7:24 "What do you do" I wouldn't do anything, as far as I am concerned, both my parents are gone from my life. If they didn't want to be treated like that, maybe they should have been better parents (my mom is still alive, my dad left this plane of existence quite a few years ago). 9:37 "They get so upset" You do you, girl. If you feel it's worth it then it's worth it to you. Not worth it getting upset over your choice, I have more than enough stuff to get "upset" about. Btw, it's quite nice that you have managed to at least get some closure on it, that you could mend your relationship to at least some degree with your dad.
@SvengelskaBlondie I respect your stance on your folks, we gotta do what makes the most sense for us - it's our life, not theirs or anyone else's. It's hard to say what's worth it really, but this little bit of progress was nice to experience. But its so basic in the scheme of things, very basic. I keep a relationship with them maybe a bit out of "duty" but also out of love, which maybe are synonyms - also out of desire to know myself, but there are many different ways one could do that.
@@IlluminateYourPower "many different ways one could do that." That is very true, there's no real "one-size-fits all" solution out there for stuff like this. My stance comes from that my mother never accepted her treatment of me or my siblings, she always ignored it or didn't care, Finally had enough when she was doing some foster family thing and chose the kids that she was an extra home to over me when I wanted to visit them over Christmas. Several months ago, she wanted to call and talk to me, I just hung up. I felt like I had nothing to say and no words she had to say were worth listening to.
My relationship with my parents has definitely improved the older I got. Yes, we could've definitely been happier or better if they were who we needed them to be, but the thing i remind myself everytime I get mad at my parents is something one of the only friends I had said to me when I complained about how my parents raised me while we were on a mushroom trip. "Maybe they are like that because that's the way they were raised. They don't have any other frame of reference." And it's true in a lot of aspects. They were raised in a different world, where access to information was much more limited. Or maybe the way their parents treated them shaped them into who they are and they don't see a way to change. Even if we have disagreements with our parents, I believe it's important that we always show love to them.
@austin9809 I tend to think your viewpoint is spot on. They can't give us what they haven't had or show us what they've never seen. That's why I give my parents lots of grace and id like to break the generational pattern of disowning parents.
I always feel for people who had a poor relationship with their parents. I have heard it so many times from work colleagues and acquaintances. My brother and I had a great relationship with our mother, but sadly, she passed when I was 21. My father was a quiet man, a good provider and hard worker, but he struggled with interpersonal relationships and had few friends. As he aged, he mellowed, developed a much more caring side and our relationship improved to the point where I would say we became close. Sadly he passed 4 yrs ago, but I know from conversations we had before he died, that he was proud of my brother and I. If your dad is becoming the father you always wanted him to be, cherish the relationship.
@stevegill1157 im glad you got closer with your dad. Parents are special in their own way whether they are who we need them to be or not. I do cherish the moments with my dad. ❤️
My Dad's never heard of the concept of boundaries, or of earning love; so he tries to force respect. He's like the bull in the china shop wondering why no one wants to talk to him.
I was going to say can you talk about your relationship with your parents. It's how you learn to develop your masculine and feminine energies. However, if you resent one or both of your parents you can develop distorted instead of devine energies. You can also become so imbalanced or gay.
@ I know intimately what you say is correct as I've had course corrections and could pinpoint it back to weird energy with my parents. I've kept a relationship with both and we're closer now than ever and it's maybe not a coincidence that I also am closer with myself and feel more balanced than ever.
@IlluminateYourPower I love watching your journey. Thank you for sharing. I commented before watching the video. Ultimately you are healing your individuals parents inner child and masculine and feminine energies. Remember your parents had parents too. And so on and so forth. The inner work your doing will affect 7 generations before and after you. Your ancestors are proud. You should be proud of yourself! It takes a very mature and wise soul to look at themselves and look inwards to fins the problems and the solutions. Also, this imbalance comes out in relationships. The partner mirrors the unembodied energy and they flip flop. So one is more masc and the other more fem. Like energies repelle. Usually most people get into their ego/masc. And push each other away. It's very newton's cradle esk. Also, I've enjoyed Harry Potter legacy it's a very dumbed down rpg. Still super fun and repetitive. The lack of challenge actually makes it enjoyable. You can just fly around and light shit on fire. Quite a vibe. Would recommend.
“We don’t want people to change because then it fucks with our narrative”.
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Great video.
@divinedouggy 😊
7:24 "What do you do"
I wouldn't do anything, as far as I am concerned, both my parents are gone from my life. If they didn't want to be treated like that, maybe they should have been better parents (my mom is still alive, my dad left this plane of existence quite a few years ago).
