Making a Good Confession

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  • @daveparrott9530
    @daveparrott9530 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I always try to make a good confession but I guarantee after thissermon I will certainly pay a lot more attention to my examination of conscience and make sure that I am coming totally clean in confession. I'll be digging deeper into my conscience.

  • @unyongan
    @unyongan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    It is a good idea to pray before doing the examination of conscience. Ten years ago I had the grace to have a general confession . All my sins from the age of reason (7-8 years old up to the present time),I was back then 45 years old. I was told by the spiritual director to pray to Mother Mary to show me all my past sins in the light of Jesus. That was the best advice. Took a good week to go over my sins.
    The best part is to confess all of them with sincere heart. Restitutions, reparations and amendments are great way to start fresh with the Lord.
    Ask your guardian angel to protect you always.

  • @zcath7710
    @zcath7710 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The truth hurts but we need to do it..

  • @carolynkimberly4021
    @carolynkimberly4021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This is a video that needs to be distributed widely in our uncatechetized V2 world.

  • @almeggs3247
    @almeggs3247 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you. I’ve been blaming others sins in causing me to sin all my life!
    God bless you father. I hadn’t realized till now the state in my lack in not doing a proper confession!

  • @gracewhite1601
    @gracewhite1601 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Love confession, I have been going once a week as I had missed the Church so much when it was closed for awhile

  • @rc3088
    @rc3088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What a wonderful video... I had not gone to confession in several decades it literally took me months to examine my own conscience watching several videos how to go about it...listing everything I could remember and when I got to the confessional last year; I couldn't remember a 1/2 the things I cried the priest said it's OK but for months I felt like I had to redo it... this video makes me feel so much better. I have been back several times this year and it feels wonderful I pay attention to what I'm doing, yes I still do some things I shouldn't buy I stop myself and change course. I'm making it a habit to go on a regular basis it's so much easier and it feels wonderful.

  • @jesusitrustinyou.4164
    @jesusitrustinyou.4164 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I will save this very important video about good confession. Thank you for your time.

  • @AMDG_-nk2dp
    @AMDG_-nk2dp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Before attending the TLM, I didn't know how to properly make a good confession. We just weren't taught in the NO Mass, or from the CCD classes. I knew the basics but that was NOT sufficient. Not according to real Catholic teaching. I thank God 🙏 my eyes have been opened, my conscience has been illumined, enlightened, and my heart open. It's necessary to make a good confession, to do penance and to make reparation, and make a firm purpose of amendment. +

    • @AMDG_-nk2dp
      @AMDG_-nk2dp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Remember Lord Jesus Pray the Rosary remember, do the best that you can. Yes the sin and the # of times. As long as you didn't omit sins on purpose, just confess them the next time you go to confession. Sometimes it's helpful to write them down before hand, but honestly I think we are quite aware of our own sins. Don't dwell too long on the previous confessions. If you weren't taught correctly from the beginning....well now you know and are more consciousess. Always ask your priest for guidance, if you need help. God bless 🙏. +

  • @juliaromero4432
    @juliaromero4432 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for this info, it will be easy for me to be sure when I do my own confession. I can't see a priest at the moment. We are in lock down. Bless you all

  • @vivianwukmir4799
    @vivianwukmir4799 ปีที่แล้ว

    Genius Young Priest getting experience finding voice. Good topic I was wondering about. Always seem to be stricken w tiredness Friday at 4:30 pm.

  • @kingofthebeatles
    @kingofthebeatles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amen Amen !!!!!

  • @kaylohello222
    @kaylohello222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So be it. Amen.

  • @jeffapodaca5037
    @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I've listened to many youtube postings regarding confession. This is the best one I've heard yet.
    St Pope Pius X said in his catechism that there are 5 elements required of the penitent in order to make a valid confession.
    If lacking in any one of these, your sins are not forgiven.
    1. Perform a sincere examination of conscience. (obtain an Examination of Conscience and slowly and carefully read. Consider that you can sin in action, word or even thought.)
    2. Having true sorrow for your sins; contrition or attrition. (St Augustine said that not even God can forgive your sins if you are not truly sorry.)
    3. Having a firm purpose of amendment: making whatever changes you must, no matter how difficult to avoid the near occasions of sin.
    4. Confessing all your mortal sins. Do not hide any otherwise you commit sacrilege. Nor try to diminish them in any way such as by understating the number.
    5. Perform the penance. We must have the intention of performing the penance the priest assigns otherwise our sins are not forgiven.
    There is a good small booklet by Tan books "Confession Its Fruitful Practice". Get it.
    The best examination of conscience I found after reading over a dozen is the booklet "An Examination of Conscience" by Leaflet Missal Company. This list sins by mortal and venial. However, I believe some of the venial sins they list should be listed as mortal.
    Avoid all sin. It can be done, but it will require you to give up much of what you encounter in this world. Jesus said getting to heaven would be difficult.

