I don't know about other people, but I feel like an imposter because I feel like I'm not living a life true to my authentic self. I pretend to be someone other people will accept rather than who I want to be.
I worked hard to be a unique kind of person so that i can be ok with myself, now i feel like im so different from other people i cant make friends i cant find a job
If you feel this way and know you do this, the question you need to ask yourself is why. Why do you feel like an imposter? Why are you not living as your authentic self? Why do you pretend to be someone others will accept rather than being yourself? Why? It is up to you and within you to change this. As simple as that sounds, it is the hardest thing for many to do. Most people do not want to go deep enough within themselves to answer that question of why, however, that is exactly how they will begin to feel better and gradually become who they wish to be. Just something to think about. I am a life coach in Rochester, NY. Helping others to find their authenticity and build a life from there, is exactly what I coach people on. I also published a workbook that helps individuals grow their authenticity. If you are interested, you can check it all out at my website at www.selfempowermentcoaching.com
When I was 15 years old, I always imagined adults at 20s would be doing big things and getting their lives in order. Now that I am in my mid-20s, I feel so stupid for having thought about it that way. I talked to my friends who are in their 30s, being moms and dads, they still sometimes are little insecure children inside not knowing what to do. I then realized that age has nothing to do with our living and archieving, there is no right or wrong way to live a life, and life will all be filled with both happiness, sadness, humiliation, appreciation, etc. Then I started to feel less scared.
I love this comment. I needed to read this. As a woman just turnt 30 and feel I have done nothing accomplishable in life, always makes me feel so low and like I want to hide. But your right, doesn't matter the age, if I sit and think about it, I know people older then me that still dont have the shit together. We are all just walking along hoping and doing our best :)
It is good that younger people can tap into this wealth of knowledge now, because it could lead to a much brighter and more fulfilled life. I only came across an explanation for what imposter syndrome was, at about 55. It took me several more years of psychological gymnastics to eventually unshakle myself from it. I have not looked back since then, thankfully, because my life was so myserable. I feel that this syndrome is a key characteristic of left leaning types which l was much of my life. I think l must have held a grudge against those who were can-do types, because l was a no l can't do it, it is useless trying, type of person, and that was dangerous, because l thought the can-do's were not taking all the bad stuff going on in the world serously, but ii is just that they were calm about.
Self therapy at its peak. Everybody has different mindsets which have been shaped differently or else I'd wish everybody could realize this on their own.
i was wondering if that had something to do with our generation... now i guess the only relation it has with our generation is that we have a thing for trying to communicate how we feel, rather than suck it up and pretend we dont have traumas. maybe newer generations are fast to get all the technology things, but we are the ones still exploring the internal side of us. i see it in arbitrary things as people my age not wanting to have kids because they are insecure about parenting...
I always walk away from conversations feeling like an idiot and thinking about all the stupid things I said, etc., when it suddenly hit me! What if the person I was talking to is walking away thinking the same things about themselves? Even though they didn't say anything silly! What if they have regret for things they didn't say or poorly worded sentences? It was a crazy a-ha moment, let me tell you.
Yeah I feel that. I’ve gotten better over the years. But if I smoke weed and try and socialize almost no matter what I’ll end feeling that way, dumb af 🤣
Out of all the different possibilities which exist, there is a correct path to follow. Yet we live our lives as if it's a rough draft; never seeing the correct path until it's too late, knowing that if we could just do it again we'd follow the correct path
Expectations are the problem. Accept thing how they are, nothing is like you think they are. Life is running by obsession and instincts. Be good and do good.
This is true. Everyone’s got their own shit. But let me tell ya something that exacerbates it all: effin goddam social media. It serves to embolden social comparison and perpetuate peoples anxieties and insecurities. I deleted fbook in 2012. I haven’t looked back since and I will never re-register. Never
Bullshit. Even people, who had horrible experiences, aren't usually "broken". Furthermore you are an organism, not a bike, so you can normally recover.
bcuz it might perhaps be more common than we think, though even the people having the fantasies may reject their thoughts afterwards. but because of our mind relating certain things to sexual behaviour or feeling, our mind makes that connection without considering who it is.
I guess we'll never know what goes on inside each other's heads. But if scientists ever invent a device that enables us to all listen to each other's thoughts, it'll be a very, very different world indeed. Everyone used to react exactly the same way about homosexuality. Deny deny deny. And they'd believe it with just as much conviction. We have to. We're spineless herd animals at the end of the day. Only when the stigma vanishes surrounding any topic can we begin to gauge it's prevalence!
I feel like an impostor daily and I always seem to sabotage myself by focusing on these negative thoughts. I wish I could vent to someone about my feelings.
Indeed, basically all of humanities endeavors are at least somewhat the blind leading the blind i would suppose. But perhaps that's not a bad thing. I would think it means humanity has an adventurous collective mind.
you work so you dont have to kill a gazelle every week to feet your forest family of twelve. Work is a means to stay alive, dont think too intensely about it. Everyone is faking it, and everyone is ok with that and expects it. say, if I was a dentist. But deep in my heart I was a hippy. Would you like it if I walked in with a beard and tie die shirt to work on your mouth? Absolutely not. Same goes for Lawyers or anything. But does this stop you from being you? No! You just need to conquer the thought you have to be anything but yourself. We can all be hippies ln the inside, nothing can stop that.
Thing is, people who know little and are somewhat ignorant, think they know it all. It's because they don't realize how much more there is. People who know a lot, well educated (formally or informally), think they know very little. It's because they realize how much is out there. I guess I'm responding to the 'expert' portion of your comment.
Look at your avatar man… there's your fail… this video is simply telling you to join the Socialist collective, you folks who no longer have the ability to be different. So what the hell is this guy saying? That we are the same? That's all you people already do, with your mobile devices in hand, emulating your generalized tropes and memes… so move in the opposite direction! Be different than the other jerks around you!
interesting. although I have heard of the imposter syndrome in another context, namely trying to downplay your own success, saying that that what you have achieved is obviously achievable for everyone, but the things others have achieved are by far more challenging.
I actually tell myself the opposite when faced with adversity. I arrogantly state to myself that "if someone else were capable of it, then so am I, for I am no more or no less competent than any of my colleagues". Although it isn't always true, it helps boost my confidence and ambition and overall makes me try new things :)
I certainly feel what your definition of the imposter syndrome describes. I think it comes from having a childhood where I was always compared to others that were "greater" or accomplished "more" than I did.
I read in a previous comment about the same and one of the people who replied said that both are part of it just two different sides. I am not sure if this is true but I think it is a logical explanation.
I work in a secure environment with no internet access - the only way I can show this to my learners is to copy it onto a memory stick and upload it onto our on-site education intranet. This is what I mean by copying - not to distribute it further. In fact, there are several of your videos I would consider using, so it would be nice to know if you approve or otherwise of this use of your work in the general sense. Of course, the video would not be altered, The School of Life would be credited etc..
Hello there Zentacus! His name is Alain de Botton. One of the greatest thinkers of our time. Besides he is the best " teacher of life" I know. His entire work has a life changing quality. You can read his books, listen to his TED talks ( and many other talks) and watch his documentaries too. He has another youtube channel where you can find those documentaries. Just search for " Status Anxiety", you'll find the channel. If you want to start with one book, I would highly recommend " The Consolations of Philosophy". Have a nice evening. Best wishes:-)
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*Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome. This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.” If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong. “Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated. Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.” In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps: DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails. DON’T look up the scientific name for pig. Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.) Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern. Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also. “Sus” “Meeting” “Vent” “Red” “Impostor” “Emergency” “Cams” And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.*
One of my greatest foes. This stuck with me throughout my academic career right up to handing in my final paper for my master's degree. I honestly still held the belief that, although I was an 'A' student, my final paper would be the one in which I was finally found out.
