My advise: when a disagreement is getting a little heated, always take each other by both hands and continue holding hands while the topic is being discussed. Its REALLY HARD to argue a heated argument while holding hands with the one you love. ❤ (advice from my premarital counselor 💍) Happy Wedding Planning, Ash! Great video, you two!!
I lost my Mother in 2006 and I am the first christian in my entire biological family so I sometimes just need a "Christian Mom" (and "Christian Dad" too) to help me unlearn and relearn things the right way as a new Christian. Thank you for sharing your Mentor Mama with us!
I felt so touched watching this! My parents would fight a lot but hearing you say that you always wondered what it even looked like to disrespect one another... made me emotional. I am just learning how to break free of those bad patterns. You have such a great mom and she is teaching you key qualities to have in marriage and in life! So happy for you all. Bless your family.
I love this too! I would like to add a few things. One, if your spouse is an introvert and maybe you are not, please be understanding. My hubby is very much an extrovert and I am not. He loves to go, go, go! While I get worn out easily. It took him a while to understand that sometimes I needed a break and need some alone time to decompress. The other is this: remember love is a choice, not a feeling. Things will come up in marriage that can be unpleasant and you can't always rely on your feelings. 1 Corinthians 13 requires lots of effort.
Today as I was meditating, the Holy Spirit revealed to me how the enemy invaded the good that God had created for us and even went ahead to hide/blinden us from the truth that God is indeed good and that there can actually be Goodness in us and we can live in God's goodness. Thank you, Mentor Mama, Ashley and Taylor for standing up and being found as vessels at such a time as this to share, enlighten, and teach us that we can truly find God's love, happiness, and goodness, even in our generation. Much love from Nairobi Kenya❣
Hi Ashley, I saw my younger self in you when you showed sadness regarding the comment that you don’t always take others’ advice. Advice means that it is only something we consider. It does not mean we must take the advice. The fact that you do sometimes take advice shows you are an open and teachable person. Taking or rejecting advice does not mean we are loving or not loving. We can love and respect someone deeply and still not take their advice. 💕
Oh I just loved this. I have been married 19 years. We have 5 children. Four boys and a little girl. I pray that I can give her wisdom and the love that you clearly give your daughter in this. So beautiful to watch and a great reminder for me. Thank you.
Marriage is a wonderful thing. I’ve been married for a year and a half. Advice I would give to always make time for each other. Like make time to go on a date once a month or a couple times every other month. It has made my husband and I stronger in our love for each other.
Awe this is so sweet. I love it. In the same spot with my two older girls. Hoping and praying the scriptures is true when it says to teach your children the way to go and when they are older they will not stray. I also came from a split home like your mamma. This was beautiful.
An all around blessed life! So blessed to have deeply spiritual parents with Godly lives and biblical advice. Beautiful examples! I know not perfect. But WOW! I could cry💖💖💖💝💝💝
Beautiful advice. May I add we, as women, also need respect. Love and respect go together and I think all humans thrive in those conditions. It’s okay to be strong in our opinions and be part of the decision process, as long as we are both listening and hearing. :)
Respect is even when you have a strong and better opinion, accept his calmly. Then afterwards use sweets words to say yours, you'll be surprised, he'll take your opinion because he feels you've respected and shown him love.
This was so encouraging. May God bless you as you get ready for your big day. God is going to help you every single day. You already have the help that you need. Your mom is so awesome. I think she should considering being a counselor for people who are going to be married. She is simply amazing.
This was such a blessing, thanks for doing this. Your mum is beautiful, so is Ash. I’m also engaged, to be married, and I’ve seen God in this phase more than ever before. It’s an interesting and challenging stage. God bless you as we all grow together in Christ Jesus!
Hi girls! Blessings from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic! I really loved this video because I'm happy that you got engaged with a Godly man who loves Him more than you do which it's awesome. My advice for both of you (you and Johnny) is that you can make good decisions about your new life and discuss it in a good way. I'm 40 years old and still single but I want to get to know a Godly man who I date with. Please pray for me that God helps me to choose well and gives me strength in my relatioship with God.
Amazing video...May the Lord be at the centre of your marriage...thanks mama mentor for your advise..am not engaged but I found your advise great and Amazing
My advice is get a good marriage book specifically addressed to wives. My favorite is "Created to be his Help Meet". It's maybe a little controversial and there are things I wouldn't necessarily say that way myself, but I've found it's really good for pointing out my own character issues that I need to work on to work on our marriage. It's big on reminding us wives that we're meant to be helpers and supporters, not critics. Stuff like that. I read it before marriage and re-reading it again now (married almost a year), I'm still discovering bad habits and negative attitudes to break, bring before God and replace with better ones.
