most successful business people come from working class families including Lord sugar himself. The poor mother did go traveling for many years, while the other family must have been working very very hard. Most people i know who are well off deserve it. I'm still working in retail but it's mostly my own fault for not pushing myself, i plan to in the future, i don't expect hand outs.
it made me sad when she said she wished she could be Rebecca, I hate for anyone to wish they were someone else because someone else is rich or pretty.. so sad
I loved her Mother's response though, she told her that maybe Rebecca would work for HER instead. That was an awesome, empowering thing to tell a child.
Macedon NKW he was a young boy who believed that because school pushed how if you get an education then you will be ok. Why are some of you Harper on that when he said himself in the show that that was proven not to be true. There is something really wrong with some of you if that’s all you took from this wonderful life changing show.the children and parents from both families were absolutely amazing and inspirational.
Hi all, I was (hopefully am no longer) the uppity posh kid. Doing this documentary was an amazing experience for us all, particularly for Cal and Iris. Unfortunately, in the documentary itself I was a major product of my upbringing, and my attitude was simply because I had been around posh people my entire life. I'm really sorry if I seemed stuck up and a bit of a dick, I genuinely had no clue. I was ignorant of the world, only caring at about my world. Bec and Iris are still in touch on Facebook, and Cal has since left Dad's company, and is doing very well for herself at the University of Birmingham.
George Abingdon clearly you were quite sheltered then however you have transformed your attitude which is very admirable of you and to all the silly people commenting rude things they are missing the point of the documentary which seems to be about helping each other. Also everyone has to learn and now you are much more understanding and knowledgeable on the subject of poverty which is a positive thing
I didn't think you were uppity. In fact I saw a surprised look on your face most of the time..... don't listen or take in to consideration what people say about you.... they don't know you, it was a learning experience for you, I don't think you will forget... :)
You have wonderful parents and it is obvious you are going to be a true asset to society...as you have seen both sides of life. Thank your parents for keeping you on the level. As for being uppity I find that very insightful on your part. It is not your fault that you thought as you did, after all everyone in your school is of equal wealth and we all make quick judgments. What I like about you is you don't want to act superior in-spite of what being a snob could do for you. In this world of celebrity worship=money worship you are rejecting those value. Love you for that...how wise you are, how wise are your parents. I so appreciate you coming here to make your comments. A child born with advantages I have often wondered are they aware, beyond the material difference. How does having a beautiful home, going to a stately school, impress upon their young minds. What do they think of the poor, their run down houses, their weak ability to express themselves verbally? Do they think it is by choice or by situation? Lastly, thanks for the update on Caroline. Your dad is a amazing man he lifted this woman up, by showing her how to, then let her fly away. God Bless you, your lovely family, and thank you for being so inspirational.
George Abingdon. George, I believe you were just unaware which your Father stated was the driving force behind your parents. taking part in thus exercise. If you don't know you don't know. I noticed that when you learned that Call had gained an armful of qualifications at the highest level you began to question what you had been told regarding getting an education. In fact you seemed genuinely. annoyed at the inequity. Thanks for the update on Cal.
The dad is a class chap. Knows his kids are living in a bubble, takes steps to show them and educate them about the world. Hes pretty rich but is aware and helps others, what a guy.
It’s hard to see kids that are so aware of money and get stressed by the fact their parents don’t have money and they shouldn’t have to worry about that at that age
This is honestly how I grew up, I had the constant fear that I would be sleeping in a tunnel because that’s what my mum and dad would say. “If you don’t clean your room our landlord will kick us out because we owe him money” or answering the phone And handing it to my mum or dad knowing it was someone looking for money, when I was nine years old I counted up how much we spent in rent over the 7 years we had lived in our house and i realised that we could have bought a 4 bedroom house if my mum and dad were able to save that each month. My dad worked full time and my mum couldn’t get a job, she went to uni and is now working in a shop when she has a degree and 25,000 in dept. I am in a much better position than my mum and dad now and I actually have to lend them money every month for them to get by. I love my mum and dad and they tried their hardest to raise me and they did raise me well, they taught me that I had to work hard for what I wanted and that we don’t get anything we don’t work for. So at the end of the day I don’t care what job or how many jobs I do as long as I make money.
@@Justsomebody009 I'm so sorry you & your family were (& your parents still are) under this terrible stress, it's a killer - all doctors (& governments) know that but governments continue to make laws/policies which ensure poorer people are still suffering from these mega stresses = cruelty & torture - and often causes illness & early death. It sounds like you've done really well (be very proud!) that you have achieved lots and are able (& willing) to help your parents out but it's sad you have to do whatever to get money and can't follow your heart & do a job that you really like/get satisfaction from. But I know your parents must hate having to take money from you, I'm a mum and I really hate that now I'm injured/disabled my son (& others) have to try to help me (& I'm sick of begging for help from the government & charities - then usually get refused: 'you aren't disabled enough/other people need the help more than you = coz of cuts/austerity & discrimination against my 'invisible' disability = brain injury+), it takes away my independence and I've lost belief in myself, lost my feeling of self-worth, that's what happens - as you probably know. I wish your parents could get enough to properly live on then your relationship with them would be just child-parent = much nicer than provider too. All the very best to you!
Jenny Hughes thank you for the response my mum and dad brought me up well, I just grew up with less stuff. I grew up knowing that any trips I took with the school wouldn’t cost to much like a ski trip for 2 weeks cost kids in my school 660 my mum and dad can’t afford that, it’s more than their rent. I’m just content with the fact that I am in a better place than they were at my age. Plus non of them were providing for a child full time when they were 23. I’m grateful for my family and I don’t take anything for granted, I know that one mistake or something that happens like losing a job, it can all get taken away. I’ve experienced that already. A year ago my self and my partner moved into his parents as he came out the army, got a new job earning 27,000 a year to have it taken away within 6 months because the company went bankrupt. So from having my own place, to planning a holiday, to then give up your home and move in with your parents in law. It’s hard. A lot of independence was taking away and I’ve really struggled this past year, but tomorrow I sign for the keys to our new flat, it’s a council rent ( but cheaper than private rent) but it’s just until we can get a mortgage. We both don’t earn anywhere 27,000 a year but we do okay Better than what my mum and dad are doing now
I've just googled caroline and since the programme she has done a PhD and is now working as an advisor for Hereford and Gloucestershire on an environmental legal team. wow! so impressed with that woman's determination as well as the kindness and support given by the wealthy family on this show. If only more successful families would reach out like this, the ripple effect would be massive. x
Thank you for the update. I am so proud of Caroline as I am living her ‘journey’ as we speak.......not easy but I will get there. I have a friend exactly like her who came from a travelling background and has just completed her PhD in Criminology and is doing brilliantly now. Life seems scary, miserable, dark and impossible while suffering but the light at the end of the tunnel is worth waiting for. Absolutely agree just 20-50 families ‘giving back’ and helping struggling poor families get a step up in life would change so many lives for the better.
A testament to her amazing mother. It is easy to think one way or another about children based on wealth but the quality of the child is based on one thing, parenting.
David Abingdon - Wow. I am amazed at how you and your family showed so much kindness and generosity to this family in need. Much respect to you kind sir. Your wife and kids were great in this and showed so much kindness. Thank you for sharing this. Doing this sort of thing is always a gamble but you hit a jackpot family.
David Abingdon - You have my utmost respect for going out of your way to dramatically change the lives of another family forever, if just 10% of those who are in the position to do the same were to do the same, our society would be a much better place for our kids. They say money doesn't buy happiness, but money gives us the opportunities through which we have the potential to create happiness. God bless you and your lovely family.
To be fair, I am someone from a lower working class background who was fortunate enough to have gone to private school based on an academic scholarship. As a result many of my closest friends came from very wealthy families. Many of my friend's families generously donated to various charities; some of them had their own schemes and grants set up for people from a disadvantaged backgrounds; and many of them engaged in voluntary work, particularly the stay at home moms and retirees. The left-wing/Labour caricature of the mustachioed greedy businessman laughing at the plight of the poor whilst sitting on his mountain of gold is a huge misrepresentation of reality in my opinion.
David is a very decent man but what he has done here is buy an unbelievable lesson in how the world works for his children. Tv companies can bring people together to work things out so why cant the wasters we vote for?. The people who run employment service should be cringing in shame but then they should be ashamed anyway.
Burning Cola you are so dumb, it’s not hard to educate yourself, I know plenty of people who have gone to uni on good courses even though they are from poor families. All it takes is for people to pay attention at school and not be lazy
Buuuuttt if it’s just so easy even the not so smart people would find it easy..... Like the person in this video stuck in at school good education ... still poor ....
