I used to work with a guy who was spineless.Our boss was a a little man who liked to bully the other guy.One day he comes in yelling about mistake s made on my day off.The other fellas wouldn't admit to doing it.So I said fuck it."I did it"!He yells at me for 3 to 5 minuted.then he leaves.we all get back to work.The boss returns an hour later yelling at me for taking the blame for guys.lol I said it made you stop yelling an that's all I needed.lmfao. He had to smile.
Lolz... You just reminded me of a similar incident when I came back from leave in the Navy, and just admitted to something (that I obviously couldn't have done) just to give our chief a "vent"... SO he bitched needlessly for about fifteen minutes before he remembered that I'd just come back from leave... Then we spent nearly an hour in an argument about whether it was better for me to "take the message" to the guy who'd actually screwed up (it was stupidly small and petty)... AND then we were knocked off for lunchtime. What happened was that I proved (to the chief) my point that after all the bitching, all you've really done was waste a bunch of time when work needs to get done. Although, it was kind of fun to push that particular chief's buttons... (I let myself enjoy a little sadism.) ;o)
Mr Willink I'm in my last semester of highschool and I feel myself loosing the motivation to go everyday,I have so much work and I'm falling behind. And i just so want to be done with school all ready. Once out of highschool I want to become a Seal as well. Is there any advice you can give me for these last few months of school? It would be greatly appreciated
Not feeling it? Good. Stay after it. I don't want to do it. Good. Do it anyways. There's plenty of things I don't want to do. But I do them anyways. NO FUCKING SLACK
The modern western world (idk about the rest of the world) constantly preaches motivation. However in reality, discipline >>> motivation. Discipline urself, get ur work done whether ur motivated or not. Seal training is going to be impossible for u if ur not disciplined enough to even get school work done. I can say this because I also fell for this motivation stuff, ended up not doing anything for 20 years. Now over these past few months ive taught myself discipline, i went from not doing anything all day to not having time to relax all day all due to disciplining myself and doing stuff i like. As i think mike tyson said: "discipline is doing something u hate like u love it"
I'm in a situation at work where I noticed this 1 guy doing his job careless. he does his job and is fast but he doesn't do it right. I'm the hard worker and I try to always do it the right way yet I get heat when I can't be fast enough while fixing his mistakes. I'm not 1 to snitch but this is ridiculous. ik is a team effort blahs blahs blahs but why continue to look bad for others?
For someone that comes from such an alpha male world, Jocko take a submissive position a lot in conflict resolution... I guess I'm just too pig headed to choke that down
It seems to me he understands it's more effective to make people think they are doing him a favor. He accomplished his goal and built up psychological good will instead of butting heads. That inch of ego he sold bought him a foot equity. Also context matters. Hitting on his wife he probably wouldn't call on the same strategy.
Dr. Catherine C. McCall [ThePhilosophyDoctor] Is that a covert dig at ‘toxic masculinity’ ? Seems like a bit of gaslighting here. Here is a guy that won’t blame you, even for YOUR failings as they affect him, and the response is ‘it’s easy for him’ But you know what’s great about JW? Even at that point he would probably say, hey, I’m sorry I came across that way, my fault, here’s what I will do to correct it going forward. The beauty of an honorable character is even the mud thrown at them from the gutter looks dignified.