    • @Navygrl58
      @Navygrl58 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      jeff apodaca Any idea where I would be able to order the booklet?

    • @jeffapodaca5037
      @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Navygrl58 These booklets are pretty popular so a local Catholic book store will have them. Or you can order directly from the publishers. Both have websites: tanbooks.com and leafletonline.com. Oh, I just noticed Tan is offering a 15% discount code SF15 in this video's description.

    • @Navygrl58
      @Navygrl58 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      jeff apodaca Thank you!

  • @ozgayman
    @ozgayman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That was very powerful. Thank you for making this video!

  • @CaroleStlouis
    @CaroleStlouis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Father for your sermon on confession as i refer to some passages in the Bible: John 20:23, mark 2:7; Luke 5:21, 24; Timothy 2:5; Roman 3:28; James 5;16; Titus 3:5; Hebrews 9:22; Roman 5;1; Acts 2:43; 4:12; Mathews 6:14-15; 11:28; 28:20; Samuel 12;14; Ephesians 2:8-10; Psalm 42:2-11; Psalm 103:1-22; Act 16:31; 2Timothy 3:16 -All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching......

  • @derpster-ns5py
    @derpster-ns5py 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Need this video

  • @toheaveninjesusandmary.3781
    @toheaveninjesusandmary.3781 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good teaching. I need this.

  • @JesusMary_I_Loveyousavesouls
    @JesusMary_I_Loveyousavesouls 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Father and Sensus Fidelium for uploading this video. Came in handy as am preparing for my first confession since covid-19. The most difficult part is making reparations for sins I've committed but praying for God's sufficient grace

  • @Mygreenscapular
    @Mygreenscapular 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    "Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death."
    "Make and distribute my green scapular as soon as possible, if given with confidence, there will be a great number of sinners converted, especially those souls who do not possess the true religion. They will receive many graces, to help them in finding and keeping the one true faith. Those who die wearing my sacramental green garment will be given a peaceful and happy death, and shall not suffer the eternal fires of hell.
    Furthermore, I shall Bless on Earth, every heart who makes my green scapular wear it or spreads devotion to it, for it is My Immaculate Heart, therefore treat it with profound honor and respect. In addition, all who wear or keep about themselves my green scapular badge, are agents of my Immaculate Heart. Hence the evil one is powerless to harm those souls who clothe themselves in my love."
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    Immaculate Heart pledge is to have a different Priest, Bishop, or Cardinal every week donate to have a mass offer up for the "Conversion and Consecration of Russia to the Immaculate Heart of Mary" with this act of faith we may obtain the graces to finally get what Our Lady of Fatima requested and may finally inspire the Pope and all the Bishops to do it as she desired orginally. (Please note to research the message if your unaware of it. )

  • @jeffapodaca5037
    @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    (the following is extracted from the book about prayer by St Alphonsus)
    Scandal is a word or act by which you are the cause or occasion of sin to another.
    A person who commits scandal sins more grievously than the other.
    Scandal is always a mortal sin.
    A person gives scandal by bad example, immodest words before others or by ridicule of those who practice virtue. Parents give scandal by giving bad example, by not correcting their children as they ought, by allowing their children to associate with bad companions, or by allowing their exposure to sinful occasions.
    You must repair the scandal you have given.
    Thus, you are bound to draw those you have scandalized to virtue by words of edification, by good example, by avoiding sinful occasions, by frequenting the sacraments, by going often to church to pray, and by listening to sermons.

  • @phonehouse2555
    @phonehouse2555 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I used to confess every week to cleanse my heart. But now i confess at home with deep remorse. So help me LORD.

