Yeah I think 🤔 that was well played but so Dr. Grande fashion not over playing his hand! Lol Dr. Grande are you a closet poker ♣️ player? Lol Are you just coming out with that skill set today? Lol
It's interesting that Meghan and Harry are considering getting a cease and desist order on Meghan's father to make him stop saying negative things about them publicly, yet they are doing the exact same thing to the royal family.
They are lying, it was proven. I don’t think Thomas Markle behaved splendidly but the letter which broke her heart was published in People Magazine because she gave it to her 5 friends. Dr Grande says what he wants to say, not the truth.
@@annaal7480 and not only that ! The letter was also shared to 9 different members of staff in Buckingham Palace. Strangely enough the person who helped co-author the letter is now leaving his job!
As a person from here, they are not lying on our monarchy. In our tabloids today it says that William and Kate doubted Meghan even before meeting and told the staff they doubted her and when a staff complained of bullying William said it's the truth because he thinks Meghan has an agenda. So there is two sides to it all. By the way as you are aware , the royal consigned to let our royal advisors talk about them but only in a negitive way. If you are a Brit, you saw our tabloids daily.
@@tweetyslife253 .. Wow. You are SO wrong!!! That is not true at all. Talk about trying to change the narrative to suit yourself. That is how false rumours begin.
Matthew McConaughey also stopped talking to his mother for eight (8) years. She kept giving interviews to the press with no boundaries. Some people have no filter.
What is the difference between him doing paid interviews and them doing paid interviews? Both are divulging personal and private information for monetary gain.
Yeah, it's important to show compassion and recognize we can't change someone AND it's important to know when compassion will never be enough for someone and that person will never change and be a constant asshole.
This isn't so much about compassion as much as it is about untrustworthy behavior. If Thomas visits the grandchildren, will he secretly take pictures and sell them? If Thomas comes over for dinner will he secretly record conversations and sell them? How do you now speak freely around him knowing anything you say or do is for sale? Would he still be upset if Megan supported him financially but still remained cut off emotionally?
Sometimes, you have to show yourself compassion as well. If a family member is triggering past unhealed trauma, then maybe it is better to remove yourself from interactions that are just too depleting. Just because these people are public figures does not mean that they can deal with negative family members any better then anyone else.
Dr. G. makes really good points for most of his video. I’ve seen Dr.G’s videos on narcissism, and based on some of that info, I could see a connection between statements made by Megan’s father, and narcissistic behavior. Sometimes, a person has to break free from narcissistic behavior from family members, and it appears that may be what Megan did. It’s hard to know what the full story is, but if Megan needed a break from her father after all the negative drama, it would be understandable.
the problem with this is that meme did in fact in I believe 2015 or 2016 in her blog The Tigg, say that she owes everything to her dad. She sounded like she completely adored her dad and thanked him for taking her to ballet and to his shows and expensive dinners. When meme was getting married to her 1st husband the groom said he was the family she never had... was said by h in his engagement interview as well. It was known that her mum was not involved in her upbringing for 10 years, Mr. Markle was main caregiver. Her Uncle on his side got her a job at the UN she never acknowledged him nor invited him to wedding nor went to his funeral nor sent sympathy note to the Aunty. she did not invite any black family and doria did not invite a companion to the wedding. so basically, a empathetic daughter with love in her heart would forgive small or even large things...afterall they do promote community, love and compassion on their site. so yeah, she is rotten to the core. also to note that the photographer name on the pictures is the same person that is employed to do some of meme own pap work
I think you should only have people in your life that enrich your life. Family can be the one you make because not all of the families that we are born into are worth keeping close.
True- but if I can keep myself away at a safe distance it’s the best way to personally ( psychologically and emotionally) grow myself. We grow by working through our buttons. I don’t think Megan should be black mailed into talking to her dad. That’s exploiting her right there. She told him she feels used when he uses her to make money off of her exploitive publicity. I mean if she IS friends with him , what’s he Gona sell about her then. If he’s exploiting her NOW why would he change if she gives into him. He would no doubt be worse. Jerk thinks he owns her. In fact we do not own our kids.
True, many people have chosen family not blood family. But if you are going to go that route, then you also need to let go. When you choose to estrange from your family then keep cashing checks to publicly bash them… then you are problematic.
I think that the problem with family is that the government plays a major role through the use of incentives to influence what a family is or isn't. A financial interest is playing the most significant role. There is also a financial interest in that which concerns family such as adoption, surrogacy, and sperm donating. It's as if a family can be manufactured ( a child conceived) in a lab and yet carry assumptions of purity of interest based on Romantic love whereas money is actually playing the primary role. This is why I am inclined to believe that blood relatives are important to take primacy when we speak of family. Let us not forget: children are usually considered to belong to the mother in any event which undermines the very idea that a family is an organization based on some special substance or another.
Me and my father had a fall out. My daughter was born and he died while she was very young and they never met. I reached out more than he did and that hurts me to this day that he chose not to get back with me as a father. I tried. I personally don’t think it’s worth it. I did my part but some people are just selfish. I can’t go back and hope for change. I miss him and my brother, may they Rest In Peace.
Very sad, but you can rest assured that you should have logically no guilt over the situation because you tried to make amends. If you had died before your father he would have likely been devastated.
Wow and the irony is now that he is made out to be like Al and he's being shunned by daughter Kelly and Bud the parallel is spot on. She is definitely a Kelly bundy.
Some people don't deserve even sporadic contact. My dad was making me feel awful even tho we exchanged messages only few times a year. If someone spews insults everytime they open their mouth and then gaslight you or say it's for your own good to take their 'crticism' it's just not worth it... I'm feeling much better having zero contact, it's not lazy or unkind, it's assertive and self caring. Toxic people can blame themselves on their loneliness, and taking their sh*t is not kindeness- it's being stuck in a toxic relationship and I wish bravery to escape it for everyone in situation like that. There are no perfect parents and most children have to set some boundaries as they grow up like I had to with my mom who tried to dress me even after I left the country. Such things can have middle grounds unlike where one side loves to verbally abuse the other side. "yea, lets have one session of verbal abuse every two months interchanged with one normal conversation?" Meghans father couldn't fake being a loving dad even for a single interview. I'm pretty sure mine is not capable of a simple chat not even mentioning any exchange of ideas or views. There is no middle grounds with narcissistic, abusive simpletons who would totally be incels but unfortunately got laid, and became parents...
It is REALLY draining establishing/maintaining boundaries with boundary violators, so I kinda sympathize with Meghan here. You can't choose your parents but you can choose how much access they have to you. If he didn't have the title of "father" and was a friend who was behaving this way, no one would be analyzing if she should have cut him off or not. Should parents have special privilege's to betray and exploit you? 🤔 Anyway, that purple plant is adorable
This is an interesting take. I’ve gone no contact with my BPD-Narc mom, and she has slandered me to anyone who would listen. Sadly, we can’t choose our parents; and shouldn’t feel FORCED to accept abuse.
@@candylove49 BOY...do I know how that is. I have been slandered in 2 countries. Her hatred of me knew no bounds. I was just her slave, then, I left and never returned. What a lousy daughter she had. I have no idea how I survived. My therapist said to me, "You are not the one who needs to sit in that chair." I hope you found the strength to tell your mother, EFF U.
@@candylove49 Yeah, I feel for you, no contact must have been really hard even with the abuse. But yea, it is just tough to maintain a relationship with your parent when you can't trust them. Hang in there folks! ❤️ (Edit: Spelling error lol)
@@Shayne_T Yeah, I don't know, it is definitely an unusual situation and all the pressure and racism from the tabloids must have been awful on top of the private family issues. But anyway, Harry is an adult and articulated his feelings well enough for himself regarding leaving IMO. 🤷🏽
I find it ironic that they cut all communication with Thomas because he leaked a couple of photos yet they think it’s ok to publicly attack Harry’s family.
Thank you for uploading! I could really use a distraction from myself right now, I look at my phone and here’s your daily video. Thanks for being so consistent, I really appreciate it.
Thank you for this thoughtful video. As I listened I thought of my own struggles to set boundaries with hurtful family members and to protect myself from them and enjoy their good side. Generally I'm not in favor of totally cutting family off but some days when I'm more tired than usual I struggle to remain compassionate. It's then that I try to remind myself I've never regretted showing compassion, but I have indeed regretted being cold and unforgiving. Thank you.
Would you stay in touch with them if they sold stories about you to the papers and continued to do interviews about you? Sorry but this situation is nothing like yours and you shouldn’t prescribe the same solution.
True to the extent that you’re the one and only who know you best and can draw the line when things are too much for you. I had to make that hard choice and though it was insanely hard to do it was the at was left. Now a lot of years later, it was the right choice and I took my health seriously and got the therapy needed.
Thomas Markle participates in media coverage, for money, and to put himself in a favorable light; Meghan Markle participates in media coverage, for money, and to put herself in a favorable light.
Yep. But Meghan screwed up. In midst of covid & Harry's grandpa being on death bed, she came out complaining about her perceived misfortune while being in much better health & financial situation than most TV viewers. She seemed completely unaware of existence of other people on the planet & thought people should care about her feelings.
They weren’t paid for the Oprah interview. And Thomas is barking up the wrong tree if he thinks abusing his daughter for money will result in a relationship with her.
@@Lovely-sv1ye They are being paid by Netflix. Most people don't abuse the elderly in their families. Megs and Harry go after the elderly in their families.
My father also wanted to be the "star" of my wedding (perform the ceremony and/or sing a song) and caused all kinds of drama after I told him I just wanted him attend as my dad. Finally, the day of the wedding he said he couldn't come because he had to change the license plates on his girlfriend's car. It was sad that he seemed to care more about how he was gonna show off in front of our guests than he did about celebrating our wedding. But, he did it to himself.
@@alibali193He tried a bunch of different excuses. But the negative publicity didn't stop until he came up with the heart surgery story. Maybe he did have a procedure, but it was pretty convenient that after all his other previous excuses that one popped up last. Heart surgery is a pretty huge thing and it seems like he would have mentioned that first off, if it were really true.
@@wendythomas9361 You mean like the rest of the royal family she hadn't met, yet? Those celebrities? How do you know which celebrities Megan knows and who she doesn't?
There is no virtue in claiming your family is racist without naming names and giving them the opportunity to defend what may have been a misunderstanding. My husband is darker than I am and we often pondered how our genetics would manifest in our children from skin, to eye, and hair color.
We didn’t need this incident to know that the monarchs are racist. Harry needed it to truly realize his family was racist enough to be concerned about their grandsons skin colour. A grandson who’s max 25% Black, by the way. The public knew, it’s just heartbreaking there’s enough hate to judge an unborn child on their skin. You can ponder about your own kids, I’m mixed and I always wonder. But for your family to be concerned, is beyond acceptable.
Its funny though the only one in the royal family called out for racism is Harry, let's not forget him dressing up as a Nazi for a party or him calling a soldier in his barracks a paki a derogatory name used for those of Pakistani descent in the UK. So in my eyes he is a bloody hypocrite.
@@BybeeBunnie Megs is a proven liar and she didn’t even name the person who apparently had this “concern”. You literally only know one side of the story but I guess birds of a feather flock together so of course other liars like you would believe her.
@@BybeeBunnie all the colonisers were racist back in the day, human zoos etc there's a lot of stuff in that interview that isn't true so I find it hard to believe anything they say at this point. As for genetic pain, yes Harry your family/ ancestors traumatised the populations of the US, India, Ireland, Australia, Zimbabwe, Canada, Myanmar and on and on and on
I was partially in agreement with you until you got to the end. "What is the true nature of compassion? To only be kind to those who are perfect, or to reach out to those who are flawed?" I disagree. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do, is completely let someone go. When all they are doing is hurting you, stomping boundaries and disrespecting you, it is far less compassionate to the both of you, to let that contninue.
I didn't like the way he ended that video either. It was really on the father to make amends for his misbehavior. Seems he is only interested in making a buck off his own daughter.
@@reedriter You can feel compassion for a person AND distance yourself. I have an older sister who is the most toxic person I have ever known. At my wedding, she cornered me and snarled, "Well, I guess you think you've got your whole life figured out." This relationship ended many years ago, and I would never consider seeing her for any reason or even go to her funeral. But over the years, I hate her less and less, and I pity her more and more. I do feel a degree of mercy for a person who is so utterly bankrupt. My mother later told me she was wildly jealous of my getting married, when she was single all her life. I'm not big on the current fad of "you must forgive him or you will be consumed with anger and it will destroy you". I have not forgiven her because the things she said and did will NEVER be OK. But, I DO feel genuinely sorry for her because the life she has chosen has left her entirely alone - she has driven everyone else away. But feeling some pity for her has actually taken a lot of her power away in my mind. BTW, this happened over MANY years, and only after five years of therapy. Changes like this can't be rushed or even consciously chosen - it's a process that slowly becomes known to you, like a dawning.
if meghan and harry can only interact with individuals who do not have flaws? their social sphere will be indeed very limited as they themselves have flaws.
Well we don’t know exactly why Meghan disowned her father. But Harry and Meghan are airing dirty laundry so at this point it’s a goose and gander situation. If ur on tv all the time talking about ur family (royal family) and all that is bad then how can u be mad when ur father does the same? Sad
They're defending themselves after everyone else has run to the press, allowed stories to leak, or didn't correct incorrect stories. People should always defend themselves.
@@TomikaKelly Isn't that what Megan's father was doing when he just did this interview? At least, in part? Megan got paid to talk about this problem on Oprah. Why shouldn't her dad be able to do the same? They BOTH need to shut up and not talk to the press. They are both wrong.
@@LDiamondz Because her father initiated the conflict and brought it to the public so now as a reaction to her father's bad behavior she no has to clear her name in the public.
Most parents want to protect their children and Tom Markle allowed another man to speak ill of his child and that's sick he should have told Piers Morgan to get off his daughter's back like most fathers would do, he doesn't go around bad-mouthing his white daughter who ain't shit.
