Never thought I would have to make this video

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  • Thank you for all of the support. This is by no way a video saying I won't upload my regular content on my regular days. I just have to solve my living situation...
    I love all of you very much, please stay safe and take care of yourself

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  • @darylshort2729
    @darylshort2729 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +397

    You have 19,200+ people who love you right here. All my hopes and prayers are with you. You've got a bright, better future ahead! You'll see.

    • @MichaelB2L
      @MichaelB2L 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Such a lovely comment. Bless you.

    • @Hatredkeys1991
      @Hatredkeys1991 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Agreed

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Thank you so very much for your kindness ❤️

    • @gracejoy8854
      @gracejoy8854 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And if all those 19,200 people gave $1, she would have almost 20k to start over. Imagine how things can change overnight for one person. ❤

    • @Junebug96
      @Junebug96 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This touched me my soon to be ex wife left me and it took me a while to find myself. Some days its like a bandaid that keeps ripping off me when i drop my kid off from my weekend visitation.... its like it feel like its never over. I want you to know im keeping you in my prayers tonite... in a few weeks i sign and ive bewn going through the ups and down i get it. Just know your not alone. These toxic people exist. Just know you are different for a reaon. Love to you!

  • @Laserpuppylord7215
    @Laserpuppylord7215 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +246

    I got divorced at 33 and moved back home. No money or possessions but I knew that I had left the worst behind me. I spent the first two months healing. I painted a lot and always listened to your videos while I did it. Thank you for being a healing presence in my life. Take your time in getting back on your feet. I know everyone here will be waiting for you.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Im sorry to hear that you had to go through all of that, Im happy to know that Ive been able to help you in a very small way. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for the support, I appreciate you a lot ❤

  • @Felis42
    @Felis42 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    Thank you for sharing this. You're going through a really difficult time and I am truly sorry to hear that. I also really admire you for your strength and for being so open and vulnerable with us.
    I found your channel during a very difficult time of my life just after I left an abusive relationship, and your videos helped me a lot. I wish I could return the favor. Please accept this small contribution as my token of appreciation. I wish you the best in the future. Sending lots of hugs, love and support from Czech Republic. ❤

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Thank you so incredibly much for your generosity ❤❤ Im happy that you were able to get out of that situation, abusive relationships really changes you and makes you lose yourself.. please I wish for you to find yourself and be able to heal ❤❤❤

  • @eicoo2
    @eicoo2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    Your positive outlook on this is inspiring. I'm sorry that you've been shouldering these sorrows but I hope this new chapter for you is filled with joy and self love. Take your time and don't feel beholden to us to create content, I look forward to seeing new videos from you when you're ready 🙂

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your understanding and your thoughtfulness, Ive been planning some more of my 'ordinary' content once I feel a bit more put together ❤️

  • @TheVisualvictor
    @TheVisualvictor 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +151

    What can we say? I hope everything goes better from now on, we will keep supporting you no matter what! Cheers and thanks for everything

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Thank you so very much for your support, your kindness and your generosity, it means the world to me thank you once again ❤️

    • @lt8901
      @lt8901 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It's so kind that you gave her money. I hope she did something special for herself with it and that you smile knowing you were the one that took her out for lunch or whatever it is that she did with it that day. Seriously the sweetest thing you could have done, and I love seeing humans support huamans like that. Good karma to you, sir! That is all.

    • @TheVisualvictor
      @TheVisualvictor 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lt8901 Thank you, I did it because it may help her moving out her things to her new home. Money isn't everything. I just like to help when I can and be thankful for the content she made for us these years.

  • @questforchips
    @questforchips 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    Going back home and being around people who care for you will be quite refreshing! Change is good, especially when it gets you away from a very unfortunate situation. Wish you the best! Cheers

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you so very much for your support ❤️

    • @plumdutchess
      @plumdutchess 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree!

  • @sbs3000
    @sbs3000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Thanks for all you do here on TH-cam. I enjoy your content so much. I'm sorry you're going through all this, especially all at once. You've overcome a lot already and I believe you'll get past these troubles too. This Super Thanks isn't a lot but I hope it will help with your moving expenses, etc. I wish I could do more. Take care.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much for your caring words and for your generosity, I really do appreciate it and you a lot ❤️ Thank you for all your help!

    • @sbs3000
      @sbs3000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ErudwenASMR You're very welcome. :)

  • @jimjones8993
    @jimjones8993 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    Moving back to your mother's is a brave step toward healing. Find solace in small joys. Brighter days are ahead. You're beautiful and deserving of happiness. I love your Videos.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your support and caring words 🫶

  • @JasonLee-op1yn
    @JasonLee-op1yn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    I understand. I have a degenerative spinal condition that I've been dealing with for 13 years. It's always caused me agonizing pain but, in September of last year, I also suffered a major heart attack that also had an impact on my spinal condition. Since then, the pain is so severe that I've been virtually bedridden since. Along the way I've lost my career, fiance and most of my family. I have nothing here because my ex took everything she wanted when she left. All i do is lay here day after day with this phone. No car, no income. Thankfully, I have a surgery on June 6th that should allow me to start over.
    Keep your head up. It WILL work out in the end even though the journey will suck.

