Cutting people off isn't easy especially if they've been in your life for a long time. Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some for a season. Knowing what you're expecting and/or looking for in whatever ship you want to be in and holding yourself to that is a symbol of growth. So don't feel bad for cutting people off or hurting their feelings. This may seem weird but this is also why I say that hard times are needed to know who's got your back. Being the strong friend doesn't mean you don't need or want help sometimes you just don't know how or want to ask for it. Being the strong one in the family and friendships I have a lot to say about this topic but I'll end it here.
I like listening to this video. You don't need to eat on the video for it to be good. We don't hear enough about friendship. Thank you for sharing this video.
Facts. My best friend passed away due to cancer last year. She was the most loyal friend I ever had never had to question her. Now I don't have any real friends. Well, I do but I don't. She was one that should have been a lifetime.
@TrVlogs82 I'm so sorry for your loss🤍. It hits harder when the person that passed away was the one you could count on whenever and wherever. I hope you keep her memories alive by talking about her and remembering the good times you had. I get you with the having friends but not really...This is the reason why my circle is small. What bothers me the most is that I've noticed that almost everyone has lost someone due to cancer😫.I lost my mother in law from my last relationship due to cancer. Hardest part was that I was the one who took her to the hospital for the last time😣
I broke up with a friend of 10+ years for similar reasons. I had lost my mom, who was my best friend. I’m similar to you where I tend to be the caregiver and show up for my friends even if it’s detrimental to me. When I lost her I realize I didn’t have that kind of support I gave, even from family and it took me 2 years to realize what I wanted out of my relationships with others.
@ruth.monique I definitely agree. It's too bad it took me a long time to figure this out. That I matter led to and that I don't have to be strong all the time, and it's Not okay that my so-called friends don't understand how I'm feeling and don't want to understand. I learned that this was a step of ascension, and no one on my boat could go with me. And that it's time to make new friends for this new chapter, but for now, spend some alone time to self-reflection. Figured out who I am to put myself in a better spot. To meet new people who will meet my expectations and more. Like my Daddy used to say, don't be Bitter, be Better. RiP Daddy.✨️😏🌹
@@SageOfTruth1111 I don't know you but I'm soo proud of you👏🏾😊. Enjoy this new phase in your life and figure out what you want before you meet new people and what your boundaries are. Whenever there are hard times or you start putting yourself first, you'll notice who your real friends are. I also cut off someone I saw as my best friend on Christmas🙈. She wasn't there for me as I needed her to be and her reason for that wasn't good enough. I figured she wasn't meant to be on this new path with me. Do I miss her yes, but I love myself more
Hey Ruth, thanks! I know it's tough, but things do get better. Just take it one day at a time, and trust me, they always try to come back. That'll help you see it was their loss, not yours.❤️
When we realize that the friendship no longer serves us it's a tough to come to terms with because you weren't expecting it to be that friendship or that person. Real friends choose to show up for each other in whatever form it maybe because they choose you as their friend and want to be in your life and vice versa! I'm liking these videos where you just speak what's on your mind you're definitely resonating with a lot of us 🤍👌🏾
This whole video resonated with me. Friend and family breakups aren’t talked about enough. If we are at one point aligned, then grow in different directions, that doesn’t necessarily make anyone a bad person. We are now different people that are no longer aligned. I think it perfectly healthy to surround yourself with people whom you align with most and to stop feeding relationships that no longer feed you. LOVE THOSE PEOPLE FROM AFAR.
So sorry for your loss. It’s crazy how you feel after realizing those you pour into naturally, don’t necessarily pour back into you and usually don’t show up for you once your cup needs filling. Loving from afar is what’s best sometimes. Got to love life and the way it flows 😅 Cheers to taking this as a lesson and moving forward with intention and grace.
This came at the perfect time! Just experienced a friendship loss of 15 years and one of 7 years. It seems like with growth we no longer tolerate things we may not have seen before. The old version of ourselves attracted those types of people but with growth we’re no longer a vibrational match and they vibrate out of our lives! Lately I’ve decided I only want quality friendships.
Everything you said was spot on. I think in life people and things are supposed to change and evolve and if you’re not changing and you’re not evolving then maybe you’re not allowing yourself the opportunity to improve. I’ve had many friendships that have ended, and a lot of it was due to miscommunication. A lot of it was because we were just on different wavelengths in different times in our lives and some of the friendships ended for a period of time in my life only to be reestablished later on because we allowed ourselves opportunity to grow and mature and I think that’s healthy. Sometimes it’s good to allow yourself to have space in order to see things differently later on. Good for you for working on yourself and knowing your worth 👏🏾
I “lost” my best friend after my wedding for what felt like was simply a difference in perspectives. It was by far, my hardest “breakup” I’d ever had. It was like falling out with a sister, someone I thought for sure I would be friends with until one of us took our last breaths. So, I feel you. Friendship breakups are soooo hard. I wish you nothing but the best, growth, love and true peace. Also, the same for them. ✌🏾🧘🏾♀️
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friendships while in grief of the loss of your dear father. My mother and step-father died in November in a very traumatic way. The grief has been all encompassing, and the secondary losses/changes in friendships just stack on top. We really don't know how to show up for grief in this society. The more folks that have been through it and talk about it, the more we have the opportunity to collectively do better. So thank you, truly. Wishing you all the support in the world as you continue navigating your grief and healing.
You raised so many salient points. Thank you. Two things, I unfortunately learned late in life are: there are no mistakes just lessons to be learned and people come into your life for a reason or a season. At the end of the day, do you. You'll be so much happier.
Ty for posting this Amber! It makes us feel less alone. I lost my dad and I lost my friends due to grief. I felt like I was losing everyone bc I wasn’t completely “on”. I appreciate the reminder to hang in there and it gets better ❤
The reason I’ll follow your content anywhere you go is because you’re always so genuine, a natural born leader. Sometimes that means you’re ahead of the curve and it feels like you have to overexplain yourself to receive care or assist your friends in catching up. You deserve to be seen and supported by people who practice living an authentic vibrant life. Much love.
Discovered you today! Saw the timeline of your videos and noticed the inactivity from last year and was scared I was "too late"! But I might have just arrived on a new journey of yours! Love this perspective around friendships and relationships and I share them as well! Looking forward to future videos!!!
