I came across a guy on an app once who politely asked me what I’m looking for, and I told him I’m looking to meet new people and see if we vibe and find my person, and he said ok that’s cool but he’s looking to hook up so he’s not the one for me. And this was the most polite and understanding conversation and it ended very amicably, no feelings were hurt and no time wasted. Why can’t they all be like that? Just TELL me! That way you won’t waste either my time or yours.
I've had one of those too! It was such a pleasant and respectful exchange and kind of gave me faith in the apps again for a lil while. I hope everyone has those exchanges occasionally
That is how it's done. Not on a dating app, but my now husband approached me with his deal breakers within our first couple conversations. We weren't even dating, but it was nice to not worry about wasting time and energy.
🦃 I left my ex husband the day after our 8th wedding anniversary. I limped out that door with a 13cm (6 inches) blood clot in my leg, a pseudomonous infection in my infusion port, a reconstructed elbow from a recent fall off a ladder, while bald and breastless during chemo at 33!!! Life is so good now. Leaving tomorrow on a six week European holiday to celebrate six years cancer free! Life is good 😊
I hope you got here (Europe) safely and will have a great trip 😃 Can I ask as your name sounds Dutch in origin - are you planning to visit the Netherlands?
I don’t ever leave comments but I have to for this!! I was engaged once and he was murdered 6 months before our wedding. YOU are not damaged goods. Nor did you ask for what happened. The right person will come along for you like the right one came along for me. I have been married for 20 years and have a beautiful family now. You are twice the person “CHAD” is for putting yourself out there again!!!!
I buried two love of my lives first one was murdered second one never got the heart transplant he needed and yes he'd had it since he was a child and needed the heart transplant He didn't get to see 30. The third one ended up having a brain aneurysm which changed his personality he was a combat veteran active duty The only wound he ever received caused it but they didn't know it existed until it blew. Our engagement was immediately over His commanding officer felt so bad for both of us He was forced out of the military. My husband that I didn't marry until I was 27 and I felt so proud that I had not jumped the gun like all my other girlfriends and I've been careful and tried not to be on the rebound I lost him because we were in a car accident and he cracked the windshield with his head ended up losing his mind yes became violent lost his personality I had to leave or like the sheriff's department felt They would be finding me in a ditch dead somewhere or a guy felt one of us would accidentally kill the other in self-defense on my side and him is uncontrollable rage that he just couldn't figure out what was happening. By the time I was 30 I had been through so many people that I dearly loved that I felt I was cursed. The odd thing was I honestly ended up finding someone who had been in my life but he'd been married at the time and I had been attracted to but never let him No and even gave up my job so I wouldn't accidentally do something that could harm his world later on I ended up moving back into the area after my marriage fell apart and the rest is history his marriage had fallen apart just as I married that other person. We've been together 33 years. It hasn't been easy We both brought a lot of PTSD and baggage from what we've gone through but what is life without tribulations You don't advance and you don't learn anything I watched a girlfriend have that kind of life and her husband treats her like she's a child I don't want that kind of life never have had it and I'm grateful that I learned that life is short it's not permanent and you need to love as much as possible while you have it.
I had a friend many years ago whose bf broke up with her after she went through a traumatic accident. He wasn't emotionally mature enough to be there for her so he ran away. She got better, though and found a real man she's been very happy with for many years.
He was definitely trying to inflict more pain. People with empathy wouldn't do that but sadistic people love to turn good times into bad ones and bad times into more worse times. I'm happy to hear your friend had healed and moved on and away.
@@user56gghtf I knew the guy and he wasn't like that. He was way too immature, that was the problem. He did grow up in the end, though, when he realized what he had done.
Went through this with a 58 year old. Narcissists never change. I knew it was over as I lay bleeding internally for 4.5 hours in an ER which never would have happened had I called him-around here with certain hospitals, you MUST have an advocate just to make sure you have an advocate. They thought I was there as a "junkie" BC I was writhing in pain with a broken hip, recovering from the OTHER hip replacement AND broke my femur... ). Other hospital refused to give me my normal meds-NOT to mention pain meds, and I had a seizure as soon as I got home. My fiance's wife died at the usual place they take us. I would rather take my chances at home if I can't have someone take me elsewhere. For all Long Islanders in Suffolk County, stay away from Crookhav^% Hosp. PLUS, don't feel enb to call someone else to advocate for you. By the time they realized I was sent over b my doc (who did not bother to call ahead) they ran out of my blood type and had to send for more-4.5 HOURS! Bleeding internally! For a simple broken hip. 3 years later, you still can't touch that cigar-sized spot. No, you can't even sue. I was an attorney and contacted folks.
The guy that called her damaged goods was soooo hurt that the girl was chill and normal about it, it's actually crazy. For some reason he couldn't say goodbye without trying to hurt her.... like how damaged is HE?
Seriously. I absolutely hated the dating phase. To really put yourself out there to find a real person and these people end up meeting the most weird and cruel people lol I don’t get it
Someone one calling another that betrays their own weakness, someone who would become baggage themselves in their own tragic circumstances. IMO they're projecting without realizing it, and had a cruel way of putting it on someone else. Bullet dodged in time.
I wonder in what world does he think it makes you less of a person to have experienced trauma, pain and loss? So having life experiences makes you damaged, does it? She dodged a bullet because clearly he either is the world’s most boring person or he only believes in giving hurts, not accepting them.
@@BeeWhistler Depending on your generation, he's the kinda guy we/they call a dudebro/affa male/sigma. Damaged goods is part of their lingo. He needs to touch some grass.
after my marriage I was diagnosed with CPTSD, I have severe betrayal trauma and a lot of abandonment issues stemming from from my childhood and exacerbated by the romantic relationships I chose as a young adult. I’ve done a lot of really hard work but the trauma is there under the surface. My current partner is very serious and adamant in making it known that he sees me as perfect in who I am now, because I wouldn’t be me without everything I had been through. He holds space for me, supports me, loves me. Don’t ever let a boy call you damaged goods when there’s a man out there that will give you everything you need and more.
so sorry you went through all that but i'm glad you're starting to heal. i've also been diagnosed with CPTSD (among many other things,) stemming (mostly) from really terrifying experiences with partners (romantic & sexual) that are too disgusting and horrible to even hint at publicly (don't want to trigger anyone)
Some TMI pics between couples are just plain hilarious though! My husband sent me a random picture of cords and crap from his office one day. I was in the car drinking from my water bottle as I wrote back, "wtf babe?" and I kid you not, I spit my drink out all over the car when he responds back, "just thought I'd spice things up by sending you a picture of my junk!" 🤣 I love that nerd!
LOL The women narrating these stories have some of the best euphemisms ever. The "I think I would rather carve out my eyeballs with rusty spoons & hang my dismembered eyeballs on a Christmas tree" remark was absolutely amazing (I may have to personally use that one eventually just because of how off the wall it is). Great stories & Charolette commentary!
At 38, I experienced a broken engagement and had two sick parents. The next date told me I had too much baggage and to "call him when the dust settles. Two years later I had met my now husband and both parents were in remission. I was out with a couple of girls and I ran into that guy. He told me, "you never called me". I told him "the dust settled and my parents both recovered and I'm dating a great guy. He looked dumbfounded.
To the girl that lost her fiance... I was widowed & diagnosed with ptsd...did the work and better and healthy. Went on a couple of dates... Had 3 different guys (not up to my standard and there wouldn't be another date) tell me "no wonder you are single, you are damaged goods" just phrased slightly different... And trust me they were no catch! The audacity of guys out there! So single until you match me... I have high standards because I know my worth. Keep your head up girl! Don't settle your match is out there.
@furygeist I am 68, married almost 32 years. I never used a dating site, they didn't exist back then. If God forbid I lost my husband, I'd get more pups.
It's because they could pick up on your spirit and they knew you were to good for them. It's a jab to hit your confidence. Only insecure people hit with low comments like that. Secure people respect the fact that you have been through something very hard yet are still strong. They would show admiration not deflection. When people show you who they are believe then the first time.
I LOVE that the boyfriend of the cheater uplifted her. That was definitely an uplift. He recognized she wasn’t at fault and it was all the boyfriend. He knew she was too good for the cheater and so was he. I hope he dumped that cheater and went on to find the best out there.
My heart almost stopped when my bf for almost a year asked if I was one of those people that wash my hands everytime I use the bathroom. I stopped was like, "yes... do you?" I was so scared he was gonna be weird but luckily he was like "oh my god of course why would you think I dont?!" And I told him why would he think I dont and the way he worded it. So he basically told me he had previously known some who are like "if its pee you don't need to wash your hands and he just didn't want that to be me. 😂 We are good hes great so far.
I’m sorry for your loss 💔. I told my husband (of 28 years), if he died I’d find a brilliant gay couple to take turns escorting me to the many functions we have to attend as well as the theatre, symphony, etc. I refuse to ever date or allow anyone else in my bed. I’m 54, I don’t have the patience for nonsense like wooing. My dog and I are just fine watching telly and movies together when hubby is away. Our daughter comes over every Saturday to do her laundry and makes dinner for us, I’m sure she’d still it if her dad passed. May that NEVER happen soon, Lord. Have one of your kitties give you a cuddle from me!
My mom was single for 15+ years and she was never ashamed of it. She taught me that I didn’t NEED any man. And she never brought a man around us unless they were serious. I’ve only known 2 of her boyfriends my whole life who weren’t my dad, & I’m 23. No shame in being single. I always preach focusing on yourself. The right one will come when you stop looking and love yourself first. She truly found peace this way and is an independent woman now in a 6 year relationship ❤
Agreed! Work on yourself. Fall in love with you. Heal and know yourself. Things will fall into place. Don't chase after a man or woman. No one except you can complete you.
Yep, your mom is right, and I found my true love at age 40. He was worth the wait. I tell anyone who is sad about single life, work on being your best You, and the right people will come along.
I have several severe health conditions and was a single mum at the time. I met my now fiance on POF and he us literally the second best thing to ever happen go me. My son being the first. This man has stood by my side through everything and is the best dad our son could ask for. Not all men are that bad, I promise you xx
The girl who lost her fiancé: it would have been so fair to say: "hey, you've been through a lot, I dont think I could give you the support that you may nee, because this is a sensitive topic for me" or anything like that. "Taking the place" in a life of a person of a deceased loved one can be extremely hard and not everyone is up for that. But yooo that last sentence is just straight up misogynistic af. You dodged a bullet with that one.
Exactly!!! Like, dealing with someone who has that kinda grief can be rough and not everyone it up for it and that's totally okay. But "Damaged goods"???? Wtf dude!!!
