Kaisi Indian families mein guilt use hota hai | Emotional manipulation
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- बेड़ियों को गहना समझ लेने से कैद की घुटन कम नही हो जाती। बल्कि यह ज़रूर होता है कि घुटन बहुत बढ़ जाने पर भी यह समझ नही आता कि हम घुटा हुआ क्यों महसूस कर रहे हैं। और उस समय, हम ज़िंदगी का क्या करते हैं?
Invisible chains are the hardest to break. If we don't even realize we are unfree, we will never know that our unhappiness is stemming from that. And then sadly, more people choose to end their miserable lives instead of ending their misery, especially in India where parents put a lot of pressure and make kids feel guilty.
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What happened to yr sister@ Robin bhai
Absolutely true!And this guilt is very draining. Thanks .
आप ग्रूप बनाने की बात कर रहे थे उसकी लिंक भी शेयर कीजीए हम जूड़ना चाहते हमारे यहां बिशनोई जिन गावो मे रहते है वहा हर तीन गांवो के बिच एक गौसाला है जिन मे आवारा पशूओं को रखने की वयवस्ता है और हम भी बोहोत योगदान करते है लेकिन हमारे यहां जानवरों का डाक्टर नहीं है जिससे की हम जानवरो का ईलाज करवा सकें
Bahut sahi aur badia baat ki aapne.
Main To jina chahta hoo mere Ghar wale bus paisa ke sath hai
he is so courageous to talk about imperfections in his life. other TH-camrs fake happiness n create a so called perfect life
And it's fine.....he doing it a great thing ... doesn't make everyone obligated to speak up. People have their own way to deal with grief and shame its subjective...... kindly don't compare
@@Balabalarewell said dear. A good reminder for me. Thanks
Elon Musk said in an interview “My children didn’t choose to be born, I chose to have children. They owe me nothing, I owe them everything.”
Indian Parents are just opposite.....
Unfortunately!
@@vishalrathour2673 Ye log toh bolte hei. Ke Hum Bhagwaan se Khud poochke aaye hei ke aise family mei janam lenge. Matlab kuch bhi.
@@arushisharma32 Huh! APJ Abdul Kalam in his Wings of Fire said, "Your children come through you but not from you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts"
They can never understand this!
@@vishalrathour2673 It was taken from a Poem on Children written by a Lebanese Writer. You should read the Whole Poem. Its really Good
@@arushisharma32 Haa. I surely will.
When I quoted these lines to my mom.....Phir acche se gaaliya mili khane ko. Loose Motions ho gye ek dm 😶
She was like baap na bno hmare chaar kitabein pdh ke.
I was like..... It's hopeless. Jhelte rho bs!
ये वो ही बोल सकता हैं जिनसे वास्तविकता में जीना सीख लिया हो।
सही कहा. पर वास्तविकता मे हम ज्यादातर इंडियन्स को आता काहा हे. बस झूट की चादर ओढे जी रहे हे खोकले संस्कार, आदर्श, जात , धर्म की चपेट मे.
Ya shayad jise zindagi ne puri tarah se tod dia ho
या वही बोल सकता है जिसमें ये गहराई से सहा हो। लाइफ कॉम्प्रोमाइज और सैक्रीफाइस का नाम है। जब तक लोग इस थियोरी पे चलते रहेंगे, जीवन बर्बाद होते रहेंगे। मै शादी करना नहीं चाहता या चाहती लेकिन में अपने पैरेंट्स की खुशी के लिए कर रहा हूं या रही हूं। जब आप ऐसा या सिमिलर कोई स्टेप लेते हो तब आप अपने लिए क्राइम करते हो और उस क्राइम में अपने पैरेंट्स को भी शामिल करते हो।
@@kuls43 👍👍👍
@@harshadk3240 Bhai Mai aapki bat se sehmaht Hun par Puri bat se Nahi agar aap smaj Mai raho ge to nastik ko expect sirf sanatan karta hai or mahjab Nahi jab unki population yada ho Jaye gi ya to unka mahjab sabikar karna pade GA ya Marna or dharm par chalta kon hai Jo tum dharm ko jimedar dehra rhe ho kuritya smaj Mai hai dharm Mai Nahi .
A bad childhood is like a cage which never sets you free, even if you fly like a bird in sky
Exactly
Sorry not true. All the wise people like Buddha, Guru Nanak Dev ji, Jesus and so many more went through a lot of pain to but they forgave and decided to leave the past in the past and lived in the moment. We must do this to. Carrying this baggage is like you will never be able to run away because the weight is so heavy. But if you keep looking behind you, you miss what's happening in front. Drop that bag and before you forgive others forgive yourself. No human is perfect so mistakes happen and if God is giving us another morning for a new chance we should accept it. I send this message in love, I to have been hurt and talk from experience.
I pray all my extended family on this chat can drop the weight they carry and spread their wings and fly because every second we have is another chance to live🙏
@@satvinderkaur983but unless we get correct guidance
@@satvinderkaur983Rightly said, It is all about awareness and willingness to overcome the beaten path. It is a life long practice that can really help you to an extent, but will it heal your inner self, that is a matter of personal experience
Children are brought up trained to be exploited, especially, girls. Life has been so painful to share. No relief anywhere
Heal before having children so your children don’t have to heal from having you as parents
सही है मैडम
माँ बाप अगर सुलझे हुए नही होंगे तो बच्चों को उनका अज्ञान झेलना पड़ता है और जब तक बच्चे खुद सुलझते नही है तब तक बहोत वक्त निकल चुका होता है।
Wow... great thought devushka
Hi
Well said!
