At 22 my mother asked me if i thought I was partying too much. I told her she was being dramatic because I’m the legal age to drink, it’s what I’m supposed to do. A week later I totaled my car and got arrested for a DUI. It’s absolutely a very fine yet normalized line of “you’re young, you’re supposed to make mistake” and “oh no I’m ruining my life”. EDIT: y’all nowhere in my comment did I say my decision to drink and drive is justifiable because I’m an addict, nor did I say it SHOULD be normalized. I commented a small part of my story to show that I made excuses for my partying only to make a decision that nearly led to the death of myself and those around me. And it took ONE night, ONE split second decision. And I could’ve ruined my life beyond repair. And that’s something young people should think about more often instead of saying “I’m just having fun”. Because whether it should be normalized or not doesn’t matter. The truth of it is that it IS normalized. And denying that fact is denying important conversation that could lead to change
Over 4 years self harm free! I also recently gave up alcohol for genuine health reasons so helping to normalize not drinking for whatever reason is helpful for everyone! Some people can’t reveal they’re pregnant yet, or they’re on medication, or that they may be struggling with sobriety. I love that in my friend group and others I’ve seen, the second you say you aren’t drinking it’s super chill and no one bats an eye. ❤
Only 4 days sober from alcohol today, this is BEYOND needed. I love you adam, always have always will. Thank you for every word you have said, it helps me feel better about my choices.
Well done!! Keep going, you can do this!! I’m just about to celebrate 6 months and it feels like yesterday that I was overcoming my first week with no alcohol. Best of luck with everything!!!
you SHOULD feel good about that choice, you chose to live for yourself instead of let something control you’re mind, you can do this! you’re stronger than you know, and don’t forget the feeling of a healthy working body will feel 10x more healing than a drink that will disintegrate youre liver and ruin you’re kidneys in a very quick amount of time, you got this man 🖤
Im a recovering addict, so ill always support someones sobriety. I hope shes doing well and people dont rip her apart for this. Ive lost SO many people from addiction, so i fully support anyones sobriety no matter who they are. Nobody deserves to be an addict in addiction. That truly is hell, i wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Adam, you 100% made sense during your discussion about being in your 20s and drinking and going out. I just turned 21 and while I did have my fun drinking and getting hammered with my girls, something just clicked in my head where I started to become cautious and mindful of my surroundings. Its a scary world we live in and i think its crucial that us adults, especially young adults take this into account for their own safety 💗💗 live your 20s however you want but always keep your eyes open
I just have to shout out this comment section for being so honest, vulnerable, accepting, kind hearted and supportive. This is such a lovely community that has been cultivated and scrolling through has made me so emotional and inspired. I’m so proud of you guys!
Lawyers would sadly advise against her sharing about her sobriety because it could be used against her in court (which was ongoing for 4 years), and unfortunately addicts have a bad reputation as there is a systemic misunderstanding
I’m 21 and sober from bul¡m¡a and alcohol. And I’ve decided for myself to not drink, smoke, or do anything sort of narcot¡cs. It has been the best decision FOR ME AND MY LIFE. The first thing I learnt was who my real friends are, the ones who support me and my decisions for my life. The second thing I learnt is that I enjoy life so much more when I can remember what I did the night before. The third thing I learnt is that the braver I am in sharing my story the stronger I become, because all of a sudden it’s not a daily battle I’m fighting alone it’s a battle I’m fighting with a whole team behind me supporting me.
I struggled with ED's for along time as a kid and teen, it's caused permanent damage to my nerves in my stomach. It's caused many chronic illnesses I've only discovered during recovery and man do they impact my life. I won't go into details but I went from being healthy and "overweight" to being basically the same weight but now a few years away from needing a feeding tube amongst other stuff despite being recovered from ed. I feel more people of all ages and genders need to hear more people's experiences in order to educate themselves. No one told me about all the health issues eds can cause I basically thought they were a get skinny quick hack as a young dumb kid.
Well don't swear to not do narcotics as things may happen where you can't get around it, like I said I wouldn't either but I ended up getting severe chronic pain that can't be controlled in any other way especially since medical marijuana isn't legal in my state. I hope you never have to deal with that, Good luck!
Where I live drinking age is 19. At 16 I had a few weekends blackout and puking in the bush. At this time my dad was also trying to “teach” me how to drink responsibly and appreciate wine. As a teen I ended up having a couple drinks a month. When I turned 19, I went to the bars Thurs-Fri-Sat-Sun&Monday nights. I love dancing & karaoke; however it was get drunk before going out then drink more at the bar. It was so so so gross being drunk/hungover most of the week not to mention the money wasted. I pretty much gave up drinking at 21 except a glass of wine at xmas. Then Covid happened and I got into habitually having a 7pm drink “for the healthcare workers” then one drink turned to 2-3 per night. Alcoholism runs in my family and this realization of my habit was eye opening. Been totally sober for 23 months. The PEER pressure is absolutely crazy. I don’t need to explain myself. I find it’s people over 35 who just can’t comprehend that I don’t/won’t drink. My coworkers also drink quite a bit so work things get weird, because they make it weird. I’m so for “mocktail bars”, just don’t make them so freaking expensive!$16 for a glass of juice over ice is whack.
this is so real hangovers alone give you the grossest feeling and when others wanna drink it can get really hard to not wanna join but 23 months!!! that’s absolutely amazing ur so incredibly strong and pro tip if you’re out with others that are weird about you drinking say you’re allergic to the fermented yeast in it or give them another bs medical excuse if anything it’ll make them hold you to not drinking through concern for you’re safety
I am free from heroineeee, crack and benzoz. I was a mess. Lost my kids lost my husband lost my apartment my job my family everything. I was homeless on the mini skid row in Boston called mass and cass. It became a disgusting horrible quality of life. I know what addiction feels like, all too well. This is my 3rd year in sobriety. I have my kids home (the most important thing to me and what I truly worked so hard for) followed by my family, my mental health in place, I regained everything that meant something to me. It’s a beautiful road in recovery but behind us is ALL TRAUMA.
The conversation around alcohol needs to be far more common… im personally a 🍃 smoker myself and even i get the weird eye when i say i dont drink.. i brush it off and say i chose my poison but damn some people are really persistent
Some people don’t get that what you do and don’t partake in isn’t always about vice for vices sake, and that alcohol is more harmful than weed for most people. Some people it’s the opposite, and weed is really too much for them because everyone’s different. Weed for some is just not as intense or mind altering as it is for others.
Yeh i much rather be slightly high then full blown drunk Also the vibes are completely different, you just get very relaxed and chill instead of crazy and wild I still think that being drunk is fun sometimes but being high n relaxed on youtube is my fav poison
In my first semester of college and your videos are the BEST to put in the background for homework 💪🏻😤 we may never catch Tati lacking, but we CERTAINLY never catch you lacking 🫵🏻💕
tw, i lost my dad to addiction not even a year ago, and its truly crushing to think about how he was almost never sober whenever we spoke in my late teens/ early adulthood. he was very clearly depressed and constantly numbing it with alcohol instead of going to get help. truth be told, he never wanted to admit he was depressed, and it just made it really hard to talk to him or even see him in the ladder years of his life. as a person that was raised in a mostly sober household (ive never seen my mother drink or do drugs, even to this day), seeing him lose himself over time to alcoholism was incredibly heartbreaking and his death is very much a wake up call and it keeps me from going too far when i drink myself.
i’m so sorry you’re dealing with this loss and that you had to witness your dad’s addiction. my uncle is the same i haven’t seen him since i was five because he’s never sober and my mum refuses to have him around us (which i am grateful for as i have an extremely addictive personality) and i don’t know whether he’s even alive or dead. i know i’m just some stranger on the internet but feel free to trauma dump on me if you need to :)
not this making me a Tati fan 🙇🏻♀️ gave me chills. I’m sober too. I understand exactly what she means. Tati, I’m glad you were able to make that decision for yourself. It’s so hard. Proud of you ❤
I dont like to drink at most i drink twice a year because addiction runs heavy in my family i smoke the green for my chronic migranes and EDS. Im so happy she is speaking about this i will always have a huge soft spot for tati.
Oh my God, please tell me how you deal with this. My migraines have been debilitating lately (even more than my joints, which is saying something, lol)
It may suck to get back to where you were, but you’ve got this. Most people have lapses when they’re on their sobriety journey and can get back to being sober eventually even if it’s another battle. You’ve got this!
My dad has been sober for 11 years this year and I cannot be more proud of him. I actually have a relationship with my dad now and it's so great. He was so close to probably just dying from being an alcoholic.
i can't lie tati's video moved something in me and made me want to make a change in my life that's why it's so important for public figures to be transparent about those things i really admire how in detail she went with telling her story she's so strong for pushing through it
As someone in their early 20s, I love Adam’s take on drinking. I am really curious about his experience in Ireland regarding feeling social pressure to drink and wondering because, as an American, I’ve been led to believe that drinking is a massive part of Irish culture.