I have not commented on here before and that is because I did not want to colour the thinking or indeed the comments of people watching this video. Nor did I wish people to feel that they were being monitored or judged. However, I feel forced to to take a stand against some of the extreme nasty, spiteful and hateful comments levelled at my son George. Please remember that this show first aired in 2010 and he is now 20 and a very level headed, considerate and compassionate person of whom I am very proud - as I am of all my family. Recently and for the first time ever, I removed a few comments that had been made by an individual that I feel needs psychiatric help. To call them despicable and highly offensive would be a gross understatement. The comment below by terry johnson and others like him are testimony to some of the hate messages that George has been subjected to. There is no need for this. Before posting something nasty, I would invite you listen to what 20 year old George has to say for himself in the following two short TH-cam videos: 1. th-cam.com/video/bb7a2iuZ6Jg/w-d-xo.html 2. th-cam.com/video/Ogs5dsl-gyc/w-d-xo.html Many thanks for the kind words of nearly all of you and your comments of support. David
David Abingdon Having only just watched this documentary I would like to congratulate on how good you are to even appear on something that would subject you to such an audience. Thank you for uploading
David Abingdon David I read some of the most hateful comments I have ever seen posted about a child and my heart broke for your whole family as I did, Those making these comments could not have listened as you, yourself spoke of how after taking your son through from first class on a plane that on seeing his reaction made you realise that he needed to see the other side of life and how you began to teach your children more on your own background etc, I never thought that he came over as pompous or belittling I did think he was struggling to understand how life's could be so different so close to his home. I could see the children were lost at first when they actually came into direct contact with Caroline and Iris but they didn't go full out ewe when they entered her home and indeed seemed to take it on board very well. When Caroline and Iris visited your home they were attentive and welcoming and your son was extremely protective more so when she was on the zip slide. I think now as I did when I first saw this that you are a man of honour and both your wife and yourself have raised two magnificent young people. What you did for this family was amazing and I'm pleased to see that Caroline passed your expectations for her
The "poor" little girl broke my heart! She is so small, but she still understands her and her mum's situation and how it differs from most other people! She is not stubborn, she is understanding! Really, the things she said were heart breaking and I'm surprised that a kid her age can be so understanding and thankful!
I love this. I really loved how George grew to understand that sometimes even when you work hard and get an education that it doesn't always guarantee that you won't have to struggle with money. What a great thing they did for this family.
This is definitely correct. Working in business myself, as a self-employed man, establishing connections (which is a progressive thing which happens overtime) is the difference of 1 client versus hundreds.
I live in Holland and we need teachers desperately. There's the risk that primary schools have to go to teaching 4 days a week instead of 5. What a difference, isn't it. I hope by now you've found a job!
Everyone needs to see this documentary. They couldn't have picked more decent deserving people from both ends. I think I've watched this documentary about 6 times now and I learn something new every single time. Absolutely beautiful how the kindness of one may potentially change the life of another. We spend so much time being jealous of each other or begrudging each other when in reality we're all just trying to better ourselves and look out for our children. It's the selfish arseholes (at either end) who put themselves before their children that are the problem.
I’m never moved enough to write a comment and even though this is a few years ago, it brought tears to me eyes. I particularly love the children, true George and Rebecca have a very nice life but they are not spoilt brats, they are sensitive and caring. And Iris, what a sweetheart. Wonderful that kindness and caring has helped this family reach the potential. Not a handout more a hand up. Well done.
~Bron K~ I agree. Embrace the gracious, thoughtful and insightful viewpoint you expressed. Bringing negativity into a situation ends badly. You recognized and acknowledged that......Well done!
I cried watching this, the Abingdons never once looked down at Caroline and Iris and the situation they find themselves in. Caroline is obviously a very smart lady and this is just the break she needed to kick start her career. The Abingdons aren't pompous or stuck up and really did understands exactly what it was like to try to better themselves. This was a super video, I would love to know how their life is now. I so hope Caroline has been able to finally become a barrister and life is wonderful for them. Super impressed with the Children in both family's, If you get to read these responses Caroline I wish you the very best for you and Iris and the Abingdons, well I wish there were more people like yourselves to just step back and recognise just how hard some people just need a break like this!
I know this is old but I can’t get over Iris, she’s such a lovely lovely girl who appreciates everything she has 😭. She really thought me to be more grateful to God for His blessings in my life . Rebekah is also so lovely , with all she has she’s so so humble . This was the best British show I’ve ever seen ! Lots of love from America
most of the 1% DO pay well over half their income in taxes. all you hear about is a few individuals who have chosen to find ways of exploiting their way out of taxes. so your answer will be to tax almost ALL the income of the high income earners,leaving them with little justification to work hard hiring people? so everyone can be "equal"?-which results in equally stagnant mediocrity. robbing the rich does not mean the poor will benefit. closing loopholes so we all pay at least something -say a flat rate income tax-would get better results not to mention a tax form that doesn't require accountants to understand
bomnivore OK, I am not poor, I am comfortably off, but I absolutely agree with your sentiment. I know things can change, at anytime and so don't take anything for granted. I have a roof over my head, we have food, can pay bills and holiday abroad as well as in England for short breaks once a year. We have one child mind, as we knew for sure financially, we can live a comfortable life and provide her with what she needs. There are people MUCH better off than us but my goodness they are quite unhappy.
I didn't know we were poor until I was about 14 and realized what was happening. growing up without everything and anything I think gives you a drive to make something great out of yourself, even without rich people backing you and a degree. You also realise when you watch a video like this that you come from that situation and you aren't scared to land up there again- you will survive and it's not ideal, but it doesn't terrify you the way it terrifies a lot of people who have always been rich
Very kind people, instead of just writing off her debt he gives her a job that will expose her to the companies she wants to work for. And putting money aside for her childs future. Such nice people
That's why you are not rich, you can't be irresponsible like that and become rich. What they did was perfect. Teach a person to fish, instead of giving her the fish.
Mr. Abington, you are a wonderful person. It restores my faith in humanity to see what you have done. You gave Ms. Buffery a hand up not just a handout. Thank you.
The family Abingdon make me cry. You are the pillar of community. Helping Iris and her mom the way you do is, well really, I have no words besides “awesome”. And your children are equally beautiful people. Thank you for everything you did and are doing. ❤️❤️❤️
David Abingdon and family - great and beautiful human beings . From David's poor beginning to great success , he remains with a kind heart and sheer humility. God bless!
This is one of the most heartwarming documentaries I think I've ever watched. I'm so glad the Abingdons were able to help Cal and Iris, whilst being respectful of Cal's personal pride and not just showering them with infinite money. Iris herself was a little pearl of a child... I don't think I've ever come across a kid who is so open and genuinely loving and positive about the world, despite her own difficult circumstances. It just shows what a wonderful mum Cal is to have brought her up so well. Also, I think David taking his kids to Birmingham was the moment when it really hit home for their kids. It's one thing to meet an outsider who is on the breadline... you can sympathise with them and want to help, sure. But it's another thing when you suddenly realise that your own family comes from outside that sheltered bubble. I think Rebecca said it best when she said something like "I can't believe Daddy used to live here" or something along those lines. It seems like it was a thoroughly worthwhile and eye opening experience for everyone involved. I don't usually write such essay length comments, but this documentary really touched me and I hope everyone is doing well since it was filmed. Thanks for sharing!
Sitting here with tears in my eyes. What a wonderful documentary with wonderful people. David Abington, I salute you! What you and your family have done gives me hope for the future.
little Iris is such a lovely, well adjusted girl. Caroline may be struggling financially but she is a fantastic mum. Shed a few tears watching this documentary
This touched me so much both families were amazing I stumbled opon this program because i like to watch shows not just about the difference between the well off and the working poor but the difference between britain and the states where i live. Before i was even through the first 15 minutes i called my bestie in California to tell her to watch it. David you especially not only enriched the mom and daughter but your lovely family also.
I find George to be very intelligent for his age. I am amazed at his ability to critically analyze situations. I first noticed when he said, "I did not expect poverty to be so close to home" and again when h said the notion of education being the way out has been proven wrong, after his Mom read Caroline's letter. I am very impressed by him and so happy I found this video. I wish I had the chance to meet this young man so I can get some more insights into the way his mind works. Thanks a million for this video.
I was absolutely moved by the generosity shown by the Abingdon family, towards the family that were sponsoring and how they went out their way in helping them not only by sponsoring but by looking for apprenticeships for the single mother. I think it's so important to educate our children who sometimes maybe lucky enough to get everything handed to them minus the hardwork and effort that not everyone's well off or as lucky as themselves. That's also why knowing your roots and where you came from humbles a person and makes them appreciate their blessings more, becoming rich or successful takes hard work, grafting, commitment and determination.
