@@vickieharvey9463 All I know and have experienced is hate. If you were to cut my chest open, you'd see a heart that is fueled by a never ending flow of rage and hatred. A barrage of fury and disdain that no bullshit religion, psychiatrist, or medication can ever bring to an end. The only way for it to stop is for me to die.
I recently lost my friend to suicide and I am so upset that we don't realize that basic human needs affects mental health. He was only 27. Rest in paradise Ronnie 🕊🕊
Were you there for him or did you just SAY you were there? Did you visit or just watched silently from a distance? Do you really miss this person or are you typing it online because it sounds good to the populace?
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).
@@Jedilord882 the Bible is the biggest book of lies and fairy tales known to man. You worship an invisible sky daddy that rewards the biggest scumbags known to humanity. Epstein = scumbag billionaire Trump = scumbag billionaire Man living righteously = struggling with poverty and isolation.
I have a 22 yr old grandson that's schizophrenic and it's hard for me to deal with alone, but I do. I've been taking care of him since birth, he graduated high school with honors. The day after he graduated he stopped taking his meds, and that was in 2018. He stated a month ago that he needed to be back in his meds, went to his doctor, took the 30 day supply and didn't want to go for his check up. Right now, I'm so tired and being 60 yrs young all this is taking a toll on me. He stays in his room , sleep all day, up all night, and don't trust anyone but me. Grandpa and uncle don't have anything to do with him or try to help, but what they don't realize is that they're mental to and don't know it. Once I gain my strength back ( cause I'm drained 😭😭), I will get back on course and remind him that it was decision, get back on his meds , and man up. I feel better putting this out there cause I don't have anyone to talk to about this situation or to give me a helping hand. I Pray that everyone stay, stick together, help each other, and handle you business. Stay Blessed and Safe 😇.
I will put you and your grandson on my prayer list. Try to remind of his great accomplishments and how he felt when he achieved those things. Call on God! I pray he brings you the help you need!! If it’s possible get his parents involved.
@@merindaarvie28 my son is the father but died of cancer when my grandson was 6 wks old. The biological mother didn't want him so I took him in. I rather worry with him than worry about him. Stay blessed and safe 🙏.
Love you guys. Focus on your passion. If you game 🎮 join a like-minded group. If you do music or anything other hobby try to find people in that niche. Relating overcomes a bunch of stuff in our lives.
@@elcoqui9513 and what if I get rejected by THOSE groups as well? Then what? At what point do we throw our hands up and call it quits??? Are we to keep suffering? What if the act of waking up is unbearable?
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus your body will eventually put itself to sleep. I stayed up 4 days straight once and actually began hallucinating. I sat on my back porch and fell unconscious. I woke up 12 hours later covered in blood and huge slashes across my stomach, chest, and inner thighs. To this day I have no idea how it happened.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus I got a vasectomy when I was in my early 20s. 1. Because I never want kids and 2. To bring a child into this fucked up society is a crime in itself.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus that's because people use kids as pets....or more like a damn accessory for their outfits. An accessory that eats, sleeps, shits, and becomes yet another parasitic asshole upon reaching adulthood.
We need more African American doctors and mental health professionals. Mental health was almost normal in my family. My sister, mother and brother were and are mentally ill. Can you imagine wondering my entire life why not me. I don't have mental illness, but I do talk with doctors and counselor often. The pain of seeing my family suffer and as a child not knowing what to do for them. My youngest brother is not diagnosed but is mentally ill. I pray for him and in the past sought help but he refused it.
I went to several and they didn't work. Other men have said the same. They've made themselves loud and clear, no one gives a single fuck about the mental OR physical health of black males. It's easy for people to say they do online, but the actions offline continue to prove their lies.
the lack of replies says what I've been telling people for the longest: No one cares about us. And by us, I mean the black men that are shunned and driven to suicide (the black men that don't fit desirable aesthetics). No amount of therapy will ever fix that.
@HELPING BLACK MEN HEAL it won't happen. The only thing that can get rid of my pain in my death, either peacefully or violently. I don't givena fuck which.
As a dark skinned person I understand fully. Find your passion and focus on that. Trust me. When you do that love finds YOU. You should also try joining a like-minded group activity. It sounds weird but it works.
@@elcoqui9513 I am no longer passionate about anything as I no longer find joy in things. Also, I tried the "like minded" group thing. Guess what? It didn't fucking work either. It's like everywhere you go, shit still goes like high school politics. Fuck this, I'm better off dead.
I know this is killing you all! I’m so sorry for your loss! That could’ve been me! I was diagnosed at the same age but got help through my Mom being a Nurse & recognized it & got me help. IShe took meds as well so she knew the signs.
