Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
@@frankisoh7942 , Watching From United States 🇺🇸 ❤️ 🙏 With Love ❤️.... I honestly Can't tell you what part of the Constitution, However I do know that's what would happen here in the United States 🇺🇸, The Biological Father Deserted & Abandoned that baby Girl, And the Husband is the ONLY Daddy she Knows, Have known,And The ONLY Dad she Has, and have had her whole life from birth. So it may be different where you live. Just Speaking Facts!!!!
More questions than answers. Why should she go to say goodbye to her ex? How did her ex got to know he is the father? How did she know the ex had an accident and is impotent? How is she pressing her husband to hand over the child to her ex?
The child belongs to her husband not the ex! Her husband paid the dowery on her head and was already married! The law is clear and so is tradition! The lady truly loves her ex-boyfriend enough to want to give her daughter to him! She is not ready to fight for her daughter to remain with her family! This woman is very stupid!
The child does not know the man, and the court will ask the baby girl who she knows as her father. She will be given to the person she points to. You have a say, because she is twelve and not six. The court cannot decide for your daughter. Smile man.
I am glad that I am here. Not in the USA, The DNA depicts who is the father of the daughter. I don’t know about NIJA but my sister over there says that with a good Lawyer the DNA positive DAD is the father.
@@nkolika271 Even the USA court will not grant the ex custody of the child, dna or not claim him as a biological father. Twelve years of her life was with her mother's husband. Her mother did not tell her she had a different man as her father. The biggest problem is that this child will hate her mother's m for a very longe time. From my experience, kids choose to be with someone who makes them feel safe and loved. From everything I saw and heard, she is with her father..
Emotions aside. The girl will have to go to her biological father. He will have to decide what he wants in his marriage. This woman obviously loves her ex than her husband
This woman loves her ex more. It's clear. See how reasonable and nice her husband is. She's supposed to form a formidable force with him and face this imposter!
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Legally the child belongs to the married couple, because any child born within a married or 280 days after divorce still belongs to the husband in question even though the DNA results says otherwise. Their are judgements in reference to this. The only grace the biological father has is when the child turn 18 years and that is when the child is legally bond to make the biological father legal in his or her life. Mr Ben cash please let the wife know that the husband can divorce her and still keep the child legally. The wife if not careful will be the loser oh.
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
To be very honest with you guys the child belongs to the present husband because he raised joy up that actually makes him the parent by law. Forget DNA. And again the child can speak for herself in court of law . 😅
Too bad, but she's not telling the truth. How did the ex know about the child? They've been talking all years. She's not protecting her marriage but emphasising giving up the child.
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Sorry Ben you are not experienced or mature enough in this view to solve this issue at hand. The guy has the right for the child the child has the right to decide who she wants knowing fully who has been a Father to her for the past 12 yrs. The lady is even Lucky the husband is handling this with utmost maturity
The concubine cannot win in any court in Nigeria DNA or no DNA. Let the idiot go to hell. This woman is still sleeping with her ex. and that explains her emotional connection. She is not concerned about how this matter affects the husband or her daughter
The Child is yours man. Is Ben saying that if a man give a married woman Belle, after the child is grown, the adulterer(man) should jst pup out from no where and claim a grown child. I think their should be law to punish such shamelessly evil people.
How did the ex know that he's the father of the child How did the wife know that the ex had an accident and is impotent? If you love your husband as you claim, why did you do what you did to him? It shows that she still love her ex and she's seeing him
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Exactly my thought, she is having secret conversations with the ex, and the ex knows everything regarding her marriage. If she did tell the ex that she is pregnant for him the ex will not know.
How in the first place did her ex get to know that he's the father of the child. That means the woman has being in constant contact with her ex and giving him update, because without that how could he wake up to start claiming a child.
The audacity of her asking the husband to just handover the child to her ex because " he is impotent". So the man knew all along that he had a child with her but preffered to let another man raise her. Automatically, that makes him loose custody of that child. Let her husband fight for his daughter, he will win the case. Such a self centered woman. She doesn't love her husband, she loves her ex and the ex is a user.