I loved both families. And the kids did not act like spoiled brats. They were polite and respectful. The parents did a wonderful job at raising them. I am a single mom with three kids and we live pay check by pay check. We also live in a very wealthy area where most families have beach homes and the kids don't need anything. But, the kids in my town are very spoiled. The kids in the documentary could teach the kids around here how to be grateful for their lives.
Yes that's exactly what I thought too, I do not understand the people for throwing this sweet family under the bus for being well off when they obviously are trying their best to help, a lot more than 99% will do. The teen boy is just a copy of his wonderful father, so bright!
After wiping tears from my very wet face, all I can say is WELL DONE!!!! What a marvelous and heartwarming story. Wish more people in this world could have the sense to see things as you have; to help others that are trying so desperately to help themselves but getting nowhere. How truly wonderful!!!😊🔆❤️
That's because when you live in poverty for a long time with no opportunities it changes your view of yourself and cannot even imagine yourself successful. I grew up in poverty and at 53 yrs old now I am still am in poverty because I have no confidence in myself and self doubt all the time. I have become conditioned over all those years in poverty and struggling. I am a musician and was self taught since 15 years old and also had some lessons in reading and writing music and cannot even afford an instrument to play .It is very sad I worked so hard at music and cannot even use my talents.It kills me inside that the one thing I love ( my first love) I have no way of doing..I had to sell everything I had to raise my sons as a single mom. They are adults now of course.
I watched this documentary and then read the comments left by other people - those who 'condemn' the Abingdons need to watch this video again, and to listen to the way the 2 families talk amongst themselves! I never felt that the Abingdons were in the slightest bit condescending towards Caroline and Iris - far from it!!!! George and his sister were both honest about things - like George saying that he never knew that poverty was so near (physically) to them. Sure, he and his sister did a little name dropping (Princess Anne) - but they're British, and obviously have a high opinion of the Royal family! I don't know of any 8 - 12 year olds who wouldn't brag a little about famous neighbors! A lot of the comments on this video are from people who don't/can't comprehend how difficult it is to give things (money) and not be seen to be being 'saintly', and who don't/can't comprehend how difficult it is to accept things (money) and not feel ashamed/embarrassed at their situation in life.
Virginia Fry well said! Admire David for respecting the fact that he sensed Caroline was a proud woman and how hard this most have been for her when she had achieved so much on her own only to be blocked by the system. And he was right he didn’t back a loser!
I'm 31 and would still name drop if I knew famous ppl! Lol! I think everyone would, and its because of the society we live in today. Even those of us living in poverty know that sort of thing raises a persons standing in society. It's not what you know it's who you know. And I totally agree with everything you've said because the Abingdon's didn't let their children become blinded by wealth they showed them the reality of poverty and showed them how to be generous and compassionate. If more wealthy ppl could live less greedily like the Abingdon's we'd live in a much better world today.
I think rich people should make their child aware of the world around them. So yes this rich family looked out of tune with the rest of us but the parents were doing well by the woman and her child and by their own children
It's sad that an 8 year old girl when meeting a new friend who is rich, automatically sees herself as only capable of working for her as an adult, instead of with or above her...
the Abington family are amazing, the warmth, care and generosity was overwhelming, they deserve all the success and more. The way david created that job just for that lady. just wow. I am speechless.
This is by far the BEST episode I've ever watched. Both families are just amazing and I'm so happy that David offered her a job and now Iris can do horse riding and I honestly have tears. I wish there was follow up episode on how they are all doing now. Much love to both families from Australia x
What a heart warming story. Just goes to show people don't always need a hand out they just need a hand up. Wonderful families on both sides. So impressed by the children as well as the parents.
Absolutely loved this line. Rebecca and Iris both seem like such wonderful girls and I am so happy they came to understand each other's life. They are different, yet very similar!
I'm actually (and pleasantly) surprised at how lovely each person on this show was. I kind of expected the show to capitalize on two polar opposite stereotypes- snooty rich people and trashy lower class families. Instead they're all compassionate, well spoken, and kind hearted. Cool show.
The reason is because David Abingdon (the rich family) was born into the working class. His father was a truck driver. He grew up in a council house, the kind of house that Caroline (the poor family) lives in. He understands because he was poor kid that made it rich. And I think he is doing this because he is worried about his children (who have a privileged upbringing) won't understand people like him, their parents and certainly people like their grandparents. How will a grandson born surrounded by multi-millions, with royalty as neighbors and classmates understand a grandfather who is humble truck driver? I think David is worried that his children won't be hungry enough to work hard and because snooty rich people. I mean his son was horrified looking at people in economy class on an airplane. And economy class on an airplane means money enough to go for holidays. People in economy are not poor.
Trump is a full grown adult, who should have learnt how to behave now. George was 12 and didn't completely understand. It's unfair to compare a 12 year old to a 70-something-year-old man who has had more than double of George's life experience. If you watch the video you'll find that he is very mature now and understands what he didn't then.
Coming from a family struggling my self this really brought tears to my eyes because not many people try to help at all its truly heart warming to see that you helped this family
My mother got an amazing education. She always went to the top schools and got a degree. She has got a job that she loves and has been promoted lots of times. She works from 7 am until 8 pm most days educating children. The headteacher at the school is a prick and she is practically doing the job for him. She comes home, eats dinner, then from 9 until 11 she works from home still. Then she goes to bed. Her weekends? What weekends? And you know what, we are living in the smallest house in my village. My sister and I - 16 and 18, have to share the 'box room' bc it's the only other room apart from my parents, which is barely bigger than our tiny shed. I can never go on school trips bc it's too expensive for them. Christmas is horrible watching her suffer with money. And it's not like she has a bad job. Working hard 24/7 and having an amazing education does not guaranty riches or happiness at all. I don't remember he last time my mum smiled or had fun. She deserves a huge house for her work and time. But nope. The world just doesn't work that way for everyone. I don't mind living in a tiny house and having hardly any money, it's the watching my mum working herself to death and not getting what she deserves that kills me. The world is so fucked up.
Sorry I didn't finish reading the whole comment as it is too long, but it sounds like your mother is living a very unhealthy lifestyle. Many people have died from it. Look up the word "Karoshi". I myself had a similar lifestyle and suffered I am now suffering from health issues. Please take care of yourself.
David's Brummy accent becomes more noticeable when he's both relaxed and when he's talking about something that he believes in - and this was apparent when he says that he's created an employment position for Cal. The area where he grew up in Birmingham is certainly below the bread line, and this is very apparent when he talks about no indoor bathroom!! I lived in B'ham and have seen both the rich and the poor areas!! I admire how he has overcome adversity - because he wanted to!!!
What an amazing thing to do I'm hoping to help an homeless person this winter By buying them warm clothes trainers and 3 nights in a hotel with a friend for Christmas wish me luck
Really exceptional documentary. Have enormous respect for the majority of the characters. The young girls were utterly precious. The woman who got the law degree just blows my mind. Had a kid, it changed her life completely.
A lovely story. Thank you to the Abingdons for being so kind and generous to strangers. I hope they continued to do well for themselves after the documentary.
so heart breaking when Iris says that she might work in the other girls zoo 'as a receptionist or something' is if thats all she's worth and not only that but also the fact she thinks she couldnt be successful because of her upbringing :(
We need the lady or man that works in the grocery store just as much, what would we do if we didn't have someone to wait on us in a restaurant, mcDonalds, The cleaners?? Everyone counts!!!
francesca wemyss OMG I said almost the exact same thing! So sad, shows the limits a child can place on their own future depending on their upbringing! 😔
David Abingdon you are a kind-hearted and generous human being. It's so positive for me to see a human connect to another human in such a profound way. Thank you for making my day.
This is a perfect example of a hand-UP, not a hand-OUT. Caroline had already made great strides toward making something of herself; she just needed some barriers removed, which the Abingdon's provided. Most people do not mind giving a hand-up, it's the hand-outs that they don't like, understandably so. Two great families whose paths I'm glad crossed.
I’m the daughter of a wealthy man and a poor woman. I’ve lived both lives and I was punished for it by my mother. I now have DID because of my experiences. Not all wealthy people are nice and they definitely don’t all help. I love this family’s kindness and generosity. It’s heartwarming.
Its amazing that David has not forgotten his humble start and I admire him helping out someone less fortunate. I hope you help more people and in return receive many more blessings. This episode really warmed my heart. I hope to be able to help people when i'm a millionaire.
