The body lies in state - a traditional Maori funeral

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  • @nathanlippitt3821
    @nathanlippitt3821 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Omgggg... I was sooo excited when you shouted out my name!! I watch every single episode you upload, love watching you both grow! ❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😁 no problem happy to shout out, you guys are all awesome for watching ☺️ take care Nathan 😊💚

  • @pamhopkins3401
    @pamhopkins3401 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have thoroughly enjoyed the visit with Chas and learning of his quite interesting culture. I could sit and listen to him talk all day. When ever I have the opportunity to learn about other cultures, I take advantage of it. Thanks again, Chas.🇺🇸

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I will pass on your message to Chas 💚 He is a wonderful kind caring gentleman with a beautiful family. He has a heart of gold and is so caring for others. We could listen to him all day too 😊💚

  • @Lisa0809
    @Lisa0809 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video My kids were all in the room for 3 hours after my father inlaw passed. We took them all to see him at his viewing even the little kids. It helped them so much even my 3yo still talks about the last time she saw her Poppy and how beautiful he looked in his suit. They helped me pick out his clothes his aftershave everything he needed. I explained everything along the way. This was only 4 months ago for us and i would not have done it any other way.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow has it been 4 months, just seem like a few weeks ago. Hope you are ok 💚
      We do think it is important to include all the family even children, we need to talk openly as it happens to us all.
      It lovely to hear you did that with the Children. Take care 😊💚

  • @laurainebelsey2498
    @laurainebelsey2498 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Tracy & Trish, I lost my mum in 2005 we had an open casket for her an we had her come home for 5 days until her funeral. It gave me great comfort to sit with her and I even painted her nails and put some of her usual makeup on which she wore. I am so in admiration to you Tracy for the compassion and kindness you do for people's loved ones, not everyone gets to be with there loved ones like I did, so it's nice to know someone cares for them the way you do. Lots of love sending to you both xx

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lauraine, we are both so sorry for the loss of your mum but it was lively that you had that time to spend with her. Thank you for your kind message, such lovely words. Take care xx

  • @mandabailey3507
    @mandabailey3507 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello... enjoyed this weeks one.
    What a beautiful culture we can all learn from.. to be part of this as a family and embracing death rather than leaving it to strangers.
    (altho not so keen on embalming.but understand its needed.) what a wonderful way to honour our deceased families. Including the animals too. Fascinating traditions.how lovely that community being together..and including everyone.. I would love this!
    Thankyou for such an interesting video ..as always you two have done it again! Have a great week.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Amanda, we are so lucky to know Chas, he has some wonderful stories such a very spiritual, kind and caring person. We are so glad he agreed to share is story. Take care 😊💚

  • @chezzlemanizzle
    @chezzlemanizzle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You guys should watch' the casketeers' on Netflix. It's all about the mauri funeral rituals. Loved it. So interesting

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Cheryl, we do and we love it 💚 I keep asking me boss to do a program like this at our work.
      Thank you for watching, take care 😊💚

    • @chezzlemanizzle
      @chezzlemanizzle 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow keep bugging him!! Even if it's for TH-cam. You girls should do videos of all types of religious funeral rituals. Keep it up!!! Love your videos

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We will Cheryl, we are going to try and interview some different people on all kinds of culture if we can. Thanks again 😊💚

