The youngest child stereotypes ACTUALLY affect them

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  • @jjk_death_note
    @jjk_death_note 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    Older siblings think we’re the favorite because we’re being treated like a child- which we are children. But then when we grow up they don’t realize we’re still being treated like a child.

  • @redfatseal2407
    @redfatseal2407 ปีที่แล้ว +231

    As someone who’s sick as being portrayed as the devil in every damn TikTok video I feel honored watching this.

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I've been wronged a lot by my family so I enjoy being called devil. Once you know your true self and what you want, these titles don't really affect you.

    • @redfatseal2407
      @redfatseal2407 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@anonymousnation5235 Yeah, it's just that no matter how good you are people are gonna hate on us no matter what. Sometimes I feel like if they are gonna hate me I might as well do something to deserve it

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@redfatseal2407 yep exactly

    • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
      @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same lol

    • @ANXIETY_DEFENDERRR
      @ANXIETY_DEFENDERRR 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      OMG YES those made me so mad

  • @DICEBOY22
    @DICEBOY22 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Growing up in school people walking up to me and " oh hey your ____'s little brother right? " Really annoyed me and discouraged my worth as a person.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      yeah that can get super annoying

    • @DICEBOY22
      @DICEBOY22 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It's like... I HAVE A NAME!

  • @TFocus97
    @TFocus97 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    Same I keep people saying “Youngest is so spoiled!” “There the favorite!” And stuff and it’s annoying. We get left out, we’re not the favorite.

    • @veebot75
      @veebot75 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      In any good family, there is no favourite. The love should be shared equally amongst all children.

    • @Writtencrown
      @Writtencrown 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As le oldest, not everyone is the same. Some of the youngest children are actually spoiled n stuff. But it can also happen w other kids even w the oldest.

  • @RoseMoon2
    @RoseMoon2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Sending a big hug to all my fellow youngest siblings 🫂 It's a little sad but also in a way really nice to see how similar our experiences are as the youngest and that we were never all alone in our experience despite feeling/having felt so alone in it

  • @Stellybellyhaha
    @Stellybellyhaha ปีที่แล้ว +93

    My older sisters always get spoiled, and guess what! I’m the YOUNGEST. YEAH. I don’t get spoiled or get knew things, it’s hand me downs, I do all the chores I can, and get yelled at the most. My siblings blame me for things I don’t do, and that’s just part of being a youngest.

    • @jamburga321
      @jamburga321 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Interesting

    • @npc.21269
      @npc.21269 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

    • @SkullVideoss
      @SkullVideoss 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And I always get the least attention and gifts too. It should be even. And then I’m “lucky”

    • @mariamraies279
      @mariamraies279 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I know right and then they all end up saying the youngest have the easiest life

  • @iitstimeforchristmas
    @iitstimeforchristmas ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Im the youngest sibling and i always get stereotyped on how oh i get everything but no im alone. My siblings leave me out it feels like they hate me tbh cause they dont understand it hurts us and makes a change to our livex.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for sharing

    • @bronwilson2390
      @bronwilson2390 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly!! Even when going shopping with the whole family, my parents walk together at the back, my sisters walk together at the front, and I'm just stuck by myself in the middle. And I never feel comfortable talking in front of everyone, because I always got shouted at when I was younger for being "annoying" for talking

    • @mioko2974
      @mioko2974 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@bronwilson2390even as an adult, I get called annoying by my older siblings and cousins. It’s even more exemplified by the fact I have autism.

    • @yourlocalraven489
      @yourlocalraven489 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They have a reason why they leave you out.

    • @yourlocalraven489
      @yourlocalraven489 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And you are the youngest.

  • @ClementineShmementine
    @ClementineShmementine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I had a closet. I hate the term princess- I was neglected not given more freedom

  • @AvaBlack-m9t
    @AvaBlack-m9t 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As a oldest child in a big family, all these personal experiences in the comments this video made me think more of how I treat the youngest child of my family. I’ve always been more focused on parenting and things going on in my life instead of thinking how it could affect my siblings. Thanks for this video!

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for commenting!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If your siblings annoy you for so long it's very annoying😢

  • @AndrewWYT
    @AndrewWYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    your line about stereotypes we tell ourselves was so fire.. im an oldest child and helped me step back and think about what my siblings might be going through.. great video man

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Glad you enjoyed, I appreciate the feedback!

