4 Things: Negging, Unhinged Nonbear, Nice Guy™ Post, BoRU about the Slugs
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- Negging, "can someone pls tell me why guys think it's cute to neg u right off the bat lol"
Another point for the Bear. #teambear #grizzlegrizzle
Nice Guy™ Post: Nice Guy virtue claim, "I know what's good for you... Dating me"
"I found out my partner has been putting slugs in my food, i dont know how to forgive him" #boru #oldie
#burbnbougie #relationships #marriage #storytime #reddit #aita #emotionalstruggle #personalexperience #support #4bs #negging
a bear wouldn't make you eat your pet
These days dating xy feels like risking your life.
Feels like ?
The evening news frequently features proof
It has always been. It's just gotten worse with incel content being spread over social media.
It always has been. The stakes are higher now. I've told my friends that if Partner and I break up, I'm not gonna date anymore. I would rather have all the time for myself to focus on friends and family, and hobbies.
Slug guy should be in prison.
Yup, and he should have a psychopath for a cook.
Brake up with him, he's sick. I don't trust people and this has made it worse. Good thing I don't trust people.
Under the prison with other slugs.
@@creolenola EXACTLY, TF!
They target mentally ill women so they won't be believed in court.
Men neg to check your temperature and see how you'll react to backhanded compliments, and if you don't either leave the relationship or check them immediately, it'll get worse. Negging, esp early on before they learn your style of what you consider a joke vs. an insult is a 🚩!
Exactly! There’s no uphill when a guy starts the foundation trying to undermine your confidence. It’ll keep getting worse if you entertain him. Even trying to ‘correct’ him is a mixed bag because most men try to absolve accountability (‘I was trying to flirt with you/joking so don’t take it seriously) to salvage the interaction. Or if they apologize, it’s for your feelings and not their behavior.
I’m glad it seems that as more people are aware of these tactics, less women are falling/playing into it. Fingers crossed that eventually it’ll stop being used when it gets to the point of not being effective at all.
@@thinkinginn7443 minimisation i.e. it's JUST a joke, I'm ONLY noticing
@@thinkinginn7443The real punishment is to remove your attention and presence. Don't go back and forth with those dudes. Continuing engagement will just lead to further manipulation attempts. You have to revoke their access.
Some people only understand consequences.
She has been abused since the day she met him. You know what a bear won't do??? Any of the ish she just described.
🤦🏾♀️
That is extremely frightening. And absolutely gross, slugs and snails can be carriers
Of a parasite that can pass the blood brian
Barrier. I hope she alright.
The only dating app 2nd guy needs to be on is prisonmatch. Let him date B!ll Cosby and Brock Turner!
Unfortunately they aren’t in prison
Brock Allen Turner's name is now ALLEN Turner. He changed it to get away from the consequences of his actions.
😂
@@studyorelse4231 Thanks for letting us know who to social distance from!
The guy with the slugs is a psychopath.
For the first story, I think it goes to that men do not know how to make conversation, especially nonsexual conversation, with someone they find attractive. Somewhere in this Disney-fueled dating fantasy world, the idea of insulting a girl/woman as playful took hold, and awkward boys/men treated it like one of the commandments. Men who never learned that women are people you just talk to have it in their heads that it is cute to do this. IT IS NOT.
They're jealous and defective specimens who can't hold a candle to the women they desire, hence dragging them down. Please pay them no mind.
This last one 😮 i dont know what is worse, him doing This og her forgiving and rationalizing the unrationalizeble
Definitely what he did.
She has mental, and physical, health issues that apparently have had quite an impact on her relationships. She was supposed to be on meds, but he was tampering with them. It probably would be hard for her to think logically about his actions toward her on her meds with the level of self blame she has.
Hopefully she has escaped him, and has gained some clarity. I also hope she has gotten, or does get, the therapy she needs that will keep her out of anymore of these types of relationships.
Didn't even know there was a when women refuse subreddit. I'm about to subscribe or follow now. Can you imagine what that woman would've gone through had she actually went to that Tinder guy's house? She would've wound up like that poor girl who was just unalived and washing up in pieces on the shore. Omg 🤦🏾♀️ 😳😢 I'll choose the bear every time smh
Some of the stories in that sub are really scary.
I had to cut off so many males because of nagging, some even before the first date 🤦🏽♀️ like what is the reason for it?
I accidentally klicked on an RP reel on IG where an xy told men to constantly roast the woman they are trying to date. Its supposed to be a form of humbling to make her seek validation probably.