Thank you for sharing this with us. I've been watching my girlfriend go through this for the past handful of years and it's heartbreaking... It's definitely challenging to connect with others who are actively pouring love into their own lives. I bet in another dimension you and I are friends! You definitely seem to be my kind of people 😊
I don’t comment on videos a lot, but I couldn’t help but comment on this. Thank you so much for putting this out Amber. I think you might be living in my brain, because I literally have been having the same thought going on in my brain for the last couple of months that you have expressed in this video- i.e. losing my mom to cancer and the very few friends I have kind of dropping off on me. Thank you again for making me not feel alone. 🙏
Hugs amber ❤ this could not be more timely for me too. Being on top of your game doesnt mean your friends should leave you floundering when your down. If you generate, and regenerate, giving that extra away for free when others arnt regenerating themselves and sharing their spares and their vibrancy gets tiring.. its only natural to want to be alongside others who also regenerate, who also have a bit of quiet or put effort in.. Admiration doesnt make a true friendship.. friendship is based on give and take.. it can be gently alongside, with not much exchanged, but thats still reciprocal.. and it must be showing up for more in the hard moments too! Which are actually usually hard phases, not just one bad day, til we grow through it again. When learning curves happen there are often wobbles, its not about being perfect or smooth all the time, its about people who have faith in each other, and being there throughout all of that with trust and belief in each other. Im so lucky at times Ive had this in whole circles of friends, as a subculture.. at other times only one or a few.. people move, travel, take new jobs, have kids, bust ups happen with couples, and friendships, and its only natural that friendships and who we spend time with and how circles work evolves. Sometimes loving people from afar is just the right way to do it. I dont use tiktok.. to be honest I never would have got the eating thing, til lve gone through this massive injury and been at home alot.. I hate eating alone. Ive always lived with people and shared food, it seems rude not to share, but I think a lot of folks are tired, or dont want to munch while theyre on the phone to a friend, sometimes its just easier to listen, so I guess you get to be peoples parasocial pal 😊 its kind of nice! Didnt they say last year that loneliness is at epidemic proportions in the usa? I think you do a lot about that, showing kindness, integrity, doing your thing, encouraging others. Im sure your not perfect because nobody is, I like when youve explained your shortcomings too or really shown how you struggle and learn at times, but always without disrespect, and I really notice the same with how you respect others also.. so thats life skills, in a time of loneliness, some people just dont know how to be a good friend, to others or how to speak with themselves either! Maybe you can share some more about that. ❤ Take care amber, Im dreading the day my dad dies, I try to make the most with him all the time ❤
Can I say som'n real quick, Not everyone needs to be present in your future blessing,( speaking about friends),and sometimes we want to cling on people that have served their purpose in our lives because we got comfortable with them. If you can look at it as som'n that needs to shed for you to be ready for the great things that are going to happen in your future( and better trust they will),you will understand a bit why they had to go. I lost my parents 10 years apart,my mom being the most recent,and it's a lot of people that had to go,my stepdad included. And because I didn't want to let him go, som'n just happened and I got hurt and THEN I realised he had to go. And nooow?? Omd life is soooo good. I'm living an answered prayer frfr. What I'm trying to say is,just like you outgrow some beliefs,you can outgrow people too and see things through cleaner lenses,it's a blessing. ❤❤❤❤,watch yourself making it through this
Great vlog Amber losing a parent is so so hard I lost my dad 11yrs ago and I get my days but not as bad always good to talk about it and things in general and your right I only put in now what I get bk from people ❤❤
It’s never easy to end a friendship. It’s experiencing a sense of loss and you grieve that as well. Strong friends are usually last on everyone’s list. I’m glad you’re doing better. 🤗 thanks as always for your transparency.
I resonate so much with what you said. Like you, Im also a caretaker. Im actually grieving a friendship break up I went through 8 months ago. I was friends with this person for almost 7 years. But during our last 4 years of our friendship she developed this toxic cycle where she would confront me about shit that wasn’t my fault, mostly when she didn’t get the attention she expected from me. It also got to a point where I was basically her emotional punching bag whenever she went through extreme stress. She basically projected her insecurities on me. Plus, although she tried to be there for me during my toughest times, she didn’t know how to give me the emotional support I needed from a friend. She became too self absorbed to understand that. Towards the end I realized that she didn’t trust me and Id lost all respect for her, plus she lacked the emotional intelligence needed to foster healthy relationships. She was no longer good for me and I knew I deserved better from a friend. Now Im at a point where I want friends who are on the same level as me by working on themselves spiritually and emotionally so we’re able to show up for each other the way we deserve. I want friends I can grow with. Cutting her off was one of the toughest decisions I’ve made in my life but it was necessary for my mental wellbeing. If that’s not self love, idk what is.
Amber, so much love to you!!!! Not sure if you're currently doing therapy, but either way, you are doing THE WORK and it shows. Kudos to you for having enough love to look after yourself as well as an awareness of those around you, and how to move within that. I've been where you are, having lost my mom & some friends here & there but you're seeing the lessons in all of it and growing. Cheers mama!! ❤
Amber, I think that you are such a beautiful person. I really resonate with your realization of wanting friends who support you in pouring into yourself. I am feeling you. Not everyone can hang with grief or depression. I am just glad that you are being true to yourself and that you are getting the support you need. Take care of you. Much love.
Hey Amber. Grief is extremely difficult and emotional. Work on yourself and communicate with those friends about what you need. Not communicating can lead to misunderstandings. Stay strong and positive
My heart goes out to you. I've also been cutting ties whenever I realize others can't pull the same weight I am. It's good to see other human beings being authentic to their true needs.
I felt thud because I am going through grief of friendships right now & I'm not angry at all we've just outgrown one another. I know the loss of your Dad was devastating & it also revealed some things too, I'm glad you're realizing & navigating through this 🌞
Welcome to a new chapter in your life. I "brokeup" with a longtime best friend like almost 3 years ago and at first it was hard, but it really made me a better person. Sometimes you need disrespect to finally understand how you want to be respected. You'll come across many acquaintances and friendships in the most unlikely of places, just keep an open mind and practice discernment. Good luck to you amber in your journey 🙏🏽
Girllll you are preaching to the whole choir. When I stepped All the way back NO one showed up. They get so used to us handling it all and being strong. We are always thinking in 360 and always looking out for others but what about us? I made it my priority this year to be for ME. I had to drop friends, family it didn't matter. I need reciprocal energy on all levels. And I had folks trying to check me for their gaslighted and breadcrumbing friendship ways. So I was like bet, I'm meeting people where their at and pouring so much into me that I overflow unto them. ❤❤❤❤❤
I lost my mom and I went through the same thing. It was hard I too was that friend that was always good and reached out to friends first. It was a gradual transition but when I tell you I’m glad I got to see who was really real and who is fake. I always put others first and was thought 💭 of last. But it is good because people make time for what’s important to them. Thanks for sharing this with us and just know you are never alone 😊❤
Loving with an open hand is best…have people sit in the palm of your hand and have them fly off when they need to, but you are also able to love them from afar, set boundaries. Love to see you being happy and at your best🎉
Thank you for talking about this. I recently realized my best friendship of 15 years is over. Something I never expected. So this helps pull me from my denial and realize it needs to happen. Also, I hope your days get easier as time passes; losing a parent must be difficult. ❤
Thank you so much for making this video. My best friend and I broke up last year and it hurt more than my romantic relationships, I never expected my friend not to be there for me, I felt like I didn’t know her. I had to learn how to love her from a far and figure out what’s best for me. It feels really good knowing I’m not the only one going through this.