Something that i'm reminded of: there was a period in time that I never drank. The truth is i just hated the taste and didn't get it. But the justifying I had to do in social spaces to defend my not drinking. JEEEZ. I still don't drink much now but seriously the folks that did not comprehend that someone might not like it. And beyond that, assuming that you need a deep reason not to drink. Not taking away from Tati's reasons. Addiction is a real reason. But I think we just need to normalize folks that just don't want to. We don't need a reason.
Also find alcohol gross, no matter what I try. Everybody acts like it's a burden, I think of it as lucky. Culture needs to stop promoting it as a necessary thing.
I drink alcohol (when I feel like it), but there was a time when I just didn't. My family kept trying to get me to drink wine at dinner with them, and when I questioned the need for it, they said, "It's part of the ambience." I was 18 at the time and I still (years later) think about that sometimes
I'm definitely one of those people, I don't mind how some alcoholic drinks taste if they're mixed with strong things that pretty much completely cover the alcohol, but I hate the feeling of even being tipsy. It gives me pretty severe anxiety, as I am a bit of a control freak and feeling the difference in my body and even how it feels to turn my head side to side, eugh. it completely freaks me out and makes me anxious that it's a feeling/state of being that I cannot control once I've gotten into it, that I can only wait and eat some stuff until it passes. Sooo I don't drink.
Adam I just wanted to tell u that I’m in my first semester at college and it’s my first time living away from home and you have become my comfort TH-camr. Thanks for cheering me up when I’m in a slump ❤
I have a newborn and it’s soooo nice to have something to listen to while I’m up all night with this little guy 😮💨 ♥️ thank you for the consistency Adam!
When she said she started hiding alcohol in bottles just going to the movies is very relatable and most friends won’t notice.. I did go to movies or normal hangouts and could sneak in something whether someone suggested it or not
this video and your commentary is something I’ve always wanted to hear from u❤ I’ve struggled with addiction for the last 6yrs (im 23) and I absolutely admire the kindness, and respect from your perspective. I relate a lot to tati’s point of “life or death” because I nearly died as well. Relapsing is hard and it’s hard to come back. Thank you for bringing awareness to this “taboo” subject. As an alcoholic, I appreciate you so so much and I did gain a lot of respect in some aspect for Tati for this. This is truly a feel good video and loving the support. ❤❤
I am so thankful for Tati making this video and for Adam’s commentary😭🥰🙏🏼 I am 29 and a recovering addict…I’ll be 1 year sober from alcohol next month and I CAN NOT BELIEVE I was able to ever give it up. It’s been killing people in my family for generations. I’m done! I HOPE that conversations like this become more commonplace, and that the brave people coming forward are ACCEPTED and respected…I’m blown away by Tati’s bravery.
I haven’t had a drink since New Year’s Day 2000, we were in Paris celebrating Y2K with my fiancé and best friend along with her fiancé. I’m 54 currently. I’d just gotten engaged and our wedding was coming up in July of 2000. I needed to make some changes. Alcohol wasn’t my drug of choice, RX drugs were. I relapsed on them and I have been completely clean sine 4/24/2008. I know that feeling of someone asking why you aren’t drinking and I no longer have a problem with telling anyone that I am in recovery. If they’re going to be bold enough to ask, then they should be ready for my answer. I refuse to be shamed by my past anymore. I shamed myself enough for years. Sometimes people are asking because they are not drinking too and they want to know if you are “a friend of Bill W” or they are hoping to find another non drinker at a social event. It’s not always about shame. People may not realize how awkward that question is for someone in recovery to answer. I am so glad Tati shared her story. She makes me proud. I love seeing a lady from my hometown do so well.
Your rant definitely made sense, Adam. In my uni days I remember feeling very conflicted when friends would be going out to drink so much. I joined in only a handful of times and I think I just knew deep down it wasn't for me. I'm glad now looking back that I stayed true to myself and didn't just give in to peer pressure. Alcoholism runs in my family too and I've never felt i have addiction issues but it's something I have to be very conscious of so I don't end up ruining my life like I've seen others in my family do.
It's nice to hear people talk openly about sobriety. I'm two months sober from alcohol. I have nightmares about relapsing almost every night, but the benefits have been so wonderful. ❤
my dads trying to quit smoking i'm so proud of him because before he would smoke every single hour and now he barely smokes like yea he'll smoke every once in a while but not like before
This is a very important conversation to be had. As an introvert who didn't spend her teenage years or her twenties partying, the pressure is wild! It's everywhere on media, it's wjat everyone around you is doing under this narrative of "you should be ENJOYING this time" but why does "enjoying" equals getting intoxicated?
I'm addicted to energy drinks, especially the white monster, and people just laugh when I say it. But I've had at least one almost everyday for the past 8 years. Sometimes I have 3 in a day. It's not good but no one believes me and I can't do it on my own 😭 I also have a food addiction. I've always struggled with weight because I eat emotionally. I am vegan but sometimes when I binge, those values go out the window. I feel so guilty about it. I have a very physical full time job and I still gained 20lbs in a year. Food is everywhere. "One piece of cake won't kill you" "cmon, you don't turn xyz everyday!" "Spoil yourself every once and awhile." Etc. Then so much marketing pulling me all over the place, making me crave more and more. I now know I have adhd, I'm diagnosed now and a lot more makes sense. The impulsively is real. I've begged God to take me so many times...
the food addiction is real. I also use food as a coping mechanism and it’s frustrating nobody talks about that. Most people will just make fun of them for gaining weight. The show Insatiable was a pretty good depiction of it. I hope you try to drink less energy drinks though, a lot of people have died is less time from that.
Monsters are a real problem for me, and I’m in my 50s, it’s not the safest thing, & I am really struggling to stay off them. I may have to see a therapist which is fine but over Monsters is embarrassing at my age. Being afraid of 👹 monsters under the bed would be less humiliating tbh.
Back when I was my most depressed and struggling, I had a monster every day for lunch. It was the only thing I could look forward to after an awful day. And sometimes the habit comes back when something happens and I try to cope. I also have ADHD and was waiting for diagnosis at that time. I wish you luck on your journey, and hope you can get the help and support you need
as a 20 year old in recovery from heavy substances, it’s so refreshing to hear someone around the same age talk about the excuse of “well i’m young i should be having fun”. it’s so easy to slip into addiction or alcoholism at a young age bc that’s what we’re told is normal to do.
This month is also awareness for attempts and Suic.. I hope everyone is safe and remembers they are loved. I OD in July. Drank all the time. I’m 23. Work. Have family. I was sick with depression. That OD saved my life. I was forced to a treatment center. Not for alcohol but an actual psych ward. I didn’t want to go I felt insane. But wow it was a difficult. Beautiful experience. Moderation is important. Being sober is awesome. Especially if you deal with underlying mental health issues it does not do anything but worsen it if you continue down a bad path. Hope everyone stays safe and happy and healthy ❤
I don’t really enjoy alcohol, it always makes me feel sick and more depressed, but I still LOVE to go to the goth club sober. There’s so much people watching and I love the music and atmosphere and I always have the best time.
i’m now fully sober, although i was never fully addicted i could see myself going down that path and someone in my life who was an addict and now sober had a conversation with me and that kind of changed the way i viewed things and helped me see that i need to be sober because i was drinking, doing other things and it just wasn’t good.
my mom was addicted to painkillers since i can remember, she had injured her back really bad at work and was prescribed percocets and i remember it made her really sick, physically and mentally and it didn't really help that my mom has bipolar disorder (i also have bipolar disorder 😓) i remember her throwing up a lot, and genuinely not looking well, like she was pale a lot and seemed to be or get dizzy a lot and be out of it. mentally it was pretty obvious she was depressed, even at 5,6,7 years old and not really knowing what depression is i still knew something wasn't quite right. the medication made her also lash out a lot and she became very moody, even though i remember getting yelled at a lot and stuff i completely forgive her because i know she was going through her own struggles with her addiction, trying to get over her childhood sa (she was sa'ed by her stepdad and to this day still has to be near him for the sake of her nieces and nephews because that's her sister's dad), she was also a single mom for most of my life and the only long term boyfriend from my childhood was an alcoholic, so needless to say she was doing it on her own and we were also struggling for money etc. though all her struggles my mother prevailed and came out on top and she is now 8 YEARS SOBER!!! 🎉 🥳 i am so so so incredibly proud of my beautiful, amazing extraordinary mama!!! she is one of THE strongest women i know in my life and im so incredibly grateful and proud to call her my mother! 🥰❤️
I’m going to say it: I don’t believe her lawyers were too concerned. I think she convinced herself they would warn her, but unless she is under investigation for something already, I cannot imagine why they would weigh in. I discovered Tati as if I had fallen out of a coconut tree, and had no idea who she was in YT context, but I did immediately notice she is exceptionally masked & controlled, even when she presents the moment as spontaneous. Her year away tells me she has some well paid advisors on PR & communications issues. I believe she is sober but I also believe she has long had this video planned for when she needs a big boost, & orchestrated it so it looks more spontaneous. She’s really good at presenting herself precisely as she wants, most of the time, and she plays her audience like fiddles.
she spoke about how she was asked if she was "AA" (Alcoholics Anonymous) at a *work* event. I wouldn't be surprised if they were worried she'd be excluded from events, her sobriety being seen as a burden or irritating instead of inspiring as it is. Sober people genuinely get so much flack, both in and out of professional spaces, so I genuinely don't doubt her on that. Also, even if she does have ulterior motives, it's an incredibly important video, especially so for other recovering addicts and those who might not have started their journey yet for fear they won't be able to do it. Being cynical is good, but it's also important to recognise that sometimes actions taken for selfish reasons can still do good, and we shouldn't tell people who found the video inspiring to feel played or like they've fallen into her trap.
