Are You Single Because of Porn? 5 Ways Porn Is Keeping You Single
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- If you are addicted to porn and you want to be in a relationship, you are in trouble. Porn will keep you single. Here are 5 ways a porn addiction can keep you single.
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Porn kills guys, its so not worth it. Goes from just being curious to full blown addiction. Just disgusting. Great video Mark!
Kevin B women too. 🙏🙏🙏
Awomen too. Someone tell me what movie that is from.
You're right
D: I think your right Mark. I'm actually trying to work on my porn addiction. Pray for me
Alex Green ... by the power and authority I have been given to me through the Holy Spirit, I speak to you Satan and any spirit of darkness, spirit of addiction that has its grip on Alex, to release him. You have to leave in the Name of Jesus.
Same here man. You’re definitely not by yourself ✊
@@OfficiallyTuda Need prayer too
Same bro
Please keep me in y’all prayers
I really appreciate that you are bold enough to talk about this subject. Many people don't talk about things that are uncomfortable so this is wonderfully insightful. Thank you!
Porn and sexual sin affect both men and women and sadly is easy to get but with Gods strenghts you to be able to over come the addition. This video actually help me how to talk better about this topic to the youth am in charge of Thank you so much God bless!😊
I've had a strong feeling that i will be single until i overcome porn. I couldn't really explain why i felt this way, i just knew it.
I’m a female and I feel this way too. I really desire marriage, love, and just really want a partner to support on a deep level, but I know until I overcome it I can’t love entirely.
Yeah it destroys your mind, coz you end up objectifying people and jump into relationships because of sex. That kind of relationship won't last, because you are driven by lust and not love. I am still recovering from porn addiction, there are times when I stumble, but I've prayed to God that He brings my future husband into my life, once I've healed and fully recovered, so that this sin won't destroy my future relationship and marriage.
Literally! I’m still recovering from my almost four year addiction too and I’ve stumbled a few times (since November once I fully made the decision stop) and I pray that this beast known as pornography (along with masturbation) doesn’t ruin my future marriage and that I can be free in the name of Jesus!
I also struggle with this too sadly. As men and women of Christ we must come together and stand strong in our fight against this sin. God bless you all and please pray for me and the many others suffering from this. Thank god for this video as well.
This man is so able to apply Gods Word to life. I'm happy he's here giving advice. Good good wisdom!
This video came just in time as I recently went back to my porn addiction after just feeling lonely and wondering if God was ever going to answer my prayers for a stable healthy relationship with a woman to eventually marry. I was that kid in high school who spent all my time playing video games and watching porn, and I was never invited to parties or social events because I was always quite and kept to myself mostly. I met good friends, but we shared the same passion for video games and anime, so we rarely hung out or went to any social gatherings together. I've been doing my best to change all that since I turned 29 years old (I'm 32 now...), and I've been on dates and been with women but the end result was just one night stands or sex buddies, nothing healthy for me or them. Even now, there's a woman that I've had a crush on since Middle school and we kept in contact throughout the years, but actually started hanging out and seeing each other late 2015 to now. Long story short, I've always felt as if it was my addiction to porn and sex that held me back from being the kind of man I need to be for her. As strange as it may sound, she and I have spent a lot of time alone at my apartment but unlike with the other women I've bedded I never made a serious move on her. Maybe because I respect her too much to just use her for sex like I did all the other women, maybe because I actually see a future with her and want to have her in the right way, I don't know. All I know is God has brought her in and out of my life since then, especially when I'm ready to forget about her and move on to someone else, it's like God is still telling me that "she's still here...", but I don't know for sure. I can't hear God as clearly as I use to... I've asked Him many times, "Is this the woman that You truly have for me and that You want me to marry?", and to this day I haven't received an answer from Him... So I'm very lost and very confused to what God wants between her & I, but I know the first major step now is to rid myself of the porn addiction and sexual sin... Thank you, Mark. God bless you
This is so torching. Will definitely be standing with you in prayer for total deliverance and God's direction as well.
2Corinthians 10:4-6 pulling down strongholds & bringing to captivity the thoughts that exalt themselves above the knowledge of God.
The strongholds surely must be broken.
