5685 I kept my ex-husband's last name so that I would have the same last name as my children. My ex definitely isn't a woman beater but he is broke. You don't speak for everyone.
She makes her own money and she don’t receive anything from him. Even though she helped Kevin career. That’s why Katt Williams took her on tour with him and don’t support Kevin. Cause he snake.
Is this what it really is? I didn't think of that.🤣🤣🤣 I feel bad for women like this. The money had her trapped with a raggedy man....and now the raggedy man's money is keeping her from a good man. She's still tied to him.😔
How ignorant of a statement. She was not with Kevin when he blew up, she was with the broke, struggling Kevin. As most BM do, they use women as a placeholder then when they get where they want to be, they leave the women who was by their side when they weren't shyt.
What's backwards and cooked is you assuming everyone feels the same in our community but passive aggressively stated you don't agree and that you are part of the community you judge. Your opinion is emotionally immature so how can anyone take you seriously?
@@TheGrayGrey I never said everyone feels the same. you’re making up stuff based on feelings, which emotionally immature. I can judge because I am apart of the community. Why would I judge a community I don’t belong to or intimately know about? You make no sense. How can anyone take you seriously?
It is a waste when the man you’ve held down for all that time leaves you the moment he gets on! Black Men Who Choose Preferences of the Past & Present List: 1. Cornel West (he had multiple non black women wives) 2. Kanye West (something about these men with the last name “West” 😂) 3. Quincy Jones 4. Byron Allen 5. Robert F. Smith 6. Harry Belafonte 7. Sidney Poitier 8. Charles Barkley 9. Michael Ealy 10. Tavis Smiley (his preferences all filed sexual harassment lawsuits against him years ago) 11. Bill Cosby 12. James Earl Jones 13. Omari Hardwick 14. Mehcad Brooks (his pandering to bw is disturbing) 15. Taye Diggs 16. Jamie Foxx (Google his 2 Baby Mamas) 17. Frederick Douglas 18. Michael Jackson 19. Donald Glover 20. John Legend 21. W. Kamau Bell 22. Jay Ellis 23. Orlando Jones 24. Don Cornelius 25. Eddie Murphy (Finally got the woman he always wanted) 26. Michael Jordan (stop buying his shoes) 27. Virgil Abloh 28. 50 Cent 29. Lil Wayne 30. Young Jeezy 31. Usher 32. Brian McKnight 33. James Baldwin 34. David Oyelowo 35. Seal 36. Terrence Howard 37. Red Foxx 38. Richard Pryor 39. Billie Dee Williams 40. David Alan Grier 41. Dr Dre 42. John Amos 43. Yaphet Kotto 44. Kenan Thompson 45. Eric Benet 46. Gregory Hines 47. Van Jones 48. Dark Child 49. Babyface 50. YG 51. Dave Chappelle 52. Mike Epps 53. Kevin Hart 54. Kobe Bryant 55. Gary Coleman 56. Cam Newton 56. Cuba Gooding Jr. 57. Dennis Rodman 58. Scottie Pippin 59. Rapper Maino 60. John Ridley 61. Ricky Williams 62. Winston Duke 63. Xzibit 64. DC Young Fly 65. Jonathan Majors 66. Coolio 67. Herschel Walker 68. Khalil Kain 69. Stephen “Twitch” Boss 70. OJ Simpson 71. Lionel Richie 72. Julian Bond 73. Neil deGrasse Tyson 74. Eddie Griffin 75. Diddy 76. Omar Gooding 77. Cuba Gooding 78. Lance Reddick 79. Judge Joe Brown 80. Reggie Jackson 81. Reggie Bush 82. Tracy Morgan 83. Jimmie Allen 84. Tyrese 85. Tank 86. King Bach 87. Jacob Anderson 88. Billy Carson 89. Professor Griff 89. Tariq Nasheed 90. Sisqo 91. Mario 92. Floyd Mayweather Jr. 93. Krayzie Bone from Bone Thugs 94. Jimmy Butler 95. Alfonso Ribeiro 96. Big Boy (Radio Host) 97. Bokeem Woodbine 98. Sisqo 99. Ernie Hudson 100. Mike Colter 101. Louis Gossett Jr. 102. Kid Cudi 103. Richard T. Jones 104. Bill Russell 105. Ryan Leslie
What folks don't do well..no what Men don't do well. They don't communicate, they take advantage, they act ignorant, they gaslight and then blame you, they do not LIVE fair- men just take and wear a woman out and then leave her. I will not remarry- ever. I have no desire for anyone to live with me ever again. I'm good.
Which is truly sad because that is like a spiritual blockage for them. The spirit of marriage lessens is real. And sometimes we can be in our own way. I would set my self free after stacking up and move into something I can afford and get a new career or start a business and continue to serve God.
