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after one year I fell apart..again...no one ever wants to talk about it and if they do, it is usually a "things will get better"....mostly, I'm simply just ignored as if my precious husband of 60 years never existed. GET OVER IT..seems to be the best therapy I have heard from friend and strangers alike. SO we do it alone. ALONE seems to be the only way I can deal with this.
Our society doesn't want us to grieve. It should be business as usual. I heard a radio show where the guest claimed grief should be eradicated. Move on, it's a waste of your time, he stated. The pet I grieve over, meant something to me. My bird was closer to me than my own family. My feathered friend never passed judgment on me or belittled me. That little bird loved me and helped me through the pandemic. When I lost everything, my feathered friend stayed with me. Losing her was a blow no words can explain. I still cry over the loss, and even though it's been only a month...I allow that grief to work its way because in time...her memory will be sweet.. People say,, oh it's just a pet..get a new one.. but I raised her from a baby... The time period is what makes this so painful. I miss her every day. Your videos help me put all this in perspective. Thank you.
Thank you❤ I am 6 months into it now, and every day new questions arise and new revelations too. Yesterday I realized that the reason I always loved being alone in the house during the day was because I knew my darling was coming home to me every evening. His love made a strong boundary of security and contentment around me that I didn’t appreciate. I never knew what loneliness really was until now. My pain is shifting all the time, but not lessening. Loving friends and family see that I’m functioning a bit better on most levels and assume I’m healing but, unless they’ve been there, they can’t fully know that this grief will always be with me. I love them all for wanting the best for me though, and I hang on to all the blessings I have and have had. I’m fortunate that no one is pressuring me to get over myself😂😂😂. I just had a rant, didn’t I!!? Thank you for allowing me to feel I could, Jo. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Oh my gosh it’s been 23 years since my parents died. 16 since my son died. 8 years since my sister and brother died. I think I will grieve forever. I’m happy and have a full life but I still cry almost daily.
Your videos make me feel good- atleast i don't feel like a criminal for grieving my parents loss.thank you for making me feel normal&less of a freak -🙏
I will never be able to thank you enough, kind lady, for helping me to confront and accept that grief in my life is honouring my wee Mary and not be afraid to look directly at it. You are a candle in the darkness, a light of hope. Sweet counsellor in my darkness, thank you so much. Edward.
My daughter drank herself to death and did die 3 years ago this July. She left a family who loved her and 2 boys 3 and 7. Actually my older grandson turned 7 two days after she was found in her backyard “unresponsive”. My grief has overwhelming and consumed my life. And still does. I sometimes feel like there is something wrong with me as it is three years now. But the pain and anguish are still dominating my life. My husband finally stopped asking me “What is wrong with you?” After him saying this to me for more than a year after my daughter died. My belief right now is I will be grieving until the day I die.
I don't want to rush it. But everyone around me expects me to have been ok after 6 months... no one is interested in my grief anymore. No one talks to me they prefer to stay away. The only person that was ever here for me was my husband. We literally were best friends. His family couldn't care less anymore
I am going through this now. It’s been 5 months and people are tired of me. So I weep and grief in private. When I’m alone and can talk to my husband. I don’t want to make people sad all the time.
@@Charalldredge I know but if people truly cared they would not be sick of someone who is hurting so deeply. Just how I feel. I couldn't turn away from someone in pain. If you need to talk. I'm here!! Xx
I feel you! Same here! My mother passed on May 1 st and I'm an only child. I was her care taker 24/7 and all alone and now I feel super lonely and I miss my mom so much. My body literally aches and my head as well I feel weak. And people are not there anymore. Only my aunt calls me everyday other than that nobody. It totally sucks!
@@LoneWolf-cv6pl I know it's crazy how people avoid the situation. But when they want something !. My family aren't there for me at all. Or my husband's family. Xx
@@LoneWolf-cv6pl it's worse when people you've always been there for aren't there for you when you need them the most. My family. My husband's family aren't there are all. I've been dealing with it alone. When I leave a voice note or something they don't respond.
Most of the time, it feels to me, that my grief walks alongside me. I stay aware of his presence in my mind and heart; and at the same time I'm so relieved that his suffering (and mine, due to his suffering) has ended. I'm glad to be on my own, and I'm too lonely, and I miss him, and I want new company. All at the same time.
My husband passed away last August and I am still finding my way thru grief. I have had several traumatic happenings in my life that seemed to surface when he passed. A complex PTSD for me. Therapy has helped so much. And horse therapy is the best. I take riding lessons again and love being with the horses. I am determined to honor my sweet man thru all of this. Thank you for your guidance.