Not all therapists want to help. Some are in it for the paycheck. People need to focus on their passions and like-minded groups. If you like cars join a car club. Friendship and relating life experiences is true therapy. Big love 💕
Praying for your family this never gets easy losing a family a close one. I can definitely relate to you. May the Lord bring closure and healing to each heart in your family. God bless you.
In my community in South Africa there is much shame and suspicion towards mental health issues. Such people are mocked or ridiculed and told to snap out of it! We have a very long way to go before realising how urgent the need to address this is!
I speak in the behalf amongst my black brothers, ALL WE ASK FOR is basic job security. I don't ask for much at all. All I need is Physiological needs and Safety needs. If every black men had a 45k secured job, black men suicides will decline by 95%. The only thing that keeps me going in life is my 45k salary secure job. Without that, I will end my life too. Real talk!
She just explained why African Americans because of generations of negative experiences with health services are less likely to actively go out and find professional help. She did not state that slavery was the cause for depression or suicidal behaviour.
you missed her entire point because you have selective listening, based on your response, when you heard slavery, you tuned out. She simply stated that AA people have taken on trauma from generation to generation starting from slavery. I would suggest you take a cultural competency course on AfricanAmerican and “maybe” you will have a better understanding of our plight because what you just said was very insensitive!!
Its funny how people act so sad when that person is gone, but I bet they all hated and despised him for existing.
Absolutely. That's how they are towards the men they reject.
@@Bornwinner0 oh dang
What a thing to bet on. You must have experienced such hate. God bless and keep you. Stop judging!
@@vickieharvey9463 All I know and have experienced is hate. If you were to cut my chest open, you'd see a heart that is fueled by a never ending flow of rage and hatred. A barrage of fury and disdain that no bullshit religion, psychiatrist, or medication can ever bring to an end. The only way for it to stop is for me to die.
society only "cares" about Blk men when we are 6 feet under
I recently lost my friend to suicide and I am so upset that we don't realize that basic human needs affects mental health. He was only 27. Rest in paradise Ronnie 🕊🕊
Were you there for him or did you just SAY you were there? Did you visit or just watched silently from a distance? Do you really miss this person or are you typing it online because it sounds good to the populace?
@@iamyournytemare4253 why would you ask that question? She's grieving and you're asking a disrespectful question.
@@JW-fm8or it's true though, no one gives a fuck about us until we're dead
I came here because I feel so hopeless about my future I’m at the lowest point of my life.....
Everything is going to be OK. Nothing last forever
Nobody cares about us black men
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).
@@elcoqui9513 the bible is false lmao
@@Jedilord882 the Bible is the biggest book of lies and fairy tales known to man. You worship an invisible sky daddy that rewards the biggest scumbags known to humanity. Epstein = scumbag billionaire
Trump = scumbag billionaire
Man living righteously = struggling with poverty and isolation.
I have a 22 yr old grandson that's schizophrenic and it's hard for me to deal with alone, but I do. I've been taking care of him since birth, he graduated high school with honors. The day after he graduated he stopped taking his meds, and that was in 2018. He stated a month ago that he needed to be back in his meds, went to his doctor, took the 30 day supply and didn't want to go for his check up. Right now, I'm so tired and being 60 yrs young all this is taking a toll on me. He stays in his room , sleep all day, up all night, and don't trust anyone but me. Grandpa and uncle don't have anything to do with him or try to help, but what they don't realize is that they're mental to and don't know it. Once I gain my strength back ( cause I'm drained 😭😭), I will get back on course and remind him that it was decision, get back on his meds , and man up. I feel better putting this out there cause I don't have anyone to talk to about this situation or to give me a helping hand. I Pray that everyone stay, stick together, help each other, and handle you business. Stay Blessed and Safe 😇.
He is so lucky to have you!
He really is lucky to have you.
I will put you and your grandson on my prayer list. Try to remind of his great accomplishments and how he felt when he achieved those things. Call on God! I pray he brings you the help you need!! If it’s possible get his parents involved.
@@merindaarvie28 my son is the father but died of cancer when my grandson was 6 wks old. The biological mother didn't want him so I took him in. I rather worry with him than worry about him. Stay blessed and safe 🙏.
@@Bornwinner0 thank you for the encouragement 💞.
Nobody pays attention to our pain until it's too late
Because nobody cares …
@@pinkgal206 I’m well aware of that
Love you guys. Focus on your passion. If you game 🎮 join a like-minded group. If you do music or anything other hobby try to find people in that niche. Relating overcomes a bunch of stuff in our lives.
@@elcoqui9513 and what if I get rejected by THOSE groups as well? Then what? At what point do we throw our hands up and call it quits??? Are we to keep suffering? What if the act of waking up is unbearable?
