I’m in my early 20’s and Alhamdulillah I am married. A lot of girls that I know say the phrase “I want a husband who will guide me towards the Deen”. We all want a pious husband/wife of course, but in saying that, we can not be 100% reliant on our spouse to bring us closer to Allah and the Deen of Islam. We need to first and foremost build a relationship with Allah and guide ourselves towards righteousness, and your husband is there with you as a companion on your journey towards Him. The journey to Allah begins with you and will end with you standing in front of Him and Him alone. And there will be many times where your husband will need guidance from you as well, so we as wives also need to gain beneficial knowledge that will lead the both of you to Jannah. 💗
As someone who isn’t married and is struggling to find someone, I really appreciate this message. There’s times where I get sad that I don’t have a companion but Alhamdulillah I can utilise this time to actually develop my relationship with Allah swt
Well said Farah! Without this foundation many end up trying to understand him when they never attempted to learn themselves and their relationship with Allah first. Of course this works both ways.
Unfortunately my friend hubby was good hes now a 24 hour heroin addict and she has no respect cuz of him ..in community belive me she has helped him soo many times but I said its him who who will need 2 change for him self its got 2 be him hes now 44 still on drugs 💉 stealing selling yh shes young girl 2 its hard shes left him now and returned to her country and she didn't look bk shes 21 but people in Muslim communities need 2 stop jugh her maybe thry shud teach there kids not 2 do road kill speeding and drugs these guys ruin lives say no to drugs instead sister they sell it too them then there hooked its a shame my mate has left uk
It needs to be appreciated by both husband and wife, some men say " been home all day what have you done" as if cooking, cleaning looking after children, tidying isn't a job. And some women be like" I want this I want that....some women can be very ungrateful. A happy loving marriage works both ways Alhamdulillah.some sacrifices have to be made by both husband and wife.
@@thebeesnuts777 Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih al-Bukhari
If your husband say "what have you done " ,sit together and ask what should I do , honestly that will make you happy(so that we can cultivate togetherness and keep it civil). Most likely ,he will ask for some yummy food or something trivial to keep the presure of the working all day out. Write it down on a paper with your own request in the same calibre. The children also learn healthy relationship rather than mindless drama. The world also be a better place.
@@sunset2.00 to say " what have you done is wrong altogether" Cuz being a home maker isn't easy. Most men fall apart looking after child/ children. Good advice tho Alhamdulillah, JazzakAllaahu khairan.
I’m 43 not married . Alhumdullilah 😌😌😌 . May Allah bless me to get married soon to righteous loving Man that practices the Deen and is close to Allah 😀😀
I've never heard anyone ask 'why should I be grateful?' That's really disturbing. Be grateful coz Allah has asked you to be. Be grateful to your husband and watch your life change. You and your friends are not the aim of life.
Great video, sisters. Entitlement is what leads to a lack of gratitude. It's a very scary spiritual disease. When you feel entitled for something, then you feel like you're supposed to have it, and therefore, its impossible to feel gratitude. Entitlement negates gratitude. The more entitled a person feels towards a wider variety of things, the less gratitude they are capable of imbibing for even small things. Gratitude is born from looking at those who have less than you, who are in a far more difficult position than you, and feeling immensely relieved at your state of affairs despite not being anymore deserving for such abundance than they are. having a wife or a husband is not an entitlement, it is a gift from God. Realizing that you are not deserving is paradoxically an important prerequisite for gratitude whereas believing that you are deserving results in its opposite. The more deserving you feel, the more entitled you will feel towards what you have, and therefore, taking it for granted instead of having gratitude. All of these secular self-help movements, rooted in that narcissistic "self-love", and becoming a "boss-babe" is all about cultivating this sense of entitlement and deservedness for anything and everything. They think that by building up within you this massive sense of entitlement, you will feel motivated to go and take what you want without self-sabotaging yourself. However, the opposite is true. When you feel entitled towards things, and feel deserving of having it all, you will begin to feel anxious because of the fact that you don't yet have it. This anxiety will be coming from what's called 'status-anxiety', where you judge your own value by comparing yourself to others. This is because you have developed an inflated ego, an entitled sense of self. For you to be deserving, others must be less deserving, and this is how you arrogate yourself above others. Feminism, unfortunately, cultivates arrogance and narcissism, which falls under the category of tabarruj. This is why, I think, the hadith that most women will be in hellfire becomes true. Feminism has swept the world. It is a movement that is meant to target women in order to shape them because when you control women and what they value and how they behave, then you can control the rest of society. Men will do whatever they think women, particularly attractive women, want because the test of men is to look with desire. Very easily they look at women and judge their value by approval from those women.
