I'm 20 weeks pregnant with his baby, she's now 8 weeks pregnant with his baby too. Knowing my baby will have a sibling they'll never know and a father that didn't want him, hurt me the most. We will be okay ❤
@@kathrynlake- oh my god, I'm so so sorry :(( Are you REALLY okay? It's easier to confess to a stranger you know. I wish you and your baby all the best honey ❤
I would never wish it upon anyone, but it does make me wonder what was wrong with me that she got to be treated better. Never had to wake up with bruises and never walked away with physical and emotional scars. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you've healded or that you are on your road to. ♡♡♡♡
💯 he did. Then she hit her head, and died. She really did. Now he’s pining “The love of his life”. They were together a year. We were married for 16 years, together about 20. Been single a decade now. But at least I got our children out. I don’t know about karma, but it’s heartbreaking to hear so many of us let them do it. And that goes for both sexes. I love this song, don’t remember how I found it, but it’s on repeat on my Spotify playlist
@@taliyahs1918 the reason I put people is because I believe in my opinion at least that anyone, man or woman, can relate to this song because everyone has gone through heartaches before
Exactly. I thought wow she is so pretty and then this quote hit me like a train. I don’t know if people here are representibg themselves or others but telling someone they are not pretty enough is such a dick move
Honestly she is stunning, but that's on her for sticking around 8 years in an abusive relationship. He's a shitty person, but leaving is the best thing for her. Obviously she wasn't gonna leave him, here she is heartbroken over an abuser...
@@IDiggPattyMayonnaise Have you ever been with an abuser? They get in your head and make you feel like you aren't good enough for them and if you aren't good enough for them, then you aren't for anyone. At least that's what my ex husband told me. I was married to him for 6 years before I finally left.
Okay but how you managed to make a video with even more depth and emotion than the song itself is astounding. Some of the most poignant lyrics I’ve ever heard - Words that ring so much truth it’s destructively beautiful. This is fucking art. You’re a fucking artist.
Omg. I've never heard a song more perfect than this. She got the flowers, the ring, the title "Beautiful " in his phone. Nevermind we were together for 22 yrs and have a 21 yr eold son together. He reads HER texts AND responds to them immediately. I get nothing. He says they haven't talked then I see in black and white on his phone "I love you baby", "meet at the same spot? I can't wait to see you baby" am then the kicker one night was "I wish I was going to bed next to you tonight but I can't do I'm sleeping alone" WHILE I'M LASTING NEXT TO HIM..... after 22 yrs od being by his side through hell and back. We broke up for 3 yrs and he was with her for 1½ then she booted him out to remarry the man she originally left for Jim. But they still carry on this fantasy life over text and secret meet ups. 2 days ago after he promised me that we were going to have the world together forever, blah blah blah. I found texts between them again. I'm so broken and so lost. He thinks he can tell me a bunch of excuses AGAIN but I can't do this anymore. I can't trust him and I know I'll have to live with Jim & Tina's bullshit forever. I can do that. I won't be 2nd to her in the man I have loved for 23 years heart. I won't be a fucking joke to him anymore. She can have the flowers.
I am emotionally distraught by the ending of this song. It sounds like her voice is snapping off, piece by piece. This hit me so freaking hard that when I first heard this song, I ugly cried.
This video just randomly popped up on my account. I’m 9 months pregnant and he left for his ex that “I had nothing to worry about”. This song hit home for me.. He didn’t just choose her over me, he chose her over his daughter that isn’t even here yet.
He chose her over me and our baby boy.. a week ago. Being a parent and having the father leave like this is soul shattering. Sending you so much love and strength Maria! We can do this, our babies chose us for a reason 🌻💗
“You were too depressed,” I never thought that would hurt so badly until he told me how could he love me if I couldn’t love myself. So, I loved myself and he didn’t love that either. It wasn’t me it was him, yet why couldn’t he choose me?
My husband and I were together for 21 years, married 14 of those years. He told me the exact same thing and now we've been separated for almost 2 weeks. Guess what...I found true love...in myself!!!
I got told this too. He’s a narcissist, he just couldn’t feed off of you anymore. Don’t believe him. You are worth everything, you are worth life and love. I don’t know you, but I love you 💕
These lyrics are masterfully written and preformed. It gives me the chills when someone else can express my emotions better than I ever could, and make it sound how it feels. Beautiful song, can’t wait to hear more from you!!
Same happened to me. Sometimes you don't know what's toxic until you break up. But im so happy we did and I have found the love of my life. Well be married next year :)
Power hugs to all woman around the world. If you read this, it is not an accident. You are loved. You are amazing. You are wonderfully made. Let's embrace each other and find rest. 💛
I hope their exes see this and regret how poorly they treated them ! To everyone who’s reading this: You are perfect and totally enough the way you are. You are worthy of everything you dream for ❤️
“She get the flowers…” The only flowers worth receiving are the ones you give yourself. Your self worth doesn’t depend on anyone else but yourself. Love yourself and as you go through stages of your life, remember to give yourself flowers.
It's unbelievably insane how we hold on to people we love.. I hurt soo bad for soo long over someone who didn't deserve love. But if that hadn't happened I wouldn't have found the love of my life It always gets better. Promise.
just stumbled across this video - didn't intend to cry at 7:30am but here we are😩 as someone who has done a lot of healing herself, i can honestly say that the worst pain i've ever felt was during breakups. time heals, and it's amazing that these women were able to share their stories and be vulnerable. letting yourself feel the emotions is so needed and valid💕 my heart goes out to these women. i pray they find healing, recognize their worth, and love themselves whole heartedly
"You were too depressed." Hit me hard. That actually hit me the hardest. How can you say that to a person, who might be depressed?! Every single women doesn't desever ANY of this! He ABUSED her for EIGHT YEARS?! He had a baby with someone else. Made her believe it's her fault. That's just so sad.... How can you do that to her? That video, THESE WOMEN, was freaking deep. Wow.... And even Beth McCarthy was crying. Everyone cried...
When you told your ex that being called 'retarded' makes your urge to self harm worse, and his response is that you shouldn't do things that make him call you that then.. Then you read this comment.
the swifites are here, but seriously it's a really powerful sentiment. Ridding yourself of people you thought you couldn't live without and then proving yourself wrong is so empowering
If you’re reading this Know that you are Beautiful, Wanted and most of all you’re Loved. It may not feel like it because someone hurt your heart and made you feel horrible. But the truth is it wasn’t you! It’s the person we love the most who hurts us. Just stay strong because something or someone amazing will come along and treat you right. You are beautiful strong and smart. Don’t give up on yourself We need you. Love yourself and thrive.
don’t worry, you’ll know he’s the one when he is willing to fight through every flaw you and he have and every bump in the road to be with you rather than giving up when things get difficult.
i was waiting for a happy ending to this song but it doesn’t have one, so i wrote my own poem loosely inspired by this song ! (in no way am i trying to overshadow or disrespect the original lyrics/meaning, i was simply inspired by the lyrics and had my own ideas!) this is called: “she gets the flowers; i’ll grow a garden” “tell me what she has that i don’t why were you so quick to let us go? cause i’m not what you wanted i lived hidden in your shadow i gave you everything, everything you wanted and more now the choir won’t sing and you’re slamming the door now she gets the flowers, and love letters sealed with a kiss i see the posts you make about her, you swung at me and never missed i got excuses, made me feel useless left me in the dust and walked away i used to hold onto you but now i confess i tried so hard but couldn’t make you stay tell me why i wasn’t enough do her eyes look better when they shine? tell me, doesn’t she call your bluff? do her lips taste sweeter than mine? and she gets the flowers, so i’ll grow a garden full of daisies and roses of my own i’ll find a new place to put my heart in i can’t rely on you, your colors have shown now my garden is ready to bloom i measured them as they grew i think it’s safe to assume my flowers are pretty too” thoughts? :)
Yeah really. I hope I never have to relate to this song... It's so beautiful and tragic though I'm glad that the people who do actually have a song that makes em feel understood and not alone
The lyrics can apply to any scenario where I invested my time and energy in a situation and the end result is zero return despite my best efforts. Like an employee getting fired from his/her job after 15 years of dedication to the company and getting replaced by the bosses son who'll receive a higher salary, better perks and benefits.
