4:21 shows a good reason not to date them. She carefully had him plan the angle so that she looks a lot better than she is. In Japan so many girls never show themselves as they are but only in an advantageous way, their whole life. Which prevents them from doing 70% of what a normal person would normally do, and they must have a secret life where they can actually be themselves. Really a huge pain, you might as well marry an inflatable doll.
Yup. Let's just say that culturally it's different, where in the West we value "being who you are" and hate "fakeness", in Japan we have less issues showing just a persona if that's what pleases more (hence the culture of hosts, etc.). After all, if men want hot girls, I'll show myself as a hot girl to make them happy. At first it looks like a good idea, but you see the dark side later: a person who lives mostly erased behind a mask never truly develops themselves (you develop yourself by being it…). On top of never being happy, which they'll also be resentful for.
Exactly. There are plenty of women from my home country who only date European men because they can satisfy them sexually or they use them as some sort of sugar daddy. Most marriages end up with a divorce. Common reasons are adultery or abuse. It would be different if you were born and raised in said country but to marry someone from where you immigrated brings more disadvantages than one can count.
Anyone who is angry att Nobita do not realise that he is looking out for us and is just trying to explain what the reality is. Thank you Nobita for your videos
A lot of people will very easily overlook red flags or things that they know deep down could be a problem in the future for the sake of some fun in the moment when it comes to dating. What may seem exciting and different now could become very hurtful and complicated later when their or your own feelings become deeply involved. It really is wise to think through what the future could hold in store even when casually dating.
Dated many Japanese men while living in Tokyo. Married one who came to the States with me and worked as a programmer for years. Everything Nobita says is true. It was so frustrating for both of us for reasons of culture, expectations and language. He returned to Japan leaving our boys. It made a complicated mess for all of us and I wish I had never met him. He never even thinks of his sons now. A divorce for Japanese means you are dead to them. This scarred our sons deeply.
@LALIT Dhanwani Sorry, friend, meant EAST Asia, like Japan, Korea and China. There may be some good people there, but their society breeds hate, suspicion and fear. On the other hand I know people from Vietnam, Thailand, India, Sri Lanka, Indonesia and they are pretty cool.
Yea, the Japanese can be really unreasonable in ways that I just can't understand AT ALL. My friend's wife was married before and had a daughter. When they divorced, the father basically abandoned his daughter as you said. However, when my friend married the woman, at the last minute he changed his mind and refused to sign the papers needed for the daughter to leave Japan with her mother. So, now to spite having essentially had no contact with him for most of her life, the daughter is living with him. And to make it that much more insane, the mother feels that she can't have any contact with the girl, so as not to "come between" her and her father. My friend said his wife exchanges one or two emails with her daughter per month, she hasn't heard her voice in a year.
@@SilentAndy I think it's a poor assumption but I do actually kind of agree, and I've been to Japan...most people were actually really nice, super polite and would generally be willing to go out of their way for you, sometimes to a fault. But just like a lot of positives are built into their culture, so are many negatives...it's hard to put it precisely but their culture IS largely distrustful of foreigners. I think Nobita said in another video I watched but Japanese are largely risk-averse and part of this is a general distrust of foreigners. There is something that points at this being the case, given that some apartments, jobs, and other services basically outright say foreigners need not apply. You can say they may have good reasoning for this, but it's not a one-way street right, xenophobia IS xenophobia so regardless of the reasoning behind it, it's there. Also, I can say I've seen (not first hand) the Chinese version of this as well. Apparently China actually is probably more outright racist when it comes for their general perception of black people and white people, though I don't have much basis for this, I believe it's largely widely known that many Chinese people associate white people with affluence and culture and black with being "dirty"/loud/poor, etc. Please don't take my word for it but if you have a question on that look up racist Chinese commercials...yes they have commercials that do this and either they don't realize they're doing it or don't care, I'm not sure which is worse. Anyways, you can't apply this rule to all as then it would be a case of being guilty of the same thing but I do think there is something to this at least somewhat an aspect of their culture. However, it's not to say that is isn't also an aspect of many cultures around the world whether they want to outright accept or admit that fact.
1. Language Barrier (0:49) 2. They don't take you seriously (2:08) 3. They just want to practice english (2:45) 4. Cheating (3:46) 5. They want to move to your country (5:30) 6. You won't stay here so long (6:58) 7. Child issues (7:59)
i feel like people underestimate language barrier with her parents in a serious relationship lol, i never hear other people talk about that... even when her English is good.
I can understand this, a Korean guy approached me and we started dating months later. We were together for almost 2 years and he was able to blend into my life seamlessly. He didn't want me to fully be a part of his life. Lots of little issues kept piling up as time went by and I had to eventually break up with him. We all deserve to be more than just an experience.
to be fair, you could have that problem with any american too. my cousins husband is korean, and she never had these problems, but ive definatly had these problems with americans.
I have married a japanese woman and lived in japan. All the points in this video are true. Keep revealing the truth Nobita kun, no matter how disappointing and ugly.
My boyfriend is japanese and got married twice and divorce twice too 😂 he felt so lucky he could divorce from those girls. I’m a foreigner but he feels really relax and happy even if he works hard and now we are gonna have a baby 👶 🤣... I think their relationships between japanese people is a failure sometimes because of lack of sex or not telling out their feelings and talk about their issues. They talk about nothing!!! And obviously, communication is so important in a relationship. He changed A LOT!!! now he is so gentleman, so sweet, spontaneous, funny, lovely and expressive 💓 I’m glad he changed on that way because he is feeling better that way too. And I’m a latin girl, I could never be with someone so cold and distant. NEVER!!
ive done it, its certainly fun and exciting but every time at least one of them gets rather attached.....which turns into jealous......and eventually possessive to the point where they may sabotage the other girl's lives. so if you do go that route, consider carefully b4 you let them actually know any details abt the other girls. and when you add someone new to your stable, make sure they know exactly what they're getting into so they can make an informed choice.
Learn this lesson : Life is EXACTLY the CONTRARY of what you can see in medias. Just because they are just fantasms of a dreamed life that will NEVER happen. Just that, and nothing else.
sadly in the real word, harem is the word for women, and yes because it's an Arabic word and Arabian/ muslim people practice polygamy, it got connotated with polygamy rather than the original meaning...and even for Arabians/ Muslims most of them don't practice polygamy because they know for a fact that it's way too troublesome and with every added woman the trouble increases exponentially
I appreciate the honesty of your videos. I was one of those Westerners who was married to a Japanese woman for 25 years (estranged for the last 5). I finally was able to divorce her after my kids graduated from high school. I had to gaman many years because she said, “If you divorce me, you’ll never see your children again.” I took that as a threat to them, so I put my aspirations to divorce on hold. My X always tried to dominate me. It was just her personality. So I’m not saying all Japanese are like that. And oh, she was a fluent English speaker, and there were still cultural misunderstandings via communication. All The reasons you listed are all valid and most will experience several of these if they try to date a Japanese. I’m very happily married now to a Filipina 2+ years and it’s like we just fell in love, so there is a happy ending to my story for me but not for my X.
I feel like everyone forgot this.... like communicating in the same language is just as difficult as trying to communicate in different languages. Both same country and different country marriages are difficult, take time, and effort. 🤷♀️
Dating someone from another culture is always more difficult and requires both to work harder. Especially if there is a big difference between the cultures.
@Lemon Russ Y'all just justify anything now. The moment you hide it, it's already cheating. When you confess, it's still cheating. The only time where it's not cheating is when you have an agreement with your partner and both of you has relations with others, it's called an open relationship.
@Lemon Russ that's not my point lmao. You're really trying to twist things. If you're gonna cheat, fucking confess so that the other party doesn't have to suffer with you. If you actually love them, confess. Just suffer alone while being genuine. You're a better person that way and maybe you'll have another chance instead of being a bigger asshole still in a relationship while continuously cheating
@Lemon Russ Why are you still trying to justify cheating? Messing up the environment over time is not equivalent to ruining a one on one relationship. If you’re cheating just confess about it because eventually you’re going to get found out and the trust will be broken either way. If you never wanted the trust to be broken in the first place then simply don’t cheat? It’s not that hard to keep your body to yourself while you’re in a relationship. Cheating also isn’t a mistake because it’s something you’re doing on purpose, so once again, put on your big girl pants or big boy pants and confess to your partner about cheating on them. Then simply deal with the consequences of your actions, whether it be them breaking off contact with you or being talked about, it’s your fault in the end.
Nobita is the type of friend who really tries to look out for you and tries to make you actually think about your decisions. Love ya big dog, you're great man
@@Kamineko99 Finally a taco brother. Hey, but it depends of the zone. But actually many foraigner like to come to live here because of the warm of the society. Is the economy and security issues that repels people, but, if you can afford to resist this both, mexico is a paradaise. That's why a lot of pensionned adults or young couples come to live to south or center mexico, they just can afford a paradise life.
my personals experience, about 10 years stay in Japan, I decide to back to my origin country - Malaysia what Nobita say are rite, when we go to Japan we feel fresh, love it so much, until you stay long enough and start to understand the local culture which are different from how we use to grow up & culture back in our country, we start not into it anymore, just like food, every one love ur home town cooking / style no matter how weird or bad other ppl dislike about it, just because that's how we grow up with & we are get use to it
@@Samclips101 boy, 1st, u have learn to be have good manner as Japanese is popular for good manner, u u have bad manner, plz dont go japan & destroy the good culture.... by the way, calling any senior or anyone who u like advice 'dude' is so rude and it's not friendly & no manner
i havent given up on math so why should i give up on this one? Even if chances are slim out of 127,000,000 citizens you can surely find a honest one. If not, there are many other countries i like, France, GB, Finland etc
I was never looking to “marry a Japanese girl” (c) but after living in Japan for a few years I fell in love with a wonderful woman and we’ve been happily married for 15 years now. In fact, many of our friends are mixed Japanese-foreign couples and I can’t recall a single divorce among them. Maybe I’m just lucky! Most issues happen when folks start with a fetish, just like Nobita-san says. When a relationship develops naturally, things tend to go well! :) And yes, my wife speaks fluent English and French, and I speak passable Japanese. This helps.
When you think you're just lucky while everyone else is struggling, there must be a deep-seated problem that you're not seeing or are ignoring. For instance, it could be that you're both boring.
@@shitmandood brilliant! I can see you’re in perfect harmony: your avatar, your nick and the content of your comment :) Of course there must be something wrong with us because we’re happy, lol!
Sounds much like my Japanese ex boyfriend. He frequently came to Europe to date me and even told me how he can flex in front of his Japanese friends because he has a foreigner girlfriend. We were in a long distant relationship for 3years. I couldn't endure anymore to be apart from him and I decided to enroll in a Japanese language institute in Tokyo. When I arrived to Japan what did he do? He told me he wanted a Japanese girl and broke up... that was the lowest point in my life but I still continued to study Japanese, and during my student days I happened to meet another Japanese man (my current husband, married for 8 years now). When my ex found out I am dating someone else, he suddenly started crying and begged me to go back to him... Of course I told him NO and chose my current husband. I still don't understand what my ex was thinking...
@@madeinjapan3333 Thank you very much for your comment and explanation! I also suspect he had another girl beside me... Well, past is past. I have no idea where he is or what he is doing now. I haven't contacted him for more than 8 years now.