I’m 25 and I’m mostly sober. I only drink in specific situations, and it’s something I’m trying to give up completely. I often feel disconnected from other people in their 20s because drinking and partying is so not my scene. But this video and the comment section has been really reassuring and heartwarming. It’s nice to know there are other people out there just like me. I’m sorry we’ve all struggled so much with substances, but I’m proud of us for finding the strength to give it up. Much love to everyone out there struggling - we’ve got this!
Thank you so much Adam for opening up this conversation from the point of view of a 21 year old. I am 20, and just before my 20th birthday I made the decision that I was going to stay sober. I have completely given up drinking, despite the fact that I have never even been drunk before, a bit tipsy at most. I always said I never wanted to experience being drunk. So one day I just thought to myself, why do it at all? Why gamble with the possibility of losing control? I have never done drugs, and never intend to. I also do not smoke or vape, and never intend on picking up the habit. I have grown up around alcoholism and nicotine addiction, and I have watched how substance abuse has ruined peoples lives, and I made a promise to myself that I will not go down that same path. I want a better life for myself, and staying sober from all substances makes me feel so happy and fulfilled in life. It's not easy, with this culture among people my age with the drinking, partying, doing drugs, vaping etc. It is hard making friends, seeing as most people my age socialise through partying, and I don't wish to surround myself with that environment. I often feel like the odd one out, it is rather isolating, but I know in due time I will find my people. That I will find friends who are also sober. In a world where substance use and abuse is so normalised, I hope that the tides will shift a little bit and that conversation around addiction and sobriety will become more normalised. So again, thank you Adam for opening up this conversation, what you have said in this video means an awful lot to me. Sending love
I've watched your content for years and you always astound me with the depth of your maturity. I have 7 years on you and always thought I figured life out earlier than my peers yet you've done it earlier time and again. It's not easy being an "old soul" but it saves you a lot of mistakes. Proud of you and I always love to see your takes even if it's "rambling" lol. ❤
I’ve never been a drinker or partier and I’m so thankful for that. I can count on one hand how many parties I’ve been to and I’m 30. Not being sober just isn’t fun for me, I don’t feel the need to be in an altered state of mind, I have a drink, maybe two like twice a year and have never done any drugs. Again, just something that I’m extremely grateful and thankful for. My heart goes out to everyone who struggles with addiction I can’t imagine going through that and you are so strong for breaking out of it.
I was terrified of alcohol for the longest time, and I still kind of am, and Ironically, the one that calmed anxiety was my ex-alcoholic dad. "Being so afraid of something to the point where it controls your life is just another form of addiction" he said once, and I've kept that with me. He's never told me not to drink, he's only told me stories about his younger days whenever I've asked, and warned me of his and his family's history with addiction so that I'm mindful of it, but that he can't stop me. Somehow, hearing him who's been sober for over 30 years now saying that, made the fear that I'd get addicted lessen, but it also made me more mindful. I can now have a drink to my dinner alone in my little dorm room as I play my stupid little video games from time to time because I think it tastes good, but no more. I've never been drunk, because I hate feeling even the slightest bit tipsy, and I'm very much at peace with that. People have pressured and mocked me over this ever since I became a teen (my 18th birthday was five hours of my friends trying to get me to chug a bottle of champagne. They're not my friends anymore), but I've never given in because I don't want to. We don't need a reason to stay sober, if someone want to they don't need to justify themselves. I'm proud of my dad who fought through it, I'm proud of my uncle who did the same because my dad promised to help him, and I'm proud of any- and everyone that manage to fight through the disease that is addiction, or those who just don't want to drink or use any other substance.
I decided to go sober from everything over 2 months ago. I didn’t partake in either that much, more of a social thing, 2/3 times a month. I did it for my health, I get a lot of inflammation from alcohol that is painful, and other substances I get such a negative headspace. I’m so happy & proud to have made this choice at 27 ☺️
I’m 38 and I LOVE that you are talking about this and I hope other young people out there will too, even just with each other. I wish these conversations happened so openly and honestly when I was 21. ❤
I got sober when I was 22, and I've been sober now for 8 years. I definitely thought I was just normal partying because my friends were doing the same, but looking back now it was so obviously too much and destructive to my life. Once i was sober and hung out with different people it became even more obvious how toxic my drinking behaviors were. I think what you said was perfect, try and keep it balanced and if it's negatively impacting your life, do something about it. Drinking culture is super toxic and makes us think we need it to relax, have fun, be social, but that's just not true.
Adam you made so much sense. Don’t be so hard on yourself for rambling. I truly respect your take on all of this and I’m sure a lot of people can take a lot from this video. Shoutout to my sober people out there 🫶🏽❤️
I've never drank or done drugs and I never want to, but especially drinking is so normalized and you're 21st birthday is so celebrated as the day you can "finally drink", that I don't blame anyone for thinking they have to or are supposed to drink and/or party etc. Be safe and drink safely and make sure you eat before and please don't drive 💖🫂
Shortly after I turned 20 I was the only one in my friend group with a baby. This often meant that when people drank I was sober to make sure they didn't start walking around drunk in public because that is actually illegal if you get caught. I very quickly remember noticing my friends who had trauma not just drinking but actively each time trying to be drunk. Like couldn't walk drunk. It worried me. I am millennial so this was a long time ago for me. But I always am so glad I had a baby than so I had to be responsible for those around me. It probably saved me a lot of heart ache.
Tati is soo beautiful!! Her makeup and hair looks so good. Never was into the party scene I have very bad social anxiety and I am 26 now. Breaks my heart hearing about how people treated her when she said no to drinking. I started my youtube channel to start my makeup journey when i started watching her really looked up to her
My little Italian grandma used to say to me that before I left the house everyday I should make sure to dress apply makeup etc. as if I knew I'd run into my worst enemy that day 😉. She looks dynamite!
Wait I love how Tati was supposed to come on the podcast to talk about internet drama n whatever but she pivoted the conversation towards such an important topic that needs to be talked about! I havent listened to the podcast yet but this is what I'm gathering.
The reason why people shame you is because they think you are either sober because you had trouble with that and they think you’re a alcoholic and depending on how they are they’re like oh better stay away from that person it would be embarrassing for them to go off the rails and be wild while they’re intoxicated or they don’t like that you might seem uptight and you don’t wanna get wasted with them and they see it as disrespectful
Big respect for anyone who's getting sober for anything. Addiction has shown up in multiple ways in my family so I decided it's not worth it to even try drugs, alcohol, etc. Life is less complicated.
Alcohol to me is much worse than any other addiction because its so normalized. Im a recovering opiate addict that got addicted at 14 after having a major emergency surgery. Im 9 almost 10 yrs sober and a MAT program actually helped me. My whole family on both sides of my family are addicts and a lot of them went on a MAT program saved their lives too. I wish more people/influencers would talk about their addictions because toud be surprised on how many of them are addicts of something. I go to counseling 3 times a week and have counseling for the last 9 plus years which have blessed me and taught me how to cope with situations outside of my control and i got my life back. I wish anyone going through addiction currently and people currently sober a beautiful positive journey and them to continue to flourish. ❤
It’s wild you mention jlo when talking about how good Tati looks(which I fully agree with) bc I remember she literally has jlos makeup to learn how to achieve the jlo glow 😭
Your commentary was very well said and wasn't rambling at all and sums up what I have been thinking about recently. I am now 24 and out of college and feel completely different about how I view drinking which needs to be normalized like you said. I will say though that it is exciting to see mocktails on many menus at new bars I go to in the big city I live in and I hope that it continues to be that way!!
Throughout my 20s I have been pretty much sober for many reasons; past trauma, health issues, medication and just overall not liking it very much. As much as I will preach and support that people don’t have to drink, the reality is that it can be so isolating if you don’t drink. I don’t get asked to go on nights out, or house parties, even birthday parties/nights out with the excuse of “oh well we’ll all be drinking and didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable”. I have lost a lot of the bonds and closeness with my friends because of my sobriety and it sucks. I have a close family member who has had issues with alcohol on and off throughout my life, so the last thing I want to do is to go out and have to take care of a group of drunk people, it causes me so much stress being around people who have been drinking. Plus the fact the meds I’m on don’t react well with alcohol so I really shouldn’t drink anyway. I feel like my adult youth has been punished because I choose not to drink; I struggle to maintain friendships and I struggle to date, all because I don’t want/can’t drink alcohol…where is the logic in that? I hope our generation is becoming more accepting and accommodating to people who don’t drink (for whatever reasons they have) and I hope people who do drink can start to open their eyes and realise they don’t need to have a drink in order to have fun or socialise.
