At 64 yo, I’ve had to kick people out of my life; primarily due to all of these; and not on my part. When one person is the only person practicing self-awareness in the group, it’s time to evaluate the group one is part of. I have, and now I’m alone most of the time. My solitude and peace of mind is way more important than trying to belong where I don’t fit in. 🙏🏼
Your courage to prioritize your own well-being and peace of mind is truly admirable. It's a testament to your strength and self-awareness. How has embracing solitude enriched your life and allowed you to reconnect with yourself on a deeper level?
@@Nub789 the same could be said about Bible readers, they know the book inside out, and quoted often and it’s always someone else’s sin that need repentance, passing judgment because the book says so,they talk and preach like the lord’s on their side, the world as we speak is going to Hell because they all believe that the lord is on their side , murder, hate, greed all in the name of the lord, you don’t need a book to tell you what’s right or wrong it should be in your essence, thou shall not kill, lie or cheat, we don’t look in a book to know that fire burns , we should open our hearts and not a book the heart is like a parachute it only works when it’s open 🤷
He speaks the truth.... I can identify. A mentally ill AA member was constantly mocked outside of the meetings ... Once I joined in it... I realized I had done something out of my usual character and when he stopped coming to meetings ... It's something I'll ALWAYS regret, I don't need or want to fit in anymore... Keeping integrity is priceless and will never join in to fit in!!
missed alot of opportunities in places I worked, ,had the gossip crowd, bosses kiss ass buddies, list goes on .be nice and keep work ,work,then go home..works out better for me .
It's commendable how you've reflected on your actions and chosen integrity over fitting in. How do you think we can encourage others to prioritize empathy and respect, even in situations where social pressure might tempt them to do otherwise?
This one is so important because I was going out with somebody who I had a lot of respect for. He begged me to move in, and after I moved in, he wanted me to be his housekeeper and pay some of the bills. He said he will do the yardwork, but then forced me to do the yardwork. I moved out and away sometime. Still talk to him I have zero respect for him. He always want want want.
Definitely, Gossiping is the baddest defect we all need to overcome. It seems harmless at first, but the thing is that affects someone else's reputation. Even if our intentions are not evil, the ones who hear our comments on someone, may perceive such a person as ridiculous, weird, bizarre, or whatsoever. That person's reputation would be scratched already.
Avoiding gossip indeed fosters a more positive and respectful environment. What strategies do you find most effective in resisting the temptation to participate in or spread gossip in your daily interactions?
@@armwrestlinginelchucoelpas5316 If I ever lend money out I only do so with good friends.That way I don't really care if they give it back.Usually I value the friendship more than money.That is a good litmus test of who to lend to.So that means I won't lend to about 98 percent of people.Have a friend who I helped with property taxes.She doesn't have to pay me back.It wasn't that much.Besides she helps me find people who help me fix my vehicles or work on my house.So we are even.Only help those who would help you if you are in a bind.A lot of takers and users out there.
I think that interrupting others when they are gossiping is doing a service. Granted a lot of hate will come at you and even more gossip about you. I stand up for people who are being lied about even though I may not like them.
I had a job interview with the CEO of a small company and he said that he will inform me about the job in two weeks. During the interview he told me that he is looking for a loyal employee who would stay with the company for many years and I replied that I would love to work there for a long time. After two weeks passed I called him about the job and he said that he has more candidates to interview so he will tell me after a week. He never told me that he hired someone else. I lost all respect I had for him especially because he expected from me long term loyalty while he was so untrustworthy man.
@@tongobong1 Its good you didn't get the job... In the future... when you see yourself as highly valuable. At the end of an interview.... mention you will take the job... NOW. Because you have another formidable company who wants you to start Immediately. You prefer this company because of XYZ... then be quiet. Most job interviews know if they want you immediately. This way you don't waste your time. I've been hired many times on the spot. Remember, you are the prize!
I wish I found Stoicism 20 years ago, The fewer people in your life the happier you will be. Gossip is def the worst, especially family members who do it to each other.
Having been the topic of my family's for the past 5yrs, I totally agree with your take on it. It appears to have drawn some closer to each other, as they've become friends over sharing a scapegoat. Painful and cruel but there it is.
I don't think stoicism is about having few people in your life, but rather the right people. It's not about solitude, It's about being surrounded with the right people.
It's insightful how you've found Stoicism transformative in prioritizing peace and reducing negativity in your life. How do you think practicing Stoic principles could improve familial relationships and reduce gossip within families?
@@yannick6607 Well weeding the unimportant ones is really what I am implying but overall anyone can bring a specific energy to you to try and ruin your day so my take is just limit the amount of human interaction, Some days I can handle it and some days I am extremely vulnerable. Whatever works for whoever..
That's a profound observation about the importance of consistency and reliability in the workplace. How do you think employers should balance the value of skill and the necessity of regular attendance when evaluating employees' contributions?
Why do they not accept it the first time. They make you defend your position and then are more offended. Lot of evil going on problem is liars and manipulators don’t think it’s evil. But the word speaks volumes about these. To deny my answer is to disrespect me while demanding respect your not due. I’m learning to say little but even when I do it still bothers them. Why can’t they learn to let you be , just because you don’t want to be in there group doesn’t mean you told them not to have their group. It’s not my fault they lack character or integrity. We all make our choices and they have consequences, I’m well aware mine set me apart from the group. It’s a personal decision not meant to offend anyone, but yet it infuriates them……..
That’s always the excuse the devil made me do it , no you did it your choice your decision, the devil is the devil no doubt but he always gets blame for stuff he had nothing to do with, tell it like it is, and I’m not defending anybody just making a point 🤷
Thank you for sharing your experience, user-yx6jm5pn4n. It sounds like you've made a difficult but necessary decision for your own well-being. How do you maintain boundaries in your relationships to ensure they remain healthy and supportive for both parties?
@@KingStoic101 oh , I find that very challenging. To maintain boundaries with people close to me, and yet continue to grow the relationship , it's very challenging indeed. I have no easy answer. It's easier to just give up on a friendship .
Very common yet extremely true and helpful. Not to gossip, be unreliable, interrupting is being dismissive and last but not the least complaining and not look for solutions.
I had a friend who constantly talked about his friends in a negative way and one of those friends said he was saying the same things about me! I can no longer confide with this person for fear of him telling others. I no longer consider him a friend after so many years, our friendship has run its course, it's over.
@geraldorford8836, your story is a powerful testament to the importance of trust and integrity in friendships. It takes great strength to recognize when a relationship no longer serves your well-being and to take steps to protect yourself. How has this experience influenced your approach to building and maintaining trust in your relationships? Your insights could help others navigate similar situations with wisdom and courage.