@@agneshudak6580 As you were saying in your previus comment, it states that you were just a conquest to him, a glorified object, nothing more. What happened in the past, should stay in the past, but you did well. You deserve more than you can imagine and never lose sight of self worth. Sometimes, we're being treated how we let them to be treated... Anyways, you shouldn't even think about him after 8 years. I know that you brought it up for the sake of the topic, but do not give him the power of thinking of him or wasting time doing it. Live your life to the fullest and be happy! Minden jót és vigyázzon magára.
cut it with the stuff like "japan is like every other country" every country has the same problems but some problems are very bad in certain places which makes them more popular in these problems. example can be like "I have the same amount of money like jeff bezos cuz he has money like me!" no, jeff bezos has MORE money.
@@lol-wj4hx You're english is bad but I kind of understood I think. However let me say this.... you shouldn't look at things like 'that country is bad but this one is worse'. What Magi tried to say is that every country will have a bad thing about it.
@BLUE WAVE assuming that dating is a positive mindset, too many people try to find themselves in others. Being with others won't make you whole or fill any gap your feeling. If you can't stand alone you can't stand with others. But that's just what I think, live and do as you please.
I'm not dating any female yet but any tips on insecurity and negative thoughts when you have a partner? This is one of my biggest problems when having one.
The lesson here is to not get caught up in all the imagery! That goes for any country or culture you want to visit. Never set any expectations based on what you see or hear through some media. Go out and explore for yourself, remain open minded and well informed! I'll be in Japan in a couple of months, I look forward to indulging in the food and culture first hand.
"she might be a sex worker" this line is so true, lol I got 3 friends used to work in Japan for 6 years. 1 guy used to date 3 girls and 2 of them are sex workers, 1 guy dated 4 girls and 1 of them is sex worker, 1 is cheating artist. Worst thing is these girls might declare their love to you, live with you, using your money...etc but theyr still working behind your back.. just because they love having sex ~ a lot, love trying new guns. My poor boys, we still talking about these girls when drinking lmfao
@Waldel Martell A virgin wife can be impossible to find nowaday lol. But i think there are still alot of honest/ innocent girls in small old traditional towns. Best luck to you bro !
This reality really changed the way we used to see japanese girls . I guess finding the right girl is most difficult part of life than that last level of any game . I really thought does Anime and Japan is connected but now I have a good view that yeah they are similar in some other way .
The reason he got those it's because probably he met those girls at a club (Roppongi District). The good ones are not the ones from the night-life but are the ones who are not from the night-life.
I’m half Japanese woman, living in Japan and have lived in Japan most of my life. Everyone has their preferences. I’m sorry to say, most of the girls aren’t interested in dating specifically a non-Japanese. But at the same time, I’ve met Gaijin hunters, who just wanna date non-Japanese. They have their own reasons, the ones I met, wanna date a non-Japanese because unlike dating with a Japanese man, they feel like they can be themselves(not saying, you can’t be yourself around Japanese guys) and don’t have to pretend to be dumb or cute. And some just wanted to try something different and some to learn language, (I think, girls or guys dating specific race for these reasons exist everywhere). I’m disturbed every time people making dating Japanese or Korean women videos. You date one person, each is different. But before that, you should know what you’re looking for in your partner, rather than watching unfairly categorized Japanese videos. The British guy in the video, I watched his video, sounded absurd, (he landed in japan and started dating random girls cuz he didn’t have internet and had nothing to do)like him I’ve met so many non-Japanese guys who doesn’t speak a word in Japanese and wanna date and keep on dating random girls. And then complain about Japanese women when they know nothing about them. My advice to anyone who wanna date a Japanese ( idk why you specifically wanna date a Japanese), first learn language and culture and know what you want in your partner. Dating everywhere is same.
I knew a lot of japanese people who says the same thing: japanese women don’t want to have sex after getting married or having a baby. Instead of that, women prefer men going to a brothel and don’t bother and just want their cash like they would be a bank 😂 that’s not normal at all!! I live in Japan. I’m with a japanese man who got married twice and we are living together now, I’ve seen how much he changed since he is with me on the best way. Japanese people has no real communication, they don’t talk about their issues or feelings, commonly they do their stuffs separately, usually don’t have sex, they sometimes sleep apart. Its so common that men go to brothels or kyabakura and women cheat on them with a new lover. So wtf? You can say, its something cultural, but... is that healthy? Do you think a foreigner girl would say to her boyfriend or husband: i dont wanna fuck with you. Go to a brothel and don’t bother me! Do you think that’s normal? Come on!!! Thats fuckin insane!!! That’s why so many japanese people commit suicide or disappear on their own and you know that not even police can help anyone if they want to disappear suddenly. I worked in a kyabakura and those stories are so freakin common. Sometimes so young people saying they are married but have no sex after one year of it. Japanese girls usually are so superficial and only cares about brands, money and who’s the prettiest famous guys nowadays. I’m sorry but you have absolutely no brain. You can never talk with a japanese girl about feminism because they don’t even know what it means 😂 instead of that, they think they are lucky because they have a “only girls” train 😂 and don’t know that’s because of sexual harassment. So wtf??? So much technology and so many good stuffs about japanese government system but as a women, japanese girls make me feel so ashamed. I’m half japanese and that’s fuckin ashamed for me after I came to this country and knew how japanese girls really are. That’s the reality! Don’t try to deny it! Because I met foreigners who got married with japanese girls and said: that’s the worst thing I could’ve ever done! Never again in my life!
@@lasian_mami well glad to see someone who seems to have a similar background like me. Well I’m half Japanese and have worked in kyabakuras and as a hostess in Ginza and I know what you’re talking about. Well Japanese men go to those places as 付き合い、as most men don’t go there to look for something serious in those places. Just to drink and talk and mostly after work with their colleagues or just to talk about business as well,but some are there to seek for something romantic .(well it depends on if it’s a cheap kyabakura or not) (While western men goes to strip clubs in western world) not all Japanese men go to kyabakura and brothels specially the younger generation and not all women allow their men to go sleep around. I think you’re familiar with a term "open relationship ". That’s something exists in many countries. Hmm yeah some women consider marrying someone rich will buy them ticket of not have to work. But as you might know gold diggers exists everywhere. And if you have the information only from kyabakura and night clubs, of course there is higher chances ,you will get to know only one side of the story, people who go to kyabakura and clubs and girls who work there. (When I was working full time in Ginza, mostly my friends were all hostesses and I was working in an 朝キャバ as well in Roppongi, that made me think about Japanese men and girls that they are superficial and that’s how the society is but I was generalizing but they are not all the same. And also the people who are fine with having affairs outside the marriage, they gather more at those places so better make friends outside that nightlife ) After saying all that,what I want to say and have said in my last comment,you choose your friends and your partner.first know what you want in your partner rather than choosing someone by their race. generalizing any nation or something absurd. Let’s talk about sexless marriage in cheating. In USA, 20 percent of married couples are sexless in Japanese its 47 percent. Yes in japan it’s higher. Cheating: in USA, 35 percent of women and 45 percent of men have admitted to have emotional affair and 20 percent physical. In japan: men (38 percent), women 18 percent have admitted to have cheated on their partners. Better don’t generalize and see the individual. And relating to suicide, japan is 14th in world’s suicide rate list. (That’s horrible but again suicide is not only Japan’s problem)Let’s talk about feminism now as you’ve mentioned .I’m feminist myself. I agree when it comes to feminism Japan is really backward but again the younger generation is different and let’s not generalize again. But I’m disgusted sometimes when in a social gathering you are given an obvious gender role. Not all women in Japan is ok with sexism. There are many npo’s who working for equal rights. (Look up ueno chizuko one of the first feminist researchers on women history in japan)But some are ok with it and it’s not only in Japan. Feminism in my definition is about freedom. I can not force my feminist ideas to other women and make fun of them based on my views. That’s their way of life. But when it comes to law and policies and if their is sexism , that’s intolerable. Every society has its own problem, and most of the things that are mentioned does not only exist in Japan. Im sorry, your friends’ Marriage with Japanese women didn’t work. But that’s don’t make up all the international marriages in Japan. My point to my comment from beginning to the end is let’s see the individual not the race not defending Japan. I hope you understand. ....
Same I cannot stand of city people they excude fakeness but country people are normal. I think began realize that people who live in the rural side are a lot mire honest.
I'm okay with being single. It would be nice to have a gf but I want to focus on career goals and keeping my happiness in my own hands. I'm 17, I got so much time and shouldn't stress over relationships. Stress is bad for your wellbeing
Yall are basically children lol. I dated alot through those years... I probably did it backwards actually thinking about it... focusing on reducing stress and building up, only in my 30s... Well.. Best o luck lol. Don't fuck it up. You only get 1 go. I haven't died yet so thats aight I guess. Somewhat doubting if the 'good ending' is achievable with the choices and build ive made at this point. If restarting would go 'sage' build rather than bard. Bard is lame. Lols
A couple of these reasons are why men don’t date anymore or are seeking to find women with values from another country. Here in America, cheating is abundant for both sides and divorce rates have skyrocketed. The world is now a society where everything is disposable. Finding someone new is easy. Working things out takes time and energy, and people find it unnecessary.
@@EthanSoFar no, I’m stating what I know cause I live there. But i know that is everywhere else too. Thus the comment on how the world has devolved to a society where they encourage disposable relationships.
This comment really explains the current scenario.People are dipshit in terms of dating,be it men or women. So,in the end,have fun,have sex,dont get attached,that's my life motto.
Is really a shame it has to be like that. That’s why I really don’t bother, especially with the obvious scum bag. At the opposite end of the spectrum, I just seek to minimize my needs and live rationally and honorably, whether or not some prick or prickess decides to try to win one on me. I say don’t stoop to that level, or you’re just perpetuating the thing that drives you mad, and you’ll have yourself to blame for it.
I met my Japanese boyfriend in college where he was a foreign exchange student. I think what worked out was he didn't come to the US to look for a girlfriend, but a career. We just happened to meet along his journey and decided we wanted to walk it together.
It's better when the one moving isn't doing it because he/she wants to date someone from another country. At that point you're just thinking with your genitals.
@@CombativeMedic , nice. In my opinion that's the way it should be. Move somewhere to enrich yourself, and not to find a partner. Finding a partner should just be an extra benefit, if it happens.
My personal experience is quite funny but I landed a date with a girl in one of my circles in Japan and in my nervousness I took a lot of lessons with a tutor to prepare for the date. Then in the end the date didn’t work out and... I actually realized my tutor was a way better fit for me anyways. One door closes and another opens, as they say 😂
Things you should do before dating and marrying a Japanese girl. 1. Learn their language and culture first. 2. Be real and genuine as much as possible. Don't let people treat you as an object. 3. Don't teach english for free. 4. Avoid cheating as much as possible but don't hide your charisma and attractive skills to others. 5. Know her real intention first why she wants to live in your home country and ask her if she really want to go and live there. 6. Tell her honestly that you wouldn't stay in Japan for more than 10+ years. 7. In the future, don't let her take the children away from you easily.
That's my mindset I mainly want to go for the scenery, and it's the country of origin where a lot of historical characters I idolize came from like Miyamoto Musashi and Sasaki Kojiro.
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Nobita, could you interview your grandma on why she thinks that foreigners will be disappointed with dating in Japan? It would be good to hear the thoughts of the older generation on this topic. Love your videos!
