#11 How to Survive saying goodbye to a Dutch person

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  • Corona made the problem go away for a while, but it's back: Dutch Kissing Confusion. Cause when greeting in The Netherlands, do we give 3 kisses, or just 1? Please tell us what you think in the comments!
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  • @dark_shadow6000
    @dark_shadow6000 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    The return of the king!

    • @ohhi5237
      @ohhi5237 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i didnt vote for him

  • @sentosaco
    @sentosaco ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I'm born and raised in NL and sort of accustomed with 3 kisses, but only with later generations. When I come to think of it and see it, 3 kisses is such an awkward concept on itself. 😂😅

  • @ultimategamingfriends
    @ultimategamingfriends ปีที่แล้ว +40

    this channel came back from the dead without any announcement, this masterpiece came blasting right trough my door

    • @PaulaBean
      @PaulaBean 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And then it disappeared again.

    • @ultimategamingfriends
      @ultimategamingfriends 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@PaulaBean never to be heard from again…

  • @WiWillemijn
    @WiWillemijn ปีที่แล้ว +19

    In my experience people under 30 don't do 3 kisses anymore, they just hug

    • @Flippityflap
      @Flippityflap หลายเดือนก่อน

      i was always used to 3 till i started working at a bar where everyone kissed eachother once each time they would come in at work lol. now im not sure what to do anymore in any other situations

  • @jac7198
    @jac7198 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    i think the one kiss spread mainly due to internet, and as youngsters being super awafe that only in the netherlands this was a thing. than also teens began to hug eachother, like in other countries, instead of kissing, because 3 kisses was sooo awkward. and now we silently agreed upon 1, less awkward but more warm than just a hug

  • @tiemenstaal
    @tiemenstaal 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It's three and I love to observe the panic-stricken Americans who encounter it.

  • @dylanh3712
    @dylanh3712 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My guy left for 2 years, leaving me sad without his content. Comes back doesn't say anything ):

  • @ohhi5237
    @ohhi5237 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    the law is very very clean on this:
    "First shalt thou take out the Holy Kisser. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. "

  • @peppyweppy6851
    @peppyweppy6851 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    OH MY GOD, THEY'RE BACK! FINALLY! I've waited so long for the new videos!

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      YES WE ARE! Can't believe it ourselves either. Thanks for sticking around!

    • @PaulaBean
      @PaulaBean 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@SurvivalGuidetotheDutch And then a silence of 9 months++.

    • @Theachup
      @Theachup 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SurvivalGuidetotheDutchr u gonna be back? 😢

  • @joshuaphokaew9270
    @joshuaphokaew9270 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ik ben zo Nederlands als wat maar hiervan ga ik echt lachen, het is enigszins wel echt een handboek om als toerist Nederland goed door te komen😂

  • @kibistec
    @kibistec 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Idea for another video: how to survive office lunch. From canteens with individual plastic packaged pieces of ham or cheese, to the conversations and expectaitons of what to do.

  • @manolocorp
    @manolocorp ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm moving to the Netherlands in a month, and this channel is saving my life 🌷

    • @Anieckieee
      @Anieckieee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How do you like it?

    • @ChadyotheWallnut
      @ChadyotheWallnut 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sterkte.

    • @angelavdm684
      @angelavdm684 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Be realy for oud en nieuw, war is getting started

  • @mrknows6304
    @mrknows6304 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I personally always found it akward, so I just said "don't like kisses" and went for a hug. Always works.

    • @MnstrKnight
      @MnstrKnight ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Where in the country are these tolerant people who don't respond to that by grabbing your head and forcing it haha

    • @escwilde222
      @escwilde222 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same always hugging

  • @GranZebru
    @GranZebru ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I missed your videos guys, welcome back. Happy also to see that I'm not the only one confused about the situation. :)

  • @burgienl
    @burgienl ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Funny, recently ran into this "problem" when kissing a Dutch lady who now lives in Switzerland. I automatically went for 3 because I have doing that most for my life. But she went for one. That felt weird 🤣

  • @colindagroenendijk6427
    @colindagroenendijk6427 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for making another video!! I hope to see more from you guys 😁😁😁

  • @kazuna_airlines
    @kazuna_airlines ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yooooo you back!