I've lived by one motto "my word is my bond". I deliver on my promises and if I'm in your corner I'm there come hell or high water. If you can't give me the same your gone.
Remember this “ do unto others, as you would have done onto you “. That’s why I have no friends only acquaintances.there are few people you can call friend. Things matter more, than people do to most.
@thefool1977, your reflection on the golden rule and the rarity of true friendship is profoundly touching. It's a powerful reminder of the importance of treating others with kindness and integrity, even in a world where material things often seem to take precedence. How have your experiences shaped your understanding of what it means to be a true friend? Your insights could provide a deeper understanding of the value of genuine connections in our lives.
@@Mathperez-d6v Your reflection on Jesus' teaching is both profound and inspiring. Truly, loving your neighbor as yourself encapsulates the essence of compassion and empathy. How has this principle shaped your interactions with others? Sharing your experiences could encourage more people to embrace this timeless wisdom in their daily lives.
i hate interrupting but sometimes people go on and on in a monologue, refusing to share the space for conversation or listen to anyone else .. thats a problem too
When somebody insult you or put you down once you never forget those phrases, and the disrespect is starting in that relationship and the fun together is slowly over.
It's admirable how you uphold your principles against gossip, staying true to your values even when it may surprise others. How do you think this stance impacts your relationships and the dynamics within your social circles?
@@heraportiataite8625 your candidness is refreshing and sparks meaningful dialogue. Do you think calling out insincerity directly can lead to more authentic and honest conversations within a community?
It helped me stop cancelling when my friends expressed disappointment, there have been many who hadn’t nor had they invited me in the second place. It helps when someone shows you that you mean something to them. It does matter. Your presence in Their life matters.
I’m so glad I clicked on this. I’m always looking for ways to improve myself, and will definitely be more cognizant of any habits like this that I can I can improve upon. Thank-you.
I used to interupt people, but it was only because my mind was faster than my mouth. Slowing down my internal and external processes and syncronizing them has helped. It also has to do with feeling like you are being heard, so you interupt. Once you stop worrying about being heard, it became easier.
Actually, lightly embarrassing someone can be a form of flirting. If you ask someone their favorite movie, and then go off with a hilarious response, like "OMG, really, you're one of those????", it can put them in a position of wanting to defend their choice - in other words, they now WANT your further attention so they can win you over. THAT's flirting....
Unforgivable... humiliating you for no reason. My mother does this all the time with all my siblings... She will humiliate me in public. I know it was from a lack of love and abandonment when she was a child. I have almost break her of this habit... she was treated poorly as a child. It's a learned behavior. So, I have compassion for her.
I once dated a woman who had a dog named Buck. This woman was always telling Buck what to do and how to do it. When I finally ended our relationship, she couldn’t understand why I was doing so. I told her that she needed a man like Buck and that I wasn’t Buck
Thank you for sharing your experience, Luckystoic. It sounds like you had an interesting dynamic with your ex-partner. What lessons did you learn from this relationship that you carry with you today?
A real simple phrase that I say everyday to remind myself is, "say what you mean and mean what you say." My father told me that ever since I was a young child and I live by it. He lived by it and he was a man with the most Integrity that I have ever known.
If you did that all the time, your life would not be worth living. You can't be 100 percent honest all the time. You would be hurting people's feelings left right and centre!
If you have a problem with someone or they did something you were not happy with go to the person alone and then discuss a solution dont confront them in front of everyone or go behind there backs and mention it to other people if the person. Finds out it would cause much hurt and anger always show love to others its. Very importantn to your. Well being and heals many wounds ❤❤❤
Sounds like you've read the gospel of Matthew, starting in Chspter 18, verse 15. instruction on the duty to forgive offenses and forgive in love if an offender seeks to save.
Gossip is a natural outlet for people. In the workplace, as in families, it's a way of diffusing tension and avoiding full on confrontation which can be worse.
🇯🇲having a family discussion is not gossip, having a discussion with your friends is not gossip. Discussing people and people's business that's gossip, even saying negative things about people is gossip.
Thanks a lot for reminders No one can really claim to be perfect but sometimes merely refusing to be part of plot, and asking for a release, HONESTY and INTEGRITY greatly causes rejection but honestly I would really appreciate called out to be truthful, loose a job, or be friendless than to compromise the truth.😢😢
I had a college roommate who was a terrible gossip. We confronted her & told her we didn't want to hear it, how ugly it was. She finally did it by making up a huge lie and spreading it and we got her kicked out of the dorm .
your experience highlights the importance of standing up against negative behaviors like gossip. It's admirable that you and your roommates took a firm stance and addressed the issue head-on. Confronting and resolving such situations takes courage and integrity. How did this experience shape your views on handling conflicts and fostering a positive environment? Your story can offer valuable lessons for others facing similar challenges.
Thank you, that explains it perfectly.. I used to thing that complaining was a form of bonding with my coworkers (solidarity indeed) or so it had seemed. The negativity was in fact contagious and I became the black sheep
I didn’t realize how much gossiping and complaining could impact my relationships until watching this. Your insights, especially through Stoic philosophy, are a game-changer. This is exactly the kind of content I needed to hear!
I am currently reading Mark Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k" - and it teaches how to let go of all the little inconsequential things that we waste energy giving a f**k about. You can still be a deeply caring person when it comes to others, but this book teaches you the difference between good investments of your time and others. By the way, in case you might be interested, Mark Manson does have a channel right here on You Tube.
Open your heart and manifest good people... they are everywhere. The world is mostly good... turn off the TV and your life will change. Love you, Love-
About complainers..... I don't mind listening to some troubled soul once in a while. I listen patiently and express my sympathy. BUT... I don't want to hear that person ONLY talk about THEIR troubles and neglect to be interested in me once in a while. I have neighbors who ONLY complain. To myself I call them "The Head Up Their Butts People". I have quit interacting with them. I'm much more peaceful now.Happier.
I’m the same I don’t mind listening to others problems and situations and I have expressed sympathy and concern. bUT I feel the exact same way as you when it’s all about complaining and not listening or looking for and creating solutions it’s like a Merry go round. I won’t to be either people who show some interest in me and offer a listening ear . I have experienced the negative effects of gossip and seen it frequently in my personal and professional life. You or your loved one’s information can be shared and violate HIPPA guidelines and be an incident that occurred a long time ago and because of gossip it’s kept front and center when it should really be in the past and rear view mirror. other issue in gossip is often the person or their loved ones are talked about behind your back then it’s all exposed in a public forum with the intention to shame and humiliate.
We nurses cannot stand the Wendy whiners or Wally whiners.We know if you are really in pain or are just using melodrama to get attention.We don't have time for that BS.