Well said, this is the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good/ evil or life apart From God/ SELF, Which brought into creation sin suffering death and eternal separation. That’s why Jesus came to make us a new creation, born of The Spirit for righteousness unto eternal life
Yes very true. The attitude of gratitude is key. One issue I have is brothers abusing their role/power in marriage. There are many good women but sadly many men see that as a pass to do what they want regardless of right or wrong. Nice women are viewed as weak. It's as if men want a woman to have to get them in shape and to handle their affairs like their mothers. Obedient wives (which Allah orders us to be) are mistreated and exploited. Men seem to only respect aggressive women now which is a problem.
I've been listening to popular podcasts with a large male audience. Literally all complains are about agressive, combative women. And everyone seeking feminine, supportive wives.
I have seen many abuses in many communities. Any religion. But yes, the Muslim men need not jump on virgin brides like a dog. It turns their brides away from marriage and their husband. Then husbands go on vacation with their male friends leaving their wife at home. Glad my husband is not like those men.
@@NaimaBRobertTVUnfortunately, educating women to be endlessly grateful and supportive makes them self sacrifice to fight for marriage. In the experience of my community this has been long abused and there’s no light at the end of the tunnel as more and more young women start their marriage ready to please the husband for the sake of Allah. Islamic scholars must not turn the blind eye to the lived reality of women. Scholars should equally teach the wives about boundaries in marriage and how to voice their basic needs without assuming that all brothers are grateful and God fearing. How are those young women supposed to answer when a husband blackmails them emotionally and spiritually?
I loved this talk so much. I would like to add my opinion about women outgrowing their good husbands. I think this is probably a societal issue. In most cases women’s freedom and autonomy in the community is not given to them and some never experience it until they get into a healthy marriage. You’re just finding out yourself, learning who you are and what you enjoy in your 30s/40s while your husband has lived life fully and is ready to settle down. The experiences are so different it’s almost impossible for both to want the same things during the same phase. But with awareness and empathy for one another any gap can be bridged
I dont disagree with u,but nowadays women have alot of freedom than how it was b4.Also a woman in her 40s shes done everything why does she stil want to go out with her friends go out eat everyweek n all that.Theres some who want to go holiday with friends after mariage 🤷♂️
We (Muslim women in Western)have to think twice for those who are promoting freedom for their marriage percentage, Subxaana Laah. They got all their desire out of Marriage including having kids.
@@asavlogsalltruthrevealed7483 a lot “more” freedom doesn’t equal having autonomy and feeling complete. There’s still a big gap. Being given legal rights means nothing if patriarchy is psychologically existing in all of our minds.
@@sadiamohamed15 it’s hard to want marriage when you start seeing things clearly for what they are these days. But personally I trust greatly in Allah and that helps me a lot
The key is learning to become more submissive. Submissive to God first and foremost and then submissive to one another in the roles that have been set out by design, by nature. The man is the leader, the provider, the protector, and the woman is the supporter, the carer, the nurturer. If we don’t take on our innate roles and support one another then it leads to problems. It’s teamwork. But the responsibility is greater on the man in some ways as he is the driver of the ship. If he steers it into darkness he takes everybody with him. If he abandons the wheel then the woman has no choice but to take over. But if she takes over the wheel then she has less time to maintain the ship. Ultimately the man has to master his role and the wife hers and we have to support one another in doing so. We have to look at each others strengths and be willing to work on our weaknesses, seeking help from one another where necessary.
