I am 40, independent earning lady. Taking care of my mom, but I enjoy my single life. I knw that as a pakistani girl, my shelf life is over.I had been through difficulties in my lufe and while taking care of my family,my family forget that I also need to get married. But I am living abroad taking care of my mom,living my own life. When I came here I realized that aurat ka shadi k elawa bh koi purpose h dunya me. I recommend to do social work, meet people and do not settle until u find a right person.Engage urself in social work and live ur life. Dont get influenced by people.
Is mulk mai aurat ka sole pupose sirf shadi hai isi liye society aur mulk ka yeah haal hai. Shukar karo ke app kisi toxic marriage mai trap nahi ho. Aur sukoon hai apki zindagi mai. Shadi kisi bhi age mai ki jasakti hai lekin right partner se honi chayeah warna zindagi hell hoti hai.
For the second question: This is exactly the same scenario for alot of cases with men where they have to start earning and provide for the family when their father either isn't there or is not able to provide. Siblings when they grow up forget all the hardships their brother goes through. The only difference is that men can get married even in their 30s.
For the first question: there can be many reason for why the wifes Libido has decreased. Some common reasons are: 1. the dynamic of the relationship changes after kids are born which can decrease libido. 2. Not all women get aroused from physical touch, for many its psychological, meaning acts of services, words of affirmations, putting effort into planning dates etc. which can lead to increased/decreased libido. 3. Lastly, hormonal changes and different health issues such as PCOS and ADHD cause decreased libido even for women in their 20's. My suggestions for the husband is to 1. Talk to his wife openly about what the issue may be, 2. Get some hormonal testing done, 3. Seek counselling if all fails. Best of luck!
1st Question: It is not about kids, she is doing business that is a hectic 24*7 job. Maybe the wife is exhausted and always tired due to the lack of work-life balance. You people should plan timeouts or vacations regularly, it will boost your connection with each other and with the children and will give you time to enjoy the moments together. Fresh mind means fresh life.
Recite this Dua for getting "Rhista" "Rabii inni Lima anzalta ilaya min khairin faqeer" 11 times durood shareef 301 times this Dua 11 times durood shareef .
Here are my two cents on working from home: I've noticed that friends and family sometimes assume that we're not working just because we're at home. However, the reality is that managing household chores while handling office work can be quite exhausting. Therefore, my personal advice to anyone working from home is to prioritize achieving a healthy work-life balance. It's essential to set boundaries and allocate dedicated personal time, such as going to the gym or taking a solitary walk. This allows for recharging and maintaining overall well-being amidst the demands of remote work.
I am totally I agreed with you when we are working with home mostly people think we are doing nothing or in my case when my neighbors and molwe shab start saying I am earning haram I mean like seriously.. I don't give a fuck to those people
For the 2nd question, I pray for that sister who is struggling because of loneliness. May Allah bless her with a great person with whom she can start her new life and May Allah bless her and all the sisters out there with good naseeb ameen suma ameen.✨️
@@nimfall bro men have to upgrade themselves otherwise they will be left behind in marriage part of life....u can't expect that a man earning nearly nothing will get a good girl for marriage
For the second question: Can we just appreciate the struggle and success of the writer! It's a very rare occurrence for me to hear such a story and shout out to Junaid Sir for including this question in his podcast! 😊 I always want to hear more about the people who start from nothing and build their EMPIRE and have so mucb trust on Allah. It gives the best kind of motivation ⚡
I have seen mothers who are all happy when their kids are playing around but once the kids start crying for no reason those same put up that "what am I doing with my life" face. It really is a challenging time.
Its my first time listening to your podcast. I must say I really enjoyed the sensitivity you showed to answer the queries. You showed your own vulnerability to connect with your audience. I strongly agree with your opinions. Hats of to you for this amazing step.
I used to work from home - self-employed, no fixed hours. It was becoming mentally depressing. I have now rented an office space and my work and personal life both have progressed.
Regarding the matter of arranging a "rishta", you can consider the following revised statement: "Regarding the inclusion of prospective individuals for the purpose of a rishta, we kindly request that all invitees provide a written letter of indemnity. Furthermore, in compliance with legal requirements, it is imperative to explicitly state within the documentation that our organization or party does not assume any responsibility or liability for any unforeseen circumstances or adverse outcomes that may arise from the said arrangement."
For the first couple. You earn enough. Get a maid for household. Spend more time with the kids. Make sure your wife gets enough help around the house . Get gifts for your kids and wife. Pamper yourself and your wife. Quality time with your family is the key. Praise her, and tell her what you would like .. not want. Tell her that you still fancy her . I believe that will help.
No doubt tawakul is everything. Koi larki 22 saal mai itna kuch dekh leti hy jo 60 sal ki khatoon dekhti hongi. Or kisi ko 35 saal mai bhi wo khushiya mil jati hyn jo time pe marriage hony walo ko nahi milti.
Obesity and eating patterns are a major factor for hormonal changes after kids and that lead to low sex drive and lethargy.She needs to address her hormones and eating patterns .
