Jonny, we love you. You're incredible. collect your MBE and collect it with pride and knowing that through your own struggles you've helped others. Even if its just one - which it has been because you've helped me, in way you wouldn't believe. And i'm pretty sure i'm not the only one. Standing with you man xx
Jonny, really well done on the MBE, what a fantastic achievement! Wholly deserved for all your commendable and important work. May you only go from strength to strength in all your future endeavours. Chin up, you should be very proud of all you've done and yet to do for mental health issues. Thank you so much for all you do. That message was extremely unfair, unreasonable, immature, cruel, idiotic, nonsensical and vindictive and was written (by the sound of it) by a very bitter and jealous person, especially so as they are the generation above you. You would have thought that they'd have some more maturity and decorum. Pay it no heed. It and they are not worth your time. You and the rest of the mental health community know the fantastic work that you do. That is all that matters. With or without your self-esteem issues, there will always be people willing to bring you down, don't let them. I completely understand you about stigma, it's highly unfair and I have thought many a time, that this stigma would never be thought of or mentioned with physical health issues (never in a million years, due to the fear of offending people with physical health issues) and you're right, it wouldn't. But unfortunately human logic is very simple and also very weak in many ways, like the way many people view (or don't view) God, as they only believe in things they can tangibly see and understand, which is why you get many agnostics and atheists in modern day society, and is also why you get much stigma around mental issues. Don't worry about it, as mental health issues are unfortunately so common in society, when these people or people they know unfortunately also go through mental health issues, they will begin to appreciate them for what they are (through personal experience) and the stigma will disappear for more and more people. So whether you convince these people through your work or whether they are convinced through personal experience, the end result shall be the same. It is funny though how mental health issues are often viewed and stigmatised in society, especially as the brain is the most important organ in the body and with which you couldn't survive without, yet people don't look at it that way. They never see the brain, they just see unusual thoughts, words, behaviours or mannerisms and just say to you to get over it. Whereas people with physical health issues in lesser organs, for example the blood, with an immune disorder, or the skin, with skin cancer, even though you should never say anything like that with either physical or mental health issues, you'd especially never ever dream to say that with physical health issues, such as in the examples above. Onwards and upwards Jonny.
So incredibly proud of you for getting an MBE. If anyone deserves an award like it, it's you. There will always sadly be people who are ready to add negativity to a positive achievement, but the inspiration and help you provide to others will always overcome that negativity. x
Huge congratulations on the MBE, it's very well deserved as the work you do is so important and brings such an important viewpoint to discussions on mental health. As you say, people are still very much in ignorance of the depth of suffering produced by these disorders and I hope that at some point you can feel that pride that you've been helping to put that right. But, if you need to take a break, then do so! Your health is so important too. Wishing you all the best for 2017.
Relate so much to this. Thankyou Johnny. I'm 20 with BPD been in and out of hospital for 4 years but I'm around older chronically Ill friends a lot of the time with rethink who have been through the more institutionalised services a lot and I'm someone who just engrained in me tries to make myself presentable too/be polite. And always in my mind especially when around Mh professionals is that I'm not 'ill enough' to be taken seriously. I'm not 'Ill enough to be properly ill' it drives me mad (literally) the thoughts that I'm faking stuff. Especially if I'm giving talks etc. Anywhere else it's ok but to Mh professionals I mind read in my head and worry they are thinking well you can be saying this stuff you haven't been 'properly ill' and this is all despite not having any real evidence for this. Thankyou johnny hope that makes sense. Met you once at the rethink members day, talked about making the organisation more accessible to young people :)
Jonny I'm afraid that you are always going to get people who want to put you down and make you feel like nothing. You are an incredible human being who has done something incredible with his life. I don't think this person has ever watched your videos because they would feel disgusted by their insinuations. You have got the most honest expression and your pain and angst that you go through is palpable- this cannot be acted and why would you put yourself through it for years? It's ridiculous and twisted that anyone could even think this. They must be a really sad individual. You deserve your MBE more than anyone and should feel so proud of all that you have done. Regarding how to deal with nasty posts either stop reading them as soon as you feel that they are posted to hurt you or try to accept that there are always individuals who have nothing better to do than make others feel small and try to reduce them to their level. Keep up your amazing work you beautiful man.
A much deserved award and honor. I also had a similar experience where this past October I had a caseworker with Vocational Rehabilitation a government agency here imply that I was faking a breakdown and my schizophrenia and I felt not only angry but very hurt because many times those who you think are there to help you are grossly uninformed. It is a constant stigma that we face . I have been afraid many times to defend myself because many who claim they care and from agencies that supposedly are there to help those with mental illness seem to be very patronizing. When people have an outward physical disability such as MS or Cerebral Palsy etc; people have a radically different attitude but when it comes to mental illness they think it is something either we create or that we are faking. I no longer am a client of that government agency and have exp. many times in other ways the same double standard that many have towards mental health issues. For me trying to explain the voices I hear in my head and the intrusive thoughts is the worst thing for me. I understand and know how you are feeling It is saddening and frustrating when this happens. You hold your head high and try to remember all the good you have done with your efforts and don't let those who have never experienced mental illness bring you down.
As someone who has suffered their entire memorable life with mental illness I commend your bravery and honesty, you have been an incredible help to more people than you realize, sometimes when things were even worse than average I would watch your videos and feel horrible that you were going through such hardship, but at the same time feel comforted in knowing that so many people are in the same situation. It's an immeasurable help to know you are not alone. And as for the drama at university, it is a well established fact that people who face this type of adversity are often drawn to artistic expression as a means to escape from, express, and cope with that which they otherwise cannot. The journalist and the writer of that comment obviously have no idea what it is like to go through what you have, and although that is lucky for them they should be ashamed at lacking basic human compassion. Not everyone was blessed with a heart. Well done. Enjoy it because you deserve it
Congratulations Jonny .... well done on all you have done for others to raise awareness and end the stigma of mental health ... ignore the small minded xx
Jonny because of one of your videos I'm still here and alive, you deserve so much more, but be thankful for your achievement, keep strong for the people and what you believe in, because no one cares that the mental health system in the NHS has gone to shit, and only for you and others, people like me wouldn't be here. so thank you Jonny Benjamin MBE
Congratulations on your MBE well deserved,such a honest video as always. Some people will never understand, guess they are lucky they have never suffered, keep up your amazing work
Congrats on the honor, Jonny. You deserve it! You're videos are incredibly authentic, relatable, and inspiring. I'm a mental health worker with a mental illness and it's unbelievably tolling. This video really helped me today. Please continue to share your story!