Please address correctly. It is not the spouses who have to be submissive to each other, but the wife who has to be submissive to her husband. This means that she has to believe he is above her. He is better than you and he comes first and he is the head of the family. However, if a woman's ego is as big as a dinosaur, she can't do that.
cool dynamic between the two sisters. I enjoyed the conversation and the flow of topicss very much. Thank you for looking our for us younger, less experienced sisters. May Allah reward you both with abundant iman and stations so that more may be able to benefit from your wisdom and clear instructions. Jazakom allah khair! -Ichraq.
As salaamu’alaikum warahmatullah (Responding immediately after the initial discussion) …The example of the ‘kitchen’ and confusion of roles was baffling. Men and women can (and should at least’try’) cook, and some may like or prefer it more than others - so the idea of designing the kitchen and having ‘what you want’ would make sense for a husband who is a chef, as she mentioned, so he would definitely want to have a say in the kitchen design etc. wasn’t sure her point there as she cut off and didn’t make herself clear. JezakAllahu khayr
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Maybe in the past they were, but now the men are moving away from culture. There is a rise in a large number of inter racial marriages as men don't really care about the ethnicity of the woman anymore. Im not surprised Muslim men are marrying non Muslim girls. They are generally feminine, submissive, not too fussed if the man doesn't earn a lot of money and happy to split bills roughly 50-50. However Modern Muslim women want have these huge list of requirements.
@@Jay-bc7kh we still use walies and the mosques involve themselves as well....I am European married to Pakistani..I'd know....my marriage didn't happen till my parents gave permission....
@@andreeaboloca4440 alhamdulliah that's a good thing. Good to see sisters who actually involve their parents and follow the Islamic process. Too many girls nowadays are on this independent woman nonsense thinking they can vet a man all buy themselves. Sorry but you can't. Hence why they are unhappy in marriage and get divorced quick.
On one hand you are saying there's a confusion of roles and I wouldn't want my husband to interfere with my kitchen design as that's my domain (women are not tied to the kitchen sister!) And on the other hand you are saying a companion is there to share the load, so why don't you be clearer in what the roles actually are for men and women as from what you're saying they should be shared. What should be Shared then exactly ? That sounds a bit confusing by your own definition. Unless you are used to addressing the same brain numb sisters you do sort of sound like you are playing back the same record. You're just repeating what you said in your last discussion. Gratitude is two way..not one way..so a husband should be just as grateful for his wife doing a lot of the labour in or out the home.I doubt the 20 years of experience umm talha esp without looking at your own marriage experience. Looking at your background you practically have little experience of a busy pressured household as you don't have kids to raise, you run your own business that you've sort of mixed with dawah....you practically live as a western woman who wears the trousers quite obviously as I can't imagine your husband not raising an eye brow to some of what you are saying!. Sister Naima has made some well informed points that you havnt quite grasped. Couples don't split because they have different tastes in salad..they loose focus on a joint aim, their expectations can change, they have external factors..they get tired and old and people are affected by shaytan too. I've seen this in my work with women.
I agree with the points you have made. The argument presented did not seem to align to the current situations in marriage. The kitchen advise did not sit well with me either. In current muslim marriages husbands are not putting in the amount of time and energy wives have been doing for the longest. I think we have come to the realization that these "roles" are unbalanced. Even if a wife works the majority of the tasks fall on her lap. Where is this sharing of the load and being a helpful partner? Where is the prophetic example for families? Why are men not adjusting to the current reality of running a household? There are so many nuances that are being overlooked in this discussion. The state of muslim marriages are in shambles and I don't think the solution is telling wives to be more grateful nor is it ascribing to blind "roles" with no consideration on what fits best for your lifestyle.
