ارحمو من في الارض يرحمكم من في السماء انا داخله على الله ثم عليكم يا اهل الخير حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل في من اوصلنا الى هاذا الحال 💔💔وًّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ مَا كتَبَتَ هَذا الَمَنَاشَدَهَ غَيَرَ مَنَ الَضَيَقَ وّالَفَقَر يَاعَالَمَ حَسَوّا فَيَنَا ارَجَوّكمَ وّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ رَبَ الَعَرَشَ الَعَظَيَمَ انَه الَاكلَ مَا فَيَ عَنَدَيَ بَالَبَيَتَ وًّالَلَهَ يَا اخَوّانَيَ انَهَ اخَوًّنَيَ بَقَعَدَوًّ بَالَيَوًّمَيَنَ مَافَى اكلَ وًّالَلَهَ وًّضَعَنَا كثَيَرَ صَعَبَ نَحَنَ 4 نَفَرَ دَاخَلَ الَبَيَتَ وًّابَيَ مَتَوًّفَيَ وًّلَا يَوًّجَدَ مَنَ يَعَوًّلَ عَلَيَنَا وًّسَاكنَيَنَ فَيَ بَيَتَ اجَارَ لَانَسَتَطَيَعَ دَفَعَ الَاجَارَ الَلَيَ بَاقَيَ عَلَيَنَا ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين انا واسرتي بيننا ايجار الشهر ب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخواتي سغار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني بما تستطيعون مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا رقمي 00967716649494 اعطيك اسم بطاقة هويتي وترسلي المساعده ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواتي سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خير 🤲🏻🤲🏻 》》》 '''''''''''..∴
*Why do the same Bangladeshi and White women participate as guest speakers in all of your podcasts, Ali Dawah? Why don't you invite Muslim girls/women who belong to different cultures, such as, Kurd, Turkish, Arab, Barbar, revert White Muslima, Balkan, women from the Russian Federation, Irani, Afghan Persian and Pashto speakers, Central Asian, Pakistani women who speak different ethnic languages, Indian women who speak different ethnic languages, Malay, Indonesian, revert South Korean, etc?*
'If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.' Prophet PBUH Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4163
@@fungshui4850 Preaching to the choir, I'm an advocate of that. The hadith presented by myself is to balance the lesson or else isolated hadith quotes can be interpreted as virtue signalling only one gender.
As a woman, honestly is very important in a guy. Honestly isn’t just about telling the truth. Just being a good honest man. Someone who has integrity and good moral compass.
People are extremely selfish and corrupt, I’m losing hopes in marriage. Seeing hijabis and niqabis befriending 🌈 nisa or literally in relationships with other nisa makes me hopeless. All these sheikhs are selling deen for few dollars and partying with 🌈
Cons of living in the West and taking the kuffar and their practices as our own SubhanAllah. Everyone’s saying no to Hijra but it’s clear many can benefit from it as they have overly transgressed against their souls. I’m a testimony to the Wests negative impacts on me in the past, and by the grace of Allah I woke up from the madness and chose to fully commit to the deen in this spiritual warfare of today. Planning for Hijra soon Insha’Allah. May Allah guide us all. Just mentioned that to encourage whoever needs to hear it.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, [26] that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, [27] so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. [28] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. [29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, [30] because we are members of his body. [31] “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” [32] This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. [33] However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Most women are like this, I dare to say all of them. If she likes you you can literally grab a flower from the graveyard and give it to her and she will be happy and remember it for years. If she doesn't like you you can shower her gifts and she will appreciate it but as something coming from a friend it won't spark romantic feelings in her. That's an advice for nice guys - stop doing romantic gestures to women who aren't attracted to you that's how you end up being in the friendzone - you put yourself there
It’s called confidence not arrogance, that’s what a woman looks for in addition to other things. If you’re too shy of a man, can’t even carry conversation with her father or brothers, you are not attractive to her. A confident man dominates the room with his intelligence and confidence but he is not arrogant.
My dude if you are looking to dominate then you need to do some self-reflection. That's like trying to force being cool. You aim for confidence and everything else ORGANICALLY follows. Also parents are looking for someone with good manners and can provide for their daughter. It's really the only 2 things fathers look for in a man if I were to guess.
@@alphauno6614 I don't think that's a dude and depends on the women tbh whether or not the man feels respected by the women, if there's no respect then it won't work
You mean grounded. Only a anchored person can be truly confident. Nothing can make you flinch. In general that’s another guy who can’t make eye contact with you and women make eye contact because they know. And that’s keeping all the urges intact. The people who can’t carry themselves onto others have a guilt.
@@isr2879 No, but you’re half right. Attraction is subjective but plays a part. Tall is natural thing for them and biologically for a female to pick this trait generally. Again it plays a part. Other half is all energy and being grounded. That’s what they pick up first. Regardless of physical. The state of one’s vibe/energy is picked up first. E.g. one could be attractive but the energy or anchor is OFF. When you are grounded/anchored you pick up peoples state or energy first. It goes beyond looks my friend. The eyes say all.
I think brother mahdi needs to be informed that by this point the whole universe is aware that his answer for everything is 'I dont care what my wife wants' 😂😂😂
Mahdi is completely right and I am a woman, the brother in black is looking in the wrong pool and then getting upset with their answers. Not all sisters are money hungry, as long as you do YOUR part which is protect and provide, the right woman will live within your means. The brother in black unfortunately is a representation of the younger brothers with these strange western mentality
@@aduriteking2155 yes I didn’t say I was the best most perfect Muslim but atleast I don’t poison the minds of young Muslim men to treat their wives with roughness and disregard.Completely the opposite of how the prophet did 🤷♀️
When the brother said that the two things to look for in a woman are youth and beauty, that kinda saddened me. If men have this mindset then they’ll always be looking for a newer, younger woman and not valuing the wife that gave them children and sacrificed for him and their kids until she lost her youth and beauty. Also, if status and wealth are what makes a man, then by the husband’s old age he will be more valuable and the wife will be seen as less valuable. Older wives should be treated with kindness. They are our mothers and grandmothers.
I understand. Just that it seems unfair to loyal long-term wives. Seen so many stories in the West of men becoming successful then abandoning their loyal wives for “trophy wives”.
@@zamzamp2757The difference between muslims and non muslim just comes and be visible at those times. You have to fear God and always have to be mindful of your actions.
Its majority preference for men , why do you have issue with men preferences, women go for tall wealthy, we accept that from women you should accept that its our preferences
I think this is referring to the time when deciding who to marry. Obviously if you divorce your wife without good reason in the future then that would be very sinful. Marry a good pious man, trust Allah and whatever happens after will be good.
The most important thing in a husband and in a wife is unconditional trust in Our Creator, the rest can be built Insha'Allah. A married couple who live to obey Allah s.w.t. and in which they both know their roles in an Islamic marriage will be happy through the years Insha'Allah in this life and in the next. Have patience, faith in Allah s.w.t. and in your spouse, and be ready to give the best of yourself to your husband/wife and family. Think of positive aspects and say AlhamduliLlah for it. Right now for example I miss my husband sometimes, he has his job, his wife and other family, but I try to turn this feeling into a positive encouragement to make our little time we have together as quality time. And may Allah subhanahu wa taala guide us all.