Amber I’m so glad you had the strength to make this video. I been in a real dilemma I need some advice. Someone I consider my blood lost their mom. I been there as best as I can, to love on them and support them. By that I mean cooking meals, trying to be there emotionally, not putting any pressure on them to do anything just showing support to let them grieve. Show them that I am here for them, and their response to me is anger, and aggression. It’s pushing me away but I have kept trying. But I noticed other people around them aren’t getting the same response that I am getting. And I feel disrespected and unappreciated and honestly like they been harboring feelings of just not liking my ass at all. Side note on top of the fifth of vodka this person has per day the it’s becoming to much for me. Is this me being selfish? Or not being understanding? Or am I right to go with my gut something is not right and leave this person alone to grieve how they need to in peace since it seems they have a problem with me and we are not as close as I thought we were? Please help me!
I love the idea of a grieving video. I feel the years I lost my grandparents I grieved in the most beautiful way but it still hits at time and I know that’s not the experience for a lot of people but I would love to hear your story and maybe we can share
I'm sorry that you're going through this amber, I've been subscribed to you for like 2 years now, you are very beautiful on the inside and out and I'm going through this now so many friends I've lost but it's ok I've been finding good people and also I've been reconnecting with my good friends that really love me and that listen and care about me 💖
I went through a friendship break up a couple years ago. I was going through a lot and I had always been the friend who took care of everyone but when it was time for them to take care of me they weren't there. Then friends who did are still in my life now and I am so thankful for them.
Hello Amber, again, I'm so sorry for the lost if your dad, Rest Easy King🌹. About friendships, sometimes you have to love from a distance and sometimes you have to walk away from what you thought was a friendship. Great video Commissioner. Thank you for sharing 🌈🍁
I can relate, I went through the same thing and when you step back and pay attention it’s heartbreaking but at least you can see it and move out of the way. When I did that and opened up to new experiences and people I was much more happier. Sometimes you just grow apart and that’s ok. I really enjoy your cooking ! Would love to see more here on TH-cam I stopped using tiktok because it changed so much 😢
I am also the "strong friend" and woof that can really suck when YOU are the one that needs someone. I try and remind others that "strong" people are that way for a lot of reasons, usually ones that are traumatic. We have had to learn to keep shit together, even when everything is falling apart. When we do ask for help.....we need it.
Hang in there. The close friendship I had for over 20 years became strained after my Moms death. I think the death of a parent changes you and you outgrow people.
The same happened to me during depression. It's complicated and I don't fault anyone, and tbh it was challenging for me to accept/receive help or support. If anything, I hope they know I'm sorry too. I can no longer give like I used to, I had to accept that as my reality and adjust my relationships accordingly. I'm now dating a kind and patient woman who is also in therapy and supports me prioritizing my self care, like I do for her. It's honestly the nicest thing you can do for anyone.
Sometimes you don’t know what your friend is in need of, but you know they are going through something. I will always go to ”I don’t know what you need in this moment and from me, but I’m here and will continue to be here”. Some will need some space, some will need to have you closer for a while, some just want to cook a meal with you, some wish you will cook a few meals for them, some wants flowers, some wants a hug, some wants a mix of the things mentioned. We don’t need to know what someone wants, but asking what they need is crucial. To show up is crucisl. To stand by your word is crucial. I think also many of us haven’t enough practice of sharing our desires/needs and get disappointed when people don’t just understand our need/s. We all have different frameworks and similar to love languages our needs during grief will show up in different ways. How we make sure to show up when we see someone is going through something, based off of what we want/wish outselves would be done by others. This might be something that someone else is not at all in need of because they have a different way of wishing to be soothed in. Always have grace when people ask of your need (a general you). Take the ask as ”they want to show up for me”, instead of ”they don’t know how to care for me”. It’s also important to ask what someone needs and not assume it will be awkward if you ask. Never assume someone automatically want to be alone in their grief. That usually stems from fear of rejection or feeling vulnersble to go for that one. Always ask and make sure to show up so you don’t leave your friend hanging. Some friends just want company and sit in silence, but feel they are not alone.
I’ve been there. I had to end friendship with a friend after a 27 year friendship. I had to realize that the friendship was more exhausting than anything. I started minimizing phone calls, text messages, and realized the other person “felt concerned”. In reality, I reduced the amount of access the person had to me and never looked back
When you get older, you understand this happens and what feels like a break up later in life you’ll have a reunion cus you’re grow, change and gain clearer perspective. Everything as it should be always, no matter what.
I love this for you Amber! Like you I lost my father in April of 2024. And I am still trying to figure me and family ,friends,etc. This is where I have to exercise my LET THEM THEORY! I"'m better today and everyday is a beautiful blessing and opportunity to allow mindful and meaningful relationships with mutual respect 😘😇
It happened to me too. I was the strongest, the one who was always there when they needed, the one who could take a flight or drive thousand of miles to comfort them. But the day I was depressed, nobody was there. For them, I couldn’t be so weak. It was hard, cause they were my only family.
Also, yes, eating videos are always good. Lots of us eat alone and it's nice watch our favorite YT personalities eat, it's like sharing a meal with a friend.
I don’t often catch your yt videos I just happened to be on here watching some yt series’s randomly and seen this. I want to say that in your late 20’s-30’s I feel we really start to reevaluate what the word friendship means and entails for us individually. I have gone through the process of loving friends from afar and excepting that we aren’t on the same path. I have also come to find that the friends that I have and can pour into are there for me but also that there are times they (or I) have full cups and aren’t able to really let someone pour into. Real friendship will stand these test and come out the other end. Time tells who your real friendship means are. And sometimes there only friends for a time. For a chapter. Loved this though, look forward to catching more of it. Probably on TikTok though. Ngl,😅
Going through this right now… I try also to be understanding but at some point I feel like even if I forgive or make peace, I won’t want that friendship again 😢❤thanks Amber
People just change over time. Someone who may have been your friend for years may one day not be the type of person who fits into your life or their life anymore for one reason or another. Doesn’t mean that they or you are wrong, but people just move on sometimes. Maybe those friends also don’t feel that you fit into their life anymore either, so they don’t reach out to you. That’s okay. We all have the same rights to change our minds about things, including who we want to be in our lives. We all grow, change opinions, walk down new roads, etc. That’s what exciting about this life we are all living, it’s always changing, always evolving, and forever teaching us along the way. Peace.
please understand that some people don't know what to say or do so they do nothing. The question you should ask yourself is if you let the people you care about that you were in pain. we want people to treat us like we treat them but that is unrealistic. you are a beautiful soul and no one will do it like you do.
