I love feminine men! I prefer a man who's comfortable with who he is no matter what that might be. As long as he understands I'm the top. We work together to be successful. Just the two of us. And it's my desire to make him happy.
Just wanted to say that it’s beautiful to see you spreading this message because the internet can truly make it seem as if men, specifically gay men, solely or primarily like masculine presenting men but my experience dating when I was younger was not that at all. They make it seem as if only “straight” men like feminine gays but there is a variety of interest. It does tend to be men that are more confident in their own masculinity ,if we are honest, who are interested in feminine men so they don’t crave an immense amount of masculinity in a partner. They welcome femininity into the mix. It’s truly a “vibes” thing and finding an energy balance with someone. Some of these masculine presenting men have feminine energy and some of these feminine presenting men have masculine energy. The exterior and interior are not always in the alignment that people would presume. A healthy long term relationship is all about who you find the balance with. Keep up the great content Alfred and cheers gays!
I'm a fem guy and have my fiancé. I was pretty insecure because he is very attractive and masc, and I asked him one day if he would prefer a masc guy but he said no because he fell in love with me.
majority of the black fems were in relationships with white men, fortunately for them but also lowkey unfortunately. lol i feel like that says ALOT about some of the gays in the black gay community not appreciating femininity on black men. SPECIFICALLY brown skinned and dark skinned black men, because light skinned black gay men are often times seen as desirable with their femininity due to colorism. And anything closer to white within colorism is seen as desirable, soft, feminine, submissive, and safe. We even see this in adult films as were colorism is perpetuated it is VERY rare to see a black bottom and a man of another race as the top. And lowkey in interracial gay relationships, you subtly see this as well alot of times were the black man in the interracial relationship carries more of the masculine energy, which more than likely carries into the bedroom as well. I think it's important for the gay community to keep having these conversations to really investigate these matters, I'm all for interracial relationships, but we definitely should be making sure we are not fetishizing each other, ESPECIALLY black bodies because historically our bodies have been fetishized the most due to colonization. Just want us to be aware and be careful 😊🙃 Also hoping that as the black gay community continues to decolonize their minds that more and more black masculine and black feminine gay men will see the beauty of femininity in and on brown skin and dark skin black male bodies, and that also SPECIFICALLY with the black masculine gay men that they will show their love OPENLY for black feminine gay men the same way they do behind closed doors when no one is watching. And that they won't be afraid to walk in public hand in hand with their black feminine boyfriend/husband and not afraid to show pda to their black feminine boyfriend/husband in public. I think that's why we don't see alot of black masc and black fem relationships on public display too because their is still alot of shame present. I pray for more layers of our freedom to come forth and unravel.
This was interesting. Cuz the only dude I would've considered femme was the guy with the lipstick and makeup on. I don't consider any of those guys femme. I only consider men femme if they wear makeup, heels, too much jewlery and/or women's clothes. Have I been femme THIS WHOLE TIME!?!?🤔😮🤯
That’s what I was saying. Them other examples were guys with fem traits as in personality. But a true fem exudes femininity from personality to what they wear to how they live. As a transwomen who used to be a fem identifying boy, this ain’t it lol
@@BeatbyLeBlanc Nothing more funny than a man who thinks he's a woman because he likes to perform femininity. You're not any kind of woman, no man can be because femininity does not define what a woman is.
I love how open you are and these great conversations. Sometimes, because I have feminine ways, men automatically turn away from me, and I'm always like, "Well, not my tribe!" Haha. I've gotta enjoy myself and be happy. Much love to all.
I did not get a chance to listen to the video. I will. But i am already SKEPTICAL. All i see on tiktok and social media is how openly g4y men & fem men complain about being single, DLs and not being able to find a relationship and complaining about all of these MASC4MASC types. So what is it? Winning? But winning how and at what? I tend to see more complaints about this lifestyle than anything
Bro this guy is speaking the truth.. because startait guys don't have time for anything but there bubby's or three girl.. thing I,m telling you find you a older man.. some one for everyone 💞💞💞💞 bro I,m going to be your number one fan for life and your husband..