  • @semrayavuz5193
    @semrayavuz5193 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omgg you're backk

  • @ozzemie
    @ozzemie 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm so glad this whole kissing thing hasn't yet returned in 2023! I always hated it, especially since I wear glasses.

  • @QuickM8tey
    @QuickM8tey ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg this channel is alive let's goooooooooooooooo

  • @ricardobrandao12
    @ricardobrandao12 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so funny! Top job guys, well done 😂

  • @kopisusu2000
    @kopisusu2000 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I knew about the 3 kisses, but the history and how the pandemic was helping the awkwardness are new to me.
    Thanks for the insight, and welcome back, @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch.
    Oh, almost forgot to say: The ending is amazing!!!

  • @Dutchology
    @Dutchology ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are back? I was waiting for this, those video's made my day, DANKUWEL!

  • @thebackyard7661
    @thebackyard7661 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    personally i opt for no kisses, not even for family. i feel like the younger generation is also moving away from the kissing greet, since it might be too intimate especially with strangers.

  • @charici
    @charici ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's always been three kisses for me! For my Dutch and Surinamese family.
    Also: Welkom terug!!

  • @jannetteberends8730
    @jannetteberends8730 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thinking about, and my conclusion is that it is either 3 air kisses, or one hug.

  • @sit-insforsithis1568
    @sit-insforsithis1568 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He casually called up Dries van Agt

  • @ofjeworstlust69
    @ofjeworstlust69 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have absolutely never experienced someone who went for one kiss to be honest.

    • @jac7198
      @jac7198 ปีที่แล้ว

      uunder 50 i have never experienced peoplw for going for 3 tbh

    • @chriswetering79
      @chriswetering79 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me neither, I didn't know one kiss was a thing

  • @gandeldalf
    @gandeldalf ปีที่แล้ว

    He is back!

  • @marcusvalerius2678
    @marcusvalerius2678 ปีที่แล้ว

    after years they finally came back!

  • @Hwelhos
    @Hwelhos 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I come from a rural town in Groningen where we still do two, which causes confusion when we go to family in Arnhem who do it thrice

  • @sarjenka
    @sarjenka 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dat zoenen heb ik altijd klote gevonden.

  • @lindarctica
    @lindarctica ปีที่แล้ว

    Er was een liedje van Kinderen Voor Kinderen deel 9 precies over dit probleem. 🤣 Toen al herkenbaar!

  • @AnthonyLeighDunstan
    @AnthonyLeighDunstan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nice vid. Reminiscing I miss those awkward "3-kiss/1-kiss/no-kiss/wtf" moments.

  • @dalyxia
    @dalyxia ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Since covid, i stopped doing kisses alltogether and im not planning on changing back in the near future.

  • @hendriks_kevin
    @hendriks_kevin ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As someone from below the rivers, if there are kisses it will be three kisses.

  • @SamanthaDrok
    @SamanthaDrok 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hahahahha I'm 100% dutch, from Dordrecht, so technically the north, but ive always known (and hated) it to be 3 kisses. I personally prefer a hug, or 1 kiss with a hug. I kiss my mother in law 3x a year 3 kisses and thats her birthday/my birthday and new years eve. Thats my max. and even after 10+ years she keeps saying, we dont kiss right cuz you don't like that. INDEEED. I was looking for a video like this to explain to my friend from the UK and it was excatly what I was looking for!!!!

  • @psychoaiko666
    @psychoaiko666 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    3 always
    ...
    Oh, en uh...
    HET IS FRIET!!!

  • @abcx467
    @abcx467 ปีที่แล้ว

    Geniaal

  • @jojboy
    @jojboy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just 3 kisses.

  • @FelipeRio
    @FelipeRio ปีที่แล้ว

    haha always the best, being from Brazil I've never got tangled on this, I'm going to kiss and hug either way hahaha

  • @Lucida_Fox
    @Lucida_Fox ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Live without people even trying to come close to me for a handshake. thats bliss.