I'm leaning towards he was dating around for nooky and realized she is marriage minded type not a hoe, so he was frustrated he wasted any time trying to get in her pants. Being rude is the nature of these men type after they feel butt hurt, they can't have their way. Had an odd guy invite me out to eat on a holiday. It was last minute i was drawn between seeing friends or him since he had a pity story of people abandoning him. I checked in with friends shared his story they must have also felt sorry and told me just to go with him. seemed like he was having a good time until he learned there wasn't going to be nooky. He turned crappy and called the date a waste
Those of us who have lost someone very special to us aren't "damaged goods", but we will always hold a place in our heart for them, and the new man would have to be EXTRA special to even have a chance to start something. I was married for 25 years. My heart is still filled with him. So I've never looked elsewhere. But I understand those who want to be in a relationship. And they should.
Yeah guy could've just ended it at admitting that he couldn’t handle or deal with the idea of having to try and compete with her deceased fiancé who would always have a place in her heart and life. But decided to turn the douchebagery level up to 11.
It's hard for someone to be mature enough to handle being with someone who has loved and lost a romantic partner. I understand, since I lost my husband. Please let me know upfront what your goal is, so we can both make other choices. Men who are looking for hookups don't care for relationship minded partners if they're not ready. Save my time and yours.
When a man says "Damaged Goods" what he means is "Your life experiences have made you smarter and more independent than i am and I'm hella intimidated. I was looking for a woman who would do whatever i want without question. That clearly isn't you."
6 years ago my husband suffered a severe case of diverticulitis, ended up in emergency surgery to remove part of his colon and ended up with a colostomy bag for the next 4 months before he got reconnected. Now he has trauma from it and sends me pics of his poopies when he thinks they look off just so i can let him know he’s ok. It’s not so bad when you’re with your soul mate
I agree, 2 months ago I had pancreatitus & ruptured gallbladder (now removed) I was so in pain and swollen..I had no choice but to try to poop with him near and also to help me shower. We are 47 & 53, together 11 years.. its funny how when you get a certain age in life & truly put your trust in someone, all modesty goes out the window. After all 'for better, for worse..in sickness & in health' was part of the vows we took & continue to take seriously ❤
17:26 “something must have transpired in that bathroom” “the group rush to the bathroom” “security rush to the bathroom” the way she narrates is so funny 😂
seriously. could've said "I don't think I'm equipped for the emotions your past situation may cause. I respect you but I don't believe we'd mix long-term for that reason" instead he gotta be a dumbass.
Right? How could she respond "see ya"? Something like, "ahhh, now I know why youre single, youre just an as*hole" and than blocking him would have been way more appropriate.
as someone who is SERIOUSLY so honest and hate lying, even i know there are something you take to your grave. there are somethings not even a villain who threatens my loved ones could get out of me.
@@jenjoestar. prob just bc it was to the guys face its always the partners fault unless you and the person they cheated on u with knew about to relationship or was a friend
I think the 1st story the reason why he eats it is cause he does C and they eat it cause there's remnants of it left in the snot or boogers 😂 so i heard 😂😂😂😂
Dating apps are selling a product (women) to customers (men), and don't make money if they are successful in doing what they advertise because they lose customers and product. You can't trust them. Obviously sometimes things work out, and you'll get happy couples out of it, but that's more of a bound to happen anyway situation.
Watching videos like this is the reason why I make sure to shower my partner with love and appreciation because he’s a good man and I DON’T want to deal with men like the ones in the video
I’m with you! Except I have dogs, I’m allergic to cats. Our dogs sleep on our bed in between us, it’s hilarious. ‘No hanky panky in the bed, just sleep’ is their motto 😂😂😂 It’s like having toddlers all over again!
As someone from Atlanta who has lived in 8 countries I can confirm that Atlanta is the absolute worst place to date and that story did not shock me one bit. I've got one to add. So I was living alone in the suburbs of Atlanta, and my downstairs neighbor would always greet me with a smile whenever we crossed paths. One day he asks me out and we make plans a few days later. I come downstairs when I'm ready, expecting him to drive us only to discover he has no car. Okay... we already made plans so I drive us to the nearby restaurant. We have a couple of drinks and eat and the convo is going great until he starts going on a rant about how much he hates cops.... Mmmkay... Afterwards he tries to walk me upstairs to my apartment but I thank him for the date and stop him at the end of the stairs. A few days later there's a heavy knock on my door at 7 AM. It's the COPS. They show a picture of my downstairs neighbor and ask if he lives with me. I'm in shock because now all these heinous crimes he could be wanted for rush my mind. I signal that he lives below me because now I'm terrified this guy could be a whole murderer. I never saw him again so I'm assuming that he got arrested.
There is no shame in being single - I've been single for 8 years, mostly by choice. Sometimes you need to take time away from dating and figure yourself out as a person and realize you don't have to be part of a relationship to be complete. Learn to enjoy your own company - take yourself on dates, go out to dinner alone, go to movies by yourself, pamper yourself, and enjoy the quiet moments. Life is too short not to learn to love yourself first. ---This is in no way ragging on anyone in a happy relationship, ala "You're just saying that cause you're lonely and no one would ever date you" (someone had the audacity to say that to me once cause I said I was actually quite happy alone), it's just a different perspective.
Exactly, and I can totally relate in your statement. As an asexual, being alone isn't difficult haha ! But I have plenty friends and my family so, I'm not alone in the end ^^ Wish you the best in life 😄
Word. I wish I would have spent more time loving on myself before getting involved in some past relationships. I have a wonderful bf now, and he encourages me to love myself. So yes, I agree. There is no shame in wanting to be single and learning to enjoy your own company.
🦃 My ex broke up with me on our daughters 1st birthday. The cake of that break up was that the girl he was cheating on me with was on the phone to hear him do it. I just said ok and went to celebrate my daughter’s birthday with his family. Fast forward 7 years, that girl cheated on him and they broke up. He hoping from home to home while I got married, just had my 7th baby and living the great life now! Natural revenge.
I had a roommate once who said she and her family looked at their poop and of it was interesting shapes they would tell the rest of their family to come have a looksee before they flushed... She was aware it was strange and never did that to me and the other roommate. She was also a very fantastic roommate! But she was very comfortable talking about poop. Lmao
@oyeme538 2 babies is enough for me, you are insanely awesome!! You left that loser in the dust, you have 7 beautiful babies and kicking ass it seems 🥳💖
@@loveli420 I legit watched a man in his 50s eat a booger at a stop light behind me the other day, and I opened my door, made eye contact, and puked right next to my car, made more eye contact and drove off when I got the arrow. DISGUSTANG!!!!
The story about the stealth boyfriend is why bisexual people have such a hard time being taken seriously. Either be faithful to your partner, or be honest that you want to have an open relationship. Don't be trying to play both sides, and cheating on both!
There are cheaters in every group, so saying bi people can't be taken seriously because they also have cheaters is more a bigotry thing. The only difference is that their possible cheating pool is double the size.
I think people like him would be cheating straight scumbags or cheating gay scumbags if they weren’t bi, it’s nothing to do with sexuality and all to do with being a cheating scumbag
12:50 [Disclaimer, NOT A WOMAN, but very much read that way online, to keep the context right and I know there's going to be someone who is making assumptions-- I don't know what it is like for cishet women in reality.] One time I went out with a friend and some friends of friends, and this dude kept buying me drinks. I was very open about being a committed relationship. He knew this wasn't going anywhere. He wanted to do the _do_ after I was drunk. Drunk me is still not a cheater. He went out of his way to get my number from my friend to tell me I was too uptight and I'm not good looking enough to turn anyone down. Next time we saw each other, he hid his damn face. This was at least 10 years ago. The men have BEEN this bold over text, but they're never bold enough to say it to your face.
The damaged goods thing for me... what it makes ME think about... is some guys that just want to shaboink, want someone easy to trick... they don't want someone with enough experience to see what their doing... or trying to do
Or maybe she was just too much for him? Her attitude kinda makes her come off as extremely jaded, and nobody wants to be around that all the time. Her eyes even say “I’m dead inside”. 😂
This is why I tell people that you never know someone until you travel with them. You are out of your comfort zone, anything can go wrong will, you have to roll with spontaneity and organization at the same time. You have high expectations and think a vacation will be all roses and gumdrops, but that’s how you find out who someone really is. Also why I’ve been with my partner for 7 years 😅 We are the best travel partners ♥️
When his boyfriend said "You know I've got your location", that's because he doesn't trust him, he has to keep an eye on him. Probably not the first time cheating. Saying to her, "Oh you beautiful girl", is like letting her know that he knows it's not her fault, it his cheating ass mans that's at fault. This was some fine tea today Charlotte. 💖💖
One thing I learned about dating apps is just meet them in person asap. I hate small talk over apps, you cant see their mannerisms. Also, dont put too much information on your profile, its more fun to figure out things about a person organically. I met my fiancee on Hinge and he is literally my soulmate. We went on our first date the day after we matched, and we became exclusive on our second date. It was the BEST first date I have ever been on, I felt so comfortable talking to him. It did take about 10 failed dates to get to him, but just keep trying. Hinge will start curating new matches based on previous matches.
I disagree, as a single parent I took my time before meeting anyone in person. The strategy did pay off and I have been married to my dating app partner for 12 years now 👍🏻
@@EAM-o8v whatever works best for you 🥰. I can usually tell pretty quick what someones intentions are. I didnt want a texting buddy. I wanted dates and talk in person. Look at us now, both happy taken 🥰
@@EAM-o8v Thats the exciting part about being individuals! We had different ways of doing thing but we both found lifelong partners. I personally didnt fancy being anyone's texting buddy, I wanted dates. It worked for me!
I have limited time and will to go on a date. I'm not going to commit to spending 2 to 3 hours with a stranger when they can't even hold my interest while chatting. Also, I find it hard to be attracted to people from looks only. So if their profiles have nothing on them, I'm swiping whichever way is no. 🤷🏻♀️ - we are all very different I guess.
