That's a good point, I hadn't thought about this issue that way. I do really feel like people are going to get data on social media and be, like, terrified of it in the future lol
I deleted everything but TH-cam and Pinterest. I felt so sad and terribly dark before. I'm so much better now. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
Same! 💜🥰✨ Oh you know what I forgot I still have Instagram but I low key hate it and only keep it for the few friends left I actually want to see but don’t really call. Twitter was the WORST. I kept coming back and regretting it so much. It’s absolutely impossible to be positive on Twitter. Absolutely all encompassing and pretty mean spirited regardless of how positive you try to make it. 🙅🏽♀️
I logged out of my accounts back in December. I check in once or twice a week just to see if there's any important friend updates that I have missed, but I don't do the "keep it open on a second window at all times" thing anymore. And I'm so much happier for it.
I do similar these days. I feel a tug to go back because I want to keep up with my friends (and audience), but I wasted waayy too much time being concerned with other peoples' stuff and it took away my brain power to do other things.
I’m not a parent yet, but I totally agree - I don’t want my kids to grow up only seeing the top of my head and a phone case. Been thinking a lot about going as heavy back to traditional living, dress, decor, etc. as is humanly and non-weirdly possible. 😂
I just deleted insta tik tok facebook snapchat and twitter a few days ago, i have never felt more free😂 i have so much time on my hands... i feel like ppl aren't constantly judging me. I agree 100%, i was wayyy to addicted to social media, felt like i had to post everything for it to have happened and I am over it.
Im 22 and got rid of my Facebook. My grandparents weren't happy about that 😅 I was overwhelmed with the amount of scrolling just to see if I didn't "miss out" on something. It's so freeing and now I realize I wasn't missing out on anything. If something is really that important I'll hear of it. Otherwise the pictures of everyone's everyday life is no longer my concern.
That's amazing. Life as a teen pre-social media, besides Myspace and xanga, was actually really great. Felt like I got to experience the fun aspects of the internet without the toxicity and rage you often see on most social media now. Part of why I got out of stuff like Facebook.
I have never heard of a single person who went on a social media fast and thought that the experience was a negative thing. That should tell you something.
See, now I respect this. I'm not all the way off social media yet, because I still enjoy some of the platforms to a degree, but the fact that this isn't just a "I left social media for a week and THIS HAPPENED 😲" video and you actually are living it out without twitter and instagram gives you my respect.
I deleted all my social media in December. Best decision ever. My exes were constantly stalking me and people were always snooping in. I have gotten off WhatsApp now. YT is the only platform I use now. If someone cares about you, they will call you
I agree. I miss the 90's before smartphones and social media took over. Back then we would go outside, walk through cornfields, ride bikes around town with the neighborhood kids, go to the pool, get chased by roosters, play kick the can at night, play cards, try to keep your tamagotchi alive, hit each other in the face with socker boppers, explore abandoned barns, watch old school nickelodeon, collect beanie babies, try to beat super Mario world on SNES, try to learn cool yo-yo tricks and accidentally crack someone in the face with it, play Goldeneye on Nintendo 64, wear Michael Jordan jerseys, rent a VHS tape from Dave's video, get scared from reading goosebumps, telling people to "talk to the hand cuz the face aint listening", listen to Bittersweet symphony on loop, teach your furbie how to say cuss words, stuff that same furbie deep into your sock drawer cuz it wouldn't shut up, doing the macarena, going to the skating rink and falling down in the bathroom while trying to take a leak... We didn't have smartphones, we barely had internet but I would give anything to go back to those days.
I feel you bro. The only social media I use is TH-cam... and some people don't even consider TH-cam real social media. It's difficult at first, but dude! It feels liberating after about a month or two. It seriously clears out your head and gives you more clarity in life.
I'm almost an adult and can remember a time when our lives were not consumed by social media. Honestly, we seemed happier back then. Social media has become an idol to a lot of us, and it's pretty disturbing. I mean really think about it...we are wasting the time God has given us staring at a screen, we have become obsessed with other people's lives, and we put so much worth into what random people think of us. Thankfully, we have the choice to walk away from that kind of life. We have the choice to spend our time wisely, to communicate with each other face to face, to get hobbies, learn, give, and enjoy REAL LIFE! Social media has its pros and cons of coarse. But in my opinion, the cons outweigh the pros. It can be used for good, and we don't need to be obsessed. It is so easy to get sucked into the trap (speaking from experience here) but you do have a choice. Life is so good. God is so good. There is much more to life than a screen. So many good points, Josh. (Thank you for listening to my rant.)
I think you're absolutely right. Social media can be good. I believe it was invented to be something good. I honestly believe the vast majority of mental health issues these days are completely related to social media. I only got Facebook 10 years ago. I had a life before it. We don't need to know everything. People never have known everything. We have a God who does. If things are bad. Pray. He knows.
The cons far outweigh the pros. When the creators of these applications come out and say that its a clear "detriment to society" there u have it. I been gone going on 3 months and God knows I'm never coming back
This conversation feels eerily dystopian. I hope more people are able to reflect and process their relationship with social media and its effect on relationships and society.
I’ve lost a lot of hope in the last year but I know that eventually this entire world will be gone and instead I will live In heaven. It’s an encouraging thought.
“...these big corporations that have become so entrenched in our society that they can make a small adjustment to an algorithm, and it can adjust the mental well-being of millions of people in like a day.” Yes. 🙌
Just deleted all my accounts last week, and I’m positive your action several months ago planted the seeds. Thanks for the great example and leadership Josh!
If you don't get rid of social media, at least disable notifications. You don't need to know everything every second, and you can focus more on what's in front of you rather than being distracted every 5 seconds.
I deleted mine in November. I kept Pinterest, mostly for architecture purposes, and I think it's one of the best choices I've made as an adult. I thought I was the only one. Seeing this video and the comments is so encouraging for this world. :)
I’ve been a rebel and never even got onto the social media train. This video encapsulates my thoughts so well. Focus on living life rather than on the internet. Well done Josh! Now I have a video to point people to when they ask why I want nothing to do with social media.
I got a facebook ad on this video lol But I always get social media ads since I don't have anything but youtube and music streaming apps. Life is better without the noise; you can hear the music better.
