Turned 30 recently and if I could go back to 25 year old me, I would tell her that she's on the right track and to not stress so much about having it all together. Turning 30 gave me such clarity and relief. Life doesn't end after 25 y'all. Thinking that way will hold you back from truly living your best life!
This is such a good topic. I went through the quarter life crisis at 27 (now in my early 30s). It gets better. Your 30s are your 20s, but with more money.
I am 28 and when I was 25, I was at a prestigious HBCU in Washington D.C in the process of getting my master's degree, but all I could do was wallow about how I am not doing enough to get where I wanted to go. As I am currently 28 years old, I realize that baby.... it takes time to get there. Peaking at 25 is not the goal. Yes, it sounds amazing to say " I am doing this, that, and the third at 25"; however, hitting that goal, or panicking because you think you need to be at a particular place by 25 is the ghetto. Yes, have your priorities, but baby , as long as you go breath in your body, you got time sha... you got time. Please, rest, and relax... if there was anything I would change at 25 is putting myself through all that unnecessary stress and anxiety. Everything I worried about did not even happen.. and tbh, life takes so many turns, you just gotta learn to enjoy the ride. It is okay to still be figuring your life out post 25... that is actually normal... ten years ago we were all teenagers... why would we magically have it all together by 25 or even 28... chilleeee please
Oh lord you guys are too on the nose. I've been crying to my mom about my wasted decade of life at 27, graduating in '12, still not having a degree and now next week finally moving out of my apartment I've had with my ex of 6 years, after quitting my job, to live with my dad and focus on my health. Whew. Life is hard in every way for me rn.
Sis you aren’t alone omg! I’m 27 no degree graduated 13’ leaving the military soon and moving back to my moms in a couple months and felt the same! Like a whole ass decade really flew Df by and all these crises, market crashes and pandemic 💩 battering our life’s lol sis 🥲🫂 But through all the hardships right now in this moment we still have a chance and we gotta keep the faith that things will no longer be hard in everyway. I’m right witcha crying on the phone w/ my momma girl 🤣 but we gonna make it in our way. 💆🏽♀️🤗🫂✊🏽🫶🏽
Sis…..with everything going on I have learnt to breathe and stop being so hard on myself. 27yrs in my 5th year med school and within a twinkle of an eye I’m a refugee in a non English speaking country.Got to learn their language……..Damn 🤦🏽♀️life……But through it all I got to BREATHE
I love this! I’m 24 and constantly being told my life will end I’ll turn into a raisin at 25…That I will gain heaps of weight and lose my passion for life.. I am so excited to continue aging w grace. Even if I don’t fully understand my path. I’m hopeful that life will continue after 25. 💜 Will share this vid.
Lol I remember when I turned 25 and had a quarter life crisis. When I look back 25 is soooo young. Age is nothing but a number ascribing things to age causes unnecessary pressure. Your journey will take place in its own time, it does not care about age. You can try and do things to hurry it up but things will actualize when it's the right time.
I’m 29 and I can definitely confirm that all you’re saying is true. I evaluated a lot about my life, relationships, friendships, I’m more careful with career moves and life choices. I’ve changed a lot in the last 4 years that people who knew me before also see that I’ve changed alot more serious. Lost a few friends and my circle has become smaller and wiser
Thank you for this episode. It came at the right time. I just turned 25 in May and I’ve been wallowing in my thoughts and fears for my future. From finances to relationships to family etc. Watching this episode was like God screaming at me to relax and everything is or will be okay. You guys are amazing. THANK YOU 🙏🏾
I am feeling the responsibility and demand of living my dreams. I am working on exactly what I dreamed of but damnnnnnn it’s a lot! I never thought about the reality of living my dream, I was so busy getting to the dream.
I just moved to London and turn 25 in Nov, everything you touched on, I’ve been experiencing/feeling😩 I feel a pressure to succeed and do well here, especially now that it’s just me I’m looking after. There really is no excuse😭 really needed to know I’m not the only one, thanks for the encouragement🙏🏾❤️
I haven't finished watching but I'm loving this so far. I turn 25 at the end of the month and I'm really excited. I'm not trying to put pressure on myself to be anywhere but where God wants me to be....Perioddttt. About the sister in the dilemma, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. She may end up with a guy that she's attracted to and end up being treated like crap. Looks like she can tolerate the guy if she's been with him for 3 years.