I leave at the slightest sign of disrespect.
🤦🏽♀️Sadly, it might work on a woman with low self-esteem though 😢...
JFC, that last story!!! I'm glad the woman is ok, but I wonder about the long-term effects that poisoning is going to have on her health.
The honors program for my CC brought in someone to speak to us about finances. Instead of giving me financial advice…this man starts NEGGING me. And telling me about how he won’t marry his gf. Very bizarre. Luckily I did know about negging back then and recognized it immediately
I couldn’t make it through the slug story. Honestly she’s the perfect candidate for a cult. Her still calling this man “ her partner” is just a special kind of stupid smfh
And saying she loves him to bits 😢. Lawwwdd Jesus take the wheel atp
Yep! Water definitely seeks its own level.
The slug story is one of the most scary and disturbing scenarios I’ve ever read. This woman…. I’m not religious but I am praying for her
Slug guy - That's a crime.
The man in the slug story would never want to eat a meal, drink, snack, or cookie from me. I'm glad the cops are involved. He's a psycho.
The woman in the 4th story wanted to forgive her partner for poisoning her food with slugs?!?! I hope someone showed her the tragic story of that young man who ate a slug for a silly dare with his friends then eventually died as a direct result of the poisoning
The slug woman is obviously very mentally disturbed. She shouldn't be left on charge of her own decision or she will endanger herself.
Yeah, she admitted to that. She appears to have had a rough life, and the consequences of that lead to her having an even harder life.
Wrong. She needs to step up to the plate w/self love and learn to take care of herself.
@@silververnallbells191 Severe mental disorders cannot be healed by self-love. It helps for some people, but someone sound of mind wouldn't have found themselves in that situation.
I am autistic myself, so I am well acquainted with having a carer who takes decisions on my behalf, and I know I'll never be fully independent. There's no shame in that.
@@melchiorlise2466...schizoaffective and completely agree. Me totally unsupervised ends with me in cuffs. I don't want it to but I am not completely in control of myself. I am accountable for the things I do when I'm in an episode but AFTER ( You can't reason with me mid episode and it's really best not to try) and that doesn't make me rational DURING.
I need a minder and i've come to terms with that... And it does mean less nutrient loaf so i'm good. :)
@@melchiorlise2466 funnily enough i strongly suspect the poor woman in the last story is undiagnosed autistic based on all her other conditions, would explain this guy targeting her and she being particularly naive, although it could happen to anyone, especially traumatised. I agree she definitely needs more professional care and someone keeping an eye on who she lets into her life.
Even if they don't charge him there's a paper trail for them when he does something to someone. I'm not defending the cops, but it might help the next girl. If you're lucky, a visit or phone call from the cops will scare him and he'll think twice before trying to bother you again.
I heard the snail story from Mark Narrations. It made me sick to my stomach 🤢
You are 100% right. On the first and only date with the one XY, he automatically started as soon as we left my mothers house. I mean, this man met my mom and still proceeded to neg me as soon as we were on our way to dinner. He was fine, but a complete and utter mess.
I’m sure this was brought up in the Reddit thread hundreds of times, but that dude was straight up trying to kill her.
“Australian man Sam Ballard who was left paralysed after eating a slug dies aged 28
The keen rugby player suffered a severe brain infection when he ate the creature which was infected with rat lungworm.”
Yeah the slug dude, he was high key tryna kill her.. someone needs to wake her up
Curry as in curry sauce, an Indian dish. He made her eat her own pet ☹️
A bear wouldn't put pureed slugs in my food. Just sayin.
Holy shit that last story 😨
Axe body spray come to life 🤣🤣 I gotta find some way to use that in conversation!
I (very briefly & casually) was going out w/a guy who took the road atlas from me to plan a short day trip, saying he didn't want to spend the day lost becoz "everyone knows" wems can't read maps. As I was in the process of canceling the excursion, I informed hem I used to instruct map reading/land navigation in the army.
He was so confused why I cancelled going & a bit upset I refused to continue to socialize w/hem.
Miss Andry is a projection of their own feelings & behaviours onto their tar gets when we (t gets) refuse to play along. See the tired old trope of hem- h 8 ing less beans.
How is simply deciding not to associate intimately w/a group w/a well documented history = to h 8 ?
I wouldn't have cancelled, I would have just gone w/o him.
Why won’t they stop when you ask them to stop. It’s like they are trying to get an explosive reaction wtf. It’s so frustrating.