*Wow, this video was incredibly eye-opening. The real-life examples and the connection to stoic principles were so powerful. I especially appreciated the segment on gossiping-it’s something many of us overlook, but it's so true how it affects relationships. Fantastic content and very well-presented!*
A true man's man. I've fallen so many times, dusted myself off and climbed again. Success eventually came but it's the lessons learned that aided me the most.
In order of my weakness. 1. Complaining (not necessarily to others but grumbling within myself). 2. Gossiping. Not often at all but even joking, ridiculing, or criticizing (slandering) others would qualify. After each time, I felt bad about it, even if I thought it was meant to have a constructive purpose. 3. Being unreliable. Not for specific, temporary promises or duties but I can be inconsistent over long, protracted agreements, simply because I am sometimes inconsistent in my own purposes. 4. Listening. I haven't found it particularly hard to listen to others with my full attention, except of course when a strong wave of inspiration has impelled me to talk and I fear to lose the important pearls of brief insight from my fleeting memory.
So glad to have come across this channel. I find that it places us on the correct track again. The turbulent world lately takes us out of bound and we don’t realize we start to fight with the wind. Thank you for your work. This is very much needed.
That's so true. When omeone I barely know, comes up to me and right off the bat, the my start bad mouthing another person, it makes me question when--NOT IF--will I be next on their "hit list."
Such a powerful message! These 4 habits really resonate with me, especially the one about overreacting to criticism. Stoic philosophy reminds us that our response to external events defines us more than the events themselves. It's a tough habit to break, but the inner peace it brings is worth it. Thanks for sharing this wisdom!"
Your observation is both thoughtful and powerful. The Ten Commandments indeed serve as a timeless guide for moral behavior, and your call to revive these principles is a reminder of their enduring relevance. How do you think reintroducing these values could impact our society today?
@stoickingdom2024 I believe reintroducing the teaching of God's word is a great idea 💡 😀 however we live in America and as much as I pray everyone will follow Jesus Christ, it's just not true. We have free will and we can choose heaven or hell. Those who don't want to learn the Bible should be given other choices. When they taught evolution I had my daughter sit in the library because we don't believe in evolution, we believe in God.
Thank you for sharing your incredible journey and transformation! It's truly inspiring to hear how far you've come. Your dedication to personal growth and improvement is a testament to your strength and resilience. I’d love to hear more about the key factors that contributed to this significant change. What specific practices or insights helped you reduce that 99 percent to just 3 percent? Your experiences could provide valuable guidance and motivation to others on their own paths to self-improvement.
That's because they're only humans. We all have these traits it's just something we have to watch for order to keep from doing. A lot of these traits we do without even thinking about it. Because it's part of our society and part of Being Human. Just pay attention to yourself and what you're saying and doing and then you will know when to quit doing them.
#4 is a clear sign of why Therapy exists. As someone who always vents randomly and learned the hard way not too. many, many time before. Please Get Therapy. It HELPS 100% It may be a needle in the hay stack to find the right one . BUT KEEP TRYING. ITS GOOD FOR THE SOUL.
No. 2 and No. 4 are the two bad habits that caused me to lose friends and romantic partners the most. God knows how many friends I have lost due to them flaking out, and me calling them out for doing so. One best friend got so mad at me for calling her out after the 4th time for no shows, and one last minute cancellation that she went on a complete revenge mode. I knew instantly that the friendship was beyond repair. With the complainers, I always got tired of people complaining at the workplace, or family member about a birthday gift that was not up to par, or me not showing my emotions enough. I had so many people at the various places that I work at about how the place sucked, how the managers were not understanding, or disorganized, or how everyone sucked, and that they didn’t get paid enough. In my family, some of the relatives would constantly complain about how someone would be dominating the dinner conversation, or about me not showing my feelings enough.
I used to live by this and the words you say I used to say to myself about all my habits and also have the power to understand others and I could help calm them , I lost my way went to all the bad sides of each topics , I at one point lost it all and in turn went to end it all luckily I was saved, I Have once again started back to these habits , I am finding myself again and getting my family back in all directions. sorry for sad crap just this vid really hit me and so happy found it I will play every day to remember
Thanks for this offering. As I considered the four points you make, I began to be smug because I thought, "I've tried to avoid these all my adult life." No, I haven't been that consistent. I have violated trusts, been missing in action, pressed my opinion, and proven toxic by betraying a negative attitude. I haven't been the wise and stable person I'd like to have been. The misspelling of, "disrespect," in the thumbnail I first saw caused me to avoid this video at first. Use of the AI voice was another turn-off. Yet, I listened to / read along with the content and began to examine myself to see where I've fallen short. You made an impact. Last point: I was introduced to the Stoic philosophy in high school - along with many other philosophies, faiths, world views, and ideologies. In today's chaotic World, it seems there's been a revival of Stoicism as one of many efforts to encourage men to be good men - not tyrants. My question is: Does the Stoicism you promote acknowledge God, or just Man acting like a god?
You’re right. This useful video would have been much nicer with the recorded voice of the author himself/herself. It’s deeply offensive to hear this machined voice, but the text is excellent.
Great examples, and the examples center on what a person can control. You can't control what others do and gossiping about their life is a waste of time, being unreliable is completely up to oneself, and interrupting is your choice ("We have two ears and one mouth, so listen more than you speak"), complaining does not solve problems that you can't control, or you may be able to make positive changes with action ("The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” ) Thanks for the excellent examples and video.
Thank you for your kind words, KevinSmith5318. It's great to hear that you found the content insightful. Reflecting on your experiences, which of these points do you find most challenging to overcome, and what strategies have you found effective in addressing them?
Thanks so very much , it was like you were reading my life completely . I have people in my life manipulating and using me , you have actually helped today , please help me .
Some good people who have been misunderstood will adjust by giving more detail with the hope of being understood correctly. Sometimes being understood doesn’t matter but other events are very important to have your friends and/or close neighbors understand. People can have long periods of stress-free encounters at work, with neighbors and family THEN SUDDENLY things go to crap. They should be allowed to talk about what happened. It reduces the gossip temptation of filling in the blanks with what you imagine.
So many times when I've said hello to someone I don't even know, they immediately launch into giving me their whole life story without pausing once 😞 Or some will starting whinging about everything.
@@Parkview268 this is my experience. People, once they feel that I'm listening, will tell their whole life stories. BUT they never ask me about my story or experience. Once I had a 1,5 hrs drive in the vehicle with a lady from our church. Boy, she never stopped telling me her story, I know her whole life. Needless to say, never about me, its all about her. And those who complain. We had a lady at work, everyone called her whining b..tch. People's egos are so inflated... it's all me me me. Monologues never end. When I have a crisis when taking out just this one situation of my chest would help tremendously, no one wants to hear no sh.it. people are just so selfish...
