I am an economist and have two small children. I worked since I am 16 till my first child was born. I was 33 years old at that time. Since 4 years I am staying home. I get criticised from preople who know me from college and earlier that I am "throwing my talents and education" away for my family and that I am hiding "in my kitchen". These people think that I am not aware of anything. But I think that they are not aware that I have changed, that I dont have the same goals they have. Everyone is choosing their own path and I want my children to have a great childhood with love and cozyness with me being present. I can always earn money, but my children have only one childhood.
Oh my goodness, I so admire people like you who have made a real financial sacrifice to take care of your family and children!:) I think it is quite sad that we could put down someone who has chosen the more noble decision despite how difficult it might have been, in order to do what they know is right. I haven’t gone to college and have never been too invested in a job and honestly I am sort of thankful for that because i think it would have been much harder to leave, I hope I would have still done it though if it was the right thing for my family. I love being here, tending to the ones I love the most every day. 💕 Thank you so much for this beautiful comment!❤️❤️
@@BecauseitMatters Thank you so much for your kind comment❣ Stepping back from my job wasnt that hard. But finding myself in my new role as a mother and someone who has to take care of a family wasnt that easy. And in my opinion creating a real home is much harder than we think. I always say it is more challenging that everything I have done before. A friend of mine who thought I am "hiding in my kitchen" just didint get that home is at the moment where my family needs me the most. We both lost our fathers at a young age. The difference is the effect that it had on us. He tries everything to get "financial security" and I try my best to make the most of the time I have with my loved ones. At the end of the day thats what matters the most❣
Omg this blessed me. Especially that last line. I’m 33. This is my second year staying home and homeschooling my oldest. I struggled at first because I felt like I needed to contribute financially. But it was God who told me to leave my job and to finally do what I desired....teach me own children.
These comments are all so great and I feel this too. Every once in awhile I feel the tug of “oh maybe I should be trying to do more with my education” (I have a masters in biology) But I can go back to it someday. My kids are only young once 💜🙏🏻 Hugs to you all!
I’m 25 and in school, but I do want to be a homemaker one day. I’ve had similar thoughts about how if I stayed at home, I would feel like a failure. However, the more I discover myself as a woman I’m beginning to understand the importance of being a woman. Homemaking and raising children is VALUABLE! People push a very masculine narrative on women unfortunately, and that causes them to feel less than if they aren’t acting in their masculine. Feminism has not helped either. Being a feminine woman, having children, and raising them inside of a warm home that YOU have created should not be devalued. 🏡🌸💕
Oh my goodness! I 100% agree with you! I find it so funny that by radical feminists saying there are utterly no differences between men and women, and that women need to act like men, that not only are they denying all of men’s wonderful, unique gifts and talents, but also everything that makes us women unique and beautiful, like nurture, compassion, care, deep love, etc. Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
@@catholicfemininity2126 she may be doing it for a career to fall on if she is in a position where she might need to carry the family by herself financially. Death or a disability. These things may happen…I say this as a housewife with absolutely no college education. As a Christian I lean on Christ for all our needs, and I do have a church family/my biological family to lean on just in case, as for the financial my husband’s job set us for life if he ever passed away. I hope to God that never happens but you can’t predict the future…
Me too, I'm seeing more and more how important it is especially because of how my life lacked that kind of maternal presence. Women like these are cornerstones of civilization.
You’re right! I was in my forties before I realized this. It was always my dream, but going against the tide can be daunting.. however nine years now and I’m healthier, happy and never regretted it! Neither has my husband.. who was afraid to say he thought so too ;) it’s to subjugation to be a wife, just look at the Bible.. Deborah, Proverbs 32, Esther, Ruth.. God never created our job to be second best❤️
My mom was an RN and when I told her my plan to be a stay at home mom, she called me an underachiever! Lol! Years later, after my children were grown, she told me what a great mother I was. Neither of those words moved me because I made the decision in my heart before I was ever married. I always just wanted to grow up and be a mom. I got married at 19, I told my husband, before we were married, that I would never work full time. I may work part time once the kids were grown, but I would never work full time. This meant only one vehicle most of the time. A smaller home, no fancy vacations, and on and on. These are sacrifices I gladly made to stay home with my children. I don’t regret a second of it. We can’t let society or even our families pressure us into something we’re not called to do.
I'm a husband and my wife stayed home and raised our kids. I wouldn't trade it for the world. It was better for all of us and I believe it made all of our lives easier. When our youngest turned 16 my wife went and got her real estate license. It was something she always wanted to do. Now the kids are grown and my wife's extra income will help boost us into retirement. Your kids are only kids for a blink. There will be plenty of time for careers later if you want one.
I'm sick and tired from the pushback I get for becoming a homemaker. I can ignore strangers easily, however it's hurtful when it's your own family. My father was so upset I didn’t "use" my degree. He would always imply that I need to work, especially now that my kids are older. My mother was a stay at home mom until she decided to work as a cashier at boscovs. I was in high-school at the time. She probably thought she was 'helping out' by making money , however, she wasn't there for me when perhaps I needed her most. Interesting how society thinks it's only okay to stay home with a baby (and only for 6 weeks!). I changed my friendship circle and it literally dwindled to nothing at one moment. I felt secluded at first, but now I'm learning to let go.
Oh, I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this! It is so sad how little mothers who pour their heart and souls into their families are appreciated by some:(
@@GodChaser448 Hello. I'm not one to cut people off, so I think my approach happened to be what both parties wanted. I think we tend to know when we're not on the same note as others. If someone can't get a clue then I usually delay my response to their calls or texts. Meeting new people is the hard part, but it helps to get out and volunteer in your community (during the day) so there is a great likelihood to run into homemakers like us.
Teenagers NEED their parents as much as children do but for different help. Many parents have no idea what happens in public schools and locker rooms. They are ignorant of psychological or physical bullying. They don't see when their children are being pressured into sex or drugs. They are too busy making their bosses money rather than achieving anything lasting at work. Teens need guidance and for someone to show up at competitions and performances. People just want easy parenting (which I don't consider parenting at all at that point). Stay at home parents are valuable even in the teen stages.
I think the majority of people in society don't realize that a career does not equal success for all people, that slow living is not a failure, and that keeping a nice home/being available for your family is a huge blessing to your husband, kids and even older relatives who you may end up caring for. Something people also don't realize is that when your husband has his own unique role and you have your own unique role, your family runs much smoother from my experience than when both partners are trying to do everything all the time and splitting things 50/50. I take a lot of pride in keeping a nice home, keeping everyone's stomach full, being available for loved ones and literally creating new life! 😊 This is not valuable to corporate America or western society but it is extremely valuable to the people I care about. 😌
Oh well said! Well said! I agree with you completely! I love how you said that a lot of people do not realize that a career does not equal success for everyone. I have thought about that a lot lately myself. You sound like such a lovely person. Thank you for reaching out and sharing this beautiful comment! ❤️
Exactly these corporations don’t care about any of us. This dawned on me when I was grocery shopping and looking at the labels of the foods there’s so much crap that they feed us and if one person is not at home making sure the family unit is eating right and reading and all of that the cycle of slavery repeats
I studied 2 careers (Administration, Chef). While working in the major pharmaceuticals companies, wasting my days hating that life hoping that some day I could be in my home , making the things that I really love. When opportunity arrived I did not thought it twice, I jumped right away!! and I love every minute of this life!! I LOVE BEING A HOMEMAKER and I feel very proud !!
Oh my goodness, hearing these type of stories just makes my day!:) thank you so much for sharing this!!!! Wow, how beautiful!:) ❤️ also, I absolutely love hearing from women who refuse to feel ashamed of being a homemaker, but rather, are overjoyed and proud of their career choice in the home. Thank you so much for sharing!💕 have a blessed day!:)
Stay at home moms are the backbone of society. Mom's being at home make a loving caring place where children grow up safe and secure knowing mom is right there. God created women to be a keeper at home. Titus 3
I am always so happy when young women learn this at an early age. I was always a stay at home mom and housewife and was always getting "those comments" that were meant to make me feel less than those that worked. The wives at my husband's work gatherings acted as if I must be unmotivated to work or that I must be terribly dull to put up with housekeeping. I let that bother me for years. It wasn't until my son was raised, that I FINALLY had that lightbulb moment---I had a wonderful life , and my family had a wonderful life---great food, clean and comfortable home, food raised by me organically and fresh. So--young ladies out there---if this is your passion, realize now---you are sooooooo important. Raise those kids right so that when they go out into the world , they are prepared and loved.
Being employed by God 🙏 in your calling as a homemaker is a much more grave responsibility than any wordly career. You are called for this role by God 🙏 stay strong and faithful! P.s homemaker for 21 years, Jane
I'm also a SAHM and I didn't always think I'd be one. Yes i always wanted to be married and have kids. But i didn't have a career goal. Never felt that career drive. Went to college for 7 years and got 2 associates degree yet got a job that was unrelated to my studies let alone only part time. Thinking back I know God put me to be home with my child to raise her and run the household. My husband makes enough for us to survive plus works LONG hours. Only makes sense for me to stay home. It's good to know I'm not a failure in life just cuz I'm not career oriented. I have a childhood friend from 20 years ago and i just reconnected with her a year ago. She keeps telling me to upgrade my skills/education and get a job when my toddler is older incase something happens and I'm not longer with my husband (he's the sole breadwinner). Yes God calls certain people to be doctors, nurses, hairdressers, etc. I know in my heart put me with my husband for a reason.
Home making is a wonderful career. I’ve been doing it for 30 years. The results of your hard work with your children will unfold when you see your children grow into such fine adults, that it makes you so proud, We are now empty nesters and look forward to grandchildren in time. Be proud of being a Homemaker, it’s so fine. Greetings from Australia. ❤️
This video spoke straight to my soul. I was raised with a mom who hated home making & believed that it was acomplete waste of a life. 6 years ago, I walked away from an amazing & successful career to homeschool my 4 kids & to begin homesteading. I always kept a part time job from my career… until a week ago. I chose to take time off from that to focus on home, but I’m struggling to get past hearing my mother’s voice in my head, telling me that it’s meaningless & a waste of a life. Thank you for this! ❤️❤️❤️
Love your perspective on this, You hit some really great points! I am a working mom (Nurse) and I'm trying to figure out how to stay home bc it's really on my heart to raise my own kids and really do biblical homemaking. It really is such an important job and not easy either and so many people view it as a negative thing. I love that you show the positive side of it too
I was a teacher before I had children and I would never go back. Being home with my children is God’s plan and is rewarding, fulfilling, and so so important for the growth of my children.