Thomas could have chosen not to speak to the press for years, he didn't. He made the choice to publicly state that his daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously demanding to be part of that life. He claims to know the inner workings of the Firm when he hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry. Every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution because of his actions
But the queen say they will keep the tittle wouldn't drop the tittle make her sad or something because they were a gift from the queen herself, no one mention rhis ever it seems
@@LaurenThompsonIsMyRealName it's a lonely road. I did it as a last resort. I mean they called the police on me for a wellness check after I told them I was busy dealing with my trauma
Good for you! I know it’s hard. But it was necessary. I think Megan and Harry need to say enough! There will be no more questions. They’re done. I’m on their side. Truly don’t understand the haters. But I will agree that they’re retorting too much. Leave it alone. Let it go. Seek therapy but disappear into private life.
🐪 Happy hump day, Dr Grande! This was touching and excellent advice. It’s difficult for anyone to get thru this life without anguish or pain of some kind. We all know about that!♥️
I would really love to hear your thoughts on Samantha Markle, Meghan's half sister who made sort of a cottage industry in critizing Meghan to the press for money. She has not seen Meghan since 2008
Seems all of them need to hush and work this out (or not) in their own family. Going public seems dysfunctional between all of them. All family's have problems.
Earlier today I watched a video of Dr Brene Brown talk about boundaries and how the most compassionate people she's met have solid boundaries, so maybe the most compassionate thing she can do is to keep her boundaries firm, not reach out to someone who might not have the capacity to behave any differently 🤷🤷
She keeps her boundaries from everyone she ever had a relationship with in the past. She has ghosted her friends, siblings, and is now ghosting the Royal Family. Her past is a tale of destruction. She is a narcissist who uses people and then dumps them.
People need to set firm boundaries from her. She's very toxic. If I were Princess Kate, I'd be cordial and polite. But I would never trust her or be involved in any project that required them to collaborate together.
@@janejones7638 what’s so perfect about Kate? I don’t get it? Because she toes the Royal line? Meanwhile she’s probably suffering. All royals do. But sure, because she married will who is supposed to be king she has more on her to act perfect. Somehow I doubt she is happy. She’s just not honest like Megan and Harry are. This is why I hate the royal family. I like real people with real feelings that are allowed to be shared. None of this stiff upper lip. Mark my words: in a few years we will find out how Kate suffered. And will is spineless like his dad. Not protecting his wife and kids. This isn’t good.
6:47 Really dr.? If you think MM has narcissistic personality traits, then we must consider the possibility she was emotionally manipulative in that letter.
I went about 10 years with very little contact with my family as they were toxic to my mental and physical health. Not saying that I became healthy and everything got on track with me. I got the strength to come home and found a complete different family for the better.
I have also heard that he went into debt paying for her entry into acting in the first place. Literally investing his money in her success. If this is true then yes he did make her who she is today, and she has taken his money and run.
If he had $750,000 why wouldn't he help his daughter realize her dreams? If indeed he actually did. Not something a good father would say or expect a return other than showing love to his child. "Invest" in her? So gross. Poor Meghan. Her Mother is her blessing.
Children are expected to take care of parents when parents get old, just like they did to them when they were children. We are not sure if Thomas is actually in poverty. He had a heart surgery.
Investing in your child's success is a choice you make that doesnt require repayment and, if that's what he expected, then he should've made that clear. I had a hand in raising many of my cousins. I don't expect them to come and pay me back for changing their diapers or tutoring them.
It could be that Meghan and Harry bonded over a mutual history of toxic relationships with fathers. Meghan seems to still have a good relationship with her mother, and Harry might have had that as well, if his mother was still around. I hope they can build a chosen family with good friends, and perhaps repair the relationship with the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.
@@Bigwave2003 Diana didn't meet the cavalry officer until months after Harry was born. If you look at Harry's brows, eyes and nose, they are just like Prince Charles'. The red hair was inherited from the Spencer's side of Harry's family. At the birth, Charles was hoping for a daughter. When he saw newborn Harry, he was disappointed that he wasn't a girl. He told Diana that he only married her to have heirs to the throne and he moved out of the marital bedroom. Diana famously said that her marriage was boom! over, just like that. Once the heir and spare were born, Charles resumed his affair with Camilla. If he had been a better husband, he and Diana would have had more kids and he may have had the daughter who he'd so badly wanted. Diana wanted more kids, too. So, after Charles ended it with his wife and returned to Camilla, Diana met the cavalry officer. Their affair didn't begin immediately.
Your words on compassion were truly powerful, I really appreciate what you had to say about this controversy. I share the same thoughts regarding their pattern of disconnecting from people they were once close to.... Without a doubt your analysis brought a lot of light to this situation, thank you!❤️
Thats so yrue they jabe hurt ablot of people. Markle ( megan ) is particularly good at Ghosting people and causing pain i feel so sorry for Harrys brother Prince William they were so close and had a great relationship.
T A K really ???? Would u want him as a father ??? I certainly wouldn't his such a looser wins the lottery and then claims insolvency wtf no wonder royalty want nothing to do with him
@@sayhello5377 narcissistic abuse renders many victims unstable overtime if they refuse to go no contact. Thats why I said it could be covert narcissism because its very hard to spot at first until you are trained to spot the red flags of the clinical disorder.
@TAK....pretty common story nowadays. People love to cast shade/blame on their parents--and thereby absolve themselves of much responsibility--yet seem strangely disinclined to cut their parents any slack when it comes to understanding/acknowledging how or why those same parents might have come to be the way that they are or were. That having been said, Thomas does sound like he's a piece of work.
I wonder if Dr. Grande is ever going to cover that psychiatrist who told an audience at the Yale School of Medicine in April that she had fantasies of "unloading a revolver into the heads" of people?
He lives in Rosarito, Mexico, quite near California. The local gossip news was that he wasn't invited to the royal wedding at all. Who knows. Maybe they're both manipulative narcs.
@@wisamrohilina3006 personally I have sided with Meghan when Thomas was doing it to her, and sided w the crown when Meghan did it to them. Either one solves the issues privately or doesnt address it at all. No point doing it publicly imho
@@nvefau9753 I think you misunderstood me. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have pointed out the racism - I am talking about talking personal stuff such as when you’ve heard from your dad last, parenting styles etc. Those are private matters. I am a U.K. taxpayer and am not interested in knowing who called who, when, and why. I’m interested in seeing the firm address the racism charge and seeing Meghan address the bullism one. What they feel, or don’t, who calls who, it’s private.
Nve Fau - with respect, you do NOT know how the royal family behave as they do not speak about things and you should not generalise as there are so many of them and each is a different person you do not know. You can only assume you know, as you have clearly done. We know far more about how Meghan and Harry feel because they DO talk, and unpleasantly, dishonestly and frequently at that.
While he was no celebrity, he was an Emmy Award winning lighting technician and director. It's interesting that Meghan really is close to no one in her family and the royal family have been alienated from the couple and their children. Doria Ragland seems to be the only family left that has regular contact with Meghan and Harry.
@@TomikaKelly one interesting article I've read, written by a close friend of the Markle family, said that Meghan was her father's favorite child. He affectionately called her "Bean" and made sure that she had everything she needed and most of what she wanted. She claims that she paid her own way through college, but it's not true. Her dad paid for it all. I don't know her or her family personally, but it seems as though she was spoiled by her parents. Whatever, it's all so sad. She allegedly dumped Jessica Mulroney, her longtime bestie, once she became a Duchess. All I know is that she bald-faced lied about her passport, the private wedding 3 days before the public one and that she trashed Prince Charles after he walked her partway down the aisle. Not to forget that the royal family paid millions upon millions for the lavish wedding! I'm sure that taxpayer money also paid for some of it. If she really wanted to be Diana #2, she would have done her duties without complaints as Diana did. Diana continued royal engagements after her divorce from Charles!! She had said that country and duty were the most important things after her children. I think that Meghan didn't realize that Charles held the purse strings and that he wasn't a multibillionaire with unlimited funds. She deceived Harry into believing that she was passionate about charity and was comfortable about carrying out her royal engagements for charitable organizations. Harry even said, during their engagement interview, that he didn't have to worry about her carrying out works for charity since she had experience with it and was passionate about it like he is. Again, I don't know her. I only know what I hear about her through the media. I also believe that Prince William saw something shady about Meghan and it was why he advised Harry to slow the courtship down. William may have strung Catherine along for 10 years, but he made sure that she was prepared for the mundane and stressful life of a royal. Look at how his wisdom paid off! Kate is a great part of The Firm and a wonderful supportive, equal partner to William. It's also easy to see how much he loves her and vice versa. 😊❤
Am I the only one who doesn’t completely believe Megan’s account that her in-laws vocalized concerns about the newborn babies skin? I don’t completely believe her, I think a lot of the things she said were not 100% based in reality.
oh yeah. There are whole channels dedicated to calling out Meghan and her shenanigans. I think you will find that she is quite the spectacle. Enjoy the journey!
No. You’re not. I’ve heard it said that they would have liked it if the baby had a bit of colour. So, who do you believe. Well, in my case, I’d go for the royal family every single time. I’m afraid she has planned this from the very beginning ( who wears the mans mother’s perfume to a first date! In no way is that healthy). Sometimes I think the whole family are in on the scam. Have a bit of a spell ( you’ve been found out to be lying on ‘new babies ‘ name), well - up,pops dad for an interview she. We haven’t heard from in for so long. I’m beginning to think there’s too many coincidences here. Scam .🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
Bro it was Harry who heard it and you are so quick to attack her but you don’t acknowledge HARRY is an INDIVIDUAL and a HUSBAND and a FATHER. This is his family he had a problem with what was said enough to even mention it to his wife - so how do you think this reflects on you choosing only to conveniently place distrust in Megan’s voice?
Boundaries are super important. That is what they've done with the royal family. They're fine. Her father is a disgusting jerk. She needs to never have contact with him again.
Let it be noted that almost none of his grandchildren talk to him. Some have never even met him. And his 1st wife accuses him of serious abuse. Its disgusting how the media are giving him any credibility or airtime.
THANK YOU 🤦🏻♀️👏🏼 people are out here like oh he doesn’t sound so bad and just trashing Megan marble for the sake of it as if she just wants to be alone without her dad or anybody. He’s proven to be at the very least dishonest an disrespectful
@@genevievefaherty7788 Being the child of an abuser is a curse. You feel attached to the parent and try to keep them in your life even though they cause you nonstop misery and pain. Then when you have finally had enough and decide to draw boundaries people blame YOU for not being compassionate enough to your abuser and berate you and tell you to forgive them. They believe the abusers sob story and don't hold them accountable at all. And if the abuse causes you so much distress that you go into alcoholism or your life goes off the rails, yet again people blame YOU for your situation.
Meghan's father is involved with the media, and he is estranged from his daughter. Her mother has never spoken to the media, and their relationship appears healthy. If a thing could be narcissistic, the British tabloids would be narcissistic. Everyone blames Meghan, but Harry has been telling everyone who would listen he was unhappy and felt trapped inside his fishbowl life since he left the Army. Are we really surprised he married a complete outsider who could help him create a new life? Can you imagine living in a family that hands you a job description at birth and then forces you to do that job as an adult? Just because some members are paid to pretend they're special. It's twisted.
I’ll say this this woman mailed her wedding ring to her first husband and said basically said-see you that speaks volumes that Harry once always looked happy now he looks angry plus she seems good at alienating families.
It sounds like Meg might suffer from a covert type of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Lets just hope that what ever she has done in the darkness comes out into the light.
What Meghan did to her father after he paid her way through college is a very unappreciative person. She never appreciated what her father did for her financially. Seems as if Samantha is more appreciative of her father and more compassionate of her father. Seems as if Meghan just wanted fame and fortune from all those who supported her then she turns them away when they are no longer usefull.
I was reluctant to watch this at first, due to personal idiosyncrasies I experience with such topics. However I have to acknowledge, you mastered this topic elegantly with your reasoning. It has not gotten shallow. Doctor is always worth a try. 🧡
Yes, I don't understand strangers' need to pick a side on someone else's feud. Especially since both sides seem quick to manipulate the media. All families have to acknowledge then move on from mistakes, setting appropriate boundaries moving forward while still being prepared to reach out.
@@digigalbytes2445 it's because generally speaking humans need to pick a side in any problem. No matter what anyone says, it's hard not to have an opinion, and since people are so different, their opinions will vary and they will inadvertently pick one side side or another. Also, a personal opinion as a side note: not picking a side (and not having an opinion) means you are either dumb, or that deep inside you do have an opinion and have already picked a side but you don't want to say it because you don't want conflict. That to me is either diplomacy (which requires you to be at least a little cunning) or cowardice (a trait that even Dante Alighieri has criticized, saying that not picking a side is worse than picking the wrong side(. So yeah. There is no such thing as being neutral. Or if there is, I haven't seen it.
Meghan Markle gets a lot of hate but I feel rather sad for her? Her Paternal family is always out to put her down and the media paints her as a diva for feeling bad about it. Just because she's a known public figure doesn't mean the most intimate and private things about her should be shared without her knowledge or consent. I'm not saying she's this perfectly innocent person but I do think she gets a lot of unnecessary hate and specifically for things Kate Middleton gets praised for. She can't do anything right, can she? Her father and sister seem like petty hateful people. Like, what kind of family is that??
Meghan and Harry brought a lot of scrunity upon themselves by making themselves easy targets e.g preaching politics, saying things like 'no one asks if im ok', asking Disney execs for jobs during a movie screening etc, the press pound on that stuff. They really should of known better. Also using her title to sell books is disgraceful. They are not innocent poor misguided children, they are adults in their late 30s.
