I Turned Down a $1 MILLION Starting BONUS | Crew Stories #14

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  • @SuperYachtCaptain
    @SuperYachtCaptain  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

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  • @LifeAtSea
    @LifeAtSea 2 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    Like the message at the end, reminds me of Jim Carrey Quote "I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.”

    • @tecwzrd
      @tecwzrd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@GarrishChristopherRobin777 I understand your point, however "rich" is really subjective. I used to have my own company years ago and while I was "rich" it wasn't worth the 70+ hours a week I was working to maintain that. I think the overall message is be relatively happy with what you have and understand that you're happiness is what you make of it regardless of how "rich" you are monetarily.

    • @bahardin3992
      @bahardin3992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@tecwzrd; hi Micah, if you have to work 70+ hours a week to keep that Company and the money you make - then you are really not rich. Sell the Company, take the million and walk away then you are rich. Rich enough to be able to have a choice - live a comfortable sedate life or start a new less time consuming venture with that million. Then, you will live life "rich"..
      Cheers Micah.

    • @bahardin3992
      @bahardin3992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@GarrishChristopherRobin777 ; true Christ, like they want to pull wool over the poor eyes. Stay poor you guys, it's not really fun being rich.
      Let us rich people deal with this riches, you stay poor while we keep getting richer.. ha ha ha.

    • @tecwzrd
      @tecwzrd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bahardin3992 exactly why I sold it years ago. That was my point, even though I was "rich" monetarily I wasn't rich in life which in the end should be the only important thing.

    • @Rick-tb4so
      @Rick-tb4so 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If that's true why don't they give their money away....

  • @AdamKyleAnderson
    @AdamKyleAnderson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +309

    I went through most of my life earning a 6 figure salary with bonuses every year but I was never 100% happy.. A few years back the company I was working for went under. I took a few months off before setting out looking for work. Plenty of jobs out there similar to what I did and I got a few offers. In the end I turned them down. I mate of mine who runs a pub in our village jokingly said "Why don't you come work for me? " For the last 2 years I have been working the bar during the week and run the kitchen on Sundays and I couldn't be happier.

    • @southjerseysound7340
      @southjerseysound7340 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      I had a similar story but as a pilot. I had a great route and a lot of seniority for my age at a major airline. Basically stuff guys would kill for but I felt empty and I was essentially a slave to the airline. luckily I lived like I was still in the military and didn't spend like most do. Well right before covid came around my grandfather asked me one last time what to do with his old spray business and even though he hasn't sprayed crops in years I told him I was interested even though I didn't know how I'd swing it.......then covid hit😂 I was able to cash out and couldn't be happier. granted it's been tough finding clients etc. But now it's almost profitable enough to take a paycheck and I'm happy as can be. plus on weekends I've been giving introduction flights to kids in his old stearman biplane. Granted its operations aren't making a dime but I only charge those that can afford it because that's how pop's did it and it's going to be as long as possible.

    • @barrondeville1866
      @barrondeville1866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That is really not much of a downgrade, people do not realize how much bartenders make in tips. I work for a hotel with 2 bars all the bartenders average $500 per night in tips, they only declare 10 percent of that, when they do their taxes. Just do the math, they make a very high net income.

    • @AdamKyleAnderson
      @AdamKyleAnderson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@barrondeville1866 BArtenders in teh UK do not work on tips. I currently get £13 an hour and usually do around 7 hours a day. So yes it really is a big downgrade considering I was earning close to £1 million a year.

    • @jorgegonzalez-larramendi5491
      @jorgegonzalez-larramendi5491 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you are blessed hare krishna

    • @barrondeville1866
      @barrondeville1866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@AdamKyleAnderson If you made as high a salary as you are claiming you do not even need to work, unless you went through a divorce and your ex wife or partner took you for everything.

  • @bruceroaf5750
    @bruceroaf5750 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Life changes for everyone its all about being happy good on putting your wife and future first.. Saying that i miss the Crew and AWOL videos no one else did them like you and the crew

  • @darrellhandbury6330
    @darrellhandbury6330 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was happy to hear that you know and get along with Rico and Victoria from NuatiStyles .
    NuatiStyles and super Yacht Captain are my two favorite yachting channels.

  • @theirishman8356
    @theirishman8356 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Sounds like you made the right decision. 4 years is quite the commitment even for a million dollar sign on bonus. ☘️🇺🇸

  • @Tauhaar
    @Tauhaar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Hi Tristan. You not prepared to name the bottom 3, but would you be able to mention who in your opinion are the top 10 manufacturers?