Exactly 💯, I agree with your point when you said when you lost in your family , and you turn back after supardeh khahk god give you peace because recently I have lost my father 3 month back , after supardeh khahk god give you peace in your mind and heart and this is the beauty of Allah I know difficult stage but hath bhi Allah he deta ha
Sochty hain lekin rishta munasib nai milta, yeh jo kaminiya budiya mar gaye hain yeh aaj jahanum meh hain, inho ne char shadiya roki aur nateeja yeh nikla k kunwari larki k liye koi rishty nai arahy, talaq yafta boht door ki bar
Right about the work from home thing because I don't enjoy now being home 24/7 going office and doing work their has its own peace. and staying home do make feel depressed.
Been working from home for 2 years now and I have to say it also falls under the catagory of "Door k dhol sohaany". When I used to go out, work from home seemed the peaceful option, now I know if I start going out for work it'll be fun for a while and then I'll miss work from home. So as you said balance is the key, doesn't matter if you're doing work from home or physical office work, on the weekend at least try something new.
I have been doing WFH from last 4 years so as per my personal experience i would recommend you to simply take long walks,vacation in abroad or go to restaurants even in weekdays.
Junaid bhai, Every woman wants a partner who is 1 level up than hers. A woman will only submit and "adjust" if she knows that the guy is physically, mentally and financially more stronger than her and can take care of the next gen better than her. So rather than telling women "to adjust" according to what suits a guy, why don't you ask men to step up their game and be in the actual leadership roles rather than being Mama's little boys trapped in a 40 year old body? Lol
@@haroon4567 bro it sounds like u admitted defeat and gave up at being the bare minimum lol. 😂 Rather than dragging a high achieving woman down to your level, level up your game and be a man in the actual leadership role.
@@Model-101 No one has to drag anyone. That's my point. If women are not impressed by the men approaching them, they can just reject them and remain single. No one should change for anyone but themselves.
@@haroon4567 exactly. 💯 Not everyone can afford to run and match the top speed of a Bugatti but does not mean that there is something wrong with the Bugatti, it's just the other counter part is unable to run and match with the top speed instead lol so they settle for a simple Toyota 😂
@@Model-101 Exactly. Go tell that to the girls, they all think they deserve a Bugatti even though they are less than a Suzuki themselves (No disrespect to Suzuki).
Thanks for episode junaid bhai❤️ bht thka huwa tha jb aj kam se aya kuch karne kO dil nhi karra tha par mjy khana bnana tha mene shower liya episode lgai r kitchen mn episode khtm hOte hOte dal chawal ban gy thaks again🤣🤣🤣 LOve uh❤️
I worked from home even before covid. And yes, not only can it get monotonous but the worst thing is. That you forget the balance between work and home life. So I would actually get dressed and take my portable monitors with their stands to a Starbucks or another coffee shop and spend the day at the coffee shop As my office. This way I keep my work and my home separate
For the girl from 2nd email: Yaar its not Necessary to get married to a Pakistani man. One can marry to any Muslim (if religion is a big deal in your life) man in the world.
With all due respect , shadi utni he zaruri hai jitna poday ko pani dena zaruri hai. Sacrifice ki b aik limit hoti hai. Maa baap ki khidmat beshak farz hai zarur karo , Magar shadi na karna koi maslay ka hal nahe.... Husband se barh koi rishta nahe hota. Husband hota hai to he apni family banti hai. Har insaan ki life mein majborian hoti hai magar shadi na karna apne sath total injustice hai. Behan bhi sab ki apni life hoti hai bad mein. Khud ko fana kardena koi aqalmandi nahe. Burhapa sab pe ata hai... Aur aik waqt ata hai insaan akela reh jata hai... Isi lie baray kehte hai shadi time pe karlo..... Pehle humein b samajh nahe ati thi magar ab jab zamanay ki samajh ai to pata chala kyun kehte they. Allah sab ka hami o nasir ho .....🙏
Hey Assalamu alaikum, I should write to junaid bhai sometime, just not motivated enough to though. North America Alhamdulillah I’m Canadian and American now, how I got here is a story in it self. Still single at 44 though. Ever since I ran into this channel in all my free time I tune in to it. Great work thanks a lot allah hafiz.
Just an addition to your idea of the match making seminar that at the initial stage of registration or form filling there can be taken blood samples for multiple relative tests that according to your other idea are necessary before marriage of the spouses to be. Your both ideas can be merged in here if so possible at your ease. ❤ On a lighter note lage haath deal hone se pehle cars inspection bhi ho jae 😂
My prayers for the lady, who is struggling to find a good match, May Allah bless you with a good spouse, if Allah is making you wait, be ready for someone who is worth waiting for InshaAllah. This is ironic women who are building themselves working so hard in life are the one ending up in such situations like this, my prayers for you, dont lose Tawakkal on ALLAH, you will be rewarded soon. All the best in life.
Exactly, there is a problem that Good rishtas (girls for boys and boys for girls) are not available. My sister got khula in 2018 from the guy was PhD and a hell lot of abusive. My sister is now based in UK, we are looking for her rishta, only had haram and non-educated guys (who don't work and not willing to work) are willing to get marry and making plan to get marry and sit to eat on women income. so sad...