    • @eduardog9243
      @eduardog9243 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Go to confession my brother, I just went after a year of deep in mortal sin! It's awesome! God is amazing and he's waiting for you!

  • @julienewman1344
    @julienewman1344 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    We all fall short of the the glory of God please pray for all those who don't belive in confessing there sins or deny sin exist has to do this is to deny christ true teaching and calling God a liar please pray for me and my family and all family who are walking in the darkness

  • @matthewclark2941
    @matthewclark2941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for all your content.
    You mentioned in a previous video, you were working on pamphlets to hand out to people who find it necessary to approach you in public for not wearing mask. Are you offering these to the public? I would pay to support the channel and for the pamphlet itself to hand out to people in case the situation arises. I think these could be a great benefit to the community. I would try to make my own, but I'm not the best at research and most information is inconsistent at best. If not any links or cites you could refer me to? Thank you!

  • @RedClutch22_
    @RedClutch22_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Watch people are going to have a line out side around the block around the church to have a Confession

  • @leoniea138
    @leoniea138 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ...and yes we do not expect to hear excerpts of your confession in the homily.......

  • @tgriff5747
    @tgriff5747 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    In Latin we say: Deus meus, ex toto corde paenitet me omnium meorum peccatorum, eaque detestor, quia peccando, non solum poenas a Te iuste statutas promeritus sum, sed praesertim quia offendi Te, summum bonum, ac dignum qui super omnia diligaris. Ideo firmiter propono, adiuvante gratia Tua, de cetero me non peccaturum peccandique occasiones proximas fugiturum.

    • @tgriff5747
      @tgriff5747 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @ALL LIVES MATTER. Try it next time you confess 😊 sometimes the confessor is shocked but I like using the words from at least the 1600s that have absolved so much ugliness and sin from the world

  • @Navygrl58
    @Navygrl58 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I get so confused sometimes when confessing my sins. I know the 3 components of a mortal sin but sometimes gets confused as to what a venial sin is. Can you give us examples on how to confess a venial sin and some examples of what a venial sin is?

    • @angeltobit878
      @angeltobit878 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Just confess everything

    • @jeffapodaca5037
      @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @ALL LIVES MATTER. Venial sins can be forgiven during mass but you still need to have true sorrow for your sins which includes a firm purpose of amendment.

    • @snb2186
      @snb2186 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why do you confess to priests who aren't clean who have their own sins, did they die for you? Or did Jesus die for you, why do t you make your confessions to jesus christ and REPENT by going and sinning no more, there is only one intermediater between man and God and that is Jesus christ whom died for your sins, so pleas REPENT and follow Jesus and jesus only not religion or traditions, this is a lie from the devil himself, Read your Bible and stop following priests who are also sinners. God bless

    • @chillwill12345
      @chillwill12345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@snb2186 confession is biblical. See Jesus' commands to the Apostles prior to His Ascension at the end of the Gospel of St Matthew

    • @candycottrell6469
      @candycottrell6469 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@snb2186 read
      John 21 verses 22 and 23 confession is biblical

  • @crossingthetrail5630
    @crossingthetrail5630 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Where is the quote from St Alphonsus from?

  • @nephilimrephaim3949
    @nephilimrephaim3949 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks st alphonsus, guess I'm hopeless

    • @Salutaris13074
      @Salutaris13074 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      "No crime, however heinous, can be committed or even conceived which the Church has not power to forgive, just as there is no sinner,, however abandoned, however depraved, who should not confidently hope for pardon, provided he sincerely repent of his past transgressions." Catechism of the Council of Trent.

    • @thomasmaddox8688
      @thomasmaddox8688 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not at all. It just means you need to do more to break sinful habits. It will take time, yes, but you need to be making real, significant improvements and not stagnating. The longer your sin remains a habit, the harder it will be to break.

    • @lervin78
      @lervin78 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      With God, all things are possible. Ask for the intercession of our Lady, refuge of sinners and undoer of knots. Be honest with your confessor of your imperfect contrition. And place yourself before the Sacred Heart of Jesus and ask Him for the grace to make a good confession. God can work with our weak will and give us the grace to become saints. Never ever despair.

