@@sarahchadwick6424 You are not very smart are you or just a man hater? There was zero evidence he is abusive and angry. In fact, anyone would be upset if 5 years later getting dragged into court for frivolous matters. Her attorney is the one that said there has been domestic abuse in the past without stating who was accused of such. It very well could have been her and with this attempt to manipulate the courts, I would lean to think that it was her. Good luck DAD!
Apparent to you only. Anger and upset at being hauled into court after 5 years for this BS that the judge seen without even the videos you man hater. Your feminism doesn't work here and undermines real abuse. Don't gaslight you also called him abusive with absolutely no evidence. SMH..
You obviously are watching a different video.....this lady is crazy! And if you're backing her...maybe you should look into your own mental health. Just sayin...@sarahchadwick6424
“He was trapping me so that I couldn’t leave..” “How” “He was standing within inches of my vehicle…” “I’m the front or behind it?” “…. On the side of it..” - 😂😂😂 Really?! That really set it up showing she might be a little “untrustworthy” with her version of things…
@tonninc Yes! It's so sad when the Mom hates Dad more than loving the child and ensuring a healthy relationship with Dad. As someone who was alienated from my Dad for a time, this makes me sick. My Dad did everything for his kids, Mom realized later she was very wrong. Very healing. Hope this lady wakes up like my Mom did.
Respectfully, that isn't what any of this has been about. There was no evidence offered to that effect, one way or the other. This is the ex-wife petitioning the court for a protection order to keep him physically away from her. That has to be based on evidence, and she went to court with no evidence whatsoever. Yes, her testimony IS evidence (and fairly strong at that), but that was negated by his testimony. The only issues of any relevance are: • Has he visited her house? By her testimony, no, not in 5 years. • Did he kick her car? She says "Yes" (but she didn't witness it, another party who wasn't present did, so that's hearsay, not admissible.) He maintains he did not, but because she has no grounds to make that claim anyway, it's rendered moot. In the eyes of the court it simply never happened absent evidence or first-party testimony, so that who claim is not being entertained. • Did he block her car in? The court could find either way on that one. He was not standing in front of, or behind the vehicle, but as she needed to back out onto a busy street, the position he was standing in may have occluded her view of traffic, preventing her from being safely able to back out. His video may clarify that. However, if he was not intending to block her in, and she had said "please move, I can't see the road" he likely would have moved. If she didn't say that, he would not have reasonably known. That wasn't really logically resolved, but that alone, even viewed favorably from her perspective is not grounds for a protective order, absent more extreme or deliberate actions on his part. • Does the video make her feel "unsafe"? That's subjective. The court doesn't give a shit how she feels about it. The law doesn't exist to protect feelings. Objectively, a video creates evidence of the encounter, and an incentive for him to behave. She is objectively safer with a video being recorded, regardless of how it makes her feel. There's obviously a lot more going on between them than was pertinent to the request for an order of protection. But the bottom line is she didn't make a sufficient case for such an order to be granted. There are different kinds of "restraining orders". In the end, they're all just different types of injunctions (an order issued by the court, the violation of which is defiance of the court and carries penalties for that, notwithstanding any other potential penalties from the infraction itself). Some restraining orders are simple to get. Usually an HRO (Harassment restraining order) is fairly easy. That can prevent people from knocking on your door, calling you on the phone, showing up at your work (without a legitimate reason for them to be there). But she wanted an Order of Protection. That is one of the hardest to secure. It would require him to remain a specific distance away from her at all times, and can include other constraints he has to abide, and it would be enforceable by police where a civil order is not. That's a lot to ask for. Since an order like that imposes on his rights and freedoms, the standard of evidence needed for the order to be granted is extremely high. She didn't even come close to meeting that standard. The only way she would have been granted that is if he didn't show up at all, and she lied her ass off to a judge. I'm kind of shocked a lawyer would even represent her, knowing she had nothing at all to go on. And yeah, I'm dumbing this down at the expense of accuracy, and I'm not a resident of Michigan, so there can be nuances of which I'm unaware, especially in past court proceedings and police reports between the two. I fully admit I'm talking out of my ass without any specifics on the actual case. But this was so clearly a losing situation. They weren't there to argue and assess who's right or wrong, good or bad, honest or a liar. This was simply "Is there sufficient evidence to support this specific action", and there clearly was not. I'm baffled that this even made it before a judge at all.
@@Arkryal I get what ur putting down. And yes, more to the story. Thing is, laws, legality out the window. It's BS. My Mom was granted a restraining order for nothing. It happened back then, it happens today. Using the system is BS. I have kids, guess what, never have been to court after we broke up, she was #1, NOT US. And yes, it could have been a crazy court showdown, throwing eachother under the bus, we actually dont have control issues so we moved on and raised a great kid. Shut up, raise the kid, or eff off is my point. Not as complicated as several paragraphs. These videos also reflect the human side, others should learn from it. Kids #1
@@amywoodington6240my family did that to me and my brother and sister and we haven’t seen our dad since but they also don’t want to but I do. It’s crazy what people do when one parent doesn’t like the other and it has a huge impact on the kids.
I had a friend who's ex wife called children's aid on him, to report he was being an unfit parent. I warned him to record every single interaction in his home with the aid workers. He did, and they basically lied about everything. His case was over turned and they were all fired at the suggestion of the judge. Always protect yourself!
It’s crazy the extent some people will go to. In my opinion, the truth always comes out in the end… it’s just everything in between that time that is so difficult to get through. I also feel like if half of these women understood what it was like to live a life where the kids have no chance of seeing their dad, they might not make it so difficult for dad to see his kids.
Children's aid, Canadian I assume. Sadly when a mother reports an actual abusive father to them or neighbours do, even though he doesn't reside in the home, CAS takes the child from the good mom also. They blame her for letting the father visit despite the family court order saying every other Saturday.
My home is wired for video and spund now. Noce little sign on the front door. Anyone comes into my home, I ask then if they read the sign while they are on camera. Just because youre paranoid, doesn't mean they aren't out to get you
Agreed. The child doesn’t make the decision, either the parents do, or the court does. The court did, so it should be followed. She is in contempt at this point. Got to the love these mums that say “but my child said she/he didn’t want too go” Um ma’am, your child is a child! You are to encourage them to go, not encourage his/her behaviour of not wanting to go. Unless neglect or abuse, he deserves his parenting time bk!
If you watch these, the mothers almost never get charged with contempt. It gets drawn out for a year plus on just the contempt charge alone and 90% of what ive seen, the judges dont do anything.
@idontconsenttoinfobeingsol3041 They don't make the same kind of money on a contemp for the primary caregiver. Looks to me like this guy actually got a real judge. Which, when it comes to FOC in Michigan is unheard of. I myself got a little win a few months ago. Had a show cause, dropped 2k to stop it because fk you. Caseworker refused to do his fkn job and stop it. Judge laughed at him and threw it out. Dismissed it, and ended the conference before I could ram it right up their ass. They pucked me up the day after Christmas last year on a warrant from 2018 that had already been closed out. Got me at the laundry mat alone with all my families clothes, the day after fkn Christmas. With some god damned license plate readers. The police....trolling the laundry mat for warrants the day after Christmas. Mthrfkrs.
@@idontconsenttoinfobeingsol3041it’s rare for any parent to receive a contempt ruling - mothers or fathers. Judges recognize that they are in a contentious family situation with people who are not legal experts and routinely (and I’d argue rightly) give some leeway unless behavior is repeated or blatant.
@@gabriellemeadows1675VERY WELL SAID, point by point. God forbid it be discovered she rewards or gives treats when the kid “refuses” to speak to his father or get out of car @ the exchange points
@@cococonlin170 they're both parents so its BOTH of their jobs. I'm sure with the mothers behavior she does nothing to help the situation in a positive way while trying to seem like she's doing her best to make it work.
100%. Just the fact that she said she was afraid of him recording her shows she doesn't know what she's talking about. If you are telling the truth, you don't have to have a good memory.
Yea he slapped the shit out of her attorney, however her attorney probably knew her case was weak and likely to fail. She only took it for the paycheck
Totally agree and emotional distress. Using the child as an alleged witness borders on child abuse because you know as well as I do she’d have prepared a script for him. He should also file a motion for denial of parenting time. He has so many options here and they’re all on the record.
I totally agree, but be Careful… lol..I defended a male on another video of the same nature and got completely crucified with comments.. the comments didn’t bother me so much, it was the venom in the comments that took me back. Men are NOT considered equal in divorce or family court .
Her entire face and demeanor changed when she found out he had recorded her nasty behind. She should be charged for contempt of court for lying. She is also trying to exploit and weaponize her son. Real parents love their kids more than they dislike their X.