@@nadeemulhassan569 hm log tou demand b kuch nai kr rhay. even meri sister larkay ko lay k UK rhay gi. mgr koi dhang ka rishta ho tou agree hon gy. my sister is M. phill. so she is not compatible with metric pass or uneducated person
Of course aisa hoga. Tumhy kya lagta ta? Aurat ne char shadiya rok kar apny ap ko doh taqy ka bana diya hain. Yeh aurat doh taqy ki hain *TABHI AISY RISHTY ARAHY HAIN*.
For the khatoon Jin ko rishtey nhi arahe hen, please ap Apne upar waqt lagaen, gym Jaen Acha khaen, apni heath and beauty pr Kam Karen JIS se log apko admire Karen..aj ki duniya khubsurti k peechey bhagti hy.. please mind na Karen it is my personal advice.. thank you
Basically his husband is 40 and she is just 30. She lost interest due to age difference and his husband must show affection on the daily life not only in bed. Time issues would be a problem at this age. He must show kindness on the other way as well.
2ND QUESTION: Hello, You're doing really great in your life, and have a very inspiring story. For your marriage, you don't need to worry about it, ALLAH IS THE BEST PLANNER, one thing I can do is that I know a marriage group of shia community, I can share the details with you. Goodluck!
I think your fear that if you put two people in touch with each other and things don’t work out, you bear part of the blame is not warranted. But yes before giving contact details of the lady you should ask if she wishes to be put in contact with a stranger which neither she nor you know (essentially a blind date situation). But as long as she is open to the idea, no harm putting the two people in touch with a clear disclosure that you do not know either individual and they need to treat this as a blind date and gave full responsibility for all tapteesh that goes into a rishta. My 2 cents.
Bhai mere Past defines you irrespective whether you accept the logic or not. Evolution takes years and even eons but still something never changes from the past.
For the author of second question: I would love you to get connected with me as we are also looking for our brother, he is 33 years old. We also have same family history and also shia muslim. ❤
آپ ٹھيک کہ رہے ہيں ، اس بچی کو چاہيے يہ پريشان نہ ہو چھوتی بہن سے کہے بھائی کو چاہئيے وہ آگے بڑھ کر بہن کے لئے کوشش کرے والدين کے لئے پريشان نہ ہو مرنا تو سب نے ہے اس بات پر ہم سب مسلمانوں کا ايمان ہے سب اللہ کی امانت ہيں تو يہ سوچ سوچ کر پريشان نہی ہونا چاہئيے جو وقت ابھی ہے اس کو انجوائے کريں اللہ پاک آسانياں عطا کرے اور آسانياں بانٹنے کی توفيق عطا کرے آمين ثم آمين بہت دعائيں
Girl condition and my condition same only difference she is girl and I'm boy .you can imagine how difficult life of both genders when we reachout 30+ . Itne rishty walo ko passy be diye phir be wo rishty dekhty Jo out of demand ho
For the girl wanting rishta , my experience so far knowing the girls saying they are not getting rishtas , actual problem is most of you not want to adjust at all, and only want top of the top ( knowingly or un-knowingly )
Every woman wants a partner who is 1 level up than hers. A woman will only submit and "adjust" if she knows that the guy is physically, mentally and financially more stronger than her and can take care of the next gen better than her. So rather than telling women "to adjust" to what suits a guy, why don't you ask men to step up their game and be in the actual leadership roles rather than being Mama's little boys trapped in a 40 year old body?
@@Model-101 So actually need is only for 1 level up not the requirement for a relationship or a men ( This seems to be secondary ). Then if men with 1 level up do not exist do not complain ( or keep complaining it is not going to fix the issue ) If peoples with good qualification and wanting to support for needs ( Not wants ) are not enough then keep looking. Good Luck We humans forgot the difference between needs and wants ( Especially Pakistani ) and made our wants our needs result is everywhere to see. World have enough resources to fulfill needs of every human but cannot fulfill wants of one human. Although it is now deep rooted and we have to enjoy the coming outcomes. So sit back and enjoy everyone
@@forgamos2000 exactly! 💯💯💯 This was the entire point. Men should level up their game and not be okay with the fact such and such doesn't exist lol She is already at the peak of her game. Go ahead. Level it up. Be a man in the leadership role but unfortunately so many "Men" today are okay and comfortable with being their bare minimum cuz "Raja beta and chand dulara" has been indoctrinated in their brains before they were even able to walk and were munching on chalks. Lol
@@hkvlogs1051 I get your point brother 😅, but if we cannot say truth , even at the level of this platform we would seriously need to re-think our existence.
Yes I can relate to it..... I am also single, Graduate, earning 6 figures from Govt sector (alhamdulliah), stable job and all that. Quite ok in looks dept. too, (I think) in my 30s but.... still I am such an introvert in marriage section only that I have never asked anybody and not even to my parents that I need somebody, a partner or so..... I know how how it feels to get taunts from relatives or so..... Anyway.... I think you @junaid sb are doing such an amazing work. Appreciate that, and sometimes I think that I should write you my own story too. BTW I support your thought to connect the people for noble cause and I suggest to make an app for this. World has changed a lot, there are a lot of ways to verify the genuine people and even if you don't like the idea just refer anything good already available in market. I think it would a sadaqat e jaria too....