Wow incredible. God will never forsake you, you just have to remain faithful and pray for the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
I feel your pain this is the same stuff I’m going through kinda similar.
I’m in the a similar situation and I’ve been better but still am not where I need to be I just try to have faith and remember God is always with me even when I don’t think so, we can get through this everyone watching can and all I ask is that you guys prey for me and I will pray for you all
I used to be like that in middle school, got serious with my salvation and seeing what God has truly done for me in Sophomore year. I keep trying to repentant for 2 years best I have done is 2 months but idk why I choose my desires over God's will but no matter what I'm going to keep fighting and repentanting, ik I'm going to have a battle with lust everyday but ik I can overcome and get rid of my porn addiction in the name of Jesus. Thank you for your testimony 🙏
I always said to myself that the reason why am single is because of my occasional sexual sins, but here you break it down very simple. God bless you
Thank you for the advice that's a great message
Yep l feel same in my life please pray for me to overcome
You hit the nail on the head with the selfish mentality. I have been addicted to porn since I was a kid- now that I'm in my 40's I'm seeing how horribly selfish I have been my entire life.
So much confirmation about what God has been showing me about that particular sin.
This dude speaks the truth
Thank you for this video Mark! While I don't suffer from this addiction, an exboyfriend of mine did. Every single point that you made describes exactly the characteristics in our relationship, spot on! I say this not because I want to condemn him or anyone else who suffers from this addiction (I am not perfect either) but in hopes to share that this addiction is not a "victimless" sin or only affects the viewer. The effects of such ultimately led to the demise of our relationship. I wish I knew all this while we were together so I perhaps could have been a better help in showing him how much harm it caused. I pray that him and all others open their eyes and hearts to the Lord and seek after his redemption.
There is so much truth in this message. Thank you
Learning about this is so important. Amen. Even if we struggle, let us learn more about our struggle to overcome it.
Thank you for letting God use you brother! I needed to hear this !! God bless you!!
Man mark.....this is a miracle I was being tempted left right and center to watch prn but then your video popped up...thank u Jesus
Good timing for this video! I’m going on a few days of nopmo.
You're right Mark...you can sense it. Well explained and good points to look out for when getting to know someone. Thank you Mark!
Thanks Mark for the right and biblical answers! Keep on sharing the truth and God Bless!!!
Given the high divorce rates and how men are screwed financially and in child custody if they do have kids, its no wonder men don't want to get married.
Very true. And because men keep getting hurt alot by women that causes them to resort into porn. Its almost like getting addicted to drugs or alcohol. Also there are women out that will get pursued by decent men who actually do want them but women want to act like they are too got for a man that don't have a million dollars or a man that's not a thug. And thats a problem that start in high school and/or in college. That's where the porn addicts start.
I came to believe in God after I begged Him to deliver me from my porn addiction, and He has! But it isn't easy... I still struggle with lust often. Please pray for me.
You have to maintain the work God has done in your life. Your prayer life and time spent reading the word of God are critical. The more intentional you are about keeping your focus on God and his kingdom, the less the world and what's in it will be able to affect your walk with God as He empowers you by his grace. There is nothing that He fails to give his servants to walk with Him faithfully. We only must be wholehearted. Read Titus 2:11-14 and see how the grace of God must work in your life. Peace to you!
This actually made me stop and think. I know I've been belligerent on earlier videos but this one actually got through to me. Thanks.
That is very nice.A lot of young men and women are falling into sin .Pray for our future generation.
Thanks Mark,your information and videos are a great blessing,God bless you!!
Deep insights into this difficult blight on the spiritual health of men.
You are brave and bold.
honestly this applies to all addictions so thank you
You're on point on the progression part. Went from just being curious about the opposite sex to being curious about the same sex at the age of 10. Ended up consuming mostly gay porn behind closed doors, getting any device that had Wi-Fi capabilities (around 2006-2007), and indulged. I ended up experimenting with some male friends all through middle school and high school, some of those having negative consequences. Which then lead to me going on hook up apps once I graduated from high school and got a smartphone and a car for me to go wherever I wanted. I still struggle with this today. I live this double life where my hook-up life with men is an escape from the stress and depression I face in the remainder aspects of my life. I'm only 23 years old, but for the past couple of years now, after I'm done hooking up with a guy, I can sense that something just isn't right inside of me. My body feels satisfied, but my heart feels more hurt than before. Yet, the cycle continues. I have always liked women, but I've grown up with a lot of self-doubt and low self-esteem, I'm ashamed to even be acknowledged by a woman, yet that's what I want. I know that I'm not a homosexual, because that doesn't settle right in my heart. I desire to one day be in a relationship with a woman, but I'm not really sure how to go about with that. Please pray for me. This habit has caused so much damage to not only my social interactions and my views on them, but I can really feel the pain that's in my heart and my spirit. I'm Paul, by the way.