Ex Drunk here. Had a bad problem. Not a person that can just have one or two. I would drink until out cold. Makes me feel awful that I cant remember all the things I did to hurt the ones I cared about. Quit cold turkey the end of October 2011. Not one drop since ❤
I agree with you Adam about how people think it’s weird when you don’t drink alcohol but it’s normal to not choose drugs I’m not a big drinker I very very rarely drink or smoke (not to trauma dump here but my dad’s side is alcoholic that’s the main reason why I don’t drink) but I turned 21 in June my dad all time jokes with people sometimes how yeah I tried getting her to drink but she won’t and it makes me uncomfortable to hear it and it’s just a weird stigma towards it. (Also great video btw
Listen.. I'm bias as hell since I'm Christian lol but some of those hymns are very comforting. Even just the instrumental versions. So I don't blame you one bit.
I very rarely socially drink. I have a lot of trauma related to alcohol so I struggle deeply in situations where I’m around alcohol. I know I could easily become addicted because I have turned to alcohol in really dark situations… not for days in a row but I have a stress disorder so when things become overwhelming I have a tendency to self harm and alcohol to me is also a form of self harm. I’ve been “the sober one” since I was 20, I’m 26 and I have a much easier time allowing myself a cocktail with people I trust because I know they won’t push alcohol on me and won’t comment on how I’m just sipping at a drink, at the same time those friends know that if I’m not doing great then we don’t even bring up alcohol.
Honestly, am the same age as Tati and it is frightening how many people in our age group think it is still absolutely fine to get legless every single weekend.... sometimes even every night. If you don't drink, people ask why. I would like to be honest and say "When I start, I can't stop", but it just doesn't work. If you can skip most of the drinking in your 20s, you will have the most awesome 40s, 50s and 60s, but it's hard to understand at 20 for some. For others, it's just common sense ❤
Trust me Adam, I’m not surprised lawyers & mngt affiliated w/ her career advised her against speaking publicly about this. I know everyone has their opinions about Tater Tati but as someone in recovery I loved hearing this part of her story & admire her bravery. I relate so deeply to her speaking about the shame she’s felt over the years, the stigma she’s faced & the messaging she got both knowing & unknowingly from people in the industry & beyond cuz I’ve experienced that through my whole journey. I admire the courage of the people who speak out because that’s not where I’m at for many reasons. I’m a private person by nature, I’ve faced awful stigma even long into recovery- specifically from medical professionals but many places. I don’t hear as many ppl talk about the inner shame. I rly hope ppl online handle this aspect of her story with respect as Adam & Peter have but that doesn’t surprise me. Relapse can be a part of recovery & for many it’s relapsing that helps teach them a necessary message & nothing to be ashamed of as difficult as it can be. To all in recovery or their journey with addiction HANG IN THERE!! There’s more beauty on the other side than you can imagine. If someone told me I’d be here right now a few years ago, I never would’ve believed them. 💜🩷💙💜🩷💙
i've been sober for most of my adult life and tbh in eastern europe not drinking is still seen as weird. i hate being questioned on why i dont drink. "friends" pressuring me to drink... i ended up simply not going out almost at all in my 20s and not socializing much. growing up i've seen my older siblings come home blackout drunk from parties, drunk people scare me cause they licherally have no control and do really unwise things. men who hit on you while drunk are like x10 harder to deal with
As someone who went to a pretty well known party university and is now about to be 24 in the next 24 hours I can say that my best advice is to do what’s best for you. I personally didn’t really partake in the party life style and neither did my best friend and honestly that’s okay. Sure we would go out to a party some random times and enjoyed. But if a situation or substance or truly anything doesn’t serve you it’s okay to not do it. It’s okay to go to a party and genuinely enjoy yourself by either drinking, smoking or not doing any of that. But like Adam said, moderation is key. And so is figuring out and accepting what serves you and what doesn’t. Don’t force yourself into a situation you won’t enjoy or feel comfortable in. Sorry for the long comment, I just understand the whole not being a party person in an age when partying is in a way expected.
I truly think sober bars/mocktail bars, etc will be a thing soon. My husband is an alcohol sales rep and it’s been noted that alcohol sales are going down. More people are choosing to stop drinking/not drink when becoming of age and are switching to thc. It’s been fascinating to watch.
functional alcoholism is so dangerous. i drank 6/7 days a week from 18-25. i could always afford it. blacked out to go to sleep every night, then went to work. im upset that now my brain is supposedly “done developing”.. but i’m sober 10 months w no plans to drink again. in moderation it’s really not terrible, some just can’t do that lol
I am completely sober because of personal reasons and the fact that alcoholism and addiction overall run in my family. I have never been someone to drink and it was because it never interested me at all growing up. As I got older, my friends completely understood but new people I met were always thrown off and tried to get me to drink until I told them no forcefully enough. Alcohol is so normalized and it’s weird for you not to drink but I am very confident in telling people I don’t drink and my friends always back me up.
i think im coming up on 5 years clean from self harm now. (i dont keep dates ahaha). it was such a long process and i think ive relapsed more times i can count. but im so proud of myself and i can genuinely say i can never see myself do that ever again and im planning on getting scars covered up with a tattoo pretty soon to reclaim that part of myself. anyone going through the same, i see you 🫶🏻
I personally don’t drink and am in my later 20s, there is such a stigma around it and so much shame and embarrassment. And people didn’t even know or think to ask if I was sober, if it was for religious or personal or health reasons or whatever, nobody asked they just were like “well you should drink sometime! try having fun!” which is imho really inconsiderate even if well-intentioned. I will tell you my fellow friends from college years say you don’t think about your 30s+ when you’re in your 20s- your body and mind will thank you from the future when you take care of yourself a little more, however that looks for you and whenever you choose to do so. You can still have your fun and go out and drink, just be more mindful. and pls include your sober/non-drinking friends omg we WANT to hang out with you and have a good time, you don’t have to just exclude and shame us! just be more inclusive, get creative with how you can have fun with a group of people that might be at different levels of preference with drinking, and don’t pressure anyone who is making choices to look out for themselves even if you think it’s a bit restrictive for you personally bc you just never know what that person is going through and what they need.
i think it was last year I had a period where I was drinking a LOT going out, so I went sober for a period and it definitely helped that my friends were so chill about me just drinking a coke and there was never any shame or pressure to drink. it was SO nice being able to be like "hey I've been drinking a lot lately so I want to scale back" and have them all act like its (rightfully!!) normal
At 22 my mother asked me if i thought I was partying too much. I told her she was being dramatic because I’m the legal age to drink, it’s what I’m supposed to do. A week later I totaled my car and got arrested for a DUI. It’s absolutely a very fine yet normalized line of “you’re young, you’re supposed to make mistake” and “oh no I’m ruining my life”.
EDIT: y’all nowhere in my comment did I say my decision to drink and drive is justifiable because I’m an addict, nor did I say it SHOULD be normalized. I commented a small part of my story to show that I made excuses for my partying only to make a decision that nearly led to the death of myself and those around me. And it took ONE night, ONE split second decision. And I could’ve ruined my life beyond repair. And that’s something young people should think about more often instead of saying “I’m just having fun”. Because whether it should be normalized or not doesn’t matter. The truth of it is that it IS normalized. And denying that fact is denying important conversation that could lead to change
Omg same
I’m glad you’re okay!! ❤
I'm glad you didn't kill anyone. What you did isn't excusable for "learning pains" and it shouldn't be treated as such like it is with so many others.
But that isn't the kind of mistake you should be making while young lol
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Over 4 years self harm free! I also recently gave up alcohol for genuine health reasons so helping to normalize not drinking for whatever reason is helpful for everyone! Some people can’t reveal they’re pregnant yet, or they’re on medication, or that they may be struggling with sobriety. I love that in my friend group and others I’ve seen, the second you say you aren’t drinking it’s super chill and no one bats an eye. ❤
Congrats!!
Proud of you! I’m sure it was a tough journey for you and I hope you are doing better these days ❤️
i am proud of you 🦋 i hope this is me soon and i can be sh free soon as well ❤️🩹
@@rcp4734it will always be hardest to start the process but it only gets easier from there❤️ you deserve kindness
3 years sober from SH and 6 months from drinking ❤❤❤
Adams upload schedule 🤝 my homework schedule
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Only 4 days sober from alcohol today, this is BEYOND needed. I love you adam, always have always will. Thank you for every word you have said, it helps me feel better about my choices.