May Allah bless you for striving to think well of your husband and your responsibilities and your covenant with Allah SWT, and help us all to learn from your beautiful patience and gratitude, my sister
@nami20622 I don't know, those are questions that shouldn't be asked. As long as he cares for us both and is as equal as possible it doesn't even matter to me even if it may not be me.
When I was at uni doing my law degree, I remember one day during a land law lecture, the lecturer asked those who will seek to get a mortgage to raise their hands. From amongst the Muslims, almost all Muslim girls raised their hands along with a good few Muslim boys. So given there's such a mindset towards the only sin (riba) on which Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) have openly declared war against in the Quran, I'm baffled by how Muslims today treat this subject and then wonder why divorce, zina, corruption, and how they've become stooges of the West in supporting the West against Assad (not that I support Assad, don't be a fool now) have come to prevail.
I expected a real debate and I got shallow minded females on one side and Top G wannabes on the other. This isn't even about Islam it's a parody of the West 😂
'shallow minded females', nothing that they mentioned was shallow... Your head is somewhere else or you simply weren't listening good enough or perhaps you just lack comprehension dude
They were not debating. That’s why you are upset. A good discussion about the topic in a civil manner, that allows each side to concisely explain their position is refreshing. Idk what you wanted to hear.
I found it interesting that the sisters had a whole segment about a man not lying about what he can offer and being realistic - essentially honest, and then at the end honesty to them was not a requirement and made out to be a projection???
A woman just wants to feel Safe. So even if he doesn’t have money but he has a plan and knows how to provide security. Money is from Allaah. Comes and goes.
WOMAN WANT: [MEAT] Money Energy Attention Time MEN WANT [FEAST] Food Exclusivity Appreciation Support Trust However age maturity matters, and where you in life age stage matters
That hardly ever happens because in this day and age few men can actually *afford* key word to look after more than one woman. Only in the Middle East is this still happening. Most men can't even financially support one so careful with what you're saying here.
It is natural for a woman to seek security, and newsflash that is through money.Who will provide for her when she has babies? You lack critical thought. Don't get married until you can actually *afford* to@@asadalitruth
From my perspective and Islamic teachings, What women need is good caring, loving, honesty, and empathy. That's all I'm gonna make sure I provide for my wife Insha'Allah
remember empathy means acc listening to her needs and sometimes compromising if its more a need for her and a want for you. and obviously vice versa from her side applies too
Ali, you delete the comments where brothers had asked the sisters in your video to wear proper clothes and hijab and not to put makeup.. but you don't delete the comments directed to Mahdi! Is there any reason for that? Fear Allah.
Muslim woman with piercing! Is this the islam you are promoting Mr Ali? Now my wife is seeing this and telling me that she was right wanting a piercing and that i was wrong telling her its smth that goes against religious values! Thank you brother for promoting modern values! (its irony, im not thankful at all, its actually sad)
rippp, I hear some people discuss its a cultural thing. I do agree with you though, a piercing is not something I think majority of guys would like to see theyre wives with. May Allah help you
Alhamdulillah have checked with multiple scholars on this..and they have said..its allowed... The piercing on the ears..allowed...the one on the nose also allowed..but it is an adornment so better to cover it... Understand this - if the prophet has directly not said that - THIS IS HARAM...we cannot make that thing haram..so we go to scholars..and remember that there will be mutiple opinions..so it's ok that you go with one opinion and i go with another..provided we understand...
@@Fmohazh it should be covered, not better cover it. Piercing goes against the whole concept of hijab. Hijab doesnt mean just cover of the hair brother.
Almost 80% muslim women prafer as a husband in a man. 1. Wealth 2. Social status 3. Handsame (beauty) 4. Iman (last) And Muslim Man looking in a woman as wife. They prafer few things. 1. Beauty (appiarance) 2. Wealth 3. Islamic Charachter Last only few muslim Man and Woman arount 20% they prafer few things in his partner. 1. Strong Islamic Character 2. Beauty ( appiarance)
Physical attraction for me as a woman is important and women most certainly do go for looks. The only way I can be interested is if he attracts me physically first.
you kinda a exception then, it not the first thing for women most of the time. Get urself a very good looking husband sister ;) BUT you have to be very good looking too tho.
@@ocerco93 not really. I know many women who go for looks first like they are attracted first but if I don’t like their personality then that doesn’t matter that I was attracted to them. 🤷🏻♀️ everyone is different but a lot of women are attracted at first by looks.
Then, these women are few among women, just look the video, real muslim women the look is not even top 3 on their criteria, you have on the video, and what u see in the video is the common thing among women, its men who go first by looks generally speaking @@Sarahhrochellee
@@ocerco93 so I’m not a real Muslim woman? Just cause I said physical attraction is important. Physical attraction is important for both men and women but obviously it’s more so men are more concerned about that. I’m not denying that but if you ask any woman, would you pick a guy that she is physically attracted to or not physically attracted to, and she would go with the man that she’s clearly attracted to because at the end of the day we have to be with them and we have to live with them, so do the men with women. Clearly it’s not as important as being financially stable or a man that can be there for her woman emotionally because a lot of the time men do not understand women. You tell a woman to choose between two rich guys and they’re gonna go for the one that they find attractive. 🤷🏻♀️
Hey Ali, AOA! I absolutely love your content and the way you shed light on important issues. 🌟 I wanted to bring to your attention the alarming democratic violations and oppression happening in Pakistan. It's crucial to use your platform to raise awareness about these issues and encourage discussions that can lead to positive change. Your voice can make a significant impact, and together, we can work towards a more just and fair society. Keep up the amazing work, and thank you for being a voice for the voiceless! 🙌💙 #RaiseAwareness #StandForJustice
31:40 Love this point, alot of society tries to undervalue the things women do in society, ironic they then complain when women turn to feminism which is wrong, or see low birth rates or people raised in bad behaviour and now want to complain about how detrimental it is in society, society falling because of it, but had the same breathe to try act like feminine value isnt as worthy despite God saying the opposite hence why a women in Islam dying in childbirth is a martyr
The fact that the women here are saying stupid stuff like « our emotions and what we want changes all the time and YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT it » is mad crazy. I don’t know just grow up and be adults ? So what you are going to talk to me badly because of hormones ? And I just have to accept and go by it ? Sorry no, I worked on myself to be caring loving and respectful, and if you are not the same just get out. How can they ask for respectful loving gentle husband and then not be the same or even complain about it. Some of the women you interviewed did a terrible job at making young Muslims try to go for marriage and investing on a woman.
@@questioneverything7011 next time try being less cocky and then comeback to answer. Unless you get rid of that trait and explain clearly what you meant don’t bother people.