THIS. Try and speak your mind with your family, friends, people in the street, everybody. Just try. I don't have to prove and state anything here. Just be curious and try.
Loved this video! As a child I always dreamt how I had to drive a car and had no idea how, that was basically my biggest fear. I think we should all be more open about our failures, anxieties, insecurities, imperfections. Everything would be so much easier then. Instead, most people try so hard to constantly sell others a perfect picture of themself. Why so much pressure? Why so much perfection? That's why I absolutely love people who can laugh about themself, who tell awkward stories about them openly, without any regret and with a smile instead. It's about time to embrace your imperfections with pride!
I just found out Imposter Syndrome today. And weirdly enough, I laugh maniacally when I've read it and realize how it accurately describes me! It's like a feeling of exhilaration. I don't know, maybe I just feel more secure knowing that I'm not alone.
チョコ人形 I guess you get quality toilet paper. My dad buys 2 ply, so if I was to use a single sheet, my fingers would get soaked with pee. I'm glad you don't have to use too much
I just want to say I love these videos They got me out of severe depression into a place where Im studying full time, working full time and Im actively participating in sport again. Thank you so much Please keep the videos coming
Comments then: I / a person I know has this, I / they sometimes find it hard to deal with but with help I am / they are aware that their achievements do matter and that I am / they are not a fraud. Comments now: sus
I've been strugling with this thoughts lately, and feel overwhelmed sometimes, I didn't know it has a name but what I know is the fact that there is no Difference between a CEO and me in terms of our human condition with fears, problems, etc. I'm learning everyday, one step at a time, to overcome this feelings that drags me backward and make no good to me at all.
And that ability to experience is what I believe to be the only thing that makes us unique individuals. There's nothing that can really distinguish your _soul_, for a lack of a better word, from another, apart from the fact that no other _soul_ is right were you are, seeing exactly what you're seeing exactly how you are seeing it, and processing it exactly as you are. Your uniqueness comes from your continued existence. Everything else is just a parameter.
After I suffered a mental breakdown in college and then diagnosed with a neurological condition, for many years I suffered what I suppose you could call imposter syndrome. I felt all my academic achievements leading up to getting into and finishing college were just massive flukes, and that my undiagnosed hidden disability and learning difficulties should have stopped me from getting that far. I even left my college years off my resume when applying for minimum wage jobs because I felt nobody would believe I was college material. I gave myself no credit whatsoever. It wasn’t until about 12 years later I was finally able to look back on this early period of my life and appreciate all that I had done and the stories I could be telling people instead of short changing myself.
This is by far the best channel on youtube, trying to be as non judgemental as possible, informative and inspiring. There is a lot of hateful, racist, anger and trolling on the internet, people seem to waste their energy and time doing this (I do get angry sometimes when I think that some comments are without foundation; of course I do, but I don't vent or react on it to total strangers on the internet. That's a recipe for disaster and end up in a verbal pile of twaddle). I for one would recommend to explore the "school of life" to redirect some of that wasted energy on thinking about the topics discussed. It is such a breeze to discover that humanity is not only about hate, anger. I don't often comment on-line but I have to on this occasion because it makes me smile and happy. It makes me realise that there are still a lot of wise, compassionate down to earth people around who appreciate the beauty, intelligence and power of the human being.I try to understand why this channel has dislikes, however, this is what "the school of life" is also about; to try to understand why we are all different. This channel shows the great benefits of the internet. Many thanks and keep me thinking and above all; smiling. I am in love with the guy's voice and accent as well ;)
My sincere pleasure, I am looking at your website to buy some nice and unusual items as a Christmas present for my best friends. They will appreciate the "different" yet the "to expected" philosophical gifts in life as I see it. Some of my friends call me crazy (or weird, they probably mean different. Just a guess) well someone has to be. Otherwise there would be no place for the word "crazy/weird" if everyone would act "normal". ;)
Why don't you converse with them and find out why someone believes something other than what you do? Dismissing someone just because they fit in with a "popular term" is degenerate, and only further degrades the priority issues of our society. If we actually took the time and communicated with one another, then maybe they or we will find themselves/ourselves with a bit more of an understanding of our problems, or their own, etc. If it were "wheelist" to say that it would be better to put circular wheels on a wagon rather than square wheels - and everyone refused to talk about it, then how would we ever find out that a circular shape works best for a wagon moving on a flat surface? Just because something is uncomfortable to talk about, or society has trained you to think a topic is "wrong" does not necessarily mean something *is* wrong. Think for yourself for a change
Madam/Sir I don't think that I dismissed or mentioned right or wrong in my comment. Neither did I say that I agree or disagree with popular terms. of course some things upset me or make me angry as stated in my previous comment. However, it's not right or wrong because I say or feel so. Some views make people uncomfortable or angry that's just the way it is, whatever the reason.Terms will be used popular or not and I think; it is to indicate rather than to degenerate; in the case of The school of life.I have no problem with people who have different ideas, lifestyles etc. as long as they convey them in a reasonable and non offensive way because that only instigates aggression and can lead to physical violence or worse still. I also think a lot for myself and try to understand the world around me; my dad used to say to me; son, if you want to make the world a better place start with yourself. I am working on it.If I may give a piece of advise; use "I" or "I feel" and "we" or "society" etc. when reacting on a comment. Using "you" might come across as pointing a "judgemental finger" or might feel as a "personal attack" and/or feel "unpleasant" which it does to me. I think that this is exactly what we want to avoid in our exchange of thoughts here.I always try to remember this important detail when I react on a comment on the internet that the other person is a total stranger and doesn't know me. It is not like having a discussion with a friend or family member who knows, tolerates and understand me most of the time. They might even tolerate my shouting or grumpy attitude. A total stranger will not I am afraid. I try to be as careful as I can when I comment; to do it in a reasonable, non aggressive way. I hope I succeeded this time around.
Yeah I have the same problem! The story goes as this: STOP POSTING ABOUT AMONG US! I'M TIRED OF SEEING IT! MY FRIENDS ON TIKTOK SEND ME MEMES, ON DISCORD IT'S SUSSY MEMES! I was in a server, right? and ALL OF THE CHANNELS were just among us stuff. I-I showed my champion underwear to my girlfriend and t-the logo I flipped it and I said "hey babe, when the underwear is sus HAHA DING DING DING DING DING DING DING DI DI DING" I looked at a trashcan and said "THAT'S A BIT SUSSY". I looked at my pc screen I think of an astronauts helmet and I go "PC? MORE LIKE PCSUS" AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHGESFG
If you feel adequate with your self during the lonely period, not a lot of things can get to you afterwards. It really does strengthen you. Because you are your own worst enemy, and dealing with one's self it's way harder than with others.
This video is so so important to me, I need to watch it several times a week to keep reminding myself This is what is holding me back from success in virtually every aspect of my life. Feeling this way has shaped who I am today. I turn 30 this year and I don't feel any more adult-like than I did when I turned 18. I consider my 20's a "second adolescence". I've been doing my damndest to avoid "being an adult" because I just don't consider myself one.
but our culture rewards impostors. in fact a good deal of successful people really are, to some extent, impostors, and that feeling would be entirely adequate. society as a whole buys into the delusions we have about paragons and professionals, and that creates very, very damaging expectations.
The best self-help video I have ever seen. We have been told that we lack self-esteem, or that we need role models. It was all wrong! We need to realise the imperfection of others and ourselves alike.