  • @ronjeremy5826
    @ronjeremy5826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Lets be honest, the title should be:
    “My wife turned down my $1 million starting bonus”
    There you go, fixed it for you

  • @wisencareful4645
    @wisencareful4645 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I’m a wealthy guy by most standards but it took me until 68yrs of age to realise what you have found earlier in life that wealth is fantastic but you can only eat so much lobster as my son said to me one day recently. I now have stepped out of running our businesses & work 3 x days at a food kitchen for the poor in our city. Never have I had so much enjoyment helping others.
    I regularly donate anonymously when the kitchen is low on funds & have bought new equipment for the kitchen. No one has any idea it’s from our family, my son reckons he’ll now have his Dad around another 10ths & daughters too. My appreciation of my family has grown hugely. I’m able to do little things for many people again anonymously & see & hear first hand their lives change & improve.
    If you are in a wealth position you have the mental make up for change & I can only recommend doing something similar.

    • @triniprinceravi
      @triniprinceravi ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is such an inspiration thank you for sharing.

    • @jeffmiller6187
      @jeffmiller6187 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I too, at some point at 55yrs of age have realize the same thing

    • @CallSignWhiplash
      @CallSignWhiplash 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Becoming a good man is a lifetime journey, were doing the best we can to make it 🫡

    • @lynfoxx
      @lynfoxx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😅​@@jeffmiller6187

    • @FastProProductions
      @FastProProductions หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Your son was just the messenger that God used to bring you closer to Our heavenly Father

  • @rrrfrazierable
    @rrrfrazierable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I was spellbound while you told your tale! I think you should teach yachting class at university, if there is such a thing. It's a nod to wisdom that at a certain point, money can become a burden. I don't want to know the bottom three yacht builders, what about top 5? This was great!!! Keep it coming!

  • @thereviloza
    @thereviloza 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Tristan, I have the world of rtespect for you. As a South African i know that oppertunities come to face but you "Are the change that happens" Money does not make the man respect and family does, Well done "Super Yacht Captain" Keep us in suspence for your next adventure

  • @twtoombs
    @twtoombs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I am astounded by your principles and integrity. I have to wholeheartedly support your decision. Money doesn’t insure happiness. You have my utmost respect. We need more people that hold to their values and principles.

    • @maureendwyer3547
      @maureendwyer3547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Good on you! And remember it was only $250 a year(cheap)! All that to be a prisoner for 4 years. Yuk

  • @rodneyferguson446
    @rodneyferguson446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I can see your point about the Money not being a Prime Consideration. If you are committed for 4 years to a Boat design/Build that you basically hate, then it will be 4 years of hating being there.

  • @knightonwarbeck1969
    @knightonwarbeck1969 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have no clue how I got here but glad I arrived. Very interesting life. 20 years at sea in a "tight" living/working space is enough for you and your wife. Best of luck moving forward to you both.

  • @theycallmeboopa2595
    @theycallmeboopa2595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've learned that family is the wealthiest a person can be. Kudos to your smart thinking and not rash decisions. Everyone is different. I've asked many of my wealthy friends what it's like. One answered with the money you make you would be too "IF" you didn't have 9 kids. I told him to keep the money, my life is full of excitement and never bored. Love my family and wouldn't trade it for anything. Understand we are a blended family with adoptive as well. God has blessed us and life is grand.

    • @bahardin3992
      @bahardin3992 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Boopa ; good that you put family as priority. Tell you what, if you have children, especially teenage sons and daughters - ever occurred to you that they wish Daddy would be more rich, more money for the family esp them children? Ask them during quiet time over a fire underneath the stars. They might just open up and say, wish Daddy would buy them that car on their 18 birthday, wish Daddy could send them to that elite/ expensive College, wish Daddy would.. lots of other son and daughter expectations.
      Daddy and mommy are happy as a family but we the children just wish you have more.. usually it's more money. Points to ponder when you have children growing up and soon leaving the nest.

    • @theycallmeboopa2595
      @theycallmeboopa2595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bahardin3992 understood, our kids didn't have too many wants. We traveled a lot, helped them when buying first cars etc.., but they were taught same as I was. If you want something work for it, you will respect it. Things given are taken for granted 90% of the time. Some did college, some Marines, they had 2 choices when they graduated high school. They had the choice. I didn't force anything. Seems girls choose college and boys military. Proud of all of them. Well 1 boy chose college, but he got a full ride on wrestling scholarship. We just didn't have that BIG money if u know what I mean. We were comfortable most of the time, had some times of fund issues. I could go on for hours, but I understand where you are coming from.