    • @Salutaris13074
      @Salutaris13074 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Here's another one: "The redemption won by Christ is superabundant: it atones for ALL sins and extends to every man and woman, Christ gave His Church the power to forgive sins by means of the sacraments of Baptism and Penance, This power is unlimited, that is to say, the Church can pardon all sins of all the baptized as often as they confess their sins with the right disposition, This is the dogma of the faith (sf, Council of Trent, De Paenitentia, Can 1)." Never give up hope. Just keep on persevering and asking God for the Grace to repent of and overcome sin.

    • @kingofthebeatles
      @kingofthebeatles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Agreed....... Praying The Rosary Daily and Devoutly, While wearing The Blessed Brown Scapular, Miraculous Medal, Consecration to Her and Making First Saturday Devotions Broke My Bad Habits ...... Quickly as well ..... I'm 53 y/o now. She Rids your Mind, Soul and Body of ALL Impurities Lust, Cussing, Cursing and Anger and Fills You With Virtues so that you long to share This Great Love for her WITH THE WORLD !!!!! Amen Amen !!!!!

  • @theresep7386
    @theresep7386 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    @3:40 --- is that accurate?
    I've always understood that imperfect contrition (regret due to consequences) is sufficient, though not ideal.

    • @jeffapodaca5037
      @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You must have True Sorrow (Contrition or Attrition)
      St Alfonsosu Ligorouri “sorry for sin is so important that if lacking, not even God can forgive the sin”
      Sorrow must come from the heart and not merely from the lips. It must be from motives of faith and not merely natural motives. Natural motives are things like “I’m sorry because I got caught or got in trouble when committing that sin”. We must hate sin and be willing to endure any suffering rather than offend God in the future by sin. One must have the determination of the will that one wishes he had suffered any positive evil rather than have offended God. This sorrow does not have to be felt with the emotions, but by the will. For example, a drug addict takes drugs because he likes to do it. However, if he has a sincere sorrow for his past uses of drugs, with a firm resolve to never use drugs again, this meets the requirements of sorrow. In addition, we must be sorry for every mortal sin which we may have committed, otherwise none are pardoned. However, if only confessing venial sins, it is enough to have sorrow for only one of them to receive pardon for that venial sin for which you have sorrow. Only venial sins which you have true sorrow for are forgiven.
      Defective Sorrow: This occurs when a sinner feels some regret for his sins, perhaps he will even cry over them, but he remains unwilling to put God first in his life. He lacks a firm purpose of amendment. Example: someone who will not return stolen goods, or will not stop living with a girlfriend or boyfriend, or will not delete porn from his computer, or stop keeping company with a sinful companion, will not abandon drugs or alcohol if a problem, will not stop taking contraceptives, stop watching evil shows on TV or movies. One must sincerely want to avoid sin or the near occasion of sin. A penitent who knowingly confesses sins without true sorrow commits sacrilege.
      Imperfect Contrition (Attrition): The first spark of love for God and has a firm purpose of amendment. The penitent is less moved by love of God and more by the fear of the loss of heaven, or the fear of hell. With attrition, sins are forgiven but can only be forgiven by the sacrament of confession.
      Perfect Contrition: This is when one primarily considers God’s love, although one may still be moved secondarily by a fear of God. Regret for sin is on account of the wrong done to God. Love is the principal motive. With contrition all sin is forgiven at that moment as long as the penitent has the intention of going to confession as soon as possible. But even with perfect contrition, the penitent may not receive holy communion until receiving confession, otherwise he commits a mortal sin of sacrilege. Mortal sins can never be forgiven unless the person has the intention of eventually confessing them in the sacrament of penance. Venial sins can be forgiven without the sacrament of penance as long as the person is in the state of grace and performs a fervent act of love of God.
      God will give you the grace to have true sorrow but you must pray for it: “Oh my God, give me the grace of true repentance, a perfect contrition for my sins”.

    • @Navygrl58
      @Navygrl58 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Therese P Yes, I heard the same. Imperfect contrition is sufficient only within the Sacrament of Confession itself. Outside the Sacrament of Reconciliation a perfect Act of Contrition would have to be said which is pretty close to impossible. Jesus knew that I believe and in His great mercy instituted this wonderful Sacrament. Thank God.