Bcuz of entitlement. They feel entitled to your time and attention just BCUZ you are a woman.
Regarding the slug story, I remember reading that one. For one, regardless of it’s poisonous or not, that’s absolutely disgusting and a major violation of trust. The fact that it’s poisonous makes it even worse! I can’t understand why she didn’t leave him the moment she found out what he did. Then had the audacity to get mad at HER!! She absolutely needs to leave him! The guy is a psychopath!
I am only commenting on the 4th one because this sounds almost exactly like my ex: he is trying to poison you. Kill you. This isn't something light. He tampered with your medicine, he killed and fed you your pet, he kept feeding you slugs (which have a variety of parasites that can be FATAL to humans AND animals), he tampered with your food and why? Because he knew he could. It wasn't a mental illness, he is simply a monster and an attempted murderer and no I am not being dramatic. He will keep trying to "prank" you until he kills you then tell your friends and family how much you will be missed and all that noise. Stop feeling guilty, put him in jail, warn EVERY woman about him, keep him in jail, find someone you can trust to help with medication or hire someone who can be an aide to give it to you. Cook and watch over your OWN food. I had to keep a journal for YEARS of EVERY SINGLE ITEM I bought, grew, dried, ground up, made, chilled, frozen, blended, ect. At one point, I wouldn't eat at any restaurant I worked at because I wasn't the cook, only prep. Men like this are a serious literal threat to human life and will NOT stop until they are in prisoned or dead.
I would also like to add: Metaldehyde poisoning only happens when you eat raw or under-prepared snails and slugs that have eaten the compound. This compound is found and used in snails and Slug repellent/pesticide. High amounts can result in something called "shake and bake" in dogs, where they will literally shake and seize unless treated and in humans, it can cause anything from irritability, sleepiness, convulsions and death in high enough doses. It is recommended not to handle while pregnant and if handled, to wear gloves. Do not ingest and keep out of reach of pets and children. Just in case someone wants to act as if this monster wasn't trying to actively kill OP.
Aaaaaaahhhh the infamous slug story 😫😫
I remember.
She was told to unslive herself because she spoke about her slug poisoning?! Whyyy
OMG how did she not notice she was dating an actual psychopath for 4 years?
1:18 "what is the purpose of [putting women down]"
Uh, asserting dominance. Period.
Also THIS is how the patriarchy harms men: these men who are asserting dominance over women...are the men over whom _other men_ assert dominance.
The patriarchy - like a monarchy - is simply a few people (who are only men, hence patri-) dominate everyone else.
They dominate other men.
*_These men don't see what's happening and simply work to dismantle the system of dominance!_*
These men _want to win at patriarchy_ not dismantle it!
They want to win, so they dominate women (and PoC.) That's how they make themselves king.
Doing this reinforces the patriarchy itself.
This is why we need to help men look upward at the oppression the patriarchy does to them, instead of looking down at how they can participate.
Equality is the enemy of hierarchy. They don't want equality because they want to dominate.
Negging has always been beyond ridiculous to me, but I think it boils down to a combination of innate immaturity, nervousness and the lack of anything of substance to talk about at any given point in time (i.e. lack of intellect).
There's just a lack of self awareness when it comes to negging. Young men really need to be educated to these things. The obvious problem with that being that young men these days seem to impulsively push back on any kind of constructive criticisms rather than actually listen to some helpful advice. Therefore they'll continue to fumble *hard* and repeatedly. Until they grow up. *If* they grow up that is.
*On a related note:* I *do* know a woman who negs guys for all of the reasons mentioned above. Her results vary from guys being immediately turned off, like "what the hell is wrong with her?" to guys [of course] finding it flattering. That latter making sense, because so many guys don't respond to anything appropriately ┐( ˘_˘)┌
For the woman whose boyfriend is feeding her slugs “A man who ate a garden slug as part of a dare has died. Sam Ballard, 28, became a paraplegic and suffered for eight years after eating the slug at a party when he was 19. He became infected with rat lungworm.”
She needs to report it to the police
Slugs can be poisonous especially when eaten alive. A young man and his friends dared each other and his dare was to eat a live slug, he did and went to intensive care. Not sure if he’s still alive but he got some sort of brain damage. There’s a reason why slugs are not eaten. He tried to murder her. And they pretend that they wnat girlfriends to love and cherish
I remember the slug one. I felt so bad for her. Stay away from antisocial people!