All things posted on social media are not necessarily real, or as good as they try to make it look. But at the end of the day, if those couples are genuinely happy, then I think it’s great. However, can we stop acting like if a masculine man prefers a masculine man, that it’s automatically “cap”. I’m masculine and I prefer masculine men. Femininity does not turn me on sexually, at all… while at the same time, I can acknowledge that there are masculine men out there that ARE turned on by femininity in a man. But, if anything is “cap”, it’s the overdone, fake femininity that a lot of these guys display, where they create this whole persona which is oftentimes more feminine than the average everyday cis gender woman. I AM NOT SAYING THAT REAL, GENUINELY FEMININE MEN DO NOT EXIST. NOR AM I SAYING THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH THEM AND THAT THEY DON’T DESERVE LOVE AND HAPPINESS. Another thing I wanted to ask is how could you say that the young black guy in the car with the way older white guy is an example of “winning”, when just last month you said that any time a younger guy is in a relationship with a way older guy that it’s not genuine and the younger guys is just in it for what he can get out of the older guy? (I’m paraphrasing) Lastly, I know this is your channel and I respect that fact, and I know you are allowed to see the world the way you want to see it, but… just because you are fluid in some areas (such as being attracted to other races, being attracted to fem and non-binary), please don’t low-key demonize people just because they have preferences, or try to imply that their preferences are based on some sort of pathology.
@yogotti1230 BRUH, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS COMMENT! You summed up how i feel too about this too. I completely agree. Sometimes i feel like there is no place in the "community" anymore for just your average gay male: a man who likes being a man and is attracted to men who also like being a man. It's like everything today is about the perpuation of extremes. And as much as i love Alfred and his platform and discussions, i too notice where he can be a bit flippant and judgemental at times. And yes, he seems to demonize things and people a lot one minute but then the next minute, it's cool; esp when it pertains to the interracial thing.
Feminine guy here and j agree. You can't believe everything you see on social media and more importantly, nust because some managed to find a guy doesn't mean it's easy for all of us, especially if you're not willing g to date a guy you're not attracted to even if he is attracted to you.
@dabigd1860 we feminine men are still men, there is no "right" way to he a man, you either ste kne or you're not and that is determined by your sex. I'm not saying that masculine gay men can't prefer other masculine men, that's perfectly fine. Just stop acting like a man who doesn't conform to masculinity is some non man because of it.
@dabigd1860 Many content creators are so caught up in putting out videos that they either don’t realize or don’t care that they end up contradicting themselves. Some will even resort to low key calling their viewers names if you call them out on their contradictions. And as far as interracial dating and couples, if a person is open to it, then I say go for it, because it definitely expands your options. And tbh, I can admit that it’s especially difficult out here for black men when it comes to dating and relationships (for various reasons). BUT… I hate when people (especially ones involved in interracial relationships) say “well maybe you should try dating out”. I don’t try dating out because I am not attracted to non-melanated men. Plain and simple. And for all I know, the person suggesting that I “date out” might have envisioned himself with, and/or fantasized about being with, someone of another race from childhood. Or at the very least, they just may have been open to it all their life. Who knows? But I’m not! So miss me with that BS!
@KaiDecadence Good point. Mutual attraction IS necessary in a relationship, no matter how much people try to deny it. If we’re not attracted to each other, then we can just keep it @ a friendship level. And I KNOW Alfred is not crazy enough to think that the 23 year old black guy is genuinely attracted to that 50 year old white guy (who looked quite a bit older than 50 to me). The mere context of the video the 23 year old posted about the older guy retiring him @ 23 puts his motives and intentions on display. I mean, why TF would you even want to “retire” @ 23???? Me personally, I don’t care if you’re a billionaire, if I’m not attracted to you (not just physically, but mentally, spiritually, etc.), I cannot be intimate with you on a long-term basis. If you’re not attracted to the person you’re with, it will eventually become obvious, and you will resent yourself and the other person.