"We live in a time where when we get online we are either seeing a bubble of thigs that we agree with or you're seeing the craziest side of people who disagree with you." Those are the truest words I've ever heard
I deleted all my socials around the same time in November as well for largely the same reasons. I'd been inspired by former Newsboys member Phil Joel and others who had unplugged in order to better redeem their time in face-to-face relationships with people and God. It's interesting to see here how many others have taken the same step!
Social Media is made to waste time. I want to get off, but my church uses Facebook to live stream. I hate that Facebook is somewhat necessary to do any promotion of stuff.
I also am having that kind of problem, I want to post a new project I’m working on to the internet, but it seems impossible to do it without social media. There are probably still smaller websites to do it on but these companies have become quite the necessity.
I REALLY liked how he articulated this,it’s something I have thought about a lot,I especially liked the point about how it’s like these corporations have said,you can’t comunicate except in our way. I think a lot of things have happened in 2020 that has made people aware of who is trying to control us,and that maybe we don’t want them to, And what he said about how maybe we’ve reached a bad peak,and now we’re going back down,because this year has made us aware that we need to.its a great example of how god turns a bad thing into a good thing!
Thanks for this. I’ve thought about in the future using it because some of my homeschooled friends using it. (My church friends don’t.) But this video is encouraging me that I’m not missing much. But I am happy for everyone who went through and pushed through not having social media anymore. As a person being in fandoms, the idea of getting rid of it sounds very difficult. So, yeah, congratulations to everyone who made it out successfully and is now seeing improvements!
After getting cancer, I got overwhelmed with social media. When I first started treatment a lot of it was "encouragement" and was well meaning. But as time when on and different surgeries and chemo and radiation were successful some more then others, I was not able to get past some moments that were very difficult with notifications popping up all the time. I
I've never had social media, and I don't plan to. At first, I figured that I just don't need it. Now, I see the toxicity and resent it. I feel like it's such a terrible thing that has taken a stranglehold over our society, and now they're doing all sorts of dishonest and sketchy things without even trying to hide it. My friends have no problem texting me if they want to talk or invite me to something, and I really like that. Social media is so unnecessary, and the only real difference comes when masses of people delete and move on.
Amen and same here all I got is TH-cam and a pintrest for drawing and art. Social media has become all consuming i massive respect for those who stay away or use the platform to have civil discussions between family and friends
Yes. Josh you put a lot of what I’ve been dealing with into words. So far I’ve deleted all the apps. Haven’t gotten to deleting the accounts yet but I’m working on it. It’s a bit nerve wracking. But I completely agree.
Walking away from computers, tablets and smarts phones is easier than I thought it would be, the same with social media. A radio, a book and more activity is fine.
My husband and I have taken a HUGE step away from social media too, and maybe you’re right, maybe it’s our phase of life. We’re in our mid-thirties, we became parents 4 years ago, and for me personally, social media doesn’t give me a true sense of connection to people but instead gives me more to worry and obsess about instead of helping me with my responsibilities at hand, namely my husband, kids, and church family. I’m going back to more personal connections like phone calls, meeting in person, cards, texts, etc. And it makes a huge difference in my personal enjoyment of life but also my effectiveness, I think. We’re finding other ways to share pictures and keep in touch and encourage others. Social media is kinda like sugar, a little bit can be ok, but we always want more until we stop and then we realize how much better off we were without it.
This did resonate with me. For a while, I've noticed that simply logging in to Facebook initially makes me feel slightly angrier and defensive for no apparent reason. I haven't quit social media completely, I don't know if I'll ever get to that point, but I know I could survive without it. I'd much rather live and experience real life. I've recently been going out more than I ever really have before, and I love it. There is no substitute for what we all truly desire; human interaction. Nothing else has ever, or will ever, be a sufficient replacement for the real thing.
Josh! I hear you, buddy. I love that you are talking about this. I think the Social Media Monster is overtaking that ability to talk to each other. Thanks for saying what you are saying. I agree and support your decision! God bless you, brother!
I only use Facebook and TH-cam. Hardly ever post on Facebook anymore and I feel much better. However, just being on the internet in general leads to a lot of problems that don’t present an easy solution.
I started by turning off notifications, then eventually deleted the facebook and instagram apps off of my phone-- now I only go on those sites when it's a super intentional choice through a web browser. I feel way better about it. I don't know if I'll go 100% off of them ever, but I'm glad that they aren't so prevalent in my life anymore.
It was pretty early in 2020 that I deleted the app off of my phone. Mainly for the personal reason that work from home plus scrolling equals lazy employee. I may cut the “relationship” altogether but the group chats on messenger are keeping it installed. Also Kelli has a point about events. Facebook just makes planning things easier 🤷🏻♀️ it’s a powerful tool
I was homeschooled growing up, not allowed to have a phone, and no social media until I was ~15yo. Once I did get into it, I thought I could harness it’s “unlimited power”, but it ended up controlling me very quickly. I’ve detoxed a few times and now have been off of it since August of last year, and my in person in winter actions and relationships have been the source of those inclinations I so often felt when I turned to “social” media, oftentimes isolating myself even more from friends/family. This man speaks truth!
The problem with all of these "free" platforms is that the product they sell is you - think about how creepy that is. I think it's about time people seriously consider platforms that charge for their service whilst maintaining a transparent commitment to not make the user the product.
I’ve turned off allllll my social media a few months ago as well. Smh it was a longtime coming but then they were all adding extremely intrusive stuff to their user agreements. Instagram now has access to your phone and computer and can LEGALLY go through your texts and pictures without your knowledge! Facebook also has updated to a similar, intrusive agreement as well. smh sick.
This is the most encouraging view on social media I've heard! Especially coming from someone like you who deleted denial media, a lot of others look at it more negatively.
I never got on, not because it's a waste of time per say, but I didn't care so much when I had other things to do. I did get Instagram last year for my blog, but that is the primary purpose of my account. I also make sure once a day is my absolute limit. It's easier to avoid social media if you never got on to it.
I love how this had more of an air of "this is my personal experience with social media, this is why I'm doing what I'm doing - but also, I'm not judging you for your choices." One thing I dislike is when people like you choose not to have social media, and then there's others who judge you for your choices. I do have social media - mainly facebook and TH-cam, but that's about it. I do have a twitter, but I hardly use it, and the same with Snapchat. I don't understand those who look down on those who don't use social media. It isn't for everyone. And that's fine. Everyone has to make that choice for themselves - and I appreciate that this message sort of hinted at that general message.