One time, this guy I'd been seeing for about 4 months exclusively at that point, got really drunk one night and started crying to be about being SAed as a child, and he just sobbed in my arms.. my heart ached for him, so as I was running my fingers through his hair and rubbing his back, while he cried into my chest.. without thinking, I inadvertently told him that I had been through the same as a child.. naively expecting this to comfort him, and assure him that I wasn't judging him for something he had no control over, as the child.. He immediately sent me home, without explanation.. Texted me a day or two later, ending things abruptly!! And he'd just literally been telling me he loved me when I'd seen him last, so I asked why.. and he said, "I just think you're gonna be damaged bc of that childhood experience and I'm not in a place to handle someone else's baggage." And I was like.. "wait.. what..? 😭😭 .. I only even told you that, which you clearly couldn't tell before, when you were putting yourself down to show you that it didn't change you as a person." I was just trying to explain that I wasn't judging him for that or seeing him as less, and ironically, he thought my past experience which never came up, was somehow too much for the guy who got drunk and cried every weekend to me about it happening to him.. and it never bothered me..!! 😭😭🫶🏻 I only felt empathy for him.. 😔 #sigh
Was at the gym doing my post workout cardio today and looked down from the stairmaster and someone in front of me was watching one of your videos. I immediately smiled because I love your videos.
I really like the new format of giving us a quick glimpse of each upcoming story. It’s neat to watch your content progress. Been watching you since IO, and you’re so big now! Go you!
Lately i have been binging Charlotte’s videos and every time i read a reddit post, I somehow read it in her tone 😂😂😂😂. Last friday my hubby said something and i reacted by saying “ABSOLUTELY NOT” you should have seen his reaction 😅😅😅😅
I figured out everytime my ex that I was with for 6 years and had 2 kids together would bring me home flowers on a random day and not a special occasion that he had cheated on me. I thought he was just thinking of me and bought me some flowers as a "good" boyfriend/husband might do but no. It was only out of guilt for cheating on me and/or trying to distract me from the fact that he had been "distant" lately.
@@StrangeFacinations no, most of them happen when he went out with his cousin and would stay the night over at his place after a night out at the bar that was right down the street from his cousins house which wasn't unusual because there were many times that we both went and would stay the night there to not have to drive home after drinking. Their was only one he took to a motel which was a girl from work but the type of job he had he would come home smelling like bearing grease and just general vehicle fluid smell and would get straight in the shower so I wouldn't have noticed a motel soap smell.
@sheilamartin880 I see. Yeah, staying with a relative to avoid drunk driving makes sense, good cover. I'm glad you figured it out and are doing well now. I had a boyfriend tell me he lost $100 out his car window and stayed out looking for it. He actually spent the money on drugs. Obvious lie.
@@Tinkerbell.Jumpout lmao right though!!! Thank God my husband is like me, bathroom humor is funny, but I don’t need to see it hear it or smell it. Lol farts are funny, but leave the room to fart.
My brother in law was dating a State Farm fire claims adjuster who caught her own home on fire by leaving a candle unattended...TWICE. Yes, she was so dumb she could not learn a lesson. After she caught her second house on fire, she quit her job because she said she couldn't handle the claimants whining about everything they had lost to fire when it had happened to her TWICE.
I am 53 years old I work for myself as a massage therapist my children are grown and I have been divorced for like 15 years. In that time I've had one serious relationship. Since that serious relationship I have gone on maybe half a dozen dates and none in the last like 3 years. My kids and people ask me all the time why am I not dating and trust me when I say I'm perfectly okay and these stories are exactly why I'm okay LOL totally okay by myself!!
I widowed at 45 after 25.5 yrs marriage to my soul mate. he made me promise to find love again. thought it had in his 5th cousin. together 6 yrs engaged for 5. he went to work one day and just never came home. took me 13 days to find out he wasn't dead in a ditch somewhere as i thought he crashed his transport. he bought a house behind my back, had ran up bills in my name so owed me money, was stealing my dead husbands tools out of the garage, lying like crazy. dated two very nice men after that but one just couldn't taken anybody having a different opinion than his and other was distance during covid pandemic. just too far and he wouldn't drive to me i had to always drive to him. decided i really didn't want a man that badly so have been happily single for 4 yrs now and not looking. dating is too much hassle esp when many are damaged toxic players or liars. i have 3 dogs i adore lots of things to do good friends and really don't have time for a man. i'm very happy doing my own thing, don't have to consider anyone else, can do what i want when i want pleasing myself. don't really think i will ever date again i'm now 59 but am not opposed should i happen to meet someone and we just click and fit but doubtful it will happen. my hubby and i were like two puzzle pieces. i was his queen he was my white knight. men just aren't like that anymore and i'm more than happy to continue being single. when i tell ppl i'm not looking for a man or interested in dating they tell me they can understand why and if they lost their partners they'd be same way they wouldn't be dating again either because ppl basically suck these days. i've had no women say to me oh u should be dating or why aren't u interested in finding a man. my kids are quite fine with me being alone if that is what i want and support me in whatever i decide. lost a son in 2022 daughter is going thru rough time so not that close but my 2 other sons are very supportive. they are single and no kids. my daughter has 2 sons but in custody battle with ex who's been abusive so she's not interested in dating either. all my friends in their 50's who are currently single also say they have no interest in dating or finding a man at all because there aren't any good ones out there single so seems we all feel the same. LOL we need to start a viking village of women and all live together in a commune men free.
I'm a believer that there is someone for everyone. You just have to find them. More often times it happens when you're not looking and you least expect it❤
Just wait until you have been married over 5 years you both relax and you both do thing that are weird and inbarsings and it doesn't fase you anymore!! That's when you know you have the right spouse!❤
@00:19 ive been single for 9yrs, holy shiit i just counted it out, sigh. largely been single since raising my child alone i dont want anyone around my child for the time being......
I respect the heck out of my parents for doing this. After their divorce, if either ever dated anyone, I never knew about it. Hearing my friends years later talk about trauma brought on by their mom’s boyfriend or their stepdad makes me feel incredibly grateful that both of them kept strangers away from us.
Someone that I know peripherally told us that he has been married for 16 years and his wife has never heard him fart. He will leave the room to do it. If he has a gassy night, he will sleep on the couch or in the spare room. Having been married to a man who delighted in farting around me and commenting on it, I applaud this man.
I always find this interesting because I think it depends on how you grew up to how you see these things. In my family, we farted openly around each other and would make amusing comments. And we burped and that was fine. I am an only child so there was no sibling farting going on, so no trauma around it either. So to me, this is normal, intimate family behavior. You are comfortable and are yourself around your family and you can fart openly in your own home, there is no shame in bodily functions. We did NOT leave bathroom doors open though, that’s going to far IMHO. My husband’s family was the opposite. You DID NOT fart around other people. So he would hide his farts and of course fart in his sleep anyway which I thought was funny and cute. I always encouraged him to fart openly, to be comfortable and himself at home or around me. He wished I would hide my farts when we first married and I am having none of that nonsense. I am not going to jump up and run to the bathroom every time I have to fart, that’s ridiculous. It took him about 10 years to start farting in front of me and I was happy about it. It meant he was comfortable with me and that he knew I wasn’t going to shame him for it and that I would still love him, farts and all.
wherever you may be let your wind blow free... church or chapel... let it rattle, if you have ever wondered why farts smell, its to let deaf people join in the fun....
My husband and I have been married almost 20 years and I still apologize when I fart around him. He thinks it’s cute. I just had major surgery a couple weeks ago and after you have abdominal surgery you end up farting a _lot_ . So I’m stuck in a hospital bed and he’s trying to take care of me and I’m halfway out of my mind from the meds, then I keep farting involuntarily. I could not stop saying “excuse me” and “I’m sorry”. He kept telling me it’s fine and to stop, but I was nearly crying because I was saying it so much, which made him laugh because it was so unnecessary, lol.
The first time I saw Mike on here with Charlotte, I was like, "They better hurry up and put a ring on it! They are a perfect match for each other's weird!" So, when they got engaged, I was like, "Boom! Called it!" 😁 Side note: My husband and I have been married for about 22 years now. Sometimes I will tell him, "I like you. You're just the right kind of weird." It's one of my favorite ways of telling him I love him. 😊
My husband was constantly asking what I was doing when I went to the bathroom. I have IBS. One day, I sent him a pic of what I was "doing" in the bathroom. I decided I like sending pics of what I was doing in the bathroom even when he didn't ask me. Eventually, he screamed at me to stop, so I did. He stopped asking but sometimes will ask and I remind him of he needs a pic as proof 😊.
I broke up with a Canadian over the 4th of July lol. He thought it meant to get really drunk, start fights with my loved ones, and drop the news that he was cheating on me the last 4 years. Idk what is worse, being cheating on or being told you were as a way to hurt your feelings. Both stand points clearly broke my trust in him. I dodge a bullet though! Last I heard, his parents kicked him out for not getting the covid shot and he's deep in the alps. Good to know he's even further away from me!
On the 'doing everything right' side of things, not all of them are compensating for something! My fiance bought me a live orchid in the pot for valentine's day.
Hi Charlotte! I'm on a stay-cation this week and im laying in bed drinking coffee and watching The Petty Potato Queen!!!! 👑 Thank you for always making me smile 💜
If you don't want him to pick you up at your home on the first date, don't allow him to send you a ride, Uber, Lyft, or anything else. They will still have or need your address.
The eight months that I was dating my ex, he never knew where I lived and worked but he only knew where my college was because he picked me up from there several times for our dates. I only Ubered and Lyfted myself to meet him.
If i read a text that stare early in the morning, im going back to sleep hoping to wake up from that nightmare. Ill pay for your therapist and your therapist’s therapist 😂
I've never heard of guy calling his date MF! That's insanity! Usually a smart guy will use sweetie, hun, loveeee.... I freaking hate when I just start talking to a guy and he's calling me love right away, Big fat red flag!
I too, am suspicious when guys are overly sweet at first. It’s like love bombing… & usually it’s to cover up something they don’t want you to realize about them.
Definitely been told I was “damaged goods” because I mentioned that I took a five month hiatus from dating after my last break up so I could fully process and move on. Apparently that’s a huge red flag in boy land if your not down to jump on the first person who walks by
4:10 I don't know, I think that's an over reaction. It wasn't something like, I don't know, he eats dog food. Or like, he eats cheetos in his computer and never wipe his hands or the mess to keep using it. I'm a lesbian, and as a lesbian, I'm telling you, if that's the WORST he can muster to top off weird or disgusting habits, he's really decent. I grew up with a younger brother, and even not related male frtiends, who would eat or drink things that make you gassy on purpose and then have competitions to see who could make the biggest and most smelly fart. I'm not joking, and from what I could gather later in life, it's not even the worst, that's pretty much a standard.
Same, I was really confused why she and Charlotte were THAT grossed out. I mean, yeah it's kinda gross, but nothing that would shock me 🤷🏻♀️ I was expecting some weird sexual shit to come. 😂
My husband and I have been married for 35 years and to this day neither one of us has ever seen the other one sitting on the toilet, let alone actually peeing or 💩 in front of each other. We have never tooted in front of each other either, it’s just something that we both feel is a private matter and does not need to be shared between us. We don’t even burp in front of each other unless it is one of those that you just can’t stifle. It’s kept us together for 35 years and that’s what works for us!