I love hearing the little girls talk to each other because there's not the same kind of awkwardness and social restraints when making comparisons and talking to each other about money. it's real and it's profound but also very sweet and non judgemental.
Because the girls are 8 or so. Social barrier isn't that real yet. But you can start to see it. One girl dreams to own a zoo. Another hopes to work for the other as a receptionist. You can already tell the grit in those dreams.
It really is a bunch of bullshit that Caroline has so many degrees but just coz her social background isn't wealthy she can't get a break. I think both the families are so lovely.
siri chauvaux why?! she looks perfectly normal... people like you are the reason other people are blocked from bettering their life through education and employment. -.-
why not hire and mentor? Someone with that much intelligence and ambition can bring much to any workplace, and some of her appearance and or manner can be toned down, while others can have their tolerances tuned up. Open yourself to the possibilities of others not like yourself and benefit, grow.
I didn't expect to watch this at 2 AM after binging cleaning shows, but I don't regret anything. Every one gains by watching this video. Thank you, David, for sharing this to the world. I'm glad I've met all these beautiful people. The Abingdon parents are golden. Cal is a gem. Seeing faith in all these adults in spite of our toxic reality is an absolutely cathartic experience. And George, Bec, and Iris are all pure and precious. David, you and Angie are amazing.
Wonderful family, strong work ethics, and parents that actually show their children the differences, rather than just talking about them. This is where the current generations are losing out
I've got a degree, but I was undiagnosed with ADHD, until late last year. Prior, to the diagnosis I was in all sorts of trouble and had no clue what was going on. There's nothing worse than people saying, "Your lazy, or you could be this and this, or why aren't you earning such and such?" From my experience, people who give you encouragement and support are gold. I hope I can pay everyone back one day. Good on you David mate, and your kids are a credit to you and your Missus. Moreover, good on Kelly for raising Iris. She's a lovely little kid and a credit to her.
Here is a rich couple whose feet are still planted on the ground with an enormous heart! May God continue to bless them for they bring and share their blessings to other people! I can't help myself; but this episode makes me cry! Kindness does really move mountains!
In the beginning: "You can easily change it by working very hard." Self contradictory much? At the end: What a beautiful story! 💗💓💖💕❣️ It was so restoring to see someone as well off as David get angry about the system, even though it was no threat to his life personally. I'm exceedingly glad the Abingdons sought to establish a more complete perspective in their children.
staind.raindrop. Yes the whole family is so compassionate and understanding. Love the dad for how hard he tries and especially for how mad he gets at the system. And yes its a bloody disgrace!!! Btw its the same in Germany. We need more Davids;)!!!
Is his dad not a prime example of that though? As far as Britain goes, there are no institutional barriers stopping you if you want to succeed. The law of the land doesn't prevent anyone from becoming wealthy if they wish too. You can change your situation, although not necessarily easily. But earning a lot of money and becoming successful has never been easy.
Here is a quote from the son George. 'Bec and Iris are still in touch on Facebook, and Cal has since left Dad's company, and is doing very well for herself at Birmingham University' I rest my case.
The poor child already knows that if she becomes friend with the rich girl, she might work for her. that's heart-breaking!
when was that? I must've missed it ):
M.R. Yan 22.15
most successful business people come from working class families including Lord sugar himself. The poor mother did go traveling for many years, while the other family must have been working very very hard. Most people i know who are well off deserve it. I'm still working in retail but it's mostly my own fault for not pushing myself, i plan to in the future, i don't expect hand outs.
it made me sad when she said she wished she could be Rebecca, I hate for anyone to wish they were someone else because someone else is rich or pretty.. so sad
I loved her Mother's response though, she told her that maybe Rebecca would work for HER instead. That was an awesome, empowering thing to tell a child.
Kid: You can easily change it!
99% of population: No
As the saying goes anyone could be rich but everyone cant
Macedon NKW he was a young boy who believed that because school pushed how if you get an education then you will be ok. Why are some of you Harper on that when he said himself in the show that that was proven not to be true. There is something really wrong with some of you if that’s all you took from this wonderful life changing show.the children and parents from both families were absolutely amazing and inspirational.
Right I’m getting this comment off 69 likes
Macedon NKW so what grow up he didn’t mean any harm by that statement
I know loads of people who work really hard and have 3 jobs but are still poor.
"Maybe I could work for her one day"
8-years-old and the kid already knows how the class system works.
I know, I found that comment so sad.
Smart kid I tell you. Already knows the problem and will better prepared to solve it when gets older and realises she doesn’t have to work for anyone.
Yes it's TRUE. I realize I need to change my thinking and how my children think.
But Mom response was even better- "what about Rebecca working for you!?!?" Got to change the mindset...it's a big part of it!!
Yeah.. that breaks my heart. But still, it means she is still optimistic. Rather than not seeing that opportunity at all.
Hi all, I was (hopefully am no longer) the uppity posh kid. Doing this documentary was an amazing experience for us all, particularly for Cal and Iris.
Unfortunately, in the documentary itself I was a major product of my upbringing, and my attitude was simply because I had been around posh people my entire life. I'm really sorry if I seemed stuck up and a bit of a dick, I genuinely had no clue. I was ignorant of the world, only caring at about my world.
Bec and Iris are still in touch on Facebook, and Cal has since left Dad's company, and is doing very well for herself at the University of Birmingham.
George Abingdon clearly you were quite sheltered then however you have transformed your attitude which is very admirable of you and to all the silly people commenting rude things they are missing the point of the documentary which seems to be about helping each other. Also everyone has to learn and now you are much more understanding and knowledgeable on the subject of poverty which is a positive thing
Don't worry George it was a learning curve. We're all ignorant when we're kids! Hope you and your sis are doing well
I didn't think you were uppity. In fact I saw a surprised look on your face most of the time..... don't listen or take in to consideration what people say about you.... they don't know you, it was a learning experience for you, I don't think you will forget... :)
You have wonderful parents and it is obvious you are going to be a true asset to society...as you have seen both sides of life. Thank your parents for keeping you on the level.
As for being uppity I find that very insightful on your part. It is not your fault that you thought as you did, after all everyone in your school is of equal wealth and we all make quick judgments. What I like about you is you don't want to act superior in-spite of what being a snob could do for you. In this world of celebrity worship=money worship you are rejecting those value. Love you for that...how wise you are, how wise are your parents.
I so appreciate you coming here to make your comments. A child born with advantages I have often wondered are they aware, beyond the material difference. How does having a beautiful home, going to a stately school, impress upon their young minds.
What do they think of the poor, their run down houses, their weak ability to express themselves verbally? Do they think it is by choice or by situation?
Lastly, thanks for the update on Caroline. Your dad is a amazing man he lifted this woman up, by showing her how to, then let her fly away.
God Bless you, your lovely family, and thank you for being so inspirational.
George Abingdon.
George, I believe you were just unaware which your Father stated was the driving force behind your parents. taking part in thus exercise. If you don't know you don't know. I noticed that when you learned that Call had gained an armful of qualifications at the highest level you began to question what you had been told regarding getting an education. In fact you seemed genuinely. annoyed at the inequity. Thanks for the update on Cal.
The world needs more people like David and his family, God bless you, if every rich family helps other poor family the world will be better.
The dad is a class chap. Knows his kids are living in a bubble, takes steps to show them and educate them about the world. Hes pretty rich but is aware and helps others, what a guy.
That was an expensive way to teach them a lesson.
God bless those families. Amazing! :-)
“They want money that my mum hasn’t got “ that made me tear up 😭
Yes, it's hard enough to cope with as an adult, it's terrible when kids are old enough to know and are stressed by it all.
It’s hard to see kids that are so aware of money and get stressed by the fact their parents don’t have money and they shouldn’t have to worry about that at that age
This is honestly how I grew up, I had the constant fear that I would be sleeping in a tunnel because that’s what my mum and dad would say. “If you don’t clean your room our landlord will kick us out because we owe him money” or answering the phone And handing it to my mum or dad knowing it was someone looking for money, when I was nine years old I counted up how much we spent in rent over the 7 years we had lived in our house and i realised that we could have bought a 4 bedroom house if my mum and dad were able to save that each month. My dad worked full time and my mum couldn’t get a job, she went to uni and is now working in a shop when she has a degree and 25,000 in dept. I am in a much better position than my mum and dad now and I actually have to lend them money every month for them to get by. I love my mum and dad and they tried their hardest to raise me and they did raise me well, they taught me that I had to work hard for what I wanted and that we don’t get anything we don’t work for. So at the end of the day I don’t care what job or how many jobs I do as long as I make money.