Ppl that dont go into a relationship with the understanding that you are going to get older and you both have growing and maturing to do and will have to watch each other go through many processes and changes will always have a big problem. If you truely love a person then you love the flawed sides lf them as well and you naturally should have the patients to watch them mature in each area. You both should know better that all bad habits will not always be bad habits and ppl change and fix things together as you grow. And you should naturally be feeding off of eachothers greatness and naturally sharpening each other, which subliminally motivates each other naturally to do better! This is what I understand love to be. And you should also just let each other "be"...
What I hear a lot of woman saying is they chose others over themselves and are having to essentially learn to do that later on in life. I wish women didn’t feel they needed to be the sacrificial lamb for their partners. Also I feel like a lot of women have not had certain partners and assume every relationship w a man requires you serving meals and folding laundry. Where’s the talk of love and companionship? I feel like don’t talk down on marriage just bc ur experience lacked the lasting power or comparability
Relationships come into our lives for a reason, a season or a purpose. Some relationships are sent to help you grow beyond your previous self imposed limitations. The toughest are wrought with betrayal only to help expand your vision to grow new wings. We need others to grow and we are designed by God to be in relationships with others. Thus, no man or woman is an island unto themselves.
I always find it interesting that women say a man doesn’t have the capability to be monogamous and then get upset that he cheated 🙃… lack of self control in a man is something that we should not normalize 😑
I hate when people have to question happiness. Happiness is whatever you think happiness is at the moment.. it may change from time to time and you should never ask someone else what makes them happy because people are two different people and what makes them happy may not make you happy so enjoy day by day and then just enjoy the moment. That’s not true when they say men cannot be monogamous if that’s what you really want and it doesn’t matter about the sex of the person you have to truly want that.
Ewww chile! I thought it was just me. I would not give that kind of power over to another human being, not for a second to think they have “finished” me or changed my outlook on loving someone and being loved by someone else! Their mindset: “I gotta love myself” which is true, BUT they stay in that state for 10,000 forevers. Both of their ex spouses have moved on remarried and thriving (appear to be) while they are stuck in a loop. Then convince themselves that “I’m good” never again. It’s just a more graceful bitterness but it’s still bitterness nonetheless. Learn, grow, and love again.
They’re complaining about things that you can outsourced. But, ultimately if you marry a man that you love then you’ll have absolutely no problem serving him and catering to his needs esp if it’s reciprocal. I’m not sure what they’re talking about.
Ladies we have to take accountability for the treatment we receive. Women are often complicit in the treatment we receive. No one can treat you in ways you don’t accept or agree to.
@@judithokello2857 yes , and my answer remains the same. In any form of relationship the treatment you accept is on you., especially when you allow it continuously.
If u dont wanna do nothing for anyone, then ur clearly hurt. Cause when u love love soemone and are head over heels in love, doing stuff for them aint a chore, its a pleasure. I think these women still have a healing bit to do. Cause also why wouldnt u want love and to receive the same, someone who takes pleasure in caring for you.
At the end of the day, the day has to end. If these ladies had a wish, they would still be married to Usher and Kevin. The fact is that both men no longer wanted to be with them; they are scorned.
Why y'all talking about Kevin Hart they are divorced they moved on with the life why do people wait for them not to be together and got so much negative to say about the other person I don't like that your business is your business you need to keep it in the home and keep it between between the both of y'all and I don't like that but I'm going to pray for people like that I don't want to care about what happened to somebody else's life they got a divorce Barnes & Noble not killing each other and hurting each other big business is their business I hate when females do that so sad but like I said I'm going to pray for your❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💯
I have been through some of the worst trauma and I don't believe every man is the same or marriage is off the table. I can't view life this way because I will set myself up emotionally to display that energy towards myself and others. Hopefully for consistent days she can forgive him for what he has done to her and her for what she has done to him. I also think women of success worry about the wrong man sweeping them off thier feet, marrying or marrying again, and possibly ending up paying alimony if the marriage fails. Halle Berry is an example. She let two gorgeous men play in her face because she still believes in love. Hopefully she doesn't with her most recent guy. Just get a prenup before marriage and a NDA immediately upon dating. If the man doesn't want to sign either then he isn't in it for love he is chasing the bag. I agree social media has desensitized people and it's really difficult to find people that are grounded in the work required for a healthy marriage or even the relationship that can lead to marriage. People chase money not God so til death do us part is just words to them.
I believe there are men who can be monogamous.. but if you’ve experienced one or multiple relationships with men who have not been, your perspective or outlook may be all men cheat.. which isn’t necessarily true.. it takes healing and inner work to move on from situations as such..
Humans are attracted to other people than they love doesnt mean you still want to hurt people you love. Being monogamous is still a choice even though its still natural to be attracted to others simply because you dont want lose the person or lose that family. Its always a choice regardless of the natural want to have sex with others. Lets not make men only guilty of this or excuse them as a man is going to be a man. Its humans! women are attracted to other men to have thoughts too.Its just a choice is it worth the risk ....
I am sorry that people are so hurt and harmed that they cannot be in a relationship with a husband or wife and no judgment but if you believe in GOD, Jesus, and believe the bible which I think more than one person may be than marriage was created for one man and one women and anything against that goes against GOD? Just saying to each their own and just be careful out here in these streets.