I was married for 25 years and same, we kept all of that as private. We are still friends with my ex and when he started going out with a girl he was shocked when she started farting, burping in front of him, He didn't like that at all 😂😂😂
I really can't stand it when people fart or burp around me, but especially in public. I raised my son to not do that around people. He thought it was weird growing up as that was a regular thing at his friend's houses. He was dating a girl and they were in a nice restaurant and she belched very loudly and everyone turned and looked at them with disgusted looks on their faces. When he got home, he told me what she did and how embarrassed he was when she did that. He thanked me for having raised him with the manners to burp quietly and never fart around anyone. He never took her on another date. (I know Charlotte openly burps in some videos and most people don't care. I really can't stand it and only continue watching her content because I love her videos that much. There are several content creators I won't watch because they have done that in 1 video. I guess I gave her a pass, even though I really hate it)
I feel same way. My ex husband always tucked the sheets under the mattress. It happened when we were first married, he shoved my head under the covers and tooted, I fought my way out, he ended up with a bloody nose. Never did it again.
I have a love hate relationship with your channel! Love the humor so much! you remind me of my sister and I but girllll I don’t get my beauty sleep binging your videos till after midnight 🦃
@@loveitorleaveit9673 yeah, he also broke up with me in a really upsetting way, so out of sheer pettiness I hold onto that memory and remind myself of it anytime I start missing him.
11:47 “too much of damaged goods” OMFG!! I’ve been widowed twice and I have literally the most perfect boyfriend right now. But if I were ever to be actively dating and someone said that to me, that would have fucking SENT ME!! Oooh I’m so mad rn.
only on the first story and i played what I call "weirdo chicken" with a guy I met while living in a homeless shelter, he passed the vibe check, we just celebrated 4 years together
Okay. Saying damaged goods is wrong. However, dating a widow isn't easy. My husband passed away 4 yrs ago Sunday (Sept 1). My boyfriend comes into the bedroom with me just ugly crying. Sobbing my face off. He pulls me into his arms, says sweet things, and just let's me cry. His shirt was wet and covered in snot by the time I was done. I mean it's gross. A lot of men aren't prepared for that sort of emotion. Mind you, we are in our 50s. He's a psych nurse and I am a social worker, we know how emotions can work. It still takes a special kind of someone to deal with this at least 3x a year (anniversary, birthday, anniversary of their death).
Your boyfriend sounds like a keeper - a good man who accepts you for you and does his best to both understand your position and support you through your pain. I'm truly sorry for your loss. I wish I had words to ease that pain, but I don't - I'm not sure they exist. However, if I pass before my hubby, I hope he finds someone to share his life with who is as loving as your boyfriend is to you - and I get the feeling that your husband would probably feel the same way for you. It's a relief to think of beloved people being well cared for when we're no longer able. Wishing you and your lovely fella every happiness 💕
@@AerynK I know this is off topic (apologies!), but your profile pic is awesome! 🤩 I love the flow of the colours inside the pawprint. Looking at your username, if it's one of your designs, you should be really proud of it 😍👍
Damaged goods? Loss of a partner? Guess I married "damaged goods" almost 30 years ago. My hubby's girlfriend died due to the fact she liked to jump onto moving trains. He had her HS ring (and still has it). I never ever denied the pain he felt, I viewed it positively. If he could love someone that much, it would be good for me as his future wife. He finally gave me her ring about 20 years into our marriage and said I could get rid of it. I am still trying to find her family to send it to them.
This friend of mine and I share a tradition: If our poop looks like a letter, we send the letter. Nothing else. No context. Just the letter (no pic either)
Well dayum. That's just folks not being honest. Happens all over (real Atlien here. Hate all the grief the city gets from folks who ain't from here....and don't stay here.) 😂 Dating seems challenging now anywhere. Let me pray 🙏🏿 🤓
I came across a guy on an app once who politely asked me what I’m looking for, and I told him I’m looking to meet new people and see if we vibe and find my person, and he said ok that’s cool but he’s looking to hook up so he’s not the one for me. And this was the most polite and understanding conversation and it ended very amicably, no feelings were hurt and no time wasted. Why can’t they all be like that? Just TELL me! That way you won’t waste either my time or yours.
I've had one of those too! It was such a pleasant and respectful exchange and kind of gave me faith in the apps again for a lil while. I hope everyone has those exchanges occasionally
That is how it's done.
Not on a dating app, but my now husband approached me with his deal breakers within our first couple conversations. We weren't even dating, but it was nice to not worry about wasting time and energy.
The most honest thing ever 👍🏽
This ☝🏻
@@berry7usagii my point exactly 💯!!!! Props to him for keeping it real!!!!
🦃 I left my ex husband the day after our 8th wedding anniversary. I limped out that door with a 13cm (6 inches) blood clot in my leg, a pseudomonous infection in my infusion port, a reconstructed elbow from a recent fall off a ladder, while bald and breastless during chemo at 33!!! Life is so good now. Leaving tomorrow on a six week European holiday to celebrate six years cancer free! Life is good 😊
Yay so happy for you!
I’m so happy for you! Enjoy that vacation and I hope you’re doing well now!🫶🏾
@@CometNeverLanding six years cancer free this month! I’ve even packed my copy of the Alchemist on Charlotte’s recommendation! 😁
@@MariannedeVries whoop whoop!! And as you should🧡🧡
I hope you got here (Europe) safely and will have a great trip 😃 Can I ask as your name sounds Dutch in origin - are you planning to visit the Netherlands?
I don’t ever leave comments but I have to for this!! I was engaged once and he was murdered 6 months before our wedding. YOU are not damaged goods. Nor did you ask for what happened. The right person will come along for you like the right one came along for me. I have been married for 20 years and have a beautiful family now. You are twice the person “CHAD” is for putting yourself out there again!!!!
I buried two love of my lives first one was murdered second one never got the heart transplant he needed and yes he'd had it since he was a child and needed the heart transplant He didn't get to see 30. The third one ended up having a brain aneurysm which changed his personality he was a combat veteran active duty The only wound he ever received caused it but they didn't know it existed until it blew. Our engagement was immediately over His commanding officer felt so bad for both of us He was forced out of the military. My husband that I didn't marry until I was 27 and I felt so proud that I had not jumped the gun like all my other girlfriends and I've been careful and tried not to be on the rebound I lost him because we were in a car accident and he cracked the windshield with his head ended up losing his mind yes became violent lost his personality I had to leave or like the sheriff's department felt They would be finding me in a ditch dead somewhere or a guy felt one of us would accidentally kill the other in self-defense on my side and him is uncontrollable rage that he just couldn't figure out what was happening. By the time I was 30 I had been through so many people that I dearly loved that I felt I was cursed. The odd thing was I honestly ended up finding someone who had been in my life but he'd been married at the time and I had been attracted to but never let him No and even gave up my job so I wouldn't accidentally do something that could harm his world later on I ended up moving back into the area after my marriage fell apart and the rest is history his marriage had fallen apart just as I married that other person. We've been together 33 years. It hasn't been easy We both brought a lot of PTSD and baggage from what we've gone through but what is life without tribulations You don't advance and you don't learn anything I watched a girlfriend have that kind of life and her husband treats her like she's a child I don't want that kind of life never have had it and I'm grateful that I learned that life is short it's not permanent and you need to love as much as possible while you have it.
"At what store is the audacity on sale?" Love that! 🤣🤣
That tickled me too!!! 😂😂😂
that line was great! 😂😂
Yes! Or the reiteration “how much did that audacity cost you”. That’s so deep! Absolute bar!
I’m going to start using that
I had a friend many years ago whose bf broke up with her after she went through a traumatic accident. He wasn't emotionally mature enough to be there for her so he ran away.
She got better, though and found a real man she's been very happy with for many years.
It during hard times you see someone's true colors
He was definitely trying to inflict more pain. People with empathy wouldn't do that but sadistic people love to turn good times into bad ones and bad times into more worse times. I'm happy to hear your friend had healed and moved on and away.
@@user56gghtf I knew the guy and he wasn't like that. He was way too immature, that was the problem.
He did grow up in the end, though, when he realized what he had done.
Went through this with a 58 year old. Narcissists never change. I knew it was over as I lay bleeding internally for 4.5 hours in an ER which never would have happened had I called him-around here with certain hospitals, you MUST have an advocate just to make sure you have an advocate. They thought I was there as a "junkie" BC I was writhing in pain with a broken hip, recovering from the OTHER hip replacement AND broke my femur... ). Other hospital refused to give me my normal meds-NOT to mention pain meds, and I had a seizure as soon as I got home. My fiance's wife died at the usual place they take us. I would rather take my chances at home if I can't have someone take me elsewhere. For all Long Islanders in Suffolk County, stay away from Crookhav^% Hosp. PLUS, don't feel enb to call someone else to advocate for you. By the time they realized I was sent over b my doc (who did not bother to call ahead) they ran out of my blood type and had to send for more-4.5 HOURS! Bleeding internally! For a simple broken hip. 3 years later, you still can't touch that cigar-sized spot. No, you can't even sue. I was an attorney and contacted folks.
@nalublackwater9729 I hope that had , means the way it sounds. Pasttense . Nobody needs an emotional coward around them!!!
The guy that called her damaged goods was soooo hurt that the girl was chill and normal about it, it's actually crazy. For some reason he couldn't say goodbye without trying to hurt her.... like how damaged is HE?
I'm jealous of anyone willing to put in the effort to date. These lovely people put themselves out there and deserved better.
Seriously. I absolutely hated the dating phase. To really put yourself out there to find a real person and these people end up meeting the most weird and cruel people lol I don’t get it
@@winterlove7758 the weirdest and cruelest*
As someone currently in the dating scene, I feel this.
I think maybe we gays do dating better cause u hook up for sex and if u still like each other after, u go out for a drink. And then sex again.
When u suck at dating but are good at relationship.
Callling someone damaged goods to their face is bad enough--saying that to someone because they experienced a huge loss is even worse.
Someone one calling another that betrays their own weakness, someone who would become baggage themselves in their own tragic circumstances. IMO they're projecting without realizing it, and had a cruel way of putting it on someone else. Bullet dodged in time.
The question as stated implies that he is damaged goods
I wonder in what world does he think it makes you less of a person to have experienced trauma, pain and loss? So having life experiences makes you damaged, does it? She dodged a bullet because clearly he either is the world’s most boring person or he only believes in giving hurts, not accepting them.
