It’s scary because there’s a lot of terf stuff and fearmongering out there, but trust me, lesbians have been one of the most trans-inclusive non trans groups I know, and there’s lots of statistics to back that up.
When I came out as trans, my wife came out as bi. Every single day, I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. I see my life reflected in yours, and that brings me so much joy ^__^
I recently came out as trans in November (amab). My cis wife has been by myside for 7 years before and is still with me now. Her words when i came out were "Well you're lucky you have a hot pansexual wife". Yes i am. I dont know if i could do this without her.
Similar story here-I've come out to my close friends as genderqueer, femme-leaning, possibly a trans woman (still figuring things out!), and bisexual this summer. My wife of over 20 years confiding in me that she was bisexual gave me the courage to embrace the thoughts and feelings I'd been having about my gender for a long time. It's an incredibly fortunate and wonderful thing to be in our situation-especially since we wear similar sizes in clothing!
The more appropriate question than, "How hard has this relationship been for you?" would be, "How hard have other ignorant people made this relationship for you?"
@@WivesVsWorldeven better yet in my opinion to make it less attacking of an individual. „ how hard has trans stereotypes made it to get to where you are now“
This is literally the first time I’ve seen this take, and it made me cry. As a trans girl in a trans/cis lesbian relationship, I’ve never seen any representation of people who are GLAD their partner is trans and it is so encouraging
This made me so happy:') that's exactly why I felt sharing this take was needed! We need to see more trans love and positivity, because it's out there ❤️
double edged sword, beeing picked out for beeing trans... I might be the "perfect mix" of male and female for some bi-people... but this "I just wanted/needed to try that out" can really hurt. also beeing fetishised or asked for "services" did occur. It's f**Ing hard to find someone who loves you for your personality or is even willing to give it a try to get to know you, if they know you are trans. but love to see that it's possible. I very much like and agree your points, though, feels very valuing for the experience that we go through, one way or the other.
Indeed, that is always difficult to deal with. When you do find that person who judt gets you though, it's so worth it. And absolutely, being trans is its own beautifully unique experience in so many ways ❤️
Honestly i understand why you think that might be a Problem but it just Shows you upfront who would be a fit for you and who does not. Imagine one of the people who will not Accept you did actually accept you and you where in a relationship with somone who does not fully accept you but only plays the part. Thats not what you want for yourself. Just be your true self and someone who finds that attractive, because they can see who you are, will eventually come along. And regarding the chasers you will develop a Sense for them they kinda give themselves away quite easy mostly.
If someone tells you that they want to date you *because* you're trans, ask them for other reasons and if they can't answer, walk away and block them if possible. Your time, energy, and love are too valuable to deal with that kind of disrespect. You're a beautiful human, and the person or people meant for you will find you. Just stay true to you, just be safe. The world is unfortunately not entirely accepting of us right now, but you deserve and are worthy of respect and love. 🫶
This isn't mean an insult, but, in regular-joe speak does that mean to you are a "default" woman - born as a woman - who generally likes other women, and that in your case, you partner was born a man and is now a woman? It's not obvious if you aren't immersed in this stuff so please don't bite my head off I'm trying to learn the terminology and it's not straightforward at all to many people. The terminology, not the general ideas. Thank you in advance I am trying to understand this video which came up on my feed and learn a bit. I've gathered "cis" means vanilla.
No worries! Of course, there's no shame in not knowing every term 🥰 Cis simply mean that you're comfortable and identify with the gender you were assigned at birth - so basically if you were born a girl and happy being a woman: you're cis. If you're happier being another gender than what you were born as - you're trans ^^ hope that clears things up a little! ✨️
As an Ace, when I begun transitioning I was prepared to accept that relationships were going to be on the back burner. 3 months later I befriended someone kind and open - 3 months after that I decided to ask her out (coincidentally she was juuuust about to ask me out) and we have been happily dating since. We've learned and helped each other so much and things like hugging, nose rubs and being held feels so much more special. Being gay is pretty wonderful.
My Partner is a Trans Woman and technically speaking i am the Cis Man in the Relationship. But i was born intersex and i am kinda stuck in a female appearing body. Hrt is not a option for me since my body does not accept it. I struggeld a lot with accepting that. The journey of my Partner, who could Transition and is now living in her best live as the right gender gave me a bit envy at the beginning. But the thing is we can relate to our highs an lows way more, than my exes who where cis, just couldn't. In the End she helped me accepting that i am fine as i am and she is also.
@@AngelusNielson Yes,i have to Battle with my dysphoria everyday. I am a man but nobody but the people who know me believe me. I am constantly catcalled have to argue with people who think i want to fool them by posing as a Woman. And thats not even taking into Account the whole Public restroom debacle. So my exes who where cis could not understand why that was such a big Deal for me, and how could they they never experienced how that wears on someone. But my now Partner and a couple of friend from the LGBTQ+ Community can, since they to went through that same Shit. Sorry for the rant sometimes it gets me.
Oh I'm also a happy cis lesbian with my cute trans gf. She's so cute, and I've learned so much with her being trans. I'm quite grateful, and glad she's made me more wise
"This is what I love about you being trans" is so positive! Gratitude is an important practice, and I love that you two project that in a very playful way! Being queer and trans has been and continues to be a catalyst to self exploration. Much of it was painful, but I am grateful for it. Being a woman is an amazing adventure! Thank you for your content and the opportunity for more self reflection and joy!
The last ten minutes of this video being variations on "I'm so glad I'm into girls and you're a girl" is the most on brand ur-lesbian thing and I'm living for it. Love your videos as always. As for the ending question, some day I hope to find something I appreciate about being trans, but I haven't yet.
Hahaha glad you enjoyed it 🥲❤️ thank you so much for your sweet words! I have no doubt you'll find it eventually. Even though it's rough, being trans is such a unique and beautiful experience 🌹
As a trans woman (who's mostly just into women), I continue to be surprised by just how many cis lesbians are into trans women. Like I expected/feared that basically no cis ladies would like women like me. But there seem to be a surprising number who genuinely are fine with trans women. And I'm not even looking for a partner right now. I just like to know that I'm welcome in a community, you know?
Exactly!! There's a very vocal minority that love to spout hate, but they sure don't speak for all queer women! So many cis lesbians are just fine with trans women (as also proven by the many testimonies in the comments ❤️)
The very moment I read this title, I started to tear up. I don't know why now or why this, but just the thought that I could be not just accepted but also loved and even desired after a whole bunch of changes just got me really emotional ;-;
wow 🥹 i am a transgender man and my partner is a cis man. the commentary here about being a "tour guide" is exactly how i feel my partner is, he very much is exploring masculinity with me in a healthy way and it is wonderful, especially since i have started HRT now. even before i had started T, there was a lot of exploration of gender in our relationship and with ourselves individually. the most lovely thing said to me by him was that i helped him feel reassured in what his masculinity means to him, what it means in society and culture at large. i love being trans and i love this community!! thank you for this video
Aw this is just the sweetest! Exactly - it can be so beneficial to have a "tour guide" to show you the ropes :') and honestly quite interesting that society is so gendered that it's needed. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your perspective ❤️
As a trans woman who is also Sapphic it is really heartwarming to see a whole video of Anya describing to Jackie why she loves being with her as a trans woman. It's so affirming to see being trans as an actively positive thing that gives me a greater capacity to introspect about my gender. I also love how playful and adorable you both are 💜💙
This was a gorgeous chat. I once thought I was a trans lesbian until it turned out after transition I am very straight and it was mostly social norms and me knowing I wasn't a gay man getting in the way. Or maybe hormones rewired my brain. Long story short I separated from my wife of the time - but that in itself allowed us to transform into best friends, close like sisters, and we are raising our kids as co-Mums, and that in itself has been a precious thing to have. Fascinating how transition can allow relationships to grow and strengthen, if in sometimes unexpected ways.