If you are calm and stay open minded when you are confronted for your mistakes. People won't see any need to talk behind your back. If you are too egotistical and hostile when confronted about your mistakes. Then people will have no choice but to talk about it behind your back. And they will talk about your poor or good behaviours too see if everyone else is experiencing the same thing from you. When people people gossip about your good conducts they generally respect amd trust you. The opposite happens when they talk ill of you. Build your reputations through your actions and how you interact with people out there. Cheers!
Everyone misunderstands what gossip really is. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting together with family members and talking about another family member, updating everyone on their life such as they got a new job or they had a new baby, etc. But gossip is talking about someone in a negative manner with judgment. It's all you're doing is updating people about someone that you know or that they know, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and it is not called gossiping. Everyone has had a conversation with someone asks, "how's Joe doing? I haven't heard from him in a long time. Has his wife had the baby?" It's not gossip if you answer those kinds of questions. It's only if you badmouth the other person.
This video was more so about how to people please 101. People that people please agree with this sugar-coded way of saying, "Try to impress everybody, try to avoid people's bad sides. Don't ever express your concerns because to everybody else you're selfish and inconsiderate. Though in reality nobody considers you. But ignore that realization to keep associates, not friends, associates, possibly enemies." This video confirmed to me that I'm better off to myself instead of ever complying with this nonsense to make others comfortable with being self-centered jerks.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, Goldfinder4498. It's a profound insight. How do you personally differentiate between productive action and unproductive complaining in your own life?
Your insight into the futility of complaints is both profound and empowering. It reflects a proactive mindset geared towards progress. How do you channel this philosophy into meaningful action in your own life?
Sometimes we need to forge through any and all types of conflict to start our lives. I certainly have avoided all types of conflicts as an adult because my life waa overflowing with dreadful, life stopping conflict as a youngster. It's too much for anyone to overcome.
I have been guilty of the gossip games! And are not proud of it, Since I realized that this is wrong I've stopped with gossiping, no matter who or what it involves, and try to distance from those that do!
concentrating on problems more then on solutions... That is a good one. We should not do that.... Instead we should ACT on the solutions and try things out. Then you can talk about that the next time you see a friend. He will keep helping you as long as you ACT and TRY. (instead of keeping complaining)
1. Gossiping
2. Being unreliable
3. Interrupting others
4. Complaining constantly
This sounds like some of the neighbors 😅😅😅😢
MSM is a gossip-generating machine to say the very least.
Unreliable
Interrupts
Constantly complaining
We are what we consume
I also think “whining” is included in complaining. Lol. I def know some perpetual whiners.
Love it when ppl do this with lists like this, THANK YOU!!!
Being negative
At 64 yo, I’ve had to kick people out of my life; primarily due to all of these; and not on my part. When one person is the only person practicing self-awareness in the group, it’s time to evaluate the group one is part of. I have, and now I’m alone most of the time. My solitude and peace of mind is way more important than trying to belong where I don’t fit in. 🙏🏼
❤..yes
👍necessary
Your courage to prioritize your own well-being and peace of mind is truly admirable. It's a testament to your strength and self-awareness. How has embracing solitude enriched your life and allowed you to reconnect with yourself on a deeper level?
Yep. I learned this long ago. Work on you and don't worry about the 'friends' network.
There’s an old Italian saying. “It’s better to be alone, than in bad company”
And I’m not referring to the rock band 😂
I’m going though a lot in my personal life & realized I constantly complain and feel sorry for myself. Thank you for this video!
The fact that nobody talks about the book whispers of manifestation on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
@@Nub789 the same could be said about Bible readers, they know the book inside out, and quoted often and it’s always someone else’s sin that need repentance, passing judgment because the book says so,they talk and preach like the lord’s on their side, the world as we speak is going to Hell because they all believe that the lord is on their side , murder, hate, greed all in the name of the lord, you don’t need a book to tell you what’s right or wrong it should be in your essence, thou shall not kill, lie or cheat, we don’t look in a book to know that fire burns , we should open our hearts and not a book the heart is like a parachute it only works when it’s open 🤷
He speaks the truth.... I can identify. A mentally ill AA member was constantly mocked outside of the meetings ... Once I joined in it... I realized I had done something out of my usual character and when he stopped coming to meetings ... It's something I'll ALWAYS regret, I don't need or want to fit in anymore... Keeping integrity is priceless and will never join in to fit in!!
missed alot of opportunities in places I worked, ,had the gossip crowd, bosses kiss ass buddies, list goes on .be nice and keep work ,work,then go home..works out better for me .
It's commendable how you've reflected on your actions and chosen integrity over fitting in. How do you think we can encourage others to prioritize empathy and respect, even in situations where social pressure might tempt them to do otherwise?
Your choice shows true maturity.
@@annripley1964 Your choice shows true maturity and wisdom. How has embracing this mindset influenced your personal growth and relationships?
@@stoickingdom2024 oh, teacher, you're back...😊
Being too proud. Never able to humble yourself. People who think they are perfect and never make mistakes.
Yes yes yes
A fifth bad habit: only using others, only take don't give
This one is so important because I was going out with somebody who I had a lot of respect for. He begged me to move in, and after I moved in, he wanted me to be his housekeeper and pay some of the bills. He said he will do the yardwork, but then forced me to do the yardwork. I moved out and away sometime. Still talk to him I have zero respect for him. He always want want want.
"unreliable"
Most people are TAKERS. They take take and take and expect you to give and give and give till there is nothing left to give, then dump you!
...Not specific enough.
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
Gossip is something that we all need to avoid.....Some very positive comments in this article ....
Definitely, Gossiping is the baddest defect we all need to overcome. It seems harmless at first, but the thing is that affects someone else's reputation. Even if our intentions are not evil, the ones who hear our comments on someone, may perceive such a person as ridiculous, weird, bizarre, or whatsoever. That person's reputation would be scratched already.
Avoiding gossip indeed fosters a more positive and respectful environment. What strategies do you find most effective in resisting the temptation to participate in or spread gossip in your daily interactions?
Borrowing money and not paying it back should be inb the top of the list
That's unreliable. Ethical should be up there...
@@armwrestlinginelchucoelpas5316 If I ever lend money out I only do so with good friends.That way I don't really care if they give it back.Usually I value the friendship more than money.That is a good litmus test of who to lend to.So that means I won't lend to about 98 percent of people.Have a friend who I helped with property taxes.She doesn't have to pay me back.It wasn't that much.Besides she helps me find people who help me fix my vehicles or work on my house.So we are even.Only help those who would help you if you are in a bind.A lot of takers and users out there.