She's not going to get remarried because the alimony will stop if she does and she will have to change her last name which she should have done given they have been divorced for over a decade plain and simple. If anyone believes in any of that other BS they are a fool.
@@Ap-lk5hw Keep it for what? Don't come with it the last name her kids have BS either. He is still the kids father but she is not his wife that is why she should change it. She is keeping it for the money and fame reasons but no one woman wants to admit that for some reason.
Marriage is from God this bf gf culture is not normal I had a husband and never was the maid it’s about helping each other and supporting each other…. Sex before marriage is the most dangerous thing we can do it brings so much trouble in our souls it’s best to abstain until marriage
@@monica4.070 moved and you can’t even change (UPDATE) your name ?! She is no longer Mrs. Hart. She’s been giving the SAME interview for years about what all she gave up and sacrificed. She won’t remarry because no one will know who she is if she changes her name
@@twill1007 some people keep their married last names for a host of reasons including spousal support. If she can get the support, why shouldn't she? Income is income.
@@twill1007 Also people are allowed to reflect on where they came from and where they are now. We don't know if they are paying her for this interview or if the exposure helps her other projects. I would make my coins and you would too.
A bad relationship leaves a horrible taste in your mouth
Yes! It does
Obviously that is what this is.
@noirefit5954 not just one bad relationship
Truly. Especially if you were dealing with a narcissist.
It literally leaves an energetic scar on your heart chakra which is your number one most important chakra.. even if you don’t believe in chakras it’s written in the Bible
Proverbs 4:23
New Living Translation
23 Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.
When you divorce and stay single for awhile afterwards you begin to enjoy your sense of freedom. Not having to do whats expected if you're in a relationship. Peace is a needed and powerful thing.
Amen
Claudia Jordan is going to keep a job period 👌❤❤❤🥰
That brain and hustle is on ready babie😂😂😂😂
She's a star.
Her & Keke Palmer lol
Right, is this a new gig?
That’s right 😊
It's like once you have been married or in a long-term relationship, you've seen it, been there and done that, and you might not want to do it again. Like Phaedra Parks said, "The only woman who wants a husband is the woman who hasnt had one."
I had a husband and want another one. 😅
@@cierrabennett206: Phaedra Parks😆…a healthy marriage (none perfect of course) makes all the difference in the experience. Never doing it again because he was so good to you, died and can’t be replaced is one thing. It’s another to be married many years to a person that drains your mental and everything else. That can take years off of your life and make you run and never look back. Learn, grow, and love again.
LMBO
😂😂so true
lol
That doctor is on point! Social media has truly screwed up society!!! No one wants to be alone. I found love at almost 50. I stayed single until I knew I was truly ready to give my all to someone after a terrible breakup. Hurt people hurt people! Stay single until it’s right for you but, don’t give up on love all together because you’ve been hurt!
True nobody don’t really want to be alone
Yes, I agree. The doctor was definitely on point social media has run a lot of peoples reflection of marriage, relationships, and even family. A lot of people are just bitter and haven’t grieved or took the necessary steps to healing as he said and just passing around hurt💔may GOD forgive & help us to get right…..
Well said, I still have hope I will find love being older. Just working on myself until that happens.
True. Most ppl don't want to be alone their entire lives.
@@jesusmykingisvictory1541 Exactly, and for those of them in the public eye, the public demands that they speak on what really went down and who’s the first to get a new boo. Etc.
It’s so pathetic.
Men really need to be held accountable for there promiscuous behavior , making multiple families and breaking up families is not healthy and happy for the mother or children . When you marry a person , stick it out !
Bingo
Why doesn’t this have a million likes!! I get they were are going through changes as an age of our history comes to an end but I still feel like the easiest relationship to be in is a monogamous one. They are the MOST rewarding as well. When you look at a husband and wife that makes it to 40-60 years married it gives you a feeling that can’t be replaced because marriage STANDS for something.
Women literally file for divorce the majority of the time. So you can’t put the blame for breaking up families on men
@@terickastidbits2342 You are leaving out the reason behind the filing. Infidelity is one of the main reasons
@@Swirlworld77 no it’s not. Irreconcilable differences is the main reason why women file for divorce. Check your statistics. And it has been the main reason ever since most states got rid of no fault divorces
Claudia jordan is always working. Good for her!! 💰
ALWAYS!
I understand her point, but Kevin put her through hell. It is hard to find a good man I know at 56
Yeah I felt that!
He put her through hell??!?!? SHUT UP 😂
@@KNJBHV23 she wrote many of his jokes & financially supported them
What did he do? Not familiar with their story
Yeah but she can meet someone in canada or the uk she has access to men that us regual everyday women dont..she ia choosing to not pursue love again bcz of her kevin experience
Been single for 12 years now, literally no dates, no phone relationships. I seen too many bad breakups, toxic marriages and my second marriage was truly psychologically abusive on his part. He was a chronic liar, lazy, scary, beta man. Married to him for 11 years. Regret it greatly.