@@questioneverything7011 just stop spamming. You come here talking to me in an inapropriate way and making fun of me in your first comment, then you continue in the second. We don’t know each other, stop being so entitled to talk to people the way you want
@@Blackbeard1222 no you’re just sensitive. All I said was that I think you completely missed the mark and to continue working on yourself. The fact that you got offended by that is a testament to the truth of those words. I literally didn’t say anything wrong or foul about you. You’re projecting. I’m acknowledging your projections have nothing to do with me.
I was listening to Nouman Ali Khan tafsir on Hoor Al Ayn and what men will get in Jannah / want and the difference between what women want. He basically summarised that what men will get is explicitly mentioned as 9/10 men want the same thing but when it comes to women it is implicitly referenced because if you ask same question 9/10 women will give a different answer 😂
Probably a guy who can load the dishwasher without it turning into a game of Tetris and who knows the difference between 'listening' and 'hearing'... just a hunch!" 🤔🍽👂
So the brothers answers was what they think "woman" want as group. The sisters answers was what "they" want as individuals. 🤦 Most sisters start by looking for money (job, wealth, car, home, etc), status, looks and then deen. Many sisters go for a man lacking deeply on deen if he has the first 2. The sisters on the panel seem to be answering questions as if they're interviewing for an ideal spouse. The brothers were being a lot more pragmatic.
في الحلقة السابقة قال علي أن في الدين المرأة عليها ان ترضي زوجها و ليس العكس و ان الرجل ليس عليه ان يرضي زوجته، لا ادري من أين أتى بهذا هل لديه دليل من القرآن و السنة؟ لا أعتقد ذلك. لكن هناك حديث عن أحد الصحابة وهو ابن عباس رضي الله عنه وهو أفضل من جميع هؤلاء الرجال مجتمعين قال: عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنه قال: "إني لأحب أن أتزين للمرأة كما أحب أن تتزين لي المرأة؛ لأن الله يقول: {ولهن مثل الذي عليهن بالمعروف}. وهذا دليل انه لا عيب ولا مشكل في ان يسعى الرجل لإرضاء زوجته بل هو واجب عليه و ابن عباس رضي الله عنه يدرك أن المرأة تعطي أهمية للمظهر لذلك هو يتزين من اجل إرضاء زوجته. حتى رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم سعى لإرضاء زوجاته و كان له تسع زوجات، فمن انتم لتتكبروا عن إرضاء زوجاتكم ، و الوقاحة فوق كل هذا هو انت تتوقع منها ان تحاول إرضاءك،
I haven't watched the video, but I'm going to assume they want everything relating to deen, but in the end they don't marry you anyway. Am I right or wrong? Someone tell me 😊. (Couldn't finish last time cause cringe)
Who the heck looks for a man who is vulnerable and wears his “flaws on his sleeve”. That’s 100% a turn off. Everyone has flaws, why would a man go crying about his flaws. All I’m hearing sister talk bla bla bla and the brothers really giving a good input to this show.
10000 percent agree. The sisters are flipping annoying. The two girls on the right of the screen (the nose ring and niqab) are both weird nagging whiners
@@johnsmithysmith1930 Let's speak with some respect when addressing the sisters. No need to refer to them as "flipping annoying". This type of loose tongue is what causes rifts in the community.
Nobody should expose their flaws openly. But if you can't be vulnerable with your spouse, then that sounds like a very sad relationship you two have. If you're not vulnerable when you're in private with your partner, then when who will you be?
This is a better format. I would much rather hear the brothers realism and practical advice without the sisters constantly interrupting and trying to debate every point (not because its wrong but because it makes them feel bad).
@@MayaCarson00 I know it hurts your feelings sweetheart, but I would rather hear a mainly logical conversation than a mainly emotional one. Good thing the emotional (woman) part is left in there for you 😃
Maybe he’s a part-time pharmacist. Assume the best for your sister 😂. Jk, I think she meant that the guy was honest that he went to prison in the past for drug dealing. Saying that, I think she’s a revert sister, and for reverts their slates are wiped clean for past sins after shahadah inshaAllah.
Sister with a Niqab I really really appreciate and love your point of view about the type of man a Muslim woman should want, A man who is conscious of Allah s'w'a، Insha'Allah such man will love his wife respect her care about her provide for her as well, dean is no1 thing you should look for In a man, at least even your children will have good reputation because thier father is good man too.
Man at start is capping women wants honesty over money lol I am a international student in london I offer 5 times prayer daily, read quran daily, workout daily and its been 7 years since I started working out, belong from a traditional family from pakistan and not to be narcissist but i am decently good looking but women don't even give a shit about all of these things when they finds out I am a international student who is studying they suddenly lost interest lol
@@Skiderbut we are talking islamicaly here.We should not look at men bank account if he just providing food for you on daily basis that should be enough for you but no, In today society when ever you talk to western muslim women they will say we want men who offer prayer etc that is most important to me but they are obviously lying if he is working for uber eats they are out even the divorce women have so much high standard lol
Haibah هيبة is close to the meaning of charismatic but it is much deeper than that and it involves the *actions* ,morality,qualties ,etc..of the person himself even *if* he doesn't have that much wealth or job for example Just imagine Omer ibn Elkhattab (رضي الله عنه ) entering a room and imagine the reaction of the people in that room😂
May Allah bless all of you for your efforts! Respectfully, this list... is not great XD but I think the "vibe" point - which I'm translating as "driven, constantly purposeful" - is the best one.
Ive been married for 20 years and as a woman i can say most men are simple as they need a loving, caring, loyal spouse and i want security from him..u do not want to open your heart to your other half all the time thats a job for your sisters and girlfriends!
I'm the first viewer and commentator ,God bless everyone in this video and may only ,love,wisdom and fortune, come your way. Peace be with you 🙏. Alhamdulillah
there is very limited evidence that silajet has any medical benefit. I know sponsors run the channel but you shouldn't kick ethics and medicine out the window
The only guy who spoke the truth in this video is the guy wearing the black shirt. But others there tried to water down his arguments and proposition because it wasn't popular. The practice of Islam today isn't based on scripture or sunnah (stop kidding yourselves if that's what you think you're doing) but more to do with wealth and popularity of opinions which itself is based on the notion of fashionability.
I want confidence, money, sex, deen and chemistry. Many Muslim women feel scared to admit this as it portrays them to be not religious but only God can hold us to such accountability. We can have faith and still want to enjoy our own beauties of love.
"only God can hold us to such accountability. " wrong. females need to earn the attention and affection of men men also hold females accountable for their deficient minds
what does "want to enjoy our own beauties of love" mean ? developing an obsession with appearance and self pleasure ? this is neither love nor beauty. degenerate desires of materialism and sexual deviancy is not a "beauty of love" .
@@soulz4793 Every marriage is different therefore every couple has a different experience of love which all can be beautiful in subjective ways. I’m not talking about appearances or whatever kind of ‘self pleasure’ you’re talking about. For you assuming I’m a materialist, I have one thing to say to you. Preferring a man with money over no money (everything else aside) is natural to me as a woman, same way you as a man would prefer a girl with a nice body than not. For you to also accuse me of being a sexual deviant, is a sin in and of itself. As I said, I can have faith in Allah as His servant whilst still wanting the best out of my own marriage E.g. money sex etc. If it’s not for you, that’s fine. But don’t critique me when I’m staying within the bounds of what is halal.