After 9 months I'm just beginning too breathe fully without holding my breath. It's hard to filter thru emotions,so I tell slow down and work thru it.every Day it's something different.but my my son would say mom do not grieve for me our stay stuck there.for I'm with the Lord and happy so be happy for me too. Yes I'm a mother first and foremost in my Life. I tend to stay trapped in the past.just learning steps be and find something more.68 year's being stuck inside myself.❤
With grief comes toxic positivity: it will pass, it gets better with time, they are in a better place, you're lucky you had a mom/dad/etc, just know you loved them. So much b.s you have to hear. Society doesn't handle grieving people with care they just want your look of pain to stop because they are uncomfortable. Many times the right thing to say is nothing. Just let the griever feel and know what they are feeling is ok and unbelievably hard to carry. Grief often makes us speechless because silence is the appropriate response to the gravity of a loved one's death. You don't have to push through to be happy because your sadness make someone uncomfortable. You don't have to be happy because at least the sun is out. You loved someone so deeply the absence of them is interrupting your world.
It has now been 1 years since my only daughter passed and I am still feeling like it is not real. Days go by and I still feel like I am walking alone through each day without knowing where she is. I miss her. She was born with a disability but lived a full life ( hs valedictorian, college, graduate school) but while in graduate school her severe scoliosis (causing restrictive lung disease) took a turn for the worse. She had to come home get a tracheotomy and use a ventilator. She lived at home with me for the next 11 years. We were always very close. She meant so much to me. As she got worse I tried in every way to make her life as full as possible (taking her out, watching movies, eating dinner together every night) she was tethered to an O2 tank and we just learn together to move about the day. Until Covid made us stay home. I really thought we had made it through pretty much unscathed because we’d had our vaccines, but her physical condition was getting worse and her doctor told us that she was at the end of her life ( she was 46) too soon (my heart said) but we tried to be positive and took each day as it came…then one morning (7 months after doctor had told us) she died. I feel still unable to process it all. I do talk to a counselor each week but I am lost, truly lost without her.
Yes please, talk about how our past shows up. I was already grief stricken by lots of different things and now just lost my mum. It was expected and I thought I’d cope better, knowing it was coming. but I’m floored. There’s complications that I’m struggling with ❤
Thank you for this valuable message. I went through heartbreaking grief for my son’s suicide; it was the hardest and most painful work ever….a long time during which I was on medication and 1:1 therapy. This was over 30 years ago. Know that grief is indeed a process that is immeasurable in time or scope. I was able to take two college courses (decreased from the four that had been my intention) a month after his death. Yes, I got through the grief in time with a lot of work and tears, and I am proud to admit this.
I just celebrated the one year anniversary of my mother's death. I celebrated because I didn't think it was possible to live without the person I loved the most. I am thankful for your videos. You made my chaotic grief seem more normal. ♡♡♡
My grief is ongoing. My husband suffered a brain injury just weeks after my brother and only sibling died a sudden death. My life changed overnight and I now have a husband with mixed dementia after the brain injury. I have been his caregiver for 13 years now. His personality is not the same as before the injury and dementia. I also cared for my father after my brother died and my father started having heart failure. I have lost him as well. I really have not had a lot of time to grieve my brother or father because my husband has taken all my time. That grief of seeing my husband’s personality and physical abilities change is constant and never ending.
I'm so thankful I came across you a couple of weeks ago, I lost my fiancee 5 weeks ago and finding your videos have been a Godsend. I'm praying for everyone of you here also❤
@@susansmith7468 I’m doing great and thanks for asking. I love the outdoors including traveling and reading books, cooking, gardening and watching movies and you, how are you spending your spare time?
I'm learning to stop putting expectations on myself and learn that I am in a relationship with it, as you said a process. it helps. My beautiful boy lost his battle with cancer 2 years ago now. The pain is very present and real. I still feel like I'm drowning most days
Thank you Madam Jo your video your talk help me so much to ease my pain I just lost my husband almost two months but my I just couldn't control my tears my sadness my pain I feel so lonely every time when I start feeling tremendous sadness I search for your video and listen to you on different way of grief it's help me a lot . Thank you Thank you so much . Now I just want to know more how to control my grief.
My experience as well that people don't hold the loss of a pet as serious. The problem with that is nobody is in a place to feel what we feel except for us. We know the depth of our love and loss. I loved my Yorkie "Candy" more than many in my own person family. That loss, 2 years ago now, is still nearly unbearable for me. After the first week of her loss, my own mother said, aren't you over that by now? UGH. Sometimes grief is added to grief when we are hurt by what others say as well. It's a big process of forgiveness to others and even ourselves while we go through it. And I still wish I could go back and have a do over.
Im living through my grief, I have never felt this alone in my life accept maybe when I was 3 years old. Yes, my family tries to be supportive, but they really donot care. His parents seem the most supportive.