YES! This is the truth! You are awesome! In the end, FAMILY IS EVERYTHING! Money never buys happiness or worth. I believe that the most important job that we as women and mothers will ever have is to love and teach our children what is truly important. Wonderful video! Thank you.... Keep going girl! That quote gave me chills... TRUTH!
This is so good! I used to tell myself these were the reasons I couldn’t just stay home. I justified continuing working and continuing the path to a career because why waste the education I had?? But I was MISERABLE when I was away from my family and have found so much more purpose and peace by not fighting myself and by staying home. Being a homemaker is hard work in itself,but I’ve never done anything more important or fulfilling. I’m so glad you made this video.
I have been a Mom and a homemaker for 18 years and I have had all of these feelings and been looked down upon. I just felt it was what I needed to do for my family and just recently my oldest daughter told me she loved that I was home and that I gave her life comfort and peace by always being there. That was amazing to hear and as a homemaker you do make a huge impact on your family never doubt that. Thank you for a great video!
This channel has helped me so much, and I’m sure it’s helped many other homemakers as well. I just started homemaking, but it’s been my dream, and I’ve felt this drive to take care of a family for as long as I can remember. However, I started getting extremely insecure after people were telling me “homemaking is for lazy women.” Or “Well regular working women so the laundry and clean, and take care of kids while working a full time job as well. Why can’t you?” And it really hurt my feelings in a way..it made me feel like I wasn’t appreciated or I wasn’t important in the home. But I love having a welcoming home, being supportive and caring towards my husband, the dogs, and I want to be present more often in my children lives when we do have children. It’s just so hard trying to explain to people that I’m not lazy, and I do actually get very, very busy during the day. So, when we I get down on myself or hear another negative comment, I come here. ❤️
Awe, that makes me so happy to think that this channel could feel like an encouragement to you. ❤️❤️ I find it funny that we are so quick to say that being a nanny is a great job, worthy of good pay, and respect, and yet a woman who tends to her own children and home 24/7 is assumed to be lazy and should be “doing more.” It seems a little ridiculous if you ask me. 😂 While I’m sure juggling a career and children is rather difficult and no one says it’s not, I know many stay at home moms who are literally some of the most hard working people that I know, that probably dream of having a drive to work every morning without their kids, a break from them throughout the day, a job where they are actually acknowledged for what they have to offer, a ladder they can see progress as they work up. All that to say, don’t get discouraged. This world is so confused about what actually matters, and where true value can be found. ❤️❤️ I personally love being there to watch every moment as my children grow up, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but not because it’s in any way “easier” then a regular job, in fact it’s by far while the most fulfilling of things I’ve ever done, also most definitely the hardest. ❤️❤️ Blessings to you. And sorry for the book. 😂😂
Most women hate working. Most women don't want to work. Most women want to be homemakers and housewifes and women cannot be homemakers or housewifes until they get married, so they cannot be forced to prepare. All women don't work. Women don't have to work. They need to stop forcing women to work. Women should work only if they want to work. If they don't they cannot be shamed. Not all women have the same goals or interests in life. Most women don't want to attend college. Most women don't want to own a business. Not all women are the same. Women need to be respected. If women only want to work a few days a week or a few days per month that is okay. If other women want to work 5 days a week or every single day that is also okay. A lot of women get gaslighted at work so they hate working and they get emotionally drained, depleted and framed. I support women who don't work, don't want to work or work a few times a week. Women need to be allowed to be themselves. All women are different. Women need to be respected. If a woman wants to workout every single day and not work - then she doesnt have to work. If a woman wants to meditate and go for walks every single day - then she doesnt have to work. If a woman wants to babysit or spend time with her family - then she doesn't have to work. If a woman wants to volunteer or do charity - then she doesnt have to work. Stop forcing women to be women they dont want to be. Respect women who don't work. All women work even if they don't work. Not all women are money hungry. I do whatever I want to do with my life because it's my life and nobody can control it. I live my life however I want to live it because it's my life. If a woman wants to own a business - then to each their own. Women have to be respected. Just because a woman doesn't work that doesn't mean she is lazy or doesn't work. We need to stop shaming women.
Have 4 children ranging from 8-15. I’m out working just a few hours a week when my kids are at school. Watching this was good preparation for my heart. Age 40, and another baby’s on the way. Time to circle back around and know my seasons change, my current assignments change, but my worth, given by God alone, is consistent.
I worked until I was 25, then I became a homemaker. Now that my daughter is grown, I struggle with feeling like I have no right to be a homemaker. But then I realized that in this season of my life I'm still taking care of a home and a garden and a husband, plus aging loved ones. At times, I feel I'm busier now than when I was raising a little. Thank you for this video. It is so validating, it brought happy tears to my eyes.
I wish I could like this a thousand times! Last night I cried to my husband because I know God is calling me to work less, maybe not even at all? Im a teacher with no children so teaching makes me feel significant. I know that God is leading me into something new (homemaker, small business, caring for ailing mother?) but it feels scary. Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear.
Very very true! We dealt with infertility for 11 years and finally able to have our son. He is now 13 years old. I still get comments that I am wasting my life, wasting my degree, not contributing to being able to have the fancy house or fancy vacations, and that I "only" have one child so it doesn't really count - that my "mom" card isn't really valid b/c I only have one. It is hard. Just hard.
I stumbled upon your channel tonight and your last 3 videos have spoken life into me. I’ve been home, on and off because I often felt how you described, for the last 5 years but I always feel God pulling me back to my home with my children. I rarely had these perspectives but seeing your videos has shown me the gift and blessing it is. Thank you for making this content ❤️
Yes, let people choose for themselves. As long as they are not harming the society in any way, let people live . You do you girl, don't mind the haters. ❤️❤️
New sub. Great video. So true. Why would you choose a career where ultimately, the people there don't care about you. You are a cog in the machine. At the end of your life, will you remember that career or the loving and cherished memories of your family and children. People forget this. Being at home is the number one job. I was raised by a homemaker while my dad worked and I'm now a homemaker. I have two university degrees and never used them. Do I feel like a failure? Heck no! Being a good wife is my most important job. 😊
Women, pls remember. Men dont look into how much success a woman has. No man ever does that who wants to start a family. Women like these in the video are perfect to start a family. We dont need competition in marriage or relationships. We need compagnons in our life. Men never put women down. They struggled in life together. 'Patriarchy is bad and evil' is the biggest lie.
I'm a 44 year old SAH unschooling mama of 5 kids. I chose to drop out of college 23 years ago to dedicate my life to my family and my home. When I chose this lifestyle my family and friends told me I was wasting my life by not getting a career and that I was ruining my children's life by unschooling them. Over two decades later, NONE I mean NONE of their doom predictions have come true. I have a relationship to my children (all adults and teens now) that many parents dream about having with their kids. My teens have always been a delight and we are best friends! My adult children are thriving in their careers and lives, and my teens are confident that they can also conquer the world when they're ready to take off. There are so many wonderful things in our lives that have been a direct result of the choice I made, but I would have to write a book to talk about them all! I support all women in whatever path they chose for themselves and their families. However, I have zero regrets about my choice to be a SAH unschool mom and would do it all again with out hesitation. Take it from this veteran mama, never let the fears and ignorance of others get in the way of you doing what you know if best for your kiddos and yourself❣ I'm not religious, btw, so my choice was always mine and mine alone, and not out of religious/cultural duty. I thought it was important to make this point because us secular SAH homeschooling mamas tend to get a lot of criticism from our non-religius community. Maybe this encourages my fellow secular mamas out there to keep on doing your thing, and that you can still be still be a kick-ass feminist because it's YOUR choice. Also, we're not rich by any means, but we learned to be smart with our single income. It's possible to have a nice life on a budget!
Omg followed u!! I am a stay at home mama after living a life of hustling and grinding, always being in high roles like supervisor or manager, and had a mini social media management business. I was doing the SMM while I watched my son but I missed sooo many precious moments. Ive been now fully focused as a stay at home mama since October. A part of me feels relieved, but also lonely in this journey! This video has definitely come to me at the right time 🙏
I am not a homemaker, wife, or mother but I do struggle with feeling like a failure and what I do is not important. I work in a cafe and have done so for 5 years. Praise God he has provided for me so much in that job but I didn't finish university or any other study as it just wasn't for me. I get caught in the lie that I am stupid and will not achieve anything meaningful with my life. Thanks for posting this 💛
Everyday we are either building our dream (godly children) or building someone (corporate world) else's dream. I'm grateful to have the opportunity to care for my children and make up for lost time. Dropping them off at daycare at 6am with strangers is not loving them. I was looking fo recognition, title and Money. I was a FOOL!!
I am so glad to have come by this presentation - being a homemaker is great work does - love and respect one gets from one's family is the greatest achievement. Happy homes/families make healthy societies. You are a wise and beautiful lady.
I am so glad I stumbled upon your video!! I'm a homemaker too! 🥰 You have such a great perspective, and you explain yourself so eloquently. I LOVE our thoughts about being able to acquire SO many skills as a homemaker. That has been my favorite thing about being a stay at home wife over the last year! ❤
It is so great to meet you!!!:) thank you so much for stopping by and putting the time in to write a comment!:) I really appreciate that. Thank you very much for the compliment!:) Oh that’s so neat!:) it is so fun having more time and freedom to put into learning skills!:) Have a blessed day!:)
I very been at home for more than 30 years. I don't know how women can cram all the work I do throughout the week into a weekend. I couldn't live that kind if life. We homeschooled and did most things as a family.