I’ve never been in a relationship but I’m currently crying to this because of how many friends I’ve had that ended up ditching me in the end Even my best friend for almost thirteen years is leaving and I’m not even sure if it’s me My parents don’t help with that feeling because they keep telling me that the friends I currently have are just gonna leave because I’m not gay, because even my own parents can’t find one reason for someone who isn’t blood related to me to want to stay And I currently have a crush on one of my friends and I just want to tell him and get a no in order to move on because I am pretty sure he don’t like me like that, but I can’t because I don’t want to lose him as a friend, or anyone else in my current friend group Sorry for the rant it’s just I don’t really have anyone in person who I can talk to about everything
To the beautiful woman at 1:32 and to anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship. He hasn’t changed for her. People like that don’t change. He is, was and always will be an abuser.
Married for 9 years, loved him and his family with every bit of my being, supported him emotionally, financially, worked like a maid with a full time job too, never asked for money, never let him do the chores, and got dumped on our 9th anniversary like I was nothing.
He told me “I’m not in love with you” “I need to focus on me” “I still want to be friends”. . And after 4 months ... Beth comes to remind me that with a song 💔😭
Girl Heard the same story 4 years ago I still remember those words over text But You'll find someone that deserves you, in the end ❤ Trust the process I know it hurts, dear but, it's not worth to suffer over someone who didn't choose you
My first ex was the same, my first ex was a crush I had for 4 years, when I finally confessed... After a month he confirmed that we were dating. After two months of dating, he tells me that he can't do this anymore and wants to end the bf and gf thing... He told me he dated me without having feelings for me, always compared me to his exes and never wanted to do anything with me, never wanted to go on call with me bc I was too embarrassing to be around. I gave him all of me and put my 1000% into the relationship. Justified his actions and always apologized even though I was the one hurt....after he broke up with me he told me he still wanted to be friends... After him, I had major trust issues and many insecurities. Like was I not enough? Was I boring to be around? Was I too ugly for him? What's wrong with me? Am I even lovable? And etc. But 2 years later I meet this man and he treats me well, loves me, reminds me every single day of how much I mean to him and how much he loves me, someone who was patient with me when I was going through shit and was super insecure, he reminds me that I was special and worthy, lastly... He makes me happy and feel loved. I couldn't be happier. So trust me, it'll get better, one day you'll meet someone who would love you for you even when you don't love you for you. You'll find them one day ☺️💓 it's worth the wait, but remember to love yourself too when others can't... Cause in the end of the day, you are your own supporter, friend and lover. So treat yourself, love yourself and be there for yourself so that when others can't... You'll know to be there for yourself.
Same, the same fucking sentence + for me he told me "I left you bc I was scared to cheat on you, and it wasn't possible in my head to do that to you bc I have so much respect for you"
Those horrible people who made us cry & then made excuses, we deserve better than them ! Let them be with anyone else I'm glad we aren't with them ! ❤️
@@bliviously5484 thank you so much, but it's my own fault for thinking something good could actually happen in this life. I should have known better idk.
@@zerozero7158 that’s not true. Good things do happen in this life, not a whole lot but they do. It will get easier. Think of it this way, it wasn’t your fault and in a sense you were “saved” from spending any more time or even marrying a person that doesn’t treat you right. Now you can focus on healing and eventually once you are ready meet someone who deserves you I would get a cat/dog (depends on your preference). Unconditional Love each and every day.
@@claracatlady9844 thank you for your comment, I appreciate it very much. Believe it or not, but I did just that, I got a small puppy, but got screwed over. The puppy was much younger than the seller claimed and it had epileptical attacks. I had my Cookie (that's the name I gave her) for a little more than two weeks. Just enough to get used to her being around. Then on March 21st she died in my arms after we had spent almost all week at the vet. Today I've been thinking about her, it's sunny outside and she would have enjoyed the weather a lot. I know you are right, I'm aware that things do eventually get better. But yea, it's hard to see it at the moment.
He left me after 21 years and started dating my best friend within a week of telling me he wanted a divorce, which he did 4 days after our anniversary. I had 4 kids with him, stayed at home to save on daycare costs, and scrambled for us to survive has he worked his tail off to get where he is now. And now that everything is easy, he's moving on. He won't try therapy for me, but as soon as she says something, he starts looking in to it. I'm only 40 and it was just starting to get really really good. Now I'm on my own.
How devastating for you. Truly heart breaking. I understand I have been married for 21 years and have four kids and its a shock when this happens. Your whole life is crumbling under your feet. You deserve a man who would fight for your marriage and at least go to therapy. Also how awful that your best friend went off with your husband , thats the worst betrayal. When you have stayed at home raising the kids and supported your husband in there job ,it makes it harder to know where to start. Im so sorry you are going through this. sending you a virtual hug.
Ya'll beautiful! All of you! And you are ENOUGH, for YOURSELF no matter if someone else sees it or not!! If you're an empathic I'm sure you felt the pain in their eyes. Sad but beautiful song. Love and hugs!
The "you were too depressed" hurt my heart. How could someone be so cruel to stomp on someones heart like that. Hope all these ladies can be happy bc they deserve that just like we all do. We all deserve happiness. 💙
People who take their promises seriously make sure they actually deliver on their promises (which they keep reasonably limited) before they go off making more. Nowadays I just find it disrespectful when someone has barely executed their existing promises but they’re gonna flood you with more and more barrages of grand promises. It’s just to get what they want, after which it turns out to be a bait and switch of future faking. Maybe they should stop to work on delivering some of their promises before making new ones in such a reckless and cruel way to set the other person up for devastation later. I’m really, really sorry about what you went through. I personally have been on that same broken boat
Every woman in this video can now go find the right guy or girl for them. You don’t want someone who’s going to be happier with someone else. But of course, it hurts in the moment.
God! This video is so underrated! Beth's vocals from 2:26 to 2:56! OH MY GOD!!!! That part is gonna echo throughout the stadium if she ever performs! I hope she does!
Tell me what she has that I don't Why you were so fast to let go of us? 'Cause she's all you wanted When it was my heart you didn't want it Why wasn't I cast in your show? 'Cause I gave you everything And all my friends are saying it's you, it's not me Wish I could believe them But she gets the flowers, right? The posts made about her A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah A love that I gave I got excuses and you got to use this Lеave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away But shе gets the flowers, right? She gets the flowers Tell me why I wasn't enough After all that I gave up for you Was it too much to ask? For just a part of what I gave you back, oh-ooh-oh Why was I so hard to love? (So hard to love) And you found your person Oh, there's nothing worse than knowing she's happy The way I wanted to be And she gets the flowers, right? The posts made about her A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah A love that I gave I got excuses, you got to use this Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away And she gets the flowers, right? Yes, she gets the flowers Oh, oh, oh Do her eyes look better when they shine? Do her lips taste sweeter than mine? Does she look prettier when she cries? Was I just too hard to handle? Too emotionally unstable? You don't want me And I can't change your mind She gets the flowers, right? The posts made about her A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah A love that I gave I got excuses, you got to use this Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away And she gets the flowers, right?
The fact that it is very underrated is killing me... I listen to it a thousand times in a day... So sorry for those who hasn't find out this song yet n the nice feeling they will get after finding out 💚
@@mariankushigbor9605 then no one doesn’t get flowers... or no one gets them. There’s always someone along the lines hurt... now I’m in an existential crisis. 😬
Yeah there are some good men. I was in an abusive marriage for a decade and now I'm engaged to a really really good man who I fully trust, we were friends for 6 years before we got together. He's a catch but his anxiety stopped him from getting close to people, he'd only had 2 serious girlfriends in his life and first one went away to college and they mutually ended it due to that, second one cheated on him and ran off with a guy who cheated on her really quickly. So I'm not taking anyone's flowers lol
I always am afraid that my boyfriend would leave me, cause I'm too depressed. Not good enough. Not happy enough. Not enough energetic. But he makes sure to remind me that i am good enough for him. And even if he stops wanting me. It won't be me or my depression. It will be just our relationship that broke. Because we couldn't build it more. And that's ok.
I truly hope the best for you guys, stay a strong-loving couple! I was afraid of that too but he kept reminding that I am enough, I'm everything he wants. The same day I drew something for him, he told me he chose another girl over me... because of distance.... because "oh, you know, distance is what gets between us, you're going to be just fine. but i still want to be your friend!! :D" the pain, the endless crying, the nonstop breaking of mt heart, the emptiness is just... unbelievable infinite. i wish you not to experience this feeling, I've never cried harder before....