I feel this so much.. I didn't know this has a name. I'm scared to tell anyone about my Imposter Syndrome coz I feel nobody's gonna believe me. I've been told before by my family that I'm making things up or over exaggerating. It's difficult to explain this to people. I have always been a top achiever right from school to University. I feel like I'm going to be exposed some day. By my teachers, and friends. This fear literally eats into me. I feel like I'm not doing enough too. I don't have a life tbh.
Hello there Sammy! They have one called: " The uses of Envy". You could also be interested in these videos they have: 1. Self Esteem 2. Self Compassion 3. Losers and Tragic Heroes Have a nice evening!
i'd beg otherwise... not sure if you're using your personal experiences and putting everyone into that box, but I at least know what I mean when I state opinions. It's not possible to conclude that all the writers and poets didn't know what they meant after all...
I feel very isolated. I can't find a job. I don't know what to do next in my life. Therefore, everybody looks down on me. I've lost all my creative abilities and I can't even pass a test.
You're smart enough to be looking for solutions. I'd recommend not worrying so much and spend more time doing things. The more I ruminate about the past and future the worse off I am personally. When I do things that occupy my mind things are just way better.
Been there as well. Best to just let it slide. I'd recommend travelling (if you can afford to), and "forcing" yourself to work on your creative abilities every day. I had a period like that, where I just gave up on everything I liked. It was garbage. But I forced myself to get back into what I liked, started playing and learning music again, etc... Today I finished my exams, I've passed the entry test for a sound-engineering school that I'm going to, and in a month or so I'm moving out of my hometown to go live (and work) away from my roots. Fresh new start :) Hope you'll grow out of it and that things will get better soon. Good luck out there ;)
whenever i get to that state of mind i look to the smarter people and think to myself they are feeling the exact same way (even if they might not) and it makes me feel 1000 times better than before
Rich people bring their kids up to make this phenomenon work in their favour. Privilege breeds confidence and apparent competence, even when it's not actually there.
Rich kids may not have to sacrifice or work hard to succeed, but I think they are often very unhappy regardless. I'm not sure the confidence they often show is deep, healthy, or true confidence. It's more likely a facade.
This video right here just made me so much more happier and confident in myself. That childhood experience was identical to mine and made me grow up thinking I was different from everyone. Thank you
Wow I just realised I always had impostor syndrome even after I got a decent job. I still think subconscious that I'm just an impostor between my smart, self-confident collegues but now I can learn how to fight it.
I think part of this attitude has to do with being pushed into a specific group/ethnical identity. It's a sort of victim mindset that can only be relinquished by accepting ones failures, anxieties etc. and start setting goals to improve for the future! Great video! Having said that, I can't help but link you guys to a video essay we made about this subject (God absolve me from the sin of this shameless plug).
FYI. 'I am in love' means now and forever in love. 'have been in love' means in the past, I was in love with the narrator's voice but I am not in love with it now. ;-)
Impostor Syndrome can be only found amongst empaths. Empaths are intimidated by narcissists and sociopaths who more often than not achieve the greater level of success - they only take into consideration their own interests and act fiercely to achieve their goals. That’s why rare empaths who achieve the societal definition of success feel like they cheated the system, because well, in a way, they did.
thanks so much for this video. i definitely have some kind of imposter syndrome, and as a way to justify it or lessen it i would comfort myself by thinking about my grades (was such a terrible idea) and by thinking i was better than others. i can not emphasise enough how toxic this is! please no one do this to yourselves. love yourself for who you are, with all your brokenness without comparison to others!
Think it was mentioned in the video about being more familiar with the details or depth of your own emotions vs what you get from seeing or speaking to others. Everyone has various chemicals in their bodies and brains that will effect how they perceive themselves and the world but for the most part we're all wired the same and no one is in perfect balance.
" you have been feeling so strongly that you're an imposter that you've never stopped to question it. Your feelings are feelings, not facts." "The thought that you're an imposter never crossed anyone's mind, ever." -Imposter Cure, Jessamy Hibberd
Now, here's a thought: The Impostor Syndrome Is Not A Syndrome We all have a feeling from our childhood, that we are not like the grown ups. This is a true sensation, because we really aren't. People who describe this as The Impostor Syndrome talk about the doubts we have in ourselves, even as adults. Those doubts are realistic, since we really don't know, and even science is piling up questions on top of answers. We are all impostors, pretending to be what we think we should be. But most of human activity was invented by others, and still they are now regarded as natural. Playing footbal, dressing up for dinner, going to church, going to work, all this was invented by people before us. It is not in our nature, and we didn't come up with it ourselves. We fake it to seem normel, so that we may be accepted in society. The whole idea of The Impostor Syndrome is really just another way to make you think, that succes is for everybody, if we all just do it right. This is contradicted by the fact, that some peoples succes depend on the failure of others. You can't become the president of a country, unless your opponent loses. Likewise with the kind of jobs, that we all consider to represent succes. Doctors and lawyers compete over education, and business people wage wars over market shares. Capitalism is competition, and not everyone can be rich. If everyone is rich, noone will shine your shoes for a dime. You would have to pay millions to make anyone do anything, because why should they? They are rich. This is called inflation. When everyone is a millionaire, we have inflation. And you money is no good, except as firewood to keep you warm, like in Germany in 1921-24. There is only room for a few winners at the top. And they will all tell you how they struggled and worked hard. Who wouldn't say that they worked hard? I never heard anyone say they didn't. But that doesn't mean, if you work hard you have a realistic chance. It just means everybody is working hard, which makes it easy to make money on everybody, if you're one of the factual few who get to save up a little for investment themselves. This realization is not The Impostor Syndrome. It is the result of a mature and sober assessment of the average possibilities in the capitalistic society. Now, theres a syndrome if you ask me. The capitalism syndrome.
Definitely right. Everyone should be living a normal life more than being on top or letting their self being on the low. When in balance then we can help each other with what we need or want. If we can just be more sympathetic with a heart of gold and a brain of stature. Then we can life better one day
No one’s perfect. Remember that. Compare urself to who you were yesterday. Comparing urself to others is futile as were all at different stages on different paths....
incredible video, can't speak to just how much it's changed my mind in the shortterm, but this could genuinely change the way i see the people around me with time, the "everybody poops" thing is so weirdly perfect for this sort of thing, its seems stupid but unironically has meaning to it, everyone has moments that are really kinda ugly, be it emotional, mental, or social, and that's weirdly beautiful in a way, everyone has regrets, everyone has some sort of relationship to sexuality, everyone has self-doubt, even as tough as it is to imagine its just true.
For some of us, it takes a lot more persuasion and a lot more time. After years of negative self-talk, it has taken me a long time to make a little progress, but it is gradually happening!
Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome. This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.” If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong. "Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated. Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.” In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps: DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails. DON’T look up the scientific name for pig. Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.) Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern. Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also. "Sus” “Meeting” “Vent” “Red” “Impostor” “Emergency” “Cams” And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.
We saw the humor go from “so that’s how the imposters feels in the game.” To “HAHA AMOGUS😆😆😆😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮Sussy sus sus sus su su Sussy dhdbsh baka baka mogus amogus hahaha SUSSY BAKA AMONG US TRF HASAS
Yes this applies to the average person. But the higher and more exclusive the rank/position we aspire to, the more likely that the person currently occupying that position does not suffer as much from self doubt as the average person does. Therefore, even if we consider our fears and doubts to be equal to those of the average person, they probably are in fact greater than the person occupying the position we aspire to and our sense of being an imposter is completely justified- we are imposters.