I've been studying Japanese for 5 months now and that language barrier is definitely no joke. english and Japanese are monsters of a language, by that i mean veryy difficult. While learning japanese I realize more and more how difficult english is and gives me more and more respect for those that learn it. I actually don't think I'll ever be able to visit Japan but I really love the language, it's very beautiful and to me is worth dedicating years to learn it so that I can make friends online, as well as a gateway to other languages :)
Tbf, every language is very difficult if you don't have the effort to study the language you wanted to be good at. I'm saying this in a subjective perspective because there are people who find english easy and japanese hard or vice versa. It is a well known fact that if it's not our mother language it is going to be difficult since we basically are inputting the language in memories and not under our conciousness. I mean the reason we are so fluent in our mother language is that we speak it almost everyday so we unconciously know what to reply. The second you tick to another language it would becoma an issue This doesn't necessarily mean that we can't actually be fluent, it's just way more difficult
@@simcard867 the same guy that managed to make friends with japanese people playing apex legends... your point ? Not everyone masters a new language before going to a new country.
Nobita, you've done it again. Something about your recent videos have me coming back and watching everything you've posted in the past 6 months. I wanted to say something about the cheating cultural differences between Japan and especially western cultures. I can totally understand why most would first relate the complications religion puts on a relationship. But what I found so interesting was actually the word 浮気。My girlfriend told me this word when we were talking about cheating norms in Japan. And then she explained the Kanji meaning and that was super interesting. This may be grasping at straws but if you look at the Kanji 浮, the words it most commonly defines is to float. or the sensation of floating. And then 気 commonly referring to mind or feeling. So if you put the two together you get "drifting mind" or "floating feeling". Many interviewers on TH-cam will ask women what they consider to be cheating, you included. They often say something like "being physical isn't cheating, but if they develop feelings then it is." My girlfriend even had a similar opinion. Anyway my point is dragging on but I wanted to bring attention to the power words have. The English word "Cheat" is synonymous with lying or to swindle, hiding or evading. But the Japanese word 浮気 is more concerned with the unsteadiness of feelings and the mind. Oh how I love the power of words.
wow, thanks for sharing this important info. Its scary, deep but very helpful for everyone who wants to think dating Japanese are cool. The divorce issue is devastating :'(
I’m from the UK and my native language is of course English! If a Japanese person wants to use me to practice English that’s completely fine by me! I don’t think it’s a bad thing and I don’t want a Japanese person to think it’s bad that I’m practicing my Japanese with them. Why should you pay for a language school or online course when you can just have a 1 on 1 conversation with someone for free? It’s a win win situation I would say!
Been married to my wife for 14 years. We're happy. I honestly don't know what the secret is, when we were dating, we genuinely enjoyed spending time together. I didn't care where we lived as long as we were together and she felt the same way. We ended up staying in Japan. I don't think of her as "Japanese". I just think of her as (her name). The fact that we're an international couple doesn't often occur to me, especially when we're puttering around home. I think I'm watching Nobita's videos with the same amount of surprise as someone living outside Japan. Not because these videos are false, I'm sure they're quite true, but I've been lucky enough to avoid experiencing a lot of negative things in Japan.
@@arielgonzalez9993 again acting the same way under another comment. How do you know if he's even white ? Aren't you assuming a lot eh ? Kinda racist of you to think like that.
I never had a girlfriend and I'm about to turn 27 in less than a month. From what I heard, read and experienced through communications with a lot of girls actually turns out, that I'm great being single and staying like that. I even asked out a girl I don't know and she turned me down. It would be way more easier for me to explain the Poisson distribution in physics and statistics.😂
Welp my slovic friend, make any road traveled your own, but remember that some random girls standers doesn't define your value. Among that crowd seeming to never offer time enough to notice while marching towards that next job, may be a person you'd one day call teacher or the brother willing to bleed beside you upon the battle field, of even the woman whom would bring you pride and child.
Same here man. I'm 27, and I've never had a girlfriend either. I actually think that this is to our benefit: people who've dated and broken up a lot tend to carry emotional baggage that we don't have to deal with. And it's impressive that you remember the Poisson distribution: I've forgotten it by now :)
@@arielgonzalez9993 That's just excuse people give for failing at Japanese relationship. You think the people that bombed their nation are really going to be treated better? They just scared if they don't kissass third bomb will hit.
@@simcard867 bruh the world is already in chaos right now due to covid. You really think we will survive another world war? Leave that shit after covid.
Thanks for the info. I'll use this in mind when I have a chance to try. Good to use the information provided when doing this which would help. Though Coming here to the US doesn't solve everything. The best option is to try to show a good example. My father often say this, "What Starts at Home, Ends at Home". Doing the right thing may be hard, but, when you do the Right thing all the time it will become easier. Also, use this Phrase, "Treat others the way you want to be Treated", because the best way to earn respect is to give respect no matter how much dirt they treat you. It's how you put yourself in a Higher Standard by how you treat your neighbors. I'd would advice this to the people of Japan, Because I know thou can Improve to make Japan better for you, as well as your neighbors when you treat your neighbors like you treat yourself.
Well dating is dating no matter where you live, it's not like you'd get something amazingly different in Japan than you do in the west. You should probably be careful regardless of where you're trying to date, because people are shitty regardless of where they're from.
I love how westerners in Japan get so angry at "language parasites" but when you ask anyone the best way learn any language... make Japanese friends, get a Japanese boy or girl friend. Seems to apply everywhere in the region.
Grandma’s wisdom at the end really drove the point home for me. But overall, it’s gross how the vast majority of people in the world see a foreigner from any place as an object and not a human.
For Gajin visiting Japan, May I suggest using the 'Teach English in exchange for sex' business model. Very up-front and beneficial to both parties involved.
Sometimes you have to cheat though, to SAVE the relationship. If you're partnet feels like you can do no better, she question her choice in men, but when she sees you can get other women, she realizes "oh shit, if I don't work harder I'll lose him." Tht may seem cruel, but humans don't appreciate what they have, till its gone. You don't know wht you got till its GONE - Jonisan
@@germangonzales2008 I disagree with the starting point but agree with the rest 👍 Cheating is never an option if he cheats and she cheats too so what will be the difference between him and her both are cheaters then. Cheating doesn't save the relationship, it destroys it completely 🙏
physical attraction is the beginning. personality makes you enthralled with who they are. zex keeps it together over a long time. nationality shouldn't be a priority at all.
OMG this is soo true! Living in NY in 1999 I came across a LOT of Asian guys that wanted to date me just for the “experience”. They never told me if or when they were going back, even though a few wanted to marry me only after a few days. I realized that most of the time they wanted me to pay for them to go places and translate for them so they could talk to interesting-looking people. The ones that wanted to marry me commented a lot about my weight, friends, behavior, religion, and most looked down on me because I already had a child. It was frustrating to say the least!I am happy to say that I am married to a wonderful Asian man who loves me the way I am💚🐰🧡
I think you're spot on about Japan being a country for tourism but not so much for residence (for foreigners at least). Cultural misunderstandings... I've talked to enough Japanese people to get into those situations, speaking the language helps, but you also need to understand their culture, that may even be as or even more important. As for Dating in Japan, I will admit, it's different than here, but I also think japan adds an extra set of layers of difficulties to the concept. Now it's good that you make videos like this one with a realistic approach, I find it really silly how people think dating will automatically mean you'll find a good partner, when that sort of thing happens naturally whether you want it or not. You don't choose to meet the love of your life, it just happens (or it doesn't). The best approach to dating in Japan is probably to just go to Japan and not expect anything, just let it happen, whatever ends up happening.
Agreed, this is what I've been waiting for with 2020 it's made that hard AF to just let it happen since we have to resort to online dating. I miss going to college or working my old minimum wage jobs to meet girls and casually date. I think I met the love of my life that way and she got away (so i think anyways) we recently got in touch. So I'm hoping she didn't but I'll still see what happens out here. If I meet someone better than oh well.
@@DatBoiJrSan408 I don't casually and I have big doubts about trying dating apps, I still managed to get a few girls, every time it just happened naturally, but yeah, as you grow older, it becomes a bit harder. At the same time you gota see the signs faster too, I don't know about you, but I've grown experienced enough to know when a girl is into me, to even know if she actually loves me or not before I even hit on her. The best way to get a new GF is in real life, just gota go out, gota go to different places. Love hits you when you don't really expect and that's how it should always be, it's not something you can create artificially. One of my cousins which I'm close to, he met his current GF waiting in line for the MCdonalds, they're been together for 12 years now and again all he was doing is waiting for some burgers and this older girl approached him and just talked to him, somehow that lead to a long relationship. She is awesome and actually she watches anime like us (my cousin and me). Work is pretty good place to meet new people, atm most of coworkers are girls and there's a lot of them, the only issue I got is some are way too young for me lol. You could say that some jobs are better to meet women, I guess.I do admit, my School and University years were too easy to meet new girls, with age it became a bit harder, but the best way for me at least is through work and I guess it's not the worst thing to find new friends and new friends circles (though I personally on purpose do note date close friends, in part because I know my female friends too well and we wouldn't be good together)
@@sebastianrubio928 isn’t work place and people at workplace conservative in japan? That being said i would say it’s more difficult to meet a girlfriend at work. I work in a big company in japan and people really only care about work. Any attraction or compliments are tabu here. And if you even smile at someone its just out of politeness. So i mean it is really difficult to find someone at work, not easy as you said. Tell me more of your experience please
@@mariomaslik I don't live in Japan, but what you're describing I've heard many times before. I know some companies actively discourage coupes being formed, but it still happens, but very likely flourishes after work, probably while having some drinks. I've noticed this with some people from some countries, Japan, Germany, they're close minded and reserved (maybe shy), you get a few drinks in them and you get the real version. In Japan I gota admit, honne vs tatemae is really annoying to deal with, I've had problems with it myself (tourists and Japanese people I just happen to meet here). As you said, she could be smiling to you purely out of courtesy. I live in Europe, nobody gives a fuck if you date a co worker here.
My Japanese dating experience has been that once the titillation wears off, the spurious reason for rejection is then proffered. Find your cultural engagement in Japan beyond go-nowhere relationships: museums, restaurants, shodo, temples, yamanobori, exploring back alleys, leaving Tokyo and Osaka behind, the satisfying hard work of learning JP language, onsens, shopping, gardens, chance encounters with strangers and on and on and on.
I don't date seriously anymore. Like the guy said, it's a headache. Honestly there are better things in life than dating. It's mainly just a waste of time.
@Waldel Martell It's all good bruh, I am with you it is a hassle meeting the one. Too many dumb bitches on tinder with fake background. Right now dawg I am just chilling at home living the good single life and married to a toy called ona hole bruh its the best.
I don't cheat, and I'm not religious at all. I just couldn't enjoy making my wife unhappy and jeopardizing the relationship. It's not for some god, it's for her.