Imagine the women who fall for the negging. And someone asks how they met. And the man says he roasted her and stayed so he knew she was the one
I keep making comments but I also want to add that abusers know their victims. They know who to target. This lady had a high tolerance for disrespect and made excuses for him, in turn protecting him.
2….Always call the authorities Always these men are cowards
Men like stroy 2 guy make me so angry. They know what they're doing wrong but they'd rather convince you to suffer through it than move towards meaningful change. Then have the audacity to try to say you're the bad person for not accepting their unwillingness to change.
Just because he has a mental illness doesn't mean you need to deal with their dangerous behavior if they do things of that nature. Most people with a mental illness don't hurt people or anything else on purpose. He needs serious help if he really is mentally ill and it made him do it. He may not be a bad person, but you need to go for your safety and his mental health too.
Story number 4 i want to highlight TRIGGER WARNING!!!!! for anyone who has suffered psychological abuse/manipulation. It says on the post but i made a mistake & apparently i didn't notice while watching. This has been triggering me for more than a day now, as someone who had to live my adolescence with someone who my therapist said is probably a sociopath. Especially something in relation to one's pet is probably a typical experience of those who encounter sociopaths. I have been working on reprogramming my trust wounds and im worried this has set me backwards quite a lot. One of the most difficult wounds to reprogram and no it doesn't mean im just cautious around dating men it means i am paranoid and unable to have a healthy relationship. & this story in particular has made me so paranoid about food i can't enjoy even the food i have cooked myself without getting intrusive thoughts. I appreciate this channel a lot for teaching women to be cautious, not dissing at all if it reads like thar, but truly hope this message might reach someone whose recovery could be impacted.
I've always been annoyed with negging but this type he's doing is so cartoonish. The "idk you look like a pretty girl with no sense of direction" reminds me of that one scene from the kid's cartoon Gumball:
"Have you lost weight? Your head looks bigger.",
"What?",
"Nothing, I just wanted to say I like girls with really short legs!"
"What? What's wrong with my legs? Hey, are you doing that creepy thing where guys will say things to lower their confidence, so they'll go out with them?"
"You're way too intelligent for that kinda trick! *Your parents don't love you*."
Negging is a 💩 test. To see how you react to criticism, and to put her on the defensive. Its not a tactic for "decent humans".
Is it just me, or are more of the unhinged stories about dating apps correlated to the 'free' apps?
Slugs can kill you! I hope she filed a police report against him. He was attempting murder! Tf
Omg Nonbear! Hilarious!
21:24 as a pharmacist, the replacing propranolol with salt for someone who has heart failure is basically attempted murder.
I am just 😳 WTF
Holy 🤬
My ex poisoned me 😢 even when I was still breastfeeding my baby.
That's horrific. What happened to you and baby? Were there any consequences for him?
@@BurbNBougie looking back I should of gone to the doctor to gather evidence. I'm grateful I expelled all of it. My precious 14 month old was fine. I never get sick and I have a cast iron stomach. I was a bit sus in the beginning caus he kept going on about making me a special meal. He literally never went out of his way to do something nice for me. I had three young children and my ex worked for the local hospitals so I was worried he would snoop on my visit caus he worked in the It field for the hospital and had access to the files.
@@BurbNBougie I fled with my children to a woman's refuge shortly after because he was escalating. ❤
@@BurbNBougieI was sick instantly after finishing the meal 😬 . He had told me recently our life insurance was at 1 million and he would talk about his friends gun. I knew I was in danger. Free now and forever 😅❤ thankyou for your question 🤗
I'm glad that you got away
The slug one is definitely attempted murder. There was a guy who ate a slug on a dare who died due to the parasites the slug carried. I think that story was inspiration
violated the nuremberg code, forced experiments are literally a form of torture
I remember the slug story. In no way is that a prank. Slugs are very toxic and dangerous to humans, specifically due to the PARASITES they carry. Rat lungworm can be fatal. You’ll never convince me this was anything other than an unaliving attempt. He should be in jail the rest of his life. He’s the definition of a dangerous psychopath
Prank 😳🤣🤣
Where?
My mind never thought of this to be a prank
@@ruthmchuwenThat's what the XYs always say. Any man that says he likes pranks is a 🚩
yes, that type slug killed a kid out here after he ate one on a prank.
That happened to a young man who ate a slug because his "friends" dared him to eat it. He ingested the rat lung worm and became confined to a wheelchair then passed not long after.
4th poisoner needs to be reported for attempted unaliving. He is a horrendous sociopath and needs to not be able to harm her or others.
