4-17-2009 Marilyn van Derbur interview-part1
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.ย. 2024
- On Arpil 17, 2009, former Miss America Marilyn van Derbur was interviewed by TV33. Ms. Van Derbur discusses the events and background that lead to her writing her recently released book, "Miss America by Day". Ms. Van Derbur was a victim of childhood sexual abuse by her father. Her story is a penetrating look at incest and the life altering affects this abuse has on children. This is part 1 of two parts of the interview. Other victims' stories can be found at www.columbustru... and www.steubenvill... .
This is 2020 and YOU Marilyn are still making a difference. Your eyes in these videos are so heartfelt and direct. If what I've gone through in my lifetime could give you peace, it would have been worth it.
My sisters and mother still call me a liar when I told, trying to protect my niece from the same thing happening to her. Her own mother, my oldest sister, is still angry at me for "telling." Did it do any good? I have no idea. But I am so glad that Marilyn stated that "they never stop" so 20 years later I know I must have done the right thing. No matter what my family is still doing to me. The families have to stop protecting the abusers and blaming the victims. This has to STOP!
Im so glad I found your comment. It reminds me of my own family. Our families want to keep up a fassard. Never stop bravely telling the truth in the face of opposition.
What matters is that your niece knows you are a solid rock for her. That may be her only lifeline.
I can just imagine how many people were/and still are being helped by this. This horrible abuse has and is going on today all over the world.
Marilyn is an angel.
Elegance, beauty, charming, brave. What a wonderful soul. xx
Marilyn, you are a brave a courageous woman after what you went through in your life. Miss America, 1958, you still look beautiful.
Marilyn van Derbur is a pioneer in talking about abuse in families. It takes such courage!
A courageous lady. I cannot imagine what she went through. Praise the Lord that she found a good husband.
sweetsmile1: Marilyn communicated with me, too, some years ago and I got to meet her in person when she gave a talk at Duke University. I was able to tell how terrible the psychiatric profession treats survivors of incest and she spoke on some of the same points. She has saved my life and the lives of countless others. God bless you Ms. van Derbur!
And God bless you , I hope you have healed , as much as possible , since you were abused .
I'm sorry your mother denied you the affirmation you needed. I've counseled incest survivors and that was one of their greatest pains. It takes almost as long to forgive mom as it does to forgive the perpetrator. Congratulations and thank you so much for the work you do. God bless you.
The mother is as guilty as her father who did not intervene.
Such an inspiration. Classy lady.
i love you Marilyn! you communicated with me by email several years ago and sent me your video as well. u are remarkable! you made such an impact on my life!
What a beautiful lady-inside and out!
A true hero!!!
wow. thank you for your courage. you are not alone, not unusual. you are a wonderful woman.
Such a beautiful elegant lady♥️💚💜
Thank you for your courage!!! You are a beautiful and wise woman, and listening to you helps me. I am 45 yo and dealing with the results of childhood abuse and it is often a painful journey.
Know that you are not alone and there are many others who have had similar experiences to you, who struggle as you do, grapple with the pain and unanswerable questions as you do.
We need MORE people like you in this work . God bless you . How can we help you ?
wow. thank you for your courage. you are not alone, not unusual. you are a wonderful woman. am glad you found your husband.
I love u very much Marilyn.
very articulate women on a very personal topic...still elegant and beautiful
omg. I can't even believe it. What a miracle
You're right, the world doesn't want to hear it but telling is important for self as well as other survivors. Hearing each other's stories, the similarities and little differences in detail brings understanding and breaks the isolating feeling that comes with it.
Such incredible courage. I salute you.
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I can't believe the interview actually asked why she did not tell. I lived through hell during my childhood. No way in hell would I have ever told. Things were bad enough but with my dad's parents next door it would have been worse. Papa was a retired minister and psychologist and I would have ruined his precious reputation in the community.
Ese Larry es un enviado de Dios