This channels give Life Coaching to me better than Akhtar Abbas, Cabir Chaudhary, Salman Asif, Qasim Ali Shah & I'm saying this genuinely. But, don't use abusive language it's very uncomfortable for me.
Agar zda pese hain tou please muje donate ker den... I'm an orphan dono parents nhi hain... Bhai bhi nhi hh apna ghar chahti hun... Plot hh construction kerwane ky pese nhi hain!! 😢😢😢
@@missahmed2220 I can't because that plot is next to my mamu's house and I can not live alone in this country... You know men here are always on hunt for an alone woman...
Ganja when girl ask - "No he can't deny sex it's your birth right check kare kahi Gay Shay toh nhi hai" ganja when a guy ask- "Aapko nhi pata kitni zimmedariya hoti hai bacche paalna hai Kahi woh Depression me toh nhi toh chali gayi"
Shia girl why are you so down dear? Trust Allah and whatever you did like no relationships during work etc. Be proud of it and don’t lose hope. Yes it can be depressing but com’on it’s not end of the world. If you are shia muslim then you might be definitely believe in areeza. Write one and trust me it works. But don’t settle for someone who you can’t live with. It will be a disaster.
Oh bhai mere apni life sakoon say jio ya Pakistani awam kay liya kuch acha na karna ya tou scam hoga ya political party parhjaye pechaye to make them appear in your program ya phir FBR ki raid hojaye ya phir lumber 1 ka mood karab hoa tou avi layna ajayega. Invest in resources outside Pakistan and be safe and secure.
Bhai with all due respect to the cause you working for please set a time limit on each and every email discussion. Some time it's too long and i don't blame you. I agree some topics are way bigger then other. But still let's setup a time limit behind the camera so crew can inform you or maybe watch is in your view as a reminder. Thanks Payen😁👍🏼.
I am 40, independent earning lady. Taking care of my mom, but I enjoy my single life. I knw that as a pakistani girl, my shelf life is over.I had been through difficulties in my lufe and while taking care of my family,my family forget that I also need to get married. But I am living abroad taking care of my mom,living my own life. When I came here I realized that aurat ka shadi k elawa bh koi purpose h dunya me. I recommend to do social work, meet people and do not settle until u find a right person.Engage urself in social work and live ur life. Dont get influenced by people.
I’m happy you are your own person!!
if she wants to seatle let her know what issue you have life is to difficult to live alone.
Is mulk mai aurat ka sole pupose sirf shadi hai isi liye society aur mulk ka yeah haal hai. Shukar karo ke app kisi toxic marriage mai trap nahi ho. Aur sukoon hai apki zindagi mai. Shadi kisi bhi age mai ki jasakti hai lekin right partner se honi chayeah warna zindagi hell hoti hai.
Suit you and best wishes for you mam .🎉
Bravo girl❤
For the second question: This is exactly the same scenario for alot of cases with men where they have to start earning and provide for the family when their father either isn't there or is not able to provide. Siblings when they grow up forget all the hardships their brother goes through. The only difference is that men can get married even in their 30s.
For the first question: there can be many reason for why the wifes Libido has decreased.
Some common reasons are:
1. the dynamic of the relationship changes after kids are born which can decrease libido.
2. Not all women get aroused from physical touch, for many its psychological, meaning acts of services, words of affirmations, putting effort into planning dates etc. which can lead to increased/decreased libido.
3. Lastly, hormonal changes and different health issues such as PCOS and ADHD cause decreased libido even for women in their 20's.
My suggestions for the husband is to 1. Talk to his wife openly about what the issue may be, 2. Get some hormonal testing done, 3. Seek counselling if all fails. Best of luck!
So true ❤
Bring her
Very detailed explanation. Often the romantic connection is lost after the honeymoon is over and the couple gets busy with family and work.
Cried at 2:45am after listening to this episode...
May Allah pak bless you always.
1st Question:
It is not about kids, she is doing business that is a hectic 24*7 job. Maybe the wife is exhausted and always tired due to the lack of work-life balance.
You people should plan timeouts or vacations regularly, it will boost your connection with each other and with the children and will give you time to enjoy the moments together.
Fresh mind means fresh life.
Recite this Dua for getting "Rhista"
"Rabii inni Lima anzalta ilaya min khairin faqeer"
11 times durood shareef
301 times this Dua
11 times durood shareef .
Don't work
I don't get rista of beautiful woman . I am charted accountant and above average in looks and 6 foot tall
🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦
Here are my two cents on working from home: I've noticed that friends and family sometimes assume that we're not working just because we're at home. However, the reality is that managing household chores while handling office work can be quite exhausting. Therefore, my personal advice to anyone working from home is to prioritize achieving a healthy work-life balance. It's essential to set boundaries and allocate dedicated personal time, such as going to the gym or taking a solitary walk. This allows for recharging and maintaining overall well-being amidst the demands of remote work.