Hi Paul,
You have stated that you are not a homosexual, but you have suffered from a corruption of your mind from that early exposure to porn, and then sin has taken you captive to it. That's a "progression" itself into your present situation, from another angle. You are not free according to what Jesus has revealed (John 8:34-36). You are a slave to sin, and bondage to sin is what Jesus came into the world to set people free from through a purification of the heart that comes from obedience to God (1 Timothy 1:5). So, that is Good News, but it's takes your willing effort to be partaker of that Good News.
Please see my video _Be Set Free From Sin_ and also find inspiration and help from these playlists:
Freedom From Porn Addiction
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Jesus Saves †
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You have to be diligent in seeking that freedom from sin. All your heart must be in it. You cannot do this half-heartedly. But seek God's deliverance with everything in you and He will respond mightily. Take time to think about everything you read in your Bible or hear from what I have shared with you. Ask God to guide you to his light and salvation.
Peace to you!
Our enemy knows our hearts and our Direction, which is usually towards Christ. And he comes to destroy that as much as he can and as best he can. He has tried to do that work in you but he will not succeed. Your heart is already telling you this. Keep welcoming the Holy Spirit into your life and take all Godly wisdom and advice. Use it. I wish you victory
Tru. I've been struggling with this addiction more than ten years especially when feeling frustrated. Thanks for this lesson and its really connect with the words of God
If this is still an issue, please see the video "Be Set Free From Sin" on my channel (YesToTheTruth) and click on the link in the description to read a post that will help you overcome (Revelation 2:7). Frustration is something you want to address by turning to God and in his grace you shall find sufficient comfort, whatever you are facing.
See this playlist also:
Freedom From Porn Addiction
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God bless you!
im ready overcome. thanks for your wisdom. say a prayer for me.. first day of freedom and im never looking back..
Hey Kyle, how have you been? Staying free from this addiction?
YesToTheTruth man there has really been a a lot of freedom this past six weeks. I decided to humble my self and open up and really wage war Gods way . I fell only once 3 weeks ago besides that I haven’t fallen into any lustful sins porn / masturbation/ Fornication.. I am becoming more pure day by day and have a new hope of overcoming this and becoming a man worthy of a Godly wife someday . 😁
@@Ghost88o9 Ahh brother, it's so refreshing to hear that! And I pray God richly blesses you with his best in this life, including a daughter of his. Stay in prayer and connected to the word as through a feeding tube. There is no way we can overcome the distractions against us from fulfilling God's purpose for us without that constant connection to his word and dependance on Him. He pours on us his grace that we need in response to our humility. Peace to you, brother!
Exactly point on sir! 👍
Wow I needed this! Thank you Mark! God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom brother. Stay blessed.
Thank you Mark, I appreciate your advice. This all around great advice for avoiding sexual temptation and I pray that I would be able to trust the Lord in times like these. I also pray the Lord will continue to do a great work in you and your family.
Very direct very clear.. no beating around the bush.. Thank you..
Very very true, I agree with this video.
Great video 👏👏👏
Amen....great video
I felt that on #3. 1,000%...I want this mess out of my life man I’m trying. Started when I was 15 and now I’m 28. Be praying for me please.
Please listen to this message for a strategy you can follow to overcome sin/be set free from addictions:
_Self-denial and Taking up One's Cross to Follow Jesus (Mark __8:34__)_
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Peace to you!
I'm sure that porn and masturbation would count as a type of adultery which would be sin. Also I know Matthew 19:11 says that not everyone can receive this, but only those to whom its given to. So not everyone can handle all the responsibilities of a marriage. However, I agree that if you have a sex drive and you are ready and able to support a marriage, then by all means get married. If not, then you would have to just keep resisting all temptations.