Oh wow, he actually got diagnosed ASPD. RUN!
They also need to check his history. Are his parents, siblings, previous relationships still alive, did they experience bouts of sickness with him there?
Also: Check history of his family's pets
I came to comments to say THIS!!!
I appreciate you all in this section, thinking of his other relatives and the animals. Thanks you. You are my people 💞🫂
Yep, he needs to be reported.
Guy # 3 is going to wind up "unaliving" this young woman if she stays with him. He is escalating. He's an insane, sadistic, psychopath.
Yeah!!! That story is wild!!! He hates you!!! Truly
he's a serial killer in training, she is a practice target
If not her, definitely someone else! He is sick!
Yep. He proves that he refuses to listen when a woman tells him "No."
Concerning the last story, forgiveness is not a requirement. He chose to disrespect and endanger her, all a choice, “mental illness” be damned. Stop being nice, ladies. There is no reward at the end for you.
Mental illness doesn't do this. I WISH people would stop giving this ideal that "broken men are mentally ill" no, he is evil and a monster. Pure and simple. Someone trusted him and he decided to try and harm them. He chose to harm her and tried to call it a "joke" because it will.lead people to believe it was an "innocent" act when it was malicious and intentional.
Dude I hope someone she cares about can convince her. Because if she doesn’t see this as life threateningly alarming, raising all red flags to want to run away of her own volition, I worry she may be too far gone. But hopefully someone can help pry her away and she can undergo some therapy for this series of events but also that which is underlying all of this: how tf are you not more alarmed???! Run for the hills, ma’am!!
@@EmiliapocalypseI just hope she lives long enough to do so. He explains himself with all sorts of “mental illness” BS because he thinks that always works for her (even if she actually has those various mental/emotional illnesses). He says he’s sorry and won’t do it again (I don’t know, did he actually say that? She didn’t say he did). But even if he did, he’s a liar and a psychopath, and he will do something again, maybe just something different. She needs to get a protection order against him and never, ever see him again. That’s not a person you should EVER forgive or trust again. He may say he loves her, but someone who truly does love you doesn’t try to unalived you, and it’s not a joke.
I've read the DSM, no mental illness makes you poison someone.
@@EmiliapocalypseWomen are not scared of danger. Idk if it’s biological (enabling us to give birth etc.,)
Men will literally crucify anyone who poses as a threat to them!!
Years of them berate women just to stay in control
Wake up ❤❤
Antisocial personality disorder is the scientific term for sociopath
Be careful when eating other people’s food. The older I get the more I understand why some people ONLY eat what THEY cook!
A guy gave me the creeps so I refused to eat food he brought to a picnic. He stopped talking to me. He didn't even ask if I ate that food beforehand (I don't) nor ask me specifically to eat it, but none of his friends were touching it. I said nothing. He said he was up all night making it, I think his personal fluids were in it. I've also seen people try to put things in my drinks.
Do Men Realize how Scary they Actually Are!!!! They make the Case for 4B Daily!!!!!
EVERY DAMN DAY!!
codymartin6117 They do, but instead they chhose to gaslight.
Even Monitor lizards (have reasons to) choose the bear!
Team 🐻! Grizzle, grizzle
Ofc they do, they love that women are scared. Everything they do is calculated.
They want the earth and everything on it to tremble. They have dominion.
The group of ppl who think basic social and relationship decency is "simping." You can't even be supportive to your wife or girlfriend cos apparently, that's not "alpha." Drake said Alex was a groupie for attending Serena's tournaments. The woman he's married to. A woman on Twitter said her husband is always on top of things, and she never has to worry, and she's grateful for that. Men called that man a simp. That he's doing all that for (as some men described it) "a stale v*gina." We don't even have enough time to discuss the insult they throw Ciara's husband's way. You know what bothers me, the thousands and sometimes millions of likes on those posts, and then they want to gaslight us that it's just a very niche group of men who think like that and it's not happening in real life.
Dafuq? Alex Ohanian is a freaking KING. I LOVE the way he loves his wife, THE WORLD FREAKING CHAMPION SEVERAL TIMES OVER, SERENA FREAKING WILLIAMS!😅
They are SO cute together.
These lesser beings are clearly just insanely jealous of what these two have with each other. ❤🎉😊
Those guys who liked those kinds of posts will likely 💀 alone
Yea they’ll like those types of posts then chastise women for not giving them “the nice guy” a chance and friend zoning them. At least the ones posting it are being wolves in wolves clothing.