I agree with you completely. I feel bad for them having really two full time jobs. That’s super neat! I was homeschooled and loved it! Definitely planning on homeschooling my children some day!:)
I sometimes struggle with insecurity even though i achieved more then most people. I wasnt treated well when i was a child. Got betrayed and used more then once. Im a homemaker too. I keep the house warm while family is out. Someone has to take care of the fort so we have somewhere to come back to.
thank you very much for sharing your perspective! You seem like a very sweet, compassionate person. Personally, I'm married but my husband and I do not plan on having children. But, that doesn't mean I can't appreciate your point of view. If I was to have kids, I would love the freedom to stay home and make a wonderful home for my family as well. Have a wonderful day! :)
Thank you so much for stopping by, as well as taking the precious time out of your day to comment. I really appreciate that and love hearing others perspectives and thoughts!:) 💕
I really appreciate your sharing your thoughts. I was home full-time for 8 years when my kids were very little. I then got a casual job working a few days a month in the medical field. It has been the best decision ever, to focus on staying at home to take care of my family! I work with many people (doctors, nurses) who have chosen careers, and I respect their dedication tremendously, but I do not want to be like them. When I hear them talk about rushing here with their kids and rushing there and living this fast-paced busy, busy life, paying someone to clean their homes and take care of their children, it makes me extremely grateful to be able to spend my life focusing on homemaking skills and making a loving home for my family. It's definitely what I feel called to do. It's really nice to find a like-minded person such as yourself who understands this. =)
Oh my goodness, I love hearing stories like this! It is so encouraging to me. Actually I was just thinking, I have yet to receive one message from a woman who chose her family over tons of career work that said that later on she regretted it. It is always the opposite as you mentioned. Wow! What a beautiful testimony! I fully agree with you. It sounds so difficult to try to juggle both full time if it’s not the lifestyle you truly, deeply desire. It is sooo wonderful meeting people like yourself who share the same view on family and homemaking! ❤️
@@BecauseitMatters thank you, it sure is nice to meet others who enjoy homemaking as well. I also homeschool my two kids. Yes, I'm very busy but I've learned to also make sure I make time to slow down and take time for myself. It also helps that we have a relaxed homeschooling approach, I think. Although no matter what style of homeschooler you are, it takes a lot of work and dedication.
I truly believe God has directed me to your videos. I really needed to hear these truths as I've been feeling so insecure about being a homemaker and have felt like I lost my identity. Thank you for being a voice of reason.
Yes!:) ❤️❤️ look for it, I know there are men who actually prefer a woman who will stay home with their children and run the household well, my husband being one of them:)
Thank you so much for this. I really needed this, my family and especially my father always told me that I was wasting my time being a homemaker. And it has only been the last 3 years that I'm learning to take pride in being a homemaker.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for those hurtful words! Way to go taking care and loving your family in this deep and impactful way, despite the criticism. 💕
My dream career is to sustain the Grateful Homemaker Lifestyle. Being a (part-time) homemaker is fulfilling, tranquil, and allows time to contemplate my life and experiences I’ve endured regarding childhood trauma. I feel most in-alignment w/ my Christianity when homemaking. I’m able to live life compared to just exist as the days briefly past. I was depressed when I had full-time employment externally from the home. Gloomily, women are taken-for-granted in the United States unrealistically competitive workforce. And let’s not mention some women who want to be “alphas” or “boss ladies” just to let men walk-over-them in hopes of fitting-in. I refuse to follow unethical trends that separate faith and life purposes. I choose to proudly God. I choose to be a good individual by following my moral compass. I truly enjoyed watching this Informative video. Thank you so much! ☺️
I definitely applaud women who want to be homemakers. There's nothing wrong with it, but it's not for everyone. I may not want to be a homemaker, but I refuse to trash those who do. It's our choice. Everyone should be free to do what they want.
Good for you. One of the most important ministries/ jobs we can have as women is to raise a godly, healthy next generation. And not get sucked into the worlds view of success. How's that working for them? Yes, I agree, creating godly, healthy marriages for stable, peaceful, thriving communities is so vital to the overall health of a country. It is sadly overlooked, or looked down upon sometimes. God first. Husband second. Children third. If more people focused on that our world would be a much better place.
What a great video!!! I hung on to every word. We got married when I was 19, I'm 29 now, and I have only just begun to see my value as a homemaker. I struggled for nearly 10 years!!!! I am so grateful for this year of my life because of this acceptance and appreciation I now have for my life. It feels so good! I have struggled with feeling judged by others and even my own mother because she would make me feel like I was taking wrongful advantage of my husband and his family, who are always there to help if we need it. It made me feel horrible and my mother's words became my inner voice about my own life. I have since developed a healthy "screw it" attitude and embrace this life. I have so much time to do the things I love like you!! I get to read, I've learned how to crochet, I've discovered that I enjoy yardwork as well, and I have been baking more recently which I love. Staying home is such a blessing!
It's mostly the feminism movement. Be a successful women get married later in life and have children later. I was just a cashier for big company. I thought I was going to stay there. Almost 4 years then everything start crumbling. 1 month after we got married. I started getting sick experience panic attacks. I quit my job. 1 month later struggling I haven't taken time to realize that this is important. We don't have children yet. We can afford it. I felt like I was a burden if I worked that met extra money. Then I thought I won't have time with my husband's we won't have days off together I wouldn't be able to cook. Finally coming to my peace this where God wants me to be. I want to get into gardening I have already learned how to cook. Still learning. Thank you for this video 💓
At 52 year old woman and stay at home mom, I am telling you that you will never regret it. You put so much of your heart into what God calls women to do.
Sweet mama, this brought tears to my eyes. My heart is pretty tired and discouraged but this gives me hope! I’m a believer & love the Lord Jesus! I’m a very young mama to two babies- 18 month old & a 2 month old. I stay at home, I have a small garden too. Just wanted to say…I think the Lord brought me this video. Thank you! ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about being a homemaker. I struggled with this issue for many years ago in the beginning of my marriage and when I had my children, and I didn’t have someone to listen these truths from against the lies that are raised with us as common sense in the society. May God bless your life!!
It is so funny how your goals change from the age of 19 to 29. As a degreed women I went from wanting to be at the top of my career to now wanting to create a beautiful home and be able to create a future where I can be there as a homemaker for my children now & when they have children. I will work on & off over the years, but I will always work with my husband to put our family 1st. 👪 It is a beautiful thing and 3 years in I am just learning how yo define success in the role as a Homemaker.
I'm really glad I found you.❤ While I'm not planning to be a stay at home mom, I really enjoy listening to you. There is so much depth and wisdom in what you are saying. Please, don't stop making videos because, just as your homemaking job, they really MATTER ! God bless you!
Oh my goodness, my day has been made. What an absolutely sweet and thoughtful comment to wake up to. Thank you so very much for stopping by as well as taking the time to write such a sweet comment!❤️
Bravo!!!! Being a homemaker rocks, I love it. I loved staying home and raising my son. I was always shocked thinking about everything parents miss while at work, even the two hours after school when kids are at a babysitters. There was so much in that time that I am so grateful for. My son is amazing and so much different than most kids his age. First thing my fourteen year old does when he comes home, he gives me a kiss and a hug. He loves being home, something I hated as a kid. My home life was miserable. He loves his home life, does he get everything he wants, not even close. We are a one income house and he has learned to know the difference between need and want. He barely ever asks for anything, I mostly get him stuff I think he would like and he appreciates everything. A computer or a game can't raise a loving, happy person, we see it everyday.
You have no idea the depths your videos, this one in particular, have touched my heart. I just celebrated my one year anniversary of being a new mama and homemaker….what a year it has been! My mama was also a homemaker and I am proud to be a 2nd generation homemaker, but I sure have had my doubts and have believed these lies at some point over the last year. Thank you for sharing your passion and heart! I’m so glad TH-cam recommended your channel to me last week. Sending you hugs!
Hello! I'm new to your channel and I'm very thankful for what you're saying. I am a homeschool mom and this is only my 2nd year, so there's many times that I have felt this this sort of embarrassment at times or felt bad about staying home and teaching my children, and even sometimes people make comments that it's not good for my children. I do struggle with insecurity at times and so this video is helping me to see more clearly that I don't need to feel bad that I'm raising my children... I'm doing what I believe God has called me to do. I need to stand by that and be proud of it.😁❤ This makes me cry because I start to believe a lie and it really gets in there...I realize I really am thankful to be home and stay with my kids, although we do have some very hard days, Lol! Thank you so much for sharing, this has meant a lot.😁👍
I understand. Isn’t it sad that in this culture and day and age, the very children that are being crafted into the next generation are viewed as not worthy of a mothers full attention, time or life? I am so thankful that this video was an encouragement to you. ❤️❤️ I understand the battle we are in, and the feelings you have struggled with. Stand strong!:) ❤️❤️
My mom wanted to stay home more with us but my dad forced her to work. I wish she had her way. I'm single but I love being a domestic, to me it's weird when women don't know how to cook or sew. I hate having to kill myself for paychecks just to keep bills off my back, I'd rather take care of things and watch them grow and thrive. I'm an artist and I want to publish graphic novels and do animation, but I also value taking care of my home a lot. I want it to be a beautiful, fun, safe and hospitable place to live.
That is so neat that you are an artist! That would be so cool if some day you could do that as your main source of income and then just tend to your home and dive into homemaking!:) ❤️❤️ I completely love it too!:)
This is beautiful x I'm a single mum,I would have loved to be a full time homemaker but i did need to work,so I chose jobs that fitted around my children. I'm chronically ill now and I'm at home but unable to be a homemaker in the way I would want to. However, my family talk about all the lovey memories we made in this home and how they appreciated me as a mum x
I work and have since a teenager. I am married with two beautiful kids. I love my job. God placed me there. But, my dream career is....to be a housewife. I respect it 1000%.
Hey, I am don’t have your experience but I feel you. I am a nurse and chased my career my whole 20s. But now I have this strong urge to prioritize my home life and husband and future children. If that means having less material things I don’t mind. I don’t need a fancy car or fancy house. I want to be my family’s whole world and make them my whole world. I noticed when I worked full time I had no energy too cook or clean or do any hobbies it was all about work work work and I don’t want that anymore.
