When your sister and her family came to live with you and your parents and you are the one who is financially supporting the home and you are the one doing all the chores, it is time to leave that house and rent or buy an apartment for yourself. Your parents and sister are a disgrace.
It will never cease to amaze me how some families will put one child over another. There's myself (the oldest), my brother (middle), & my sister (youngest) & my parents ALWAYS treated us equally.
@@carolinebailey4005 My parents had 7 kids, and we all knew that the oldest son (not the oldest child) was the favorite and we were okay with that. He was a great guy and our parents were good to all of us.
@@susanneduffy8157 She held all the cards: she paid the bills and the groceries (God knows why she was the only one paying for utilities and groceries when there were at least three other adults holding down jobs) so a simple “nope, not babysitting because I have plans”. Would they have been angry? Yes but she could just say, I’ll move out and you guys can fend for yourselves. Of course, it’s a fake story so we needed the Cinderella drama, lol! 🤣
Ditto. And I DEFINITELY would *not* tell my parents that I was leaving. Also, the day that I left might be a good time to get a new phone (with a new number) and warn the security team in my building about my wacko family.
Wow, I can totally relate to Anna's story. It's so hard to stand up for yourself when your family keeps taking advantage of you. I'm glad she finally found the courage to prioritize her own happiness. Go Anna!
Mike and Sarah can go out to dinner every night with friends and go shopping & the movies….but can’t pay half the bills?? The parents are disgusting, to let this happen, but it does happen! They have a hundred excuses why Sarah needs her sister help….but not them!! So happy she moved out abruptly !! They all deserved it!!! Don’t be a doormat !!
She did the right thing and her mother and father let her dither used her. Her parents knew that sha was helping them out and didn’t say mother to her. What get me is when they say we’re family and family help each other out. But you don’t use family too. That just what they did.
One of the most disgusting things these characters do is always, and I mean always throwing up family helps family, when they don't make the slightest effort to solve their own problems. They just push it all onto the one good person who's not responsible for their situation. Just really disgusting.
Typical entitled parents.... "But... but... family!" "You can't move out, we need YOUR money!" "You're so SELFISH! You won't kowtow to US! After all we've done for you!" 😡
This story hit me hard. It’s crazy how family can sometimes take advantage of you without even realizing it. Anna’s decision to leave was so brave, and I hope she finds peace and happiness in her new life. She deserves it!
Why is Anna paying the totality of the utility bills by herself? Why don’t the parents pay part? Why doesn’t doormat Anna say SHE has plans for the weekend? Leave the house early and return after midnight…just say NO! Also, four adults don’t make enough money to pay for their shared expenses? Mike has a job, Dad has a job, Mom has a part time job so what does Sarah do?
Finally standing up for yourself and breaking free from that toxic cycle is beyond empowering! The moment you packed your bag and walked out was chef’s kiss - your happiness and peace come first, always
It’s not true. Dumb story. I listen to them anyway, shaking my head. I used to care for my younger brothers and sisters, paid my own way through college, not expecting $$ or special attention from my hard working parents. My older brother used to share his paycheck to help the family. I hope I can find some enjoyable stories where family isn’t mean or resentful towards each other…
With time maybe things will change? Not a prayer. Keep them blocked and out of your life OP. Mooches like that never change. Especially if they find out you have more money than they do. Stand firm.
She gave the kids access by not locking the door. A common thing in stories like this. Sarah said "need to" instead of have to. Time to talk to Aunt Linda.
As soon as you were expected to move out of your own room was the time to move out. No telling Mum or anyone that you were thinking of doing it, just do it and tell them as you leave.
I don't know why you stayed after the second class way they treated you your whole life.. You're just a modern day Cinderella, and human ATM.. Let their golden goose pay their bills..
Why do all these stories have the same story line of parents and relatives inviting deadbeats to live in their homes on top of the person paying the bills.
Why,, oh why, didn't Anna stop coming home right after work? With the simple explanation of, "I'm working extra hours to pay the skyrocketing bills you guys ran up" she could get coffee with a co-worker and take a walk, spend an hour or two iat the library, window shop at the mall.