I got off 3 years ago for allllll the same reasons. I was sick of the amount of energy that went into something surface, shallow, and divisive. Recently I hopped back on because I am not scared of it ruling my life anymore. But I am so glad you got off! You'll feel great after the detox! We have to give our kids a world not ruled by manipulated emotions and information and human connection again whether we're on or off.
I am shocked that you can handle it now, but I will just start ruminating whenever I see the insanity. That is why I have even had to mostly stop watching even Allie Beth Stuckey.
,@@markmoore8399 I guess it's because I'm still not very involved. Lol. I will only post a couple of times a month and I stick to positive things. I'm determined that if I'm going to have difficult conversations, they have to be in person.
I agree with you 100%. I deleted my accounts a few weeks ago, Twitter being months ago. I was seriously addicted to them and I saw the negative impact once I reflected on how much time I was wasting. Slowly but surely I'm getting to that point where I'm not missing them.
Thanks for your thoughts, Josh. It would be fantastic if Social media would start decreasing at one point and maybe the post-Corona-period shows how much better live meetings and conversations are, but I'm a bit sceptical whether that or anything else will really be able to make social media insignificant again. But for those that have escaped social media successfully: how do you fill the small breaks, the gaps in between two tasks or the urge for some light, short entertainment now, especially if you're single? What helped you the most in the transition period?
Completely agree with all of this. I’ve started texting my family and friends directly with information, invites, pictures, and videos. How personal is anything if it’s just posted publicly? That’s not a relationship, that’s marketing. I don’t think social media will go away, unfortunately, but I do agree with mature individuals deciding to leave it for real, personal connections.
Your friends love you. I deleted fb for like a year and no one invited me to anything. I texted and reached out but it was never once reciprocated. Now I'm back on fb and have friends again who invite me to stuff but I HATE FB.
I definitely agree. I have to share something, I’m 14 years old my name is Ryan and I had instagram, snapchat, and twitter and on my instagram and twitter I used to post over 100+ fight videos everyday just for other people’s entertainment. It was draining my mental health and there were times when I broke down because I never stopped posting videos. I thought that having a lot of followers made me feel special and loved by everyone but that’s not true. On snapchat I used to talk to random people who I thought were my “friends”... once I deleted snapchat I feel SO MUCH BETTER because i wasnt focusing on fake people who didnt even care about me, they only watched my stories and send me snaps. I definitely recommend that if you feel like social media is negative trust me delete it ALL it feels so free. just wanted to share my story with you all thank you for listening to me! -ryan 🧘🏾♂️❤️
Love this! I limit my interaction with socials but always feel so guilty or like I'm not doing what I can to grow my youtube channel or brand new business... But like you said on invites/Party planning. Why do socials have a monopoly on growing my business. idk. great food for thought! and definitely encouraging.
i'm 16, i don't own a phone. for awhile i really wanted a phone. the freedom of having my own phone. then i started noticing the amount of time that my sister and my dad spend on it. i realized i don't have the self control to not spend hours of hours on social media. i just decided, i do not want a social media . i realized that social media is not freedom.
Good for you Josh! I have pulled out of Facebook (haven't deleted my account yet but haven't logged in for weeks). I completely agree there has to be a change. I've followed this channel for years and I resonate with what you are saying. I have been so much more happy since getting off Facebook (and less stressed). Plus it's true, I now communicate much more directly with my loved ones and that is great!
My mom recently downloaded all of her Facebook content so she could have it in case it all goes to crap (because communism and censorship lol). That combined with other life stuff has made me start thinking recently about a lot of different areas of life, including social media and trying to really evaluate what are the things I enjoy, what are the things I truly couldn't live without, what are the things that I'm just kinda floating through and at the end of the day could live without, etc. Because at the end of the day, coming from my Christian perspective, I know that I'm only gonna be on this earth for a finite amount of time, and at the end of my life the only thing that's really going to matter to me or to anything is that I'll be in heaven partying it up with Jesus. But in the meantime, what are things I want to save and what are things that would be better if I got rid of. Just watching this video once has helped that process of shifting focus, so thank you, Josh, for putting this out there. I think society's going through a major shift right now...some people are fighting it and denying it, but I think a lot of people are starting to reevaluate a lot of stuff. I hope a lot of people will take what you have to say to heart and use it in assessing their own lives. Thanks for being real! Love you guys!
I think there's some wisdom in looking at what we're doing and saying "why am I still doing that? Maybe I should stop." It's great to be able to take an objective look at the ways we're spending our time and to prune where it's needed.
Loved the vulnerability! My family and I are on the same page! So glad there are other (weird in a good way) people out there like us! I think we are still a minority, but that’s okay. Like you said, there is hope. We love Blimey Cow! Keep it up!
People say all kinds of things online (especially Facebook and Twitter) that they would *never* say to people right in front of them. I have seen good, kind people say the most hurtful things. I know a few people that have *never* had a Facebook account, and I realized I can get along just fine without it, just like they do. If people want to reach me, they know how.
I stopped using Twitter a couple of years ago, went into lockdown with my FB account last year and pretty much stopped using it. But I still felt a pull from time to time and would end up coming away wishing I had not. I pretty much only kept it in order to keep in touch with family and some friends. But in January, I deleted my account and created a new one (just because Messenger is the easiest for communicating with family) uwith virtually nothing on it and only added family members and a small handful of people I consider to be true friends. I do not post other than the occasional thing I need to sell (while preparing to move out of Alaska) and have no personal information listed. Now the closest thing to social media I use is a Discord for a podcast I listen to.
I totally agree! After getting rid of my apps I noticed I have started talking to friends more regularly, BUT I also started actually talking to my grandparents on a daily basis again. It sounds stupid, but I never really realized who I was leaving behind when all my time was focused only on people who were online as much as I was. It's been really good, I don't think I have ever felt so normal 😅 hope everything is going well with baby #2, love your guys' channel.
Fantastic video Josh! I deleted Instagram completely and gave my husband the keys to my fbook account so I can access it if I need to get advice from a couple groups there, but I haven't needed to in months. Best decision ever. Good for you! Now to work on my general smartphone addiction....
I totally hear what you're saying and feel the same way. I deleted all my social media the past year and I cannot even tell you how freeing it was! Be present with those around you! Life is so good😄Thanks for sharing Josh, this isn't talked about enough!