Finishing Your book that you mention on The vídeo. Very good! Thanks a Lot :)
I believe the guy I was interested in was addicted to porn and sex. It became too much for me to communicate with him on a daily basis because of it and I don't think he's willing to admit it or change. I thank you so much for addressing this topic.
What about your relationship with God does that matter ?
Keep me in prayers
I thank you for this, but not sure of your opinion on porn. I am only dealing with this in the last year's while unemployed and sedentary in isolation. This morning woke up stressed up and with the scripture all things are permissible but not acceptable... And then remembered another with the temptation he provides a way of escape... So shut off the switch. There are other reasons than the one you described related to porn and is associated with the content ment you feel after the act... Relax, or relief from boredom and bcs of the chemicals released, but it is temporary and that pleasure can be idolized... So in that I concur with you. I do differ because don't think no one in the ir right mind want to stay isolated, however if your interactions with ppl are deceitful it is a way to approach orvevade the disappointment, no one wants to get their feelings hurt or experience the constant ugliness in someone else spirit or character. When you are able to see someone spirit and pick up on their uglyness it does something to your spirit. The word say guard they heart and maybe staying away from deception is the way. How else can one have peace or a clean 💓
Thank you for your wisdom
So clear,real and helpful. Interesting also because even a person who is not currently saved...they could watch this video and if they struggle with this I'm pretty sure it would help with wanting to follow God. Sometimes "real" topics need to be placed with verses to help understand christianity...it helps me...real life topics.
Interesting perspectives I never thought of. I campaigned against porn' as a teenager as I was really affected by it from the other perspective. I was made to look at images with my grandfather while he abused me, just looking at the newspaper girls. He told me that I'd be like that one day. The images never left me. Then when I started work there were images of the same girls on calendars all over the factory. Someone commented to me that I really looked like one of those women and that I'd be better than her underneath. I was 15 and still at school. This was a woman my granddad used to look at while abusing me. I felt so sick and angry. I had really long curly hair like her, so I got a hair cut and had it shaved and spikey on top. That's when I joined the campaign. My view of men was really low before I started dating anyone so I never expected to meet a guy who would respect me. As an adult, I saw one of the other women I was exposed to on TV talking about the fact that her father was her manager and she never knew she was one of the richest women in the country as he spent all her money on drugs and alcohol and he died in a halfway house. I knew from the campaigning I did that when he sent in her first audition photo to the newspaper, she was not legally old enough and months before her 16th birthday. So the biggest nude pin up star in the country was actually a child. Some say it's "just nudes", however it suddenly gets called 'child porn' ' if it's a kid. She too was a victim and I learned not to hate her any more after that.
It's good to see people seeking Jesus in the churches as porn has so many victims. I was so moved by a young male youth pastor who gave his testimony about his addiction while he was growing up as a pastor's son. Jesus pulled him out of it and then used him in his ministry. His sermon was amazing. This is great too!
I really needed to heard that...AMEN
Good message thanks
I stopped because I’m 27 years old and 2 months into a breakup and it’s not helping me at all
In this mind if you say, ‘something is bad don’t think about it; that will become full time job, if you say ‘don’t think about this; only that they will think, people who do not understand the nature of human mind brought morality.
I can't really commet on how much this video help me but thanks allot!! GOD USES YOU AMAZINGLY
Awesome video
Omg! This is one hundred percent true thank you...keep up the good work man ps the shameness and dateing low garde people think is so true
I really appreciate your outreach.
Please make a video explaining the spirits and demons that attack when you view porn.
You're right Mark,this is true but I don't care about dating Women anymore,Women in is majority have treated me like I'm not valuable,why waste my time with them?.Im just gonna focus on God and edifying that relationship,I have no business in trying to get into a relationship with any woman,I've quit on that as of today but I'll keep watching your videos just to entertain myself with something
I'll keep praying for you brother
Thank you
Have you made a video about false understandings on sex? If not, I love to see that.
Courtney like when people watch porn or like see it on tv.