I can see you are getting these coins based on the subject matter. It’s hilarious how these masc/fem relationships often come across as heteronormative fantasies with traditional gender roles and everything. F___ that s___.
Hey don't knock heteronormative relationships, they have worked pretty well for our species considering we exist today. And what's wrong with traditional gender roles in gay relationships if one man is more feminine and female typical in gender traits and if it works for them?
If both parties are comfortable having a heteronormative type of relationship, what is the problem with that? No one is saying you have to have that dynamic if you don't want it lol.
@@aliross2720 has it worked, though? Have you seen the divorce rates? Plus, with societal enforcement of gebder roles, each party, the man and the woman, wants to have their cake and eat it, too.
@@KaiDecadence I don’t care if they personally have that dynamic. But, if you put your life out on social media in a public, people in the public are allowed to have their opinions about it.
As a top, I like masculine to feminine men, transexuals too. I just don't tolerate drama!
especially top shaming and top abuse
😂
You in London??!! X
I love feminine men! I prefer a man who's comfortable with who he is no matter what that might be. As long as he understands I'm the top. We work together to be successful. Just the two of us. And it's my desire to make him happy.
So only fem dudes are comfortable 😂😂😂😂😂😂 put that shit down
Where do you live?? 😅
Just wanted to say that it’s beautiful to see you spreading this message because the internet can truly make it seem as if men, specifically gay men, solely or primarily like masculine presenting men but my experience dating when I was younger was not that at all. They make it seem as if only “straight” men like feminine gays but there is a variety of interest. It does tend to be men that are more confident in their own masculinity ,if we are honest, who are interested in feminine men so they don’t crave an immense amount of masculinity in a partner. They welcome femininity into the mix. It’s truly a “vibes” thing and finding an energy balance with someone. Some of these masculine presenting men have feminine energy and some of these feminine presenting men have masculine energy. The exterior and interior are not always in the alignment that people would presume. A healthy long term relationship is all about who you find the balance with. Keep up the great content Alfred and cheers gays!
Fem men are the future.
LIES
You leave them alone😂😂😂@@mikalblack8798
I absolutely believe that femininity will be valued more within the gay community in the future. This video was so inspiring to me.
I'm a fem guy and have my fiancé. I was pretty insecure because he is very attractive and masc, and I asked him one day if he would prefer a masc guy but he said no because he fell in love with me.
Oh yeah! As a fem myself I get more masculine dudes than fem dude 💯
majority of the black fems were in relationships with white men, fortunately for them but also lowkey unfortunately. lol i feel like that says ALOT about some of the gays in the black gay community not appreciating femininity on black men. SPECIFICALLY brown skinned and dark skinned black men, because light skinned black gay men are often times seen as desirable with their femininity due to colorism. And anything closer to white within colorism is seen as desirable, soft, feminine, submissive, and safe. We even see this in adult films as were colorism is perpetuated it is VERY rare to see a black bottom and a man of another race as the top. And lowkey in interracial gay relationships, you subtly see this as well alot of times were the black man in the interracial relationship carries more of the masculine energy, which more than likely carries into the bedroom as well. I think it's important for the gay community to keep having these conversations to really investigate these matters, I'm all for interracial relationships, but we definitely should be making sure we are not fetishizing each other, ESPECIALLY black bodies because historically our bodies have been fetishized the most due to colonization. Just want us to be aware and be careful 😊🙃 Also hoping that as the black gay community continues to decolonize their minds that more and more black masculine and black feminine gay men will see the beauty of femininity in and on brown skin and dark skin black male bodies, and that also SPECIFICALLY with the black masculine gay men that they will show their love OPENLY for black feminine gay men the same way they do behind closed doors when no one is watching. And that they won't be afraid to walk in public hand in hand with their black feminine boyfriend/husband and not afraid to show pda to their black feminine boyfriend/husband in public. I think that's why we don't see alot of black masc and black fem relationships on public display too because their is still alot of shame present. I pray for more layers of our freedom to come forth and unravel.