@@evacope1718 Show only one person in this world who is not using his position for something.!! At she sells her books writing by herself. Showing that she is intelligent. What have we white peoples done in past century till today. Hiding ourselves behind government and monarchy and politics to extort commonwealth countries and all African countries especially to have their natural resources through means ways??? Which they call help??? The list is long, and I won‘t be able to put all that here! Some of the white peoples that think they are superior to other just because of their Skin colors should come down to earth. And truly you will never know how you yourself can behave until you have something to do with a Person of colors. So who are those writing ✍️ the press? Who owns it?????? Why is one person protected over the other? In the beginning they did as if they accepted her? You might said they did. But every that happens later prove to me they didn’t. Otherwise that Monarchy would have at least reacted when they called an unborn baby „chimpanzee „. They sad down quietly. But months later they answered to the press who wrote about Kate Botox . I know many family they might not like the wife, but the grand children are loved which is not the case for Archie. I do not know anyone of them and will never know them. But something when wrong somewhere and it is not only Harry and Meghan. It has never been only one person causing troubles. They are always two. But that the media paints one evil and another perfect and people are just following and those ones that the press is blaming just some people still hold fast on their white supremacy , shows that we are still in the middle age and despite and with the new technology people remain without self mind. Studies have prove that negative news go a long ways and remain in the circuit for a very very very very long time. It is time everyone start checking his or her own life and analyze the stories you she or e read before ……….,,
@@meljk6431 the idea that its a race issue says more about you than it does about anyone else, your guilt ridden self flaggelation of your race shows some projection that you believe whites are superior, but that never entered the equation for me or anyone I know. She is more white than black too, I thought she may of been Italian. White people have done alot this past century, all races have. Stop with your self hating racism of your own race it is unbecoming. Meghan and Harry are royals, and it is well known that royals absolutely do not merch their titles. Fergie got hate for it, so did Edward. Its unprofessional and very, very unroyal. Meghan has so many red flags its not funny, she bullied the staff to the point they had to leave Kensington Palace to Frogmore, it was to the point that Palace aids felt mentally unwell and left. They have been thru more staff than any royal, that in itself is a huge red flag. She also made demands and broke protocol at her wedding, such as making Charlotte wear no stockings, which is a huge no no for royal bridesmaids... it is also on tax payers dime. She spent more than any other royal in Europe on her wardrobe. Groveling to the press in Africa of all places about how hard done by she is. Getting Harry to ask the Disney CEO for acting jobs while on duty... the list goes on. Catherine, William, the Queen, Sophie, Anne etc never ever acted how these two have. Harry and Megz belong in Hollywood, not in the palaces of Great Britain. They aren't someone I want to represent the commonwealth, they represent themselves. BTW if everyone has a problem with them maybe its them? Her own families estranged and now his is too. Most people wouldn't give her a pass if she was just some white girl from LA.
Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Her family isn't petty, they been FORCED to talk because of how she had repeatedly made deliberate lies about them in the first place, they're forced to call out her lies to defend themselves. Sounds like a crazy thing to do to people but that is what all narcs do, once they've had their use of you they'll discard you and lie about you so you can't contradict the image they've painted to others because the narc would have had everyone believing you're evil and bitter. Why wouldn't anyone be when you've been lied about? Her family is just trying to tell the objective truth about what are facts and what are not and not the lies that are the helpless victim story a narcissist will always paint of themselves
You missed him on British t.v. saying he had things on her and was going to tell it if he didn't get her attention. On another British interview he said "it's time to take care of daddy" meaning he wanted money and attention. I think he's a big disappointment for Meghan. As far as the Royals, most of them have been involved in scandals, their handlers were hard on Diana, and Harry being called the spare, had to get out and live his own life. I'm sad for the Queen and M and H. They have made some hard choices. I would not have advised them to go public on the Oprah interview. It has caused them more pain and negative opinions from many people. Her 1/2 sister is also cashing in with interviews and has written a tell all book.
I agree. Having come from a toxic family dynamic myself, I know how hard it is to break from that I couldn't imagine how it would be while the world was watching and reporting on every moment of it. Could Harry and Meghan have done things differently? Of course. The way they stepped back from being working Royals was messy and left many issues unresolved with the Firm. It will be a long time before all of it calms down, especially with the way they are choosing to move forward as it ostracizes much of the royal family. Likewise Thomas and Samantha could have chosen not to repeatedly speak to the press for years. Having one's parent publicly state that their daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously claiming to know the very personal inner workings of the Firm hasn't done Thomas any favors. He hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry, and every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution. I do hope that they can all heal, but I imagine it will take time.
She’s giving her dad tough love as her father it’s time to let her be the adult and he should be loving her unconditionally at this late point in adult parenting. We don’t get to know more once they are adults we become peers. Giving them ( unconditional love like kids do to us growing up ) parents now give the trust to their kids to do the right thing. If they don’t we first need to reflect on what we taught them. I think she knows more than we do about how her father might want no matter what she does for him.
Okay you dummies. Thomas Markle said in an tv interview, "It's time to take care of Daddy." He is the manipulative one. As a grown man, he shouldn't be trying to guilt his daughter into taking care of him. You raise your children into responsible adults. Your job is done, and they go off to live their own lives. Thomas Markle is manipulative and profiting off of his daughter by giving whining interviews.
Why doesn't Thomas Markle rebuke his other daughter, Samantha, who can't stop talking and exploiting Meghan. They seem like a toxic family. I know my family would never talk about me publicly. When I see relatives do this, it makes me feel there is no real love there.
It's not being flawed. It's insisting on the same behavior and denying it's happening. It's one thing to forgive someone who acknowledges and makes amends. It's another to give someone permission and access so they can keep hurting you with impunity
We only get one biological father. He paid for expensive private school, he volunteered his time in her school when she was young. She bragged about growing up on Married with Children show He wasn’t an absentee father. Her excuses to dump him are just that Excuses She’s a narcissist.
@@BB-ty6iy I get their point these MFs hate the fact that a black woman bagged a prince I know you will say it’s not racial but it is nothing more because Meghan is beautiful and talented and gets all this hate
Family members can over step just too many times making it too difficult to maintain a relationship. The damage they do wears on you. Disrespect damages.
Some people, who are family to some of us sometimes, can not respect boundaries. There is a reason Megan Markle's mother divorced Thomas Markle and took her daughter with her. And this may have something to do with it. I'm sure money was part of the reason for the divorce also. I feel like Thomas Markle is not at all innocent or the victim in any circumstance. He seems very manipulative. Talking to the press about Megan and Harry and now about his grandchildren. He can't be trusted. I don't trust him. We still haven't heard a thing from Megan Markles mother but here's Thomas Markle again. 🙄
@@lalam3877 both of them are Narcs . What we are witnessing is narc on narc abuse. Meghan is controlling the narrative by not responding to her narcissistic father despite his multiple pleas for forgiveness . Inflicting the “silent treatment” on someone is a form of manipulation commonly used by Narcs. It is a form of coercive control made to belittle the receiver of such treatment. Her father is trying to regain control of the narrative by using pity play ( look how mean my daughter is , look how badly she is treating me and ignoring me ) and contrived contrition ( l’m so sorry about the photos why won’t you forgive me ? I am not an axe murderer even axe murderers get visits from their family in jail ) and trying to get her back into his narcissistic daughter’s “good-books” ( which l doubt will ever happen because that would mean she will lose the control of the narrative if she engages with him) .
@@lalam3877 Meghan is in regular contact with her mother . Can you imagine the wrath that would befall her if her mother started talking to the press??🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@supernova7848 silent treatment is also an effective way, and sometimes the only way, to deal with a narcissist - so giving someone the silent treatment doesn't necessarily mean you're a narcissist. You might just be dealing with one.
@@lalam3877 Actually, Doria abandoned Meghan and Thomas raised her alone, indulging her hugely. He doted on her and paid for her very expensive private education, from convent school right through university. He then arranged for her to work in Argentina with his brother. He was a good father.
Karma will be so so strong. Lets wait a decade or more. Meghan will be old... hungry for billions and not millions... she lives in an area that houses are like 35k... the spell will be gone and what? She will live with the remorse all her live to cut her father, thats so miserable life. Harry is lost now, not a prince but a prince... doing cringy tv shows... lili ans archie will grow someday and probably the karma will make the work to give what Meghan deserves to abuse her elderly dad
I really really liked your point on perhaps maintaining a relationship with very strong boundaries in place. and speaking of this possibly being a learned coping mechanism makes a lot of sense. another thing that came to mind is how maybe their isn’t a lot of room for negotiation when you leave the monarchy, but I guess not a lot of people have that problem so we can’t be sure hahahaha
I'm not that optimistic. Maybe some people you can but reptiles like this...not so much. It reminds me of the story about (woman, farmer, various characters and) the snake.
I've suspected covert narcissism in him. When everyone figured Meg for a narcissist, they were so quick to feel sorry for the dad and that is just what he was counting on.
Looking forward every day to your videos, dear Dr. Grande - I know, they will always be super interesting and perfectly analyzed, also I will have a lot to laugh! It is about 10 pm here in Germany when you upload, a perfect end of the day
Didn't she send 4-5 friends a copy of the letter she sent her dad or some weird thing? LoL! He blew his lottery winnings on her uni, teeth and nose job. Harry and his wife are so hypocrital! WoW LoL!
I think Thomas Markle Sr is a good man with good intentions who went above & beyond for Meghan & spoiled her in the extreme. I feel sorry for his other 2 children who he didn't seem to go out of his way for & whom he took for granted yet they still love him & defend him. And, the girl whom he poured all his material resources & love on has rejected him in the most public way possible. Very sad. I imagine he has a lot of regrets.
I’m from the same area of PA as Thomas Markle and from what I heard he has not been back there to visit any of his relatives since he graduated from high school about 60 years ago so I feel like he’s getting exactly what he deserves with his daughter Meghan.
I felt so too. Mr. Markle did appear to me as covering up something he did wrong however pretending to be really nice with words. But few stances are really to think about when he was admitted to hospital and Meghan got married... If she is very caring person she will postponed the wedding for her dad. Whatever the case may be the relationship seems sore between both the markle. Especially why her only just because she married a royal. I think we all should stop raising fingure on her. Let the couple be for each other cause family happens by chance or by error. But they are happy with each other that's what is important.
This was a wonderfully even-handed discussion of a story that seems to generate pyrotechnics. I think if more people thought like Dr. Grande, we’d be much happier. It’s unhealthy to carry on any discussions of family conflict in public-- no matter who is “right.” I feel that Megan and Harry have been using emotional extortion to get what they think they want. It is not helping them.
I don't think they have. I guess people don't remember his oldest daughter and son saying horrible things about Meghan before she was married. They advised Harry to dump her but still wanted to be invited to the wedding. The 3 of them sold hateful and disturbing stories to the British tabloids. Those are some toxic people that have tried to destroy her life because of envy and greed.
@@vrjanice2 Yes you make valid points here. All the negative stuff her sister was saying about Megan before she married Harry and afterwards,c may have been the major beginning of public turning against Megan, being influenced by things her sister did and dad etc, and lead to her unhappiness being part of the royal family, and being able to perform royal duties etc. Not saying she is blameless I still don't agree with her and Harry doing the Opera I interview,, but not judging her and Harry either. Just don't agree with this
@@lford1130 he is trash. How can one man have such a complete lack of self awareness? I know he’s not unique in this regard but I mean, he comes off as /so unlikeable borderline hateable (sic) to everyone involved here.. his angle is indeed solely to stand in royal family’s corner, since it benefits him. Pathetic.
He has never ever ever complimented his daughter and then says he wants a relationship with her. If she is so horrible why bother with her. She didnt even bash him in the oprah interview. His back to bashing her and harry, wonder how much they payed him
It is not unusual for neglected and traumatized people to find each other. Most couples have a bounty of shared personal experiences. At times I've seen couples parent each other's feelings or protect each other as a siblings would. I've always found those couples to be codependent and isolated from the world and reality although eventually years later, it certainly all turns to shit. Hope these two can overcome their childhood traumas and come out of as survivors and not victims.
@@MrRaulstrnad I hear what you're attempting to say although, privilege and wealth does not sheild a person or child from emotional and physical neglect or abuse. A parent can be present for the Disney World trips, trips overseas, a parent can offer private schools, maids, big house, fancy cars and still be narcissistic, abusive, neglectful and unable to love and support their children. I assure you of this. Some of us are innately strong and can withstand the must torturous of upbringings amongst the "successes" of our parents while others... break. At a point in my life I couldn't understand why other people are so weak while I was strong. We're all different as it should be, and that must be okay. I'm here to support our fellow humans not degrade their experiences and how they came out of it.
@@lolaadesina5362 no he didnt experience trauma in the classic ptsd way but yes he might have been the result of childhood emotional neglect i see your viewpoint
@@ezinnekalu9481 Meghan joined Team Royal Family, which is about public service and she made it about herself. That's what she did wrong. She is free to exit, and frankly most people couldn't handle being a part of that family wherein everything you do has a guideline. But she did zero prep for her new role and given that she likes the spotlight (nothing wrong with that) and is very political and became frustrated with the low profile she was supposed to maintain, it was pretty obvious that it wasn't going to work. Leaving was the smart thing to do - but trying to hang on to their titles when they're not doing jack for the British people was piggy and that's why people are pissed.
Dr. Grande, I adore you but but have to disagree in this instance-Meghan supported her father for many years while fully aware of his foibles. It's only when the narcissistic emotional blackmail started that she ceased communication. Compassion does not always equal engagement-sometimes it's best to love people from a safe distance.
Meghan set her father up with her favourite photography company. She then watched him fall into her trap. But twisted it as his doing. I think he lied then to keep her in good light as he's put her on a pedestal in the past, rather than boundary her ss she grew up
An insightful video, Dr G. While I have no investment in this particular family feud, your balanced comments were applicable to my family dynamics. Finding the line between reaching out despite their flaws & setting appropriate boundaries is key.
After her parents were divorced Meghan’s father took Meghan in and raised her from age 11 because Doria had been sentenced to prison for tax and other financial crimes for 9 years. He paid for her private education and College. (Meghan has stated that she had worked her way through, which was untrue; this is why Mr Markle has hung onto the financial records as proof. It must have contributed to his eventual bankruptcy.) In any case, this would seem to account for his unkind statement about how she wouldn’t have been so successful without his support; it seems to have been no more than the truth. (I have relied heavily on the author and historian Lady Colin Campbell’s book ‘Harry and Meghan: the real story’)
This isn't true. Doria Raglund spent a few years going to USC to become a licensed Social Worker. That couldn't happen if she had a felony because a thorough background check is done.