That is being cheap to get out of dept
A borrower nor a lender be
I think that interrupting others when they are gossiping is doing a service. Granted a lot of hate will come at you and even more gossip about you. I stand up for people who are being lied about even though I may not like them.
I totally hate when someone says they will do something then never do
Talking over you.
Even if they tell you they're going to kill you?
I had a job interview with the CEO of a small company and he said that he will inform me about the job in two weeks. During the interview he told me that he is looking for a loyal employee who would stay with the company for many years and I replied that I would love to work there for a long time. After two weeks passed I called him about the job and he said that he has more candidates to interview so he will tell me after a week. He never told me that he hired someone else. I lost all respect I had for him especially because he expected from me long term loyalty while he was so untrustworthy man.
@@tongobong1 Its good you didn't get the job... In the future... when you see yourself as highly valuable. At the end of an interview.... mention you will take the job... NOW. Because you have another formidable company who wants you to start Immediately. You prefer this company because of XYZ... then be quiet. Most job interviews know if they want you immediately. This way you don't waste your time. I've been hired many times on the spot. Remember, you are the prize!
@@freeyourmindnewsgettingoff853 interesting idea. I will try it. Thank you.
This video is a powerful reminder! Let's break these habits and earn the respect we deserve.
Exactly ! Stay strong 👌stay stoic !
I wish I found Stoicism 20 years ago, The fewer people in your life the happier you will be. Gossip is def the worst, especially family members who do it to each other.
Having been the topic of my family's for the past 5yrs, I totally agree with your take on it. It appears to have drawn some closer to each other, as they've become friends over sharing a scapegoat. Painful and cruel but there it is.
Agreed.
I don't think stoicism is about having few people in your life, but rather the right people. It's not about solitude, It's about being surrounded with the right people.
It's insightful how you've found Stoicism transformative in prioritizing peace and reducing negativity in your life. How do you think practicing Stoic principles could improve familial relationships and reduce gossip within families?
@@yannick6607 Well weeding the unimportant ones is really what I am implying but overall anyone can bring a specific energy to you to try and ruin your day so my take is just limit the amount of human interaction, Some days I can handle it and some days I am extremely vulnerable. Whatever works for whoever..
These four habits are what I will be looking for when avoiding toxic people.
Has it ever occurred to you, the label ‘toxic’ is the elite’s method of censorship and control?
Better still, try to avoid in yourself
once heard someone say "does NOT matter how GOOD you are at work, IF you RARELY show up"
That's a profound observation about the importance of consistency and reliability in the workplace. How do you think employers should balance the value of skill and the necessity of regular attendance when evaluating employees' contributions?
This is the stuff kids should be learning in schools at an early age.
Right
Why should the school system be responsible for teaching kids what should be taught at home?
From their parents.
It's time parents grow up and raise their own kids.
5:25
"Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Anything beyond this is from the evil one."
Matthew 5:37
Why do they not accept it the first time. They make you defend your position and then are more offended. Lot of evil going on problem is liars and manipulators don’t think it’s evil. But the word speaks volumes about these. To deny my answer is to disrespect me while demanding respect your not due.
I’m learning to say little but even when I do it still bothers them. Why can’t they learn to let you be , just because you don’t want to be in there group doesn’t mean you told them not to have their group. It’s not my fault they lack character or integrity. We all make our choices and they have consequences, I’m well aware mine set me apart from the group. It’s a personal decision not meant to offend anyone, but yet it infuriates them……..
That’s always the excuse the devil made me do it , no you did it your choice your decision, the devil is the devil no doubt but he always gets blame for stuff he had nothing to do with, tell it like it is, and I’m not defending anybody just making a point 🤷
I have been guilty of many of these things. And I gave up a friend who was always complaining to me. I just got fedup of listening to her complaints.
Very enlightening 😉
Thank you for sharing your experience, user-yx6jm5pn4n. It sounds like you've made a difficult but necessary decision for your own well-being. How do you maintain boundaries in your relationships to ensure they remain healthy and supportive for both parties?
@@KingStoic101 oh , I find that very challenging. To maintain boundaries with people close to me, and yet continue to grow the relationship , it's very challenging indeed. I have no easy answer. It's easier to just give up on a friendship .
I feel you, I just gave up a friend who wants to talk only about herself.
@@missp5050 insightful decision. I guess such a friend has zero interest in you, it's all about herself only.
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Very common yet extremely true and helpful. Not to gossip, be unreliable, interrupting is being dismissive and last but not the least complaining and not look for solutions.
1. breathing
2. having your own opinion
3. being nice
4. being around people
Being a woman
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Breathing, having your own opinion but listen to others as well, being respectful, not nice, being only around people who deserve it.
@@henry6525 what are you saying here.
@@grawakendream8980think.
I had a friend who constantly talked about his friends in a negative way and one of those friends said he was saying the same things about me! I can no longer confide with this person for fear of him telling others. I no longer consider him a friend after so many years, our friendship has run its course, it's over.
@geraldorford8836, your story is a powerful testament to the importance of trust and integrity in friendships. It takes great strength to recognize when a relationship no longer serves your well-being and to take steps to protect yourself. How has this experience influenced your approach to building and maintaining trust in your relationships? Your insights could help others navigate similar situations with wisdom and courage.
Thanks for this information. 😊
I've lived by one motto "my word is my bond". I deliver on my promises and if I'm in your corner I'm there come hell or high water. If you can't give me the same your gone.
Are you Minder fan
Please share your motto with the rest of the male population then. 🙄😵💫
Remember this “ do unto others, as you would have done onto you “.
That’s why I have no friends only acquaintances.there are few people you can call friend.
Things matter more, than people do to most.
@thefool1977, your reflection on the golden rule and the rarity of true friendship is profoundly touching. It's a powerful reminder of the importance of treating others with kindness and integrity, even in a world where material things often seem to take precedence. How have your experiences shaped your understanding of what it means to be a true friend? Your insights could provide a deeper understanding of the value of genuine connections in our lives.
It all boils down to what Jesus said, “ Love Your Neighbor just like you love Yourself.” Do to them what you would want done to you.
@@Mathperez-d6v Your reflection on Jesus' teaching is both profound and inspiring. Truly, loving your neighbor as yourself encapsulates the essence of compassion and empathy. How has this principle shaped your interactions with others? Sharing your experiences could encourage more people to embrace this timeless wisdom in their daily lives.
I'm working hard on interrupting.
One thing I can’t stand is me busy interrupting when somebody is speaking!!
