A year ago I got back with the love of my life with the help of these videos. Today I'm going on a peaceful walk with my dogs and decided I'd listen so I dont become complacent in the relationship and keep working at it. Its funny to see the one guy from Mexico is still leaving a dislike lol (old refrence).
@@HolisticMotion update.. We ended up breaking up again despite all the change that had been made. We were separated for 3 years with no contact besides a quick cordial conversation a few times. I learned and grew apart from her and truly thought it was over so I discovered I could love myself just as much. Then actually just recently we rekindled and honestly seems very comfortable and natural. We're both more mature and willing to communicate now. I could go into further detail if anyone would like.
I'll be the last one to ever pass judgement on anyone, but for the guy that "lashed out," you've gotta just let things rest as they are. Count yourself grateful that in a composed way this women was still able to calmly and mildly express to you that she has no desire for you in her life; best to have that communicated straightforward then be left in limbo. I "lashed out" myself about a month ago, calling my ex some names that I'm so incredibly ashamed and embarrassed of. I was fortunate that she has such a forgiving heart and was able to tell me she forgave me, but I'm trying to let things sink in, including a reality in which it's unlikely she currently wants me to be a part of her life. I'm trying mightily to focus on myself, through therapy and finding other productive outlets, because I've come to the reality that I have a lot of underlying issues that need to be addressed before I'm potentially good for her again or in any other future situation. The biggest and most important investment we can make is in ourselves and in due time that investment pays itself forward to those around us who we love, care about and desire to be in our lives. Simply my two cents of rambling...
That is why coach, Craig says... when the person breaks up with you, just back away.... don't say, do anything further... the way you react determines whether they will come back... I never accused, swore or blamed....still going through rough NC moments but keep myself motivated and positive....healing,growing and learning is key...
hey coach craig, first and foremost thank you for the uploads. i am 2 weeks into a break up from an almost 11 year relationship, it has been beyond super rough for me. unfortunately i am not in the position to do an email or a skype session with you, or else i would have already set up a session. i am in a waiting line to see a local therapist so hopefully their list dwindles quickly as i have to go threw ssi for them. your videos have giving me alot of insight in all aspects of my situation, which i probably would have been an absolute wreak if i had not come across your channel. my situation in a combination of so many of your videos so they all end up providing me with always a peice of useful information. so i have to thank you from deep down for all of the amazing information that you give to people. have a great day man
Thank you so much Coach Craig for all your videos. Listening to them has helped me calm my anxiety. This year I plan on scheduling a Skype because my plan is not to get my ex back but to better myself and make wiser choices. It’s time I treated my heart with kindness.
This video was immensely helpful to me. When you read the letter from her ex, I imagined that it was the closure letter from my ex that I never received, my ex being of a highly disorganized A.S. and with mental issues. I never was able to have any closure, just radio silence. If my ex was more healthy and communicative, I'd like to think she would've had the decency to say something along these lines, which may hurt in the moment, but ultimately was a healthy action and best for everyone involved when a breakup is inevitable.
Craig! Hello from England, please would it be possible to do a video on suddenly being blocked out of the blue by a man when you were working through things? Kind Regards
I can stop thinking abt him I miss him so much it’s the hardest at night because he is not next to me it hurst to see him wen he picks up our son I can sleep I Betty eat
Yes, when I got divorced years back I got depressed but I continued doing the everything like if nothing was wrong...but inside I was dying...i cried for years...didn't think about therapy because I thought it was a process...anyway it's been 14 years and I think that affect me. It's very difficult for me to trust.... If I date I'll check out to see if their interested in me or if they just want sex if it turns out to be sex I usually just stop answering there's calls or texts. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt but I just cut them off. My divorce made me hard. If a man is interested in you he will masked you first and want to make you happy. If I don't get that it's bye,bye
its to bad you only accept creditcard...if you accepted paypal i could book a email session... can you also make a video about getting a ex back after multipal break ups? please Craig??