    • @TheRationalDremer
      @TheRationalDremer 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@AustinSchrock You have literally described what I've been experiencing for years! (I'm 13 years old & I'm the youngest child in my family.)

  • @yewnicorns
    @yewnicorns 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    As the youngest child, i was told that i was spoiled by my family. everyone always joked around about me being a "demon," until it wasnt a joke anymore. they would give my brother more attention than they gave to me because they always thought i was up to mischief. they always called my brother humble and kind, while they called me a spoiled kid. it happened so much that i just decided to "play the part" one day. I made fun of my brother like he did with me. i talked back to people. id get all defensive. id steal my brothers stuff. thats what everyone else saw. what they didnt see at the time is when id return his stuff and apologize, when id cry over not being the same age as my brother, when my brother criticized my interests, when i felt the need to put up a wall and push everyone away because i felt like i was just a spoiled kid who had weird interests. because of that, i never figured out who i truly was. i never asked myself what i want to be, or anything like that. i feel attacked over any little thing now. when people joke around about me, i feel betrayed and i quiet down the entire time. i close myself off. all because i neved figured out who i was.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for sharing your experience

  • @lxns_metanoia
    @lxns_metanoia 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I once heard "kids act up because they need their parents' attention"
    Which makes sense because parents have given most of their efforts and attention to the older siblings. They were more careful, scrutinizing of their parental skills, they want to do everything right, etc. All while balancing their personal lives/problems as an individual- I understand how it can get exhausting.
    By the time we come around, they're kind of over it, they have separate expectations from their kids, but *in their minds* they're treating all their children the same lol.
    So then, the youngest grow up not realizing the dynamic is different, because they only know what they see and how they're treated. Deep down, we may notice we don't see the same attentiveness as our siblings got.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wow that's really insightful. I love what you said about they think they are still treating us all the same. So true

  • @jdx3738
    @jdx3738 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Im youngest of four and at 21 I still remain the "child" of our family. Especially the eldest forgets i grow up just like he does. He doesnt know how to interact/have serious conversations with me, because he expects me not to comprehend. To him i will always be defined by my childlike charactertraits like "enthousiast". I brought this up with my dad and even he admits that it will most likely take for me to become a parent for this to change. This and the fact they're all strongminded people and are relatively succesful leaves me still feeling like a child and incapable to this day.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing

  • @yuichiro6113
    @yuichiro6113 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I think the hardest part for me is seeing your older siblings slowly moving out. I grew up with 3 siblings and them moving out really hits deep if that makes sense. Walking past their empty rooms and sitting in your room alone does get lonely .

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeah very true

    • @damusaetrum6742
      @damusaetrum6742 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I had the same experience

    • @DawKyiKyiAye-d8w
      @DawKyiKyiAye-d8w 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Opposite to me, my big brother and sister are in their 30s and don't get married. They're acting like Peter pan. And I am sick of them treating me like a baby. I want them to get married🤭

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My sister is going to be mad she can't annoy me anymore 😂

  • @bigskibidiohiorizz
    @bigskibidiohiorizz ปีที่แล้ว +48

    All these comments for the youngest are so true. This is so hard when I just say one thing about my sisters they say i’m spoiled, and i’m a brat, and i get all the attention. I hate the feeling of this and my sisters never understand how hard it really does hurt. I feel you all

  • @AnaSofiaRivasCruz
    @AnaSofiaRivasCruz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    since my brother came short to societal expectations, pressure was unto me ever since i was born. my brother is pampered and never punished, he's protected, and while i may have gotten it easier, all tasks and expectations are unto me when he's 6 years my senior. i cannot complain nor whine about my elder siblings for they are "older" and ought to be respected, no matter what happens i must be reminded of the "age gap" and how they "are right because they're older". to be held back by the family, yet also thrusted forward. for days to no end, if i didn't initiate, my brother would not talk to me (i have other step siblings that do not live with us, yet im still the youngest one and the only daughter. i am referring to my bio brother).
    thank you for the video.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thanks for commenting