Me too. It’s a bad habit done unconsciously.
i hate interrupting but sometimes people go
on and on in a monologue, refusing to share the space for conversation or listen to anyone else .. thats a problem too
I refuse to listen to gossip. I dont care if u get shocked. I literally say “I cant listen to gossip”
When somebody insult you or put you down once you never forget those phrases, and the disrespect is starting in that relationship and the fun together is slowly over.
It's admirable how you uphold your principles against gossip, staying true to your values even when it may surprise others. How do you think this stance impacts your relationships and the dynamics within your social circles?
.. bullshit. Bet you stick around to listen😮
@@heraportiataite8625 your candidness is refreshing and sparks meaningful dialogue. Do you think calling out insincerity directly can lead to more authentic and honest conversations within a community?
Good answer. Once you entertain it, you're part of it. 😊
It helped me stop cancelling when my friends expressed disappointment, there have been many who hadn’t nor had they invited me in the second place. It helps when someone shows you that you mean something to them. It does matter. Your presence in Their life matters.
I’m so glad I clicked on this. I’m always looking for ways to improve myself, and will definitely be more cognizant of any habits like this that I can I can improve upon. Thank-you.
Lucky you. I have more of a feeling I am only beginning working on this…
I used to interupt people, but it was only because my mind was faster than my mouth. Slowing down my internal and external processes and syncronizing them has helped. It also has to do with feeling like you are being heard, so you interupt. Once you stop worrying about being heard, it became easier.
feeling like you are NOT being heard, causes me to interupt.
The one thing that nobody will forgive you for is embarrassing them !! It is # 1 !!
Actually, lightly embarrassing someone can be a form of flirting. If you ask someone their favorite movie, and then go off with a hilarious response, like "OMG, really, you're one of those????", it can put them in a position of wanting to defend their choice - in other words, they now WANT your further attention so they can win you over. THAT's flirting....
@@nobodyknows3180 Maybe in private but public ally embarrassing someone will end the relationship.
Unforgivable... humiliating you for no reason. My mother does this all the time with all my siblings... She will humiliate me in public. I know it was from a lack of love and abandonment when she was a child. I have almost break her of this habit... she was treated poorly as a child. It's a learned behavior. So, I have compassion for her.
@@freeyourmindnewsgettingoff853 There is no excuse for this. You need to spend less time with her.
@@nobodyknows3180 True, Unless it is in public.
I once dated a woman who had a dog named Buck. This woman was always telling Buck what to do and how to do it. When I finally ended our relationship, she couldn’t understand why I was doing so. I told her that she needed a man like Buck and that I wasn’t Buck
Thank you for sharing your experience, Luckystoic. It sounds like you had an interesting dynamic with your ex-partner. What lessons did you learn from this relationship that you carry with you today?
I😂lmao
Tried to treat you like that dog.. 😮😢😂
Hope you gave her the Dwight Eisenhower quote on your way out the goor, “The buck stops here”
@@mtp4430 😅😅
A real simple phrase that I say everyday to remind myself is, "say what you mean and mean what you say."
My father told me that ever since I was a young child and I live by it. He lived by it and he was a man with the most Integrity that I have ever known.
If you did that all the time, your life would not be worth living. You can't be 100 percent honest all the time. You would be hurting people's feelings left right and centre!
If you have a problem with someone or they did something you were not happy with go to the person alone and then discuss a solution dont confront them in front of everyone or go behind there backs and mention it to other people if the person. Finds out it would cause much hurt and anger always show love to others its. Very importantn to your. Well being and heals many wounds ❤❤❤
Sounds like you've read the gospel of Matthew, starting in Chspter 18, verse 15.
instruction on the duty to forgive offenses and forgive in love if an offender seeks to save.
Yes, but we stick to our negative experiences with someone sooner than with the positive. That’s why these advices are important.
Gossip is a natural outlet for people. In the workplace, as in families, it's a way of diffusing tension and avoiding full on confrontation which can be worse.
🇯🇲having a family discussion is not gossip, having a discussion with your friends is not gossip. Discussing people and people's business that's gossip, even saying negative things about people is gossip.
Thanks a lot for reminders
No one can really claim to be perfect but sometimes merely refusing to be part of plot, and asking for a release, HONESTY and INTEGRITY greatly causes rejection but honestly I would really appreciate called out to be truthful, loose a job, or be friendless than to compromise the truth.😢😢
This video is a must-watch for anyone looking to build respect and integrity. Practical and eye-opening!
I had a college roommate who was a terrible gossip. We confronted her & told her we didn't want to hear it, how ugly it was. She finally did it by making up a huge lie and spreading it and we got her kicked out of the dorm .
your experience highlights the importance of standing up against negative behaviors like gossip. It's admirable that you and your roommates took a firm stance and addressed the issue head-on. Confronting and resolving such situations takes courage and integrity. How did this experience shape your views on handling conflicts and fostering a positive environment? Your story can offer valuable lessons for others facing similar challenges.
Thank you, that explains it perfectly.. I used to thing that complaining was a form of bonding with my coworkers (solidarity indeed) or so it had seemed. The negativity was in fact contagious and I became the black sheep
I didn’t realize how much gossiping and complaining could impact my relationships until watching this. Your insights, especially through Stoic philosophy, are a game-changer. This is exactly the kind of content I needed to hear!
I avoid people. I don’t really care about people anymore especially the way the world is today.
Seems to be necessity today.
Exactly!
I am currently reading Mark Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k" - and it teaches how to let go of all the little inconsequential things that we waste energy giving a f**k about. You can still be a deeply caring person when it comes to others, but this book teaches you the difference between good investments of your time and others. By the way, in case you might be interested, Mark Manson does have a channel right here on You Tube.
True. Really True.
Open your heart and manifest good people... they are everywhere. The world is mostly good... turn off the TV and your life will change. Love you, Love-
One million likes from india 🇮🇳. Thanks madam sir 🙏🏻
You are welcome 🤗 happy you enjoyed the video 💪💯
Interrupting complainers works very well!
About complainers.....
I don't mind listening to some troubled soul once in a while. I listen patiently and express my sympathy. BUT...
I don't want to hear that person ONLY talk about THEIR troubles and neglect to be interested in me once in a while.
I have neighbors who ONLY complain. To myself I call them
"The Head Up Their Butts People". I have quit interacting with them. I'm much more peaceful now.Happier.
Amen.
@@MarthaWoodworth-f9s
......and so it is. 😊
I’m the same I don’t mind listening to others problems and situations and I have expressed sympathy and concern. bUT I feel the exact same way as you when it’s all about complaining and not listening or looking for and creating solutions it’s like a Merry go round. I won’t to be either people who show some interest in me and offer a listening ear . I have experienced the negative effects of gossip and seen it frequently in my personal and professional life. You or your loved one’s information can be shared and violate HIPPA guidelines and be an incident that occurred a long time ago and because of gossip it’s kept front and center when it should really be in the past and rear view mirror. other issue in gossip is often the person or their loved ones are talked about behind your back then it’s all exposed in a public forum with the intention to shame and humiliate.