    • @mintyCS
      @mintyCS 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      damn man youre a hero straight up. Thank you for sharing your story, motivates me to move and im able bodied. Silly of me to give up.

    • @deuceb8472
      @deuceb8472 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      All the best vibes to you for your surgery and recovery. 🙏

    • @slugwoo
      @slugwoo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Sending prayers that your surgery goes well

    • @JasonLee-op1yn
      @JasonLee-op1yn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@slugwoo Thank you.

    • @jarlwhiterun7478
      @jarlwhiterun7478 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We both have exes that are bad people. They have evil hearts, that is a fact.

  • @SirPickleworth
    @SirPickleworth 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    Your videos have been a consistent comfort for me on difficult nights. I'm sure you will land on your feet, we're all rooting for you!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much for your generosity ❤❤ Im glad Im able to help you in any small way possible ❤

  • @asmrdork7107
    @asmrdork7107 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    That truly sucks. Sorry this happened. But, from my position it sounds like you were in an abusive relationship. And it’s going to take hard work to handle the trauma but you can do it :)

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for your insight, its been a lot but Im sure it will all be better from now on ❤️

  • @drhapi5308
    @drhapi5308 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Oh what a beautiful rebirth this will be! I am excited for you! We will be here!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so very much for your generosity and for you believing in me ❤

  • @DeathByWafflez
    @DeathByWafflez 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    This must be so tough, what you're going through. You seem like such a strong and wonderful person. I hope life sends many amazing things your way as you move through this. I think I speak for all of us when I say, we will be here to watch your videos whenever you feel it's right to come back, however long of a break you need.
    Much love to you!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Thank you so very much for believing in me, my content and for your generosity ❤❤ I hope to be able soon to make my regular content, there might be a few shorter updates in between ❤

    • @DeathByWafflez
      @DeathByWafflez 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@ErudwenASMR we'll be here :)

  • @Andre-vr1ul
    @Andre-vr1ul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    There is more to life than working endlessly for money; A quite, humble and happy life surrounded by nature is worth so much more.
    I learned the same lesson myself.
    God Bless you!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your generosity and for your words of wisdom, thank you ❤❤

  • @parisht89
    @parisht89 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Just let me know where to sign up for a patreon! we would all love to help. Until then...

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so very much for your kindness and for your generosity, it means the world to me ❤

  • @thunderdan4058
    @thunderdan4058 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    I hope you find some happiness back home. It is much better to live where you are loved.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for your generosity, I really appreciate it ❤ I do hope this will be the change I need in my life ❤

  • @bobbyosullivan1390
    @bobbyosullivan1390 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Wow there's no words to express how sorry and heartbroken I am for you, what you went through was sickening abhorrent and you deserve so much more. But just keep in there I know it's very hard but we all believe in you and love you. Hope this lil donation helps and remember that the darkest hour comes just before the dawn. Lots of love and hang in there ❤.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your generosity and for your wonderful comment ❤❤❤ I appreciate you so much, thank you once again ❤

    • @bobbyosullivan1390
      @bobbyosullivan1390 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ErudwenASMR you're more than welcome ❤️

  • @BaronVonMutoh
    @BaronVonMutoh 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I'm really sorry about what you're dealing with. I hope you're able to get over your burn out situation soon.
    Sounds like the breakup was for the best given how you were being treated.
    If you open up any sort of patreon or equivalent please let us know. Your videos are incredible and we appreciate you 🫡

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your supportive comment I appreciate it a lot, I will update once I get myself together and figure out starting a Patreon ❤️

  • @ambie9900
    @ambie9900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    im sorry i can't donate more, but sending you so much love and support. you bring so many people comfort when we need it. you deserve all the happiness and peace in the world. please take care of yourself and take your time getting back on your feet, we're all here for you ❤

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your generosity and kindness it means so much to me ❤ I hope to find myself again soon ❤❤

  • @NoElf84
    @NoElf84 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Take the time you need, and keep climbing, you will get out of this. Thanks for all you've done for us.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you so very much for your kindness and for your generosity ❤❤

  • @riddleoffeels4518
    @riddleoffeels4518 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Erudwen I just want to say thank you for the content you make and to show some small amount of support for your channel. On a personal note there isn’t anything to say that will make this time easier. Just know that finding an end to the cruel or false elements of your life is never a real loss just a new beginning as you find the things you truly need. May you find success in the things that bring you joy.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so very much for your generosity and your kindness ❤❤❤

  • @Resolute89
    @Resolute89 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Starting over can be a blessing and 30 is not even going to be a problem. You can get through all of this.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you!