I feel like this topic is something a person struggles with no matter how old they are. I'm 44 and I'm constantly lamenting mentally about my status in life - what I thought I'd be doing compared to what I am actually doing & and what home and level of comfort I would be able to give myself by now compared to what I'm actually able to do. Looking back and wishing I made different decisions when I was younger so that I would be in a different place than I am in right now. Setting goals and sweating over whether I can make them happen.... But, I have an anxiety disorder so 🤷🏾 maybe it's just me.
I came across this video a few days after discovering this channel and I cannot tell you how relieving it is to hear this talked about because I will be 25 next month in August and I feel like I spent my entire year of being 24 either preparing for that crisis or actually living in that crisis at this point I am so boggled that I cannot tell the difference. But it is extremely helpful that y’all are talking about this and giving advice and normalizing it because we dont hear this. once you turn 21 it’s like you get three years of maybe some fun for me the pandemic kind of took away a lot of my 22 23 era so it was like in a blink of an eye I just turned 25 and it’s very real and scary but ladies like you make it all so much better thank you so much guys
Wow! Thank you girlss. I am a Zimbabwean sister turning 23 in Nov but this episode has been sooo helpful despite the fact that im not yet 25. You are my favs!!!!
To the dilemma, yea I have been in this situation and I ended up leaving him because of it. He was an amazing guy and he treated me exactly the way I should be treated but I was younger and dumber and thought looks were everything so I let him go because I felt it wasn’t right to stay with someone I wasn’t attracted to (we dated for 4 months) fast forward 3 years later I have not found a man that made me feel the way he did, most of the encounters I have had with men have been extremely low effort to no effort and most of the guys who are my “type” physically only want to bed me. It’s sad out here and although I’m glad I didn’t waste ex time like that I wish I was mature enough back then to realize that looks aren’t everything. Now he is married and I’m dodging talking stages left and right 😭🤣
Turning 25 in November and boy, the pressure (mostly from myself). I'm someone many would consider an "early achiever" but approaching that age still gets to me regardless. I've been taking time to re-evaluate and realise I've been letting some things validate me. And my bout of second puberty added to the whole stress 😂. I'm finally getting round to accepting that my body (physically and mentally) is changing and I'm making the best of it. And what you said about the clarity and defining choices, so true! I could relate on so many levels. Thank you for this.
for the dilemma, i honestly can relate. im also 24 and ive had a somewhat identical experience. for me, it was not enjoyable because although yes i did love him and he was the best in terms of character, i constantly found myself fantasizing about being with men that i actually aaaam really attracted to. i feel like its more with upbringing (for me at least) i realized growing up i was told not to be "picky" and that liking someone off looks is shallow. for me i stayed because 1. there was nothing necessarily wrong so i felt like i needed to stay. 2. i was battling with the question of "is this the right decision"?. 3. my self esteem was very low so i didnt think i could pull someone i was actually attracted to. 4. i didnt want to seem ungrateful, dumping someone based off their looks was seen as unacceptable in my household if their character was a1. so i feel like there coudve been more underlying factors at play as to why she stayed for so long. its really an internal based on your perception of the situation and what you were "taught/learned" about dating. im still learning, just in my own way now. Context: we've been dating since middle school, we officially split at age 22
Went on my VERY first date at the age of 22. Met him from Bumble, the only thing I cared is that he was a Christian and when I met him I wasn't attracted to him. 😭 I like a guy who openly talks about God & basically have a testimony. I feel like he isn't there yet with his relationship with God. SIS, also he works as a salesman at a toy store. Am I wrong for thinking, if I marry this guy will he even be able to support a family?
Hey girl, as a sister I would advise to take your time. People grow. In a sermon I listened to yesterday, my pastor said, "Your body is a temple, meaning you have an inner court and a holy of holies." Don't let people into your holy of holies before you find out if they are suitable. Get to know him platonically and find out if he intends to grow; in his relationship with God and financially. Watch him over time and find out his values. If after a while of this, you find out he's not your type, then you can move on.