These people love no one but themselves. She thought that her husband was foolish and that she got over on him. Typical woman. Did you hear her? "Honey just give him the child" does she love this child? She still loves her ex and not her husband.
I remember telling my mum this kind of issue, because in my life this kind of day will not be a good day, because a child I cherish,love care,for over 12 years then I will now woke up one morning, then a man will now Walk up to me and start telling me he is the father of my child,,I swear to God,the man and the woman will not leave my house the way there come,,
This man amazes me! He is only one out of many who can stand by a child that is not his biological kid in Africa. He should go for legal action and keep full custody until the kid grows and decides for herself. As for me I don’t have a minute to keep someone else kid in a sense that we are living in a world full of ungrateful people. We fight for people who turn out to be selfish and ungrateful to add to the pain of deception.
Daughter is always attaching to the father I understand you brother, I have 3 daughters that I love so so so much I can not imagine seeing my life without them. Bro I really feel your pain, but please find a way to forgive your wife. From USA
No child will be allowed to live with the father when the mother is mentally sane and capable, no court will ever give a child to the father. Get a lawyer
She don't even care about the child she just wants to save the ex....WOW. This man held the baby girl and loved her as his own from day one and she would rather just rip them apart for her selfish needs.....saying they can have another child.
Ben Cash you are totally wrong. The law is in favour of the husband to get custody of the child. The law does not allow an adulterer to claim a child he fathered in another person's lawful marriage.
There's more to what she's not telling. Otherwise, when and how did the ex get to conclude that the child conceived since her marriage was his? Get the complete analysis truth out of her confession as the one-time only goodbye visitation encounter with her ex doesn't add up to have made him conclude right about the child being his, not unless she'd told him in the past about the pregnancy possibly being his (ex).
The mistake people make is to think that the court will give someone a child because of dna this child is 12 years old and she knows nothing about that man the court will consider only the childs well-being and mental health not what the grow ups want so the husband should take it to court after all the boyfriend knew he had a child didn't care till he couldn't have anymore
How can she say let’s just give him the child, she’s selfish. Even though a child would always want to know his/her real parent, it wouldn’t be easy for a 12 year old to adjust living with a whole new father and other family members. This would be a mental breakdown for the child and the court knows this, how is she going to have the strength to continue school, and other life activities. She can know who her real father is but going to live with a whole new family is a NO. This is a real FATHER.
A father is one that provides for a child. He can fight a custody battle with the impostor until she turns 18. Again a pertinent question was not asked: how did the impostor got to know he is the father of the child. I bet the woman was liable cos she still loves the man and cares more about her reputation going down. Truth be told, she went to take the last shot of sex goodbye and it backfired. Her husband is a real real gentleman that deserves more.....she is not giving him the team efforts he deserves.
Ben cash, this is my judgement as an online judge. The husband remains the father of the child even if he is not the biological father. Traditional marriage had taken place before the lady's infidelity to her ex. The ex is liable for having an affair with a marriage woman - as she was already married traditionally. The ex gave no hold on the child regardless of his present predicaments. I rest my case.
This man is a gem 💎. I have absolute respect for him. The lady erred but I see remorse in her face. The man has a BIG heart to forgive his wife.... He just needs time to heal and absorb the shock..... May God help him to forgive her and restore their marriage.
You are correct, yes GOD will restore but this woman you see crying 😭 will still go back to the ex believe me. So I think it is better for the husband to remove her from his life.
This woman is foolish. Even at the court, the human being she still loves (her ex) will not win the case. The court will give the child to this gentleman. If you doubt it, go to court.
That's a dangerous kind of woman...Why would she have gone to say a goodbye to her ex in his house when you had already been engaged? She isn't worth this man.Asking her husband to let go of the daughter he has been nursing for 12years.
This woman has been in contact with her ex all along. Let the man do DNA on the other child and divorce her. Be very careful man, this wife of yours can harm you.
The way she is even pleading on his behalf is what is offing me. A foolish decision made over 14 years ago,now she is looking for how to go and copulate with this side nigga called Ex. He knew another man is taking care of his daughter and he kept mute. That is fraud and he must pay heavily if he wants his daughter back. Let's go to court.