I get what you mean with not liking being “forced” to use social media. When I started college I had to get Facebook for the clubs and organizations. The only parts of Facebook I participate in are the ones for my college clubs, but my family didn’t understand why I didn’t want to friend anyone on Facebook because I don’t want to see people showing their... craziest side every time I go on... It’s for this reason I NEVER check Instagram stories. And I’m never getting Snapchat, but that’s because I refuse to use my limited data to text by writing on photos
You're spot on, Josh. I've been a mom now almost a year, it changed everything. In December I decided Instagram was a time suck, not worth the stress, and all around harmful, for me. It's gone now, and FB is limited but will probably be gone too, soon. I have so much more time and creativity to my day now!! So much happier!
One of the best first steps is to turn off all your social media notifications. I actually still have Facebook but haven't scrolled or posted since 2018. I homeschool my kids and all the homeschool group events are announced on Facebook so once every month or two I go straight to the homeschool group page and see if there are any events I want to participate in. I also have discovered since I left social media that I don't have any actual friends. But I still wouldn't go back.
5:01 - 5:40 I agree, Josh. I hope that we as a society can learn to get along more - even with the simple things. And if we can't agree/get along, which is fine, I hope we discuss our differences maturely and patiently; helping us to make better friendships and relationships with those around us. Listening to one another instead of waiting for the moment to pounce on someone and make accusations about someone and judge them for what they belief and think is right or wrong. We need to listen and be a good example to those around us like Jesus.
Thank you for doing this vid, Josh. You put into words what I believe a lot of people are thinking about these platforms nowadays. Originally they were nice, but it didn’t take long for things to get ugly. I began to notice how FB affected my mood and that it no longer was enjoyable to even be on there. Once I deleted it, I felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I’m still on Instagram because I still enjoy that one from time to time, but have made an effort to limit my time there too which has also been helpful. Decreasing the influence of social media in my life was one of the better decisions I feel I have made in the past decade.
I had the same type of experience. Last year, I was really disheartened by the way people were treating each other on social media based on their face value actions, without taking the time to understand why. When the election came around, I wanted nothing to do with more of the same divisiveness. So I hopped off, and was only intending to for a few weeks, but it continues to today. I check in every once in a while for messages. I started to notice that what is important will still be in tact: my friends still send me what they posted or wanted me to see. Likes and comments, people’s perceptions of me, and the picture perfect live of others had become my idols, and that left me drained. I needed to reset my own mind and heart and focus on what matters most. I am hoping that a year of not being able to physically be with others will lead us to value that so much more.
In some ways, social media has been very beneficial to me - reconnecting with old friends, learning things about my health by connecting with others who have similar health problems.... but in other ways I sometimes wish it didn't exist! Or I wish that we could just benefit from the good things about it, without there being any bad things.
The older I get, the less social media I use, and the happier I feel for it. I recently scaled back my Snapchat use pretty dramatically, and have not had Facebook in years. With the exception of TH-cam, I really don’t have any other social media and it makes life a lot more tolerable.
@@brickmasterstudio9962 Yeah youtube doesn't count Also its tied into your Google account which tied to Gmail is harder to delete than anything else. So even I wanted to leave I would have to go out of my way to get off of it .
I feel this so much. I left Facebook (the only thing I really used) a couple months ago and I don’t even miss it. I’m at the point I barely think about it anymore.
Firstly, I love your glasses! Secondly, thanks so much for sharing your heart regarding your thoughts on social media. That was fair, measured, thought-provoking, and eye-opening. Your humorous videos are always class, but more videos like these would be epic, too. God bless you, buddy!
I really really love how your friends who want to show you something will just send you a picture! Something I thought of when you mentioned the Facebook events thing is that maybe when someone wants to have an event they could make a website with Google sites. I recently made my business website using that platform for free and it is simple but amazing! It would be so easy to make a website and then send that link to your friends and invite them that way. Anyways, great video.
Fact is, social media operates by fine tuning algorithms to get you to react to your feed. They don't care if you react positively or negatively. Their goal is to just get you to engage. People should make their decision from there based on personal self discipline and need. If you are disciplined enough to log off social media when you start to feel that the content is negatively affecting you, then it's reasonable to use keep it and use it. If you know how to read through the negative and false statements and enjoy the connection aspect of it, keep it. There's been a lot of knee jerk reactions lately of people getting off social media completely. Some of those decisions may not have been fully thought out and informed. If you're getting good things out of social media and can turn it off when you need to, there's no reason to get rid of it. If you can't manage all that, then maybe social media isn't for you.
I think in the future, social media will be seen like smoking-- like "oh yea that used to be normal, but now we know the long term effects"
That's a good point, I hadn't thought about this issue that way. I do really feel like people are going to get data on social media and be, like, terrified of it in the future lol
We can only hope.
Unfortunately, too many people across the globe (esp. in less educated/informed sectors) are still hooked on the vile stuff.
I deleted everything but TH-cam and Pinterest. I felt so sad and terribly dark before. I'm so much better now. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
SAME.
Pinterest is the best honestly :D
Same!!
Same here!
Same! 💜🥰✨
Oh you know what I forgot I still have Instagram but I low key hate it and only keep it for the few friends left I actually want to see but don’t really call. Twitter was the WORST. I kept coming back and regretting it so much. It’s absolutely impossible to be positive on Twitter. Absolutely all encompassing and pretty mean spirited regardless of how positive you try to make it. 🙅🏽♀️
7:06 is straight poetry
"If we all just left Facebook, or [all just] left Twitter,
Then life would go on... in fact life would be better."
Facts
I logged out of my accounts back in December. I check in once or twice a week just to see if there's any important friend updates that I have missed, but I don't do the "keep it open on a second window at all times" thing anymore. And I'm so much happier for it.
Woahhhhhhhh it's Brotherhood Workshop!!!!!!
Wait, wait.... One of my other favorite channels commenting on another one of my favorite channels!
@@drelaplante2515 wow thanks!
I do similar these days. I feel a tug to go back because I want to keep up with my friends (and audience), but I wasted waayy too much time being concerned with other peoples' stuff and it took away my brain power to do other things.
Of course @@rioforce would be here.
I’m not a parent yet, but I totally agree - I don’t want my kids to grow up only seeing the top of my head and a phone case. Been thinking a lot about going as heavy back to traditional living, dress, decor, etc. as is humanly and non-weirdly possible. 😂
YESSS this has been my thinking for a LOOONG time. You're not alone!