You have done such unbelievable things for the mental health community. You deserve that award and not only that how far you have came within yourself and your mental health is incredible. That women that you knew her daughter she has a lack of education. It is soo god dam wrong of her to say those things. Don't let it beat you down because only you know how badly you were truly suffering. xxx
That message she wrote is unbelievable awful.. but you're seeming to process it well and realising that it's all based on stigma etc, so i really hope it doesnt bring you too down. the amazingggg work you do has got rid of so much stigma already i'm sure so just use it as extra motivation to get rid of even more! :D i'm sure all your subscribers can agree that you fully deserve this MBE, and more :P thank you for doing so much Jonny, and speaking on behalf of those who cannot, youre truly amazing :) (sounds so cheesy LOL but true nethertheless) and ahhh speaking to psychiatrists omg as soon as I'm in a room with more than 1 psych i feel like running away full speed LOL so brave !! ! sending hugs, ..and cats, coffee and cherries ! :P x xx
Its not because you survived an attempt on your life that you have been awarded this honour its because you are brave enough to document it and try to help others. You are truly inspirational and I couldn't think of anyone more deserving than you to be awarded something special like that
Hope TH-cam is a positive experience for you Jonny. Ignore the haters. "What other people think of you is none of your business." I really didn't know of your advocacy work besides what you mention here so didn't see the MBE coming. Congratulations! Well deserved. I know you have helped me understand the struggles people with mental health issues go through. My neighbour is one of them. All strength to you.
ive been promoted in cadets and just like you after cloud 9 i thought i didnt deserve it. i wish i could stop caring as much as i do i love watching your videos, i could listen to you all day i can relate so much to you you speak clearance to me you let me know im not alone keep up your work man seriously you deserve the award
Jonny, Wonderful video my friend. I understand what that feeling of the "stigma" feels like. As an openly gay executive coach and keynote speaker I tread a very fine line on having to only give a client or a lecture so much transparency. Unfortunately people don't know what they don't know, and if you are anything like me, understanding ourselves is difficult as it is, not to mention hoping or expecting the others listening to share that level of understanding. It boils down to an educated listener, or one that is open to being educated. The more people like you and me and other like minded individuals that face mental challenges speak and share, the more we will get through to a portion of them. You asked about not caring what people think, say or do, well we can lie to ourselves all day long that we don't, but in turn, its okay that we do. Thats one more emotion we can smile about on the inside that we are able to feel. HOWEVER, I limit mine to people who may not get it to people that are ready to start getting it, to start in the trenches with us and feel just a fraction of what it is we are feeling, saying or doing. If they are not willing and open to learning or understanding, then I say, they are not deserving of my time, as thats the most valuable asset I have to offer, and for every one spectator out there that will have an Ill perception of what it is we are speaking on, there are a dozen others that are wanting to get it....so lets focus our time and energy with those people. You are not alone in the fight :-) Love and hugs your way buddy...
Hi Jonny, I've just watched your video and read your tweets about always focusing on the bad comments. I do that, too. Looking at the positive stuff is something I have to consciously do. But I just wanted to add my comments to all of the other people on here supporting you. I first heard of you when I watched 'The Stranger on the Bridge'. After that, I started following you on social media and over time I've probably watched all of your TH-cam videos. There's never been a moment when I've doubted that you're genuine. I've read so many comments where people have said that watching you has helped them, and has stopped them from feeling alone. Also I've watched you on TV, working to stop the stigma and to improve the mental health services in our country. And then, of course, there's all of the projects/ talks/ upcoming books/ communicating with others on social media etc. That's why I was so happy and proud of you when I read that you were receiving an MBE in recognition of your work. So collect your award with pride, knowing that it's well-deserved and a thank you for all of your hard work! Sorry for the ramble!! Much love, Elizabeth xx
Congratulations, Jonny, for receiving the MBE. Don't be ashamed to appreciate the recognition as you try to maintain a level head about it all. I believe it is a sign that you should continue your work. It's difficult when we find the work that makes us passionate, because it also opens us up to criticism, and there are always critics. For me, self-knowledge is important, because as we know ourselves, we can differentiate between truth and opinion, and we can also differentiate between whose opinion matters, and whose doesn't. In your case, I think it is important to remember all of the people who you help, including those of us who watch your videos. Regarding your last video, I think it's important to remember that you are not here to help everyone, only the ones whom you are called to help. Some people aren't ready to receive your message. Some people need help from someone else, and your videos and presentations serve only as the catalyst for another person to do the work. Remember that you are part of a team of people who are intended to play a healing role in a person's life. I thank you for sharing yourself with us - your work, your gifts and vulnerabilities, - and I wish you all the best. Take care, and continue to grow.
in 2004 my brother took his own life. please know that what you are doing matters. don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. that woman is obviously just hateful.
Congratulations on the achievement, your actions deserve acknowledgement. Your doing great work and people will become envious or confused over how your achieving it and rather than recognise your will power they resort to cheap tactics. I'm sorry this is happening, I hope you can get the right support to see you through and help you see the great you are doing. As for self doubt, I myself try to look at the act abstract from myself, if I deem it a good act then surely it is a good act if I have done it. I hope that makes sense.
I'm forever grateful for the videos you post. Keep going with them, we all massively appreciate them. 'Real' life isn't easy for anyone and people's comments are always going to hurt cus we're human but it definitely doesn't make them right. I look forward to your next post.