Oh yes I did say that in the video that I do also get that people don’t understand what it’s like to lose someone, that they may not have the capacity for it or that they have their own stuff going on🙏🏽
Might be because society has taught us to not value friendships as much as romantic relationships. I love my friends so much and the way we are in each other’s lives is so meaningful. We support each other, root for each other, encourage each other to do therapy without placing anything negative in it (simply because we see a struggle out of our hands that a professional needs to take over). My friends encouraged me to fix my grades when I opened up about that and have been super supportive and cheered me on when I eventually started studying law at uni. (they have been there without judgement when I didn’t pass exams and had to go in and do them again). THAT is without asking me to do things for them, but because I needed this for me as it has been my dream since childhood. Just like I supoort my friends and care for them. They know my relatives and I know their relatives. We step up for each other’s family members. I picked up a friend’s mom from the hospital so she wouldn’t be alone when she arrived home and didn’t need to worry about taking a cab. My friend didn’t have to ask me because I knew she would have done it if she could, but she needed to work because this economy right now is tough on so many. Friendships that coome to an end hurts because we invest in them. It’s love lost. It’s an end of something that has been very meaningful. Friendships aren’t just entertainment in between romantic relationships! It hurts because they mattered.
"You can breakup with friends, for them to come back later in your life" too! After some growing up, reached on each sides, It also, makes the old frienship, much stronger!!😉
I cut off my college best friend for this exact reason. I couldn’t tell if she genuinely didn’t think I needed help or was just ignoring the fact that I was obviously struggling with something. To her, I was always the strong friend & her support system. Even when I told her directly that I wasn’t okay she would respond jokingly & insist that I was exaggerating because, to her, I always perpetuated “confidence”. Even when I would be honest & explicit about my insecurities she would insist that I had none because, to her, I was always so “confident”. She just started to sound like a hater and energy vampire.
Wow, this is very powerful 💪 i love this for you and everyone that is experiencing the great awakening. Truly growing and becoming the best of you you can be. ❤ Beautiful
I understand, cuz losing a parent is so hard and you have the process the loss. And it's not easy, It's extremely hard. Some days are good and you can get through it without even crying. But other days are a fight. I have even cut off family members because of a death in the family. They weren't acting right towards me so I had to choose me.
Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with us I know and have felt what you went through and a personal loss of a mother or father is when true friends should not ask they should know facts 🙏🙏🙏
I think that we are entering a season of reciprocity. I think everyone deserves what they give. It doesn’t have to be the exact same but reciprocity nonetheless.
So im just going to say life be lifing and people have alot to deal with. Grief and family issues. Amber has valid points. You have to look at both sides.
Losing a parent is a life changing experience The connection is lost There is a deep absence words can not describe each season will trigger this loss so be kind to yourself mourning is over time Often we will do our own life review because we face our own mortality. I hope you find a wonderful partner soon and I hope you actualize all your gifts .
Swear the beginning of this year had been ROUGH for us Virgos and everyone but a lot of Virgos I have talked too have experienced this exact thing with friendships. It's wild!
It used to hurt me deeply to let go of friendships. I would exhaust myself trying to keep them alive, finding a million reasons to hold on, even when the connection had already faded. But with time, I’ve learned to accept that outgrowing people is a natural part of life. Some friendships are meant for a season, some for a lifetime, and others to teach us lessons before they end. Letting go doesn’t mean there was no love-it just means we’re making space for the connections that align with who we are becoming.. 💗
I'm glad you are having a growth period. But all growth gets growing pain. My kiddo's best friend dumped her when my husband, her father, died. Her 'friend' told her that she was being selfish because she was withdrawn and depressed. Selfish with her time. My heart hurt for my kid. But she really is better off without the 'friend'.
Sorry, you had to deal with this Amber. This is why I don't have friends. Not really by choice but its because people are fake. This state (The DMV) are the worst of it. Lost my best friend due to cancer. People don't like it when you tell the truth. You told the truth & they did not like it.
I Now realize it wasn't all bad backing out from one friend. I had 2 friends who are both sisters. The 1st friend we've been friends longer & she's been there for me through & through but once she relocated, i think i became closer with the other sister. Problem is this 2nd friend is never there for me physically, just maybe financially. I decided to pull off when i lost a very close aunt & my step bother around the same time. I shared my feelings with her. The burials were set a day apart. She never came through, she only sent cash on the day of the last burial...said she had a doctor's appointment. Guess what, the 1st friend, her sister, showed up even without telling me. That's when i realized that this friendship is one sided. I pulled of, we talk not on a regular. I don't want a friend who is not a friend in deed.
I feel exactly what you're saying. I had a breakup with my closest friend a couple of years ago; we've known each other since we were 9 and had a falling out at 25. It'd the hardest breakup I've ever had. Yes, romantic and platonic. I'm still processing in therapy lol
Thanks so much for sharing this,about to breakup with my friend of 7years cause wen I needed her support she's not there for me and I think she should be the one to stood by me cause am always there and support anything she does,but coming out to her she's not encouraging instead she's gossiping and picking some of our friends as her friend and talking about me to them,it breaks my heart but I just has to distance and making my partner my friend now
Cutting people off isn't easy especially if they've been in your life for a long time. Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some for a season.
Knowing what you're expecting and/or looking for in whatever ship you want to be in and holding yourself to that is a symbol of growth. So don't feel bad for cutting people off or hurting their feelings.
This may seem weird but this is also why I say that hard times are needed to know who's got your back. Being the strong friend doesn't mean you don't need or want help sometimes you just don't know how or want to ask for it.
Being the strong one in the family and friendships I have a lot to say about this topic but I'll end it here.
EVERYTHING YOU SAID💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I like listening to this video. You don't need to eat on the video for it to be good. We don't hear enough about friendship. Thank you for sharing this video.
You will know who is with youwhen you going through hardships in life.
Facts. My best friend passed away due to cancer last year. She was the most loyal friend I ever had never had to question her. Now I don't have any real friends. Well, I do but I don't. She was one that should have been a lifetime.
@TrVlogs82 I'm so sorry for your loss🤍. It hits harder when the person that passed away was the one you could count on whenever and wherever. I hope you keep her memories alive by talking about her and remembering the good times you had. I get you with the having friends but not really...This is the reason why my circle is small. What bothers me the most is that I've noticed that almost everyone has lost someone due to cancer😫.I lost my mother in law from my last relationship due to cancer. Hardest part was that I was the one who took her to the hospital for the last time😣
Losing a parent is one of the hardest things to deal with
I broke up with a friend of 10+ years for similar reasons. I had lost my mom, who was my best friend. I’m similar to you where I tend to be the caregiver and show up for my friends even if it’s detrimental to me. When I lost her I realize I didn’t have that kind of support I gave, even from family and it took me 2 years to realize what I wanted out of my relationships with others.