You are awesome and doing such a valuable thing sharing this. For the last 10 years I have been taking care of my children at home here in the UK. I have always felt a heavy shame when telling people, even though I know how much love and work and attention I have put in over the years. I love what you say about living multiple lives at once, educating yourself in so many areas and being creative. I love your videos, they leave me feeling so happy
Awe, you sound like such a wonderful woman. I am so sorry you experience that same negativity! It seems to really be a whole world view now, not just here and there. Thank you for this encouraging comment! 💕
I used to prirotise what people thought of me and what was more so expected OF me. I was busy being busy outside my home, helping and maintaining ties with friends and people outside me and then I met some friends who I remember when this topic came up, we all took a deep breath because of the topic. She's a PT, we are Muslims,shes Egyptian and im Bangladesi, and she was just saying how nowadays, us women are being made to focus on everything except our homes and those who actually love us.nwere so busy with work, money, friends and so much more that we neglect those who are at the top of our priority. I'm 19 and she's 1 and told me all about her experiences. She lives with her mother and 7 brothers and 2 other sisters and always tells me that bring dutiful and in service of her family was the best thing she'd ever done. And I see it myself. We're so busy feeding our egos and what media tells us, too busy arguing between genders and whatever to acknowledge those important to us. And I've seen her relationships with her brothers and they're so close. Even when her mum went abroad, she was cooking for everyone and eventhough it was hard, as it would be for anyone, she enjoyed it. She w9uld be rewarded for it by god and she used It to learn more recipes and have more practise. And it really did encourage me that I also have it in me. I may not have 7 brothers but I have a family that I love and love me too Neither of us are married but we want to be homemakers and or work from home. It's just a lot safer and more convenient for us and within the guidelines of our religion. Recently I've started focusing more on my family. More in my house, my neighbours and cousins and aunts. It always goes up and down but I've begun cooling for myself again, I like doing things for myself and for my family. We met at university and my siblings, we are all in the same course, I used to only help my friends and I would neglect my siblings, now I'm always making sure my siblings get my help first before anyone. That if I'm to be generous and be giving with food, drinks and help, I will always prioritise my family. I remember my mum telling me that she always sees me helping my friends but my brothers not doing well and I never help him, and it did resonate with me. At the end of the day, we, men and women, have priorities firstly to our families. And I hope we as women learn more about ourselves and discover more about us and those around us. 🙏
🥹 I just watched this after watching your session for the 2023 HQ Summit (which also brought me to tears). Thank you for posting this as a reminder and encouragement for Wives and Mothers everywhere. These titles (especially when preceded with the word Christian) in and of themselves entail such a task “to be”, that we must learn how to never give place to the stigmas that carry a negative influence. Thank you and God Bless you and your family.🙏🏾🕊️
Thank you for validating this vocation. It is incredibly important and has great impact to society and can have a positive ripple effect throughout a community local and outward when it is done intentionally with love and grace, not perfection. Validation is so important when society around us tells us at times it is less than when it is not at all.
Thank you for your beautiful heartfelt message! I love homemaking but I've felt these pressures in my life as well. Thank you for reminding me that I can be everything to my family! It's sooo worth it! The growth and skills we have can't be measured.
EXACTLY 💯🥰 thank you for sharing!!! I needed this. I struggle with anxiety and depression and when depressed I start letting things slip and hoarding not to excess like buying a bunch of things but things that need to be put away just don't get put away.
I was teaching music in the public school system before having kids. But I did not love the politics of it. I loved teaching the kids, I felt like I wasn't appreciated as a music teacher either - many had the mindset of the arts don't matter, the core subjects do only. I have a private student on occasion for flute lessons but I love being home for my kids. There are days I feel I failed and there are days I feel I thrived, I take things in stride, and even on the bad days I feel so fulfilled.
Oh my goodness, I love hearing testimonies like this! It is so beautiful! I deeply admire you for following your hearts desire with raising your kids! 💕 thank you for sharing this and have a blessed day!:)
This video was so sweet! I’m in my first year staying home full time (what a year to start! Lol) It’s been a nice process to slowly step into and embody this role with pride and with an appreciation of the responsibility I carry for our family 💜
New subscriber here...I am a 63 year old mother of 4 and grandmother of 7 and counting. I was blessed to be able to be a stay at home mom. So many times during my "Mom career," I was told these lies. It was really hard sometimes. I love what you said about how we are "forming these tiny little human beings to go out and impact the world in a massive way in a way the world cannot do." You are absolutely right! Our job as a homemaker IS important. Thanks for sharing.
I 100% relate to every word you said. These are all feelings I deal with 24 his a day. I cannot find peace or happiness in my own home. I just feel like I'm useless and a complete failure. Thank you for your words. You have such a sweet spirit.
I am so sorry. Like I mentioned in this video, I have wrestled with those exact feelings in the past. Keep pushing on, and doing your best. ❤️❤️ there was a time I thought I would always feel that way, and I’m so grateful now to actually love the chance to be home, but it’s taken a while to get there.
I am so sorry. Like I mentioned in this video, I have wrestled with those exact feelings in the past. Keep pushing on, and doing your best. ❤️❤️ there was a time I thought I would always feel that way, and I’m so grateful now to actually love the chance to be home, but it’s taken a while to get there.
As a man, I need to stop at end of the work day and be quiet in the dark to let the world leak out and peace leak in, then I can go into the paradise a homemaker has made and live in beauty and joy. A homemaker makes a small world of either heaven or hell, the woman decides what life will be.
Wise. I once heard a pastor say he would not get out of his car at the end of the day, until he could go inside with a peaceful and de-stressed heart to meet his family. I thought that was brilliant.
Very well said! This is an important video for so many homemakers out there. God Bless you for making it and sharing it. Yours is the exact attitude that homemakers need to adopt and live by. I'm so glad I stumbled across your video. Thank you for making and sharing this video. You Go Girl! 💕💕💕
The only way I could see myself as a homemaker is the pregnancy took a lot out of me and, or the kids aren’t old enough to be in school. So… I could only see myself as a temporary homemaker. I really don’t want to be a long term one, I’m grateful to watch this video, and see another perspective.
I always love your videos and what you bring forth is so true. I love seeing your growth on TH-cam and the #of subscribers grow every week! Thank G.od! I am on the opposite of the spectrum as per I am in the the category “career” woman with all the letters behind my name to show my degrees but I am the most fulfilled when I am at home: creating the present and building the future with husband and children. We cannot yet live off only one Income but G.od willing we pray that soon we may and for us to be able to say, like you did, with comfort and full happiness in our hearts 💕: “mommy is a full time homemaker!” Stay safe and blessed!
Oh my goodness, it is so beautiful to hear from women like yourself!:) thank you so much for taking the time out of your (I’m sure packed day,) to comment such an encouraging comment!:) 💕 I love hearing from women who have careers, make money, and yet still testify of the fulfillment that comes from tending to the family!:) may god bless your endeavors!:) thank you again!❤️
I was not saved until Jan 2022 and before that, I was a married then divorced woman who was in the navy, succeeding, very fit, and I worked on the presidential medical unit in Maryland for the president….. all this and more I did, and I made a lot of money and just blew it… chose no kids so I could succeed. Then after I was divorced and lost and heavy and got money from good jobs on the side, I got saved…. Now, I consider it all so unimportant. I am now married and happy with my Christian husband, and I am taking care of my home and I use my Gi bill on the side to go to college for biblical studies as a teacher of God. I never wanted to stay at home. Now I am so blessed and happy to be the thing I used to hate in the season I was in. And now I am a happy wife and. Happy home maker, and a happy learner, not yet a mother but can’t wait!!❤
Beautiful! I enjoy listening to your words and wisdom. I'm a work from home mom of 4, I'm not exactly a homemaker per I work full time for an institution. At the same time I want to serve my husband and family and others. Thank you for sharing!
Awe, it is so good to hear from you!:) thank you so much for taking the time to comment!💕 how wonderful that you can work from home though, I think that is really nice!:) ❤️ thank you for your encouragement!:)
I am an economist and have two small children. I worked since I am 16 till my first child was born. I was 33 years old at that time. Since 4 years I am staying home. I get criticised from preople who know me from college and earlier that I am "throwing my talents and education" away for my family and that I am hiding "in my kitchen". These people think that I am not aware of anything. But I think that they are not aware that I have changed, that I dont have the same goals they have. Everyone is choosing their own path and I want my children to have a great childhood with love and cozyness with me being present. I can always earn money, but my children have only one childhood.
Oh my goodness, I so admire people like you who have made a real financial sacrifice to take care of your family and children!:)
I think it is quite sad that we could put down someone who has chosen the more noble decision despite how difficult it might have been, in order to do what they know is right.
I haven’t gone to college and have never been too invested in a job and honestly I am sort of thankful for that because i think it would have been much harder to leave, I hope I would have still done it though if it was the right thing for my family.
I love being here, tending to the ones I love the most every day. 💕
Thank you so much for this beautiful comment!❤️❤️
@@BecauseitMatters Thank you so much for your kind comment❣ Stepping back from my job wasnt that hard. But finding myself in my new role as a mother and someone who has to take care of a family wasnt that easy. And in my opinion creating a real home is much harder than we think. I always say it is more challenging that everything I have done before. A friend of mine who thought I am "hiding in my kitchen" just didint get that home is at the moment where my family needs me the most. We both lost our fathers at a young age. The difference is the effect that it had on us. He tries everything to get "financial security" and I try my best to make the most of the time I have with my loved ones. At the end of the day thats what matters the most❣
Omg this blessed me. Especially that last line. I’m 33. This is my second year staying home and homeschooling my oldest. I struggled at first because I felt like I needed to contribute financially. But it was God who told me to leave my job and to finally do what I desired....teach me own children.
These comments are all so great and I feel this too. Every once in awhile I feel the tug of “oh maybe I should be trying to do more with my education” (I have a masters in biology) But I can go back to it someday. My kids are only young once 💜🙏🏻 Hugs to you all!
Amen 🙌
As a teaching assistant, I cant even begin to tell you the positive impact a SAH parent has on a child. Stand strong in your conviction. 😊
Thank you! This is so good to hear!:)
I’m 25 and in school, but I do want to be a homemaker one day. I’ve had similar thoughts about how if I stayed at home, I would feel like a failure. However, the more I discover myself as a woman I’m beginning to understand the importance of being a woman. Homemaking and raising children is VALUABLE! People push a very masculine narrative on women unfortunately, and that causes them to feel less than if they aren’t acting in their masculine. Feminism has not helped either. Being a feminine woman, having children, and raising them inside of a warm home that YOU have created should not be devalued. 🏡🌸💕
Oh my goodness! I 100% agree with you! I find it so funny that by radical feminists saying there are utterly no differences between men and women, and that women need to act like men, that not only are they denying all of men’s wonderful, unique gifts and talents, but also everything that makes us women unique and beautiful, like nurture, compassion, care, deep love, etc.
Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
Innocent Question: How come you're in school if you want to be a housewife?
@@catholicfemininity2126 she may be doing it for a career to fall on if she is in a position where she might need to carry the family by herself financially.
Death or a disability. These things may happen…I say this as a housewife with absolutely no college education. As a Christian I lean on Christ for all our needs, and I do have a church family/my biological family to lean on just in case, as for the financial my husband’s job set us for life if he ever passed away. I hope to God that never happens but you can’t predict the future…
Me too, I'm seeing more and more how important it is especially because of how my life lacked that kind of maternal presence. Women like these are cornerstones of civilization.