Ugh I am always disappointed by the ignorance and vile venom some people spit. Jonny you ABSOLUTELY deserve the MBE, you have brought much needed attention to the battles those of us with mental health problems face. Please don't let that ridiculous woman make you doubt yourself or question your actions. I have been too unwell to watch your videos the past few months and I have missed them and missed you. Love,light and hugs to you xxx
Well done on the MBE you so bloody deserve it! I have faced the stigma being in hospital from the staff over hearing them saying I was faking my mental illness etc etc then an incident occurs and the first thing they say is why didn't you come and talk to us/someone. Well after you have just heard them slagging u off and destroying all your trust ur not really going to want to approach them. What you are doing Jonny is amazing. People owe there lives to you campaigning and that is the most important thing to remember you are doing so much good it's people's poor judgement who have never had to experience any type of mental illness that make ill judged comments like that woman. You are bigger than her! And have actually made something good out of such a crappy situation. Keep it up 😊x
please don't let small minded people bring you down! they are the minority! Be proud of yourself for what you have achieved and for how far you have come! You are an inspiration to so many people and a life line for me and my son who has schitzoaffective Disorder! Please keep up the good work and allow yourself to be proud of what you have done!! Massive hugs xx
I have a stammer and I have face so much adversity from this, people mocking me and laughing at me, most people don't understand that stammering can make a person want to kill themselves, is a completely different disorder than what you have but I have gone through depression and aniexty to the point that I couldn't answer the front door, I have also come out as gay to my Jehovah witnesses mum and step dad just last year that has made me feel so much happier. But my stammer has affected every aspect of my life and people are so blinded by this disability that made a man shoot himself in 1994 and this man took his own life because people didn't understand him' and still people who stammer are sigmated.
I find that self doubt (at least for me) is more about compulsive negative thinking than it is about the actual people/events that trigger it. I still suffer from it, but at the end of the day you can only control yourself not other people. At least I am happier than I was.
Congratulations on your MBE! So wonderful! You've done so much more than just survive a suicide attempt. So much for others, while frequently agonizing about how to do more. I'm sad for anyone who is too small to just be happy for you. I'm sorry to say that people do sometimes question those with physical ailments (I experienced it as a chronic pain sufferer) but I know it's worse for mental illness sufferers. I wish I could make you as happy and proud for yourself as I am for you (as a stranger across the world), but since I can't, I'll just sit here and think of you with love and pride. Not everyone makes the world a bit better than they found it, but you are one who does. Good for you, Jonny!
I relate to you, im in my 20s, had many negative experiences and im trying to follow my dreams and i dont give up easily. I google whats bothering me and how to stop what peiple think, low self esteem etc and theres plenty of good advice and videos .. knowing you're not alone helps and talking to a counsellor even online. Noones perfect!!
I was delighted when you got the MBE which you richly deserved. Funnily enough i looked into the nomination process in 2015 to see if I could nominate you but I couldn't get sufficient info to complete a nomination. We don't want you to stop caring but you do need to put comments in perspective. Sometimes people have their own agenda and the idea that you are not genuine and are putting on an act would be laughable if it weren't upsetting you. Social media allows people to be nasty and bully safely from behind a computer screen and they often do this to mask their own failings and insecurity. They see you getting recognition and they are jealous of this honour but they completely ignore the trauma and incredibly hard work that has earned you the recognition. I had hoped this MBE would help you to realise how much love and respect there is for you and I'm sorry that you have had negative comments from jealous and insecure people. Please don't let them get you down because they are the ones with problem not you! Take care you wonderful person 😀👍
Hi Johnny, well done on the well deserved MBE 😊 Please allow yourself to feel at least moments of pride and joy for being recognised for the important work that you do on behalf of others who are not able to speak up for themselves. Your background in drama must have been the perfect preparation for your important mission in this life, possibly no more and certainly no less, so anyone who dares to judge you on it is sorely ignorant and missing the point in my opinion. In online media business studies they say that getting 'haters' is a really healthy sign that your message matters and that it is getting out into the world (and that unfortunately this is an unavoidable aspect of being successful), but of course it must be the most horrible sensation to receive external criticism, to add to one's own already negative voice, and I totally understand how hurtful it must be, especially coming from someone in your own past. In terms of caring too much about other people's suffering in life, to the point of it being unbearable, I have found it really helpful to follow the advice that psychically this comes from having an overdeveloped 'saviour complex', which can be worked upon consciously (through psychotherapy) to lessen its grip over time; learning not to feel so guilty when choosing to disengage from feeling someone else's pain, because it affects our functionality too much to do so, and so is self defeating in a way, and not helpful to ourselves, nor to the others we feel badly for. I also find that understanding how hard it is to be a highly sensitive person (HSP), and an empath in a world of about 80% non-HSPs is also really helpful in dealing with the emotional over-arousal that constantly arises from caring too much about our endlessly suffering world. Finally, I have found that learning about John Bowlby's attachment theory has recently given me a very useful insight into the fact that those of us who had to overly worry about an unwell parent at some point in our childhood, will end up with an overly developed sense of guilt and responsibility for the welfare of others, often to the detriment of our own being. This last point may not be relevant to you, but it can be a useful way to understand why this sense of caring too much developed in the first place. Then comes the art of self-compassion and self-forgiveness, and an allowing to slowly let go of forever carrying the world on our shoulders; it's too big a job for us, or for anyone in fact, and it really is not our responsibility in any case. Our only true responsibility is to learn to love ourselves, and thereby learn how to nurture and heal our own aching wounds. That is how we go about healing this deeply wounded world; one person at a time. Respect to you 🙏🏻
Your a beautiful soul, a light in this dark world. Please don't allow the thoughts and words of hurtful people touch you as there are many more that love you and see those you help and save. Keep going with your message, it's often those that have been pained on their earth journey in some way that leave this earth having helped many before they left. If you believe in God or a higher power then think about how he may see your true heart and intent in all the good you do and how great you look in his eyes in comparison to how you think how you look in the eyes of those judging. What you have done on this earth will be greater in the eyes of God then that of the most famous/ riches man on the earth because you served on this earth doing good. Bless you and remember your supported and loved by many more then the neigh Sayers. ❤️
I struggle with what other people are thinking, too. It helps to remember that people are just thinking about themselves most of the time. I'm not the main character in their narrative. Or if it's in a clinical setting, to remember that I am not the only patient the psychiatrist/counselor will see that day and they're not going to be thinking about me when they leave work later. Everyone has their own stuff going on, right? But I still seem to get caught up in it... Idk if you actually read your comments but I was wondering if you could do a video about how to talk to a therapist? Idk how to be open or be vulnerable. Idk what's okay to say or how much I can share, or if I have to stay focused on a certain thing. Am I supposed to direct the conversation? Where do I start? I started seeing a new therapist after a long break and I kind of want to quit already. He said next time he wants me to do the talking. How do you do it? Also, congrats on your MBE! That's awesome!!:)
Johnny you are not "mentally ill" ,you are a feeling person in a world where people shut off from that. Please realise that before its too late. I watch your videos and I see with the belief you think your sick you get worse and worse and it hurts to watch. I see the true you, under this all with a beautiful sensitivity. You just have not learnt yet how to truly embrace, you your afraid to be you. Guess what when stay true to who you are...all suffering ceases to be. No amount of medication of believing your sick will ever do that, all it does is dulls you down and I know you feel that. I know you feel it al,l its about trusting you and when you do all of this goes. Your beautiful and the world needs more empaths people who can show others how to feel. You have a purpose trust it and find you under this belief that's hurting you.