To make things simple let her pack and leave. The lady didn't love his husband. Why going to say goodbye to ur ex for? Am just putting myself in the husband shoes. Pls let him pack peacefully.
Go to court, your hubby will not loose in court. Nigeria law now is the man that brings up a child is the owner of the child. She had thst while married. It's obvious she loves the man if she wa to to give the child to the ex. She is evil for not talking about the mind of the child. Good man for not bn violent
This girl has cried enough. Sir, pls forgive her. That child belong to you. You are the legal married husband. The man will be stupid to go to Court. He will fail. Don't let them take your daughter..
Ben stop telling him that there is nothing he can do, let him fight for his daughter and if the court decides then he will know he tried his best to get what is his. But please that your advice is not ok at all. Customary court will decide so let him go to any length to keep that child.
The child is old enough to decide who she wants to stay with, but this woman is pure evil, after 13yrs of marriage she is still in contact with her ex. Pressing the man to give away his daughter without considering the emotional weelbeing of the child. This is pure wickedness
The man can only claim the child if he compensates the husband but still it does not give him the right to claim the child before we talk of settlements and adultery he committed to someone's life
Joy the daughter can have mental health issues if care is not taking Shade needs to be careful about her behaviour and decisions to return the child. Its too traumatised for this little girl. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
This man na smart guy abeg... drop his contact for encouragement, please By law, customs and tradition and by constitution this baby is his daughter Don't give her no child bro
Oga, do not accept giving the child out. You remain a full custodian of your first child. Your wife must be mad by making such demand. This is crazy . Pls oga maintain ur stand .
This woman's selfishness knows no bounds. EVERYTHING is for her own benefit..what kind of mother just gives away her 12year old child?? Divorce her and keep your child
How does this woman look Joy in the face and tell her the man that raised her, whom she has called Dad all these years is no longer her father? This will damage the child irretrievably. These last minute goodbyes have caused so much problem in Nigeria. About 35% of all first borns are not for the husbands. I hear it is actually more than that. She's evil. She kept another man's child for the hubby to take care of. This is unpardonable
Why did this lady keep in touch with her EX all these years. Why did she keep ties with ex she still loves her ex . Let this man go to court he could win custody of his daughter . Do not discourage him instead seek legal advice.
This man please don't keep another man's child since the D NA said the child is not yours then let the child goes to her dad. Thank God you have other two children
Wemen are some times disgraceful,why did she tell the ex boy friend that she is pregnant by him , well if I was the man I will just send you out of house
This lady is a disgrace,is steady of fighting to keep d child with her husband,she wants to give d child out, because she loves d ex more,I will never keep a woman in my house,it's dangerous
Really!! Do we still have this kind of man in naija. Chaii, Oga you deserve better. For the record the ex will loose at the court. The husband signed Joy's birth certificate and the child came after the wedding so the ex will loose completely
Who's going to reimburse the husband for all he spent raising the child. Let the ex pay the husband everything he spent on that child, only if the husband decides to give her up.
This man is a complete gentle man. Despite his disappointment, he still has his actions under control. Kudos to him
in Africa, you don't take a child from a man that took care of him/her since de pregnancy, that child belongs to your husband
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Constitution of Nigeria says the child belongs to the man that paid the dowry and cared for the child right from birth
What part of the constitution says that, please?
@@frankisoh7942 , Watching From United States 🇺🇸 ❤️ 🙏 With Love ❤️....
I honestly Can't tell you what part of the Constitution, However I do know that's what would happen here in the United States 🇺🇸, The Biological Father Deserted & Abandoned that baby Girl, And the Husband is the ONLY Daddy she Knows, Have known,And The ONLY Dad she Has, and have had her whole life from birth. So it may be different where you live. Just Speaking Facts!!!!
That's not correct my brother. A DNA is the answer.
@sylviasmith2557 In Nigeria where I am the constitution has no bearing on such issue but DNA plays a lot of role in determining where the child stays.
This one was conceived before marriage and the biological was not informed from the beginning.
More questions than answers. Why should she go to say goodbye to her ex?
How did her ex got to know he is the father?
How did she know the ex had an accident and is impotent?