Good on you. Congrats. These women that use kids as pawns and lie to get eir way so not care about the children, only hurting you. They do not deserve any custody. Glad to see a man that knows how to get around their games.
You poor guys. That tight rope y’all are forced to walk keeps getting tighter. However, keeping all records, receipts and taking videos keeps you out of situations that in the past would have landed so many of you in jail. Keep up the good fight for the sake of your children. They need you!
She doesn't want him recording her so he can't call her out on all her bs lies. Who the hell says it scares them becaue someone is recording for everyone's safety in a public place? This woman is off her rocker and has it out for this guy.
There were and still are many people who are against surveillance cameras in public. We (company) have already been threatened with a lawsuit because we wanted to monitor our own parking lot with video surveillance. I am from Germany They have even filed a lawsuit against the storage of fingerprints for crimes. Our “data protection law” is probably the strictest in the world
If only she realized she very likely was recorded by 4-5 cameras at that shell station alone. He should 100% continue to record and maybe even get a dashcam for custody exchanges. Cameras don’t lie!
@@janshe3597right! If this didn’t prove why he NEEDS to record her every time idk what would. In America we have laws and you don’t have the right to privacy in public, we can record anything we see with our eyes in public. Her lies are the main reason he needs to record, hopefully she is exposed for the liar she is and stops playing her bs games knowing he’s covering his a$$ and she’s making a fool out of herself
She looked be-shit lol. Imagine spending good $$ on a lawyer, and he shuts her whole case down, representing himself. Remember people. When dealing with these types of situations, always record.
I love when the judge helps him. He can tell he knows what he’s talking about but just isn’t familiar with law. She should be in trouble for false accusations. If your child’s father wants to be in their life, be happy and let them
Many judges will assist pro se defendants because they know it's not always possible to retain an attorney and thus wont have the full understanding of proceedings that several years of law school and interning will provide.
@Barrythebarnabas so you couldn't keep quiet about "quite quiet" am I right when I write, that he was quite right about quiet being quite different to quite, is it right, what I write ?
I don’t know these 2 people but the father here is absolutely right about recording his pick ups and drop offs. Recommend recording your pick ups and dropping off children you have records for each time so this doesn’t happen again. That mother needs to put her feelings into the trash and stop basing everything off her feelings. Crazy people can’t get passed their stupid fears of nothing
@@canileaveitblank1476i would say you're doing exactly what you accused him of. I saw the shifts in body language and facial expressions as clear as day.
As a woman and a mother, I think this woman should lose custody and be charged with perjury and harassment of the father. She is one click from being unhinged!
Exactly! When I married my husband one of his kids was still living at home. I worked Really hard to befriend his ex wife. I made sure she knew that I respected her as his mom. I called her to get her input on important things. If she had concerns I took them seriously. She didn't like me at first but she warmed up to me. Now all our kids are grown. Family get-togethers are fun for all of us. Her and I occasionally get coffee and talk about our grandkids. Jealousy hurts everyone. That same son that I helped raise married an amazing woman. She already had a baby. He was able to see how his mom and I had treated each other and has a great relationship with his daughters father ❤
@@poke0003Wrong - the police have the videos and NO charges were ever filed against him for all the alleged heinous acts she states he committed. As the judge pointed out, saying she felt less safe because he was recording is ludicrous. And it probably saved him from bogus charges in a he said she said situation. So the videos did play a part. But it was a righteous move by the judge to say he’d heard enough of the mother’s nonsense without even seeing the videos to rule she got nowhere near proving she needed a PPO.
@@debdanton2295 What makes you think the police have the videos and that it saved him from charges based on this video? All I saw here was a petitioner that put on such a terrible case that even this pro se defendant who sucked at defending himself crushed her without even really needing to present a defense.
@@poke0003He mentioned that he had filed the videos with the court. He wanted to play them and the court said it was unneccessary. I would bet that the judge didn't want to open a can of worms by having to take judicial notice of her behavoir in the videos (like threats of retaliation, or parental alienation, or threats of abusive legal action or even proof of perjury)
Notice she didnt get in trouble for disobeying a court order? Her not giving him his son was the reason he knocked on her car window which was a violation of the ppo. The judge said he wouldnt be in trouble for it but never ordered that she abide by yhe court order and allow him visitaion and never sanctioned or punished her in anyway for violating the court orderer visitation.
There is only one case I can think of from this judge where someone was jailed for disobeying the court order… and that was because she did it over and over and over again… it’s crazy. It’s crazy imo that it’s not taken more seriously when the dads are actively fighting to be in their children’s lives…
If she “feared for her safety” wouldn’t recording it help HER too!🤷♀️🤦♀️ If she isn’t lying, the recording would show what she is saying! This judge normally sided with the moms so that says a lot! I’m glad he got it right this time! I hate it when people use the court system to abuse the person they’re coparenting with! It’s obvious she wasn’t fearful!
@@cyndoza5454 Probably not. I looked the lawyer up and her website says she provides pro bono services for Legal Services for family law cases. "Legal Services" is another name for Legal Aid.
@@cyndoza5454 no her kids are paying for it the atty fees propably came out of child support payment ...so money wasted that could have been spent on the child
My husband's ex wife was caught on recording telling their daughter to say she was abused, sexually and physically, so he would lose custody. He would have potentially gone to prison for years, but she didn't get in any trouble at all for lying. Men are mistreated by a sexist court system. The overcorrection to "believe all women" really hurt the movement. The movement was to stop abuse, not crush all men.
100% agree!! As women we have to decide if we want equality or privilege but it can't be both. If you're a POS mother who lies and falsely accuses, you're abusing your kids, the same as a dad would be if he did it. This has damaged the movement that was intended to bring fairness into play for women and it's definitely not what was intended. Stop vilifying men for everything and be accountable for your own behavior, men AND women. Playing the victim all the time is a bad look for all of us
It’s probably a free lawyer. When I had to go to family court here in Michigan Mom was provided a free lawyer for custody hearing me being the Dad had to go it alone.
@@SaraSlachciakFor a second there, I thought you were recommending a class called “ex-ed” and I thought that was a great idea! 😆 But yes, should be taught in the other as well.
That's easy to say but not easy to do. Remember alot of ppl wear disguises until they have your heart and then the mask comes off and their true colors show
So on August 29th Mum was trying to prevent Dad from having his time with his son. And again on September 5th. Perhaps Dad should have custody and Mum should have only visitation.
This Mom should lose custody. She is so manipulative and dishonest. These mental scars follow kids into adulthood and she cares more about hurting her ex than protecting her child.
I can almost guarantee that this woman is alienating this child from his father with her behaviors. He's not old enough to understand that his mother is the one escalating these encounters. If her child was cowering in the back seat then shame on this mother for putting her child in that position. Women like this should lose custody.
@@snakey319 When I was little, my mom would escalate things, refuse to hand us over, and call the cops at nearly every custody exchange, even when my dad didn't get out of the car. I spent so many evenings in the back of a patrol vehicle, and it certainly had a negative effect on me and my sisters. She had us terrified of our father too, grilling us when we came back, twisting every little thing into a life-or-death matter to alienate us from him. Eg when I was ~4 or 5 my dad forcing me to wash my hair in a bath, and getting water on my face when rinsing it became "he was trying to drown you." Eventually, kids believe the lies if they're repeated enough.
My grandmother did this to my mother. She did everything she could to try to make her and her 3 siblings hate my grandpa. Then when I was born, she did everything she could to brainwash me to think Grandpa was a monster. Even told me once that he was a devil worshipper. But as a child, all I knew was that Grandpa made the best hot chocolate and taught me about baseball and how to shell peanuts. He used to study quantum physics and once spent 2 hours helping me untangle my necklace collection. He was a good grandfather and father. Meanwhile Grandma would drink when she babysat us and would force me to sit and drone on and on for hours about how much she hated all men, and how I shouldn't ever fall in love. I was 9 when she told me that smart girls just use men for their money. A good grandmother wouldn't try to fill a child's head with hate the way she did to 2 generations of girls. My own mother even now struggles with some twisted ideas about life at age 70.
parents like her really pi&& me off. First of all lady, it's not YOUR son alone. It's his son too and second, you have no right to withhold the child from visiting the man and claiming the child doesn't want to see him. He has rights just like you do. And I'm sure the judge will tell you that. Think about this, maybe dad wouldn't be aggressive towards you if you'd let him see his son. She's creating the problem.
I bet that poor kid is subject to constant nagging about how awful his dad is. Her twisted testimony is no different to the twists and turns (and tears) she feeds that poor kid.
@@jamesroyce1845If she's bad-mouthing Dad, he should take HER to court. I've seen some mothers lose some custody because they can't control their mouths.