I wonder how the cheating compares to other countries. Nearly everyone I know in the US has cheated or been cheated on. It seems like an extremely common practice here yet I doubt we'd have as many people admit that
American in Japan here. I've been living in Japan for 8 years and I can say with confidence cheating is definitely more prevalent here. The temptation is everywhere. Soaplands. Host/Hostess clubs. "Massage" parlors. SM Bars. Sugar daddy and deai kei apps. Not only is it easy to get away with cheating, prostitution isn't actually illegal. When I worked at an Eikaiwa years ago married Japanese guys constantly asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with them despite them wearing their wedding bands and telling me about their wives. Of course that's not to say all Japanese men are like that, but many are, and as Nobita said in the video many Japanese women don't mind as long as they don't find out. I'd also like to add that is said Japanese women completely change after marriage, and once they have children their priority is being a mother, not a lover, so sexless marriages are very common, thus leading people to cheat, not just the man but the woman, too, especially if the man doesn't help with childcare (many Japanese men don't as childcare is traditionally the mother's responsibility, however times are changing)
So true BUT at least those individuals probably speak YOUR language?? were born and lived in your country? Over 40 years across the world I love different experiences re cultures, languages, food and drink but serious relationships? You think relationships re your own countries girl or guy is riddled with pot holes? try the after a major tsunami effect to visualise how an Asian relationship can end up.. Oh and it reminds me of what my bro used to say re his ex wife.. "Heck she was like a hurricane.. wild and wet to start off and when she left?? she took my car and home with her.. " 😨🤣🤣
Like Nobita said it depends on their definition of cheating. Sex may not be cheating to them, but moving in or talking about intimate matters would. Its situational but always ask what their definition of loyalty and cheating are
I hope a lot of people see this and really reflect on the points he made. Many Americans go into relationships without thinking at all and many of these points make a LOT of sense. Taking some of these things into consideration means you're actually thinking about what you're getting into and not just making an emotional decision. I wish I had seen this when I was a teenager! (Although I probably wouldn't have listened!)
i am living in Japan for 6 years now and i speak Japanese fluently. what you say is true and more. When Japanese say they like foreigners they meant westerners or white people. while other types of foreigners (ex: Chinese, South East Asians, African decent) are mostly looked down upon.
Koreans are quite popular though. But it really doesn’t surprise me that they don’t like Chinese their manners are often awful. They shout around in my dorm constantly it is a real nuisance.
100% factual and an absolutely necessary reality check for a lot of people who might know a lot about Japan but not Japanese people (I’ve been there myself)
Thank you brother Nobita, I truly appreciate your sincerity and looking out for us. My compassion to those desiring to leave Japan; that is to say, leaving behind what hurts and is unbearable as this applies to many countries unfortunately.
So life is not like it is in anime ? So I can not meat son goku ? I can not meat naruto? Damn this puts a dent in my plan. Curse you reality! I was joking around I will stop now.
I stopped dating here. In my home country, if a girl likes you, she *shows* it. If a girl wants nothing to do with you, she *shows* it. There is no confusion over how she feels. Here, I have experienced women consistently acting very nice towards me when I first meet them, and then when we get closer, they swing back and forth between acting like they are very interested one day and then acting like they want absolutely nothing to do with me the next by avoiding and ignoring me. Then they would go back to acting interested again days later. It has happened a number of times with different women. It was very stressful, confusing, and depressing. Eventually, I just said no more, assumed that I'm not a good fit for women here, and walked away from the dating scene here. No regrets.
I suggest using dating apps. No guessing and you can tell she is interested if she still meets up with you. There is no Oh I only like you as a friend BS there.
Dude, be honest. You just wanna sweep out Weaboos, don’t you?
Dunno what you’re talking about. Weaboos are the future of Japan
@@TheJapanReporter You just wanted to use sarcasm, right? Sigh..
Who wouldnt XD
@@nobitaextra8437 He has provide the info. If you want to fact check it, then do it. But don't say afterwards that no one told you.
i agree with this dude
Japanese girl: "Wanna go out?" (even that's kinda unrealistic)
Me: "No, Nobita told me not to."
Ultimate Chad move
Fallowing orders is the true love story
4:21 shows a good reason not to date them. She carefully had him plan the angle so that she looks a lot better than she is. In Japan so many girls never show themselves as they are but only in an advantageous way, their whole life. Which prevents them from doing 70% of what a normal person would normally do, and they must have a secret life where they can actually be themselves.
Really a huge pain, you might as well marry an inflatable doll.
@@florianb3935 I guess thats not exclusive to japanese girls but I get your point, they are very extreme about this
Yup. Let's just say that culturally it's different, where in the West we value "being who you are" and hate "fakeness", in Japan we have less issues showing just a persona if that's what pleases more (hence the culture of hosts, etc.). After all, if men want hot girls, I'll show myself as a hot girl to make them happy. At first it looks like a good idea, but you see the dark side later: a person who lives mostly erased behind a mask never truly develops themselves (you develop yourself by being it…). On top of never being happy, which they'll also be resentful for.
You always should be careful choosing your partner, not only in japan. Many of the things you mentioned are fitting well to any international dating.
sadly, irresponsible people just chose with lust not with the mind... and is why so many divorces and problems.
It's the truth and no person can deny that. Reality is harsh isn't it?
I believe you
Its not realy only happen in a specific country but general around the world
Exactly. There are plenty of women from my home country who only date European men because they can satisfy them sexually or they use them as some sort of sugar daddy. Most marriages end up with a divorce. Common reasons are adultery or abuse. It would be different if you were born and raised in said country but to marry someone from where you immigrated brings more disadvantages than one can count.
Sad but true
When you date a Japanese woman and there is no English subtitles when she speak.
wait,theres no subtitles ?
then make it dub version lmao
@@Votaru true, why don't they just talk english...
😂😂😂
Lmao
😂😂😂
To put it simply don’t put Japan (or anyone) on a pedestal.
Of course.
Of course
Humans are complicated, pfff, well people can date anyone even if they aren't attracted then 🤦
@@Satsuki_Aquamoon 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
@DADth vinagre something pretty fishing in here..........
“Reality is often disappointing.”
@@shenu1677 no
Always has been
Not "often disappointing" but "always harsh".
so true
So true
"some girls just want to use you"
Me: evil laugh in my mind
*Jokes on you I'm into that shit*
Hey they do that everywhere and in Japan there are still some social contracts left sacred so still it might be better option
So am i
Toxic men please stand up
LOL
Nobita out here destroying the hopes and dreams of weebs within a 3 lightyear radius
Yet the white weebs will still come out 😂
@@arielgonzalez9993 And still get Japanese girlfriends 😂
kaslanan kasi ni jhepoy dizon to eh
tanginamo jhepoy dizon
oof
Anyone who is angry att Nobita do not realise that he is looking out for us and is just trying to explain what the reality is.
Thank you Nobita for your videos
nobody likes the truth.
especially not harsh ones.
And Doraemon
@@anybody9750 hahahahahah
Honestly. This guys is trying to save people from future heartache.
A lot of people will very easily overlook red flags or things that they know deep down could be a problem in the future for the sake of some fun in the moment when it comes to dating. What may seem exciting and different now could become very hurtful and complicated later when their or your own feelings become deeply involved. It really is wise to think through what the future could hold in store even when casually dating.
Dated many Japanese men while living in Tokyo. Married one who came to the States with me and worked as a programmer for years. Everything Nobita says is true. It was so frustrating for both of us for reasons of culture, expectations and language. He returned to Japan leaving our boys. It made a complicated mess for all of us and I wish I had never met him. He never even thinks of his sons now. A divorce for Japanese means you are dead to them. This scarred our sons deeply.
You should have learned that Asians are xenophobic and have a lot of issues. Not people you want to be around. Hopefully your sons turn out fine.
@LALIT Dhanwani Sorry, friend, meant EAST Asia, like Japan, Korea and China. There may be some good people there, but their society breeds hate, suspicion and fear.
On the other hand I know people from Vietnam, Thailand, India, Sri Lanka, Indonesia and they are pretty cool.
Yea, the Japanese can be really unreasonable in ways that I just can't understand AT ALL.
My friend's wife was married before and had a daughter. When they divorced, the father basically abandoned his daughter as you said.
However, when my friend married the woman, at the last minute he changed his mind and refused to sign the papers needed for the daughter to leave Japan with her mother. So, now to spite having essentially had no contact with him for most of her life, the daughter is living with him. And to make it that much more insane, the mother feels that she can't have any contact with the girl, so as not to "come between" her and her father.
My friend said his wife exchanges one or two emails with her daughter per month, she hasn't heard her voice in a year.
@@ХристоР woahh... is that just hate speech orrr u actually have some basis for that claim?
@@SilentAndy I think it's a poor assumption but I do actually kind of agree, and I've been to Japan...most people were actually really nice, super polite and would generally be willing to go out of their way for you, sometimes to a fault. But just like a lot of positives are built into their culture, so are many negatives...it's hard to put it precisely but their culture IS largely distrustful of foreigners. I think Nobita said in another video I watched but Japanese are largely risk-averse and part of this is a general distrust of foreigners. There is something that points at this being the case, given that some apartments, jobs, and other services basically outright say foreigners need not apply. You can say they may have good reasoning for this, but it's not a one-way street right, xenophobia IS xenophobia so regardless of the reasoning behind it, it's there. Also, I can say I've seen (not first hand) the Chinese version of this as well. Apparently China actually is probably more outright racist when it comes for their general perception of black people and white people, though I don't have much basis for this, I believe it's largely widely known that many Chinese people associate white people with affluence and culture and black with being "dirty"/loud/poor, etc. Please don't take my word for it but if you have a question on that look up racist Chinese commercials...yes they have commercials that do this and either they don't realize they're doing it or don't care, I'm not sure which is worse. Anyways, you can't apply this rule to all as then it would be a case of being guilty of the same thing but I do think there is something to this at least somewhat an aspect of their culture. However, it's not to say that is isn't also an aspect of many cultures around the world whether they want to outright accept or admit that fact.
I don't even risk doing it on my country imagine on another.
Damn...
Hahahahahhaa
hope things get better
Spoken like a true man
This is a Wise men, I pay respect
1. Language Barrier (0:49)
2. They don't take you seriously (2:08)
3. They just want to practice english (2:45)
4. Cheating (3:46)
5. They want to move to your country (5:30)
6. You won't stay here so long (6:58)
7. Child issues (7:59)
You're doing God's work
Yup
Well thats very interesting. Noted man.
good summarization
i feel like people underestimate language barrier with her parents in a serious relationship lol, i never hear other people talk about that... even when her English is good.
I can understand this, a Korean guy approached me and we started dating months later. We were together for almost 2 years and he was able to blend into my life seamlessly. He didn't want me to fully be a part of his life. Lots of little issues kept piling up as time went by and I had to eventually break up with him. We all deserve to be more than just an experience.
Mane from Morocco is nice
to be fair, you could have that problem with any american too. my cousins husband is korean, and she never had these problems, but ive definatly had these problems with americans.
@@TheOctoJon of course, but in my situation it was due to cultural barriers/expectations
Two years is a long time to be nothing more than a simple "experience". I wonder what else you're leaving out here
@@homuraakemi493 I'm sorry you feel skeptical ?
I have married a japanese woman and lived in japan. All the points in this video are true. Keep revealing the truth Nobita kun, no matter how disappointing and ugly.
Are you both still together and is it really hard...just want to know
@Daegnix Lieakab I'm a little bit sad because I'm asian when hear that😂
My boyfriend is japanese and got married twice and divorce twice too 😂 he felt so lucky he could divorce from those girls. I’m a foreigner but he feels really relax and happy even if he works hard and now we are gonna have a baby 👶 🤣... I think their relationships between japanese people is a failure sometimes because of lack of sex or not telling out their feelings and talk about their issues. They talk about nothing!!! And obviously, communication is so important in a relationship. He changed A LOT!!! now he is so gentleman, so sweet, spontaneous, funny, lovely and expressive 💓 I’m glad he changed on that way because he is feeling better that way too. And I’m a latin girl, I could never be with someone so cold and distant. NEVER!!