Help me to realize I just heard a wonderful song today about grief and I wanted to save it but it was wonderful and it made me relate to my father Stephen and how he's waiting for me on the other side and he's doing alright
I feel like i was allowed to be in ny grief for the loss of my eldest son for the first year.. slowly words of concern and support lessened , and feelings of disinterest or discomfort...giving me the impression that I should be over it have replaced that support. I know it is my grief journey alone. No other person can understand the depth of my loss, the questions I ask myself, or the memories I treasure. I've kept more to myself in the last 6 months, tried harder for the sake of others as well as myself. I do believe it will take my lifetime to learning how to carry, and make friends with, my grief. I'd love to hear more about how our past creeps into our grief .
Thank you! Great perspective to live "with" grief. I would be so grateful if grief work would legitimize all types of loss-I have had many losses over the last two years, and only one had to do with the loss of a "person." Grief is grief.
I've been watching your videos for some months now. I'd like to extend my appreciation for the time and effort you put in making these really helpful videos. You've helped me contextualise the pain and sadness of my grief which has been of enormous help when my feelings overwhelmed me. Would very much like to hear what you have to say with regard to how ones past can show up in grief. Once again many thanks..I send kind thoughts, kind words and heart. ❤
Thank you , thank you ❤ I’m grieving the loss of my son and brother . I find some treat grief and mental illness similarly. They think not talking about it will make it go away. Thank you again you’ve helped me tremendously.
Me (Otessa) widow of (Robert) I have made somewhat made a peace of my loneliness and look forward to the Second Coming of Yeshuah HaMashiach (Jesus Christ). By the way, I love your new hair style.❤
Thank you! I am not rushing my grief. I want to experience it as I know that the pain of the loss will eventually soften as difficult as it is. It has been almost three months since losing my long time partner and I feel that I am starting to heal.
Thank you for sharing such great content on something which feels so complex. I lost my Dad after he suffered a stroke in September 2022, after months of being in hospital I finally got him to a beautiful hospice a week before he passed. I lost my mom to cancer 13 years ago & have recently moved out of the home I grew up in (having moved back to look after him). I have found clearing the family home & settling somewhere new very challenging. I am a self employed Coach struggling to refuel myself to rebuild my business. I would love to hear your perspective on how grief kicks up other past hurts, as I feel that is a reoccurring experience I’m having. I am a believer in allowing my feelings to be released… but find myself frustrated that I often feel incapacitated by my emotions. Thank you again for your videos - they are both heartfelt & helpful 🙏💕✨
My partner / husband of 21 years died a little over 2 years ago. I'm living with my grief and have found a place for it in daily life and feel as if I'm getting on with life as a single person once again. HOWEVER, I am thinking of moving out of state to begin a new adventure but I have this lingering guilt about leaving his grave behind. It almost feels as if I'm abandoning him. I don't visit the grave often and never on our special occasions. I embrace and believe the words of Mary Elizabeth Frye's poem, "Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep" but a part of me still feels like leaving would be abandonment. Advice? Anybody!
Thank you for your videos. They are the first thing I've found that is helpful. I lost my wife 9 months ago, after 50 years together. She was my best friend, and the love of my life. We were still crazy about each other. I nursed her through her illness. She was in a great deal of pain. I'm not getting over this. In addition, I have the trauma of my last memories of her looking like a skeleton, and in the last couple of weeks, not knowing who I was. The trauma of constantly thinking of the way my beautiful wife looked in her last days haunts me; I can't stop thinking about it. I even tried Ketamine therapy, which for me, was a huge mistake. I don't know how to stop these intrusive traumatic thoughts of how she looked in the end. Do you have any advice about this part of grief? Thanks again for all your help.
Michelle Nash I am going through the exact same situation. I lost my husband recently. He was always there for me as well as being my Best Friend. 😢 No one comes around after my loss.
I relocated! Hoorah. David's passport appeared the day after I moved in. I'd not been able to find it! So, whilst I really have found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, I know David had a huge part in giving me what I want to enable me to build a different life. We've moved in together having lived in adjacent houses for more thsn twenty years. He is everywhere and I'm grieving. It's all very new but what I want for my future. I've moved earth to arrive. And David showing me where he'd hidden his passport is confirmation he is here also. Widowhood will be diffent now I've moved.
😭I lost my beautiful daughter 3 weeks ago and I’m going almost crazy. I have to return back to the office and I don’t know how to function. In front of people, I try to act controlled and normal but every so often all of the sudden I feel overwhelmed. Just feel like running and yell. The physical pain is real. Sometimes I feel like i’m going to have a heart attack. I can’t be comforted or consoled. My life feels like a down spiral. I’m trying to be strong but i’m almost losing my mind.
gradosa 82 im so sorry about your precious daughter. I lost my son in February. This is so unbearable, there arent any words for this that we have to live with now.All i can do is send you a big sincere hug.