Fun fact: my then-fiancee-now-wife had been out as bisexual since she was in high school when I came out to her as a trans woman, so she wasn't terribly fazed by it. However, many years later, she remarked to me that every time she dated a guy, it always made her feel really anxious for some reason--*except* for when she first started dating me, and, well, we know how that turned out. She has since come to the conclusion that perhaps she was a lesbian from the very start, which is convenient, what with me being a woman and all.
I had such a similar experience with my trans wife! I was closeted bi and put off dating for so long until I met my AMAB wife who was not out when we first met, and yet I felt very comfortable and drawn to her. That was 14 years ago and we are about to celebrate our ten year wedding anniversary. 🥰
I love being trans, it's an unstoppable force inside of you that bursts out in the form of joy, creativity, kindness, empathy, and self-reflection. I'm a conversion therapy survivor, putting up the walls and playing the part of being left alone while preserving and healing my inner self was difficult, and facing transphobia is hard and shouldn't be in the equation. But those moments of truth when you can just be are worth it alone.
It's a wellspring of so much good when you finally get to express yourself ❤️ Despite having gone through that experience, it's heartwarming to see that you are finding your way ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing that ❤️
I have a love/hate relationship with being visibly trans. It can be liberating in that I will never be taken for cisgender however it also means I get negative comments directed my way to "correct" me back to identity as a man. Intentional "sir" and heckling on the street are unfortunately still part of my experience. I envy those who can pass in that life is hard enough without excess emotional hurts accumulating. In regard to finding love, I had been on four dating apps for months and months, tried some in person advances and not ended up on a single date. Anya, I love that you celebrate Jackie's transness in your relationship I am not saying this dynamic is impossible for me, just that it is often a rare gift for us trans women who like women. Not all lesbians are as open to perceive trans women as potential romantic interests.
How long have you been transitioning friend? Speaking as a trans woman, in my experience and seeing stuff online, while not every trans woman can end up passing (especially if they don't have the financial circumstances or don't live in a country that helps with said circumstances and trans-specific care), with enough time the vast majority can end up looking fine as hell if that is a goal. Dating especially early on can be quite superficial, so I would say it is a reasonable goal. Something to keep in mind is that if you're trying to date lesbians who are not trans women, dating apps are always stacked against you. Said people tend to make basic assumptions about each trans person they see and not give the full time of day to really consider the individual because of how dating apps inherently work. This creates some situations where for example every trans woman is assumed to be pre/non-op and yes unsurprisingly most lesbians are not a fan of that when it comes to romantic/sexual interests. With everything said, I just want to acknowledge my pretty privilege, and that I have been in the very fortunate position of being able to pass in terms of appearances within less than 2 years of my transition, and this could have influenced what I said here. I will put it in crude terms to wrap it up. Until one has pretty privilege, dating apps I would only recommend only for dating other trans women. If one has pretty privilege, dating apps I would additionally recommend for dating pan and bi people who are not trans women. Even under those circumstances dating apps are pretty bad so don't expect much from them. Sapphics/lesbians who are not trans women, ok a minority exist who are interested but generally even if you have pretty+passing privilege I wouldn't get your hopes up. Worth noting that sapphics who identify as nonbinary to some capacity or masc gender identity or intersex sapphics are much more likely to be open to dating trans women than straight up cis woman lesbians. The best overall options for dating as a sqpphic trans woman is connecting with someone from a mutual friend or connecting with someone after a queer event party club kink munch etc. So, the focus should be on getting more queer friends! Hope that helps maybe gives reassurance
@@Amaling pretty privilege, I love that you went there! So often I find people try to pretend like it isn't even a thing hrt 3+ years I am older. The hrt has had some, but generally minor outward appearance changes. Mostly I feel more inwardly like I has changed things like affect and sex drive I get it with genitalia preference. I haven't been able to t4t due to weirdness about it myself Queer friend circles are good, but very reserved from my experience
@@kasanesb I'm an older trans lesbian as well, and I understand this struggle. I get genital preference and pretty privilege. It's... not easy to deal with the feeling that I'll never have a satisfying physical relationship. I'm lucky in that HRT has given me a more visibly feminine appearance, and a bit of makeup really helps with my face - but I get anxious even trying
Something I love about being trans: I've had to speedrun all of my work on myself, so I feel at peace with who I am but have also identified areas I want to improve on at a relatively young age (I'm in my mid-20s). Like you talked about, I've had to be very reflective. When I have friends early in their transition who are struggling, I tell them that it's hard at the beginning, but when we're older, we won't have to worry about a midlife crisis because we've already had all of our identity crises! 😂 It makes me feel more secure about myself and my future.
Your relationship is so beautiful to see!!! I definitely relate to the final point. I'm a cis lesbian and my trans lesbian fiancee makes me feel so fortunate to have her in my life, not the least of which because I feel like we're women in the queerest possible way!
I'm in a similar case as you too but I'm the trans wife in my case. My (cis) wife is not a lesbian or bi though so I'm now the "wrong" gender for her, but we are still together as a QPR and we're both polyamorous.
I'm a trans woman i also like girls. My sexuality is? Complicated and still trying to figure it out all i do know is i like girls and always have and always will. Think i only went out with guys because i didn't think women would want someone like me? It is nice to see this isn't true.
I can relate to a lot of this. My partner is trans and we started dating long before her egg cracked. Her transition journey has actually helped me on my gender journey and I've come to realize I'm non-binary / trans. Although i am trans masc, so the ironic part of it is we "gayed so hard we turned straight" 😅 i mean, i most certainly am non-binary but making jokes about where we started and where we are now is funny.
You two are absolutely adorable. I'm almost melting here! Very eloquent about your experiences too, a joy to watch and listen to. Anya's style of subtle domming is really lovely as well. 😊 I'd flirt with you two if we met! I'm a trans woman in a lesbian relationship too. We've met 19 years ago, when I was just freshly discovering my identity, before even considering transitioning. We've spent a few years discovering each other and exploring my identity. Then we decided to have kids, and suddenly, our lives revolved around them. And so I ended up actually transitioning only recently, about two years ago. I've sent the link to this channel to my wife when she asked about resources for cis partners of trans women, and she appreciates you too. So, thanks for your concent! It might amuse you to hear that it took her some time to figure out which one of you was cis and which one trans.
Hey! as a trans lesbian in my 60s and who transitioned late in life, I have found it difficult to find a meaningful relationship (but I am still sooo happy I transitioned!). I love Anya's comments in this video about how she much she actively appreciates the perspectives Jackie has as a trans woman! Its a great video! And congratulations to both of you on your English - I couldn't even start to do this in a language other than my own!
I’m nonbinary/afab and demisexual, and I had the recurrent experience of coming out to straight cis male partners and having them react badly, fearing what I’d be like with male anatomy (not what I said, dudes) and ultimately feeling like it made them less of a man. After a phenomenal amount of therapy, I’m now in a beautiful, loving relationship where I am asked to please be exactly who I am - anyone out there on this journey, you’re not perma-F’ed, and there are amazing people out there who will show you real love. Thank you both for sharing your experiences and for showing us that it’s not just about tolerance or acceptance, it’s about love. 💜
Aw I'm sorry to hear about the bad experiences. But how wonderful it is when you then find someone who loves you just as you are and want you to be you! Thank you for sharing ❤️
One thing that I love about being Trans, as you touched on, is that there are no expectations, either slef-imposed or societal that I have come across so far. That mask I wore before I came out really constricted what I could do and be. That's gone now and I get to explore and discover who I am ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video; I've been feeling pretty dysphoric lately while being in a relationship with an absolutely incredible woman, so this video really helped fight off my insecurities
A lovely outdoor setting today. Very nice. And not at all on topic but both of you are having great hair days! Jackie, your colour looks amazing. Anya, your hairstyle pops, that tussled look! and I love your top. Back on topic, a monkey will be right twice a day?? lol. The two of you are brilliant. Thank you for this video.