"Every marriage is different therefore every couple has a different experience of love which all can be beautiful in subjective ways." Wrong maybe within the feminist/apostate ideology you hold dear there is a lack of guidelines and clearly defined boundaries, however islam provides the perfect model of what should and shouldnt be, in all aspects of life, including marriage. @@alora7736
This is a useless programme. We Muslims have become quite hypocritical and arrogant and we want to talk about these matters. No wonder divorce and riba is rampant is western Muslim societies.
47:30 "its a big loss...his not the boss...but AT LEAST he treats me good", this is such a negative way of looking at it. At least, he treats me good. You should be very thankful to Allah that your husband is treating you the way he should be. Status, money, power, all given by Allah, so the guy may be the big boss today, but sometime in the future Allah may take it away and lower that man's status as a test for the wife.
@Babycake.The greatest inventors, innovators, and businessmen of the human race, the stronger, faster and smarter half of the human race, the best of all humans spiritually, physically, financially and intellectually, > dime a dozen unbranded dishwashers and kitchen stoves
lol fellas - at the end of the day … just stay on your grind and stay close to Allah swt. Women always want the highest leader , status in the man. So - just do the best you can and you’ll naturally find a woman that resonates with where you are on your journey
From my perspective as a man ,men are like a water in a plastic bag ...take the water as love for his wife as long a the water is there you can ice it the way you like and he'll do it don't always expect the perfect there is no perfect for a human behavior it takes work but the too bend is more likely to break if you try to shape him only Allah can help.
Asking women what they want is futile as we all know but it was a nice experiment. The sister who said "we just want the basics financially" that's true untill you actually pursue her for marriage then she will reject you for just having the basics, don't listen to what women say, look how they behave.
I don’t understand why there’s women without niqab on here some scholars have advised it’s compulsory.Why don’t we have scholars on here so we know what is the right and wrong and what example we should be looking at.we are just having a discussion here there’s already a lot of fitnah in the uk why not have ulema Ekram on here.
Because they are chasing views and emulating the roundtables that the kuffār do, which invite nothing except fitna and fahisha. Just look at the reply you got - the brother thinks as long as they're "covered", this is all OK. Never mind that all the madhāhib are in agreement that in times fitna, niqāb becomes mandatory, and no one can conceivably argue that we aren't in times of great fitna currently.
Mahdi hit it on the head. Coming from a married man, if you are asking what a woman wants, you are not ready to be married or involved with women period. Asking the women what they want in a man is mute. None of those sisters are married. They will only say what is politically correct so the brothers don’t think they’re uptight or insufferable. The only woman on this show who is based for a woman is the niqabi. Which leads me to believe she is married. Women will not consider you or talk to you if YOU don’t understand women. And the trick to understanding women is understanding their biology. And for all the animal kingdom, female biology for thousands of years says females are aroused to the biggest, strongest, and most confident = masculinity.
Have you made the same comment with two accounts or is this a copy and paste job? 😂 Or is that you mahdi, doubling the comments like doubling the wives 😂 And here I had thought humans had risen above the animal kingdom 😂😊
I don’t know why this brother Ali want to get with this meaningless videos about marriage ! In Hadith prophet s.s already mentioned the quality of the persons you want to marry , men and women. So what is the point of making such videos and the qualities you guys all mentioning Does not making sin ! How can you marry someone for her beauty when she can’t understand you. Or when she is not compatible. You can’t say beauty or youth is important. Beauty is in her or his Deen and manner and knowledge !!!!!
It's a a number of qualities that women wants and they must meet a threshold in order to be wanted by women, like looks or money or status or sweet talker or influencer or strength or mix of those qualities even they're not maximized just a little bit of everything can be sufficient.
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*Why do the same Bangladeshi and White women participate as guest speakers in all of your podcasts, Ali Dawah? Why don't you invite Muslim girls/women who belong to different cultures, such as, Kurd, Turkish, Arab, Barbar, revert White Muslima, Balkan, women from the Russian Federation, Irani, Afghan Persian and Pashto speakers, Central Asian, Pakistani women who speak different ethnic languages, Indian women who speak different ethnic languages, Malay, Indonesian, revert South Korean, etc?*
@@taasmr4203you sound horny, why do you want to see all these women, be honest
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'The Best of you are those who are best to their wives' Prophet Mohammed, pbuh.
'If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.' Prophet PBUH
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4163
@@ik5441 So let them both do what the Prophet pbuh has asked and go hand in hand to Jannah Insh ' Allah.
@@fungshui4850 Preaching to the choir, I'm an advocate of that. The hadith presented by myself is to balance the lesson or else isolated hadith quotes can be interpreted as virtue signalling only one gender.
@@ik5441 I think we both know what you were doing....
@@wassaaa710your comment makes no sense. Grammar is a beautiful thing. Look into it.
As a woman, honestly is very important in a guy. Honestly isn’t just about telling the truth. Just being a good honest man. Someone who has integrity and good moral compass.
People are extremely selfish and corrupt, I’m losing hopes in marriage. Seeing hijabis and niqabis befriending 🌈 nisa or literally in relationships with other nisa makes me hopeless.
All these sheikhs are selling deen for few dollars and partying with 🌈
Cons of living in the West and taking the kuffar and their practices as our own SubhanAllah. Everyone’s saying no to Hijra but it’s clear many can benefit from it as they have overly transgressed against their souls. I’m a testimony to the Wests negative impacts on me in the past, and by the grace of Allah I woke up from the madness and chose to fully commit to the deen in this spiritual warfare of today. Planning for Hijra soon Insha’Allah. May Allah guide us all. Just mentioned that to encourage whoever needs to hear it.
Then as a woman why do you fall for liars and narcissists. Women say one thing and do the opposite.
I’m a woman and I want loyalty, kindness and respect.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, [26] that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, [27] so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. [28] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. [29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, [30] because we are members of his body. [31] “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” [32] This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. [33] However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Woman doesn't know what they want.
can you explain loyalty?
Lesser half looool
they all say that and want something else 🤣🤣🤣
I’m liking this version of this show where men and women are sitting separately and still being able to communicate their thoughts. Please keep it up
Most women are like this, I dare to say all of them. If she likes you you can literally grab a flower from the graveyard and give it to her and she will be happy and remember it for years. If she doesn't like you you can shower her gifts and she will appreciate it but as something coming from a friend it won't spark romantic feelings in her. That's an advice for nice guys - stop doing romantic gestures to women who aren't attracted to you that's how you end up being in the friendzone - you put yourself there
Muslim guys shouldn’t be doing this outside of marriage anyways
It’s called confidence not arrogance, that’s what a woman looks for in addition to other things. If you’re too shy of a man, can’t even carry conversation with her father or brothers, you are not attractive to her. A confident man dominates the room with his intelligence and confidence but he is not arrogant.