@@lasian_mami ohhh that's really sweet so by u mention about communication are you two speaking in japanese ?
@@Karasu-q6q we speak in japanese and english and sometimes spanish that is my native language
"Life is sadly not like anime."
Wait, so... no harem ending? ;_;
ive done it, its certainly fun and exciting
but every time at least one of them gets rather attached.....which turns into jealous......and eventually possessive to the point where they may sabotage the other girl's lives.
so if you do go that route, consider carefully b4 you let them actually know any details abt the other girls.
and when you add someone new to your stable, make sure they know exactly what they're getting into so they can make an informed choice.
@@FractalPrism. 😩man at least tell me how does it feel I'm tryna actually build my harem since its common in my culture but is it actually worth it?
Learn this lesson : Life is EXACTLY the CONTRARY of what you can see in medias.
Just because they are just fantasms of a dreamed life that will NEVER happen.
Just that, and nothing else.
speak about rezero
sadly in the real word, harem is the word for women, and yes because it's an Arabic word and Arabian/ muslim people practice polygamy, it got connotated with polygamy rather than the original meaning...and even for Arabians/ Muslims most of them don't practice polygamy because they know for a fact that it's way too troublesome and with every added woman the trouble increases exponentially
I appreciate the honesty of your videos. I was one of those Westerners who was married to a Japanese woman for 25 years (estranged for the last 5). I finally was able to divorce her after my kids graduated from high school. I had to gaman many years because she said, “If you divorce me, you’ll never see your children again.” I took that as a threat to them, so I put my aspirations to divorce on hold. My X always tried to dominate me. It was just her personality. So I’m not saying all Japanese are like that. And oh, she was a fluent English speaker, and there were still cultural misunderstandings via communication. All
The reasons you listed are all valid and most will experience several of these if they try to date a Japanese. I’m very happily married now to a Filipina 2+ years and it’s like we just fell in love, so there is a happy ending to my story for me but not for my X.
@Exiled Monastic maybe he just is happier and that is the only matter here
@exiledmonastic4650is that how you see filipina? User?
"some girls just want to use you"
dont threaten me with a good time.
🤣
Bruh
"some"
lol
I wish
Lol every women in every country
Dating and marriage is a lot of work, whether it's with a foreigner or not.
It really is a leap of faith.
I feel like everyone forgot this.... like communicating in the same language is just as difficult as trying to communicate in different languages. Both same country and different country marriages are difficult, take time, and effort. 🤷♀️
Dating someone from another culture is always more difficult and requires both to work harder. Especially if there is a big difference between the cultures.
"we arent cheaters, we just have a lot of oppourtunities to cheat" I cant help but think one cant exist without the other
@Lemon Russ false
It's the same in the UK though, 90% of the time everyone cheats if they don't its rarw
@Lemon Russ Y'all just justify anything now. The moment you hide it, it's already cheating. When you confess, it's still cheating. The only time where it's not cheating is when you have an agreement with your partner and both of you has relations with others, it's called an open relationship.
@Lemon Russ that's not my point lmao. You're really trying to twist things. If you're gonna cheat, fucking confess so that the other party doesn't have to suffer with you. If you actually love them, confess. Just suffer alone while being genuine. You're a better person that way and maybe you'll have another chance instead of being a bigger asshole still in a relationship while continuously cheating
@Lemon Russ Why are you still trying to justify cheating? Messing up the environment over time is not equivalent to ruining a one on one relationship. If you’re cheating just confess about it because eventually you’re going to get found out and the trust will be broken either way. If you never wanted the trust to be broken in the first place then simply don’t cheat? It’s not that hard to keep your body to yourself while you’re in a relationship. Cheating also isn’t a mistake because it’s something you’re doing on purpose, so once again, put on your big girl pants or big boy pants and confess to your partner about cheating on them. Then simply deal with the consequences of your actions, whether it be them breaking off contact with you or being talked about, it’s your fault in the end.
Nobita is the type of friend who really tries to look out for you and tries to make you actually think about your decisions. Love ya big dog, you're great man
Ignore everything else, Top reason: Japan is good for TOURIST, Not a Resident
Italy has joined the call
@@9yugin5 Turkey too
As someone whose lived in Japan for a few years, this is very true.
I can say the same of my country Mexico
@@Kamineko99
Finally a taco brother.
Hey, but it depends of the zone.
But actually many foraigner like to come to live here because of the warm of the society.
Is the economy and security issues that repels people, but, if you can afford to resist this both, mexico is a paradaise.
That's why a lot of pensionned adults or young couples come to live to south or center mexico, they just can afford a paradise life.
"This handsome man -" shows him topless with bunny ears. 😂
93% has Nobita under his charm too!!!
That CDawgVA for you
It was handsome tho
Lmao CDawg be wildin in those vids
I'm gonna take your grandmother's advice, be a tourist and leave it at that
my personals experience, about 10 years stay in Japan, I decide to back to my origin country - Malaysia
what Nobita say are rite, when we go to Japan we feel fresh, love it so much, until you stay long enough and start to understand the local culture which are different from how we use to grow up & culture back in our country, we start not into it anymore, just like food, every one love ur home town cooking / style no matter how weird or bad other ppl dislike about it, just because that's how we grow up with & we are get use to it
Oso Malaysia have awesome public holidays and food hahaahahaha 🤣 that alone can cause me homesick
@@EdTzani hahaha...ya man
Im a 19 yrs old boy . I have a dream to marry a Japanese girl and settle in Japan .
Was it really possible dude. Please suggest any tips to me 🙏🏻
@@Samclips101 get a job, work hard ,rent or buy house and get your financial stable enough before thinking on getting married ...
@@Samclips101 boy, 1st, u have learn to be have good manner as Japanese is popular for good manner, u u have bad manner, plz dont go japan & destroy the good culture.... by the way, calling any senior or anyone who u like advice 'dude' is so rude and it's not friendly & no manner
Weaboos: “I’m gonna pretend I didn’t see that”
@L Lawliet now you want to data japanese men ?
you already know lmao *cries*
;(
i havent given up on math so why should i give up on this one? Even if chances are slim out of 127,000,000 citizens you can surely find a honest one. If not, there are many other countries i like, France, GB, Finland etc
@@LowFrequency yes, that's so true
I was never looking to “marry a Japanese girl” (c) but after living in Japan for a few years I fell in love with a wonderful woman and we’ve been happily married for 15 years now. In fact, many of our friends are mixed Japanese-foreign couples and I can’t recall a single divorce among them. Maybe I’m just lucky!
Most issues happen when folks start with a fetish, just like Nobita-san says. When a relationship develops naturally, things tend to go well! :)
And yes, my wife speaks fluent English and French, and I speak passable Japanese. This helps.
wise words my man. Unfortunately many modern people now days only think with their genitals.
When you think you're just lucky while everyone else is struggling, there must be a deep-seated problem that you're not seeing or are ignoring. For instance, it could be that you're both boring.
@@shitmandood brilliant!
I can see you’re in perfect harmony: your avatar, your nick and the content of your comment :)
Of course there must be something wrong with us because we’re happy, lol!
@@StrategySphere If I knew any perfect couples I wouldn't have made the observation.
@@shitmandood never claimed to be an ideal couple, my friend :)
Sounds much like my Japanese ex boyfriend. He frequently came to Europe to date me and even told me how he can flex in front of his Japanese friends because he has a foreigner girlfriend. We were in a long distant relationship for 3years. I couldn't endure anymore to be apart from him and I decided to enroll in a Japanese language institute in Tokyo. When I arrived to Japan what did he do? He told me he wanted a Japanese girl and broke up... that was the lowest point in my life but I still continued to study Japanese, and during my student days I happened to meet another Japanese man (my current husband, married for 8 years now). When my ex found out I am dating someone else, he suddenly started crying and begged me to go back to him... Of course I told him NO and chose my current husband. I still don't understand what my ex was thinking...
They love competition doesn’t mean he beg to you he loves you. It’s their nature.
@@madeinjapan3333 Thank you very much for your comment and explanation! I also suspect he had another girl beside me... Well, past is past. I have no idea where he is or what he is doing now. I haven't contacted him for more than 8 years now.
@@agneshudak6580 As you were saying in your previus comment, it states that you were just a conquest to him, a glorified object, nothing more. What happened in the past, should stay in the past, but you did well. You deserve more than you can imagine and never lose sight of self worth. Sometimes, we're being treated how we let them to be treated...
Anyways, you shouldn't even think about him after 8 years. I know that you brought it up for the sake of the topic, but do not give him the power of thinking of him or wasting time doing it. Live your life to the fullest and be happy!
Minden jót és vigyázzon magára.
No one asked
Aw , congrats on the 8 years!
To put it simply Japanese people are like everyone else, they're all different and not to be put on a pedestal.
cut it with the stuff like "japan is like every other country" every country has the same problems but some problems are very bad in certain places which makes them more popular in these problems. example can be like "I have the same amount of money like jeff bezos cuz he has money like me!" no, jeff bezos has MORE money.
@@lol-wj4hx You're english is bad but I kind of understood I think. However let me say this.... you shouldn't look at things like 'that country is bad but this one is worse'. What Magi tried to say is that every country will have a bad thing about it.
@@ceshmate1953 *your
@@sujithg6902 the irony lmfao
@@uwuwu9 HAHAHA *THE FUCKING IRONY* But i think what he meant is by grammar. Not spelling(?) Just a guess mate, have a great fucking day!
I'm probably never going to develop a serious relationship with anybody so this is fun
I feel you..
@BLUE WAVE assuming that dating is a positive mindset, too many people try to find themselves in others. Being with others won't make you whole or fill any gap your feeling. If you can't stand alone you can't stand with others. But that's just what I think, live and do as you please.
@BLUE WAVE How is that negative? Relationships take a lot of compromise and energy, and there is so much to do these days to just get into that
I'm not dating any female yet but any tips on insecurity and negative thoughts when you have a partner? This is one of my biggest problems when having one.
@@静かな-l4r couldn't tell ya bud :(
Most of my weaboo friends have actually never been interested in dating in Japan. They’ve only been interested in games, culture, anime, citypop etc.
You are damm right bro 😁
yes.
who needs to date when you have anime?
jokes on u but it's true, you don't have to travel the entire world just to pick up girls
@@Yavokw dating is overrated. And Japanese girls aren’t even into it.
We are all humans, culture quirks aside, basic stuff won't be very different compared to other places in the world.
@Fedora man what u mean?
Nobita : Even this handsome guy
Also Nobita : *immediately shows Connor's shitty cosplay*
I laughed so hard... Hope Connor is aware of this video
Lmfaoo 🤣
The lesson here is to not get caught up in all the imagery! That goes for any country or culture you want to visit. Never set any expectations based on what you see or hear through some media. Go out and explore for yourself, remain open minded and well informed! I'll be in Japan in a couple of months, I look forward to indulging in the food and culture first hand.
"she might be a sex worker" this line is so true, lol
I got 3 friends used to work in Japan for 6 years. 1 guy used to date 3 girls and 2 of them are sex workers, 1 guy dated 4 girls and 1 of them is sex worker, 1 is cheating artist.