Proud of you ❤
Well done!! Keep going, you can do this!! I’m just about to celebrate 6 months and it feels like yesterday that I was overcoming my first week with no alcohol. Best of luck with everything!!!
you SHOULD feel good about that choice, you chose to live for yourself instead of let something control you’re mind, you can do this! you’re stronger than you know, and don’t forget the feeling of a healthy working body will feel 10x more healing than a drink that will disintegrate youre liver and ruin you’re kidneys in a very quick amount of time, you got this man 🖤
You’re doing so well !!! I hope life treats you well for the future 🌟
Youre amazing, keep going
Im a recovering addict, so ill always support someones sobriety. I hope shes doing well and people dont rip her apart for this. Ive lost SO many people from addiction, so i fully support anyones sobriety no matter who they are. Nobody deserves to be an addict in addiction. That truly is hell, i wouldn't wish it on anyone.
came here to write the same. everyone deserves to be sober and happy.
i hope you’re doing well btw
@beagle9662 I am doing good, thanks! I've been sober since 2019🫶
I'm so happy for you 💗 @@AKbaby89
Adam, you 100% made sense during your discussion about being in your 20s and drinking and going out. I just turned 21 and while I did have my fun drinking and getting hammered with my girls, something just clicked in my head where I started to become cautious and mindful of my surroundings. Its a scary world we live in and i think its crucial that us adults, especially young adults take this into account for their own safety 💗💗 live your 20s however you want but always keep your eyes open
It so weird how invincible we felt til like 21-22. Now I think about when I’ll die every day 😂😂
I just have to shout out this comment section for being so honest, vulnerable, accepting, kind hearted and supportive. This is such a lovely community that has been cultivated and scrolling through has made me so emotional and inspired. I’m so proud of you guys!
Lawyers would sadly advise against her sharing about her sobriety because it could be used against her in court (which was ongoing for 4 years), and unfortunately addicts have a bad reputation as there is a systemic misunderstanding
I’m 21 and sober from bul¡m¡a and alcohol. And I’ve decided for myself to not drink, smoke, or do anything sort of narcot¡cs. It has been the best decision FOR ME AND MY LIFE. The first thing I learnt was who my real friends are, the ones who support me and my decisions for my life. The second thing I learnt is that I enjoy life so much more when I can remember what I did the night before. The third thing I learnt is that the braver I am in sharing my story the stronger I become, because all of a sudden it’s not a daily battle I’m fighting alone it’s a battle I’m fighting with a whole team behind me supporting me.
the third one is key
I struggled with ED's for along time as a kid and teen, it's caused permanent damage to my nerves in my stomach. It's caused many chronic illnesses I've only discovered during recovery and man do they impact my life. I won't go into details but I went from being healthy and "overweight" to being basically the same weight but now a few years away from needing a feeding tube amongst other stuff despite being recovered from ed. I feel more people of all ages and genders need to hear more people's experiences in order to educate themselves. No one told me about all the health issues eds can cause I basically thought they were a get skinny quick hack as a young dumb kid.
I can't even...I haven't begun lmao, but you're inspiring
Well don't swear to not do narcotics as things may happen where you can't get around it, like I said I wouldn't either but I ended up getting severe chronic pain that can't be controlled in any other way especially since medical marijuana isn't legal in my state. I hope you never have to deal with that, Good luck!
people don’t understand how similar ed’s are to addictions!!!
Where I live drinking age is 19. At 16 I had a few weekends blackout and puking in the bush. At this time my dad was also trying to “teach” me how to drink responsibly and appreciate wine. As a teen I ended up having a couple drinks a month. When I turned 19, I went to the bars Thurs-Fri-Sat-Sun&Monday nights. I love dancing & karaoke; however it was get drunk before going out then drink more at the bar. It was so so so gross being drunk/hungover most of the week not to mention the money wasted. I pretty much gave up drinking at 21 except a glass of wine at xmas. Then Covid happened and I got into habitually having a 7pm drink “for the healthcare workers” then one drink turned to 2-3 per night. Alcoholism runs in my family and this realization of my habit was eye opening. Been totally sober for 23 months. The PEER pressure is absolutely crazy. I don’t need to explain myself. I find it’s people over 35 who just can’t comprehend that I don’t/won’t drink. My coworkers also drink quite a bit so work things get weird, because they make it weird. I’m so for “mocktail bars”, just don’t make them so freaking expensive!$16 for a glass of juice over ice is whack.
this is so real hangovers alone give you the grossest feeling and when others wanna drink it can get really hard to not wanna join but 23 months!!! that’s absolutely amazing ur so incredibly strong and pro tip if you’re out with others that are weird about you drinking say you’re allergic to the fermented yeast in it or give them another bs medical excuse if anything it’ll make them hold you to not drinking through concern for you’re safety
290 days sober here. Love the normalization of sobriety these days. Like you said, it’s less taboo. Also love the distillery shirt 😂
I am free from heroineeee, crack and benzoz. I was a mess. Lost my kids lost my husband lost my apartment my job my family everything. I was homeless on the mini skid row in Boston called mass and cass. It became a disgusting horrible quality of life. I know what addiction feels like, all too well. This is my 3rd year in sobriety. I have my kids home (the most important thing to me and what I truly worked so hard for) followed by my family, my mental health in place, I regained everything that meant something to me. It’s a beautiful road in recovery but behind us is ALL TRAUMA.
The conversation around alcohol needs to be far more common… im personally a 🍃 smoker myself and even i get the weird eye when i say i dont drink.. i brush it off and say i chose my poison but damn some people are really persistent
Some people don’t get that what you do and don’t partake in isn’t always about vice for vices sake, and that alcohol is more harmful than weed for most people. Some people it’s the opposite, and weed is really too much for them because everyone’s different. Weed for some is just not as intense or mind altering as it is for others.
Yeh i much rather be slightly high then full blown drunk
Also the vibes are completely different, you just get very relaxed and chill instead of crazy and wild
I still think that being drunk is fun sometimes but being high n relaxed on youtube is my fav poison
In my first semester of college and your videos are the BEST to put in the background for homework 💪🏻😤 we may never catch Tati lacking, but we CERTAINLY never catch you lacking 🫵🏻💕
Omg I literally just commented almost the exact same thing 😭😭good luck with your school!!❤❤
tw, i lost my dad to addiction not even a year ago, and its truly crushing to think about how he was almost never sober whenever we spoke in my late teens/ early adulthood. he was very clearly depressed and constantly numbing it with alcohol instead of going to get help. truth be told, he never wanted to admit he was depressed, and it just made it really hard to talk to him or even see him in the ladder years of his life. as a person that was raised in a mostly sober household (ive never seen my mother drink or do drugs, even to this day), seeing him lose himself over time to alcoholism was incredibly heartbreaking and his death is very much a wake up call and it keeps me from going too far when i drink myself.
i’m so sorry you’re dealing with this loss and that you had to witness your dad’s addiction. my uncle is the same i haven’t seen him since i was five because he’s never sober and my mum refuses to have him around us (which i am grateful for as i have an extremely addictive personality) and i don’t know whether he’s even alive or dead. i know i’m just some stranger on the internet but feel free to trauma dump on me if you need to :)
not this making me a Tati fan 🙇🏻♀️ gave me chills. I’m sober too. I understand exactly what she means. Tati, I’m glad you were able to make that decision for yourself. It’s so hard. Proud of you ❤
I dont like to drink at most i drink twice a year because addiction runs heavy in my family i smoke the green for my chronic migranes and EDS. Im so happy she is speaking about this i will always have a huge soft spot for tati.
chronic migraine EDS green gang!
Oh my God, please tell me how you deal with this. My migraines have been debilitating lately (even more than my joints, which is saying something, lol)
I lost my sobriety this year. But trying to get back to it.
stay strong, we can do it
Youve got this, you can do it❤
You got this
It may suck to get back to where you were, but you’ve got this. Most people have lapses when they’re on their sobriety journey and can get back to being sober eventually even if it’s another battle. You’ve got this!
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My dad has been sober for 11 years this year and I cannot be more proud of him. I actually have a relationship with my dad now and it's so great. He was so close to probably just dying from being an alcoholic.
i can't lie tati's video moved something in me and made me want to make a change in my life that's why it's so important for public figures to be transparent about those things i really admire how in detail she went with telling her story she's so strong for pushing through it
also your discussion about drinking in ur 20s made so much sense and thank you for it
As someone in their early 20s, I love Adam’s take on drinking. I am really curious about his experience in Ireland regarding feeling social pressure to drink and wondering because, as an American, I’ve been led to believe that drinking is a massive part of Irish culture.
Something that i'm reminded of: there was a period in time that I never drank. The truth is i just hated the taste and didn't get it. But the justifying I had to do in social spaces to defend my not drinking. JEEEZ. I still don't drink much now but seriously the folks that did not comprehend that someone might not like it. And beyond that, assuming that you need a deep reason not to drink. Not taking away from Tati's reasons. Addiction is a real reason. But I think we just need to normalize folks that just don't want to. We don't need a reason.
Also find alcohol gross, no matter what I try. Everybody acts like it's a burden, I think of it as lucky. Culture needs to stop promoting it as a necessary thing.