@@jenniferflores3360 thanks for your hug. only parents who lost their son or daughter know that emptiness and pain. God will give us strength to honor him. I’m grateful to have been chosen to give birth and nurture my daughter. God’s wisdom is perfect. I’m going to always miss her but I know our children are in peace and in God’s infinite love. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I am still grieving of the death of my daughter 3 years ago. I can really understand what you are going though . Its just the worst and hardest thing ever that I have ever had to deal with. She left behind my two grandsons 3 and almost 7. Its is sometimes just an agony to deal with on a daily basis even 3 years out.Please except my sincere condolences
Yes I care and have him so unexpectedly I wasn't ready for a nanny also anyway I don't like it being gone forever like I don't know how to cope and I just have a hard time dealing with how I feel
It scares me as time passes since my brother’s suicide , that I’m supposed to be less devastated. It’s hard to imagine a future where it doesn’t hurt all the time. As a family we are all there for each other but we are all hurting. And seeing my loved ones hurt is also dreadful. I’m going to try and take some of the pressure off myself to hurry up and also some resentment that I should.
I'm coming up on the one year anniversary of my husbands death. I am still grieving and don't see any end in site. I was divorced for 21 years before finding my Steve. We only had 6 years together before he died of cancer. Now I'm back alone for for the remainder of my life. I just can't get over the loss of my only love of my life! I have a grief counselor which has been a big help but i have no true real friends.
I have trouble expressing my emotions with trying to grief the loss of my husband and It has only Been a little over a month since he passed. It hasb really hard on me. I feel all the time and not motivated most of the time.
Im not sure what living with the grief looks like? Its 14 months now, i am in s better place emotionally than even 6 months ago, but i of course still have anxiety, great sadness, i sometimes feel its all too much, but i get up every day snd do the things i’ve planned, or work, whatever i have to do. I enjoy things i have built into my life but sometimes the sadness is still overwhelming. Grief takes so much energy, but ehst is slowing down? Is it sitting and wallowing? Or staying in bed feeling shit? Ir binge watching tv? I am seeing a counsellor, ive looked at my past patterns and cooing mechanisms, i have made new friends and joined clubs. I fill my time. I want to keep connection with my husband but i also want to get to a place where the grief doesn’t flaw me, does that mean i’m rushing ?
I'm doing terrible with my grief it's like I'm not even acknowledging it I'm just like putting it away like it was never there and then I shouldn't even know that it's bothering me so bad and that's what's happening to me I'm in denial and my husband will not give me any room for my grief he thinks I should be over and not talking about it or thinking about it or anyting
My immense pain comes at any trigger, or thought since i lost my beautiful Husband 3 months ago. Losing your world and trying to cope with everything, NOT POSSIBLE. Then the unexpected..someone i trusted, a family member, who said they cared for me and would support me, suddenly changes tunes and contests my late Husband's Will. What type of person is this?
I don't want to get over my grief becours if I do it seems to me that I don't care about my husbands death ,because of the why he died and I do care I miss him so much and loved him so much I just want to greive him until I natural feel a bit better . If I ever will I don't know . I just
Having had a child die….although she was adult of 44 I can relate to your feeling of being broken. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your precious son.
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after one year I fell apart..again...no one ever wants to talk about it and if they do, it is usually a "things will get better"....mostly, I'm simply just ignored as if my precious husband of 60 years never existed. GET OVER IT..seems to be the best therapy I have heard from friend and strangers alike. SO we do it alone. ALONE seems to be the only way I can deal with this.
How to block out the painful flashbacks of my loved one's last days on hospice .
I have excepted that I will never be the same again
Our society doesn't want us to grieve. It should be business as usual. I heard a radio show where the guest claimed grief should be eradicated. Move on, it's a waste of your time, he stated.
The pet I grieve over, meant something to me. My bird was closer to me than my own family. My feathered friend never passed judgment on me or belittled me. That little bird loved me and helped me through the pandemic. When I lost everything, my feathered friend stayed with me. Losing her was a blow no words can explain. I still cry over the loss, and even though it's been only a month...I allow that grief to work its way because in time...her memory will be sweet.. People say,, oh it's just a pet..get a new one.. but I raised her from a baby...
The time period is what makes this so painful. I miss her every day. Your videos help me put all this in perspective. Thank you.
Hi Marie, how’s your day going with you?