Smart woman! Enjoy being you and having peace! ❤
My sentiments exactly, Tamika. I’ve been single so long that I don’t want anyone in my space 24/7. He needs a be a busy man who travels often. I’m open to marriage but not the traditional way. I’m even open to living in separate homes.
Many women share your sentiments about marriage.
The seperate homes part!! Been saying this!
Yes that part!, have your own house, we can enjoy each other in our own time, no clingy, nor possessive
Wow that would be amazing
😂😂😂😅
She might change her mind for the right man but good men are hard to find sure men feel the same way
She doesn't have to change her mind. No such thing as the "right man." If she doesn't want to be married again that is perfectly fine. Marriage is not the end all be all.
She wont marry again bcz she doesnt want to..there is not even a chance for the anthr guy..she shuts that down
I dont wanna be married again either. I feel exactly how she feels ...my 20s were dedicated to my marriage now that im free at 35...i want to just enjoy life.
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Good for you!
Torrie always been pretty
The stuff he put her through sounds like she just wants to focus on herself
Grief is love with no place to go.
My mom would always say that she didn't want to even be bothered with a man. I honestly didn't not understand why until I was 5 years into my marriage. If my husband and I ever divorce. I think I would want to keep my freedom too.
It sounds like you wouldn't mind divorcing your husband. Don't stick around if your marriage is not serving you. Make a 1-5 year plan (depending on your current circumstances) and get out. Give him his freedom, and take yours. Get educated and stash money if you need to
I agree with Kevin Hart's ex wife he wants to waste all those year's when someone else is on their mind black men need too stop treating black women like garbage 🗑
They treat everyone like garbage....even themselves.
@@monica4.070
I agree. They are selfish lovers too.
This content was so polished & classy !
I am Tamika! “Every day?” 😅 same girl
“To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).
I never did my husband's laundry and married for 21 years! You can tell who they were married to and those types of men aren't normal everyday guys.
I never understood that. If he did his own laundry before marriage why is the wife expected to do it after marriage.
I enjoy doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, organizing, grocery shopping, giving massages etc. I’m naturally a giver. I’m a #6 and my Lifepath is service. Everyone of us is different.
I get your point but I definitely think that the majority of married women do laundry for their family including husbands so that's not unusual.
@@rosej5029There are plenty of things that you do when single that you may do differently once married. I am a woman and I expect my husband to handle taking out the trash. When I was single I did it but now I don't. Of course there may be days when I still have to do that but in marriage there should be a division of labor. What's the point of being married if we just live the exact same way as when we are single if that's the case I can just get a friend and not a husband.
Amen
She’s super beautiful and always so gracious in interviews. I hate to see her not enjoying the fruits of what looks like her investment in Kevin hart. He’s moved on with family #2 and you’re alone, that doesn’t sit well with most ppl. I hope she experiences happiness in its highest form.
May Jesus restore the views here. We’ve bought so much of the devil’s lies!!! Being a wife doesn’t mean being a maid to your husband 😮.
Ehh, quit selling this lie. That's exactly what marriage is. Women have waaaaaay more to lose than gain. Women are waking up.
For many it does. That is the reality foe many women...not a lie from the devil.
Yooooooo you better speak!!!! The devil’s lie was all up in much this conversation and people who are not cemented in the word of God will mistake lies and call it truth.
Preach. People today are afraid to admit that they failed in their marriages and it,s ok. Whatever doesn't kill you can only make you stronger. We don't have to act like everything is ok when we know it,s not ok. Because the worst thing that you can ever do is to lie to yourself...
Tell that to the men. Tell them what being a husband means to while you’re at it
I pray their hearts are healed. Hurt will keep us from experiencing the beauty of marriage as God designed. These lady are saying I don't want to be married but they want the benefits of being in companionship.
Create the marriage how God designed it and all that other stuff y'all determine who will do what. There are a lot of men that don't mind cooking.
I love being a wife, but think it’s going to be extremely difficult to find a man that shares my lifestyle.
A sober lifestyle, not lustful, no social media (besides TH-cam), monogamous, and carries himself as a “taken” person.
WDYM by not lustful? Please ensure that you and future man discuss this in detail. I’ve seen men and women accommodate their spouses’ sexual desires initially, knowing that they can’t sustain. Too many marriages end due to sexual incompatibility.
All things are possible if you believe JESUS said. Jer 32:27 is there Anything too hard for me... God can give you what you want and he can EXCEED IT🙏🙌 ASK..
Trauma. Praying for God to restore our community. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
The communities are broken because of the men failing to build or lead anything.
She is so beautiful!
Who? It’s 3 women up there…
Dr. A was my couples' therapist. He was awesome.
👩🏽🦱 Marriage doesn’t work for most women anymore, especially African-American women.
BM aren't worth marrying and BW seem to not understand its a worthless investment to marry a BM.