Ops parents and Sister and brother-in-law can't afford to pay for anything? Even though op is single but yet she has no life because of her entitled family, yea I would move have moved out asap.
You teach people how to treat you. Kudos for her for finally finding the courage to stop being a doormat. Her sister has a degree as well. She can work full time. The oldest child can go to kindergarten and the youngest to pre-school. Problem solved.
Mom said all that babysitting would be good practice for when you have children of your own. When did she think you would do that? With no personal time you can't meet someone, date, get married, and have those children??? You did good 👍🏻❤️
Good she give them the boot lol😅😅😅😅❤😂. Only thing was is that she was part of the problem by not telling them sooner about everything and letting them run over her . Finally she got her back bone up .
I had a similar situation when I was 20 and one day walked away. They decided to shun me, and after 40 years, when I inherited a ton of money, I started getting notices from friends that my family knew to reach out to me. I ignored them all because I had been exactly what this young person had been for her family, and I cut them all off, and now they realized that I was rich they wanted to be family again. I laughed myself to the bank and never saw them again.
The secret to escaping is finding a new place and making all your preparations before telling them that you're moving. I had to do this with my mother because every time I mentioned it, I was treated to a long monolog about how that was a bad idea. When she had one of her temper tantrums over who knows what, it lit a fire under my feet, and I literally told her two days before I moved.
"But we're family..." "No, YOU'RE family, and see me as the add-on to do the stuff you don't want to think about." And no, OP will never have their 'family' back in their life, because it would require that they admit how they treated her to themsleves.
This isn’t family values. It’s plainly abuse. This is stupid that anyone would actually put up with being treated like this by family and agree as an adult to stay and be boldly taken financially and physically advantage of. These poor women are raised with no self worth and no sense of self.
Sister got an expensive education and plays the stay at home mom, because the family was hit so hard by losing everything - but the only working person with a decent salary has to babysit too, without any compensation except ridicule. How could the younger sister become a mother, if she has no chance to meet anyone for just having to work all the time - first at her job and later "for the family"... slaves are treated better than this poor working-girl, who provided for her own education - slaves don't have to pay for the expenses of the houshold too! And you need time to recover from your workload too, not being worked to the bones like a single mother, without ever having had a love-affair or giving birth to a baby of your own...
If you don't stand your ground, don't put your foot down, and don't speak up for yourself, instead caving in and prioritizing their demands, then you shouldn't be complaining, but learn to just suck it up.
People don't realize that when more people move in the the utilities, gas, water and electricity go way up and they don't think they are creating any issues
I thought there was a nephew and a niece but then they said two nephews. Sarah complained what money indicating.She had no money to hire a babysitter. However how did she have all this money to go out with her husband to make friends all the time
The story where daughter was called selfish for refusing to babysit sisters kids…. My mom treated me the same while I had5 little kids, and refused to come and drive her to shop in mall because my kids were sick with flu, and suggested to take a bus…. Until than the guilt was killing me if I could do mom’s bidding, I was so used to be used…. And also mom had a car, but she didn’t want to drive when she’s shopping…. But when my kids weren’t even as important as my mom’s shopping, I woke up… for 25 years now I don’t do anything for my mom, and she’s perfectly fine without my help, because my brother and sister are helping since, whereas they almost never helped before…. How do manipulative moms get into their good kids heads so badly?… never give anything to the good ones, but volunteer to give things to the selfish ones without them even asking?….
Ya know what really grinds my gears: How the relatives run around hollering about how the OP is being so selfish because he/she wants to live her/his life her/his way without all the family drama getting in the way( you don't hear any of the relatives"volunteering" to help out; it's what we old schoolers call "armchair quarter backing"; don't get me wrong she set her self up when she moved back home after graduating from college,but she should have put some boundaries in place after all the shouting was said and done;then there's her parents, enabling her sister,OP should have slammed the brakes on that one before it ever got off the ground
Should have packed a small bag and taken it to work on Friday morning, book into a small hotel for the weekend and then sister and husband on Friday will not have a babysitter.
