The Fray - How to Save a Life (Official Video)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ย. 2009
- The Fray's official music video for "How To Save a Life" directed by Mark Pellington
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Lyrics:
Step one, you say, We need to talk.
He walks, you say, Sit down. It's just a talk.
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
#TheFray #HowToSaveALife #PopRock - เพลง
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I know: At the very moment I'm writing these sentences, there are already 82,012 comments to this video. I might be too late, because no one ever will read this. But I have to do this. For my brother.
13 years ago, I was 17, my oldest brother just got 30. (Disclaimer: I was always the little brother, of course. Always too young to hang out with the friends of my older "cooler" brothers.)
But when I got 16/17 he accepted me as a real man. Brother. "semi-mature"-guy.
From 2005 to 2007 we did a lot of things together. He invited me to his home. When he did this the first time, it was one of the proudest moments of my life. Hanging out with the real dudes. Wow. You can't imagine how proud I felt. :)
In 2007 my brother had to go the doctor. He had breathing problems. Long story short:
He was diagnosed with lung cancer. Incurable. His lung cancer was so "rare", even doctors from the US (Hopkins Medicine School? I'm not really sure) wanted to analyze his illness. (I swear: This is no bragging. This is just the truth and extremely sad.)
He knew that he will die. We all knew. In the last months he made the best out of it. We both did. We played a lot of guitar and sang together. And so the circle is complete. :)
The last song we played together was this one here. We both sang. And I played the guitar.
I think we did it roundabout 25 times. We stopped because we had to smoke.
Yeah, he had lung cancer. He shouldn't smoke of course.
But in his last days he didn't care.
Nevertheless, after the last repetition of the song and when we smoked the last cigarrette: I cried as fuck. He didn't. He was so strong and happy that we shared these last "drunken moments" together.
We made the best of these last days. And now: After 13 years I can finally write about it.
I love you, my brother. And I will never forget you. I promise.
Jani, mach's gut. Ich liebe dich.
Please folks, I don't need a like/thumbsup/whatever.
But please dot it for my brother. So that maybe some other people will read this and give a little smile to my brother in heaven.
Love you!
And: Thank you, The Fray!
(Sorry: I'm not a native speaker. Here are definitely a lot of grammar/vocabulary fails in the text.)
Your brother seems like he was quite a special and unique person and I’m glad you was finally able to share your story with everybody. Keep fighting to honor your brother and continue his legacy because you’re going to do great things in your life (: my condolences to your brother and I hope he rests peacefully
I read to the end for your brother. And for you.
Wow dini Gschicht hed mich echt berührt😪 Ich hoffe, dass es dir guet gaht.
Hey, ich möchte dir nur kurz meine Mitgefühl und ein Lächeln an dich und deinen Bruder senden. Machs gut.
I'm crying
My son killed himself almost 7 months ago. He battled depression and anxiety for over half his life. He was in counseling with both a psychiatrist and psychologist. He turned 20 the day before.
Please know that there are sadly some things that you cannot change.
Take care and talk to others.
Suicide is a horrible way to lose someone. It is so hard not to second guess everything. He clearly had friends that love him as you do.
The memories and love will be with you always. I hope you find comfort in that fact.
I’m going to listen to the song and release some sorrow before I have a friend come over.
Read all the words in the video. And follow them.
Im so sorry to hear that😔
Colleen,
I'm so incredibly sorry for your unimaginable loss. I think we can all give and use a bit of love from each other, and if you feel comfortable talking about it with me over email or something, please don't hesitate to reach out.
My email is the first letter of my first name, and then my full last name followed by @gmail.com
Remember that he will always live on in your ❤️.
Im losing myself, leaving alone and feel so alone. The battles within myself of surviving every day, the cries of the night and the hope of an helping hands. In the end I just feel numb after the struggles that I encounter. The problem is people tend to listen only and let you alone face it. Lucky for me my feet is standing still what I worry is how long I last.
Big oof
@@emersonranes7715 me too ❤ Every day is a battle and I am sick of living with it. It's not really about others, though they don't get it, it's more around not being able to tolerate it anymore. I am right on the edge right now.
I'm not sure whats worse...the fact that the world feels empty without you....or the fact that I know I will never accept that you're no longer in this world.
I’m right there with you! God bless and stay strong
2004
Keep breathing my friend, you are needed, ❤
😢
I can relate so honestly and emotionally to this statement ❤
I listened to this song on repeat in 2019, falling apart after losing my husband to an addiction. We were both addicted but I chose to get sober, though I begged him to stop he didn't. We soon grew apart, I felt every pain. There was no changing him there was only fighting. Soon the fighting became a fight to save my life. So many times I wanted to relapse just to be closer to him. I watched us turn into people I didn't recognize, he went missing and only his skeletal remains were found. Five years later, I'm still sober. I come back here to read the comments and hope to read stories with happy endings. Keep fighting, life is worth the living. God bless. 🛐🙏🏽💟
Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you‘re doing ok. I hope you felt some relief. I also wish, I can walk your path. We carry their history on our shoulders with pride, we got this!