Worst thing is these girls might declare their love to you, live with you, using your money...etc but theyr still working behind your back.. just because they love having sex ~ a lot, love trying new guns.
My poor boys, we still talking about these girls when drinking lmfao
@Waldel Martell A virgin wife can be impossible to find nowaday lol. But i think there are still alot of honest/ innocent girls in small old traditional towns.
Best luck to you bro !
This reality really changed the way we used to see japanese girls . I guess finding the right girl is most difficult part of life than that last level of any game . I really thought does Anime and Japan is connected but now I have a good view that yeah they are similar in some other way .
That's notwhere near as much of an issue as it is in a place like Thailand;
The reason he got those it's because probably he met those girls at a club (Roppongi District). The good ones are not the ones from the night-life but are the ones who are not from the night-life.
I’m half Japanese woman, living in Japan and have lived in Japan most of my life. Everyone has their preferences. I’m sorry to say, most of the girls aren’t interested in dating specifically a non-Japanese. But at the same time, I’ve met Gaijin hunters, who just wanna date non-Japanese. They have their own reasons, the ones I met, wanna date a non-Japanese because unlike dating with a Japanese man, they feel like they can be themselves(not saying, you can’t be yourself around Japanese guys) and don’t have to pretend to be dumb or cute. And some just wanted to try something different and some to learn language, (I think, girls or guys dating specific race for these reasons exist everywhere). I’m disturbed every time people making dating Japanese or Korean women videos. You date one person, each is different. But before that, you should know what you’re looking for in your partner, rather than watching unfairly categorized Japanese videos. The British guy in the video, I watched his video, sounded absurd, (he landed in japan and started dating random girls cuz he didn’t have internet and had nothing to do)like him I’ve met so many non-Japanese guys who doesn’t speak a word in Japanese and wanna date and keep on dating random girls. And then complain about Japanese women when they know nothing about them. My advice to anyone who wanna date a Japanese ( idk why you specifically wanna date a Japanese), first learn language and culture and know what you want in your partner. Dating everywhere is same.
I agree
ty fyi
These are really very good and useful words, even than any video
I knew a lot of japanese people who says the same thing: japanese women don’t want to have sex after getting married or having a baby. Instead of that, women prefer men going to a brothel and don’t bother and just want their cash like they would be a bank 😂 that’s not normal at all!! I live in Japan. I’m with a japanese man who got married twice and we are living together now, I’ve seen how much he changed since he is with me on the best way. Japanese people has no real communication, they don’t talk about their issues or feelings, commonly they do their stuffs separately, usually don’t have sex, they sometimes sleep apart. Its so common that men go to brothels or kyabakura and women cheat on them with a new lover. So wtf? You can say, its something cultural, but... is that healthy? Do you think a foreigner girl would say to her boyfriend or husband: i dont wanna fuck with you. Go to a brothel and don’t bother me! Do you think that’s normal? Come on!!! Thats fuckin insane!!! That’s why so many japanese people commit suicide or disappear on their own and you know that not even police can help anyone if they want to disappear suddenly. I worked in a kyabakura and those stories are so freakin common. Sometimes so young people saying they are married but have no sex after one year of it. Japanese girls usually are so superficial and only cares about brands, money and who’s the prettiest famous guys nowadays. I’m sorry but you have absolutely no brain. You can never talk with a japanese girl about feminism because they don’t even know what it means 😂 instead of that, they think they are lucky because they have a “only girls” train 😂 and don’t know that’s because of sexual harassment. So wtf??? So much technology and so many good stuffs about japanese government system but as a women, japanese girls make me feel so ashamed. I’m half japanese and that’s fuckin ashamed for me after I came to this country and knew how japanese girls really are. That’s the reality! Don’t try to deny it! Because I met foreigners who got married with japanese girls and said: that’s the worst thing I could’ve ever done! Never again in my life!
@@lasian_mami well glad to see someone who seems to have a similar background like me. Well I’m half Japanese and have worked in kyabakuras and as a hostess in Ginza and I know what you’re talking about. Well Japanese men go to those places as 付き合い、as most men don’t go there to look for something serious in those places. Just to drink and talk and mostly after work with their colleagues or just to talk about business as well,but some are there to seek for something romantic .(well it depends on if it’s a cheap kyabakura or not) (While western men goes to strip clubs in western world) not all Japanese men go to kyabakura and brothels specially the younger generation and not all women allow their men to go sleep around. I think you’re familiar with a term "open relationship ". That’s something exists in many countries. Hmm yeah some women consider marrying someone rich will buy them ticket of not have to work. But as you might know gold diggers exists everywhere. And if you have the information only from kyabakura and night clubs, of course there is higher chances ,you will get to know only one side of the story, people who go to kyabakura and clubs and girls who work there. (When I was working full time in Ginza, mostly my friends were all hostesses and I was working in an 朝キャバ as well in Roppongi, that made me think about Japanese men and girls that they are superficial and that’s how the society is but I was generalizing but they are not all the same. And also the people who are fine with having affairs outside the marriage, they gather more at those places so better make friends outside that nightlife ) After saying all that,what I want to say and have said in my last comment,you choose your friends and your partner.first know what you want in your partner rather than choosing someone by their race. generalizing any nation or something absurd. Let’s talk about sexless marriage in cheating. In USA, 20 percent of married couples are sexless in Japanese its 47 percent. Yes in japan it’s higher. Cheating: in USA, 35 percent of women and 45 percent of men have admitted to have emotional affair and 20 percent physical. In japan: men (38 percent), women 18 percent have admitted to have cheated on their partners. Better don’t generalize and see the individual. And relating to suicide, japan is 14th in world’s suicide rate list. (That’s horrible but again suicide is not only Japan’s problem)Let’s talk about feminism now as you’ve mentioned .I’m feminist myself. I agree when it comes to feminism Japan is really backward but again the younger generation is different and let’s not generalize again. But I’m disgusted sometimes when in a social gathering you are given an obvious gender role. Not all women in Japan is ok with sexism. There are many npo’s who working for equal rights. (Look up ueno chizuko one of the first feminist researchers on women history in japan)But some are ok with it and it’s not only in Japan. Feminism in my definition is about freedom. I can not force my feminist ideas to other women and make fun of them based on my views. That’s their way of life. But when it comes to law and policies and if their is sexism , that’s intolerable. Every society has its own problem, and most of the things that are mentioned does not only exist in Japan. Im sorry, your friends’ Marriage with Japanese women didn’t work. But that’s don’t make up all the international marriages in Japan. My point to my comment from beginning to the end is let’s see the individual not the race not defending Japan. I hope you understand. ....
you’ve convinced me to just do hookups and japanese english trades in japan 🇯🇵
when i go japan ill can only imagine my self on country side.... country side seems peaceful
Same I cannot stand of city people they excude fakeness but country people are normal. I think began realize that people who live in the rural side are a lot mire honest.
yeah and living there is cheaper than city
I'm okay with being single. It would be nice to have a gf but I want to focus on career goals and keeping my happiness in my own hands. I'm 17, I got so much time and shouldn't stress over relationships. Stress is bad for your wellbeing
same. im 16, why am I scrolling through these comments- its no problem!!
Don’t rush it. 23 and in college, still single but happy and financially secure. Just go with the flow
Same bro. Im 19 and im still happy with my life. I just love my bed and my mama
Yall are basically children lol.
I dated alot through those years... I probably did it backwards actually thinking about it... focusing on reducing stress and building up, only in my 30s...
Well.. Best o luck lol. Don't fuck it up. You only get 1 go.
I haven't died yet so thats aight I guess.
Somewhat doubting if the 'good ending' is achievable with the choices and build ive made at this point.
If restarting would go 'sage' build rather than bard. Bard is lame.
Lols
Yeah you definitely don't need to be worrying about it at 17 bro.
A couple of these reasons are why men don’t date anymore or are seeking to find women with values from another country. Here in America, cheating is abundant for both sides and divorce rates have skyrocketed. The world is now a society where everything is disposable. Finding someone new is easy. Working things out takes time and energy, and people find it unnecessary.
"Here in America", you're acting like that's not commonplace elsewhere .
@@EthanSoFar no, I’m stating what I know cause I live there. But i know that is everywhere else too. Thus the comment on how the world has devolved to a society where they encourage disposable relationships.
It's the same throughout the west as a whole tbh
This comment really explains the current scenario.People are dipshit in terms of dating,be it men or women. So,in the end,have fun,have sex,dont get attached,that's my life motto.
Is really a shame it has to be like that. That’s why I really don’t bother, especially with the obvious scum bag. At the opposite end of the spectrum, I just seek to minimize my needs and live rationally and honorably, whether or not some prick or prickess decides to try to win one on me. I say don’t stoop to that level, or you’re just perpetuating the thing that drives you mad, and you’ll have yourself to blame for it.
Easiest way to escape the disappointment is find a good one and the hardest is finding that kind of person.
Connor summarized it - "Life is sadly not like anime."
Rental Kanojo does not lead to a harem? T.T
So how about we forget life and just watch anime instead?
renting a girlfriend is better in any other country then japan. You can at least do much more, can't even kiss your rental gf in JP.
I met my Japanese boyfriend in college where he was a foreign exchange student. I think what worked out was he didn't come to the US to look for a girlfriend, but a career. We just happened to meet along his journey and decided we wanted to walk it together.
How long you stayed together
@@catmerchant8699 We've been together for almost 8 years. He's moved to the US so we're not long distance.
I’m extra emotional today but that made me mf cry. That’s a beautiful story. 🤧💖 (also love the Levi pfp.)
It's better when the one moving isn't doing it because he/she wants to date someone from another country. At that point you're just thinking with your genitals.
@@CombativeMedic , nice. In my opinion that's the way it should be. Move somewhere to enrich yourself, and not to find a partner. Finding a partner should just be an extra benefit, if it happens.
I love how realistic your opinions and ideas are, and how you didn't sugar coat the issues. (subscribed)
My personal experience is quite funny but I landed a date with a girl in one of my circles in Japan and in my nervousness I took a lot of lessons with a tutor to prepare for the date. Then in the end the date didn’t work out and... I actually realized my tutor was a way better fit for me anyways. One door closes and another opens, as they say 😂
Mm lucky
Nice
Things you should do before dating and marrying a Japanese girl.
1. Learn their language and culture first.
2. Be real and genuine as much as possible. Don't let people treat you as an object.
3. Don't teach english for free.
4. Avoid cheating as much as possible but don't hide your charisma and attractive skills to others.
5. Know her real intention first why she wants to live in your home country and ask her if she really want to go and live there.
6. Tell her honestly that you wouldn't stay in Japan for more than 10+ years.
7. In the future, don't let her take the children away from you easily.
TMW...
This is how he should have framed the video.
Wait a second.....
The seventh point is the most important, if ou plan to have childrens.
This a dumb persons summarization of what he thinks the 'solutions' to the problems presented in the video are supposed to be.
you can just try be that one guy who isn't interested on dating in japan and then let the fate decide if you can meet your fated one or not
That's actually a good mindset.
There's a place and time for everything.
Well it's not just about Japan your point can be applied to everywhere in the world
@@exotaku81 Yeah you're right.
But still they need to say "Japan this" or "Japan that" to get that sweet revenue from weebs.