10:48 OP brings up she CAMNNOT pay the electricity bill on her own. The family attack her (for apparently being negative?). NONE of that pays the bills! Put money on the table or leave the convo and don't wonder why BIL cannot seem to get the kitchen lights to turn on. Or the stove. And the refrigerator has a funny smell now. "Gimme some dough, Mac!"
She should take a vacation and tell family she was laid off. They'd probably kick her out fast. Brother in law could at least get a part time or temp job. When he isn't working Sarah could work at least part time and the kids father could take care of them.
The grandparents don't want to be left with the kids. And the kids oarents get "time off kids" they're all just taking advantage of her while she works a job to pay the entire families kids and v babysits for free weekends and isn't "allowed" to have a weekend to herself.
When the sister came to live with you and your parents ,why didn't she go out and get a job. And put the kids in daycare, there are daycares that go by your incomes. All of the money your parents put out for her college was a waste of money, she is definitely lazy. There are alot of single women who work and raise their kids. There's no way I would support my sister's family and parents. No one would use me as a ATM . EVER.
I've heard it said this way. "Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm."
When your sister and her family came to live with you and your parents and you are the one who is financially supporting the home and you are the one doing all the chores, it is time to leave that house and rent or buy an apartment for yourself. Your parents and sister are a disgrace.
OP was literally a slave to the family. 😮
It will never cease to amaze me how some families will put one child over another. There's myself (the oldest), my brother (middle), & my sister (youngest) & my parents ALWAYS treated us equally.
My parents have 4 kids, and there is no favorite..even 70+ years later!!
It never ceases to amaze how some people are complete doormats. All she has to do is say NO, got my own life.
@@carolinebailey4005 My parents had 7 kids, and we all knew that the oldest son (not the oldest child) was the favorite and we were okay with that. He was a great guy and our parents were good to all of us.
@@wplains That is great in theory - not always that simple though. but yes, "no" is a powerful short word.
@@susanneduffy8157 She held all the cards: she paid the bills and the groceries (God knows why she was the only one paying for utilities and groceries when there were at least three other adults holding down jobs) so a simple “nope, not babysitting because I have plans”. Would they have been angry? Yes but she could just say, I’ll move out and you guys can fend for yourselves. Of course, it’s a fake story so we needed the Cinderella drama, lol! 🤣
Nope after the first weekend of watching kids, paying bills I'd look for an apartment on the other side of town and slowly move out
Ditto.
And I DEFINITELY would *not* tell my parents that I was leaving.
Also, the day that I left might be a good time to get a new phone (with a new number) and warn the security team in my building about my wacko family.
Me too.
Or very quickly!
Quickly move out, without telling them.
"It isn't the time to count pennies." No,it's tim I move out.
That's the correct response.
She did the right thing she was just their atm and baby sitting, I would have left after 2 weeks, her sister wasn’t working those were her children
OP brought this on herself. Saying no is a complete sentence in itself. She should have done it early and often.
Wow, I can totally relate to Anna's story. It's so hard to stand up for yourself when your family keeps taking advantage of you. I'm glad she finally found the courage to prioritize her own happiness. Go Anna!
She took far longer to grow a shiny spine than I would have. 😮
The parents and sister and her husband all need to get a job
Wal-Mart and McDees are always hiring! 😮
@lancerevell5979 I agree
Even with 2 children the sister can get a part time job.
Mike and Sarah can go out to dinner every night with friends and go shopping & the movies….but can’t pay half the bills?? The parents are disgusting, to let this happen, but it does happen! They have a hundred excuses why Sarah needs her sister help….but not them!! So happy she moved out abruptly !! They all deserved it!!! Don’t be a doormat !!
She did the right thing and her mother and father let her dither used her. Her parents knew that sha was helping them out and didn’t say mother to her. What get me is when they say we’re family and family help each other out. But you don’t use family too. That just what they did.
