I was depressed in bed for 2 days after a boyfriend cheated, I can only imagine a spouse... Only Jesus can give you peace of mind in situations like this.
What a sad thing to see these stone throwing comments. Praise God that His grace is bigger than our mistakes! He can restore the most broken people and messes hallelujah!
Stone-throwing is one thing... Understanding the devastation in the body of Christ is something that is real... I'm glad they reconciled but it leaves a scar for those who have witnessed it
What is sadder the stone-throwing or the devastation she's left behind for those watching leadership. Yes there is forgiveness but look at what David suffered after forgiveness
@@mld4852 it shows Gods mercy and gets the glory. It shows how He wants US to be towards each other. Just as He paid the price for us. He has the scars in His Hands and Feet because Hes a loving forgiving Father. Blessings to you
Yeah, my "Christian" ex (who I was engaged too) once talked about how she has a guy friend at work. She almost went into a rage when I told her its not okay to have guy friends, especially if I don't know who they are.
This reminds I have broken my relationship God many times but He is always asking to come back with open arms. Where can we find this love except with JESUS
@@Freedom-hv3vm because she's trying to spiritualize her sin, by saying God's grace is amazing and the pregnancywas a gift. This is why I hate Christians. "I'm under grace" is the excuse I always here that emboldens people to sin and be worse people than the they were before.
@@Freedom-hv3vm I respect jesus. Perhaps Christians should follow his example by trying their best to be as sinless as possible. I know we'll never be sinless and that doesn't get you saved, but why stop just at salvation? Why not strive to follow the laws of God so that we can: 1. Be a light to the world. The world will never take Christians seriously when they live wickedly like the rest of the world. 2. Be blessed in this life and the next. Gid will punish sin in this life, especially when you're saved. You might not yo to hell but why do you want hell on earth? 3. Have peace and order
@@raheemkhan5665 as we have seen though the centres what we've known is people are complicated and can fall. Christians are not the excerpted from this. We are selfish and fearful of what people think. There is no excuse for adultery but people can be forgiven. Yes we should be following Jesus examples and teaching. God is our judge but is still a loving Father who wants to help and save us
The most important step you can do if you are having any kind of marriage problems which is to surrender your heart and life to the greatest Potter and say, “Lord, change me, first! I am willing to fight for our marriage Your way!” (from Rejoice Marriage Ministries)
The one thing about her narrative that stands out were the progressive steps of emotional and eventually physical betrayal of the marital commitment. The warning signs were glaring. They were "Like roommates, they weren't sleeping in the same room etc.
If u can't forgive others, God will not forgive u either... A true Christian should be happy when someone has forgiven the other and not telling someone not to forgive.. Unforgiveness is of the devil.. 1 John 1:8.. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.. 9.. If we confess our sins He is faithful and just and He will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness... 10.. If we claim we have not sinned, we make Him out to be a liar and His Word is not in us..
Good thing her marriage didn't blow up. She would have simply said " I cheated because he was abusive and didn't meet my emotional needs. And he was starting to abuse the kids. ". The church would have rallyed around her and got her free legal help. He would have been served a restraining order and had no legal right to his kids until the state ironed it out . He would have cashed in his 401k to fight for his children, but after 18 months and 50k in legal fees he would have ran out of money and tapped out. We all would be saying" another deadbeat dad. " Think this sounds like a fairy tale? It's happening all around you right now. 11 billion dollar industry. 11 billion I said. . I am not her judge , but when she says " I didn't have a good marriage modeled to me " and " God you have to stop me from my intimacy with this guy because I can't " these are red flags of a narcissist. People who are sorry usually don't sneak around for a year lying and cheating because their conscious doesn't let them . They care about their spouse . Narcissists don't care. Most abusers are hiding in the church , of course , with stellar public images. Of course, they can do the most damage to christians there and families. Poor guy has a kid now. Cash and prizes soon for her. And maybe the aforementioned abuse stories. She may be feeling very powerful that she was able to cheat , and he stayed. And she even got to play the victim subtlety in this video with those two comments. Google " duping delight" to know what she would get from this . Read " healing from hidden abuse" to learn all about this growing problem that is unknown to most of us. And you will know the playbook ( projection , reverse projection , baiting and bashing , trauma bonding , mirroring, etc. )
I try to warn someone that I love very much against the connection with the opposite sex... This is exactly why I can't except that it's okay for the opposite sex to establish connections when connected with someone you say that you love. I can't imagine her leading worship and in leadership and doing such a thing... May the body of Christ be fully aware of wolves in sheep's clothing... there is nothing God can't forgive but the devastating effects even hearing her testimony is ongoing.she doesnt deserve him
Absolutely True. First, don't be alone with the opposite sex when you are married. A complete 1 YEAR double life.There's an element of the holy spirit missing called conviction. We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
there is a passage in the bibie that you cant divorce your wife unless for adultary,...divorce this kinda woman does not mean you re being unforgiving...