But I think the point is that if you attain that position, you have a right to be there. A lot of PhD students talk about imposter syndrome, but after a while you just have to accept that if the people above you have said you have a right to be there, then you do, no matter what you're feeling inside.
I think the real takeaway is in the hypothetical revelation that those in positions we aspire to once were in our position, as that position is generally standard in all people, but those who rise above it likely didn't discourage themselves by feelings of inadequacy, or progressed in spite of it if they did. Basically, we're all human, and most people feel more able to better themselves if they realize it.
Or that you're good at the whole "fake it till you make it" game. On House of Cards, Frank Underwood says to his competitor for the Presidential race: "You're a pretender, Will. And if you win, you'll go from pretender to fraud."
Exactly. Yes, everyone has their own weaknesses but someone can be particularly good at a certain job, far better than you, and they do genuinely have the right qualities and KNOW it, whereas you just don't..
Yes, that is their take-home message. However, that does not mean that it always applies. Some people only feel like they're in over their head, while they are actually just as qualified as others holding positions they aspire to. Some people actually are in over their head. Any profession has a spectrum of people, some that are more qualified and some that are less, some that feel under qualified, some that do not. I believe that as the profession becomes more specialized and you're closer to the top of the pyramid, the "pretenders" are weeded out. Sometimes, feeling like an imposter is unjustified by your actual qualities and the demands of the job.. But Sometimes, feeling like an imposter is absolutely how you deserve to feel, because you are one.
lately i have been experiencing a sense that my younger self is undermining the person i am now, but after watching this i realise it is because i was conceptualising my younger self according to what i assumed to be others’ perceptions of me at the time. i need to realise that i am not and never was that person and so it is entirely plausible that i have legitimately achieved whatever was necessary to be who i am today. thanks man 🌻
Definitely one of the best videos on the imposter syndrome. I find the best way to dealing with the imposter syndrome is just talking about it - calling it out for what it is. Once I "admit" i feel like an imposter, the intensity goes away! Thank you for the fantastic explanation!
As some smart person said, we see our blooper reel and othets' highlights reel.
Nicely Put 👌
indeed!
nice.
good one!!
Blooper reel. I like that.
Anyone else feel like this video came in a perfect point in their life?
yeah, kind weird.
yes
Yes
yep.
Im always comparing myself to others and this video is perfect for my life at the moment
It’s weird isn’t it, I worked so hard to get straight A’s on my exams, yet I still don’t feel like I deserve it.
This is exactly what I feel everyday of my life. Thank you for saying that
I get good grades and i always think that im not smart,its just that others are dumb.
Yup! Felt this
I make good music but I feel like im not that good
I don't know about other people, but I feel like an imposter because I feel like I'm not living a life true to my authentic self. I pretend to be someone other people will accept rather than who I want to be.
kylerm18 who would you like to be? I can definitely relate to that, and it's one of the toughest feelings ever
I worked hard to be a unique kind of person so that i can be ok with myself, now i feel like im so different from other people i cant make friends i cant find a job
Same here
@@preciousvicious9025 cant a job? But if you are skilled in a field amd keep searching you gonna find it sooner or later
If you feel this way and know you do this, the question you need to ask yourself is why. Why do you feel like an imposter? Why are you not living as your authentic self? Why do you pretend to be someone others will accept rather than being yourself? Why? It is up to you and within you to change this. As simple as that sounds, it is the hardest thing for many to do. Most people do not want to go deep enough within themselves to answer that question of why, however, that is exactly how they will begin to feel better and gradually become who they wish to be. Just something to think about.
I am a life coach in Rochester, NY. Helping others to find their authenticity and build a life from there, is exactly what I coach people on. I also published a workbook that helps individuals grow their authenticity. If you are interested, you can check it all out at my website at www.selfempowermentcoaching.com
this is why you stay away from social media
Exactly!
Spot on!
A matter of moderation
Preah - cisely!
Hmm?
When I was 15 years old, I always imagined adults at 20s would be doing big things and getting their lives in order. Now that I am in my mid-20s, I feel so stupid for having thought about it that way. I talked to my friends who are in their 30s, being moms and dads, they still sometimes are little insecure children inside not knowing what to do. I then realized that age has nothing to do with our living and archieving, there is no right or wrong way to live a life, and life will all be filled with both happiness, sadness, humiliation, appreciation, etc.
Then I started to feel less scared.
I love this comment. I needed to read this. As a woman just turnt 30 and feel I have done nothing accomplishable in life, always makes me feel so low and like I want to hide. But your right, doesn't matter the age, if I sit and think about it, I know people older then me that still dont have the shit together. We are all just walking along hoping and doing our best :)
It is good that younger people can tap into this wealth of knowledge now, because it could lead to a much brighter and more fulfilled life. I only came across an explanation for what imposter syndrome was, at about 55. It took me several more years of psychological gymnastics to eventually unshakle myself from it. I have not looked back since then, thankfully, because my life was so myserable. I feel that this syndrome is a key characteristic of left leaning types which l was much of my life. I think l must have held a grudge against those who were can-do types, because l was a no l can't do it, it is useless trying, type of person, and that was dangerous, because l thought the can-do's were not taking all the bad stuff going on in the world serously, but ii is just that they were calm about.
Self therapy at its peak. Everybody has different mindsets which have been shaped differently or else I'd wish everybody could realize this on their own.
Thanks for sharing I'm 15 and I also think people in their 20s are mature and stuff. 😂
i was wondering if that had something to do with our generation...
now i guess the only relation it has with our generation is that we have a thing for trying to communicate how we feel, rather than suck it up and pretend we dont have traumas.
maybe newer generations are fast to get all the technology things, but we are the ones still exploring the internal side of us.
i see it in arbitrary things as people my age not wanting to have kids because they are insecure about parenting...
This video summed up in 6 minutes and 47 seconds what has been going through my mind for the last few years...
Same it's scary
Same..
Same...
Same...
dear god, same
I always walk away from conversations feeling like an idiot and thinking about all the stupid things I said, etc., when it suddenly hit me! What if the person I was talking to is walking away thinking the same things about themselves? Even though they didn't say anything silly! What if they have regret for things they didn't say or poorly worded sentences? It was a crazy a-ha moment, let me tell you.
i don't know what is more attractive...ur social awkwardness or your cute face
Depends.
Yeah I feel that. I’ve gotten better over the years. But if I smoke weed and try and socialize almost no matter what I’ll end feeling that way, dumb af 🤣
Out of all the different possibilities which exist, there is a correct path to follow. Yet we live our lives as if it's a rough draft; never seeing the correct path until it's too late, knowing that if we could just do it again we'd follow the correct path
To me, no one can ever be capable of doing wrong except me.
My Dad always seemed so together. He told me one day “Do you think I’ve always been this way” I loved my Dad! The best man I’ve ever known
Everyone is broken. My life changed when I accepted that.
Expectations are the problem.
Accept thing how they are, nothing is like you think they are.
Life is running by obsession and instincts.
Be good and do good.
This is true. Everyone’s got their own shit. But let me tell ya something that exacerbates it all: effin goddam social media. It serves to embolden social comparison and perpetuate peoples anxieties and insecurities. I deleted fbook in 2012. I haven’t looked back since and I will never re-register. Never
Esmour Mayne it’s why social media inherently exists. Which is why I don’t have it nor advocate for it.
Bullshit. Even people, who had horrible experiences, aren't usually "broken". Furthermore you are an organism, not a bike, so you can normally recover.