  • @wdwerker
    @wdwerker 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Sounds like you made a wise choice. 4 years on a sub par yacht is bound to encounter problems and breakdowns exacerbated by remote location and supply chain restrictions. If he’s buying a boat that plenty of captains don’t consider quality tells me he isn’t listening to the advice of knowledge.

    • @joecarson3379
      @joecarson3379 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I wonder what yacht builder he is referring too?

  • @lulla3
    @lulla3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent story! It's great to be able to get this clarity of what life is all about and say what you said. Money Is important to pay for a lot of stuff, but it should not be the final goal of one's life.

  • @nieuwegeljo5645
    @nieuwegeljo5645 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I very much appreciate that you both find your happiness more important than money. It is something one does not see much these days. It will certainly make you and your wife better persons and and add more to the quality and happiness of your lives. So in one word: "SUPER"!

  • @ksandhoff1
    @ksandhoff1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good for you! Money is not everything. It can not buy happiness, but loving what you do as I do makes it worth living!

  • @TheVoiceofRhett
    @TheVoiceofRhett 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Props to you and Giv. Great heads and a great power couple. There's more to life than $$$$$$$$!

  • @sandlmv8301
    @sandlmv8301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Tristan I am certainly one of the viewers who thought you are mad for refusing this amazing offer. However, the explanation you gave and the points you made led me to believe you made the right decision. Very interesting video. Cheers mate.

  • @remraf72
    @remraf72 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Great video Tristan!
    Kudos to you for joining the "club" of financial independence. It was a tremendous and generous offer but more importantly your ability to be in a position to decline such an offer is of much more significance.
    I wish you and your lovely wife continued happiness, health and business success.
    Warmest Regards from Arizona.

  • @martinsaunders2942
    @martinsaunders2942 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I absolutely get that. I was also a super yacht captain for 27 years, mainly the Med, Caribbean and East coast USA. Like you, I worked with my wife for 16 of those years. In 2008 I flew to NY for an interview with someone who was buying a 65meter Benetti.. I got the job..but, on the flight back, I woke up at some point and had a bit of an epiphany and decided that I really didn’t want to commit to another four or five years. Also, with age, it was becoming a little more difficult to deal with owners who won’t take responsibility for their own decisions or actions…So I stopped. And am very happy that I did. Yachting is a fantastic career, if you have the right character for it, and I hugely enjoyed it..ultimately both the good and the bad times. My daughter is also still on the yachts..I think she has also done 20 years!! How time flies when having fun! Thanks for the videos, always good to watch 👍

  • @herbertbinoya1126
    @herbertbinoya1126 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is the first time I stumbled on your YT videos> I'm not in to sailing, yachting or or whatever, but man, your eloquence and being a real gentleman really hits. Not a single negative word or comments. you now have my like & subs. 🙂

  • @henrymorgan3982
    @henrymorgan3982 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You and your wife are the good people of this world. Thankful, respectful and honest. Good call.

    • @robertcornelius3514
      @robertcornelius3514 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't know. He sounds like a bull sh#tter to me.

  • @maxflight777
    @maxflight777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Start a family ! Nothing can compare to the love you feel being a father.

  • @honeymcdonald9120
    @honeymcdonald9120 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Unusual for a Brit to be so up himself he needed to share this!!

    • @johnd1727
      @johnd1727 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes - extraordinary.
      My experience with very rich people is they are generally very tight with their money - which is how they got there in the first place.
      I have also noted that only the invisible rich list are in any way shape or form trustworthy - and if offered employment you never meet the principal until the very last - and sometimes not at all.
      So being offered a million dollar wage never mind a million dollar starting bonus is straight out of Disneyland - and could be much worse because almost certainly illegality can be assumed.
      And all this in a bar?
      The alarm bells in your head should be deafening.
      Hmmm.
      Subscription cancelled.
      Pity.

  • @ricgold100
    @ricgold100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Congratulations on your ethics! I have been a captain for 30 years and I had a similar situation a couple of weeks ago and also declined. Balance and happiness with the family are the most important everyday goals I always had.