@ayoq9956 Thank you for taking the time to "dive deeper" and post such an insightful comment.
I wish I have this kind of love one day. Really praying for it
This was interesting. Cuz the only dude I would've considered femme was the guy with the lipstick and makeup on. I don't consider any of those guys femme. I only consider men femme if they wear makeup, heels, too much jewlery and/or women's clothes. Have I been femme THIS WHOLE TIME!?!?🤔😮🤯
That’s what I was saying. Them other examples were guys with fem traits as in personality. But a true fem exudes femininity from personality to what they wear to how they live. As a transwomen who used to be a fem identifying boy, this ain’t it lol
@@BeatbyLeBlanc Thank you for saying this. I thought I was crazy. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@BeatbyLeBlanc Nothing more funny than a man who thinks he's a woman because he likes to perform femininity. You're not any kind of woman, no man can be because femininity does not define what a woman is.
I love how open you are and these great conversations. Sometimes, because I have feminine ways, men automatically turn away from me, and I'm always like, "Well, not my tribe!" Haha. I've gotta enjoy myself and be happy. Much love to all.
@@MRJLS15 Take joy in being who you are. Sometimes, we need to find our own light before others can. ❤️🐺
Thank you for this positive message. There is hope for us less masc guys!!! x
Fem dudes need to date each other
THAT PART. JUST LIKE CERTAIN GROUPS OF WOMEN...THEY DON'T LIKE EACH OTHER.
And we do! Next!
That's lesbian activity
That doesn’t even make sense
@@Celestinewarbeck 😂🤣😃 it don't. Just a recipe for cheating
As a country masculine gay guy, I love other masculine men, but I’ll also date a feminine man! Great video
I did not get a chance to listen to the video. I will. But i am already SKEPTICAL. All i see on tiktok and social media is how openly g4y men & fem men complain about being single, DLs and not being able to find a relationship and complaining about all of these MASC4MASC types. So what is it? Winning? But winning how and at what? I tend to see more complaints about this lifestyle than anything
Bro this guy is speaking the truth.. because startait guys don't have time for anything but there bubby's or three girl.. thing I,m telling you find you a older man.. some one for everyone 💞💞💞💞 bro I,m going to be your number one fan for life and your husband..
All things posted on social media are not necessarily real, or as good as they try to make it look. But at the end of the day, if those couples are genuinely happy, then I think it’s great.
However, can we stop acting like if a masculine man prefers a masculine man, that it’s automatically “cap”. I’m masculine and I prefer masculine men. Femininity does not turn me on sexually, at all… while at the same time, I can acknowledge that there are masculine men out there that ARE turned on by femininity in a man. But, if anything is “cap”, it’s the overdone, fake femininity that a lot of these guys display, where they create this whole persona which is oftentimes more feminine than the average everyday cis gender woman. I AM NOT SAYING THAT REAL, GENUINELY FEMININE MEN DO NOT EXIST. NOR AM I SAYING THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH THEM AND THAT THEY DON’T DESERVE LOVE AND HAPPINESS.
Another thing I wanted to ask is how could you say that the young black guy in the car with the way older white guy is an example of “winning”, when just last month you said that any time a younger guy is in a relationship with a way older guy that it’s not genuine and the younger guys is just in it for what he can get out of the older guy? (I’m paraphrasing)
Lastly, I know this is your channel and I respect that fact, and I know you are allowed to see the world the way you want to see it, but… just because you are fluid in some areas (such as being attracted to other races, being attracted to fem and non-binary), please don’t low-key demonize people just because they have preferences, or try to imply that their preferences are based on some sort of pathology.