As someone who is actively genderfluid in all my partnerships it feels good to hear you say what you do about gender expression. Unfortunately, given where I live there is a lot of hate and it makes life overall and finding partners hard. Especially as someone who on the surface looks cis but how I conduct my relationships isn't cis at all. Especially for my past partners as well, who have been cis and trans, trying to keep ourselves afloat in an environment where a lot of the culture is aggressively cisgender. Videos like this are so refreshing for me. No catch or twist. Just love. I appreciate it.
your videos provide me with serotonin and hope. 🥺 as a younger trans woman, I still have some work to do in convincing myself that I am capable of being loved. This helps. Also just wanna say thank you to all lesbians in general. As a straight trans woman I can never have enough friends who are lesbians.
So happy to hear that! ;A; Sometimes it can take time to learn but you'll get there ❤️ you are so so worthy of love, and you'll know it too eventually ✨️
Me and my boyfriend are in a samesex t4t relationship and it’s great being able to experience transitioning and trans happiness together. Also you both are so pretty!
19:00 "It's all it's a little silly, but, you know: it's it's the small things, like when we're talking over breakfast. It's like 'you know what I really appreciate?' " This is SO CUTE! it makes me feel so warm. you two have such amazing, insightful videos. I adore them
I'm a trans woman, and the thing I like about being trans is that I feel freed from the expectations of society, I can express myself however, sine I'm already so different. I also like that I feel more open to exploring things about myself and what I want out of relationships.
I just want to say, you two are the cutest. This video gives me so much hope and inspiration. I am currently transitioning (or trying to) and my wife is super supportive.
you two are both such beautiful women, inside & out! as a cis, queer woman, I would just like to express all my love for all of the beautiful trans folks out there!!
This idea for a video is very sweet, and good to be out there in the ether! You can feel the love through the video. Also, the accents remind me of home. God dag!
Wow, this is the dream. Also trans lesbian. I know trans women are far more common than trans men, but now I wonder how much of us prefer a female (or feminine) partner. Thanks for the amazing display of true love! That gives me hope of finding someone myself. ❤🏳️⚧️
Thank you for this, I’m a trans women and a lesbian. I’ve never dated anyone yet and I’m just starting to transition. Seeing you two so happy together fills me with such hope. Thank you, and I wish for you both all the joy in the world! ❤️❤️🫶🫶
I came out as a woman earlier this year and it's honestly been the best, most important thing I have ever done! and I have found myself a wonderful nonbinary partner who just adores me. It's wonderful to see a discussion like this!
Only just discovered y'all today because this title immediately caught my eye. This speaks so much to me and my cis les wife and I couldn't be more delighted, it's so rare to see us reflected anywhere. It's not identical, I was already deep into transition when we met and I wasn't even the first trans girl she'd dated. But it still resonates directly. She loves me for who I am completely, not despite who I am, in a way I've never felt before. Being who we we are together has changed both our lives so much and so beautifully. Thank you for reminding us we're not alone.
As a cis guy who has transfolks in his life I just wanna say we need to see more of this. We need more joy, more testimony, more proof that love can be found and life can be good for folks who are trans. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your stories. If your cis and reading this then please share this video, you may not know what the people around you are feeling and how much thry need to see positive stuff to feel the comfort to come out themselves or just feel a little less gloomy about their day.
That's exactly what we want too and a big part of why we started doing this ❤️ we need stories that are not tragedies! Many of us love beautiful, wonderful lives and have found deep love ✨️ Thank you so much for your comment, it means a lot to us ❤️
I love this❤ watched so much negative stuff about trans. Being closeted trans, these kind of videos makes me so happy, like I could have a cute future someday...
I absolutely adore you both! I identify with many of the dynamics in your relationship. I'm currently single but have a yearning for these attributes in my future relationships. Thank you for all of the content you create❣️
I am a trans woman in love with my wife who is non-binary and I love that they are being their full authentic selves every day. It just makes me so happy to see them being real. I also love that they are the assigned female at birth one in our relationship and they are more masculine than I am when I am the assigned male at birth one and quite girly 😂
Great video 😀 But i couldn't take my eyes off Jackies hair (for which I'm envy by the way), maybe becouse they contrasted so well whith floral background 😆
As a cis man, I think, people are overthinking, this whole "what it means to be a man/woman". Just be you, just be the kind of woman/man you are. You don't have to prove to anybody, that you are your gender properly and that applies, if you're cis or trans. Neither cis nor trans people have to prove anything to anyone, that is none of their business, you're always a person first. The only thing you maybe have to prove to somebody is your character, but not your gender. And if somebody insists on it, that is none of their business.
@@martinbruhn5274 Thank you, it lifts my spirits when I read comments like this. Because I’m 18. I live in homophobic country. I never had any friends at school and both my parents are homophobic and so are my older sister and brother too, so I have to be something i’m not
You two are so adorable! What I love about being trans is that I get to be me and all the questioning along the way has given me a unique perspective. It also taught me that kindness is the highest virtue.
I think in some way this was in my recommended for a reason, as I've gotten to a stage in my transition where I've got feelings for a Cis-lesbian that this video was in my recommendations to affirm that it was ok to have those feelings.
I'm trans and my partner started medically transitioning a few months in dating me. We're both super queer and both super gender fuckery, but sometimes (8 years later) we pass as a straight couple and I hate that! I feel bad because I love him and who he is, but it's kinda funny that it's the opposite of ye. We went from a lesbian relationship to a (sometimes*) straight passing one. * usually I think we pass as a gay woman and a gay man who are friends haha. which im honestly ok with cos it's kinda hilarious.
Thank you for this video it warmed my nonbinary heart and voiced a lot of the joyful, thoughtful experiences I had after my girlfriend came out as trans as well. I have never felt more understood in a relationship and accepted in my gender experience, and I love sharing that acceptance with her as well. So glad to be able to be our true selves together; loving, weird, giddy, safe, creative, nature gremlins, overflowing the gender expectations set for us by others. Thank you for making us feel seen 🌻
Hello! As the cis wife in our trans/cis lesbian marriage I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos and creating this space for others to be visible and share their experiences. It is so affirming! I love this video especially because I could relate to everything you said EXCEPT the part about leading my trans wife through girly stuff. Honestly I was wondering if maybe SHE could teach me a thing or two LOL. Turns out I still don't care about gender norms and I'm still not really interested in girly stuff. Instead, I just happily inherited a bunch of her old masc clothes for my cozy futch wardrobe and I couldn't be happier!
Awww this comment is so adorable :') thank you for your kind words! And thank you for sharing your perspective ❤️ it's so cute to me to think about your girly trans wife being able to teach you about femininity haha ✨️ adorable!
Yayy!!!! I love this! I am a transitioning trans femme, trans women. Actually even really recently seriously considering srs too. As someone who has steered back towards monogamy at the same time. I find I am really only into women of all types romantically... and it's amazing how with everything considered things are making sense to how queer my being into women has been and it's one of the most beautiful things ever!