I’m sorry you had to go through that too😔🙏🏽🙏🏽
You are just growing Amber, and not everyone can go where you're going. ❤
This!!! Sometimes you don't realize it at first, until something happens where you're in need of someone to have your back
@ruth.monique I definitely agree. It's too bad it took me a long time to figure this out. That I matter led to and that I don't have to be strong all the time, and it's Not okay that my so-called friends don't understand how I'm feeling and don't want to understand. I learned that this was a step of ascension, and no one on my boat could go with me. And that it's time to make new friends for this new chapter, but for now, spend some alone time to self-reflection. Figured out who I am to put myself in a better spot. To meet new people who will meet my expectations and more. Like my Daddy used to say, don't be Bitter, be Better. RiP Daddy.✨️😏🌹
@@SageOfTruth1111 I don't know you but I'm soo proud of you👏🏾😊. Enjoy this new phase in your life and figure out what you want before you meet new people and what your boundaries are. Whenever there are hard times or you start putting yourself first, you'll notice who your real friends are. I also cut off someone I saw as my best friend on Christmas🙈. She wasn't there for me as I needed her to be and her reason for that wasn't good enough. I figured she wasn't meant to be on this new path with me. Do I miss her yes, but I love myself more
Hey Ruth, thanks! I know it's tough, but things do get better. Just take it one day at a time, and trust me, they always try to come back. That'll help you see it was their loss, not yours.❤️
When we realize that the friendship no longer serves us it's a tough
to come to terms with because you weren't expecting it to be that friendship or that person. Real friends choose to show up for each other in whatever form it maybe because they choose you as their friend and want to be in your life and vice versa!
I'm liking these videos where you just speak what's on your mind you're definitely resonating with a lot of us 🤍👌🏾
We don't have these convos enough. Thanks for talking about this
This whole video resonated with me. Friend and family breakups aren’t talked about enough. If we are at one point aligned, then grow in different directions, that doesn’t necessarily make anyone a bad person. We are now different people that are no longer aligned. I think it perfectly healthy to surround yourself with people whom you align with most and to stop feeding relationships that no longer feed you. LOVE THOSE PEOPLE FROM AFAR.
So sorry for your loss. It’s crazy how you feel after realizing those you pour into naturally, don’t necessarily pour back into you and usually don’t show up for you once your cup needs filling. Loving from afar is what’s best sometimes. Got to love life and the way it flows 😅
Cheers to taking this as a lesson and moving forward with intention and grace.
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This came at the perfect time! Just experienced a friendship loss of 15 years and one of 7 years. It seems like with growth we no longer tolerate things we may not have seen before. The old version of ourselves attracted those types of people but with growth we’re no longer a vibrational match and they vibrate out of our lives! Lately I’ve decided I only want quality friendships.
Everything you said was spot on. I think in life people and things are supposed to change and evolve and if you’re not changing and you’re not evolving then maybe you’re not allowing yourself the opportunity to improve. I’ve had many friendships that have ended, and a lot of it was due to miscommunication. A lot of it was because we were just on different wavelengths in different times in our lives and some of the friendships ended for a period of time in my life only to be reestablished later on because we allowed ourselves opportunity to grow and mature and I think that’s healthy. Sometimes it’s good to allow yourself to have space in order to see things differently later on. Good for you for working on yourself and knowing your worth 👏🏾
I “lost” my best friend after my wedding for what felt like was simply a difference in perspectives. It was by far, my hardest “breakup” I’d ever had. It was like falling out with a sister, someone I thought for sure I would be friends with until one of us took our last breaths. So, I feel you. Friendship breakups are soooo hard. I wish you nothing but the best, growth, love and true peace. Also, the same for them. ✌🏾🧘🏾♀️
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friendships while in grief of the loss of your dear father. My mother and step-father died in November in a very traumatic way. The grief has been all encompassing, and the secondary losses/changes in friendships just stack on top. We really don't know how to show up for grief in this society. The more folks that have been through it and talk about it, the more we have the opportunity to collectively do better. So thank you, truly. Wishing you all the support in the world as you continue navigating your grief and healing.
Yes, I found out who was really a friend when my mom passed. It was incredible how some people kept talking to me like nothing happened
Thanks!
You raised so many salient points. Thank you. Two things, I unfortunately learned late in life are: there are no mistakes just lessons to be learned and people come into your life for a reason or a season. At the end of the day, do you. You'll be so much happier.
Ty for posting this Amber! It makes us feel less alone. I lost my dad and I lost my friends due to grief. I felt like I was losing everyone bc I wasn’t completely “on”. I appreciate the reminder to hang in there and it gets better ❤
The reason I’ll follow your content anywhere you go is because you’re always so genuine, a natural born leader. Sometimes that means you’re ahead of the curve and it feels like you have to overexplain yourself to receive care or assist your friends in catching up. You deserve to be seen and supported by people who practice living an authentic vibrant life. Much love.
Thank You for your vulnerability and friendship breakups are hard. Being the strong friend doesn’t mean you don’t need support too❤
Discovered you today! Saw the timeline of your videos and noticed the inactivity from last year and was scared I was "too late"! But I might have just arrived on a new journey of yours!
Love this perspective around friendships and relationships and I share them as well! Looking forward to future videos!!!
Thank you for sharing this with us. I've been watching my girlfriend go through this for the past handful of years and it's heartbreaking... It's definitely challenging to connect with others who are actively pouring love into their own lives. I bet in another dimension you and I are friends! You definitely seem to be my kind of people 😊
I don’t comment on videos a lot, but I couldn’t help but comment on this. Thank you so much for putting this out Amber. I think you might be living in my brain, because I literally have been having the same thought going on in my brain for the last couple of months that you have expressed in this video- i.e. losing my mom to cancer and the very few friends I have kind of dropping off on me. Thank you again for making me not feel alone. 🙏
Hugs amber ❤ this could not be more timely for me too.
Being on top of your game doesnt mean your friends should leave you floundering when your down. If you generate, and regenerate, giving that extra away for free when others arnt regenerating themselves and sharing their spares and their vibrancy gets tiring.. its only natural to want to be alongside others who also regenerate, who also have a bit of quiet or put effort in.. Admiration doesnt make a true friendship.. friendship is based on give and take.. it can be gently alongside, with not much exchanged, but thats still reciprocal.. and it must be showing up for more in the hard moments too! Which are actually usually hard phases, not just one bad day, til we grow through it again. When learning curves happen there are often wobbles, its not about being perfect or smooth all the time, its about people who have faith in each other, and being there throughout all of that with trust and belief in each other.