God hates divorce. Moses permitted divorce because of their hardened hearts. “But it was not way from the beginning “! With God all things are possible. ALL things. Even deep, fulfilling marriage intimacy and strength after infidelity. Praise God! Hope is never lost.
Listening to all these stories really edifies me. But i think these tesimonies are meant to help us not make these same mistakes. I'm a young lady soon to be married in a couple of months, to a man i love somuch and who loves me back. Problem is we almost never agree, we both are christians and love the Lord but we're always arguing. This is really getting to me. I know that he's the man for me but how do i stop all this arguments thats drifting us apart?
Believe this 👉keep praying consistent, read the word of God, and be ready to be obedient to Gods will! Nothing out of this will come and fix any kind of life or relationship.
You are ready to do well if you are watching these kind of videos, you should also watch the videos on couples who got remarried at the guy came in and worked on them as separate people. No matter how God joins us -we must be perfected ☝🏾🤪. God Bless
That is so sad looks like she had three children while she was cheating on her husband, I believe in grace and redemption, but it’s obvious she has no judgment I don’t think she ever will
How can a dedicated christian wife be in a sexual relationship for a year? So it's okay to be an adulterer, to commit a sin knowingly then to forgive and forget. She dishonoured the marriage covenant. Betrayal, adultery and deceit, hmmmm
Piri Cecilia she is sorry and confessed and got forgiveness from her husband and God! That’s it! What else? Every one is weak at one point, different sin yet all r imperfect. So?
It will be better not to weigh in and throw stones. A heart of love covers a multitude of faults until the Lord says, pack your bags and go- if you allow him to be your Lord. Colossians 3:12-14,19
Agreed. A complete 1 YEAR double life.There's an element of the holy spirit missing called conviction. We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
@@maydate86 We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
@@michaelhaidee you are suffering from bitterness of heart and rejection. Pray to Jesus to take you through the process of deliverance. If you genuinely focus on your mess, Jesus will hear your prayers and heal you.
@@maydate86 Wow. No bitterness here 😂. Sounds like you have something to repent from. I pray that you actually read the Bible someday. I pray you stop committing adultery and be free of your demons.
It's funny how in all the other videos of male infidelity, every comment is like "what a great testimony about resumption and forgiveness" but in this video where the woman cheats, everyone is like "once a cheater always a cheater" or "she is so lucky to have him as her husband 🙄🙄🙄 All these hypocrite men
I noticed this also. But I think that in general, it often is men who are the betrayers. So, it seems like there may be more positive comments listed in the comments section. Some of the comments here seem overly critical and somewhat nasty. These two people seem like a really good couple; Glad that they reconciled. Sadly, for many couples, especially those w/o a a christian awareness of forgiveness and reconciliation, the marriage often does not survive.
Adlin Kujur ikr to me mgtows + feminist s are just too sides of the same coin, both just want the opposite gender to be ‘perfect’ or just the way they want that gender to be, also they both hate a gender for almost the same reason. I just don’t get involved with either side really...