@@Claudia-lq3ns I agree but for me, the last thing I wanted was for my children to be interrogated by a stranger to find out what their mother had been saying behind my back. I simply sat them down and explained that their mother was having a difficult time so she was lashing out and to remember that we both love them and sometimes that love is expressed in different ways (like not being able to control their mouths). It's always a delicate situation and I understand that it's more complicated in the US because each state has nonsensical laws and regulations whereas here in the UK, the laws are the same not matter where you live.
Can we just say non-custodial parents have been getting screwed for years not just fathers non-custodial parents. Because I as you can see, I’m a female, but I got screwed time and time and time and did I say and time again. By Thomas D Hayes of Anoka county courts Yeah you can look that DUMBASS judge up. He was actually on the wall of shame that’s right I said shame for a group by the name of fathers for justice. Non-custodial parents have been getting screwed by the court system for far too long.
Not just any people but like me, many women globally support courts and laws being harsher with these lying mothers, because they leave way too many victims (especially the innocent children) in their wake. It is absolutely disgusting and worst of all, it gives the rest of us a bad reputation😡
This happens all the time Mother says the Father is doing things & that she’s scared for her safety but not this time. Congratulations to a very smart father because if he hadn’t been videotaping the pickups she would get away with her lies. 👍🏻
This is Michigan so the rules of recording are a little different than other states. Michigan, in general, does not require consent to record if the person recording is a participant in the conversation. Other people may record the conversation with the consent of one of the participants. However, many two party states (Florida for instance) allow that recording in public still requires consent of both parties if the conversation is private. For example, if you are at a public park and are talking to a person away from others and or in a voice that cannot be heard by the general public, recording still requires two party consent. In other words, you can still have private conversations in public spaces that are covered by the eavesdropping / wiretapping statutes in two party consent states. Being "in public" does not relieve one's duty to gain consent to record private conversations. It is a myth that you can record anything just because you are "in public."
@@doom4067 That is incorrect. As an example, a group of people in Florida were trying to collect signatures for a ballot initiative at an open air, public concert. A Council member thought that the people were misrepresenting the code on the books and sent his mother (who was from out of state) to talk to the people saying she was interested in signing the petition. In order to hear better, the mother and one of the representatives moved to another area that was still in public, but quieter. The mother recorded the conversation on the Councilman's phone. A public records request was made and the recording was obtained by the group. The group went to the State's Attorney who issued a warrant for the mother's arrest based on the fact that they had moved away from the mass of people to have a private conversation. That is true in every state that I am aware of as others have encountered the same thing as well. If the state is a two party consent state and the two participants move or take actions to either move out of a group that could hear them, or take steps to move to where their conversation is in a more secluded place, even though they may still be in a public space, their conversation is considered private.
Straight out of the single mom playbook 1) play the victim 2) file false police statement 3) get restraining order 4) get full custody 5) raise child support
I know many single moms who aren’t anything like this. And several have healthy co-parenting relationships with their ex-husbands. This isn’t the norm, unless your only evidence comes from courtroom channels. She’s the problem, but not every single mother is like her.
in other words, it's all BS. They use those words because they KNOW when speaking that it's not fact. If it was fact, the vocabulary would be different. It's just prettily-wrapped lies. (not the pretty)
My husband fought a histrionic somatic psychotic wife for 11 years for custody of his daughters this video made me so happy that Dad was kicking ass and taking names
Kyle Schmidt is very impressive with his precise questions linked with the videos he has taken. A flawless pro! His argument that filming the exchanges between him and his ex should tranquilize the mother of his children was a strong point for the denying of ppo. Mr. Scmidt would be a very good and even shrewd lawyer.
From all the videos I've seen of Kirkham, I think he's very fair when it comes to issuing and enforcing orders. He gets outright mad when mothers refuse to hand kids over to their fathers at exchanges, and has even tossed a few in jail. That probably played a silent role in today's order. Despite mom's failings, she had a case for a PPO on the testified facts from dad that he in fact was violating the court order to stay at least 20' from mom's car. Kirkham glosses right over it in the ruling, mentioning it, but not issuing further commentary, and it's likely because mom brought their son to the custody exchange with the sole purpose being to taunt dad and refuse to hand him over.
@@Kivlor She might have succeeded in getting a contempt order for getting within 20 feet, but not a PPO. Looks like he should be filing contempt against her for withholding the child.
"Mom makes all kinds of frivolous accusations about dad. She had no idea he was recording each time, or that he sent it all to the prosecutors. " She knew he was recording,.
@SteveC-y9W but theres also a requirement that there has to be an expectation of a chance to win other than by the other side not showing up. Lawyers can be penalized for making lawsuits that are just there to waste time and money. I dont think this case is quite that bad but it didn't feel much better..
She's using the old "sorry, little Benjamin doesn't wanna go with you, oops can't do the exchange, looks like I get to keep him during your time-buh bye" routine...Dad needs to drag her ass back to family court if that continues
He was but he should have also brought the point that his ex-wife was denying him visitation that was court ordered. Even still the ppo was denied b/c she presented no evidence to support her accusations and no witnesses to support the claims as well.
The woman is fearful because she was breaking the court ordered parenting plan. She escalated it by not opening the door and sending the child. She clearly violated a court order.
Does not matter if the child wants to go or not. He has to go unless sick. I am sure Mom was filling the kids head with horror stories about how Dad was abusive and would hurt him.
@@ronhall5395Oh she absolutely is doing that! I hate these women who weaponize their children just to get back at their ex! She's definitely one of those! Their poor kid will be traumatised!
OMG!!! I usually don't watch this mama's boy judge because he has some serious daddy issues in his life and almost ALWAYS sides with the mothers 🙄 It was sweet to watch him make this judgement 😂😂😂 You can tell he didn't want to rule for the dad, buuuuuuuuuut...mom is cray-cray....and the father proved it!!! Poor kid 😢 Too bad this judge never thinks about the children. What a joke of a judge. Dude! Deal with your daddy issues from your past already. Good job Kyle!!!
There’s a judge like that in Charlotte,NC except he always sides with DSS. He had a terrible mom and no dad and was put in the system because of it and he’s never sided with the parents even when they do everything ordered and have claims were unfounded by case workers. Judges like this need to go to therapy
This judge often sides with the mother, but today the father came well-prepared and even successfully represented himself….fathers dealing with parental alienation like this should watch and learn
@@thystaff742lol. U see one case and assume all women are doing this.i guess we all should assume all men are abusers and rapist since there r millions of predators. See how stupid that is!
18:37 I haven’t seen the videos but I’ve heard several judges tell parents to record the transfer of children for there own protection against frivolous claims
If he was hitting her partially rolled down window that hard then I'm pretty sure that guy would've broken it. She claims he was hitting it hard over and over aggressively, a guy his size could break a window.
@@MearnieToonShe was exaggerating, if not fabricating and she’s guilty of parental alienation and she’s using manipulation to get what she wants. . Your take makes me think you are either the same way or don’t have the IQ to see that.
Dad needs to get an attorney. I have destroyed many, many, many, women, on the stand who use what they believe to be catch phrases. This woman would be easy to break. I would get her to commit, and then I would introduce the video to impeach her credibility (if the judge was hesitant to admit the video, I would quote the appropriate on-point rulings that permitted it). I would then move that the court hold her in contempt for perjury (it would probably be denied, but it puts it in the judges mind). I would then request attorney's fees because she brought an action based on lies, and false filings signed under the penalty of perjury. (In our county proven false filings will get you charged attorney's fees EVERY TIME). If I have a client that has a contentious ex, I advise them to have cameras installed in their vehicle, which show a 360 degree field, and to have an extension microphone (they have them that looks like a pen) and record every interaction. I have had women that, in an attempt to get custody and have no visitation for dad, claim that dad beat them up on a child exchange. The worst, actually exchanged the kids with dad, (with no drama) and then 30 minutes later, she drags herself into the police station beat to a pulp and tells the police that her ex beat her up when she told him to not feed them junk food on their weekday visitation. Dad had the video that showed that she lied on her police report. As usual, when a woman pulls a stunt like this, she was not charged. BUT ! ! We used it for evidence to get dad full custody, and mom supervised visits until she was cleared by a mental health professional (which took three years)
"I don't think I need that at this point"(in reference to showing the video) That wasn't right. The judge had zero patience because the dad couldn't do a split screen within 3 seconds.
@@pdrey100 If he were represented, the video would have been part of the record. The judge took advantage of his lack of knowledge in procedures to gloss over the issue. An attorney would have laid the foundation for the evidence, and then had the judge refused to admit the evidence, a motion to reconsider, or an appeal would be easy because the judge cannot articulate why the evidence was not pertinent, because he did not admit it to be viewed.