    • @lindseyclark8725
      @lindseyclark8725 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jeffapodaca5037 I would like to thank you for time taken to write this explanation. Peace be with you and your loved ones

    • @carolynkimberly4021
      @carolynkimberly4021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sorrow for the consequences counts for nothing. In Confession sorrow for the loss of heaven and the pains of hell is sufficient. Before Confession must have Perfect Contrition: Sorrow for sins because you have offended the all good God. And promise to get to Confession as soon as possible.

  • @tollelege5635
    @tollelege5635 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    If the priests says to you to repair and apologize to someone you hurt, let’s say. What happens if you don’t know where the person is, no contact to him or her?

    • @jeffapodaca5037
      @jeffapodaca5037 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Besides performing his penance after confession, the penitent, if he has justly injured another in his goods or reputation, or if he has given him scandal, must as soon as possible, and as far as he is able, restore him his goods, repair his honor, and remedy the scandal. Sins of theft require restitution. You must make financially whole the party which was harmed. If direct restitution is not possible, then donation to a charity with the intention of restitution is sufficient. If direct repair of the honor or scandal is not possible, ask the priest what to do. He may instruct you to say a rosary for that person.

    • @tollelege5635
      @tollelege5635 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      jeff apodaca thanks for the advice.

    • @tollelege5635
      @tollelege5635 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      TJ B Maybe it’s something that you’ve done to someone that harms them or something if I understand correctly.

    • @tollelege5635
      @tollelege5635 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      TJ B Whatever the good priests says to do then try to do it. He might not come up with that suggestion immediately. If I could help out with this, I would just tell he priest what happened and what the current situation is right now (“I can’t contact him or her or I don even know if he or she can talk to me anymore”). Like what the video says you have to be discreet. So maybe if it was really really serious then confess your heart out. But it depends who ever gives you the confession. If the priests says to repair then maybe, if the priest said that to me then maybe I have to to be forgiven idk.

    • @tollelege5635
      @tollelege5635 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      TJ B if it’s a simple apology to just comfort the other party then I’d just do it, however simple it is I’d do it. But if the circumstances prevent me to do so then tell that to the priest beforehand maybe.

  • @maritzaperrault4836
    @maritzaperrault4836 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is not totally true, contrition is hard to achieve for the normal person, who hasn’t advanced in the spiritual life, attrition is also valid for absolution.

  • @giftkirabo5192
    @giftkirabo5192 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Now it is eight months without confession can I go and receive Jesus

    • @josejoji3487
      @josejoji3487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      No, that would be a sacrilege, If you are in mortal sin

    • @CaroleStlouis
      @CaroleStlouis 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jose Joji during this time of deep turbulence and chaos in the Catholic Church confirm and show us your remarks in the Holy Bible. We should avoid any additional confusion and manmade guilt on the faithful. Do you realise the depth of this crises in the faith today. Pious Priests are hard to find.

    • @mrsducky3428
      @mrsducky3428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Try calling your local parishes and see if they will make an appointment for a confession.

    • @josejoji3487
      @josejoji3487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CaroleStlouis that is a sacrilege period.

    • @CaroleStlouis
      @CaroleStlouis 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gift Kirabo yes you can if you get the opportunity. Since pious priests are very rare today to give us confession and having no physical Sacrifice of the Mass only behind the Screen our Lord will make an exception, making a sincere act of contrition asking God to forgive us our trespasses with a contrite and sincere ❤️ heart. Praying every day + the Rosary chases evil that cause us to sin.

  • @Vtopian
    @Vtopian 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Baste

  • @valariousv7697
    @valariousv7697 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Like 50 % sounds like BS

  • @mi-ka-eltheguardian3837
    @mi-ka-eltheguardian3837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don't like.the way the homily is delivered : it sound really harsh and strict , I do not get the compassion of someone who shares in my brokeness

    • @toheaveninjesusandmary.3781
      @toheaveninjesusandmary.3781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      God is Merciful and Justice. The Catholic Church is not about emotions , feelings and not nice. Please go for Confession. You'll be surprised how fast your brokenness is mended and repaired.

    • @isabelmazuca8986
      @isabelmazuca8986 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@toheaveninjesusandmary.3781 It is not about you, but the sin that is attached to you. When God the Father punishes the sin and we do not let go then it will have the effect on us as well. No sin is allowed in heaven. We must let go, you will find so much mercy and peace when you do. No judgement just love.