  • @Unforgivably_yours
    @Unforgivably_yours 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Thank you… my older brothers are 2 years apart but I am 8-6 years apart from them I recently found out from a private convo I heard that one of my brothers ignores me on propose. And all these years I was waiting for him to talk to me have a friendship like him and my other brother had when I left my childhood and grew up faster because BOTH of my brothers I felt like I had to “grow up” for them to love me this started when I was 8. Then they moved out and it made me lonelier because even though we didn’t have a relationship I had a peace of mind that they were there.. and it lead me to push them away because i found myself holding grudges against them from childhood experiences of them pushing them away so I resented them and leaned towards being more independent because I wouldn’t wanna hurt myself letting someone in and not knowing if they will hang out with me for 5 minutes or they wanna be my sibling. Leading to trust issues. And apart of me pushing them away was proving to them that I I didn’t need them and trying to show that I am not the annoying little sibling anymore. Plus being the youngest sibling finding yourself getting awards were SHAMEDDD because somehow everything I did it was so much easier for me to get. I would force myself to be alone even though I wanted to talk to someone about my struggles but I had too because if I wasent silent, they wouldn’t hear me. If that makes sense. I had to prove to them that I don’t need you, if you don’t wanna be bothered by me then don’t. After I started distracting myself and moving away I realized I could go 3-5 weeks without a “Hello” from them which would make me mentally battle myself because I wanted my silence to be heard because words don’t work which led me to rebelling a Lot so silence if my way of yelling at people. I’ve always felt ignored by my siblings they didn’t wanna talk, play with me or just be around me but they were there for each other which I hated and held against them and ignoring them is probably weirdly the thing I’m most pasionage about because if I prove them wrong I feel like I would get satisfaction proving I can grow up just like you. I threw away my toys I started mirroring teen personalities on the internet so they would like me and I found myself in my teen years looking back seeing how I threw my childhood for them because that’s how much I wanted to have a relationship, to prove them wrong. Nobody talks about this enough and I would sit in my bed in cry because you can’t trust friends. But even though I held grudges, resented them, pushed them away they were still my brothers and I needed them. And hearing them say they ignored me on PORPOSE woke me. Because even before they said that I would always want their attention that I never got which led me to needing words of validation from friends, relationships, any form of relationship. Then when my silence was not loud enough I rebelled so all the attention was on me like a cry for help that I WANTED them to notice. Because I was never like that till I noticed a pattern in how my siblings treat me. And being the youngest left me with a weird obsession and fear of death because my mom had me at 38 while my siblings were born way earlier. I would constantly think mainly in my teen teen years that when I have kids will they be around. And just thinking about it that’s why I always needed noise like the tv in the background because death was all I could think about.Being the youngest isn’t as easy as people make it seem

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks for sharing your experience!

    • @damusaetrum6742
      @damusaetrum6742 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You understand

  • @GeckoTech_Engineer
    @GeckoTech_Engineer 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    And if we are spoiled by are parents (which WILL fuck up a child’s personality) it gets blamed and pitted against us as if we did it

  • @janemeier929
    @janemeier929 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I think the worst part of being the youngest sibling is, that we are being held back. At least in my experience (youngest of 5) i was always kept back by my parents. In their eyes (or at least my mother thought that) I was the child, who should have stayed the longest. I was their "baby".. I struggled really long with growing up, because I was told, that I shouldn't. I was told, and in fact internalized, that I am supposed to stay young and dependent. And all the people on the internet told me, that I had it easy, because my parents didn't expect me to grow up and be responsible at a young age (something oldest siblings struggle with apparently). Or that I was always allowed everything, because my parents treat me best.. Its hard.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's really hard when someone is in that position. Thanks for sharing

  • @IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777
    @IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I recently got into a little argument with my younger sister. I know its kind of douchey but i looked up "why are younger siblings so badly behaved" and i saw this video and it honestly gave me perspective of what younger siblings go through. Thank you. I think i am going to keep this in mind next time i feel like this.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome, thanks for sharing

  • @JustBubbles4ever
    @JustBubbles4ever 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    What sucks the most is growing up too fast so you can’t make friends at you school any more bc you don’t do what they do or being the “favorite” so no one likes you, being left out of the stuff your older sibling got to do, running into those videos about the older sibling having it the hardest like yeah u have it hard but do u even think about how i feel and parents don’t help like i cant help that im spoiled. But in reality im not even spoiled that just what everyone including my family think

  • @zarasmith2329
    @zarasmith2329 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    People always say that the youngest get everything they want, the actual case is:
    Hand me downs. I literally only had like 4 items of clothes that had been bought FOR ME everything else was from my sister (now I'm older I get to buy clothes more often)
    All my friends saying : "omg you can tell your the youngest child your parents are so nice to you" (they treat us all the same)
    This is kinda just personal but my friends saying "your soo lucky to be the youngest you must get literally anything you want" LIKE NO THAT AINT HOW IT WORKS
    being called spoilt just because I don't like certain foods, my parents don't buy me that food. In my defence I literally like THROW UP when I eat cheese (-not dairy I just hate the taste) but my sister just doesn't like chicken and she has low iron and stuff so she needs to eat more meats to help her so my parents make her eat it.
    My point: STOP stereotyping youngest children!