@my opinion hi
Emotional blackmail, manipulation, humiliation, Gaslighting, aggressive behaviour and the list goes on....😭
Narcissism in one word
Nobody talks about female narcissism in family.
@@bullseye6969 narcissism is not related to one gender, both of my parents are narcissist
Mother is a overt narcissist and father is a covert narcissist
Although you are right
Narcissism is more likely developed in females than males
@@piku8700 again I said nobody talks about "female" narcissism. That does not mean it's gender specific in fact male narcissist are more prevalent also its been talked about openly specifically about male quite frequently and also its been linked to males.
But there are also female narcissists.
@@bullseye6969 I agree with you
I think Mostly it's because we all glorify females and society always considers female as a victim without knowing the reality
Not every human should be a parent. Maine bhi decide kiya hai ki agar main apne ko andar se heal nahi kr paaya, agar main apne andar ki desparations ko khaatam nahi kar paaya to apne pichhli generation ki taarah apne complexes ko aage nahi bhejunga. Kyun kisi se shaadi krke uski zindagi khraaab karni aaur kyun aage bacchhon ki bhi zindagi kharaab karni.
Salute bro!👍
Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child.
Kya baat boli hai bhai!!
क्या बात, क्या बात ! Original है ? या कहिं से lift ?
True 100%
True
So true
Sbko lgta hai maa baap ki kbhi galti nhi hoti lekin kaise wo apne baccho ko irritate hurt or negative krte rehte hai ye wo hi smjh skte he jo ise salo saal sehte rehte hai.....har baar bacche galat nhi hote.....kbhi kbhi wo bahar walo ko apna alag bhagwan jaisa roop dikhate hai or hote rakshas hai
Sahi bole ap ...bacho ko inse niklna hoga
U r absolutely right. Mere parents b insaan k besh me rehne waale rakshas hai. Ghar k andar rakshas aur ghar k bahar sadhu santh jaise behave karte hai. Jaise k kisi ko bura karne k baare me pata hi na ho. Saakshath Bhagwan.
Sahi kaha mere maa baap bhi aise hi hai or abhi bhi mis behave karte hai
Same here
My parents are narcissist both parents
Wow .... Unhone Jo Kiya so kiya agar aap bade ho gaye ho to aapna rasta chun lo... Aur achey parents ban jao
Thanks, Robin Sir! And, Well, most of the 90s kids are still facing the same thing... "Age ho gayi hai, Shadi karo, Tum jo kar rahe ho apne career me, usse tumhara kuch nahi hoga, self employed jaisi koi cheej ni hoti, 9-5 job karo, Govt job ki preparation karo, Jo hum keh rahe hain wo karo, and in the end kehte hain ki humne tumhe kabhi kuch karne se roka ni hai."... We need to understand that parents bhi insan hain and galti kar sakte hain, So even if it's hard to convince them, but don't wait for their approval... mann me aaye wo karo, sun lo unki but karo apni... Because nobody knows you better than yourself.
Exactly!
Yes 🙏
I agreee u said absolutely correct thing👍
Bahut shi baat kahi bhai 🙌🏻
Yes ... very true
3:11 _"ऐसी मुसीबतें हर किसी के साथ किसी-न-किसी रँग रूप में होती ही हैं; पर हम फिर भी परदे डालते रहते हैं"_
आपका बहुत-२ धन्यवाद यह साँझा करने के लिए!
This is the dark reality of our parents and parenting
Finally.. Someone talked about this.. Its so deep that almost everyone is suffering from this. Parents logic is that children are there to fulfill their dreams or carry their emotional baggage. And this goes on generation by generation.
Are you kashmiri ?
Really
Yrue
All parents do this for us good life
@@vikassharma7520 not all are lyk this
This happens with good children mostly. We always think that it is our responsibility to keep parents happy always and forget about ourself but when we realise parents don't even care what we have done for them then things start getting messed up.
I know exactly how this feels 😭😭😭😭
100% true🥺
Rt
Yes .... U r right... Fir bhi log kahte he ki bachhe ma bap ki dekhbal nahi krte... Jb ki ma bap itne jiddi ho jate he ki kuch samajhna hi nahi chahte. . Sach kahu to mujhe to nafrat he in dono shabdo se bhi or riste se bhi
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I wish all the 90's kids heal and live a guilt free life
बहूत दिनों बाद किसी सुलझे हुए इंसान को सुन रहा हु ऐसा लगा। 👍
Thank you Omkar ji🙏🏽
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne
@@peepalfarm sayad m apko hi dundh rha tha.
बहुत सुलझे हुए 👍👍
@@raveenduhan4866 ऐसे लोग पूरी दुनिया में हो तो कितना अच्छा होगा 🙏 🙏 🙏
I want to Express my pain ....mere papa hamesha mere saath misbehave karte hai ....main study krti hu..part time job aur government job ki preparation.....magar mere ghar ke financial condition bht kharab hai .... unhone zabardasti mujhse mere sare paise le liye emotional drama karke aur bole ki main wapas de dunga ..one year ke baad jab maine pucha mere paise ke bare me ...than he abused me ..and forcefully asked me to leave the house .....wo ab hamesha mujhse kehte hai bht hi abusing way me ki ghar se nikal jao..taki wo society me bol sake meri beti characterless h ...islye kisike saath bhag gayi...pura blame v mujhpr aa jaye aur unhe paise v nai lautane parenge...saath hi saath unpr meri shadi karwane ka jo pressure hai usase v chutkara mil jayega.....qk shadi karwane me toh father ko paise kharch karne hote hai....wo sirf merese Paisa lena chahte hai...dene ke liye toh ek koudi v kharch n kare ....aisa ni hai ki paise ni hai..actually intention hi ni ...extremely cheap minded person he is....but my mother always supports me ..that's why I'm able to survive here ....