9:37 "They get so upset"
You do you, girl. If you feel it's worth it then it's worth it to you. Not worth it getting upset over your choice, I have more than enough stuff to get "upset" about. Btw, it's quite nice that you have managed to at least get some closure on it, that you could mend your relationship to at least some degree with your dad.
@SvengelskaBlondie I respect your stance on your folks, we gotta do what makes the most sense for us - it's our life, not theirs or anyone else's.
It's hard to say what's worth it really, but this little bit of progress was nice to experience. But its so basic in the scheme of things, very basic. I keep a relationship with them maybe a bit out of "duty" but also out of love, which maybe are synonyms - also out of desire to know myself, but there are many different ways one could do that.
@@IlluminateYourPower "many different ways one could do that."
That is very true, there's no real "one-size-fits all" solution out there for stuff like this.
My stance comes from that my mother never accepted her treatment of me or my siblings, she always ignored it or didn't care, Finally had enough when she was doing some foster family thing and chose the kids that she was an extra home to over me when I wanted to visit them over Christmas.
Several months ago, she wanted to call and talk to me, I just hung up. I felt like I had nothing to say and no words she had to say were worth listening to.
@SvengelskaBlondie that story is a punch to the gut. How hurtful that must have felt when you were trying to build a bridge and she rejected you.
My relationship with my parents has definitely improved the older I got.
Yes, we could've definitely been happier or better if they were who we needed them to be, but the thing i remind myself everytime I get mad at my parents is something one of the only friends I had said to me when I complained about how my parents raised me while we were on a mushroom trip. "Maybe they are like that because that's the way they were raised. They don't have any other frame of reference."
And it's true in a lot of aspects. They were raised in a different world, where access to information was much more limited. Or maybe the way their parents treated them shaped them into who they are and they don't see a way to change.
Even if we have disagreements with our parents, I believe it's important that we always show love to them.
@austin9809 I tend to think your viewpoint is spot on. They can't give us what they haven't had or show us what they've never seen. That's why I give my parents lots of grace and id like to break the generational pattern of disowning parents.
I always feel for people who had a poor relationship with their parents. I have heard it so many times from work colleagues and acquaintances. My brother and I had a great relationship with our mother, but sadly, she passed when I was 21. My father was a quiet man, a good provider and hard worker, but he struggled with interpersonal relationships and had few friends. As he aged, he mellowed, developed a much more caring side and our relationship improved to the point where I would say we became close. Sadly he passed 4 yrs ago, but I know from conversations we had before he died, that he was proud of my brother and I.
If your dad is becoming the father you always wanted him to be, cherish the relationship.
@stevegill1157 im glad you got closer with your dad. Parents are special in their own way whether they are who we need them to be or not. I do cherish the moments with my dad. ❤️
@IlluminateYourPower Happy New Year Melissa x
@stevegill1157 you too, Steve 😊 owe you an email or two!
@@IlluminateYourPower You really don't owe me anything... Just be yourself x
My Dad's never heard of the concept of boundaries, or of earning love; so he tries to force respect. He's like the bull in the china shop wondering why no one wants to talk to him.
@AFuture4U "forcing respect" yep, can def relate. It's also just a losing strategy, not sure if they can see that clearly.
Is he called vladimir putin by chance?
@@dcktater7847 Haha I wish
I was going to say can you talk about your relationship with your parents. It's how you learn to develop your masculine and feminine energies. However, if you resent one or both of your parents you can develop distorted instead of devine energies. You can also become so imbalanced or gay.
@ I know intimately what you say is correct as I've had course corrections and could pinpoint it back to weird energy with my parents. I've kept a relationship with both and we're closer now than ever and it's maybe not a coincidence that I also am closer with myself and feel more balanced than ever.
@IlluminateYourPower I love watching your journey. Thank you for sharing. I commented before watching the video. Ultimately you are healing your individuals parents inner child and masculine and feminine energies. Remember your parents had parents too. And so on and so forth. The inner work your doing will affect 7 generations before and after you. Your ancestors are proud. You should be proud of yourself! It takes a very mature and wise soul to look at themselves and look inwards to fins the problems and the solutions.
Also, this imbalance comes out in relationships. The partner mirrors the unembodied energy and they flip flop. So one is more masc and the other more fem. Like energies repelle. Usually most people get into their ego/masc. And push each other away. It's very newton's cradle esk.
Also, I've enjoyed Harry Potter legacy it's a very dumbed down rpg. Still super fun and repetitive. The lack of challenge actually makes it enjoyable. You can just fly around and light shit on fire. Quite a vibe. Would recommend.