I’m so sorry for your loss, words can’t describe how much I mean that. I lost my wife to addiction just a little over a year ago. We were both addicts. We both got clean and we both relapsed. Unfortunately she didn’t make it. I’ve been sober since. I hate that, that had to be the lesson for us both. I hope it gets more bearable at some point. I wish you well.
god what a story... I hope you're still doing well, i'm proud of you
Hardest fight of my life. I'm so sorry you lost your husband, but I'm thrilled to know you won the battle.
Bless you
"It's a beautiful day to save lives." -Derek Shepherd
samee but listen to this song TIme by The Impures,
is good :))
I just started watching grey's anatomy
No ur gunns make me cry😭😭
😢
@@adversityluiss6614 its sooooo good
I can’t remember this song being that deep..
I get you man👌🏻
Love the vids, but yeah its very deep
Oh shit can u make a rebuld for an mls team.
Actually kinda hate that this song is only about the singer having fights with his brother but they get along now. Everyone else thinks its suicide idk kinda annoys me. Love the song tho
Valerie Knowles I feel people can interpret songs and lyrics in their own way though, the beauty of music.
I lost a friend yesterday. Didn't see it coming. I wish I was there when he needed me. He always was for me.
Worst part is that you don't get to know when those who are close to you are at their lowest points in life. Usually, they'll show as if they're happy, and then you become aware this wasn't the case. Quite sad!😟
2004
I hope you’re doing well and in a better place brother
Damn, sorry for you friend, you and the ones around that were his beloved ones
"Trading Yesterday" or "Arrows to Athens" or just "David Hodges". Their/His songs heal, I promise.
Take care, my friend!🤍
Lyrics:
Step one, you say we need to talk
He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left, and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Let him know that you know best
'Cause after all, you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And I pray to God he hears you
And where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Teachers: “get in groups of 3”
The 4th homie:
lmao imma make this a meme
Literally just saw this on insta
I CHONKED
I am the 4th homie everytime 😂😭
This hits a little to close to home
I'm only 17 and this January I lost my dad from a drug overdose. I never knew he was doing drugs this was so sudden but he was the kindest dad ever, I guess he just had some problems, I love you dad I'll stay strong for you.
EDIT: It's been three years since I posted this and the support and attention on this comment has been unreal everyone. I'm in a lot better of a place now than where I was back then, time is definitely one the best medicines. It'll always hurt to think about, but having good people in your life really is key. Keep going and don't give up, even if it seems that all hope is lost because things will eventually get better, which everyone's immense positivity help me realize. I can't thank anyone who left a kind comment enough for the sincere words, you guys have no idea what that meant to me I never expected this much attention. Thank you all so much and continue to stay strong!
skittle63099ify i wish u the best of luck in the Future!! Stay strong homie! !
Playstation Gaming Holy shit you're actually the worst
Playstation Gaming people like you genuinely need help
skittle63099ify u stay strong and be ur self he will always be by your side so just remember
Playstation Gaming 😡😡😡😡 I don't normally get angry but what you just said is the most cruel thing possible. Who the hell do you think you are?! Don't even try to argue. She lost her dad! And you make a joke of it. And wish terror among her family. YOU BELONG IN AN INSTITUTION. Somebody help me out here!!!
Stop asking "who's listening" or "still listening", we never stopped listening
thx
2024 anyone?
present
Wsp bro
🫡
Yup always here
bsbnas
"It's a beatiful day to save lives"
Derek Christopher Shepherd.
Miss that guy.
Im sorry
omg me too
deadass
yes omg
🥺
I remember when my close friend killed himself. It was the toughest time in my life. He was only 12 at the time and his dad really abused him, and some days he would go without food. I remember getting told about it and feeling devastated, but I felt bad about myself, I couldn’t stop thinking about what I could have done to help him, and it has for the last few years. I’m currently 14 and there is not a day that doesn’t go by that I don’t think about him. I’ll always remember his smile, and the time we got caught drinking beers in my garage. I loved you Tom like brother.
I remember reading his note that he left out on the table before he left. All it said was “it’s not your fault. I just wasn’t meant to be here. Just don’t get beat up over me. You’re all better off without me.” Reading that cracked my heart. I wanted to tell him how much he meant to me, and how he was the brightest thing in my life. This was always his favourite song and he always listened to it in the morning on the way to school. Tom, I just want to say that wherever you are, I hope you fit in there, and get the love you truly deserved.
Wow, that hit deep.
May your friend rest peacefully
Reading this comment, reminded me of most of friends experiencing this on their own and couldn't tell anyone about it, because they were trapped and had no where to escape the worst. I offered many suggestions to them and they had an idea of trying to hold themselves out and need to find a way out as quick as possible. I wish, I could help that person with his father also abusing them, because of not being better than other people in his class and must get the highest grades in the school. It hurts to not do anything for this person, so all I can do is keep in contact and pray that they'll be ok. It's so saddening to hear such stories on young people having to experience such a traumatic parts of their life, which having to mentally and physically hurt themselves to the core of no return. Just remember that your friend will always be in your heart and you couldn't read his thoughts, even if you wanted too, but stay strong for him, no matter.
Aww I’m so sorry
I’m genuinely crying. Going through that must’ve been tough. I can only imagine the pain u have gone through
I once lost someone I was sure I couldn’t live without.