Verdade, se tiveres numa cadeira de rodas todos vêem e aceitam, a doença mental não é quantificavel, ninguém pode medir a dor ou a incapacidade que pode acarretar. Força Jonny.
Jonny, you help me and thousands upon thousands of others by doing the work you do-talking though your experiences, battling the stigma, making people feel ok about not being ok...There are some really spiteful and jealous people in the world who WILL want to bring you down and judge you....That is THEIR problem! Not yours!!! DO NOT let small minded individuals a) take away from you achieving a very much deserved MBE b) make you question your work and c) make you feel like you are some sort of fraud. I think these people who are judging you will find that there is an extremely high percetage of people who do creative things such as acting who suffer very badly with mental health problems. Ranging from Catherine Zeta Jones, Britney Spears to Robin Williams and George Michael. All creative, all struggling/or sadly struggled. Are they and were they all acting? No! So disreguard any stupidty of you acting it all out, its ridiculous! And people's jealousy can be ridiculous!! NB: From what I understand of acting most actors use it as escapism from themselves, the fact that a journalist questioned you shows they can't have been very knowledgable about the industry! I, for one can verify that you told me possibly more than six years ago now (I know scary) that you didn't want to go back to acting anymore because of the pressures and your mental health. NOTE: If you do ever decide to go down that route again and get back in to acting that is your perogative and for no one else to judge either. Ok, I know I said you help me and other people, and that's really great, but you DON'T have to, your mental health is really really REALLY important and you are your first priority. Please take care of YOU!! You have been under tons of pressure and as you rightfully say, you are only human. On a lighter note, I am glad you moved the camera angle because I was wondering what the hell that tree thing was behind you lol. So in conclusion- Forget the judgy people -Eurgh Embrace the fact that you have been thanked by THE QUEEN for all your hard work (on behalf of a quarter of Britain-however I believe it is much higher than that). Take Care of YOU this year. xxx
Just want you to know that I did not know what you studied at University before I asked you at talk in Bristol last week. I have a genuine interest in yourself as I find a lot of similarities with myself as I have schizoaffective disorder, am bisexual and studied at University doing languages as a way of escapism. You are a good person and should not worry what others think. I understand though perfectly as I worry all the the time what other people think of me too. We should just be and not worry about 'Le Regard des autres' - Jean-Paul Sartre
Sadly your recent experience giving a talk to those psychiatrists shows that the problem with mental health isn't due to the stigma attached to it - we can talk about mental health until the cows come home but this will make no difference until more people 'understand' what it feels like to be prone to self-doubt, low anxiety and depression and the multitude of underlying conditions that trigger these symptoms. And then this increased understanding needs to be accompanied by a resolute focus on teaching empathy and showcasing the actions of people who combine both to achieve a positive change in society. Is there a solution to shield ourselves from the effects of insensitive people? Probably not, but there are loads of ways to limit its impact, from accepting that shit happens, realising that we can't change what people think about us and accepting that ignorance is the underlying cause behind most negative social experiences (bigotry, racism..). You know better, so keep shining your light and be an example for others to follow. :)
Congratulations Jonny. You are an exceptional ambassador for mental health issues. That spiteful person should try being better informed and less opinionated.
Jonny, i hate to say it but she is an atrocious person, (And that is putting it nicely). People who are miserable with their own lives either wish for others to find joy, or want to bring others down with them. She is the latter. Please do not think twice of what other's think of you. You are incredible. i hope she gets help for her uglyness towards you and others. You study what you want. Stop when ypu choose to or have to. your life was not given to you to live as you see fit. not for her to judge. I am utterly disgusted with her judgement. You on the other hand are INSPIRING!
boundaries are important. be sure you are informed about professional boundary issues/rules for workers/clinicians before u take something personally from that area. its pretty restrictive on peoples behavior and communication which may come off as cold/judgemental. otherwise...pardon peoples' ignorance and keep it moving.
Remember when it comes to Stigma there is still a long way to go.It's not a quick fix. Think of it like a mathematical equation. people get answers in different ways. If they don't get one way try anothers. It's going to take time and people like yourself to break down the barriers. Just lots of people chipping away at stigma.Lots of people showing the wider community the subject from different view points. Did u really get it when u were younger?
Jonny, we love you. You're incredible. collect your MBE and collect it with pride and knowing that through your own struggles you've helped others. Even if its just one - which it has been because you've helped me, in way you wouldn't believe. And i'm pretty sure i'm not the only one. Standing with you man xx
Jonny, really well done on the MBE, what a fantastic achievement! Wholly deserved for all your commendable and important work. May you only go from strength to strength in all your future endeavours. Chin up, you should be very proud of all you've done and yet to do for mental health issues. Thank you so much for all you do.