My dude if you are looking to dominate then you need to do some self-reflection. That's like trying to force being cool. You aim for confidence and everything else ORGANICALLY follows. Also parents are looking for someone with good manners and can provide for their daughter. It's really the only 2 things fathers look for in a man if I were to guess.
@@alphauno6614 I don't think that's a dude and depends on the women tbh whether or not the man feels respected by the women, if there's no respect then it won't work
A man has to earn this confidence too.
You mean grounded. Only a anchored person can be truly confident. Nothing can make you flinch. In general that’s another guy who can’t make eye contact with you and women make eye contact because they know. And that’s keeping all the urges intact.
The people who can’t carry themselves onto others have a guilt.
@@isr2879 No, but you’re half right. Attraction is subjective but plays a part. Tall is natural thing for them and biologically for a female to pick this trait generally. Again it plays a part. Other half is all energy and being grounded. That’s what they pick up first.
Regardless of physical. The state of one’s vibe/energy is picked up first.
E.g. one could be attractive but the energy or anchor is OFF.
When you are grounded/anchored you pick up peoples state or energy first. It goes beyond looks my friend. The eyes say all.
I think brother mahdi needs to be informed that by this point the whole universe is aware that his answer for everything is
'I dont care what my wife wants' 😂😂😂
Why the he*l is he in the video then 😂 like bro get OUT! It’s all about him, the narcissism is through the roof!
Wives* lol
@@badmonsanyu7307 Indeed 😅😂
I don’t think he cares.
I am convinced he actually doesn't after this one. 😂
Mahdi's intro speech is wild. Don't know if I'm impressed, amazed or worried.
SAME hahahahha
Before he opened his mouth i knew it would be that old same crap
I think he’s too extreme and poisonous for our ummah
Mahdi is completely right and I am a woman, the brother in black is looking in the wrong pool and then getting upset with their answers. Not all sisters are money hungry, as long as you do YOUR part which is protect and provide, the right woman will live within your means. The brother in black unfortunately is a representation of the younger brothers with these strange western mentality
People say alot of thingss about Mahdi but his trust in Allah is something else. MashaAllah may Allah preserve this brother!
He’s not a good example of a Muslim man may Allah guide him
@@Potnoodle123
May Allah guide us all ...Ameen
@Potnoodle123 you are not a good example either. The Prophet (saw) is the best example
@@aduriteking2155 yes I didn’t say I was the best most perfect Muslim but atleast I don’t poison the minds of young Muslim men to treat their wives with roughness and disregard.Completely the opposite of how the prophet did 🤷♀️
@Potnoodle123 No one is perfect, also Brother Mahdi has helped many young minds. He's very knowledgeable
When the brother said that the two things to look for in a woman are youth and beauty, that kinda saddened me. If men have this mindset then they’ll always be looking for a newer, younger woman and not valuing the wife that gave them children and sacrificed for him and their kids until she lost her youth and beauty. Also, if status and wealth are what makes a man, then by the husband’s old age he will be more valuable and the wife will be seen as less valuable. Older wives should be treated with kindness. They are our mothers and grandmothers.
He is talking about majority of men what they look for in a women
I understand. Just that it seems unfair to loyal long-term wives.
Seen so many stories in the West of men becoming successful then abandoning their loyal wives for “trophy wives”.
@@zamzamp2757The difference between muslims and non muslim just comes and be visible at those times. You have to fear God and always have to be mindful of your actions.
Its majority preference for men , why do you have issue with men preferences, women go for tall wealthy, we accept that from women you should accept that its our preferences
I think this is referring to the time when deciding who to marry. Obviously if you divorce your wife without good reason in the future then that would be very sinful.
Marry a good pious man, trust Allah and whatever happens after will be good.
The most important thing in a husband and in a wife is unconditional trust in Our Creator, the rest can be built Insha'Allah.
A married couple who live to obey Allah s.w.t. and in which they both know their roles in an Islamic marriage will be happy through the years Insha'Allah in this life and in the next.
Have patience, faith in Allah s.w.t. and in your spouse, and be ready to give the best of yourself to your husband/wife and family.
Think of positive aspects and say AlhamduliLlah for it.
Right now for example I miss my husband sometimes, he has his job, his wife and other family, but I try to turn this feeling into a positive encouragement to make our little time we have together as quality time.
And may Allah subhanahu wa taala guide us all.
Who is his favorite wife?
May Allah bless you for striving to think well of your husband and your responsibilities and your covenant with Allah SWT, and help us all to learn from your beautiful patience and gratitude, my sister
@nami20622 I don't know, those are questions that shouldn't be asked.
As long as he cares for us both and is as equal as possible it doesn't even matter to me even if it may not be me.
@@ayyylmao101ameen, JazakAllahu Khairan.
@@Dianeek9you’re really strong because i can’t imagine how it would be
This way of debating is much better, no interruptions. gives time for one to process what's being said. Brilliant format Ali.
When I was at uni doing my law degree, I remember one day during a land law lecture, the lecturer asked those who will seek to get a mortgage to raise their hands. From amongst the Muslims, almost all Muslim girls raised their hands along with a good few Muslim boys. So given there's such a mindset towards the only sin (riba) on which Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) have openly declared war against in the Quran, I'm baffled by how Muslims today treat this subject and then wonder why divorce, zina, corruption, and how they've become stooges of the West in supporting the West against Assad (not that I support Assad, don't be a fool now) have come to prevail.
I expected a real debate and I got shallow minded females on one side and Top G wannabes on the other. This isn't even about Islam it's a parody of the West 😂
'shallow minded females', nothing that they mentioned was shallow... Your head is somewhere else or you simply weren't listening good enough or perhaps you just lack comprehension dude
They were not debating. That’s why you are upset. A good discussion about the topic in a civil manner, that allows each side to concisely explain their position is refreshing. Idk what you wanted to hear.
@malublul169how is he a misogynist , you’re just triggered by what he says , stop hating , its clear what type of brainwashed woman u are
This is 100% a better format brother. Complete separation. Well done, may Allah praise you for your good deed and benefit from your video.
I found it interesting that the sisters had a whole segment about a man not lying about what he can offer and being realistic - essentially honest, and then at the end honesty to them was not a requirement and made out to be a projection???
Allah promises provider and a protector not a lavish lifestyle
A woman just wants to feel Safe. So even if he doesn’t have money but he has a plan and knows how to provide security. Money is from Allaah. Comes and goes.
Yes!!! Safe in all aspects, emotionally, physically and financially
Keep lying to ur self
I agree with the man wearing all grey, a dishonest man makes a horrible marriage.
WOMAN WANT: [MEAT]
Money
Energy
Attention
Time
MEN WANT [FEAST]
Food
Exclusivity
Appreciation
Support
Trust
However age maturity matters, and where you in life age stage matters
in addition to security for women and loyalty for men.
Men want attention and love as well
Meat and Feast. If they both fast will they get along better? 😂
MEAT 🤣🤣
Fear Allah
So much drama for the word 'charm' 😂
They all want a true muslim man until he wants a second wife
🤣
That hardly ever happens because in this day and age few men can actually *afford* key word to look after more than one woman. Only in the Middle East is this still happening. Most men can't even financially support one so careful with what you're saying here.