I disagree with Dr. Grande’s last statement. Mr. Markle hurts his daughter and violates her privacy every time he does an interview. That he does it for money compounds the pain. If this is what he does in public, can you imagine how he behaves in private? No good parents make public comments about what their child owes them. To me he’s not just imperfect, he’s abusive. I can’t blame her for cutting him out of her life. Meghan is not perfect and has made many errors but that doesn’t require that she submit her and her family to her father’s abuse.
The interview with Thomas Markel made me feel very uncomfortable. The points you brought up i.e. that he displayed poor sense of boundaries, was not particularly genuine , that he considered himself to be the person who "made " her who she is ....... stood out to me too and bothered me intensely. When asked why he doesn't just go and visit her , he answered " I'm not a stalker " !!!!!!! Alarm !!! I thought is he her father or an ex -boyfriend . He seemed very " confused " about what his relationship to Meghan is. As a child growing up in a home with certain individuals who did not respect the natural boundaries of decency , the interview left me recoiling in anxiety.
I give you my respect. I thought weak personal boundries might be an issue, too. I am sure that would be very uncomfortable to live with, but still not a crime.
@@sherryd.3425 weak personal boundaries might be an issue , but not a crime. No, indeed, but weak personal boundaries lead to confusion in a child. Confusion is difficult for anyone , but for children it can be debilitating for their Sense of security , and identity.
He reminds me of my parents. I had to cut my abusive parents out and they pull the same thing. They also claim they don't know what they did, claim they gave me everything, and that they want to love me and the kid. They don't know because they refuse to see themselves as anything other than what they believe. They also are stalking me and it is terrifying. It is a cluster B personality disorder broken record.
Same here. Actually had to abruptly and secretly move to a different area because of the non stop harassment. The smear campaign continues but I do not care, as long as they can’t get to me and my child.
The bottom line is that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors when it comes to family - especially in this case. That said, I believe Meghan's father should have kept his mouth shut and not aired the problems he, the royals, Harry and Meghan were having, let alone get paid for it. All of this should have been dealt with privately. As for compassion, again, we don't know what kind of father Thomas Markle was/is. I have had people say the same things about my relationship with my father. My youngest brother and I haven't talked to our father in over 20 years. He presents one way in public and is totally different in private. Again, I believe that Thomas Markle should have dealt with this privately.
Megan was never close to her father, they had a rocky relationship before Harry. And Harry has been beefing with his brother for years, due to William being prepped for and embracing his place as future King. Harry is still close to the Queen, they even named their daughter Lilibet, the Queens childhood nickname that only Philip called her and apparently the Queen loved it. Also they adore Megan’s mother. It might seem like they’re suddenly isolating themselves, but I believe that once they had children they just couldn’t continue without boundaries from certain people. And now those people are lashing out because they’ve been 1) called out and/or 2) cut off. The way these people are reacting is enough to let me know that Megan and Harry made the right decision for their family. My mum had to do this when I was around 12 because she couldn’t let me get damaged by the same people who damaged her. She got the same backlash from her family. Now that I’m 25 & thriving, those same people are talking about how I’m not grateful to them because my mum never taught me about them and all they did for her. Meanwhile they’re really struggling mentally and so are their kids. I was 12 and I remember how toxic they were. My mum worked with my dad and her kids to make sure we’re okay. She put in the effort to make us who we are. Yet they keep yapping and wanting to take credit for her accomplishments. The people that my mum did keep around act like true family, even if they don’t like us. People who only use others for gain will always lash out when they can’t exploit someone anymore.
I agree. Having come from a toxic family dynamic myself, I know how hard it is to break from that I couldn't imagine how it would be while the world was watching and reporting on every moment of it. Could Harry and Meghan have done things differently? Of course. The was they stepped back from being working Royals was messy and left many issues unresolved with the Firm. It will be a long time before all of it calms down, especially with the way they are choosing to move forward as it ostracizes much of the royal family. Likewise Thomas and Samantha could have chosen not to repeatedly speak to the press for years. Having one's parent publicly state that their daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously claiming to know the very personal inner workings of the Firm hasn't done Thomas any favors. He hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry, and every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution. I do hope that they can all heal, but I imagine it will take time.
Some corrections. The tension between the brothers started when William advised Harry not to rush things with Meghan. The Queen loved Prince Philip calling her Lilibet but that doesn't mean she likes Meghan and Harry using it. The BBC reported that the Queen's permission wasn't sought. H&M threatened to sue, claiming that they had, but the BBC refused to back down. The palace hasn't confirmed H&M's claim. H&M also claimed that Lilibet was introduced to the Queen via Zoom. A palace insider has denied it. Harry doesn't "seem' to be isolating himself from his family. He has. He's undermined his family with those Oprah interviews. And that means that Archie is also cut off from his extended family - cousins, uncles, aunts etc. That's Harry handing down "genetic pain" to Archie. And, as Dr Grande pointed out if he and Meghan's relationship doesn't last then Harry is left without a support system.
@@kikihowe4799 You are correct. I don't blame Dr. Grande because he's going for a psychology take not a biography of the people involved. Thomas also didn't release the letter.
It's so frustrating for people to assume Meghan is an awful person because of the broken relationship with her father. He seems incredibly exploitative and manipulative. Easily dismissing his own wrong doings for forgiveness and continues to participate in the media when he knows that's exactly what strained the relationship in the first place. Again, I don't care if people dislike her for any other reason, but this one - in which people use to justify how an awful person she is due to the family relationship is annoying. Just because people are your family does not mean they are not able to be toxic.
He might have won $750K but a lot of it went to taxes. He invested a lot of money in MM. Private schools, college, expensive restaurants, dance classes and vacations. So he probably was angry when he gave those interviews. He wanted a relationship with her but yet he was angry and gave a few insults.
Any parent that would make money out of disparaging their child in public certainly let them down in numerous other ways. It is a line no decent parent would ever cross
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes And you know his because you are her immediate family? Or is it because you grew up with her? I hope, it is not because you have watched some videos on the internet and brought your own "feelings" into it At the end of the day, actions speak. Any parent who sells out their child to tabloids was undoubtedly terrible
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes You are very ready to justify a parent betraying a child. Why is that? And then you list all these points as if you were there But once again, any parent who betrays a child (which undeniably happened here ) certainly would have made other choices that seriously comprised their welfare And the true narcissist is the one who compromises a child's welfare then plays the victim when the child protects themselves through distancing
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes So she is grown women and responsible for her actions. But her father is not and should be forgiven. Is that right? Ridiculous equivocations of what he did as if it does not matter No good parent would ever do it period Btw, you were done a long time ago, because you are trying to argue the against the obvious. Now off you go
Meghan Markle is the definition of a female Dark Triad personality. Thomas shouldn't be talking like he does, but we need to not pretend she isn't what she is.
This is his daughter for whom he did a great deal. To shun him now is sad and unkind.
"Lighting directors help other people shine....but stand in the darkness." Well-played, sir. Well-played indeed.
Well said
This cracks me up.
Classic Grande.👏👏👏😁
It was, but it might have been followed by the line, ....But some things needed to be left in the darkness.
Yeah I think 🤔 that was well played but so Dr. Grande fashion not over playing his hand! Lol Dr. Grande are you a closet poker ♣️ player? Lol Are you just coming out with that skill set today? Lol
It's interesting that Meghan and Harry are considering getting a cease and desist order on Meghan's father to make him stop saying negative things about them publicly, yet they are doing the exact same thing to the royal family.
They are lying, it was proven. I don’t think Thomas Markle behaved splendidly but the letter which broke her heart was published in People Magazine because she gave it to her 5 friends. Dr Grande says what he wants to say, not the truth.
@@annaal7480 and not only that ! The letter was also shared to 9 different members of staff in Buckingham Palace. Strangely enough the person who helped co-author the letter is now leaving his job!
They are hypocrites on many fronts.
As a person from here, they are not lying on our monarchy. In our tabloids today it says that William and Kate doubted Meghan even before meeting and told the staff they doubted her and when a staff complained of bullying William said it's the truth because he thinks Meghan has an agenda. So there is two sides to it all. By the way as you are aware , the royal consigned to let our royal advisors talk about them but only in a negitive way. If you are a Brit, you saw our tabloids daily.
@@tweetyslife253 .. Wow. You are SO wrong!!! That is not true at all. Talk about trying to change the narrative to suit yourself. That is how false rumours begin.
Matthew McConaughey also stopped talking to his mother for eight (8) years. She kept giving interviews to the press with no boundaries. Some people have no filter.
Particularly in the U.S.
Jennifer Aniston Meg Ryan Princess Diana none had relationships with their mothers during their marriage and no one vilified them
Yeah like how Meghan set her father up and manipulated the media to trash him and his entire family. Talk about no boundaries!
@@maryjohnson7121 did they beggar themselves to support their children?
@UCgX99Et7Lu8XFLcIpr-AV3g I exist so yes, I have an opinion. Since you think that I shouldn't have an opinion, I will delete it.
What is the difference between him doing paid interviews and them doing paid interviews? Both are divulging personal and private information for monetary gain.
If you don’t see the difference between someone telling your story and you telling your own story, I can’t help you. You’ll find more excuses.
They don't do paid interviews. They weren't paid by oprah
Exactly it's all about money for all parties involved in this circus.
@@akiraholland457 Don't be so foolish O will donate to their "charity".
the decadence of current western civilization the almighty dollar rules and the truth is just a servant of how much money is paid out
It’s important to show compassion and understanding. Also important to recognize we can’t make people change. Great video Dr Grande.
interesting... we cant make people change...a powerful statement
No, but we can change how we react to them, with clear boundaries for yourself...
Yeah, it's important to show compassion and recognize we can't change someone AND it's important to know when compassion will never be enough for someone and that person will never change and be a constant asshole.
This isn't so much about compassion as much as it is about untrustworthy behavior. If Thomas visits the grandchildren, will he secretly take pictures and sell them? If Thomas comes over for dinner will he secretly record conversations and sell them? How do you now speak freely around him knowing anything you say or do is for sale?
Would he still be upset if Megan supported him financially but still remained cut off emotionally?
Exactly!
Sometimes, you have to show yourself compassion as well. If a family member is triggering past unhealed trauma, then maybe it is better to remove yourself from interactions that are just too depleting. Just because these people are public figures does not mean that they can deal with negative family members any better then anyone else.
Dr. G. makes really good points for most of his video. I’ve seen Dr.G’s videos on narcissism, and based on some of that info, I could see a connection between statements made by Megan’s father, and narcissistic behavior. Sometimes, a person has to break free from narcissistic behavior from family members, and it appears that may be what Megan did. It’s hard to know what the full story is, but if Megan needed a break from her father after all the negative drama, it would be understandable.
the problem with this is that meme did in fact in I believe 2015 or 2016 in her blog The Tigg, say that she owes everything to her dad. She sounded like she completely adored her dad and thanked him for taking her to ballet and to his shows and expensive dinners. When meme was getting married to her 1st husband the groom said he was the family she never had... was said by h in his engagement interview as well. It was known that her mum was not involved in her upbringing for 10 years, Mr. Markle was main caregiver. Her Uncle on his side got her a job at the UN she never acknowledged him nor invited him to wedding nor went to his funeral nor sent sympathy note to the Aunty. she did not invite any black family and doria did not invite a companion to the wedding. so basically, a empathetic daughter with love in her heart would forgive small or even large things...afterall they do promote community, love and compassion on their site. so yeah, she is rotten to the core. also to note that the photographer name on the pictures is the same person that is employed to do some of meme own pap work
I think you should only have people in your life that enrich your life. Family can be the one you make because not all of the families that we are born into are worth keeping close.
True- but if I can keep myself away at a safe distance it’s the best way to personally ( psychologically and emotionally) grow myself. We grow by working through our buttons. I don’t think Megan should be black mailed into talking to her dad. That’s exploiting her right there. She told him she feels used when he uses her to make money off of her exploitive publicity. I mean if she IS friends with him , what’s he Gona sell about her then. If he’s exploiting her NOW why would he change if she gives into him. He would no doubt be worse. Jerk thinks he owns her. In fact we do not own our kids.
@@maryellengodfrey MeAgain does all the exploiting!
True, many people have chosen family not blood family. But if you are going to go that route, then you also need to let go. When you choose to estrange from your family then keep cashing checks to publicly bash them… then you are problematic.
@@MotJ949 ❤️🙌❤️
I think that the problem with family is that the government plays a major role through the use of incentives to influence what a family is or isn't. A financial interest is playing the most significant role. There is also a financial interest in that which concerns family such as adoption, surrogacy, and sperm donating. It's as if a family can be manufactured ( a child conceived) in a lab and yet carry assumptions of purity of interest based on Romantic love whereas money is actually playing the primary role. This is why I am inclined to believe that blood relatives are important to take primacy when we speak of family. Let us not forget: children are usually considered to belong to the mother in any event which undermines the very idea that a family is an organization based on some special substance or another.
Meghan’s past relationships (romantic or not) mostly never end well. Will history repeat it self again?
I think most people’s relationships end badly..😕
@@justinaacorn5721 Well her other marriages sure did.
it will repeat itself if her husband has any common sense but sometimes you have to think ....no he doesnt have any sense he is too far gone
@@finolaomurchu8217 other marriage, she married once.
@@MrRaulstrnad I am sure he assessed the situation beforehand.
Me and my father had a fall out. My daughter was born and he died while she was very young and they never met. I reached out more than he did and that hurts me to this day that he chose not to get back with me as a father. I tried. I personally don’t think it’s worth it. I did my part but some people are just selfish. I can’t go back and hope for change. I miss him and my brother, may they Rest In Peace.