That message was extremely unfair, unreasonable, immature, cruel, idiotic, nonsensical and vindictive and was written (by the sound of it) by a very bitter and jealous person, especially so as they are the generation above you. You would have thought that they'd have some more maturity and decorum. Pay it no heed. It and they are not worth your time. You and the rest of the mental health community know the fantastic work that you do. That is all that matters. With or without your self-esteem issues, there will always be people willing to bring you down, don't let them.
I completely understand you about stigma, it's highly unfair and I have thought many a time, that this stigma would never be thought of or mentioned with physical health issues (never in a million years, due to the fear of offending people with physical health issues) and you're right, it wouldn't. But unfortunately human logic is very simple and also very weak in many ways, like the way many people view (or don't view) God, as they only believe in things they can tangibly see and understand, which is why you get many agnostics and atheists in modern day society, and is also why you get much stigma around mental issues. Don't worry about it, as mental health issues are unfortunately so common in society, when these people or people they know unfortunately also go through mental health issues, they will begin to appreciate them for what they are (through personal experience) and the stigma will disappear for more and more people. So whether you convince these people through your work or whether they are convinced through personal experience, the end result shall be the same.
It is funny though how mental health issues are often viewed and stigmatised in society,
especially as the brain is the most important organ in the body and with which you couldn't survive without, yet people don't look at it that way. They never see the brain, they just see unusual thoughts, words, behaviours or mannerisms and just say to you to get over it. Whereas people with physical health issues in lesser organs, for example the blood, with an immune disorder, or the skin, with skin cancer, even though you should never say anything like that with either physical or mental health issues, you'd especially never ever dream to say that with physical health issues, such as in the examples above.
Onwards and upwards Jonny.
So incredibly proud of you for getting an MBE. If anyone deserves an award like it, it's you. There will always sadly be people who are ready to add negativity to a positive achievement, but the inspiration and help you provide to others will always overcome that negativity. x
Huge congratulations on the MBE, it's very well deserved as the work you do is so important and brings such an important viewpoint to discussions on mental health. As you say, people are still very much in ignorance of the depth of suffering produced by these disorders and I hope that at some point you can feel that pride that you've been helping to put that right. But, if you need to take a break, then do so! Your health is so important too. Wishing you all the best for 2017.
Relate so much to this. Thankyou Johnny. I'm 20 with BPD been in and out of hospital for 4 years but I'm around older chronically Ill friends a lot of the time with rethink who have been through the more institutionalised services a lot and I'm someone who just engrained in me tries to make myself presentable too/be polite. And always in my mind especially when around Mh professionals is that I'm not 'ill enough' to be taken seriously. I'm not 'Ill enough to be properly ill' it drives me mad (literally) the thoughts that I'm faking stuff. Especially if I'm giving talks etc. Anywhere else it's ok but to Mh professionals I mind read in my head and worry they are thinking well you can be saying this stuff you haven't been 'properly ill' and this is all despite not having any real evidence for this. Thankyou johnny hope that makes sense. Met you once at the rethink members day, talked about making the organisation more accessible to young people :)
Jonny I'm afraid that you are always going to get people who want to put you down and make you feel like nothing.
You are an incredible human being who has done something incredible with his life. I don't think this person has ever watched your videos because they would feel disgusted by their insinuations. You have got the most honest expression and your pain and angst that you go through is palpable- this cannot be acted and why would you put yourself through it for years? It's ridiculous and twisted that anyone could even think this. They must be a really sad individual.
You deserve your MBE more than anyone and should feel so proud of all that you have done.
Regarding how to deal with nasty posts either stop reading them as soon as you feel that they are posted to hurt you or try to accept that there are always individuals who have nothing better to do than make others feel small and try to reduce them to their level.
Keep up your amazing work you beautiful man.
A much deserved award and honor. I also had a similar experience where this past October I had a caseworker with Vocational Rehabilitation a government agency here imply that I was faking a breakdown and my schizophrenia and I felt not only angry but very hurt because many times those who you think are there to help you are grossly uninformed. It is a constant stigma that we face . I have been afraid many times to defend myself because many who claim they care and from agencies that supposedly are there to help those with mental illness seem to be very patronizing. When people have an outward physical disability such as MS or Cerebral Palsy etc; people have a radically different attitude but when it comes to mental illness they think it is something either we create or that we are faking. I no longer am a client of that government agency and have exp. many times in other ways the same double standard that many have towards mental health issues. For me trying to explain the voices I hear in my head and the intrusive thoughts is the worst thing for me. I understand and know how you are feeling It is saddening and frustrating when this happens. You hold your head high and try to remember all the good you have done with your efforts and don't let those who have never experienced mental illness bring you down.
As someone who has suffered their entire memorable life with mental illness I commend your bravery and honesty, you have been an incredible help to more people than you realize, sometimes when things were even worse than average I would watch your videos and feel horrible that you were going through such hardship, but at the same time feel comforted in knowing that so many people are in the same situation. It's an immeasurable help to know you are not alone. And as for the drama at university, it is a well established fact that people who face this type of adversity are often drawn to artistic expression as a means to escape from, express, and cope with that which they otherwise cannot. The journalist and the writer of that comment obviously have no idea what it is like to go through what you have, and although that is lucky for them they should be ashamed at lacking basic human compassion. Not everyone was blessed with a heart. Well done. Enjoy it because you deserve it
Congratulations Jonny .... well done on all you have done for others to raise awareness and end the stigma of mental health ... ignore the small minded xx
Jonny because of one of your videos I'm still here and alive, you deserve so much more, but be thankful for your achievement, keep strong for the people and what you believe in, because no one cares that the mental health system in the NHS has gone to shit, and only for you and others, people like me wouldn't be here. so thank you Jonny Benjamin MBE
Congratulations on your MBE well deserved,such a honest video as always. Some people will never understand, guess they are lucky they have never suffered, keep up your amazing work
Congrats on the honor, Jonny. You deserve it! You're videos are incredibly authentic, relatable, and inspiring. I'm a mental health worker with a mental illness and it's unbelievably tolling. This video really helped me today. Please continue to share your story!
Please don't stop these videos Jonny. You are a light in the darkness.