The hatred of Meghan because Harry finally had enough of his toxic family and would rather protect his wife than continue the charade.
Drake needs to worry less about how Alex treats Serena and worry more about Kendrick Lamar.💅🏻
Last story was a killer in the making. He was testing her as his first kill.
yes they practice on lesser beings and he seems to consider women as such
These dudes “neg” in the beginning because they’re trying to weed out the women with healthy self-esteem and appropriate boundaries.
THIS a million times. It's a compliancy test.
Yup
@@electron-Volt obedience test, penetration testing in IT
Dr Daniel Fox call this method 'enlisting'
No clue why women go back and forth with these males. Block/delete/unfollow/defriend/disengage at the first insult. Waiting…for what.
Girl, that's what I was thinking. I have been insulted on dating apps and once through texting, each of those times insults were the end of the conversation. I am not about to go back and forth with someone who just called me a bitch.
Chucky negs, Chucky gets blocked/abandoned/ignored.
But if they want to fumble, let them. Better to learn of his jerkdom before a date than during.
Clara Weick was a pianist, composer and piano teacher, who changed the way piano recitals were performed and who is regarded as one of the most distinguished pianists of the romantic era. She also married composer Robert Schumann, and I recently learned he negged her compositions until she stopped writing anything new because he was jealous of how successful her pieces were.
Edit for typo. 🤦♀️
Many of the men who were successful in the Arts and sciences married and dominated women of equal or greater abilities.
We don't even know how many.
Yes, I read about Clara. Mozart's sister was a very good composer before him, but his father thought she should be at home. She composed a lot of his earlier music.
@@Southern.NappinessWow, I didn’t know that ! 😮
He *bullied her
Women have to just stop listening to men and their bs.
I want to draw our attention to the difference between negging and nagging. FYI; Both terms are made up by men.
Negging: men's communicative way of passive aggressively disparaging a woman they are interested in, to "bring her down a peg". This will inevitably leave the woman worse off.
Nagging: men's dismissive and disrespectful term for women who try to communicate with them about the things men need to do as adults. Like go to the doctor, or get a job. If the man follows our advice, this will leave the man better off.
And this is why I don't really talk to men anymore.
Goodness gracious, the snail story... poor girl... How could anyone tell her to unalive herself ...what is wrong with people??!
They Are not People, just empty shells with evil demons inside..
I cannot fathom that more than one person did that. Probably men who also hate their wives
Sounds like she's in another country/culture outside of the US. Just horrible anyway you look at it.☹️☹️
Probably men that said that, they are the biggest haters online
Sadly that's common on Reddit.
I was premature (like most men), posting the Axe comment before seeing the slug portion. Misandry levels at maxium capactity. Are we fucking for real? Nonbears really stage relationships just to abuse and terminate women. I wish I could help this poor sister. I would develop CPTSD. I am fresh off a "surprise! I'm a malignant narcissist and this was all a lie" tour and my pain is a microcosom of what this poor lady went through. Thank you, for another reminder to pick the bear.
I had a male friend that helped me escape an abusive relationship. We ended up dating, then commiting, and he ended up being just as abusive. I'm fairly certain knowing I had stayed in a four year relationship with an abuser is the reason he dated me.
@@martibee8984 That sucks. I hope you're doing better now.
@@May-nt3ow thank you, I am. I can't say I've picked a winner every time since, but they were my last abusers. I intentionally make sure I tell any potential new man what I did to the last abuser. If they can't handle that, or are afraid they could end up in the same situation, they don't have to date me.
@@martibee8984 I'm so sorry that happened to you and I really pray that you're protected and healing. Men's "help" is most generally wrapped in manipulation (at best) and abuse.
@@jayjellobean
Exactly!
The slug story got my blood boiling. 😡
#3rd story is premeditated attempted murder and poisoning. Yet she keeps apologizing and finding him excuses. I hope she gets better and sue that man. IDC he's sick. He's a bastard.
Had a man I rejected on a dating app who I blocked cause he was abusive found me on my social media and somehow found my mobile number and sent me very abusive messages calling me stupid and a r*tard etc. The worst was when he said he knew my address, and he knows I have a child etc and that my child is cute but I'm a r*tard. I know now to contact the police if anyone speaks to me like this.
Please be safe.
Yall don't post your child on sm fr please
I don't know what country your in, but in the USA if it's just an insult and not a death threat then the police won't really care. Just block him and ignore him.