Im so lucky at times Ive had this in whole circles of friends, as a subculture.. at other times only one or a few.. people move, travel, take new jobs, have kids, bust ups happen with couples, and friendships, and its only natural that friendships and who we spend time with and how circles work evolves.
Sometimes loving people from afar is just the right way to do it.
I dont use tiktok.. to be honest I never would have got the eating thing, til lve gone through this massive injury and been at home alot.. I hate eating alone. Ive always lived with people and shared food, it seems rude not to share, but I think a lot of folks are tired, or dont want to munch while theyre on the phone to a friend, sometimes its just easier to listen, so I guess you get to be peoples parasocial pal 😊 its kind of nice!
Didnt they say last year that loneliness is at epidemic proportions in the usa? I think you do a lot about that, showing kindness, integrity, doing your thing, encouraging others. Im sure your not perfect because nobody is, I like when youve explained your shortcomings too or really shown how you struggle and learn at times, but always without disrespect, and I really notice the same with how you respect others also.. so thats life skills, in a time of loneliness, some people just dont know how to be a good friend, to others or how to speak with themselves either! Maybe you can share some more about that.
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Take care amber, Im dreading the day my dad dies, I try to make the most with him all the time ❤
Can I say som'n real quick,
Not everyone needs to be present in your future blessing,( speaking about friends),and sometimes we want to cling on people that have served their purpose in our lives because we got comfortable with them. If you can look at it as som'n that needs to shed for you to be ready for the great things that are going to happen in your future( and better trust they will),you will understand a bit why they had to go.
I lost my parents 10 years apart,my mom being the most recent,and it's a lot of people that had to go,my stepdad included. And because I didn't want to let him go, som'n just happened and I got hurt and THEN I realised he had to go. And nooow?? Omd life is soooo good. I'm living an answered prayer frfr.
What I'm trying to say is,just like you outgrow some beliefs,you can outgrow people too and see things through cleaner lenses,it's a blessing.
❤❤❤❤,watch yourself making it through this
Great vlog Amber losing a parent is so so hard I lost my dad 11yrs ago and I get my days but not as bad always good to talk about it and things in general and your right I only put in now what I get bk from people ❤❤
It’s never easy to end a friendship. It’s experiencing a sense of loss and you grieve that as well. Strong friends are usually last on everyone’s list. I’m glad you’re doing better. 🤗 thanks as always for your transparency.
I resonate so much with what you said. Like you, Im also a caretaker. Im actually grieving a friendship break up I went through 8 months ago. I was friends with this person for almost 7 years. But during our last 4 years of our friendship she developed this toxic cycle where she would confront me about shit that wasn’t my fault, mostly when she didn’t get the attention she expected from me. It also got to a point where I was basically her emotional punching bag whenever she went through extreme stress. She basically projected her insecurities on me. Plus, although she tried to be there for me during my toughest times, she didn’t know how to give me the emotional support I needed from a friend. She became too self absorbed to understand that. Towards the end I realized that she didn’t trust me and Id lost all respect for her, plus she lacked the emotional intelligence needed to foster healthy relationships. She was no longer good for me and I knew I deserved better from a friend. Now Im at a point where I want friends who are on the same level as me by working on themselves spiritually and emotionally so we’re able to show up for each other the way we deserve. I want friends I can grow with. Cutting her off was one of the toughest decisions I’ve made in my life but it was necessary for my mental wellbeing. If that’s not self love, idk what is.
Amber, so much love to you!!!! Not sure if you're currently doing therapy, but either way, you are doing THE WORK and it shows. Kudos to you for having enough love to look after yourself as well as an awareness of those around you, and how to move within that. I've been where you are, having lost my mom & some friends here & there but you're seeing the lessons in all of it and growing. Cheers mama!! ❤
Amber, I think that you are such a beautiful person. I really resonate with your realization of wanting friends who support you in pouring into yourself. I am feeling you. Not everyone can hang with grief or depression. I am just glad that you are being true to yourself and that you are getting the support you need. Take care of you. Much love.
Us Virgos are always loving hard and there for our friends and ppl just don’t show the same love ever. I feel what you’re saying.
Hey Amber. Grief is extremely difficult and emotional. Work on yourself and communicate with those friends about what you need. Not communicating can lead to misunderstandings. Stay strong and positive
My heart goes out to you. I've also been cutting ties whenever I realize others can't pull the same weight I am. It's good to see other human beings being authentic to their true needs.
I felt thud because I am going through grief of friendships right now & I'm not angry at all we've just outgrown one another. I know the loss of your Dad was devastating & it also revealed some things too, I'm glad you're realizing & navigating through this 🌞
Welcome to a new chapter in your life. I "brokeup" with a longtime best friend like almost 3 years ago and at first it was hard, but it really made me a better person. Sometimes you need disrespect to finally understand how you want to be respected. You'll come across many acquaintances and friendships in the most unlikely of places, just keep an open mind and practice discernment. Good luck to you amber in your journey 🙏🏽
Girllll you are preaching to the whole choir. When I stepped All the way back NO one showed up. They get so used to us handling it all and being strong. We are always thinking in 360 and always looking out for others but what about us? I made it my priority this year to be for ME. I had to drop friends, family it didn't matter. I need reciprocal energy on all levels. And I had folks trying to check me for their gaslighted and breadcrumbing friendship ways. So I was like bet, I'm meeting people where their at and pouring so much into me that I overflow unto them. ❤❤❤❤❤
I lost my mom and I went through the same thing. It was hard I too was that friend that was always good and reached out to friends first. It was a gradual transition but when I tell you I’m glad I got to see who was really real and who is fake. I always put others first and was thought 💭 of last. But it is good because people make time for what’s important to them. Thanks for sharing this with us and just know you are never alone 😊❤
Loving with an open hand is best…have people sit in the palm of your hand and have them fly off when they need to, but you are also able to love them from afar, set boundaries. Love to see you being happy and at your best🎉
Thank you for talking about this. I recently realized my best friendship of 15 years is over. Something I never expected. So this helps pull me from my denial and realize it needs to happen.
Also, I hope your days get easier as time passes; losing a parent must be difficult. ❤
Thank you so much for making this video. My best friend and I broke up last year and it hurt more than my romantic relationships, I never expected my friend not to be there for me, I felt like I didn’t know her. I had to learn how to love her from a far and figure out what’s best for me. It feels really good knowing I’m not the only one going through this.