This is 100% all true without a doubt. UNTIL…the same blame is being repeated by your partner on a daily basis maybe multiple times a day over a period of years. Then your calm mature stoic and “ being the bigger-person” demeanour suddenly disappears one day and you completely lose your mind and all sense of existence and possibly explode into a blind rage. That’s when divorce papers come in handy. 😊
I love how the really awesome intellectual conversations with JP are in the light ... but when you break down our military history it is in the dark ..... outstanding -CTT2 Ret USN SW/AW
It's a great video and discussion... I might point out though, even in the context offered here, that "issues" have different categories and should be prioritized as such... For the feet on the table... It's a social cues and engagement of respect issue. Civility teaches us that it's just better manners (and therefore respectful and respectable) to keep feet on the floor. It's a small thing, so just don't escalate. It's the same for people with their hands in their pockets instead of showing, or exhibiting horrible and lazy posture. BUT sometimes, contextually, it can be handled better as a "pep talk" about having pride in one's self rather than someone taking issue with the social faux pas. Teaching doesn't have to come as a bitch-session... Dry chicken... There's only about six hundred thousand different ways you can "get away" with cooking damn decent chicken. Some are drier than others by rote, and some are easier to keep seared outside and succulent, moist, and so delicious inside... Here's a novel approach for the dudes who HATE the dry chicken... Look up "braising" techniques. It's not difficult. There's a HUGE variety, and some of it is going to be EXACTLY the thing you AND your significant other (or household cook) is going to enjoy. It can even be a WONDERFUL group project. Braising is just a matter of cooking the chicken IN a sauce... Be that a brown, meaty gravy, or a rich and tangy vegetable sauce, spicy curry goop, or whatever... You can add vegetables in slices, rings, decorative cuts, or chunks (for the unrefined hack, like me) just whack 'em to pieces and throw 'em into the pan... pot... skillet... whatever! Here's the trick. Instead of a line like "Honey, I love you to death, and you do cook really good BUT..." (stop right there... artists don't hear "but", they hear "forget whatever BS I just said") SO try this line... "Hey HONEY! I just found this recipe for curry braised chicken fricassee, and I think it sounds absolutely WONDERFUL... Would you, since you clearly know how to cook this stuff better than me, help me make dinner tonight instead of doing it all yourself?" AND bam... 9 times out of 10 (if you guess her pallet correctly) she'll still do most of the "heavy lifting" in the kitchen, and then YOU GET LAID FOR BEING A GOOD MAN!!! Frankly, I'm a little surprised it didn't get mentioned... BUT maybe (we can hope) it was just somewhere's else on the podcast. ;o)
PROTIP: Tell your wife this "way of cooking X" gives you heartburn...tell her you dont know why & that it takes great but you get heartburn. TRUST ME this shit works. No one likes heartburn so it's easier for her to blame my weird physiology than her crappy cooking.
I take a little issue; or rather, I'm a bit afraid to take responsibility for myself in cases like the feet on the table. Don't get me wrong, it's commendable, but I do get worried that taking such a position in certain situations might make me pass off as someone who always takes blame to avoid confrontation. That said, I'd really love to hear opinions and criticism on this idea, since it's something I've been struggling with myself.
Butter under the breast skin. Don't over cook it. Very easy. Brining can also work. But, most importantly, don't buy factory farmed quick growing chicken raised indoors. They have almost no saturated fat. Hence they will always come out dry if cooked to well done.
I am quite good at keeping chicken tender. And I almost exclusively use supermarket chicken, cuz yeh I ain't rich. Problem is most people treat chicken different from beef or more exclusive poultry: they just keep rolling it all around in the pan till it all looks good. Wrong! Treat every piece like beef. Sear the outside and keep every piece in check then either lower the temperature or after the searing is done introduce whatever sauce you wanna serve and let it sit in that for a bit till the inside is cooked enough to not make you die of salmonella hahaha. And some people are always in a hurry. Lower temperatures for longer are almost always better for keeping just about anything tender. Such a waste to have to wash down turkey with water because it's dryer than a desert..
Jocko, what about sarcasm in this scenario? Making light of, while bringing up an issue in a small unit when the relationships are closer and more positive.
Why apologize to an obvious asshole? My gym is no shoes. If someone walks in, doesnt know, and steps on the mats with their shoes. No biggie, we just explain and clean the area they stepped on real quick. If they do it again, they are expelled. Third and fourth chances with long apologies is not a great way to make a point nor maintain personal integrity
The astronauts that work together on the ISS have a sane system of having to deal with each other at all times of the day in a inclosed place and its acknowleding that everyone does certain annoying things and agree to tell each other right away freely to stop doing anything that annoyes them and vice versa. Could be anything from keeping a drawer open or not recapping the toothpaste. Haha found this works great for when you move in with family or people in general to tell the person you yourself may do some annoying things and its okay to call you out on it and you do the same to them so nothing gets brewing with that thousand cuts of little things that bother you everyday.
Brendan Bunnell lol forgot about this. I was confused. Yeah just a dumb comment by me semi-joking around. Since I do feel it is an unnecessary addition. Take care bud.
Just a general comment that is not gonna be popular here. I’m 59 my dad served in ww2 my brother is a marine, and I love the ideals of our country. I listen to this podcast and benefit, and I admire Mr. Willink a lot and use his example to motivate myself to do better. But I do see the glorification of the military. I see people like GEneral Mattis lionized without mention of the civilian deaths he causes in Iraq. I see no mention of the fact that the Tonkin gulf incident was a lie fabricated by our government , that led to 60000 of our young men dying. I believe in discipline, hard work, and making a contribution, and this podcast delivers. Totally. But I also believe that as free citizens in a free country , e must speak truth to power, and that is an honorable and necessary responsibility. That’s all I wanted to say I thank you Mr. Willink, and echo Charles , for your good work.