Lord Thank You So Much for Loving Me enough to Chastise Me when I do things that are not Good. Thanks Mark. Lord Please Have Mercy On Me. Thank You Jesus 🙏😇🙌
Have you received the message of God who is calling all people to repent? That is the way to be forgiven for sins we have committed up to that point of turning to God and turning the page from the way we had lived until then. That opens the door to receiving the gift of *a new life* that we will live for God and no longer for sin and the passing things of the world. It all begins with repentance and faith in Jesus, which means obedience to his word.
Without the word of God in your heart, you won't be able to live for God and walk in his ways. So, if you are willing to follow God's ways, you will take guidance from the scriptures. Please consider the following:
Acts 17:30-31
30 The times of ignorance therefore God overlooked. But now He commands that all people everywhere should repent, 31 because he has appointed a day in which He will judge the world in righteousness by the man whom He has ordained; of which He has given assurance to everyone by raising him from the dead.
Luke 6:46
Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do the things I say?
Hebrews 5:9
And having been made perfect, He [Jesus] became the author of eternal salvation to all those who obey Him
Galatians 5:6
For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision avails anything, but faith working through love.
1 John 5:3
For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome.
2 Chronicles 7:14
If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.
James 1:21-22
21 Therefore, putting away all filthiness and overflowing of wickedness [that's repentance], receive with humility the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. 22 But be doers of the word [that's faith/obedience], and not only hearers, deluding your own selves.
Psalm 119:11
I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.
Please see more here:
yestothetruth.blogspot.com/2022/04/call-to-repentance-scriptures.html
Peace to you!
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I have been dating “Christian” men and learned quickly that several had porn addictions of which were openly and forwardly admitted to on our second and third dates. Not exactly something I wanted to hear about from the men sitting across the table from me over a cup of coffee. It’s very frustrating because while these individuals were able to confess their sin upfront and express some shame, they seemingly had no intentions of permanently quitting their habit either- claiming it an act just too hard to stop. It feels almost disrespectful that a Christian woman would have to hear about these issues in the first place from potential suitors. Thus, make an honest effort to turn away from your sin in porn if you truly want to experience that genuine love created for us by our Father. A lot of women are feeling discouraged that we don’t have honorable men among us.
Pray for me
Need totally freedom here, please pray for me.
Please go to my Playlists and find the one called "Freedom From Porn Addiction" for encouragement and help to quit. See also my video titled 'Be Set Free From Sin' and read the description. Peace to you!
If you see this, this is my struggle. I've had an addiction for a while, but I want a chance with this girl, but not in that type of way AT ALL! Is God punishing me for my actions, and will I never get to be with her?
Mark when is best way to ask a guy you are interested in or start dating, if they are addicted to porn?
Now, chat do when lonely and isolated ? No porn, OK. Kills the triggers. But still, what do ?
Is Smoking weed and ciggarettes a Sin?
Yea cause I stay alone lol this is true .
I’ve fought PMO (Porn,Masterbation,Orgasm) for a year and a half, it was a fight, and since I started it I could see why the Bible clearly shows why this is a sin, every time I would give in during my streaks (relapse) instead of feeling pleasured I’d feel very shameful and weak all around, today I am on my longest streak, yet, I’m still single, it was living out in the country that was 1, in why I’ve been so lonely most of the time I found myself going to a strip club in a city miles away, but now it’s my enforcing career, the trucking career that seems to be keeping me from socializing and makes me stilll have lustful thoughts rather than make my life worth living for, I plan to quit sometime this year ready or not, but what I’m mainly trying to say is that even though I fought The addiction I’m still single and quite lonely.
See the video "Be Set Free From Sin" on the YesToTheTruth channel and click on the link in the description to read a post that will help you overcome (Revelation 2:7).
This playlist may help motivate you also:
Freedom From Porn Addiction
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Be set free and then pray to God for companionship. Have faith in God, serve Him wholeheartedly and you can count on Him answering your prayers according to his perfect wisdom and his will for your life.
This is some inspiration:
A Radical Way to Learn to Fully Trust God
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Peace to you!
Christian women who are living in sexual purity, you need to address this topic with your future husband, current boyfriend or current husband. Pornography is very very destructive. So if he confesses that he was or he is addicted, what would you do? you will know he is free and he is living in victory when he finds this SIN repulsive because goes against of who we are in Christ. It goes against God and our mission as followers of Christ. Thank you God for set me free of this SIN.