@@Justsomebody009 I'm so sorry you & your family were (& your parents still are) under this terrible stress, it's a killer - all doctors (& governments) know that but governments continue to make laws/policies which ensure poorer people are still suffering from these mega stresses = cruelty & torture - and often causes illness & early death. It sounds like you've done really well (be very proud!) that you have achieved lots and are able (& willing) to help your parents out but it's sad you have to do whatever to get money and can't follow your heart & do a job that you really like/get satisfaction from. But I know your parents must hate having to take money from you, I'm a mum and I really hate that now I'm injured/disabled my son (& others) have to try to help me (& I'm sick of begging for help from the government & charities - then usually get refused: 'you aren't disabled enough/other people need the help more than you = coz of cuts/austerity & discrimination against my 'invisible' disability = brain injury+), it takes away my independence and I've lost belief in myself, lost my feeling of self-worth, that's what happens - as you probably know. I wish your parents could get enough to properly live on then your relationship with them would be just child-parent = much nicer than provider too. All the very best to you!
Jenny Hughes thank you for the response my mum and dad brought me up well, I just grew up with less stuff. I grew up knowing that any trips I took with the school wouldn’t cost to much like a ski trip for 2 weeks cost kids in my school 660 my mum and dad can’t afford that, it’s more than their rent. I’m just content with the fact that I am in a better place than they were at my age. Plus non of them were providing for a child full time when they were 23. I’m grateful for my family and I don’t take anything for granted, I know that one mistake or something that happens like losing a job, it can all get taken away. I’ve experienced that already. A year ago my self and my partner moved into his parents as he came out the army, got a new job earning 27,000 a year to have it taken away within 6 months because the company went bankrupt. So from having my own place, to planning a holiday, to then give up your home and move in with your parents in law. It’s hard. A lot of independence was taking away and I’ve really struggled this past year, but tomorrow I sign for the keys to our new flat, it’s a council rent ( but cheaper than private rent) but it’s just until we can get a mortgage. We both don’t earn anywhere 27,000 a year but we do okay Better than what my mum and dad are doing now
“Iris is nice... and she’s small, like her room” HAH that’s so adorable
It's pretty tragic. Children from poor families are shorter than their wealthy peers (fact)
I've just googled caroline and since the programme she has done a PhD and is now working as an advisor for Hereford and Gloucestershire on an environmental legal team. wow! so impressed with that woman's determination as well as the kindness and support given by the wealthy family on this show. If only more successful families would reach out like this, the ripple effect would be massive. x
thats fantastic news and I bet she earned every penny of her 20,000 a year. Well done David respecting the priveledge you have
Amazing. So happy to hear that.
Thank you for the update. I am so proud of Caroline as I am living her ‘journey’ as we speak.......not easy but I will get there.
I have a friend exactly like her who came from a travelling background and has just completed her PhD in Criminology and
is doing brilliantly now. Life seems scary, miserable, dark and impossible while suffering but the light at the end of the tunnel is worth waiting for.
Absolutely agree just 20-50 families ‘giving back’ and helping struggling poor families get a step up in life would change so many lives for the better.
*hereford and Gloucestershire (not hertford)
jolene sheehan - Thanks for the update!!
That little girl she might be "poor" but she's rich with love, & she's not blinded by material things. She's lovely really, her & her mum.
A testament to her amazing mother. It is easy to think one way or another about children based on wealth but the quality of the child is based on one thing, parenting.
for real
for real
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@Cardinal Sin get a life
The dad seems like a lovely person
A wonderful show. Wonderful all round.
Onyx Lover Yea he's from a humble background, I think this has helped him embrace his roots as well.
Onyx Lover yep
Onyx Lover the guy deserves everything he's woorked for and is still down to earth and aint forgot his beginnings
what an amazing thing this man has done-- more blessing will come to this family, its a guarantee.. God bless this entire family
David Abingdon - Wow. I am amazed at how you and your family showed so much kindness and generosity to this family in need. Much respect to you kind sir. Your wife and kids were great in this and showed so much kindness. Thank you for sharing this. Doing this sort of thing is always a gamble but you hit a jackpot family.
Gcu Stampede I feel exactly the same what an amazing example how people should be
If David Abingdon isn't inspirational then i don't know who is, no-one forced him to secure and elevate Cals life, he is an incredible person.
I agree with you
The little girls are so sweet... Iris is so caring and humble... she doesn't expect much and is happy for the little she gets. Heart of gold...
I think the girls will stay good friends they both seem so sweet. ^.^
“ I wish that everything for poor people can be 5p , like I want a guitar...... that would be ... ummm ..... 5p please” 😭 💖 she’s so cute
David Abingdon - You have my utmost respect for going out of your way to dramatically change the lives of another family forever, if just 10% of those who are in the position to do the same were to do the same, our society would be a much better place for our kids. They say money doesn't buy happiness, but money gives us the opportunities through which we have the potential to create happiness. God bless you and your lovely family.
To be fair, I am someone from a lower working class background who was fortunate enough to have gone to private school based on an academic scholarship. As a result many of my closest friends came from very wealthy families. Many of my friend's families generously donated to various charities; some of them had their own schemes and grants set up for people from a disadvantaged backgrounds; and many of them engaged in voluntary work, particularly the stay at home moms and retirees. The left-wing/Labour caricature of the mustachioed greedy businessman laughing at the plight of the poor whilst sitting on his mountain of gold is a huge misrepresentation of reality in my opinion.
David is a very decent man but what he has done here is buy an unbelievable lesson in how the world works for his children. Tv companies can bring people together to work things out so why cant the wasters we vote for?. The people who run employment service should be cringing in shame but then they should be ashamed anyway.
Totally agree
OpenMusic those greedy types do exist. Obviously all of any group isn’t exactly the same.
Set of arseholes.
'I didn't expect poverty to be ... so close to home' That quote from the son sums up our society.
“If your born poor you can easily change it”
If it’s ‘easy’ then no one would be poor
Burning Cola you are so dumb, it’s not hard to educate yourself, I know plenty of people who have gone to uni on good courses even though they are from poor families. All it takes is for people to pay attention at school and not be lazy
Buuuuttt if it’s just so easy even the not so smart people would find it easy..... Like the person in this video stuck in at school good education ... still poor ....
Gaming Mac - Forgivable from a child but many honestly believe this.
He's a young boy-the world is still black and white to him. Kids often parrot their parents or schoolmates.
@@jonjoh7839 Theres so much relying on that though. Not everyone has parents that will help them or books they can learn from.
I have not commented on here before and that is because I did not want to colour the thinking or indeed the comments of people watching this video. Nor did I wish people to feel that they were being monitored or judged.
However, I feel forced to to take a stand against some of the extreme nasty, spiteful and hateful comments levelled at my son George. Please remember that this show first aired in 2010 and he is now 20 and a very level headed, considerate and compassionate person of whom I am very proud - as I am of all my family.
Recently and for the first time ever, I removed a few comments that had been made by an individual that I feel needs psychiatric help. To call them despicable and highly offensive would be a gross understatement.
The comment below by terry johnson and others like him are testimony to some of the hate messages that George has been subjected to. There is no need for this. Before posting something nasty, I would invite you listen to what 20 year old George has to say for himself in the following two short TH-cam videos:
1. th-cam.com/video/bb7a2iuZ6Jg/w-d-xo.html
2. th-cam.com/video/Ogs5dsl-gyc/w-d-xo.html
Many thanks for the kind words of nearly all of you and your comments of support.
David
David Abingdon
Having only just watched this documentary I would like to congratulate on how good you are to even appear on something that would subject you to such an audience. Thank you for uploading
David Abingdon This has been an amazing video.
David Abingdon your son was just saying what he thought you have a cool family mate good for you
David Abingdon David I read some of the most hateful comments I have ever seen posted about a child and my heart broke for your whole family as I did, Those making these comments could not have listened as you, yourself spoke of how after taking your son through from first class on a plane that on seeing his reaction made you realise that he needed to see the other side of life and how you began to teach your children more on your own background etc, I never thought that he came over as pompous or belittling I did think he was struggling to understand how life's could be so different so close to his home. I could see the children were lost at first when they actually came into direct contact with Caroline and Iris but they didn't go full out ewe when they entered her home and indeed seemed to take it on board very well. When Caroline and Iris visited your home they were attentive and welcoming and your son was extremely protective more so when she was on the zip slide. I think now as I did when I first saw this that you are a man of honour and both your wife and yourself have raised two magnificent young people. What you did for this family was amazing and I'm pleased to see that Caroline passed your expectations for her
you made me cry in this video, your family are just amazing. they have given me so much faith in humanity x
The "poor" little girl broke my heart! She is so small, but she still understands her and her mum's situation and how it differs from most other people! She is not stubborn, she is understanding! Really, the things she said were heart breaking and I'm surprised that a kid her age can be so understanding and thankful!