I got dumped early in the dating process by a girl I had fallen in love with. It never got to be a relationship but still a romantic rejection and very painful at that. She was also very clear in rejecting me. She said there will never be anything between us. I take something like that very seriously. She blocked me and I blocked her. I have attachments issues (I think) because this was over a year ago and I still think about her (we only had one date) but I'm committed to moving on no matter what. I'm using my will to fight against myself internally and I'm working everyday on sorting out my emotions. I had a troubled childhood and I longed for love for a longtime before I met her. When we did meet it was love on first sight for me but she was more experienced, emotionally not involved etc.
DreamBeatsBakery just keep going, things will get better. I had a similar story to yours. Was involved with a single mum for 5 months, when she wanted to end it. After the day she ended it I never contacted her again but after a month she reached out and later on we met again. When we met, it felt like it never ended but I had to ask what is happening as I did not want to ignore any red flags. She got startled when I asked her, later she started playing games by asking to meet but then avoids me so I decided to cut all contact and move on. She kept coming back month after month that on the last message I ignored her but she kept on texting so a few days ago I told her to either make up her mind or leave me alone (I said more then that but cannot write all of it) she had a sad childhood, her parents split at 6 and she never seen her dad again as her mum took her with her, to her own country (parents come from different countries) I think he was not a good guy, she lost her mum at 13 to cancer, so she spent the rest of her teen years with her grandparents and later foster parents. Her dad also passed away over a year ago so ofcourse if she had any hope of reuniting that is now gone. Her child's dad with whom she was for 6yrs use to beat her so she called the police on him and left him. I think she has a disorganised attachment as her behaviour looks like a come and go type. And according to some research I did they say that with this kind of attachment they most likely end up in an abusive relationship which she was.
Global I'm sorry to hear that man, sounds like she's in a very bad place. It's certainly not unheard of that people with that sort of history (foster parents, divorce, abandonment) have a hard time maintaining healthy relationships. For me all I can do is work on myself. I don't know the history of the girl I was involved with but I do believe her parents are divorced (as are mine) but don't know much else. She had quite a lot of boyfriends for her age and she told me that she gets bored of guys quickly (which in retrospect is kind of a red flag) but anyhow I think the best option is to let them go. Pressure in the form of expectations is not conductive to good relationships in any case. Letting go and wishing others well gives them the most freedom and allows them to choose us of their own accord (us being healthy and secure and not needing another, since investing in ourselves is the best thing we can do for ourselves and ultimately for then too)
DreamBeatsBakery I tried to cut the cords but she kept on coming, which is odd as it was her decision to end it in the first place not mine, I do care about her but am not in love, not denying that I would have fallen. When we were seeing each other the first 5 months I did not get any indication that something is not right, apart that she told me that she hated her dad for what he did to her mum but that is it. When she returned I was very careful, and I did say to myself that as soon as I start feeling that she is going to act up Ill leave and that is what I did. I left, but she kept reaching out to a point that I told her not bother texting me anymore. I have been working on myself and am happy. Am the kind of guy that if I start to feel uncomfortable with a girl, like I feel she starts to make me feel anxious Ill move on as that to me is a big red flag.
Dear Craig It was such a pleasure to work with you. You have given me hope for my situation. I am doing everything you said and I am going to contact you again to reinforce what we talked about. Can you do a video about decades of marriage ending in a breakup with husband jumping into living with another woman? I am interested in long term relationship and the insight you have about them. Thank you for all that you do to help humanity.
When u feel like reaching out to soothe your own anxiety don’t do it if they want you they will reach out
A year ago I got back with the love of my life with the help of these videos. Today I'm going on a peaceful walk with my dogs and decided I'd listen so I dont become complacent in the relationship and keep working at it. Its funny to see the one guy from Mexico is still leaving a dislike lol (old refrence).
Every single day lol
How can you see who liked or disliked your post? lol he is one disgruntled bastard :D
You lucky
Update?