I'm trying to stay away from porn.
Please see this playlist for encouragement and help to quit:
Freedom From Porn Addiction
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Peace to you!
"لن يستنكف المسيح أن يكون عبدا لله"
I get quite isolated and I do want a relationship but my monthly income isn't sufficient neither do I have a steady job or career and until I can figure this part of my life out i choose to not pursue a relationship for now and besides no woman would want to be in a relationship with a person like myself. I have a sister and I know how I would feel if she brought a man Home without a steady job.
Hay mark this is exactly what I needed to hear I have a question (this may be off topic) but what do people need to do when they keep falling into the porn watching when they try to get out of it , kinda like they say oh yeah I'm gonna stop and then somehow they start again a week or two later? By the way loving the videos keep it up...and LOL you slept with a sleeping bag instead of bed sheets lololol
Wyatt I have just recently broken that same habit. I used to make the excuse that I was doing this not to commit the sin of fornication but altogether sin cannot prevent sin. It just multiplies it into something different and eventually worse. What it will truly come down to is this “what is the primary reason your quitting.” If it is for a girlfriend, wife, life, freedom from the sin, libido, ED,...etc I guarantee you will fail every time for when you stop it will get strong and the lust will just surround you and it is extremely hard to just let it go. There is only one thing you can look too. You have to do this in pursuit of Christ, to love and follow God with all your strength and heart and remember this when that lust surrounds you, I guarantee you will not fail. Trust me I have used every excuse in the book. I am still recovering mentally but it is getting better and my faith in Jesus Christ has been stronger than ever. When it does surround you, you will make every excuse and it will sound logical at the time but what I did was chant in my head “in pursuit of Christ, be like Christ, leave for I am a prisoner of Christ and you have no room here” You truly will have to believe what you say too. Made a mental note in my head every time.
Thank you for sharing, Robert
@@samueljenne5950 amen!!!! All Facts!
Prey for me too. Porn addiction sux.
This is not the first video I’ve seen that says sexual sin is selfish whereas marriage is supposed to be selfless like Christ!
Hi Mark, I have a question, I was in a very difficult marriage for 17 years, it was mostly sexless due to my husband 's pornography use, I had no idea that he was doing this the whole marriage and I lead a celibate life, not by choice but because my husband was never interested in sex. There were other things that were ungodly in the marriage aside from that. Sadly the marriage did not survive. I was told by the Pastor of my previous Church that I was Never allowed to remarry again so for the rest of my life I am to remain unmarried or reconcile to my previous spouse, the problem is I no longer trust my spouse, I don't want pornography in my home , I don't want to be in a marriage where I am forced to lead a life of celibacy while I'am married, I feel if I have to live celibate it is better to be alone, my question is , have you ever heard of this happening to anyone and what is the biblical thing to do. Sorry this is so complicated.
Yes, divorce in the Bible is a topic there is a lot of disagreement on. My best advice is for you to study the passages yourself to make your own conclusions rather than being told by your pastor. I express my views here: applygodsword.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-divorce-and-remarriage/
Please, divorce...
I like the book
I have been addicted to porn for roughly 15 years. Been trying so hard to stop and haven't been able to. I have slowed way down with it, which is good, but not stopped. I recently got into a brief relationship with a woman, a little over two months. The entire time I was with her I felt NO URGE at all. It was so wonderful and freeing. Now that we no longer talk the urge is back and in the last few weeks since the relationship ended, I've relapsed three times. It's devastating. How come I can't do this alone? With her it was incredibly easy. And no, her and I never fooled around or anything. I wanted to remain pure for her the entire time and I did. How come I can't do it for myself, my future wife or even God? It's very frustrating. I want to stop more than anything. I want to be free of this addiction and build myself into the strong person I know I am deep inside.