I love this. I really loved how George grew to understand that sometimes even when you work hard and get an education that it doesn't always guarantee that you won't have to struggle with money. What a great thing they did for this family.
Now he’s making a fan web series of Ed, Edd n’ Eddy called Peach Creek. Can’t wait to see his work.
Just realised the dad is the one who uploaded this so creds to you David
good eye!
What a fantastic guy the Dad is, there should be more people like him in this world
true
That young lad is so well mannered and comes across so well for someone of his age. What a credit to his parents.
fake comment is fake.
I have got a teaching degree, can’t get a job as a teacher. Sometimes it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.
I agree
Yes, often....networking is key
Networking is a blessing if you have the key, and a curse if you can't find the car.
This is definitely correct. Working in business myself, as a self-employed man, establishing connections (which is a progressive thing which happens overtime) is the difference of 1 client versus hundreds.
I live in Holland and we need teachers desperately. There's the risk that primary schools have to go to teaching 4 days a week instead of 5. What a difference, isn't it. I hope by now you've found a job!
This women has raised an amazing child. That is worth the world.
Everyone needs to see this documentary. They couldn't have picked more decent deserving people from both ends. I think I've watched this documentary about 6 times now and I learn something new every single time. Absolutely beautiful how the kindness of one may potentially change the life of another. We spend so much time being jealous of each other or begrudging each other when in reality we're all just trying to better ourselves and look out for our children. It's the selfish arseholes (at either end) who put themselves before their children that are the problem.
David Abingdon is such a lovely guy I only wish more people with money were as helpful to people like us
I had you 💩💩
Lol
Molly streames ))))
David's attitude is so strong yet simple. "I was broke and didn't want to be broke."
Pamela C. Yeah words of genius... Not
Anthony Hall exactly. No one wants to be broke. Not everyone can get out of that.
I’m never moved enough to write a comment and even though this is a few years ago, it brought tears to me eyes. I particularly love the children, true George and Rebecca have a very nice life but they are not spoilt brats, they are sensitive and caring. And Iris, what a sweetheart. Wonderful that kindness and caring has helped this family reach the potential. Not a handout more a hand up. Well done.
~Bron K~
I agree. Embrace the gracious, thoughtful and insightful viewpoint you expressed. Bringing negativity into a situation ends badly.
You recognized and acknowledged that......Well done!
'They are kind of spoiled, but in a nice way because they are still very friendly.' Best Iris line ever. She is amazingly insightful. Love that kid.
Ruthie Andrews the kids are not spoiled
spoiled yes.... spoilt no
it's a quote by the little girl who isnt rich .. she said that in the documentary
U do realize that the dad put this up
I cried watching this, the Abingdons never once looked down at Caroline and Iris and the situation they find themselves in. Caroline is obviously a very smart lady and this is just the break she needed to kick start her career. The Abingdons aren't pompous or stuck up and really did understands exactly what it was like to try to better themselves.
This was a super video, I would love to know how their life is now. I so hope Caroline has been able to finally become a barrister and life is wonderful for them. Super impressed with the Children in both family's, If you get to read these responses Caroline I wish you the very best for you and Iris and the Abingdons, well I wish there were more people like yourselves to just step back and recognise just how hard some people just need a break like this!
me too... GOD bless their hearts.
yes
Very well said! Both families are beautiful...I wish Caroline and Iris all the best!!!
love these families !! I cried watching was so touching. Bless them!
I know this is old but I can’t get over Iris, she’s such a lovely lovely girl who appreciates everything she has 😭. She really thought me to be more grateful to God for His blessings in my life . Rebekah is also so lovely , with all she has she’s so so humble . This was the best British show I’ve ever seen ! Lots of love from America
Literally if every rich person did something like that then there would be so many people living better lives. I take my hat off to you
most of the 1% DO pay well over half their income in taxes.
all you hear about is a few individuals who have chosen to find ways of exploiting their way out of taxes.
so your answer will be to tax almost ALL the income of the high income earners,leaving them with little justification to work hard hiring people?
so everyone can be "equal"?-which results in equally stagnant mediocrity.
robbing the rich does not mean the poor will benefit.
closing loopholes so we all pay at least something -say a flat rate income tax-would get better results not to mention a tax form that doesn't require accountants to understand
I grew up wishing we were rich. But its when you're poor when you realise how much the little things matter to you.
yes!
bomnivore Never a truer word spoken! X
bomnivore OK, I am not poor, I am comfortably off, but I absolutely agree with your sentiment. I know things can change, at anytime and so don't take anything for granted. I have a roof over my head, we have food, can pay bills and holiday abroad as well as in England for short breaks once a year. We have one child mind, as we knew for sure financially, we can live a comfortable life and provide her with what she needs. There are people MUCH better off than us but my goodness they are quite unhappy.
I didn't know we were poor until I was about 14 and realized what was happening. growing up without everything and anything I think gives you a drive to make something great out of yourself, even without rich people backing you and a degree. You also realise when you watch a video like this that you come from that situation and you aren't scared to land up there again- you will survive and it's not ideal, but it doesn't terrify you the way it terrifies a lot of people who have always been rich
you still wanna be rich?
“There are 38 rooms, I wouldn’t say it’s a mansion though.” PaRdON?!
Bethan Moran tbh my grandparents house has just under that abc I wouldn’t call it a mansion either... it depends on location
My house only has 8 1 lounge 1 kitchen 4 bedrooms 2 bathrooms
@@Florthy no need to flex buddy
We only 21 it is not close to a Mansoin but with 17 more roms it probably is
A mansion has got to be big enough for servants to work and live in as well and you need well over 38 rooms to accommodate servants.
Very kind people, instead of just writing off her debt he gives her a job that will expose her to the companies she wants to work for. And putting money aside for her childs future. Such nice people
That's why you are not rich, you can't be irresponsible like that and become rich. What they did was perfect. Teach a person to fish, instead of giving her the fish.
Mr. Abington, you are a wonderful person. It restores my faith in humanity to see what you have done. You gave Ms. Buffery a hand up not just a handout. Thank you.
Lisa McCloughry .
The family Abingdon make me cry. You are the pillar of community. Helping Iris and her mom the way you do is, well really, I have no words besides “awesome”. And your children are equally beautiful people. Thank you for everything you did and are doing. ❤️❤️❤️
David Abingdon and family - great and beautiful human beings . From David's poor beginning to great success , he remains with a kind heart and sheer humility. God bless!
I think Mr. Abingdon is such a level-headed and smart man. Two great families and I learnt a lot from this video. Thank you
This is one of the most heartwarming documentaries I think I've ever watched. I'm so glad the Abingdons were able to help Cal and Iris, whilst being respectful of Cal's personal pride and not just showering them with infinite money. Iris herself was a little pearl of a child... I don't think I've ever come across a kid who is so open and genuinely loving and positive about the world, despite her own difficult circumstances. It just shows what a wonderful mum Cal is to have brought her up so well.
Also, I think David taking his kids to Birmingham was the moment when it really hit home for their kids. It's one thing to meet an outsider who is on the breadline... you can sympathise with them and want to help, sure. But it's another thing when you suddenly realise that your own family comes from outside that sheltered bubble. I think Rebecca said it best when she said something like "I can't believe Daddy used to live here" or something along those lines.
It seems like it was a thoroughly worthwhile and eye opening experience for everyone involved. I don't usually write such essay length comments, but this documentary really touched me and I hope everyone is doing well since it was filmed. Thanks for sharing!
I could hug that dad. Got me over here peeling onions.
it broke my heart when she said someday I could possibly work for her.
Ka c. same here
+Ka c an indication of how limited her world view is - still that's the working class for you.
exactly
Ka c same☹️💗
Unfortunately that's the world we live in
Sitting here with tears in my eyes. What a wonderful documentary with wonderful people.
David Abington, I salute you! What you and your family have done gives me hope for the future.
little Iris is such a lovely, well adjusted girl. Caroline may be struggling financially but she is a fantastic mum. Shed a few tears watching this documentary
All the parents are great. So nice for parents to show there kids how to help others , how others live and to treat them with respect.