But Girls , it's good you are pointing these out but for me, when I was 25, I was more like okay so now I have to further my education and act all grown up to get better jobs and stop drinking beer with the guys every day after work and those relationship themed questions as well and health scares and real bodily changes popped up after 28 .Now in my mid 30s but your advice still resonates since I have been evaluating my life every three years since 25. I can tell you I have been 6 different evolved person since 25. And I have had quarter life crisis at 25, and during my late twenties , I think Crisis after 30s is more like mid life but in my 30s I felt and gone through changes way more intense than 25.
😆 on the conversation of helping him change things that make him unattractive, we should remain cognisant of the chance that they may say we are being controlling. It’s not everyone who’d change everything about then and not feel resentment at a later stage.. I say don’t change anyone.. just go where you’ll be happy
That woman with the man for 3yrs who she wasn’t attracted to. He probably had money 🤑 that only makes sense for this long. He must be considering marriage.
Turned 30 recently and if I could go back to 25 year old me, I would tell her that she's on the right track and to not stress so much about having it all together. Turning 30 gave me such clarity and relief. Life doesn't end after 25 y'all. Thinking that way will hold you back from truly living your best life!
This is such a good topic. I went through the quarter life crisis at 27 (now in my early 30s). It gets better. Your 30s are your 20s, but with more money.
Going through it now! (Just turned 27 last month)
I am 28 and when I was 25, I was at a prestigious HBCU in Washington D.C in the process of getting my master's degree, but all I could do was wallow about how I am not doing enough to get where I wanted to go. As I am currently 28 years old, I realize that baby.... it takes time to get there. Peaking at 25 is not the goal. Yes, it sounds amazing to say " I am doing this, that, and the third at 25"; however, hitting that goal, or panicking because you think you need to be at a particular place by 25 is the ghetto. Yes, have your priorities, but baby , as long as you go breath in your body, you got time sha... you got time. Please, rest, and relax... if there was anything I would change at 25 is putting myself through all that unnecessary stress and anxiety. Everything I worried about did not even happen.. and tbh, life takes so many turns, you just gotta learn to enjoy the ride. It is okay to still be figuring your life out post 25... that is actually normal... ten years ago we were all teenagers... why would we magically have it all together by 25 or even 28... chilleeee please
Oh lord you guys are too on the nose. I've been crying to my mom about my wasted decade of life at 27, graduating in '12, still not having a degree and now next week finally moving out of my apartment I've had with my ex of 6 years, after quitting my job, to live with my dad and focus on my health. Whew. Life is hard in every way for me rn.
Sis you aren’t alone omg! I’m 27 no degree graduated 13’ leaving the military soon and moving back to my moms in a couple months and felt the same! Like a whole ass decade really flew Df by and all these crises, market crashes and pandemic 💩 battering our life’s lol sis 🥲🫂 But through all the hardships right now in this moment we still have a chance and we gotta keep the faith that things will no longer be hard in everyway. I’m right witcha crying on the phone w/ my momma girl 🤣 but we gonna make it in our way. 💆🏽♀️🤗🫂✊🏽🫶🏽
Sis…..with everything going on I have learnt to breathe and stop being so hard on myself.
27yrs in my 5th year med school and within a twinkle of an eye I’m a refugee in a non English speaking country.Got to learn their language……..Damn 🤦🏽♀️life……But through it all I got to BREATHE
I love this! I’m 24 and constantly being told my life will end I’ll turn into a raisin at 25…That I will gain heaps of weight and lose my passion for life.. I am so excited to continue aging w grace. Even if I don’t fully understand my path. I’m hopeful that life will continue after 25. 💜 Will share this vid.
You are turning 25 not 80! 😭😂
@@manynumeritos Who you tellin! I got 29 year olds telling me savor my days 😭😹
@@sadiyahx a wonderful reminder tbh, all in due time. Love the peacock!
Lol I remember when I turned 25 and had a quarter life crisis. When I look back 25 is soooo young. Age is nothing but a number ascribing things to age causes unnecessary pressure. Your journey will take place in its own time, it does not care about age. You can try and do things to hurry it up but things will actualize when it's the right time.