I drink alcohol (when I feel like it), but there was a time when I just didn't. My family kept trying to get me to drink wine at dinner with them, and when I questioned the need for it, they said, "It's part of the ambience." I was 18 at the time and I still (years later) think about that sometimes
I'm definitely one of those people, I don't mind how some alcoholic drinks taste if they're mixed with strong things that pretty much completely cover the alcohol, but I hate the feeling of even being tipsy. It gives me pretty severe anxiety, as I am a bit of a control freak and feeling the difference in my body and even how it feels to turn my head side to side, eugh. it completely freaks me out and makes me anxious that it's a feeling/state of being that I cannot control once I've gotten into it, that I can only wait and eat some stuff until it passes. Sooo I don't drink.
@@AliceBunny05 your doctor and bank account probably are happier for it!
from coming from addict parents and having addiction probs myself i feel so happy that tati can share her story and feel safe enough too❤️
Adam I just wanted to tell u that I’m in my first semester at college and it’s my first time living away from home and you have become my comfort TH-camr. Thanks for cheering me up when I’m in a slump ❤
good luck with college :)!!
I have a newborn and it’s soooo nice to have something to listen to while I’m up all night with this little guy 😮💨 ♥️ thank you for the consistency Adam!
aww congrats❤
Girl I was just there, mine turned 8 months this month. But we're still up every two hours 😭
Congratulations and good luck mama!!
When she said she started hiding alcohol in bottles just going to the movies is very relatable and most friends won’t notice.. I did go to movies or normal hangouts and could sneak in something whether someone suggested it or not
Lmao it’s 4am and I’m here Adammmm let’s goo
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I have been clean off pills for 8 months today. I'm so happy for her and how much she had changed her life.
I'll have 17 years in December. I'm glad she's talking about it. The people who talk about it, the less stigma there will be around it.
Amazing work, congrats ❤
@@makeupbyjules thank you ❤️❤️
Sober bartender 💪🏼 i have been working on my alcohol sobriety for a handful of months now. Gave up weed a few years ago!
this video and your commentary is something I’ve always wanted to hear from u❤ I’ve struggled with addiction for the last 6yrs (im 23) and I absolutely admire the kindness, and respect from your perspective. I relate a lot to tati’s point of “life or death” because I nearly died as well. Relapsing is hard and it’s hard to come back. Thank you for bringing awareness to this “taboo” subject. As an alcoholic, I appreciate you so so much and I did gain a lot of respect in some aspect for Tati for this. This is truly a feel good video and loving the support. ❤❤
I am so thankful for Tati making this video and for Adam’s commentary😭🥰🙏🏼 I am 29 and a recovering addict…I’ll be 1 year sober from alcohol next month and I CAN NOT BELIEVE I was able to ever give it up. It’s been killing people in my family for generations. I’m done! I HOPE that conversations like this become more commonplace, and that the brave people coming forward are ACCEPTED and respected…I’m blown away by Tati’s bravery.
So so proud of everyone's journey here and Tati's
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I haven’t had a drink since New Year’s Day 2000, we were in Paris celebrating Y2K with my fiancé and best friend along with her fiancé. I’m 54 currently. I’d just gotten engaged and our wedding was coming up in July of 2000. I needed to make some changes. Alcohol wasn’t my drug of choice, RX drugs were. I relapsed on them and I have been completely clean sine 4/24/2008.
I know that feeling of someone asking why you aren’t drinking and I no longer have a problem with telling anyone that I am in recovery. If they’re going to be bold enough to ask, then they should be ready for my answer. I refuse to be shamed by my past anymore. I shamed myself enough for years. Sometimes people are asking because they are not drinking too and they want to know if you are “a friend of Bill W” or they are hoping to find another non drinker at a social event. It’s not always about shame. People may not realize how awkward that question is for someone in recovery to answer.
I am so glad Tati shared her story. She makes me proud. I love seeing a lady from my hometown do so well.
you're so cool❤
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Your rant definitely made sense, Adam. In my uni days I remember feeling very conflicted when friends would be going out to drink so much. I joined in only a handful of times and I think I just knew deep down it wasn't for me. I'm glad now looking back that I stayed true to myself and didn't just give in to peer pressure. Alcoholism runs in my family too and I've never felt i have addiction issues but it's something I have to be very conscious of so I don't end up ruining my life like I've seen others in my family do.
It's nice to hear people talk openly about sobriety. I'm two months sober from alcohol. I have nightmares about relapsing almost every night, but the benefits have been so wonderful. ❤
my dads trying to quit smoking i'm so proud of him because before he would smoke every single hour and now he barely smokes like yea he'll smoke every once in a while but not like before
once in a while is the healthiest way to slowly stop smoking❤ congrats to your dad
@@kazakukog i'm so happy for him
This is a very important conversation to be had. As an introvert who didn't spend her teenage years or her twenties partying, the pressure is wild! It's everywhere on media, it's wjat everyone around you is doing under this narrative of "you should be ENJOYING this time" but why does "enjoying" equals getting intoxicated?
I'm addicted to energy drinks, especially the white monster, and people just laugh when I say it. But I've had at least one almost everyday for the past 8 years. Sometimes I have 3 in a day. It's not good but no one believes me and I can't do it on my own 😭
I also have a food addiction. I've always struggled with weight because I eat emotionally. I am vegan but sometimes when I binge, those values go out the window. I feel so guilty about it. I have a very physical full time job and I still gained 20lbs in a year. Food is everywhere. "One piece of cake won't kill you" "cmon, you don't turn xyz everyday!" "Spoil yourself every once and awhile." Etc. Then so much marketing pulling me all over the place, making me crave more and more.
I now know I have adhd, I'm diagnosed now and a lot more makes sense. The impulsively is real.
I've begged God to take me so many times...
the food addiction is real. I also use food as a coping mechanism and it’s frustrating nobody talks about that. Most people will just make fun of them for gaining weight. The show Insatiable was a pretty good depiction of it. I hope you try to drink less energy drinks though, a lot of people have died is less time from that.
you're valid . and good luck with your eating disorder and your addiction i hope you can find a way to cope
Monsters are a real problem for me, and I’m in my 50s, it’s not the safest thing, & I am really struggling to stay off them. I may have to see a therapist which is fine but over Monsters is embarrassing at my age. Being afraid of 👹 monsters under the bed would be less humiliating tbh.
Also just really big virtual hugs and/or support! Stick around please, you sound like a pretty damn good person ❤❤❤.
Back when I was my most depressed and struggling, I had a monster every day for lunch. It was the only thing I could look forward to after an awful day.
And sometimes the habit comes back when something happens and I try to cope.
I also have ADHD and was waiting for diagnosis at that time.
I wish you luck on your journey, and hope you can get the help and support you need
as a 20 year old in recovery from heavy substances, it’s so refreshing to hear someone around the same age talk about the excuse of “well i’m young i should be having fun”. it’s so easy to slip into addiction or alcoholism at a young age bc that’s what we’re told is normal to do.
This month is also awareness for attempts and Suic.. I hope everyone is safe and remembers they are loved.
I OD in July. Drank all the time. I’m 23. Work. Have family. I was sick with depression. That OD saved my life. I was forced to a treatment center. Not for alcohol but an actual psych ward. I didn’t want to go I felt insane. But wow it was a difficult. Beautiful experience. Moderation is important. Being sober is awesome. Especially if you deal with underlying mental health issues it does not do anything but worsen it if you continue down a bad path. Hope everyone stays safe and happy and healthy ❤
I don’t really enjoy alcohol, it always makes me feel sick and more depressed, but I still LOVE to go to the goth club sober. There’s so much people watching and I love the music and atmosphere and I always have the best time.
i’m now fully sober, although i was never fully addicted i could see myself going down that path and someone in my life who was an addict and now sober had a conversation with me and that kind of changed the way i viewed things and helped me see that i need to be sober because i was drinking, doing other things and it just wasn’t good.
I love the way you say Tati’s name. Your accent just hits my ear so sweetly💜💜 thanks for always keeping us abreast of the news, sweetheart😘
my mom was addicted to painkillers since i can remember, she had injured her back really bad at work and was prescribed percocets and i remember it made her really sick, physically and mentally and it didn't really help that my mom has bipolar disorder (i also have bipolar disorder 😓) i remember her throwing up a lot, and genuinely not looking well, like she was pale a lot and seemed to be or get dizzy a lot and be out of it. mentally it was pretty obvious she was depressed, even at 5,6,7 years old and not really knowing what depression is i still knew something wasn't quite right. the medication made her also lash out a lot and she became very moody, even though i remember getting yelled at a lot and stuff i completely forgive her because i know she was going through her own struggles with her addiction, trying to get over her childhood sa (she was sa'ed by her stepdad and to this day still has to be near him for the sake of her nieces and nephews because that's her sister's dad), she was also a single mom for most of my life and the only long term boyfriend from my childhood was an alcoholic, so needless to say she was doing it on her own and we were also struggling for money etc. though all her struggles my mother prevailed and came out on top and she is now 8 YEARS SOBER!!! 🎉 🥳 i am so so so incredibly proud of my beautiful, amazing extraordinary mama!!! she is one of THE strongest women i know in my life and im so incredibly grateful and proud to call her my mother! 🥰❤️
Incredible!! Congrats to her 🎉
I’m going to say it: I don’t believe her lawyers were too concerned. I think she convinced herself they would warn her, but unless she is under investigation for something already, I cannot imagine why they would weigh in. I discovered Tati as if I had fallen out of a coconut tree, and had no idea who she was in YT context, but I did immediately notice she is exceptionally masked & controlled, even when she presents the moment as spontaneous. Her year away tells me she has some well paid advisors on PR & communications issues. I believe she is sober but I also believe she has long had this video planned for when she needs a big boost, & orchestrated it so it looks more spontaneous. She’s really good at presenting herself precisely as she wants, most of the time, and she plays her audience like fiddles.
she had a huge controversy with bye sister so they could’ve told her not to talk about it bc people could use it against her
she spoke about how she was asked if she was "AA" (Alcoholics Anonymous) at a *work* event. I wouldn't be surprised if they were worried she'd be excluded from events, her sobriety being seen as a burden or irritating instead of inspiring as it is. Sober people genuinely get so much flack, both in and out of professional spaces, so I genuinely don't doubt her on that.