If you’re reading this please tell her,him,them that you love them . One day you will have to live without them or you will get lucky and pass away before them and anyway it goes you lose. Love them ,hold them , cherish every waking moment you have with them as long as you can . Good luck out there …
Teacher
My father passed away two months ago, and today is the first time I cried. Something about this song just hit me
Praying for my brother right now hoping he will survive cancer 😞
Praying with you🙏
He'll get better the soonest 🤗
Hope everything goes good
Oh bless you I hope and pray that he can fight through it 😔🙏
Hope it all goes well ❤
“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” -Audrey Hepburn
amen sa pungkol
@@trastokkerko1929 pisti
@@kjracz15 bogo ka kaon igit
Unless you’re Jim Abott.
This is a great quote
I was a suicidal person before. I finally found hope, peace, and JOY in JESUS CHRIST! Depression sometimes still kicks in, but JESUS Gives me hope, not only in this LIFE, but also in the next life. 💗💗
I'm glad you found God
Every time I hear this song, it reminds me of when I was younger & my mom would always sing it word for word.
I never really understood why it meant so much to her, but at the time… her best friend & coworker (Rhonda) she drove to work with EVERY SINGLE DAY got diagnosed with like a severe disease or cancer & was told she only has a few months to live. So my mom & her went on a cruise & they traveled a bit together before her untimely passing. It’s bittersweet cause now as a 27 year old I understand it more. I lost my best friend when I was 21 & my grandma when I was 25. I’ve lost over 7 friends unfortunately & this song just reminds me of all of them. It probably has nothing to do with anything I’m talking about or relates at all. But it cool how music is like a lil Time Machine & I can genuinely go back for a brief moment to remember when times were simpler. It’s funny how it somehow correlates to now every time.
Not to mention I just lost my uncle at the start of the year due to lung issues.
I guess I made these comments to maybe give someone the same feeling I get when I hear this song. It’s something I’ll always cherish & music like this is what made me always want to be a musician. I love how everybody has different connections to the same sojg
2004
I'm a psychologist who works mainly with teenagers with severe behavioural, emotional, and addiction issues. The lines about 'staring right on through' and 'pray to god he hears you' always hit hardest for me. Kids with a life of trauma; their whole perception of reality is warped. Whatever you say, they hear it differently. Whatever you point out, they'll have an excuse. The more you push, the harder they lash out. Some will become violent, some will act dumb and distract, some will cry, some just stare numbly at you and those are the hardest because they are the ones who learned nothing they do has power and they've given up. It can take years to get to the point that they trust you enough to even hear the words you say and believe them. I had one former client bring me a shotgun shell and tell me it was the one they were going to use to kill themselves after a really bad day. I didn't know it, but the thing that stopped them was me asking them to give themselves 24 hours before making any decisions. I keep that shell on my desk as a reminder that sometimes I can make a difference because too often I can't.
Thank you for helping them..helping them understand what they are feeling..
Youve just made me realise how fucked up i am im 17 with numerous addictions i cant take advice bc i see it as threatening i had a gd childhood but it was very traumatising at the same time and its completely fucked me up now
@@itzdepict633 hey friend. I'm glad my perspective can help. I get what you mean when you say advice can be threatening, and sometimes you will have to trust yourself over others. But if you could take some advice from an internet stranger haha, its my experience people almost always have good jntentions with advice, they just don't always know how to give it well. But trust when the people in your life say they love you, they do. They won't always jave the answers, even when they think they do. They won't always know how to show they love you, but they want to. So talk to them, say what you need, and when they mess up, forgive. I hope you have a great life where you're in the driver's seat, not addiction!
Kids these days
I grew up one of those kids blesses I found football but that only made it easier to hide my emotional trauma I eventually had a daughter I doted on but still had one foot in them streets well I went on to get custody of my daughter and son@8 and 6 my son is amazing but my daughter is exactly how u describe u made me cry and I thank u cause I needed it…. 🙏🏾 thank you
I lost my daughter when this song came out, it played on the radio ,while leaving the hospital with empty arms ..this song has always brought me to my knees
I'm so sorry, I can't begin to imagine that pain
So sorry for your loss.
i don't know what's goin on in your life, but please stay strong and keep your head up always...cause the stars are up there and not down there
stay strong so sorry for your loss
The life can Win for you this is just for restart Again..
Love
Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide or self harm, we all come back to this song and we will spread the message.
💜2024 And this gem continues to shine 💖💎🔥
Why is this the 6th time ive seen you comment on a video this week (no hate)
Made me tear up.
I CANT ESCAPE YOU STOP
Old but the best❤❤❤❤
Seattle rocks❤❤❤❤
stop commenting on good music for likes :/
The older we got the more we realized how deep the meaning of this song was.
Fr it's crazy it's been 10 yours😭😭😭
Fax tho
@@thedarkhamster9691 😭😭😭😭 back the you could walk anywhere with no worrys now you got to worry about gitting killed or just jumped sad world i want that all back
@Temptation Gaming hi son
I use to listen before I knew the meaning it really helped me I was suicidal
The more you grow up the more you understand the lyrics of sad songs.