I’m 29 and I can definitely confirm that all you’re saying is true. I evaluated a lot about my life, relationships, friendships, I’m more careful with career moves and life choices. I’ve changed a lot in the last 4 years that people who knew me before also see that I’ve changed alot more serious. Lost a few friends and my circle has become smaller and wiser
The 25+ needed this! 😫
You know we got you! ✨
Thank you for this episode. It came at the right time. I just turned 25 in May and I’ve been wallowing in my thoughts and fears for my future. From finances to relationships to family etc. Watching this episode was like God screaming at me to relax and everything is or will be okay. You guys are amazing. THANK YOU 🙏🏾
Glad you enjoyed sis! Wishing you every success in your 25th year of glory ❤️
I am feeling the responsibility and demand of living my dreams. I am working on exactly what I dreamed of but damnnnnnn it’s a lot!
I never thought about the reality of living my dream, I was so busy getting to the dream.
Woe...that's a sobering thought
I just moved to London and turn 25 in Nov, everything you touched on, I’ve been experiencing/feeling😩 I feel a pressure to succeed and do well here, especially now that it’s just me I’m looking after. There really is no excuse😭 really needed to know I’m not the only one, thanks for the encouragement🙏🏾❤️
I haven't finished watching but I'm loving this so far. I turn 25 at the end of the month and I'm really excited. I'm not trying to put pressure on myself to be anywhere but where God wants me to be....Perioddttt.
About the sister in the dilemma, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. She may end up with a guy that she's attracted to and end up being treated like crap. Looks like she can tolerate the guy if she's been with him for 3 years.
I feel like this topic is something a person struggles with no matter how old they are. I'm 44 and I'm constantly lamenting mentally about my status in life - what I thought I'd be doing compared to what I am actually doing & and what home and level of comfort I would be able to give myself by now compared to what I'm actually able to do. Looking back and wishing I made different decisions when I was younger so that I would be in a different place than I am in right now. Setting goals and sweating over whether I can make them happen.... But, I have an anxiety disorder so 🤷🏾 maybe it's just me.
I came across this video a few days after discovering this channel and I cannot tell you how relieving it is to hear this talked about because I will be 25 next month in August and I feel like I spent my entire year of being 24 either preparing for that crisis or actually living in that crisis at this point I am so boggled that I cannot tell the difference. But it is extremely helpful that y’all are talking about this and giving advice and normalizing it because we dont hear this. once you turn 21 it’s like you get three years of maybe some fun for me the pandemic kind of took away a lot of my 22 23 era so it was like in a blink of an eye I just turned 25 and it’s very real and scary but ladies like you make it all so much better thank you so much guys
Lol that moment when the podcast episode comes out on MY 25th birthday 😂😂😂 perfect timing
WOULD YOU LOOK AT THAT! MEANT TO BE ❤️
Wow! Thank you girlss. I am a Zimbabwean sister turning 23 in Nov but this episode has been sooo helpful despite the fact that im not yet 25. You are my favs!!!!
I turn 25 tomorrow! Excited to watch :)
Happy Birthday 🎂!! 😇🥰🤗
Happy birthday !!!! 💜🌺
Happy Birthday!
To the dilemma, yea I have been in this situation and I ended up leaving him because of it. He was an amazing guy and he treated me exactly the way I should be treated but I was younger and dumber and thought looks were everything so I let him go because I felt it wasn’t right to stay with someone I wasn’t attracted to (we dated for 4 months) fast forward 3 years later I have not found a man that made me feel the way he did, most of the encounters I have had with men have been extremely low effort to no effort and most of the guys who are my “type” physically only want to bed me. It’s sad out here and although I’m glad I didn’t waste ex time like that I wish I was mature enough back then to realize that looks aren’t everything. Now he is married and I’m dodging talking stages left and right 😭🤣
@@destinyschild5768 girl hindsight is 20/20 🤧😭
my Sunday is now complete!
We love to see it ❤️
Turning 25 in November and boy, the pressure (mostly from myself). I'm someone many would consider an "early achiever" but approaching that age still gets to me regardless. I've been taking time to re-evaluate and realise I've been letting some things validate me.