I feel the same way she does. I wouldn't go it again if given the opportunity.
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I tried it three times and I can honestly say all of my three relationships were with different type of men. I tried to never date the same man over again, lol 😂 and it still bit me in the butt. I have experienced it all sisters, a cheater, domestic abuser, lying manipulator, porn addictive, jobless narcissist… the list goes on. So I can say today no more drama, I want to live the rest of my days in peaceful mind. I have grown children and I’m happy being alone. It’s not easy to find a good man so I am all set.
Just want to say Claudia is so freaking gorgeous and smart.Torrei created her own lane I hope Kev is proud of her.
You hope that her ex husband that threw her away is proud of her?? I don't think it works like that😂
That's kind of a weird wish. Her husband is the one who caused her pain. I don't think that he has any right to be proud of her and I don't think they have that sort of relationship.
I understand, I am in this space as well. Women are getting tired of the feminine men that not protect or provide. We providing for ourselves now and really can care less if we have a man or not. We love our peace.
It’s unresolved trauma that some adult men bring to relationships. All those experiences from childhood stay harbored within. I bet most adults never confront their childhood abuser, the neglectful parent, etc. Instead the person who becomes the punching bag are their partners unfortunately. What people have to realize is that those children grow up to be adults eventually and if they have an unresolved past more than like they will inflict the same hurt onto the person or people that love them the most. So, now you have black American women that are refusing to be in relationships with black men and vice versa.
Thanks for having the doctor on. Great words of wisdom.
🥺 Don’t let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch.
Statistically, the majority of women who tie the knot end up seeking a divorce down the road. It seems that the institution of marriage has failed to serve women's best interests. Sadly, many women only come to this realization post-marriage vows. Society tends to downplay this truth by discouraging younger women from heeding the advice of their older counterparts and dismissing divorced women as bitter.
But, the reality is that divorced women have a clear understanding of marriage, leading many of them to opt out of remarrying unless there are financial gains involved. This isn't about bitterness; it's about the experience of having your rose-tinted glasses removed by way of reality checks..
If they told the truth women wouldn’t do it. Society uses women to uplift men, he steps on her back to become better and more successful. It’s all about status. This is a man’s world and women are used as objects in their games but we’re slowly waking up.
The first time my husband asked me to marry him (about age 25) I asked if we could live separately
She is beautiful and I love her hair ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Torrei said "Anytime soon" - she never said never.....and that makes sense. She just spent the bulk of her adulthood catering to other people. Her children and her ex...and I don't feel like she's ashamed of that journey because she still bares the name Hart but it sounds like now she want some years to have fun, be selfish, forge her own identity, and do her like she's never been able to. She's only around 45 - mid life crisis age - not saying she's having one, but it's fair to say it's fair for her to figure herself out right now. I also think Torrei may be more into a balanced companionship and those too can be sacred. Everything doesn't have to be registered with the state or brought down in a white dress, but I don't think she's opposed to that. I'm sure she sees how her ex is even treating his new wife.
They were only married 7 years and she has been divorced for over 13 years what you are saying she spent the bulk of her life catering to him is a flat out lie. She is not getting married because she doesn't want to lose that alimony and the fame that comes with that last name. Do you hear yourself. Imagine if men told women what you are saying about marriage! "Everything doesn't have to be registered with the state or brought down in a white dress" that is just BS talk to help you make your point but the majority of the women want to be married. Like cut it out!!
@@jp5685 she was married to him for 7 years but still raised his kids for 18 - do you hear yourself? It's as if you didn't read anything I posted. You can drop your name and still have alimony, and like I said, she started her career with her name while WITH kevin....if Tina Turner kept her name with dignity, why can't she? Regardless of what "the majority of women" want, this is a panel of divorcee's with their own unique experiences sharing why she don't desire it after what she's been through AND see what others are going through. Please gain a wider perspective.
@@jp5685 you completely glossed over them stating "her children"
@@Heyu7her3 Her children don't have a thing to do with her not wanting to change her name that is just an excuse. If he was a broke woman beater I can guarantee you she wouldn't have a problem changing her name. She knows what comes with that last name and no one would know who she was without it.
@jp5685 I kept my ex-husband's last name so that I would have the same last name as my children. My ex definitely isn't a woman beater but he is broke. You don't speak for everyone.
I need the therapist on again please!! He gave wisdom I needed fr!
She won't remarry and give up that alimony 🤔👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is exactly why she is not willing to get married and every woman up here knows that but they won't come out and say it.
@@jp5685she don’t get alimony. She stated he gave her a lump sum and that was it during the divorce
She makes her own money and she don’t receive anything from him. Even though she helped Kevin career. That’s why Katt Williams took her on tour with him and don’t support Kevin. Cause he snake.
Is this what it really is? I didn't think of that.🤣🤣🤣 I feel bad for women like this. The money had her trapped with a raggedy man....and now the raggedy man's money is keeping her from a good man. She's still tied to him.😔
How ignorant of a statement. She was not with Kevin when he blew up, she was with the broke, struggling Kevin. As most BM do, they use women as a placeholder then when they get where they want to be, they leave the women who was by their side when they weren't shyt.
