To be angry at others you must first resist your own unpleasant feelings

Practice of metta and the root of your aversion
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[@StanleyFamilyFun]

Good morning Dhamma Family

[@kzantal]

Thank you 🙏

[@hariharry391]

🙏

[@MichaelRickicki]

Anumodami Bhante!

[@teksongeap9640]

Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu

[@breathinghereonearth]

This teaching and all the other teachings in your videos could have saved me from decades of being lost in my search: therapy of various kinds, techniques/theories/books/wrong views. This includes so many who clothe themselves in so-called Buddhist teachings.
I'm now 61 years old. I have been able to simplify my life in various ways. Your teachings help to confirm the progress I've made, and help me see the value in the simplicity.
Thank you ❤

[@JoshSmith-ff8dw]

Yeah wish I discovered this channel years ago would have saved me a lot of heartache

[@amirnikzad1352]

Great talk venerable ajhan, wish all breath-takers will be free from suffering ,ill will, craving, aversion and distraction✨️☘️

[@ChillAndPeaceful]

All desire are self centered
When no desire then only compassion and renunciation
Because if there's desire in materialistic world then there's attachment into materialistic world

[@TheJosephHammond]

Venerable Sir. 🙏
I appreciate your perspective on non-resistance I can see that being helpful in developing patient endurance. Thank you kindly.
Can you clarify what is meant by “Indifference”? I’ve been taught that indifference is the near enemy of Equanimity.
An analogy a friend shared with me is “Equanimity is like a stone that needs to be warmed by the sunshine of the other three Brahmaviharas”.
With that in mind I’m recalling when I visited a monastery, something a monk
said, feels related:
It went something like: “Has anyone checked where that monk is? How long do you think it would be before someone went to check to see if he’s ok? He could be lying in a ditch for all we know. They think they’re equanimous but they really don’t care.”
How does that resonate with you?
Do you have another world that explains Equanimity becoming uncaring & cold?
Thank you for reminding me about Brahma-Farers! I don’t think that term gets used enough, I find it inspiring. Thank you & Be Well.
🌻☀️🌻

[@chepo658]

BHANTE beautyfull i never think in a framework🙏

[@One_In_Training]

Thank you Bhante!
Clearly, spreading good thoughts towards others as a practice that is done 'in order to' curb or diminish arisen ill-will, misses the point; where the right effort should be of 'non-acceptance' of the ill-will.
However, would you say that cultivating and giving rise to good thoughts towards others - in the absense of any present pressures (of ill-will) is of limited utility ? Can such a practice be seen in light of the striving of 'culivating unarisen as yet wholesomes' ?
Just as Asubha contemplation, in the absence of any pressing sensuality (i.e. not as a response to the pressure of sensuality), can be beneficial in weakening sensuality overall ; could the same be said about 'culivating good thoughts' as a contemplation exercise ?
The contemplation in question would be along the lines of recollecting how every being is subjected to the same Dukkha as oneself - and every act of any being is aimed (albeit ignorantly and misguidedly) towards the same goal (i.e. of putting an end to Dukkha).
Much gratitude for your continued guidance !

[@mavastola]

Bhante, I am grateful for this clear, incisive summation of your longstanding teaching on how the brahmaviharas described in the Suttas are incompatible with many contemporary understandings of "loving-kindness" practice and similar techniques. But could an ordinary person who is seeking progress in the Dhamma, but who is deeply challenged with feelings of ill will, benefit from regularly contemplating non-ill will?
From your previous talks, I have a much clearer sense of the value of contemplating unattractiveness, for example, than I do for the brahmaviharas, and I wonder if I am overlooking your understanding of their value as a source of contemplation.

[@junsukim7908]

Is it as simple as not acting out and doing "nothing" all day long? I did not indulge in sensual pleasures and just was on my chair, constantly observing different "phenomena" such as feelings, thoughts, and emotions pass by. Some deeply affected, some didn't but they all seemed to reside at the end of the day. Is this what you mean by sensual restraint and practicing the enduring aspect of dharma? The most debilitating is not being sensual restrained but rather quickly giving into sensual pleasure as my mindfulness is very weak and that seems to always put me back into hedonistic lifestyle of the material world. I guess keep at it?

[@theinngu5560]

I think in lay life it’s much harder as the distractions and company of others who are not interested means the mind easily ‘goes out’ and indulges in sense pleasures or thinking about the past/future…to be with the company of the wise does make a massive difference.