How is she pressing her husband to hand over the child to her ex?
You are right. It's like she is still dating the ex. Is her ex not married?
DNA is needed on the other child oh.
The woman is wicked
You are asking a very good question
She is in sane.
I am shocked that a mother will suggest handing over her daughter to the ex 😡
The child belongs to her husband not the ex! Her husband paid the dowery on her head and was already married! The law is clear and so is tradition!
The lady truly loves her ex-boyfriend enough to want to give her daughter to him! She is not ready to fight for her daughter to remain with her family! This woman is very stupid!
The child does not know the man, and the court will ask the baby girl who she knows as her father. She will be given to the person she points to. You have a say, because she is twelve and not six. The court cannot decide for your daughter. Smile man.
I am glad that I am here. Not in the USA, The DNA depicts who is the father of the daughter. I don’t know about NIJA but my sister over there says that with a good Lawyer the DNA positive DAD is the father.
@@nkolika271 Even the USA court will not grant the ex custody of the child, dna or not claim him as a biological father. Twelve years of her life was with her mother's husband. Her mother did not tell her she had a different man as her father. The biggest problem is that this child will hate her mother's m for a very longe time. From my experience, kids choose to be with someone who makes them feel safe and loved. From everything I saw and heard, she is with her father..
@@nkolika271 inn the USA and Europe the beat they can do is to grant the biological father a visitation right, if the babe and he so wishes.
Emotions aside.
The girl will have to go to her biological father.
He will have to decide what he wants in his marriage.
This woman obviously loves her ex than her husband
DNA OR NO DNA, OGA YOU REMAIN THE ORIGINAL FATHER
This man should keep the child, he is a gentleman
This woman loves her ex more. It's clear. See how reasonable and nice her husband is. She's supposed to form a formidable force with him and face this imposter!
She cannot do that bcos right from the get go she knew the child was not for her hubby
Lord!!!😢trusting a lady and getting married scares the hell out of me
She’s is still sleeping with the Ex before the Accident after the first child so woman fear them even the other one will also belong to the Ex
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
The daughter is 12 years old, she can decide where she wants to be. You cannot take her away from the family she knows all her life. Is not fair,
🤣🤣🤣this is ridiculous, the husband is owner of child, unless the ex will be winning to pay back 12 years of maintenance. It will run to millions
Agree 💯.
Legally the child belongs to the married couple, because any child born within a married or 280 days after divorce still belongs to the husband in question even though the DNA results says otherwise. Their are judgements in reference to this. The only grace the biological father has is when the child turn 18 years and that is when the child is legally bond to make the biological father legal in his or her life. Mr Ben cash please let the wife know that the husband can divorce her and still keep the child legally. The wife if not careful will be the loser oh.
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
That lady is still in love with her ex. She's too defensive for him.
To be very honest with you guys the child belongs to the present husband because he raised joy up that actually makes him the parent by law. Forget DNA. And again the child can speak for herself in court of law . 😅
This is painful.I feel sorry for the man
Too bad, but she's not telling the truth. How did the ex know about the child? They've been talking all years. She's not protecting her marriage but emphasising giving up the child.
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Take a legal action, nobody can give the child to her ex. It is too complicated an issue, she does not know what she is in
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Sorry Ben you are not experienced or mature enough in this view to solve this issue at hand. The guy has the right for the child the child has the right to decide who she wants knowing fully who has been a Father to her for the past 12 yrs. The lady is even Lucky the husband is handling this with utmost maturity
The concubine cannot win in any court in Nigeria DNA or no DNA. Let the idiot go to hell.
This woman is still sleeping with her ex. and that explains her emotional connection. She is not concerned about how this matter affects the husband or her daughter
God bless you for these words 🙏
You get brain
The Child is yours man. Is Ben saying that if a man give a married woman Belle, after the child is grown, the adulterer(man) should jst pup out from no where and claim a grown child. I think their should be law to punish such shamelessly evil people.
This man should go to court.He will win the case.
It's quite obvious Ben is immature to handle an issue like this
How did the ex know that he's the father of the child
How did the wife know that the ex had an accident and is impotent?