Chicken too dry? Good. Opportunity to rehydrate.
Choked? Good. Opportunity for EMS to practice saving lives.
This dude knows what's up.
Perfect
^^^^^ to the author ^^^^ - AHHAHHAHAHAHA!!!!
Hahahahahahahahahhaa 'Good'
Jocko and Jordan 3 please!
Echo chiming in with "refined" made me chuckle
what is a black truth of mine?!?
Jocko and Jordan needs another episode. Also with Joe
You can feel yourself getting smarter by just listening to these guys talk!
I used to work with a guy who was spineless.Our boss was a a little man who liked to bully the other guy.One day he comes in yelling about mistake s made on my day off.The other fellas wouldn't admit to doing it.So I said fuck it."I did it"!He yells at me for 3 to 5 minuted.then he leaves.we all get back to work.The boss returns an hour later yelling at me for taking the blame for guys.lol I said it made you stop yelling an that's all I needed.lmfao. He had to smile.
Lolz... You just reminded me of a similar incident when I came back from leave in the Navy, and just admitted to something (that I obviously couldn't have done) just to give our chief a "vent"... SO he bitched needlessly for about fifteen minutes before he remembered that I'd just come back from leave...
Then we spent nearly an hour in an argument about whether it was better for me to "take the message" to the guy who'd actually screwed up (it was stupidly small and petty)... AND then we were knocked off for lunchtime.
What happened was that I proved (to the chief) my point that after all the bitching, all you've really done was waste a bunch of time when work needs to get done. Although, it was kind of fun to push that particular chief's buttons... (I let myself enjoy a little sadism.) ;o)
My 2 father's on the same screen. My phone isn't big enough.
Mr Willink I'm in my last semester of highschool and I feel myself loosing the motivation to go everyday,I have so much work and I'm falling behind. And i just so want to be done with school all ready. Once out of highschool I want to become a Seal as well. Is there any advice you can give me for these last few months of school? It would be greatly appreciated
Not feeling it? Good.
Stay after it.
I don't want to do it.
Good. Do it anyways.
There's plenty of things I don't want to do. But I do them anyways. NO FUCKING SLACK
The modern western world (idk about the rest of the world) constantly preaches motivation. However in reality, discipline >>> motivation. Discipline urself, get ur work done whether ur motivated or not. Seal training is going to be impossible for u if ur not disciplined enough to even get school work done. I can say this because I also fell for this motivation stuff, ended up not doing anything for 20 years. Now over these past few months ive taught myself discipline, i went from not doing anything all day to not having time to relax all day all due to disciplining myself and doing stuff i like. As i think mike tyson said: "discipline is doing something u hate like u love it"
Jocko looks like B.J. Blaskowicz.
He is Major Chip Hazard
Who are these people
Oh doom guy. Yeah badass
He looks like a more buff Matt Damon.
Jocks response is better
Put subtitles please
Not clear what they mean by "absorb" ... what is the actual thing that's done?
Paul Allan he’s means essentially not verbalizing whatever this “truth” might be.
I'm in a situation at work where I noticed this 1 guy doing his job careless. he does his job and is fast but he doesn't do it right. I'm the hard worker and I try to always do it the right way yet I get heat when I can't be fast enough while fixing his mistakes. I'm not 1 to snitch but this is ridiculous. ik is a team effort blahs blahs blahs but why continue to look bad for others?
I blame Ice Cube cuz he asked me to.
I was so born in the wrong decade. I'd marry Jocko in a heartbeat, man...
I swear marriages end over dry chicken all of the time 😂
When the Gods talk....people listen
For someone that comes from such an alpha male world, Jocko take a submissive position a lot in conflict resolution... I guess I'm just too pig headed to choke that down
that's why he can do it easier than you can. it is easier when you are the alpha
It seems to me he understands it's more effective to make people think they are doing him a favor. He accomplished his goal and built up psychological good will instead of butting heads. That inch of ego he sold bought him a foot equity. Also context matters. Hitting on his wife he probably wouldn't call on the same strategy.