@@BeeWhistler Depending on your generation, he's the kinda guy we/they call a dudebro/affa male/sigma.
Damaged goods is part of their lingo. He needs to touch some grass.
Should have replied " Oh yes, now I understand why your gf didn't want to move to LA with you"
after my marriage I was diagnosed with CPTSD, I have severe betrayal trauma and a lot of abandonment issues stemming from from my childhood and exacerbated by the romantic relationships I chose as a young adult. I’ve done a lot of really hard work but the trauma is there under the surface.
My current partner is very serious and adamant in making it known that he sees me as perfect in who I am now, because I wouldn’t be me without everything I had been through. He holds space for me, supports me, loves me.
Don’t ever let a boy call you damaged goods when there’s a man out there that will give you everything you need and more.
so sorry you went through all that but i'm glad you're starting to heal. i've also been diagnosed with CPTSD (among many other things,) stemming (mostly) from really terrifying experiences with partners (romantic & sexual) that are too disgusting and horrible to even hint at publicly (don't want to trigger anyone)
Yes! This!!!! 🙌
Also glad you have support - I also have CPTSD and a wonderful and loving husband 😊
Some TMI pics between couples are just plain hilarious though! My husband sent me a random picture of cords and crap from his office one day. I was in the car drinking from my water bottle as I wrote back, "wtf babe?" and I kid you not, I spit my drink out all over the car when he responds back, "just thought I'd spice things up by sending you a picture of my junk!" 🤣 I love that nerd!
That’s a cool sense of humour. Best wishes from Down Under for a long and happy life giggling together. 🇦🇺
👏🏻🤣😂I absolutely love that for y’all or any couple #relationshipgoals
My husband & I do the same thing. Although most days it’s something funny about our toddlers being toddlers.
That is hilarious! That's the kind of humor that's fun and playful, not gross and uncomfortable.
LOL The women narrating these stories have some of the best euphemisms ever. The "I think I would rather carve out my eyeballs with rusty spoons & hang my dismembered eyeballs on a Christmas tree" remark was absolutely amazing (I may have to personally use that one eventually just because of how off the wall it is). Great stories & Charolette commentary!
lol right😂
At 38, I experienced a broken engagement and had two sick parents. The next date told me I had too much baggage and to "call him when the dust settles.
Two years later I had met my now husband and both parents were in remission. I was out with a couple of girls and I ran into that guy. He told me, "you never called me". I told him "the dust settled and my parents both recovered and I'm dating a great guy. He looked dumbfounded.
To the girl that lost her fiance... I was widowed & diagnosed with ptsd...did the work and better and healthy. Went on a couple of dates... Had 3 different guys (not up to my standard and there wouldn't be another date) tell me "no wonder you are single, you are damaged goods" just phrased slightly different... And trust me they were no catch! The audacity of guys out there! So single until you match me... I have high standards because I know my worth. Keep your head up girl! Don't settle your match is out there.
So sorry that all happened to you. Hope you're doing better.
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My gods... I swear ppl like that join dating apps for the thrill of thinking they have power over someone else. Jeezus.
@furygeist I am 68, married almost 32 years. I never used a dating site, they didn't exist back then. If God forbid I lost my husband, I'd get more pups.
It's because they could pick up on your spirit and they knew you were to good for them. It's a jab to hit your confidence. Only insecure people hit with low comments like that. Secure people respect the fact that you have been through something very hard yet are still strong. They would show admiration not deflection. When people show you who they are believe then the first time.
I LOVE that the boyfriend of the cheater uplifted her. That was definitely an uplift. He recognized she wasn’t at fault and it was all the boyfriend. He knew she was too good for the cheater and so was he. I hope he dumped that cheater and went on to find the best out there.
Agreed, he knew the beef was with the cheater not her. And she is absolutely gorgeous! He tried to play them both and got what he deserved.
But at the same time he referred to her as a bitch when talking to others.
He's a girls girl. Hate the cheater not the other woman.
Is the boyfriend bi? If so, he could date her.
My heart almost stopped when my bf for almost a year asked if I was one of those people that wash my hands everytime I use the bathroom. I stopped was like, "yes... do you?" I was so scared he was gonna be weird but luckily he was like "oh my god of course why would you think I dont?!" And I told him why would he think I dont and the way he worded it. So he basically told me he had previously known some who are like "if its pee you don't need to wash your hands and he just didn't want that to be me. 😂
We are good hes great so far.
So did I 🦃😅
As a widow after 43 years of marriage I will stay this way. My cats are all the company I want.
I'm so sorry 🫂 ❤
@@BrianAndresScottShe sounds happy. You don't need to be sorry.
@@BrianAndresScott Thank you. Have a great day.
I’m sorry for your loss 💔. I told my husband (of 28 years), if he died I’d find a brilliant gay couple to take turns escorting me to the many functions we have to attend as well as the theatre, symphony, etc. I refuse to ever date or allow anyone else in my bed. I’m 54, I don’t have the patience for nonsense like wooing. My dog and I are just fine watching telly and movies together when hubby is away. Our daughter comes over every Saturday to do her laundry and makes dinner for us, I’m sure she’d still it if her dad passed. May that NEVER happen soon, Lord. Have one of your kitties give you a cuddle from me!
@@Sorchia56 Thank you for your kind thoughts. I'm fine. Life goes on. I have my children & a lovely granddaughter. I'm doing good.
My mom was single for 15+ years and she was never ashamed of it. She taught me that I didn’t NEED any man. And she never brought a man around us unless they were serious. I’ve only known 2 of her boyfriends my whole life who weren’t my dad, & I’m 23. No shame in being single. I always preach focusing on yourself. The right one will come when you stop looking and love yourself first. She truly found peace this way and is an independent woman now in a 6 year relationship ❤
Awww! I needed to this. Confirmation. Thank you😘
I did the same thing.
Agreed! Work on yourself.
Fall in love with you.
Heal and know yourself.
Things will fall into place.
Don't chase after a man or woman.
No one except you can complete you.
Yep, your mom is right, and I found my true love at age 40. He was worth the wait.
I tell anyone who is sad about single life, work on being your best You, and the right people will come along.
Sounds like your mother knows her worth and also made sure you knew your worth too. ♥️
I have several severe health conditions and was a single mum at the time. I met my now fiance on POF and he us literally the second best thing to ever happen go me. My son being the first. This man has stood by my side through everything and is the best dad our son could ask for.
Not all men are that bad, I promise you xx
The girl who lost her fiancé: it would have been so fair to say: "hey, you've been through a lot, I dont think I could give you the support that you may nee, because this is a sensitive topic for me" or anything like that. "Taking the place" in a life of a person of a deceased loved one can be extremely hard and not everyone is up for that. But yooo that last sentence is just straight up misogynistic af. You dodged a bullet with that one.
Exactly!!! Like, dealing with someone who has that kinda grief can be rough and not everyone it up for it and that's totally okay. But "Damaged goods"???? Wtf dude!!!
I'm leaning towards he was dating around for nooky and realized she is marriage minded type not a hoe, so he was frustrated he wasted any time trying to get in her pants. Being rude is the nature of these men type after they feel butt hurt, they can't have their way.
Had an odd guy invite me out to eat on a holiday. It was last minute i was drawn between seeing friends or him since he had a pity story of people abandoning him. I checked in with friends shared his story they must have also felt sorry and told me just to go with him. seemed like he was having a good time until he learned there wasn't going to be nooky. He turned crappy and called the date a waste
Those of us who have lost someone very special to us aren't "damaged goods", but we will always hold a place in our heart for them, and the new man would have to be EXTRA special to even have a chance to start something.
I was married for 25 years. My heart is still filled with him. So I've never looked elsewhere. But I understand those who want to be in a relationship. And they should.
Yeah guy could've just ended it at admitting that he couldn’t handle or deal with the idea of having to try and compete with her deceased fiancé who would always have a place in her heart and life. But decided to turn the douchebagery level up to 11.
It's hard for someone to be mature enough to handle being with someone who has loved and lost a romantic partner. I understand, since I lost my husband. Please let me know upfront what your goal is, so we can both make other choices. Men who are looking for hookups don't care for relationship minded partners if they're not ready. Save my time and yours.
13:02 Damaged goods= too much experience, can't manipulate.
He couldn't leave it on a neutral or positive note. He had to make sure to create negative feelings in somebody that he was ditching.
That guy is ridiculous she’s had a life before him but she isn’t asking for him to save her 😂
He just wanted her to feel a type of way she wasn't feeling she don't give a care. An that hurt his ego
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19:45 I think throwing a complement was a way of indirectly telling her, he knew it wasn't her fault that their man stepped out.
When a man says "Damaged Goods" what he means is "Your life experiences have made you smarter and more independent than i am and I'm hella intimidated. I was looking for a woman who would do whatever i want without question. That clearly isn't you."
Great point!
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No it means THAT A MAN WILL NOT ANSWER FOR EVERY A-HOLE "YOU" CHOSE TO DATE
6 years ago my husband suffered a severe case of diverticulitis, ended up in emergency surgery to remove part of his colon and ended up with a colostomy bag for the next 4 months before he got reconnected. Now he has trauma from it and sends me pics of his poopies when he thinks they look off just so i can let him know he’s ok. It’s not so bad when you’re with your soul mate
This is a valid one and I’m so happy you and your husband get to be together - love is so precious 💓💓
I agree, 2 months ago I had pancreatitus & ruptured gallbladder (now removed) I was so in pain and swollen..I had no choice but to try to poop with him near and also to help me shower. We are 47 & 53, together 11 years.. its funny how when you get a certain age in life & truly put your trust in someone, all modesty goes out the window. After all 'for better, for worse..in sickness & in health' was part of the vows we took & continue to take seriously ❤
Well, in that case, there's a valid reason behind it n it's between spouses n not just cuz of some impulsive stupidity with strangers.
Girl nobody cares 💩 ain’t soul mates he just wants you to look
My husband does the same as he has GI issues but I am also a nurse. 😂❤
17:26 “something must have transpired in that bathroom” “the group rush to the bathroom” “security rush to the bathroom” the way she narrates is so funny 😂
"You're damaged goods" explains why that guy is single.
Right! And of all the things to say that about, death of a loved one is the second worst I can think of.
seriously. could've said "I don't think I'm equipped for the emotions your past situation may cause. I respect you but I don't believe we'd mix long-term for that reason"
instead he gotta be a dumbass.
He was mad that she didn't beg him to stay.
Right? How could she respond "see ya"? Something like, "ahhh, now I know why youre single, youre just an as*hole" and than blocking him would have been way more appropriate.