  • @stuandrews1618
    @stuandrews1618 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I've been following you since about 900 subscribers. You have a wonderful accent for ASMR, and your subjects are always something I enjoy. I wish you all the best, Erudwen, take care of yourself.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your continued support during my years on TH-cam, and thank you as well for your generosity I greatly appreciate you ❤❤

  • @tylenolwalrus
    @tylenolwalrus 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Your content is great and you seem like a lovely, thoughtful person. I am sure many, many people feel the same and would be glad to support you on Patreon if they can. Speaking from experience, the fact that you are so open and ready to begin healing is a great first step. I wish you all the luck in the world in the future and hope this is just the start of something even greater for you!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so so very much for your generosity and for your caring words ❤❤ I hope I will heal from this and making even better content ❤

  • @katiew4156
    @katiew4156 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Went through something similar, the isolating move for an underserving boyfriend, stayed because of inertia but very unhappy, job burnout. Glad you have a positive perspective on the move, for myself it turned out to be the best possible thing for me. You'll be so much happier & resilient being back with friends and family who love you. Well wishes, hoping this is a turning point for you too!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you for your generosity and for letting me know im not alone with going through all of this ❤ Im glad to hear that it all turned out for the better for you, thank you for everything ❤❤

  • @jadenebacher9365
    @jadenebacher9365 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Good luck! Your optimism in finding the good in all this is so inspiring and I can only hope for the best for you!! ❤️

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your generosity and for believing in me, I hope to begin healing soon from all of this ❤❤

  • @MrChristoph0r
    @MrChristoph0r 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    Depression is hard, and partners are challenging too. I will leave extra likes and comments to help the algorithm, and hope things only get better for you ❤

    • @MTJMT
      @MTJMT 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You are a good dude

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much, I really do appreciate it and you ❤️

  • @Keanu010jwz
    @Keanu010jwz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I hope you find the peace you deserve. We will always support you. Thank you ❤️

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your support and your generosity ❤❤

  • @debrafabac8776
    @debrafabac8776 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I don’t know about you but you have a natural gift to do ASMR Videos. You have more talent for this than people who have been doing it for years.

    • @ajcrum3689
      @ajcrum3689 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      omg yes that’s why i subscribe. she would be perfect for that .

  • @kylemichel3006
    @kylemichel3006 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Being burnt out is one of the most deadly symptoms of today's society.... We live in a world where we have to adhere to the most ridiculous standards. when it comes to work, lovers, relationships, and life, it can ripple effect across everything. And on top of that an unrequited love? I feel for you.
    Take soloce in knowing that nothing lasts forever. this is a trail in your life, and as you say, life goes on.
    We live in a generation of loneliness, and to be honest, your videos have saved,. or help many people who have fallen into this same situation by the way you give your energy... Bless your heart, we will continue to support!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you so very much for your thoughtful comment and for your support ❤️ Even tho Im not open about my profession or my personal life online I do feel like everything has become 'transactional', relationships.. work.. all of it. The concept of just being a bag of flesh always on the toes afraid of getting replaced gets tiresome, very fast. Once I pick myself up together, I will be able to share with you the things that I find joyful. Thank you once again ❤️

  • @Arcane861
    @Arcane861 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    So sorry to hear about your situation 😔 I can really sympathise with the loneliness having moved for work and being in a city on my own for 3 years, once Covid finally seemed to be ramping down I moved back to my home town to be near family and friends again. I hope it'll be a tonic for you as it was for myself! You'll grow from this and hopefully never look back! Best wishes are with you!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your generosity ❤❤ Im happy to hear that it all turned out in your favor, that it became the best taken path for you ❤ I hope it will turn out the same way for me as well ❤❤

  • @bonecastles
    @bonecastles 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You got this. New save file girl

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so very much for your generosity ❤❤❤

  • @SHOman_86
    @SHOman_86 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Something very similar happened to me last year. My partner left, I got passed over for a big promotion at work (eventually quit), and my mental health collapsed. Took me a full year to recover. You’ll get there, talking about it is a big step in the right direction 🙏

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing your experiences, Im glad to hear that you did recover through all of your hardships! Your insight feels comforting during this time, thank you once again 🫶

  • @jamesnicolson866
    @jamesnicolson866 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Wow I'm so shocked and so sad by your news. I'm glad to hear you are moving in with your mother. Being around loved ones is always the best support!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I do hope to find myself once again, thank you for your kindness ❤️

  • @lookgoodinred
    @lookgoodinred 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    So much love and support to you ❤ this is the beginning of a new chapter, only up from here!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so very very much for your generosity and your kindness ❤❤ I appreciate you and I hope to being healing soon ❤