You have done such unbelievable things for the mental health community. You deserve that award and not only that how far you have came within yourself and your mental health is incredible. That women that you knew her daughter she has a lack of education. It is soo god dam wrong of her to say those things. Don't let it beat you down because only you know how badly you were truly suffering. xxx
That message she wrote is unbelievable awful.. but you're seeming to process it well and realising that it's all based on stigma etc, so i really hope it doesnt bring you too down. the amazingggg work you do has got rid of so much stigma already i'm sure so just use it as extra motivation to get rid of even more! :D i'm sure all your subscribers can agree that you fully deserve this MBE, and more :P thank you for doing so much Jonny, and speaking on behalf of those who cannot, youre truly amazing :) (sounds so cheesy LOL but true nethertheless) and ahhh speaking to psychiatrists omg as soon as I'm in a room with more than 1 psych i feel like running away full speed LOL so brave !! ! sending hugs, ..and cats, coffee and cherries ! :P x xx
Its not because you survived an attempt on your life that you have been awarded this honour its because you are brave enough to document it and try to help others. You are truly inspirational and I couldn't think of anyone more deserving than you to be awarded something special like that
Thanks for sharing your journey. Stigma is rife. 'stand normal' made my blood boil. Sending a non-space invading hug. x
Congratulations on your MBE and thank you so much for this video.
Hope TH-cam is a positive experience for you Jonny. Ignore the haters. "What other people think of you is none of your business." I really didn't know of your advocacy work besides what you mention here so didn't see the MBE coming. Congratulations! Well deserved. I know you have helped me understand the struggles people with mental health issues go through. My neighbour is one of them. All strength to you.
ive been promoted in cadets and just like you after cloud 9 i thought i didnt deserve it.
i wish i could stop caring as much as i do
i love watching your videos, i could listen to you all day
i can relate so much to you
you speak clearance to me you let me know im not alone
keep up your work man seriously you deserve the award
Jonny,
Wonderful video my friend. I understand what that feeling of the "stigma" feels like. As an openly gay executive coach and keynote speaker I tread a very fine line on having to only give a client or a lecture so much transparency. Unfortunately people don't know what they don't know, and if you are anything like me, understanding ourselves is difficult as it is, not to mention hoping or expecting the others listening to share that level of understanding. It boils down to an educated listener, or one that is open to being educated. The more people like you and me and other like minded individuals that face mental challenges speak and share, the more we will get through to a portion of them. You asked about not caring what people think, say or do, well we can lie to ourselves all day long that we don't, but in turn, its okay that we do. Thats one more emotion we can smile about on the inside that we are able to feel. HOWEVER, I limit mine to people who may not get it to people that are ready to start getting it, to start in the trenches with us and feel just a fraction of what it is we are feeling, saying or doing. If they are not willing and open to learning or understanding, then I say, they are not deserving of my time, as thats the most valuable asset I have to offer, and for every one spectator out there that will have an Ill perception of what it is we are speaking on, there are a dozen others that are wanting to get it....so lets focus our time and energy with those people. You are not alone in the fight :-) Love and hugs your way buddy...
Hi Jonny,
I've just watched your video and read your tweets about always focusing on the bad comments. I do that, too. Looking at the positive stuff is something I have to consciously do. But I just wanted to add my comments to all of the other people on here supporting you. I first heard of you when I watched 'The Stranger on the Bridge'. After that, I started following you on social media and over time I've probably watched all of your TH-cam videos. There's never been a moment when I've doubted that you're genuine. I've read so many comments where people have said that watching you has helped them, and has stopped them from feeling alone. Also I've watched you on TV, working to stop the stigma and to improve the mental health services in our country. And then, of course, there's all of the projects/ talks/ upcoming books/ communicating with others on social media etc. That's why I was so happy and proud of you when I read that you were receiving an MBE in recognition of your work. So collect your award with pride, knowing that it's well-deserved and a thank you for all of your hard work! Sorry for the ramble!! Much love, Elizabeth xx
This has shaken me to the core. Tears fell from my eyes. I wish I could take your hand. You're not alone.
Congratulations, Jonny, for receiving the MBE. Don't be ashamed to appreciate the recognition as you try to maintain a level head about it all. I believe it is a sign that you should continue your work.
It's difficult when we find the work that makes us passionate, because it also opens us up to criticism, and there are always critics. For me, self-knowledge is important, because as we know ourselves, we can differentiate between truth and opinion, and we can also differentiate between whose opinion matters, and whose doesn't. In your case, I think it is important to remember all of the people who you help, including those of us who watch your videos.
Regarding your last video, I think it's important to remember that you are not here to help everyone, only the ones whom you are called to help. Some people aren't ready to receive your message. Some people need help from someone else, and your videos and presentations serve only as the catalyst for another person to do the work. Remember that you are part of a team of people who are intended to play a healing role in a person's life.
I thank you for sharing yourself with us - your work, your gifts and vulnerabilities, - and I wish you all the best. Take care, and continue to grow.
Don't feel ashamed or embarrass about the quality of the video. You are very strong and I hope you continue to be this strong
in 2004 my brother took his own life. please know that what you are doing matters. don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. that woman is obviously just hateful.
You are a wonderful man, so deserving. You give so much. X
Happy new year Jonny!! Thank you for all the wonderful work you are doing!!
you are an inspiration Jonny thanks for all your hard work
Congratulations on the achievement, your actions deserve acknowledgement. Your doing great work and people will become envious or confused over how your achieving it and rather than recognise your will power they resort to cheap tactics. I'm sorry this is happening, I hope you can get the right support to see you through and help you see the great you are doing. As for self doubt, I myself try to look at the act abstract from myself, if I deem it a good act then surely it is a good act if I have done it. I hope that makes sense.
I'm forever grateful for the videos you post. Keep going with them, we all massively appreciate them. 'Real' life isn't easy for anyone and people's comments are always going to hurt cus we're human but it definitely doesn't make them right. I look forward to your next post.