@@UnknownDee2312this happens in Indonesia, Pakistan, many African countries, not just middle east!
@UnknownDee2312 maybe if the woman wasn't all about money then it's possible
It is natural for a woman to seek security, and newsflash that is through money.Who will provide for her when she has babies? You lack critical thought. Don't get married until you can actually *afford* to@@asadalitruth
Yep lads I’d live in a cardboard box with my husband during hard times. An Honest being is vital I wish women opened up to that more
Why does this episode feels like more decent version of Fresh&Fit podcast?
That show is satanic😅
@@1topman only this episode brother, not the whole show.
@wasimmomin1128 fresh and fit show isn't PG
@@1topman what is PG
@@wasimmomin1128he meant fresh and fit
From my perspective and Islamic teachings,
What women need is good caring, loving, honesty, and empathy.
That's all I'm gonna make sure I provide for my wife Insha'Allah
No food?
@@alphauno6614 that's part of caring. Lots of items fall under the umbrella of caring, loving, and empathy.
@@jewelweed6880 Very vague
why do you speak like an apostate ? dont make a mockery of islam. @@alphauno6614
remember empathy means acc listening to her needs and sometimes compromising if its more a need for her and a want for you. and obviously vice versa from her side applies too
Someone please tell the Brother in the red to sit like a Man, not a boy. May Allah swt guide him.
Maybe next time either don’t invite Mahdi or ask him to wear proper clothing and sit normally instead of using half the couch for himself.
😂😂😂
But he speaks the truth
Ali, you delete the comments where brothers had asked the sisters in your video to wear proper clothes and hijab and not to put makeup.. but you don't delete the comments directed to Mahdi!
Is there any reason for that?
Fear Allah.
@@7esna try to say that what they are wearing is not hijab and see if he will keep your comment
Fix up, don’t bring your brother down in public.
Muslim woman with piercing! Is this the islam you are promoting Mr Ali? Now my wife is seeing this and telling me that she was right wanting a piercing and that i was wrong telling her its smth that goes against religious values!
Thank you brother for promoting modern values! (its irony, im not thankful at all, its actually sad)
rippp, I hear some people discuss its a cultural thing. I do agree with you though, a piercing is not something I think majority of guys would like to see theyre wives with. May Allah help you
What's wrong with a piercing??? It's not haram...
@@Fmohazh it took long time of brainwashing to arrive to this question brother!
We should really study our deen more!
Alhamdulillah have checked with multiple scholars on this..and they have said..its allowed...
The piercing on the ears..allowed...the one on the nose also allowed..but it is an adornment so better to cover it...
Understand this - if the prophet has directly not said that - THIS IS HARAM...we cannot make that thing haram..so we go to scholars..and remember that there will be mutiple opinions..so it's ok that you go with one opinion and i go with another..provided we understand...
@@Fmohazh it should be covered, not better cover it.
Piercing goes against the whole concept of hijab. Hijab doesnt mean just cover of the hair brother.
I want a man that I can be his wife and his close friend, friendship is very important
Almost 80% muslim women prafer as a husband in a man.
1. Wealth
2. Social status
3. Handsame (beauty)
4. Iman (last)
And Muslim Man looking in a woman as wife. They prafer few things.
1. Beauty (appiarance)
2. Wealth
3. Islamic Charachter
Last only few muslim Man and Woman arount 20% they prafer few things in his partner.
1. Strong Islamic Character
2. Beauty ( appiarance)
Physical attraction for me as a woman is important and women most certainly do go for looks. The only way I can be interested is if he attracts me physically first.
thats fine and its according prophet pbuh has told us go and look at the spouse before nikkah.
you kinda a exception then, it not the first thing for women most of the time. Get urself a very good looking husband sister ;) BUT you have to be very good looking too tho.
@@ocerco93 not really. I know many women who go for looks first like they are attracted first but if I don’t like their personality then that doesn’t matter that I was attracted to them. 🤷🏻♀️ everyone is different but a lot of women are attracted at first by looks.
Then, these women are few among women, just look the video, real muslim women the look is not even top 3 on their criteria, you have on the video, and what u see in the video is the common thing among women, its men who go first by looks generally speaking @@Sarahhrochellee
@@ocerco93 so I’m not a real Muslim woman? Just cause I said physical attraction is important. Physical attraction is important for both men and women but obviously it’s more so men are more concerned about that. I’m not denying that but if you ask any woman, would you pick a guy that she is physically attracted to or not physically attracted to, and she would go with the man that she’s clearly attracted to because at the end of the day we have to be with them and we have to live with them, so do the men with women. Clearly it’s not as important as being financially stable or a man that can be there for her woman emotionally because a lot of the time men do not understand women. You tell a woman to choose between two rich guys and they’re gonna go for the one that they find attractive. 🤷🏻♀️
Remember actions speak louder than words.
Hey Ali, AOA! I absolutely love your content and the way you shed light on important issues. 🌟 I wanted to bring to your attention the alarming democratic violations and oppression happening in Pakistan. It's crucial to use your platform to raise awareness about these issues and encourage discussions that can lead to positive change. Your voice can make a significant impact, and together, we can work towards a more just and fair society. Keep up the amazing work, and thank you for being a voice for the voiceless! 🙌💙 #RaiseAwareness #StandForJustice
31:40 Love this point, alot of society tries to undervalue the things women do in society, ironic they then complain when women turn to feminism which is wrong, or see low birth rates or people raised in bad behaviour and now want to complain about how detrimental it is in society, society falling because of it, but had the same breathe to try act like feminine value isnt as worthy despite God saying the opposite hence why a women in Islam dying in childbirth is a martyr
23:39 “Sometimes you see a woman with a brother who’s not…pleasing to the eye, I know Allah said creation is beautiful but…”
😂
Love seeing Muslim brothers sitting with each other ❤️👍
I see too much freedom.
The fact that the women here are saying stupid stuff like « our emotions and what we want changes all the time and YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT it » is mad crazy. I don’t know just grow up and be adults ? So what you are going to talk to me badly because of hormones ? And I just have to accept and go by it ? Sorry no, I worked on myself to be caring loving and respectful, and if you are not the same just get out. How can they ask for respectful loving gentle husband and then not be the same or even complain about it. Some of the women you interviewed did a terrible job at making young Muslims try to go for marriage and investing on a woman.
I think you completely missed the mark. Continue working on yourself though beloved.
@@questioneverything7011 next time try being less cocky and then comeback to answer. Unless you get rid of that trait and explain clearly what you meant don’t bother people.
@@Blackbeard1222😂 cocky ? I think your ego is just bruised. Wishing you a more fulfilling life.
@@questioneverything7011 just stop spamming. You come here talking to me in an inapropriate way and making fun of me in your first comment, then you continue in the second. We don’t know each other, stop being so entitled to talk to people the way you want
@@Blackbeard1222 no you’re just sensitive. All I said was that I think you completely missed the mark and to continue working on yourself. The fact that you got offended by that is a testament to the truth of those words. I literally didn’t say anything wrong or foul about you. You’re projecting. I’m acknowledging your projections have nothing to do with me.