  • @mildlydevastated
    @mildlydevastated 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Much love to you. ❤

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your generosity and support ❤❤

  • @drummingman77
    @drummingman77 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Thanks!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your generosity and your kind words in your previous comment, I really do appreciate it and you ❤️

  • @jordana4910
    @jordana4910 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Sending you positive vibes 🙏

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your support and generosity ❤️

    • @jordana4910
      @jordana4910 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ErudwenASMR Anytime 🙏

  • @Bontonification
    @Bontonification 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Best of luck to you 🙏🏻

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your generosity and kindness ❤❤

  • @aj5762
    @aj5762 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I don’t know your partner, but it sounds like he did you a favor. Move back home to family. Remember, in the end, you’ll always have family no matter what. Hang in there girl. We’ve all been there and so have I. You’ll get over it be stronger for it. You go do you now.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤ thank you for your support ❤

  • @amberhansen3221
    @amberhansen3221 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I've been through this several times. I'm 44 and still am finding myself. Our Scandinavian side can be restless. We have a hard time settling. May blessings come your way and peace alongside them

    • @sim9373
      @sim9373 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s over for you lady. No man wants 44 year old 🐱

  • @peter_falle
    @peter_falle 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hello my dear. I'm sorry to hear of your misfortune. But this will pass. I don't know your real name, however I just wanted to tell you that I had a breakdown a few years ago and it took sometime to recover. But recover, I did. My wife later cheated on me and we divorced. I recovered from that as well. My present wife has also been cheating on me, divorce pending. But hey, you know what?
    What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. You will be ok, my friend. Please don't do anything silly. Try not to do too much. Just rest. Be still. I wave money coming to me soon. Maybe I can help you somehow.
    I will pray for you every day.
    Much love. Peter.

  • @Invigilius78
    @Invigilius78 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Best wishes!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you once again ❤

  • @coopforever
    @coopforever 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Boy if your partner broke up with you, he's a dumb ass, because you are heartbreakingly beautiful 💔... There are so many guys who would kill to have a girl like you!

  • @db5158
    @db5158 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Så tråkigt att höra! Jag tror på dig och förhoppningsvis leder detta till något bra i slutändan, du är stark ❤️

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tack så mycket för ditt stöd, håller hoppet uppe att det kommer lösa sig ❤️

  • @DOVAHKIIN1
    @DOVAHKIIN1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm very deeply sorry beautiful girl, remember you're a shield maiden and strength comes from your heritage. I too have great sorrow, my beautiful wonderful mom passed away 4-30-2024 at a specialty hospital from contracting multiple superbugs, she was on a ventilator. I miss her dearly. My Norse heart goes out to you and be strong.

  • @rsmpride8267
    @rsmpride8267 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Hey I just watched your video….and I just wanted to say that as alone as you feel…..I identify with your words. If I could help you from afar I would. Take care of yourself. There are many people who feel alone as well.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your comment, I do wish you also find support and people in your life who cherish you. You're an important person, I hope you take care as well ☺️

  • @m0o0oeh
    @m0o0oeh 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A change is as good as a rest. I'm so happy that you're able to make positive changes and make a difference for you.

  • @Akaos88
    @Akaos88 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    😢🤗

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your love and generosity ❤❤

  • @ernestoguevara0708
    @ernestoguevara0708 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Espero puedas entender mi mensaje, ya que mi ingles no es tan fluido pero:
    Eres una guerrera, y creeme que nunca estará mal que llores o te desahogues por algo que te está haciendo daño, es natural y es saludable... Te lo dice alguien que lo ha perdido todo una vez y ha tenido que empezar de nuevo, tu puedes... Que nada ni nadie en este mundo te detenga y recuerda que tienes a todos tus seguidores en TH-cam o cualquier red social que tengas, que te vamos a apoyar con lindos mensajes o en lo que se pueda... Muchas bendiciones 🙏🏼❤️

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience and words of encouragement ❤ I used google translate to translate your comment, thank you for your kindness it means a lot ❤

  • @butterparty
    @butterparty 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    "If you don't change course, you'll end up where you're headed."
    I went through something similar around 30. It's so difficult to lose your relationship, living arrangements and job simultaneously.
    But I promise you this is good news - you are right to be excited for the future. A few months after this happened to me and the dust had settled, I felt absolutely amazing. I was in control of my life again, and better understood my priorities for my happiness. The weight was off my shoulders. The rest from there flowed naturally.
    You got this girl. I'm sorry you have to go through it, but you will be born again on the other side as a better you. Big hugs from Australia. xo

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you, your comment is really inspiring to me and made me think in other ways about my current situation. Im happy to hear that you came out at the other end feeling amazing, I wish to have that feeling as well in a couple of months ❤❤