My mom is mentally ill, I gave my life for her, she supported me sometimes... But to often I was the "dumb, bad, asshole child" often enough I wasn't good enough... Tried to redesign the world perfect for her... Until I wasn't strong enough any longer... She loves me but broke me the same way my father did.... At the age of 17 I talked to a helper at my school and he called somebody... I was taken out of my home... Now my bestfriend became her new daughter... They do everything we did, they are there for each other, but without the "your a bad child" - thing... They are happy, while I was in mental hospital.... I'm better now, but it was really hard. It's still hard... Because doesn't matter how your mother will treat you, you'll always love her and want to be good enough for her, but the sad truth is: you never will. But you can be enough for yourself, even if it sounds too hard. You can still be happy and become a better mother for your children... Someday you'll get the love you deserve, maybe not from your mother but in a different way.
I don't know who have to read this but to all the Girls out there who've been going through something always remember that you are worth it. You are pretty and you deserve the best things in life. Hang in there ❤️.
We were friends for three years before we started dating and we were together for two and a half years then he broke up with me. He was seeing someone for FIVE months before we broke up. There were rumours about it and people told me to my face that they saw him out with another girl. I brushed it off and believed he was just hanging out with a friend. I should've really listened to those around me. I was so heartbroken at first, before that all dissolved into anger. I supported him and encouraged him and stood by him for so long since we were just friends even when others didn't believe in him. When he got where he wanted, he left me and just two days later I heard he had a new girlfriend. And he gave her all the credit, saying that she was there and supported him through it all. He called her the devoted and supportive girlfriend when I did that. I heard they were getting married and I wish I could say I was happy for them, but I'm not. And maybe I never will and I felt horrible at first that I couldn't be happy for him, but I realized that I don't owe them that and it's okay if I don't. I'm just gonna forget that he was a part of my life and erase all of it and work on me because I deserve it. I deserve to be happy and I shouldn't give others power over that. It's mine.
Been there, done that. Same situation. Same feeling. I know what u feel. Everything that ur feeling right now are valid. Just let it be. Feel the hurt until u dont feel hurt anymore. Believe me one day u wont feel the same intense of pain and anger anymore. Take ur time to heal yourself. One day u will just wakeup and tell yourself that ur fine. Ur okay. And u now realised all the lessons that u got from ur past relationship. I hope you will hold on to that day. Sending u light and peace. 💛Its my first time to comment but i feel that u need to hear this. ❤️
@@Grace-diary Thanks for your kind words. I am working on myself now and I'm waiting for the day that comes when I don't feel the hurt as much anymore. I'm glad you commented it means a lot to me. And I hope you are also faring better from what happened to you too. Sending you lots of light and peace to you too😊💛
I am literally going through something like this right now. Not even gonna pretend like I'm not ugly crying. TH-cam knew I needed to see this song. Really sucks when you always feel like you're never good enough.
Same and I’d like to tell you it gets better, but it hasn’t for me.. here I am 38, married and got cheated on 3 days after our wedding day.. haven’t been intimate since and that’s been 2 years. Hopefully you find a man/woman whichever you prefer, that makes you realize why nothing else worked out. I lost my chance with the good guy bc I was too busy being faithful to the one who was unfaithful. No matter how much you want something to work, some times it just doesn’t and it sucks but let me tell you, nothing is worse than staying where you’re used, neglected and feel unloved, unworthy and just not good enough. I feel like half of me has died living this way and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I just walk around numb most of the time but then I hear songs like this and reality sets in that I’m not enough for him and never was. Good luck girlie, you’re beautiful and are so worthy of being loved and appreciated, just remember that.
Hold up! It's not you wasn't good enough..YOU WAS TOO GOOD FOR THEM! Great advice.. love yourself put your energy into yourself, don't waste it any on anyone! who doesn't give you at least 50% back! Also their are plenty of toys nowadays to keep you happier, then deadbeat soul crusher.. ❤
It's never about you :( just know the choices people make are a reflection of them. You are so so worthy, and you are so beautiful. I promise you that it is not YOU. I've been there. I kept second guessing why he left, that it's because I was too hard to love, I was too broken, too needy, not enough. But I realised it was never me, I am fine and amazing being me. And you are fine and amazing being you, please. Believe and trust me on this. This song had me heart broken. It is beautiful. But remember you have a power, no one can be you. You are best the way you are.
The feeling of getting rejected when you have given your everything to them, hurts like hell. " She gets the flower, right" I could really feel the pain in the lines🍁🍁🍁🍁.
How are you gonna say she was too depressed then leave her for her bestfriend? That's double betrayal! How do you think she feels now?? Smh. People are the worst I tell ya! All these stories broke my heart. This song is perfect❤.
As a human being i want to apologize to everyone i saw in that video for all the bad things humans do. And as a broken hearted i hope you're all better and happy
My heart broke a little bit 💔 to all the people out there who were treated like they weren't enough... You are enough! You are so much more than enough
A long time ago I would’ve said I relate to this song. But I can now say I get the flowers. I am happily married with a baby on the way. With a man I feel so proud to call the father of my child. A man who gets me more than flowers. Someone who makes me feel beautiful, safe and loved. I promise you will one day get the flowers. And the wait will be so very worth it.
To all the human beings feeling like they‘re not enough: YOU ARE ENOUGH! Just because someone is not able to recognize your inner beauty doesn‘t make you less lovable. You are loved and you are enough, even at your darkest days. The right people will always see your light, no matter how dark you feel ♥️
I am so sorry for those that have experienced this pain. I've never been in a relationship but this had me in tears. Sending virtual hugs to all of you
I've lost count of the number of times I've cried listening to this song, the number of times I've wanted to scream. What's so relieving about this song is that we're not alone. There are so many people out there who've been through the same things we've been through, and got back on their feet after falling in love with the wrong person. And that gives us hope.
He said I'd done nothing wrong, gave a long list of my virtues, followed by another long list of all the wonderful times we'd had together, things done, places visited etc. Obviously all that was not enough because he added that he might live to regret his decision, and walked out of my life forever. I have regretted his decision every day.
He made me feel like I wasn't me anymore. He said he couldn't feel the pressure of my depression even though he was the reason for my medication. It's better that it's over.
This song would have been perfect for me a year ago.. The choosing someone else, the "they had a baby I couldnt", the "she means nothing" the "id choose you". Im so happy and thankful for the lesson that relationship taught me, and how it made me stronger 🙏🏾
I wish I found this when I was 20. Boyfriend left me after 4 years- said he wanted me to be happier. Turns out he was hooking up with my best friend at the time. They ran off together, got married & started a family. I questioned my own worth if he chose her over me. It took a very long time to find the courage to love myself again as stupid as it sounds. I’ve been in a happy relationship for nearly 6 years and he is everything he wasn’t for me. He is everything they weren’t. 💛 dont ever give up. True love exists and it won’t hurt you.
From 2:58, you can see that their life together was flashing before their eyes. I've never felt so heartbroken over complete stranger's heartbreaks😭😭😭😭
Gosh this made me so emotional. Seeing everyone containing their sadness in for so long and falling apart, seeing their heartbroken faces. I am not okay.
I can rate to almost all of these. Almost 3 of these match my previous relationship. He was mentally and emotionally abusive to me, cheated on me and blamed me for it, and made me feel like not only I wasnt enough for him, but that I wasnt enough for myself or my daughter. He told me to my face "Well we both know who will be raising that baby and it's not you". Ps. I never thought I'd make it past 17, but I'm 20 now with the most gorgeous daughter who loves me the way no man ever could, I also found a relationship with a man who always put me first, one who took his time with me and held doors, he didnt blame me when a problem came up but instead asked how I thought WE should fix it. I have all the reasons to be happy now.
To all women out there, you are perfect exactly how you are! A "man" who leaves you, who cheats on you, who abuses is not a man at all! You are better than them and I hope with all my heart you find a real man who will shower you with love and happiness xo
Sometimes I feel so alone, my ex of 5 years left me a year after we moved across the country together.. He was my first love and said he'd love me forever, but as soon as we moved to a more populated city he left me for someone else and I was left alone with nobody. It's been 4 months, and he's got a brand new boyfriend and I'm left here. This song perfectly encapsulates the feeling of not knowing what you did wrong, what you could've done to save the relationship you put so much time and effort into. I hope one day, I'll find happiness again but right now I feel like things will never get any better and I'll do my best to keep taking it day by day. If you're struggling with this too, I hope you'll find happiness again one day and that someone deserving of your love is the next person that comes into your life. ❤
After 10 years of marriage my husband cheated and had a relationship for over a year behind my back. He just dropped me like trash and walked away to be with her. This song touches my heart and hopefully one day I can heal.