One of the most disgusting things these characters do is always, and I mean always throwing up family helps family, when they don't make the slightest effort to solve their own problems. They just push it all onto the one good person who's not responsible for their situation. Just really disgusting.
Moral of the story, don't throw out people that pay the bills.
What if Anna just.....didn't come home from work? Goddess knows I wouldn't.
Goodness
I cannot believe the spoiled older sister , these people are abusing the hell out of this girl.
OP, you should have left those leaches earlier but oh well!! Maybe Sarah should get a real job & pay her own way??😅
Typical entitled parents.... "But... but... family!" "You can't move out, we need YOUR money!"
"You're so SELFISH! You won't kowtow to US! After all we've done for you!" 😡
Of course Mike and Sarah have no savings, the spendthrifts.
Nope.Baby Shark would have done it for me. If I had to hear that continuously I would lose my mind.
This story hit me hard. It’s crazy how family can sometimes take advantage of you without even realizing it. Anna’s decision to leave was so brave, and I hope she finds peace and happiness in her new life. She deserves it!
I would come home late, eat and ago to a film, anything. On weekends leave at 7 am and stay somewhere else on Saturday night.
Well-written.
Never allow yourself to be taken advantage of......and it is time to move out...the more you help out the more you are taken advantage of
These doormatts are funny they just take it 😂
Don’t come home from work and get your own apartment.
Why is Anna paying the totality of the utility bills by herself? Why don’t the parents pay part? Why doesn’t doormat Anna say SHE has plans for the weekend? Leave the house early and return after midnight…just say NO!
Also, four adults don’t make enough money to pay for their shared expenses? Mike has a job, Dad has a job, Mom has a part time job so what does Sarah do?
Sarah shops and eats out. 😝
@ With no money? Oh yeah, they’re being supported by doormat Anna! 🤣🤣
Finally standing up for yourself and breaking free from that toxic cycle is beyond empowering! The moment you packed your bag and walked out was chef’s kiss - your happiness and peace come first, always
Who the hell care about aunty Linda party stay your ass home if u don't have a baby sitter these ppl r so freaking unbelievable so happy u move out
OP, why are you so spineless? Honestly, I just can't believe any of this is true. That anyone could be such a doormat.
It’s not true. Dumb story. I listen to them anyway, shaking my head. I used to care for my younger brothers and sisters, paid my own way through college, not expecting $$ or special attention from my hard working parents. My older brother used to share his paycheck to help the family. I hope I can find some enjoyable stories where family isn’t mean or resentful towards each other…
Don't say anything, just pack your things and leave.
As soon as you heard that your sister was moving in I would of moved out an didn’t say a word
OP literally allowed her parents and sister to wipe their feet on her, while she paid their bills and was the unpaid unappreciated babysitter!!
With time maybe things will change? Not a prayer. Keep them blocked and out of your life OP. Mooches like that never change. Especially if they find out you have more money than they do. Stand firm.
She gave the kids access by not locking the door. A common thing in stories like this. Sarah said "need to" instead of have to. Time to talk to Aunt Linda.
As soon as you were expected to move out of your own room was the time to move out. No telling Mum or anyone that you were thinking of doing it, just do it and tell them as you leave.
I don't know why you stayed after the second class way they treated you your whole life.. You're just a modern day Cinderella, and human ATM.. Let their golden goose pay their bills..
FIND YOURSELF A PLACE ON YOUR OWN
Why do all these stories have the same story line of parents and relatives inviting deadbeats to live in their homes on top of the person paying the bills.
Weekend after weekend!!! NO!!!! Don't talk!! RUN!! Rent a room somewhere. So, we're a doormat, huh
She should have just moved out and presented them with a fait accompli.
How can they afford to go out EVERY WEEKEND if they are broke?
I would have been gone when no one else would help pay the bills. And I would not be babysitting all the time. Those are their kids.
Why do they always answer the phone to toxic family members?