    • @go5582
      @go5582 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi RG. I enjoyed reading your comment. Question, Do you know what boat Cristian is speaking of? How much do you think this trip will cost the owner of the boat to sail around the world? Thanks

    • @ricgold100
      @ricgold100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@go5582 Hi G O, It depends on several factors: size of the boat, speed, routes to take, how many in the crew , etc. Rule of thumb on maintenance of a yacht says that yearly with a use of 200 hrs is about 8-10% of the original cost of a yacht. My last trips from Florida to NY in a 135’ trideck were around $100k not including crew of 6.
      Regards

    • @mr.kcfromthe8138
      @mr.kcfromthe8138 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you mind if I ask what is the avg yearly pay? I think it's easier to comprehend turning it down if the avg base is a good chunk as well.

    • @two-crew-guy2734
      @two-crew-guy2734 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Anyone know the yacht builder he's talking about

    • @martinmoore7920
      @martinmoore7920 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@two-crew-guy2734 yes I do...

  • @guscarlson7021
    @guscarlson7021 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've been to seeral weddings and funerals.
    Trust me on this, you haven't missed anything.
    If I could have been working on a yacht instead, I would have.

  • @alanblasczyk1779
    @alanblasczyk1779 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    A clear head and sound decisions prevail. You are a sound chap Tristen.

    • @keendeesjarlais3636
      @keendeesjarlais3636 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      no, a dominant wife who put her foot down prevailed, bud

  • @harrywebb6022
    @harrywebb6022 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You made the right decision and free Larry Hoover !!!

  • @Tomm9y
    @Tomm9y 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Good decision making. Balancing family, health, suitable work is so important.

  • @entibus3003
    @entibus3003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Declining $1 million because as you say you don't really need the money, then why the shit advertising on your site?

  • @dreamlife2351
    @dreamlife2351 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Much respect to you and your wife , for what I also think is an excellent decision. I had the good fortune to live on Hilton Head Island in the 1980’s. I came from humble beginnings ( military family) but was well traveled by 21 years old. I was shocked at the power plays, back stabbing, adultery and just plain old injustice of how people in public service were treated. Yes, I met lovely caring business people too , plenty of yachts,but my lessons were learned. It’s the journey not the destination of life that makes me happy. Still modest but my family and grandchildren will always know that their time with me is the most valuable possession I have. Aloha from Hawai’i 🌺

  • @jacobsmithjr
    @jacobsmithjr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I totally get it. I think people who are older with more life experience agree with your decision. Life and time are so precious. You spent 20 years yachting. It's time to change things up a little. Good luck and God bless to you and the Mrs.

  • @libertyone5853
    @libertyone5853 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Tristan, you are a VERY honorable man with a exceeding amount of INTEGRITY. Money does NOT buy happiness. You made the correct decision.

  • @jenkins1017
    @jenkins1017 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    After a few years working on a glass fabrication production line and being miserable, i landed what a thought was a dream job as a precision machinist that came with high pay and quarterly bonuses. The working environment was so miserable, I've never been so unhappy at a job. When the orders slowed down and lay-offs were imminent I was the first to volunteer. I took a long time off because I couldn't stand the thought of starting another job doing the same thing everyday. Eventually I saw an ad for a carpenter's apprentice position and I jumped at the chance. I love what I do now and the people I work with are amazing. I make less money, but I am happier than I've ever been. Money is NOT everything.

    • @SailorGerry
      @SailorGerry 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If you live in North America, there is an incredible shortage of people in the construction trades, including of course, carpenters. There is not enough people entering apprenticeships, and given the expected retirements coming down the pipeline, the situation is near-critical.
      Best if luck in your new career!

  • @tushugars
    @tushugars 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Money is not always a good motivator. Great to see a young man with values. All the best.

  • @nemo227
    @nemo227 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Work to live . . . or live to work. Living is the preferred goal. Good on you Tristan and good on your wife.

  • @JZafra-h2t
    @JZafra-h2t 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I live in Miami I was a tugboat captain for 20 years I had no lifestyle I bought a sailboat I live on my sailboat and I try to enjoy life a freelance I have a couple of good clients I run their yacht and I tried to go home every day that is priceless I feel so much better and I really enjoy life at the age of 50 enjoy life my friend life is only one 👍

  • @DaddymackLV
    @DaddymackLV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tristan - it was great to talk to you for a bit a FLIBS and glad to have made your video :) Go fast owner :) Soon a go slow owner.. lol We talked about other offers you had as well - and turned down - you are truly honorable and it was a real pleasure meeting you, come visit Vegas soon!

  • @vincelardner330
    @vincelardner330 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Tristan, you are 100% right, money does not equal happiness and you have to make decisions about what is best for the happiness of yourself and your loved ones. If you are short of money, extra helps, but if you have enough for your lifestyle of choice, then extra does not help, indeed it can ruin what you already have.