Point 5 and that queer life is a lovely thing. Me and my partner are cis but we share a queerness that I think is shared from before our relationship. And it is something we look for in our friends too. You two, your queerness, and your life together really is a joy to see.
Oml what a wholesome couple 😊 As far as my trans experience goes, I feel as though it has informed my criticality of normative social constructs on a deeper level (seeing as I have never "fit in") to the point of that criticality predating my awareness of being trans myself by many years. For all of the hardships, in at least the hand it has in my deconstruction of "normal" I can take pleasure. I feel as though I wouldn't be as curious as to why things are the way they are if I was simply a cis hetero-normative person. So for all the perspective that comes with being viewed as a man that I wasn't to now my struggles to be viewed as the woman I am, I am greatful and hopefully my mental struggles in life have helped and will help me help those around me dealing with similar issues. Unfortunately I feel that, at least in the States, mental health issues are tragically unaddressed.
YOU GUYS ARE SOOOOOOO *CUTE*. I'm on the verge of crying. Because I see something in your relationship, the way you look at each other, the way you speak to each other that is so sweet, so mutually affirming, so playful. Keep being gay in every sense of the word.
I'm reminded of a Facebook conversation Criticizing a trans woman for being Stereotypical and said he'll yeah we do Stereotypical one things. It helps at some of us Survive
Exactly 🤷♀️ and so often if trans women are stereotypically girly, they'll be criticised for that and if they're not, they're criticised for not trying hard enough, so it feels like there's no winning with transphobes anyway
I'm in love with a trans person but I'm a cis woman and I'm in tears with this video because you put in words everything that I feel just looking at her. Thank u both, I'm so happy that this video exist!
The fifth point is really interesting. It turns to a discussion of bi/poly erasure. But that's not what Anya says exactly at first, it sounds like it's more about how queer she would feel in herself, not just about outside perceptions of her queerness. As a pan person in an often straight-passing relationship, I definitely feel that. And it's sensitive to talk about, because we don't want to validate people who try and invalidate the queerness of queer folks straight-passing queer relationships. But at the same time, yeah, there's something beautiful about being in a [I don't know the right adjective to put here] queer relationship.
Yeah it def is a bit of a touchy subject. Obvs it would be great if we didn't feel our identities were erased no matter who we're dating, but society is what it is haha. Thank you for your interesting thoughts ❤️
Being a trans lesbian has always felt so scary. Thank you for making it feel safer
Aw that's beautiful 🥺 thank you for saying that ❤️
It’s scary because there’s a lot of terf stuff and fearmongering out there, but trust me, lesbians have been one of the most trans-inclusive non trans groups I know, and there’s lots of statistics to back that up.
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Im also a trans lesbian, and i feel the same as you.
@@trans-atlantique-mtf I'm genderqueer but I hope the best for you all.
When I came out as trans, my wife came out as bi. Every single day, I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. I see my life reflected in yours, and that brings me so much joy ^__^
That is just so adorable :'))) ❤️✨️
Same😂
@@fionasabre same xD
I'm not crying or anything.
@@WivesVsWorld
Live long life happy and healthy god bless
As a trans lesbian woman that is in love with a cis bissexual woman, watching your videos makes me feel so happy and represented 💜
Awww this is so uplifting to hear! Thank you so much 🥺❤️
Awww this is so uplifting to hear! Thank you so much 🥺❤️
Awww this is so uplifting to hear! Thank you so much 🥺❤️
you’re a man with a heterosexual infatuation. nothing wrong with that.
Hey same! (trans lesbian with a cis bi woman) *waves*
I recently came out as trans in November (amab). My cis wife has been by myside for 7 years before and is still with me now. Her words when i came out were "Well you're lucky you have a hot pansexual wife". Yes i am. I dont know if i could do this without her.
Hahahaaaa this is so sweet! She sounds like an absolute keeper ❤️ so happy it worked out and much love to you both ✨️
Similar story here-I've come out to my close friends as genderqueer, femme-leaning, possibly a trans woman (still figuring things out!), and bisexual this summer. My wife of over 20 years confiding in me that she was bisexual gave me the courage to embrace the thoughts and feelings I'd been having about my gender for a long time. It's an incredibly fortunate and wonderful thing to be in our situation-especially since we wear similar sizes in clothing!
@DevinParker being able to steal the wife's clothes after she's be stealing yours for years is so nice isn't it? Lol
Congrats. : )
The more appropriate question than, "How hard has this relationship been for you?" would be, "How hard have other ignorant people made this relationship for you?"
Exactly hahaha that would make way more sense for me to answer tbh 😂
@@WivesVsWorldeven better yet in my opinion to make it less attacking of an individual. „ how hard has trans stereotypes made it to get to where you are now“
This is literally the first time I’ve seen this take, and it made me cry. As a trans girl in a trans/cis lesbian relationship, I’ve never seen any representation of people who are GLAD their partner is trans and it is so encouraging
This made me so happy:') that's exactly why I felt sharing this take was needed! We need to see more trans love and positivity, because it's out there ❤️
double edged sword, beeing picked out for beeing trans... I might be the "perfect mix" of male and female for some bi-people... but this "I just wanted/needed to try that out" can really hurt.
also beeing fetishised or asked for "services" did occur.
It's f**Ing hard to find someone who loves you for your personality or is even willing to give it a try to get to know you, if they know you are trans.
but love to see that it's possible.
I very much like and agree your points, though, feels very valuing for the experience that we go through, one way or the other.
Indeed, that is always difficult to deal with. When you do find that person who judt gets you though, it's so worth it.
And absolutely, being trans is its own beautifully unique experience in so many ways ❤️
Honestly i understand why you think that might be a Problem but it just Shows you upfront who would be a fit for you and who does not. Imagine one of the people who will not Accept you did actually accept you and you where in a relationship with somone who does not fully accept you but only plays the part. Thats not what you want for yourself. Just be your true self and someone who finds that attractive, because they can see who you are, will eventually come along. And regarding the chasers you will develop a Sense for them they kinda give themselves away quite easy mostly.
If someone tells you that they want to date you *because* you're trans, ask them for other reasons and if they can't answer, walk away and block them if possible. Your time, energy, and love are too valuable to deal with that kind of disrespect. You're a beautiful human, and the person or people meant for you will find you. Just stay true to you, just be safe. The world is unfortunately not entirely accepting of us right now, but you deserve and are worthy of respect and love. 🫶
As a cis lesbian woman in a 2 year romantic relationship with a fantastic trans woman, it means a lot that you make videos❤️
Aww we're so glad to hear that, thank you so much 🙏✨️
Im a cis lesbian in a 2 month romantic relationship with an absolutely extraordinary trans girl, so many rolemodels
You took the thoughts out of my mouth
This isn't mean an insult, but, in regular-joe speak does that mean to you are a "default" woman - born as a woman - who generally likes other women, and that in your case, you partner was born a man and is now a woman?
It's not obvious if you aren't immersed in this stuff so please don't bite my head off I'm trying to learn the terminology and it's not straightforward at all to many people. The terminology, not the general ideas. Thank you in advance I am trying to understand this video which came up on my feed and learn a bit. I've gathered "cis" means vanilla.
No worries! Of course, there's no shame in not knowing every term 🥰 Cis simply mean that you're comfortable and identify with the gender you were assigned at birth - so basically if you were born a girl and happy being a woman: you're cis. If you're happier being another gender than what you were born as - you're trans ^^ hope that clears things up a little! ✨️
As an Ace, when I begun transitioning I was prepared to accept that relationships were going to be on the back burner. 3 months later I befriended someone kind and open - 3 months after that I decided to ask her out (coincidentally she was juuuust about to ask me out) and we have been happily dating since. We've learned and helped each other so much and things like hugging, nose rubs and being held feels so much more special. Being gay is pretty wonderful.