@Isidro MacKazmeyer amwhy do i find that funny😂
Bravo ! I love my time with my internet therapist .
same here and the sessions are free
You don't pay for internet?
lol, that's the best way to describe this channel, and I love this channel.
Luís Bernardo lol knew someone would pick that up...purposely left that out to see who would bring it up
Alley Cat Got me! :D
I get a thrill out of being an imposter. It's funny to me that anybody trusts me to do anything.
I really hope you're not a pilot or surgeon.
What a good idea.
+Massimo O'Kissed lol
What a feeling, eh?
Fake it till you make it baby.
the number of times this narator has mentioned 'sexual fantasizes about relatives' on this channel is making me suspicious
bcuz it might perhaps be more common than we think, though even the people having the fantasies may reject their thoughts afterwards. but because of our mind relating certain things to sexual behaviour or feeling, our mind makes that connection without considering who it is.
People tend to take Frued either far too seriously, or give him minor credit. Kinda like "he was on the right track."
He wasn't.
I guess we'll never know what goes on inside each other's heads. But if scientists ever invent a device that enables us to all listen to each other's thoughts, it'll be a very, very different world indeed.
Everyone used to react exactly the same way about homosexuality. Deny deny deny. And they'd believe it with just as much conviction. We have to. We're spineless herd animals at the end of the day.
Only when the stigma vanishes surrounding any topic can we begin to gauge it's prevalence!
@@Ironmaniacs7 yeah, you arent credible.
At what time did he talk about that? I must have missed it 🤔
I feel like an impostor daily and I always seem to sabotage myself by focusing on these negative thoughts. I wish I could vent to someone about my feelings.
I dont recommend venting, you might get eject
"We know ourselves from the inside but we know others only from the outside"
Myself it's a little sussy
I felt this way with every job I've had. An imposter for that role.
Me too. Now I just say it's the blind leading the blind.
You should consider turning to communism.
Indeed, basically all of humanities endeavors are at least somewhat the blind leading the blind i would suppose. But perhaps that's not a bad thing. I would think it means humanity has an adventurous collective mind.
you work so you dont have to kill a gazelle every week to feet your forest family of twelve. Work is a means to stay alive, dont think too intensely about it. Everyone is faking it, and everyone is ok with that and expects it. say, if I was a dentist. But deep in my heart I was a hippy. Would you like it if I walked in with a beard and tie die shirt to work on your mouth? Absolutely not. Same goes for Lawyers or anything. But does this stop you from being you? No! You just need to conquer the thought you have to be anything but yourself. We can all be hippies ln the inside, nothing can stop that.
Thing is, people who know little and are somewhat ignorant, think they know it all. It's because they don't realize how much more there is.
People who know a lot, well educated (formally or informally), think they know very little. It's because they realize how much is out there.
I guess I'm responding to the 'expert' portion of your comment.
what miserable creature can dislike such a masterpiece?!
Creature who dont accept his imposter syndrome.
Creatures who are experiencing the Dunning and Kruger effect
...and you are wathching a video with Freudian psicoanalisis because...?
+Дамјан Гњидић lol
Maybe they believe they aren't good enough to like it
Its easy to understand this, but so much more harder to accept and practice it in everyday life!
Krithika Lakshmanan everything that’s worth something is
Perfectly said
This is fifth time I'm coming back to this video.
It's not easy at all!
You're speaking my heart out 🤦♂️
The root of returning back to yourself lies in the present moment, stay Mindful and your true identity will shine
For someone who grew up with a lot of social anxiety, this realisation was the most beautiful and calming thing
Good to hear mate 💪💪
DON'T SORT THE COMMENTS BY NEW
WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE
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Lmao
@@ukiyozuki5721 cry about it dumbass
@@blagoevski336 ok 😶
@@ukiyozuki5721 sus
man some of these videos are really hitting home
Indeed
absolutely.
go back to tf2 ;)
Look at your avatar man… there's your fail… this video is simply telling you to join the Socialist collective, you folks who no longer have the ability to be different. So what the hell is this guy saying? That we are the same? That's all you people already do, with your mobile devices in hand, emulating your generalized tropes and memes… so move in the opposite direction! Be different than the other jerks around you!
what
interesting. although I have heard of the imposter syndrome in another context, namely trying to downplay your own success, saying that that what you have achieved is obviously achievable for everyone, but the things others have achieved are by far more challenging.
I actually tell myself the opposite when faced with adversity. I arrogantly state to myself that "if someone else were capable of it, then so am I, for I am no more or no less competent than any of my colleagues". Although it isn't always true, it helps boost my confidence and ambition and overall makes me try new things :)
I certainly feel what your definition of the imposter syndrome describes. I think it comes from having a childhood where I was always compared to others that were "greater" or accomplished "more" than I did.
God! That's what I always think. Wish I could read more about the phenomena
i think this was where i read about it! www.nature.com/naturejobs/science/articles/10.1038/nj7587-555a
I read in a previous comment about the same and one of the people who replied said that both are part of it just two different sides. I am not sure if this is true but I think it is a logical explanation.
This is BRILLIANT. Is there any problem in copying this and using it in an educational environment?
government doesn't care about poor children you have to teach kids yourself
+The School of Life are you a therapist or have a degree in psychology?
Just use an apa citation for the video.
I work in a secure environment with no internet access - the only way I can show this to my learners is to copy it onto a memory stick and upload it onto our on-site education intranet. This is what I mean by copying - not to distribute it further.
In fact, there are several of your videos I would consider using, so it would be nice to know if you approve or otherwise of this use of your work in the general sense. Of course, the video would not be altered, The School of Life would be credited etc..
Hello there Zentacus! His name is Alain de Botton. One of the greatest thinkers of our time. Besides he is the best " teacher of life" I know. His entire work has a life changing quality. You can read his books, listen to his TED talks ( and many other talks) and watch his documentaries too. He has another youtube channel where you can find those documentaries. Just search for " Status Anxiety", you'll find the channel. If you want to start with one book, I would highly recommend " The Consolations of Philosophy". Have a nice evening. Best wishes:-)
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*Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome.
This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.”
If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong.
“Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated.
Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.”
In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps:
DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails.
DON’T look up the scientific name for pig.
Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.)
Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern.
Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also.
“Sus”
“Meeting”
“Vent”
“Red”
“Impostor”
“Emergency”
“Cams”
And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.*
@@subwaytails8732 the effort in this essay-like comment is scary as hell
@@Exc4Iibur 😆😆
One of my greatest foes. This stuck with me throughout my academic career right up to handing in my final paper for my master's degree. I honestly still held the belief that, although I was an 'A' student, my final paper would be the one in which I was finally found out.
AMONG US
Sussy baka
holy shit,looks like my future self has written this comment.
this world would be a very different place if the majority of people were so driven to this kind of introspection.
Many are, they are just embarrassed to admit it.
+I'll Tell Ya What well then let's start speaking up
THIS. Try and speak your mind with your family, friends, people in the street, everybody. Just try. I don't have to prove and state anything here. Just be curious and try.
Loved this video! As a child I always dreamt how I had to drive a car and had no idea how, that was basically my biggest fear.
I think we should all be more open about our failures, anxieties, insecurities, imperfections. Everything would be so much easier then. Instead, most people try so hard to constantly sell others a perfect picture of themself. Why so much pressure? Why so much perfection?
That's why I absolutely love people who can laugh about themself, who tell awkward stories about them openly, without any regret and with a smile instead. It's about time to embrace your imperfections with pride!
the school of life: please consider a podcast would love it:)
Yes! great idea.