You will. You will go on to live a healthier life, with someone who deserves you. Its a test of time and its harder on some of us as compared to others, but we pull through. We just gotta remind ourselves that we are human, we will feel the pain, we will feel it carve our hearts out, but we need to persevere, as it isn't you who is at fault. 10 years seems to be a very long time, you will definitely heal, and find someone who fills your heart perfectly and makes it his/her own.
That’s terrible so sad But he wasn’t good enough for u If he was cheating & walked out on u I hope after u heal & learn to love yourself again u will meet someone who appreciates u & fall in love all over again! ❤️
The fact that my boyfriend still communicates with his ex who cheated on him twice and still sees her occasionally terrifies me. I don't want to lose him to someone who hurt him
Girl you gotta communicate with him. Tell him that’s making you uncomfortable and if he assumes you’re upset or controlling tell him you just don’t want to see him get hurt.
I had a similar situation. My ex had to communicate with his ex wife because they have children together. I understand that. But when I confronted him about how I don't like how friendly he was with her. He assumed I was jealous. Nah I was not jealous of some woman who cheated on him 3 times and the last time was a secret affair with his own father! They divorced after that and she had two more kids with his dad! And he still considered her as like a good friend. BRO WTF?!? That is not okay. How someone can be such "good friends" with someone who did that to them, I will never understand. If he can't respect your feelings and your boundaries then he needs to go. My ex literally dumped me because I couldn't get along with his two faced, drama causing ex wife. SMH! And at first I was heart broken, but then I realized how much stress I lost and I was so much happier. I know you don't want to lose him. I've been there. But if he wants to go back for a 3rd round of cheating. That's on him sis, but don't you let that man do it to you.
I guess I'm too much of a hothead because if I saw him doing that, I would dump his ass so fast it would make his head spin. The situation opens the door to potential cheating. Period.
He was ashamed of me, he ended up leaving me for someone else, someone younger and prettier. “I love you but I can’t be with you. Hopefully we can talk in the future…” we haven’t talked since
I hate to say this. But I think heartbreak is a very necessary part of life. Not to demean any of the experiences shared here. I was once told my love was too motherly. So ...I get it. However, it also showed me that I don't need to be a nurturer in my relationships, save that for my future kids. I pray that the light will shine for everyone that has experienced pain in the hands of a man and accept the truth that men (and women) and all humanity is broken. Any idea we have of love can only be divine. Love that such music exists to help us release the feelings.
I love him. I rarely smile, but him, he puts a smile on my face. She will never love him more than I do. But he still chooses her. The one who doesn't care. That's the one he chooses. Why do we all choose the ones who don't love us and ignore the ones who do?
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"They had the baby we couldn't have" breaks my heart the most.
I cried
that broke me
Devastating💔
I'm 20 weeks pregnant with his baby, she's now 8 weeks pregnant with his baby too. Knowing my baby will have a sibling they'll never know and a father that didn't want him, hurt me the most. We will be okay ❤
@@kathrynlake- oh my god, I'm so so sorry :(( Are you REALLY okay? It's easier to confess to a stranger you know. I wish you and your baby all the best honey ❤
bro, the “he abused me but now he has changed... FOR HER” hits me
😭🤧
No, he hasn't changed. It's the same asshole
He looks good playing with her daughter, but he chose not to know his son.
I would never wish it upon anyone, but it does make me wonder what was wrong with me that she got to be treated better. Never had to wake up with bruises and never walked away with physical and emotional scars. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you've healded or that you are on your road to. ♡♡♡♡
💯 he did. Then she hit her head, and died. She really did. Now he’s pining “The love of his life”. They were together a year. We were married for 16 years, together about 20. Been single a decade now. But at least I got our children out. I don’t know about karma, but it’s heartbreaking to hear so many of us let them do it. And that goes for both sexes. I love this song, don’t remember how I found it, but it’s on repeat on my Spotify playlist
“ she kept me a secret but tells everyone about her “ .. hits hard when it happens over and over-
I'm crying because of this😭
It's so unfair that there are so many of us here, living this exact thing
@@fifi6401 :/ im living like that too but it’s long distance instead .. just that our parents don’t know, her friends don’t know, mine do ..
I’m always people’s secret because majority are not strong enough to show their secrets to the world...expect to the gatekeeper, the holder of secrets
😢😢
“He abused me for 8 years, but changed for her” I felt that so hard.
You are so worth anything special and perfect because you are
I got called ugly and hit over and over, and she gets called beautiful and the hugs and kisses I wanted so much...
I instantly cried reading that..like wth
Im crying
That's just not faire!!!😡
To the girl who said she couldnt give him a baby, honey the universe knew. You're going to be a great mother some day💗
FRRRR
Yes, divine intervention. ✨️
Exactly just not with him
I think the saddest part about this song is how so many people can relate to it
*women
@@taliyahs1918 I think people is a better word because it's not just women
@@sabrina8887 men cheat more than women do.
@Shelli Selby I know this darling. Dont need to state the obvious. But the way in which women suffer is much more universal than men.
@@taliyahs1918 the reason I put people is because I believe in my opinion at least that anyone, man or woman, can relate to this song because everyone has gone through heartaches before
To the blonde woman who got told that she is not pretty enough: You are absolutely gorgeous and beautiful.
Exactly. I thought wow she is so pretty and then this quote hit me like a train. I don’t know if people here are representibg themselves or others but telling someone they are not pretty enough is such a dick move
Honestly she is stunning, but that's on her for sticking around 8 years in an abusive relationship. He's a shitty person, but leaving is the best thing for her. Obviously she wasn't gonna leave him, here she is heartbroken over an abuser...
@@IDiggPattyMayonnaise Have you ever been with an abuser? They get in your head and make you feel like you aren't good enough for them and if you aren't good enough for them, then you aren't for anyone. At least that's what my ex husband told me. I was married to him for 6 years before I finally left.
That was my first thought when I saw her: "wow, she's gorgeous!"
@@IDiggPattyMayonnaise if you haven't ever been in a abusive relationship (bf/gf, mother/father etc,) don't fucking blame the victim.
“You were too depressed” hit me hard 😔
Frl that’s what my ex told me
she said i had a lot of issues
my husband said the same thing
my ex said I don't smile enough.
@@TheEvie1995 I'm sure the right person is going to make you smile, so its probably his fault that you didnt smile enough around him
I want to hug everyone who's been through something like this :((
I need a hug.
Would sure be nice
Am in the middle of break down alone crying my heart out wish I can get someone to just tell me it is going to be okay😢😢
@@judyjonathan1318Hey, it's going to be ok. Big hugs
Me tooo
The emotion in Beth's voice is stunning.
"Right" hits different
I love when singers sing heartfelt songs and u can see they really feel it, it makes the whole thing way more emotional
Okay but how you managed to make a video with even more depth and emotion than the song itself is astounding. Some of the most poignant lyrics I’ve ever heard - Words that ring so much truth it’s destructively beautiful. This is fucking art. You’re a fucking artist.
She might have managed but the ending where it was so noticeable that she crying yet still continued to sing broke me
TRUE!!!!!
I’ll agree with this. 100%.
Thank you for so eloquently saying what so many of us are thinking & feeling!!
It flew off my ring finger and he neatly broke my fuck u finger how did I get hit up sling side the head at my browears
This came up on my recommended and I accidentally clicked on this. This was the best accident ever.
Samee
SAMEEEE
Me too!
Damn. Same!
Ditto!!