This is just so adorable ❤️ being queer is pretty great, isn't it :')
My Partner is a Trans Woman and technically speaking i am the Cis Man in the Relationship. But i was born intersex and i am kinda stuck in a female appearing body. Hrt is not a option for me since my body does not accept it. I struggeld a lot with accepting that. The journey of my Partner, who could Transition and is now living in her best live as the right gender gave me a bit envy at the beginning. But the thing is we can relate to our highs an lows way more, than my exes who where cis, just couldn't. In the End she helped me accepting that i am fine as i am and she is also.
This is such a beautiful story ❤️ thank you for sharing! ✨️
I can't even imagine how difficult that must have been for you. Wishing you and your partner all the best
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Empathy makes it easier doesn't it?
@@AngelusNielson Yes,i have to Battle with my dysphoria everyday. I am a man but nobody but the people who know me believe me. I am constantly catcalled have to argue with people who think i want to fool them by posing as a Woman. And thats not even taking into Account the whole Public restroom debacle. So my exes who where cis could not understand why that was such a big Deal for me, and how could they they never experienced how that wears on someone. But my now Partner and a couple of friend from the LGBTQ+ Community can, since they to went through that same Shit. Sorry for the rant sometimes it gets me.
I am envious of your relationship. An actively affirmative partner is such a rare person to find!
It shouldn't be 😭 I wish people to become more accepting and affirming in the future 🙏
Oh I'm also a happy cis lesbian with my cute trans gf. She's so cute, and I've learned so much with her being trans. I'm quite grateful, and glad she's made me more wise
Completely agree ❤️ so happy you share the sentiment! 🥰
"This is what I love about you being trans" is so positive! Gratitude is an important practice, and I love that you two project that in a very playful way! Being queer and trans has been and continues to be a catalyst to self exploration. Much of it was painful, but I am grateful for it. Being a woman is an amazing adventure! Thank you for your content and the opportunity for more self reflection and joy!
So happy it resonated! And exactly, it feels so good to be free of conventions ❤️✨️
The last ten minutes of this video being variations on "I'm so glad I'm into girls and you're a girl" is the most on brand ur-lesbian thing and I'm living for it. Love your videos as always. As for the ending question, some day I hope to find something I appreciate about being trans, but I haven't yet.
Hahaha glad you enjoyed it 🥲❤️ thank you so much for your sweet words!
I have no doubt you'll find it eventually. Even though it's rough, being trans is such a unique and beautiful experience 🌹
well this was just fucking adorable
Thank you so much, happy you think so :')
Anya just being dom this whole video is adorable fr
This is the best comment 😂🙏
As a trans woman (who's mostly just into women), I continue to be surprised by just how many cis lesbians are into trans women.
Like I expected/feared that basically no cis ladies would like women like me. But there seem to be a surprising number who genuinely are fine with trans women.
And I'm not even looking for a partner right now. I just like to know that I'm welcome in a community, you know?
Exactly!! There's a very vocal minority that love to spout hate, but they sure don't speak for all queer women! So many cis lesbians are just fine with trans women (as also proven by the many testimonies in the comments ❤️)
The very moment I read this title, I started to tear up. I don't know why now or why this, but just the thought that I could be not just accepted but also loved and even desired after a whole bunch of changes just got me really emotional ;-;
That's so sweet :') so happy to hear that ❤️ it's absolutely a message we don't hear enough ✨️
wow 🥹 i am a transgender man and my partner is a cis man. the commentary here about being a "tour guide" is exactly how i feel my partner is, he very much is exploring masculinity with me in a healthy way and it is wonderful, especially since i have started HRT now. even before i had started T, there was a lot of exploration of gender in our relationship and with ourselves individually. the most lovely thing said to me by him was that i helped him feel reassured in what his masculinity means to him, what it means in society and culture at large. i love being trans and i love this community!! thank you for this video
Aw this is just the sweetest! Exactly - it can be so beneficial to have a "tour guide" to show you the ropes :') and honestly quite interesting that society is so gendered that it's needed.
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your perspective ❤️
As a trans woman who is also Sapphic it is really heartwarming to see a whole video of Anya describing to Jackie why she loves being with her as a trans woman. It's so affirming to see being trans as an actively positive thing that gives me a greater capacity to introspect about my gender. I also love how playful and adorable you both are 💜💙
So happy you enjoyed it :') that's exactly why we did it - we don't hear messages like this enough ✨️
just actually the most adorable couple on youtube
Awwwww hahah thank you so much 🥲❤️
Find yourself someone who looks at you like they look at each other
This was a gorgeous chat. I once thought I was a trans lesbian until it turned out after transition I am very straight and it was mostly social norms and me knowing I wasn't a gay man getting in the way. Or maybe hormones rewired my brain. Long story short I separated from my wife of the time - but that in itself allowed us to transform into best friends, close like sisters, and we are raising our kids as co-Mums, and that in itself has been a precious thing to have. Fascinating how transition can allow relationships to grow and strengthen, if in sometimes unexpected ways.
Thank you so much ❤️ and thank you for sharing, this is such an interesting perspective I haven't heard many times! How wonderful ✨️
Fun fact: my then-fiancee-now-wife had been out as bisexual since she was in high school when I came out to her as a trans woman, so she wasn't terribly fazed by it. However, many years later, she remarked to me that every time she dated a guy, it always made her feel really anxious for some reason--*except* for when she first started dating me, and, well, we know how that turned out. She has since come to the conclusion that perhaps she was a lesbian from the very start, which is convenient, what with me being a woman and all.
This is such a sweet story tbh :') thank you for sharing!
I had such a similar experience with my trans wife! I was closeted bi and put off dating for so long until I met my AMAB wife who was not out when we first met, and yet I felt very comfortable and drawn to her. That was 14 years ago and we are about to celebrate our ten year wedding anniversary. 🥰
I love being trans, it's an unstoppable force inside of you that bursts out in the form of joy, creativity, kindness, empathy, and self-reflection. I'm a conversion therapy survivor, putting up the walls and playing the part of being left alone while preserving and healing my inner self was difficult, and facing transphobia is hard and shouldn't be in the equation. But those moments of truth when you can just be are worth it alone.
It's a wellspring of so much good when you finally get to express yourself ❤️
Despite having gone through that experience, it's heartwarming to see that you are finding your way ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing that ❤️
I have a love/hate relationship with being visibly trans. It can be liberating in that I will never be taken for cisgender however it also means I get negative comments directed my way to "correct" me back to identity as a man. Intentional "sir" and heckling on the street are unfortunately still part of my experience. I envy those who can pass in that life is hard enough without excess emotional hurts accumulating.
In regard to finding love, I had been on four dating apps for months and months, tried some in person advances and not ended up on a single date.
Anya, I love that you celebrate Jackie's transness in your relationship
I am not saying this dynamic is impossible for me, just that it is often a rare gift for us trans women who like women. Not all lesbians are as open to perceive trans women as potential romantic interests.
How long have you been transitioning friend? Speaking as a trans woman, in my experience and seeing stuff online, while not every trans woman can end up passing (especially if they don't have the financial circumstances or don't live in a country that helps with said circumstances and trans-specific care), with enough time the vast majority can end up looking fine as hell if that is a goal. Dating especially early on can be quite superficial, so I would say it is a reasonable goal.