So when a woman says she isn’t looking for looks, but actually is, how is that not being dishonest?
I was listening to Nouman Ali Khan tafsir on Hoor Al Ayn and what men will get in Jannah / want and the difference between what women want.
He basically summarised that what men will get is explicitly mentioned as 9/10 men want the same thing but when it comes to women it is implicitly referenced because if you ask same question 9/10 women will give a different answer 😂
Probably a guy who can load the dishwasher without it turning into a game of Tetris and who knows the difference between 'listening' and 'hearing'... just a hunch!" 🤔🍽👂
So the brothers answers was what they think "woman" want as group. The sisters answers was what "they" want as individuals. 🤦
Most sisters start by looking for money (job, wealth, car, home, etc), status, looks and then deen. Many sisters go for a man lacking deeply on deen if he has the first 2.
The sisters on the panel seem to be answering questions as if they're interviewing for an ideal spouse. The brothers were being a lot more pragmatic.
في الحلقة السابقة قال علي أن في الدين المرأة عليها ان ترضي زوجها و ليس العكس و ان الرجل ليس عليه ان يرضي زوجته، لا ادري من أين أتى بهذا هل لديه دليل من القرآن و السنة؟ لا أعتقد ذلك. لكن هناك حديث عن أحد الصحابة وهو ابن عباس رضي الله عنه وهو أفضل من جميع هؤلاء الرجال مجتمعين قال: عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنه قال: "إني لأحب أن أتزين للمرأة كما أحب أن تتزين لي المرأة؛ لأن الله يقول: {ولهن مثل الذي عليهن بالمعروف}. وهذا دليل انه لا عيب ولا مشكل في ان يسعى الرجل لإرضاء زوجته بل هو واجب عليه و ابن عباس رضي الله عنه يدرك أن المرأة تعطي أهمية للمظهر لذلك هو يتزين من اجل إرضاء زوجته. حتى رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم سعى لإرضاء زوجاته و كان له تسع زوجات، فمن انتم لتتكبروا عن إرضاء زوجاتكم ، و الوقاحة فوق كل هذا هو انت تتوقع منها ان تحاول إرضاءك،
Found this episode really interesting and informative 💯💯💯
I haven't watched the video, but I'm going to assume they want everything relating to deen, but in the end they don't marry you anyway. Am I right or wrong? Someone tell me 😊. (Couldn't finish last time cause cringe)
Being honest was spoken first by both sides but from different angles, it's really interesting
Who the heck looks for a man who is vulnerable and wears his “flaws on his sleeve”. That’s 100% a turn off. Everyone has flaws, why would a man go crying about his flaws.
All I’m hearing sister talk bla bla bla and the brothers really giving a good input to this show.
Influenced by social media
10000 percent agree. The sisters are flipping annoying. The two girls on the right of the screen (the nose ring and niqab) are both weird nagging whiners
Thanks for helping not waste my time watching this
@@johnsmithysmith1930 Let's speak with some respect when addressing the sisters. No need to refer to them as "flipping annoying". This type of loose tongue is what causes rifts in the community.
Nobody should expose their flaws openly. But if you can't be vulnerable with your spouse, then that sounds like a very sad relationship you two have.
If you're not vulnerable when you're in private with your partner, then when who will you be?
This is a better format. I would much rather hear the brothers realism and practical advice without the sisters constantly interrupting and trying to debate every point (not because its wrong but because it makes them feel bad).
lmao because you agree more with one more side as man makes them right? are you hard of thinking?
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I know it hurts your feelings sweetheart, but I would rather hear a mainly logical conversation than a mainly emotional one. Good thing the emotional (woman) part is left in there for you
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Did she say she might opt in for the drug dealer that works part time as well because he’s honest? 😂😂😂😂😂
Yup
Maybe he’s a part-time pharmacist. Assume the best for your sister 😂. Jk, I think she meant that the guy was honest that he went to prison in the past for drug dealing. Saying that, I think she’s a revert sister, and for reverts their slates are wiped clean for past sins after shahadah inshaAllah.
Female nature
Sister with a Niqab I really really appreciate and love your point of view about the type of man a Muslim woman should want,
A man who is conscious of Allah s'w'a، Insha'Allah such man will love his wife respect her care about her provide for her as well, dean is no1 thing you should look for In a man, at least even your children will have good reputation because thier father is good man too.
AlhamduliLLAH this is my first time to come accros your show, it's so interesting MashaAllah... I'm watching from Africa.. May Allah us goodness
jazakhallah Brother Ali, earlier than full documentry atleast 😌, look forward to insights from this in all seriousness!
Man at start is capping women wants honesty over money lol I am a international student in london I offer 5 times prayer daily, read quran daily, workout daily and its been 7 years since I started working out, belong from a traditional family from pakistan and not to be narcissist but i am decently good looking but women don't even give a shit about all of these things when they finds out I am a international student who is studying they suddenly lost interest lol
Well woman look at a man's future
Man look for a woman's past
The world is full of double standards and nuances. Just accept it for what it is...
@@Skiderbut we are talking islamicaly here.We should not look at men bank account if he just providing food for you on daily basis that should be enough for you but no, In today society when ever you talk to western muslim women they will say we want men who offer prayer etc that is most important to me but they are obviously lying if he is working for uber eats they are out even the divorce women have so much high standard lol
Then you might wanna go for girls in your backhome. Because it's also about about compatibility and mindset.
Don’t curse bro
You're from a different culture that's why
Haibah هيبة is close to the meaning of charismatic but it is much deeper than that and it involves the *actions* ,morality,qualties ,etc..of the person himself even *if* he doesn't have that much wealth or job for example
Just imagine Omer ibn Elkhattab (رضي الله عنه ) entering a room and imagine the reaction of the people in that room😂
May Allah bless all of you for your efforts! Respectfully, this list... is not great XD but I think the "vibe" point - which I'm translating as "driven, constantly purposeful" - is the best one.
Guys who disagree with Mahdi , no less to nothing about woman . Guys whose questions remain unanswered , look up this guy , hes a gem
Ive been married for 20 years and as a woman i can say most men are simple as they need a loving, caring, loyal spouse and i want security from him..u do not want to open your heart to your other half all the time thats a job for your sisters and girlfriends!
11:45 my boy straight cooking with grease 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽🙏🏽
I'm the first viewer and commentator ,God bless everyone in this video and may only ,love,wisdom and fortune, come your way. Peace be with you 🙏. Alhamdulillah
Ameen
there is very limited evidence that silajet has any medical benefit. I know sponsors run the channel but you shouldn't kick ethics and medicine out the window
Where pharmaceutical companies don’t see profit, they may not allow you to see evidence 😂
“Women want honesty” 🤣🤣🤣
This show is fitna!