i agree with you. but i assumed she meant that the roles are clear from quran (man as qawam (provider) and woman as supportive companion) ultimately being each other’s peace & support. and as she said the details can be negotiated. the sunnah is clear on both participating in housework and child raising. she was probably just talking about herself when she mentioned the kitchen stuff? (hopefully or else yeah it’s not islamic based that womens domain is kitchen lol)
Men provide Women take house responsibility. that's the obligation & if the woman don't take house responsibility Islamically he is not obliged to provide her. Don't complicate Just split house expense & responsibility 50/50 like western women if Islamic way doesn't suit U😊
When a woman wakes up... The man becomes a supporter the children become peaceful. Women face alot of challenges all sorts of them. And allah the almighty is enough... For me.. He hears me.
Divine gender roles for men and women are given. For men, their leadership responsibilities are set in religion. For women, their childbearing responsibilities are set biologically. BOTH are God - given
Great interview as usual; it would be superb sister if you could have an interview with Ustadh Hamza Tzortzis the founder & CEO of Sapience Institute (the best Islamic educational institution in my humble opinion) ... specifically on the topic of "dealing with doubts".
@@th-bo6fu I am a salafi and I always get back to our senior scholarsto the topics that deals with anything that is related to the matters of Aqeeda (Tawheed, asmaa wa al seefat ... etc), but what Sapience Institute deal with is secular & liberal strikes on the Deen... and they have some good content that can be utilized within this realm to defend the deen; do they have mistakes?! ... yes, they do ... let us take what is correct and abandon the wrong and also make personal private nasseha if possible.
@@nf7849 it’s clear to that you have opposed the methodology of the salaf in your saying “let’s take the good and forget the bad” this is actually the motto of the ikwanul muslimeen a deviated sect. The prophet said whoever does an action that is not from our affair, it will be rejected. Salafis separate the truth from falsehood and are yon clarity
@@th-bo6fu I prefer not to keep arguing since there is no point in me clarifying to you my position or vice-versa; I ask Allah (SWT) to gather both of us in Jannahat al ferdos and right then Allah will reveal to both of us who was closer to the haq. Jazak Allah kayran🌸
Please do a talk on looks. It is a subject thats being talked about a lot right now. Do women really focus on how handsome a guy is? Is this even islamic? Not everyone has great looks like you see in male models. But still sisters want a guy like that. This is becoming too much of a thing nowadays.
good points. "grass is greener where you water it." young woman-i want my future husband to be my best friend, my protector, my companion, my lover. older woman-my husband is like this, that's why I don't want him???
I couldnt continu watching after 10 minutes, it was hurting me. Id like to show this video to my wife, but she will tell me off and make some excuses and deflect it on me.. Men have responsibility and women have responsibilities too, but I personally feel I am let down as a husband.
thats why when i read the hadith about them going to the nar or complaining i don't feel sympathy usually especially if I am dealing with something else. For now I give general reminders that hopefully build to sunna in deeper issues!
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 I think Muslims must remain humble and extend empathy to other Muslims. No one received their book yet so the race is not over. But there is a huge need for reminders. 15 years ago when I got married the discourse around marriage was SO different. It’s sad because marriage is the base of our society so many bad things comes out of bad relationships and divorce. May Allah guide us and have mercy on us.
Why do women feel the need to expose themselves on the net even if wearing the niqaab, the best hijaab is your house. I don't think you have said anything a man couldn't have said. You can see in the comments how it is a fitna... "I wish my future wife would be like this" laa hawla wa laa qowata ilaa billah...
Islam has advised "men" first and then women to observe hijab (in its complete sense). So what are men doing here watching a video titled "muslim 'WIVES' need to wake up". Also, inspite of women covering up as advised in islam, if men seem to look at them in a wrong way, then,, she is not held responsible for that.