I just love you ladies. Your videos helped me reach out to know the word. I have never been so happy about a wedding for someone I have never met before lol 😂. But I am so happy for you. I have been married for 22 years. We have travelled the world together and have been through multiple job changes and cities together and that has been fun and challenging but it was the hard things like the birth of our son who was severely disabled that challenged our love and dedication to one another the most. The good times make great memories and they are important but it is the holding of each other up when we have fallen on our knees and the pain seems unbearable that we were truly tested. And when you come out of those challenging times your marriage will be stronger for it. That to me is what makes a marriage a life.
A tip: Make even a short prayer 2gether (or if he/she does not want, individually). 1. You will find out how difficult it is to pray when you argue and 2. when you choose to go against that feeling of resistance, God will soften your heart through prayer and the issue will look different, smaller. It will cool down your feelings a bit and give you a more compasionate and rational approach. 🙏🏻
Love this it was so neat to see a daughter and a mother talk about God and relationships and share the wisdom so lovely thank you so much very encouraging❄️👍😃🤍🌈
This is wonderful insight from mom, and it is terrific that you're learning and hearing from mom what to expect. It is also helpful that you have mom, and family and girlfriends and most importantly the Holy Spirit and yes Johnny and ofcourse youtube. I do however strongly encourage marriage counseling with your pastors and after you get married it is pivotal to get monthly maintenance check ups, just as we do with vehicles where you get the oil checked and see what other maintenance is needed as well. Learn together your strengths and weaknesses and what your roles are from the giddy up. Who does the books? Who cooks? Cleans? Play time? Who initiate sex? When? Where...etc? Triggers are different for everyone. I agree with mom to have weekly dates and pray together and separately. Knowing each others boundaries, likes and dislikes. Johnny being the man and I don't know his history nor how he was raised, when you marry your knight, will he want to lead and if so how does that look. That's a conversation to have and learn together. When you get into arguments, what will that look like...I will say here for the both of you to watch the words you speak to each other and when your children come along. Words carry great power and what you say is what you will have. [Heavenly Father, bridle your son and daughter's tongues now as they embark on a purposeful journey of love and honor that will covenant them together with you, in Jesus name, AMEN.] Compliment and speak life to each other, especially when anger is present and know when to say I am sorry and I love you intentionally as many times as you like. What will yalls ministry look like? How do you communicate when there's a conflict? My wife is amazing when it comes to conflicts and over time learned to give me time. What are our values regarding raising children? ...
How you can make a life long commitment without sharing intimacy? I will never make a life long commitment without sharing every kind of thing of life.
If you have mutual physical attraction and you have emotional, spiritual and intellectual intimacy then you have every kind of thing of life. The physical intimacy that comes with marriage is the icing on a beautiful God-made cake.
I Shawn Sang Ik Kim has always been, is, will always be the very best perfect powerful alpha male conqueror king of this world. ThanksThank you Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you Heavenly Father in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen
We are in Christ, sin no longer has power over us. We need to live in His identity and stop calling ourselves "sinners". We are the righteousness in Christ Jesus.
I HIGHLY recommend The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. It saved my mom's marriage and taught me a lot about respect! Easy read too. Makes marriage easy not hard!
My advise: when a disagreement is getting a little heated, always take each other by both hands and continue holding hands while the topic is being discussed. Its REALLY HARD to argue a heated argument while holding hands with the one you love. ❤ (advice from my premarital counselor 💍) Happy Wedding Planning, Ash! Great video, you two!!
That sounds like really good advise!
It's true. We have tried.
I lost my Mother in 2006 and I am the first christian in my entire biological family so I sometimes just need a "Christian Mom" (and "Christian Dad" too) to help me unlearn and relearn things the right way as a new Christian. Thank you for sharing your Mentor Mama with us!
Thank you for watching!!
I felt so touched watching this! My parents would fight a lot but hearing you say that you always wondered what it even looked like to disrespect one another... made me emotional. I am just learning how to break free of those bad patterns. You have such a great mom and she is teaching you key qualities to have in marriage and in life! So happy for you all. Bless your family.