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว

      This sounds remarkably like my childhood haha. I’ve only met a handful of people that don’t like cheese, I couldn’t stand it until a few years ago

    • @zarasmith2329
      @zarasmith2329 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AustinSchrock I can't stand the smell or the taste lol. To the point where I order domino's with no cheese and only sauce 🤫

    • @lessismore8533
      @lessismore8533 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m not the youngest but sometimes the stereotypes ARE true! It varies from family to family. The youngest in mine is EXTREMELY spoiled by my mom and he uses that to his advantage to annoy me and get away with it

  • @StrawberryShortcake_15
    @StrawberryShortcake_15 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As the youngest child,my parents are so strict w/ me bc im "spoiled". If anything i am neglected and depressed bc of it.

  • @NadaAlawadhi
    @NadaAlawadhi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Thank you for taking on this subject and taking on the struggles we’ve been through on a deep level instead of the typical stereotypes everyone else talks about. It makes me feel validated and understood.
    Secondly you should praise yourself for having this self awareness at a young age.
    I didn’t start to figure myself out and start to sort through the issues I’ve been through and point out the issues that were caused just from my birth order until I was 27. And I was able to notice how first I put walls and barriers around me and then resented the world for not understanding me. When those walls were of my own doing. And the second major issue is that I had no self esteem because I relied on praise and accomplishments to feel seen and to gain my confidence.
    Unfortunately when point these things out to my family, they don’t take it seriously they think I’m blaming them and they get defensive and shrug it off and go back to the you were spoiled stereotype. And that’s not why I say it, I say it so they pay attention to our nieces and nephews now because I don’t want them to feel the way I did.
    And just like you say it, I would never want to change any of it, because those things shaped who I am today. And I’m good with this version.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so glad you felt validated and understood by this, that was may main goal for making this video! It's such a complicated subject and i've gotten such good feedback from many people, it means a lot.
      Thanks for sharing some of your experience, I resonated with much of it. One of the final things I've learned is that we all have good points and bad points, and since we are all unique, the only comparison that’s worth having is comparing yourself to who you were in the past, and seeing if you have changed or grown. Keep at it

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Life is very unfair and it's the parents and teachers fault 😢

  • @ChloeEditzChloe
    @ChloeEditzChloe ปีที่แล้ว +27

    There is pros and cons in each sibiling order us youngest aren't always the favorite in my family im ignored and seen as a disappointment since my sister is " the smart one of the family " and my brother " the handsome and talent one of the family" and while I have all of the above they see me as the disappointment and " spoiled brat " as my sibilings say, I love them a'lot and want only the best for them but my sister said to my brother " I dont know she could be have the most fucking annoying personality" when I was only 11, and when ever I try to fake my personality since everyone hates it I'm called " cop cat " and comments like " she's so cringey trying to act like ____ " so yeah and also to add more to the batch im always told to shut up I'm also seen as a little kid when Im in my mid teen years im 14-16 so yeah no our life isn't just butterflies and happiness. My family constantly blame me for everything bad that happens in the family, even if I wasnt even there so basicly im like the scapegoat, but you know lately I've gotten used to it and just tried to ignore it.

  • @LucyBennett-p7j
    @LucyBennett-p7j 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I am the youngest in my family. I only have one sibling and I constantly feel unseen by my parents. When i was in year 7 (starting high school in Australia) my brother was in year nine (2 years into high school), this meant my family focused on their studies and the fact that their grades matter more at that point. But when i was in year nine my brother was in year 11 and was doing all the harder tests. At family gatherings normally the cousins talk to my brother about school but don't really ask me. My brother thinks that i'm my parents favourite because I am the youngest but it's because I had a better attitude with my parents and I was just generally easier to handle. I feel like all my achievements are always overshadowed by his, so I quit anything that we are both good at or that he's better than me at and I force myself to choose paths that he's never done before even if I would rather do the other. This video has helped me realise I can be my own person and my life shouldn't be defines by his.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow thanks for this comment. I'm so glad to hear this could help!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope my little sister will be lonely🎉

  • @JoyfulJoJo_7113
    @JoyfulJoJo_7113 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    My brothers always tease me and I'm really sensitive and my parents never yell at my brothers cause theyre older. It's so annoying my brothers are 2 years apart and they have a built in best friend I have no one I'm the odd one out

  • @RoseMoon2
    @RoseMoon2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Honestly thanks for this video it felt so validating to finally hear someone say these things that I've been always thinking about

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re welcome!