I am totally I agreed with you when we are working with home mostly people think we are doing nothing or in my case when my neighbors and molwe shab start saying I am earning haram I mean like seriously.. I don't give a fuck to those people
For the 2nd question,
I pray for that sister who is struggling because of loneliness. May Allah bless her with a great person with whom she can start her new life and May Allah bless her and all the sisters out there with good naseeb ameen suma ameen.✨️
There are always man to date woman but they all want rich and handsome man. There are many dying virgin every day
What about male loneliness
@@nimfall bro men have to upgrade themselves otherwise they will be left behind in marriage part of life....u can't expect that a man earning nearly nothing will get a good girl for marriage
@@legendaryhound5261
i am doing CA but i will not give my money to woman i will marry rich one
@@nimfall acha bhai don’t forget to invite us to Wallima ok
@@nimfall😂😂good idea😊
For the second question: Can we just appreciate the struggle and success of the writer! It's a very rare occurrence for me to hear such a story and shout out to Junaid Sir for including this question in his podcast! 😊
I always want to hear more about the people who start from nothing and build their EMPIRE and have so mucb trust on Allah. It gives the best kind of motivation ⚡
ja o faarig
I have seen mothers who are all happy when their kids are playing around but once the kids start crying for no reason those same put up that "what am I doing with my life" face. It really is a challenging time.
Being a good mother is one of the toughest jobs .
@@shanegremory900 Agreed. Its a huge undertaking but our society in Pakistan does not take this seriously.
Its my first time listening to your podcast. I must say I really enjoyed the sensitivity you showed to answer the queries. You showed your own vulnerability to connect with your audience. I strongly agree with your opinions. Hats of to you for this amazing step.
I used to work from home - self-employed, no fixed hours. It was becoming mentally depressing. I have now rented an office space and my work and personal life both have progressed.
hi i want work from home having 3+ Years in content writer need home base job please help me to get my first job
Regarding the matter of arranging a "rishta", you can consider the following revised statement:
"Regarding the inclusion of prospective individuals for the purpose of a rishta, we kindly request that all invitees provide a written letter of indemnity. Furthermore, in compliance with legal requirements, it is imperative to explicitly state within the documentation that our organization or party does not assume any responsibility or liability for any unforeseen circumstances or adverse outcomes that may arise from the said arrangement."
For the first couple.
You earn enough. Get a maid for household.
Spend more time with the kids. Make sure your wife gets enough help around the house . Get gifts for your kids and wife. Pamper yourself and your wife. Quality time with your family is the key. Praise her, and tell her what you would like .. not want. Tell her that you still fancy her . I believe that will help.
No doubt tawakul is everything.
Koi larki 22 saal mai itna kuch dekh leti hy jo 60 sal ki khatoon dekhti hongi. Or kisi ko 35 saal mai bhi wo khushiya mil jati hyn jo time pe marriage hony walo ko nahi milti.
Salute to the second question girl you are very brave and courageous please don't loose heart sis
The second story is very close to my heart.. as im suffering same but im an introvert and i enjoy my own company 😅
Obesity and eating patterns are a major factor for hormonal changes after kids and that lead to low sex drive and lethargy.She needs to address her hormones and eating patterns .
Exactly 💯, I agree with your point when you said when you lost in your family , and you turn back after supardeh khahk god give you peace because recently I have lost my father 3 month back , after supardeh khahk god give you peace in your mind and heart and this is the beauty of Allah I know difficult stage but hath bhi Allah he deta ha
I know one of my friends uski family bhi uski Shaadi ka nhi sochti because she is a bread earner of her family. She hides her pain so much.
Most of non Muslim man are worst than Muslim man go and do some research
Obviously it's body demand but we are not allowed to express our feelings Infront of family
Sochty hain lekin rishta munasib nai milta, yeh jo kaminiya budiya mar gaye hain yeh aaj jahanum meh hain, inho ne char shadiya roki aur nateeja yeh nikla k kunwari larki k liye koi rishty nai arahy, talaq yafta boht door ki bar
@@razamughal9095
there is always a man for woman
average man is invisible to woman and all woman are chasing rich man
Right about the work from home thing because I don't enjoy now being home 24/7 going office and doing work their has its own peace. and staying home do make feel depressed.
Been working from home for 2 years now and I have to say it also falls under the catagory of "Door k dhol sohaany". When I used to go out, work from home seemed the peaceful option, now I know if I start going out for work it'll be fun for a while and then I'll miss work from home. So as you said balance is the key, doesn't matter if you're doing work from home or physical office work, on the weekend at least try something new.
Thank you Junaid Bhai, you’re words and life is advice is priceless.
I have been doing WFH from last 4 years so as per my personal experience i would recommend you to simply take long walks,vacation in abroad or go to restaurants even in weekdays.
Junaid bhai, Every woman wants a partner who is 1 level up than hers. A woman will only submit and "adjust" if she knows that the guy is physically, mentally and financially more stronger than her and can take care of the next gen better than her. So rather than telling women "to adjust" according to what suits a guy, why don't you ask men to step up their game and be in the actual leadership roles rather than being Mama's little boys trapped in a 40 year old body? Lol
Why should men "level up" just for women. If a women cant attract the man she wants to get then she has a problem, not the guy.