It's what's in you as a transformed person by the power of God that will keep you away from porn permanently. You need to focus on your relationship with God. Please realize that pornography watching is intentional. Saying 'Yes' to any temptation to sin and 'No' to doing God's will instead is intentional. But we can always resist sin when we first submit to God (see James 4:7-8, James 1:13-15, 1 Corinthians 10:13). These sins of the flesh keep people from inheriting the kingdom of God: Galatians 5:19-21. So you need to make the choice to turn away from that once and for all. That's repentance. God sees what you are desiring in your heart, whether good or evil, before any person you would choose to be accountable to.
Please see the videos in my playlist called "Be Set Free From Sin" for help. Take some time to understand well the way you need to approach God. Your obedience to God out of love for God (John 14:15) is the key to your deliverance from any sin that you are bound in (Hebrews 5:9).
Peace to you!
Hi mark could you address the question why do believers sin
We live in a sinful world are job is to repent and ask god to show us our ways. Sadly not all Christians are going because they feel like they're alright
As long as we are in flesh and matter - we are exposed and hardwired to sin. That's why we cannot stop praying and that's why we are never fully out or sure that sin has left us as long as we r in bodies.
I just want to know where you buy your sweaters
My friend I'm struggling sexual sin
See the video "Be Set Free From Sin" on my channel (YesToTheTruth) and click on the link in the description to read a post that will help you overcome (Revelation 2:7).
Godly➕vice always
God did not showed my spouse why
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I need help to get out of it T.T
We all need help to get out - so many good Christian people have helped me with so many things over the years! God is faithful! He will answer your prayers on this!
See the video "Be Set Free From Sin" on my channel (YesToTheTruth) and click on the link in the description to read a post that will help you overcome (Revelation 2:7).
See also the "Freedom From Porn Addiction" playlist on my channel.
Peace to you!
Maybe if us men could find women to date we’d be more inclined to give up filthy habits like porn. I’m 31 years old and still single and have no idea where to find any woman. They’re always with someone.
What about masturbation ?
I’ve been wondering about that too
🙄🙄🙄 that goes hand in hand with porn. The act is even worse: it’s sex magick. ☠️
I think it's almost the same thing.
Its the same your taking way from that drive for your spouse
@@RHG-pittsburgh2023 I don't have a spouse, let alone a boyfriend. I haven't pleasured myself in weeks. My libido is driving me batty !
I disagree with the statement "You will not have a healthy Christian marriage if you are addicted to porn." I know a guy who had one of the most ideal Christian marriages I've ever seen and he was addicted to porn for many years during his marriage. Yes, it caused problems but God worked on him and worked through it. But his marriage was still always one of the healthiest I'd ever seen. Don't put God in a box.
Addiction to porn isn't an indication of a healthy relationship with God and possibly signals the loss of a relationship that may have once existed. So, the experience of a healthy marriage isn't an indication of God's approval of a couple's life. That could be right next to good health, good job, living in a good neighborhood, having good schools for the children, etc. These are things that both people who are right with God and those who are not experience, because God is good even to the "unthankful and evil" (Luke 6:35), not just people who are living for Him wholeheartedly. Porn addiction reveals an idol in someone's heart. It's sinful. And sin is a separation between God and mankind (Isaiah 59:2). That problem is addressed effectively by Jesus who gave his life to reconcile people to God, but there is a way to approach God for a relationship. And sin is something that a person who draws close to God must put down. God doesn't accept worship from a divided, unrepentant heart (Romans 2:4-11). So, He calls people to come clean with Him and not approach Him with a double-mind (James 4:8). The couple may be happy and their marriage healthy, but is God happy with them? The spiritual diagnostic of a couple that has an unresolved issue with porn addiction isn't good.
_Mark __8:34__-38_
_34 Then Jesus called the crowd, along with his disciples, and said to them, “If anyone wants to become my follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. 35 For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and for the gospel will save it. 36 For what benefit is it for a person to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his life? 37 What can a person give in exchange for his life? 38 For if anyone is ashamed of me and my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, the Son of Man will also be ashamed of him when he comes in the glory of his Father with the holy angels.”_
YesToTheTruth Yes porn addiction is definitely a sin. Sin separates us from God. Do you struggle with any sin your life?
animetalesseries Not anymore, by the grace of God. Thanks for asking.