@@silververnallbells191 he tracked her home
This was 4 years ago now. I immediately blocked him on everything and didn't reply and had to make my socials as private as possible at the time, I don't use social media anymore, stopped about 1.5 years ago because of the amount of freak men that roam on the internet. I'm from Australia, you're allowed to complain to the police about threats and make reports. Thanks for all the concerns! xx
I'm 50 years old, and still get rando insulting comments from rando men in DMs and in comments sections. And it's not even I regard to dating.
It makes zero sense.
It does. They live to bring you down and lower your self esteem to such an extent that you'll consider dating one of these parasites.
"treat her mean to keep her keen" except it doesn't work, it never worked, and those generations are the MOST DIVORCED
He was probably going to entrap that Black woman. He wanted her to go to his house???
He definitely had something horrible planned for her.
He was probably gonna do more than entrap her! She dodged a bullet!
Omg that snail guy was sadistic. Then he's gaslighting her. I hate that she was making excuses for him.
That’s food tampering which from what I understand is illegal, she really should prosecute him
Look up Sam Ballard case. He ate a slug… one slug… and was in a coma for over a year. Then he was paralyzed and wheelchair bound. He had brain damage and then passed away.
Wow! It's diabolical that he would be so reckless with her health and life!
Yes, that's the first thing I thought of!
Comas are lies tho. Question when people pass in a hospital
It’s been a while since I dated but I vaguely recall the last time a guy negged me. I think I said, “It sounds like you feel I’m not good enough for you, so it’s best we quit this so you can find a woman you don’t find fault with.”
Or maybe I said it in my imagination so I have it ready to go, I dunno.
I’m Gen X so I can say negging has been around as long as I’ve dated. I was gorgeous when I was younger and guys were always after me and many would try to take me down a notch. “What, are you stuck up? Why don’t you wanna talk to me?” “What, do you think you’re too good for him?” “You’re a BI$&@!” “You think you’re all that and bag of chips!”
And aaaaaaaall the constant digs about my lack of abilities just because I’m a woman.
Insecure guys are a PLAGUE!
Anytime a man says "you think you're too good for me" I reply w/"Yes, I am".
She should have told him have the day he deserves piss them off every time lol
Years ago I went out on a date with a guy. In the middle of our very cheap meal, he started telling me how I wasn’t all that. That I was a stuck up little princess and on and on. Unfortunately for him, I have very high self esteem. So I just gave him a frozen stare and asked him”If I’m so awful, why were you so desperate to go out with me?”
I’ll give him credit, he admitted he thought that if he demolished my self esteem, I’d be too afraid to turn him down because I’d think no other man would want me.
After our evening together, I never let him back in my life. However months later, he called me, vaguely threatening me if I didn’t go out with him again. My big brother, who knew about what this guy had tried, grabbed the phone and threatened HIM with something I won’t repeat. But it worked because I never heard from him again.
But the lesson, once again is nothing I, a woman, said, got through to him. He didn’t listen until another man told him to back off.
one guy tried to insult me and said I had very firm opinions. He kept choosing to bicker with me over the TOPIC OF MY DEGREE I WAS STUDYING. At no point did I bring up his degree subject, and I said how would you feel if I gaslit you on (His Degree Topic)? He said "you wouldn't do that" and I was like EXACTLY.
Negged at a restaurant bar. Just having a polite conversation with a man who happened to be sitting next to me and then for some reason he announced that I was “semi attractive.” Why? What was the reason for that? Because of course that was the final nail in the coffin. He was lucky to have been in my presence and have my company. Clearly he was insecure and felt out of his league. He was. But at that time in my life, I was very kind to strangers like him. I learned not to do that anymore. You have no right to comment upon my person as a stranger.
That's a form of violence ... you couldn't be honest about his appearance because he might have hit you. You made the prudent choice by disengaging.
The last story is heart breaking
Call the cops and report him for attempted murder
I dont remember being negged. I assume its bc i dont gaf about peoples thoughts on me. I grew up in like 1st grade being called a b. Being made fun of for how i look and being told i have no soul. I literally phase it all out. I will be listening to people and they say stuff and my husband will be like did you hear what that person just said... like nope! Idk dont care. My grandpa used to tell me to let stuff go in one ear and out the other and literally since i was a kid... thats what ive done. I swear we live in the matrix. Idk anyone else that can adjust the volume. I am hard of hearing though so that might play a part. 😂
You have beautiful red hair? 😍
I'm guessing you do because of the "no soul" comment from dumb kids.