@@tanjajohnson4659 While possibly true, I think it's more implied that the judge literally did not need to see the video because it's apparent what he was going to see on it was going to favor the dad and what he was saying. There's a reason the mom's attorney didn't want to show anything from the videos and instead tried to get them seen as something fearful, the judge isn't stupid. Unfortunately if the video was only available via his phone, it's not going to show very well through a webcam, so that's not going to help him, and since there was nobody there to assist him in getting the video onto his computer to screen share it, it would have taken needlessly long to try and guide him into being able to do it if he even was able to (we don't know if he has a connection cable between the pc and his phone or the ability to bring it over via wifi). Thus rather than wasting the court's time, he just says he doesn't need it, he's already siding with the guy and can see she's talking out her ass.
This evil Mother is going to continue to run interference in these exchanges. The judge should hold her in contempt for showing up for exchange but not doing it. This behavior is saying to the Dad, "na, na, na, na, na, I showed up but you can't have him", then sticks out her tongue. Father needs to file contempt charges on her. She is bent on him having "hell to pay" at the childs expense. The hate she is teaching the child for the Father, hopefully, eventually, will bite her in the... and the child will turn on her.
Instead I saw a video earlier today where this judge suspended dad's parenting time until they could have the hearing in front of the referee. Multiple people are saying the son is afraid of dad and doesn't want to go with him. I have a strong suspicion that mom is alienating the son from dad. So sad for the kid and dad 😔
My ex was such a drama queen, we literally pointed cameras at each other. Exchanges were a nighrmare. Finally went to third party exchanges. I beat three ppos. Hurts kids all the time
@@hospitaladministrator3359gfy dude. People make mistakes. Bad people lie, it’s easier than you think to have the wool pulled over your eyes especially by a woman. I hope you never have to go through it.
If you know the law and know how to conduct yourself in a courtroom as in properly asking questions and objecting with just reasoning as to why you will be fine. Most pro se just don’t know how to conduct themselves in a court room. This is where judges get annoyed.
She should be in trouble for not abiding by the court ordered custody agreement by refusing him to take guardianship of or even speak to his son. I question much more with this crazy, angry bitter woman, especially in regards to parental alienation but that is just likely based on what’s seen here but there is no real evidence. Her stating their son was fearful and didn’t want to speak to the dad and also the claim that the son witnessed the dad kick the car. That was hearsay, but obviously makes it questionable what she’s telling the child. How would the child witness the dad kicking the car but she didn’t? And the man has video of the date and incident in question. I am very sure this woman is poisoning her child.
During my time doing custody exchanges I had to bring witnesses with me. Then buy a camera to record the exchanges to ensure the mother of my child did not do crazy shit. Up to and including telling 911 that I was attacking her and her family.
He’s taking videos of your encounters because you can’t be trusted.
Bingo. She’s fearful of getting caught in those videos.
@@sarahchadwick6424 You are not very smart are you or just a man hater? There was zero evidence he is abusive and angry. In fact, anyone would be upset if 5 years later getting dragged into court for frivolous matters. Her attorney is the one that said there has been domestic abuse in the past without stating who was accused of such. It very well could have been her and with this attempt to manipulate the courts, I would lean to think that it was her. Good luck DAD!
Apparent to you only. Anger and upset at being hauled into court after 5 years for this BS that the judge seen without even the videos you man hater. Your feminism doesn't work here and undermines real abuse. Don't gaslight you also called him abusive with absolutely no evidence. SMH..
@@sarahchadwick6424 You love judging apparently with no basis and you have been wrong every time you speak. I don't have time for your ignorance.
You obviously are watching a different video.....this lady is crazy!
And if you're backing her...maybe you should look into your own mental health. Just sayin...@sarahchadwick6424
She wasn’t fearful of him. She was fearful that she would no longer be able to spin a story to suit her narrative 😂
“He was trapping me so that I couldn’t leave..”
“How”
“He was standing within inches of my vehicle…”
“I’m the front or behind it?”
“…. On the side of it..”
- 😂😂😂 Really?! That really set it up showing she might be a little “untrustworthy” with her version of things…
And the judge at the end with the “You’re free to go…. Obviously we’ll see you at some point in the future.” Haha, judge knows…
She should be fearful of her hairline! 😳😳😳😳
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The mom tried playing mind games with grown adults. Can’t imagine the amount of brain washing and gaslighting she does to that boy about his father!
@tonninc Yes! It's so sad when the Mom hates Dad more than loving the child and ensuring a healthy relationship with Dad. As someone who was alienated from my Dad for a time, this makes me sick. My Dad did everything for his kids, Mom realized later she was very wrong. Very healing. Hope this lady wakes up like my Mom did.
Respectfully, that isn't what any of this has been about. There was no evidence offered to that effect, one way or the other.
This is the ex-wife petitioning the court for a protection order to keep him physically away from her. That has to be based on evidence, and she went to court with no evidence whatsoever. Yes, her testimony IS evidence (and fairly strong at that), but that was negated by his testimony.
The only issues of any relevance are:
• Has he visited her house?
By her testimony, no, not in 5 years.
• Did he kick her car?
She says "Yes" (but she didn't witness it, another party who wasn't present did, so that's hearsay, not admissible.) He maintains he did not, but because she has no grounds to make that claim anyway, it's rendered moot. In the eyes of the court it simply never happened absent evidence or first-party testimony, so that who claim is not being entertained.
• Did he block her car in?
The court could find either way on that one. He was not standing in front of, or behind the vehicle, but as she needed to back out onto a busy street, the position he was standing in may have occluded her view of traffic, preventing her from being safely able to back out. His video may clarify that. However, if he was not intending to block her in, and she had said "please move, I can't see the road" he likely would have moved. If she didn't say that, he would not have reasonably known. That wasn't really logically resolved, but that alone, even viewed favorably from her perspective is not grounds for a protective order, absent more extreme or deliberate actions on his part.
• Does the video make her feel "unsafe"?
That's subjective. The court doesn't give a shit how she feels about it. The law doesn't exist to protect feelings. Objectively, a video creates evidence of the encounter, and an incentive for him to behave. She is objectively safer with a video being recorded, regardless of how it makes her feel.
There's obviously a lot more going on between them than was pertinent to the request for an order of protection. But the bottom line is she didn't make a sufficient case for such an order to be granted.
There are different kinds of "restraining orders". In the end, they're all just different types of injunctions (an order issued by the court, the violation of which is defiance of the court and carries penalties for that, notwithstanding any other potential penalties from the infraction itself).
Some restraining orders are simple to get. Usually an HRO (Harassment restraining order) is fairly easy. That can prevent people from knocking on your door, calling you on the phone, showing up at your work (without a legitimate reason for them to be there).
But she wanted an Order of Protection. That is one of the hardest to secure. It would require him to remain a specific distance away from her at all times, and can include other constraints he has to abide, and it would be enforceable by police where a civil order is not. That's a lot to ask for.
Since an order like that imposes on his rights and freedoms, the standard of evidence needed for the order to be granted is extremely high. She didn't even come close to meeting that standard. The only way she would have been granted that is if he didn't show up at all, and she lied her ass off to a judge. I'm kind of shocked a lawyer would even represent her, knowing she had nothing at all to go on.
And yeah, I'm dumbing this down at the expense of accuracy, and I'm not a resident of Michigan, so there can be nuances of which I'm unaware, especially in past court proceedings and police reports between the two. I fully admit I'm talking out of my ass without any specifics on the actual case. But this was so clearly a losing situation.
They weren't there to argue and assess who's right or wrong, good or bad, honest or a liar. This was simply "Is there sufficient evidence to support this specific action", and there clearly was not. I'm baffled that this even made it before a judge at all.
@@Arkryal I get what ur putting down. And yes, more to the story. Thing is, laws, legality out the window. It's BS. My Mom was granted a restraining order for nothing. It happened back then, it happens today. Using the system is BS. I have kids, guess what, never have been to court after we broke up, she was #1, NOT US. And yes, it could have been a crazy court showdown, throwing eachother under the bus, we actually dont have control issues so we moved on and raised a great kid. Shut up, raise the kid, or eff off is my point. Not as complicated as several paragraphs. These videos also reflect the human side, others should learn from it. Kids #1
@@amywoodington6240my family did that to me and my brother and sister and we haven’t seen our dad since but they also don’t want to but I do. It’s crazy what people do when one parent doesn’t like the other and it has a huge impact on the kids.
@@amywoodington6240 Agreed!
As I say quit using the children as weapons in a divorce.
Plain & Simple!
I had a friend who's ex wife called children's aid on him, to report he was being an unfit parent. I warned him to record every single interaction in his home with the aid workers. He did, and they basically lied about everything. His case was over turned and they were all fired at the suggestion of the judge. Always protect yourself!
