Relationships sure can have an affect on you. I had a friend we talked everyday for 10 years. I helped her get a job, babysat her kids, etc. One day she just said I needed to find another friend. Later, I found out she had taken the job I just left and was telling them my secrets! She later told me she wanted to be me. I started to get panic attacks and my health got bad. Be careful who you let in your circle. I would have paid more attention for the signs early on.
If I had to choose between happiness and peace, I much rather have peace. Happiness is fleeting. It leaves when pain enters. While peace given by God, is a continual companion that meets inevitable grief and does not waiver.
One of my fave books is “The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor, Harvard Researcher. I hope I spelled that right. It is awesome! 😎 🤩 👏 He posits that as researches found, most folks put off happiness “until…” - until they get the raise - until they move out of state - get the degree… - get the raise - get the relationship they want… “Then”, they’ll be happy…. But what they found was that folks were already happy 😃 were much much more likely to be successful in achieving their goals! It actually works the other way around. In general, I’ve noticed that happy people leave a wake of positive feelings behind them. Like a renter who washes and replaces all the sheets and towels, does the dishes, cleans up, and leaves some fresh flowers for the owner in the VRBO. They leave the world better than they found it. Unhappy or bitter people tend to leave a wake of frustration, mistrust, anger, upset, or like lawsuits wherever they go. If you can change the wake you leave, your impression on the world that you make, I think you’ll be almost certain most of the time to reap the benefits of the fruits of the Spirit. Of course bad things will still happen but it might not affect you as badly ir for as long or as negatively. You can shake it off quicker and keep moving. If you get stuck in it, it’s like quicksand and will bring you down with a few folks you reach out to to help pull you up. Don’t let yourself more too long in the dumps. The quicker you get right back up on that horse, the faster you regain your sense of self balance and control.
“Co-dependency” is nothing but serving non-Christians, outside the kingdom. And-nurses are, as a group, the happiest, healthiest and most mentally stable people I know. (I am from the Great lakes area.) iI have always wondered if this might be related to their lifetime of serving others.
This was so good!! I’m going to listen again. I’m sure I will glean even more revelation! I think that this will help so many people!! Thank you! Your teachings have changed my life!!
I love your work!! You helped me get through a very challenging time in my life. Thank you for all of your biblical wisdom backed by science. It makes me fall in love with God more and enjoy geeking out at the same time.🤓
Good morning doctor Cloud. What about when our life has been a continuation of extreme circumstances and the set point has no correlation or understanding of "steady"? Is there ever hope to have a reset? I appreciate your heart to help people heal. It's been a while since I read through your Boundaries book with Townsend. I think it's a good day to pick it up again. May you continue to find new and innovative ways to help people heal. My faith is under extreme doubt but I count it as future faith, as my incoming reward and I accept more understanding and healing as I go through this "dark night".
Holy Spirit led me to Dr.Cloud Video`s as I was coming out of years Misdiagnosis ,Getting off the wrong meds "I lost myself" A Beautiful family A Wonderful Marriage went into a hell of bipolar and depression and very bad side effects of wrong meds "It wasn`t panic attacks" How could they go on civilian and the VA ? He started with boundaries "A Wonderful Healing" many time`s in His enveloped Love Revelations. I pray Father God does for anyone reading that book they know Jesus Love is born again in You ,residential. Royalty now has a Home ,in Me. It`s been 10 years know. Ya ,The Secrets Things of God .Some of the Best People in the world will talk you though so of the most powerful story's. You will stop and replay.
Research reveals human life's most meaningful success is determined by the QUALITY of folks close relationships ... QUALITY is subjective to the QUALITY of life practices
Your comment got me thinking. Not being able to control the quality of people in our life (until they grow up/mature in the near future, fingers crossed) is sad but at least we know where to access Quality. Here in the form of a good mature counselor who has been giving Quality conversations thru the years! And the source of Quality who moves the heart of man, helping many to maintain their practices, their set points, in the midst of particular challenges. Amen to Quality!
There is wisdom in what you shared .. Over the years I witnessed not in the sense of growth , but in the sense of maturity comes from selecting well thought out researched options that are known to have great results when selected ... Good In sight can come from the least expected sources .. it's always best to investigate deeper than what the surface reveals .. Some times it's the simple things brings us the best kind of good stuff in life @@sarahyip2825
Self determination or having a choice creates a sense or feeling of happiness. I wonder is there a corresponding neurotransmitters? Could it be oxytocin and would this be an example of self love? Thanks again for your work in helping people heal! I just finished Bessel Van Der Kulk's book. The Body Keeps the Score. I am curious to hear your thoughts on the book. Blessings to everyone who reads this. You matter!
Do codependence give to be seen? Or for the seemingly accolades associated or the praise with attention that can be used like a monument or plaque on the wall to remind people that they need to give to them because they are currently living behind. Or to appear helpful to the homeless or hurting when or while bragging about it whenever the spotlight turns to them? 20:23
I do feel good when I'm giving from my heart and not out of obligation 😊
Moving back to the prairies where winters are cold and hearts are warming kind.
Yes. I love the prairies.
Thank you again Dr Henry Cloud for your words. Thank God for you and God bless you and your family always in Jesus name Amen
That it’s practices, not circumstances, and relationship development and support make sense.
“Can’t do that in a vacuum”. 💕
Indeed. We become what we do. We are what we do. Guess exercise is exactly it. Even if it's taking walks and climbing stairs 😅
Relationships sure can have an affect on you. I had a friend we talked everyday for 10 years. I helped her get a job, babysat her kids, etc. One day she just said I needed to find another friend. Later, I found out she had taken the job I just left and was telling them my secrets! She later told me she wanted to be me. I started to get panic attacks and my health got bad. Be careful who you let in your circle. I would have paid more attention for the signs early on.