Something to keep in mind is that if you're trying to date lesbians who are not trans women, dating apps are always stacked against you. Said people tend to make basic assumptions about each trans person they see and not give the full time of day to really consider the individual because of how dating apps inherently work. This creates some situations where for example every trans woman is assumed to be pre/non-op and yes unsurprisingly most lesbians are not a fan of that when it comes to romantic/sexual interests. With everything said, I just want to acknowledge my pretty privilege, and that I have been in the very fortunate position of being able to pass in terms of appearances within less than 2 years of my transition, and this could have influenced what I said here.
I will put it in crude terms to wrap it up. Until one has pretty privilege, dating apps I would only recommend only for dating other trans women. If one has pretty privilege, dating apps I would additionally recommend for dating pan and bi people who are not trans women. Even under those circumstances dating apps are pretty bad so don't expect much from them. Sapphics/lesbians who are not trans women, ok a minority exist who are interested but generally even if you have pretty+passing privilege I wouldn't get your hopes up. Worth noting that sapphics who identify as nonbinary to some capacity or masc gender identity or intersex sapphics are much more likely to be open to dating trans women than straight up cis woman lesbians. The best overall options for dating as a sqpphic trans woman is connecting with someone from a mutual friend or connecting with someone after a queer event party club kink munch etc. So, the focus should be on getting more queer friends! Hope that helps maybe gives reassurance
@@Amaling pretty privilege, I love that you went there! So often I find people try to pretend like it isn't even a thing
hrt 3+ years
I am older. The hrt has had some, but generally minor outward appearance changes. Mostly I feel more inwardly like I has changed things like affect and sex drive
I get it with genitalia preference. I haven't been able to t4t due to weirdness about it myself
Queer friend circles are good, but very reserved from my experience
Celebrate diversity. I'm a cis bi female who is attracted to human beings, not sex or gender
@@kasanesb I'm an older trans lesbian as well, and I understand this struggle. I get genital preference and pretty privilege. It's... not easy to deal with the feeling that I'll never have a satisfying physical relationship. I'm lucky in that HRT has given me a more visibly feminine appearance, and a bit of makeup really helps with my face - but I get anxious even trying
@@tantamounted Oh I hear you on the anxiety even trying to pass and the loneliness that comes from feeling unwanted in a physical sense
Something I love about being trans: I've had to speedrun all of my work on myself, so I feel at peace with who I am but have also identified areas I want to improve on at a relatively young age (I'm in my mid-20s). Like you talked about, I've had to be very reflective. When I have friends early in their transition who are struggling, I tell them that it's hard at the beginning, but when we're older, we won't have to worry about a midlife crisis because we've already had all of our identity crises! 😂 It makes me feel more secure about myself and my future.
This is SO true hahah. I'm glad you relate! It really does feel very valuable to have to figure all that stuff out at a young age ^^
Me n my gf are both trans women and it's the best feeling ever being in love with someone that understands me on such a deep level
Isn't it just? That's so wonderful to hear ❤️
Your relationship is so beautiful to see!!! I definitely relate to the final point. I'm a cis lesbian and my trans lesbian fiancee makes me feel so fortunate to have her in my life, not the least of which because I feel like we're women in the queerest possible way!
Yesss exactly! This is so beautiful to hear ❤️ Thank you for sharing 🌹
I'm in a similar case as you too but I'm the trans wife in my case. My (cis) wife is not a lesbian or bi though so I'm now the "wrong" gender for her, but we are still together as a QPR and we're both polyamorous.
Oh it's wonderful that you've figured out to still have a loving relationship! ❤️ thank you for sharing ✨️
Aw, glad you were able to make it work
I'm a trans woman i also like girls.
My sexuality is? Complicated and still trying to figure it out all i do know is i like girls and always have and always will.
Think i only went out with guys because i didn't think women would want someone like me?
It is nice to see this isn't true.
You are not alone, I relate to everything you say. YOU ARE WORTHY, HOWEVER you EVOLVE. Cheers! :)
That is so valid, but you are so worthy of being loved by who you desire ❤️ much love to you!
Same here.
Yes! Lots of Cis people don't question themselves, and it shows. You both are beautiful.
Hahahah exactly 😂❤️
Thank you so much, you're too kind ❤️
I can relate to a lot of this. My partner is trans and we started dating long before her egg cracked. Her transition journey has actually helped me on my gender journey and I've come to realize I'm non-binary / trans. Although i am trans masc, so the ironic part of it is we "gayed so hard we turned straight" 😅 i mean, i most certainly am non-binary but making jokes about where we started and where we are now is funny.
Hahaha that's so cute ❤️ thank you for sharing! ✨️
You two are absolutely adorable. I'm almost melting here! Very eloquent about your experiences too, a joy to watch and listen to. Anya's style of subtle domming is really lovely as well. 😊 I'd flirt with you two if we met!
I'm a trans woman in a lesbian relationship too. We've met 19 years ago, when I was just freshly discovering my identity, before even considering transitioning. We've spent a few years discovering each other and exploring my identity. Then we decided to have kids, and suddenly, our lives revolved around them. And so I ended up actually transitioning only recently, about two years ago. I've sent the link to this channel to my wife when she asked about resources for cis partners of trans women, and she appreciates you too. So, thanks for your concent! It might amuse you to hear that it took her some time to figure out which one of you was cis and which one trans.
That made me laugh with exquisite joy that your wife took some time to figure out which of Jackie and Anya is trans. THANKS for sharing! :)
So happy you enjoyed it! 🥰🌹 we'd probably flirt right back 😌
That's such an interesting journey! Thank you for sharing ✨️
I finally found a trans & cis lesbian TH-cam couple! I subscribed right away
Hahah so happy to have you here! Thank you so much ❤️
Same here.
even as a straight trans woman, you two are such a cute couple! •‿•
Awww thank you so much 🥰
That red hair is sooooooo cute 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yayy thank you!! ❤️
Hey! as a trans lesbian in my 60s and who transitioned late in life, I have found it difficult to find a meaningful relationship (but I am still sooo happy I transitioned!). I love Anya's comments in this video about how she much she actively appreciates the perspectives Jackie has as a trans woman! Its a great video! And congratulations to both of you on your English - I couldn't even start to do this in a language other than my own!
Aww thank you so much for all your kind words! 🥰❤️
I’m nonbinary/afab and demisexual, and I had the recurrent experience of coming out to straight cis male partners and having them react badly, fearing what I’d be like with male anatomy (not what I said, dudes) and ultimately feeling like it made them less of a man. After a phenomenal amount of therapy, I’m now in a beautiful, loving relationship where I am asked to please be exactly who I am - anyone out there on this journey, you’re not perma-F’ed, and there are amazing people out there who will show you real love. Thank you both for sharing your experiences and for showing us that it’s not just about tolerance or acceptance, it’s about love. 💜
Aw I'm sorry to hear about the bad experiences. But how wonderful it is when you then find someone who loves you just as you are and want you to be you! Thank you for sharing ❤️
my gf is trans and im cis (afab) and this makes me so happy! you guys look so cute too
Aww that's so wonderful to hear! :') thank you so much! ❤️
One thing that I love about being Trans, as you touched on, is that there are no expectations, either slef-imposed or societal that I have come across so far. That mask I wore before I came out really constricted what I could do and be. That's gone now and I get to explore and discover who I am ❤❤❤
That is such a beautiful point ❤️ thank you for sharing ✨️
seeing you two being so happy matters so much and i absolutely love it.
That's so sweet of you to say, thank you so much 🥺
Thank you for this video; I've been feeling pretty dysphoric lately while being in a relationship with an absolutely incredible woman, so this video really helped fight off my insecurities
Aw so happy to hear that! Wish you the best of luck! ❤️
A lovely outdoor setting today. Very nice. And not at all on topic but both of you are having great hair days! Jackie, your colour looks amazing. Anya, your hairstyle pops, that tussled look! and I love your top. Back on topic, a monkey will be right twice a day?? lol. The two of you are brilliant. Thank you for this video.