A great testimony (despite the many nasty critical comments below). Seemed like she was perhaps too young and had pretty low self esteem at the start of marriage. She made some truly dumb decisions to get into a 1 yr affair AT CHURCH!. However, too many marriages run into similar trouble (after the honeymoon) due to unrealistic expectations and the lack of adequate communication / relationship skills. Sadly, people need to acquire these skills before marriage, not after the divorce. The husband seemed to be a true, forgiving christian man, which was likely crucial in saving the marriage. Am also glad that the wife was able to acknowledge her bad behavior and restore her family relationship. I assume they successfully worked things out??. Too bad we never get to hear if these relationships do persist. Are they still together???
@Marten Dekker Glad to hear it. But, that's not a current status followup. I realize how much difficulty recovery from this type betrayal is. Am simply curious as to whether they have been successful in the long term.
Forgiveness is important in any heart. The problem can rise from reconciliation. It sends the message that you can do whatever towards your partner and they must accept you regardless because if they don’t then they are not of God; and vice versa. It allows children to grow up and accept poor behavior or else God sees them as failures. I’ve seen how much people can take under the guise of not disappointing God or being seen as failures by God.
Never say never. We are sinners, do not forget that. The second temptation enters the mind, seek out scripture and pray with your spouse. Never be ashamed of temptation, temptation doesn’t bring shame; it’s the falling that does. I notice many Christians believe they can do no wrong and treat temptation as something they can easily control. We are all capable of the sins we don’t ever think of. Jesus fought temptation with scripture, not alone.
A church teacher involved in missions - after a YEAR in the affair the light bulb came on? Are you kidding? Her husband must have been living in his own world to not notice. Shame on him, shame on her.
It’s not nice to be cheated on. But god provides grace to forgive
How can I not forgive her when he's already forgiven me... Seeing ourselves the way God sees us is so so important. Praise God for forgiveness!
I was depressed in bed for 2 days after a boyfriend cheated, I can only imagine a spouse... Only Jesus can give you peace of mind in situations like this.
I know
What a sad thing to see these stone throwing comments. Praise God that His grace is bigger than our mistakes! He can restore the most broken people and messes hallelujah!
Stone-throwing is one thing... Understanding the devastation in the body of Christ is something that is real... I'm glad they reconciled but it leaves a scar for those who have witnessed it
What is sadder the stone-throwing or the devastation she's left behind for those watching leadership. Yes there is forgiveness but look at what David suffered after forgiveness
@@mld4852 it shows Gods mercy and gets the glory. It shows how He wants US to be towards each other. Just as He paid the price for us. He has the scars in His Hands and Feet because Hes a loving forgiving Father. Blessings to you
Yeah, my "Christian" ex (who I was engaged too) once talked about how she has a guy friend at work. She almost went into a rage when I told her its not okay to have guy friends, especially if I don't know who they are.
This reminds I have broken my relationship God many times but He is always asking to come back with open arms.
Where can we find this love except with JESUS
Its all about the grace of God he forgives us.all we need is to forgive others...what r wonderful testimony.God bless ur family..
Amazing husband. I don’t know if I could forgive like that. He’s an inspiration.
He is a duck, he should have dumped her
I always thought the same thing until your find yourself in the same situation.
@@elenab.6850 agreed 🙏
This woman does not sound like she is sorry for the pain she caused her husband or the other man's wife.
And how do you know?
@@Freedom-hv3vm because she's trying to spiritualize her sin, by saying God's grace is amazing and the pregnancywas a gift. This is why I hate Christians. "I'm under grace" is the excuse I always here that emboldens people to sin and be worse people than the they were before.
@@raheemkhan5665 and how do you feel about Jesus?
@@Freedom-hv3vm I respect jesus. Perhaps Christians should follow his example by trying their best to be as sinless as possible. I know we'll never be sinless and that doesn't get you saved, but why stop just at salvation? Why not strive to follow the laws of God so that we can:
1. Be a light to the world. The world will never take Christians seriously when they live wickedly like the rest of the world.