And my bout of second puberty added to the whole stress 😂. I'm finally getting round to accepting that my body (physically and mentally) is changing and I'm making the best of it.
And what you said about the clarity and defining choices, so true! I could relate on so many levels. Thank you for this.
for the dilemma, i honestly can relate. im also 24 and ive had a somewhat identical experience. for me, it was not enjoyable because although yes i did love him and he was the best in terms of character, i constantly found myself fantasizing about being with men that i actually aaaam really attracted to. i feel like its more with upbringing (for me at least) i realized growing up i was told not to be "picky" and that liking someone off looks is shallow. for me i stayed because 1. there was nothing necessarily wrong so i felt like i needed to stay. 2. i was battling with the question of "is this the right decision"?. 3. my self esteem was very low so i didnt think i could pull someone i was actually attracted to. 4. i didnt want to seem ungrateful, dumping someone based off their looks was seen as unacceptable in my household if their character was a1. so i feel like there coudve been more underlying factors at play as to why she stayed for so long. its really an internal based on your perception of the situation and what you were "taught/learned" about dating. im still learning, just in my own way now.
Context: we've been dating since middle school, we officially split at age 22
Love you girls, this definitely felt like a hug for me! Thank
My sister recommended your channel - I have been so blessed by this podcast!
Went on my VERY first date at the age of 22. Met him from Bumble, the only thing I cared is that he was a Christian and when I met him I wasn't attracted to him. 😭 I like a guy who openly talks about God & basically have a testimony. I feel like he isn't there yet with his relationship with God.
SIS, also he works as a salesman at a toy store. Am I wrong for thinking, if I marry this guy will he even be able to support a family?
Hey girl, as a sister I would advise to take your time. People grow. In a sermon I listened to yesterday, my pastor said, "Your body is a temple, meaning you have an inner court and a holy of holies." Don't let people into your holy of holies before you find out if they are suitable. Get to know him platonically and find out if he intends to grow; in his relationship with God and financially. Watch him over time and find out his values. If after a while of this, you find out he's not your type, then you can move on.
This is SO GOOD!! My sister's, thank you for sharing your thoughts. God Bless You!🖤🙏🏾
But Girls , it's good you are pointing these out but for me, when I was 25, I was more like okay so now I have to further my education and act all grown up to get better jobs and stop drinking beer with the guys every day after work and those relationship themed questions as well and health scares and real bodily changes popped up after 28 .Now in my mid 30s but your advice still resonates since I have been evaluating my life every three years since 25. I can tell you I have been 6 different evolved person since 25. And I have had quarter life crisis at 25, and during my late twenties , I think Crisis after 30s is more like mid life but in my 30s I felt and gone through changes way more intense than 25.
This is so timely and so validating. Its answering all the questions I’ve been having.
Omg!!! So excited I found this by chance! Coming back to listen to the whole thing. Let me make smth to eat first 😳
Welcome boo! We are luck to have you 💕
Really great episode ladies!!
😆 on the conversation of helping him change things that make him unattractive, we should remain cognisant of the chance that they may say we are being controlling. It’s not everyone who’d change everything about then and not feel resentment at a later stage..
I say don’t change anyone.. just go where you’ll be happy
Me right now I’m 24 and I’m just like what am I doing ?
If it’s just a grooming/styling thing that he’s willing to go through….it could be fun to do a couples’ selfcare/makeover journey together.
I am 28, but your advice is always fitting :) thank yiu!
Happy it did ❤️
Yesssss! The belllll always gives. Love my sisters
Love it and love you ❤️
not the mean girls reference @17:29 lmfaoooooooooo
Lol what do you mean by "we are not young nor old" at 25! Then what are 35 year olds? elders?😭
Yeah I’ve seen older people call 25 year olds “baby adults”
😂 not chiefteness of the community!
❤❤❤❤❤
That woman with the man for 3yrs who she wasn’t attracted to. He probably had money 🤑 that only makes sense for this long. He must be considering marriage.
I think so too
😂😂
Hey did anyone catch the name of the book Renee recommended?
The defining decade
✨grievous error✨
i feel seen :)
Omgad I’m exactly there just turned 26 yesterday and I more than ever feel the pressure of getting my life together which is still not the case 🥲