I agree
Aggred
Facts
It makes you let the little annoying things your family and friends do go. because life is so short shitty and precious lol
most definitely, How to save a life came out when I was 16 and I still enjoy the song a lot.
10代の頃、大切な友達を自死で失いました。毎日悲しくて喪失感や悲しみを乗り越えられずにいました。
そんな時にこの曲を聴き、歌詞の意味を理解し、大粒の涙が止まらなかった。当時の自分の心境に寄り添ってくれた大切な曲です、私はこの曲に本当に救われました。
私自身も薬物中毒と鬱に苦しみました、いろんな心境とこの曲の歌詞がリンクします。素晴らしい曲、ずっと聞いています✨
احسنت بالتغلب على الأدمان والضغوط النفسية قلة من يستطيعون الأبتعاد عنها 🎉👏
@@ahmedhr6248 Thank you！
my wife died 2 months ago, after a hard year with endless hospital visits, chemo therapys, operations, everything. she was only 30 years old. I love her so much and miss her every day. still dont know how to handle it, when the woman you love more than anything else die in your arms.
everyone please stay safe and healthy.
I’m sorry to hear that
I'm so sorry sweet pea...
"Runes of comfort for the bereaved"
by Ralph Blum
"I am the life and the light and the way-
The Earth is my garden.
Each of the souls I plant as seeds germinate and flower in its own season, and in each I am fulfilled.
There is no cause for grief when a bloom fades but only rejoicing for the beauty it held and praise that my will is done and my plan served.
I am one with all creatures and none is ever lost, only restored unto me having never left my side at all.
For what is it mortal cannot be separated from its source.
I am with you all,
And each of you is a channel for my light.
Feel My Love enfold you now and forever more."
Thank you guys, im really grateful for your words 🙏
@@par0x234 np
Stay strong, man
Hi everyone,
Following my post 10 months ago.
I would like to say I've beaten the cancer for the moment, following the forequarter amputation in February :)
Thank you all for your prayers as they were what kept me strong and gave me the stamina to go on in life :)
Love you all ❤️
god bless you my friend..im happy for you:)
@@brandyplays6134 thanks
Hooray!
No way I was watching this video crying and cried to your story a few days ago and I see this so recently I’m so proud of you right now
@@benjaminyes6308 :)
I know there's a lot of comments about deaths and how they've impacted people, but I wanna flip it around, try and give some smiles. Its not a long story but recently I saved my bf from suicide, and its probably the best thing I've done in my life, not cause I get to have a bf but because I managed to save someone's life, that's not something you experience everyday (depending on your job). Unfortunately there's a lot who can't say the same for people they've lost, but you need to keep your head high and keep going forward, people truly die when they're forgotten, they may be gone but you can carry forward who they were and what they stood for, its the best any of us can do, but its better than losing hope, you need to stay positive in this world, or you'll lose yourself. I know a lot of that is cliche but someone out there might've needed to hear it ❤, stay safe
One of the few songs that can truly bring tears to my eyes
This song goes to my friend and boss, Hugo, i hope you're okay in heaven. Covid-19 took his life, I miss you buddy!
Raul Neiva I’m sorry for your loss covid 19 is horrible and takes so many people’s life daily
Raul Neiva you miss hugo boss
like, the underwear?
@@dom5175 the guy that made the nazi uniform (they dont like to talk about that part much)
This goes out to my best friend Jordan who lost his battle to depression and took his life last summer
Radioactive Skull
Im so sorry for your loss. But he’s in a better place now.
Sorry for your loss buddy
We are here for you
sad ,im healing the same illness since 17 years ago with a part of paranoïa, i feel better now but i know how hard is to live with depression troubles..
I didn't know depression was a battle
@@Walter-white891 what is it then?
Suicide only passes your pain to others. stay strong 💪 you got this
2024 this song still breaking my heart...If we only knew how much we needed to be there...God rest you cuz I miss you always 💔
Heres the lyrics:
Step one, you say we need to talk
He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left, and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Let him know that you know best
'Cause after all, you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And I pray to God he hears you
And where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Perfect bro your amazing for putting all of that I know that took a long time good job 👍😎
@@thecrazysideofpets5071 They copy pasted
@@chesphendshil8270 r/whoosh
@@aimeestenekes3746 lol
almost 10 years ago, when i was still a teenager in highschool, being bullied by classmates was part of a usual day so i would make myself small and silent. All of this made a depressive teenager and it was getting darker as it went. I was losing interest in going to school. One day out of no where two people came and sat next to me (where i would always go during breaks) they sat next to me and lightly tried to engage a conversation, not wanting to engage i would continue reading. so they sat next to me and continued talking together. everyday they came and sat at the same spot, next to me, and they would talk together. After some time i slowly started talking to them, and in no time i had made new friends and my days were starting to become brighter. By doing this simple action they might have actually saved a life! one of the two became a very good friend. I am glad she was there for me, and to this day she does not know how her actions affected me in a positive way.
Great to read 😀💛
That hit me, I was bullied alot and broke down alot at home, I'm 22 now but awhile ago I overdosed because of how heavy the weight of the world got, but my mum was there for me and still is, if it wasn't for her ringing an ambulance wouldn't be here, something inside of me wanted to just sit there and let it happen but there was no way I could leave my family with that pain, and i may not know you but it'd great you're still here on this earth, keep your chin up
Wow bro.