That one dislike is from the girl who gets the flowers
12 of em now
Nuh its from the asshole who abused her
fr though
You made me laugh out loud ,you are funny and yet being true
Right?! 😅😂
Omg. I've never heard a song more perfect than this. She got the flowers, the ring, the title "Beautiful " in his phone. Nevermind we were together for 22 yrs and have a 21 yr eold son together. He reads HER texts AND responds to them immediately. I get nothing. He says they haven't talked then I see in black and white on his phone "I love you baby", "meet at the same spot? I can't wait to see you baby" am then the kicker one night was "I wish I was going to bed next to you tonight but I can't do I'm sleeping alone" WHILE I'M LASTING NEXT TO HIM..... after 22 yrs od being by his side through hell and back. We broke up for 3 yrs and he was with her for 1½ then she booted him out to remarry the man she originally left for Jim. But they still carry on this fantasy life over text and secret meet ups. 2 days ago after he promised me that we were going to have the world together forever, blah blah blah. I found texts between them again. I'm so broken and so lost. He thinks he can tell me a bunch of excuses AGAIN but I can't do this anymore. I can't trust him and I know I'll have to live with Jim & Tina's bullshit forever. I can do that. I won't be 2nd to her in the man I have loved for 23 years heart. I won't be a fucking joke to him anymore. She can have the flowers.
You are worth so much more than what that man is putting you through. 💔
I am emotionally distraught by the ending of this song. It sounds like her voice is snapping off, piece by piece. This hit me so freaking hard that when I first heard this song, I ugly cried.
This video just randomly popped up on my account. I’m 9 months pregnant and he left for his ex that “I had nothing to worry about”. This song hit home for me.. He didn’t just choose her over me, he chose her over his daughter that isn’t even here yet.
Hugs
He just chose less responsibility, she could be anyone. He must be really immature. Your baby is lucky to have one good parent
He chose her over me and our baby boy.. a week ago. Being a parent and having the father leave like this is soul shattering. Sending you so much love and strength Maria! We can do this, our babies chose us for a reason 🌻💗
Sending so much love❤
Sending sooo much love and hugs 🤗❤
“You were too depressed,” I never thought that would hurt so badly until he told me how could he love me if I couldn’t love myself. So, I loved myself and he didn’t love that either. It wasn’t me it was him, yet why couldn’t he choose me?
My husband and I were together for 21 years, married 14 of those years. He told me the exact same thing and now we've been separated for almost 2 weeks. Guess what...I found true love...in myself!!!
Mine told me I was never happy. Why would I be with him mistreating me?
I got told this too. He’s a narcissist, he just couldn’t feed off of you anymore. Don’t believe him. You are worth everything, you are worth life and love. I don’t know you, but I love you 💕
Your depression won't ruin your relationship with the right person. It's the person and if he wanted to he would help you. Be strong 🥺❤
Imagine being told they can't be with you because your too good because if they stayed they'd fall in love and wanna be with you forever
This was heartbreakingly beautiful. I wish I could give all the people featured in the video a big hug, because I know the exact feeling.
Just saw you said the same thing 😂 so true though 🧡
*" Neither Friends nor enemies, just strangers with memories "*
These lyrics are masterfully written and preformed. It gives me the chills when someone else can express my emotions better than I ever could, and make it sound how it feels. Beautiful song, can’t wait to hear more from you!!
Same for me too.
❤
"he abused me but now he has changed... FOR HER" hit the most. i had to cry immediately
They don’t change
same.
It's extremely unlikely he changed
The worst part is he doesn’t even understand it was abuse… I’m just realizing what happened to me and I wonder if he knew or did it unconsciously
" You were too depressed " this thing hurts like hell
Same
My partner always ask why I look so depressed 😪 We don’t do things we used to do
Ikr :/
A better man just brings blankets and snacks, puts on your favorite movie. They exist I promise.
Same happened to me. Sometimes you don't know what's toxic until you break up. But im so happy we did and I have found the love of my life. Well be married next year :)
Power hugs to all woman around the world. If you read this, it is not an accident. You are loved. You are amazing. You are wonderfully made. Let's embrace each other and find rest. 💛
Thank you!!! And the same for you too!!! You are so amazing
Thank you ❤
❤️❤️❤️
Love you all
Thanks 💞🔥
I hope their exes see this and regret how poorly they treated them !
To everyone who’s reading this:
You are perfect and totally enough the way you are. You are worthy of everything you dream for ❤️
“She get the flowers…” The only flowers worth receiving are the ones you give yourself. Your self worth doesn’t depend on anyone else but yourself. Love yourself and as you go through stages of your life, remember to give yourself flowers.
"He never made us official". "I still want us to be friends". That hurts a lot
He deleted every picture of us when we were still together. She commented hearts. She was “just a friend”. Now he’s hers.
same here 😭😭😢
same😭
Nobody owns nobody, wtf xd
@@ranarene5965 but the honesty is everything in relationship.
@@ranarene5965 if he shows new her off but didn't show op her off, that's fucked. All the 🚩🚩🚩
You've managed to create a song that embodies the feeling that every woman has felt.
So true
I’m a guy sweetie and I’ve been used as well. This feeling isn’t reserved by females 😭
@@Thiccems69 I don’t think they were saying that...but the video is kind of towards women🤷🏽♀️
Not just every woman. People of all genders have most likely experienced this.
Ive been single all my life and still felt this song 😂😂😔
It's unbelievably insane how we hold on to people we love..
I hurt soo bad for soo long over someone who didn't deserve love.
But if that hadn't happened I wouldn't have found the love of my life
It always gets better. Promise.
just stumbled across this video - didn't intend to cry at 7:30am but here we are😩 as someone who has done a lot of healing herself, i can honestly say that the worst pain i've ever felt was during breakups. time heals, and it's amazing that these women were able to share their stories and be vulnerable. letting yourself feel the emotions is so needed and valid💕 my heart goes out to these women. i pray they find healing, recognize their worth, and love themselves whole heartedly
"You were too depressed."
Hit me hard. That actually hit me the hardest. How can you say that to a person, who might be depressed?!
Every single women doesn't desever ANY of this! He ABUSED her for EIGHT YEARS?! He had a baby with someone else. Made her believe it's her fault. That's just so sad.... How can you do that to her?
That video, THESE WOMEN, was freaking deep. Wow.... And even Beth McCarthy was crying. Everyone cried...
I have depressions, too. Is hard also for the partner. We have seperate three times. I have to fight so hard for that love.
I'm chronically ill with mental illness as well and he said I was too unstable and a nursing home case. The nursing home case one hurt the most 💔
When you told your ex that being called 'retarded' makes your urge to self harm worse, and his response is that you shouldn't do things that make him call you that then..
Then you read this comment.
"he got back with his ex who meant nothing"
"I wasn't enough"
"He used me"
Foc I felt that:(((
same...
Yeah...
I can relate.
She lost him but found herself and that was everything.
I wish it was anywhere near that easy
the swifites are here, but seriously it's a really powerful sentiment. Ridding yourself of people you thought you couldn't live without and then proving yourself wrong is so empowering
If you’re reading this
Know that you are Beautiful, Wanted and most of all you’re Loved. It may not feel like it because someone hurt your heart and made you feel horrible. But the truth is it wasn’t you! It’s the person we love the most who hurts us. Just stay strong because something or someone amazing will come along and treat you right. You are beautiful strong and smart. Don’t give up on yourself We need you. Love yourself and thrive.
don’t worry, you’ll know he’s the one when he is willing to fight through every flaw you and he have and every bump in the road to be with you rather than giving up when things get difficult.
goosebumps here !!!!!!!!!!
i was waiting for a happy ending to this song but it doesn’t have one, so i wrote my own poem loosely inspired by this song !
(in no way am i trying to overshadow or disrespect the original lyrics/meaning, i was simply inspired by the lyrics and had my own ideas!)
this is called: “she gets the flowers; i’ll grow a garden”
“tell me what she has that i don’t
why were you so quick to let us go?
cause i’m not what you wanted
i lived hidden in your shadow
i gave you everything,
everything you wanted and more
now the choir won’t sing
and you’re slamming the door
now she gets the flowers,
and love letters sealed with a kiss
i see the posts you make about her,
you swung at me and never missed
i got excuses, made me feel useless
left me in the dust and walked away
i used to hold onto you but now i confess
i tried so hard but couldn’t make you stay
tell me why i wasn’t enough
do her eyes look better when they shine?
tell me, doesn’t she call your bluff?
do her lips taste sweeter than mine?
and she gets the flowers, so i’ll grow a garden
full of daisies and roses of my own
i’ll find a new place to put my heart in
i can’t rely on you, your colors have shown
now my garden is ready to bloom
i measured them as they grew
i think it’s safe to assume
my flowers are pretty too”
thoughts? :)
omg i love this
this is fckn beautifuuul
Love this beautiful ❤
It is beautiful written...