  • @D4NKN3SS
    @D4NKN3SS ปีที่แล้ว

    THE GANG IS BACK!!! I guess 3 it is then......

  • @katrinz4544
    @katrinz4544 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I sing for the last sentence!

  • @Dawn._
    @Dawn._ ปีที่แล้ว

    재밌다 ㅋㅋㅋ 문화가 완잔히 달라서...

  • @jajo579
    @jajo579 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was born and raised in The Netherlands with 3 kisses. Living in the US now, I've grown accustomed to hugs and now feel it's much better than kisses! No chance of lipstick stains on the cheeks 👍🏽😁

  • @kleineputje
    @kleineputje ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've been in NL just 1 year (1997-1998) I do the 3 kisses too (but only with people that close)

  • @LeoBliksem
    @LeoBliksem 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2024 we kijken dit nog

  • @ionasan
    @ionasan ปีที่แล้ว

    Maybe I've just gotten lucky, but I moved from the US last June and have never had anyone try to kiss me. I didn't even know it was a thing.

  • @daanwillemsen223
    @daanwillemsen223 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cheffs kiss 😘

  • @blokmown1219
    @blokmown1219 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    in my family you always give hugs untill you're about 12 and then you start giving 3 kisses, I don't like it but it's just tradition

  • @H1SCOTTY
    @H1SCOTTY ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Do as the Brabander, just keep kissing three times. We in the south are associated with Burgundian “gezelligheid”

  • @amanda34639
    @amanda34639 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nah. From the US but have lived in Paris and Nederland with a German/Palestinian boyfriend. 2 kisses in France, 3 kisses in Amsterdam, 5-7 in more eastern countries. Dropping the boy .
    I nannied for 5 yrs off at school I'd see lots of women kiss more than 5 times at drop off and lunch break. Much more stiff in Germany. I visited w my bf's mother many times but I never knew she liked me until after he died at middle age. We write back and forth and I'm wearing her son's hoodie that she sent me right now. Sorry, over long.
    But! When Dutchies come visit me in US the first thing is 3 kisses at the airport.

  • @dl5329
    @dl5329 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got dizzy just from watching so many kisses 😂I prefer 0, thank you very much :))

  • @Non-disjunction
    @Non-disjunction ปีที่แล้ว

    This suddenly made me nervous for a date coming up LOL

  • @paranoya733
    @paranoya733 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As dutch ex colony country now i know how we get two kisses after the dutch left in 1949.. we call it "Sun" 😂

  • @praetoriancorps
    @praetoriancorps ปีที่แล้ว

    I always did the three kisses, but only with some very very close family. With most people no kisses at all.

  • @infj4w511
    @infj4w511 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I just shake hands. I've literally only cheek-kisse on like 5 occasions in my entie life.

  • @MarnixvanOort
    @MarnixvanOort ปีที่แล้ว

    🎉🎉🎉

  • @MrNicoJac
    @MrNicoJac ปีที่แล้ว

    Me and my ex both grew up in the west of the country. I spent the last decade in the east of the country.
    When we met again to talk, I went for the hug I give all my friends - she went for a cheek kiss.
    We both found the other to be too intimate, hahaha 😂

  • @010Jordi
    @010Jordi ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm from rotterdam and in my family it has always been 3

  • @benflokstra5609
    @benflokstra5609 ปีที่แล้ว

    Of mensen die dan een knuffel geven, maar dat eigenlijk zelf heel spannend vinden dus dan noemen ze het maar een "hug"

  • @ylvafreijters2535
    @ylvafreijters2535 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ik heb het afgeschaft.
    Doe er niet meer aan mee.
    Ik haat 3 kussen en houd mijn poot stijf een hand kun je krijgen en verder niet.

  • @raynerp
    @raynerp ปีที่แล้ว

    thanks Survival Guide, now I have kissophobia

  • @samvarghese7731
    @samvarghese7731 ปีที่แล้ว

    haha that was funny

  • @SirTenshi
    @SirTenshi ปีที่แล้ว

    they're alive :O?