I just deleted insta tik tok facebook snapchat and twitter a few days ago, i have never felt more free😂 i have so much time on my hands... i feel like ppl aren't constantly judging me. I agree 100%, i was wayyy to addicted to social media, felt like i had to post everything for it to have happened and I am over it.
Im 22 and got rid of my Facebook. My grandparents weren't happy about that 😅 I was overwhelmed with the amount of scrolling just to see if I didn't "miss out" on something. It's so freeing and now I realize I wasn't missing out on anything. If something is really that important I'll hear of it. Otherwise the pictures of everyone's everyday life is no longer my concern.
As of next week, I will no longer be a teenager and will have gone these years never having a social media account.
That's amazing. Life as a teen pre-social media, besides Myspace and xanga, was actually really great. Felt like I got to experience the fun aspects of the internet without the toxicity and rage you often see on most social media now. Part of why I got out of stuff like Facebook.
You’re smart.
Going to be 21. Still no social media. Not getting into that mess.
I have never heard of a single person who went on a social media fast and thought that the experience was a negative thing. That should tell you something.
The best therapy is deleting facebook.
Amen!
See, now I respect this. I'm not all the way off social media yet, because I still enjoy some of the platforms to a degree, but the fact that this isn't just a "I left social media for a week and THIS HAPPENED 😲" video and you actually are living it out without twitter and instagram gives you my respect.
I deleted all my social media in December. Best decision ever. My exes were constantly stalking me and people were always snooping in. I have gotten off WhatsApp now. YT is the only platform I use now. If someone cares about you, they will call you
Yikes! Hopefully they don’t have your number
Your name though
the Granny is proud of you lol
I deleted all my social media (besides TH-cam) a month and a half ago and it’s been amazing :)
I deleted all of it 3 years ago. I’ve never been happier. 🙂 Good for you! I hope it gets better soon. I have hope for my children.
I agree. I miss the 90's before smartphones and social media took over. Back then we would go outside, walk through cornfields, ride bikes around town with the neighborhood kids, go to the pool, get chased by roosters, play kick the can at night, play cards, try to keep your tamagotchi alive, hit each other in the face with socker boppers, explore abandoned barns, watch old school nickelodeon, collect beanie babies, try to beat super Mario world on SNES, try to learn cool yo-yo tricks and accidentally crack someone in the face with it, play Goldeneye on Nintendo 64, wear Michael Jordan jerseys, rent a VHS tape from Dave's video, get scared from reading goosebumps, telling people to "talk to the hand cuz the face aint listening", listen to Bittersweet symphony on loop, teach your furbie how to say cuss words, stuff that same furbie deep into your sock drawer cuz it wouldn't shut up, doing the macarena, going to the skating rink and falling down in the bathroom while trying to take a leak... We didn't have smartphones, we barely had internet but I would give anything to go back to those days.
I also deleted my social media accounts. All I have is TH-cam now! You have my utmost respect Josh and I resonate with this entirely.
I feel you bro. The only social media I use is TH-cam... and some people don't even consider TH-cam real social media.
It's difficult at first, but dude! It feels liberating after about a month or two. It seriously clears out your head and gives you more clarity in life.
People are talking about deleting social media like getting out of an addiction.
Because it quite literally is for most people. And the algorithms intend for it to be.
bruh and it isint?
I wonder why
This is some pretty good advice. I should probably consider doing this....
I’ve started deleting social media and with each thing I delete I feel more free!💜 I am so happy that others are deleting it as well.
I'm almost an adult and can remember a time when our lives were not consumed by social media. Honestly, we seemed happier back then. Social media has become an idol to a lot of us, and it's pretty disturbing. I mean really think about it...we are wasting the time God has given us staring at a screen, we have become obsessed with other people's lives, and we put so much worth into what random people think of us. Thankfully, we have the choice to walk away from that kind of life. We have the choice to spend our time wisely, to communicate with each other face to face, to get hobbies, learn, give, and enjoy REAL LIFE! Social media has its pros and cons of coarse. But in my opinion, the cons outweigh the pros. It can be used for good, and we don't need to be obsessed. It is so easy to get sucked into the trap (speaking from experience here) but you do have a choice. Life is so good. God is so good. There is much more to life than a screen. So many good points, Josh.
(Thank you for listening to my rant.)
YOUR thoughtful, articulate “rant” makes me hopeful for our society’s future.
@@trejea1754 Thank you! That is very kind of you to say. ❤
I think you're absolutely right. Social media can be good. I believe it was invented to be something good. I honestly believe the vast majority of mental health issues these days are completely related to social media. I only got Facebook 10 years ago. I had a life before it. We don't need to know everything. People never have known everything. We have a God who does. If things are bad. Pray. He knows.
@@danielsandison5927 Perfectly put. I couldn't agree more.
The cons far outweigh the pros. When the creators of these applications come out and say that its a clear "detriment to society" there u have it. I been gone going on 3 months and God knows I'm never coming back
This conversation feels eerily dystopian. I hope more people are able to reflect and process their relationship with social media and its effect on relationships and society.
Josh has the hope for humanity we can only hope to have.
I’ve lost a lot of hope in the last year but I know that eventually this entire world will be gone and instead I will live In heaven. It’s an encouraging thought.
“...these big corporations that have become so entrenched in our society that they can make a small adjustment to an algorithm, and it can adjust the mental well-being of millions of people in like a day.”
Yes. 🙌
Just deleted all my accounts last week, and I’m positive your action several months ago planted the seeds. Thanks for the great example and leadership Josh!
If you don't get rid of social media, at least disable notifications. You don't need to know everything every second, and you can focus more on what's in front of you rather than being distracted every 5 seconds.
I deleted mine in November. I kept Pinterest, mostly for architecture purposes, and I think it's one of the best choices I've made as an adult. I thought I was the only one. Seeing this video and the comments is so encouraging for this world. :)
I’ve been a rebel and never even got onto the social media train. This video encapsulates my thoughts so well. Focus on living life rather than on the internet. Well done Josh! Now I have a video to point people to when they ask why I want nothing to do with social media.
I got a facebook ad on this video lol
But I always get social media ads since I don't have anything but youtube and music streaming apps.
Life is better without the noise; you can hear the music better.
"We live in a time where when we get online we are either seeing a bubble of thigs that we agree with or you're seeing the craziest side of people who disagree with you."