I didn't realise I needed to read this. Thank you 😭💖
When you've never been in a relationship but still feel the pain and emotions behind all these faces and lyrics❤️ it's a gem .
Yeah really. I hope I never have to relate to this song... It's so beautiful and tragic though I'm glad that the people who do actually have a song that makes em feel understood and not alone
I can relate to the " you were too depressed. " because my closest friend told me that before blocking me everywhere and leaving me.
The lyrics can apply to any scenario where I invested my time and energy in a situation and the end result is zero return despite my best efforts. Like an employee getting fired from his/her job after 15 years of dedication to the company and getting replaced by the bosses son who'll receive a higher salary, better perks and benefits.
I’ve never been in a relationship but I’m currently crying to this because of how many friends I’ve had that ended up ditching me in the end
Even my best friend for almost thirteen years is leaving and I’m not even sure if it’s me
My parents don’t help with that feeling because they keep telling me that the friends I currently have are just gonna leave because I’m not gay, because even my own parents can’t find one reason for someone who isn’t blood related to me to want to stay
And I currently have a crush on one of my friends and I just want to tell him and get a no in order to move on because I am pretty sure he don’t like me like that, but I can’t because I don’t want to lose him as a friend, or anyone else in my current friend group
Sorry for the rant it’s just I don’t really have anyone in person who I can talk to about everything
To the beautiful woman at 1:32 and to anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship. He hasn’t changed for her. People like that don’t change. He is, was and always will be an abuser.
Married for 9 years, loved him and his family with every bit of my being, supported him emotionally, financially, worked like a maid with a full time job too, never asked for money, never let him do the chores, and got dumped on our 9th anniversary like I was nothing.
He told me “I’m not in love with you” “I need to focus on me” “I still want to be friends”. . And after 4 months ... Beth comes to remind me that with a song 💔😭
You'll find the only person that you need. It's gonna be ok, I promise. 🌹
( Sorry for all my fault, i'm french.)
Girl
Heard the same story 4 years ago
I still remember those words over text
But
You'll find someone that deserves you, in the end ❤
Trust the process
I know it hurts, dear but, it's not worth to suffer over someone who didn't choose you
My first ex was the same, my first ex was a crush I had for 4 years, when I finally confessed... After a month he confirmed that we were dating. After two months of dating, he tells me that he can't do this anymore and wants to end the bf and gf thing... He told me he dated me without having feelings for me, always compared me to his exes and never wanted to do anything with me, never wanted to go on call with me bc I was too embarrassing to be around. I gave him all of me and put my 1000% into the relationship. Justified his actions and always apologized even though I was the one hurt....after he broke up with me he told me he still wanted to be friends... After him, I had major trust issues and many insecurities. Like was I not enough? Was I boring to be around? Was I too ugly for him? What's wrong with me? Am I even lovable? And etc. But 2 years later I meet this man and he treats me well, loves me, reminds me every single day of how much I mean to him and how much he loves me, someone who was patient with me when I was going through shit and was super insecure, he reminds me that I was special and worthy, lastly... He makes me happy and feel loved. I couldn't be happier. So trust me, it'll get better, one day you'll meet someone who would love you for you even when you don't love you for you. You'll find them one day ☺️💓 it's worth the wait, but remember to love yourself too when others can't... Cause in the end of the day, you are your own supporter, friend and lover. So treat yourself, love yourself and be there for yourself so that when others can't... You'll know to be there for yourself.
Literally same 🥺
Same, the same fucking sentence + for me he told me "I left you bc I was scared to cheat on you, and it wasn't possible in my head to do that to you bc I have so much respect for you"
Those horrible people who made us cry & then made excuses, we deserve better than them ! Let them be with anyone else I'm glad we aren't with them ! ❤️
Being cheated on is pretty much what I would define as the worst possible feeling in the world.
I'm in a long distance relationship for 6 years now, and we had planned our future together. His parents want him to marry now, and it won't be me.
I’m so very sorry.
@@bliviously5484 thank you so much, but it's my own fault for thinking something good could actually happen in this life. I should have known better idk.
@@zerozero7158 that’s not true. Good things do happen in this life, not a whole lot but they do. It will get easier. Think of it this way, it wasn’t your fault and in a sense you were “saved” from spending any more time or even marrying a person that doesn’t treat you right. Now you can focus on healing and eventually once you are ready meet someone who deserves you
I would get a cat/dog (depends on your preference). Unconditional Love each and every day.
@@claracatlady9844 thank you for your comment, I appreciate it very much. Believe it or not, but I did just that, I got a small puppy, but got screwed over. The puppy was much younger than the seller claimed and it had epileptical attacks. I had my Cookie (that's the name I gave her) for a little more than two weeks. Just enough to get used to her being around. Then on March 21st she died in my arms after we had spent almost all week at the vet. Today I've been thinking about her, it's sunny outside and she would have enjoyed the weather a lot. I know you are right, I'm aware that things do eventually get better. But yea, it's hard to see it at the moment.
He left me after 21 years and started dating my best friend within a week of telling me he wanted a divorce, which he did 4 days after our anniversary. I had 4 kids with him, stayed at home to save on daycare costs, and scrambled for us to survive has he worked his tail off to get where he is now. And now that everything is easy, he's moving on. He won't try therapy for me, but as soon as she says something, he starts looking in to it. I'm only 40 and it was just starting to get really really good. Now I'm on my own.
How devastating for you. Truly heart breaking. I understand I have been married for 21 years and have four kids and its a shock when this happens. Your whole life is crumbling under your feet. You deserve a man who would fight for your marriage and at least go to therapy. Also how awful that your best friend went off with your husband , thats the worst betrayal. When you have stayed at home raising the kids and supported your husband in there job ,it makes it harder to know where to start. Im so sorry you are going through this. sending you a virtual hug.
Ya'll beautiful! All of you! And you are ENOUGH, for YOURSELF no matter if someone else sees it or not!! If you're an empathic I'm sure you felt the pain in their eyes. Sad but beautiful song. Love and hugs!
The "you were too depressed" hurt my heart. How could someone be so cruel to stomp on someones heart like that. Hope all these ladies can be happy bc they deserve that just like we all do. We all deserve happiness. 💙
I just came across this comment. I have had my closest loves leave me for this reason. Thank you for being so kind🤍
❤
Yes, that was one of the reasons he told me. I can't live with someone like you, you are depressed,and it's contagious.
He said “ I’ll take care of your heart “
And now I’m left broke empty blaming myself for trusting him
Don't believe your own thoughts
People who take their promises seriously make sure they actually deliver on their promises (which they keep reasonably limited) before they go off making more. Nowadays I just find it disrespectful when someone has barely executed their existing promises but they’re gonna flood you with more and more barrages of grand promises. It’s just to get what they want, after which it turns out to be a bait and switch of future faking. Maybe they should stop to work on delivering some of their promises before making new ones in such a reckless and cruel way to set the other person up for devastation later. I’m really, really sorry about what you went through. I personally have been on that same broken boat
Hey pretty don't blame yourself
It's not your fault that he's not a man enough to keep his words
I'm feeling the same thing. I found out yesterday the guy I thought was "mine" was saying that to other women too.
Every woman in this video can now go find the right guy or girl for them. You don’t want someone who’s going to be happier with someone else. But of course, it hurts in the moment.
The problem is a lot of us now have trust issues to the point where we don't believe there is a right person for us.
" You are not enough " ... This line can shatter you sometimes so bad
God! This video is so underrated! Beth's vocals from 2:26 to 2:56! OH MY GOD!!!! That part is gonna echo throughout the stadium if she ever performs! I hope she does!
the fact that he abused her for 8 years then just left he like she was nothing just hurts so hard
Mine was a similar story. Abused for 7. He left me. Proposed to his new girl after 8 months. He "didn't believe in marriage."
@@torib.5949 I'm so sorry. But you're a strong person and you will be better than him in every way
Tell me what she has that I don't
Why you were so fast to let go of us?
'Cause she's all you wanted
When it was my heart you didn't want it
Why wasn't I cast in your show?
'Cause I gave you everything
And all my friends are saying it's you, it's not me
Wish I could believe them
But she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses and you got to use this
Lеave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
But shе gets the flowers, right?