@@iamyournytemare4253 I love you bro. 💕 Every day is a chance for change. Finding that diamond in the rough is worth it.
I'm thinking of doing the same. I'm tired of being in pain.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus your body will eventually put itself to sleep. I stayed up 4 days straight once and actually began hallucinating. I sat on my back porch and fell unconscious. I woke up 12 hours later covered in blood and huge slashes across my stomach, chest, and inner thighs. To this day I have no idea how it happened.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus I got a vasectomy when I was in my early 20s. 1. Because I never want kids and 2. To bring a child into this fucked up society is a crime in itself.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus that's because people use kids as pets....or more like a damn accessory for their outfits. An accessory that eats, sleeps, shits, and becomes yet another parasitic asshole upon reaching adulthood.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus typical. So very typical.
@Sex'' Allatus Angelus I'm targeted. Anything I type is wrong. Even on the internet I'm forced into isolation.
We need more African American doctors and mental health professionals. Mental health was almost normal in my family. My sister, mother and brother were and are mentally ill. Can you imagine wondering my entire life why not me. I don't have mental illness, but I do talk with doctors and counselor often. The pain of seeing my family suffer and as a child not knowing what to do for them. My youngest brother is not diagnosed but is mentally ill. I pray for him and in the past sought help but he refused it.
I went to several and they didn't work. Other men have said the same. They've made themselves loud and clear, no one gives a single fuck about the mental OR physical health of black males. It's easy for people to say they do online, but the actions offline continue to prove their lies.
Being African is not a skin colour.
Tell them to go to school to be doctors instead of trying to become rappers. It’s simple
@@missvida6251 not everybody that's black is a rapper. There are black lawyers and doctors and there are white rappers so don't you pull that shit.
the lack of replies says what I've been telling people for the longest:
No one cares about us.
And by us, I mean the black men that are shunned and driven to suicide (the black men that don't fit desirable aesthetics). No amount of therapy will ever fix that.
@HELPING BLACK MEN HEAL it won't happen. The only thing that can get rid of my pain in my death, either peacefully or violently. I don't givena fuck which.
Fellow black man here. I agree with you man, nobody cares about black men.
As a dark skinned person I understand fully. Find your passion and focus on that. Trust me. When you do that love finds YOU. You should also try joining a like-minded group activity. It sounds weird but it works.
@@elcoqui9513 I am no longer passionate about anything as I no longer find joy in things. Also, I tried the "like minded" group thing. Guess what? It didn't fucking work either. It's like everywhere you go, shit still goes like high school politics. Fuck this, I'm better off dead.
@@iamyournytemare4253 What did you choose? if you don't mind me asking.
It's good that black people are getting into this
Sorry for your loss. Keep spreading your knowledge... it's needed.
I know this is killing you all! I’m so sorry for your loss! That could’ve been me! I was diagnosed at the same age but got help through my Mom being a Nurse & recognized it & got me help. IShe took meds as well so she knew the signs.
Not all therapists want to help. Some are in it for the paycheck. People need to focus on their passions and like-minded groups. If you like cars join a car club. Friendship and relating life experiences is true therapy. Big love 💕
Praying for your family this never gets easy losing a family a close one. I can definitely relate to you. May the Lord bring closure and healing to each heart in your family. God bless you.
In my community in South Africa there is much shame and suspicion towards mental health issues. Such people are mocked or ridiculed and told to snap out of it! We have a very long way to go before realising how urgent the need to address this is!
I speak in the behalf amongst my black brothers, ALL WE ASK FOR is basic job security. I don't ask for much at all. All I need is Physiological needs and Safety needs. If every black men had a 45k secured job, black men suicides will decline by 95%.
The only thing that keeps me going in life is my 45k salary secure job. Without that, I will end my life too. Real talk!
Don’t forget shame as a weapon towards silence.
Reminds me of me i wish i was as strong as him because im 40 now it never got any better
I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺🙏🏻
Love this! So insightful!
Rest easy J
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So many are ignorant.
If someone talks about it even jokingly look for the red flag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
🙄 Good video if this woman wouldn’t keep bringing up slavery slavery Slavery !
Bc y’all think it came from nowhere John Wayne
@@jaysantana3078 🤔????!?! what
Yeah that slavery shit is played out now
She just explained why African Americans because of generations of negative experiences with health services are less likely to actively go out and find professional help. She did not state that slavery was the cause for depression or suicidal behaviour.
you missed her entire point because you have selective listening, based on your response, when you heard slavery, you tuned out. She simply stated that AA people have taken on trauma from generation to generation starting from slavery. I would suggest you take a cultural competency course on AfricanAmerican and “maybe” you will have a better understanding of our plight because what you just said was very insensitive!!