Thank you❤ I am 6 months into it now, and every day new questions arise and new revelations too. Yesterday I realized that the reason I always loved being alone in the house during the day was because I knew my darling was coming home to me every evening. His love made a strong boundary of security and contentment around me that I didn’t appreciate. I never knew what loneliness really was until now. My pain is shifting all the time, but not lessening. Loving friends and family see that I’m functioning a bit better on most levels and assume I’m healing but, unless they’ve been there, they can’t fully know that this grief will always be with me. I love them all for wanting the best for me though, and I hang on to all the blessings I have and have had. I’m fortunate that no one is pressuring me to get over myself😂😂😂. I just had a rant, didn’t I!!? Thank you for allowing me to feel I could, Jo. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Oh my gosh it’s been 23 years since my parents died. 16 since my son died. 8 years since my sister and brother died. I think I will grieve forever. I’m happy and have a full life but I still cry almost daily.
Your videos make me feel good- atleast i don't feel like a criminal for grieving my parents loss.thank you for making me feel normal&less of a freak -🙏
Just today in fact. “You know. You will need to get over this”. Bite me I said out loud in my head. In. my. Own. TIME.
Hi Suzanne, how’s your day going with you?
I will never be able to thank you enough, kind lady, for helping me to confront and accept that grief in my life is honouring my wee Mary and not be afraid to look directly at it. You are a candle in the darkness, a light of hope. Sweet counsellor in my darkness, thank you so much. Edward.
My daughter drank herself to death and did die 3 years ago this July. She left a family who loved her and 2 boys 3 and 7. Actually my older grandson turned 7 two days after she was found in her backyard “unresponsive”. My grief has overwhelming and consumed my life. And still does. I sometimes feel like there is something wrong with me as it is three years now. But the pain and anguish are still dominating my life. My husband finally stopped asking me “What is wrong with you?” After him saying this to me for more than a year after my daughter died. My belief right now is I will be grieving until the day I die.
I don't want to rush it. But everyone around me expects me to have been ok after 6 months... no one is interested in my grief anymore. No one talks to me they prefer to stay away. The only person that was ever here for me was my husband. We literally were best friends. His family couldn't care less anymore
I am going through this now. It’s been 5 months and people are tired of me. So I weep and grief in private. When I’m alone and can talk to my husband. I don’t want to make people sad all the time.
@@Charalldredge I know but if people truly cared they would not be sick of someone who is hurting so deeply. Just how I feel. I couldn't turn away from someone in pain. If you need to talk. I'm here!! Xx
I feel you! Same here! My mother passed on May 1 st and I'm an only child. I was her care taker 24/7 and all alone and now I feel super lonely and I miss my mom so much. My body literally aches and my head as well I feel weak. And people are not there anymore. Only my aunt calls me everyday other than that nobody. It totally sucks!
@@LoneWolf-cv6pl I know it's crazy how people avoid the situation. But when they want something !.
My family aren't there for me at all. Or my husband's family. Xx
@@LoneWolf-cv6pl it's worse when people you've always been there for aren't there for you when you need them the most. My family. My husband's family aren't there are all. I've been dealing with it alone. When I leave a voice note or something they don't respond.
Most of the time, it feels to me, that my grief walks alongside me. I stay aware of his presence in my mind and heart; and at the same time I'm so relieved that his suffering (and mine, due to his suffering) has ended. I'm glad to be on my own, and I'm too lonely, and I miss him, and I want new company. All at the same time.
My husband passed away last August and I am still finding my way thru grief. I have had several traumatic happenings in my life that seemed to surface when he passed. A complex PTSD for me. Therapy has helped so much. And horse therapy is the best. I take riding lessons again and love being with the horses. I am determined to honor my sweet man thru all of this. Thank you for your guidance.
Hi Debbie, how’s your day going with you?
After 9 months I'm just beginning too breathe fully without holding my breath. It's hard to filter thru emotions,so I tell slow down and work thru it.every Day it's something different.but my my son would say mom do not grieve for me our stay stuck there.for I'm with the Lord and happy so be happy for me too. Yes I'm a mother first and foremost in my Life. I tend to stay trapped in the past.just learning steps be and find something more.68 year's being stuck inside myself.❤
With grief comes toxic positivity: it will pass, it gets better with time, they are in a better place, you're lucky you had a mom/dad/etc, just know you loved them. So much b.s you have to hear. Society doesn't handle grieving people with care they just want your look of pain to stop because they are uncomfortable. Many times the right thing to say is nothing. Just let the griever feel and know what they are feeling is ok and unbelievably hard to carry. Grief often makes us speechless because silence is the appropriate response to the gravity of a loved one's death. You don't have to push through to be happy because your sadness make someone uncomfortable. You don't have to be happy because at least the sun is out. You loved someone so deeply the absence of them is interrupting your world.