Very sad, but you can rest assured that you should have logically no guilt over the situation because you tried to make amends. If you had died before your father he would have likely been devastated.
Fathers like NEVER change.
Been there, seen it.
He's in his 80s and still lies to me and my sibling.
No hope
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
That’s so very sad for you 😢
“All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”. I wonder what Tolstoy might have said about compassion.
What Tolstoy appears to have said about compassion is that we should demonstrate it.
@@DaisyLee1963 Thanks so much!
Thomas won an Emmy for Married With Children. That was actually his best known work.
Love that show! Yes, I'm female♡
@@Joy-Marie369 agreed!!
Ty for info
@@Joy-Marie369 one of my faves growing up lol.
Wow and the irony is now that he is made out to be like Al and he's being shunned by daughter Kelly and Bud the parallel is spot on. She is definitely a Kelly bundy.
Some people don't deserve even sporadic contact. My dad was making me feel awful even tho we exchanged messages only few times a year. If someone spews insults everytime they open their mouth and then gaslight you or say it's for your own good to take their 'crticism' it's just not worth it... I'm feeling much better having zero contact, it's not lazy or unkind, it's assertive and self caring. Toxic people can blame themselves on their loneliness, and taking their sh*t is not kindeness- it's being stuck in a toxic relationship and I wish bravery to escape it for everyone in situation like that. There are no perfect parents and most children have to set some boundaries as they grow up like I had to with my mom who tried to dress me even after I left the country. Such things can have middle grounds unlike where one side loves to verbally abuse the other side. "yea, lets have one session of verbal abuse every two months interchanged with one normal conversation?" Meghans father couldn't fake being a loving dad even for a single interview. I'm pretty sure mine is not capable of a simple chat not even mentioning any exchange of ideas or views. There is no middle grounds with narcissistic, abusive simpletons who would totally be incels but unfortunately got laid, and became parents...
It is REALLY draining establishing/maintaining boundaries with boundary violators, so I kinda sympathize with Meghan here. You can't choose your parents but you can choose how much access they have to you. If he didn't have the title of "father" and was a friend who was behaving this way, no one would be analyzing if she should have cut him off or not. Should parents have special privilege's to betray and exploit you? 🤔 Anyway, that purple plant is adorable
This is an interesting take. I’ve gone no contact with my BPD-Narc mom, and she has slandered me to anyone who would listen. Sadly, we can’t choose our parents; and shouldn’t feel FORCED to accept abuse.
@@candylove49 BOY...do I know how that is. I have been slandered in 2 countries. Her hatred of me knew no bounds. I was just her slave, then, I left and never returned. What a lousy daughter she had. I have no idea how I survived. My therapist said to me, "You are not the one who needs to sit in that chair." I hope you found the strength to tell your mother, EFF U.
@@candylove49 Yeah, I feel for you, no contact must have been really hard even with the abuse. But yea, it is just tough to maintain a relationship with your parent when you can't trust them. Hang in there folks! ❤️ (Edit: Spelling error lol)
@@cindylu607 she could give him another chance, but she chooses not to. Look what she did to Harry, removed him from his family too, it's weird.
@@Shayne_T Yeah, I don't know, it is definitely an unusual situation and all the pressure and racism from the tabloids must have been awful on top of the private family issues. But anyway, Harry is an adult and articulated his feelings well enough for himself regarding leaving IMO. 🤷🏽
I find it ironic that they cut all communication with Thomas because he leaked a couple of photos yet they think it’s ok to publicly attack Harry’s family.
Thank you for uploading! I could really use a distraction from myself right now, I look at my phone and here’s your daily video. Thanks for being so consistent, I really appreciate it.
Blessings to you. God protect you and show you grace. 🙏💙
Thank you for this thoughtful video. As I listened I thought of my own struggles to set boundaries with hurtful family members and to protect myself from them and enjoy their good side. Generally I'm not in favor of totally cutting family off but some days when I'm more tired than usual I struggle to remain compassionate. It's then that I try to remind myself I've never regretted showing compassion, but I have indeed regretted being cold and unforgiving.
Thank you.
DaisyLee! Thank YOU for your thoughtful post. It helped me arrange my thinking. I believe you’d be a good friend to have in good times and bad.
I totally understand!
Yes, you are wise. It is too easy to not see the good in people and very easy to give people up.
Would you stay in touch with them if they sold stories about you to the papers and continued to do interviews about you? Sorry but this situation is nothing like yours and you shouldn’t prescribe the same solution.
True to the extent that you’re the one and only who know you best and can draw the line when things are too much for you. I had to make that hard choice and though it was insanely hard to do it was the at was left. Now a lot of years later, it was the right choice and I took my health seriously and got the therapy needed.
Thomas Markle participates in media coverage, for money, and to put himself in a favorable light; Meghan Markle participates in media coverage, for money, and to put herself in a favorable light.
at the expense of his daughter. The daughter he loves so very much. smh
Yep. But Meghan screwed up. In midst of covid & Harry's grandpa being on death bed, she came out complaining about her perceived misfortune while being in much better health & financial situation than most TV viewers. She seemed completely unaware of existence of other people on the planet & thought people should care about her feelings.
E I agree, she’s very self-centred. And Harry’s no better.
They weren’t paid for the Oprah interview. And Thomas is barking up the wrong tree if he thinks abusing his daughter for money will result in a relationship with her.
@@Lovely-sv1ye They are being paid by Netflix. Most people don't abuse the elderly in their families. Megs and Harry go after the elderly in their families.
My father also wanted to be the "star" of my wedding (perform the ceremony and/or sing a song) and caused all kinds of drama after I told him I just wanted him attend as my dad. Finally, the day of the wedding he said he couldn't come because he had to change the license plates on his girlfriend's car. It was sad that he seemed to care more about how he was gonna show off in front of our guests than he did about celebrating our wedding. But, he did it to himself.
Did your dad miss your wedding in hospital for heart surgery and you didn't even visit him . There's no comparison to this
Oh please. There’s a reason Meghan had celebrities she didn’t know at her wedding and no family. She thinks she’s above them!
@@alibali193He tried a bunch of different excuses. But the negative publicity didn't stop until he came up with the heart surgery story. Maybe he did have a procedure, but it was pretty convenient that after all his other previous excuses that one popped up last. Heart surgery is a pretty huge thing and it seems like he would have mentioned that first off, if it were really true.
@@wendythomas9361 You mean like the rest of the royal family she hadn't met, yet? Those celebrities? How do you know which celebrities Megan knows and who she doesn't?
@@toocutepuppies6535 sorry still no comparison. Think you should see someone yourself or put your story on a more relevant thread
I really enjoyed listening to you explain the facts and giving hope that healing, with boundaries, may take place.💗
There is no virtue in claiming your family is racist without naming names and giving them the opportunity to defend what may have been a misunderstanding. My husband is darker than I am and we often pondered how our genetics would manifest in our children from skin, to eye, and hair color.
We didn’t need this incident to know that the monarchs are racist. Harry needed it to truly realize his family was racist enough to be concerned about their grandsons skin colour. A grandson who’s max 25% Black, by the way. The public knew, it’s just heartbreaking there’s enough hate to judge an unborn child on their skin. You can ponder about your own kids, I’m mixed and I always wonder. But for your family to be concerned, is beyond acceptable.
Its funny though the only one in the royal family called out for racism is Harry, let's not forget him dressing up as a Nazi for a party or him calling a soldier in his barracks a paki a derogatory name used for those of Pakistani descent in the UK. So in my eyes he is a bloody hypocrite.
@@BybeeBunnie Megs is a proven liar and she didn’t even name the person who apparently had this “concern”. You literally only know one side of the story but I guess birds of a feather flock together so of course other liars like you would believe her.
@@BybeeBunnie all the colonisers were racist back in the day, human zoos etc there's a lot of stuff in that interview that isn't true so I find it hard to believe anything they say at this point.
As for genetic pain, yes Harry your family/ ancestors traumatised the populations of the US, India, Ireland, Australia, Zimbabwe, Canada, Myanmar and on and on and on
Yes, there is. You think it would be better to name the person and have the world turn on them? Seriously?! I doubt that person would agree.
I was partially in agreement with you until you got to the end. "What is the true nature of compassion? To only be kind to those who are perfect, or to reach out to those who are flawed?" I disagree. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do, is completely let someone go. When all they are doing is hurting you, stomping boundaries and disrespecting you, it is far less compassionate to the both of you, to let that contninue.
I didn't like the way he ended that video either. It was really on the father to make amends for his misbehavior. Seems he is only interested in making a buck off his own daughter.
@@reedriter You can feel compassion for a person AND distance yourself. I have an older sister who is the most toxic person I have ever known. At my wedding, she cornered me and snarled, "Well, I guess you think you've got your whole life figured out." This relationship ended many years ago, and I would never consider seeing her for any reason or even go to her funeral. But over the years, I hate her less and less, and I pity her more and more. I do feel a degree of mercy for a person who is so utterly bankrupt. My mother later told me she was wildly jealous of my getting married, when she was single all her life. I'm not big on the current fad of "you must forgive him or you will be consumed with anger and it will destroy you". I have not forgiven her because the things she said and did will NEVER be OK. But, I DO feel genuinely sorry for her because the life she has chosen has left her entirely alone - she has driven everyone else away. But feeling some pity for her has actually taken a lot of her power away in my mind. BTW, this happened over MANY years, and only after five years of therapy. Changes like this can't be rushed or even consciously chosen - it's a process that slowly becomes known to you, like a dawning.
Really loved that last line about the true nature of compassion Dr Grande! Thank you for your analysis!💙
if meghan and harry can only interact with individuals who do not have flaws? their social sphere will be indeed very limited as they themselves have flaws.
That man has no idea what it’s like to be a father. He uses people for his own gain, nothing more.
Well we don’t know exactly why Meghan disowned her father. But Harry and Meghan are airing dirty laundry so at this point it’s a goose and gander situation.
If ur on tv all the time talking about ur family (royal family) and all that is bad then how can u be mad when ur father does the same?
Sad
They're defending themselves after everyone else has run to the press, allowed stories to leak, or didn't correct incorrect stories. People should always defend themselves.
@@TomikaKelly Isn't that what Megan's father was doing when he just did this interview? At least, in part? Megan got paid to talk about this problem on Oprah. Why shouldn't her dad be able to do the same? They BOTH need to shut up and not talk to the press. They are both wrong.
@@LDiamondz Because her father initiated the conflict and brought it to the public so now as a reaction to her father's bad behavior she no has to clear her name in the public.
Most parents want to protect their children and Tom Markle allowed another man to speak ill of his child and that's sick he should have told Piers Morgan to get off his daughter's back like most fathers would do, he doesn't go around bad-mouthing his white daughter who ain't shit.
Thomas could have chosen not to speak to the press for years, he didn't. He made the choice to publicly state that his daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously demanding to be part of that life. He claims to know the inner workings of the Firm when he hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry. Every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution because of his actions
They both (Markles) need to look up the definition of private and privacy....
@Margaret Blake I see you drank her kook aid
@@JTScott1988 😂😂😂 MeAgain is the biggest manipulative narcissist.
If you have such a terrible experience being in the royal family then drop the titles... just saying
Agree 100% Isabelle 👏🏻
That would be the proof, would't it?
But the queen say they will keep the tittle wouldn't drop the tittle make her sad or something because they were a gift from the queen herself, no one mention rhis ever it seems
That is MeAgains cash cow, planned from the beginning
Want money but no responsibility and public attention
No one has probably taken the time to give such deep thought and analysis. Thank you, Dr Grande!
A narcissist beget a narcissist... they are both acting like lowlifes airing their dirty laundry in public, its really getting quite sickening.
I agree.
Just cut out my family completely. They were extremely toxic and emotionally abusive.
Thank you! Same.
Alot of people have done it. No guilt should be felt. It's for your their sanity.
@@LaurenThompsonIsMyRealName it's a lonely road. I did it as a last resort. I mean they called the police on me for a wellness check after I told them I was busy dealing with my trauma
@@dalehoward3704 I definitely feel guilty. Especially because I was adopted by my great aunt and she plays that like a fiddle
Good for you! I know it’s hard. But it was necessary. I think Megan and Harry need to say enough! There will be no more questions. They’re done. I’m on their side. Truly don’t understand the haters. But I will agree that they’re retorting too much. Leave it alone. Let it go. Seek therapy but disappear into private life.
🐪 Happy hump day, Dr Grande! This was touching and excellent advice. It’s difficult for anyone to get thru this life without anguish or pain of some kind. We all know about that!♥️
Oh dear!! I misunderstood and thought it was a day to hump!!! So much for older age!
😂🇦🇺🤣🇦🇺🤔🐾SO! U MADE ME LAUGH @ LOOOOONG LAST
I would really love to hear your thoughts on Samantha Markle, Meghan's half sister who made sort of a cottage industry in critizing Meghan to the press for money. She has not seen Meghan since 2008
I admit that I misjudged Thomas Markle in the beginning. I just never thought that her daughter was not who she purported herself to be.
Seems all of them need to hush and work this out (or not) in their own family. Going public seems dysfunctional between all of them. All family's have problems.
100% agree, never should have been made public. Samantha started it with her jealous ugly ways.😕
All about the control and the Benjamins
Just what HMTQ advised H & M to do in her written reply to the 3/21 Oprah 'interview'.
Money
Earlier today I watched a video of Dr Brene Brown talk about boundaries and how the most compassionate people she's met have solid boundaries, so maybe the most compassionate thing she can do is to keep her boundaries firm, not reach out to someone who might not have the capacity to behave any differently 🤷🤷
She keeps her boundaries from
everyone she ever had a relationship with in the past. She has ghosted her friends, siblings, and is now ghosting the Royal Family. Her past is a tale of destruction. She is a narcissist who uses people and then dumps them.
People need to set firm boundaries from her. She's very toxic. If I were Princess Kate, I'd be cordial and polite. But I would never trust her or be involved in any project that required them to collaborate together.