@@haroon4567 bro it sounds like u admitted defeat and gave up at being the bare minimum lol. 😂 Rather than dragging a high achieving woman down to your level, level up your game and be a man in the actual leadership role.
@@Model-101 No one has to drag anyone. That's my point. If women are not impressed by the men approaching them, they can just reject them and remain single. No one should change for anyone but themselves.
@@haroon4567 exactly. 💯 Not everyone can afford to run and match the top speed of a Bugatti but does not mean that there is something wrong with the Bugatti, it's just the other counter part is unable to run and match with the top speed instead lol so they settle for a simple Toyota 😂
@@Model-101 Exactly. Go tell that to the girls, they all think they deserve a Bugatti even though they are less than a Suzuki themselves (No disrespect to Suzuki).
Great video Junaid. Loved your insights.
بہت اچھی باتيں سننے کو مليں زبردست ماشااللّہ
Thanks for episode junaid bhai❤️ bht thka huwa tha jb aj kam se aya kuch karne kO dil nhi karra tha par mjy khana bnana tha mene shower liya episode lgai r kitchen mn episode khtm hOte hOte dal chawal ban gy thaks again🤣🤣🤣
LOve uh❤️
I worked from home even before covid. And yes, not only can it get monotonous but the worst thing is. That you forget the balance between work and home life. So I would actually get dressed and take my portable monitors with their stands to a Starbucks or another coffee shop and spend the day at the coffee shop As my office. This way I keep my work and my home separate
What a great answer
For the girl from 2nd email:
Yaar its not Necessary to get married to a Pakistani man. One can marry to any Muslim (if religion is a big deal in your life) man in the world.
Just marry to a man doesn't matter it's a Muslim or not. And same goes to mens.
With all due respect , shadi utni he zaruri hai jitna poday ko pani dena zaruri hai. Sacrifice ki b aik limit hoti hai. Maa baap ki khidmat beshak farz hai zarur karo , Magar shadi na karna koi maslay ka hal nahe.... Husband se barh koi rishta nahe hota. Husband hota hai to he apni family banti hai. Har insaan ki life mein majborian hoti hai magar shadi na karna apne sath total injustice hai. Behan bhi sab ki apni life hoti hai bad mein. Khud ko fana kardena koi aqalmandi nahe. Burhapa sab pe ata hai... Aur aik waqt ata hai insaan akela reh jata hai... Isi lie baray kehte hai shadi time pe karlo..... Pehle humein b samajh nahe ati thi magar ab jab zamanay ki samajh ai to pata chala kyun kehte they. Allah sab ka hami o nasir ho .....🙏
The first question, exactly being a mother is hell of a job. We can never pay back what our mothers did for us.
Hey Assalamu alaikum, I should write to junaid bhai sometime, just not motivated enough to though. North America Alhamdulillah I’m Canadian and American now, how I got here is a story in it self. Still single at 44 though. Ever since I ran into this channel in all my free time I tune in to it. Great work thanks a lot allah hafiz.
Just an addition to your idea of the match making seminar that at the initial stage of registration or form filling there can be taken blood samples for multiple relative tests that according to your other idea are necessary before marriage of the spouses to be. Your both ideas can be merged in here if so possible at your ease. ❤
On a lighter note lage haath deal hone se pehle cars inspection bhi ho jae 😂
I really needed to listen to the last few minutes. Thank you 😊
How can I email?? Can somebody send me i need guidance
Wish it was 10 hour long, Very therapeutic🦄
My prayers for the lady, who is struggling to find a good match, May Allah bless you with a good spouse, if Allah is making you wait, be ready for someone who is worth waiting for InshaAllah. This is ironic women who are building themselves working so hard in life are the one ending up in such situations like this, my prayers for you, dont lose Tawakkal on ALLAH, you will be rewarded soon. All the best in life.
56:40 MY LIFE funda since past 8 years now. And see how I have turned it around. Shut that noise no matter how much people despise or put you down
Exactly, there is a problem that Good rishtas (girls for boys and boys for girls) are not available.
My sister got khula in 2018 from the guy was PhD and a hell lot of abusive. My sister is now based in UK, we are looking for her rishta, only had haram and non-educated guys (who don't work and not willing to work) are willing to get marry and making plan to get marry and sit to eat on women income. so sad...
You sister should get married
Yes it's reality but in my cause I purpose widow girl and they demand APNA ghr mery nam kro phir shaadi kro gi mujhy shority ho ab divorce nhe hogi .
@@nadeemulhassan569
sound like gold digger
@@nadeemulhassan569 hm log tou demand b kuch nai kr rhay. even meri sister larkay ko lay k UK rhay gi. mgr koi dhang ka rishta ho tou agree hon gy. my sister is M. phill. so she is not compatible with metric pass or uneducated person
Of course aisa hoga. Tumhy kya lagta ta? Aurat ne char shadiya rok kar apny ap ko doh taqy ka bana diya hain. Yeh aurat doh taqy ki hain *TABHI AISY RISHTY ARAHY HAIN*.