Those are the truest words I've ever heard
I deleted all my socials around the same time in November as well for largely the same reasons. I'd been inspired by former Newsboys member Phil Joel and others who had unplugged in order to better redeem their time in face-to-face relationships with people and God. It's interesting to see here how many others have taken the same step!
Social Media is made to waste time. I want to get off, but my church uses Facebook to live stream. I hate that Facebook is somewhat necessary to do any promotion of stuff.
I also am having that kind of problem, I want to post a new project I’m working on to the internet, but it seems impossible to do it without social media. There are probably still smaller websites to do it on but these companies have become quite the necessity.
I want to also get rid of it, but some friends i am only able to stay in contact with through social media DMs.
I REALLY liked how he articulated this,it’s something I have thought about a lot,I especially liked the point about how it’s like these corporations have said,you can’t comunicate except in our way.
I think a lot of things have happened in 2020 that has made people aware of who is trying to control us,and that maybe we don’t want them to,
And what he said about how maybe we’ve reached a bad peak,and now we’re going back down,because this year has made us aware that we need to.its a great example of how god turns a bad thing into a good thing!
Social Media seems more enjoyable for youth, but I think a lot of us are just growing up, wisening up, and gaining perspective.
Thanks for this. I’ve thought about in the future using it because some of my homeschooled friends using it. (My church friends don’t.) But this video is encouraging me that I’m not missing much.
But I am happy for everyone who went through and pushed through not having social media anymore. As a person being in fandoms, the idea of getting rid of it sounds very difficult. So, yeah, congratulations to everyone who made it out successfully and is now seeing improvements!
After getting cancer, I got overwhelmed with social media.
When I first started treatment a lot of it was "encouragement" and was well meaning. But as time when on and different surgeries and chemo and radiation were successful some more then others, I was not able to get past some moments that were very difficult with notifications popping up all the time.
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I've never had social media, and I don't plan to. At first, I figured that I just don't need it. Now, I see the toxicity and resent it. I feel like it's such a terrible thing that has taken a stranglehold over our society, and now they're doing all sorts of dishonest and sketchy things without even trying to hide it. My friends have no problem texting me if they want to talk or invite me to something, and I really like that. Social media is so unnecessary, and the only real difference comes when masses of people delete and move on.
Amen and same here all I got is TH-cam and a pintrest for drawing and art. Social media has become all consuming i massive respect for those who stay away or use the platform to have civil discussions between family and friends
Yes. Josh you put a lot of what I’ve been dealing with into words. So far I’ve deleted all the apps. Haven’t gotten to deleting the accounts yet but I’m working on it. It’s a bit nerve wracking. But I completely agree.
Walking away from computers, tablets and smarts phones is easier than I thought it would be, the same with social media. A radio, a book and more activity is fine.
My husband and I have taken a HUGE step away from social media too, and maybe you’re right, maybe it’s our phase of life. We’re in our mid-thirties, we became parents 4 years ago, and for me personally, social media doesn’t give me a true sense of connection to people but instead gives me more to worry and obsess about instead of helping me with my responsibilities at hand, namely my husband, kids, and church family. I’m going back to more personal connections like phone calls, meeting in person, cards, texts, etc. And it makes a huge difference in my personal enjoyment of life but also my effectiveness, I think. We’re finding other ways to share pictures and keep in touch and encourage others. Social media is kinda like sugar, a little bit can be ok, but we always want more until we stop and then we realize how much better off we were without it.
I deleted social media in December of 2017. Never looked back.
This did resonate with me. For a while, I've noticed that simply logging in to Facebook initially makes me feel slightly angrier and defensive for no apparent reason. I haven't quit social media completely, I don't know if I'll ever get to that point, but I know I could survive without it. I'd much rather live and experience real life. I've recently been going out more than I ever really have before, and I love it. There is no substitute for what we all truly desire; human interaction. Nothing else has ever, or will ever, be a sufficient replacement for the real thing.
Josh! I hear you, buddy. I love that you are talking about this. I think the Social Media Monster is overtaking that ability to talk to each other. Thanks for saying what you are saying. I agree and support your decision! God bless you, brother!
If someone can’t text you to invite you to something, you don’t need to attend their event anyway.
I only use Facebook and TH-cam. Hardly ever post on Facebook anymore and I feel much better. However, just being on the internet in general leads to a lot of problems that don’t present an easy solution.
I deleted all my social media last August. I love being social media free! Never regretted it for a second.
My husband and I have been off of social media for years! Good for you for making this huge step in life! It’s a million percent worth it!
I started by turning off notifications, then eventually deleted the facebook and instagram apps off of my phone-- now I only go on those sites when it's a super intentional choice through a web browser. I feel way better about it. I don't know if I'll go 100% off of them ever, but I'm glad that they aren't so prevalent in my life anymore.
Good stuff! My brother, who never got on anything, just doesn't even know about social media drama and meta. He never regrets anything
It was pretty early in 2020 that I deleted the app off of my phone. Mainly for the personal reason that work from home plus scrolling equals lazy employee.
I may cut the “relationship” altogether but the group chats on messenger are keeping it installed.
Also Kelli has a point about events. Facebook just makes planning things easier 🤷🏻♀️ it’s a powerful tool
Took the words right out of my mouth.
I was homeschooled growing up, not allowed to have a phone, and no social media until I was ~15yo. Once I did get into it, I thought I could harness it’s “unlimited power”, but it ended up controlling me very quickly. I’ve detoxed a few times and now have been off of it since August of last year, and my in person in winter actions and relationships have been the source of those inclinations I so often felt when I turned to “social” media, oftentimes isolating myself even more from friends/family.
This man speaks truth!
The problem with all of these "free" platforms is that the product they sell is you - think about how creepy that is. I think it's about time people seriously consider platforms that charge for their service whilst maintaining a transparent commitment to not make the user the product.
I’ve turned off allllll my social media a few months ago as well. Smh it was a longtime coming but then they were all adding extremely intrusive stuff to their user agreements. Instagram now has access to your phone and computer and can LEGALLY go through your texts and pictures without your knowledge! Facebook also has updated to a similar, intrusive agreement as well. smh sick.
Got rid of facebook in November 2015. Felt more isolating having it. Nobody asked me for contact info and it’s their loss.
This is the most encouraging view on social media I've heard! Especially coming from someone like you who deleted denial media, a lot of others look at it more negatively.
I never got on, not because it's a waste of time per say, but I didn't care so much when I had other things to do. I did get Instagram last year for my blog, but that is the primary purpose of my account. I also make sure once a day is my absolute limit. It's easier to avoid social media if you never got on to it.