  • @FelixFelicis3267
    @FelixFelicis3267 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Its so funny how we're with ourselves the most out of anybody in the whole world and yet we're so easily warped after being seen as nothing but the presumptions and labels of others.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Very true. It's a challenge for me to not do this for others

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's because they had annoying siblings😢 I have one and it's annoying 😢

  • @Indigoisaspookyghost
    @Indigoisaspookyghost ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My older brother is moving out tomorrow. I’ve always shared a room with him or my eldest brother, and it’s.. really weird to think about sleeping in a room alone. I don’t like it. I.. don’t want to be in a silent house. I don’t want to do holidays alone. I don’t want to be alone. I hate how we always get called spoiled- I’m the most ignored.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sharing your experience

  • @Citrus_doodles
    @Citrus_doodles 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Being the youngest means my parents get tired of parenting me, the oldest gets tired of me being clingy, the older siblings (oldest & middle) Move out, and having to live with the reality that our childhood family wont be at our funeral because they'd be dead, we would be at their funerals though.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      kinda a bleak outlook on life lol

  • @mioko2974
    @mioko2974 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    The “you deserve to be punished” hit me so hard as a youngest sibling. My brother constantly resented me and talked down to me for being the youngest, calling me things like a spoiled brat, and a she-demon. He even blamed mom’s cancer, his diabetes, and 9/11 on me being born because it all coincidentally happened in 2001. It led me to believe that I was a horrible person, that I should hate myself, and punish myself if my parents wouldn’t punish me for existing. I spent my entire childhood suicidal starting at age 7, attempting multiple times and failing. I had insomnia from ages 9-14 and would roam the house in the dark, wondering if I could undo my life with the kitchen knife. I never asked for anything extra, and at one point developed an ED because I believed that having 3 meals a day was too much for me if I didn’t work a 9-5. I stayed in my room all hours of the day bc I didn’t have any energy for anything. I’m just now trying to recover from this as an adult, but my brother still tries to throw me under the bus and tell our mom that I don’t do anything when I’m cleaning up his messes in the kitchen and our bathroom constantly. I don’t even want a “thanks” I’m just tired of him constantly trying to ruin my life.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing

    • @Rachelnsophie
      @Rachelnsophie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Omg that’s horrible

    • @PrettyBoots
      @PrettyBoots 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree with @kristina2272. You don't need to clean up after siblings. Let your mom see the messes he leaves around. Talking to your mom about him would be great; if she doesn't listen, there are other people to talk to, too. By the way, my story was very similar to yours, and I'm finding therapy very, very healing. I'm seeing a trauma therapist.

    • @mioko2974
      @mioko2974 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @kristinaj2272 yeah I mainly cleaned up after him even though he was horrible to me about it because if nobody cleans… his messes can be absolutely SEPTIC. I’m talking random sediments all over the bathroom floor, dirty handprints on the fridge, mud caked inside of his backpack, beard shavings just left in the sink- not even rinsed out, overflowing trash, and black dirt in the bottom of the bathtub. I just wanted a clean space to do my business. I’m moving out now, though, and not cleaning his messes anymore. He’s 5 years older than me, he can do it himself.

    • @StrawberryShortcake_15
      @StrawberryShortcake_15 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. May God bless you throughout life ❤

  • @TaiV977
    @TaiV977 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It feels terrible when my parents pay more attention to my older sister; I know they love me but don't show it to me. She would get more attention from them (I never got that unless it was about grades). Yes, she dealt with a lot, and I respect her for it, but I did, too. I try to get my mother to talk to me and get an "uh-huh" or a "Hold on honey, I'm talking to your sister." My Father and I have been bonding more on things he likes, but I never got affection from either of them... I never got to experience my teenage years with friends because when I tried to go out or my friends invited me to the mall, or somewhere, I would ask my parents. They would say "I'll tell you in a few days." They would forget, so I would ask them again two days later just for a "no." This happens 90% of the time... to this day, when I go out, I feel anxious and think about what my parents would say if I stayed out long, I get anxious and have the urge to go home soon. The one choice I don't regret at all and that I would do again if I could, is to go to Ohio with my friend to see my female best friend. I didn't have to burden myself in my pity.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m sorry it is that way