  • @gamemoviezone
    @gamemoviezone 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How are you guys donating? Can you let me know please, sorry I’m old and don’t understand quite how this works. I’d like to donate

  • @StayHungry41
    @StayHungry41 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    "You can't put a price on your sanity."
    I've said this to myself, several times. Sometimes the only solution is a fresh start

  • @driftwood757
    @driftwood757 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I could tell you were in a controlling relationship. It came to me when you mentioned how "expensive" the world of warcraft posters were in one of the videos you made. It seems that you were made to feel guilty for spending like $30, which if you think about it, was going towards your goal of making ASMR videos. Big sign of a controlling relationship

  • @creamothunder
    @creamothunder 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Your content helped me remain calm during my own struggles. Work is important but not at the expense of your health. The same goes for relationships. Return to those who love you and begin healing. Get back into your hobbies and that which gives you joy. We love you. All the best.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your generosity and for your words of wisdom, I wish you all the best as well and I hope you are able to overcome your struggles ❤

  • @ASOIAF-Henrik
    @ASOIAF-Henrik 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow thats incredibly fucked up. But in a way good riddance, you probably will be much better in your home town. Wish you best of luck

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope so ❤

  • @keldin9303
    @keldin9303 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I've watched a lot of your videos and I'm a fan. I was sad to hear about your health issues back when you told us. I'm sad to hear about what you are going through now. I got a house with some woods. If you can make to Virginia I got you boo :)

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤️ Thank you for being so caring, sounds like you are living in a wonderful place!

    • @keldin9303
      @keldin9303 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah, its a decent place. Someone here would be able to do youtube full-time. No crap jobs. I would insist on it so we get that content.

  • @cdwizzerd
    @cdwizzerd 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    yeah, life can throw you some wild curve balls in your late 20s. Im still reeling from my own, & am in the middle of doing an emergency house move amongst many other stressful & hard things. i just want to say, these things can take time & effort, but as long as you embrace change & try to stay strong you can always pull through, or at least thats what i tell myself 🤞😎

  • @1kvall
    @1kvall 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You deserve better and better will come, take ur time to self heal and keep ur mind busy and surround yourself with the ones who do love you. 🤞🏽

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your support, I appreciate it a lot 🫶

  • @kristiyandimitrov4049
    @kristiyandimitrov4049 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i dont know what to say really...hope evrything works out at the end

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 🫶

  • @annas4191
    @annas4191 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    💚hugs

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so so much for your generosity ❤❤

  • @wilE6764
    @wilE6764 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm 59 My wife and I divorced after 18 years..living with my 88 yr old father..I'm so much happier now!

  • @수지-k9r
    @수지-k9r 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Fan va jobbigt, du förtjänar verkligen bättre! Du fick mig att börja samla på muminmuggar och den nya passionen gav mig lite extra glädje som jag behövde när jag var deprimerad. Jag kommer att be för dig!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Åh! ❤ Vad glad jag blir att höra att du också finner glädje i Mumin muggar, ta hand om dig jag uppskattar ditt stöd nå så oerhört ❤

  • @mooneirTheDivineMedium
    @mooneirTheDivineMedium 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh hunny! You are not alone. You have whole spirit team on the other side who are guiding you. Toxic things are being removed so you can find your way back on your TRUE MISSION!!! It’s all falling apart because you are about to embark on BIGGER things!!! All this will pass! I PROMISE! ❤

  • @NeverHadFun
    @NeverHadFun 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hold hope. These things are tough, but for the best of both parties. Make sure to prioritize your mental health and do things that you enjoy and that make you happy. We will be here, you just do you. : )

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your support ☺️

  • @thoggowow
    @thoggowow 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What the hell. Your ex is not very nice, that is not how you treat people, wether the romantic love is not there any more. Everything will work out and you thankfully got to know their real colors before further tied down. Ta hand om dig!

  • @martinboldsen
    @martinboldsen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It's not much, but this comment is me sending you a ton of virtuel love, hugs and positive energy fra Denmark! It's ok to be sad and feeling down, but remember things will get better! Take you time if needed - your ASMR fans will be still be here. And thanks for all your videos.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your supportive comment, hopefully I will soon be back to making my 'ordinary' content once I get all my stuff shipped! ☺️

  • @kristinaldridge1712
    @kristinaldridge1712 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I married and moved to another country just to be alone and have to start over again alone. That was many years ago. I know how hard it is. You always have you and you can always turn to yourself when you love yourself. All you need is to love yourself and trust yourself.