  • @tapihanaakarana4408
    @tapihanaakarana4408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The tribes that I am affiliated too in New Zealand, that are Te Arawa- Rotorua area, Ngapuhi- North of Auckland & Ngati Tuwharetoa-Taupo area...DO NOT eat near the decease, even at their family homestead and NEVER at the marae. This is why WE have a wharekai or dinning halls.
    It is tapu - sacred because it is believed that Māori spirits avoid and are repelled by food!....Last thing We want is for the spirit of Our Loved one to be distraught in the afterlife - oh, and personally I think that's foul to eat near a dead person🤮
    We NEVER leave the decease alone. There is ALWAYS someone with them.
    We sleep beside Our Dead, some nights just sharing life stories, but on the last night We stay up ALL NIGHT, singing, laughing, crying and sharing stories - this is called Poroporoaki....leading up to the Poroporoaki night whenever the last person or people decide to go to sleep, You MUST cover the dead's face with the facial shroud!!
    You must be Welcomed onto the marae by a kaikaranga or caller that is only female and it is a sombre chant...You can not just walk up to where the decease is lying in state OR YOU will be viciously attacked verbally and even physically!!
    Some tribes DO NOT allow manuhiri aka visitors to walk onto the marae after sunset....and will ONLY be Welcomed on to the marae when dawn breaks.
    Some tribes lay the dead under the 3rd rib or rafter in main meeting house that is situated to your right as you enter thru the door/s AND others lay the dead at the back.
    Some tribes walk the dead thru the door of the main meeting house, while other tribes put them thru the windows because only the living walk thru the doorways!
    There are many other protocols to follow or to be followed from different rohe or areas.
    We dress our dead because We need to know that they are treated well and looking their best before the rest of the whānau - family see them.
    Most of the time it is the women's duty to dress the dead no matter what gender the decease is, however, men can also accompany the women as well....but majority of the time ONLY women are sent.
    I thank you for sharing what may happen at a Māori tangihanga - funeral, but Māoridom is quite diverse when it comes to different tribal protocols pertaining to funeral arrangements and etiquettes.
    KiaOra.
    I reside in Melbourne, Australia and Māori funerals here are different to those at home in NZ.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Tapihana, Thank you so much for sharing your story and traditions, fascinating and so lovely the care and time that is given to your loved ones 🙏💚
      Stay safe, healthy and take care 😊💚

    • @CallemJayNZ
      @CallemJayNZ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm Tuwharetoa, Ngāti Raukawa, Ngāti Apa and Ngā Rauru.
      In Ngā Rauru, the kirimate or whānau pani do not eat in the wharekai, they are fed in the same room as the deceased normally on special whāriki/mats used only for that purpose. They also weren't permitted to leave the Marae for the burial until recently. Now it's only the spouse or eldest surviving child that stays back at the Marae while the burial is taking place. After the burial another powhiri is held and after the whaikōrero are complete, a kuia will stand and recite a "pao" while holding a bottle of hard liquor like whiskey. The bottle is passed around the room while waiata whakangāhau (Upbeat action songs) are being performed. It is seen as a way to whakanoa, noa is the opposite to tapu. After this process the close members of the deceased are finally allowed to enter the dining room

  • @Me.Myself.and.I.
    @Me.Myself.and.I. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Most interesting conversation! thank you for highlighting this tradition!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi M.C W gum, thank you for that lovely feed back. We will make sure Chas get this, he is a lovely kind caring man and is always happy to share his story. We are privileged to call him our friend 💚💚

    • @Me.Myself.and.I.
      @Me.Myself.and.I. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow you guys are so caring and professional, great insight to the respect you all show to our dead

  • @niknax8124
    @niknax8124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a great video! Looking forward to watching the next segment. It would be nice to see a series on how these traditions/customs differ from culture to culture, in comparison to us here in Australia.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Nik Nak, definitely something to look into 👍☺️

    • @niknax8124
      @niknax8124 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you. I think it would make for an interesting, insightful series.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Totally 😊 take care 😊💚

  • @debbiebartlett6526
    @debbiebartlett6526 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very interesting ladies snd thankyou👏💜

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Debbie, thank you for watching ☺️ take care 😊💚

  • @aysekucukkoylu490
    @aysekucukkoylu490 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing your stories
    It's so beautiful.. and as it should be.. as it used to be in the UK...

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the comment. We are hoping the break down some fears and misconceptions. 🙂

  • @londonkyguy
    @londonkyguy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good evening beautiful ladies and Chas . Caught you before the gym today.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂 that's good we usually get you after the gym 💪 hope it was a good session 💪
      Take care 😊

  • @chriskay7315
    @chriskay7315 ปีที่แล้ว

    In recent years Te Ao Māori traditional embalming is reviving. An intimacy for whānau to grieve wholeheartedly. Such an honouring experience

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing 🙏💚💚

    • @ourpeople-g7r
      @ourpeople-g7r 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      These maori funeral videos are great. I wish there were more maori funeral videos.