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's also terrible when parents pay more attention to my sister 😢

  • @SelkieGirl
    @SelkieGirl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    One of my older siblings thought he was the typical forgotten middle child. HE WAS THE SECOND YOUNGEST OUT OF _FIVE._ WE WERE _ALL_ FORGOTTEN ABOUT! Plus, the actual middle child was the only afab who never spoke to any of us.

  • @melissamccole6528
    @melissamccole6528 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thanks so much for the is video, never thought I'd relate to something so deeply, I've been closing myself off from others in fear of what they'd think of me, they just don't understand, and yet this has given me a reason to continue with life, thank you! 😄

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, you are so welcome!

  • @a_asp829
    @a_asp829 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    When my little brother do anything to me hes not wrong AT ALL and when i do back I AM THE PROBLEM

  • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
    @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Also it’s more difficult to find baby pictures and videos of the youngest because the parents would want to document their first child’s growth, but when it comes to the youngest the parents have already made photographs and memories with the first child and can’t really be bothered to do it all over again for the 2nd child

    • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
      @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Especially when your family come over to watch home videos I would be in like one shot ( at least that’s what I’ve noticed I’ve the years )

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I accidentally deleted my baby pictures💩

  • @4ngels.s0ng
    @4ngels.s0ng 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    as the youngest child, these stereotypes made my suicidal thoughts worse cause my older brother started believing these stereotypes and started calling me spoiled and names… yeah😐

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yeah that's rough

  • @erinames7783
    @erinames7783 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This makes perfect sense to me. I am the youngest and at 47 I feel like I am still trying to figure out who I am. I was shaken to my sole when my oldest brother suddenly died when he was 43. I almost had to start again learning who I was again. Being the youngest may have perks but it sure isnt as easy as our older siblings think.

  • @JTINJAPAN
    @JTINJAPAN ปีที่แล้ว +9

    THIS DESCRIBES MY LIFE SO ACCURATELY IT’S SCARY

  • @AnungooMunkh
    @AnungooMunkh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    for me : "your too young"
    for my sister : "okay sure, be back before 8! "

  • @oliviajohnson8457
    @oliviajohnson8457 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I freaking hate these stereotypes! Kids around the age 12 to abt 16 have committed and we wonder why! It’s getting out of hand and I hate not being able to talk to anyone about my feelings without them invalidating them just because I’m the youngest. And I do have a little experience with the whole neglect thing. My parents don’t neglect me but I don’t think that we are more payed attention to than everyone else. Of course my older siblings need my parents attention a lot for school stuff jobs and cars which is a big convo and takes up time. But overall I think in this generation children are more mature than their siblings from my experience in certain ways when it comes to arguments between you and your siblings. But another topic is the whole alpha generation which literally if you even JUST made it into alpha gen you are IMMEDIATELY sorted into these boxes that sometimes are not true at all! And about I think gen z being politically active and that they know and care abt that stuff. I know someone who can name immediately 10 problems we all should know abt and care about!

    • @oliviajohnson8457
      @oliviajohnson8457 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ages 12 to abt 16 have committed the most

    • @oliviajohnson8457
      @oliviajohnson8457 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I know an alpha gen who can name the problems

  • @csbining
    @csbining 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    wow i relate to this so much. thank you

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your very welcome, thanks for commenting

    • @Rachelnsophie
      @Rachelnsophie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AustinSchrockyou’re*

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Family members put you down the worse

  • @premahallikeri4831
    @premahallikeri4831 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My maternal grandparents were both the eldest in their families. The case of my parents is that my mom was the eldest & my dad the youngest.