I wanna recommend The School of Greatness and Invisibilia :)
+Sammy King Hey
Yesyesyes!
I'll get a Kickstar going for this if I have to #bestideayet
Thank you, School of Life (sincerely) , for never failing to make me feel slightly less abnormal.
I just found out Imposter Syndrome today. And weirdly enough, I laugh maniacally when I've read it and realize how it accurately describes me! It's like a feeling of exhilaration. I don't know, maybe I just feel more secure knowing that I'm not alone.
4:25... who uses one sheet of toilet paper?
I do if I only peed. just fold it & tap, that's usually enough. most people use way too much toilet paper
チョコ人形 I guess you get quality toilet paper. My dad buys 2 ply, so if I was to use a single sheet, my fingers would get soaked with pee. I'm glad you don't have to use too much
Who hasn’t tried (and failed) using only on sheet of toilet paper?
I use half a roll cuz i don't wanna touch shit
Is this all you got from this?
Everyone who works on this challenge should be immensely proud of themselves for making such an important and positive impact on the lives of others
channel*
I just want to say I love these videos
They got me out of severe depression into a place where Im studying full time, working full time and Im actively participating in sport again. Thank you so much
Please keep the videos coming
Comments then: I / a person I know has this, I / they sometimes find it hard to deal with but with help I am / they are aware that their achievements do matter and that I am / they are not a fraud.
Comments now: sus
true
What does sus mean
@@katherinekier sus means sus
I've been strugling with this thoughts lately, and feel overwhelmed sometimes, I didn't know it has a name but what I know is the fact that there is no Difference between a CEO and me in terms of our human condition with fears, problems, etc. I'm learning everyday, one step at a time, to overcome this feelings that drags me backward and make no good to me at all.
Assuming other people think the same that you do is just as insane as assuming that everyone is better than you.
"The leap of faith that says others minds work much the same ways our do", not exactly the same, but you aren't that special probably
You speak the truth
The journey of life teaches just that! Most people do think alike!
It's not about assuming that everyone thinks the same as you, but about assuming that they also have fears, weaknesses, an inner darkness etc.
Rannos22 fluffy cat
THIS IS WHY FANS ARE TERRIBLE TOWARDS CREATORS.
Pikapetey shits too?
It's a possibility. Glad to see you here too!
no
"fans"
"creators"
The toxicity of our lives is really mediated by thought
-Sam Harris
Do you agree with that?
Well by the contrary I also believe the happiness of our lives are mediated by thought.
That's because everything that you think, feel, and experience is mediated by thought, that's the point, that's why you have a brain.
Alexander Edward indeed. Experience, in its essence is just pure consciousness.
And that ability to experience is what I believe to be the only thing that makes us unique individuals. There's nothing that can really distinguish your _soul_, for a lack of a better word, from another, apart from the fact that no other _soul_ is right were you are, seeing exactly what you're seeing exactly how you are seeing it, and processing it exactly as you are. Your uniqueness comes from your continued existence. Everything else is just a parameter.
After I suffered a mental breakdown in college and then diagnosed with a neurological condition, for many years I suffered what I suppose you could call imposter syndrome. I felt all my academic achievements leading up to getting into and finishing college were just massive flukes, and that my undiagnosed hidden disability and learning difficulties should have stopped me from getting that far. I even left my college years off my resume when applying for minimum wage jobs because I felt nobody would believe I was college material. I gave myself no credit whatsoever. It wasn’t until about 12 years later I was finally able to look back on this early period of my life and appreciate all that I had done and the stories I could be telling people instead of short changing myself.
Moral of the story, everybody poops.
This is by far the best channel on youtube, trying to be as non judgemental as possible, informative and inspiring. There is a lot of hateful, racist, anger and trolling on the internet, people seem to waste their energy and time doing this (I do get angry sometimes when I think that some comments are without foundation; of course I do, but I don't vent or react on it to total strangers on the internet. That's a recipe for disaster and end up in a verbal pile of twaddle). I for one would recommend to explore the "school of life" to redirect some of that wasted energy on thinking about the topics discussed. It is such a breeze to discover that humanity is not only about hate, anger. I don't often comment on-line but I have to on this occasion because it makes me smile and happy. It makes me realise that there are still a lot of wise, compassionate down to earth people around who appreciate the beauty, intelligence and power of the human being.I try to understand why this channel has dislikes, however, this is what "the school of life" is also about; to try to understand why we are all different. This channel shows the great benefits of the internet. Many thanks and keep me thinking and above all; smiling. I am in love with the guy's voice and accent as well ;)
We're delighted to hear your kind words. Thank you.
My sincere pleasure, I am looking at your website to buy some nice and unusual items as a Christmas present for my best friends. They will appreciate the "different" yet the "to expected" philosophical gifts in life as I see it. Some of my friends call me crazy (or weird, they probably mean different. Just a guess) well someone has to be. Otherwise there would be no place for the word "crazy/weird" if everyone would act "normal". ;)
Why don't you converse with them and find out why someone believes something other than what you do? Dismissing someone just because they fit in with a "popular term" is degenerate, and only further degrades the priority issues of our society. If we actually took the time and communicated with one another, then maybe they or we will find themselves/ourselves with a bit more of an understanding of our problems, or their own, etc. If it were "wheelist" to say that it would be better to put circular wheels on a wagon rather than square wheels - and everyone refused to talk about it, then how would we ever find out that a circular shape works best for a wagon moving on a flat surface?
Just because something is uncomfortable to talk about, or society has trained you to think a topic is "wrong" does not necessarily mean something *is* wrong. Think for yourself for a change
Madam/Sir I don't think that I dismissed or mentioned right or wrong in my comment. Neither did I say that I agree or disagree with popular terms. of course some things upset me or make me angry as stated in my previous comment. However, it's not right or wrong because I say or feel so. Some views make people uncomfortable or angry that's just the way it is, whatever the reason.Terms will be used popular or not and I think; it is to indicate rather than to degenerate; in the case of The school of life.I have no problem with people who have different ideas, lifestyles etc. as long as they convey them in a reasonable and non offensive way because that only instigates aggression and can lead to physical violence or worse still. I also think a lot for myself and try to understand the world around me; my dad used to say to me; son, if you want to make the world a better place start with yourself. I am working on it.If I may give a piece of advise; use "I" or "I feel" and "we" or "society" etc. when reacting on a comment. Using "you" might come across as pointing a "judgemental finger" or might feel as a "personal attack" and/or feel "unpleasant" which it does to me. I think that this is exactly what we want to avoid in our exchange of thoughts here.I always try to remember this important detail when I react on a comment on the internet that the other person is a total stranger and doesn't know me. It is not like having a discussion with a friend or family member who knows, tolerates and understand me most of the time. They might even tolerate my shouting or grumpy attitude. A total stranger will not I am afraid. I try to be as careful as I can when I comment; to do it in a reasonable, non aggressive way. I hope I succeeded this time around.
Pietro Bembo throughly agree
It's kind of crazy how accurate this was for me
I have Among Us Syndrome
Yeah I have the same problem! The story goes as this:
STOP POSTING ABOUT AMONG US! I'M TIRED OF SEEING IT! MY FRIENDS ON TIKTOK SEND ME MEMES, ON DISCORD IT'S SUSSY MEMES! I was in a server, right? and ALL OF THE CHANNELS were just among us stuff. I-I showed my champion underwear to my girlfriend and t-the logo I flipped it and I said "hey babe, when the underwear is sus HAHA DING DING DING DING DING DING DING DI DI DING" I looked at a trashcan and said "THAT'S A BIT SUSSY". I looked at my pc screen I think of an astronauts helmet and I go "PC? MORE LIKE PCSUS" AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHGESFG
pretty susi ngl
It’s the loneliness. It makes us weak
You took the words out of my mouth Alex. I feel lonely too. Take care. M
Me too. It really is horrible
Do something about it
I think loneliness strength you
If you feel adequate with your self during the lonely period, not a lot of things can get to you afterwards. It really does strengthen you. Because you are your own worst enemy, and dealing with one's self it's way harder than with others.