If you love your husband as you claim, why did you do what you did to him?
It shows that she still love her ex and she's seeing him
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
Ben Cash you are talking n0ns€ns€. Which school did you go? Which profession did you graduate from? Abeg close your mouth if you don't know what to say. Do you know that the man sleeping with someone's wife is guilty of the law. Who is talking about the owner of the child here. THIS IS WHY THAT WOMAN SHOULD BE DIVORCED. A man went and slept with someone's wife and coming to get the baby on what ground
She has been fuckin him all this years
Exactly my thought, she is having secret conversations with the ex, and the ex knows everything regarding her marriage. If she did tell the ex that she is pregnant for him the ex will not know.
This man is one in a million, parfect gentleman,I have not seen a calm matured man like this before.
How did the ex know that he's the father of the child this woman knows what she is doing
How in the first place did her ex get to know that he's the father of the child. That means the woman has being in constant contact with her ex and giving him update, because without that how could he wake up to start claiming a child.
You are very right here. Even though something led to something must you let the ex know the outcome since you are already married
She's not a good wife, she's still seeing the EX, the best thing is that you let her go to him
The audacity of her asking the husband to just handover the child to her ex because " he is impotent". So the man knew all along that he had a child with her but preffered to let another man raise her. Automatically, that makes him loose custody of that child. Let her husband fight for his daughter, he will win the case. Such a self centered woman. She doesn't love her husband, she loves her ex and the ex is a user.
These people love no one but themselves. She thought that her husband was foolish and that she got over on him. Typical woman. Did you hear her? "Honey just give him the child" does she love this child? She still loves her ex and not her husband.
I remember telling my mum this kind of issue, because in my life this kind of day will not be a good day, because a child I cherish,love care,for over 12 years then I will now woke up one morning, then a man will now Walk up to me and start telling me he is the father of my child,,I swear to God,the man and the woman will not leave my house the way there come,,
This man amazes me! He is only one out of many who can stand by a child that is not his biological kid in Africa.
He should go for legal action and keep full custody until the kid grows and decides for herself.
As for me I don’t have a minute to keep someone else kid in a sense that we are living in a world full of ungrateful people. We fight for people who turn out to be selfish and ungrateful to add to the pain of deception.
BEN YOU CANNOT SOLVE THIS BETRAYAL SHE DID THE HUSBAND BAD. PEOPLE DONT KNOW WHO YOU CALLED UR FRIENDS, HUSBAND/GIRLFRIEND
Daughter is always attaching to the father
I understand you brother, I have 3 daughters that I love so so so much I can not imagine seeing my life without them. Bro I really feel your pain, but please find a way to forgive your wife. From USA
Ben Cash, even in the law court the child belongs to your husband, DNA or no DNA. If she’s not satisfied, let her go to the court.
The second child may not be his too. She loves her ex so much. Think about it, if her ex really loved her, why didn't he marry her?
This man signed the birth certificate so he is the real father, stay with your daughter 😢😢😢
I have lots of respect for this man . Thank you for fighting for "your daughter". Where was the ex when you cater for the girl till age 12 ?.
MORE WISDOM TO YOU BRO 💕💕💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️
Nigerian court should consider that joy lived with that man since birth, also the court should allow the child to speak her mind
Mr Wale. We ❤ the way u defended your daughter. ❤ from UK 🇬🇧
No child will be allowed to live with the father when the mother is mentally sane and capable, no court will ever give a child to the father. Get a lawyer
Period
She don't even care about the child she just wants to save the ex....WOW.
This man held the baby girl and loved her as his own from day one and she would rather just rip them apart for her selfish needs.....saying they can have another child.
She can't enjoy sex from her ex again so she wanted to use joy as compensation and now wanted to have baby for the husband.
Ben Cash you are totally wrong. The law is in favour of the husband to get custody of the child. The law does not allow an adulterer to claim a child he fathered in another person's lawful marriage.
There's more to what she's not telling. Otherwise, when and how did the ex get to conclude that the child conceived since her marriage was his? Get the complete analysis truth out of her confession as the one-time only goodbye visitation encounter with her ex doesn't add up to have made him conclude right about the child being his, not unless she'd told him in the past about the pregnancy possibly being his (ex).