To create drama for fake stories
I can't believe her family couldn't even realize how much they have been using her. I would've walked out after the first month.
And "but we're family"
You should have moved out the minute your brother and wife moved in you are there ATM don't say anything just move out
omg you must be joking they are your kids not mine i will not look after them ever again
Maybe with the money they spend on fancy restaurants.
Wait a minute but they can't help you pay the bills but they can go out on dinner dates I'm not paying for child care like a babysitter.
Why,, oh why, didn't Anna stop coming home right after work? With the simple explanation of, "I'm working extra hours to pay the skyrocketing bills you guys ran up" she could get coffee with a co-worker and take a walk, spend an hour or two iat the library, window shop at the mall.
Ops parents and Sister and brother-in-law can't afford to pay for anything? Even though op is single but yet she has no life because of her entitled family, yea I would move have moved out asap.
Doormat, start speaking up and say NO.
You teach people how to treat you. Kudos for her for finally finding the courage to stop being a doormat. Her sister has a degree as well. She can work full time. The oldest child can go to kindergarten and the youngest to pre-school. Problem solved.
How does someone who doesn’t work need a break. Like WTH!! Nope I’ll be leaving the house when no one was around
Good she give them the boot lol😅😅😅😅❤😂
Mom said all that babysitting would be good practice for when you have children of your own. When did she think you would do that? With no personal time you can't meet someone, date, get married, and have those children??? You did good 👍🏻❤️
Good she give them the boot lol😅😅😅😅❤😂. Only thing was is that she was part of the problem by not telling them sooner about everything and letting them run over her . Finally she got her back bone up .
I had a similar situation when I was 20 and one day walked away. They decided to shun me, and after 40 years, when I inherited a ton of money, I started getting notices from friends that my family knew to reach out to me. I ignored them all because I had been exactly what this young person had been for her family, and I cut them all off, and now they realized that I was rich they wanted to be family again. I laughed myself to the bank and never saw them again.
Sister And Her Husband Moved In With Our Parents And Are Outraged I Refused To Babysit Their Kids...
10:53 "family helps family " if i may ask who the hell helps Anna?
The secret to escaping is finding a new place and making all your preparations before telling them that you're moving. I had to do this with my mother because every time I mentioned it, I was treated to a long monolog about how that was a bad idea. When she had one of her temper tantrums over who knows what, it lit a fire under my feet, and I literally told her two days before I moved.
We are family, right? Horrible sister acting she's the boss.
i am my own woman not your gofer or free baby sitter
What the mother needs to realize, the "good training" probably means Anna will opt NOT to have kids, even after she moves out.
No, take the kids with them.
Don’t ask. Just pickup at night and leave before they get up. Pay for your apartment. Don’t ask if you can move out.
It amazes me how many of these families forget who is breading the butter.
By not speaking up stress will cause your health to decline. Stand your ground and don’t give in
"But we're family..." "No, YOU'RE family, and see me as the add-on to do the stuff you don't want to think about." And no, OP will never have their 'family' back in their life, because it would require that they admit how they treated her to themsleves.
Do people like Anna exist?
Yes, they definitely do !!!
What happen to the Sharah job she is a college grad
This isn’t family values. It’s plainly abuse. This is stupid that anyone would actually put up with being treated like this by family and agree as an adult to stay and be boldly taken financially and physically advantage of. These poor women are raised with no self worth and no sense of self.
Why should she fix it. They took advantage of her. She's not a servant, she's a human being
Sister got an expensive education and plays the stay at home mom, because the family was hit so hard by losing everything - but the only working person with a decent salary has to babysit too, without any compensation except ridicule. How could the younger sister become a mother, if she has no chance to meet anyone for just having to work all the time - first at her job and later "for the family"... slaves are treated better than this poor working-girl, who provided for her own education - slaves don't have to pay for the expenses of the houshold too!
And you need time to recover from your workload too, not being worked to the bones like a single mother, without ever having had a love-affair or giving birth to a baby of your own...