Please take care of yourself bahut si ladkiyon ko ghar se bhag jane ko majboor kiya jata hai bo unse kabhi baag hi ni karte. Apni ego aur baaton ko le ke chalte hai par mene bhi yahi socha hai hum kyu bhage hum ladenge
@@SmallSteps-wk2up you're right
Amazed by your strength. May you have a wonderful life ahead.
Mere Sath bhi same chij Hai Mere father bhi bahut toxic ha. 😢
Take care yourself time hamesha ek jaisa nahi hota apna aur apni ma ka khyal rakhhe... Koi ek to hoga jo aapko pasand krta hoga jeevan me bahut mahenat kro raste khul jayenge... I am thankful by my family but while I listen to the story about this... Then I feel low... I am worried about all the girls who are in pain... God keeps giving strength to all girls which have issues about this.
My bf always tried to make me realize this, that I should think about myself too, but everytime I would brush it off, but now I understand what he was trying to tell from the past so many days
He is real love
Never let him go
@@raghavdixit6832 what do you mean , run away from home?
@@abhinavpandey840 there are many things apar from this my friend...... focusing on career which we want to choose but not choosing because of family or anything there are so many things like this
Girl are you in just 3 rd std ? And have a bf?
आसान नहीं होता अपने घर की निजी बातों को सार्वजनिक करना पर आपने किया, सिर्फ दूसरों की भलाई के लिए ...🙏👏👏👏
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@@peepalfarm real himmatwala havent seen another 1 like u in my lifetime!
*Deeply touched by this message and himmat chahiye to convey it publicly, I think it is very much essential to bring out this guilt factor to be discussed as it eats up many people from inside and they end up sacrificing their life, And it is more common than we may think...yet it shouldn't be a norm*
Thank you. That's the reason I talked about it. A lot of us have similar experiences and we all stuff then down. I think a few of us have to initiate sharing deeply personal experiences so normalize having a dialog about these problems.
@@peepalfarm certainly! And also as few people take the lead as you have taken other people would get the confidence who are on the borderline of thought process wondering whether to talk about it or not...
I agree with you completely
@@peepalfarm It's miracle that I gave up idea of ending my life. My mother and brother always make me feel guilty for what I am. I am a reputed foreign law school 🎓 but still has no right gave a look into full mirror. I was not allowed to keep the door of my room closed (unlatched). My brother used to barge the room anytime. Woman has no right to have privacy. I belong to progressive Hindu family who are double faced people. I ran away from home after brother beat me up when I took a stand after crossing 40 yrs. Police helped me in this. Still family members call me and trying make me feel guilty. How a brother and a mother kill the personality of a woman to utilize her!
Bhut vishsl dil h aapka
He is honest with his feelings. It take guts
आपकी अभी तक कि जिंदगी बहुत संघर्ष पूर्ण रहा
शुक्रिया हमसे साझा करने के लिए, बहुत कुछ सिखने को मिला आपसे।
Hi
And for this reason I just want to cut off all the relationship with my toxic family.
Sorry to hear that
but assa hota nhi hai specially for girls
@@bhartisatyaias4512she should not cut off completely, just keep some distance
Don’t do this. Just try to avoid
Exactly what I'm feeling right now,
I'm studying so hard to get a job so I can move out from this house. 🙁 I might probably never return that's the level of suffocation I feel here.
Same
@@pallavisinha1004 you will get rid of the day you get married
@@rvn7218 it will become worse , you have to face same thing in some other unknown house .
@@pallavisinha1004 it's better to Get a job and move out ASAP and marry the person who understands you. Life would be much easier then I guess 🤔
Are you preparing for govt job
If you are then i can you man
You had a tough childhood,but you have brought happiness and comfort in the life of many living beings, and gave them a new life.
:) thank you! I try and now it's good to have a whole family at peepal farm dedicated to the same cause.
Reading comments I can see I had a great childhood.... I studied science because I liked it and I was interested in computers.... family did all to support me... my brother enjoyed commerce and he did that... we married when we wanted and were ready and to girls we wanted to... Same with kids we had them when we were ready.... Parents supported us..... now we support them
my dear sir this confirmity as displayed in ur words is the cancer of Indian families which in turn has brought our nation to its knees.....kab tak apne aap se jhooth bolte rahoge, at least appreciate this peepal farm guy unequivocally for not pushing the problems under the capret and pretend to be happy......sorry 4 being harsh but we need to learn how 2 be honest with ourselves......
@@123rocker0071987 par achhi baat h na ki unki zindagi achhi chal rhi hh...kuch logo ki sach me hoti h achhi ...air kuch logo ki bachpan se kharab....environment bhot matter karta h
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@@123rocker0071987 Or you could be wrong
Good parents are blessing..
My mother destroyed the life of my elder sister entirely. Her arrogant, egotistical approach towards life has taken a troll on all 3 children she have. Manipulation, abuse, politics, emotional detachment…what not. Not all have their childhood in a fairyland. People need to talk about this too.
Seriously yaar, this is so true. Mothers are not always right.
And family is not always there to protect you ..
Be good and find good people, and you'll have your real family
It was so courageous of you to share this. We all suffer from some sort of pangs in life, which is so deep shit and can’t be resolved but still have to put a fake smiling face and carry on with life.