I'm really shocked.
U are so strong my man
Proud of you
god bless you
awww, God bless u
I am so glad he wrote a song everyone can say " I Understand ".
Substance abuse is real. I was a meth addict. Went to prison for 5 years. I'm clean from meth since 2010. Now Im battling being a alcoholic. Please don't ever feel like you haven't done enough. If I'm not ready I'm not going to change. I do feel and see the.love snd my family and friends but I'm not ready to surrender. We love you for your courage to help but we dont have the courage to stop. God Bless us all.
Well said. I too lack the courage. Unfortunately, I've been numb for a very long time and don't have the will to face reality. I hope someday I can process feelings again like a "normal person" Til then pray for myself and those around me as I will you.
2004
My dad went to sleep.. and never wake up... "and I would have stayed up with you all night"
I miss you always daddy.. I love you..
I wish you the best, R.I.P
Your comment made me cry 😢 i feel bad for you
You brought tears to my eyes. I'll be remembering you in my prayers.
Be strong my love xx
Omg I’m so sorry
Rip
I love you stay strong 💔
I’m sorry
My best friend killed himself a week ago. He was only 17. I'll always regret that I couldn’t give him a hug and make him know how much he meant to me. If only I had seen what was in front of my face
Strength
Omg... I am 17.. I'm so sorry for your loss. I beg you to not put the blame on yourself, you can get through this :) stay strong!
@@kam2894 I can assure you that to the people left behind hugs will never be enough to bear your loss
Maybe his story will save a life, your story
lol. F in the chat
Some battles are meant to be fought with someone, don’t be afraid to reach out
Reading these comments got me in tears. Peace and love to you all
Bless you ❤
This is empathy 101. If a depressed person is suicidal it is never because he/she wants to die. Its just that living is to hard in his/her perspective. The art in saving someone is in showing them alternatives while starting from their perspective.
This comment is ridiculously underrated. Please, take my heartfelt thumbs up!
its true, i don't wanna die but i felt living is hard
Well said. At my age what I've been through may be trivia to another not including the part with my Daughter.
Life seems to be Daunting when your not able to sort out your problems. On the other hand it's only Daunting if you care so as you may see these two things are very confusing and important.
Are you speaking from experience?
Boy are you wrong!
Back in 2010, I met a scrawny little kid when he came to my duty station and from the get go, I mentored him. I knew everything about him, favorite color, food, holiday, family member and a whole lot of other shit. He was a little goofy but he was a good kid, always positive on almost everything he did even if he hated what he was doing. I wanted him to succeed in the military and I pushed him to be the best, just like I knew he could.
I lost contact with him, because he had his own life and I had mine, I told him if he ever needed anything, to call me or message me, didn't matter what time of the day or night or if I was at work or in college, I would answer. He never did. I reached out to him, telling him I was proud of him for doing everything he could. He killed himself shortly before I sent the message and every single day, I wished I had messaged him earlier or called him or done fucking something to make sure he was alright, that he was adapting to civilian life well or that he was just feeling alright. Not a day goes by where I wish I could trade places with him, give him another shot at life. He was too young and too good of a person.
I miss that goofy kid every single fucking day.
That's rough, man. I'm sorry for your loss.
❤️❤️❤️
pepehands :(
@@bergsyy8495 ....?
Chloe Hanks smh google it
i used to listen to this song around 2014 when i was a depressed teenager, and by the time i turned 18 i didn't even remember it's existance. i had a cousin who commited suicide in 2020. today i randomly remembered about this song and i am now watching this video on repeat and singing along while crying and i just miss him so much
Jesus loves you all
"The second you start blaming yourself for other people's deaths...there's no coming back."
"Yeah...you're right."
Scrubs. Sigh.
I miss this show.
I wish scrubs was still on the air.
Thanks Ted for making us all laugh.. R.I.P. Sam
Yes that's right. As a sentient being, you make the choice.
Is it correct or incorrect? Leave emotion out of it (if possible) & trust your instincts, (no one trusts themselves anymore) and own up or breathe a sigh of relief. Four.
I own four. Caused directly or indirectly.
Yeah, you can't come back.
Scrubs was the best medical show and thats fax
"the second you start blaming yourself for people's deaths, there's no coming back"
That is the episode I came from 🥺
Yess we have some scrubs fans
God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best!
I'm still there ... and i don't think I can save myself anymore ...
Yeah ...your right
All I wish for right now is strength for all those who has something heavy going on. You're life is worth fighting for. I hope you choose to love your self when no one does.
Its April 2024, let's see how many legends are listening to this incredible song😉
😂
2004
May 2024😊
May14 and still
Oh look a bought account
I'm not depressed. I just liked this song for years.
Right brother
Wish I could relate
@@dizzee6089 Yo, it aint that easy... People are different and it's hard for some people to even say anything at times... that comment is really insensitive regardless joking or not. Even with the new gen being "soft" this isn't a topic to joke about. Sorry if I triggered anything, didn't mean too. Just explaining
@@100PercentBudder I was initially trying to troll but... that really opened my eye tbh. I see the error or my ways and I'll delete the comment. Sorry
@@dizzee6089 That's really big of you. I don't speak for everyone in the comment section, but I did feel people would have gotten hurt reading that. Thank you for deleting that comment! Most people would have just kept it to be "funny". I'm glad that you understand.