  • @Damza59
    @Damza59 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    stay positive, look forward to the future, time will solve everything.
    thanks for your content erudwen

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your support 🫶

  • @Lorexbg
    @Lorexbg 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This sucks, i had to go through break up last month to , it really sucks when you are fully invested in and with someone and they decide to leave you . But you are also in quite bad spot mentally. I understand why you made this video you need support right now even if is from people you don't know . What you need to do is get some therapy and do a soft reset. Its hard going back and feeling defeated and alone . But is also great opportunity to build again for a better future. Gotta look on the positive side of things and in reality is what is . Take break , recharge and go again stronger and better. If even need change your field of work. But don't fall in depression you can fight all this and win it just gonna take some time.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your words of encouragement, Im sorry to hear that you also have dealt with a recent break up ❤

  • @pablopinto1729
    @pablopinto1729 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You are not alone! Just distracted, blinded by so much weight to carry, and It's not worth it.

  • @gamemoviezone
    @gamemoviezone 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My advice is to take your own advice and head back to where you feel loved and supported by your family and friends. If you need financial support do reach out, you have helped me so much over the past months. You’ve helped me feel relaxed and less anxious, the very least I can do is help support you in your new direction. What you are going through is completely normal and as I always say, “everything happens for a reason, you often don’t realise why or what that reason is until you can properly look back”. Much respect and love ❤️ reach out! You’re amazing 🤩

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your words of encouragement ❤ Im happy to know that my content have been able to help you an a small way ❤❤

  • @Kaddahn
    @Kaddahn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Take your time, break ups can be really really tough, even more when you are already in a fragile state.
    Enjoy the sun and things that make you laugh. Avoid melancholic music and old photos.
    Be yourself, and heal, we will wait for you no matter the time o/

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much ❤️

  • @Sandlund93
    @Sandlund93 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    9 to 5 and happiness is a very hard combo to pull off for most, if not all people. I actually had no idea you had this channel on top of a 9 to 5, no wonder you're exhausted. I don't think the current model will last, I think UBI is the future. But that might not be the heaven we are all looking for, either.

  • @B0lld
    @B0lld 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Very few people can be honest in the face of adversity, but you are one of the honest and courageous ones, Erudwen. I'm truly sorry for what you've been through. From what I know of you from your videos, you are a respectful, kind, and compassionate person. I wish I could truly be friends with such a good person like you. Besides writing here, I really wish I could be there for you and support you. As they say in the movie Rocky, 'It's not about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.' Nothing can hit harder than life itself, and our task is to face this blow like a champion. I'm sure that a strong and brave person like you won't be crushed by this blow.
    You mentioned in the video that you are alone, but you referred to your family and friends as 'old.' I wonder if it's not possible for you to receive support from them? For parents, their children's health is more important than anything else. Maybe you could live with them until you get back on your feet? There will always be ups and downs in life, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, Erudwen, and I'm sure you'll overcome this. When you need support, we are here for you, please don't forget to inform us. P.S: English is not my native language if i wrote something wrong please forgive me.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your caring and supportive comment, Im really grateful to have your thought on the matter. When I moved together with my now ex, I left my family and a couple of few friendships over 13 hours away for a person who I thought wanted a life together with me. Currently Im blessed to be able to move in with my mother while I try to find a new place to call home, it's a lot at the same time but I will manage. Thank you once again 🫶

  • @Cavirex
    @Cavirex 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Dear Erudwen, you have been in my sleep schedule for a while and your videos have helped with my anxiety.
    I'm sorry that you had to go through this. Just know that time heals all wounds and that your community will support you. Wish you a great recovery!

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so very much ❤

  • @TheDarkermanzz
    @TheDarkermanzz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It's kind of crazy that the person who relaxes us, fails to be able to relax herself.
    I wish we could do the same for you Erudwen!
    Take care, I wish you best of luck and a lot of happiness in the future :)

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you ❤❤

  • @GrockstarASMR
    @GrockstarASMR 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If somebody can’t handle you at your worst they don’t deserve you at your best. You’re better off 💯 it might be one of the best things to ever happen to you. And 30 is YOUNG you will be fine. Take care of yourself first, if that means taking a break from all this then do it. Be around family and friends for now while you heal I genuinely hope everything works out 🙏

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you ❤

  • @buhgingy
    @buhgingy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You've got this, no rush. We're patient :)

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you 🫶

  • @KatyBunz
    @KatyBunz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I left an engagement and moved back home age 32 - was the best thing I ever did ❤ take the time you need to recover xx

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤️❤️ Im happy that you made the right choice for yourself, I think this will be the best for me as well!

  • @corytuzzo
    @corytuzzo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Sending lots of love 💜💙 get some deserved rest. I too like to get out in nature when I feel overwhelmed. I hope you find your happiness again :)

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much, I greatly appreciate your support ❤️❤️

  • @RJSandefur79
    @RJSandefur79 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "Your recent video truly resonated with me. I found myself compelled to subscribe after watching your honest and unflinching portrayal of your current struggles. It's refreshing to see someone address burnout and vulnerability so directly.
    The pressure to maintain a facade of perfection is something many of us grapple with. You bravely acknowledged your pain and the need to prioritize your well-being. That message is incredibly important.
    I particularly appreciated your emphasis on seeking help. Recognizing the need for support is a crucial first step towards healing and regaining strength. It's inspiring to hear about your work with your psychiatrist.
    Thank you for sharing your experience with such authenticity. It serves as a powerful reminder that vulnerability is a sign of strength, and seeking help is never a weakness."