Haan Yaar, and that takes a toll on us...and I find it ridiculous that we all do it to pretend to be "normal" ... but asal normal to bahar hi nahi aata as everyone pretends to be okay!
@@peepalfarm true😭
You should read more about narcissistic parents and parents with Cluster B disorders.
It is the responsibility of parents to raise kids. It is not the responsibility of children to raise their parents.
Wish you a healthy and happy future!
Thanks Nitya! That's a great line and I will look those up.
What is cluster B disorder?
My mother too suffers from cluster b personality disorder which destroyed my life, still is. My brother committed suicide because of it. My father deserted when we were too young when he could not take her abuse any more. I didn't her disorder until recently, but I have stuck with her for life as she manipulated me financially, emotionally, and socially that now even my husband and children are facing the consequences of it. Let this be a lesson. If your parent is not behaving normally, find out the reason and if it is cluster b, get out ASAP. Save yourself. They'll never change. Don't worry about society. If you're stuck noone will ever help you. Get out!!!
True
So damne true,
I'm loving with Narcissist father and yeah my life is ruined cause of him
But I'm trying and hopefully will get much better
And that line.... I feel it
"Mothers are not always right"
It takes courage to share such personal things ....you earned my respect 👍
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Nothing is personal . If every body accepts every one with love nothing becomes personal.
Sir I almost cried after listening this. Mai vo didi hu jo apni iss "normal" life ko badalne mae lagi hu. Aasha hai badal lungi jaldi he!
Realising that change is needed itself is the start of change.Good luck.
@@simaraman05 thank you so much!
Allah aapki madad kare. AAMIN
@@afsarshaikh7086 Shukriya
I m male so I can't understand what u think.
But I am very much supportor of "Survival of the Fittest".
Choose it or loss it.
Bhut badi baat bhi aap bhut saral aur sidhe sabdo m samhja dete ho ..robin sir 🙏.. thanks for giving us a life lesson...
Ek video mein Robin ji ne kaha tha, ki loog unhe Robin sir bolte hain jo unhe bilkul acha nahi lagta.
Agar koi unhe guruji ya kuch aur shabd se bulaye toh acha lagega.
Toh aap Robin ya Robin guruji, ya Robin ji ya kuch aur bol sakte ho toh acha rahega 🙏🙏
Bahut badi baat kehdi aapne
Very courageous of you to talk about your experience and bring out the ugly truth of Indian families. I also didn't have a happy childhood. Amidst too much dominance of father, helplessness of mother and brothers, a lonely, silent childhood was what I spent. No picnic, no visiting anyone, no sharing emotions with anyone. I have grown up to be a loner and don't trust people easily although in college, I got my first bunch of 'friends' and have evolved since
Oh yaar!
Same here
बच्चों को इस दुनिया मे लाने का फैसला माँ बाप का होता है मैं जब तक बच्चे पैदा नहीं करूँगा जब तक मैं उनको अच्छा भविष्य ना दे सकूँ या फिर मैं बच्चा गोद ले लू ये सही रहेगा
Your thinking is good
paida na karo tab bhi family dimag kha jaygi
Ha lekin family ke dawab ki wajah se frustrated hoker kisi ko paida karna bina kisi wajah se sahi nhi hai khud seh lo lekin dusri zindgi barbaad mat karo jab apko itni samjh hai
Ha lekin family ke dawab ki wajah se frustrated hoker kisi ko paida Krna bina kisi wajah ke sahi nhi hai khud seh lo lekin dusri zindgi barbaad mat karo jab apko itni samjh hai
@@ankurmbd9570 kisko bol rahe ho agar mujhe hai to bhai sahab ..i just pointed out some facts ,,,not talkin abt me
Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my own sister to suicide. Its something i could never get over completely. Perhaps your sister was a victim of severe depression as well. My therapist told me recently, no one thinks or plans for suicide unless there is depression or other mental illness. Its sociological factors that affect us psychologically... But the decision to end her life must have happened because she couldn't see a way out.. This is what depression does to us. You are an inspiration for all of us, bhai.
I've been through it and there's a WAY OUT
@Jehangir Hussain
Yes
Same
Thanks for opening my eyes I was emotionally totally dependent on my daughter who is just a minor . We need to provide every support to the kids so that can respect themselves first and live a dignified life 🙏
बड़े भाई बहुत हिम्मत चाहिए ये सब बोलने के लिए और तुमने ये सब बोलकर ना जाने कितने लोगों को हिम्मत दी अपनी परेशानियों को साझा करने की एक दूसरे को ताकि किसी के दुख को कुछ हद तक तो कम कर ही सकते है सबकी जिंदगी में कोई ना कोई मजबूरी या किसी ना किसी तरह की परेशानी जुड़ी हुई है और दुख बांटे भी किस से कोई सुनने और समझने वाला ही नहीं है 😢
दुनिया में कितना गम है मेरा दुख कितना कम है
:(
Indian parents should be taught before our generation born, if they would have given 1 year classes , it would have saved 100 years of future
Exactly
We can still make sure to be better parents. And save our future generations.
Yes you are right
मैं पहले आपके द्वारा किए गए प्रयासों का प्रशंसक था लेकिन अब आज के बाद आपके लिए एक आदर भाव भी मेरे मन में होगा। यह अब तक मेरे द्वारा यूट्यूब पर किया गया पहला कमेंट है।
महेंद्र जी, धन्यवाद 🙏🏽 अच्छा लगा की आज तक आप सिर्फ सुनते आए थे, पर आज आप ने सुन कर बोलने पर मजबूर महसूस किया।
Living life on our terms is difficult in our country. These social pressures like marriage, children, career kill people's aspirations. Getting married at right age, children at right age....but what is that right time? When we feel like and not when it expected out of us. Thank you for putting this across.