Listening to them 2 is like listening to myself.i love my space
“Robbed” in your 20s being married and having children.
Our community is so assed backward and cooked!! 😢
What's backwards and cooked is you assuming everyone feels the same in our community but passive aggressively stated you don't agree and that you are part of the community you judge. Your opinion is emotionally immature so how can anyone take you seriously?
@@TheGrayGrey I never said everyone feels the same. you’re making up stuff based on feelings, which emotionally immature. I can judge because I am apart of the community. Why would I judge a community I don’t belong to or intimately know about? You make no sense. How can anyone take you seriously?
It is a waste when the man you’ve held down for all that time leaves you the moment he gets on!
Black Men Who Choose Preferences of the Past & Present List:
1. Cornel West (he had multiple non black women wives) 2. Kanye West (something about these men with the last name “West” 😂) 3. Quincy Jones 4. Byron Allen 5. Robert F. Smith 6. Harry Belafonte 7. Sidney Poitier 8. Charles Barkley 9. Michael Ealy 10. Tavis Smiley (his preferences all filed sexual harassment lawsuits against him years ago) 11. Bill Cosby 12. James Earl Jones 13. Omari Hardwick 14. Mehcad Brooks (his pandering to bw is disturbing) 15. Taye Diggs 16. Jamie Foxx (Google his 2 Baby Mamas) 17. Frederick Douglas 18. Michael Jackson 19. Donald Glover 20. John Legend 21. W. Kamau Bell 22. Jay Ellis 23. Orlando Jones 24. Don Cornelius 25. Eddie Murphy (Finally got the woman he always wanted) 26. Michael Jordan (stop buying his shoes) 27. Virgil Abloh 28. 50 Cent 29. Lil Wayne 30. Young Jeezy 31. Usher 32. Brian McKnight 33. James Baldwin 34. David Oyelowo 35. Seal 36. Terrence Howard 37. Red Foxx 38. Richard Pryor 39. Billie Dee Williams 40. David Alan Grier 41. Dr Dre 42. John Amos 43. Yaphet Kotto 44. Kenan Thompson 45. Eric Benet 46. Gregory Hines 47. Van Jones 48. Dark Child 49. Babyface 50. YG 51. Dave Chappelle 52. Mike Epps 53. Kevin Hart 54. Kobe Bryant 55. Gary Coleman 56. Cam Newton 56. Cuba Gooding Jr. 57. Dennis Rodman 58. Scottie Pippin 59. Rapper Maino 60. John Ridley 61. Ricky Williams 62. Winston Duke 63. Xzibit 64. DC Young Fly 65. Jonathan Majors 66. Coolio 67. Herschel Walker 68. Khalil Kain 69. Stephen “Twitch” Boss 70. OJ Simpson 71. Lionel Richie 72. Julian Bond 73. Neil deGrasse Tyson 74. Eddie Griffin 75. Diddy 76. Omar Gooding 77. Cuba Gooding 78. Lance Reddick 79. Judge Joe Brown 80. Reggie Jackson 81. Reggie Bush 82. Tracy Morgan 83. Jimmie Allen 84. Tyrese 85. Tank 86. King Bach 87. Jacob Anderson 88. Billy Carson 89. Professor Griff 89. Tariq Nasheed 90. Sisqo 91. Mario 92. Floyd Mayweather Jr. 93. Krayzie Bone from Bone Thugs 94. Jimmy Butler 95. Alfonso Ribeiro 96. Big Boy (Radio Host) 97. Bokeem Woodbine 98. Sisqo 99. Ernie Hudson 100. Mike Colter 101. Louis Gossett Jr. 102. Kid Cudi 103. Richard T. Jones 104. Bill Russell 105. Ryan Leslie
She said, anytime soon…she don’t want to remarry.
God word is not VOID!!!
One woman for one man!
So True, what the doctor said.
I love being single. I don't like to see people everyday like that anymore.
I felt like the maid and I didn't like it.
Torrei looks really good. Keep shining
What folks don't do well..no what Men don't do well. They don't communicate, they take advantage, they act ignorant, they gaslight and then blame you, they do not LIVE fair- men just take and wear a woman out and then leave her. I will not remarry- ever. I have no desire for anyone to live with me ever again. I'm good.
She said, anytime soon…she don’t want to remarry.
She's not going to remarry cause those checks from Kevin and Usher will stop.
Which is truly sad because that is like a spiritual blockage for them. The spirit of marriage lessens is real. And sometimes we can be in our own way. I would set my self free after stacking up and move into something I can afford and get a new career or start a business and continue to serve God.
She's the ex-wife of BOTH Kevin Hart and Usher?
@@rosej5029No just Kevin. Tameka is Usher's ex-wife.