Ugh I am always disappointed by the ignorance and vile venom some people spit. Jonny you ABSOLUTELY deserve the MBE, you have brought much needed attention to the battles those of us with mental health problems face. Please don't let that ridiculous woman make you doubt yourself or question your actions. I have been too unwell to watch your videos the past few months and I have missed them and missed you. Love,light and hugs to you xxx
Well done on the MBE you so bloody deserve it! I have faced the stigma being in hospital from the staff over hearing them saying I was faking my mental illness etc etc then an incident occurs and the first thing they say is why didn't you come and talk to us/someone. Well after you have just heard them slagging u off and destroying all your trust ur not really going to want to approach them. What you are doing Jonny is amazing. People owe there lives to you campaigning and that is the most important thing to remember you are doing so much good it's people's poor judgement who have never had to experience any type of mental illness that make ill judged comments like that woman. You are bigger than her! And have actually made something good out of such a crappy situation. Keep it up 😊x
A big congratulations for all you have managed, overcome, and excelled at. Don't doubt you are brilliant.
please don't let small minded people bring you down! they are the minority! Be proud of yourself for what you have achieved and for how far you have come! You are an inspiration to so many people and a life line for me and my son who has schitzoaffective Disorder! Please keep up the good work and allow yourself to be proud of what you have done!! Massive hugs xx
I have a stammer and I have face so much adversity from this, people mocking me and laughing at me, most people don't understand that stammering can make a person want to kill themselves, is a completely different disorder than what you have but I have gone through depression and aniexty to the point that I couldn't answer the front door, I have also come out as gay to my Jehovah witnesses mum and step dad just last year that has made me feel so much happier. But my stammer has affected every aspect of my life and people are so blinded by this disability that made a man shoot himself in 1994 and this man took his own life because people didn't understand him' and still people who stammer are sigmated.
I find that self doubt (at least for me) is more about compulsive negative thinking than it is about the actual people/events that trigger it. I still suffer from it, but at the end of the day you can only control yourself not other people. At least I am happier than I was.
Congratulations on your MBE! So wonderful! You've done so much more than just survive a suicide attempt. So much for others, while frequently agonizing about how to do more. I'm sad for anyone who is too small to just be happy for you. I'm sorry to say that people do sometimes question those with physical ailments (I experienced it as a chronic pain sufferer) but I know it's worse for mental illness sufferers. I wish I could make you as happy and proud for yourself as I am for you (as a stranger across the world), but since I can't, I'll just sit here and think of you with love and pride. Not everyone makes the world a bit better than they found it, but you are one who does. Good for you, Jonny!
i saw you on bbc and i was like thats my boy, i felt so proud
I relate to you, im in my 20s, had many negative experiences and im trying to follow my dreams and i dont give up easily. I google whats bothering me and how to stop what peiple think, low self esteem etc and theres plenty of good advice and videos .. knowing you're not alone helps and talking to a counsellor even online. Noones perfect!!
I was delighted when you got the MBE which you richly deserved. Funnily enough i looked into the nomination process in 2015 to see if I could nominate you but I couldn't get sufficient info to complete a nomination. We don't want you to stop caring but you do need to put comments in perspective. Sometimes people have their own agenda and the idea that you are not genuine and are putting on an act would be laughable if it weren't upsetting you. Social media allows people to be nasty and bully safely from behind a computer screen and they often do this to mask their own failings and insecurity. They see you getting recognition and they are jealous of this honour but they completely ignore the trauma and incredibly hard work that has earned you the recognition. I had hoped this MBE would help you to realise how much love and respect there is for you and I'm sorry that you have had negative comments from jealous and insecure people. Please don't let them get you down because they are the ones with problem not you! Take care you wonderful person 😀👍
Thank you for your videos. They help me so much.
Hi Johnny, well done on the well deserved MBE 😊
Please allow yourself to feel at least moments of pride and joy for being recognised for the important work that you do on behalf of others who are not able to speak up for themselves. Your background in drama must have been the perfect preparation for your important mission in this life, possibly no more and certainly no less, so anyone who dares to judge you on it is sorely ignorant and missing the point in my opinion.
In online media business studies they say that getting 'haters' is a really healthy sign that your message matters and that it is getting out into the world (and that unfortunately this is an unavoidable aspect of being successful), but of course it must be the most horrible sensation to receive external criticism, to add to one's own already negative voice, and I totally understand how hurtful it must be, especially coming from someone in your own past.
In terms of caring too much about other people's suffering in life, to the point of it being unbearable, I have found it really helpful to follow the advice that psychically this comes from having an overdeveloped 'saviour complex', which can be worked upon consciously (through psychotherapy) to lessen its grip over time; learning not to feel so guilty when choosing to disengage from feeling someone else's pain, because it affects our functionality too much to do so, and so is self defeating in a way, and not helpful to ourselves, nor to the others we feel badly for. I also find that understanding how hard it is to be a highly sensitive person (HSP), and an empath in a world of about 80% non-HSPs is also really helpful in dealing with the emotional over-arousal that constantly arises from caring too much about our endlessly suffering world.
Finally, I have found that learning about John Bowlby's attachment theory has recently given me a very useful insight into the fact that those of us who had to overly worry about an unwell parent at some point in our childhood, will end up with an overly developed sense of guilt and responsibility for the welfare of others, often to the detriment of our own being. This last point may not be relevant to you, but it can be a useful way to understand why this sense of caring too much developed in the first place. Then comes the art of self-compassion and self-forgiveness, and an allowing to slowly let go of forever carrying the world on our shoulders; it's too big a job for us, or for anyone in fact, and it really is not our responsibility in any case. Our only true responsibility is to learn to love ourselves, and thereby learn how to nurture and heal our own aching wounds. That is how we go about healing this deeply wounded world; one person at a time.
Respect to you 🙏🏻
Your a beautiful soul, a light in this dark world. Please don't allow the thoughts and words of hurtful people touch you as there are many more that love you and see those you help and save. Keep going with your message, it's often those that have been pained on their earth journey in some way that leave this earth having helped many before they left. If you believe in God or a higher power then think about how he may see your true heart and intent in all the good you do and how great you look in his eyes in comparison to how you think how you look in the eyes of those judging. What you have done on this earth will be greater in the eyes of God then that of the most famous/ riches man on the earth because you served on this earth doing good. Bless you and remember your supported and loved by many more then the neigh Sayers. ❤️
I struggle with what other people are thinking, too. It helps to remember that people are just thinking about themselves most of the time. I'm not the main character in their narrative. Or if it's in a clinical setting, to remember that I am not the only patient the psychiatrist/counselor will see that day and they're not going to be thinking about me when they leave work later. Everyone has their own stuff going on, right? But I still seem to get caught up in it...