This is the right time.....
True
Middle Class HATE
And Make THEM
Look Stupid Who
Actually lives without such
Pressure of society.
That "unknown" sent chills down my spine.
Strength to you and your family, Robinji.
😔 thank you🙏🏽
Very deep line "खुश रहना तो ईमानदारी से देखिए कितने लोगों को आता है?"
मैं भगवान से प्रार्थना करता हूँ कि आपकी दीदी ये वीडियो देख कर आपसे मिलने आ जाये।
She died how can she come back.
@@PriyankaKumari-qj8tj no body knows...
She's gone
@@jafree95 but she wrote like ki meri maut ka zimmedar koi nahi hai baki pata nhi jo gaya sach use hi pata hoga...
@@PriyankaKumari-qj8tj hope one day she will be back... I keep always hope
Parents aise hi krte h
But no one acknowledges it..
Not media
Not films
And never our parents
Sabke Ma baap bhagwaan nhi hote h
Exactly! Hamari society mei parents k liye kuch bhi bolna bohot bada jurm hai! Voh log bhi insaan hain...galat ho sakte hain...
Sach to ye hai ki bahut kam maa bap hi bahgwan hote hai
@@nehab4988 true....
Exactly not every parents are good..
@@thehuman2861 💯 True
Damn true, I cutted out from my family, neighbors and everyone to find out my happiness.
Being a girl in a similar kind of situation, I would say that your father was equally responsible for your sister's demise. It's a man's duty to keep her wife happy. When a wife is not happy in a marriage she is badly stuck because she can't go out and tell her pain to anyone in the society including her parents ( I am talking about the social strata in which an unmarried/divorced daughter is a stigma/burden on the parents). A wounded woman ends up bleeding on her children who are the eyewitnesses of what's happening in the house. The girl child loses her faith in marriage and goes into depression eventually.
So my msg to men: if you are married to someone stay emotionally available in the relationship.
My msg to women: if you're not happy in a relationship please LEAVE for the sake of your future kids 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
It takes a lot of courage to stand up to your family. It took me 26 years to be free. I hope whoever reads this it doesn't take u that long.
It's taking long. Due to this pandemic
@@soaringraven1199 I'll pray it goes well for you. Be brave and be free. It's the only way to live.
Btw love ur username.
@@Akashkr008 thanks
Be emotionally detached. Be more patient with yourself. In this pandemic situation these cases are increasing. Just keep yourself sane. Don't be too much emotionally invested that it leaves you empty and Hollow.
This pandemic has made things worse, you can't do anything but be together and have more clashes and bear stress
yes its sad truth of our society....most family play this guilt and blame game.....and by the time we understand its too late...you are brave enough to share it.
This is the story of most of middle class families in India.... Salute to u brother u dare u tell urs.
🙏🏽
@@peepalfarm mera dil kehta hai apki didi ne suicide nhi kiya vo abhi bhi Zinda hongi aur kahi na kahi hongi
@@studyclub4854 mujhe nahi lagata, agar mai bhi aisa kuch karu to mai aisi jagah (I've it in my mind😉) aur aise tarike se karunga ke unko meri body bhi na mile
@@thehuman2861 bhai mujhe bhi shoot karwa do kisi se. Choti moti keemat bhi de dunga is kaam ke liye
@@amanverma8881 kya????
एक साधु महात्मा की लिखी बातें बताने से अच्छी मुझे आपकी वास्तविक जीवन से जुडी़ बाते लगींं जिससे लगभग सभी लोग कभी ना कभी गुजरते जरूर हैं 🙏
दुखद, आपकी बहन को घर से जाना पड़ा। माता पिता बच्चों को ठीक से समझ नहीं पाते। इसलिये मैनें कभी अपने बच्चों पर किसी प्रकार का दबाव नहीं बनाया, और ना ही मेरे फादर मदर ने मुझ पर कोई दबाव बनाया।
Some time , I felt tht everyone wanna to use you according to their need even parents and elders . No one wanna to feel ur needs , emotions. It's harsh truth of life tht every one is selfish .
Disclaimer-- it's my personal opinion based on my life and personality.
True
People like male child because at the end they want service. They dont like girls because here they have to pay so everyone is selfish. There was a story of monkey and its child in water birbal story.....
So true sir. When I am going through all the comments, I feel there was and still is so much pain that all of us are going through. Why can't parents understand their own children rather than understanding societal norms and needs?? I hope we all make some difference to our children's lives positively.
आज के बाद आपकी छवि मेरे लिए और बेहतर हो गई है । आप करोड़ों में एक हो , कोई तुलना नही आपकी किसी से ।
धन्यवाद नवीन जी🙏🏽
This has to be the most enlightened words ever spoken 🙏🏼. Thank you Robin. I am usually a person who expresses well but at the moment i am choking because how true are these words 🙏🏼 I hope if at all your sister is anywhere she is living the happiest life on behalf of all those people who are in similar situation & god forbid if she is in god's feet then may she be at peace.
God bless you Robin. I happened to stumble on this video by algorithm but I am sure it's god sent for me.