@@janejones7638 what’s so perfect about Kate? I don’t get it? Because she toes the Royal line? Meanwhile she’s probably suffering. All royals do. But sure, because she married will who is supposed to be king she has more on her to act perfect. Somehow I doubt she is happy. She’s just not honest like Megan and Harry are. This is why I hate the royal family. I like real people with real feelings that are allowed to be shared. None of this stiff upper lip.
Mark my words: in a few years we will find out how Kate suffered. And will is spineless like his dad. Not protecting his wife and kids. This isn’t good.
@@camimons470 hmmmmm......you don't have even the smallest intellectual strength....go away......you spread lies
@rh88
Well said. I fully agree.
6:47 Really dr.?
If you think MM has narcissistic personality traits, then we must consider the possibility she was emotionally manipulative in that letter.
I went about 10 years with very little contact with my family as they were toxic to my mental and physical health. Not saying that I became healthy and everything got on track with me.
I got the strength to come home and found a complete different family for the better.
Like father like daughter. It sounds like they're so much alike that they clash.
Exactly.
And the mother is “allegedly” a fraudster. Lovely family 🥰
@@Smarterthanyew What's that supposed to mean?
I have also heard that he went into debt paying for her entry into acting in the first place. Literally investing his money in her success. If this is true then yes he did make her who she is today, and she has taken his money and run.
If he had $750,000 why wouldn't he help his daughter realize her dreams? If indeed he actually did. Not something a good father would say or expect a return other than showing love to his child. "Invest" in her? So gross. Poor Meghan. Her Mother is her blessing.
@@paul2019monte if he was very rich then yes. If he wasn’t and went in debt, then Meghan can pay off these money after she got famous and rich.
Isn't that what parents are supposed to do, invest in their kids?
Children are expected to take care of parents when parents get old, just like they did to them when they were children.
We are not sure if Thomas is actually in poverty. He had a heart surgery.
Investing in your child's success is a choice you make that doesnt require repayment and, if that's what he expected, then he should've made that clear.
I had a hand in raising many of my cousins. I don't expect them to come and pay me back for changing their diapers or tutoring them.
It could be that Meghan and Harry bonded over a mutual history of toxic relationships with fathers. Meghan seems to still have a good relationship with her mother, and Harry might have had that as well, if his mother was still around. I hope they can build a chosen family with good friends, and perhaps repair the relationship with the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.
Of course it's doubtful Prince Charles is Harry's biological father.
@@Bigwave2003 Yep all kinds of sketchiness there!
@@Bigwave2003 Diana didn't meet the cavalry officer until months after Harry was born. If you look at Harry's brows, eyes and nose, they are just like Prince Charles'. The red hair was inherited from the Spencer's side of Harry's family. At the birth, Charles was hoping for a daughter. When he saw newborn Harry, he was disappointed that he wasn't a girl. He told Diana that he only married her to have heirs to the throne and he moved out of the marital bedroom. Diana famously said that her marriage was boom! over, just like that. Once the heir and spare were born, Charles resumed his affair with Camilla. If he had been a better husband, he and Diana would have had more kids and he may have had the daughter who he'd so badly wanted. Diana wanted more kids, too. So, after Charles ended it with his wife and returned to Camilla, Diana met the cavalry officer. Their affair didn't begin immediately.
You are spot on!
“Not every Girl wants to be a Princess”… just saying
I can honestly say it never crossed my mind. I wanted to be an architect but previously many careers were closed to women.
Exactly
@@lhourigan1 my mon was electric Eng back in the 70's till her death! Not prohibited
Yep
Probs best not to marry a prince then 🙄
Your words on compassion were truly powerful, I really appreciate what you had to say about this controversy.
I share the same thoughts regarding their pattern of disconnecting from people they were once close to....
Without a doubt your analysis brought a lot of light to this situation, thank you!❤️
Thats so yrue they jabe hurt ablot of people. Markle ( megan ) is particularly good at Ghosting people and causing pain i feel so sorry for Harrys brother Prince William they were so close and had a great relationship.
It seems like Meg threw her father under the bus once she got what she wanted from him sad to say.
T A K really ???? Would u want him as a father ??? I certainly wouldn't his such a looser wins the lottery and then claims insolvency wtf no wonder royalty want nothing to do with him
I disagree. He was a total asshole to her. He seems very unstable as well.
@@sayhello5377 narcissistic abuse renders many victims unstable overtime if they refuse to go no contact.
Thats why I said it could be covert narcissism because its very hard to spot at first until you are trained to spot the red flags of the clinical disorder.
@TAK....pretty common story nowadays. People love to cast shade/blame on their parents--and thereby absolve themselves of much responsibility--yet seem strangely disinclined to cut their parents any slack when it comes to understanding/acknowledging how or why those same parents might have come to be the way that they are or were. That having been said, Thomas does sound like he's a piece of work.
He's a prick 😂
I'd reverse over him too!
I wonder if Dr. Grande is ever going to cover that psychiatrist who told an audience at the Yale School of Medicine in April that she had fantasies of "unloading a revolver into the heads" of people?
Hasn't everyone thought about shooting somebody?
It wasn't just "people," it was white people specifically.. You know, coz all of us are blindly, aggressively privileged or something?
What is the Yale psychiatrist's name?
@@kitty9392 no not everyone.
@@kitty9392 I can’t believe you’re at the point of defending implied genocide. Take a step back
He lives in Rosarito, Mexico, quite near California.
The local gossip news was that he wasn't invited to the royal wedding at all.
Who knows. Maybe they're both manipulative narcs.
I feel like this might be truth.. but then again, we will never know
Yep, they are worth each other
Well she's alienated two familes herself now.
They seem too much like each other.
Maybe you shouldn’t throw such horrible words around when it comes to total strangers.
Seriously.
Meghan and Thomas do the same thing: ask for compassion and empathy while they give none, and broadcast family secrets.
you have a point there.. I was not able to see it that way before, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
@@wisamrohilina3006 personally I have sided with Meghan when Thomas was doing it to her, and sided w the crown when Meghan did it to them. Either one solves the issues privately or doesnt address it at all. No point doing it publicly imho
@@nvefau9753 I think you misunderstood me. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have pointed out the racism - I am talking about talking personal stuff such as when you’ve heard from your dad last, parenting styles etc. Those are private matters. I am a U.K. taxpayer and am not interested in knowing who called who, when, and why. I’m interested in seeing the firm address the racism charge and seeing Meghan address the bullism one. What they feel, or don’t, who calls who, it’s private.
Nve Fau - with respect, you do NOT know how the royal family behave as they do not speak about things and you should not generalise as there are so many of them and each is a different person you do not know. You can only assume you know, as you have clearly done. We know far more about how Meghan and Harry feel because they DO talk, and unpleasantly, dishonestly and frequently at that.
While he was no celebrity, he was an Emmy Award winning lighting technician and director.
It's interesting that Meghan really is close to no one in her family and the royal family have been alienated from the couple and their children. Doria Ragland seems to be the only family left that has regular contact with Meghan and Harry.
Thank you for that comment, you're so right.
@@cottontails9003 aww, you're very welcome! Thank you.
Shes close to her mom. We dont know the extent of exposure she had to her relatives and other family members growing up.
@@TomikaKelly LOL. Wow. OK.
@@TomikaKelly one interesting article I've read, written by a close friend of the Markle family, said that Meghan was her father's favorite child. He affectionately called her "Bean" and made sure that she had everything she needed and most of what she wanted. She claims that she paid her own way through college, but it's not true. Her dad paid for it all. I don't know her or her family personally, but it seems as though she was spoiled by her parents. Whatever, it's all so sad. She allegedly dumped Jessica Mulroney, her longtime bestie, once she became a Duchess. All I know is that she bald-faced lied about her passport, the private wedding 3 days before the public one and that she trashed Prince Charles after he walked her partway down the aisle. Not to forget that the royal family paid millions upon millions for the lavish wedding! I'm sure that taxpayer money also paid for some of it. If she really wanted to be Diana #2, she would have done her duties without complaints as Diana did. Diana continued royal engagements after her divorce from Charles!! She had said that country and duty were the most important things after her children. I think that Meghan didn't realize that Charles held the purse strings and that he wasn't a multibillionaire with unlimited funds. She deceived Harry into believing that she was passionate about charity and was comfortable about carrying out her royal engagements for charitable organizations. Harry even said, during their engagement interview, that he didn't have to worry about her carrying out works for charity since she had experience with it and was passionate about it like he is.
Again, I don't know her. I only know what I hear about her through the media. I also believe that Prince William saw something shady about Meghan and it was why he advised Harry to slow the courtship down. William may have strung Catherine along for 10 years, but he made sure that she was prepared for the mundane and stressful life of a royal. Look at how his wisdom paid off! Kate is a great part of The Firm and a wonderful supportive, equal partner to William. It's also easy to see how much he loves her and vice versa. 😊❤
I'll never be with someone who disrespect their own family and my family... I've seen many couple like this MM and Harry markle it's never last
Am I the only one who doesn’t completely believe Megan’s account that her in-laws vocalized concerns about the newborn babies skin? I don’t completely believe her, I think a lot of the things she said were not 100% based in reality.
oh yeah. There are whole channels dedicated to calling out Meghan and her shenanigans. I think you will find that she is quite the spectacle. Enjoy the journey!
It was Harry that heard that and he told Megan.
Look even if they did ask I don’t think it’s inherently racist. What’s wrong with respectful curiosity within the family?
No. You’re not. I’ve heard it said that they would have liked it if the baby had a bit of colour. So, who do you believe. Well, in my case, I’d go for the royal family every single time. I’m afraid she has planned this from the very beginning ( who wears the mans mother’s perfume to a first date! In no way is that healthy). Sometimes I think the whole family are in on the scam. Have a bit of a spell ( you’ve been found out to be lying on ‘new babies ‘ name), well - up,pops dad for an interview she. We haven’t heard from in for so long. I’m beginning to think there’s too many coincidences here. Scam .🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
Bro it was Harry who heard it and you are so quick to attack her but you don’t acknowledge HARRY is an INDIVIDUAL and a HUSBAND and a FATHER. This is his family he had a problem with what was said enough to even mention it to his wife - so how do you think this reflects on you choosing only to conveniently place distrust in Megan’s voice?
Boundaries are super important. That is what they've done with the royal family. They're fine. Her father is a disgusting jerk. She needs to never have contact with him again.
I think the RF set boundaries for the happy couple, too.
After wanting to be ' part timers ' and the queen said nope, either you're all in or all out, they lost their minds
😂😂😂 funny because NO ONE except Doria want anything to do with Me Again
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Yup. I know a narcissist when I see one. Surprised Dr. Grande doesn’t.
Let it be noted that almost none of his grandchildren talk to him. Some have never even met him. And his 1st wife accuses him of serious abuse. Its disgusting how the media are giving him any credibility or airtime.
THANK YOU 🤦🏻♀️👏🏼 people are out here like oh he doesn’t sound so bad and just trashing Megan marble for the sake of it as if she just wants to be alone without her dad or anybody. He’s proven to be at the very least dishonest an disrespectful
@@genevievefaherty7788 Being the child of an abuser is a curse. You feel attached to the parent and try to keep them in your life even though they cause you nonstop misery and pain. Then when you have finally had enough and decide to draw boundaries people blame YOU for not being compassionate enough to your abuser and berate you and tell you to forgive them. They believe the abusers sob story and don't hold them accountable at all. And if the abuse causes you so much distress that you go into alcoholism or your life goes off the rails, yet again people blame YOU for your situation.
Yes and only reason he wants to meet Archie and Lilibet is so he can have a story to sell to the press.
@@hadizamohammed Exactly, spot on, victim blaming.
No one ever asked why did he leave her mother. His character shows it.
Meghan's father is involved with the media, and he is estranged from his daughter. Her mother has never spoken to the media, and their relationship appears healthy. If a thing could be narcissistic, the British tabloids would be narcissistic. Everyone blames Meghan, but Harry has been telling everyone who would listen he was unhappy and felt trapped inside his fishbowl life since he left the Army. Are we really surprised he married a complete outsider who could help him create a new life? Can you imagine living in a family that hands you a job description at birth and then forces you to do that job as an adult? Just because some members are paid to pretend they're special. It's twisted.
I’ll say this this woman mailed her wedding ring to her first husband and said basically said-see you that speaks volumes that Harry once always looked happy now he looks angry plus she seems good at alienating families.
Cuz Harry is just a helpless victims of his wife right? Has it occurred to you the ring was expensive and returning it was the right thing to do?
That would be her second husband. It is being said that she had been married before this but that marriage was later annulled.
@@christinekilcomons5805 two years she was married to that guy that’s way to late ha ha good try
@@rosep8481 oh especially after you land a better paying job the way she treats her own family speaks volumes
It sounds like Meg might suffer from a covert type of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Lets just hope that what ever she has done in the darkness comes out into the light.
no nar per disorder she is just a publicity bimbo remember KISS keep it simple stupid
I think both she and Henry are BPD. He gets it from his mom and she gets it from her dad. It's gonna be great when they break up. Fireworks!
What Meghan did to her father after he paid her way through college is a very unappreciative person. She never appreciated what her father did for her financially. Seems as if Samantha is more appreciative of her father and more compassionate of her father. Seems as if Meghan just wanted fame and fortune from all those who supported her then she turns them away when they are no longer usefull.
Meghan hasn't done anything to be ashamed of there's no dirt her father or sister can reveal
if this person wasn't her father, compassion wouldn't even be in the conversation. Compassion is not a one way transaction.
Meghan is a social climber. Period,
Why can't she give her father another chance so he doesn't have to reach out through the media? He gave her everything, she's cruel.
@@kcnicky2242 😂😂😂 see you drank her kook aid
@@Shayne_T Because at some point, your number of extra chances runs out. It's not cruel to protect your own mental health from negative toxic people.
@@Shayne_T what exactly, did he give her? This must be part of the story I dont know. He seems more like a taker...