The mistake people make is to think that the court will give someone a child because of dna this child is 12 years old and she knows nothing about that man the court will consider only the childs well-being and mental health not what the grow ups want so the husband should take it to court after all the boyfriend knew he had a child didn't care till he couldn't have anymore
That’s exactly right.
This aspect of Seth of sex to ex is getting out of hands.
Married I said, it's actually scaring...
How did the ex know the child is his?it had to be you told him, if it was a one night stand 😢Guyana 🇬🇾
To say goodbye,did you say? Or "away match?". Some ladies are just simply dumb. I'm pissed 😡
How can she say let’s just give him the child, she’s selfish. Even though a child would always want to know his/her real parent, it wouldn’t be easy for a 12 year old to adjust living with a whole new father and other family members. This would be a mental breakdown for the child and the court knows this, how is she going to have the strength to continue school, and other life activities. She can know who her real father is but going to live with a whole new family is a NO. This is a real FATHER.
A father is one that provides for a child. He can fight a custody battle with the impostor until she turns 18. Again a pertinent question was not asked: how did the impostor got to know he is the father of the child. I bet the woman was liable cos she still loves the man and cares more about her reputation going down. Truth be told, she went to take the last shot of sex goodbye and it backfired. Her husband is a real real gentleman that deserves more.....she is not giving him the team efforts he deserves.
God bless you bro
Ben cash, this is my judgement as an online judge. The husband remains the father of the child even if he is not the biological father. Traditional marriage had taken place before the lady's infidelity to her ex. The ex is liable for having an affair with a marriage woman - as she was already married traditionally. The ex gave no hold on the child regardless of his present predicaments.
I rest my case.
This man is a gem 💎. I have absolute respect for him. The lady erred but I see remorse in her face. The man has a BIG heart to forgive his wife.... He just needs time to heal and absorb the shock..... May God help him to forgive her and restore their marriage.
You are correct, yes GOD will restore but this woman you see crying 😭 will still go back to the ex believe me. So I think it is better for the husband to remove her from his life.
Husband please please, if the child is not yours by law the child needs her biological father.
Do not trust her again
Ben, you don't have common sense. This man is the legal father to the child even the court will rule in his favour. The x has the right to the child.
I wish I could be gentle like this guy . God help me to be
This woman is joking ..
@BENCASH, The man can't take the child from the man who raised her. I was told that Lagos state has passed a law about situation like this.
I can’t believe this woman is willing to give up her daughter who only know this man as her father.
Women thought that "SORRY " solve everything so easily like that.......
Stand firm guy,that young girl is your daughter.You were there for her right from birth and secondly you paid the bride price on her mother.
Oga, do not be afraid of court.
This woman is foolish.
Even at the court, the human being she still loves (her ex) will not win the case.
The court will give the child to this gentleman. If you doubt it, go to court.
That's a dangerous kind of woman...Why would she have gone to say a goodbye to her ex in his house when you had already been engaged? She isn't worth this man.Asking her husband to let go of the daughter he has been nursing for 12years.
I Will never forget about TB joshua who once said no matter how long the truth Will come out
No legal law will give the child to the ex. The woman and the ex have lost both ways
She wants the last round of the act, with her ex.
Apparently, Sade had continued to keep on with her so ex. He may still be in her present because she is very concerned about his wellbeing.
This woman has been in contact with her ex all along. Let the man do DNA on the other child and divorce her. Be very careful man, this wife of yours can harm you.
My brother please keep your daughter Joy
There will be no trust in your marriage
Senseless woman like that, visiting ur ex boyfriend for what purpose since u guys are done.Man divorce her and show no mercy.
The child need her real father immediately
The way she is even pleading on his behalf is what is offing me. A foolish decision made over 14 years ago,now she is looking for how to go and copulate with this side nigga called Ex. He knew another man is taking care of his daughter and he kept mute. That is fraud and he must pay heavily if he wants his daughter back. Let's go to court.
To make things simple let her pack and leave. The lady didn't love his husband. Why going to say goodbye to ur ex for? Am just putting myself in the husband shoes. Pls let him pack peacefully.