This touched me so much both families were amazing I stumbled opon this program because i like to watch shows not just about the difference between the well off and the working poor but the difference between britain and the states where i live. Before i was even through the first 15 minutes i called my bestie in California to tell her to watch it. David you especially not only enriched the mom and daughter but your lovely family also.
I find George to be very intelligent for his age. I am amazed at his ability to critically analyze situations. I first noticed when he said, "I did not expect poverty to be so close to home" and again when h said the notion of education being the way out has been proven wrong, after his Mom read Caroline's letter. I am very impressed by him and so happy I found this video. I wish I had the chance to meet this young man so I can get some more insights into the way his mind works. Thanks a million for this video.
Blarson 12 maybe, maybe not. At his age I was very smart as well, thank GOD. I was not rich in the sense you proffer.
Then you must be a smart ass just like him.
Yup! you got that right! :) Happy New Year
Thank you for sharing your perspective love. Have a great night!
Personally I think the way he talks makes him seem just a little smarter plus he goes to one of those snooty schools
I was absolutely moved by the generosity shown by the Abingdon family, towards the family that were sponsoring and how they went out their way in helping them not only by sponsoring but by looking for apprenticeships for the single mother. I think it's so important to educate our children who sometimes maybe lucky enough to get everything handed to them minus the hardwork and effort that not everyone's well off or as lucky as themselves. That's also why knowing your roots and where you came from humbles a person and makes them appreciate their blessings more, becoming rich or successful takes hard work, grafting, commitment and determination.
I loved both families. And the kids did not act like spoiled brats. They were polite and respectful. The parents did a wonderful job at raising them. I am a single mom with three kids and we live pay check by pay check. We also live in a very wealthy area where most families have beach homes and the kids don't need anything. But, the kids in my town are very spoiled. The kids in the documentary could teach the kids around here how to be grateful for their lives.
Yes that's exactly what I thought too, I do not understand the people for throwing this sweet family under the bus for being well off when they obviously are trying their best to help, a lot more than 99% will do. The teen boy is just a copy of his wonderful father, so bright!
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34:11 Best part in the whole documentary.
SharkBlox lol
Yep
How is it not a meme
SharkBlox no 39:51 is the best part
"What a load of FAKING BALLSHIT" 😂😂😂😂😂
Just stumbled upon this documentary. 48 minutes well spent watching this. Well done David and family!!
I like Dad. He did not inherit but earned it because of drive and luck. Good for him and his family.
Rememeber the working class made him rich.....
what? he was poor and didn't like it so he worked to change
jack60091 it shows through his generousty and warm heart to help others less fournate
This is the best family to help out a mother trying to do her best. I wish more ppl were like you.
After wiping tears from my very wet face, all I can say is WELL DONE!!!! What a marvelous and heartwarming story. Wish more people in this world could have the sense to see things as you have; to help others that are trying so desperately to help themselves but getting nowhere. How truly wonderful!!!😊🔆❤️
The dad sounds like such a lovely man😊
Iris, what a beautiful human being she is
I want to raise my future daughter to have her humility and beautiful heart
Common Unity I love the name iris sm
Common Unity i love how she wants the best for her mum, more than herself... at just 8 years of age... yes, i did tear up a little.
jess bowle Do you like the name eye as well?
Poor person has a degree and rich dude doesn’t even have an o level. Pretty much sums up the uk 🇬🇧
Cardinal Sin what’s wrong with flipping properties isn’t that a honest living
Degrees are not everthing
And I work at a hedge fund firm in London thus only acquiring a Degree in economics
I got booked into a police station one time by someone with lesser qualifications... funny how the world goes around
@@freegiftcardglitch The fact is, we're taught that qualitfications ARE everything
The saddest bit was at 22:30 when Iris said when she was older maybe she could work for Rebecca as a receptionist instead of Rebecca working for her
My mum always drilled in my head to think like Iris. I'm 30 now and finally figuring out I can do anything.
That's because when you live in poverty for a long time with no opportunities it changes your view of yourself and cannot even imagine yourself successful. I grew up in poverty and at 53 yrs old now I am still am in poverty because I have no confidence in myself and self doubt all the time. I have become conditioned over all those years in poverty and struggling. I am a musician and was self taught since 15 years old and also had some lessons in reading and writing music and cannot even afford an instrument to play .It is very sad I worked so hard at music and cannot even use my talents.It kills me inside that the one thing I love ( my first love) I have no way of doing..I had to sell everything I had to raise my sons as a single mom. They are adults now of course.
poverty is a mindset
fair point, im sorry for not clarifying but i meant in a setting were success is clearly achieveable and the country's economy is good f.e. england.
I watched this documentary and then read the comments left by other people - those who 'condemn' the Abingdons need to watch this video again, and to listen to the way the 2 families talk amongst themselves!
I never felt that the Abingdons were in the slightest bit condescending towards Caroline and Iris - far from it!!!!
George and his sister were both honest about things - like George saying that he never knew that poverty was so near (physically) to them.
Sure, he and his sister did a little name dropping (Princess Anne) - but they're British, and obviously have a high opinion of the Royal family!
I don't know of any 8 - 12 year olds who wouldn't brag a little about famous neighbors!
A lot of the comments on this video are from people who don't/can't comprehend how difficult it is to give things (money) and not be seen to be being 'saintly', and who don't/can't comprehend how difficult it is to accept things (money) and not feel ashamed/embarrassed at their situation in life.
Virginia Fry well said! Admire David for respecting the fact that he sensed Caroline was a proud woman and how hard this most have been for her when she had achieved so much on her own only to be blocked by the system. And he was right he didn’t back a loser!
I'm 31 and would still name drop if I knew famous ppl! Lol! I think everyone would, and its because of the society we live in today. Even those of us living in poverty know that sort of thing raises a persons standing in society. It's not what you know it's who you know. And I totally agree with everything you've said because the Abingdon's didn't let their children become blinded by wealth they showed them the reality of poverty and showed them how to be generous and compassionate. If more wealthy ppl could live less greedily like the Abingdon's we'd live in a much better world today.
I think rich people should make their child aware of the world around them. So yes this rich family looked out of tune with the rest of us but the parents were doing well by the woman and her child and by their own children
well written. I 100% agree
This was the best thing I have ever seen on TH-cam. Bless his huge heart. I hope it all turned out good.
It's sad that an 8 year old girl when meeting a new friend who is rich, automatically sees herself as only capable of working for her as an adult, instead of with or above her...
Both families are absolutely lovely people, with big hearts. Praying you all live happily ever after.
So cute how Rebecca whispers” iris is nice”😍
the Abington family are amazing, the warmth, care and generosity was overwhelming, they deserve all the success and more. The way david created that job just for that lady. just wow. I am speechless.
Love how the dad reverts to his Brummie accent on the street he grew up in.
+Little Bunny Bunny 30:00 says he grew up in Birmingham
This is by far the BEST episode I've ever watched.
Both families are just amazing and I'm so happy that David offered her a job and now Iris can do horse riding and I honestly have tears.
I wish there was follow up episode on how they are all doing now.
Much love to both families from Australia x
What a heart warming story. Just goes to show people don't always need a hand out they just need a hand up. Wonderful families on both sides. So impressed by the children as well as the parents.
Children were very impressive, I agree.
No matter what, personality shines through and their father is a very clever and generous man
Wow, David Abingdon is a really generous and thoughtful person!
"Iris is nice, and she's small like her room."
Anonymous omg I can't believe she said that😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
James Bond.. seriously ? calling an 8 year old a bitch?! she can't express herself as you can or actually should.
LOL. It sounds awful but if you look at the tone you can see it wasn't meant in a bad way.
Absolutely loved this line. Rebecca and Iris both seem like such wonderful girls and I am so happy they came to understand each other's life. They are different, yet very similar!
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I'm actually (and pleasantly) surprised at how lovely each person on this show was. I kind of expected the show to capitalize on two polar opposite stereotypes- snooty rich people and trashy lower class families. Instead they're all compassionate, well spoken, and kind hearted. Cool show.
The reason is because David Abingdon (the rich family) was born into the working class. His father was a truck driver. He grew up in a council house, the kind of house that Caroline (the poor family) lives in.
He understands because he was poor kid that made it rich. And I think he is doing this because he is worried about his children (who have a privileged upbringing) won't understand people like him, their parents and certainly people like their grandparents. How will a grandson born surrounded by multi-millions, with royalty as neighbors and classmates understand a grandfather who is humble truck driver?
I think David is worried that his children won't be hungry enough to work hard and because snooty rich people. I mean his son was horrified looking at people in economy class on an airplane. And economy class on an airplane means money enough to go for holidays. People in economy are not poor.
He's a total snob, like Trump.