Amber I’m so glad you had the strength to make this video. I been in a real dilemma I need some advice. Someone I consider my blood lost their mom. I been there as best as I can, to love on them and support them. By that I mean cooking meals, trying to be there emotionally, not putting any pressure on them to do anything just showing support to let them grieve. Show them that I am here for them, and their response to me is anger, and aggression. It’s pushing me away but I have kept trying. But I noticed other people around them aren’t getting the same response that I am getting. And I feel disrespected and unappreciated and honestly like they been harboring feelings of just not liking my ass at all. Side note on top of the fifth of vodka this person has per day the it’s becoming to much for me. Is this me being selfish? Or not being understanding? Or am I right to go with my gut something is not right and leave this person alone to grieve how they need to in peace since it seems they have a problem with me and we are not as close as I thought we were? Please help me!
I love the idea of a grieving video. I feel the years I lost my grandparents I grieved in the most beautiful way but it still hits at time and I know that’s not the experience for a lot of people but I would love to hear your story and maybe we can share
This is so on point. I feel you on the friendships. ❤❤
I'm sorry that you're going through this amber, I've been subscribed to you for like 2 years now, you are very beautiful on the inside and out and I'm going through this now so many friends I've lost but it's ok I've been finding good people and also I've been reconnecting with my good friends that really love me and that listen and care about me 💖
I went through a friendship break up a couple years ago. I was going through a lot and I had always been the friend who took care of everyone but when it was time for them to take care of me they weren't there. Then friends who did are still in my life now and I am so thankful for them.
Hello Amber, again, I'm so sorry for the lost if your dad, Rest Easy King🌹.
About friendships, sometimes you have to love from a distance and sometimes you have to walk away from what you thought was a friendship.
Great video Commissioner.
Thank you for sharing 🌈🍁
awww dont feel guilty for cutting people off if they didnt feel guilty for crossing your boundaries.
I can relate, I went through the same thing and when you step back and pay attention it’s heartbreaking but at least you can see it and move out of the way. When I did that and opened up to new experiences and people I was much more happier. Sometimes you just grow apart and that’s ok. I really enjoy your cooking ! Would love to see more here on TH-cam I stopped using tiktok because it changed so much 😢
Bro 2025 has had such a rocky start🥹I need to hear this soooooo much. Thank you Amber💕
Yahoooo you’re elevating your energetic being!!! It’s not easy but very rewarding. ❤
Thank you Amber you are so inspiring and so real many blessings❤
I am also the "strong friend" and woof that can really suck when YOU are the one that needs someone. I try and remind others that "strong" people are that way for a lot of reasons, usually ones that are traumatic. We have had to learn to keep shit together, even when everything is falling apart. When we do ask for help.....we need it.
Hang in there. The close friendship I had for over 20 years became strained after my Moms death. I think the death of a parent changes you and you outgrow people.
You are doing life, they are too... you all grow. You do you!! Losing parents young isn't easy. Keep the faith.
The same happened to me during depression. It's complicated and I don't fault anyone, and tbh it was challenging for me to accept/receive help or support. If anything, I hope they know I'm sorry too. I can no longer give like I used to, I had to accept that as my reality and adjust my relationships accordingly. I'm now dating a kind and patient woman who is also in therapy and supports me prioritizing my self care, like I do for her. It's honestly the nicest thing you can do for anyone.
Sometimes you don’t know what your friend is in need of, but you know they are going through something. I will always go to ”I don’t know what you need in this moment and from me, but I’m here and will continue to be here”. Some will need some space, some will need to have you closer for a while, some just want to cook a meal with you, some wish you will cook a few meals for them, some wants flowers, some wants a hug, some wants a mix of the things mentioned.
We don’t need to know what someone wants, but asking what they need is crucial. To show up is crucisl. To stand by your word is crucial. I think also many of us haven’t enough practice of sharing our desires/needs and get disappointed when people don’t just understand our need/s.
We all have different frameworks and similar to love languages our needs during grief will show up in different ways. How we make sure to show up when we see someone is going through something, based off of what we want/wish outselves would be done by others. This might be something that someone else is not at all in need of because they have a different way of wishing to be soothed in. Always have grace when people ask of your need (a general you). Take the ask as ”they want to show up for me”, instead of ”they don’t know how to care for me”. It’s also important to ask what someone needs and not assume it will be awkward if you ask.
Never assume someone automatically want to be alone in their grief. That usually stems from fear of rejection or feeling vulnersble to go for that one. Always ask and make sure to show up so you don’t leave your friend hanging. Some friends just want company and sit in silence, but feel they are not alone.
I’ve been there. I had to end friendship with a friend after a 27 year friendship. I had to realize that the friendship was more exhausting than anything. I started minimizing phone calls, text messages, and realized the other person “felt concerned”.
In reality, I reduced the amount of access the person had to me and never looked back
When you get older, you understand this happens and what feels like a break up later in life you’ll have a reunion cus you’re grow, change and gain clearer perspective. Everything as it should be always, no matter what.
Thank you for this discussion Amber
I love this for you Amber! Like you I lost my father in April of 2024. And I am still trying to figure me and family ,friends,etc. This is where I have to exercise my LET THEM THEORY! I"'m better today and everyday is a beautiful blessing and opportunity to allow mindful and meaningful relationships with mutual respect 😘😇
It happened to me too. I was the strongest, the one who was always there when they needed, the one who could take a flight or drive thousand of miles to comfort them. But the day I was depressed, nobody was there.
For them, I couldn’t be so weak.
It was hard, cause they were my only family.
Also, yes, eating videos are always good. Lots of us eat alone and it's nice watch our favorite YT personalities eat, it's like sharing a meal with a friend.
I am glad you pushed through... I hope the holiday's weren't too hard on you. I am glad I ran across your page. Keep Going 💯💯💪🏿 💙🪖
I don’t often catch your yt videos I just happened to be on here watching some yt series’s randomly and seen this. I want to say that in your late 20’s-30’s I feel we really start to reevaluate what the word friendship means and entails for us individually. I have gone through the process of loving friends from afar and excepting that we aren’t on the same path. I have also come to find that the friends that I have and can pour into are there for me but also that there are times they (or I) have full cups and aren’t able to really let someone pour into. Real friendship will stand these test and come out the other end. Time tells who your real friendship means are. And sometimes there only friends for a time. For a chapter. Loved this though, look forward to catching more of it. Probably on TikTok though. Ngl,😅
Yes friendship loss is hard. I pray you are continuously surrounded by people who love and appreciate you…….