2. Be blessed in this life and the next. Gid will punish sin in this life, especially when you're saved. You might not yo to hell but why do you want hell on earth?
3. Have peace and order
@@raheemkhan5665 as we have seen though the centres what we've known is people are complicated and can fall. Christians are not the excerpted from this. We are selfish and fearful of what people think. There is no excuse for adultery but people can be forgiven. Yes we should be following Jesus examples and teaching. God is our judge but is still a loving Father who wants to help and save us
The most important step you can do if you are having any kind of marriage problems which is to surrender your heart and life to the greatest Potter and say, “Lord, change me, first! I am willing to fight for our marriage Your way!” (from Rejoice Marriage Ministries)
God help and grant us the power to forgive in Jesus name
E Tembi what did she said the other dude helped her dry spots get wet?
This is such a beautiful testimony of that with God ALL things are possible.
The one thing about her narrative that stands out were the progressive steps of emotional and eventually physical betrayal of the marital commitment. The warning signs were glaring. They were "Like roommates, they weren't sleeping in the same room etc.
@Duke of Norfolk Agreed!! Go get counseling 1st!! She definitely went down the wrong path,
If u can't forgive others, God will not forgive u either... A true Christian should be happy when someone has forgiven the other and not telling someone not to forgive..
Unforgiveness is of the devil..
1 John 1:8.. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us..
9.. If we confess our sins He is faithful and just and He will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness...
10.. If we claim we have not sinned, we make Him out to be a liar and His Word is not in us..
Good thing her marriage didn't blow up. She would have simply said " I cheated because he was abusive and didn't meet my emotional needs. And he was starting to abuse the kids. ". The church would have rallyed around her and got her free legal help. He would have been served a restraining order and had no legal right to his kids until the state ironed it out . He would have cashed in his 401k to fight for his children, but after 18 months and 50k in legal fees he would have ran out of money and tapped out. We all would be saying" another deadbeat dad. " Think this sounds like a fairy tale? It's happening all around you right now. 11 billion dollar industry. 11 billion I said. . I am not her judge , but when she says " I didn't have a good marriage modeled to me " and " God you have to stop me from my intimacy with this guy because I can't " these are red flags of a narcissist. People who are sorry usually don't sneak around for a year lying and cheating because their conscious doesn't let them . They care about their spouse . Narcissists don't care. Most abusers are hiding in the church , of course , with stellar public images. Of course, they can do the most damage to christians there and families. Poor guy has a kid now. Cash and prizes soon for her. And maybe the aforementioned abuse stories. She may be feeling very powerful that she was able to cheat , and he stayed. And she even got to play the victim subtlety in this video with those two comments. Google " duping delight" to know what she would get from this . Read " healing from hidden abuse" to learn all about this growing problem that is unknown to most of us. And you will know the playbook ( projection , reverse projection , baiting and bashing , trauma bonding , mirroring, etc. )
Yes I agree with you.
I needed this video. I needed this today. Thank you Lord Jesus Christ
I try to warn someone that I love very much against the connection with the opposite sex... This is exactly why I can't except that it's okay for the opposite sex to establish connections when connected with someone you say that you love. I can't imagine her leading worship and in leadership and doing such a thing... May the body of Christ be fully aware of wolves in sheep's clothing... there is nothing God can't forgive but the devastating effects even hearing her testimony is ongoing.she doesnt deserve him
Absolutely True. First, don't be alone with the opposite sex when you are married. A complete 1 YEAR double life.There's an element of the holy spirit missing called conviction. We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
@@michaelhaideeGod hates divorce.
@@ghhm2705 unless if due to adultery, in which it is acceptable. Don’t forget that verse.
God help and forgive us all!
there is a passage in the bibie that you cant divorce your wife unless for adultary,...divorce this kinda woman does not mean you re being unforgiving...
God hates divorce. Moses permitted divorce because of their hardened hearts. “But it was not way from the beginning “! With God all things are possible. ALL things. Even deep, fulfilling marriage intimacy and strength after infidelity. Praise God! Hope is never lost.