  • @jreverie7018
    @jreverie7018 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Gosh I can relate to this so much. I really hope you're able to feel more at peace soon. I just turned 30 a few months ago. I have been burnt out for months, I couldn't afford to continue living in my home town , I was getting worse and worse by the day. I was diagnosed with burn out, generalised anxiety and the starting of depression.
    I just quit my job a few days ago, I borrowed money against my house to fund fixing it to rent, then I'm moving to a country I haven't even visited before to hopefully have a more peaceful life by nature.
    Like you say, it's never too late to change your path. As long as we are doing all we can to get things on the right track instead of being stuck in a negative spiralling pattern.
    Anyways, I'm rooting for you! You're not alone. 🤗

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤ I sincerely hope your move will be the change you need to heal and recover from your hardships and burnout, please take care of yourself you are a wonderful person. Thank you for your support ❤

    • @jreverie7018
      @jreverie7018 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ErudwenASMR Same to you Erudwen! Hang in there! : )

  • @Davinia77
    @Davinia77 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sounds like maybe your problem was the boyfriend

  • @DaughterofTheKing960
    @DaughterofTheKing960 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I just happened to come across this just now. I am SOOOOO SORRY for what you are going through!!! What a SWEET, PRECIOUS, BEAUTIFUL SOUL YOU ARE!!!
    I pray God will bring you through all of this stuff and HEAL YOUR HEART AND YOUR LIFE VERY SOON!!!
    BLESS YOU BEAUTIFUL!!!!👑🙏🙏🙏👸
    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @chrishampton2565
    @chrishampton2565 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wishing you all the best. I'm sorry this is happening. Please remember you are very talented and I know good things will appear in your life. Obviously I hope you can see that you are deeply respected here.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thank you for believing in me ❤

  • @jasonfishell6638
    @jasonfishell6638 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I found out Friday, after 48 years...that my entirely family lied to me that my father is not my father. I am the bastard son of a rapist. You are a beautiful soul and that can't be destroyed, no matter how others try to break you down. Take care of yourself and prayers to you to heal. You can always reach out to me and the others you have helped. Your videos kick ass and we will be here for you always.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Im so sorry that you're going through these horrific events, you are not a reflection of the indecent nor should it be yours to carry. I sincerely hope you are able to find some kind of way of moving on and finding inner peace. Thank you for your support, I greatly appreciate you ❤️

    • @jasonfishell6638
      @jasonfishell6638 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ErudwenASMR That's so kind of you. And I have found that inner peace quite quickly. Thank you again for the soothing videos.

  • @Daniel-oq4bx
    @Daniel-oq4bx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My job, my noisy and obnoxious apt, and my solitude are also bearing hard on my heart. I’m not trying to be happy anymore. I just want some peace.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      With peace comes also happiness, I hope you will find it very soon 🫶

  • @ver2cal2010
    @ver2cal2010 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    He sounds like a loser. You’re going to be back home with friends and family who love and support you. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for you.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate you ❤️

  • @thesagaofblitz
    @thesagaofblitz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Take time and know you have a community behind you. Maybe you could start a channel subscription where we can also help financially monthly and you could get back on your feet. Go back home to your friends and family. You're not losing anything. This is you gaining everything. Please go home to people who support you. We will also be here to support you.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤️ Im glad to have your support, I might put up a Patreon with more content once I have everything figured out! Im really thankful knowing I have people like you who I do feel in some weird way connected with even tho its over comments on the internet. Thank you for making my life feel less lonely 🌸