This video is so so important to me, I need to watch it several times a week to keep reminding myself
This is what is holding me back from success in virtually every aspect of my life. Feeling this way has shaped who I am today. I turn 30 this year and I don't feel any more adult-like than I did when I turned 18. I consider my 20's a "second adolescence". I've been doing my damndest to avoid "being an adult" because I just don't consider myself one.
*SUS SYNDROME* I CANT FUCKING TAKE IT ANYMORE IM GOING INSANE
but our culture rewards impostors. in fact a good deal of successful people really are, to some extent, impostors, and that feeling would be entirely adequate.
society as a whole buys into the delusions we have about paragons and professionals, and that creates very, very damaging expectations.
All thanks to antiMarxist capitalism.
sthoverthere
preach on brother
dont know how its good,if you could explain a little bit more
It about gaining wealth of peace of mind, whichnt be provided by rewards of society
sthoverthere Absolutely
The best self-help video I have ever seen. We have been told that we lack self-esteem, or that we need role models. It was all wrong! We need to realise the imperfection of others and ourselves alike.
I feel this so much.. I didn't know this has a name. I'm scared to tell anyone about my Imposter Syndrome coz I feel nobody's gonna believe me.
I've been told before by my family that I'm making things up or over exaggerating. It's difficult to explain this to people.
I have always been a top achiever right from school to University. I feel like I'm going to be exposed some day. By my teachers, and friends. This fear literally eats into me.
I feel like I'm not doing enough too. I don't have a life tbh.
Please do a video about comparing yourself to other people. PLEASE
Hello there Sammy! They have one called: " The uses of Envy". You could also be interested in these videos they have:
1. Self Esteem
2. Self Compassion
3. Losers and Tragic Heroes
Have a nice evening!
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I recommend Markiplier's video "Believe in Yourself" for the topic :) It made me feel happy
Yesss please. I always do it, and it makes me feel horrible tbh.
Sammy King watch infinite waters thank me later
Oh, he also forgot to mention that no one has any idea what the fuck they are talking about ever!
i'd beg otherwise... not sure if you're using your personal experiences and putting everyone into that box, but I at least know what I mean when I state opinions. It's not possible to conclude that all the writers and poets didn't know what they meant after all...
+Wild4lon Im mostly kidding.
I feel very isolated. I can't find a job. I don't know what to do next in my life. Therefore, everybody looks down on me. I've lost all my creative abilities and I can't even pass a test.
You're smart enough to be looking for solutions. I'd recommend not worrying so much and spend more time doing things. The more I ruminate about the past and future the worse off I am personally. When I do things that occupy my mind things are just way better.
Been there as well. Best to just let it slide. I'd recommend travelling (if you can afford to), and "forcing" yourself to work on your creative abilities every day.
I had a period like that, where I just gave up on everything I liked. It was garbage. But I forced myself to get back into what I liked, started playing and learning music again, etc...
Today I finished my exams, I've passed the entry test for a sound-engineering school that I'm going to, and in a month or so I'm moving out of my hometown to go live (and work) away from my roots. Fresh new start :)
Hope you'll grow out of it and that things will get better soon. Good luck out there ;)
How old are you, friend?
Thank you so much. I really needed that. I appreciate it so much.
thank you, I guess I really needed that :)
whenever i get to that state of mind i look to the smarter people and think to myself they are feeling the exact same way (even if they might not) and it makes me feel 1000 times better than before
Rich people bring their kids up to make this phenomenon work in their favour.
Privilege breeds confidence and apparent competence, even when it's not actually there.
Literarely one of my friend
Yeah, but the sheltered upper middle class is the worst, at least someone in a rich family probably remembers what hardship and sacrifice is
Rich kids may not have to sacrifice or work hard to succeed, but I think they are often very unhappy regardless. I'm not sure the confidence they often show is deep, healthy, or true confidence. It's more likely a facade.
This video right here just made me so much more happier and confident in myself. That childhood experience was identical to mine and made me grow up thinking I was different from everyone. Thank you
GET OUT OF MY HEAD
Please don't put the comments on "newest first" 💀
2 late bro
Too late
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Amogus
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This is a really great explanation of how it feels. Imposter Syndrome can be so difficult to overcome.
Wow I just realised I always had impostor syndrome even after I got a decent job. I still think subconscious that I'm just an impostor between my smart, self-confident collegues but now I can learn how to fight it.
I think part of this attitude has to do with being pushed into a specific group/ethnical identity. It's a sort of victim mindset that can only be relinquished by accepting ones failures, anxieties etc. and start setting goals to improve for the future! Great video!
Having said that, I can't help but link you guys to a video essay we made about this subject (God absolve me from the sin of this shameless plug).
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Ah, I see you've discovered the truth then... Come to me and let go of your false God
(Actually 673 now, but youtube all about that satanism)
Are you Jewish?
Another extremely educational and therapeutic video
And I have in love with the narrator's voice
*have been
FYI. 'I am in love' means now and forever in love. 'have been in love' means in the past, I was in love with the narrator's voice but I am not in love with it now. ;-)
Same.
The School of Life is my therapist
Impostor Syndrome can be only found amongst empaths. Empaths are intimidated by narcissists and sociopaths who more often than not achieve the greater level of success - they only take into consideration their own interests and act fiercely to achieve their goals. That’s why rare empaths who achieve the societal definition of success feel like they cheated the system, because well, in a way, they did.
thanks so much for this video. i definitely have some kind of imposter syndrome, and as a way to justify it or lessen it i would comfort myself by thinking about my grades (was such a terrible idea) and by thinking i was better than others. i can not emphasise enough how toxic this is! please no one do this to yourselves. love yourself for who you are, with all your brokenness without comparison to others!
@Jοe Biden thanks uncle Joe
But what about the feeling that, just because you know someone has flaws, there's no way their flaws are as bad as your own?
Think it was mentioned in the video about being more familiar with the details or depth of your own emotions vs what you get from seeing or speaking to others. Everyone has various chemicals in their bodies and brains that will effect how they perceive themselves and the world but for the most part we're all wired the same and no one is in perfect balance.
" you have been feeling so strongly that you're an imposter that you've never stopped to question it. Your feelings are feelings, not facts." "The thought that you're an imposter never crossed anyone's mind, ever." -Imposter Cure, Jessamy Hibberd
Now, here's a thought:
The Impostor Syndrome Is Not A Syndrome
We all have a feeling from our childhood, that we are not like the grown ups. This is a true sensation, because we really aren't.
People who describe this as The Impostor Syndrome talk about the doubts we have in ourselves, even as adults. Those doubts are realistic, since we really don't know, and even science is piling up questions on top of answers.
We are all impostors, pretending to be what we think we should be. But most of human activity was invented by others, and still they are now regarded as natural.
Playing footbal, dressing up for dinner, going to church, going to work, all this was invented by people before us. It is not in our nature, and we didn't come up with it ourselves. We fake it to seem normel, so that we may be accepted in society.
The whole idea of The Impostor Syndrome is really just another way to make you think, that succes is for everybody, if we all just do it right. This is contradicted by the fact, that some peoples succes depend on the failure of others.