@@bakedpotatoes5545 so allah says in the qoran "وقرن في بيوتكن ولا تبرجن" meaning to stay in the homes and don't go out without any reason or need and if need may be then u go out covered in correct hijab. There is no doubt that the internet is a far more public and open space then the streets or market places are. The prophet alayhi salat w salam hated the market places for its free mixing, and in the market place is an obvious need. If there was an actual need for this message to be published she could have written it and published it, they could have spoken with an image on the screen and a sole voice recording that would have been better. And still there is nothing new being said or anything being done men couldn't have done with much less fitna being caused. We have to face the reality, in the likes and dopamine culture even these so called covered women expose themself and look for attention online. You can see the reactions to this comment where comments of men who say i wish my future wife will be like this is even liked by the uploader. These people need to recheck their intentions and make tawba, this is a form of tabarajj even if they are in sone way covered. So no, women do not need to be on the internet at all, but safe and covered in their homes.
ITS NOT WORTH EVEN LISTENING TO WOMEN MUCH LESS THIS VIDEO... Sahih bukhari..402. If the wives complained against the prophet..allah will give better wives than them..
Mu'adh (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) took hold of my hand and said, "O Mu'adh! By Allah I love you, so I advise you to never forget to recite after every prayer: "Allahumma a'inni ala dhikrika, wa shukrika, wa husni 'ibadatika (O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner)." [Abu Dawud].
Gratitude is something that should be shown to your spouse. I wish you would also do a program on men being appreciative and loving towards their wives, something that is very lacking in the brothers these days
As salaam wa leikum the feminist agenda is real all from the shaitan. What ayat speaks on what the Angel's taught m/f how to sow discord amongst m/f by using magic blk and white arts. Rasula told us in ahadiths time will come easier to 💦 then💍.
Why is it with you feminist always saying "But What about men". This is a sign that you are insincere. Whataboutism is a disease a lot of sisters have. Whenever men are giving advice I never hear "but What about women"
Gratitude? You know many Muslim men in the West are eating sandwiches from Tesco and wearing same clothes for weeks until they get time to wash. While some practicing women are focused on showing how pious they are outside… it’s not a gender thing, so please don’t try to generalise and build on narrative of women always being the victims and men as the perpetrators.
Also let me add, many men are good people, they are instinctively bread winner’s, they very well know how to look after and treat women with gentle and care. Modern practising Muslim women have way too many expectations, many of them (not all) are hidden idealists and might even possess narcissistic traits, likewise there’s some practising men like this, unfortunately not all. It’s time the Muslim community spoke the truth and changed the narrative of the modern west in which there’s laws focussed more towards women and hardly anything for some poor men that are suffering from domestic violence while practising sister behaves pious outside and beats up her hubby outside or hubby pious in mosque and wife beater at home
Hello from Patrick's mum :) As a revert (in Australia) I am learning so much from TH-cam khutbah. It is nice to learn on this subject from such wise ladies ... Thankyou !!
I wish my future wife would be like these Muslim sister wallah They are so close to earth and is truthful practicing islam and not wearing islam as a shirt. I pray Allah give all the muslimiin such noble Muslim women that is behind you through bad and good and always accepts the directions of Allah without any personal issues involved and that makes a marriage stable and everyone knows their place in the family.
My husband is the primary cook of our home and I don’t see anything wrong with it. He enjoys it and is much better than myself at it. I would like to know the proof in Islam where it says a woman must be the cook. Jaz Khairan sisters
I don’t think there’s anything wrong in your case. He enjoys it and you enjoy it so it’s a win win. I think it’s problematic when the women feel she is entitled to not cook. Some sisters say it’s not part of women islamic role to cook but they never mention that they should obey their husbands and if their husbands expect them to cook, they should do it.
Thank you for opening my mind more. Being looking for something that talks about women's responsibility in marriage. Alhamdulillah, I came across this. Jazak Allah khair
The lack of accountability with some sisters in the comments. Trying to shift the blame onto the men. Very common in many women nowadays. May Allah guide them
Divorce is permitted in Islam, so is polygyny. The Muslim ummah would be better off if sisters not hesitating to divorce should also not hesitate to polygyny. The collective well-being of the Muslim ummah is far greater than the desires of each individual.