Also, even if she does have ulterior motives, it's an incredibly important video, especially so for other recovering addicts and those who might not have started their journey yet for fear they won't be able to do it. Being cynical is good, but it's also important to recognise that sometimes actions taken for selfish reasons can still do good, and we shouldn't tell people who found the video inspiring to feel played or like they've fallen into her trap.
I’m 25 and I’m mostly sober. I only drink in specific situations, and it’s something I’m trying to give up completely. I often feel disconnected from other people in their 20s because drinking and partying is so not my scene. But this video and the comment section has been really reassuring and heartwarming. It’s nice to know there are other people out there just like me. I’m sorry we’ve all struggled so much with substances, but I’m proud of us for finding the strength to give it up. Much love to everyone out there struggling - we’ve got this!
Thank you so much Adam for opening up this conversation from the point of view of a 21 year old. I am 20, and just before my 20th birthday I made the decision that I was going to stay sober. I have completely given up drinking, despite the fact that I have never even been drunk before, a bit tipsy at most. I always said I never wanted to experience being drunk. So one day I just thought to myself, why do it at all? Why gamble with the possibility of losing control? I have never done drugs, and never intend to. I also do not smoke or vape, and never intend on picking up the habit. I have grown up around alcoholism and nicotine addiction, and I have watched how substance abuse has ruined peoples lives, and I made a promise to myself that I will not go down that same path. I want a better life for myself, and staying sober from all substances makes me feel so happy and fulfilled in life. It's not easy, with this culture among people my age with the drinking, partying, doing drugs, vaping etc. It is hard making friends, seeing as most people my age socialise through partying, and I don't wish to surround myself with that environment. I often feel like the odd one out, it is rather isolating, but I know in due time I will find my people. That I will find friends who are also sober. In a world where substance use and abuse is so normalised, I hope that the tides will shift a little bit and that conversation around addiction and sobriety will become more normalised. So again, thank you Adam for opening up this conversation, what you have said in this video means an awful lot to me. Sending love
As someone in recovery… THANK YOU! Sobriety is very different for each of us! ❤ alcohol free 3-1-22 and opioids 1-17-09.
I've watched your content for years and you always astound me with the depth of your maturity. I have 7 years on you and always thought I figured life out earlier than my peers yet you've done it earlier time and again. It's not easy being an "old soul" but it saves you a lot of mistakes. Proud of you and I always love to see your takes even if it's "rambling" lol. ❤
I’ve never been a drinker or partier and I’m so thankful for that. I can count on one hand how many parties I’ve been to and I’m 30. Not being sober just isn’t fun for me, I don’t feel the need to be in an altered state of mind, I have a drink, maybe two like twice a year and have never done any drugs. Again, just something that I’m extremely grateful and thankful for. My heart goes out to everyone who struggles with addiction I can’t imagine going through that and you are so strong for breaking out of it.
I was terrified of alcohol for the longest time, and I still kind of am, and Ironically, the one that calmed anxiety was my ex-alcoholic dad. "Being so afraid of something to the point where it controls your life is just another form of addiction" he said once, and I've kept that with me. He's never told me not to drink, he's only told me stories about his younger days whenever I've asked, and warned me of his and his family's history with addiction so that I'm mindful of it, but that he can't stop me. Somehow, hearing him who's been sober for over 30 years now saying that, made the fear that I'd get addicted lessen, but it also made me more mindful. I can now have a drink to my dinner alone in my little dorm room as I play my stupid little video games from time to time because I think it tastes good, but no more. I've never been drunk, because I hate feeling even the slightest bit tipsy, and I'm very much at peace with that. People have pressured and mocked me over this ever since I became a teen (my 18th birthday was five hours of my friends trying to get me to chug a bottle of champagne. They're not my friends anymore), but I've never given in because I don't want to. We don't need a reason to stay sober, if someone want to they don't need to justify themselves. I'm proud of my dad who fought through it, I'm proud of my uncle who did the same because my dad promised to help him, and I'm proud of any- and everyone that manage to fight through the disease that is addiction, or those who just don't want to drink or use any other substance.
I'm glad this conversation had started. Really made me think about my habits
I decided to go sober from everything over 2 months ago. I didn’t partake in either that much, more of a social thing, 2/3 times a month. I did it for my health, I get a lot of inflammation from alcohol that is painful, and other substances I get such a negative headspace. I’m so happy & proud to have made this choice at 27 ☺️
I love your upload schedule it seems you always post a video when I look at your channel lmao
I’m 38 and I LOVE that you are talking about this and I hope other young people out there will too, even just with each other. I wish these conversations happened so openly and honestly when I was 21. ❤
I got sober when I was 22, and I've been sober now for 8 years. I definitely thought I was just normal partying because my friends were doing the same, but looking back now it was so obviously too much and destructive to my life. Once i was sober and hung out with different people it became even more obvious how toxic my drinking behaviors were. I think what you said was perfect, try and keep it balanced and if it's negatively impacting your life, do something about it. Drinking culture is super toxic and makes us think we need it to relax, have fun, be social, but that's just not true.
Adam you made so much sense. Don’t be so hard on yourself for rambling. I truly respect your take on all of this and I’m sure a lot of people can take a lot from this video. Shoutout to my sober people out there 🫶🏽❤️
I've never drank or done drugs and I never want to, but especially drinking is so normalized and you're 21st birthday is so celebrated as the day you can "finally drink", that I don't blame anyone for thinking they have to or are supposed to drink and/or party etc.
Be safe and drink safely and make sure you eat before and please don't drive 💖🫂
Shortly after I turned 20 I was the only one in my friend group with a baby. This often meant that when people drank I was sober to make sure they didn't start walking around drunk in public because that is actually illegal if you get caught. I very quickly remember noticing my friends who had trauma not just drinking but actively each time trying to be drunk. Like couldn't walk drunk. It worried me. I am millennial so this was a long time ago for me. But I always am so glad I had a baby than so I had to be responsible for those around me. It probably saved me a lot of heart ache.
Tati is soo beautiful!! Her makeup and hair looks so good. Never was into the party scene I have very bad social anxiety and I am 26 now. Breaks my heart hearing about how people treated her when she said no to drinking. I started my youtube channel to start my makeup journey when i started watching her really looked up to her
Adam you could’ve given me a thousand guesses and I never would’ve guessed “Nearer My God to Thee” as the song you’re obsessed with 😂
My little Italian grandma used to say to me that before I left the house everyday I should make sure to dress apply makeup etc. as if I knew I'd run into my worst enemy that day 😉. She looks dynamite!
Wait I love how Tati was supposed to come on the podcast to talk about internet drama n whatever but she pivoted the conversation towards such an important topic that needs to be talked about!
I havent listened to the podcast yet but this is what I'm gathering.
The reason why people shame you is because they think you are either sober because you had trouble with that and they think you’re a alcoholic and depending on how they are they’re like oh better stay away from that person it would be embarrassing for them to go off the rails and be wild while they’re intoxicated or they don’t like that you might seem uptight and you don’t wanna get wasted with them and they see it as disrespectful
Big respect for anyone who's getting sober for anything. Addiction has shown up in multiple ways in my family so I decided it's not worth it to even try drugs, alcohol, etc. Life is less complicated.
Alcohol to me is much worse than any other addiction because its so normalized. Im a recovering opiate addict that got addicted at 14 after having a major emergency surgery. Im 9 almost 10 yrs sober and a MAT program actually helped me. My whole family on both sides of my family are addicts and a lot of them went on a MAT program saved their lives too. I wish more people/influencers would talk about their addictions because toud be surprised on how many of them are addicts of something. I go to counseling 3 times a week and have counseling for the last 9 plus years which have blessed me and taught me how to cope with situations outside of my control and i got my life back. I wish anyone going through addiction currently and people currently sober a beautiful positive journey and them to continue to flourish. ❤
I think Adam is a good role model. I appreciate his thoughts and feelings on subjects
As a 24 year old that only just watched titanic - Adam, do it! Get a group together and hunker down to watch it. I am so glad I finally did.