Lost one of my best friends to suicide 7 years ago. This song came out when we were in high school, and it reminds me of the good times we spent together. I unintentionally come back here once a year to reminisce, usually after midnight, when everything is quiet. Today is one of these days.
Luis, wherever you are, I miss you man. I know life was a burden to you, but you are still alive in our thoughts. RIP
big hug my friend.
sorry bro
Sending hugs
Thank you for posting this. I just lost a best friend from high school from suicide. He served in the air force. The last video I have with him we are singing this song. I came here to find some piece of him.
Seth, where ever you are. I’m sorry I failed you, I will love and miss you forever my friend.
sending you a hug. i’m so sorry
The Fray will never ever be the same without Isaac Slade. This song is indeed a true masterpiece. ❤
Life is hard. But you cannot let hardships hurt you or others. Things get better, way better, the smell of nice rain, the feeling of hope, kindness to others, no matter how hard it gets you will make it trust me your way stronger then what your going through trust me, have a good one and stay on top❤️
I was a teenage in middle school when this song came out!
Now (2020) I have a wife and kids. TIME MOVES FAST ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN STILL BREATHE.
This song is kinda sad...
ND Trends yeah that kinda hit Different man have you got any life advice?
I was 3
I was 6
Oh damn
We are all not in the same boat..we are in the same storm. Some have yachts, some have canoes, and some are drowning..be kind and help when you can.
So many languages in the world and you chose to speak facts
@@yahlidan9710 No they're speaking english
@@aoibhh please tell me you are joking
Amen...
Amen
⚠️your life is very important some of you guys dont even realize how important to someone you could be the most important person in the world to someone but you wont be able to see that because you dont think your important even tho you are everyone had importance and we all have purpose even if you dont know yours yet. remember you didnt come this far just to come this far❤⚠️
Xxxtentacion was my cousin, we were really close he used to love this song when we were younger he showed me this master piece. I will always cherish that moment I love you all
Wow really?
It's really depressing to see how many sad people there are around the world :( I hope everyone finds his happiness soon
Thank you. I've been thinking another killing myself just to stop the pain. It hurts too much to live. My mum won't take my to any psychiatrist or therapist so it seems like the only option 😖
@@b.t-bootsncats964 no it's not an option, don't you ever think like this again! Each one of use has the gift of being alive don't waste it. Get better; listen to music, stay healthy and find your purpose, don't give up on yourself we need more people to turn this world around to the better side, so please don't let us fight this fight without you.
There's almost 8 billion
thank you i hope we do too
Dojocho listen brotha.... Life is fucking rough isn’t it? Sending you love, motivation, and strength from Texas, USA. Get yourself right. Deal with the pain, go cry, punch a wall, break a mirror. You’ll be alright my brother. We’re all in this bs life together.
Yes.
Same here man
Same man
13* & 28* but still so painfully accurate
Same..
This song came out when I was 21. Just wait until your 30s.
There's nothing wrong with bringing back some of the best music of all time
Omg. I've loved this song for years, and tonight I just got what the song means as I'm listening to it and it's speaking to me about forgiving a person I'm dating. So beautifully done you guys. The words of this song are universal and transcendent. Forgive, talk, open up, love, release... They're in the video.
EXCELLENT!!
Very much true sad song don't exist in this era😢
I was suicidal 8 years ago due to my family financial issue. There was a time when I only eat four times a week to save money. Had to apply to economy scholarship to survive. I feel so helpless and depressed at that time.
8 years later, I'm not successful yet but I finished my univesity, promoted as a manager and I am proud that at least my brother could go to univesity without the hardship I got.
I remembered I used to listen to this song to feel better. Just hold on. It'll get better. I promise.
Yep I’ve been there Alex. 2012 was an horrendous year for me & our family business. I considered all the bad options. Luckily I had the balls one day to get in my van & go & talk to my Dad. He saved my life that Saturday morning without knowing it & a whole lot of pain for the rest of my family. 8 yrs on & I’ve had some good years since then & some bad obviously. I’ll now always talk to someone who needs to🧐
Hit the quan
You have our full support ❤️❤️
Axel Alexis And to think the people that plunged this nations youngest generation into life long debt are millionaires and running the largest corporations in this country. Or in gov positions like DeVos, the idiot Trump put in. They will be held accountable in due time. And we will be there to see their trials. ☝️😤
Are you ok now? I pray you are
I dedicate this song to my best friend ever, whose life I couldn't save. May you be in peace, J.
@MLG SHREKER I feel no need to make up a story to get likes. It is true. Thank you for your condolences, and have a nice day.
I am so sorry - I lost my best friend too. If you ever need to talk I'm here.
Rip j
Eferson Borges F for your friend hes in a better place and hopefully hes watching over you andif you don believe in religion then im sorry for your loss man
🕯
One of my friends who I knew long time took his life because of depression.
He may not be blood related to me but man, I'm gonna miss him alot.