I wonder what happened to the other couple!?😬
I love God he's a Forgiving father !
How does church leaders have personal text messages? Or was it a church cell phone????
The other guy who they never really spoke of must have confessed.
God really restore this man and touch his heart . Whew! 🤦♀️Wow !
the focus should be on how the guy forgave and took her back, the lady seems unbothered...
Excuse me? I've been through horrific betrayal by my husband . Shut up. Woman bashing much?
Listening to all these stories really edifies me. But i think these tesimonies are meant to help us not make these same mistakes. I'm a young lady soon to be married in a couple of months, to a man i love somuch and who loves me back. Problem is we almost never agree, we both are christians and love the Lord but we're always arguing. This is really getting to me. I know that he's the man for me but how do i stop all this arguments thats drifting us apart?
Koge Miranda ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you what is causing the arguments before you get married.. cry out to God
@@yeshuafeeds8184 Thank you
Believe this 👉keep praying consistent, read the word of God, and be ready to be obedient to Gods will! Nothing out of this will come and fix any kind of life or relationship.
You are ready to do well if you are watching these kind of videos, you should also watch the videos on couples who got remarried at the guy came in and worked on them as separate people. No matter how God joins us -we must be perfected ☝🏾🤪. God Bless
That is so sad looks like she had three children while she was cheating on her husband, I believe in grace and redemption, but it’s obvious she has no judgment I don’t think she ever will
The bible says you can divorce if they cheat so just divorce
She got busted, and not much of a choice but to confess. Yeah nice easy pass
I cant believe this woman, constantly lying about her affair and yet is working ang calling herself a Christian. what a hypocrite!
Surprise pregnancy? DNA test please
Hope yes, new and different? Only in your head. U can't undo the past. The guy still looks really hurt.
OH. So she got caught. Did NOT confess out of her OWN volition. She is so full of BS.
Thank you!!!!!!
Only the Lord can restore the broken hearts
I'd be done with her. She doesn't seem to regret it.
When one understands how God loves us.....it is hard not to forgive others.
Forgiveness and trust are two different things. You can’t have a relationship without trust.
How can a dedicated christian wife be in a sexual relationship for a year? So it's okay to be an adulterer, to commit a sin knowingly then to forgive and forget. She dishonoured the marriage covenant. Betrayal, adultery and deceit, hmmmm
Piri Cecilia she is sorry and confessed and got forgiveness from her husband and God! That’s it! What else? Every one is weak at one point, different sin yet all r imperfect. So?
@Nathanael David She'd prayed for a way out of the mess she was in 2 days prior to being confronted. A prodigal story.
Agreed~Adultery is a CHOICE💔:(
It will be better not to weigh in and throw stones. A heart of love covers a multitude of faults until the Lord says, pack your bags and go- if you allow him to be your Lord. Colossians 3:12-14,19
Agreed. A complete 1 YEAR double life.There's an element of the holy spirit missing called conviction. We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
The highest level of betrayal. Dude shoul've moved on from that. Plenty of actual good women out there.
@@maydate86 We are called to forgive. But where in the Bible does it say the forgiveness equals restoration? It doesn't. In fact adultery is acceptable for divorce. You don't get to do life altering damage and claim the perfection of God. Adultery is adultery regardless of either female or male commits it.
@@michaelhaidee you are suffering from bitterness of heart and rejection. Pray to Jesus to take you through the process of deliverance. If you genuinely focus on your mess, Jesus will hear your prayers and heal you.
@@maydate86 Wow. No bitterness here 😂. Sounds like you have something to repent from. I pray that you actually read the Bible someday. I pray you stop committing adultery and be free of your demons.
Michael & Haidee But... the Bible does talk about forgiveness and restoration.
It's funny how in all the other videos of male infidelity, every comment is like "what a great testimony about resumption and forgiveness" but in this video where the woman cheats, everyone is like "once a cheater always a cheater" or "she is so lucky to have him as her husband 🙄🙄🙄
All these hypocrite men
Adlin Kujur RIGHT?!? 🙄
Huh, I learned something very important from The Lion King movie. Cheetahs never prosper. Hakuna Matata...