The thing about codependent giving “becomes poison”. Whoaaaahhhooahw! Taking notes, here.
If I had to choose between happiness and peace, I much rather have peace. Happiness is fleeting. It leaves when pain enters. While peace given by God, is a continual companion that meets inevitable grief and does not waiver.
THANK YOU!!!!! God Bless abundantly 😘
Thank you Dr Cloud
I absolutely love this. I am like you, I get so excited when the science and the scriptures dovetail. Ancient wisdom never goes out of style.
One of my fave books is “The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor, Harvard Researcher. I hope I spelled that right. It is awesome! 😎 🤩 👏 He posits that as researches found, most folks put off happiness “until…”
- until they get the raise
- until they move out of state
- get the degree…
- get the raise
- get the relationship they want…
“Then”, they’ll be happy….
But what they found was that folks were already happy 😃 were much much more likely to be successful in achieving their goals! It actually works the other way around.
In general, I’ve noticed that happy people leave a wake of positive feelings behind them. Like a renter who washes and replaces all the sheets and towels, does the dishes, cleans up, and leaves some fresh flowers for the owner in the VRBO. They leave the world better than they found it.
Unhappy or bitter people tend to leave a wake of frustration, mistrust, anger, upset, or like lawsuits wherever they go.
If you can change the wake you leave, your impression on the world that you make, I think you’ll be almost certain most of the time to reap the benefits of the fruits of the Spirit.
Of course bad things will still happen but it might not affect you as badly ir for as long or as negatively.
You can shake it off quicker and keep moving. If you get stuck in it, it’s like quicksand and will bring you down with a few folks you reach out to to help pull you up.
Don’t let yourself more too long in the dumps. The quicker you get right back up on that horse, the faster you regain your sense of self balance and control.
Thanks for sharing
17:05 if you just want to get right to it.
“Co-dependency” is nothing but serving non-Christians, outside the kingdom.
And-nurses are, as a group, the happiest, healthiest and most mentally stable people I know. (I am from the Great lakes area.) iI have always wondered if this might be related to their lifetime of serving others.
This was so good!! I’m going to listen again. I’m sure I will glean even more revelation! I think that this will help so many people!! Thank you! Your teachings have changed my life!!
Amen
Set point
Love it!!
"The Law of Happiness" was awesome. I've read it over and over.
Brilliant 👏
I love your work!! You helped me get through a very challenging time in my life. Thank you for all of your biblical wisdom backed by science. It makes me fall in love with God more and enjoy geeking out at the same time.🤓
Good morning doctor Cloud. What about when our life has been a continuation of extreme circumstances and the set point has no correlation or understanding of "steady"? Is there ever hope to have a reset? I appreciate your heart to help people heal. It's been a while since I read through your Boundaries book with Townsend. I think it's a good day to pick it up again. May you continue to find new and innovative ways to help people heal. My faith is under extreme doubt but I count it as future faith, as my incoming reward and I accept more understanding and healing as I go through this "dark night".
I gave out His book , The Secrets Things of God ,They Loved it. A very Powerful DVD. Full of Life Thank You Dr.Cloud
Holy Spirit led me to Dr.Cloud Video`s as I was coming out of years Misdiagnosis ,Getting off the wrong meds "I lost myself" A Beautiful family A Wonderful Marriage went into a hell of bipolar and depression and very bad side effects of wrong meds "It wasn`t panic attacks" How could they go on civilian and the VA ? He started with boundaries "A Wonderful Healing" many time`s in His enveloped Love Revelations. I pray Father God does for anyone reading that book they know Jesus Love is born again in You ,residential. Royalty now has a Home ,in Me.
It`s been 10 years know. Ya ,The Secrets Things of God .Some of the Best People in the world will talk you though so of the most powerful story's. You will stop and replay.
Research reveals human life's most meaningful success is determined by the QUALITY of folks close relationships ... QUALITY is subjective to the QUALITY of life practices
Your comment got me thinking. Not being able to control the quality of people in our life (until they grow up/mature in the near future, fingers crossed) is sad but at least we know where to access Quality. Here in the form of a good mature counselor who has been giving Quality conversations thru the years! And the source of Quality who moves the heart of man, helping many to maintain their practices, their set points, in the midst of particular challenges. Amen to Quality!
There is wisdom in what you shared .. Over the years I witnessed not in the sense of growth , but in the sense of maturity comes from selecting well thought out researched options that are known to have great results when selected ... Good In sight can come from the least expected sources .. it's always best to investigate deeper than what the surface reveals .. Some times it's the simple things brings us the best kind of good stuff in life @@sarahyip2825
I LOVE THE QUESTION 🙋 " WHATS happiness mean to you".?
😮😮😃
Self determination or having a choice creates a sense or feeling of happiness.
I wonder is there a corresponding neurotransmitters? Could it be oxytocin and would this be an example of self love? Thanks again for your work in helping people heal! I just finished Bessel Van Der Kulk's book. The Body Keeps the Score. I am curious to hear your thoughts on the book. Blessings to everyone who reads this. You matter!
this is brilliant, thanks Doc Henry!
Excellent 👍.
Do codependence give to be seen? Or for the seemingly accolades associated or the praise with attention that can be used like a monument or plaque on the wall to remind people that they need to give to them because they are currently living behind.
Or to appear helpful to the homeless or hurting when or while bragging about it whenever the spotlight turns to them? 20:23
This is very interesting!
Thank you.
Nothing trying to survive. Happiness and fun can fine
I wish I could figure out how to happy. Haven't seen that for years if ever. Very small snippets in life😔
Are you famous?
He is. 😊
Dr. Cloud is a widely respected author and psychologist. In some circles he is considered famous. Doc, I'm sorry about your vax injury.
No
Definately!
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