@@Tomani02 yes I agree 👍
That's my mindset
I mainly want to go for the scenery, and it's the country of origin where a lot of historical characters I idolize came from like Miyamoto Musashi and Sasaki Kojiro.
Anime is basically “ Fantasies of men or women” in Japan. Real life isn’t as beautiful right? Well, you just have to suck that up💯
If you don't have your own story to tell, chances are you're living as a small part of someone else's story.
@@MrYFM2 That's called a side character lmao. TBH. I am the only #1 main character of this era. That's not thinking highly of myself, that's just a fact. There are other main characters though. To substantiate this fact. Dude. I scare GOD. Jove, Jovah. The lord. THE ONE. What do you think? Main character anti-villian. Right here. I feel like i am on season 6 and the writers have slowed down the story to think up the next season (s). I might be the most powerful being on this planet. Enki is here, aka jesus. So i dont know about him, he did create the human species after all. Dude is chilling out as a bartender. Even for me, it felt taboo to ask any questions, more on the fact it felt like i could figure it out myself using omni-perception. I've done alot of things only the world government knows about and maybe a few very powerful beings. I have some kind of cloak that prevents beings from sensing me until i am right up on them.
Name, Brian. Call signs: Emperor, That thing, abomination. Species: Arch-Cambion (formally) Divine-Demon (transformation incomplete until physical release) (after novel 23). Abilities: Truly indestructability even to an omni-potent being. Pathokinesis (emotion control, active passively with presence and useable with targeting). Divine plague (COVID), War inducement (can cause others to fight), Pestilence inducement (locust only), Apocalyptic force manipulation, Seraph control (commanded the seraph royal guard to take two human souls to heaven), Demon control (locust demons and furies of greek myth), Oblivion embodiment, Reality warping (sealed as a child by spiritual half brother Nergal after giving a cripple his legs), Sub power of reality warping-- Fate/Destiny re-writing. ABSOLUTE DESTRUCTION, Can destroy Gods, Demons and Souls in general. Poof, wiped off the map entirely. Non existent. The nothing was here first after all. "In the beginning there was... NOTHING." VOID. Oblivion. Light is a mutation, an alien invader. Figured out the spiritual parent yet? Abaddon. Oh and ofc i am 800,000 years old. Only i was spared from the wipe do to being in elysian fields. Which is also why i could become what i am, absorbing the divine underworld for 800,000 years. Not to mention being a superior human soul species to begin with. Lemurian "God like men".
Reality is the reason anime is made.
And the doujins are the truth?
What makes a manga interesting? REALITY-rohan from jjba diamond is unbreakable
Nobita, could you interview your grandma on why she thinks that foreigners will be disappointed with dating in Japan? It would be good to hear the thoughts of the older generation on this topic. Love your videos!
I've been studying Japanese for 5 months now and that language barrier is definitely no joke. english and Japanese are monsters of a language, by that i mean veryy difficult. While learning japanese I realize more and more how difficult english is and gives me more and more respect for those that learn it. I actually don't think I'll ever be able to visit Japan but I really love the language, it's very beautiful and to me is worth dedicating years to learn it so that I can make friends online, as well as a gateway to other languages :)
You can do it by MEXT
If Eng is monster for you, what you'll say about Rus and Chi! hahaha
Tbf, every language is very difficult if you don't have the effort to study the language you wanted to be good at. I'm saying this in a subjective perspective because there are people who find english easy and japanese hard or vice versa.
It is a well known fact that if it's not our mother language it is going to be difficult since we basically are inputting the language in memories and not under our conciousness. I mean the reason we are so fluent in our mother language is that we speak it almost everyday so we unconciously know what to reply. The second you tick to another language it would becoma an issue
This doesn't necessarily mean that we can't actually be fluent, it's just way more difficult
really appreciate for being fair in every of your contents Nobita, with all of the pros and cons, not only just displaying the good stuff itself.
Cut to the English guy realising that dating actual Japanese girls isn't necessarily an in-house sushi chef and a golden ticket to studio Ghibli
@@simcard867 the same guy that managed to make friends with japanese people playing apex legends... your point ? Not everyone masters a new language before going to a new country.
Nobita, you've done it again. Something about your recent videos have me coming back and watching everything you've posted in the past 6 months.
I wanted to say something about the cheating cultural differences between Japan and especially western cultures. I can totally understand why most would first relate the complications religion puts on a relationship. But what I found so interesting was actually the word 浮気。My girlfriend told me this word when we were talking about cheating norms in Japan. And then she explained the Kanji meaning and that was super interesting. This may be grasping at straws but if you look at the Kanji 浮, the words it most commonly defines is to float. or the sensation of floating. And then 気 commonly referring to mind or feeling. So if you put the two together you get "drifting mind" or "floating feeling". Many interviewers on TH-cam will ask women what they consider to be cheating, you included. They often say something like "being physical isn't cheating, but if they develop feelings then it is." My girlfriend even had a similar opinion. Anyway my point is dragging on but I wanted to bring attention to the power words have. The English word "Cheat" is synonymous with lying or to swindle, hiding or evading. But the Japanese word 浮気 is more concerned with the unsteadiness of feelings and the mind.
Oh how I love the power of words.
This is a fascinating comment!!
Use me as a "Nobita is great button"
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@@failedsuccessfully9478 of course
*slurp slurp lick lick*
Great points, and I think it's important to bring this up.
This man can just shatter all our hopes and dreams in a single video. Truly Amusing
wow, thanks for sharing this important info. Its scary, deep but very helpful for everyone who wants to think dating Japanese are cool. The divorce issue is devastating :'(
Nobita's grandma speaks a lot of wisdom.
Nobita's grandma is truly good civilization!
Kamen rider kabuto be like, "my grandma always said..."
This was fun to watch, and I'm relieved you didn't gloss over things. Thank you.
I was an exchange student to Japan back in high school, and I actually left early because I got sick of how I was treated.
Can you share with us dude? I kinda feel bad for you.
did they bully you like in anime?
You liar!
What happened to you, would you mind sharing your experience, please??
c'mon tell us already
I’m from the UK and my native language is of course English! If a Japanese person wants to use me to practice English that’s completely fine by me! I don’t think it’s a bad thing and I don’t want a Japanese person to think it’s bad that I’m practicing my Japanese with them. Why should you pay for a language school or online course when you can just have a 1 on 1 conversation with someone for free? It’s a win win situation I would say!
Yes that's true, but I think he meant that they'd only stay with you to improve and learn, and once they're done learning, will leave you.
Agree with zoe mochi, that is what Nobita meant about japanese woman only using you as a free language learning machine.
Wait what a win win situation?
As if your confident if she’s gonna pay you back
Excellent journalism Nobita, you deserve our respect since you stand for the truth. Keep going.
Been married to my wife for 14 years. We're happy. I honestly don't know what the secret is, when we were dating, we genuinely enjoyed spending time together. I didn't care where we lived as long as we were together and she felt the same way. We ended up staying in Japan. I don't think of her as "Japanese". I just think of her as (her name). The fact that we're an international couple doesn't often occur to me, especially when we're puttering around home.
I think I'm watching Nobita's videos with the same amount of surprise as someone living outside Japan. Not because these videos are false, I'm sure they're quite true, but I've been lucky enough to avoid experiencing a lot of negative things in Japan.
Yea but your white guy of course you’ll be fine, your people love having play things
@@arielgonzalez9993 bet you wouldnt turn down a white bf. You know you wouldn't.
@@arielgonzalez9993 again acting the same way under another comment. How do you know if he's even white ? Aren't you assuming a lot eh ? Kinda racist of you to think like that.
@@arielgonzalez9993 just admitted you love white men you can't stop talking about them ❤
Nobita's grandma spilling that tea in the endings
I never had a girlfriend and I'm about to turn 27 in less than a month. From what I heard, read and experienced through communications with a lot of girls actually turns out, that I'm great being single and staying like that. I even asked out a girl I don't know and she turned me down.
It would be way more easier for me to explain the Poisson distribution in physics and statistics.😂
Welp my slovic friend, make any road traveled your own, but remember that some random girls standers doesn't define your value. Among that crowd seeming to never offer time enough to notice while marching towards that next job, may be a person you'd one day call teacher or the brother willing to bleed beside you upon the battle field, of even the woman whom would bring you pride and child.
You are a rare maybe that's why.
Чел...это не норма. Или ты хочешь стать волшебником к 30-ти?
Same here man. I'm 27, and I've never had a girlfriend either. I actually think that this is to our benefit: people who've dated and broken up a lot tend to carry emotional baggage that we don't have to deal with. And it's impressive that you remember the Poisson distribution: I've forgotten it by now :)
@@Brandon-n1w7w Yeah I Don't remember poisson distribution but remembered time during my entrance test😂😅
15 years married with a japanese woman, no problem here. The communication is the key !
In Japan or western country?
@@catmerchant8699 6 years in Japan, 9 in western.
But, you’re white they treat your kind better than real interracial couples out there in Japan
@@arielgonzalez9993 That's just excuse people give for failing at Japanese relationship.
You think the people that bombed their nation are really going to be treated better?
They just scared if they don't kissass third bomb will hit.
@@simcard867 bruh the world is already in chaos right now due to covid. You really think we will survive another world war? Leave that shit after covid.
Thanks for the info. I'll use this in mind when I have a chance to try. Good to use the information provided when doing this which would help. Though Coming here to the US doesn't solve everything. The best option is to try to show a good example. My father often say this, "What Starts at Home, Ends at Home". Doing the right thing may be hard, but, when you do the Right thing all the time it will become easier. Also, use this Phrase, "Treat others the way you want to be Treated", because the best way to earn respect is to give respect no matter how much dirt they treat you. It's how you put yourself in a Higher Standard by how you treat your neighbors. I'd would advice this to the people of Japan, Because I know thou can Improve to make Japan better for you, as well as your neighbors when you treat your neighbors like you treat yourself.
2:12 "they see you as a sexual object" i dont know about you, but i see this a complete win win!!
They will stop having sex either after 3 yrs lol the rest is obligations. They don’t even say sweet words lol
If you want a robot human made wife marry Japanese women haha
@@madeinjapan3333 come to Canada you'll find Canadian born Asian women win win is that they speak English the best thing I would say of all things
@Fedora man yes I qmde it 69
Well dating is dating no matter where you live, it's not like you'd get something amazingly different in Japan than you do in the west. You should probably be careful regardless of where you're trying to date, because people are shitty regardless of where they're from.
"Life is certainly not like Anime!" lmfao
I love how westerners in Japan get so angry at "language parasites" but when you ask anyone the best way learn any language... make Japanese friends, get a Japanese boy or girl friend. Seems to apply everywhere in the region.
Dating is difficult but also having Japanese friends is too hard!!!
This.
Yes omg
Why?
I'd like to see an interview with your grandmother Nobita. She has a lot of wisdom to share.
Yes my power level is much lower in real life
Grandma’s wisdom at the end really drove the point home for me. But overall, it’s gross how the vast majority of people in the world see a foreigner from any place as an object and not a human.
Commodification is very common foreign or not.
Marriage is basically a funeral with cakes.
-Rick Sanchez (2015)
For Gajin visiting Japan, May I suggest using the 'Teach English in exchange for sex' business model. Very up-front and beneficial to both parties involved.