Torrei so dern pretty here! 😊
Claudia! 👏🏽💐
I’ve been married for 10 years and you couldn’t pay me to be single in this climate nowadays!
This therapist is spot on!!!
Good men are not hard to find. They are hard to choose and stick*** with.
Ppl that dont go into a relationship with the understanding that you are going to get older and you both have growing and maturing to do and will have to watch each other go through many processes and changes will always have a big problem. If you truely love a person then you love the flawed sides lf them as well and you naturally should have the patients to watch them mature in each area. You both should know better that all bad habits will not always be bad habits and ppl change and fix things together as you grow. And you should naturally be feeding off of eachothers greatness and naturally sharpening each other, which subliminally motivates each other naturally to do better! This is what I understand love to be. And you should also just let each other "be"...
I talk to a lot of woman who say they would never remarry.
She looks amazing 🥰
What I hear a lot of woman saying is they chose others over themselves and are having to essentially learn to do that later on in life. I wish women didn’t feel they needed to be the sacrificial lamb for their partners. Also I feel like a lot of women have not had certain partners and assume every relationship w a man requires you serving meals and folding laundry. Where’s the talk of love and companionship? I feel like don’t talk down on marriage just bc ur experience lacked the lasting power or comparability
Blonde looks nice
My aunt was married for 20 years she divorced at 44 years old . Whenever I asked her if she will ever get married again she says „Hell Fucking No“ 😂😂😂
Relationships come into our lives for a reason, a season or a purpose. Some relationships are sent to help you grow beyond your previous self imposed limitations. The toughest are wrought with betrayal only to help expand your vision to grow new wings. We need others to grow and we are designed by God to be in relationships with others. Thus, no man or woman is an island unto themselves.
Beautifully stated
How can you be robbed if you put yourself in that space. You gave it up. Had your freedom. You chose marriage.
Exactly she sound dumb
Ikr
Thank you 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 im looking at this like who go start taking responsibility for their own actions.
In other words she is still stuck on him, don’t let allow anyone to stop you from living your best life
I always find it interesting that women say a man doesn’t have the capability to be monogamous and then get upset that he cheated 🙃… lack of self control in a man is something that we should not normalize 😑
I hate when people have to question happiness. Happiness is whatever you think happiness is at the moment.. it may change from time to time and you should never ask someone else what makes them happy because people are two different people and what makes them happy may not make you happy so enjoy day by day and then just enjoy the moment. That’s not true when they say men cannot be monogamous if that’s what you really want and it doesn’t matter about the sex of the person you have to truly want that.
News flash! Some people are monogamous and love it!!
Thank goodness I didnt give up on love. I would hate to live with their mindset. Bitter af.
Ewww chile! I thought it was just me. I would not give that kind of power over to another human being, not for a second to think they have “finished” me or changed my outlook on loving someone and being loved by someone else!
Their mindset: “I gotta love myself” which is true, BUT they stay in that state for 10,000 forevers. Both of their ex spouses have moved on remarried and thriving (appear to be) while they are stuck in a loop. Then convince themselves that “I’m good” never again. It’s just a more graceful bitterness but it’s still bitterness nonetheless. Learn, grow, and love again.
These women talking about they won’t get married. The alimony will stop! Kevin giving her $$ and Usher giving her $$$
Just say you don't wanna be in a committed relationship because of what you went through why drag it
😂😂😂exactly. Just say I'm scared of being tricked again and losing out on this alimony.
@@sjg5994 or SheKnows she will get cut-off if she does
They’re complaining about things that you can outsourced. But, ultimately if you marry a man that you love then you’ll have absolutely no problem serving him and catering to his needs esp if it’s reciprocal. I’m not sure what they’re talking about.
Ladies we have to take accountability for the treatment we receive. Women are often complicit in the treatment we receive. No one can treat you in ways you don’t accept or agree to.
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And that is why she is probably giving up on it
@@Cjax504 perhaps however the key is to not accept the treatment! Not give up all together. Boundaries/standards are crucial!
Have you ever been married?
@@judithokello2857 yes , and my answer remains the same. In any form of relationship the treatment you accept is on you., especially when you allow it continuously.
She doesn’t understand why Kevin left her the mirror sweet lady please fix it and find your next love
If u dont wanna do nothing for anyone, then ur clearly hurt. Cause when u love love soemone and are head over heels in love, doing stuff for them aint a chore, its a pleasure. I think these women still have a healing bit to do. Cause also why wouldnt u want love and to receive the same, someone who takes pleasure in caring for you.
Why would she marry and I’m sure she getting a check
At the end of the day, the day has to end. If these ladies had a wish, they would still be married to Usher and Kevin. The fact is that both men no longer wanted to be with them; they are scorned.
They aren’t scorned because they no longer wish to be in a relationship with a narcissist, lying, cheater.