Dr. Catherine C. McCall [ThePhilosophyDoctor]
Is that a covert dig at ‘toxic masculinity’ ?
Seems like a bit of gaslighting here. Here is a guy that won’t blame you, even for YOUR failings as they affect him, and the response is ‘it’s easy for him’
But you know what’s great about JW? Even at that point he would probably say, hey, I’m sorry I came across that way, my fault, here’s what I will do to correct it going forward.
The beauty of an honorable character is even the mud thrown at them from the gutter looks dignified.
Some people that have seen extremes of life and death and commanded others can contextualize the human condition better then others.
Look up the Ted talk on alpha males. Alphas are not what we often think.
infinity war was the most ambitious crossover event?
I think not.
Spooter pooter town
Well, it just so happens that Thanos is in this video as well.
Thanos taking advice from Red Skull regarding dry cheeekeen
"I'm just to refined for your damn chicken"
This is 100% all true without a doubt. UNTIL…the same blame is being repeated by your partner on a daily basis maybe multiple times a day over a period of years. Then your calm mature stoic and “ being the bigger-person” demeanour suddenly disappears one day and you completely lose your mind and all sense of existence and possibly explode into a blind rage. That’s when divorce papers come in handy. 😊
As we say in Scotland Don't take my kindness for daftness
I love how the really awesome intellectual conversations with JP are in the light ... but when you break down our military history it is in the dark ..... outstanding -CTT2 Ret USN SW/AW
Imagine having a wife that took responsibility on like this. Holy crap, that would rule.
Jocko and Jordan compliment each other very very well!
It's a great video and discussion...
I might point out though, even in the context offered here, that "issues" have different categories and should be prioritized as such...
For the feet on the table... It's a social cues and engagement of respect issue. Civility teaches us that it's just better manners (and therefore respectful and respectable) to keep feet on the floor. It's a small thing, so just don't escalate. It's the same for people with their hands in their pockets instead of showing, or exhibiting horrible and lazy posture. BUT sometimes, contextually, it can be handled better as a "pep talk" about having pride in one's self rather than someone taking issue with the social faux pas. Teaching doesn't have to come as a bitch-session...
Dry chicken... There's only about six hundred thousand different ways you can "get away" with cooking damn decent chicken. Some are drier than others by rote, and some are easier to keep seared outside and succulent, moist, and so delicious inside...
Here's a novel approach for the dudes who HATE the dry chicken... Look up "braising" techniques. It's not difficult. There's a HUGE variety, and some of it is going to be EXACTLY the thing you AND your significant other (or household cook) is going to enjoy. It can even be a WONDERFUL group project.
Braising is just a matter of cooking the chicken IN a sauce... Be that a brown, meaty gravy, or a rich and tangy vegetable sauce, spicy curry goop, or whatever... You can add vegetables in slices, rings, decorative cuts, or chunks (for the unrefined hack, like me) just whack 'em to pieces and throw 'em into the pan... pot... skillet... whatever!
Here's the trick. Instead of a line like "Honey, I love you to death, and you do cook really good BUT..." (stop right there... artists don't hear "but", they hear "forget whatever BS I just said")
SO try this line... "Hey HONEY! I just found this recipe for curry braised chicken fricassee, and I think it sounds absolutely WONDERFUL... Would you, since you clearly know how to cook this stuff better than me, help me make dinner tonight instead of doing it all yourself?"
AND bam... 9 times out of 10 (if you guess her pallet correctly) she'll still do most of the "heavy lifting" in the kitchen, and then YOU GET LAID FOR BEING A GOOD MAN!!!
Frankly, I'm a little surprised it didn't get mentioned... BUT maybe (we can hope) it was just somewhere's else on the podcast. ;o)
thank you for the wisdom old man
PROTIP: Tell your wife this "way of cooking X" gives you heartburn...tell her you dont know why & that it takes great but you get heartburn. TRUST ME this shit works. No one likes heartburn so it's easier for her to blame my weird physiology than her crappy cooking.
Thats a very iffy one. What if your wife does the research and changes the complete diet accordingly? I would rather stick with the truth.
I take a little issue; or rather, I'm a bit afraid to take responsibility for myself in cases like the feet on the table. Don't get me wrong, it's commendable, but I do get worried that taking such a position in certain situations might make me pass off as someone who always takes blame to avoid confrontation.
That said, I'd really love to hear opinions and criticism on this idea, since it's something I've been struggling with myself.