That actually sounds like a good plan to spice up a trip, but where would you let people know that that's what you're looking for? 😁
@weeb jail being honest up front will not work most of the time, even as a foreigner using tinder in Japan
Yeah true, never used it but I guess that would work ^^
The only japanese word you'll hear is 'kimochi'
This thread is killing me - also I thought Japanese guys were more often the silent type? 😂
Man if this is reality of dating,than i don't know the point of living anymore
How can cheating on your partner be okay, whether feelings are involved or not cheating is cheating 😔🤦
Sometimes you have to cheat though, to SAVE the relationship. If you're partnet feels like you can do no better, she question her choice in men, but when she sees you can get other women, she realizes "oh shit, if I don't work harder I'll lose him."
Tht may seem cruel, but humans don't appreciate what they have, till its gone.
You don't know wht you got till its GONE - Jonisan
@@germangonzales2008 I disagree with the starting point but agree with the rest 👍 Cheating is never an option if he cheats and she cheats too so what will be the difference between him and her both are cheaters then. Cheating doesn't save the relationship, it destroys it completely 🙏
@@ultrainstinctO7 If it gets to the point where cheating to make the other person jealous is seriously considered, might as well end it.
@@Elyseon True
@@germangonzales2008 This is some of the worst advice I have ever seen on YT, and I have seen some TERRIBLE advice.
physical attraction is the beginning.
personality makes you enthralled with who they are.
zex keeps it together over a long time.
nationality shouldn't be a priority at all.
zex?! 🤨
What if you fail the first point? :(
"Speaking Japanese is Fucking so Hard" is me trying to learn Kanji and grammar right now. Pray for me y'all 😭🙏
It took me 4 years to learn Japanese. I'm not even that good with it yet lmao. Just to make conversations lol
saaaaaaame
Sameee
OMG this is soo true! Living in NY in 1999 I came across a LOT of Asian guys that wanted to date me just for the “experience”. They never told me if or when they were going back, even though a few wanted to marry me only after a few days. I realized that most of the time they wanted me to pay for them to go places and translate for them so they could talk to interesting-looking people. The ones that wanted to marry me commented a lot about my weight, friends, behavior, religion, and most looked down on me because I already had a child. It was frustrating to say the least!I am happy to say that I am married to a wonderful Asian man who loves me the way I am💚🐰🧡
I think you're spot on about Japan being a country for tourism but not so much for residence (for foreigners at least). Cultural misunderstandings... I've talked to enough Japanese people to get into those situations, speaking the language helps, but you also need to understand their culture, that may even be as or even more important. As for Dating in Japan, I will admit, it's different than here, but I also think japan adds an extra set of layers of difficulties to the concept. Now it's good that you make videos like this one with a realistic approach, I find it really silly how people think dating will automatically mean you'll find a good partner, when that sort of thing happens naturally whether you want it or not. You don't choose to meet the love of your life, it just happens (or it doesn't). The best approach to dating in Japan is probably to just go to Japan and not expect anything, just let it happen, whatever ends up happening.
Wrong 😑 just adapt, it’s simple.
Agreed, this is what I've been waiting for with 2020 it's made that hard AF to just let it happen since we have to resort to online dating. I miss going to college or working my old minimum wage jobs to meet girls and casually date. I think I met the love of my life that way and she got away (so i think anyways) we recently got in touch. So I'm hoping she didn't but I'll still see what happens out here. If I meet someone better than oh well.
@@DatBoiJrSan408 I don't casually and I have big doubts about trying dating apps, I still managed to get a few girls, every time it just happened naturally, but yeah, as you grow older, it becomes a bit harder. At the same time you gota see the signs faster too, I don't know about you, but I've grown experienced enough to know when a girl is into me, to even know if she actually loves me or not before I even hit on her. The best way to get a new GF is in real life, just gota go out, gota go to different places. Love hits you when you don't really expect and that's how it should always be, it's not something you can create artificially. One of my cousins which I'm close to, he met his current GF waiting in line for the MCdonalds, they're been together for 12 years now and again all he was doing is waiting for some burgers and this older girl approached him and just talked to him, somehow that lead to a long relationship. She is awesome and actually she watches anime like us (my cousin and me). Work is pretty good place to meet new people, atm most of coworkers are girls and there's a lot of them, the only issue I got is some are way too young for me lol. You could say that some jobs are better to meet women, I guess.I do admit, my School and University years were too easy to meet new girls, with age it became a bit harder, but the best way for me at least is through work and I guess it's not the worst thing to find new friends and new friends circles (though I personally on purpose do note date close friends, in part because I know my female friends too well and we wouldn't be good together)
@@sebastianrubio928 isn’t work place and people at workplace conservative in japan? That being said i would say it’s more difficult to meet a girlfriend at work. I work in a big company in japan and people really only care about work. Any attraction or compliments are tabu here. And if you even smile at someone its just out of politeness. So i mean it is really difficult to find someone at work, not easy as you said. Tell me more of your experience please
@@mariomaslik I don't live in Japan, but what you're describing I've heard many times before. I know some companies actively discourage coupes being formed, but it still happens, but very likely flourishes after work, probably while having some drinks. I've noticed this with some people from some countries, Japan, Germany, they're close minded and reserved (maybe shy), you get a few drinks in them and you get the real version. In Japan I gota admit, honne vs tatemae is really annoying to deal with, I've had problems with it myself (tourists and Japanese people I just happen to meet here). As you said, she could be smiling to you purely out of courtesy. I live in Europe, nobody gives a fuck if you date a co worker here.
I just believe that where divorces is controversial; there will be a lot of cheating.
My Japanese dating experience has been that once the titillation wears off, the spurious reason for rejection is then proffered. Find your cultural engagement in Japan beyond go-nowhere relationships: museums, restaurants, shodo, temples, yamanobori, exploring back alleys, leaving Tokyo and Osaka behind, the satisfying hard work of learning JP language, onsens, shopping, gardens, chance encounters with strangers and on and on and on.
I will instead rent a girlfriend.
Safe option
Safe option
Safest option
will that work if you got one *centimeter*
That's better
I don't date seriously anymore. Like the guy said, it's a headache. Honestly there are better things in life than dating. It's mainly just a waste of time.
@Waldel Martell
It's all good bruh, I am with you it is a hassle meeting the one. Too many dumb bitches on tinder with fake background. Right now dawg I am just chilling at home living the good single life and married to a toy called ona hole bruh its the best.
I don't cheat, and I'm not religious at all. I just couldn't enjoy making my wife unhappy and jeopardizing the relationship. It's not for some god, it's for her.
I sincerely commend you, sir. You’re a true diamond in the rough that is this comments section.
You are real man
You're a REAL man bro seriously, keep having this kind of mindset !
Same here bruh
Where does the need to make loved ones happy ultimately come from?
Nobita is trying to keep all the cute anime girls for himself
Japanese/Japanese divorce rate 39%. Japanese/Foreigners divorce rate 50%. American/American divorce rate 70%+
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I wonder how the cheating compares to other countries. Nearly everyone I know in the US has cheated or been cheated on. It seems like an extremely common practice here yet I doubt we'd have as many people admit that
Loyalty is a simple concept and doesnt hard to grasp yet people fail at it
American in Japan here. I've been living in Japan for 8 years and I can say with confidence cheating is definitely more prevalent here. The temptation is everywhere. Soaplands. Host/Hostess clubs. "Massage" parlors. SM Bars. Sugar daddy and deai kei apps. Not only is it easy to get away with cheating, prostitution isn't actually illegal.
When I worked at an Eikaiwa years ago married Japanese guys constantly asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with them despite them wearing their wedding bands and telling me about their wives. Of course that's not to say all Japanese men are like that, but many are, and as Nobita said in the video many Japanese women don't mind as long as they don't find out. I'd also like to add that is said Japanese women completely change after marriage, and once they have children their priority is being a mother, not a lover, so sexless marriages are very common, thus leading people to cheat, not just the man but the woman, too, especially if the man doesn't help with childcare (many Japanese men don't as childcare is traditionally the mother's responsibility, however times are changing)
So true BUT at least those individuals probably speak YOUR language?? were born and lived in your country? Over 40 years across the world I love different experiences re cultures, languages, food and drink but serious relationships? You think relationships re your own countries girl or guy is riddled with pot holes? try the after a major tsunami effect to visualise how an Asian relationship can end up.. Oh and it reminds me of what my bro used to say re his ex wife.. "Heck she was like a hurricane.. wild and wet to start off and when she left?? she took my car and home with her.. " 😨🤣🤣
Like Nobita said it depends on their definition of cheating. Sex may not be cheating to them, but moving in or talking about intimate matters would. Its situational but always ask what their definition of loyalty and cheating are
@@MuhammadRizwan-dv4yd love jihad?fuck of dude.
I hope a lot of people see this and really reflect on the points he made. Many Americans go into relationships without thinking at all and many of these points make a LOT of sense. Taking some of these things into consideration means you're actually thinking about what you're getting into and not just making an emotional decision.
I wish I had seen this when I was a teenager! (Although I probably wouldn't have listened!)
i am living in Japan for 6 years now and i speak Japanese fluently. what you say is true and more. When Japanese say they like foreigners they meant westerners or white people. while other types of foreigners (ex: Chinese, South East Asians, African decent) are mostly looked down upon.
Thats pretty sad
Koreans are quite popular though. But it really doesn’t surprise me that they don’t like Chinese their manners are often awful. They shout around in my dorm constantly it is a real nuisance.
Real shit
100% factual and an absolutely necessary reality check for a lot of people who might know a lot about Japan but not Japanese people (I’ve been there myself)
Thank you brother Nobita, I truly appreciate your sincerity and looking out for us. My compassion to those desiring to leave Japan; that is to say, leaving behind what hurts and is unbearable as this applies to many countries unfortunately.
Life isn't like in anime? I thought there would be giant robots and dramatic music playing at pivotal moments! This is a major surprise.
So life is not like it is in anime ?
So I can not meat son goku ?
I can not meat naruto?
Damn this puts a dent in my plan.
Curse you reality!
I was joking around I will stop now.
For the first time I'm really glad that people like him exist thanks man.
Thankyou for posting such videos ! ❤❤ Very good to know about all these things, awesome video!
I stopped dating here. In my home country, if a girl likes you, she *shows* it. If a girl wants nothing to do with you, she *shows* it. There is no confusion over how she feels. Here, I have experienced women consistently acting very nice towards me when I first meet them, and then when we get closer, they swing back and forth between acting like they are very interested one day and then acting like they want absolutely nothing to do with me the next by avoiding and ignoring me. Then they would go back to acting interested again days later. It has happened a number of times with different women.
It was very stressful, confusing, and depressing. Eventually, I just said no more, assumed that I'm not a good fit for women here, and walked away from the dating scene here. No regrets.
Where is the place with such great women if i may ask? :)
When you say "here" are you referring to Japan?
@@danshakuimo Yes.
I suggest using dating apps. No guessing and you can tell she is interested if she still meets up with you. There is no Oh I only like you as a friend BS there.
@@brocki95xxx i used only tinder but on this experience id say its a bad idea
To anyone dating internationally: Make sure you work out which country you both agree to live in. Otherwise, no-go.
Man I never thought of these things. Thank you bro for speaking on these issues, especially not in your native tongue. It’s good to understand.
6:26 As the saying goes:
"The grass is greener on the other side".
And the grass is grass on the other side.