It’s crazy the extent some people will go to. In my opinion, the truth always comes out in the end… it’s just everything in between that time that is so difficult to get through. I also feel like if half of these women understood what it was like to live a life where the kids have no chance of seeing their dad, they might not make it so difficult for dad to see his kids.
That is insane! So happy he recorded everything
Children's aid, Canadian I assume. Sadly when a mother reports an actual abusive father to them or neighbours do, even though he doesn't reside in the home, CAS takes the child from the good mom also. They blame her for letting the father visit despite the family court order saying every other Saturday.
My home is wired for video and spund now. Noce little sign on the front door. Anyone comes into my home, I ask then if they read the sign while they are on camera.
Just because youre paranoid, doesn't mean they aren't out to get you
And then everybody clapped.
Dude, NEVER interrupt the judge when you're winning.
Dad should file a contempt motion for mom not allowing him his parenting time.
Agreed.
The child doesn’t make the decision, either the parents do, or the court does.
The court did, so it should be followed.
She is in contempt at this point.
Got to the love these mums that say “but my child said she/he didn’t want too go”
Um ma’am, your child is a child!
You are to encourage them to go, not encourage his/her behaviour of not wanting to go.
Unless neglect or abuse, he deserves his parenting time bk!
If you watch these, the mothers almost never get charged with contempt. It gets drawn out for a year plus on just the contempt charge alone and 90% of what ive seen, the judges dont do anything.
@idontconsenttoinfobeingsol3041
They don't make the same kind of money on a contemp for the primary caregiver.
Looks to me like this guy actually got a real judge.
Which, when it comes to FOC in Michigan is unheard of.
I myself got a little win a few months ago. Had a show cause, dropped 2k to stop it because fk you.
Caseworker refused to do his fkn job and stop it.
Judge laughed at him and threw it out. Dismissed it, and ended the conference before I could ram it right up their ass.
They pucked me up the day after Christmas last year on a warrant from 2018 that had already been closed out.
Got me at the laundry mat alone with all my families clothes, the day after fkn Christmas.
With some god damned license plate readers.
The police....trolling the laundry mat for warrants the day after Christmas.
Mthrfkrs.
@@idontconsenttoinfobeingsol3041it’s rare for any parent to receive a contempt ruling - mothers or fathers. Judges recognize that they are in a contentious family situation with people who are not legal experts and routinely (and I’d argue rightly) give some leeway unless behavior is repeated or blatant.
@@gabriellemeadows1675VERY WELL SAID, point by point. God forbid it be discovered she rewards or gives treats when the kid “refuses” to speak to his father or get out of car @ the exchange points
If Those "Exchanges" Are "Court Ordered" & She *DENIES* Custody *AT* The "Exchange"...
*That's CONTEMPT!*
Should she drag the cowering kid out of the car, or allow him to do so?
@@cococonlin170 they're both parents so its BOTH of their jobs. I'm sure with the mothers behavior she does nothing to help the situation in a positive way while trying to seem like she's doing her best to make it work.
Also custodial interference.
@@cococonlin170 She lied about a lot of things, so it stands to reason that she was lying about the boy "cowering."
@@christopheraaron8299 As if he's not a bully.
Her verbiage was given to her by her lawyer. She is swaying her child to not want to see his dad. Pathetic!
We could see she kept looking away to read her answers. I'm sure the judge saw it also.
A massive amount of coaching for sure.
@@sammyjo8109 exactly. Before every answer, she looks down to read from her script.
thats child abuse.
100%. Just the fact that she said she was afraid of him recording her shows she doesn't know what she's talking about. If you are telling the truth, you don't have to have a good memory.
He’s better at being an attorney than her attorney.
Yea he slapped the shit out of her attorney, however her attorney probably knew her case was weak and likely to fail. She only took it for the paycheck
YOU WERE AT MY HOUSE.
Did you see me there?
NO..
These men need to start suing this women for defamation and that will tighten their asses right up 😂
Totally agree and emotional distress. Using the child as an alleged witness borders on child abuse because you know as well as I do she’d have prepared a script for him. He should also file a motion for denial of parenting time. He has so many options here and they’re all on the record.
It’s difficult to sue for defamation but they should have to cover court costs, time away from work, and expenses.
I totally agree, but be Careful… lol..I defended a male on another video of the same nature and got completely crucified with comments.. the comments didn’t bother me so much, it was the venom in the comments that took me back. Men are NOT considered equal in divorce or family court .
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Courts won't hold them accountable. Trust me.
Her entire face and demeanor changed when she found out he had recorded her nasty behind. She should be charged for contempt of court for lying. She is also trying to exploit and weaponize her son. Real parents love their kids more than they dislike their X.
My sons mom tried to say i didnt pay support nor visit.
I had all the bank records and travel receipts.
I parlayed her lying into full custody.
Good on you. Congrats. These women that use kids as pawns and lie to get eir way so not care about the children, only hurting you. They do not deserve any custody. Glad to see a man that knows how to get around their games.
🎉🎉 Congratulations sir we salute you 🫡
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You poor guys. That tight rope y’all are forced to walk keeps getting tighter. However, keeping all records, receipts and taking videos keeps you out of situations that in the past would have landed so many of you in jail. Keep up the good fight for the sake of your children. They need you!
Congratulations
“Can you read minds” had me rofl
I don’t like when he records me because I can’t fabricate stories. That’s what she meant
3:22 says it all right there. "And you have two children together"
"I do"
Not "we" but "I"
She doesn't want him recording her so he can't call her out on all her bs lies. Who the hell says it scares them becaue someone is recording for everyone's safety in a public place? This woman is off her rocker and has it out for this guy.
There were and still are many people who are against surveillance cameras in public. We (company) have already been threatened with a lawsuit because we wanted to monitor our own parking lot with video surveillance.
I am from Germany
They have even filed a lawsuit against the storage of fingerprints for crimes. Our “data protection law” is probably the strictest in the world
If only she realized she very likely was recorded by 4-5 cameras at that shell station alone. He should 100% continue to record and maybe even get a dashcam for custody exchanges. Cameras don’t lie!
Ya think? WTF take a kid to an exchange and then not exchange other than to taunt someone?
He needs to continue recording her each and every time…
@@janshe3597right! If this didn’t prove why he NEEDS to record her every time idk what would. In America we have laws and you don’t have the right to privacy in public, we can record anything we see with our eyes in public. Her lies are the main reason he needs to record, hopefully she is exposed for the liar she is and stops playing her bs games knowing he’s covering his a$$ and she’s making a fool out of herself
Lawyer, “How did it make you feel when he videotaped you?”
Ex-Wife, “It made me fearful he would expose my lies!”
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He should have said that he would be fearful of her if he did NOT video tape her.
😂😂😂😂
The very reason why Benjamin wasn't about to make any witness statements..
She did not look happy at tge end.
She looked be-shit lol. Imagine spending good $$ on a lawyer, and he shuts her whole case down, representing himself. Remember people. When dealing with these types of situations, always record.
Be-shit 😂😂
😂🤣 The judge completely dismantled her case! Judges are getting tired of these possessive moms, too!
@@justanothersmith6012Very surprising from this Judge, 99% of the time he sides with the women no matter what…
@@janshe3597I agree!!
She needs a refund on that lawyer
I love when the judge helps him. He can tell he knows what he’s talking about but just isn’t familiar with law. She should be in trouble for false accusations. If your child’s father wants to be in their life, be happy and let them
Many judges will assist pro se defendants because they know it's not always possible to retain an attorney and thus wont have the full understanding of proceedings that several years of law school and interning will provide.
The dad carried himself very well in court. He keep quite while the wife was testifying. Made notes and then asked the correct questions. Class act.
Ya, he was quite quiet and didn't quit.
@@49525Bob😂 you just couldn’t help yourself 😂
@Barrythebarnabas so you couldn't keep quiet about "quite quiet" am I right when I write, that he was quite right about quiet being quite different to quite, is it right, what I write ?
You marry one and divorce from other.
He's recording for damn good reason it sounds 😂
Agree I hope he continues to record
Hope he gets a car camera for an extra angle of her lies.
That lady has evil written all over her face! Shame on her for treating the kid as a pawn!
look at her mug
No child should be treated like a prawn. That's just shellfish.
I don’t know these 2 people but the father here is absolutely right about recording his pick ups and drop offs. Recommend recording your pick ups and dropping off children you have records for each time so this doesn’t happen again. That mother needs to put her feelings into the trash and stop basing everything off her feelings. Crazy people can’t get passed their stupid fears of nothing
This is standard operating procedure.
We'll yeah it's a female
The look of shock on the moms and the lawyers faces when the judge didn’t side with the woman and got caught in her lies is priceless! 😂😂
No one’s expression changed during the reading. You’re seeing what you want to see, not what is.