I feel the same
It has now been 1 years since my only daughter passed and I am still feeling like it is not real. Days go by and I still feel like I am walking alone through each day without knowing where she is. I miss her. She was born with a disability but lived a full life ( hs valedictorian, college, graduate school) but while in graduate school her severe scoliosis (causing restrictive lung disease) took a turn for the worse. She had to come home get a tracheotomy and use a ventilator. She lived at home with me for the next 11 years. We were always very close. She meant so much to me. As she got worse I tried in every way to make her life as full as possible (taking her out, watching movies, eating dinner together every night) she was tethered to an O2 tank and we just learn together to move about the day. Until Covid made us stay home. I really thought we had made it through pretty much unscathed because we’d had our vaccines, but her physical condition was getting worse and her doctor told us that she was at the end of her life ( she was 46) too soon (my heart said) but we tried to be positive and took each day as it came…then one morning (7 months after doctor had told us) she died. I feel still unable to process it all. I do talk to a counselor each week but I am lost, truly lost without her.
Hi Kathleen, how’s your day going with you?
Yes please, talk about how our past shows up. I was already grief stricken by lots of different things and now just lost my mum. It was expected and I thought I’d cope better, knowing it was coming. but I’m floored. There’s complications that I’m struggling with ❤
Thank you for this valuable message. I went through heartbreaking grief for my son’s suicide; it was the hardest and most painful work ever….a long time during which I was on medication and 1:1 therapy. This was over 30 years ago. Know that grief is indeed a process that is immeasurable in time or scope. I was able to take two college courses (decreased from the four that had been my intention) a month after his death. Yes, I got through the grief in time with a lot of work and tears, and I am proud to admit this.
Hi Cheryl, how’s your day going with you?
I just celebrated the one year anniversary of my mother's death. I celebrated because I didn't think it was possible to live without the person I loved the most. I am thankful for your videos. You made my chaotic grief seem more normal. ♡♡♡
It is so interesting how current grief ripps open old wounds, even stuff I was too young to remember. I would love to know more.
My grief is ongoing. My husband suffered a brain injury just weeks after my brother and only sibling died a sudden death. My life changed overnight and I now have a husband with mixed dementia after the brain injury. I have been his caregiver for 13 years now. His personality is not the same as before the injury and dementia. I also cared for my father after my brother died and my father started having heart failure. I have lost him as well. I really have not had a lot of time to grieve my brother or father because my husband has taken all my time. That grief of seeing my husband’s personality and physical abilities change is constant and never ending.
Yes there has been so much pressure to move on and be myself. A lot of “you can come but don’t bring everyone down with your sadness”
Hi Susan, how’s your day going with you?
I'm so thankful I came across you a couple of weeks ago, I lost my fiancee 5 weeks ago and finding your videos have been a Godsend. I'm praying for everyone of you here also❤
Hi Susan, how’s your day going with you?
@@Thomasfrohwitter , Hi, going good thanks to these helpful sites, thanks for asking. How is yours going?
@@susansmith7468 I’m doing great and thanks for asking. I love the outdoors including traveling and reading books, cooking, gardening and watching movies and you, how are you spending your spare time?
@@susansmith7468 how are you spending your weekend Susan?
I'm learning to stop putting expectations on myself and learn that I am in a relationship with it, as you said a process. it helps. My beautiful boy lost his battle with cancer 2 years ago now. The pain is very present and real. I still feel like I'm drowning most days
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Thank you Ms McRogers for your videos! They help A LOT! Please make a video on how our grief brings up pains of the past. Thank you !
Yes that would be great. I also feel the past and my life before I met Jase is coming into question in my mind
Thank you Madam Jo your video your talk help me so much to ease my pain I just lost my husband almost two months but my I just couldn't control my tears my sadness my pain I feel so lonely every time when I start feeling tremendous sadness I search for your video and listen to you on different way of grief it's help me a lot . Thank you Thank you so much . Now I just want to know more how to control my grief.
Yes, please let us know how the past comes up in our grief. I think this happens a lot with recent losses. Thanks.
I've been grieving all my life! Just get through one then there's another....not all big but grief none the less.
I feel that because it’s pet grief, it’s devalued.
My experience as well that people don't hold the loss of a pet as serious. The problem with that is nobody is in a place to feel what we feel except for us. We know the depth of our love and loss. I loved my Yorkie "Candy" more than many in my own person family. That loss, 2 years ago now, is still nearly unbearable for me. After the first week of her loss, my own mother said, aren't you over that by now? UGH. Sometimes grief is added to grief when we are hurt by what others say as well. It's a big process of forgiveness to others and even ourselves while we go through it. And I still wish I could go back and have a do over.
Im living through my grief, I have never felt this alone in my life accept maybe when I was 3 years old. Yes, my family tries to be supportive, but they really donot care. His parents seem the most supportive.