Trump is a full grown adult, who should have learnt how to behave now. George was 12 and didn't completely understand. It's unfair to compare a 12 year old to a 70-something-year-old man who has had more than double of George's life experience. If you watch the video you'll find that he is very mature now and understands what he didn't then.
Yeah ok it's not fair.
Coming from a family struggling my self this really brought tears to my eyes because not many people try to help at all its truly heart warming to see that you helped this family
My mother got an amazing education. She always went to the top schools and got a degree. She has got a job that she loves and has been promoted lots of times. She works from 7 am until 8 pm most days educating children. The headteacher at the school is a prick and she is practically doing the job for him. She comes home, eats dinner, then from 9 until 11 she works from home still. Then she goes to bed. Her weekends? What weekends? And you know what, we are living in the smallest house in my village. My sister and I - 16 and 18, have to share the 'box room' bc it's the only other room apart from my parents, which is barely bigger than our tiny shed. I can never go on school trips bc it's too expensive for them. Christmas is horrible watching her suffer with money. And it's not like she has a bad job. Working hard 24/7 and having an amazing education does not guaranty riches or happiness at all. I don't remember he last time my mum smiled or had fun. She deserves a huge house for her work and time. But nope. The world just doesn't work that way for everyone. I don't mind living in a tiny house and having hardly any money, it's the watching my mum working herself to death and not getting what she deserves that kills me. The world is so fucked up.
Sorry I didn't finish reading the whole comment as it is too long, but it sounds like your mother is living a very unhealthy lifestyle. Many people have died from it. Look up the word "Karoshi". I myself had a similar lifestyle and suffered I am now suffering from health issues. Please take care of yourself.
Unhealthy lifestyle? You should be shamed for commenting such a thing on a suffering teen/
David's Brummy accent becomes more noticeable when he's both relaxed and when he's talking about something that he believes in - and this was apparent when he says that he's created an employment position for Cal.
The area where he grew up in Birmingham is certainly below the bread line, and this is very apparent when he talks about no indoor bathroom!!
I lived in B'ham and have seen both the rich and the poor areas!!
I admire how he has overcome adversity - because he wanted to!!!
What an amazing thing to do I'm hoping to help an homeless person this winter
By buying them warm clothes trainers and 3 nights in a hotel with a friend for Christmas wish me luck
Debs Adam's in UK did you manage to?
I love how george goes from being sure of everything to extremely unconfortable and a relieved face at the end like he figured something out .
Really exceptional documentary. Have enormous respect for the majority of the characters. The young girls were utterly precious. The woman who got the law degree just blows my mind. Had a kid, it changed her life completely.
A lovely story. Thank you to the Abingdons for being so kind and generous to strangers. I hope they continued to do well for themselves after the documentary.
This has Gotta be one of the best things I've ever watched on TH-cam. Loved both families. I hope all is well with both
so heart breaking when Iris says that she might work in the other girls zoo 'as a receptionist or something' is if thats all she's worth and not only that but also the fact she thinks she couldnt be successful because of her upbringing :(
francesca wemyss so sad :( money does not ever define future sucess/failure
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The bible says the poor will be with us always, it does not make anyone less than!!
We need the lady or man that works in the grocery store just as much, what would we do if we didn't have someone to wait on us in a restaurant, mcDonalds, The cleaners?? Everyone counts!!!
francesca wemyss OMG I said almost the exact same thing! So sad, shows the limits a child can place on their own future depending on their upbringing! 😔
David Abingdon you are a kind-hearted and generous human being. It's so positive for me to see a human connect to another human in such a profound way. Thank you for making my day.
This is a perfect example of a hand-UP, not a hand-OUT. Caroline had already made great strides toward making something of herself; she just needed some barriers removed, which the Abingdon's provided. Most people do not mind giving a hand-up, it's the hand-outs that they don't like, understandably so. Two great families whose paths I'm glad crossed.
Agreed. There are a lot of lazy asses on benefits who give the people who are hardworking and genuinely need help some assistance.
It broke my heart when she said 'I wish I was Rebecca'
What a wonderful heartwarming programme. The Abingdon family's generosity is truly inspiring.
I’m the daughter of a wealthy man and a poor woman. I’ve lived both lives and I was punished for it by my mother. I now have DID because of my experiences. Not all wealthy people are nice and they definitely don’t all help. I love this family’s kindness and generosity. It’s heartwarming.
Wow, that's probably the nicest programme I've watched in that genre! So fantastic and I also had a wee cry at the end 😁
David Abbingdon is the man!
Its amazing that David has not forgotten his humble start and I admire him helping out someone less fortunate. I hope you help more people and in return receive many more blessings. This episode really warmed my heart. I hope to be able to help people when i'm a millionaire.
I love hearing the little girls talk to each other because there's not the same kind of awkwardness and social restraints when making comparisons and talking to each other about money. it's real and it's profound but also very sweet and non judgemental.
Because the girls are 8 or so. Social barrier isn't that real yet. But you can start to see it. One girl dreams to own a zoo. Another hopes to work for the other as a receptionist.
You can already tell the grit in those dreams.
It really is a bunch of bullshit that Caroline has so many degrees but just coz her social background isn't wealthy she can't get a break. I think both the families are so lovely.
siri chauvaux why?! she looks perfectly normal... people like you are the reason other people are blocked from bettering their life through education and employment. -.-
And you sound like a stuck up bitch and no one actually likes.
why not hire and mentor? Someone with that much intelligence and ambition can bring much to any workplace, and some of her appearance and or manner can be toned down, while others can have their tolerances tuned up. Open yourself to the possibilities of others not like yourself and benefit, grow.
It's funny how a little more money and a different self concept can give a woman a better haircut and nicer clothes- especially a loving single mom.
Carrie Bizz my mom has a masters degree and we are so insainly poor because of her being a single mother.
I didn't expect to watch this at 2 AM after binging cleaning shows, but I don't regret anything. Every one gains by watching this video. Thank you, David, for sharing this to the world. I'm glad I've met all these beautiful people. The Abingdon parents are golden. Cal is a gem. Seeing faith in all these adults in spite of our toxic reality is an absolutely cathartic experience. And George, Bec, and Iris are all pure and precious. David, you and Angie are amazing.
Wonderful family, strong work ethics, and parents that actually show their children the differences, rather than just talking about them. This is where the current generations are losing out
Both families were absolutely lovely. I hope that all involved are now doing well and that everyone learned a lot from this rare experience.
I love iris’ attitude, she’s so grateful 😍
I've got a degree, but I was undiagnosed with ADHD, until late last year. Prior, to the diagnosis I was in all sorts of trouble and had no clue what was going on. There's nothing worse than people saying, "Your lazy, or you could be this and this, or why aren't you earning such and such?" From my experience, people who give you encouragement and support are gold. I hope I can pay everyone back one day. Good on you David mate, and your kids are a credit to you and your Missus. Moreover, good on Kelly for raising Iris. She's a lovely little kid and a credit to her.
Iam very touched by this story its nice to see people from opposite parts of the country having communications with each other
They live 11 miles apart
The live in the same country.... Just different parts.
The person meant opposite ends of the social spectrum, stop trying to be smarty pants.
Here is a rich couple whose feet are still planted on the ground with an enormous heart! May God continue to bless them for they bring and share their blessings to other people! I can't help myself; but this episode makes me cry! Kindness does really move mountains!
"I think I'm very lucky, other people might not have as much as I do" despite not actually having that much, this girl is incredibly humble.
In the beginning: "You can easily change it by working very hard." Self contradictory much?
At the end: What a beautiful story! 💗💓💖💕❣️
It was so restoring to see someone as well off as David get angry about the system, even though it was no threat to his life personally. I'm exceedingly glad the Abingdons sought to establish a more complete perspective in their children.
staind.raindrop. Yes the whole family is so compassionate and understanding. Love the dad for how hard he tries and especially for how mad he gets at the system. And yes its a bloody disgrace!!! Btw its the same in Germany. We need more Davids;)!!!
Is his dad not a prime example of that though? As far as Britain goes, there are no institutional barriers stopping you if you want to succeed. The law of the land doesn't prevent anyone from becoming wealthy if they wish too. You can change your situation, although not necessarily easily. But earning a lot of money and becoming successful has never been easy.
Here is a quote from the son George. 'Bec and Iris are still in touch on Facebook, and Cal has since left Dad's company, and is doing very well for herself at Birmingham University' I rest my case.
OpenMusic some people can’t chase the necessary opportunities due to circumstances behind their control.
And this is one of the reasons that God has put us all on this earth for, to bless each other. May love always prevails.