I was reluctant to watch this at first, due to personal idiosyncrasies I experience with such topics. However I have to acknowledge, you mastered this topic elegantly with your reasoning. It has not gotten shallow. Doctor is always worth a try. 🧡
yes a much better job than most merkle analyisis the doctor is a true neutral professional
Yes, I don't understand strangers' need to pick a side on someone else's feud. Especially since both sides seem quick to manipulate the media. All families have to acknowledge then move on from mistakes, setting appropriate boundaries moving forward while still being prepared to reach out.
@@digigalbytes2445 it's because generally speaking humans need to pick a side in any problem. No matter what anyone says, it's hard not to have an opinion, and since people are so different, their opinions will vary and they will inadvertently pick one side side or another.
Also, a personal opinion as a side note: not picking a side (and not having an opinion) means you are either dumb, or that deep inside you do have an opinion and have already picked a side but you don't want to say it because you don't want conflict. That to me is either diplomacy (which requires you to be at least a little cunning) or cowardice (a trait that even Dante Alighieri has criticized, saying that not picking a side is worse than picking the wrong side(.
So yeah. There is no such thing as being neutral. Or if there is, I haven't seen it.
Meghan Markle gets a lot of hate but I feel rather sad for her? Her Paternal family is always out to put her down and the media paints her as a diva for feeling bad about it. Just because she's a known public figure doesn't mean the most intimate and private things about her should be shared without her knowledge or consent. I'm not saying she's this perfectly innocent person but I do think she gets a lot of unnecessary hate and specifically for things Kate Middleton gets praised for. She can't do anything right, can she? Her father and sister seem like petty hateful people. Like, what kind of family is that??
Meghan and Harry brought a lot of scrunity upon themselves by making themselves easy targets e.g preaching politics, saying things like 'no one asks if im ok', asking Disney execs for jobs during a movie screening etc, the press pound on that stuff. They really should of known better. Also using her title to sell books is disgraceful. They are not innocent poor misguided children, they are adults in their late 30s.
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Show only one person in this world who is not using his position for something.!! At she sells her books writing by herself. Showing that she is intelligent. What have we white peoples done in past century till today. Hiding ourselves behind government and monarchy and politics to extort commonwealth countries and all African countries especially to have their natural resources through means ways??? Which they call help??? The list is long, and I won‘t be able to put all that here! Some of the white peoples that think they are superior to other just because of their Skin colors should come down to earth. And truly you will never know how you yourself can behave until you have something to do with a Person of colors. So who are those writing ✍️ the press? Who owns it??????
Why is one person protected over the other? In the beginning they did as if they accepted her? You might said they did. But every that happens later prove to me they didn’t. Otherwise that Monarchy would have at least reacted when they called an unborn baby „chimpanzee „. They sad down quietly. But months later they answered to the press who wrote about Kate Botox . I know many family they might not like the wife, but the grand children are loved which is not the case for Archie.
I do not know anyone of them and will never know them. But something when wrong somewhere and it is not only Harry and Meghan. It has never been only one person causing troubles. They are always two. But that the media paints one evil and another perfect and people are just following and those ones that the press is blaming just some people still hold fast on their white supremacy , shows that we are still in the middle age and despite and with the new technology people remain without self mind.
Studies have prove that negative news go a long ways and remain in the circuit for a very very very very long time.
It is time everyone start checking his or her own life and analyze the stories you she or e read before ……….,,
@@meljk6431 the idea that its a race issue says more about you than it does about anyone else, your guilt ridden self flaggelation of your race shows some projection that you believe whites are superior, but that never entered the equation for me or anyone I know. She is more white than black too, I thought she may of been Italian. White people have done alot this past century, all races have. Stop with your self hating racism of your own race it is unbecoming. Meghan and Harry are royals, and it is well known that royals absolutely do not merch their titles. Fergie got hate for it, so did Edward. Its unprofessional and very, very unroyal. Meghan has so many red flags its not funny, she bullied the staff to the point they had to leave Kensington Palace to Frogmore, it was to the point that Palace aids felt mentally unwell and left. They have been thru more staff than any royal, that in itself is a huge red flag. She also made demands and broke protocol at her wedding, such as making Charlotte wear no stockings, which is a huge no no for royal bridesmaids... it is also on tax payers dime. She spent more than any other royal in Europe on her wardrobe. Groveling to the press in Africa of all places about how hard done by she is. Getting Harry to ask the Disney CEO for acting jobs while on duty... the list goes on. Catherine, William, the Queen, Sophie, Anne etc never ever acted how these two have. Harry and Megz belong in Hollywood, not in the palaces of Great Britain. They aren't someone I want to represent the commonwealth, they represent themselves. BTW if everyone has a problem with them maybe its them? Her own families estranged and now his is too. Most people wouldn't give her a pass if she was just some white girl from LA.
Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Her family isn't petty, they been FORCED to talk because of how she had repeatedly made deliberate lies about them in the first place, they're forced to call out her lies to defend themselves. Sounds like a crazy thing to do to people but that is what all narcs do, once they've had their use of you they'll discard you and lie about you so you can't contradict the image they've painted to others because the narc would have had everyone believing you're evil and bitter. Why wouldn't anyone be when you've been lied about? Her family is just trying to tell the objective truth about what are facts and what are not and not the lies that are the helpless victim story a narcissist will always paint of themselves
She is her father's daughter. She just won a different lottery.
No lottery, she has planned every moment
How is this even remotely true?
@@chelseagirl278 you know this how? From reading the Daily Mail?
@@RosieGirlRose101 one doesn’t need to browse the DM to know this
@@chelseagirl278 ya'll Meghan haters base everything on speculation and DM so I assumed.
You missed him on British t.v. saying he had things on her and was going to tell it if he didn't get her attention. On another British interview he said "it's time to take care of daddy" meaning he wanted money and attention. I think he's a big disappointment for Meghan. As far as the Royals, most of them have been involved in scandals, their handlers were hard on Diana, and Harry being called the spare, had to get out and live his own life. I'm sad for the Queen and M and H. They have made some hard choices. I would not have advised them to go public on the Oprah interview. It has caused them more pain and negative opinions from many people. Her 1/2 sister is also cashing in with interviews and has written a tell all book.
She makes lots of money frm that interview...it is what they want.. "money".. there are literally so much lies spoken by her
I agree. Having come from a toxic family dynamic myself, I know how hard it is to break from that I couldn't imagine how it would be while the world was watching and reporting on every moment of it.
Could Harry and Meghan have done things differently? Of course. The way they stepped back from being working Royals was messy and left many issues unresolved with the Firm. It will be a long time before all of it calms down, especially with the way they are choosing to move forward as it ostracizes much of the royal family. Likewise Thomas and Samantha could have chosen not to repeatedly speak to the press for years. Having one's parent publicly state that their daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously claiming to know the very personal inner workings of the Firm hasn't done Thomas any favors. He hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry, and every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution.
I do hope that they can all heal, but I imagine it will take time.
"It's time to take care of Daddy." Markle is manipulative and in no way a victim.
She’s giving her dad tough love as her father it’s time to let her be the adult and he should be loving her unconditionally at this late point in adult parenting. We don’t get to know more once they are adults we become peers. Giving them ( unconditional love like kids do to us growing up ) parents now give the trust to their kids to do the right thing. If they don’t we first need to reflect on what we taught them. I think she knows more than we do about how her father might want no matter what she does for him.
So you're one of those HarryHoes who believe everything in the tableloids.... because you're jealous, and you want too?
Okay you dummies. Thomas Markle said in an tv interview, "It's time to take care of Daddy." He is the manipulative one. As a grown man, he shouldn't be trying to guilt his daughter into taking care of him. You raise your children into responsible adults. Your job is done, and they go off to live their own lives. Thomas Markle is manipulative and profiting off of his daughter by giving whining interviews.
@@Matagot90 -- none of that changes YOU from being a Jealous HarryHoe, with a fake account.
This somewhat reminds me of Vanessa Bryant’s mother demanding that she be supported instead of taking care of herself.
Completely inappropriate to have done the interview with Oprah.
What is the true meaning of compassion? Is it to be kind only to those who are perfect or to reach out to those who are flawed? So well said, Doc!
Why doesn't Thomas Markle rebuke his other daughter, Samantha, who can't stop talking and exploiting Meghan. They seem like a toxic family. I know my family would never talk about me publicly. When I see relatives do this, it makes me feel there is no real love there.
It's not being flawed. It's insisting on the same behavior and denying it's happening. It's one thing to forgive someone who acknowledges and makes amends. It's another to give someone permission and access so they can keep hurting you with impunity
If they all would just stop doing interviews, maybe the dust could settle.
Meghan cut her father off for the same reason they did to the Queen (press and interview). She needs to show some compassion to her dad.
It is carefully played diversion from Prince Andrew's activity with Epstein
@@zedmelor8842 he wants a daughter who is kind ( ain't gonna happen) and she wants a millionaire dad.
😂 that’s for sure!
@Adrian Steele That's exactly what we can obviously see, don't we?
We only get one biological father. He paid for expensive private school, he volunteered his time in her school when she was young. She bragged about growing up on Married with Children show He wasn’t an absentee father. Her excuses to dump him are just that Excuses She’s a narcissist.
He can still do all of that and be questionable. Don’t see your point.
@@BB-ty6iy I get their point these MFs hate the fact that a black woman bagged a prince I know you will say it’s not racial but it is nothing more because Meghan is beautiful and talented and gets all this hate
Family members can over step just too many times making it too difficult to maintain a relationship. The damage they do wears on you. Disrespect damages.
Some people, who are family to some of us sometimes, can not respect boundaries. There is a reason Megan Markle's mother divorced Thomas Markle and took her daughter with her. And this may have something to do with it. I'm sure money was part of the reason for the divorce also. I feel like Thomas Markle is not at all innocent or the victim in any circumstance. He seems very manipulative. Talking to the press about Megan and Harry and now about his grandchildren. He can't be trusted. I don't trust him. We still haven't heard a thing from Megan Markles mother but here's Thomas Markle again. 🙄
@@lalam3877 both of them are Narcs . What we are witnessing is narc on narc abuse. Meghan is controlling the narrative by not responding to her narcissistic father despite his multiple pleas for forgiveness . Inflicting the “silent treatment” on someone is a form of manipulation commonly used by Narcs. It is a form of coercive control made to belittle the receiver of such treatment. Her father is trying to regain control of the narrative by using pity play ( look how mean my daughter is , look how badly she is treating me and ignoring me ) and contrived contrition ( l’m so sorry about the photos why won’t you forgive me ? I am not an axe murderer even axe murderers get visits from their family in jail ) and trying to get her back into his narcissistic daughter’s “good-books” ( which l doubt will ever happen because that would mean she will lose the control of the narrative if she engages with him) .
@@lalam3877 Meghan is in regular contact with her mother . Can you imagine the wrath that would befall her if her mother started talking to the press??🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@supernova7848 silent treatment is also an effective way, and sometimes the only way, to deal with a narcissist - so giving someone the silent treatment doesn't necessarily mean you're a narcissist. You might just be dealing with one.
@@lalam3877 Actually, Doria abandoned Meghan and Thomas raised her alone, indulging her hugely. He doted on her and paid for her very expensive private education, from convent school right through university. He then arranged for her to work in Argentina with his brother.
He was a good father.
Karma will be so so strong. Lets wait a decade or more. Meghan will be old... hungry for billions and not millions... she lives in an area that houses are like 35k... the spell will be gone and what? She will live with the remorse all her live to cut her father, thats so miserable life. Harry is lost now, not a prince but a prince... doing cringy tv shows... lili ans archie will grow someday and probably the karma will make the work to give what Meghan deserves to abuse her elderly dad
Dr.Grande have changed my thought pattern. Thanks to him I don't assume..Now I SPECULATE
I really really liked your point on perhaps maintaining a relationship with very strong boundaries in place. and speaking of this possibly being a learned coping mechanism makes a lot of sense. another thing that came to mind is how maybe their isn’t a lot of room for negotiation when you leave the monarchy, but I guess not a lot of people have that problem so we can’t be sure hahahaha
There really aren't any strong boundaries with a person you cant trust while still maintaining a genuine relationship.
I'm not that optimistic. Maybe some people you can but reptiles like this...not so much. It reminds me of the story about (woman, farmer, various characters and) the snake.
I've suspected covert narcissism in him. When everyone figured Meg for a narcissist, they were so quick to feel sorry for the dad and that is just what he was counting on.
Excellent analysis. I agree with all your comments esp about taking easy way out/true nature of compassion. Thanks Dr G😊💙❤
Looking forward every day to your videos, dear Dr. Grande - I know, they will always be super interesting and perfectly analyzed, also I will have a lot to laugh! It is about 10 pm here in Germany when you upload, a perfect end of the day
I prefer watching them in the morning :D
Anytime is good for me , usually when im on duty but on my break . Dr Grande is So good for the mind !!
Didn't she send 4-5 friends a copy of the letter she
sent her dad or some weird thing? LoL! He blew his
lottery winnings on her uni, teeth and nose job.
Harry and his wife are so hypocrital! WoW LoL!
This is the same wife that went to jail for fraud FYI…Thomas got played by Doria first and then Megs.
Well said!
@@chelseagirl278 I second that.
@@ln4130 Made-up lie from the hate channels.
@@karmad4491 Telling the truth is not hate.
I think Thomas Markle Sr is a good man with good intentions who went above & beyond for Meghan & spoiled her in the extreme. I feel sorry for his other 2 children who he didn't seem to go out of his way for & whom he took for granted yet they still love him & defend him. And, the girl whom he poured all his material resources & love on has rejected him in the most public way possible. Very sad. I imagine he has a lot of regrets.
I’m from the same area of PA as Thomas Markle and from what I heard he has not been back there to visit any of his relatives since he graduated from high school about 60 years ago so I feel like he’s getting exactly what he deserves with his daughter Meghan.
You reap what you sow!
What a silly comment
I wouldn’t want anything to do with MeAgain!