Thank you so much for all your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
it's maybe an ex-animal!!! LMAO 1:00 you two are hilarious
To be fair it's mostly Anya 😂
You guys are couple goals!
Awwww thank you! ❤️
As someone who is really early into their transition, this really makes me feel seen.
So happy to hear that, that's all we dream of ❤️
As someone who is actively genderfluid in all my partnerships it feels good to hear you say what you do about gender expression. Unfortunately, given where I live there is a lot of hate and it makes life overall and finding partners hard. Especially as someone who on the surface looks cis but how I conduct my relationships isn't cis at all.
Especially for my past partners as well, who have been cis and trans, trying to keep ourselves afloat in an environment where a lot of the culture is aggressively cisgender. Videos like this are so refreshing for me.
No catch or twist.
Just love.
I appreciate it.
This is such a lovely comment, thank you so much 🥰❤️ so happy it resonated!
your videos provide me with serotonin and hope. 🥺
as a younger trans woman, I still have some work to do in convincing myself that I am capable of being loved. This helps.
Also just wanna say thank you to all lesbians in general. As a straight trans woman I can never have enough friends who are lesbians.
So happy to hear that! ;A;
Sometimes it can take time to learn but you'll get there ❤️ you are so so worthy of love, and you'll know it too eventually ✨️
A salute for the lesbians o7
Hello 🌹🌹
this video and the comments make me feel so much more hopeful and happier for our future. keep loving eachother!
This is so sweet ❤️ the commenters here really gives one hope! There's so much love going around and it's beautiful ✨️
Me and my boyfriend are in a samesex t4t relationship and it’s great being able to experience transitioning and trans happiness together. Also you both are so pretty!
That's so wonderful ❤️ and thank you so much! ✨️
aww the way you look at each other is so irresistibly adorable)))
That's such a sweet compliment, thank you so much :') ❤️
Seems like a perfect situation. A perfect relationship. You love each other so much. God bless
We really do ❤️ thank you do much for your kind words ✨️
19:00
"It's all it's a little silly, but, you know:
it's it's the small things, like when we're talking over breakfast.
It's like 'you know what I really appreciate?' "
This is SO CUTE! it makes me feel so warm. you two have such amazing, insightful videos. I adore them
So happy you enjoyed the video :') comments like this are such a joy ❤️
I'm a trans woman, and the thing I like about being trans is that I feel freed from the expectations of society, I can express myself however, sine I'm already so different. I also like that I feel more open to exploring things about myself and what I want out of relationships.
So much this!
I just want to say, you two are the cutest. This video gives me so much hope and inspiration. I am currently transitioning (or trying to) and my wife is super supportive.
Thank you so much:') aww that is so wonderful to hear! Much love to you both!
you two are both such beautiful women, inside & out! as a cis, queer woman, I would just like to express all my love for all of the beautiful trans folks out there!!
This idea for a video is very sweet, and good to be out there in the ether! You can feel the love through the video. Also, the accents remind me of home. God dag!
Aw thank you so much for all the sweet words ❤️ hahah i lige måde! 🥰
You two are so adorable. This video had me giggling like a lil girl.
Wow, this is the dream. Also trans lesbian. I know trans women are far more common than trans men, but now I wonder how much of us prefer a female (or feminine) partner. Thanks for the amazing display of true love! That gives me hope of finding someone myself. ❤🏳️⚧️
That would be very interesting to know!
And thank you for the kind words ❤️✨️ I hope you will find everything you dream of in the future 🙏
Trans men aren't less common than trans women, they're just less visible than trans women.
Thank you for this, I’m a trans women and a lesbian. I’ve never dated anyone yet and I’m just starting to transition. Seeing you two so happy together fills me with such hope. Thank you, and I wish for you both all the joy in the world! ❤️❤️🫶🫶
This is so sweet ❤️ thank you so much for your kind words! I hope the future brings you everything you dream of ✨️
I came out as a woman earlier this year and it's honestly been the best, most important thing I have ever done! and I have found myself a wonderful nonbinary partner who just adores me. It's wonderful to see a discussion like this!
This is just so wonderful to hear :') thank you so much for sharing!
Only just discovered y'all today because this title immediately caught my eye. This speaks so much to me and my cis les wife and I couldn't be more delighted, it's so rare to see us reflected anywhere. It's not identical, I was already deep into transition when we met and I wasn't even the first trans girl she'd dated. But it still resonates directly. She loves me for who I am completely, not despite who I am, in a way I've never felt before. Being who we we are together has changed both our lives so much and so beautifully. Thank you for reminding us we're not alone.
Oh that is so wonderful to hear 🥺 I absolutely love that, thank you for sharing! Much love to you both!
oh my god you ladies are *adorable* 🥰
love the shout-out to the dating of eldritch horrors 😂
Hahah thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it 😂
As a cis guy who has transfolks in his life I just wanna say we need to see more of this. We need more joy, more testimony, more proof that love can be found and life can be good for folks who are trans. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your stories.
If your cis and reading this then please share this video, you may not know what the people around you are feeling and how much thry need to see positive stuff to feel the comfort to come out themselves or just feel a little less gloomy about their day.
That's exactly what we want too and a big part of why we started doing this ❤️ we need stories that are not tragedies! Many of us love beautiful, wonderful lives and have found deep love ✨️
Thank you so much for your comment, it means a lot to us ❤️
You remind me so much of me and my girlfriend! We’re both trans (I’m nonbinary). We both came out to our families together ❤️
Aww that's so sweet! How wonderful ❤️
I love this❤ watched so much negative stuff about trans. Being closeted trans, these kind of videos makes me so happy, like I could have a cute future someday...
Exactly, there's just so much negativity and it can be very disheartening u__u thank you so much for watching and happy you enjoyed ❤️
Aaah you're so adorable! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences
Thank you so much, that's so sweet of you :') ❤️
Hearing someone talk about what they love about their partner being trans really helped me. And is also just really sweet 💜
So so happy to hear that!! That's all we want ❤️✨️ and thank you!
I absolutely adore you both! I identify with many of the dynamics in your relationship. I'm currently single but have a yearning for these attributes in my future relationships. Thank you for all of the content you create❣️
Aww this is so wonderful to hear ❤️ thank you so much! 🥰
I am a trans woman in love with my wife who is non-binary and I love that they are being their full authentic selves every day. It just makes me so happy to see them being real. I also love that they are the assigned female at birth one in our relationship and they are more masculine than I am when I am the assigned male at birth one and quite girly 😂
Hahah that is so adorable :') so happy for the both of you ❤️ much love!
Hahah that is so adorable :') so happy for the both of you ❤️ much love!
What a lovely story this is...ideal couple...please you guys also start a TH-cam channel...
Brylee...you are also couple goals for closeted transwomen like me...are you guys on social
@@PoojaSharma-xz4xu not yet!
Y'all make my day when you post
Awww thank you so much! :') ❤️
Great video 😀 But i couldn't take my eyes off Jackies hair (for which I'm envy by the way), maybe becouse they contrasted so well whith floral background 😆
Hahah thank you so much! You're too kind ❤️🥰
As a cis man, I think, people are overthinking, this whole "what it means to be a man/woman". Just be you, just be the kind of woman/man you are. You don't have to prove to anybody, that you are your gender properly and that applies, if you're cis or trans. Neither cis nor trans people have to prove anything to anyone, that is none of their business, you're always a person first. The only thing you maybe have to prove to somebody is your character, but not your gender. And if somebody insists on it, that is none of their business.