As you said, "Gaalay parnay wali," me and my family have faced those people. I am done these part of the society.
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27:13
Great and thought provoking 👍🏻
Well said Junaidy S
I worked from home like 4 years and i hated it cause you dont get out and get refresh. This even has caused several problems in my marriage life
You should help children in scholarships at least our youth is not as nasty as our middle age ppl .You will be a real hero if you do this .❤
For the khatoon Jin ko rishtey nhi arahe hen, please ap Apne upar waqt lagaen, gym Jaen Acha khaen, apni heath and beauty pr Kam Karen JIS se log apko admire Karen..aj ki duniya khubsurti k peechey bhagti hy.. please mind na Karen it is my personal advice.. thank you
Basically his husband is 40 and she is just 30. She lost interest due to age difference and his husband must show affection on the daily life not only in bed.
Time issues would be a problem at this age. He must show kindness on the other way as well.
I think it's ur old video from other channel. U upload it here heard this before.
Kuch tips b diya kren kamm paison sy business khas Orton k liye
solute to second wrter✍ she is very brave but second writer does not need to take pressure of society ALLAH pr tawwakal rakhen
It's natural also
2ND QUESTION:
Hello,
You're doing really great in your life, and have a very inspiring story. For your marriage, you don't need to worry about it, ALLAH IS THE BEST
PLANNER, one thing I can do is that I know a marriage group of shia community, I can share the details with you.
Goodluck!
That’s great 👍🏻
Can u share it here incase they dont want to approach for the purpose of keeping their identify secret
I think your fear that if you put two people in touch with each other and things don’t work out, you bear part of the blame is not warranted.
But yes before giving contact details of the lady you should ask if she wishes to be put in contact with a stranger which neither she nor you know (essentially a blind date situation). But as long as she is open to the idea, no harm putting the two people in touch with a clear disclosure that you do not know either individual and they need to treat this as a blind date and gave full responsibility for all tapteesh that goes into a rishta.
My 2 cents.
Video not broken down into sections like usual Junaid bhai?
Keep up the great work
Sir aapne wild lens by abrar bhai ki india series dekhi? Uspe aapke thought?
Sir scholarship dede khod hi sab fee bhre kese scam hoga?
Bhai mere Past defines you irrespective whether you accept the logic or not. Evolution takes years and even eons but still something never changes from the past.
Sir ek show banaya jis me entrepreneur unke startups ke bare me bata sake
Cannot hear when I download this video
your issue
For the author of second question: I would love you to get connected with me as we are also looking for our brother, he is 33 years old. We also have same family history and also shia muslim. ❤
Bohat aala
Reality
Shukar hai is Channel kai comment section mai faltu kai copy pasted comments nahi hotay. Comments waqai podcast sai related hotay hain.
btw nice thumbnail sir
آپ ٹھيک کہ رہے ہيں ، اس بچی کو چاہيے يہ پريشان نہ ہو چھوتی بہن سے کہے بھائی کو چاہئيے وہ آگے بڑھ کر بہن کے لئے کوشش کرے والدين کے لئے پريشان نہ ہو مرنا تو سب نے ہے اس بات پر ہم سب مسلمانوں کا ايمان ہے سب اللہ کی امانت ہيں تو يہ سوچ سوچ کر پريشان نہی ہونا چاہئيے جو وقت ابھی ہے اس کو انجوائے کريں اللہ پاک آسانياں عطا کرے اور آسانياں بانٹنے کی توفيق عطا کرے آمين ثم آمين بہت دعائيں
You are the best Junaid sir ❤️
Good
Girl condition and my condition same only difference she is girl and I'm boy .you can imagine how difficult life of both genders when we reachout 30+ . Itne rishty walo ko passy be diye phir be wo rishty dekhty Jo out of demand ho
An idea on a serious note, why don’t both of you consider each other?
Of course just an option. Who knows you two click
For the girl wanting rishta , my experience so far knowing the girls saying they are not getting rishtas , actual problem is most of you not want to adjust at all, and only want top of the top ( knowingly or un-knowingly )
Itna sach nai boltay bhai
Every woman wants a partner who is 1 level up than hers. A woman will only submit and "adjust" if she knows that the guy is physically, mentally and financially more stronger than her and can take care of the next gen better than her. So rather than telling women "to adjust" to what suits a guy, why don't you ask men to step up their game and be in the actual leadership roles rather than being Mama's little boys trapped in a 40 year old body?