You’re right! I was in my forties before I realized this. It was always my dream, but going against the tide can be daunting.. however nine years now and I’m healthier, happy and never regretted it! Neither has my husband.. who was afraid to say he thought so too ;) it’s to subjugation to be a wife, just look at the Bible.. Deborah, Proverbs 32, Esther, Ruth.. God never created our job to be second best❤️
My mom was an RN and when I told her my plan to be a stay at home mom, she called me an underachiever! Lol!
Years later, after my children were grown, she told me what a great mother I was.
Neither of those words moved me because I made the decision in my heart before I was ever married. I always just wanted to grow up and be a mom. I got married at 19, I told my husband, before we were married, that I would never work full time. I may work part time once the kids were grown, but I would never work full time.
This meant only one vehicle most of the time. A smaller home, no fancy vacations, and on and on. These are sacrifices I gladly made to stay home with my children. I don’t regret a second of it.
We can’t let society or even our families pressure us into something we’re not called to do.
Homemakers are vital pieces to society. We’re important and extremely valuable. Live out your purpose intentionally. Thank you for this!
I completely agree! ❤️💕 it is so wonderful to meet other women who feel the same!:)
you can see it in the numbers. birth rate, divorce rate, low marriage rate. Yes homemaking women are very important.
Every factory worker, every soldier, every STRONG role needs the inverse role as a partner.
I'm a husband and my wife stayed home and raised our kids. I wouldn't trade it for the world. It was better for all of us and I believe it made all of our lives easier. When our youngest turned 16 my wife went and got her real estate license. It was something she always wanted to do. Now the kids are grown and my wife's extra income will help boost us into retirement. Your kids are only kids for a blink. There will be plenty of time for careers later if you want one.
Oh, that is SO neat! ❤️❤️ it is so wonderful to hear from a man’s perspective. Thank you.
I couldn't agree more. Call me old-fashioned but the family unit is stronger when Mom stays home or works from home.
Raising children is THEE most important job on the planet!!!❤❤❤
I'm sick and tired from the pushback I get for becoming a homemaker. I can ignore strangers easily, however it's hurtful when it's your own family. My father was so upset I didn’t "use" my degree. He would always imply that I need to work, especially now that my kids are older. My mother was a stay at home mom until she decided to work as a cashier at boscovs. I was in high-school at the time. She probably thought she was 'helping out' by making money , however, she wasn't there for me when perhaps I needed her most. Interesting how society thinks it's only okay to stay home with a baby (and only for 6 weeks!). I changed my friendship circle and it literally dwindled to nothing at one moment. I felt secluded at first, but now I'm learning to let go.
Oh, I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this! It is so sad how little mothers who pour their heart and souls into their families are appreciated by some:(
Hi, what are some of the things you did to change your circle?
@@GodChaser448 Hello. I'm not one to cut people off, so I think my approach happened to be what both parties wanted. I think we tend to know when we're not on the same note as others. If someone can't get a clue then I usually delay my response to their calls or texts. Meeting new people is the hard part, but it helps to get out and volunteer in your community (during the day) so there is a great likelihood to run into homemakers like us.
I so relate👍
Teenagers NEED their parents as much as children do but for different help. Many parents have no idea what happens in public schools and locker rooms. They are ignorant of psychological or physical bullying. They don't see when their children are being pressured into sex or drugs. They are too busy making their bosses money rather than achieving anything lasting at work. Teens need guidance and for someone to show up at competitions and performances. People just want easy parenting (which I don't consider parenting at all at that point). Stay at home parents are valuable even in the teen stages.
I think the majority of people in society don't realize that a career does not equal success for all people, that slow living is not a failure, and that keeping a nice home/being available for your family is a huge blessing to your husband, kids and even older relatives who you may end up caring for. Something people also don't realize is that when your husband has his own unique role and you have your own unique role, your family runs much smoother from my experience than when both partners are trying to do everything all the time and splitting things 50/50. I take a lot of pride in keeping a nice home, keeping everyone's stomach full, being available for loved ones and literally creating new life! 😊 This is not valuable to corporate America or western society but it is extremely valuable to the people I care about. 😌
Oh well said! Well said! I agree with you completely!
I love how you said that a lot of people do not realize that a career does not equal success for everyone. I have thought about that a lot lately myself.
You sound like such a lovely person. Thank you for reaching out and sharing this beautiful comment! ❤️
Exactly these corporations don’t care about any of us. This dawned on me when I was grocery shopping and looking at the labels of the foods there’s so much crap that they feed us and if one person is not at home making sure the family unit is eating right and reading and all of that the cycle of slavery repeats
I agree. I think it is so gross how many unneeded additives, and strange, unknown ingredients are in almost everything these days! 😬
Never apologize for a homemaker. You are creating a comforting home and a nurturing environment for your child..
Thank you for this!❤️
I studied 2 careers (Administration, Chef). While working in the major pharmaceuticals companies, wasting my days hating that life hoping that some day I could be in my home , making the things that I really love. When opportunity arrived I did not thought it twice, I jumped right away!! and I love every minute of this life!! I LOVE BEING A HOMEMAKER and I feel very proud !!
Oh my goodness, hearing these type of stories just makes my day!:) thank you so much for sharing this!!!! Wow, how beautiful!:)
❤️ also, I absolutely love hearing from women who refuse to feel ashamed of being a homemaker, but rather, are overjoyed and proud of their career choice in the home. Thank you so much for sharing!💕 have a blessed day!:)
Stay at home moms are the backbone of society. Mom's being at home make a loving caring place where children grow up safe and secure knowing mom is right there.
God created women to be a keeper at home. Titus 3
Amen!!! I fully agree with you! ❤️
I am always so happy when young women learn this at an early age. I was always a stay at home mom and housewife and was always getting "those comments" that were meant to make me feel less than those that worked. The wives at my husband's work gatherings acted as if I must be unmotivated to work or that I must be terribly dull to put up with housekeeping. I let that bother me for years. It wasn't until my son was raised, that I FINALLY had that lightbulb moment---I had a wonderful life , and my family had a wonderful life---great food, clean and comfortable home, food raised by me organically and fresh.
So--young ladies out there---if this is your passion, realize now---you are sooooooo important. Raise those kids right so that when they go out into the world , they are prepared and loved.
So sweet! I love this! ❤️❤️
Beautiful. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
I am 12 I want to be a homemaker one day
Way to go! ❤️
Being employed by God 🙏 in your calling as a homemaker is a much more grave responsibility than any wordly career. You are called for this role by God 🙏 stay strong and faithful!
P.s homemaker for 21 years, Jane
Yes!💕 thank you so much!
I'm also a SAHM and I didn't always think I'd be one. Yes i always wanted to be married and have kids. But i didn't have a career goal. Never felt that career drive. Went to college for 7 years and got 2 associates degree yet got a job that was unrelated to my studies let alone only part time. Thinking back I know God put me to be home with my child to raise her and run the household. My husband makes enough for us to survive plus works LONG hours. Only makes sense for me to stay home. It's good to know I'm not a failure in life just cuz I'm not career oriented.
I have a childhood friend from 20 years ago and i just reconnected with her a year ago. She keeps telling me to upgrade my skills/education and get a job when my toddler is older incase something happens and I'm not longer with my husband (he's the sole breadwinner). Yes God calls certain people to be doctors, nurses, hairdressers, etc. I know in my heart put me with my husband for a reason.
Amen! I completely agree with you! ❤️
I can relate so much! ♥️
You can keep your skills updated through online classes(if you want to do that). You don't have to go outside the home!
Home making is a wonderful career. I’ve been doing it for 30 years. The results of your hard work with your children will unfold when you see your children grow into such fine adults, that it makes you so proud, We are now empty nesters and look forward to grandchildren in time. Be proud of being a Homemaker, it’s so fine. Greetings from Australia. ❤️
That is so wonderful! 💕
This video spoke straight to my soul. I was raised with a mom who hated home making & believed that it was acomplete waste of a life. 6 years ago, I walked away from an amazing & successful career to homeschool my 4 kids & to begin homesteading. I always kept a part time job from my career… until a week ago. I chose to take time off from that to focus on home, but I’m struggling to get past hearing my mother’s voice in my head, telling me that it’s meaningless & a waste of a life. Thank you for this! ❤️❤️❤️
Oh my goodness, these type of comments make me so happy! You are wonderful! Stay strong! 💕💕 and thank you so so much!:)
My mother was the same way. As much as I love her, I really ultimately feel sorry for her
Homemakers do more before noon than most people do in a day. We wear more hats than most people.
It can be a bit exhausting at times, I must confess😂😂
Yes 👌🏻
Love your perspective on this, You hit some really great points! I am a working mom (Nurse) and I'm trying to figure out how to stay home bc it's really on my heart to raise my own kids and really do biblical homemaking. It really is such an important job and not easy either and so many people view it as a negative thing. I love that you show the positive side of it too
I love hearing from other women who have experienced or desires the same things in motherhood! Thank you for your comment!:)
This was so beautiful I can hardly hold back my tears. Its so important to be around people that share the same values. This was very encouraging.
Oh my goodness, thank you so much!:) 💕
I was a teacher before I had children and I would never go back. Being home with my children is God’s plan and is rewarding, fulfilling, and so so important for the growth of my children.
That is awesome and so good to hear!:)
Me too. I taught for 8 years, the last year being 2012-13 and my mother STILL brings up how I am wasting my education and should go back to teaching.
I was a teacher as well. I still receive offers from a local private school and I always turn them down.
@@kempfreehold9450 My father does the same thing. I just ignore him.
So thankful for young homemakers like you unraveling the lies we have been told for over 50 years.
Thank you so much!:)
YES! This is the truth! You are awesome! In the end, FAMILY IS EVERYTHING! Money never buys happiness or worth. I believe that the most important job that we as women and mothers will ever have is to love and teach our children what is truly important. Wonderful video! Thank you.... Keep going girl! That quote gave me chills... TRUTH!
Oh my goodness, I completely agree with you!💕 thank you so much for sharing!:)
This is so good! I used to tell myself these were the reasons I couldn’t just stay home. I justified continuing working and continuing the path to a career because why waste the education I had?? But I was MISERABLE when I was away from my family and have found so much more purpose and peace by not fighting myself and by staying home. Being a homemaker is hard work in itself,but I’ve never done anything more important or fulfilling. I’m so glad you made this video.