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@@canileaveitblank1476 yes the lawyer's deflated 😂😂😂 what are you even on about 😂😂😂
The first time he mentioned having a recording, her face was priceless. Her eyebrows went up and her eyes got big. Love it!
@@canileaveitblank1476i would say you're doing exactly what you accused him of. I saw the shifts in body language and facial expressions as clear as day.
Dad's nonchalant demeanor just coming with the facts and receipts 😂
As a woman and a mother, I think this woman should lose custody and be charged with perjury and harassment of the father. She is one click from being unhinged!
Parents need to love their kids more than they hate each other 🤦🏻♂️
Exactly! When I married my husband one of his kids was still living at home. I worked Really hard to befriend his ex wife. I made sure she knew that I respected her as his mom. I called her to get her input on important things. If she had concerns I took them seriously. She didn't like me at first but she warmed up to me. Now all our kids are grown. Family get-togethers are fun for all of us. Her and I occasionally get coffee and talk about our grandkids.
Jealousy hurts everyone. That same son that I helped raise married an amazing woman. She already had a baby. He was able to see how his mom and I had treated each other and has a great relationship with his daughters father ❤
Period
Absolutely. Well said.
Please tell my ex that .she's a nut bag
@@badram0204 Sorry, getting my ex to get is still in process after 6 years 🤦🏻♂️
She’s proven the video recordings are justified and necessary
Not really? They played literally no part in this case.
She proved nothing. There were no videos used in this trial.
@@poke0003Wrong - the police have the videos and NO charges were ever filed against him for all the alleged heinous acts she states he committed. As the judge pointed out, saying she felt less safe because he was recording is ludicrous. And it probably saved him from bogus charges in a he said she said situation. So the videos did play a part. But it was a righteous move by the judge to say he’d heard enough of the mother’s nonsense without even seeing the videos to rule she got nowhere near proving she needed a PPO.
@@debdanton2295 What makes you think the police have the videos and that it saved him from charges based on this video? All I saw here was a petitioner that put on such a terrible case that even this pro se defendant who sucked at defending himself crushed her without even really needing to present a defense.
@@poke0003He mentioned that he had filed the videos with the court. He wanted to play them and the court said it was unneccessary. I would bet that the judge didn't want to open a can of worms by having to take judicial notice of her behavoir in the videos (like threats of retaliation, or parental alienation, or threats of abusive legal action or even proof of perjury)
Notice she didnt get in trouble for disobeying a court order?
Her not giving him his son was the reason he knocked on her car window which was a violation of the ppo.
The judge said he wouldnt be in trouble for it but never ordered that she abide by yhe court order and allow him visitaion and never sanctioned or punished her in anyway for violating the court orderer visitation.
There is only one case I can think of from this judge where someone was jailed for disobeying the court order… and that was because she did it over and over and over again… it’s crazy. It’s crazy imo that it’s not taken more seriously when the dads are actively fighting to be in their children’s lives…
This was a hearing for a PPO…now at the actual custody hearings she can be…
And women wonder why men don't want to get married and have children???
These should be shown to men everywhere weekly
If she “feared for her safety” wouldn’t recording it help HER too!🤷♀️🤦♀️ If she isn’t lying, the recording would show what she is saying! This judge normally sided with the moms so that says a lot! I’m glad he got it right this time! I hate it when people use the court system to abuse the person they’re coparenting with! It’s obvious she wasn’t fearful!
She's likely pissed because he discovered her cheating and took away her gravy train. She prevents him having visition so he can't do a DNA test.
That attorney should be sanctioned for bringing this lawsuit. She knew there was no case. Total money grab
Welp... she is paying for it.
It's not a lawsuit, it's a petition. Lawyers are paid to represent their clients, even when their claims are frivolous.
@@cyndoza5454 Probably not. I looked the lawyer up and her website says she provides pro bono services for Legal Services for family law cases. "Legal Services" is another name for Legal Aid.
yes, I do blame USA's justice system for a lot of expense that is not needed.
@@cyndoza5454 no her kids are paying for it the atty fees propably came out of child support payment ...so money wasted that could have been spent on the child
My husband's ex wife was caught on recording telling their daughter to say she was abused, sexually and physically, so he would lose custody. He would have potentially gone to prison for years, but she didn't get in any trouble at all for lying. Men are mistreated by a sexist court system. The overcorrection to "believe all women" really hurt the movement. The movement was to stop abuse, not crush all men.
100% agree!! As women we have to decide if we want equality or privilege but it can't be both. If you're a POS mother who lies and falsely accuses, you're abusing your kids, the same as a dad would be if he did it. This has damaged the movement that was intended to bring fairness into play for women and it's definitely not what was intended. Stop vilifying men for everything and be accountable for your own behavior, men AND women. Playing the victim all the time is a bad look for all of us
Lying comes naturally to most women. Believe no women should be the motto
This stuff was going on long before the me too bs
So true 💯
I find that hard to believe, someone almost being put away for years from a dangerous lie.
Her lawyer isn't that smart either
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It’s probably a free lawyer. When I had to go to family court here in Michigan Mom was provided a free lawyer for custody hearing me being the Dad had to go it alone.
@@beez7753you could have got one also you just have to go to the public defender office
A doofus
Glad he's fighting for his kids. They need an honest parent around.
Folks be very careful whom you choose to reproduce with
This can't be stressed enough.
I'm starting to think some of these should be shown in "@ex-ed" classes. There's no such thing as safe @ex with a lunatic.
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@@SaraSlachciakFor a second there, I thought you were recommending a class called “ex-ed” and I thought that was a great idea! 😆 But yes, should be taught in the other as well.
That's easy to say but not easy to do. Remember alot of ppl wear disguises until they have your heart and then the mask comes off and their true colors show
So on August 29th Mum was trying to prevent Dad from having his time with his son. And again on September 5th. Perhaps Dad should have custody and Mum should have only visitation.
Supervised Visitation.
Only if it's supervised.
This Mom should lose custody. She is so manipulative and dishonest. These mental scars follow kids into adulthood and she cares more about hurting her ex than protecting her child.
I am SO PROUD of this guy and this judge. Well done, gents. 🍻
The amount of times she said she was fearful, scared, afraid… that’s when I knew she was lying.
This woman was coached by her lawyer to the point she is copable to parent interference.
Her lawyer was so incompetent 🤦🏻♀️.
I can almost guarantee that this woman is alienating this child from his father with her behaviors. He's not old enough to understand that his mother is the one escalating these encounters. If her child was cowering in the back seat then shame on this mother for putting her child in that position. Women like this should lose custody.
when I was 4 yrs old and my mother would fight with my father if he came for his day, I remember it all, even him bringing a GF to our time.
Yes! 💯 percent. I was thinking the same. So sad 😞
@@snakey319 When I was little, my mom would escalate things, refuse to hand us over, and call the cops at nearly every custody exchange, even when my dad didn't get out of the car. I spent so many evenings in the back of a patrol vehicle, and it certainly had a negative effect on me and my sisters. She had us terrified of our father too, grilling us when we came back, twisting every little thing into a life-or-death matter to alienate us from him. Eg when I was ~4 or 5 my dad forcing me to wash my hair in a bath, and getting water on my face when rinsing it became "he was trying to drown you." Eventually, kids believe the lies if they're repeated enough.
@@Kivlordude that's so fucked up 😢
My grandmother did this to my mother. She did everything she could to try to make her and her 3 siblings hate my grandpa.
Then when I was born, she did everything she could to brainwash me to think Grandpa was a monster. Even told me once that he was a devil worshipper.
But as a child, all I knew was that Grandpa made the best hot chocolate and taught me about baseball and how to shell peanuts. He used to study quantum physics and once spent 2 hours helping me untangle my necklace collection. He was a good grandfather and father.
Meanwhile Grandma would drink when she babysat us and would force me to sit and drone on and on for hours about how much she hated all men, and how I shouldn't ever fall in love. I was 9 when she told me that smart girls just use men for their money. A good grandmother wouldn't try to fill a child's head with hate the way she did to 2 generations of girls. My own mother even now struggles with some twisted ideas about life at age 70.
“How does it make you feel when he videos you”
Mad - because it’s harder to lie about him
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That judge did wrong by saying he doesn't want to see the evidence.
I would so despise having to deal with that lying despicable woman ...poor kid
parents like her really pi&& me off. First of all lady, it's not YOUR son alone. It's his son too and second, you have no right to withhold the child from visiting the man and claiming the child doesn't want to see him. He has rights just like you do. And I'm sure the judge will tell you that. Think about this, maybe dad wouldn't be aggressive towards you if you'd let him see his son. She's creating the problem.
Exactly!
I bet that poor kid is subject to constant nagging about how awful his dad is. Her twisted testimony is no different to the twists and turns (and tears) she feeds that poor kid.