I love how this had more of an air of "this is my personal experience with social media, this is why I'm doing what I'm doing - but also, I'm not judging you for your choices." One thing I dislike is when people like you choose not to have social media, and then there's others who judge you for your choices. I do have social media - mainly facebook and TH-cam, but that's about it. I do have a twitter, but I hardly use it, and the same with Snapchat.
I don't understand those who look down on those who don't use social media. It isn't for everyone. And that's fine. Everyone has to make that choice for themselves - and I appreciate that this message sort of hinted at that general message.
I have had a souring relationship with social media for years now, just recently abandoned FB. I'm not off everything, but leaving fb was big for me
It's good to learn of others being led to leave big social media platforms. I have as well, and so have my adult children.
I got off 3 years ago for allllll the same reasons. I was sick of the amount of energy that went into something surface, shallow, and divisive. Recently I hopped back on because I am not scared of it ruling my life anymore. But I am so glad you got off! You'll feel great after the detox! We have to give our kids a world not ruled by manipulated emotions and information and human connection again whether we're on or off.
I am shocked that you can handle it now, but I will just start ruminating whenever I see the insanity. That is why I have even had to mostly stop watching even Allie Beth Stuckey.
,@@markmoore8399 I guess it's because I'm still not very involved. Lol.
I will only post a couple of times a month and I stick to positive things. I'm determined that if I'm going to have difficult conversations, they have to be in person.
I agree with you 100%. I deleted my accounts a few weeks ago, Twitter being months ago. I was seriously addicted to them and I saw the negative impact once I reflected on how much time I was wasting. Slowly but surely I'm getting to that point where I'm not missing them.
yet another reason I am so grateful to have been blessed with complete apathy towards social media
Thanks for your thoughts, Josh. It would be fantastic if Social media would start decreasing at one point and maybe the post-Corona-period shows how much better live meetings and conversations are, but I'm a bit sceptical whether that or anything else will really be able to make social media insignificant again.
But for those that have escaped social media successfully: how do you fill the small breaks, the gaps in between two tasks or the urge for some light, short entertainment now, especially if you're single? What helped you the most in the transition period?
Completely agree with all of this. I’ve started texting my family and friends directly with information, invites, pictures, and videos. How personal is anything if it’s just posted publicly? That’s not a relationship, that’s marketing. I don’t think social media will go away, unfortunately, but I do agree with mature individuals deciding to leave it for real, personal connections.
Your friends love you. I deleted fb for like a year and no one invited me to anything. I texted and reached out but it was never once reciprocated. Now I'm back on fb and have friends again who invite me to stuff but I HATE FB.
100% resonates with me! Good video, Josh - lots of wisdom! 👍
I definitely agree. I have to share something, I’m 14 years old my name is Ryan and I had instagram, snapchat, and twitter and on my instagram and twitter I used to post over 100+ fight videos everyday just for other people’s entertainment. It was draining my mental health and there were times when I broke down because I never stopped posting videos. I thought that having a lot of followers made me feel special and loved by everyone but that’s not true. On snapchat I used to talk to random people who I thought were my “friends”... once I deleted snapchat I feel SO MUCH BETTER because i wasnt focusing on fake people who didnt even care about me, they only watched my stories and send me snaps. I definitely recommend that if you feel like social media is negative trust me delete it ALL it feels so free. just wanted to share my story with you all thank you for listening to me!
-ryan 🧘🏾♂️❤️
Love this! I limit my interaction with socials but always feel so guilty or like I'm not doing what I can to grow my youtube channel or brand new business... But like you said on invites/Party planning. Why do socials have a monopoly on growing my business. idk. great food for thought! and definitely encouraging.
i'm 16, i don't own a phone. for awhile i really wanted a phone. the freedom of having my own phone. then i started noticing the amount of time that my sister and my dad spend on it. i realized i don't have the self control to not spend hours of hours on social media. i just decided, i do not want a social media . i realized that social media is not freedom.
Good for you Josh! I have pulled out of Facebook (haven't deleted my account yet but haven't logged in for weeks). I completely agree there has to be a change. I've followed this channel for years and I resonate with what you are saying. I have been so much more happy since getting off Facebook (and less stressed). Plus it's true, I now communicate much more directly with my loved ones and that is great!
Deleting FB and IG was the best...ever!!!
My mom recently downloaded all of her Facebook content so she could have it in case it all goes to crap (because communism and censorship lol). That combined with other life stuff has made me start thinking recently about a lot of different areas of life, including social media and trying to really evaluate what are the things I enjoy, what are the things I truly couldn't live without, what are the things that I'm just kinda floating through and at the end of the day could live without, etc. Because at the end of the day, coming from my Christian perspective, I know that I'm only gonna be on this earth for a finite amount of time, and at the end of my life the only thing that's really going to matter to me or to anything is that I'll be in heaven partying it up with Jesus. But in the meantime, what are things I want to save and what are things that would be better if I got rid of. Just watching this video once has helped that process of shifting focus, so thank you, Josh, for putting this out there. I think society's going through a major shift right now...some people are fighting it and denying it, but I think a lot of people are starting to reevaluate a lot of stuff. I hope a lot of people will take what you have to say to heart and use it in assessing their own lives. Thanks for being real! Love you guys!
How did she download her Facebook content? Would love to know!
I think there's some wisdom in looking at what we're doing and saying "why am I still doing that? Maybe I should stop." It's great to be able to take an objective look at the ways we're spending our time and to prune where it's needed.
Good for you Josh!
Loved the vulnerability! My family and I are on the same page! So glad there are other (weird in a good way) people out there like us! I think we are still a minority, but that’s okay. Like you said, there is hope. We love Blimey Cow! Keep it up!
People say all kinds of things online (especially Facebook and Twitter) that they would *never* say to people right in front of them. I have seen good, kind people say the most hurtful things.
I know a few people that have *never* had a Facebook account, and I realized I can get along just fine without it, just like they do. If people want to reach me, they know how.
Yes, I've been off of social media for almost two months and FEEL much better. I resonate and appreciate everything you said.
I stopped using Twitter a couple of years ago, went into lockdown with my FB account last year and pretty much stopped using it. But I still felt a pull from time to time and would end up coming away wishing I had not. I pretty much only kept it in order to keep in touch with family and some friends.