Oh, this is such an awesome testimony to read! Thank you for taking the time to share it!:) ❤️
I have been a Mom and a homemaker for 18 years and I have had all of these feelings and been looked down upon. I just felt it was what I needed to do for my family and just recently my oldest daughter told me she loved that I was home and that I gave her life comfort and peace by always being there. That was amazing to hear and as a homemaker you do make a huge impact on your family never doubt that. Thank you for a great video!
Awe, that is so beautiful! 💕
This channel has helped me so much, and I’m sure it’s helped many other homemakers as well. I just started homemaking, but it’s been my dream, and I’ve felt this drive to take care of a family for as long as I can remember. However, I started getting extremely insecure after people were telling me “homemaking is for lazy women.” Or “Well regular working women so the laundry and clean, and take care of kids while working a full time job as well. Why can’t you?” And it really hurt my feelings in a way..it made me feel like I wasn’t appreciated or I wasn’t important in the home. But I love having a welcoming home, being supportive and caring towards my husband, the dogs, and I want to be present more often in my children lives when we do have children. It’s just so hard trying to explain to people that I’m not lazy, and I do actually get very, very busy during the day. So, when we I get down on myself or hear another negative comment, I come here. ❤️
Awe, that makes me so happy to think that this channel could feel like an encouragement to you. ❤️❤️
I find it funny that we are so quick to say that being a nanny is a great job, worthy of good pay, and respect, and yet a woman who tends to her own children and home 24/7 is assumed to be lazy and should be “doing more.” It seems a little ridiculous if you ask me. 😂
While I’m sure juggling a career and children is rather difficult and no one says it’s not, I know many stay at home moms who are literally some of the most hard working people that I know, that probably dream of having a drive to work every morning without their kids, a break from them throughout the day, a job where they are actually acknowledged for what they have to offer, a ladder they can see progress as they work up.
All that to say, don’t get discouraged. This world is so confused about what actually matters, and where true value can be found. ❤️❤️
I personally love being there to watch every moment as my children grow up, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but not because it’s in any way “easier” then a regular job, in fact it’s by far while the most fulfilling of things I’ve ever done, also most definitely the hardest. ❤️❤️
Blessings to you. And sorry for the book. 😂😂
Beautifully said! I too got married at a young age. No regrets. Homemaking is my passion. I love taking care of my husband and family.
Yes!!!! Love this! Getting married young is so awesome since you get to literally build a life together!:)
Most women hate working. Most women don't want to work. Most women want to be homemakers and housewifes and women cannot be homemakers or housewifes until they get married, so they cannot be forced to prepare. All women don't work. Women don't have to work. They need to stop forcing women to work. Women should work only if they want to work. If they don't they cannot be shamed. Not all women have the same goals or interests in life. Most women don't want to attend college. Most women don't want to own a business. Not all women are the same. Women need to be respected. If women only want to work a few days a week or a few days per month that is okay. If other women want to work 5 days a week or every single day that is also okay. A lot of women get gaslighted at work so they hate working and they get emotionally drained, depleted and framed. I support women who don't work, don't want to work or work a few times a week. Women need to be allowed to be themselves. All women are different. Women need to be respected. If a woman wants to workout every single day and not work - then she doesnt have to work. If a woman wants to meditate and go for walks every single day - then she doesnt have to work. If a woman wants to babysit or spend time with her family - then she doesn't have to work. If a woman wants to volunteer or do charity - then she doesnt have to work. Stop forcing women to be women they dont want to be. Respect women who don't work. All women work even if they don't work. Not all women are money hungry. I do whatever I want to do with my life because it's my life and nobody can
control it. I live my life however I want to live it because it's my life. If a woman wants to own a business - then to each their own. Women have to be respected. Just because a woman doesn't work that doesn't mean she is lazy or doesn't work. We need to stop shaming women.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I love hearing from other women!:)
Have 4 children ranging from 8-15. I’m out working just a few hours a week when my kids are at school. Watching this was good preparation for my heart. Age 40, and another baby’s on the way. Time to circle back around and know my seasons change, my current assignments change, but my worth, given by God alone, is consistent.
Wow! That is crazy!:) ❤️ so glad it was good preparation! I am honored!:)
I worked until I was 25, then I became a homemaker. Now that my daughter is grown, I struggle with feeling like I have no right to be a homemaker. But then I realized that in this season of my life I'm still taking care of a home and a garden and a husband, plus aging loved ones. At times, I feel I'm busier now than when I was raising a little. Thank you for this video. It is so validating, it brought happy tears to my eyes.
I wish I could like this a thousand times! Last night I cried to my husband because I know God is calling me to work less, maybe not even at all? Im a teacher with no children so teaching makes me feel significant. I know that God is leading me into something new (homemaker, small business, caring for ailing mother?) but it feels scary. Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear.
I am so happy to hear this. ❤️ I pray God leads you to make the right decision. :) ❤️
Very very true! We dealt with infertility for 11 years and finally able to have our son. He is now 13 years old. I still get comments that I am wasting my life, wasting my degree, not contributing to being able to have the fancy house or fancy vacations, and that I "only" have one child so it doesn't really count - that my "mom" card isn't really valid b/c I only have one. It is hard. Just hard.
I stumbled upon your channel tonight and your last 3 videos have spoken life into me. I’ve been home, on and off because I often felt how you described, for the last 5 years but I always feel God pulling me back to my home with my children. I rarely had these perspectives but seeing your videos has shown me the gift and blessing it is. Thank you for making this content ❤️
I'm so glad!❤️❤️ wow, praise the Lord. I am honored!
Yes, let people choose for themselves. As long as they are not harming the society in any way, let people live . You do you girl, don't mind the haters. ❤️❤️
I agree with you totally! Thank you! ❤️
New sub. Great video. So true. Why would you choose a career where ultimately, the people there don't care about you. You are a cog in the machine. At the end of your life, will you remember that career or the loving and cherished memories of your family and children. People forget this. Being at home is the number one job. I was raised by a homemaker while my dad worked and I'm now a homemaker. I have two university degrees and never used them. Do I feel like a failure? Heck no! Being a good wife is my most important job. 😊
Amen! 💕💕
Amen! 💕💕
Women, pls remember. Men dont look into how much success a woman has. No man ever does that who wants to start a family. Women like these in the video are perfect to start a family. We dont need competition in marriage or relationships. We need compagnons in our life. Men never put women down. They struggled in life together. 'Patriarchy is bad and evil' is the biggest lie.
Thank you!:)
Agree
I'm a 44 year old SAH unschooling mama of 5 kids. I chose to drop out of college 23 years ago to dedicate my life to my family and my home.
When I chose this lifestyle my family and friends told me I was wasting my life by not getting a career and that I was ruining my children's life by unschooling them.
Over two decades later, NONE I mean NONE of their doom predictions have come true.
I have a relationship to my children (all adults and teens now) that many parents dream about having with their kids.
My teens have always been a delight and we are best friends! My adult children are thriving in their careers and lives, and my teens are confident that they can also conquer the world when they're ready to take off.
There are so many wonderful things in our lives that have been a direct result of the choice I made, but I would have to write a book to talk about them all!
I support all women in whatever path they chose for themselves and their families. However, I have zero regrets about my choice to be a SAH unschool mom and would do it all again with out hesitation.
Take it from this veteran mama, never let the fears and ignorance of others get in the way of you doing what you know if best for your kiddos and yourself❣
I'm not religious, btw, so my choice was always mine and mine alone, and not out of religious/cultural duty. I thought it was important to make this point because us secular SAH homeschooling mamas tend to get a lot of criticism from our non-religius community. Maybe this encourages my fellow secular mamas out there to keep on doing your thing, and that you can still be still be a kick-ass feminist because it's YOUR choice.
Also, we're not rich by any means, but we learned to be smart with our single income. It's possible to have a nice life on a budget!
Omg followed u!! I am a stay at home mama after living a life of hustling and grinding, always being in high roles like supervisor or manager, and had a mini social media management business. I was doing the SMM while I watched my son but I missed sooo many precious moments. Ive been now fully focused as a stay at home mama since October. A part of me feels relieved, but also lonely in this journey! This video has definitely come to me at the right time 🙏
What l will keep in mind???I should feel PROUD of being a homemaker!!! Proud and blessed!!!!
Fabulous! I love that you added blessed. I really think being a homemaker can be such a tremendous blessing when we view it as such❤️❤️
@@BecauseitMatters I totally agree with you!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am not a homemaker, wife, or mother but I do struggle with feeling like a failure and what I do is not important. I work in a cafe and have done so for 5 years. Praise God he has provided for me so much in that job but I didn't finish university or any other study as it just wasn't for me. I get caught in the lie that I am stupid and will not achieve anything meaningful with my life. Thanks for posting this 💛
We are more than our jobs! Our actions, beliefs and our hearts matter more than what we do for a job
Everyday we are either building our dream (godly children) or building someone (corporate world) else's dream. I'm grateful to have the opportunity to care for my children and make up for lost time. Dropping them off at daycare at 6am with strangers is not loving them. I was looking fo recognition, title and Money. I was a FOOL!!
Fabulous! I fully agree with you and thank you for sharing this beautiful perspective!💕
This is so beautiful! My spirit needed this today!! I eagerly look forward to seeing more from your channel!
Oh I am so happy it was a blessing!:) thank you so very much for putting the time in to writing such a thoughtful comment!:) 💕
I am so glad to have come by this presentation - being a homemaker is great work does - love and respect one gets from one's family is the greatest achievement.
Happy homes/families make healthy societies.
You are a wise and beautiful lady.
Awe, that is beautiful!:) thank you so much! 💕
I am so glad I stumbled upon your video!! I'm a homemaker too! 🥰 You have such a great perspective, and you explain yourself so eloquently.
I LOVE our thoughts about being able to acquire SO many skills as a homemaker. That has been my favorite thing about being a stay at home wife over the last year! ❤
It is so great to meet you!!!:) thank you so much for stopping by and putting the time in to write a comment!:) I really appreciate that.
Thank you very much for the compliment!:)
Oh that’s so neat!:) it is so fun having more time and freedom to put into learning skills!:)
Have a blessed day!:)
I very been at home for more than 30 years. I don't know how women can cram all the work I do throughout the week into a weekend. I couldn't live that kind if life. We homeschooled and did most things as a family.
I agree with you completely. I feel bad for them having really two full time jobs. That’s super neat! I was homeschooled and loved it! Definitely planning on homeschooling my children some day!:)
I sometimes struggle with insecurity even though i achieved more then most people.