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We nurses cannot stand the Wendy whiners or Wally whiners.We know if you are really in pain or are just using melodrama to get attention.We don't have time for that BS.
THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCED TO US. A GOOD EXAMPLES. GOD BLESS UR CHANNEL AND MORE POWER!!!
*Wow, this video was incredibly eye-opening. The real-life examples and the connection to stoic principles were so powerful. I especially appreciated the segment on gossiping-it’s something many of us overlook, but it's so true how it affects relationships. Fantastic content and very well-presented!*
A true man's man. I've fallen so many times, dusted myself off and climbed again. Success eventually came but it's the lessons learned that aided me the most.
In order of my weakness.
1. Complaining (not necessarily to others but grumbling within myself).
2. Gossiping. Not often at all but even joking, ridiculing, or criticizing (slandering) others would qualify. After each time, I felt bad about it, even if I thought it was meant to have a constructive purpose.
3. Being unreliable. Not for specific, temporary promises or duties but I can be inconsistent over long, protracted agreements, simply because I am sometimes inconsistent in my own purposes.
4. Listening. I haven't found it particularly hard to listen to others with my full attention, except of course when a strong wave of inspiration has impelled me to talk and I fear to lose the important pearls of brief insight from my fleeting memory.
So glad to have come across this channel. I find that it places us on the correct track again. The turbulent world lately takes us out of bound and we don’t realize we start to fight with the wind. Thank you for your work. This is very much needed.
Thanks stay blessed.❤️ and stay stoic💪 !
That's so true. When omeone I barely know, comes up to me and right off the bat, the my start bad mouthing another person, it makes me question when--NOT IF--will I be next on their "hit list."
It’s a great reminder to be mindful of how we interact with others and how small changes in behavior can significantly improve our relationships.
Such a powerful message! These 4 habits really resonate with me, especially the one about overreacting to criticism. Stoic philosophy reminds us that our response to external events defines us more than the events themselves. It's a tough habit to break, but the inner peace it brings is worth it. Thanks for sharing this wisdom!"
This is a great example why we need the 10 commandments back, it's a list of moral behaviors that are becoming extinct
Who took them away?
I just don’t want them shoved down my non religious throat
❤❤%= Matthew 6 vs 6-13...so be it
Your observation is both thoughtful and powerful. The Ten Commandments indeed serve as a timeless guide for moral behavior, and your call to revive these principles is a reminder of their enduring relevance.
How do you think reintroducing these values could impact our society today?
@stoickingdom2024 I believe reintroducing the teaching of God's word is a great idea 💡 😀 however we live in America and as much as I pray everyone will follow Jesus Christ, it's just not true. We have free will and we can choose heaven or hell.
Those who don't want to learn the Bible should be given other choices. When they taught evolution I had my daughter sit in the library because we don't believe in evolution, we believe in God.
Worse than all those is lying
This is my number 1 most hated thing.
Can I assume your NOT a Trump fan
Like trump ?????????????
@@kencrisp2588Gossiping and Accusing are signs of weakness and low self esteem.
@@vernonbowling5136I love this statement. Do you mind elaborating?
This knowledge I accept. It has caused me to look inward and summon change in my own life.
Thanks to the author of this teaching.
Great. Thanks so much for sharing this video..
99 percent of what is expressed in this video was me. It's now just 3 percent. What an improvement!
I have changed!
Thank you for sharing your incredible journey and transformation! It's truly inspiring to hear how far you've come. Your dedication to personal growth and improvement is a testament to your strength and resilience. I’d love to hear more about the key factors that contributed to this significant change. What specific practices or insights helped you reduce that 99 percent to just 3 percent? Your experiences could provide valuable guidance and motivation to others on their own paths to self-improvement.
Thank you, sir, for sharing your wisdom with us !
Well received.Many are guilty of all points.
That's because they're only humans. We all have these traits it's just something we have to watch for order to keep from doing. A lot of these traits we do without even thinking about it. Because it's part of our society and part of Being Human. Just pay attention to yourself and what you're saying and doing and then you will know when to quit doing them.
#4 is a clear sign of why Therapy exists. As someone who always vents randomly and learned the hard way not too. many, many time before.
Please Get Therapy. It HELPS 100% It may be a needle in the hay stack to find the right one . BUT KEEP TRYING. ITS GOOD FOR THE SOUL.
Exactly, glad you could relate with the video , stay tuned for more tips . Stay blessed ❤️
@@JamesTheStoic233 Your channel helps me a lot.
All-Mighty God Bless! 🌏
Great advice & golden tools to make you a better person, I will try harder here on inn harder.
No. 2 and No. 4 are the two bad habits that caused me to lose friends and romantic partners the most. God knows how many friends I have lost due to them flaking out, and me calling them out for doing so. One best friend got so mad at me for calling her out after the 4th time for no shows, and one last minute cancellation that she went on a complete revenge mode. I knew instantly that the friendship was beyond repair.
With the complainers, I always got tired of people complaining at the workplace, or family member about a birthday gift that was not up to par, or me not showing my emotions enough. I had so many people at the various places that I work at about how the place sucked, how the managers were not understanding, or disorganized, or how everyone sucked, and that they didn’t get paid enough. In my family, some of the relatives would constantly complain about how someone would be dominating the dinner conversation, or about me not showing my feelings enough.
I used to live by this and the words you say I used to say to myself about all my habits and also have the power to understand others and I could help calm them , I lost my way went to all the bad sides of each topics , I at one point lost it all and in turn went to end it all luckily I was saved, I Have once again started back to these habits , I am finding myself again and getting my family back in all directions. sorry for sad crap just this vid really hit me and so happy found it I will play every day to remember
does not matter what others do but what i do
I just found out one annoying habit, I picked up lately. Thank you
Happy to help
Noted! From now on, I will try to stop doing all of this.
One of the best, most genuine videos around - thank you, James (I’ve got work to do on myself)
Thanks for this offering. As I considered the four points you make, I began to be smug because I thought, "I've tried to avoid these all my adult life." No, I haven't been that consistent. I have violated trusts, been missing in action, pressed my opinion, and proven toxic by betraying a negative attitude. I haven't been the wise and stable person I'd like to have been.
The misspelling of, "disrespect," in the thumbnail I first saw caused me to avoid this video at first. Use of the AI voice was another turn-off. Yet, I listened to / read along with the content and began to examine myself to see where I've fallen short. You made an impact.