Hey. It was heartbreaking to hear about her sister. If I had known her we could have related to each other. It almost felt like I was hearing my story when you were talking about her. My mother too treats me like her punching bag. And both my parents have since my childhood put this pressure on me to be an engineer whereas I hate my job entirely now. In indian society they treat parents as god but people who have gone through abuse from parents and grew up in a toxic household know that this is a lifelong pain. And that it takes a lot to keep finding reasons to go on. I wish our society was more open where we could speak up about these kind of abuses openly too. But there will never be campaigns for this, nobody will ever raise their voice for this. Heck, nobody will even believe you when you say these things about your parents because they led a privileged life. So maybe we do have to fight our battle on our own. All I want to say is I understand what your sister felt through and she was strong to have fought till that point. And I wish I had known her. At least there would be somebody who could relate to me.
The most painful thing is that society always thinks that you are bad.....
I wish ur didi is alive and watching you doing amazing work. Keep doing what you are doing and make her proud.
I have also been subjected to the same abuse by my mother being a girl after loosing my dad and my elder sister too... Tried to commit suicide 5 years ago... But don't know what saved me.. Now I am fighter and soon I will be spreading the knowledge about such forms of abuse once I attain a perfet position in terms of career prospects
Do not loose hope and your heart.
Every passing day WILL make YOU strong and harden your desire TO enjoy this once in a TIME Life.
Engage yourself IN a lot of fruitful activities.
"" I was cursing GOD for my bad SHOES,
Then I saw a man with no FEET.""
Life is beautiful.
Don't give it up.
You are a very strong person. Whatever happened was unfortunate. You have clearly come out of it. Be happy and live well. God bless you
Bhai mei kya bolu. Tumhari case mei ma thi. Jo ki narcissist thi as i can sense from the happenings.
Mere case mei father.
Every word you said is relatable.
Saying all this in concise way is not easy.
It feels like no explanation is enough to explain emotional abuse.
Guilt ki dor se humein katputliyon ki tarah nachaya jaata hai
That line is so powerful and true
आपने पारिवारिक संबंधों व जीवन की परिस्थितियों का बहुत सटीक आकलन प्रस्तुत किया और उसको बोलने की हिम्मत जुटाई इसके लिए आपका धन्यवाद🙏👍
Respect sir. I have never seen anything like this on TH-cam. Everyone wants to show that they lead a very normal life but in the hindsight these issues happening at home hammer everyone
I always think while watching ur videos that ur words r like my words my thinking the difference is I'm woman...i too hv gone through so my issues in my life my x husband left me outside my parents house at 2 am when I was 2 mths pregnant though my parents were not at home....I was always an animal lover from childhood n my father too thaught me love n not to harm animals...n after my husband abandoned me i learned the pain if u think it's ur house ur family n suddenly someone leaves u in between how terrible that pain is now I hv pet cats family my relatives dt visit my house thinking it's unhygienic keeping animals at home though I keep home very neat n suggest me to abandoned them but I can't listen to them coz I kw the pain of leaving n I dt care whether they come to meet me or not I'm happy with my pets my daughter my mother n i believe just like humans can't abandoned family when they fight my pets r my family the too hv the same right on my home as i hv i dt hv right to abandoned them n no matter what...
I believe please dt allow ne one in ur life to finish ur life no problem is bigger than ur life which you get only once no matter how big the problem is...
Remember one thing problems comes in your life to make you stronger...
This man was telling story while he was crying.
I can feel that ❤️
My family is same like this especially my mother. I can 💯 relate to this.
When people try to control someone in their own families like wolves,he/she will never show a bit of respect for them in the future.That's the failure of parenting.
I agree with you.
I donot know why our parents always try to control our life and compare our progress with other people ex-relative , neighbour, Marrige bhi karega to hamari marji se
Last mein kehte hain tu khus kyun nahi rehta hai. Itna kyun ladta hai. Ab bachapan se hi mind main yeh sab dekh dekhkar feed ho chuka hai to kaise nikle.
Really thoda freely life to jeena do yaara,
Gam nahi ho marne ke baad bhi, kabr main dafan na karo hamari wishes ko bhi
I agree...
The independent ones, yeah. The submissive ones get suffocated into doing that.
हमारे आगे बढ़ने मे सबसे बड़े दुश्मन हमारे माँ बाप भाई बहन होते है खुद का अनुभव है इसलिए यहाँ आकर ज्ञान मत पेलना 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Sahi keh rhe ho.girls ke liye to parameters bna diye jate hain tujhe yhi krna h.shauuk talent jaye bhad mein.stereotype life jio bs.
I had the same story😔 but now everything alright from when I left home.Sad reality of this world.
:| i hope things worked out Pratha.
Are you okay ...?
Sir thank you so much for sharing a harsh truth with us,,,,,, kuchh din pehle tak Mai vo Bhai tha jo apni behan ka dhyan nhi rakhta tha,,,,, but sir aaj apki bat sunkar mujhe khushi huyi bcoz Mai apni behan ke liye ek dost, best friend ban gya hu,,,,,, I very take care of my sister 💓💓💓🙏🙏🎉🎉
Each and every words is soo true. This is the story of almost every family, its just that we dont wantvto except it or we are use to it.
Log bolte hai, ek age hoti h jb maa baap bacho ko glt lagte h, that's teenage, but what about adults? Agar adult hone ke bad b maa baap bacho ko glt lag rahe h too iska mtlb ye h ki maa baap he glt h, kuch drd itne gehre hote h, jo hm words me explain b nhi kr sakte, bsss ander he ander hme kha jate h, i am 25 but genuinely saying my mom treats me like a 5 year kid, kabhi b beijjat kr deti h, jhapad mar dungi. Muh thapped dungi, like meri koi self-respect he nhi h, m kamari, ghr ka adha kharcha uthari, still koi value nhi h, kaha jaye?? Kon h hlp krne ke liye, akhir h to parents he, yahi sun ne milega hr jagah se, rules and laws hona alag chij h, pr jb society he vasi h, too ye sb chije to normal hogi he, kon sunega mere jaise or bacho ki?? Parents se bada mentally harassing shayad he koi hota hoga, and when we speak, we are considered as the imperfect child, we are blamed for everything
Your authenticity is infectious!