  • @paulfrost4678
    @paulfrost4678 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    That just adds to your integrity as a human being, as you said most people would have said yes in a heartbeat. As you won’t mention your bottom 3 yacht brands , although we’d all love to know . What are your top 3 yacht builders.

    • @roryseppanen2935
      @roryseppanen2935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That would be a great video

    • @sdtok527
      @sdtok527 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think he once mentioned he liked Feadship. Not sure about top 3 though

  • @NSResponder
    @NSResponder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Man, that boat must really suck for you to walk away from a $1M bonus.

  • @seantwomey396
    @seantwomey396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Tristan, I would love to see your generic check list for buying a brokerage yacht if you are advising the owner. Let’s say 60 meters 6 guest cabins with limited chartering. What are the top 3 important things age, hours, crew capacity, brand etc vs what can be changed in a refit - cosmetic issues. What are the recommended toys that guests love and what is not worth it. How many crew do you recommend and what positions? How many engine hours suggest a zero hours overhaul is needed? How far from the galley to the dining tables? You have lots of stock videos you can use to illustrate good vs not so good so as to conclude best in class. Focus on value and practicality. What things make a crew happier and how many inflatables are 1 too many? What software or management tools are worthwhile. - safety, crewing, charter management, purchasing? I know your insight would be invaluable and you could also write a companion article for a magazine or a broker. This could further your brand. Call it the Good, the Bad and the Ugly or 10 tips to choose your next yacht. In the meantime you and Gib need to start on the 2040 green crew ;-) Stay well.

    • @InvestmentAngels
      @InvestmentAngels 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Great idea, Sean 👍
      I would also love to learn more about the issues mentioned above and I am sure Tristan could do a terrific job in this.

    • @nyali2
      @nyali2 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@InvestmentAngels I think that is his business now.

  • @dirkdorner701
    @dirkdorner701 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Tristan,
    that is just the way to make decisions in life!!!
    I quote: "It is not improving our..." That is the point!
    So many people would have been tempted by the money, but money does not equal happiness. Good decision.
    To everybody telling Tristan, that he is mad for turning down this offer, sorry but you did not get it. Money is both nice and over-rated. If you need the money, if it improves your life... By all means take it. But if not, if you are "happy" where you are and the commitment might reduce your happiness, just say no.
    Tristan, should we ever meet in an anchorage or marina, beer will be on me. 🍻
    Stay safe and happy
    Dirk

  • @mattsandilands6380
    @mattsandilands6380 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    My boat is also called AWOL. she’s not exactly a supper yacht more like a 45ft narrowboat but she’s my home and I love her very much.

    • @philosoraptor777
      @philosoraptor777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      For a 1973 build, she's lovely :)

    • @mattsandilands6380
      @mattsandilands6380 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@philosoraptor777 Thank you Eddie, no one has ever said that to me about her. I have to ask … how do you know that she was built in 1973 ?

  • @robertyoung1506
    @robertyoung1506 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i have loved your AWOL and understand completely , good luck and hope to see you in the future .

  • @joegomez5807
    @joegomez5807 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am new to your channel. Good for you in making your choice. More money does not buy more happiness. I am now a subscriber

  • @alanhiggins299
    @alanhiggins299 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "A Way Of Life", Oh! I always thought it meant, "Absent With Out Leave". 😂🤣😂

  • @rudideghelt
    @rudideghelt 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    As usual Tristan, you know how to share your little and big moments in your life. Nice story and I can understand but it must not be easy to refuse such an offer. I now know that it will take a starting bonus of two million :):)😀😀😀😀🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍👍

  • @TheOUboy
    @TheOUboy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Glad to see you are in a position to say no to that and not let it derail your life goals.

  • @eaunan
    @eaunan ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video / commentary and story... very captivating. I completely understand your decision!! As far as my reasons for understanding your decision, I'll not go into that here... but if we ever have a chance to chat together (with your wife too, of course) at a boat show like Miami's or some spot in the Med, then I'll be happy to exchange stories like these over a pint! 👍💯 (And I really like your current direction with the SYC channel... well done!)

  • @htp496
    @htp496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Should have told him. ….. “it’s a deal, if I can help you pick another boat”.

  • @CordlezToaster
    @CordlezToaster 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Truly inspirational mate.

  • @lulabellegnostic8402
    @lulabellegnostic8402 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hang on. Boat transport ship. We have reached insanity when people pay 7 figures for a boat that can’t survive an Atlantic crossing.