@@Model-101 So actually need is only for 1 level up not the requirement for a relationship or a men ( This seems to be secondary ). Then if men with 1 level up do not exist do not complain ( or keep complaining it is not going to fix the issue )
If peoples with good qualification and wanting to support for needs ( Not wants ) are not enough then keep looking. Good Luck
We humans forgot the difference between needs and wants ( Especially Pakistani ) and made our wants our needs result is everywhere to see. World have enough resources to fulfill needs of every human but cannot fulfill wants of one human. Although it is now deep rooted and we have to enjoy the coming outcomes. So sit back and enjoy everyone
@@forgamos2000 exactly! 💯💯💯 This was the entire point. Men should level up their game and not be okay with the fact such and such doesn't exist lol She is already at the peak of her game. Go ahead. Level it up. Be a man in the leadership role but unfortunately so many "Men" today are okay and comfortable with being their bare minimum cuz "Raja beta and chand dulara" has been indoctrinated in their brains before they were even able to walk and were munching on chalks. Lol
@@hkvlogs1051 I get your point brother 😅, but if we cannot say truth , even at the level of this platform we would seriously need to re-think our existence.
Junaid your awesome mate. Could you please get some older couples on your show, whom has raised their kids the right way. Respectful way.
Everyone thinks they raised their kids the right way. Thats the problem. The only right way to raise kids is to teach them their religion.
Dear Junaid dont give guarantee just connect families for marriage.
46:28 hair transplant karwa lein bus UK yah USA se. Bismillah karein
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Nhe asey zaida handsome hai. Not needed
Guys and gals working from home. Please focus on your nutrition, sleep and fitness.
For the male looking to discover their sex drives. Please connect.
Sherry is looking the most handsome. Ayesha phir dosri 😂
For the first scenario : " Aurat ko bhi tou samjho" *Hira Mani style* 😀
Yes I can relate to it.....
I am also single, Graduate, earning 6 figures from Govt sector (alhamdulliah), stable job and all that. Quite ok in looks dept. too, (I think) in my 30s but.... still I am such an introvert in marriage section only that I have never asked anybody and not even to my parents that I need somebody, a partner or so.....
I know how how it feels to get taunts from relatives or so..... Anyway.... I think you @junaid sb are doing such an amazing work. Appreciate that, and sometimes I think that I should write you my own story too.
BTW
I support your thought to connect the people for noble cause and I suggest to make an app for this. World has changed a lot, there are a lot of ways to verify the genuine people and even if you don't like the idea just refer anything good already available in market.
I think it would a sadaqat e jaria too....
Bro.. shes a woman whos having to work be a mother and also run the house.. if shes too tired then she IS too tired!
Thats what happens when a woman is DUMB enough to prevent four marriages, all she is now is a worthless, two a penny slave.
11:07 begam k hormones check karwae testosterone levels might be dropped
Testosterone is a male hormone.
This channels give Life Coaching to me better than Akhtar Abbas, Cabir Chaudhary, Salman Asif, Qasim Ali Shah & I'm saying this genuinely. But, don't use abusive language it's very uncomfortable for me.
Rishtai wali kahala😂😂. Nah bro you're doing good job.
Work from home is a mess , specially for Mothers.. it takes ur nerves..
Best part was puruk k nikaal diye bachy😂
add english subtitles
Bump
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Agar zda pese hain tou please muje donate ker den... I'm an orphan dono parents nhi hain... Bhai bhi nhi hh apna ghar chahti hun... Plot hh construction kerwane ky pese nhi hain!! 😢😢😢
Sell off ur plot.. and buy a small 1 bed flat..
@@missahmed2220 I can't because that plot is next to my mamu's house and I can not live alone in this country... You know men here are always on hunt for an alone woman...
@@saibasaeed8424 tery mamoo chachy kaha mar gaye hain
@@saibasaeed8424 there are good people stay focused
Jinn Stories!!
Once and twice in a month is totally fine.
چار جائز ھے ۔۔ 😊
So many people ask about their sex life not sure did you have done any course in that
Junaid bhai shadian karwana bhot bada sahab hai duaeen lagti hai
logon ko bolne do jo bolte hen inka kaam hai bolna
1st question:
May be his wife's libido is too down , due to low libido this problem occurs
Ganja when girl ask -
"No he can't deny sex it's your birth right check kare kahi Gay Shay toh nhi hai"
ganja when a guy ask-
"Aapko nhi pata kitni zimmedariya hoti hai bacche paalna hai Kahi woh Depression me toh nhi toh chali gayi"
Shia girl why are you so down dear?
Trust Allah and whatever you did like no relationships during work etc. Be proud of it and don’t lose hope.
Yes it can be depressing but com’on it’s not end of the world.
If you are shia muslim then you might be definitely believe in areeza. Write one and trust me it works.
But don’t settle for someone who you can’t live with. It will be a disaster.
Oh bhai mere apni life sakoon say jio ya Pakistani awam kay liya kuch acha na karna ya tou scam hoga ya political party parhjaye pechaye to make them appear in your program ya phir FBR ki raid hojaye ya phir lumber 1 ka mood karab hoa tou avi layna ajayega. Invest in resources outside Pakistan and be safe and secure.
give time slap like previous videos
As usual - RR
Bhai with all due respect to the cause you working for please set a time limit on each and every email discussion. Some time it's too long and i don't blame you. I agree some topics are way bigger then other. But still let's setup a time limit behind the camera so crew can inform you or maybe watch is in your view as a reminder. Thanks Payen😁👍🏼.
She should go abroad usually people are more matured and like to marry with successful women there.
I'm abroad mujhy Rishta nhe mil Raha
where to send email?