She gets the flowers
Tell me why I wasn't enough
After all that I gave up for you
Was it too much to ask?
For just a part of what I gave you back, oh-ooh-oh
Why was I so hard to love? (So hard to love)
And you found your person
Oh, there's nothing worse than knowing she's happy
The way I wanted to be
And she gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
Yes, she gets the flowers
Oh, oh, oh
Do her eyes look better when they shine?
Do her lips taste sweeter than mine?
Does she look prettier when she cries?
Was I just too hard to handle?
Too emotionally unstable?
You don't want me
And I can't change your mind
She gets the flowers, right?
The posts made about her
A love that is perfect, a love I deserved, yeah
A love that I gave
I got excuses, you got to use this
Leave me in the dust with nothing and just walk away
And she gets the flowers, right?
"I'm not in love with you" hits home and is the saddest. Cause it's no one faults then. Your chemicals just didn't mixed. And still it hurts the most
It’s ok dear it’ll be alright
It's his fault if he gets with someone he isn't in love with. Hw shouldnt have bc it's his fault she or he hurts now.
@@princesskitty187 So it's her fault if she gets with a guy she's not I love with?
@@princesskitty187 when does someone know they are in love?
@@carlincollins4987 yes
I can never just listen to this once. Its always repeated 1,2,3 times. Says everything i couldn't & wish i still could.
The fact that it is very underrated is killing me... I listen to it a thousand times in a day... So sorry for those who hasn't find out this song yet n the nice feeling they will get after finding out 💚
Me over here, 12 years together, 10 years married bawling my eyes out... Good ones exist dammit, I promise ♥️
Maybe you were the one that got the flowers🙂. Sorry I don’t mean to make you feel bad. I’m happy you’re happy even though I don’t know you😊
🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@mariankushigbor9605 then no one doesn’t get flowers... or no one gets them. There’s always someone along the lines hurt... now I’m in an existential crisis. 😬
Yeah there are some good men. I was in an abusive marriage for a decade and now I'm engaged to a really really good man who I fully trust, we were friends for 6 years before we got together. He's a catch but his anxiety stopped him from getting close to people, he'd only had 2 serious girlfriends in his life and first one went away to college and they mutually ended it due to that, second one cheated on him and ran off with a guy who cheated on her really quickly. So I'm not taking anyone's flowers lol
@@mariankushigbor9605 I let a good guy in instead of chasing bad anymore.
I always am afraid that my boyfriend would leave me, cause I'm too depressed. Not good enough. Not happy enough. Not enough energetic. But he makes sure to remind me that i am good enough for him. And even if he stops wanting me. It won't be me or my depression. It will be just our relationship that broke. Because we couldn't build it more. And that's ok.
I truly hope the best for you guys, stay a strong-loving couple! I was afraid of that too but he kept reminding that I am enough, I'm everything he wants. The same day I drew something for him, he told me he chose another girl over me... because of distance.... because "oh, you know, distance is what gets between us, you're going to be just fine. but i still want to be your friend!! :D" the pain, the endless crying, the nonstop breaking of mt heart, the emptiness is just... unbelievable infinite. i wish you not to experience this feeling, I've never cried harder before....
@@blackfeather7268 ♡
Hug u
I know this is about something different but this makes me think of my mother leaving me and treating other girls the way I wanted to be treated
I am sorry your mother wasn't there the way you needed her to be. You deserve better.
That makes the song hurt more
My mom is mentally ill, I gave my life for her, she supported me sometimes... But to often I was the "dumb, bad, asshole child" often enough I wasn't good enough... Tried to redesign the world perfect for her... Until I wasn't strong enough any longer... She loves me but broke me the same way my father did.... At the age of 17 I talked to a helper at my school and he called somebody... I was taken out of my home... Now my bestfriend became her new daughter... They do everything we did, they are there for each other, but without the "your a bad child" - thing... They are happy, while I was in mental hospital.... I'm better now, but it was really hard. It's still hard... Because doesn't matter how your mother will treat you, you'll always love her and want to be good enough for her, but the sad truth is: you never will. But you can be enough for yourself, even if it sounds too hard. You can still be happy and become a better mother for your children... Someday you'll get the love you deserve, maybe not from your mother but in a different way.
Same ❤
@@joelinahasse1356 you will get the best and most lasting love from ourselves to ourselves. Everything is easier after that
I need a real hug so bad...
I don't know who have to read this but to all the Girls out there who've been going through something always remember that you are worth it. You are pretty and you deserve the best things in life. Hang in there ❤️.
We were friends for three years before we started dating and we were together for two and a half years then he broke up with me. He was seeing someone for FIVE months before we broke up. There were rumours about it and people told me to my face that they saw him out with another girl. I brushed it off and believed he was just hanging out with a friend. I should've really listened to those around me.
I was so heartbroken at first, before that all dissolved into anger. I supported him and encouraged him and stood by him for so long since we were just friends even when others didn't believe in him. When he got where he wanted, he left me and just two days later I heard he had a new girlfriend. And he gave her all the credit, saying that she was there and supported him through it all. He called her the devoted and supportive girlfriend when I did that.
I heard they were getting married and I wish I could say I was happy for them, but I'm not. And maybe I never will and I felt horrible at first that I couldn't be happy for him, but I realized that I don't owe them that and it's okay if I don't.
I'm just gonna forget that he was a part of my life and erase all of it and work on me because I deserve it. I deserve to be happy and I shouldn't give others power over that. It's mine.
I know how it feels
Been there, done that. Same situation. Same feeling. I know what u feel. Everything that ur feeling right now are valid. Just let it be. Feel the hurt until u dont feel hurt anymore. Believe me one day u wont feel the same intense of pain and anger anymore. Take ur time to heal yourself. One day u will just wakeup and tell yourself that ur fine. Ur okay. And u now realised all the lessons that u got from ur past relationship. I hope you will hold on to that day. Sending u light and peace. 💛Its my first time to comment but i feel that u need to hear this. ❤️
@@Grace-diary Thanks for your kind words. I am working on myself now and I'm waiting for the day that comes when I don't feel the hurt as much anymore.
I'm glad you commented it means a lot to me. And I hope you are also faring better from what happened to you too. Sending you lots of light and peace to you too😊💛
@@kazehaya2849 I hope you're faring better now too. It's sad but a lot of us have gone through it. But things will get better💛
Im sending u lots of love 💜
I choose me. Don't be sad. Sometimes the love you wanted is poison. I choose me.
I genuinely can't handle this video...my heart is breaking...I hate how most people & I can relate to these...
I am literally going through something like this right now. Not even gonna pretend like I'm not ugly crying. TH-cam knew I needed to see this song. Really sucks when you always feel like you're never good enough.
Same and I’d like to tell you it gets better, but it hasn’t for me.. here I am 38, married and got cheated on 3 days after our wedding day.. haven’t been intimate since and that’s been 2 years. Hopefully you find a man/woman whichever you prefer, that makes you realize why nothing else worked out. I lost my chance with the good guy bc I was too busy being faithful to the one who was unfaithful. No matter how much you want something to work, some times it just doesn’t and it sucks but let me tell you, nothing is worse than staying where you’re used, neglected and feel unloved, unworthy and just not good enough. I feel like half of me has died living this way and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I just walk around numb most of the time but then I hear songs like this and reality sets in that I’m not enough for him and never was. Good luck girlie, you’re beautiful and are so worthy of being loved and appreciated, just remember that.
Hold up! It's not you wasn't good enough..YOU WAS TOO GOOD FOR THEM! Great advice.. love yourself put your energy into yourself, don't waste it any on anyone! who doesn't give you at least 50% back! Also their are plenty of toys nowadays to keep you happier, then deadbeat soul crusher.. ❤
The fact that "she gets the flowers" breaks my heart in million pieces...
Although I've never been in a relationship but still it made me cry 😩💔
Wish I could hug all these women 😞 what a powerful heartbreaking song.
the cracks in her voice towards the end GAVE ME GOOSEBUMPS
It's never about you :( just know the choices people make are a reflection of them. You are so so worthy, and you are so beautiful. I promise you that it is not YOU. I've been there. I kept second guessing why he left, that it's because I was too hard to love, I was too broken, too needy, not enough. But I realised it was never me, I am fine and amazing being me. And you are fine and amazing being you, please. Believe and trust me on this. This song had me heart broken. It is beautiful. But remember you have a power, no one can be you. You are best the way you are.