Truth oozes out from you with such simplicity & spontaneity.
As it is rightly said...TRUTH HURTS BUT IT SETS YOU FREE
आपको देखकर/सुनकर बस कृतज्ञता, सम्मान और प्रेम की भावना ही उमड़ती है।
Loads of gratitude, respect & love to you!
Aw, thanks Deepti! It does indeed set you free. So many times we think, ki unhen pata lag jaayega jo woh kya sochenge. Earlier I used to think...yaar, they will judge me. Now, I feel, that some may...but a lot will relate, and those are the only ones i should care about. And that's not just liberating, but empowering.
@@peepalfarm Thanks for responding dearest Robin!
And you well said that, it is also empowering!
जज्बातों की गहराइयों में छिपे अपने डर का सामना बड़ी सहजता से कर लिया । शायद हम सभी ना अपने उस डर को छुपाये बैठे है । आपको धन्यवाद की आपने साहस शब्द को परिभाषित कर दिया
Immense respect and deepest gratitude. Your aura is inspiring and thoughts ( on veganism, health, well being) have rekindled a desire to stop expecting from the world and become a doer instead.
❤❤
I guess its my father who's suffocated me all my life, ruined my life up, guilt trips me, and pretends to be my savior clearly killing me.
Can relate.
Same.
Yeah same
इसी लिए मैने 33 साल की उम्र के बाद भी शादी नहीं की। No affair. Nothing. But I have to take pills for my depression…😔
Hey get married and have childrens.
Get some therapies or meditation (like classes, Vipashyana). This will take time, as you have given your time to depression, make sure you give time to heal. don't include marriage in depressed life. Marriage could lead to more depression and sufferings to your partner also or If you get some complainant partner, who will throw you in guilt garbage. Being unmarried, means you have full charge of your life without any regular influence.
Think every time to get out of depression, search for those things that is responsible for your present situation and stay away from those persons, those topics, influences that giving power to your depression. Do something.. I'm sure you'll come out. May God give you strength to fight.
@@AbhishekKrSingh-nq1rm Thank you for your genuine advice. 🙏🏽
Khud se dosti karlo apni achai aur nature se connect kariye khud ko nature music and time kaafi had tak sab kuch heal kar dete hai
But get married , meet with your parent uncle auntie brother n sister , all relatives.
I can see the pain he suffered, seems like he still has hope to find his sister... I hope so as well...
काफी कम उम्र में आपने इतना कुछ झेला है। तभी आप बेजुनबानो की त तकलीफ़ समझते हो❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
इतिहास साक्षी है जिन्होंने इस दुनिया में कुछ बड़ा किया, आसान नहीं थीं उनकी राहें, ये दर्द ही धकेल रहा था आपको मंजिल की ओर इसलिए आज आप लाखों का दर्द समझ पा रहे हैं,और उनके लिए कुछ कर पा रहे हैं 🙏 मैं मिलूंगी आपसे कभी , मैं भी आप की तरह दूसरों के लिए करना चाहतीं हूं। अपना ध्यान रखना भाई। God bless u
आपकी कहानी सुन के बहोत दुःख हुआ 🥺😣🙏🏻📿
बहोत सारा प्यार भाई आपके ओर आपकी बहन के लिए ❤️🥺
आप एकमहान पर्सनाल्टी के मालिक हैं जिसने जीवन की वास्तविकता जिया और समझा ।आपने अपने जीवन को पारदर्शी बना कर उस बोझ को उतार फेंका जिसे आज भी बहुत से बच्चे सामना कर रहे हैं।आपने ऐसे बच्चो को जीने की राह दिखाई इसके लिए आपको बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद।ईश्वर आपके लक्ष्य को पूरा करे आपकी राह में कभी कोई बाधा न आए।
आशा जी धन्यवाद। मैं भी चाहूंगा कि ईश्वर आप की बात सुनें और हमे शक्ति दे की हम ज्यादा से ज्यादा लोगो की चेतन होने के सफर का भाग बन सकें!
Jo bachpan se aise mahoul me pale badhe hote hain, unke saath poori life sirf aur sirf emotional chaos aur challenges rehte hain, maan sakte hain aise bachche aisi hi kismat lekar aate Hain
What a brave chap u Robin. Simply loved this video. Your honesty and sincerity is so endearing. For me it's like a me too moment. I sincerely hope God gives you all the happiness in life . god bless you robin and thank you. Lots and lots of love to you and your family. ❤️❤️❤️
....to be open on reality is necessity of time...., parents are human being and they can be wrong, let us accept that parents are human being they can be wrong one should respect his or her parents, but respect shouldn't mean killing one's individuality.
Guilt and Shame. The most powerful influencers above all else. People can take them and make the positive out of them but mostly it throws us into a spiral of negativity.
Imagine Robin's sister watching this video...
..may be on Earth or from Swaarg..
sir ajj samvedana to jataneka matlab nehin banega , but i promise that , main ek responsible bhai,beta aur baap banunga.... ajj ye sikh mere life ke valuse main add hogeye..
ajj apse connected feel hua.. main samay ko thanks kehena chahta hun ki kabhi app ki batt sun pai...