I felt so too. Mr. Markle did appear to me as covering up something he did wrong however pretending to be really nice with words. But few stances are really to think about when he was admitted to hospital and Meghan got married... If she is very caring person she will postponed the wedding for her dad. Whatever the case may be the relationship seems sore between both the markle. Especially why her only just because she married a royal. I think we all should stop raising fingure on her. Let the couple be for each other cause family happens by chance or by error. But they are happy with each other that's what is important.
This was a wonderfully even-handed discussion of a story that seems to generate pyrotechnics. I think if more people thought like Dr. Grande, we’d be much happier. It’s unhealthy to carry on any discussions of family conflict in public-- no matter who is “right.” I feel that Megan and Harry have been using emotional extortion to get what they think they want. It is not helping them.
I totally agree, he looks at both sides of the story, and makes one 🤔think.
I don't think they have. I guess people don't remember his oldest daughter and son saying horrible things about Meghan before she was married. They advised Harry to dump her but still wanted to be invited to the wedding. The 3 of them sold hateful and disturbing stories to the British tabloids. Those are some toxic people that have tried to destroy her life because of envy and greed.
@@vrjanice2 But they weren’t wrong. Meghan was a terrible choice for Harry
@@puffpiece1375 In your opinion and obviously not Harry's.
@@vrjanice2 Yes you make valid points here. All the negative stuff her sister was saying about Megan before she married Harry and afterwards,c may have been the major beginning of public turning against Megan, being influenced by things her sister did and dad etc, and lead to her unhappiness being part of the royal family, and being able to perform royal duties etc. Not saying she is blameless I still don't agree with her and Harry doing the Opera I interview,, but not judging her and Harry either. Just don't agree with this
How does Thomas know all this, if he's not speaking with his daughter?
He’s speaking with the Royal handlers to join in the money-making narrative that Meghan is the devil. He’s trash.
@@lford1130 he is trash. How can one man have such a complete lack of self awareness? I know he’s not unique in this regard but I mean, he comes off as /so unlikeable borderline hateable (sic) to everyone involved here.. his angle is indeed solely to stand in royal family’s corner, since it benefits him. Pathetic.
Correction, his daughter is not speaking to him.
I think people talk behind each other’s backs a lot over there
He has never ever ever complimented his daughter and then says he wants a relationship with her. If she is so horrible why bother with her. She didnt even bash him in the oprah interview. His back to bashing her and harry, wonder how much they payed him
It is not unusual for neglected and traumatized people to find each other. Most couples have a bounty of shared personal experiences. At times I've seen couples parent each other's feelings or protect each other as a siblings would. I've always found those couples to be codependent and isolated from the world and reality although eventually years later, it certainly all turns to shit. Hope these two can overcome their childhood traumas and come out of as survivors and not victims.
but merkle and her hubby are no in any way traumatized they are child of privildege that lectures us
Absolutely, they should have couples therapy coming from broken homes it is a difficult road ahead.
@@MrRaulstrnad I hear what you're attempting to say although, privilege and wealth does not sheild a person or child from emotional and physical neglect or abuse. A parent can be present for the Disney World trips, trips overseas, a parent can offer private schools, maids, big house, fancy cars and still be narcissistic, abusive, neglectful and unable to love and support their children. I assure you of this. Some of us are innately strong and can withstand the must torturous of upbringings amongst the "successes" of our parents while others... break. At a point in my life I couldn't understand why other people are so weak while I was strong. We're all different as it should be, and that must be okay. I'm here to support our fellow humans not degrade their experiences and how they came out of it.
@@kungfumind. yeah true enough in a way i see
@@lolaadesina5362 no he didnt experience trauma in the classic ptsd way but yes he might have been the result of childhood emotional neglect i see your viewpoint
I think Harry should have met Thomas before marriage. How will he feel if Lili married without his knowledge of personally meeting.
Only children “need” parents ...
.. if someone is consistently toxic towards you what does it say about you if you keep them in your life!?!
I wouldn’t keep Meghan in my life.
@@cje3247 name one thing that Meghan has done wrong.....name it. Wicked troll
@@ezinnekalu9481 Meghan joined Team Royal Family, which is about public service and she made it about herself. That's what she did wrong. She is free to exit, and frankly most people couldn't handle being a part of that family wherein everything you do has a guideline. But she did zero prep for her new role and given that she likes the spotlight (nothing wrong with that) and is very political and became frustrated with the low profile she was supposed to maintain, it was pretty obvious that it wasn't going to work. Leaving was the smart thing to do - but trying to hang on to their titles when they're not doing jack for the British people was piggy and that's why people are pissed.
@CJE good Meghan wouldn't keep you or want you in her Life aswell
Thomas Markle paid exclusive schools for Meghan, he spent a lot of money on her. She should remember that and forgive his father.
Dr. Grande, I adore you but but have to disagree in this instance-Meghan supported her father for many years while fully aware of his foibles. It's only when the narcissistic emotional blackmail started that she ceased communication. Compassion does not always equal engagement-sometimes it's best to love people from a safe distance.
I TOTALLY AGREE!!!
Meghan set her father up with her favourite photography company. She then watched him fall into her trap. But twisted it as his doing. I think he lied then to keep her in good light as he's put her on a pedestal in the past, rather than boundary her ss she grew up
An insightful video, Dr G. While I have no investment in this particular family feud, your balanced comments were applicable to my family dynamics. Finding the line between reaching out despite their flaws & setting appropriate boundaries is key.
After her parents were divorced Meghan’s father took Meghan in and raised her from age 11 because Doria had been sentenced to prison for tax and other financial crimes for 9 years. He paid for her private education and College. (Meghan has stated that she had worked her way through, which was untrue; this is why Mr Markle has hung onto the financial records as proof. It must have contributed to his eventual bankruptcy.)
In any case, this would seem to account for his unkind statement about how she wouldn’t have been so successful without his support; it seems to have been no more than the truth.
(I have relied heavily on the author and historian Lady Colin Campbell’s book ‘Harry and Meghan: the real story’)
This isn't true. Doria Raglund spent a few years going to USC to become a licensed Social Worker. That couldn't happen if she had a felony because a thorough background check is done.
I disagree with Dr. Grande’s last statement. Mr. Markle hurts his daughter and violates her privacy every time he does an interview. That he does it for money compounds the pain. If this is what he does in public, can you imagine how he behaves in private? No good parents make public comments about what their child owes them. To me he’s not just imperfect, he’s abusive. I can’t blame her for cutting him out of her life. Meghan is not perfect and has made many errors but that doesn’t require that she submit her and her family to her father’s abuse.
The interview with Thomas Markel made me feel very uncomfortable. The points you brought up i.e. that he displayed poor sense of boundaries, was not particularly genuine , that he considered himself to be the person who "made " her who she is ....... stood out to me too and bothered me intensely. When asked why he doesn't just go and visit her , he answered " I'm not a stalker " !!!!!!! Alarm !!! I thought is he her father or an ex -boyfriend . He seemed very " confused " about what his relationship to Meghan is.
As a child growing up in a home with certain individuals who did not respect the natural boundaries of decency , the interview left me recoiling in anxiety.
I give you my respect. I thought weak personal boundries might be an issue, too. I am sure that would be very uncomfortable to live with, but still not a crime.
@@sherryd.3425 weak personal boundaries might be an issue , but not a crime. No, indeed, but weak personal boundaries lead to confusion in a child. Confusion is difficult for anyone , but for children it can be debilitating for their Sense of security , and identity.
@@breakablehandlewithcare Well written and appreciated.
@@sherryd.3425 thank you 🤗
He reminds me of my parents. I had to cut my abusive parents out and they pull the same thing. They also claim they don't know what they did, claim they gave me everything, and that they want to love me and the kid. They don't know because they refuse to see themselves as anything other than what they believe. They also are stalking me and it is terrifying. It is a cluster B personality disorder broken record.
Same here. Actually had to abruptly and secretly move to a different area because of the non stop harassment. The smear campaign continues but I do not care, as long as they can’t get to me and my child.
The bottom line is that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors when it comes to family - especially in this case.
That said, I believe Meghan's father should have kept his mouth shut and not aired the problems he, the royals, Harry and Meghan were having, let alone get paid for it.
All of this should have been dealt with privately.
As for compassion, again, we don't know what kind of father Thomas Markle was/is.
I have had people say the same things about my relationship with my father. My youngest brother and I haven't talked to our father in over 20 years. He presents one way in public and is totally different in private.
Again, I believe that Thomas Markle should have dealt with this privately.
Megan was never close to her father, they had a rocky relationship before Harry. And Harry has been beefing with his brother for years, due to William being prepped for and embracing his place as future King. Harry is still close to the Queen, they even named their daughter Lilibet, the Queens childhood nickname that only Philip called her and apparently the Queen loved it. Also they adore Megan’s mother. It might seem like they’re suddenly isolating themselves, but I believe that once they had children they just couldn’t continue without boundaries from certain people. And now those people are lashing out because they’ve been 1) called out and/or 2) cut off. The way these people are reacting is enough to let me know that Megan and Harry made the right decision for their family.
My mum had to do this when I was around 12 because she couldn’t let me get damaged by the same people who damaged her. She got the same backlash from her family. Now that I’m 25 & thriving, those same people are talking about how I’m not grateful to them because my mum never taught me about them and all they did for her. Meanwhile they’re really struggling mentally and so are their kids. I was 12 and I remember how toxic they were. My mum worked with my dad and her kids to make sure we’re okay. She put in the effort to make us who we are. Yet they keep yapping and wanting to take credit for her accomplishments. The people that my mum did keep around act like true family, even if they don’t like us.
People who only use others for gain will always lash out when they can’t exploit someone anymore.
Funny because that’s all Meghan does is use others for gain.
@@wendythomas9361 all they do is exploit and run
I agree. Having come from a toxic family dynamic myself, I know how hard it is to break from that I couldn't imagine how it would be while the world was watching and reporting on every moment of it.
Could Harry and Meghan have done things differently? Of course. The was they stepped back from being working Royals was messy and left many issues unresolved with the Firm. It will be a long time before all of it calms down, especially with the way they are choosing to move forward as it ostracizes much of the royal family. Likewise Thomas and Samantha could have chosen not to repeatedly speak to the press for years. Having one's parent publicly state that their daughter is unfit to live the life she has now while simultaneously claiming to know the very personal inner workings of the Firm hasn't done Thomas any favors. He hasn't seen Meghan since before she married Harry, and every time he goes on to another talk show makes it harder for their to be a healthy resolution.
I do hope that they can all heal, but I imagine it will take time.
That’s not true, her father raised her - not her mother
Some corrections. The tension between the brothers started when William advised Harry not to rush things with Meghan. The Queen loved Prince Philip calling her Lilibet but that doesn't mean she likes Meghan and Harry using it. The BBC reported that the Queen's permission wasn't sought. H&M threatened to sue, claiming that they had, but the BBC refused to back down. The palace hasn't confirmed H&M's claim. H&M also claimed that Lilibet was introduced to the Queen via Zoom. A palace insider has denied it.
Harry doesn't "seem' to be isolating himself from his family. He has. He's undermined his family with those Oprah interviews. And that means that Archie is also cut off from his extended family - cousins, uncles, aunts etc. That's Harry handing down "genetic pain" to Archie. And, as Dr Grande pointed out if he and Meghan's relationship doesn't last then Harry is left without a support system.
Children should never be expected to financially support their parents so her father should be ashamed of himself
actually the tradition is for children to upport their parents in old age
@@MrRaulstrnad yes depending on culture.
This is also the reason why fewer couples decide to give birth to children
Damn, I didn't know that bit about the lottery win.
Yes he spent all the money on her, best clothes , car , best schools , ETC ETC ..
@@kikihowe4799 That was such a bad investment for him...
Yes, he played with the numbers of her birth date , year etc. He thought she was very lucky. I guess it's true :)))
@@kikihowe4799 You are correct. I don't blame Dr. Grande because he's going for a psychology take not a biography of the people involved. Thomas also didn't release the letter.
And spent a good deal of it sending Meghan off to University and supporting her as a young adult
nice..im on time today! Dont think i missed any videos daily since i started watching you!! keep the good work up mate.
It's so frustrating for people to assume Meghan is an awful person because of the broken relationship with her father. He seems incredibly exploitative and manipulative. Easily dismissing his own wrong doings for forgiveness and continues to participate in the media when he knows that's exactly what strained the relationship in the first place. Again, I don't care if people dislike her for any other reason, but this one - in which people use to justify how an awful person she is due to the family relationship is annoying. Just because people are your family does not mean they are not able to be toxic.
He might have won $750K but a lot of it went to taxes. He invested a lot of money in MM. Private schools, college, expensive restaurants, dance classes and vacations. So he probably was angry when he gave those interviews. He wanted a relationship with her but yet he was angry and gave a few insults.
Any parent that would make money out of disparaging their child in public certainly let them down in numerous other ways. It is a line no decent parent would ever cross
The man is a weak, money hungry lush.
@@Exsugarbabe1 his daughter married for the title and the money, the apple doesn´t fall far from the tree.
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes And you know his because you are her immediate family? Or is it because you grew up with her?
I hope, it is not because you have watched some videos on the internet and brought your own "feelings" into it
At the end of the day, actions speak. Any parent who sells out their child to tabloids was undoubtedly terrible
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes You are very ready to justify a parent betraying a child. Why is that?
And then you list all these points as if you were there
But once again, any parent who betrays a child (which undeniably happened here ) certainly would have made other choices that seriously comprised their welfare
And the true narcissist is the one who compromises a child's welfare then plays the victim when the child protects themselves through distancing
@@Elizabeth.C.Holmes So she is grown women and responsible for her actions. But her father is not and should be forgiven. Is that right?
Ridiculous equivocations of what he did as if it does not matter
No good parent would ever do it period
Btw, you were done a long time ago, because you are trying to argue the against the obvious. Now off you go
Meghan Markle is the definition of a female Dark Triad personality. Thomas shouldn't be talking like he does, but we need to not pretend she isn't what she is.