@@HolisticMotion update.. We ended up breaking up again despite all the change that had been made. We were separated for 3 years with no contact besides a quick cordial conversation a few times. I learned and grew apart from her and truly thought it was over so I discovered I could love myself just as much. Then actually just recently we rekindled and honestly seems very comfortable and natural. We're both more mature and willing to communicate now. I could go into further detail if anyone would like.
I liked that you said: "Do it for yourself. Focus on who you want to become." This is so motivating!
I'll be the last one to ever pass judgement on anyone, but for the guy that "lashed out," you've gotta just let things rest as they are. Count yourself grateful that in a composed way this women was still able to calmly and mildly express to you that she has no desire for you in her life; best to have that communicated straightforward then be left in limbo. I "lashed out" myself about a month ago, calling my ex some names that I'm so incredibly ashamed and embarrassed of. I was fortunate that she has such a forgiving heart and was able to tell me she forgave me, but I'm trying to let things sink in, including a reality in which it's unlikely she currently wants me to be a part of her life. I'm trying mightily to focus on myself, through therapy and finding other productive outlets, because I've come to the reality that I have a lot of underlying issues that need to be addressed before I'm potentially good for her again or in any other future situation. The biggest and most important investment we can make is in ourselves and in due time that investment pays itself forward to those around us who we love, care about and desire to be in our lives. Simply my two cents of rambling...
That is why coach, Craig says... when the person breaks up with you, just back away.... don't say, do anything further... the way you react determines whether they will come back... I never accused, swore or blamed....still going through rough NC moments but keep myself motivated and positive....healing,growing and learning is key...
hey coach craig, first and foremost thank you for the uploads. i am 2 weeks into a break up from an almost 11 year relationship, it has been beyond super rough for me. unfortunately i am not in the position to do an email or a skype session with you, or else i would have already set up a session. i am in a waiting line to see a local therapist so hopefully their list dwindles quickly as i have to go threw ssi for them. your videos have giving me alot of insight in all aspects of my situation, which i probably would have been an absolute wreak if i had not come across your channel. my situation in a combination of so many of your videos so they all end up providing me with always a peice of useful information. so i have to thank you from deep down for all of the amazing information that you give to people. have a great day man
R-e3-F how are you holding up emotionally/mentally 9 months later my man??
Thank you so much Coach Craig for all your videos. Listening to them has helped me calm my anxiety. This year I plan on scheduling a Skype because my plan is not to get my ex back but to better myself and make wiser choices. It’s time I treated my heart with kindness.
This video was immensely helpful to me. When you read the letter from her ex, I imagined that it was the closure letter from my ex that I never received, my ex being of a highly disorganized A.S. and with mental issues. I never was able to have any closure, just radio silence. If my ex was more healthy and communicative, I'd like to think she would've had the decency to say something along these lines, which may hurt in the moment, but ultimately was a healthy action and best for everyone involved when a breakup is inevitable.
Craig! Hello from England, please would it be possible to do a video on suddenly being blocked out of the blue by a man when you were working through things? Kind Regards
I can stop thinking abt him I miss him so much it’s the hardest at night because he is not next to me it hurst to see him wen he picks up our son I can sleep I Betty eat
What if you messed just little twice nk o just friends wjat are my chances im on volume 4 doing alot better
Yes, when I got divorced years back I got depressed but I continued doing the everything like if nothing was wrong...but inside I was dying...i cried for years...didn't think about therapy because I thought it was a process...anyway it's been 14 years and I think that affect me. It's very difficult for me to trust.... If I date I'll check out to see if their interested in me or if they just want sex if it turns out to be sex I usually just stop answering there's calls or texts. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt but I just cut them off. My divorce made me hard. If a man is interested in you he will masked you first and want to make you happy. If I don't get that it's bye,bye
Sometimes even if a man makes a woman happy he can still get dumped because they cannot handle it especially if they are used to chaos.