I wonder oh. Why going to say goodbye. What if she did not have that?
Go to court, your hubby will not loose in court. Nigeria law now is the man that brings up a child is the owner of the child. She had thst while married. It's obvious she loves the man if she wa to to give the child to the ex. She is evil for not talking about the mind of the child. Good man for not bn violent
Ben you are wrong, this man will win in court, because the child was born in marriage and he has bn taking care of the daughter.
Ben do your research
That’s what happened when you married who is ready….begging for the ex, after 12years 😢😢😢
This girl has cried enough. Sir, pls forgive her. That child belong to you. You are the legal married husband. The man will be stupid to go to Court. He will fail. Don't let them take your daughter..
This lady is very wicked and self centred, to let this guy send away this woman
Ben stop telling him that there is nothing he can do, let him fight for his daughter and if the court decides then he will know he tried his best to get what is his. But please that your advice is not ok at all. Customary court will decide so let him go to any length to keep that child.
Biologically he is not but, legally he is the father of the child,
This man is the father of the child as she has lived with this man all her life.
More wisdom Ben😘😘😘😘
The child is old enough to decide who she wants to stay with, but this woman is pure evil, after 13yrs of marriage she is still in contact with her ex. Pressing the man to give away his daughter without considering the emotional weelbeing of the child. This is pure wickedness
The man can only claim the child if he compensates the husband but still it does not give him the right to claim the child before we talk of settlements and adultery he committed to someone's life
Joy the daughter can have mental health issues if care is not taking
Shade needs to be careful about her behaviour and decisions to return the child. Its too traumatised for this little girl. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Even though you guys loose the case in the court but you will be paid for all those years you have been taking care of the child
This man na smart guy abeg... drop his contact for encouragement, please
By law, customs and tradition and by constitution this baby is his daughter
Don't give her no child bro
This woman is a simple Simon, when they have good men, they don’t know what to do.
Oga, do not accept giving the child out. You remain a full custodian of your first child. Your wife must be mad by making such demand. This is crazy . Pls oga maintain ur stand .
This woman's selfishness knows no bounds. EVERYTHING is for her own benefit..what kind of mother just gives away her 12year old child?? Divorce her and keep your child
How does this woman look Joy in the face and tell her the man that raised her, whom she has called Dad all these years is no longer her father? This will damage the child irretrievably. These last minute goodbyes have caused so much problem in Nigeria. About 35% of all first borns are not for the husbands. I hear it is actually more than that. She's evil. She kept another man's child for the hubby to take care of. This is unpardonable
Why did this lady keep in touch with her EX all these years. Why did she keep ties with ex she still loves her ex . Let this man go to court he could win custody of his daughter . Do not discourage him instead seek legal advice.
Good guys always end up with the bad women,this man is a good man,another man will still no fight for someone else's child like this.
she is thinking of her ex not her real husband this women is very wicked
This man please don't keep another man's child since the D NA said the child is not yours then let the child goes to her dad. Thank God you have other two children
Wemen are some times disgraceful,why did she tell the ex boy friend that she is pregnant by him , well if I was the man I will just send you out of house
How did his ex know that he is the owner of the child
Why did she not marry her ex-boyfriend, only to say goodbye? I am becoming increasingly confused by all of this nonsense.
This lady is a disgrace,is steady of fighting to keep d child with her husband,she wants to give d child out, because she loves d ex more,I will never keep a woman in my house,it's dangerous
Really!! Do we still have this kind of man in naija. Chaii, Oga you deserve better. For the record the ex will loose at the court. The husband signed Joy's birth certificate and the child came after the wedding so the ex will loose completely
I stand by your side oga no one will collect your child don't agree with any one at all
Exactly my dear brother you need that space bro. ❤
All these senseless women......
On a paternity case of Duru vs Duru....who ever fathered a child for that long has a custody of the child...
Who's going to reimburse the husband for all he spent raising the child. Let the ex pay the husband everything he spent on that child, only if the husband decides to give her up.
She is wicked and ashawo don't foregive her 2kids even one not for this man how? And still say you love this man? Must pay this man