Beautifully said! 🙌❤️
@@WivesVsWorld Aw, thanks
@@martinbruhn5274 Thank you, it lifts my spirits when I read comments like this. Because I’m 18. I live in homophobic country. I never had any friends at school and both my parents are homophobic and so are my older sister and brother too, so I have to be something i’m not
Lovely couple! Similar to the Danish expression, in India there's a saying, "drop by drop a lake is formed".
That's such a beautiful expression! Thank you for your kind words ❤️
U 2 are so sweet together! All the best from a cis hetero white guy, who doesn’t understand why anyone would object to ur kind of relation. ❤
Aww this is so sweet! Thank you so much for your kind words, it warms our hearts ❤️
You two are so adorable! What I love about being trans is that I get to be me and all the questioning along the way has given me a unique perspective. It also taught me that kindness is the highest virtue.
Thank you so much! Aw that's so wonderfully put :') isn't that just the truth!
I think in some way this was in my recommended for a reason, as I've gotten to a stage in my transition where I've got feelings for a Cis-lesbian that this video was in my recommendations to affirm that it was ok to have those feelings.
Aww this is so beautiful ❤️ it is absolutely okay! Much love to you!
I’m glad TH-cam suggested this video to me. You’re sweet and I subscribed because I need more positive content
So happy to hear that! Welcome! We are all about that positivity and hoping to spread a bit of joy in this space ❤️
I'm trans and my partner started medically transitioning a few months in dating me. We're both super queer and both super gender fuckery, but sometimes (8 years later) we pass as a straight couple and I hate that! I feel bad because I love him and who he is, but it's kinda funny that it's the opposite of ye. We went from a lesbian relationship to a (sometimes*) straight passing one.
* usually I think we pass as a gay woman and a gay man who are friends haha. which im honestly ok with cos it's kinda hilarious.
This is honestly so cute :') ❤️
Thank you for this video it warmed my nonbinary heart and voiced a lot of the joyful, thoughtful experiences I had after my girlfriend came out as trans as well. I have never felt more understood in a relationship and accepted in my gender experience, and I love sharing that acceptance with her as well. So glad to be able to be our true selves together; loving, weird, giddy, safe, creative, nature gremlins, overflowing the gender expectations set for us by others. Thank you for making us feel seen 🌻
This is so beautiful ❤️ thank you so much for all the wonderful words ✨️
Didn't know you existed before today. Thank you for being open about your experiences. Super cool. 🧡
So happy you've found your way here ❤️ thank you so mucb for the kind words!
Hello! As the cis wife in our trans/cis lesbian marriage I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos and creating this space for others to be visible and share their experiences. It is so affirming! I love this video especially because I could relate to everything you said EXCEPT the part about leading my trans wife through girly stuff. Honestly I was wondering if maybe SHE could teach me a thing or two LOL. Turns out I still don't care about gender norms and I'm still not really interested in girly stuff. Instead, I just happily inherited a bunch of her old masc clothes for my cozy futch wardrobe and I couldn't be happier!
Awww this comment is so adorable :') thank you for your kind words! And thank you for sharing your perspective ❤️ it's so cute to me to think about your girly trans wife being able to teach you about femininity haha ✨️ adorable!
OMG Jackie your hair looks fantastic in that wine red color! (Also pigtails is always cute)
Thank you so much!! 🥰
I'm unsure if I'm trans or not, but it's always great to see your stuff, gotta love seeing other lgbt+ Danes
Yayy!!!! I love this! I am a transitioning trans femme, trans women. Actually even really recently seriously considering srs too. As someone who has steered back towards monogamy at the same time. I find I am really only into women of all types romantically... and it's amazing how with everything considered things are making sense to how queer my being into women has been and it's one of the most beautiful things ever!
Aww that's so wonderful to hear! :')
What a lovely and beautiful couple! You are as a couple greater than each one is alone, and it shows.
Aww this is so sweet :') thank you ❤️
Point 5 and that queer life is a lovely thing. Me and my partner are cis but we share a queerness that I think is shared from before our relationship. And it is something we look for in our friends too. You two, your queerness, and your life together really is a joy to see.
Yes exactly! So happy you get it. And thank you so much for your kind words :') ❤️
Wow! What a terrific pair of intelligent, introspective, and thoughtful people!
I wish them all of the luck, joy, and happiness that they desire!
Thank you so much! 🥰
Oml what a wholesome couple 😊
As far as my trans experience goes, I feel as though it has informed my criticality of normative social constructs on a deeper level (seeing as I have never "fit in") to the point of that criticality predating my awareness of being trans myself by many years.
For all of the hardships, in at least the hand it has in my deconstruction of "normal" I can take pleasure.
I feel as though I wouldn't be as curious as to why things are the way they are if I was simply a cis hetero-normative person. So for all the perspective that comes with being viewed as a man that I wasn't to now my struggles to be viewed as the woman I am, I am greatful and hopefully my mental struggles in life have helped and will help me help those around me dealing with similar issues.
Unfortunately I feel that, at least in the States, mental health issues are tragically unaddressed.
It definitely provides such a valuable perspective and able to see many things in a new light! 🥰 thank you for sharing!
YOU GUYS ARE SOOOOOOO *CUTE*. I'm on the verge of crying. Because I see something in your relationship, the way you look at each other, the way you speak to each other that is so sweet, so mutually affirming, so playful. Keep being gay in every sense of the word.
I'm reminded of a Facebook conversation Criticizing a trans woman for being Stereotypical and said he'll yeah we do Stereotypical one things. It helps at some of us Survive
Exactly 🤷♀️ and so often if trans women are stereotypically girly, they'll be criticised for that and if they're not, they're criticised for not trying hard enough, so it feels like there's no winning with transphobes anyway
Fizzarolli: "Are you still on the horse thing?!" 😂 I really like how positive and uplifting this video is. ❤
😂😂😂 yes, perfect!
Awww so glad to hear that, thank you so much! ❤️
I'm in love with a trans person but I'm a cis woman and I'm in tears with this video because you put in words everything that I feel just looking at her. Thank u both, I'm so happy that this video exist!
My trans wife sent this video to me, the agender bisexual. Love this. Thank you for existing and sharing 😊
That's so adorable :') thank you for watching, happy you enjoyed it! ❤️
I love this nre y'all have. You two are so happy together, that's so cute!!!
Aww thank you so much :')) that's so sweet of you! ❤️✨️
I'm a cis het American male and I love this channel and your perspectives.
I wish I lived In a country that allowed people to be happy.
Aw that's so sweet! So happy our videos are interesting even outside our core audience 🥰 wonderful to have you here ❤️
Y'all are so cute together. I'm glad y'all are visibly out and in love. Wishing you and other couples like yours the best.
Thank you so much 😊❤️
I am going to start hrt but sometimes I feel so scared. TY for showing us there's hope.
Happy to hear we can help ease your fear ❤️✨️
The fifth point is really interesting. It turns to a discussion of bi/poly erasure. But that's not what Anya says exactly at first, it sounds like it's more about how queer she would feel in herself, not just about outside perceptions of her queerness. As a pan person in an often straight-passing relationship, I definitely feel that. And it's sensitive to talk about, because we don't want to validate people who try and invalidate the queerness of queer folks straight-passing queer relationships. But at the same time, yeah, there's something beautiful about being in a [I don't know the right adjective to put here] queer relationship.
Yeah it def is a bit of a touchy subject. Obvs it would be great if we didn't feel our identities were erased no matter who we're dating, but society is what it is haha.
Thank you for your interesting thoughts ❤️