It's easier to work people like this, over little things it won't matter but on important events then people will notice
I needed this video 👍🏻🙌🏻
i would like to see someone walk into Jocko's office and put their feet on the desk 🤣
Went to Jockos store to buy T-Shirt to support his podcast - US$49 postage for a $29 T-Shirt.. --->>NOT GOOD
I’ll take all the blame
I proceed from Shame
“I’m too defined for your damn chicken” 😂
A SEAL with a super sensitive palette. NICE! XD
Butter under the breast skin. Don't over cook it. Very easy. Brining can also work. But, most importantly, don't buy factory farmed quick growing chicken raised indoors. They have almost no saturated fat. Hence they will always come out dry if cooked to well done.
I am quite good at keeping chicken tender. And I almost exclusively use supermarket chicken, cuz yeh I ain't rich. Problem is most people treat chicken different from beef or more exclusive poultry: they just keep rolling it all around in the pan till it all looks good. Wrong! Treat every piece like beef. Sear the outside and keep every piece in check then either lower the temperature or after the searing is done introduce whatever sauce you wanna serve and let it sit in that for a bit till the inside is cooked enough to not make you die of salmonella hahaha. And some people are always in a hurry. Lower temperatures for longer are almost always better for keeping just about anything tender. Such a waste to have to wash down turkey with water because it's dryer than a desert..
Is this not a way to be fake hiding your true words? let's be real.
Jocko and JP together are monstrous
Jocko, what about sarcasm in this scenario? Making light of, while bringing up an issue in a small unit when the relationships are closer and more positive.
Well he didn't agree to the idea of taking all the blames yourself...
Yeah try not to offend the person by any means possible it's not an easy task but it's the right thing to do
Morning boss 👊
Thanks for the book
Awesome thoughts!!!
Brine the chicken
Why apologize to an obvious asshole? My gym is no shoes. If someone walks in, doesnt know, and steps on the mats with their shoes. No biggie, we just explain and clean the area they stepped on real quick. If they do it again, they are expelled. Third and fourth chances with long apologies is not a great way to make a point nor maintain personal integrity
The astronauts that work together on the ISS have a sane system of having to deal with each other at all times of the day in a inclosed place and its acknowleding that everyone does certain annoying things and agree to tell each other right away freely to stop doing anything that annoyes them and vice versa. Could be anything from keeping a drawer open or not recapping the toothpaste.
Haha found this works great for when you move in with family or people in general to tell the person you yourself may do some annoying things and its okay to call you out on it and you do the same to them so nothing gets brewing with that thousand cuts of little things that bother you everyday.
Pervy I don’t comment much but bravo, great solution to a common problem! Great example too!
@@brendanbunnell5120 It annoys me when people say they don't comment much. But then comment. It's unnecessary addition to your comment.
OneDankind be positive brother, being easily annoyed isn’t a very helpful trait!
Eagle Eye most likely! I know I’ll be putting it to good use with my roommate and future associates
Brendan Bunnell lol forgot about this. I was confused. Yeah just a dumb comment by me semi-joking around. Since I do feel it is an unnecessary addition. Take care bud.
I highly doubt Jocko's wife Cooks dry chicken ..I cannot believe he hasn't spoken about her chicken issues .. seriously dude!
I’m all about telling the truth! Aaaaand my life sucks. #noonelikesthetruth
Jocko don't eat chicken, He tactically Crush it with his Tactical Team Unit Teeths.
Jocko you should invite Brendon Burchard to your podcast.
You guys are amazing
I pick my nose a lot!
Flavoring
Nogla's DAD OMGGG
Learn how to cook yourself...
Fried chicken isn’t dry!
Just a general comment that is not gonna be popular here. I’m 59 my dad served in ww2 my brother is a marine, and I love the ideals of our country. I listen to this podcast and benefit, and I admire Mr. Willink a lot and use his example to motivate myself to do better. But I do see the glorification of the military. I see people like GEneral Mattis lionized without mention of the civilian deaths he causes in Iraq. I see no mention of the fact that the Tonkin gulf incident was a lie fabricated by our government , that led to 60000 of our young men dying. I believe in discipline, hard work, and making a contribution, and this podcast delivers. Totally. But I also believe that as free citizens in a free country , e must speak truth to power, and that is an honorable and necessary responsibility. That’s all I wanted to say I thank you Mr. Willink, and echo Charles , for your good work.
I'm getting pissed off..