Idk if you actually read your comments but I was wondering if you could do a video about how to talk to a therapist? Idk how to be open or be vulnerable. Idk what's okay to say or how much I can share, or if I have to stay focused on a certain thing. Am I supposed to direct the conversation? Where do I start? I started seeing a new therapist after a long break and I kind of want to quit already. He said next time he wants me to do the talking. How do you do it?
Also, congrats on your MBE! That's awesome!!:)
Johnny you are not "mentally ill" ,you are a feeling person in a world where people shut off from that. Please realise that before its too late. I watch your videos and I see with the belief you think your sick you get worse and worse and it hurts to watch. I see the true you, under this all with a beautiful sensitivity. You just have not learnt yet how to truly embrace, you your afraid to be you. Guess what when stay true to who you are...all suffering ceases to be. No amount of medication of believing your sick will ever do that, all it does is dulls you down and I know you feel that. I know you feel it al,l its about trusting you and when you do all of this goes. Your beautiful and the world needs more empaths people who can show others how to feel. You have a purpose trust it and find you under this belief that's hurting you.
Verdade, se tiveres numa cadeira de rodas todos vêem e aceitam, a doença mental não é quantificavel, ninguém pode medir a dor ou a incapacidade que pode acarretar. Força Jonny.
Jonny, you help me and thousands upon thousands of others by doing the work you do-talking though your experiences, battling the stigma, making people feel ok about not being ok...There are some really spiteful and jealous people in the world who WILL want to bring you down and judge you....That is THEIR problem! Not yours!!! DO NOT let small minded individuals a) take away from you achieving a very much deserved MBE b) make you question your work and c) make you feel like you are some sort of fraud.
I think these people who are judging you will find that there is an extremely high percetage of people who do creative things such as acting who suffer very badly with mental health problems. Ranging from Catherine Zeta Jones, Britney Spears to Robin Williams and George Michael. All creative, all struggling/or sadly struggled. Are they and were they all acting? No! So disreguard any stupidty of you acting it all out, its ridiculous! And people's jealousy can be ridiculous!!
NB: From what I understand of acting most actors use it as escapism from themselves, the fact that a journalist questioned you shows they can't have been very knowledgable about the industry!
I, for one can verify that you told me possibly more than six years ago now (I know scary) that you didn't want to go back to acting anymore because of the pressures and your mental health. NOTE: If you do ever decide to go down that route again and get back in to acting that is your perogative and for no one else to judge either.
Ok, I know I said you help me and other people, and that's really great, but you DON'T have to, your mental health is really really REALLY important and you are your first priority. Please take care of YOU!! You have been under tons of pressure and as you rightfully say, you are only human.
On a lighter note, I am glad you moved the camera angle because I was wondering what the hell that tree thing was behind you lol.
So in conclusion-
Forget the judgy people -Eurgh
Embrace the fact that you have been thanked by THE QUEEN for all your hard work (on behalf of a quarter of Britain-however I believe it is much higher than that).
Take Care of YOU this year. xxx
Just want you to know that I did not know what you studied at University before I asked you at talk in Bristol last week. I have a genuine interest in yourself as I find a lot of similarities with myself as I have schizoaffective disorder, am bisexual and studied at University doing languages as a way of escapism. You are a good person and should not worry what others think. I understand though perfectly as I worry all the the time what other people think of me too. We should just be and not worry about 'Le Regard des autres' - Jean-Paul Sartre
Hi Jonny - how important are antipsychotic drugs for the management of Schizophrenia? The side effects of the drugs is worrying.
Sadly your recent experience giving a talk to those psychiatrists shows that the problem with mental health isn't due to the stigma attached to it - we can talk about mental health until the cows come home but this will make no difference until more people 'understand' what it feels like to be prone to self-doubt, low anxiety and depression and the multitude of underlying conditions that trigger these symptoms. And then this increased understanding needs to be accompanied by a resolute focus on teaching empathy and showcasing the actions of people who combine both to achieve a positive change in society.
Is there a solution to shield ourselves from the effects of insensitive people? Probably not, but there are loads of ways to limit its impact, from accepting that shit happens, realising that we can't change what people think about us and accepting that ignorance is the underlying cause behind most negative social experiences (bigotry, racism..).
You know better, so keep shining your light and be an example for others to follow. :)
if u do work for the common good. dont let anyone sidetrack you, there is too much to do
Dealing also, thanks for the vids beutiful
Congratulations Jonny. You are an exceptional ambassador for mental health issues. That spiteful person should try being better informed and less opinionated.
Jonny, i hate to say it but she is an atrocious person, (And that is putting it nicely). People who are miserable with their own lives either wish for others to find joy, or want to bring others down with them. She is the latter. Please do not think twice of what other's think of you. You are incredible. i hope she gets help for her uglyness towards you and others.
You study what you want. Stop when ypu choose to or have to. your life was not given to you to live as you see fit. not for her to judge. I am utterly disgusted with her judgement. You on the other hand are INSPIRING!
check out evolve by ani difranco for inspiration. if u dont know her music/poetry, you should. it is very useful
boundaries are important. be sure you are informed about professional boundary issues/rules for workers/clinicians before u take something personally from that area. its pretty restrictive on peoples behavior and communication which may come off as cold/judgemental. otherwise...pardon peoples' ignorance and keep it moving.
Remember when it comes to Stigma there is still a long way to go.It's not a quick fix. Think of it like a mathematical equation. people get answers in different ways. If they don't get one way try anothers. It's going to take time and people like yourself to break down the barriers. Just lots of people chipping away at stigma.Lots of people showing the wider community the subject from different view points. Did u really get it when u were younger?
Hero.
These spiteful people have bigger issues than you, so don't own any of their shit.
Much love.