But in January, I deleted my account and created a new one (just because Messenger is the easiest for communicating with family) uwith virtually nothing on it and only added family members and a small handful of people I consider to be true friends. I do not post other than the occasional thing I need to sell (while preparing to move out of Alaska) and have no personal information listed.
Now the closest thing to social media I use is a Discord for a podcast I listen to.
You made the right choice, Josh.
I totally agree! After getting rid of my apps I noticed I have started talking to friends more regularly, BUT I also started actually talking to my grandparents on a daily basis again. It sounds stupid, but I never really realized who I was leaving behind when all my time was focused only on people who were online as much as I was. It's been really good, I don't think I have ever felt so normal 😅 hope everything is going well with baby #2, love your guys' channel.
Fantastic video Josh! I deleted Instagram completely and gave my husband the keys to my fbook account so I can access it if I need to get advice from a couple groups there, but I haven't needed to in months. Best decision ever. Good for you! Now to work on my general smartphone addiction....
I totally hear what you're saying and feel the same way. I deleted all my social media the past year and I cannot even tell you how freeing it was! Be present with those around you! Life is so good😄Thanks for sharing Josh, this isn't talked about enough!
I get what you mean with not liking being “forced” to use social media. When I started college I had to get Facebook for the clubs and organizations. The only parts of Facebook I participate in are the ones for my college clubs, but my family didn’t understand why I didn’t want to friend anyone on Facebook because I don’t want to see people showing their... craziest side every time I go on...
It’s for this reason I NEVER check Instagram stories.
And I’m never getting Snapchat, but that’s because I refuse to use my limited data to text by writing on photos
You're spot on, Josh. I've been a mom now almost a year, it changed everything. In December I decided Instagram was a time suck, not worth the stress, and all around harmful, for me. It's gone now, and FB is limited but will probably be gone too, soon. I have so much more time and creativity to my day now!! So much happier!
I also started writing letters to friends an it's honestly the most wonderful and satisfying form of communication!
One of the best first steps is to turn off all your social media notifications. I actually still have Facebook but haven't scrolled or posted since 2018. I homeschool my kids and all the homeschool group events are announced on Facebook so once every month or two I go straight to the homeschool group page and see if there are any events I want to participate in.
I also have discovered since I left social media that I don't have any actual friends. But I still wouldn't go back.
5:01 - 5:40 I agree, Josh. I hope that we as a society can learn to get along more - even with the simple things. And if we can't agree/get along, which is fine, I hope we discuss our differences maturely and patiently; helping us to make better friendships and relationships with those around us. Listening to one another instead of waiting for the moment to pounce on someone and make accusations about someone and judge them for what they belief and think is right or wrong. We need to listen and be a good example to those around us like Jesus.
Not to mention the degeneracy in social media that is normalized
Thank you for doing this vid, Josh. You put into words what I believe a lot of people are thinking about these platforms nowadays. Originally they were nice, but it didn’t take long for things to get ugly. I began to notice how FB affected my mood and that it no longer was enjoyable to even be on there. Once I deleted it, I felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I’m still on Instagram because I still enjoy that one from time to time, but have made an effort to limit my time there too which has also been helpful. Decreasing the influence of social media in my life was one of the better decisions I feel I have made in the past decade.
I had the same type of experience. Last year, I was really disheartened by the way people were treating each other on social media based on their face value actions, without taking the time to understand why. When the election came around, I wanted nothing to do with more of the same divisiveness. So I hopped off, and was only intending to for a few weeks, but it continues to today. I check in every once in a while for messages. I started to notice that what is important will still be in tact: my friends still send me what they posted or wanted me to see. Likes and comments, people’s perceptions of me, and the picture perfect live of others had become my idols, and that left me drained. I needed to reset my own mind and heart and focus on what matters most. I am hoping that a year of not being able to physically be with others will lead us to value that so much more.
In some ways, social media has been very beneficial to me - reconnecting with old friends, learning things about my health by connecting with others who have similar health problems.... but in other ways I sometimes wish it didn't exist! Or I wish that we could just benefit from the good things about it, without there being any bad things.
The older I get, the less social media I use, and the happier I feel for it. I recently scaled back my Snapchat use pretty dramatically, and have not had Facebook in years. With the exception of TH-cam, I really don’t have any other social media and it makes life a lot more tolerable.
I did the Same I feel honestly so Munch better
You are on youtube, so evidently you didn't😂
@@brickmasterstudio9962 TH-cam doesn't count. We need Blimey Cow to get through life
@@DangoRabbit I cannot argue there.
Same
@@brickmasterstudio9962 Yeah youtube doesn't count Also its tied into your Google account which tied to Gmail is harder to delete than anything else. So even I wanted to leave I would have to go out of my way to get off of it .
For whatever it's worth, Gab is so much better than the other platforms. I don't feel a need to go to Gab, and I don't get angry seeing stuff on it.
I feel this so much. I left Facebook (the only thing I really used) a couple months ago and I don’t even miss it. I’m at the point I barely think about it anymore.
Yay for more brother brother time!
Suzyyyyyyy found it 😂
Firstly, I love your glasses! Secondly, thanks so much for sharing your heart regarding your thoughts on social media. That was fair, measured, thought-provoking, and eye-opening. Your humorous videos are always class, but more videos like these would be epic, too. God bless you, buddy!
Dude puts up some good arguments to abandon my social media. I'm also curious where TH-cam falls on that scale in Josh's opinion...
I really really love how your friends who want to show you something will just send you a picture!
Something I thought of when you mentioned the Facebook events thing is that maybe when someone wants to have an event they could make a website with Google sites. I recently made my business website using that platform for free and it is simple but amazing! It would be so easy to make a website and then send that link to your friends and invite them that way.
Anyways, great video.
Fact is, social media operates by fine tuning algorithms to get you to react to your feed. They don't care if you react positively or negatively. Their goal is to just get you to engage.
People should make their decision from there based on personal self discipline and need.
If you are disciplined enough to log off social media when you start to feel that the content is negatively affecting you, then it's reasonable to use keep it and use it.
If you know how to read through the negative and false statements and enjoy the connection aspect of it, keep it.
There's been a lot of knee jerk reactions lately of people getting off social media completely. Some of those decisions may not have been fully thought out and informed.
If you're getting good things out of social media and can turn it off when you need to, there's no reason to get rid of it.
If you can't manage all that, then maybe social media isn't for you.