LOL, that dude never intended to be otherwise.
as someone who is SERIOUSLY so honest and hate lying, even i know there are something you take to your grave. there are somethings not even a villain who threatens my loved ones could get out of me.
Plot twist: the villain admired your tenacity, pluck and loyalty, falling in love with you, and it becomes a whole Danny Phantom Exe skit. ❤
Plot twist, he wasnt even over sharing yet...
I mean, there's honesty and there's volunteering unnecessary information.
@@OmniscientlyMe at least him doing it that way lets the ladies know before they invest time. Imagine learning that after having kissed him...
Mood
19:37 I don’t feel he was passive aggressive, he was genuine in his compliments towards her and was mad at the correct person.
The bf who gave the gorgeous lady a compliment wasn't angry with her... He's angry with his bf! Classy but sassy!
Idk he said she was beautiful, then yelled at his boyfriend for going out with this “b” all the way sassy
@@jenjoestar. prob just bc it was to the guys face its always the partners fault unless you and the person they cheated on u with knew about to relationship or was a friend
Omg the way the first video explained dating apps is exactly how I feel!!!
It's exactly why I have never been on one I've heard all the horror stories, no thank you
I’ve never used them. I have no clue.
I think the 1st story the reason why he eats it is cause he does C and they eat it cause there's remnants of it left in the snot or boogers 😂 so i heard 😂😂😂😂
Dating apps are selling a product (women) to customers (men), and don't make money if they are successful in doing what they advertise because they lose customers and product. You can't trust them. Obviously sometimes things work out, and you'll get happy couples out of it, but that's more of a bound to happen anyway situation.
Everyone feels that way I think. Even the people who use them
Watching videos like this is the reason why I make sure to shower my partner with love and appreciation because he’s a good man and I DON’T want to deal with men like the ones in the video
Charlotte saying "poo poo pee pee" in another video has been living rent free in my head for YEARS 😂
@@gracelovely3838 😂😂😂 literally
🎶Poopy poopy bum bum🎶
POO POO PEE PEEEEEEE
@@CharlotteDobre 😄 🤣
@@CharlotteDobre🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉you rule🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I'm totally fine with "dying alone with my cats" if these men are the alternative 😂😽
For fecking shore
I am dying with goats, not cats 😂
@@lynettemarszal5923 anything’s better than *them* lol
Ah, the screech of the incel when women find their worth! Cats are better company anyway! Lol ... or goats or a bear ffs
I’m with you! Except I have dogs, I’m allergic to cats. Our dogs sleep on our bed in between us, it’s hilarious. ‘No hanky panky in the bed, just sleep’ is their motto 😂😂😂 It’s like having toddlers all over again!
As someone from Atlanta who has lived in 8 countries I can confirm that Atlanta is the absolute worst place to date and that story did not shock me one bit. I've got one to add. So I was living alone in the suburbs of Atlanta, and my downstairs neighbor would always greet me with a smile whenever we crossed paths. One day he asks me out and we make plans a few days later. I come downstairs when I'm ready, expecting him to drive us only to discover he has no car. Okay... we already made plans so I drive us to the nearby restaurant. We have a couple of drinks and eat and the convo is going great until he starts going on a rant about how much he hates cops.... Mmmkay... Afterwards he tries to walk me upstairs to my apartment but I thank him for the date and stop him at the end of the stairs. A few days later there's a heavy knock on my door at 7 AM. It's the COPS. They show a picture of my downstairs neighbor and ask if he lives with me. I'm in shock because now all these heinous crimes he could be wanted for rush my mind. I signal that he lives below me because now I'm terrified this guy could be a whole murderer. I never saw him again so I'm assuming that he got arrested.
You dodged a bullet with that one.
There is no shame in being single - I've been single for 8 years, mostly by choice. Sometimes you need to take time away from dating and figure yourself out as a person and realize you don't have to be part of a relationship to be complete. Learn to enjoy your own company - take yourself on dates, go out to dinner alone, go to movies by yourself, pamper yourself, and enjoy the quiet moments. Life is too short not to learn to love yourself first.
---This is in no way ragging on anyone in a happy relationship, ala "You're just saying that cause you're lonely and no one would ever date you" (someone had the audacity to say that to me once cause I said I was actually quite happy alone), it's just a different perspective.
Exactly, and I can totally relate in your statement. As an asexual, being alone isn't difficult haha !
But I have plenty friends and my family so, I'm not alone in the end ^^
Wish you the best in life 😄
Word. I wish I would have spent more time loving on myself before getting involved in some past relationships. I have a wonderful bf now, and he encourages me to love myself. So yes, I agree. There is no shame in wanting to be single and learning to enjoy your own company.
As an introvert, alone is actually my preferred state of being 😂 Give me good books, my cats and dogs, I will be happy and content.
@@heatherlowe7330 Same ! 😆
Damaged goods....she dodged a bullet and NEVER invite them to your place for a first meet and greet EVER
Does anyone else rewatch, so you don’t miss any of Charolette’s expressions?🦃
🦃
My ex broke up with me on our daughters 1st birthday. The cake of that break up was that the girl he was cheating on me with was on the phone to hear him do it. I just said ok and went to celebrate my daughter’s birthday with his family. Fast forward 7 years, that girl cheated on him and they broke up. He hoping from home to home while I got married, just had my 7th baby and living the great life now! Natural revenge.
dang girl! seven babies? you are my queen now
@@MoJodoesthingsright😂😂😂
I had a roommate once who said she and her family looked at their poop and of it was interesting shapes they would tell the rest of their family to come have a looksee before they flushed... She was aware it was strange and never did that to me and the other roommate. She was also a very fantastic roommate! But she was very comfortable talking about poop. Lmao
@oyeme538 2 babies is enough for me, you are insanely awesome!! You left that loser in the dust, you have 7 beautiful babies and kicking ass it seems 🥳💖
perioddddd!!!❤❤
The woman who was called damaged goods should have fired back with "now I understand why your girlfriend didn't want to be with you".
7:31 me coming to the comments to see the turkeys 🦃 LOL 😂😂😂😂
Booger Man absolutely broke Charlotte 😂😂
@@loveli420 I legit watched a man in his 50s eat a booger at a stop light behind me the other day, and I opened my door, made eye contact, and puked right next to my car, made more eye contact and drove off when I got the arrow. DISGUSTANG!!!!
He broke me too because WHY
And you know it takes a lot to break Charolette!
😂😂😂 booger man
@@Magical_Thinking No it really doesn't, she's been broken by Nickelback lyrics!😂
The story about the stealth boyfriend is why bisexual people have such a hard time being taken seriously. Either be faithful to your partner, or be honest that you want to have an open relationship. Don't be trying to play both sides, and cheating on both!
There are cheaters in every group, so saying bi people can't be taken seriously because they also have cheaters is more a bigotry thing. The only difference is that their possible cheating pool is double the size.
So true! Just be honest about what you want. If ur partner isn't ok with it that relationship is not for you
I think people like him would be cheating straight scumbags or cheating gay scumbags if they weren’t bi, it’s nothing to do with sexuality and all to do with being a cheating scumbag
Right???
That isn't a bisexual thing. Straight and gay people cheat and lie about who they have on the side too.
12:50 [Disclaimer, NOT A WOMAN, but very much read that way online, to keep the context right and I know there's going to be someone who is making assumptions-- I don't know what it is like for cishet women in reality.] One time I went out with a friend and some friends of friends, and this dude kept buying me drinks. I was very open about being a committed relationship. He knew this wasn't going anywhere. He wanted to do the _do_ after I was drunk. Drunk me is still not a cheater. He went out of his way to get my number from my friend to tell me I was too uptight and I'm not good looking enough to turn anyone down. Next time we saw each other, he hid his damn face. This was at least 10 years ago. The men have BEEN this bold over text, but they're never bold enough to say it to your face.
The damaged goods thing for me... what it makes ME think about... is some guys that just want to shaboink, want someone easy to trick... they don't want someone with enough experience to see what their doing... or trying to do
She implied that he is damaged goods with how she posed the question
Seriously they should just settle for pie.
Or maybe she was just too much for him? Her attitude kinda makes her come off as extremely jaded, and nobody wants to be around that all the time.
Her eyes even say “I’m dead inside”. 😂
As a dude, I'm pretty confident the 'Damaged Goods' -comment is code for 'Too afraid of being compared to your ex'
That was my first thought.
That could be.
This is why I tell people that you never know someone until you travel with them. You are out of your comfort zone, anything can go wrong will, you have to roll with spontaneity and organization at the same time. You have high expectations and think a vacation will be all roses and gumdrops, but that’s how you find out who someone really is. Also why I’ve been with my partner for 7 years 😅 We are the best travel partners ♥️
When his boyfriend said "You know I've got your location", that's because he doesn't trust him, he has to keep an eye on him. Probably not the first time cheating. Saying to her, "Oh you beautiful girl", is like letting her know that he knows it's not her fault, it his cheating ass mans that's at fault.
This was some fine tea today Charlotte. 💖💖
One thing I learned about dating apps is just meet them in person asap. I hate small talk over apps, you cant see their mannerisms. Also, dont put too much information on your profile, its more fun to figure out things about a person organically. I met my fiancee on Hinge and he is literally my soulmate. We went on our first date the day after we matched, and we became exclusive on our second date. It was the BEST first date I have ever been on, I felt so comfortable talking to him. It did take about 10 failed dates to get to him, but just keep trying. Hinge will start curating new matches based on previous matches.
10 failed dates... I've been on over 60 😭
I disagree, as a single parent I took my time before meeting anyone in person. The strategy did pay off and I have been married to my dating app partner for 12 years now 👍🏻
@@EAM-o8v whatever works best for you 🥰. I can usually tell pretty quick what someones intentions are. I didnt want a texting buddy. I wanted dates and talk in person. Look at us now, both happy taken 🥰
@@EAM-o8v Thats the exciting part about being individuals! We had different ways of doing thing but we both found lifelong partners. I personally didnt fancy being anyone's texting buddy, I wanted dates. It worked for me!
I have limited time and will to go on a date. I'm not going to commit to spending 2 to 3 hours with a stranger when they can't even hold my interest while chatting. Also, I find it hard to be attracted to people from looks only. So if their profiles have nothing on them, I'm swiping whichever way is no. 🤷🏻♀️ - we are all very different I guess.
One time, this guy I'd been seeing for about 4 months exclusively at that point, got really drunk one night and started crying to be about being SAed as a child, and he just sobbed in my arms.. my heart ached for him, so as I was running my fingers through his hair and rubbing his back, while he cried into my chest.. without thinking, I inadvertently told him that I had been through the same as a child.. naively expecting this to comfort him, and assure him that I wasn't judging him for something he had no control over, as the child.. He immediately sent me home, without explanation..