This song reminds me of an old friend who died of an overdose while we were on the outs. I often wonder if he'd still be here had I made different choices. The ones who pass on are released from pain, but we are left behind to live with the guilt.
Every year i came back And every year this song hits harder.
Same here man. Hope you're doing well x
Its acc crazy
Be well my love x
Stay up my guyz we got this 💯
Mood
"It´s a beautiful day to save lives"
Miss him
It always is
I miss derek!😭🥺
I used to watch Grey’s Anatomy as a kid with my family, and my mum always mentioned this quote. I loved it so much.
💗💗💗
RIP to my best friend Sammy🕊️ i love you........fly with the angels 🥺❤️you'll be remembered.....29.04.24......Chao and Steph 😊
i remember hearing this at 10 and thinking of my mom and breaking down; now i’m 20 and i don’t think of her often or have a good memory, but tonight, i’m remembering her and the little girl that lost her mom to addiction. and im crying a lot
hearing this as an adult, comprehending all of the lyrics, it completely hit harder
RIP Adobe Flash Player. Everyone's childhood best friend.
Sad
Sad😔
🙏🏽
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I lost my best friend on march 31st, his last message was a meme he sent me and everyday I wonder if I just stayed up later would I be able to do something different, he was only 21 and he was the most cheery person even though he battled demons, his birthday is coming up and I wanted to say this somewhere, I really miss him.
I'm sorry to hear that. Stay strong. Sending love from Australia ❤️🙏💪
Lol
@@cristianmartinez7476 it’s sad but that’s funny af
@@matthewyoung1187 what??
I’m sorry to hear may he Rest In Peace sending prayers
Battling with depression & anxiety. getting help ❤ this song it got me thru some hard times. 2024
My old man told me, this is when I was a kid you gotta keep your head up son. Always remember we all love you. Everyone is supportive and you always need someone when you're feeling down. So when I'm feeling flat I'll listen to this song. How to save a life its true. Never alone. 😊
My sister died on Thursday after a very long and difficult illness, this has been very therapeutic
Nathan Guillemette sorry for you lose brother
Sorry for ur loss
fuerza hermano
Sorry for your loss. Sending love!
I lost my sister too...I am terribly sorry for your loss.
Everything was so much better when I was a kid
Everyone had that profile picture back then
Mafia BossAce what’s the profile pic called?
i agree so much
Thinking the same thing
Especially the comment section
I still find myself coming back to this song sometimes.. reminds me of a friend I once had. I miss her
Bottom line is you never know what’s going on behind closed doors with certain or most people always try to make life for people love care and cherish even in so little time at some point we’re all on the virge I’m doing something to ourselves or other people all because the life we had or how we’ve been treated most of our lives so just try to do your best with yourself other people
LYRICS
Step one, you say we need to talk
He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left, and you stay right
Between the lines of fear and blame
You begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Let him know that you know best
'Cause after all, you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God he hears you
And I pray to God he hears you
And where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
As he begins to raise his voice
You lower yours and grant him one last choice
Drive until you lose the road
Or break with the ones you've followed
He will do one of two things
He will admit to everything
Or he'll say he's just not the same
And you'll begin to wonder why you came
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
How to save a life
How to save a life
Thanks president
@@David-xz6cs *Left knee
Thanks Mr Biden
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@Yare Yare how dare u rickrolled me?🤣
So... who else just randomly decided to start listening to old songs again?
Dafuq?
you're freaking me out XD
I started with we are young
Better than what I'm hearing now.
@Littleton Begone millennial. This is old in the context of older gen z music.
Who is listening to this masterpiece 2024? Amazing!
When I went thru depression & heavy drinking, I use to listen to this song to aid my ill behavior, but now it's a song of happiness for me since I've been in therapy !!! Check on your loved ones, bcuz you'll never know when you can save a life 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿!!!
Reading all these comments with the song in the background really hits different...
Simularbre Ikr
don't it ever.
im just here to ask people are they dead yet
Yes...😞😭❌🤔🙂 Never Give Up❌🏳 even if we are sad💦💧, we must get & take Happyness😀😃😄 and Serenity🚀🌅❗
Simularbre boomer
If you're reading this, you're alive and I'm happy that you are
if your reading this, you are alive. you are an amazing unique person and i’m proud of you.
God bless you.
sometimes, you need that and it doesnt have to be because you dont want too live anymore you just need some one there fore you. even a complet stranger.
Thanks!
phong hoa awn thank you 🥺
Shut up
John Hayden why do people like you think you can shut out the positive 😐. I wish you could understand why people are like this 😕.
We all are fighting different "Battles" no one knows nothing about.....Never judge. As difficult as that can be, but try not to judge......God Bless and Keep the Faith......
Just lost a friend a month ago after confessing my feelings to her now this song just hurts
I lost my brother last February this year. He was just 15. I woke up and went home to his lifeless body. He took his own life. I can still remember how I fell down to my knees as soon as I heard that it was all real, screaming for help trying to digest the fact that he's gone, forever. Suddenly, it was all blurry. It's the pain in your heart that you can literally feel physically. I can cry for his name, but I can't utter any words no more. I can't describe how devastating that situation was. The only thing I know is that my tears keep on streaming down my face nonstop but I didn't care, I just want him to wake up. To tell me that he's fine. That he will stay by my side. That he won't leave us for that reason. It's unbearable. It made breathing a very tough thing to do.