@@jamesroyce1845If she's bad-mouthing Dad, he should take HER to court. I've seen some mothers lose some custody because they can't control their mouths.
@@Claudia-lq3ns I agree but for me, the last thing I wanted was for my children to be interrogated by a stranger to find out what their mother had been saying behind my back. I simply sat them down and explained that their mother was having a difficult time so she was lashing out and to remember that we both love them and sometimes that love is expressed in different ways (like not being able to control their mouths). It's always a delicate situation and I understand that it's more complicated in the US because each state has nonsensical laws and regulations whereas here in the UK, the laws are the same not matter where you live.
Accountability for women is kryptonite for Superman
You know you have nothing when the notoriously pro-mom Kirk ham is forced to side with dad bc of facts.
This judge is the worst when it come to the women telling the truth. He believes their lies.
He's a terrible judge.
Haven't watched anything with him prior. Why do you say that ?@@Guiltless765
This whole comment section is truly nice to see. Dads have been screwed over by the courts for way to long and people are finally fed up.
Agreed
Darn right
Ya these zoom courts have been doing a tremendous job
Can we just say non-custodial parents have been getting screwed for years not just fathers non-custodial parents. Because I as you can see, I’m a female, but I got screwed time and time and time and did I say and time again. By Thomas D Hayes of Anoka county courts Yeah you can look that DUMBASS judge up. He was actually on the wall of shame that’s right I said shame for a group by the name of fathers for justice. Non-custodial parents have been getting screwed by the court system for far too long.
Not just any people but like me, many women globally support courts and laws being harsher with these lying mothers, because they leave way too many victims (especially the innocent children) in their wake. It is absolutely disgusting and worst of all, it gives the rest of us a bad reputation😡
This happens all the time Mother says the Father is doing things & that she’s scared for her safety but not this time. Congratulations to a very smart father because if he hadn’t been videotaping the pickups she would get away with her lies. 👍🏻
"ive asked him to stop recording me" of course, it only makes telling lies more difficult.
You can record in public, period.
This is Michigan so the rules of recording are a little different than other states.
Michigan, in general, does not require consent to record if the person recording is a participant in the conversation. Other people may record the conversation with the consent of one of the participants.
However, many two party states (Florida for instance) allow that recording in public still requires consent of both parties if the conversation is private.
For example, if you are at a public park and are talking to a person away from others and or in a voice that cannot be heard by the general public, recording still requires two party consent.
In other words, you can still have private conversations in public spaces that are covered by the eavesdropping / wiretapping statutes in two party consent states.
Being "in public" does not relieve one's duty to gain consent to record private conversations.
It is a myth that you can record anything just because you are "in public."
@LouTiel you cannot have a private conversation in public.
@@doom4067 yep makes it a public conversation
@@doom4067 That is incorrect.
As an example, a group of people in Florida were trying to collect signatures for a ballot initiative at an open air, public concert.
A Council member thought that the people were misrepresenting the code on the books and sent his mother (who was from out of state) to talk to the people saying she was interested in signing the petition.
In order to hear better, the mother and one of the representatives moved to another area that was still in public, but quieter.
The mother recorded the conversation on the Councilman's phone. A public records request was made and the recording was obtained by the group.
The group went to the State's Attorney who issued a warrant for the mother's arrest based on the fact that they had moved away from the mass of people to have a private conversation.
That is true in every state that I am aware of as others have encountered the same thing as well.
If the state is a two party consent state and the two participants move or take actions to either move out of a group that could hear them, or take steps to move to where their conversation is in a more secluded place, even though they may still be in a public space, their conversation is considered private.
@@doom4067
Yep, no privacy in public. Can’t override the 1st amendment. You want a private conversation, go someplace that is private property.
He took the wind out of her sails with questions next he testifies 😂can’t wait
Dad is killing it! Finally an educated father who sticks up for himself.
If he was really so educated, he wouldn't have gotten with and given kids to this liar.
@@Khadgar07enjoy your cats
Love ❤️
Straight out of the single mom playbook 1) play the victim 2) file false police statement 3) get restraining order 4) get full custody 5) raise child support
And them clowns on the jubilee episode said this doesn't happen. When it happens all the time and they just dismiss it.
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Spot on
I know many single moms who aren’t anything like this. And several have healthy co-parenting relationships with their ex-husbands. This isn’t the norm, unless your only evidence comes from courtroom channels. She’s the problem, but not every single mother is like her.
Damn you didn’t miss one, I’ve seen with my own eyes 👀
He even got the best of the lawyer 😂😂😂
"this is how i felt".... And there we have it ladies and gentlemen.
in other words, it's all BS. They use those words because they KNOW when speaking that it's not fact. If it was fact, the vocabulary would be different. It's just prettily-wrapped lies. (not the pretty)
My husband fought a histrionic somatic psychotic wife for 11 years for custody of his daughters this video made me so happy that Dad was kicking ass and taking names
@lauralong8700 That's a nightmare. So, are his daughters good now?
@darleneww3670 she's talking about herself... She's the wife but has dueling personalities
Kyle Schmidt is very impressive with his precise questions linked with the videos he has taken. A flawless pro! His argument that filming the exchanges between him and his ex should tranquilize the mother of his children was a strong point for the denying of ppo. Mr. Scmidt would be a very good and even shrewd lawyer.
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From all the videos I've seen of Kirkham, I think he's very fair when it comes to issuing and enforcing orders. He gets outright mad when mothers refuse to hand kids over to their fathers at exchanges, and has even tossed a few in jail. That probably played a silent role in today's order. Despite mom's failings, she had a case for a PPO on the testified facts from dad that he in fact was violating the court order to stay at least 20' from mom's car. Kirkham glosses right over it in the ruling, mentioning it, but not issuing further commentary, and it's likely because mom brought their son to the custody exchange with the sole purpose being to taunt dad and refuse to hand him over.
@@Kivlor She might have succeeded in getting a contempt order for getting within 20 feet, but not a PPO. Looks like he should be filing contempt against her for withholding the child.
Her actions at exchanges is imprinting on the children, causing them to be also be fearful of their dad/daddy. Shame on the mother
I can only imagine what she says to the kid about the father.
"Mom makes all kinds of frivolous accusations about dad. She had no idea he was recording each time, or that he sent it all to the prosecutors. " She knew he was recording,.
3 "smart" women getting OWNED by an ordinary guy. 🤣🤣
Dude the lawyer's moods changed real quick 😂😂😂
Mom’s attorney is part of the problem for letting this frivolous protective order be filed.
Yea if she thought there was a hope other than getting an auto win judge then she would have had the mother there to testify
She gets paid either way, it’s just a job for her.
@SteveC-y9W but theres also a requirement that there has to be an expectation of a chance to win other than by the other side not showing up. Lawyers can be penalized for making lawsuits that are just there to waste time and money. I dont think this case is quite that bad but it didn't feel much better..
There is only one reason why recording her wouldn't make her feel safer, and it doesn't make her look good at all.
she balding....wouldn't want to be taped
She's using the old "sorry, little Benjamin doesn't wanna go with you, oops can't do the exchange, looks like I get to keep him during your time-buh bye" routine...Dad needs to drag her ass back to family court if that continues
All of the deflection and how i feel....feeling not facts....these people are so terrible...this man is on point
He was but he should have also brought the point that his ex-wife was denying him visitation that was court ordered. Even still the ppo was denied b/c she presented no evidence to support her accusations and no witnesses to support the claims as well.
The woman is fearful because she was breaking the court ordered parenting plan. She escalated it by not opening the door and sending the child. She clearly violated a court order.
Does not matter if the child wants to go or not. He has to go unless sick. I am sure Mom was filling the kids head with horror stories about how Dad was abusive and would hurt him.
@@ronhall5395Oh she absolutely is doing that! I hate these women who weaponize their children just to get back at their ex! She's definitely one of those! Their poor kid will be traumatised!
22:27 She looks really mad that she's not getting her way!
OMG!!! I usually don't watch this mama's boy judge because he has some serious daddy issues in his life and almost ALWAYS sides with the mothers 🙄 It was sweet to watch him make this judgement 😂😂😂 You can tell he didn't want to rule for the dad, buuuuuuuuuut...mom is cray-cray....and the father proved it!!! Poor kid 😢 Too bad this judge never thinks about the children. What a joke of a judge. Dude! Deal with your daddy issues from your past already. Good job Kyle!!!
There’s a judge like that in Charlotte,NC except he always sides with DSS. He had a terrible mom and no dad and was put in the system because of it and he’s never sided with the parents even when they do everything ordered and have claims were unfounded by case workers. Judges like this need to go to therapy
Ditto!!!
This judge often sides with the mother, but today the father came well-prepared and even successfully represented himself….fathers dealing with parental alienation like this should watch and learn
She should be in prison for withholding their son from his father.