Texted me a day or two later, ending things abruptly!! And he'd just literally been telling me he loved me when I'd seen him last, so I asked why.. and he said, "I just think you're gonna be damaged bc of that childhood experience and I'm not in a place to handle someone else's baggage."
And I was like.. "wait.. what..? 😭😭 .. I only even told you that, which you clearly couldn't tell before, when you were putting yourself down to show you that it didn't change you as a person."
I was just trying to explain that I wasn't judging him for that or seeing him as less, and ironically, he thought my past experience which never came up, was somehow too much for the guy who got drunk and cried every weekend to me about it happening to him.. and it never bothered me..!! 😭😭🫶🏻 I only felt empathy for him.. 😔 #sigh
Wow! That guy has a lot going on with him. I think you dodge a bullet. You were being very caring and empathetic and that’s how he responded 🤦🏽♀️
Was at the gym doing my post workout cardio today and looked down from the stairmaster and someone in front of me was watching one of your videos. I immediately smiled because I love your videos.
I really like the new format of giving us a quick glimpse of each upcoming story. It’s neat to watch your content progress. Been watching you since IO, and you’re so big now! Go you!
@@raecheldeaton such a glow up!!!!
All honor to Vanessa for the polish she puts on our Queen's commentary. Such a big part of the channel. We love her too, don't we?
@@johncmitchell4941 all hail Vanessa!
I'm so glad you're liking the new format. Always trying to improve. Thanks for sticking around all this time, appreciate you watching!
@@CharlotteDobre thanks for that thoughtful response 💜 petty potato army for life!
Lately i have been binging Charlotte’s videos and every time i read a reddit post, I somehow read it in her tone 😂😂😂😂. Last friday my hubby said something and i reacted by saying “ABSOLUTELY NOT” you should have seen his reaction 😅😅😅😅
"HOW ARE YOU NOT EMBARRASSED???" 😅😂
She's great ❤
I figured out everytime my ex that I was with for 6 years and had 2 kids together would bring me home flowers on a random day and not a special occasion that he had cheated on me. I thought he was just thinking of me and bought me some flowers as a "good" boyfriend/husband might do but no. It was only out of guilt for cheating on me and/or trying to distract me from the fact that he had been "distant" lately.
Did he smell like motel soap?
@@StrangeFacinations no, most of them happen when he went out with his cousin and would stay the night over at his place after a night out at the bar that was right down the street from his cousins house which wasn't unusual because there were many times that we both went and would stay the night there to not have to drive home after drinking. Their was only one he took to a motel which was a girl from work but the type of job he had he would come home smelling like bearing grease and just general vehicle fluid smell and would get straight in the shower so I wouldn't have noticed a motel soap smell.
@sheilamartin880 I see. Yeah, staying with a relative to avoid drunk driving makes sense, good cover. I'm glad you figured it out and are doing well now. I had a boyfriend tell me he lost $100 out his car window and stayed out looking for it. He actually spent the money on drugs. Obvious lie.
Everybody poops, but not everyone wants to see poops. Keep some mystery in the relationship. Lol
I told my husband when we were dating that our relationship ends at the bathroom door. Don't wanna know. Keep it to yourself, for the love of God.
Lol 😂 smelling it 💩 is enough 😅😂😂
@@laurastrele ok though!!! If I have to use the restroom for any rain after the husband goes, I’m waiting at least 5 min if I can. Lol
@@Tinkerbell.Jumpout lmao right though!!! Thank God my husband is like me, bathroom humor is funny, but I don’t need to see it hear it or smell it. Lol farts are funny, but leave the room to fart.
@@erikarussell1142 same lol 😆 😂
Grew up in Atlanta and met my husband in Atlanta.
Moved 20 years ago from Atlanta, best decision ever.
My brother in law was dating a State Farm fire claims adjuster who caught her own home on fire by leaving a candle unattended...TWICE. Yes, she was so dumb she could not learn a lesson. After she caught her second house on fire, she quit her job because she said she couldn't handle the claimants whining about everything they had lost to fire when it had happened to her TWICE.
my flabber has been gasted how did manage to get job like that and amost burn her house down twice 🤣
@@pengwing638when you're always close to the fire, you stop noticing the heat
@@twiggygrl84 ture
I am 53 years old I work for myself as a massage therapist my children are grown and I have been divorced for like 15 years. In that time I've had one serious relationship. Since that serious relationship I have gone on maybe half a dozen dates and none in the last like 3 years. My kids and people ask me all the time why am I not dating and trust me when I say I'm perfectly okay and these stories are exactly why I'm okay LOL totally okay by myself!!
I widowed at 45 after 25.5 yrs marriage to my soul mate. he made me promise to find love again. thought it had in his 5th cousin. together 6 yrs engaged for 5. he went to work one day and just never came home. took me 13 days to find out he wasn't dead in a ditch somewhere as i thought he crashed his transport. he bought a house behind my back, had ran up bills in my name so owed me money, was stealing my dead husbands tools out of the garage, lying like crazy. dated two very nice men after that but one just couldn't taken anybody having a different opinion than his and other was distance during covid pandemic. just too far and he wouldn't drive to me i had to always drive to him. decided i really didn't want a man that badly so have been happily single for 4 yrs now and not looking. dating is too much hassle esp when many are damaged toxic players or liars. i have 3 dogs i adore lots of things to do good friends and really don't have time for a man. i'm very happy doing my own thing, don't have to consider anyone else, can do what i want when i want pleasing myself. don't really think i will ever date again i'm now 59 but am not opposed should i happen to meet someone and we just click and fit but doubtful it will happen. my hubby and i were like two puzzle pieces. i was his queen he was my white knight. men just aren't like that anymore and i'm more than happy to continue being single. when i tell ppl i'm not looking for a man or interested in dating they tell me they can understand why and if they lost their partners they'd be same way they wouldn't be dating again either because ppl basically suck these days. i've had no women say to me oh u should be dating or why aren't u interested in finding a man. my kids are quite fine with me being alone if that is what i want and support me in whatever i decide. lost a son in 2022 daughter is going thru rough time so not that close but my 2 other sons are very supportive. they are single and no kids. my daughter has 2 sons but in custody battle with ex who's been abusive so she's not interested in dating either. all my friends in their 50's who are currently single also say they have no interest in dating or finding a man at all because there aren't any good ones out there single so seems we all feel the same. LOL we need to start a viking village of women and all live together in a commune men free.
I'm a believer that there is someone for everyone. You just have to find them. More often times it happens when you're not looking and you least expect it❤
So excited that the potato queen is almost at 2 million followers!
Me too
especially if we've been here before her first million 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽her growth is amazing !!
@@almondbl0ssom YEAH IT'S GREAT TO SEE THE GROWTH
SO CLOSEEEEE it will happen this month!
@CharlotteDobre finger crossed 🤞
Charlotte, remember you said we'd all go on a cruise when you hit 2 million? I've never been on a cruise
The first video, my daughter always says a relationship is: "When one weird person meets another weird person, so they can be one weird together "😂
I love this 🙌
@@jaksplatt 😊❤️
Just wait until you have been married over 5 years you both relax and you both do thing that are weird and inbarsings and it doesn't fase you anymore!! That's when you know you have the right spouse!❤
@00:19 ive been single for 9yrs, holy shiit i just counted it out, sigh. largely been single since raising my child alone i dont want anyone around my child for the time being......
Excellent choice 👌 👏🏾 I love you for this!
That’s soooo understandable. People are wierd. Much respect to you for taking your child into consideration.
Amen sister! Me tooo!! Trust me it's better this way!!
Same! I had a long distance relationship for 4 years because I didn't want strangers around my kids! Now I'm happy to be single for life! ❤️❤️❤️
I respect the heck out of my parents for doing this. After their divorce, if either ever dated anyone, I never knew about it. Hearing my friends years later talk about trauma brought on by their mom’s boyfriend or their stepdad makes me feel incredibly grateful that both of them kept strangers away from us.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤ 🦃
We say "Hello Petty Potatoes". Repeat after me; Hello Petty Potatoes😊
Good morning ❤
good morning 🌞🌞❤
Gooooood morning!
Hello petty potato
When you are left with a bill because their partner shows up, my first thought is catfished. Like they do that to get their food paid for.
Someone that I know peripherally told us that he has been married for 16 years and his wife has never heard him fart. He will leave the room to do it. If he has a gassy night, he will sleep on the couch or in the spare room. Having been married to a man who delighted in farting around me and commenting on it, I applaud this man.
I always find this interesting because I think it depends on how you grew up to how you see these things. In my family, we farted openly around each other and would make amusing comments. And we burped and that was fine. I am an only child so there was no sibling farting going on, so no trauma around it either. So to me, this is normal, intimate family behavior. You are comfortable and are yourself around your family and you can fart openly in your own home, there is no shame in bodily functions. We did NOT leave bathroom doors open though, that’s going to far IMHO.
My husband’s family was the opposite. You DID NOT fart around other people. So he would hide his farts and of course fart in his sleep anyway which I thought was funny and cute. I always encouraged him to fart openly, to be comfortable and himself at home or around me. He wished I would hide my farts when we first married and I am having none of that nonsense. I am not going to jump up and run to the bathroom every time I have to fart, that’s ridiculous. It took him about 10 years to start farting in front of me and I was happy about it. It meant he was comfortable with me and that he knew I wasn’t going to shame him for it and that I would still love him, farts and all.
Aw man so they never play guess the fart, they're missing out!
wherever you may be let your wind blow free... church or chapel... let it rattle, if you have ever wondered why farts smell, its to let deaf people join in the fun....
I wish!! My husband basically farts as a greeting 😂 married 29 years now.
My husband and I have been married almost 20 years and I still apologize when I fart around him. He thinks it’s cute.
I just had major surgery a couple weeks ago and after you have abdominal surgery you end up farting a _lot_ .
So I’m stuck in a hospital bed and he’s trying to take care of me and I’m halfway out of my mind from the meds, then I keep farting involuntarily.
I could not stop saying “excuse me” and “I’m sorry”.
He kept telling me it’s fine and to stop, but I was nearly crying because I was saying it so much, which made him laugh because it was so unnecessary, lol.
"damaged goods"! The scream I scrumpt lol
scrumpt ❤
"Scrumpt" is now in my vocabulary.
Thank you 😅
@@a.kinsman Charlotte always has some great words to add.
Maybe he's the one with damaged goods and is projecting or he has a very skewed outlook on life.