It’s wild you mention jlo when talking about how good Tati looks(which I fully agree with) bc I remember she literally has jlos makeup to learn how to achieve the jlo glow 😭
It’s so nice seeing this discussion two years young before I turn 22 it’s very important
another banger as per usual, and just in time for my high school homework overload
Your commentary was very well said and wasn't rambling at all and sums up what I have been thinking about recently. I am now 24 and out of college and feel completely different about how I view drinking which needs to be normalized like you said. I will say though that it is exciting to see mocktails on many menus at new bars I go to in the big city I live in and I hope that it continues to be that way!!
I’m a sophomore in college and my roommates peer pressure me to drink every weekend the peer pressure is insane they don’t let me have a chill night
such an important message
You totally got this 😊
@@marspi6772 thank you so much :))
im 20 and i really appreciated your ramble felt validated and enjoyed your point! always enjoy your videos
Sober since August 15, 2023! :) I will never touch alcohol again.
Throughout my 20s I have been pretty much sober for many reasons; past trauma, health issues, medication and just overall not liking it very much. As much as I will preach and support that people don’t have to drink, the reality is that it can be so isolating if you don’t drink.
I don’t get asked to go on nights out, or house parties, even birthday parties/nights out with the excuse of “oh well we’ll all be drinking and didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable”. I have lost a lot of the bonds and closeness with my friends because of my sobriety and it sucks. I have a close family member who has had issues with alcohol on and off throughout my life, so the last thing I want to do is to go out and have to take care of a group of drunk people, it causes me so much stress being around people who have been drinking. Plus the fact the meds I’m on don’t react well with alcohol so I really shouldn’t drink anyway.
I feel like my adult youth has been punished because I choose not to drink; I struggle to maintain friendships and I struggle to date, all because I don’t want/can’t drink alcohol…where is the logic in that?
I hope our generation is becoming more accepting and accommodating to people who don’t drink (for whatever reasons they have) and I hope people who do drink can start to open their eyes and realise they don’t need to have a drink in order to have fun or socialise.
Ex Drunk here. Had a bad problem. Not a person that can just have one or two. I would drink until out cold. Makes me feel awful that I cant remember all the things I did to hurt the ones I cared about. Quit cold turkey the end of October 2011. Not one drop since ❤
as a choir girl, the nearer my got to thee obsession is real
I agree with you Adam about how people think it’s weird when you don’t drink alcohol but it’s normal to not choose drugs I’m not a big drinker I very very rarely drink or smoke (not to trauma dump here but my dad’s side is alcoholic that’s the main reason why I don’t drink) but I turned 21 in June my dad all time jokes with people sometimes how yeah I tried getting her to drink but she won’t and it makes me uncomfortable to hear it and it’s just a weird stigma towards it. (Also great video btw
Listen.. I'm bias as hell since I'm Christian lol but some of those hymns are very comforting. Even just the instrumental versions. So I don't blame you one bit.
I very rarely socially drink. I have a lot of trauma related to alcohol so I struggle deeply in situations where I’m around alcohol. I know I could easily become addicted because I have turned to alcohol in really dark situations… not for days in a row but I have a stress disorder so when things become overwhelming I have a tendency to self harm and alcohol to me is also a form of self harm. I’ve been “the sober one” since I was 20, I’m 26 and I have a much easier time allowing myself a cocktail with people I trust because I know they won’t push alcohol on me and won’t comment on how I’m just sipping at a drink, at the same time those friends know that if I’m not doing great then we don’t even bring up alcohol.
“I love when a video opens with a trigger warning!” Hahahahhaha same honey 💅🏼
Honestly, am the same age as Tati and it is frightening how many people in our age group think it is still absolutely fine to get legless every single weekend.... sometimes even every night. If you don't drink, people ask why. I would like to be honest and say "When I start, I can't stop", but it just doesn't work. If you can skip most of the drinking in your 20s, you will have the most awesome 40s, 50s and 60s, but it's hard to understand at 20 for some. For others, it's just common sense ❤
Trust me Adam, I’m not surprised lawyers & mngt affiliated w/ her career advised her against speaking publicly about this. I know everyone has their opinions about Tater Tati but as someone in recovery I loved hearing this part of her story & admire her bravery. I relate so deeply to her speaking about the shame she’s felt over the years, the stigma she’s faced & the messaging she got both knowing & unknowingly from people in the industry & beyond cuz I’ve experienced that through my whole journey. I admire the courage of the people who speak out because that’s not where I’m at for many reasons. I’m a private person by nature, I’ve faced awful stigma even long into recovery- specifically from medical professionals but many places. I don’t hear as many ppl talk about the inner shame. I rly hope ppl online handle this aspect of her story with respect as Adam & Peter have but that doesn’t surprise me. Relapse can be a part of recovery & for many it’s relapsing that helps teach them a necessary message & nothing to be ashamed of as difficult as it can be. To all in recovery or their journey with addiction HANG IN THERE!! There’s more beauty on the other side than you can imagine. If someone told me I’d be here right now a few years ago, I never would’ve believed them. 💜🩷💙💜🩷💙
I’m normally a silent watcher but I just had to say it. Adam’s parents should be proud . He’s a great kid
I love how your tabs are Mr Beast and Brooke Schofield hahah! He is RESEARCHING!
i've been sober for most of my adult life and tbh in eastern europe not drinking is still seen as weird. i hate being questioned on why i dont drink. "friends" pressuring me to drink... i ended up simply not going out almost at all in my 20s and not socializing much. growing up i've seen my older siblings come home blackout drunk from parties, drunk people scare me cause they licherally have no control and do really unwise things. men who hit on you while drunk are like x10 harder to deal with
I recently went to a picnic with friends and I brought both non alcoholic and alcoholic beverages it's the little things you know.
As someone who went to a pretty well known party university and is now about to be 24 in the next 24 hours I can say that my best advice is to do what’s best for you. I personally didn’t really partake in the party life style and neither did my best friend and honestly that’s okay. Sure we would go out to a party some random times and enjoyed. But if a situation or substance or truly anything doesn’t serve you it’s okay to not do it. It’s okay to go to a party and genuinely enjoy yourself by either drinking, smoking or not doing any of that. But like Adam said, moderation is key. And so is figuring out and accepting what serves you and what doesn’t. Don’t force yourself into a situation you won’t enjoy or feel comfortable in. Sorry for the long comment, I just understand the whole not being a party person in an age when partying is in a way expected.
I truly think sober bars/mocktail bars, etc will be a thing soon. My husband is an alcohol sales rep and it’s been noted that alcohol sales are going down. More people are choosing to stop drinking/not drink when becoming of age and are switching to thc. It’s been fascinating to watch.
functional alcoholism is so dangerous. i drank 6/7 days a week from 18-25. i could always afford it. blacked out to go to sleep every night, then went to work. im upset that now my brain is supposedly “done developing”.. but i’m sober 10 months w no plans to drink again. in moderation it’s really not terrible, some just can’t do that lol
I am completely sober because of personal reasons and the fact that alcoholism and addiction overall run in my family. I have never been someone to drink and it was because it never interested me at all growing up. As I got older, my friends completely understood but new people I met were always thrown off and tried to get me to drink until I told them no forcefully enough. Alcohol is so normalized and it’s weird for you not to drink but I am very confident in telling people I don’t drink and my friends always back me up.
i think im coming up on 5 years clean from self harm now. (i dont keep dates ahaha). it was such a long process and i think ive relapsed more times i can count. but im so proud of myself and i can genuinely say i can never see myself do that ever again and im planning on getting scars covered up with a tattoo pretty soon to reclaim that part of myself. anyone going through the same, i see you 🫶🏻
I personally don’t drink and am in my later 20s, there is such a stigma around it and so much shame and embarrassment. And people didn’t even know or think to ask if I was sober, if it was for religious or personal or health reasons or whatever, nobody asked they just were like “well you should drink sometime! try having fun!” which is imho really inconsiderate even if well-intentioned. I will tell you my fellow friends from college years say you don’t think about your 30s+ when you’re in your 20s- your body and mind will thank you from the future when you take care of yourself a little more, however that looks for you and whenever you choose to do so. You can still have your fun and go out and drink, just be more mindful. and pls include your sober/non-drinking friends omg we WANT to hang out with you and have a good time, you don’t have to just exclude and shame us! just be more inclusive, get creative with how you can have fun with a group of people that might be at different levels of preference with drinking, and don’t pressure anyone who is making choices to look out for themselves even if you think it’s a bit restrictive for you personally bc you just never know what that person is going through and what they need.
i think it was last year I had a period where I was drinking a LOT going out, so I went sober for a period and it definitely helped that my friends were so chill about me just drinking a coke and there was never any shame or pressure to drink. it was SO nice being able to be like "hey I've been drinking a lot lately so I want to scale back" and have them all act like its (rightfully!!) normal
I love that Jen Luv is a Mucker. I love her!!
one day at a time. My mom has been sober for over 20 years so just know, you are not alone.