  • @dam1108
    @dam1108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are not mad. There's a reason why you declined. Glad to see you again. So sad I was not able to get to Ft Lauderdale while you were here (I live in south Florida). The time the meet and greet was just didn't work out.

  • @edwardlees4585
    @edwardlees4585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I think you made the right decision. The money isn't everything in such circumstances. I was offered the job of managing a language school in St Barts in the Caribbean by my former boss and discussed it with my wife. We decided to stay in mainland France due to the uncertainty involved for both of us and the fact that it might be paradise but the cost of life is high and not necessarily covered by the salary.

  • @jacobfield4848
    @jacobfield4848 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Everyone dreams of being rich enough to say "Money will not make you happy".

  • @maxflight777
    @maxflight777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Noordhaven owners won’t be delighted at having their vessels called “trawler like “ ! 😂

  • @ianfirth-clark5975
    @ianfirth-clark5975 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Personally the most attractive part of the offer was the chance to tour the world and all its seas and oceans, but when you said that the vessel would be one you wouldn't feel to be of good enough quality especially to cross oceans then that was probably an annoying opportunity to be missed.

  • @seedsaboveitall608
    @seedsaboveitall608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I know the Billionaires don't want to hear this but At the end of the day you can't take it with you!

  • @abc2662
    @abc2662 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I totally understand why you don’t tell your bottom three yacht makers, but…
    can you tell us the TOP THREE?
    (so when I order mine I won’t go wrong 😁)

  • @TimHPop776
    @TimHPop776 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sensational video Incredible decision as well as congratulations! 👏👏👏👏

  • @Dopaminefeen
    @Dopaminefeen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Who’s in the bottom 3?!! I neeeeed to know Lololol😂

  • @Roadglide911
    @Roadglide911 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Million dollar bonus plus seeing the world I’d have put off a lot but that’s just me.

  • @olafschermann1592
    @olafschermann1592 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are totally right. Once you are financial free 1 million doesn’t change your life. But before that it could help you becomming financially free.

  • @patriciagassor4497
    @patriciagassor4497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You will never really know Tristan if you made right choice but taking the decision for happiness and you own dreams is worth more than paper money, thank you for sharing your story with us. You both sound such a nice couple and it would be such a shame to end up unhappy and tied into something you wre never 100% with.

  • @robmcdonald4991
    @robmcdonald4991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tone, body language, microexpressions, all give away your true feelings. You are still trying to explain to yourself why you turned down such a big payday when you are at a time in life when all financial advantages matter. It looks to me like you still haven't been able to come to terms with your own decision.

  • @darrinhorowitz113
    @darrinhorowitz113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I would have turned it down as I did 38 years on yachts.
    As you well know, the finest built boats have enough issues. So, good decision!

  • @Mike-ccu
    @Mike-ccu 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the great story.

  • @richardharrison6993
    @richardharrison6993 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your analysis. Good presentation. 👍👍

  • @mrboaty7162
    @mrboaty7162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great story , wholeheartedly agree with your decision especially if it’s the Italian builder I am thinking of , been on a few of them and you’re right , staggering how they sell so many , engineering is barely passable , systems aren’t great and if you dig under the surface of the shiny bits the workmanship is pretty awful, machine spaces are often sacrificed for accommodation so it looks to the owner their getting a bigger boat . I do know how they sell though , if your a client and pre qualified they will spend a fortune on entertaining you , even send a private jet to pick you up , collected by a Bentley or such and helicopter transfers to the shows , very impressive social events as well and their stands at the shows are incredible , alas all that takes money, a lot of money so they have to cut corners elsewhere but people buy into it and love to boast I’ve got a “******” but like yourself those in the know aren’t impressed . Similar with a Brit builder , I remember taking to an owner how thrilled he was to be invited to one of their golfing events , think it was Wentworth , they were picked up in the morning from home in a Range Rover and taken to the course , wined and dined all day and they had the whole course to themselves with branding all over the place and then a very swish evening diner with some celebrity hosts and then driven home . In his words it was an amazing day and we didn’t pay a penny for anything , eh….? Mate , you paid for it , all these huge overheads and events are all built into the price of the yacht , their not a charity , you paid for it in spades . I always say to clients at shows or events forget all this bling let’s get into the guts of the yacht and often you’ll find a smaller bespoke builder is a vastly better built yacht , all the money is going into the yacht not lavish parties and $1m exhibition stands .