The only guy who spoke the truth in this video is the guy wearing the black shirt. But others there tried to water down his arguments and proposition because it wasn't popular. The practice of Islam today isn't based on scripture or sunnah (stop kidding yourselves if that's what you think you're doing) but more to do with wealth and popularity of opinions which itself is based on the notion of fashionability.
I want confidence, money, sex, deen and chemistry. Many Muslim women feel scared to admit this as it portrays them to be not religious but only God can hold us to such accountability. We can have faith and still want to enjoy our own beauties of love.
you are not entitled to a man's money or sex, he controls what he give based on compliance. females need to earn it.
"only God can hold us to such accountability. " wrong.
females need to earn the attention and affection of men
men also hold females accountable for their deficient minds
what does "want to enjoy our own beauties of love" mean ? developing an obsession with appearance and self pleasure ? this is neither love nor beauty.
degenerate desires of materialism and sexual deviancy is not a "beauty of love" .
@@soulz4793 Every marriage is different therefore every couple has a different experience of love which all can be beautiful in subjective ways. I’m not talking about appearances or whatever kind of ‘self pleasure’ you’re talking about. For you assuming I’m a materialist, I have one thing to say to you. Preferring a man with money over no money (everything else aside) is natural to me as a woman, same way you as a man would prefer a girl with a nice body than not. For you to also accuse me of being a sexual deviant, is a sin in and of itself. As I said, I can have faith in Allah as His servant whilst still wanting the best out of my own marriage E.g. money sex etc. If it’s not for you, that’s fine. But don’t critique me when I’m staying within the bounds of what is halal.
"Every marriage is different therefore every couple has a different experience of love which all can be beautiful in subjective ways." Wrong
maybe within the feminist/apostate ideology you hold dear there is a lack of guidelines and clearly defined boundaries, however islam provides the perfect model of what should and shouldnt be, in all aspects of life, including marriage. @@alora7736
I 100% agree brother Mahdi.
I think the brothers were looking die the word confident, I think that’s what mahdi was talking about referring to that masculine energy 23:09
This is a useless programme. We Muslims have become quite hypocritical and arrogant and we want to talk about these matters. No wonder divorce and riba is rampant is western Muslim societies.
Why don't they blur the women's faces?
This is a joke 🤦🏻♂️
47:30 "its a big loss...his not the boss...but AT LEAST he treats me good", this is such a negative way of looking at it. At least, he treats me good. You should be very thankful to Allah that your husband is treating you the way he should be. Status, money, power, all given by Allah, so the guy may be the big boss today, but sometime in the future Allah may take it away and lower that man's status as a test for the wife.
Who is breathing that loud into the mic 😭😭😭😭
The painted beard is wild 😂
How many time ali needs dahwa will replay in his podcasts he dont "didnt" like mehdi ??
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@Babycake. Women are indeed greater then wallets.
@Babycake.The greatest inventors, innovators, and businessmen of the human race, the stronger, faster and smarter half of the human race, the best of all humans spiritually, physically, financially and intellectually, > dime a dozen unbranded dishwashers and kitchen stoves
lol fellas - at the end of the day … just stay on your grind and stay close to Allah swt.
Women always want the highest leader , status in the man. So - just do the best you can and you’ll naturally find a woman that resonates with where you are on your journey
Delicate flower with high mileage and oil leaks except one.
Make sure you get paternity tests.
I prefer the seperation
From my perspective as a man ,men are like a water in a plastic bag ...take the water as love for his wife as long a the water is there you can ice it the way you like and he'll do it don't always expect the perfect there is no perfect for a human behavior it takes work but the too bend is more likely to break if you try to shape him only Allah can help.
Asking women what they want is futile as we all know but it was a nice experiment.
The sister who said "we just want the basics financially" that's true untill you actually pursue her for marriage then she will reject you for just having the basics, don't listen to what women say, look how they behave.
I didn't understand, did brother Mahdi say that he has multiple wives and orphans? Can someone please clarify?
I heard him in another video saying he married a woman whose first husband passed away and Mahdi now looks after her orphan kids as his own.
@@Sophie-nl4fu mashallah may Allah bless him
The breathing is well loud, consider some mic covers
His or her knowledge is important than beauty or youth !!
I don’t understand why there’s women without niqab on here some scholars have advised it’s compulsory.Why don’t we have scholars on here so we know what is the right and wrong and what example we should be looking at.we are just having a discussion here there’s already a lot of fitnah in the uk why not have ulema Ekram on here.
Man they r already covered just stfu
Because they are chasing views and emulating the roundtables that the kuffār do, which invite nothing except fitna and fahisha. Just look at the reply you got - the brother thinks as long as they're "covered", this is all OK. Never mind that all the madhāhib are in agreement that in times fitna, niqāb becomes mandatory, and no one can conceivably argue that we aren't in times of great fitna currently.
A beautiful woman can be very crazy and don’t have good mind and thoughts
Speech. I am a woman and very bothered by the way men speak to women
None of the brothers are blurred? Also are any of these women currently married and if so what’s wrong with there husbands
All Men need to be healthy, they should all be good looking, it’s a quality of manhood basics My Brothers !
Where do I purchase clothing that the brother on the left with the white hat is wearing ?
😂😂😂😂😂Finalllyyy we got a word!!!!! Hayba or Charm!!!!!
One thing ive learnt from watching these podcasts women have alot of issues safer to stay single 😂
Some extremely aggressive, argumentative, knit-picking type women there. Instant red flag, not marriage material at all.
Love you Ali Dawah my Brother
Mahdi hit it on the head. Coming from a married man, if you are asking what a woman wants, you are not ready to be married or involved with women period.
Asking the women what they want in a man is mute. None of those sisters are married. They will only say what is politically correct so the brothers don’t think they’re uptight or insufferable. The only woman on this show who is based for a woman is the niqabi. Which leads me to believe she is married. Women will not consider you or talk to you if YOU don’t understand women. And the trick to understanding women is understanding their biology.
And for all the animal kingdom, female biology for thousands of years says females are aroused to the biggest, strongest, and most confident = masculinity.
Have you made the same comment with two accounts or is this a copy and paste job? 😂
Or is that you mahdi, doubling the comments like doubling the wives 😂
And here I had thought humans had risen above the animal kingdom 😂😊
I don’t know why this brother Ali want to get with this meaningless videos about marriage ! In Hadith prophet s.s already mentioned the quality of the persons you want to marry , men and women. So what is the point of making such videos and the qualities you guys all mentioning Does not making sin !
How can you marry someone for her beauty when she can’t understand you. Or when she is not compatible. You can’t say beauty or youth is important. Beauty is in her or his Deen and manner and knowledge !!!!!
24:15, women are valued by beauty (already has youth) and motherhood(would she be a good mother/educator?)
It's better not to bring Mahdi 😊
It's a a number of qualities that women wants and they must meet a threshold in order to be wanted by women, like looks or money or status or sweet talker or influencer or strength or mix of those qualities even they're not maximized just a little bit of everything can be sufficient.
you. forgot kindness lol
Khaybar- charm in uk slang it’s *flexing* without flexing !