  • @shad0wrune
    @shad0wrune ปีที่แล้ว

    You make more sense than the dutch goverment

  • @XimsStryker
    @XimsStryker 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I met my wife in the south and at the end of our first date we said goodbye with kisses.. i'm from the north so on the third kiss i went all in for the lips :D

  • @xDragonchiefx
    @xDragonchiefx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When I came to the Netherlands it was 3. I slowly took over the custom. When meeting new women, its 3 kisses. With guys, a handshake. As a gay guy though... Should I be giving 3 kisses instead?

  • @decombobulated27
    @decombobulated27 ปีที่แล้ว

    In Portugal we do two kisses and ngl I think that's the perfect amount 3 just seems a bit too much

  • @TheSimArchitect
    @TheSimArchitect 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh, so it's a Catholic thing! That's why we kiss 3 times in Brazil too. But usually only between women or man vs woman. Men don't do that between themselves. I think it's more of an Italian thing, from what we see on those mafia movies. Not sure it's a real life thing.

  • @Nelthalin
    @Nelthalin ปีที่แล้ว

    I was born and love in the Netherlands. I Never liked the 3 kisses takes way to long. Just 1 or a hug that's what I do these days.

  • @janklaassen6404
    @janklaassen6404 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    If you don't want things to go awkward, go for the three kisses. That's the tradition, therefore it's never wrong.

  • @KingofgraceSARA
    @KingofgraceSARA ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Would four kisses be too much maybe 5?

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely!

    • @S1dew1nderNL
      @S1dew1nderNL ปีที่แล้ว

      Depends on the context.. if we're entangled for more than a couple of minutes than just 5 kisses might not be enough.

    • @IvoB1987
      @IvoB1987 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I believe in some areas of France 4 is normal

  • @robertfurner1729
    @robertfurner1729 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    3 kisses only forgodd friends or family

  • @mrsunshine888
    @mrsunshine888 ปีที่แล้ว

    So confused now! Also do more videos or my goldfish die. 😛

  • @johnhendriks4085
    @johnhendriks4085 ปีที่แล้ว

    I come from from Amsterdam. But fighting over the number of kisses? I don't think it is a real issue. I never heard anybody talks about that

  • @0oichemhaith
    @0oichemhaith ปีที่แล้ว

    😘😘😘

  • @cymen1
    @cymen1 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think people hug more often now because of the end of the pandemic.

  • @roelandaudenaerde8312
    @roelandaudenaerde8312 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The habit of three kisses started in the 1950s in Brabant, the southern part of the Netherlands. It was a reaction against the soberness that prevailed in World War 2. Local people sought to imitate the abundant behaviour of Americans, and they took three kisses to be part of that.

    • @ohhi5237
      @ohhi5237 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      americans dont kiss unless to spread cooties, this is pure dutch tradition from back when everyone also spoke fluent french

  • @Andrath
    @Andrath 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    3 kussen, links beginnen. It's not that hard.

  • @DX88
    @DX88 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I stopped kissing when covid started and will now forever refuse them. My family has re-started kissing but even though I'm the odd one out by refusing them, I feel so much happier because I've always hated it.

  • @aubreyseptember
    @aubreyseptember ปีที่แล้ว

    Xx

  • @sdtok527
    @sdtok527 ปีที่แล้ว

    Go for a hug, as a Dutchmen I dont know it either anymore.

  • @davidzwitser
    @davidzwitser ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a Dutch person, I reeaaly hope kissing dies soon. A handshake if you don't know someone ad a hug if you do (if people are comfortable with that, otherwise just wave) is the way to go. As far as I see gen-z is doing that already.

  • @iamaprochingfast1000
    @iamaprochingfast1000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ey ik ben eerst

  • @Arcterion
    @Arcterion ปีที่แล้ว

    It's a terrible tradition, tbh.

  • @TheSmollest
    @TheSmollest ปีที่แล้ว

    The guy just said "holland", dutch people will hate you man :D

    • @misophoniq
      @misophoniq ปีที่แล้ว

      No they won't. Literally nobody in Holland cares.

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  ปีที่แล้ว

      F*ck you Netherlands just doesn’t sound as nice 😇

    • @nispen
      @nispen 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lots of Dutch people say Holland