No, after the first week of babysitting, paying the bills, I'll find an apartment on the other side of town and slowly move out.
Leave as soon as that guy has a job.
If you don't stand your ground, don't put your foot down, and don't speak up for yourself, instead caving in and prioritizing their demands, then you shouldn't be complaining, but learn to just suck it up.
Cheaters don’t understand the depth of the wounds they cause.
Why didn't OP hire a sitter and bill her sister, or spend the weekend at a friend's house? Message: I'm not a free nanny service.
Mom and Dad were counting on OP's being the main breadwinner., is what I understand. Sister and BIL want to move in and just be freeloaders. How nice.
People don't realize that when more people move in the the utilities, gas, water and electricity go way up and they don't think they are creating any issues
With your sisters education..
She should be able to start a good career..
And her kids can learn to get along in schools.....
You don't ask if 'I should move out?', you just do it...
They were right, how can you endure such nonsense while having a job to go and rent and live in peace
I thought there was a nephew and a niece but then they said two nephews.
Sarah complained what money indicating.She had no money to hire a babysitter. However how did she have all this money to go out with her husband to make friends all the time
What kind of sick people would name their son Emma. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The story where daughter was called selfish for refusing to babysit sisters kids…. My mom treated me the same while I had5 little kids, and refused to come and drive her to shop in mall because my kids were sick with flu, and suggested to take a bus…. Until than the guilt was killing me if I could do mom’s bidding, I was so used to be used…. And also mom had a car, but she didn’t want to drive when she’s shopping…. But when my kids weren’t even as important as my mom’s shopping, I woke up… for 25 years now I don’t do anything for my mom, and she’s perfectly fine without my help, because my brother and sister are helping since, whereas they almost never helped before…. How do manipulative moms get into their good kids heads so badly?… never give anything to the good ones, but volunteer to give things to the selfish ones without them even asking?….
then the four of you can all get jobs and pay for your own things i am on my own now
When you need someone you don’t throw no one out and you don’t have one money
Ya know what really grinds my gears:
How the relatives run around hollering about how the OP is being so selfish because he/she wants to live her/his life her/his way without all the family drama getting in the way( you don't hear any of the relatives"volunteering" to help out; it's what we old schoolers call "armchair quarter backing"; don't get me wrong she set her self up when she moved back home after graduating from college,but she should have put some boundaries in place after all the shouting was said and done;then there's her parents, enabling her sister,OP should have slammed the brakes on that one before it ever got off the ground
Crazy story, training,
lol run. 🏃♀️....... 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ 👶 👶
Should have packed a small bag and taken it to work on Friday morning, book into a small hotel for the weekend and then sister and husband on Friday will not have a babysitter.
If they had no job and no savings, how did they afford all those shopping trips and dinners out
No one can take advantage of you unless you let them
4 adults, and they can't pay for their own home. Really really
And here’s yet another babysitting story.
10:48 OP brings up she CAMNNOT pay the electricity bill on her own. The family attack her (for apparently being negative?). NONE of that pays the bills! Put money on the table or leave the convo and don't wonder why BIL cannot seem to get the kitchen lights to turn on. Or the stove. And the refrigerator has a funny smell now.
"Gimme some dough, Mac!"
Why would someone put up with this? You’re an adult act like one, stop letting people walk all over you.
She should take a vacation and tell family she was laid off. They'd probably kick her out fast.
Brother in law could at least get a part time or temp job. When he isn't working Sarah could work at least part time and the kids father could take care of them.
The grandparents don't want to be left with the kids. And the kids oarents get "time off kids" they're all just taking advantage of her while she works a job to pay the entire families kids and v babysits for free weekends and isn't "allowed" to have a weekend to herself.
When the sister came to live with you and your parents ,why didn't she go out and get a job. And put the kids in daycare, there are daycares that go by your incomes. All of the money your parents put out for her college was a waste of money, she is definitely lazy. There are alot of single women who work and raise their kids. There's no way I would support my sister's family and parents. No one would use me as a ATM . EVER.