  • @st.commodus1437
    @st.commodus1437 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I need help asap. Im the oldest and my parents are emotionally immature so i find myself repairing the damage done to my youngest sibling. What can i do so my brother doesnt grow up feeling alone and misunderstood. I know what thats like and id hate for him to feel the way i have. Please help

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh that’s really hard to answer without knowing the situations. For myself I know it meant a lot when my older siblings asked for my opinion and specifically when they asked for my help. Being the youngest meant I was always going to them for help and it was really helped our relationship when they started coming to me. Especially when I knew they didn’t have to have my opinion, but were asking because that’s what family does

  • @Kbs80344
    @Kbs80344 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m the youngest child and whenever I see those random Tik toks portraying the youngest as a spoiled brat. It’s honestly hard to be put into the category for being the youngest. Not only do you get put in that category but no one listens to you either

  • @terrybyrd3738
    @terrybyrd3738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I came from a family with 8 kids (I'm the youngest).
    The hardest thing I deal with is not being recognized while in a lead position, and I refuse to be a follower. My happy spot is to be a Doer .. if others don't like it - they can step back!
    There's so much more to say on this subject that I can only jot down thots:
    * The only way to amend your pre-disposed concept of yourself is to find what fits with you, and pursue it.
    * If I become a tool for 'their' expectations, I will never develope to my fullest.
    * Establish your own personality and goals.
    * Advice is good, but always (always) filter out the crap.
    * Thanks for the advice y'all .. but that don't fit with the way I do things.
    * You can say anything you want using both tact and respect.
    * Rejection creates hurt .. arrogance creates animosity. That's in any relationship .. but magnified with siblings.
    * They mean well .. but they ain' walkin in your shoes.
    * Convenient schizophrenia is soooo tempting .. but a level head keeps the play field wide open.
    * Separation is great .. but silence is submission.
    * Shocker - sometimes it ain' about you .. Do for others what You expect!
    * You're allowed to get over both yourself and others.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sharing this

    • @lessismore8533
      @lessismore8533 ปีที่แล้ว

      “But magnified with siblings. So true”!!

  • @isa_cd
    @isa_cd 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have never related to a video more in my entire damn life thank you so much 🙏

  • @NicoDiAngelo-w2l
    @NicoDiAngelo-w2l 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I am a youngest child, and I have an older sister. She is really successful. She got into one of the greatest universities, is a role model in our school (I am in the same school as her) even though she already graduated. I am proud of her, really, but I sometimes wish she wasn't so successful. My parents always value her more, even though they try to hide it. They are not bad parents. They love both of us, but sometimes, having so many exoectations to be as good as my sister gets overwhelming. Everyone knows me as her sister but never myself. Every one of my achievements are often overlooked cause she did it first. I feel insignificant and unimportant next to her. Everyone loves her but I'm more like a tag along who is desperate for attention. I'm not saying that I'm not unimportant, cause I am. But I'm starting to question myself. Would it matter if I never existed? Would it make any difference? I don't think so. I mean, I'm just a normal kid, nothing special. So why would my existence matter?

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for sharing a bit of your story!

  • @anonymousnation5235
    @anonymousnation5235 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Changing my story?? Yup that would be very helpful. I can be whatever i want to be and completely reject the idea of me being spoiled and irresponsible or burden on adults. Thank you for this ❤

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re welcome!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      When siblings get spoiled and annoy you are the worst😢

  • @JustLavender57
    @JustLavender57 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For me, the stereotypes of how all youngest children are treated better, spoiled, or the favorite child. That’s not true. I take care of my older sister and I have to be more mature. My parents don’t care more about me than my sister, I’m not spoiled, I have to be there for my sister but she’s not there for me. The stereotypes make me upset. I don’t want to be told what I am, the older sibling isn’t always more mature.

  • @randymarsh8974
    @randymarsh8974 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Always the peace maker in my family. As I’ve gotten older, my sister is trying to use me as a scape goat on why it’s okay she relies on my mom so much at 30. To keep her 4th man around. “He’s saving money for us a home, that’s why he doesn’t pay for anything”. When I was little I was played against whoever someone was mad at. I learned to use this anxiety as a drive. Now as an adult. If I refuse to side with whoever is causing drama at the time. Don’t agree and fake who I am to make them happy. They turn that energy against me. It sucks, I’m an ex addict now. I’m very lucky my suicide attempt failed as a kid. If my parents wouldn’t have allowed me to shoot heroin in my bedroom as a teen, I would not be alive rn. So praise heroin even tho I can’t have it anymore :(. Fucked up when heroin acts saves your life…

  • @HappyThoughts-HAPPY-THOU-xx3gm
    @HappyThoughts-HAPPY-THOU-xx3gm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It does matter how hard you hit them. YOU. STILL. HIT THEM. If you used that excuse for a spouse or your child you’d be arrested. Don’t use it as an excuse for abusing your sibling.