I love this too! I would like to add a few things. One, if your spouse is an introvert and maybe you are not, please be understanding. My hubby is very much an extrovert and I am not. He loves to go, go, go! While I get worn out easily. It took him a while to understand that sometimes I needed a break and need some alone time to decompress. The other is this: remember love is a choice, not a feeling. Things will come up in marriage that can be unpleasant and you can't always rely on your feelings. 1 Corinthians 13 requires lots of effort.
Girl I’m so happy for you!!! May Christ be the center of your relationship always 💗
I just got engaged this past Christmas… I’m so excited for this episode! Thank you 🥺❤️
Congratulation sister on that , God bless your marriage and use you for his Glory .
Congratulations
Today as I was meditating, the Holy Spirit revealed to me how the enemy invaded the good that God had created for us and even went ahead to hide/blinden us from the truth that God is indeed good and that there can actually be Goodness in us and we can live in God's goodness. Thank you, Mentor Mama, Ashley and Taylor for standing up and being found as vessels at such a time as this to share, enlighten, and teach us that we can truly find God's love, happiness, and goodness, even in our generation. Much love from Nairobi Kenya❣
Hi Ashley, I saw my younger self in you when you showed sadness regarding the comment that you don’t always take others’ advice. Advice means that it is only something we consider. It does not mean we must take the advice. The fact that you do sometimes take advice shows you are an open and teachable person. Taking or rejecting advice does not mean we are loving or not loving. We can love and respect someone deeply and still not take their advice. 💕
This podcast is really inspiring. We can learn a lot from this especially to those who are getting married or even you are not yet getting married.
Oh I just loved this. I have been married 19 years. We have 5 children. Four boys and a little girl. I pray that I can give her wisdom and the love that you clearly give your daughter in this. So beautiful to watch and a great reminder for me. Thank you.
Such a cheerful mom. 😍 May God give u eternal life
The best advice is always to remember what your parents have given you in their wisdom the Lord has blessed you it's a great mom
Marriage is a wonderful thing. I’ve been married for a year and a half. Advice I would give to always make time for each other. Like make time to go on a date once a month or a couple times every other month. It has made my husband and I stronger in our love for each other.
"Anger gives a foothole for the devil" i needed this advice wow
Awe this is so sweet. I love it. In the same spot with my two older girls. Hoping and praying the scriptures is true when it says to teach your children the way to go and when they are older they will not stray. I also came from a split home like your mamma. This was beautiful.
An all around blessed life! So blessed to have deeply spiritual parents with Godly lives and biblical advice. Beautiful examples! I know not perfect. But WOW! I could cry💖💖💖💝💝💝
There’s truly something so beautiful about the way you guys look at each other as family😍. So much love and admiration for one another 💞
Beautiful advice. May I add we, as women, also need respect. Love and respect go together and I think all humans thrive in those conditions. It’s okay to be strong in our opinions and be part of the decision process, as long as we are both listening and hearing. :)
Good to know these things while I’m still single. Probably will come back to it when I’m about to get married (God willing).
Also, don't sweat the small stuff, pick your battles. Very happy for you.
Respect is even when you have a strong and better opinion, accept his calmly. Then afterwards use sweets words to say yours, you'll be surprised, he'll take your opinion because he feels you've respected and shown him love.
This was so encouraging. May God bless you as you get ready for your big day. God is going to help you every single day. You already have the help that you need. Your mom is so awesome. I think she should considering being a counselor for people who are going to be married. She is simply amazing.
Your mom is so adorable!!! 💖 and so are you!! :) congratulations, God is good..
Thanks for the inspiring words I know that I will youse them for my marriage
This was such a blessing, thanks for doing this. Your mum is beautiful, so is Ash. I’m also engaged, to be married, and I’ve seen God in this phase more than ever before. It’s an interesting and challenging stage. God bless you as we all grow together in Christ Jesus!
Hi girls! Blessings from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic! I really loved this video because I'm happy that you got engaged with a Godly man who loves Him more than you do which it's awesome. My advice for both of you (you and Johnny) is that you can make good decisions about your new life and discuss it in a good way. I'm 40 years old and still single but I want to get to know a Godly man who I date with. Please pray for me that God helps me to choose well and gives me strength in my relatioship with God.
Amazing video...May the Lord be at the centre of your marriage...thanks mama mentor for your advise..am not engaged but I found your advise great and Amazing
great reminders for any married couple...thanks ladies. Ashley, May God always be at the center of your marriage ❤
Congratulations Ashley
My advice is get a good marriage book specifically addressed to wives. My favorite is "Created to be his Help Meet". It's maybe a little controversial and there are things I wouldn't necessarily say that way myself, but I've found it's really good for pointing out my own character issues that I need to work on to work on our marriage. It's big on reminding us wives that we're meant to be helpers and supporters, not critics. Stuff like that. I read it before marriage and re-reading it again now (married almost a year), I'm still discovering bad habits and negative attitudes to break, bring before God and replace with better ones.