I noticed this also. But I think that in general, it often is men who are the betrayers. So, it seems like there may be more positive comments listed in the comments section. Some of the comments here seem overly critical and somewhat nasty. These two people seem like a really good couple; Glad that they reconciled. Sadly, for many couples, especially those w/o a a christian awareness of forgiveness and reconciliation, the marriage often does not survive.
Adlin Kujur ikr to me mgtows + feminist s are just too sides of the same coin, both just want the opposite gender to be ‘perfect’ or just the way they want that gender to be, also they both hate a gender for almost the same reason. I just don’t get involved with either side really...
Yeah, that's hippocratic
I'll forgive you but since the relationship us built on trust I'm done.
Yes you can redeem yourself and you have to forgive the cheater but staying with her I find it detrimental to my person.
Forgiving is easy, but the marriage would most definitely be over.
A great testimony (despite the many nasty critical comments below). Seemed like she was perhaps too young and had pretty low self esteem at the start of marriage. She made some truly dumb decisions to get into a 1 yr affair AT CHURCH!. However, too many marriages run into similar trouble (after the honeymoon) due to unrealistic expectations and the lack of adequate communication / relationship skills. Sadly, people need to acquire these skills before marriage, not after the divorce. The husband seemed to be a true, forgiving christian man, which was likely crucial in saving the marriage. Am also glad that the wife was able to acknowledge her bad behavior and restore her family relationship. I assume they successfully worked things out??. Too bad we never get to hear if these relationships do persist. Are they still together???
@Marten Dekker Glad to hear it. But, that's not a current status followup. I realize how much difficulty recovery from this type betrayal is. Am simply curious as to whether they have been successful in the long term.
Just saw this lady and her sister on Facebook. She seems very happy running a home organization business.
soooooooo she got caught. and what is a church doing with phn records?
How do I forgive him after what he did to our daughter at the age of 11 and 15
I always wonder about the effects of cheating in marriage on the children especially after the cheater is exposed and where there is an std like HIV.
Forgiveness is important in any heart. The problem can rise from reconciliation. It sends the message that you can do whatever towards your partner and they must accept you regardless because if they don’t then they are not of God; and vice versa. It allows children to grow up and accept poor behavior or else God sees them as failures. I’ve seen how much people can take under the guise of not disappointing God or being seen as failures by God.
Would - Could it be real if you were not scared ?
I love my man with my whole heart so the adultery never enters into my mind
Never say never. We are sinners, do not forget that. The second temptation enters the mind, seek out scripture and pray with your spouse. Never be ashamed of temptation, temptation doesn’t bring shame; it’s the falling that does. I notice many Christians believe they can do no wrong and treat temptation as something they can easily control. We are all capable of the sins we don’t ever think of. Jesus fought temptation with scripture, not alone.
I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I wouldn’t take back an unfaithful spouse. Ever
That makes two of us.
Be very careful making deals with yourself. “I will never…” You are setting the potential situation on an alter and bowing down to it.
Glad you and your family made God's love is amazing may I ask what happen to the other couple
God can restore ❤❤❤
We can never be too far gone from His love. He is our mighty and able Restorer! *
God also calls for us to endure our consequences and learn from them. So don’t think if you commit adultery, you are entitled to reconciliation.
The modern church equals turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness.
a cheater is always a cheater if the person finds an occasion
Not really, many of us fall under temptation in one way or another .
Once a cheater, always a cheater
For a year ?! maybe i dont know what love is but i dont think i need to, to see what its not ...
A church teacher involved in missions - after a YEAR in the affair the light bulb came on? Are you kidding? Her husband must have been living in his own world to not notice. Shame on him, shame on her.
Trumpet Dawg lo
The 'light bulb' did NOT come on....she was caught OUT.
Well, men do it all the time. Wake up when you neglect your WIFE.
Just get divorced