  • @gewells8098
    @gewells8098 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very interesting! Can't wait for the next session! Seems like a great guy

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😊 Chas is a great guy. And we are so pleased he agreed to chat about his tribe and culture with us all. Take care 😊💚

  • @donnal.salmon998
    @donnal.salmon998 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved this video!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!! Chas is a beautiful man and has a beautiful soul 🤗💚💚

  • @belindatangalakis902
    @belindatangalakis902 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow what a interesting topic can't wait for next week 👍👍👍

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Belinda, we are blessed to know Chas and for him to tell his story, he is normal quite private on this kind of thing. Thank you for watching, take care 😊💚

    • @belindatangalakis902
      @belindatangalakis902 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow that's nice to know seems like a wonderful guy too. I would love to see more of this if possible like from around the world. I know I think it's India where cremation if very different types than from here. Not sure if you would be able to do this but it's just a suggestion very curious about different cultures etc.👍💚

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We are going to try and cover different religious services and culture. We have a few ideas up our sleeves 😉 just need to bring them together and find the right people. Watch this space ☺️💚

    • @belindatangalakis902
      @belindatangalakis902 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow oh really will definitely be keeping a look out for that I think I've seen all but a couple of your videos as I really like the way you present your topics with care dignity and respect. So glad you are getting more viewers to your channel too. Much love sent to you both and stay safe also 💚💯

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you 😊💚

  • @jellybee68
    @jellybee68 ปีที่แล้ว

    We dont allow food near the body....but you should always eat after you visit the body, hence there is always food and drink outside the room where the body is.

  • @michaeldickens7493
    @michaeldickens7493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you guys hope you doing good in Australia

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Michael, thank you ☺️
      We are both really well.
      Hope you are keeping safe and healthy too ☺️💚

  • @FjIrwin
    @FjIrwin 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So fascinating ladies. Hope you are well. X

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi FJ, lovely to hear from you, we are both well, thank you. Chas was very kind to share his traditions with us as he is a very private person.
      Take care 😊

  • @alexcarrano5354
    @alexcarrano5354 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love you guys

  • @missreneree155
    @missreneree155 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi ladies
    I love watching your videos
    Since my Father died 11 months ago I am curious about anything to do with death.
    I’ve watched all your videos and they are really good. I love to see someone get embalmed in real life. I seen one video on TH-cam
    Am I crazy ? Ha ha keep the videos coming
    I love knowing everything there is to know
    Cheers from Maree Kilmartin 😁

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Maree, so sorry to hear the loss of your father, we hope you are coping ok and have support around you. You are certainly not crazy. That's why we do these videos we should talk more openly about death and what happens after. We all have the right to know and it is going to happen to us all.
      Thank you for watching.
      Take care Maree ☺️💚

  • @gavinsatrohan6702
    @gavinsatrohan6702 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome video

  • @comylare6879
    @comylare6879 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yup my nana drove my Mum up to our marae in her old van - a 3 hour trip.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Christine, wow that a big trip but also a very special one ❣️ we just think it such a lovely caring, spiritual kind of service to celebrate a life of a loved one. Sorry for the loss of you mum 😔
      Thank you for watching, take care 😊💚

    • @comylare6879
      @comylare6879 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow we are all pretty used to making the trip :) I still do throughout the year. Thank you, it was 12 years ago now, crazy how time passes so quickly when you think about it. Cant wait to watch the 2nd part. My tribe is Ngāpuhi which covers the area North of Auckland - the city Tainui is south of - out of interest :).

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wow just had a little look on the internet and found this out. Ngapuhi the largest group of the Maori people of New Zealand, still reside in their native land. In fact, they are the largest geographically spanning indigenous people in the country. Wow that is amazing and very special. You take care and thank you for sharing that, us westerners could learn or thing or two for culture like your in celebrating the life of our loved ones we have lost 😊💚

    • @comylare6879
      @comylare6879 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow yea thats right 😊 you guys take care to!!