YesToTheTruth Glad to hear it. Many Christians struggle with sin. That is not to say sin is okay. God will break ever chain if you let Him. It is not okay to dismiss anyone’s relationship with God even if they struggle with sin. God says to come as you are. Addictions don’t just go away one day. It took an entire year for God to deliver me from my drug addiction from the point I knew I wanted to stop to when I had stopped completely.
Addiction to anything sexual is even harder to get away from than a drug addiction imo. With drugs you can put it away and never look at it again. With anything sexual, you have girls all around you that brings you back to your sinful mindset with just one look.
Have more sympathy and less judgement.
@@animetalesseries Struggling with sin reveals a slave/master relationship with sin (John 8:34, Romans 6:16). That does not go hand in hand with a relationship with God on the basis of what the Bible calls freedom from sin (John 8:36, Romans 6:7, 18). I won't give anyone a false sense of security in what they regard as their relationship with God. I don't think that makes me unsympathetic, considering that I was also in the same pit of sin before I got saved out of it. But God will be the judge of my attitude toward others. God does send people to warn others, and those who don't want to get right with God (yet -hopefully), will not see that as love. So, people who don't love the truth they hear won't see love in the messenger coming to them either. The Bible warned of those times we are in (2 Timothy 4:3-4). But Jesus gave final warnings to backslidden believers in Revelation 2 and 3 and told them without fail that they were about to lose their place in Him if they were not zealous to repent.
God never said, "Come as you are." Maybe "Come as you are to surrender to me. Because you stand as my enemy in your sins, so I sent my Son to die and pay the price with his blood so that you could be reconciled to me through faith in him, and no longer stand as my enemy, but my friend and ally on earth against the devil and his schemes against people." That's my way of expressing the message of the Gospel to sinners and you can verify what I said in the scriptures in passages such as Ephesians 2:1-3, Romans 5:7-11 and Luke 14:31-33. So, no question of coming to God and the same old continues.
But you have countless preachers saying "Come as you are." And you are one of them. Still, God calls everyone everywhere to repent (Acts 17:30-31). And I may not convince you about the call to repentance and conversion and what it means, and you have your own experience to look at, and perhaps your own study to do, but God looks for people who are willing to submit to Him out of humility and love for Him. Their minds/hearts change upon receiving God's word and their conduct will follow, however long that may take to come out of a wrong path like having an addiction. Their self-will just needs to be broken enough so they are no longer "lord" of their own life for God to reign fully over their hearts.
People don't come into a relationship with God before total submission to Him to do his will. That means willful disobedience to God leading to deliberate sins isn't a part of someone's relationship with God. If there is a relationship to speak of, that deliberate sinning will be regarded as unfaithfulness/adultery against God (e.g. James 4:4), a way out of a relationship with God, certainly (1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Galatians 5:19-21 warnings). And I know that's exactly what most people call _struggling with sin._ You are correct in saying that "God will break ever chain if you let Him." The truth is that very few professed Christians want to let God have his way in their lives and let go of their chains, because there is "pleasure" in sin, but no wisdom (Proverbs 9:10). So, they don't resolve to let go of sin and the collective experience of the greatest number of Christians, reinforced by false teachings that abound today convinces them that their experience is normal. But thank God for that guilt when doing wrong. Those who have it should listen to the voice of God speaking to them through their conscience and obey Him before they can't hear that voice anymore.
This sums up the invitation to come to God:
_James __1:21__-22_
_21 Therefore, putting away all filthiness and overflowing of wickedness, receive with humility the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. 22 But be doers of the word, and not only hearers, deluding your own selves._
Anyway, I responded to your original comment because the way you said to not put God in a box it seemed like you were saying that God was ok with the Christian couple you know. You didn't seem concerned about their issue with porn addiction because of the appearance of having a healthy marriage. That's many years during which they could have lost the opportunity to repent and get their hearts right with God. No one who is still delighting in watching porn has his/her heart right with God. That's as clear as day to me.
In Marriage you cannot let porn in your life. Your number 3 and number 4 are not true in a single life. Someone who has to wait for many years to have sex will be very grateful when they finally meet someone in a loving relationship.
Good work porn is from the Pitts of hell
My husband has destroyed my self-esteem
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I respect your opinion but i don't think that porn should be a reason that God won't put someone special in a person's life. Yes it can ruined a relationship but it should keep someone get a soul mate