I love South Park, but I do seriously hate that their Ginger episode caused a whole generation of kids to have a stigma against redheads. 😢
The 4th story is the epitome of delulu....shes being poisioned but is like.."but I love him and believe him"....some dont want to be saved, but shes willing to come online to tell what he's done, but sounds like she has no plans on doing anything to save her own life.
She has some serious mental, and physical, health issues, and he was tampering with her medication. In addition to all that, I think she already had issues from bad relationships evidenced by her severe self blame for everything. Plus I think she's afraid she's going to end up alone because she's such a burden to whoever dates her. She needs some serious therapy to know her self worth.
IKR!
Some food for thought:
Why do we as a society tend to focus on the victim, instead of the perpetrator? For example:
Passive voice (no actor): “She was being poisoned.”
Active voice: “He was poisoning her.”
Our media does this all the time, we’re very used to seeing the predator erased completely as we avoid the real issue and put an abuse victim under a microscope of blame instead….
@@dawndreamweaver8373 this.
Im sitting here, shocked about the food tampering situation. I understand ppl who say you should never let a man know your past cos its just ammo to them. This could have been worse. She has a history of mental illness, what if no one believed her when she said he was tampering with her food. They could just attribute it "one of her episodes."
Fairly certain that's why he dated her.
Honestly if that person hadn't seen the guy do it he could have gotten away with unaliving her🤢🤢🤢
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Report the messages.
19:00 he hates you. Run for the hills. You are in danger. He's feeding you blended garden slugs!!! Get away from him.
That BF, who is poisoning his GF, needs to be charged with attempted Unaliving. Everything he is doing can and has negatively affected her health and well-being. If he "loves" her, his "love" is abu$ive and life-threatening. He is DISGUSTING and is going to continue to harm her if she doesn't leave him.
A prank is hiding behind the door and startling someone for jokes (if they like pranks) not giving someone food poisoning. That’s dangerous and he should be locked up for life. Poor woman has to heal from mother set of traumatic events 😢😢😢
poison is a woman's weapon historically but the coward prank demo have discovered it to try and claim joke
The slug guy needs to be arrested immediately. Idc if he just diagnosed! He was trying to kill her!
I sympathize with that young woman, but "He gives ASPD sufferers a bad name" ?!?! He doesn't give ASPD "sufferers" a bad name. That behavior IS the kind of thing that gets a person an ASPD diagnosis: reckless disregard for self and others, low to no empathy, criminal behavior, lack of regard of consequences, cruelty to animals... (Cruelty to women is not included in the checklist...I wonder why...) ASPD is just the clinical term given to diagnosed sociopaths. If someone has an ASPD diagnosis, you can feel pity from a distance but don't fool yourself into thinking they're "ill" and "poor baby."
Facts!
Personally, I believe it's bcoz subconsciously, cruelty to wems is conflated with & subsumed under cruelty to animals.
@@fantym1633No it's because cruelty to women is so common that most men would get that diagnosis.
I have autism, but for a long time I feared I had ASPD because people told me I talked like a robot and I had trouble understanding my emotions and expressing empathy, and I felt guilty for it.
The team who diagnosed my autism told me the very fact I was feeling guilty and distressed by the possibility of having ASPD proved I couldn't have ASPD, they do not co conceptualise morality, they do not feel guilty (on top of that I loved animals too much so ASPD was definitely out).
@@dumfriesspearhead7398I honestly wonder if most men are ASPD. They def show all those traits. That's why the whine about loneliness, they can't empathise with anyone.
Last story- so glad she involved the police. Horrifying.
Yeah stop saying have a good day... curse these mfs! I also like how you said see you next tuesday.
Yah, the cops do nothing.
They see on TV it "works". I remember seeing it on shows in the 90s and 2000s all the time.
I remember on Everybody Hates Chris the girl next door finally was responsive to Chris after being a shithead to her. 🙄
They really were pushing that narrative hard. It's sad men go through all this to "get" a woman instead of keeping her
The _Loveable Loser_ & _Playing Hard to Get_ tropes in western media have completely warped the brains of a few generations of guys.
I also think some of these guys were the class clowns in their school years, and that worked for them back then. But, as the women that used to work on in HS matured, these guys failed to evolve, and this is the result.
*Edit to Add:* And then factor in that they get a lot of their advice on women from the manosphere... Basically throw gas in the flames.
Yeah they believe in fiction, including pawn. "Well it worked online-" SHE WAS PAID TO PRETEND.