  • @spencerallegra
    @spencerallegra 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was so interesting

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      We could listen to Chas all day ☺️ thank you again, take care 💚💚

  • @nicolerodanhisler3899
    @nicolerodanhisler3899 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your videos

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Nicole, that is very nice of you to say 💚 thank you and please take care 😊

  • @lx5584
    @lx5584 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where you ladies base?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi L X, we are in Brisbane Queensland Australia, the Sunshine State 🌞😎

    • @lx5584
      @lx5584 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow Great, I like your videos. You should do TikTok too, would be great.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much, need to ask Trish my partner in crime about that, she is the social media Guru 😊 I just sit they and chat 😉 take care 😊💚

  • @stevew3196
    @stevew3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really interesting that they celebrate the life of the deceased. Some similarities with other cultures. In the Jewish faith it's usually members from the synagogue who wash and dress the deceased rather than funeral directors.
    The idea of staying with the deceased it's a tradition in celtic culture that a deceased is not left alone so evil spirits would not enter the body. Sometimes bodies would be laid out in bed but they developed The Gate Legged Wake Table (I emailed you a picture) the deceased would be laid out in an open coffin on the rectangular top of the table for viewing.
    When the body and mourners went to the church and graveyard the side leaves would be opened and food laid out for the wake.
    Some were fairly simply made from pine others more ornate made from hardwoods like Oak Elm and Yew.
    Brilliant to hear about how other cultures care for the deceased.😉

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for that Steve 😊
      Very interesting. We will try and do more culture in the future. Chas is such a lovely man, we were lucky he was happy to share his story. Will check the email. We Hope you are on the mend take care ☺️💚

    • @stevew3196
      @stevew3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow It's a credit to your channel that people like Chas are willing to share information they'd normally keep private.
      I particularly like the idea of celebration of life people staying with the deceased. We can learn a lot from other cultures.
      I remember when my Mum died we had the trauma of losing her then 10 days later were whipped into another frenzy of grief by the funeral and burial.
      We knew no better that's how funerals were then and there's no need for them to be!
      You mentioned about DIY funerals.
      I watched a documentary a few years ago.
      A man knew he was going to die. He was a humanist and said to his wife "I want no ceremony no service cremate me scatter my ashes in the sea."
      They tried to buy a coffin in the UK nobody would sell them one. Fortunately they lived in the south took a ferry to france and bought one there from a wholesaler.
      His wife and daughter colleted his body from the hospice washed and dressed him and got him in the coffin. Hospice staff helped them with paperwork they needed for cremation. They had trouble finding a crematorium to deal with them. A hospice doctor told them to put a couple of bags of frozen peas from the freezer on his abdomen.
      They delivered him to the crematorium in the back of a volvo estate car.
      It was like the funeral industry closed ranks to protect their exclusive franchise on death!
      Thankfully we've moved on and there are far more options available now.
      Always been a fan of the New Orleans style funerals.
      Slow procession followed by a brass band playing sombre music suddenly switch to Jazz and everyone starts dancing. What a send off😊

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      New Orleans funerals certainly know how to celebrate 👌😊

  • @karenhooson5496
    @karenhooson5496 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You girls are my new addiction. I love love love, Are you Dying to know ? 🥰🥰🥰

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh Karen, you made our day 😍😍 we've never been anyone's addiction before 😁quite the opposite, actually 🤔 guess it's a 'small doses' thing. Thanks for watching and for all the love 💚 have a happy week xx

    • @karenhooson5496
      @karenhooson5496 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow you too xx

  • @lucywilkinson6045
    @lucywilkinson6045 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was very interesting, i love hearing about it, but im glad im not in that tribe, that wouldnt be for me. Look forward to hearing the rest :)
    Hope your both well :) xx

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lucy, lovely to hear from you. We are very privileged to have Chas come on the the channel and share his traditions as he is normal very private in a lot of that kind of stuff. He is a lovely spiritual kind caring man. We are lucky to know him.
      Take care 😊 x

  • @pamlewis9459
    @pamlewis9459 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi ladies

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Pam 🙂
      Hope you are well. Take care from us ☺️

  • @kimglass4851
    @kimglass4851 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very interesting! I wonder if anyone does Viking funerals in this day and age
    where they put them on a wooden boat and set them on fire and they
    float in the water and burn

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Kim, hope you are well.
      Interesting, not sure.
      I know in India at the banks of the Ganges River Hindus do a similar thing. They believe that being cremated along the banks would free their souls from their bodies, thus the cycle of life is complete.
      Thank for watching Kim, take care 😊💚

  • @joncampos-cw2tk
    @joncampos-cw2tk ปีที่แล้ว

    Just please don’t do a Hakka. That will definitely wake the dead.