@yogotti1230 BRUH, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS COMMENT! You summed up how i feel too about this too. I completely agree. Sometimes i feel like there is no place in the "community" anymore for just your average gay male: a man who likes being a man and is attracted to men who also like being a man. It's like everything today is about the perpuation of extremes. And as much as i love Alfred and his platform and discussions, i too notice where he can be a bit flippant and judgemental at times. And yes, he seems to demonize things and people a lot one minute but then the next minute, it's cool; esp when it pertains to the interracial thing.
Feminine guy here and j agree. You can't believe everything you see on social media and more importantly, nust because some managed to find a guy doesn't mean it's easy for all of us, especially if you're not willing g to date a guy you're not attracted to even if he is attracted to you.
@dabigd1860 we feminine men are still men, there is no "right" way to he a man, you either ste kne or you're not and that is determined by your sex. I'm not saying that masculine gay men can't prefer other masculine men, that's perfectly fine. Just stop acting like a man who doesn't conform to masculinity is some non man because of it.
@dabigd1860
Many content creators are so caught up in putting out videos that they either don’t realize or don’t care that they end up contradicting themselves. Some will even resort to low key calling their viewers names if you call them out on their contradictions.
And as far as interracial dating and couples, if a person is open to it, then I say go for it, because it definitely expands your options. And tbh, I can admit that it’s especially difficult out here for black men when it comes to dating and relationships (for various reasons). BUT… I hate when people (especially ones involved in interracial relationships) say “well maybe you should try dating out”. I don’t try dating out because I am not attracted to non-melanated men. Plain and simple. And for all I know, the person suggesting that I “date out” might have envisioned himself with, and/or fantasized about being with, someone of another race from childhood. Or at the very least, they just may have been open to it all their life. Who knows? But I’m not! So miss me with that BS!
@KaiDecadence
Good point. Mutual attraction IS necessary in a relationship, no matter how much people try to deny it. If we’re not attracted to each other, then we can just keep it @ a friendship level.
And I KNOW Alfred is not crazy enough to think that the 23 year old black guy is genuinely attracted to that 50 year old white guy (who looked quite a bit older than 50 to me). The mere context of the video the 23 year old posted about the older guy retiring him @ 23 puts his motives and intentions on display. I mean, why TF would you even want to “retire” @ 23????
Me personally, I don’t care if you’re a billionaire, if I’m not attracted to you (not just physically, but mentally, spiritually, etc.), I cannot be intimate with you on a long-term basis. If you’re not attracted to the person you’re with, it will eventually become obvious, and you will resent yourself and the other person.
Some of what you consider fem and nonbinary presenting in these videos is questionable lol
Great video though I wouldn’t consider a lot of these guys “fem”
Hey I'm just looking at the inside there heart & soul.
another thing to ask is does this mean fem tops as well or both fem tops and fem bottoms or just fem
Black like the Olmec ayeeee I know thats right 📿📿🪶🪶🏹🏹🤎🤎🤎🫂🫂
I can see you are getting these coins based on the subject matter. It’s hilarious how these masc/fem relationships often come across as heteronormative fantasies with traditional gender roles and everything. F___ that s___.
Hey don't knock heteronormative relationships, they have worked pretty well for our species considering we exist today. And what's wrong with traditional gender roles in gay relationships if one man is more feminine and female typical in gender traits and if it works for them?
If both parties are comfortable having a heteronormative type of relationship, what is the problem with that? No one is saying you have to have that dynamic if you don't want it lol.
@@aliross2720 has it worked, though? Have you seen the divorce rates? Plus, with societal enforcement of gebder roles, each party, the man and the woman, wants to have their cake and eat it, too.
@@KaiDecadence I don’t care if they personally have that dynamic. But, if you put your life out on social media in a public, people in the public are allowed to have their opinions about it.