I just love you ladies. Your videos helped me reach out to know the word. I have never been so happy about a wedding for someone I have never met before lol 😂. But I am so happy for you. I have been married for 22 years. We have travelled the world together and have been through multiple job changes and cities together and that has been fun and challenging but it was the hard things like the birth of our son who was severely disabled that challenged our love and dedication to one another the most. The good times make great memories and they are important but it is the holding of each other up when we have fallen on our knees and the pain seems unbearable that we were truly tested. And when you come out of those challenging times your marriage will be stronger for it. That to me is what makes a marriage a life.
A tip:
Make even a short prayer 2gether (or if he/she does not want, individually).
1. You will find out how difficult it is to pray when you argue
and
2. when you choose to go against that feeling of resistance, God will soften your heart through prayer and the issue will look different, smaller.
It will cool down your feelings a bit and give you a more compasionate and rational approach.
🙏🏻
Love this it was so neat to see a daughter and a mother talk about God and relationships and share the wisdom so lovely thank you so much very encouraging❄️👍😃🤍🌈
Please remember how blessed you are every day. I'm 41 and never found a godly husband.
Aww i love mentor mama ❤ she's so sweet!! I also love the daughter -mom relationship. It's rarely seen these days!. God bless
💐 HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY 💐
This is really beautiful advice be blessed!!!
This is wonderful insight from mom, and it is terrific that you're learning and hearing from mom what to expect. It is also helpful that you have mom, and family and girlfriends and most importantly the Holy Spirit and yes Johnny and ofcourse youtube.
I do however strongly encourage marriage counseling with your pastors and after you get married it is pivotal to get monthly maintenance check ups, just as we do with vehicles where you get the oil checked and see what other maintenance is needed as well. Learn together your strengths and weaknesses and what your roles are from the giddy up. Who does the books? Who cooks? Cleans? Play time? Who initiate sex? When? Where...etc? Triggers are different for everyone.
I agree with mom to have weekly dates and pray together and separately. Knowing each others boundaries, likes and dislikes. Johnny being the man and I don't know his history nor how he was raised, when you marry your knight, will he want to lead and if so how does that look. That's a conversation to have and learn together. When you get into arguments, what will that look like...I will say here for the both of you to watch the words you speak to each other and when your children come along. Words carry great power and what you say is what you will have. [Heavenly Father, bridle your son and daughter's tongues now as they embark on a purposeful journey of love and honor that will covenant them together with you, in Jesus name, AMEN.] Compliment and speak life to each other, especially when anger is present and know when to say I am sorry and I love you intentionally as many times as you like.
What will yalls ministry look like? How do you communicate when there's a conflict? My wife is amazing when it comes to conflicts and over time learned to give me time.
What are our values regarding raising children? ...
Great advice!
Read God's word together and separately. So very very very important.
LOVE this podcast!!!
I loved this today! Such good advice and tips!
Congratulations ❤️
I will wait for my husband!☺️ thanks
I love this!!💙💙
Hi this is so amazing!! I am first
It's a great advice esp for me😍
Yay!!
The links for binder and the journal didn’t work. Is it just me ? Thanks a lot
Love this so much 💕
I know this will be helpful for me
Johnny you need to watch this!!!😂
Amen
I wish I had her life
Why do I feel like I've seen this already? Did I dream it? I'm so confused 😭
❤💕
I have a deja vu !
😍❤️❤️
How you can make a life long commitment without sharing intimacy? I will never make a life long commitment without sharing every kind of thing of life.
If you have mutual physical attraction and you have emotional, spiritual and intellectual intimacy then you have every kind of thing of life. The physical intimacy that comes with marriage is the icing on a beautiful God-made cake.
🙏
pert
I Shawn Sang Ik Kim has always been, is, will always be the very best perfect powerful alpha male conqueror king of this world. ThanksThank you Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you Heavenly Father in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen
We are in Christ, sin no longer has power over us. We need to live in His identity and stop calling ourselves "sinners". We are the righteousness in Christ Jesus.
I HIGHLY recommend The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. It saved my mom's marriage and taught me a lot about respect! Easy read too. Makes marriage easy not hard!