Je baat! So so good to hear that bud! Aasha kartey hai aapsey aur bhi log inspire hongey. 😊
Thanks 🙂
😭😭Kitna dard hai ....bhagwan unki aatma ko shanti de... Aap sab sahi keh rahe hai ..🌷🌷har shabd
I can relate my life with your sister's. I now realise that my family never let me Live my life but do house hold chores since childhood. Now I don't find any friend to share my feelings and I can't tell family members what wrong they did to me. Day by day I am getting bitter inside.
Don't make yourself bitter inside ..it's your life only you can make it better....take stand for your own mental peace and be courageous to do what you feel right for yourself...
@@fatimafarheen9920 thnx Fatima for you suggestion. I tried for long to improve myself and my situations. But now I understand that once time for something is gone, it's gone. One cannot undo it anyhow. My biggest loss is I don't have any close friend like one makes in childhood. With whom one can talk anything, go anywhere etc. I grew up almost alone. I was hated by some family members for some odd reasons. I gave up going out to play and doing other stuffs to help another family member in non productive household work simply to make them happy. Never cared for my health which is still very poor. And now I find myself left alone by them also. Don't have any personality, health, self confidence. People easily cheat me for money. Things like this are endless. I am not able to avoid thinking all this now. Just passing days. Anyways thnx again for your concern.
@@sidrti6888 sorry to hear about your situation. I know I can't gauge your problems but God can... My sincere wishes for your better days🙏
I know it's not easy ..never loose hope☺️
@@fatimafarheen9920 thnx Fatima for your wishes. I will again try for some improvement. Just trying to figure out from where to start.
@@sidrti6888 hi.... Same situation meri bhi he.... Mene abhi tk apni life ghar walo ke liye hi Ji.... But jb bhi koi problem hoti he to yahi kaha jata he ki Meri vajah se hi he... Mujhe bhi koi dost nahi Mila jo mujhe samjhe... Jo mile un sb ne mujhe cheat kiya... Kabhi kabhi lgta he mar jau kya fayda esi jindagi se... But fir ghar walo ke bare me sochti hu ki nahi bahut badnami ho jayegi... Yahi soch kar kahi dur ja bhi nahi pati... Samajh nahi aata kya karu... Mene bhi apni health pr koi dhyan nahi diya.. or ab 41 ki age me bahut weakness mahsus krti hu.. Meri jindgi ka to koi lakshya hi nahi he... Agar kisi se apni problem share bhi krti hu to dosti ki aad me sb fayda hi uthate he....but aaj yaha apne man ki bat likh kr bahut halka mahsus kr rahi hu... Robin ki sister jesi hi jindagi Meri he
Don't eat meat and don't smoke and also don't give meat and intoxic things to anyone as it's a sin towards God. To Know more about Real God read books "Gyan Ganga", "Jeene Ki Raah" and more books written by Sant Shri Rampal Ji Maharaj Ji with proofs from all religious holy books like Geeta, 18 Puranas, Vedas, Kuran-Sharif, Bible, GuruGranth Sahib and more holy books about whom we all call 'Sabka Maalik Ek Hai' Or 'Everyone's God Is One'. जय हो बंदी छोड़ सतगुरु श्री रामपाल जी महाराज जी की सदा ही जय हो |
This is a very important message from your end Robin Sir. I agree with every word spoken by you. We may not discuss it in our everyday lives but we cannot deny that as kids we often become the emotional punching bag for our parents. Some parents consider it to be an act of confiding in your children by sharing the pain. But over the years the child becomes an emotional dumpster. This ruins the bond over the years as the child grows up into an adult. Sometimes there's barley any communication between parents and children after the child attains a certain age.
I m differently abled guy even my cousin show off to me ...my gf left me my dearest grandfather left 2 weeks ago whom I very close I m closed to my mom nd my dog simba ...who listened to me every time ❤️❤️❤️ yeah I beat depression 🙏 🕉️ may god bless your sister 🕉️💔❤️
Good you beat depression
I'm trying to beat it
We can be friends if you like
But let me tell you, I'm a complete fiasco
Atleast yet
@@thehuman2861 I would love to be your friend your real name ..which city you belongs
Kaise kiya?for me it's toughest task!!
@@anamikaboyat sb kuch yha ni bta skta insta pe kre bat may be wha shi ho baat
@@varunkapoorukulele4995 no offence att all but you are looking perfectly fine in ur dp 🙄🙄 n as u said u have a gf..i mean what kind of plm u have
ps-it's just i'm curious
Ho sakta hai aap voh pita ho jo apni manmaani chalata ho apni pariwaar par jo aapko jhel raha ho ek pita ya pati maan kar. Kaash me apne papa ko ye bhej paati, par mujhe life me aur problems nahi chahiye🙏
Ha mere papa bhi.... Aur meri bahan bhi...
Dono ko bejhna chahta hu par pata hai hoga kya, so...
Khud ko independent banao aur apni life badlo aur dusro ki bhi life badal do
Khud ko independent banao in all fields - financially, emotionally, physically etc. Taki koi bhi in future yeh emotional torture na kar sake. This is the ultimate solution.
Hey brother,u r doing great work through all ur vdos,they all r really very helpful🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It's just a matter of being emotionally strong, in other words better human beings. And the responsibility lies on elders first. Those who aren't mature enough, are never ready for being parents, you just can't have babies just because biologically you can.
So innocent heart treated everything love from kangra,❤️❤️❤️
I am so glad that I got this recommended 😍😍❤
kyu tu bhi bhaagne vaali hai kya ghar se sweetu ha ha