The feeling of getting rejected when you have given your everything to them, hurts like hell. " She gets the flower, right" I could really feel the pain in the lines🍁🍁🍁🍁.
How are you gonna say she was too depressed then leave her for her bestfriend? That's double betrayal! How do you think she feels now?? Smh.
People are the worst I tell ya!
All these stories broke my heart. This song is perfect❤.
Being selfless is probably the most beautiful thing i have ever seen.
As a human being i want to apologize to everyone i saw in that video for all the bad things humans do. And as a broken hearted i hope you're all better and happy
I don’t even have words at how much this hit me.
bestie why you gotta make us cry'
My heart broke a little bit 💔 to all the people out there who were treated like they weren't enough... You are enough! You are so much more than enough
“I was there for you when you were suicidal”.... You were the reason behind it!
This is exactly what happened to me!!
@@shrutimedhi3427 I am so sorry you had to got through this! 🥺 It’s so crazy.
Yeah they don't hear us.
"Why was I so hard to love?" still hits me the hardest..
It's the question I've asked my whole life due to abusive parents
A long time ago I would’ve said I relate to this song. But I can now say I get the flowers. I am happily married with a baby on the way. With a man I feel so proud to call the father of my child. A man who gets me more than flowers. Someone who makes me feel beautiful, safe and loved. I promise you will one day get the flowers. And the wait will be so very worth it.
"was i too hard too handle.. too emotionally unstable.."
this hit me hard.. 😢
To all the human beings feeling like they‘re not enough: YOU ARE ENOUGH! Just because someone is not able to recognize your inner beauty doesn‘t make you less lovable. You are loved and you are enough, even at your darkest days. The right people will always see your light, no matter how dark you feel ♥️
@Babbey Mae you‘re welcome, friend :) ♥️
Thank you 😢❤️
I am so sorry for those that have experienced this pain. I've never been in a relationship but this had me in tears. Sending virtual hugs to all of you
I've lost count of the number of times I've cried listening to this song, the number of times I've wanted to scream. What's so relieving about this song is that we're not alone. There are so many people out there who've been through the same things we've been through, and got back on their feet after falling in love with the wrong person. And that gives us hope.
He said I'd done nothing wrong, gave a long list of my virtues, followed by another long list of all the wonderful times we'd had together, things done, places visited etc. Obviously all that was not enough because he added that he might live to regret his decision, and walked out of my life forever. I have regretted his decision every day.
He made me feel like I wasn't me anymore. He said he couldn't feel the pressure of my depression even though he was the reason for my medication.
It's better that it's over.
This song would have been perfect for me a year ago.. The choosing someone else, the "they had a baby I couldnt", the "she means nothing" the "id choose you". Im so happy and thankful for the lesson that relationship taught me, and how it made me stronger 🙏🏾
To the lady who's hurting... you are brave for being vulnerable💕
I wish I found this when I was 20. Boyfriend left me after 4 years- said he wanted me to be happier. Turns out he was hooking up with my best friend at the time. They ran off together, got married & started a family.
I questioned my own worth if he chose her over me. It took a very long time to find the courage to love myself again as stupid as it sounds.
I’ve been in a happy relationship for nearly 6 years and he is everything he wasn’t for me. He is everything they weren’t. 💛 dont ever give up. True love exists and it won’t hurt you.
From 2:58, you can see that their life together was flashing before their eyes. I've never felt so heartbroken over complete stranger's heartbreaks😭😭😭😭
I got this in my recommendations and I'M SO GLAD IT DID
The voice has really got that emotions so hard that once you hear it, you can feel the pain. It hits differently,"she gets the flower, right "
Gosh this made me so emotional. Seeing everyone containing their sadness in for so long and falling apart, seeing their heartbroken faces. I am not okay.
I can rate to almost all of these. Almost 3 of these match my previous relationship. He was mentally and emotionally abusive to me, cheated on me and blamed me for it, and made me feel like not only I wasnt enough for him, but that I wasnt enough for myself or my daughter. He told me to my face "Well we both know who will be raising that baby and it's not you".
Ps. I never thought I'd make it past 17, but I'm 20 now with the most gorgeous daughter who loves me the way no man ever could, I also found a relationship with a man who always put me first, one who took his time with me and held doors, he didnt blame me when a problem came up but instead asked how I thought WE should fix it. I have all the reasons to be happy now.
To all women out there, you are perfect exactly how you are! A "man" who leaves you, who cheats on you, who abuses is not a man at all! You are better than them and I hope with all my heart you find a real man who will shower you with love and happiness xo
Yea but it never got better
Sometimes I feel so alone, my ex of 5 years left me a year after we moved across the country together.. He was my first love and said he'd love me forever, but as soon as we moved to a more populated city he left me for someone else and I was left alone with nobody. It's been 4 months, and he's got a brand new boyfriend and I'm left here. This song perfectly encapsulates the feeling of not knowing what you did wrong, what you could've done to save the relationship you put so much time and effort into. I hope one day, I'll find happiness again but right now I feel like things will never get any better and I'll do my best to keep taking it day by day.
If you're struggling with this too, I hope you'll find happiness again one day and that someone deserving of your love is the next person that comes into your life. ❤
After 10 years of marriage my husband cheated and had a relationship for over a year behind my back. He just dropped me like trash and walked away to be with her. This song touches my heart and hopefully one day I can heal.
You will. You will go on to live a healthier life, with someone who deserves you. Its a test of time and its harder on some of us as compared to others, but we pull through. We just gotta remind ourselves that we are human, we will feel the pain, we will feel it carve our hearts out, but we need to persevere, as it isn't you who is at fault. 10 years seems to be a very long time, you will definitely heal, and find someone who fills your heart perfectly and makes it his/her own.
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That’s terrible so sad
But he wasn’t good enough for u
If he was cheating & walked out on u
I hope after u heal
& learn to love yourself again u will meet someone who appreciates u & fall in love all over again!
❤️
I’m so sorry
The fact that my boyfriend still communicates with his ex who cheated on him twice and still sees her occasionally terrifies me. I don't want to lose him to someone who hurt him
Girl you gotta communicate with him. Tell him that’s making you uncomfortable and if he assumes you’re upset or controlling tell him you just don’t want to see him get hurt.
If that’s a boundary you prefer to not have crossed then you should communicate with him about it. Exes are exes for a reason.
I had a similar situation. My ex had to communicate with his ex wife because they have children together. I understand that. But when I confronted him about how I don't like how friendly he was with her. He assumed I was jealous. Nah I was not jealous of some woman who cheated on him 3 times and the last time was a secret affair with his own father! They divorced after that and she had two more kids with his dad! And he still considered her as like a good friend. BRO WTF?!? That is not okay. How someone can be such "good friends" with someone who did that to them, I will never understand.
If he can't respect your feelings and your boundaries then he needs to go. My ex literally dumped me because I couldn't get along with his two faced, drama causing ex wife. SMH! And at first I was heart broken, but then I realized how much stress I lost and I was so much happier. I know you don't want to lose him. I've been there. But if he wants to go back for a 3rd round of cheating. That's on him sis, but don't you let that man do it to you.
@@kenzieS73195 thank you!!
I guess I'm too much of a hothead because if I saw him doing that, I would dump his ass so fast it would make his head spin. The situation opens the door to potential cheating. Period.
He was ashamed of me, he ended up leaving me for someone else, someone younger and prettier. “I love you but I can’t be with you. Hopefully we can talk in the future…” we haven’t talked since
I hate to say this. But I think heartbreak is a very necessary part of life. Not to demean any of the experiences shared here. I was once told my love was too motherly. So ...I get it. However, it also showed me that I don't need to be a nurturer in my relationships, save that for my future kids. I pray that the light will shine for everyone that has experienced pain in the hands of a man and accept the truth that men (and women) and all humanity is broken. Any idea we have of love can only be divine.
Love that such music exists to help us release the feelings.
"you were too depressed" oh honey, I felt that...
I love him. I rarely smile, but him, he puts a smile on my face. She will never love him more than I do. But he still chooses her. The one who doesn't care. That's the one he chooses. Why do we all choose the ones who don't love us and ignore the ones who do?
this...:(
We accept the love we think we deserve. We need to rise higher ❤️