  • @IcyBloodFyre
    @IcyBloodFyre 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don't know what to say, like most of us are probably just viewers, subscribers and random unknown people on the internet until that barrier is broken.
    But I wish to say that even with this barrier in place you have managed to create and accomplish something so 'true', for me, here on youtube, because I "found myself" quite a lot in the WoW vids you made -- and that probably goes for many others. I empathize a great deal with this melancholia you project about the better days of WoW, but it goes even further than that -- it reaches even some personal opinions, how you view and feel things, and how you talk about them in your vids. And this is probably because of being in the same age bracket, but I have also had to contend with these struggles: the friend collectives that have come and gone, some of which I had to move on from, the IRL loneliness given the chosen path in hobbies/career, downright to the well-paid corpo job that treats you like shit (unprofessional colleagues). For me, these dimensions added up and turned your channel into something truly special I could relate to in an unexpected manner, after having been simply browsing for ASMR channels.
    I am invested in your journey, and I can only wish this sorrowful chapter passes quickly, but I am glad to note the optimism even in such a heartbreaking video. To me you seem to be a person who feels things strongly -- both the good, and the bad -- and while it is true what you said about not being sad over someone who doesn't love you, it's also true that this is a time of great distress and everyone's reaction... is their own reaction, not much we can do about that. It's not the end of the world to allow yourself to feel these things, if that is what the mind or heart wants.
    Perhaps as far as 'strangers online giving advice' or let's say offering support goes, if I may be bold enough to say and validate one of the things you mentioned in the video: it's a good thing you will return to your mother's place, you shouldn't be alone in these times if you can help it. And there's always something special about childhood homes -- which I presume that is what that is to you. I think it'll be good for you to reconnect with a few people and just see what they've been up to... and maybe take it from there.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I really wish I could thank you in more ways than just in a reply, your message really matters a lot to me during all of this. I want to believe there is so many people in different parts of the world dealing with the same kind of thoughts, issues and experiences without sharing it with others or knowing other people feel the same. I really dislike the phrasing 'parasocial', that connecting, sharing and growing with the help of other people would in any way be bad or something to look down on. Im really grateful for your comment, your support and your insight on the matter. I hope to be able to find myself in the near future. Sending lots of love, thank you once again ❤️

  • @dmhq-administration
    @dmhq-administration 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've never been married, but I know what it's like to have mental health issues and everything! Its okay! Don't apologize for crying in video! 🥰🤗💖 ARE YOU SPANISH? I can tell that you have an accent! Have courage!

  • @TC18264
    @TC18264 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Went through a very similar situation some years ago. Applied for FMLA cause I was burned out at my job, my wife wanted a divorce a week into the leave. She said she couldn't be there for me anymore (also probably cheated on me but I stopped asking questions).
    Anyway, that ultimate feeling of loneliness and being completely lost is extremely painful and I am really sorry this is happening to you. My family picked me back up and dusted me off, and my life is 110x better now even got remarried a 3 years ago.
    However, I won't lie it's going to be rough for awhile, and it will all hit you out of nowhere again and again for years. It's one of those awful things I don't think you ever get over 100% it just gets a little easier with time.
    Good things are coming your way and wish you luck.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your generosity, your support and for you sharing your own experiences ❤ I do believe my partner also cheated in the end, whenever I asked I got laughed at so I just stopped asking as well. Im happy to hear that you moved on and found true love, a partner that will always be there for you ❤ Thank you for believing in me ❤

  • @Bauerranger89
    @Bauerranger89 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stay strong! ✊🏻We are all in bad situations in parts of our lives but there will be better times.😊

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so very much for your caring words and for your generosity ❤️❤️

  • @VictorHernandez-ze3hl
    @VictorHernandez-ze3hl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Even though I found this a month later and you’re probably doing better but I just wanted to say you aren’t alone. Everything that has happen to you has happen to me as well. Work had me burned out and my partner ended our 3 year relationship. Resulting me getting kick out since we lived together. It’s definitely going to take time to get back on your feet. It took me 11 months to finally find myself but once you get there I promise you begin to see thing clearer again.

  • @arnoldbyers829
    @arnoldbyers829 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hold on to family, Going through more than l can take as well ,May our creator bless you, lam 68 in your situation and l know it's not easy your young you will live through this 😮😢

  • @ida2891
    @ida2891 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Heja dig! Du är redan på rätt väg. Skönt att skräpet slängde ut sig själv, bara att du slipper stressen med dålig stämning kommer göra att du får mer energi. Helt rätt att flytta hem till värme och trygghet igen. Var rädd om dig.

    • @ErudwenASMR
      @ErudwenASMR  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Tack så mycket för den stöttande kommentaren, jag hoppas innerligt att jag har orken att läka från alltihop ❤

    • @ida2891
      @ida2891 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ErudwenASMRDu fixar det här, men låt det ta tid och ta inte på dig för mycket för snabbt. Hitta nån du litar på att prata med för det är inte bra att gå och hålla på saker som gör ont plus att man behöver hitta tryggheten och sig själv igen efter att ha levt i nåt som sakta flyttat ens gränser över vad som känns rätt. ❤

  • @commandeur2766
    @commandeur2766 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm sorry you are going through this, but you are not alone. Actually all of my family and friends have been completely burnt out for the last couple weeks. I just went through a breakup myself as well.
    Thank you for being here for all of us.

  • @matthewreynolds2531
    @matthewreynolds2531 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    so another toxic man abusive that made u don't want to work a 9 to 5... why woman go for the same guy and then complain about it. As a man, my head hearts when you say conflicting statements.

  • @jermM.
    @jermM. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey seriously, you can stay here if you wanna move to Pittsburgh .