Global true
I guess we all got the wrong partner and if it is God, maybe it was to build us stronger
its to bad you only accept creditcard...if you accepted paypal i could book a email session... can you also make a video about getting a ex back after multipal break ups? please Craig??
I got dumped early in the dating process by a girl I had fallen in love with. It never got to be a relationship but still a romantic rejection and very painful at that. She was also very clear in rejecting me. She said there will never be anything between us. I take something like that very seriously. She blocked me and I blocked her. I have attachments issues (I think) because this was over a year ago and I still think about her (we only had one date) but I'm committed to moving on no matter what. I'm using my will to fight against myself internally and I'm working everyday on sorting out my emotions. I had a troubled childhood and I longed for love for a longtime before I met her. When we did meet it was love on first sight for me but she was more experienced, emotionally not involved etc.
DreamBeatsBakery just keep going, things will get better. I had a similar story to yours. Was involved with a single mum for 5 months, when she wanted to end it. After the day she ended it I never contacted her again but after a month she reached out and later on we met again. When we met, it felt like it never ended but I had to ask what is happening as I did not want to ignore any red flags. She got startled when I asked her, later she started playing games by asking to meet but then avoids me so I decided to cut all contact and move on. She kept coming back month after month that on the last message I ignored her but she kept on texting so a few days ago I told her to either make up her mind or leave me alone (I said more then that but cannot write all of it) she had a sad childhood, her parents split at 6 and she never seen her dad again as her mum took her with her, to her own country (parents come from different countries) I think he was not a good guy, she lost her mum at 13 to cancer, so she spent the rest of her teen years with her grandparents and later foster parents. Her dad also passed away over a year ago so ofcourse if she had any hope of reuniting that is now gone. Her child's dad with whom she was for 6yrs use to beat her so she called the police on him and left him. I think she has a disorganised attachment as her behaviour looks like a come and go type. And according to some research I did they say that with this kind of attachment they most likely end up in an abusive relationship which she was.
Global
I'm sorry to hear that man, sounds like she's in a very bad place. It's certainly not unheard of that people with that sort of history (foster parents, divorce, abandonment) have a hard time maintaining healthy relationships.
For me all I can do is work on myself.
I don't know the history of the girl I was involved with but I do believe her parents are divorced (as are mine) but don't know much else. She had quite a lot of boyfriends for her age and she told me that she gets bored of guys quickly (which in retrospect is kind of a red flag) but anyhow I think the best option is to let them go. Pressure in the form of expectations is not conductive to good relationships in any case. Letting go and wishing others well gives them the most freedom and allows them to choose us of their own accord (us being healthy and secure and not needing another, since investing in ourselves is the best thing we can do for ourselves and ultimately for then too)
DreamBeatsBakery I tried to cut the cords but she kept on coming, which is odd as it was her decision to end it in the first place not mine, I do care about her but am not in love, not denying that I would have fallen. When we were seeing each other the first 5 months I did not get any indication that something is not right, apart that she told me that she hated her dad for what he did to her mum but that is it. When she returned I was very careful, and I did say to myself that as soon as I start feeling that she is going to act up Ill leave and that is what I did. I left, but she kept reaching out to a point that I told her not bother texting me anymore. I have been working on myself and am happy. Am the kind of guy that if I start to feel uncomfortable with a girl, like I feel she starts to make me feel anxious Ill move on as that to me is a big red flag.
Nice job and thank you
Fantastic
This is a great video
I wish I can skype but I don’t have the money for it ! ;( I’m in such need for help
Dear Craig
It was such a pleasure to work with you. You have given me hope for my situation. I am doing everything you said and I am going to contact you again to reinforce what we talked about. Can you do a video about decades of marriage ending in a breakup with husband jumping into living with another woman? I am interested in long term relationship and the insight you have about them. Thank you for all that you do to help humanity.
What if we both walked on eggs shell for to long
The pet turtle loool 😂