I wasnt treated well when i was a child.
Got betrayed and used more then once.
Im a homemaker too.
I keep the house warm while family is out.
Someone has to take care of the fort so we have somewhere to come back to.
thank you very much for sharing your perspective! You seem like a very sweet, compassionate person. Personally, I'm married but my husband and I do not plan on having children. But, that doesn't mean I can't appreciate your point of view. If I was to have kids, I would love the freedom to stay home and make a wonderful home for my family as well. Have a wonderful day! :)
Thank you so much for stopping by, as well as taking the precious time out of your day to comment. I really appreciate that and love hearing others perspectives and thoughts!:) 💕
I’m happy for you that you were able to come to this perspective.
Thank you so much for your comment!:) I am so grateful God changed my perspective. ❤️
I really appreciate your sharing your thoughts. I was home full-time for 8 years when my kids were very little. I then got a casual job working a few days a month in the medical field. It has been the best decision ever, to focus on staying at home to take care of my family! I work with many people (doctors, nurses) who have chosen careers, and I respect their dedication tremendously, but I do not want to be like them. When I hear them talk about rushing here with their kids and rushing there and living this fast-paced busy, busy life, paying someone to clean their homes and take care of their children, it makes me extremely grateful to be able to spend my life focusing on homemaking skills and making a loving home for my family. It's definitely what I feel called to do. It's really nice to find a like-minded person such as yourself who understands this. =)
Oh my goodness, I love hearing stories like this! It is so encouraging to me. Actually I was just thinking, I have yet to receive one message from a woman who chose her family over tons of career work that said that later on she regretted it. It is always the opposite as you mentioned.
Wow! What a beautiful testimony!
I fully agree with you. It sounds so difficult to try to juggle both full time if it’s not the lifestyle you truly, deeply desire.
It is sooo wonderful meeting people like yourself who share the same view on family and homemaking! ❤️
@@BecauseitMatters thank you, it sure is nice to meet others who enjoy homemaking as well. I also homeschool my two kids. Yes, I'm very busy but I've learned to also make sure I make time to slow down and take time for myself. It also helps that we have a relaxed homeschooling approach, I think. Although no matter what style of homeschooler you are, it takes a lot of work and dedication.
I truly believe God has directed me to your videos. I really needed to hear these truths as I've been feeling so insecure about being a homemaker and have felt like I lost my identity. Thank you for being a voice of reason.
Wow! Praise God!:)
I pray God puts my future husband in a good financial position so he will be able to accept my idea of SHW😍😍😍
Yes!:) ❤️❤️ look for it, I know there are men who actually prefer a woman who will stay home with their children and run the household well, my husband being one of them:)
😂😂 the last second of the video, the little one pops on screen with momma's phone! Priceless! Haha
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Thank you so much for this. I really needed this, my family and especially my father always told me that I was wasting my time being a homemaker. And it has only been the last 3 years that I'm learning to take pride in being a homemaker.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for those hurtful words! Way to go taking care and loving your family in this deep and impactful way, despite the criticism. 💕
My dad too. He expects me to be a working wife, like his mother, my grandmother was. No thanks.
My dream career is to sustain the Grateful Homemaker Lifestyle.
Being a (part-time) homemaker is fulfilling, tranquil, and allows time to contemplate my life and experiences I’ve endured regarding childhood trauma.
I feel most in-alignment w/ my Christianity when homemaking. I’m able to live life compared to just exist as the days briefly past. I was depressed when I had full-time employment externally from the home. Gloomily, women are taken-for-granted in the United States unrealistically competitive workforce. And let’s not mention some women who want to be “alphas” or “boss ladies” just to let men walk-over-them in hopes of fitting-in.
I refuse to follow unethical trends that separate faith and life purposes. I choose to proudly God. I choose to be a good individual by following my moral compass.
I truly enjoyed watching this Informative video.
Thank you so much! ☺️
So awesome to hear from you! Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
I definitely applaud women who want to be homemakers. There's nothing wrong with it, but it's not for everyone. I may not want to be a homemaker, but I refuse to trash those who do. It's our choice. Everyone should be free to do what they want.
Good for you. One of the most important ministries/ jobs we can have as women is to raise a godly, healthy next generation. And not get sucked into the worlds view of success. How's that working for them?
Yes, I agree, creating godly, healthy marriages for stable, peaceful, thriving communities is so vital to the overall health of a country. It is sadly overlooked, or looked down upon sometimes.
God first. Husband second. Children third. If more people focused on that our world would be a much better place.
Amen! I agree with you completely! 💕 thank you for this comment:)
I’ve always wanted to be a stay at home mother. I love this so much! Thank you for speaking on this!
You are so welcome!❤️
What a great video!!! I hung on to every word. We got married when I was 19, I'm 29 now, and I have only just begun to see my value as a homemaker. I struggled for nearly 10 years!!!! I am so grateful for this year of my life because of this acceptance and appreciation I now have for my life. It feels so good! I have struggled with feeling judged by others and even my own mother because she would make me feel like I was taking wrongful advantage of my husband and his family, who are always there to help if we need it. It made me feel horrible and my mother's words became my inner voice about my own life. I have since developed a healthy "screw it" attitude and embrace this life.
I have so much time to do the things I love like you!! I get to read, I've learned how to crochet, I've discovered that I enjoy yardwork as well, and I have been baking more recently which I love. Staying home is such a blessing!
It's mostly the feminism movement. Be a successful women get married later in life and have children later.
I was just a cashier for big company. I thought I was going to stay there. Almost 4 years then everything start crumbling. 1 month after we got married. I started getting sick experience panic attacks. I quit my job. 1 month later struggling I haven't taken time to realize that this is important. We don't have children yet. We can afford it. I felt like I was a burden if I worked that met extra money. Then I thought I won't have time with my husband's we won't have days off together I wouldn't be able to cook.
Finally coming to my peace this where God wants me to be.
I want to get into gardening I have already learned how to cook. Still learning.
Thank you for this video 💓
Wow I have been a wife, mother, and homemaker for 15 years and that quote brought tears to my eyes. Thank you!
It did to mine as well the first time I heard it😥 truly inspiring! 💕💕
At 52 year old woman and stay at home mom, I am telling you that you will never regret it. You put so much of your heart into what God calls women to do.
Seeing this gives me hope for my young boys . That there are still good women out there.
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Sweet mama, this brought tears to my eyes. My heart is pretty tired and discouraged but this gives me hope! I’m a believer & love the Lord Jesus! I’m a very young mama to two babies- 18 month old & a 2 month old. I stay at home, I have a small garden too. Just wanted to say…I think the Lord brought me this video. Thank you! ♥️
Awe, thank you so much!:)
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about being a homemaker. I struggled with this issue for many years ago in the beginning of my marriage and when I had my children, and I didn’t have someone to listen these truths from against the lies that are raised with us as common sense in the society. May God bless your life!!
Thank you so much!:)
It is so funny how your goals change from the age of 19 to 29. As a degreed women I went from wanting to be at the top of my career to now wanting to create a beautiful home and be able to create a future where I can be there as a homemaker for my children now & when they have children. I will work on & off over the years, but I will always work with my husband to put our family 1st. 👪 It is a beautiful thing and 3 years in I am just learning how yo define success in the role as a Homemaker.
Awe, that is so beautiful to hear! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm really glad I found you.❤
While I'm not planning to be a stay at home mom, I really enjoy listening to you. There is so much depth and wisdom in what you are saying.
Please, don't stop making videos because, just as your homemaking job, they really MATTER !
God bless you!
Oh my goodness, my day has been made. What an absolutely sweet and thoughtful comment to wake up to. Thank you so very much for stopping by as well as taking the time to write such a sweet comment!❤️
As a woman, I’ve heard people complain that society devalues homemakers, but I’ve never actually heard anyone devalue homemakers.
Bravo!!!! Being a homemaker rocks, I love it. I loved staying home and raising my son. I was always shocked thinking about everything parents miss while at work, even the two hours after school when kids are at a babysitters. There was so much in that time that I am so grateful for. My son is amazing and so much different than most kids his age. First thing my fourteen year old does when he comes home, he gives me a kiss and a hug. He loves being home, something I hated as a kid. My home life was miserable. He loves his home life, does he get everything he wants, not even close. We are a one income house and he has learned to know the difference between need and want. He barely ever asks for anything, I mostly get him stuff I think he would like and he appreciates everything. A computer or a game can't raise a loving, happy person, we see it everyday.
You have no idea the depths your videos, this one in particular, have touched my heart. I just celebrated my one year anniversary of being a new mama and homemaker….what a year it has been! My mama was also a homemaker and I am proud to be a 2nd generation homemaker, but I sure have had my doubts and have believed these lies at some point over the last year. Thank you for sharing your passion and heart! I’m so glad TH-cam recommended your channel to me last week. Sending you hugs!
Oh my goodness, my day has been made!❤️❤️
SAHM of 4 and this is just what I needed to hear today, thank you for your beautiful channel ❤️
So happy to hear this! ❤️
Hello! I'm new to your channel and I'm very thankful for what you're saying. I am a homeschool mom and this is only my 2nd year, so there's many times that I have felt this this sort of embarrassment at times or felt bad about staying home and teaching my children, and even sometimes people make comments that it's not good for my children. I do struggle with insecurity at times and so this video is helping me to see more clearly that I don't need to feel bad that I'm raising my children... I'm doing what I believe God has called me to do. I need to stand by that and be proud of it.😁❤ This makes me cry because I start to believe a lie and it really gets in there...I realize I really am thankful to be home and stay with my kids, although we do have some very hard days, Lol! Thank you so much for sharing, this has meant a lot.😁👍
I understand. Isn’t it sad that in this culture and day and age, the very children that are being crafted into the next generation are viewed as not worthy of a mothers full attention, time or life?
I am so thankful that this video was an encouragement to you. ❤️❤️ I understand the battle we are in, and the feelings you have struggled with.
Stand strong!:) ❤️❤️
@@BecauseitMatters thank you so much!😊
A wise woman builds her home
Because it is the basis of all society ✨
So good!:)
My mom wanted to stay home more with us but my dad forced her to work. I wish she had her way. I'm single but I love being a domestic, to me it's weird when women don't know how to cook or sew. I hate having to kill myself for paychecks just to keep bills off my back, I'd rather take care of things and watch them grow and thrive. I'm an artist and I want to publish graphic novels and do animation, but I also value taking care of my home a lot. I want it to be a beautiful, fun, safe and hospitable place to live.