To anybody who's reading this, just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You're important. You are loved. And your presence on this earth makes a difference whether you see it or not.
I feel ur pain , lost my bro 4 years ago . All the memories , the mistakes , the good times the bad times , he was my best friend and real life brother.
@@moonspeech82 🙏
It will get better❤️
@Verónica López Gómez go over to their house if you can, try and comfort them and inform a guardian
U don’t know how much u saved me
The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory
Wow.. your comment really touched me
This hit hard ❤️
Bro this comment is so powerful !!!
Deep..
🥺🌹✨️
Guess that's why they call it a window pain / pane
Hey im tired i just want to leave a message always remember that
You are beautiful
You are reasonable
You are worthy
And lastly im so proud of you 😊
this song got me through sm… can’t believe this was 14 years ago.
“If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there.” -Mark Sloan
Thank you for sharing this! Stand up straight with your shoulders back :)
Hmmmm neat
I have major depression and anxiety and I can't even do any of that and been trying for years to even feel love at and ask myself why what's the point of anything
@@tylersoto7465 yo tyler my guy. I'm here if you need to talk. Lets run some among us or something, fuck it.
Yes
You have no idea how many times this comment section has saved me from committing suicide. I lost my mom wayback 2014 because of complication to her spinal cord and last september 2020, i lost my dad too he was diagnosed with a multiple organs failure, im their only child that’s why it’s getting harder and harder everyday. I feel so alone and abandoned in this world. The more i live the more i realize that reality is just made of sadness and suffering. We spent our whole childhood wanting to grow up and we will spend our whole adulthood wishing we were kids again 🙃. I’ve been realizing that life isn’t what i thought. To all the people struggling out there! it’s okay to cry and it’s okay to be sad. Im so proud of you that you did not giving up, Keep movinggg!!! you got this 🤝❤️
You are not alone and abandoned. I lost my Mom and Dad too. My Mom less than 2 months ago. I think we all wish we could be kids again(most of us anyway). I will pray for you, you will be fine. I will check back.
@@patriciaelam5288 Im sorry to hear that, Im here if you feel like you have no one to talk to. We got this!
Oh man..❤👐
you’re not alone ❤️ please take care of yourself and reach out when you need to 🥰🥰
Hang in there
Beautiful song, as always. Praise our God who hears us❤🙏. Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,
Because His compassions fail not.
23They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
24“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I hope in Him!” Lamentations 3:22
For those who experience Depression, anxiety and so much sadness. Jesus is big of all Sadness! !! Jesus loves you! God bless you ☝️
My grandma died recently. She was the only family left in my life. My father and mother died when I was a baby. Mother from cancer and father from a car accident. Grandma raised me and helped me go through the struggles of not having parents. Her dying left me feeling so empty. This song always brings me to tears. :'(
miksuaka ;-; I'm sorry for your loss
miksuaka your friends will help you through this :'(
Feel better soon man
Thanks so much for the well wishes :) I'm getting better slowly but surely.
miksuaka xxxxxx
To all those of you who are writing things like "I'm thinking about suicide.": If it's because you lost someone, you have to stop sitting in front of your computer and watching depressing videos, and accept that you can't change the way it is now, not by crying, not by drinking, not by doing anything else. You have to get the fuck out there and go on with your life. The person you lost would not want you to kill youself because of his death. If it is because you are getting bullied or humiliated in school, at work or anywhere else, you have to stop giving a shit about the assholes who do it and their worthless opinions about you. If you are feeling like shit, everyone you hate wins. No matter what situation you're in, it's up to you to change it.
Maybe it can help you to talk to someone or get help otherwise, but ultimately the only person who can pull you out, is yourself.
There are always people who feel worse than you right now, there is always a way to change your situation, and there is always a reason to stay alive.
You just made my day. #Thanks
CamGFX | мσтιση ∂εsιgη Always good to hear that.
finally a normal comment!
U sir are awesome
As much as I agree with the sentiment, a friend who I considered a brother committed suicide 2 months ago. You don't get to tell me not to cry, not to deal with it in whatever way I feel I need to. You can't simply say "there are people worse off than you" because right now, I'm at the bottom. Maybe it is up to me to change how I'm feeling, but as of right now, I'm grieving, and nobody who is grieving is allowed to be told HOW to do that. As I've said, I agree with what you're trying to say, but the words you used are far from true.
I hope someone on my family notices how hard to deal what I'm dealing with. I've been fighting for 5years with this and its getting hard
There will be better times
No te desanimes platicar con alguien te hará bien nunca estarás solo pide ayuda busca amigos si tú familia no te apoya hazlo por ti mismo, siempre se puede y verás que saldrás de eso te lo que he pasado por muchas cosas difíciles en esta vida
Did anyone listen to this song at a difficult point in their life and feel like it helped you get through it?
"It's a beautiful night to save lives, people. Let's have some fun."
**night
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
You misspelt ‘take’
i’m done and it was sooo good(the show)
*patient ends up dying*