Help me to realize I just heard a wonderful song today about grief and I wanted to save it but it was wonderful and it made me relate to my father Stephen and how he's waiting for me on the other side and he's doing alright
You have made all my feelings validated. Thank you❤
I feel like i was allowed to be in ny grief for the loss of my eldest son for the first year.. slowly words of concern and support lessened , and feelings of disinterest or discomfort...giving me the impression that I should be over it have replaced that support. I know it is my grief journey alone. No other person can understand the depth of my loss, the questions I ask myself, or the memories I treasure.
I've kept more to myself in the last 6 months, tried harder for the sake of others as well as myself.
I do believe it will take my lifetime to learning how to carry, and make friends with, my grief.
I'd love to hear more about how our past creeps into our grief .
Thank you! Great perspective to live "with" grief. I would be so grateful if grief work would legitimize all types of loss-I have had many losses over the last two years, and only one had to do with the loss of a "person." Grief is grief.
I am going to come to peace with my grief as you have so gracefully suggested now and in past sessions. Thank you!
Thank you. 🙏
I've been watching your videos for some months now. I'd like to extend my appreciation for the time and effort you put in making these really helpful videos. You've helped me contextualise the pain and sadness of my grief which has been of enormous help when my feelings overwhelmed me. Would very much like to hear what you have to say with regard to how ones past can show up in grief. Once again many thanks..I send kind thoughts, kind words and heart. ❤
Hi Theresa, how’s your day going with you?
My family and everyone wants me to rush my greif in six months and I just missed my loved one.
I am livin with the grief
Thank you , thank you ❤ I’m grieving the loss of my son and brother . I find some treat grief and mental illness similarly. They think not talking about it will make it go away. Thank you again you’ve helped me tremendously.
I'm so sorry for your immeasurable loss. ❤ I too have lost a son and brother within 9 months of one another. Take your time.
I'm a psychologist specialized in trauma and grief. Thank you for valuable information. Subscribed
Me (Otessa) widow of (Robert) I have made somewhat made a peace of my loneliness and look forward to the Second Coming of Yeshuah HaMashiach (Jesus Christ).
By the way, I love your new hair style.❤
🙏 thank you.. grew it to donate it!
Thank you! I am not rushing my grief. I want to experience it as I know that the pain of the loss will eventually soften as difficult as it is. It has been almost three months since losing my long time partner and I feel that I am starting to heal.
My Dad died March 13, just 2 months or so ago, I'm interested in this channel so ... following
Realy curious to know how the past comes up in our grief!
Thank you for this💜
Hi Carol, how’s your day going with you?
Yes, show us how our past shows up in our grief.... please!!
Thank you for sharing such great content on something which feels so complex. I lost my Dad after he suffered a stroke in September 2022, after months of being in hospital I finally got him to a beautiful hospice a week before he passed. I lost my mom to cancer 13 years ago & have recently moved out of the home I grew up in (having moved back to look after him). I have found clearing the family home & settling somewhere new very challenging. I am a self employed Coach struggling to refuel myself to rebuild my business. I would love to hear your perspective on how grief kicks up other past hurts, as I feel that is a reoccurring experience I’m having. I am a believer in allowing my feelings to be released… but find myself frustrated that I often feel incapacitated by my emotions. Thank you again for your videos - they are both heartfelt & helpful 🙏💕✨
My partner / husband of 21 years died a little over 2 years ago. I'm living with my grief and have found a place for it in daily life and feel as if I'm getting on with life as a single person once again. HOWEVER, I am thinking of moving out of state to begin a new adventure but I have this lingering guilt about leaving his grave behind. It almost feels as if I'm abandoning him. I don't visit the grave often and never on our special occasions. I embrace and believe the words of Mary Elizabeth Frye's poem, "Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep" but a part of me still feels like leaving would be abandonment. Advice? Anybody!
Thank you! You offer such compassion and support! I appreciate all of your videos very much! ❤
Hi Mary, how’s your day going with you?
Thank you for your videos. They are the first thing I've found that is helpful. I lost my wife 9 months ago, after 50 years together. She was my best friend, and the love of my life. We were still crazy about each other. I nursed her through her illness. She was in a great deal of pain. I'm not getting over this. In addition, I have the trauma of my last memories of her looking like a skeleton, and in the last couple of weeks, not knowing who I was. The trauma of constantly thinking of the way my beautiful wife looked in her last days haunts me; I can't stop thinking about it. I even tried Ketamine therapy, which for me, was a huge mistake. I don't know how to stop these intrusive traumatic thoughts of how she looked in the end. Do you have any advice about this part of grief? Thanks again for all your help.
Michelle Nash I am going through the exact same situation. I lost my husband recently. He was always there for me as well as being my Best Friend. 😢 No one comes around after my loss.