That is so neat that you are an artist! That would be so cool if some day you could do that as your main source of income and then just tend to your home and dive into homemaking!:) ❤️❤️ I completely love it too!:)
This is beautiful x I'm a single mum,I would have loved to be a full time homemaker but i did need to work,so I chose jobs that fitted around my children. I'm chronically ill now and I'm at home but unable to be a homemaker in the way I would want to.
However, my family talk about all the lovey memories we made in this home and how they appreciated me as a mum x
Oh my goodness, sounds like you have it very hard. I am so sorry. But that is so sweet that your children speak so highly of your home! ❤️❤️
I needed this video more than you can even imagine, thank you for your words!
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for this comment! I am so happy it was encouraging!!!💕
I work and have since a teenager. I am married with two beautiful kids. I love my job. God placed me there. But, my dream career is....to be a housewife. I respect it 1000%.
That is so awesome! 💕
Hey, I am don’t have your experience but I feel you. I am a nurse and chased my career my whole 20s. But now I have this strong urge to prioritize my home life and husband and future children. If that means having less material things I don’t mind. I don’t need a fancy car or fancy house. I want to be my family’s whole world and make them my whole world. I noticed when I worked full time I had no energy too cook or clean or do any hobbies it was all about work work work and I don’t want that anymore.
Awe, I love this! I wholeheartedly agree. It’s not about the material stuff! ❤️
@@BecauseitMatters 💕
You are awesome and doing such a valuable thing sharing this. For the last 10 years I have been taking care of my children at home here in the UK. I have always felt a heavy shame when telling people, even though I know how much love and work and attention I have put in over the years. I love what you say about living multiple lives at once, educating yourself in so many areas and being creative. I love your videos, they leave me feeling so happy
Awe, you sound like such a wonderful woman. I am so sorry you experience that same negativity! It seems to really be a whole world view now, not just here and there. Thank you for this encouraging comment! 💕
I used to prirotise what people thought of me and what was more so expected OF me. I was busy being busy outside my home, helping and maintaining ties with friends and people outside me and then I met some friends who I remember when this topic came up, we all took a deep breath because of the topic. She's a PT, we are Muslims,shes Egyptian and im Bangladesi, and she was just saying how nowadays, us women are being made to focus on everything except our homes and those who actually love us.nwere so busy with work, money, friends and so much more that we neglect those who are at the top of our priority. I'm 19 and she's 1 and told me all about her experiences.
She lives with her mother and 7 brothers and 2 other sisters and always tells me that bring dutiful and in service of her family was the best thing she'd ever done. And I see it myself. We're so busy feeding our egos and what media tells us, too busy arguing between genders and whatever to acknowledge those important to us. And I've seen her relationships with her brothers and they're so close. Even when her mum went abroad, she was cooking for everyone and eventhough it was hard, as it would be for anyone, she enjoyed it. She w9uld be rewarded for it by god and she used It to learn more recipes and have more practise. And it really did encourage me that I also have it in me. I may not have 7 brothers but I have a family that I love and love me too
Neither of us are married but we want to be homemakers and or work from home. It's just a lot safer and more convenient for us and within the guidelines of our religion. Recently I've started focusing more on my family. More in my house, my neighbours and cousins and aunts. It always goes up and down but I've begun cooling for myself again, I like doing things for myself and for my family. We met at university and my siblings, we are all in the same course, I used to only help my friends and I would neglect my siblings, now I'm always making sure my siblings get my help first before anyone. That if I'm to be generous and be giving with food, drinks and help, I will always prioritise my family. I remember my mum telling me that she always sees me helping my friends but my brothers not doing well and I never help him, and it did resonate with me.
At the end of the day, we, men and women, have priorities firstly to our families. And I hope we as women learn more about ourselves and discover more about us and those around us. 🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes, I love the thought of putting our family first. ❤️
🥹 I just watched this after watching your session for the 2023 HQ Summit (which also brought me to tears). Thank you for posting this as a reminder and encouragement for Wives and Mothers everywhere. These titles (especially when preceded with the word Christian) in and of themselves entail such a task “to be”, that we must learn how to never give place to the stigmas that carry a negative influence. Thank you and God Bless you and your family.🙏🏾🕊️
Thank you for validating this vocation. It is incredibly important and has great impact to society and can have a positive ripple effect throughout a community local and outward when it is done intentionally with love and grace, not perfection. Validation is so important when society around us tells us at times it is less than when it is not at all.
I completely agree with you!:) thank you for sharing this! 💕
Thank you for your beautiful heartfelt message! I love homemaking but I've felt these pressures in my life as well. Thank you for reminding me that I can be everything to my family! It's sooo worth it! The growth and skills we have can't be measured.
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EXACTLY 💯🥰 thank you for sharing!!! I needed this. I struggle with anxiety and depression and when depressed I start letting things slip and hoarding not to excess like buying a bunch of things but things that need to be put away just don't get put away.
Thank you for your comment. ❤️
I was teaching music in the public school system before having kids. But I did not love the politics of it. I loved teaching the kids, I felt like I wasn't appreciated as a music teacher either - many had the mindset of the arts don't matter, the core subjects do only. I have a private student on occasion for flute lessons but I love being home for my kids. There are days I feel I failed and there are days I feel I thrived, I take things in stride, and even on the bad days I feel so fulfilled.
Oh my goodness, I love hearing testimonies like this! It is so beautiful! I deeply admire you for following your hearts desire with raising your kids! 💕 thank you for sharing this and have a blessed day!:)
This video was so sweet! I’m in my first year staying home full time (what a year to start! Lol) It’s been a nice process to slowly step into and embody this role with pride and with an appreciation of the responsibility I carry for our family 💜
Oh that is so neat! Congratulations!:) 💕
Thank you for sharing your heart🙏 I believe many of us as homemakers forget how beautiful our positions are! I needed this reminder today🙏
Awe, thank you so much!:)
New subscriber here...I am a 63 year old mother of 4 and grandmother of 7 and counting. I was blessed to be able to be a stay at home mom. So many times during my "Mom career," I was told these lies. It was really hard sometimes. I love what you said about how we are "forming these tiny little human beings to go out and impact the world in a massive way in a way the world cannot do." You are absolutely right! Our job as a homemaker IS important. Thanks for sharing.
Welcome here!:) thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
I've been a SAH homeschool mom and homemaker for 14 years so far, no regrets.
I literally took out my note book for this! Thank you so very much for this amazing video loved every minute of watching
Oh my goodness, this comment makes me so happy!:) 💕
Your video made me cry. Thank you!
I'm so glad!❤️❤️
You have a goldmine video. As a mom to three. Who is exhausted most days. I needed this! Thank you!
Oh my goodness, thank you so much!:)
At 6:00.. I needed to hear this so bad. I'm literally crying!! Thank you for this video.
Awe, thank you!:)
I 100% relate to every word you said. These are all feelings I deal with 24 his a day. I cannot find peace or happiness in my own home. I just feel like I'm useless and a complete failure. Thank you for your words. You have such a sweet spirit.
I am so sorry. Like I mentioned in this video, I have wrestled with those exact feelings in the past. Keep pushing on, and doing your best. ❤️❤️ there was a time I thought I would always feel that way, and I’m so grateful now to actually love the chance to be home, but it’s taken a while to get there.
I am so sorry. Like I mentioned in this video, I have wrestled with those exact feelings in the past. Keep pushing on, and doing your best. ❤️❤️ there was a time I thought I would always feel that way, and I’m so grateful now to actually love the chance to be home, but it’s taken a while to get there.
As a man, I need to stop at end of the work day and be quiet in the dark to let the world leak out and peace leak in, then I can go into the paradise a homemaker has made and live in beauty and joy. A homemaker makes a small world of either heaven or hell, the woman decides what life will be.
Wise. I once heard a pastor say he would not get out of his car at the end of the day, until he could go inside with a peaceful and de-stressed heart to meet his family. I thought that was brilliant.
Very well said! This is an important video for so many homemakers out there. God Bless you for making it and sharing it. Yours is the exact attitude that homemakers need to adopt and live by. I'm so glad I stumbled across your video. Thank you for making and sharing this video. You Go Girl! 💕💕💕
Thank you so much! 💕
The only way I could see myself as a homemaker is the pregnancy took a lot out of me and, or the kids aren’t old enough to be in school. So… I could only see myself as a temporary homemaker. I really don’t want to be a long term one, I’m grateful to watch this video, and see another perspective.
I always love your videos and what you bring forth is so true. I love seeing your growth on TH-cam and the #of subscribers grow every week! Thank G.od!
I am on the opposite of the spectrum as per I am in the the category “career” woman with all the letters behind my name to show my degrees but I am the most fulfilled when I am at home: creating the present and building the future with husband and children.
We cannot yet live off only one Income but G.od willing we pray that soon we may and for us to be able to say, like you did, with comfort and full happiness in
our hearts 💕: “mommy is a full time homemaker!” Stay safe and blessed!
Oh my goodness, it is so beautiful to hear from women like yourself!:) thank you so much for taking the time out of your (I’m sure packed day,) to comment such an encouraging comment!:) 💕
I love hearing from women who have careers, make money, and yet still testify of the fulfillment that comes from tending to the family!:) may god bless your endeavors!:) thank you again!❤️
I was not saved until Jan 2022 and before that, I was a married then divorced woman who was in the navy, succeeding, very fit, and I worked on the presidential medical unit in Maryland for the president….. all this and more I did, and I made a lot of money and just blew it… chose no kids so I could succeed. Then after I was divorced and lost and heavy and got money from good jobs on the side, I got saved….
Now, I consider it all so unimportant. I am now married and happy with my Christian husband, and I am taking care of my home and I use my Gi bill on the side to go to college for biblical studies as a teacher of God.
I never wanted to stay at home. Now I am so blessed and happy to be the thing I used to hate in the season I was in. And now I am a happy wife and. Happy home maker, and a happy learner, not yet a mother but can’t wait!!❤
Beautiful! I enjoy listening to your words and wisdom. I'm a work from home mom of 4, I'm not exactly a homemaker per I work full time for an institution. At the same time I want to serve my husband and family and others. Thank you for sharing!
Awe, it is so good to hear from you!:) thank you so much for taking the time to comment!💕 how wonderful that you can work from home though, I think that is really nice!:) ❤️ thank you for your encouragement!:)