  • @relatablereflections7002
    @relatablereflections7002 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    so true as the youngest i can relate 10/10

  • @ghostlove4153
    @ghostlove4153 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Also I haven't finished the video yet but I dont feel like my own person I feel like my personality is just bits and pieces if my siblings personalities

  • @tannerneth5083
    @tannerneth5083 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I hear you

  • @verymev
    @verymev ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL (I’m Christian so this was pretty cool)😊

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    5:41 i got resentful too

  • @shane1948
    @shane1948 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What's your Myers briggs personality type?

  • @lessismore8533
    @lessismore8533 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m the middle child. Im NOT gonna say the stereotypes are always wrong. It varies from family to family. Stereo are like cliches. They are created by a popular idea. There’s a reason it became popular. Sadly I grew up with a MANIPULATIVE baby sibling who was INDEED spoiled because my mom never corrected him like she did all the older kids. He lives his life correction FREE and used his privileges to manipulate me to get what he wanted. He has 2 other siblings but picked on me the MOST. So I feel I have every right to dislike him. Good video tho. Nice thoughts

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the feedback

    • @lessismore8533
      @lessismore8533 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AustinSchrock cool you’re welcome

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's very true what if your baby sibling comes to this video and says they are lonely 😂

  • @N33KSUUUUU
    @N33KSUUUUU 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you

  • @Devin_Dean
    @Devin_Dean 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What if you don’t have a baseline identify and that’s part of the problem?

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not sure 🤔

  • @kennethgithinji5631
    @kennethgithinji5631 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm basically alone as a lastborn. Thank God I like it

  • @joyceadegboyega8524
    @joyceadegboyega8524 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Same here .

  • @Ebonhydra
    @Ebonhydra ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Those stereotypes are complete wrong to my family I get all the hand me downs I’m here with a iPhone seven while the rest of my family have iPhone 14s lol

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Interesting! I guess everyone is a little different :)

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They are different for everyone

  • @nuhajotinuha9831
    @nuhajotinuha9831 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can't be more Trueeeeee brooooo💅

  • @couldntholdacandle6681
    @couldntholdacandle6681 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am apparently the spoilt child and the favourite. 😂 In my family if Dad said you where his favourite it didn't mean that you were the most loved. It meant you'd won lotto 😂 which meant he wasn't happy with you. Here is the thing my older siblings moved out and it left my parents with more money so they could afford a colour tv for the lounge room. Whoopy doopy 😂 I wasn't allowed to watch it. They didn't buy it for me.

  • @DennyBlessedDCT
    @DennyBlessedDCT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So much to comment on! 1) Another Great Video! Whether or not you realize it yet, God has gifted you with a uniquely intuitive mind. 2) Don't be indoctrinated by others narrative like so many people who are lazy. 3) Without God, nothing matters. 4) Be who God created you to be, that's where you will find true fulfillment and success! 5) I'm very impressed by who you are becoming as a young man as you continue your quest for understanding! Your desire to achieve is having the very positive side effect of building others up!! That's very rare in the day and age that you are growing up in! 6) I'm old enough to be your grandfather and yet finding great reminders of truths that I've learned over my lifetime through your content. 7) SO PLEASE CONTINUE to seek out knowledge and add to that wisdom. Continue to use the discerning mind that God has given you. It's changing lives for the better and that in and of itself is a great achievement!!😇

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you so much for commenting! I couldn’t agree more with what you said, especially 3 and 4. So true

  • @twoofAKiiind
    @twoofAKiiind ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the intro is too long for me bro

  • @Mirian_Garcia
    @Mirian_Garcia ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You don’t have to change anything, being the youngest is great!❤❤❤

  • @ClementineShmementine
    @ClementineShmementine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have always called myself invisible

  • @SpiceyMojo
    @SpiceyMojo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this video is very low vibrational

  • @GOON-MAXX
    @GOON-MAXX ปีที่แล้ว +5

    the oldest sibling wouldn't have made this video, just sayin...

    • @Trashe_can
      @Trashe_can ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ok

    • @PrincessKaren
      @PrincessKaren ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Okay and...

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's because they had a bad youngest sibling so they would think everyone had a terrific one

  • @sod4xdrugs-CN
    @sod4xdrugs-CN 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My siblings don't leave me out of stuff. But truth is, i hate getting stereotyped all the goddamn time. I get blamed for every single fcking thing that goes wrong. I sick of getting babied by everyone.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That sounds rough, I can relate