  • @phatman3573
    @phatman3573 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just shows the mark of Tristan,money isn’t the be all and end all…..great morals young man

  • @chrisfarkas5225
    @chrisfarkas5225 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Not a fan of Victoria or her vessel reviews. She is painful to watch, the audio and camera work is amature and their access is limited to the most basic available.

  • @seatravel8536
    @seatravel8536 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Life changes and age tend to change priorities and perspectives. Mad respect for putting principles over money.

  • @YachtBuoy
    @YachtBuoy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    And there was me thinking that a 9-month deployment in the Royal Navy was a long time! Four years is a whole new level! I wonder if he would of let you film on-board had you of said 'yes'? If I had the boat and the money, I would probably offer you the same sort of 'golden handshake' :-) #fairwindsandfollowingseas

  • @davidmchugh2512
    @davidmchugh2512 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Captain Tristan, from what you have said and having a bit of an idea of your situation, I would have done the same as you. Like you said money does not necessarily buy you the life that you want at the given time, also money does not buy you happiness. I hope the future brings you and your wife happiness and prosperity.

  • @kaweaakuna7325
    @kaweaakuna7325 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes💪

  • @_Willem_
    @_Willem_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Listen, I sailed many years as a captain on super yachts and yes in this kind of work we meet a lot of wealthy people and I always were kinda jealous of them in how they live their life.
    One of them told me this...
    It's better to have a shit life being rich, then having a shit life being poor!
    So, investing 4 years of your life that starts with a one million bonus and a good salary will give you a lot of freedom afterwards.
    I received a lot of very expensive goods over the years, but I never had an offer like this. o_~

  • @poly_hexamethyl
    @poly_hexamethyl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If they have to offer $1M signing bonus to get someone, there must be something fishy going on...

  • @MacKeyser
    @MacKeyser 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I totally understand. I got an offer in 2000 that amounted to $1M in 2000 dollars and turned it down due to ethical reasons. That decision would likely have netted me orders of magnitude more than that as it would have been the first in a digital space by what amounts to 4 years and is now more than a $100B industry. But I look back and I just couldn't do it and am proud of my decision. Money can fix a lot of logistical problems and make life easier, but happier? No. And I couldn't live with the consequences which I found later not only did occur, but were all too common.

  • @Joe-kx7bl
    @Joe-kx7bl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The Russian oligarch you worked for hmmm

  • @derekstuart5234
    @derekstuart5234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a very unusual story. This must be the first time in history where someone who has the cash to buy a 150ft LOA ship, probably costing $20 million, and offer a $1 million sign on bonus to a Captain has seemingly almost begged an out of work Captain to manage his vessel. My experience of people who have that sort of money is that they very, very rarely go cap in hand to others, but more expect others to go cap in hand to them.
    As for this $20 million vessel that is made by "one of the three worst superyacht builders in the World"- does anyone know or care to speculate which company he might mean? Yes, people will have favourites but let us be honest, no one makes crap superyachts and if they did, they wouldn't last long.
    Still, this video, with its adverts and sponsors, has built up over 35,000 views already, which means it has served its purpose. Me? I wish I could spread it on my rose bushes.

    • @darthkek1953
      @darthkek1953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      >>no one makes crap superyachts and if they did, they wouldn't last long
      It depends what you mean by "crap". Are they "crap" in that they sink a lot? Probably not. More likely "crap" here refers to serial systems failures and the captain and engineer having to jury-rig and improvise fixes constantly, systems not working 100%, etc. and lots of "little crap" rather than it exploding into flames every 3 seconds.

    • @derekstuart5234
      @derekstuart5234 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@darthkek1953 indeed and if there were such a builder, it would not take very long to find out who; certainly it would be the one that the internet discusses going out of business.
      I'm an amateur psychologist- only amateur, but still very good- and this is not the first post-AWOL video that I've watched and thought he's talking bilge. Probably like many others, he's had his fame, done well but can't give it up when it's gone and therefore seeks to remain relevant.

  • @FreeSailingTutorials
    @FreeSailingTutorials 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Like many in the industry, I gave up a business and a decent career to go into sailing full time and then decided against super yachts, partly because I wasn't pretty enough and partly because I preferred sailing and racing. And I get your point entirely. It sounds like you're in a good position. Why screw it up for cash you don't NEED and hassle that is almost certainly going to come with a vessel you don't trust.

  • @KCCantiaci
    @KCCantiaci 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Each to their own as everyone has a different perspective and at a different point in their life. But for me, if I had your skill set, I’d have taken that position not just for the money but for the world travelling experience. To get paid at the same time, especially a life changing amount, would have been a huge bonus. But of course I respect your decision and as other poster’s have said, money isn’t the be all and end all of happiness.