THE GASP I GUSPT AT “too damaged” 😭🤦🏼♀️
The first time I saw Mike on here with Charlotte, I was like, "They better hurry up and put a ring on it! They are a perfect match for each other's weird!" So, when they got engaged, I was like, "Boom! Called it!" 😁
Side note: My husband and I have been married for about 22 years now. Sometimes I will tell him, "I like you. You're just the right kind of weird." It's one of my favorite ways of telling him I love him. 😊
My hubs and I enjoy Out-WTFing each other
LOL...if anyone asks you if you can top their weirdness, it's NOT a contest. Laugh and just say, "Wow, you win!"
I usually play it ironically and say things like sometimes I put cold drinks right on the table without a coaster.
My husband was constantly asking what I was doing when I went to the bathroom. I have IBS. One day, I sent him a pic of what I was "doing" in the bathroom. I decided I like sending pics of what I was doing in the bathroom even when he didn't ask me. Eventually, he screamed at me to stop, so I did. He stopped asking but sometimes will ask and I remind him of he needs a pic as proof 😊.
That is perfect malicious compliance! I hope you are doing okay.
Charlotte said: It's 7 o'clock on the dot, I'm in my drop top crusin' the streets. 😂😂
I broke up with a Canadian over the 4th of July lol. He thought it meant to get really drunk, start fights with my loved ones, and drop the news that he was cheating on me the last 4 years. Idk what is worse, being cheating on or being told you were as a way to hurt your feelings. Both stand points clearly broke my trust in him. I dodge a bullet though! Last I heard, his parents kicked him out for not getting the covid shot and he's deep in the alps. Good to know he's even further away from me!
Glad to hear you are free, sis!! lol deep in the alps
Oh, @ResilientKiwi. I'm so sorry! That guy was a jerk!
On the 'doing everything right' side of things, not all of them are compensating for something! My fiance bought me a live orchid in the pot for valentine's day.
Thanks!
“I’m gonna damage your goods”😂😂
I find being blunt most attractive in a Lady. Not brash or loud, but calmly getting to the point. 🙂
Eeeewwww! Damaged goods!? For a woman who is dealing with grief!? The audacity😮😮😮😮
Putting his own weakness out there ...
You’re never “damaged goods” to the right person.
When they disrespect you, they did you a favor by showing you who they are 😮
Hi Charlotte! I'm on a stay-cation this week and im laying in bed drinking coffee and watching The Petty Potato Queen!!!! 👑 Thank you for always making me smile 💜
@@kristenferioli7018 cheers! Have a relaxing staycation my friend!!! I hope it is ever so rewarding.
If you don't want him to pick you up at your home on the first date, don't allow him to send you a ride, Uber, Lyft, or anything else. They will still have or need your address.
Exactly, i was a bit confused about this to be honest.
Lol, scratching my head at that
The eight months that I was dating my ex, he never knew where I lived and worked but he only knew where my college was because he picked me up from there several times for our dates. I only Ubered and Lyfted myself to meet him.
5:17 I have Crohn’s disease. I would NEVER do that to anyone 😂
If i read a text that stare early in the morning, im going back to sleep hoping to wake up from that nightmare. Ill pay for your therapist and your therapist’s therapist 😂
I've never heard of guy calling his date MF! That's insanity! Usually a smart guy will use sweetie, hun, loveeee.... I freaking hate when I just start talking to a guy and he's calling me love right away,
Big fat red flag!
One slip up maybe, but after that .. just wow! A guy doesn't have to be smart or fake it, just be civil. this guy didn't have it in him.
The minute someone called me mother....I would have left.
Not me getting a Hinge ad while watching a video reacting to dating app stories gone wrong lol
I too, am suspicious when guys are overly sweet at first. It’s like love bombing… & usually it’s to cover up something they don’t want you to realize about them.
Definitely been told I was “damaged goods” because I mentioned that I took a five month hiatus from dating after my last break up so I could fully process and move on. Apparently that’s a huge red flag in boy land if your not down to jump on the first person who walks by
In BOY land, yes. Hopefully, MAN land will be much better 😉
Girl you’re SO CLOSE to 2 million on YT, you got this!
21:12 😲 STOP right there. You had me at, "he's only lighting one!" No. Just NO! HUGE RED FLAG! How could any _sane_ person do that???
Tbh my autistic best friend does this, in her mind she's "making it last longer"
in the end of Charlottes videos the music used to say 'we're bringing you the mike' and now the Queen has her Mike😍🤩🥰💅💘
yeah that was tame... and actually eating your boogers may be beneficial to strengthening the immune system as weird as that sounds
Nice one!
4:10 I don't know, I think that's an over reaction. It wasn't something like, I don't know, he eats dog food. Or like, he eats cheetos in his computer and never wipe his hands or the mess to keep using it. I'm a lesbian, and as a lesbian, I'm telling you, if that's the WORST he can muster to top off weird or disgusting habits, he's really decent. I grew up with a younger brother, and even not related male frtiends, who would eat or drink things that make you gassy on purpose and then have competitions to see who could make the biggest and most smelly fart. I'm not joking, and from what I could gather later in life, it's not even the worst, that's pretty much a standard.
Same, I was really confused why she and Charlotte were THAT grossed out. I mean, yeah it's kinda gross, but nothing that would shock me 🤷🏻♀️ I was expecting some weird sexual shit to come. 😂
I think many people eat their boogers (I don't, really do not see the appeal 😅 but I try not to judge lol)
@@Nemokiddy Yeah I thought it was going to be something sexual and fuked up too. But that was such an exaggeration.
Fr, it’s not that bad 😭
Its gross but not that gross, that would've been the last thing to come to mind because its not THAT bad. I was expecting him to be a pedo or smth
He said “is somebody going to match my freak” 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
My husband and I have been married for 35 years and to this day neither one of us has ever seen the other one sitting on the toilet, let alone actually peeing or 💩 in front of each other. We have never tooted in front of each other either, it’s just something that we both feel is a private matter and does not need to be shared between us. We don’t even burp in front of each other unless it is one of those that you just can’t stifle. It’s kept us together for 35 years and that’s what works for us!
And there you have it! You found your person. So cool!
I was married for 25 years and same, we kept all of that as private. We are still friends with my ex and when he started going out with a girl he was shocked when she started farting, burping in front of him, He didn't like that at all 😂😂😂
I really can't stand it when people fart or burp around me, but especially in public. I raised my son to not do that around people. He thought it was weird growing up as that was a regular thing at his friend's houses. He was dating a girl and they were in a nice restaurant and she belched very loudly and everyone turned and looked at them with disgusted looks on their faces. When he got home, he told me what she did and how embarrassed he was when she did that. He thanked me for having raised him with the manners to burp quietly and never fart around anyone. He never took her on another date. (I know Charlotte openly burps in some videos and most people don't care. I really can't stand it and only continue watching her content because I love her videos that much. There are several content creators I won't watch because they have done that in 1 video. I guess I gave her a pass, even though I really hate it)
I feel same way. My ex husband always tucked the sheets under the mattress. It happened when we were first married, he shoved my head under the covers and tooted, I fought my way out, he ended up with a bloody nose. Never did it again.
@@sylviajones6745😂😂😂
I have a love hate relationship with your channel! Love the humor so much! you remind me of my sister and I but girllll I don’t get my beauty sleep binging your videos till after midnight 🦃
Girl same 💅
5:26 My ex forgot to flush the toilet one time after he pooped. I didn’t say anything to him about it of course, but I’m still haunted by that sight.
Oh Honey, in any marriage or relationship you'll come across the occasional non flusher. It's awful. But it happens.
@@loveitorleaveit9673 yeah, he also broke up with me in a really upsetting way, so out of sheer pettiness I hold onto that memory and remind myself of it anytime I start missing him.
Was it... Hefty?
I will petition for an exorcism to remove that from your soul. 🙏
How does anyone forget to flush ??
11:47 “too much of damaged goods”
OMFG!! I’ve been widowed twice and I have literally the most perfect boyfriend right now. But if I were ever to be actively dating and someone said that to me, that would have fucking SENT ME!! Oooh I’m so mad rn.
Absolutely love your content, you really brighten my day much love from the UK ❤❤❤❤❤
only on the first story and i played what I call "weirdo chicken" with a guy I met while living in a homeless shelter, he passed the vibe check, we just celebrated 4 years together
Okay. Saying damaged goods is wrong. However, dating a widow isn't easy. My husband passed away 4 yrs ago Sunday (Sept 1).
My boyfriend comes into the bedroom with me just ugly crying. Sobbing my face off.
He pulls me into his arms, says sweet things, and just let's me cry. His shirt was wet and covered in snot by the time I was done. I mean it's gross.
A lot of men aren't prepared for that sort of emotion. Mind you, we are in our 50s. He's a psych nurse and I am a social worker, we know how emotions can work. It still takes a special kind of someone to deal with this at least 3x a year (anniversary, birthday, anniversary of their death).
Your boyfriend sounds like a keeper - a good man who accepts you for you and does his best to both understand your position and support you through your pain.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. I wish I had words to ease that pain, but I don't - I'm not sure they exist. However, if I pass before my hubby, I hope he finds someone to share his life with who is as loving as your boyfriend is to you - and I get the feeling that your husband would probably feel the same way for you. It's a relief to think of beloved people being well cared for when we're no longer able.
Wishing you and your lovely fella every happiness 💕
Agreed, she also seems very much like “I don’t gaf what you may think or feel”..her words, if you come off cold you will be treated as such.
@@AerynK I know this is off topic (apologies!), but your profile pic is awesome! 🤩 I love the flow of the colours inside the pawprint. Looking at your username, if it's one of your designs, you should be really proud of it 😍👍
Damaged goods? Loss of a partner? Guess I married "damaged goods" almost 30 years ago. My hubby's girlfriend died due to the fact she liked to jump onto moving trains. He had her HS ring (and still has it). I never ever denied the pain he felt, I viewed it positively. If he could love someone that much, it would be good for me as his future wife. He finally gave me her ring about 20 years into our marriage and said I could get rid of it. I am still trying to find her family to send it to them.
This is a very healthy relationship and outcome.
I wish you well in your search for her family ❤
Love and blessings 🙏
This friend of mine and I share a tradition:
If our poop looks like a letter, we send the letter. Nothing else. No context. Just the letter (no pic either)
That one story was ATLANTA AF!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Well dayum. That's just folks not being honest. Happens all over (real Atlien here. Hate all the grief the city gets from folks who ain't from here....and don't stay here.) 😂 Dating seems challenging now anywhere. Let me pray 🙏🏿 🤓
I feel you with that 10 hours of sleep 😂❤ I also need that on an average basis to wake up with a smile haha