Last point: I was introduced to the Stoic philosophy in high school - along with many other philosophies, faiths, world views, and ideologies. In today's chaotic World, it seems there's been a revival of Stoicism as one of many efforts to encourage men to be good men - not tyrants. My question is: Does the Stoicism you promote acknowledge God, or just Man acting like a god?
😢 Oh,, I S0 FEEL THIS 😢 So glad I found this Post 2 remind me to GMSTG 😢
You’re right. This useful video would have been much nicer with the recorded voice of the author himself/herself. It’s deeply offensive to hear this machined voice, but the text is excellent.
Great examples, and the examples center on what a person can control. You can't control what others do and gossiping about their life is a waste of time, being unreliable is completely up to oneself, and interrupting is your choice ("We have two ears and one mouth, so listen more than you speak"), complaining does not solve problems that you can't control, or you may be able to make positive changes with action ("The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” ) Thanks for the excellent examples and video.
This is brilliantly insightful and informatve. I have been guilty of most of these points at various stages of my life.
Thank you for your kind words, KevinSmith5318. It's great to hear that you found the content insightful. Reflecting on your experiences, which of these points do you find most challenging to overcome, and what strategies have you found effective in addressing them?
Thanks for putting review in description
THANKS !! That was very revealing and instructive. Trying to be better.
Thanks so very much , it was like you were reading my life completely . I have people in my life manipulating and using me , you have actually helped today , please help me .
Start listening to some people though and they'll go on forever
…and stop being around people. I’ve never had more peace since I stopped this nasty habit. No more being around people. 🙏🏼
I get tired of small talk and surface level conversations
Some good people who have been misunderstood will adjust by giving more detail with the hope of being understood correctly. Sometimes being understood doesn’t matter but other events are very important to have your friends and/or close neighbors understand. People can have long periods of stress-free encounters at work, with neighbors and family THEN SUDDENLY things go to crap. They should be allowed to talk about what happened. It reduces the gossip temptation of filling in the blanks with what you imagine.
So many times when I've said hello to someone I don't even know, they immediately launch into giving me their whole life story without pausing once 😞
Or some will starting whinging about everything.
@@Parkview268 this is my experience. People, once they feel that I'm listening, will tell their whole life stories. BUT they never ask me about my story or experience. Once I had a 1,5 hrs drive in the vehicle with a lady from our church. Boy, she never stopped telling me her story, I know her whole life. Needless to say, never about me, its all about her.
And those who complain. We had a lady at work, everyone called her whining b..tch.
People's egos are so inflated... it's all me me me. Monologues never end. When I have a crisis when taking out just this one situation of my chest would help tremendously, no one wants to hear no sh.it. people are just so selfish...
Now, you became a real great man,so admirable in every way for sharing your gained wisdom with us, fear Sir.
If you are calm and stay open minded when you are confronted for your mistakes. People won't see any need to talk behind your back. If you are too egotistical and hostile when confronted about your mistakes. Then people will have no choice but to talk about it behind your back. And they will talk about your poor or good behaviours too see if everyone else is experiencing the same thing from you. When people people gossip about your good conducts they generally respect amd trust you. The opposite happens when they talk ill of you. Build your reputations through your actions and how you interact with people out there.
Cheers!
Stoic philosophy reminds us that self-awareness and discipline are key to earning respect form other.
SUPERB ! These are the most important lessons one has to learn in life ! Thank you so much !
Incorporating these habits has truly changed my life. 😊
I can't agree with the philosophy more. This is exactly what I need. Such valuable input that tells me to stay stoic. 👍🏽
A very good advice for all
Everyone misunderstands what gossip really is. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting together with family members and talking about another family member, updating everyone on their life such as they got a new job or they had a new baby, etc. But gossip is talking about someone in a negative manner with judgment. It's all you're doing is updating people about someone that you know or that they know, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and it is not called gossiping. Everyone has had a conversation with someone asks, "how's Joe doing? I haven't heard from him in a long time. Has his wife had the baby?" It's not gossip if you answer those kinds of questions. It's only if you badmouth the other person.
This video was more so about how to people please 101. People that people please agree with this sugar-coded way of saying, "Try to impress everybody, try to avoid people's bad sides. Don't ever express your concerns because to everybody else you're selfish and inconsiderate. Though in reality nobody considers you. But ignore that realization to keep associates, not friends, associates, possibly enemies." This video confirmed to me that I'm better off to myself instead of ever complying with this nonsense to make others comfortable with being self-centered jerks.
Complaining is a worthless substitute for action.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, Goldfinder4498. It's a profound insight. How do you personally differentiate between productive action and unproductive complaining in your own life?
@@KingStoic101 wisdom is justified in all of her children.
Your insight into the futility of complaints is both profound and empowering. It reflects a proactive mindset geared towards progress. How do you channel this philosophy into meaningful action in your own life?
Gossiping started in the garden of Eden.
I gain so much from your insightful posts. Thanks for the great content
You welcome stay blessed ❤️ stay stay stoic 💪!
Sometimes we need to forge through any and all types of conflict to start our lives. I certainly have avoided all types of conflicts as an adult because my life waa overflowing with dreadful, life stopping conflict as a youngster. It's too much for anyone to overcome.
Thanks for ur information
Welcome 🙏💪🔥
One more habit: A CRITICAL SPIRIT about everyone
Very bad habit!
I bow out gracefully!!
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@@annettemiranda4803Overcoming a critical spirit requires love and faith in the Creator of love, from one's pure heart and clean hands.
I wish I could say that “isn’t me” lol. 😂
I’m always looking for ways to improve myself, and will definitely be more cognizant of any habits like this that I can I can improve upon.
A person is only as good as their word.....
Number 3 was the first that came to mind for me. Something I'm working on. Thank you!
Thank you for such a thorough explanation.
I have been guilty of the gossip games! And are not proud of it, Since I realized that this is wrong I've stopped with gossiping, no matter who or what it involves, and try to distance from those that do!
very much thanklful for the insights ❤❤❤
Without self respect, which can be displayed inadvertently or deliberately, others are unlikely to honour you with respect.
Thank you very good advice.
Wow, so true and full of wisdom. I'll listen to this again and again.
concentrating on problems more then on solutions... That is a good one. We should not do that.... Instead we should ACT on the solutions and try things out. Then you can talk about that the next time you see a friend. He will keep helping you as long as you ACT and TRY. (instead of keeping complaining)
Thank you for all these strategies. They are very helpful!
This is so true. Thank you.
Your honesty is great! Glad for you that you have turned your life around.
Just think how well rounded people could be...