  • @vt20247
    @vt20247 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the name...
    AWOL....
    You have to be awol to like this kind of stuff!

  • @jerrygriffin7629
    @jerrygriffin7629 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sure , not sure I believe you. In fact from this video I would never hire you

  • @markreed1768
    @markreed1768 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hardly surprising he was surprised 😲

  • @georgerydberg4393
    @georgerydberg4393 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It’s so nice to see someone choose life over money. Congratulations!

  • @edf2953
    @edf2953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excellent video Tristan. I think you made the right decision and for the right reasons. I’m retired from a career in management consulting, thus I’m not familiar with your industry, nor have I ever been offered a million dollar signing bonus. I spent a good portion of my career with Arthur Andersen, where the culture of the Firm taught me to always “Think Straight and Talk Straight”. Knowing you only through your videos, I sense you follow this mantra instinctively. While a million dollars is a lot of money, I don’t think that money is what makes us happy. You are smart enough to know that working on a ship which is not built to your standards, sounds like a recipe for disaster. Armed with a fantastic job offer, you traveled home, spent time discussing this opportunity with your wife and came to a very sensible conclusion. You should be proud of yourself for having the courage to turn down this opportunity. You definitely took the time to “Think Straight and then Talk Straight” as you declined this position. You are a better man because of your decision. My sense is that your future will be quite rewarding and fulfilling. All the best to you my friend.

  • @kathys_damngoodsong
    @kathys_damngoodsong 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not to trash them, but good to know when looking at boats, what are the 3 bottom boat makers? Thx:)

  • @jefferyholland
    @jefferyholland 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    But for $100,000.00 I can recommend a terrific captain that would be a good fit.

  • @EuroGuy85
    @EuroGuy85 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for the great stories and content you create, it's pretty cool to hear real life stories from the yachting industry. Maybe in the future you can do a video as to what's going on with your former colleagues from AWOL, an update of how the crew has moved on in the industry and where are they now kind of thing; that's if you keep in touch with them or see them at a yacht show or run into them in another port.

  • @hootsmangreen
    @hootsmangreen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I totally get why you would not name your bottom three ship builders, but would you name your top 3?

  • @stevenr2463
    @stevenr2463 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video Tristan! May I ask: did you not mention your concerns about the brand to the gentleman who ordered the vessel? (sorry - havent read thru all comments, perhaps someone has already asked?)

  • @MrJohnBos
    @MrJohnBos 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The body guard was a big warning sign for me. I think you made the right decision.

    • @paulkersey2179
      @paulkersey2179 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Funny, I was thinking the same thing. Insecure?

    • @redwolfexr
      @redwolfexr 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not really, depends on what he did to earn the money. Frankly if he was insecure he wouldn't be travelling on yachts - which is pretty much a "no-gun zone." Even in the gun-happy USA we don't allow foreigners on visa to bring in guns.

    • @paulkersey2179
      @paulkersey2179 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@redwolfexr We are gun crazy.

    • @Primalxbeast
      @Primalxbeast 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      If he drives an expensive car and wears fancy clothes and an expensive watch, he could be a target for thieves.
      I'm personally not a fan of someone who would show off their wealth like that, but I could see why they might want a bodyguard.

    • @CDSAfghan
      @CDSAfghan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If I could offer a counter-persapective from the private security world. Security consultants may be most visible as a "bodyguard" but they could fulfill other roles:
      Highly trained chauffeur- peace of mind for driving the kids to school
      Social media awareness- the wealthy are major targets for phishing
      Travel coordination in less than friendly countries- just because you stay in a 5+ star doesn't mean the street over is safe
      Courier- moving sensitive material you can't transmit electronically
      Security plans- setting up cameras/sensors etc...
      K9 work- training the house pooch
      There's a lot more to it than just taking bullets or pushing over paparazzi.

  • @3-2-1-.
    @3-2-1-. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sometimes it is best to do what others will not. "A Way Of Life" is very interesting. As a veteran of the US Army, AWOL will always mean to me, Absent WithOut Leave. Big bad trouble. Nobody owns an acronym, so good luck to you! I completely understand the hesitancy to work a ship that you know isn't right. Too much potential trouble. If he was cheap on the boat, who knows where else that will show up? Because it will. Fair Winds and Following Seas to you and yours.

  • @steveddavis
    @steveddavis 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Much respect!

  • @just1689
    @just1689 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "I turned down $1m signing bonus and all I got was this lousy T-shirt"