She’s on the alimony pony… getting married ends that ride
I like this man in the blue suit he sooo smart
Why y'all talking about Kevin Hart they are divorced they moved on with the life why do people wait for them not to be together and got so much negative to say about the other person I don't like that your business is your business you need to keep it in the home and keep it between between the both of y'all and I don't like that but I'm going to pray for people like that I don't want to care about what happened to somebody else's life they got a divorce Barnes & Noble not killing each other and hurting each other big business is their business I hate when females do that so sad but like I said I'm going to pray for your❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💯
Their exes ran them LOW hunny!! lol Their money is their new man..I understand where they are coming from but dang being single isn’t everything.
It is actually, there's a lot of peace and personal growth and development that comes being content with being by yourself.
@@Peachcobler22🎯🔥💯
I've never been married but the relationships I have been in. ... my geesh. Proposed to twice.. turned it down. I like my peace🤣
I have been through some of the worst trauma and I don't believe every man is the same or marriage is off the table. I can't view life this way because I will set myself up emotionally to display that energy towards myself and others. Hopefully for consistent days she can forgive him for what he has done to her and her for what she has done to him. I also think women of success worry about the wrong man sweeping them off thier feet, marrying or marrying again, and possibly ending up paying alimony if the marriage fails. Halle Berry is an example. She let two gorgeous men play in her face because she still believes in love. Hopefully she doesn't with her most recent guy. Just get a prenup before marriage and a NDA immediately upon dating. If the man doesn't want to sign either then he isn't in it for love he is chasing the bag. I agree social media has desensitized people and it's really difficult to find people that are grounded in the work required for a healthy marriage or even the relationship that can lead to marriage. People chase money not God so til death do us part is just words to them.
She's not going to remarry because she want to keep that alumony coming in.
I believe there are men who can be monogamous.. but if you’ve experienced one or multiple relationships with men who have not been, your perspective or outlook may be all men cheat.. which isn’t necessarily true.. it takes healing and inner work to move on from situations as such..
Humans are attracted to other people than they love doesnt mean you still want to hurt people you love. Being monogamous is still a choice even though its still natural to be attracted to others simply because you dont want lose the person or lose that family. Its always a choice regardless of the natural want to have sex with others. Lets not make men only guilty of this or excuse them as a man is going to be a man. Its humans! women are attracted to other men to have thoughts too.Its just a choice is it worth the risk ....
She still loves kevin she should get married
Pink book need to watch this why she tryna drag Kash Doll for leaving her relationship
IS TAMEKA BLEACHING HER SKIN? HER FACE IS WAYYYY LIGHTER NOW.
I am sorry that people are so hurt and harmed that they cannot be in a relationship with a husband or wife and no judgment but if you believe in GOD, Jesus, and believe the bible which I think more than one person may be than marriage was created for one man and one women and anything against that goes against GOD? Just saying to each their own and just be careful out here in these streets.
TorreI, please, MOVE ON WITH YOUR EXISTENCE PLEASE
If "stuck" was a person...
Who is she apart from Kevin Hart? 😊
Kevin Heart Ex wife looks like she is trying to blend in with the Hollywood look which is everybody look the same that do not fit her.
Omg I’ve noticed that too. I think she was her true authentic self when she had locs.
She's not going to get remarried because the alimony will stop if she does and she will have to change her last name which she should have done given they have been divorced for over a decade plain and simple. If anyone believes in any of that other BS they are a fool.
Yea
She can keep the last name and still move on.
@@Ap-lk5hw Keep it for what? Don't come with it the last name her kids have BS either. He is still the kids father but she is not his wife that is why she should change it. She is keeping it for the money and fame reasons but no one woman wants to admit that for some reason.
@@jp5685 it's her name she can do what she wants and It is a hassle to make all those changes to go back to your maiden name . Why do you care
Right just said that
Marriage is from God this bf gf culture is not normal I had a husband and never was the maid it’s about helping each other and supporting each other…. Sex before marriage is the most dangerous thing we can do it brings so much trouble in our souls it’s best to abstain until marriage
Robbed of your 20s,when it was your democratic choice, you wanted it, you are not a victim sorry, you wanted to get married
I love me some Claudia Jordan!
What’s up with women? Y’all wild literally
She dont to marry again Kevin Hart is still her husband Pastor Gino Jennings will explain this to you Google him on divorce
I'm going to watch this thank you
Pitiful, she’s living in the past. She’s making THIS her only story , like you really gonna let this be all that you are . Move on damn
It sounds like she has moved on...she said she is enjoying her time after all that. I respect it!
@@monica4.070 moved and you can’t even change (UPDATE) your name ?! She is no longer Mrs. Hart. She’s been giving the SAME interview for years about what all she gave up and sacrificed. She won’t remarry because no one will know who she is if she changes her name
@@twill1007 some people keep their married last names for a host of reasons including spousal support. If she can get the support, why shouldn't she? Income is income.
@@twill1007 Also people are allowed to reflect on where they came from and where they are now. We don't know if they are paying her for this interview or if the exposure helps her other projects. I would make my coins and you would too.
@@monica4.070 yeah, some people, I don’t think she’s one. Her identity is wrapped up in being Mrs. Hart