Going through this right now… I try also to be understanding but at some point I feel like even if I forgive or make peace, I won’t want that friendship again 😢❤thanks Amber
Yea I def think that sometimes a lil space, growth & understanding bring people back together🙏🏽
Ending of Friendships are so hard to get over, and it’s so relatable and I can relate it !!! 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤
People just change over time. Someone who may have been your friend for years may one day not be the type of person who fits into your life or their life anymore for one reason or another. Doesn’t mean that they or you are wrong, but people just move on sometimes. Maybe those friends also don’t feel that you fit into their life anymore either, so they don’t reach out to you. That’s okay. We all have the same rights to change our minds about things, including who we want to be in our lives. We all grow, change opinions, walk down new roads, etc. That’s what exciting about this life we are all living, it’s always changing, always evolving, and forever teaching us along the way. Peace.
please understand that some people don't know what to say or do so they do nothing. The question you should ask yourself is if you let the people you care about that you were in pain. we want people to treat us like we treat them but that is unrealistic. you are a beautiful soul and no one will do it like you do.
Oh yes I did say that in the video that I do also get that people don’t understand what it’s like to lose someone, that they may not have the capacity for it or that they have their own stuff going on🙏🏽
Amber this was a great video. Thank you for sharing👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
Sending condolences 🙏🏾 I lost my pops in 2013 shhh was rough! I needed to see this video today💪🏾 keep your head up in my 2pac voice
Friendship breakups hurt worse than romantic breakups and I have no idea why…
Expectations are different. Everyone knows that most romances don't last forever. So they're prepared a bit more for those to end.
Might be because society has taught us to not value friendships as much as romantic relationships.
I love my friends so much and the way we are in each other’s lives is so meaningful. We support each other, root for each other, encourage each other to do therapy without placing anything negative in it (simply because we see a struggle out of our hands that a professional needs to take over). My friends encouraged me to fix my grades when I opened up about that and have been super supportive and cheered me on when I eventually started studying law at uni. (they have been there without judgement when I didn’t pass exams and had to go in and do them again). THAT is without asking me to do things for them, but because I needed this for me as it has been my dream since childhood.
Just like I supoort my friends and care for them. They know my relatives and I know their relatives. We step up for each other’s family members. I picked up a friend’s mom from the hospital so she wouldn’t be alone when she arrived home and didn’t need to worry about taking a cab. My friend didn’t have to ask me because I knew she would have done it if she could, but she needed to work because this economy right now is tough on so many.
Friendships that coome to an end hurts because we invest in them. It’s love lost. It’s an end of something that has been very meaningful.
Friendships aren’t just entertainment in between romantic relationships!
It hurts because they mattered.
"You can breakup with friends, for them to come back later in your life" too!
After some growing up, reached on each sides, It also, makes the old frienship, much stronger!!😉
I cut off my college best friend for this exact reason. I couldn’t tell if she genuinely didn’t think I needed help or was just ignoring the fact that I was obviously struggling with something. To her, I was always the strong friend & her support system. Even when I told her directly that I wasn’t okay she would respond jokingly & insist that I was exaggerating because, to her, I always perpetuated “confidence”. Even when I would be honest & explicit about my insecurities she would insist that I had none because, to her, I was always so “confident”. She just started to sound like a hater and energy vampire.
Wow, this is very powerful 💪 i love this for you and everyone that is experiencing the great awakening. Truly growing and becoming the best of you you can be. ❤ Beautiful
This was great ❤
I understand, cuz losing a parent is so hard and you have the process the loss. And it's not easy, It's extremely hard. Some days are good and you can get through it without even crying. But other days are a fight. I have even cut off family members because of a death in the family. They weren't acting right towards me so I had to choose me.
I so get this. Lost my mom and ended a friend relationship for same reasons
Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with us I know and have felt what you went through and a personal loss of a mother or father is when true friends should not ask they should know facts 🙏🙏🙏
I think that we are entering a season of reciprocity. I think everyone deserves what they give. It doesn’t have to be the exact same but reciprocity nonetheless.
So im just going to say life be lifing and people have alot to deal with. Grief and family issues. Amber has valid points. You have to look at both sides.
Thanks for sharing, great video!! ❤
Losing a parent is a life changing experience The connection is lost There is a deep absence words can not describe each season will trigger this loss so be kind to yourself mourning is over time Often we will do our own life review because we face our own mortality. I hope you find a wonderful partner soon and I hope you actualize all your gifts .
Swear the beginning of this year had been ROUGH for us Virgos and everyone but a lot of Virgos I have talked too have experienced this exact thing with friendships. It's wild!
Simply beautifully articulated
It used to hurt me deeply to let go of friendships. I would exhaust myself trying to keep them alive, finding a million reasons to hold on, even when the connection had already faded. But with time, I’ve learned to accept that outgrowing people is a natural part of life. Some friendships are meant for a season, some for a lifetime, and others to teach us lessons before they end. Letting go doesn’t mean there was no love-it just means we’re making space for the connections that align with who we are becoming.. 💗
Story time is cool but I’m with you on eating in front of ppl. I don’t know why that was trending.
Love ya cuzzo❤❤❤
Love from a far . I felt that ❤
I'm glad you are having a growth period. But all growth gets growing pain. My kiddo's best friend dumped her when my husband, her father, died. Her 'friend' told her that she was being selfish because she was withdrawn and depressed. Selfish with her time. My heart hurt for my kid. But she really is better off without the 'friend'.
Sometimes people are only in your life for a season
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Take of care of yourself no one else will
This is real… ppl never check on the strong friend
Sorry, you had to deal with this Amber. This is why I don't have friends. Not really by choice but its because people are fake. This state (The DMV) are the worst of it. Lost my best friend due to cancer. People don't like it when you tell the truth. You told the truth & they did not like it.
Growth Is Necessary...And it hurts when you not getting the SAME in return..❤❤❤❤
Can relate to this 💯
We love you so much ❤
I Now realize it wasn't all bad backing out from one friend. I had 2 friends who are both sisters. The 1st friend we've been friends longer & she's been there for me through & through but once she relocated, i think i became closer with the other sister. Problem is this 2nd friend is never there for me physically, just maybe financially.
I decided to pull off when i lost a very close aunt & my step bother around the same time. I shared my feelings with her. The burials were set a day apart. She never came through, she only sent cash on the day of the last burial...said she had a doctor's appointment. Guess what, the 1st friend, her sister, showed up even without telling me. That's when i realized that this friendship is one sided. I pulled of, we talk not on a regular. I don't want a friend who is not a friend in deed.
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I feel exactly what you're saying. I had a breakup with my closest friend a couple of years ago; we've known each other since we were 9 and had a falling out at 25. It'd the hardest breakup I've ever had. Yes, romantic and platonic. I'm still processing in therapy lol
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Thanks so much for sharing this,about to breakup with my friend of 7years cause wen I needed her support she's not there for me and I think she should be the one to stood by me cause am always there and support anything she does,but coming out to her she's not encouraging instead she's gossiping and picking some of our friends as her friend and talking about me to them,it breaks my heart but I just has to distance and making my partner my friend now