I relocated! Hoorah. David's passport appeared the day after I moved in. I'd not been able to find it! So, whilst I really have found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, I know David had a huge part in giving me what I want to enable me to build a different life. We've moved in together having lived in adjacent houses for more thsn twenty years. He is everywhere and I'm grieving. It's all very new but what I want for my future. I've moved earth to arrive. And David showing me where he'd hidden his passport is confirmation he is here also. Widowhood will be diffent now I've moved.
Hi Jackie, how’s your day going with you?
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Hi Anna, how’s your day going with you?
😭I lost my beautiful daughter 3 weeks ago and I’m going almost crazy. I have to return back to the office and I don’t know how to function. In front of people, I try to act controlled and normal but every so often all of the sudden I feel overwhelmed. Just feel like running and yell. The physical pain is real. Sometimes I feel like i’m going to have a heart attack. I can’t be comforted or consoled. My life feels like a down spiral. I’m trying to be strong but i’m almost losing my mind.
gradosa 82 im so sorry about your precious daughter. I lost my son in February. This is so unbearable, there arent any words for this that we have to live with now.All i can do is send you a big sincere hug.
@@jenniferflores3360 thanks for your hug. only parents who lost their son or daughter know that emptiness and pain. God will give us strength to honor him. I’m grateful to have been chosen to give birth and nurture my daughter. God’s wisdom is perfect. I’m going to always miss her but I know our children are in peace and in God’s infinite love. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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I am still grieving of the death of my daughter 3 years ago. I can really understand what you are going though . Its just the worst and hardest thing ever that I have ever had to deal with. She left behind my two grandsons 3 and almost 7. Its is sometimes just an agony to deal with on a daily basis even 3 years out.Please except my sincere condolences
Yes I care and have him so unexpectedly I wasn't ready for a nanny also anyway I don't like it being gone forever like I don't know how to cope and I just have a hard time dealing with how I feel
It scares me as time passes since my brother’s suicide , that I’m supposed to be less devastated. It’s hard to imagine a future where it doesn’t hurt all the time. As a family we are all there for each other but we are all hurting. And seeing my loved ones hurt is also dreadful. I’m going to try and take some of the pressure off myself to hurry up and also some resentment that I should.
I'm coming up on the one year anniversary of my husbands death. I am still grieving and don't see any end in site. I was divorced for 21 years before finding my Steve. We only had 6 years together before he died of cancer. Now I'm back alone for for the remainder of my life. I just can't get over the loss of my only love of my life! I have a grief counselor which has been a big help but i have no true real friends.
I have trouble expressing my emotions with trying to grief the loss of my husband and It has only Been a little over a month since he passed. It hasb really hard on me. I feel all the time and not motivated most of the time.
Im not sure what living with the grief looks like? Its 14 months now, i am in s better place emotionally than even 6 months ago, but i of course still have anxiety, great sadness, i sometimes feel its all too much, but i get up every day snd do the things i’ve planned, or work, whatever i have to do. I enjoy things i have built into my life but sometimes the sadness is still overwhelming. Grief takes so much energy, but ehst is slowing down? Is it sitting and wallowing? Or staying in bed feeling shit? Ir binge watching tv? I am seeing a counsellor, ive looked at my past patterns and cooing mechanisms, i have made new friends and joined clubs. I fill my time. I want to keep connection with my husband but i also want to get to a place where the grief doesn’t flaw me, does that mean i’m rushing ?
Hi Sue, how’s your day going with you?
I'm doing terrible with my grief it's like I'm not even acknowledging it I'm just like putting it away like it was never there and then I shouldn't even know that it's bothering me so bad and that's what's happening to me I'm in denial and my husband will not give me any room for my grief he thinks I should be over and not talking about it or thinking about it or anyting
I don’t know how to help my mom 😢we lost my dad in Oct
She cries so much, she has lost all joy in life 😢
My immense pain comes at any trigger, or thought since i lost my beautiful Husband 3 months ago. Losing your world and trying to cope with everything, NOT POSSIBLE. Then the unexpected..someone i trusted, a family member, who said they cared for me and would support me, suddenly changes tunes and contests my late Husband's Will. What type of person is this?
I don't want to get over my grief becours if I do it seems to me that I don't care about my husbands death ,because of the why he died and I do care I miss him so much and loved him so much I just want to greive him until I natural feel a bit better .
If I ever will I don't know .
I just
Hi Marie, how’s your day going with you?
My neighbor thinks at 7 weeks i should move on after my sisters traumatic death😢 😢😢😢
But how can I stop feeling so miserable?
Tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of my 14 year old son's passing. I'm broken.
Having had a child die….although she was adult of 44 I can relate to your feeling of being broken. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your precious son.
@@mariannejohnson6529 so very sorry for your loss 😭 💔. Bereaved parents understand each other well, without even meeting.
I want to keep my connection with my deased husband an his memory alive