Most judges side with the mom. It creates the most revenue for the courts/lawyers/judges
She is a textbook “devouring mother”. It’s so common now because nothing is ever done. No accountability.
Actually something is being done. Men are opting out of marriage and having children.
@@thystaff742lol. U see one case and assume all women are doing this.i guess we all should assume all men are abusers and rapist since there r millions of predators. See how stupid that is!
Hold up! Did the judge actually say i dont think we need to see the video!? Wat are we here for!?
She was so angry at the end of this video. You could see the steam coming from her ears
18:37 I haven’t seen the videos but I’ve heard several judges tell parents to record the transfer of children for there own protection against frivolous claims
Record all interactions with an ex-partner. It's too easy for women to lie and use the courts to exact their revenge.
@@TotalBlackoutPaintingfacts..
There's no expectation of privacy in public...you are and can be recorded at anytime...
I think she's making the boy, afraid so he and Dad don't stand a chance. They should both be very relieved they are not married anymore.
The judge doesn’t look at the video. Michigan? Big shock.
He certainly came prepared, and showed the lies the mum was making up
He didn't need to say anything. There was zero evidence of stalking at the house and he can't "stalk" at a parenting exchange.
This narc'issi'stic woman is one of millions destroying men's lives. Judges who allow these narci'ssis'tic cro'oks destroy men's lives are unethical.
"just address the facts Sir" then judge Kirkham let's the liar go on and on about feelings, he was definitely giving her all the advantages
This is because it's Kyle's responsibility in that scenario to object. The judge will let you ramble if there's no objection.
This judge always does that. Daddy issues
Cause at that point he was acting as an attorney. Not a witness.
@@holdenadkins8022the judge didn’t let him ramble when her lawyer was quiet
Dad - I’d like to show you the videos. Mom - aw snap!
Didn’t he also say that her lawyer has the videos?
She looked so anxious when the judge said, "Share your screen" 😂
He makes a darn good lawyer..truly shows who's lies and tells the truth.
If he was hitting her partially rolled down window that hard then I'm pretty sure that guy would've broken it. She claims he was hitting it hard over and over aggressively, a guy his size could break a window.
About time a judge gets it right
This is just awesome. Would love to know how much she wasted on a lawyer. This proves that video evidence is great to have.
That's what I said I'm sure it's child support money
This woman seems very dramatic and controlling!
There’s a reason they’re divorced.
She seemed very responsible. That father is raging lunatic. Your take on the hearin* is very strange 🤔 what’s wrong with you?
@@MearnieToonall i can say is WOW you must have watched a different case.
@@MearnieToonShe was exaggerating, if not fabricating and she’s guilty of parental alienation and she’s using manipulation to get what she wants. . Your take makes me think you are either the same way or don’t have the IQ to see that.
Isn't that a definition.
Glad she didn’t get the PPO.
Parental alienation is a removable offense they can take those kids and give them to the father permanently
Frivolous is the wrong word to describe her statements. It implies the claims if believed would be inconsequential.
Dad needs to get an attorney. I have destroyed many, many, many, women, on the stand who use what they believe to be catch phrases. This woman would be easy to break. I would get her to commit, and then I would introduce the video to impeach her credibility (if the judge was hesitant to admit the video, I would quote the appropriate on-point rulings that permitted it). I would then move that the court hold her in contempt for perjury (it would probably be denied, but it puts it in the judges mind). I would then request attorney's fees because she brought an action based on lies, and false filings signed under the penalty of perjury. (In our county proven false filings will get you charged attorney's fees EVERY TIME). If I have a client that has a contentious ex, I advise them to have cameras installed in their vehicle, which show a 360 degree field, and to have an extension microphone (they have them that looks like a pen) and record every interaction. I have had women that, in an attempt to get custody and have no visitation for dad, claim that dad beat them up on a child exchange. The worst, actually exchanged the kids with dad, (with no drama) and then 30 minutes later, she drags herself into the police station beat to a pulp and tells the police that her ex beat her up when she told him to not feed them junk food on their weekday visitation. Dad had the video that showed that she lied on her police report. As usual, when a woman pulls a stunt like this, she was not charged. BUT ! ! We used it for evidence to get dad full custody, and mom supervised visits until she was cleared by a mental health professional (which took three years)
"I don't think I need that at this point"(in reference to showing the video) That wasn't right. The judge had zero patience because the dad couldn't do a split screen within 3 seconds.
@@pdrey100 If he were represented, the video would have been part of the record. The judge took advantage of his lack of knowledge in procedures to gloss over the issue. An attorney would have laid the foundation for the evidence, and then had the judge refused to admit the evidence, a motion to reconsider, or an appeal would be easy because the judge cannot articulate why the evidence was not pertinent, because he did not admit it to be viewed.
He probably can't afford one and since it's a civil case they don't provide you an attorney.
@@tanjajohnson4659 While possibly true, I think it's more implied that the judge literally did not need to see the video because it's apparent what he was going to see on it was going to favor the dad and what he was saying. There's a reason the mom's attorney didn't want to show anything from the videos and instead tried to get them seen as something fearful, the judge isn't stupid. Unfortunately if the video was only available via his phone, it's not going to show very well through a webcam, so that's not going to help him, and since there was nobody there to assist him in getting the video onto his computer to screen share it, it would have taken needlessly long to try and guide him into being able to do it if he even was able to (we don't know if he has a connection cable between the pc and his phone or the ability to bring it over via wifi). Thus rather than wasting the court's time, he just says he doesn't need it, he's already siding with the guy and can see she's talking out her ass.
This evil Mother is going to continue to run interference in these exchanges. The judge should hold her in contempt for showing up for exchange but not doing it. This behavior is saying to the Dad, "na, na, na, na, na, I showed up but you can't have him", then sticks out her tongue. Father needs to file contempt charges on her. She is bent on him having "hell to pay" at the childs expense. The hate she is teaching the child for the Father, hopefully, eventually, will bite her in the... and the child will turn on her.
Instead I saw a video earlier today where this judge suspended dad's parenting time until they could have the hearing in front of the referee. Multiple people are saying the son is afraid of dad and doesn't want to go with him. I have a strong suspicion that mom is alienating the son from dad. So sad for the kid and dad 😔
Poor children. Shes a psycho. Judge didn't even see the video and still didn't believe a word she says as it's mostly lies to get a reaction.
when he takes videos of me it makes me fearful that no one will believe my lies.
This dude became a lawyer by watching youtube videos😂😂😂 love it.
She's trying to alienate him from the kid(s) with her behavior. She doesn't want to share. What a liar.
Well done judge! This is step one of parental alienating and removing custody.
My ex was such a drama queen, we literally pointed cameras at each other. Exchanges were a nighrmare. Finally went to third party exchanges. I beat three ppos. Hurts kids all the time
No one feels bad for you. Should have married her or vetted better
@@hospitaladministrator3359gfy dude. People make mistakes. Bad people lie, it’s easier than you think to have the wool pulled over your eyes especially by a woman. I hope you never have to go through it.
@@hospitaladministrator3359feel bad for the kids to-ol
She's one of those Mom's that use their kids against the father. She is turning him against his Dad. That's very evil.
I agree and I think it’s pretty obvious in this hearing. It’s crazy that the courts don’t always pick up on it
She's only fearful because he's putting the camera at a recording her.
“ I inched back , 1 to 2 inches “ that shit doesn’t even sound kinda true 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly what I thought, that’s virtually impossible!😂
Facts!!😂😂😂
Shes fearful yet dont they exchange their child at a police station. Unless I missed something, she be cray cray..
I love to see the rare Pro Se Win.
If you know the law and know how to conduct yourself in a courtroom as in properly asking questions and objecting with just reasoning as to why you will be fine. Most pro se just don’t know how to conduct themselves in a court room. This is where judges get annoyed.
She should be in trouble for not abiding by the court ordered custody agreement by refusing him to take guardianship of or even speak to his son.
I question much more with this crazy, angry bitter woman, especially in regards to parental alienation but that is just likely based on what’s seen here but there is no real evidence.
Her stating their son was fearful and didn’t want to speak to the dad and also the claim that the son witnessed the dad kick the car. That was hearsay, but obviously makes it questionable what she’s telling the child. How would the child witness the dad kicking the car but she didn’t? And the man has video of the date and incident in question. I am very sure this woman is poisoning her child.
Unfortunately that happens in these cases. She wants to punish him for leaving and uses the children as weapons in that punishment. Sad but true
During my time doing custody exchanges I had to bring witnesses with me. Then buy a camera to record the exchanges to ensure the mother of my child did not do crazy shit. Up to and including telling 911 that I was attacking her and her family.
My brother went through the same thing.
She doesn't want him videoing because then she can't lie.