You can't become the president of a country, unless your opponent loses. Likewise with the kind of jobs, that we all consider to represent succes. Doctors and lawyers compete over education, and business people wage wars over market shares. Capitalism is competition, and not everyone can be rich.
If everyone is rich, noone will shine your shoes for a dime. You would have to pay millions to make anyone do anything, because why should they? They are rich. This is called inflation. When everyone is a millionaire, we have inflation. And you money is no good, except as firewood to keep you warm, like in Germany in 1921-24.
There is only room for a few winners at the top. And they will all tell you how they struggled and worked hard. Who wouldn't say that they worked hard? I never heard anyone say they didn't. But that doesn't mean, if you work hard you have a realistic chance.
It just means everybody is working hard, which makes it easy to make money on everybody, if you're one of the factual few who get to save up a little for investment themselves.
This realization is not The Impostor Syndrome. It is the result of a mature and sober assessment of the average possibilities in the capitalistic society. Now, theres a syndrome if you ask me. The capitalism syndrome.
Very interesting take, thanks for that 👍
An arts student probably wrote this.
Definitely right. Everyone should be living a normal life more than being on top or letting their self being on the low. When in balance then we can help each other with what we need or want. If we can just be more sympathetic with a heart of gold and a brain of stature. Then we can life better one day
This was very insightful and it sounds Nietzschean/Foucaulian.
No one’s perfect. Remember that. Compare urself to who you were yesterday. Comparing urself to others is futile as were all at different stages on different paths....
Everyone is an imposter therefore no one is an imposter.
That's not how it works....
Could be true!
this!
Not really
thank god
Nigga please.
this should be thought to middle school students
Shout out if you too have thought of a specific person shitting!
I realized we're all similar after reading "everybody poops" at the age of 3.
Me too
It's also very sus
“…a basic feature of the human condition: we know ourselves from the inside but we know others only from the outside.”
I don't wanna look at the comments
Dont sort by newest
incredible video, can't speak to just how much it's changed my mind in the shortterm, but this could genuinely change the way i see the people around me with time, the "everybody poops" thing is so weirdly perfect for this sort of thing, its seems stupid but unironically has meaning to it, everyone has moments that are really kinda ugly, be it emotional, mental, or social, and that's weirdly beautiful in a way, everyone has regrets, everyone has some sort of relationship to sexuality, everyone has self-doubt, even as tough as it is to imagine its just true.
Imposter syndrome then: serious
Imposter syndrome now: SUS SUS SUS
People say, "my life changed after this, that etc "... Waiting for mine to change....to be able to say that sentence one damn time !
For some of us, it takes a lot more persuasion and a lot more time. After years of negative self-talk, it has taken me a long time to make a little progress, but it is gradually happening!
Mine changed after Christopher Hitchens, lol!
My life didn't change, but I changed my mind.
Kinda sus though
This vid relieves the self-loath I've been feeling for years, thanks for making it!
STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT
Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome.
This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.”
If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong.
"Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated.
Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.”
In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps:
DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails.
DON’T look up the scientific name for pig.
Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.)
Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern.
Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also.
"Sus”
“Meeting”
“Vent”
“Red”
“Impostor”
“Emergency”
“Cams”
And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.
@@Exc4Iibur thanks a bunch for the advice doc, I'll try my best to follow these steps.
@@bear5062 no problem, please try to avoid all of these. Keep this among us, okay? :)
Algright guys
EMERGENCY MEETING
NOW
white kinda sus
@@jesselukas55 stop pointing fingers I saw you vent
no totally sus he accusing me i was with green right green?
Green:yes hes safe
lets skip
@palm tree pink impostor i vote
I literally have been practicing this for the past couple months, almost every day I have to remind myself that people are just people like me
whats your practice exactly? do you just try to recognize? or do you repeat a phrase?
WHEN THE IMPOSTOR IS A MANTAL DISEASE😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
Sus!
@@headphonelinetheearthcolor890 from among us!
@@yumilee7347 wholsome 100 bigchungus keanu reeves moment
@@belovedinsomniac AMUNG susM from among us sus!
Among 😱 us 😼 in 😍 real 😏 life 😛 sus 🥶 sus🥵
*WTF*. These thoughts have been filling my head these last few days o_O Perfect timing
same!!
same, been really struggling at work!
yeaaa
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OMG this was one of the most incredible film that I've ever seen about human behaviour. Thank you!
That’s a bit sus
So that's how the imposters feels in the game.
XD
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ﾟ Red was not An Impostor. 。 .
' 1 Impostor remains 。
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@palm tree hmmm.. That's a bit sus.
sus!
We saw the humor go from “so that’s how the imposters feels in the game.” To “HAHA AMOGUS😆😆😆😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮📮Sussy sus sus sus su su Sussy dhdbsh baka baka mogus amogus hahaha SUSSY BAKA AMONG US TRF HASAS
Yes this applies to the average person. But the higher and more exclusive the rank/position we aspire to, the more likely that the person currently occupying that position does not suffer as much from self doubt as the average person does. Therefore, even if we consider our fears and doubts to be equal to those of the average person, they probably are in fact greater than the person occupying the position we aspire to and our sense of being an imposter is completely justified- we are imposters.
But I think the point is that if you attain that position, you have a right to be there. A lot of PhD students talk about imposter syndrome, but after a while you just have to accept that if the people above you have said you have a right to be there, then you do, no matter what you're feeling inside.
I think the real takeaway is in the hypothetical revelation that those in positions we aspire to once were in our position, as that position is generally standard in all people, but those who rise above it likely didn't discourage themselves by feelings of inadequacy, or progressed in spite of it if they did.
Basically, we're all human, and most people feel more able to better themselves if they realize it.
Or that you're good at the whole "fake it till you make it" game. On House of Cards, Frank Underwood says to his competitor for the Presidential race: "You're a pretender, Will. And if you win, you'll go from pretender to fraud."
Exactly. Yes, everyone has their own weaknesses but someone can be particularly good at a certain job, far better than you, and they do genuinely have the right qualities and KNOW it, whereas you just don't..
Yes, that is their take-home message. However, that does not mean that it always applies. Some people only feel like they're in over their head, while they are actually just as qualified as others holding positions they aspire to. Some people actually are in over their head. Any profession has a spectrum of people, some that are more qualified and some that are less, some that feel under qualified, some that do not. I believe that as the profession becomes more specialized and you're closer to the top of the pyramid, the "pretenders" are weeded out. Sometimes, feeling like an imposter is unjustified by your actual qualities and the demands of the job.. But Sometimes, feeling like an imposter is absolutely how you deserve to feel, because you are one.
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This video scarily tells me a lot about my own life. Great video
lately i have been experiencing a sense that my younger self is undermining the person i am now, but after watching this i realise it is because i was conceptualising my younger self according to what i assumed to be others’ perceptions of me at the time. i need to realise that i am not and never was that person and so it is entirely plausible that i have legitimately achieved whatever was necessary to be who i am today. thanks man 🌻
i feel like i have just reconciled something really fundamental
Thanks so much for the videos of this channels. They are like therapy to me.
stop posting about among us
sussussssuss
I'm so pleased I discovered this channel.
SUS
when the self esteem is sus
Why.
I always feel like I am not good enough to love and be loved..... even the thought of it makes me angry and hopeless and sad....
Definitely one of the best videos on the imposter syndrome. I find the best way to dealing with the imposter syndrome is just talking about it - calling it out for what it is. Once I "admit" i feel like an imposter, the intensity goes away! Thank you for the fantastic explanation!