I think what the sister said about the kitchen being her place is a very cultural outlook. I don’t think the kitchen is anyones domain. Some men really enjoy cooking and do so and they are amazing cooks. It doesn’t belong to women. Maybe the issue was he didn’t let his wife choose the design. I think it’s both admirable and attractive when a man can cook.
If the man is working and the woman isn't. It naturally makes sense she cooks if she's at home. If they are both working equally for whatever reason the. It makes sense they both take part. Unless one enjoys it more than the other
Admirable and attractive? Oof so the man works the whole day then he puts on an apron and that's attractive? Idk the kitchen belongs to women due to them staying at home. He can come in from time to time for fun, but it's obviously the womans domain and I believe that not establishing these boundaries causes many issues in marriages
@@hmzzrg5045 both my friend’s and my sister’s husbands work full time and they cook as well. Not because they are forced to but because they actually enjoy it. Is it so hard to comprehend that men actually like to cook and do cook? Some couples even enjoy cooking together which I think is is even more sweet.
@@hmzzrg5045 we are talking about cooking. What is abnormal about cooking? There are many many men who cook. I’m sorry if you find it so disturbing that a man actually cooks!
My dear sister Naima, by Allah you are doing a big service to this ummah. You are helping us sift out our character so we properly emulate the teaching of Islam. I like it when you jump in and stress a point your guest has mentioned. May Allah unite us in Jannah.
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
aSalamAlaikum, you a'll can't do justice to the subject of marriage until we talk about a man's right to have 4 most beautiful women as wives and each one makes his life a little better than it was before. Otherwise, it's just trying to fit the marriage into something that only women benefit from. Good topic and thoughts but NOT quite JUST.
Great video, question. Is there a concern if one receives too much gratitude that they may believe that they are doing more than necessary and start slacking. Or that they may start to contemplate what the other person is doing and what he/she is bringing to the relationship as they believe they are doing so much but cant see the others efforts. Another point I find is that many women will show gratitude to their husbands followed by more ingratitude behaviour which leaves the husband to question their sincerity and eventually become indifferent to any appreciation shown by the wife, even if its genuine.
Most men are simple and straight forward creature ,but we are lacking in the togetherness "cultivation"- that we never do feel the need to try- because their is a mental note that we are in a marriage and nothing more is needed like he is my best bud,so he will alway have my back regardless the effort I do. We should emphasize the other gender perspective too.
Adultery is outside marriage. You can be married up to 4 women in Islam so up to 4 isnt adultery. Men are naturally polygamous. Western hypocrites instead of practicing polygamy, they go to hookers, escorts and have affairs with their coworkers. So don’t lecture others
I honestly was so curious about what these two women have to say , but the black masks are SO distracting , l can't help but thinking,why?! Seeing people's faces is just natural and it helps A LOT in communication. 🤷
I’m not sure the prevailing culture is suited for marriage anymore. Children are not raised to be spouses, they’re raised to adopt the prevailing cultures dating norms. I do want to be married, but the trade off is such a risk. When the options you have are told to be deceptive “for the greater good” I’m struggling to be optimistic, or even to walk out entirely.. whoever reads this, I do hope you the best, but that’s my thoughts at present.
the majority of the inhabitants of Jannah will be women as well. Allah created more women than men overall, so obviously, majority of the inhabitants of both Jannah and Jahannam will be women.
Do you know Mutâ the temporal marriage for money? Sahih Al Kafi Imam Al-Bahbodi Volume 3 Number 46. Reported by Al-Husin son of Mohamed of Ahmed son of Ishaq of Sadan , son of Muslim from Aubid, son of Zarah from his father and from Abdullah, Peace with him : “I mentioned Mut'a to him and asked if it is one of the four (permissible types of sexual relations). He (the Prophet) said: Marry a thousand of them (women). They are women who are rented.”
Trust me no Muslim does that nowadays . That’s a thing Shia sect follow. Also be careful of what you post the information is not authentic source and the prophet would never say that. Women are given high status in Islam
Do you know the temporal marriage Mut'a ? if you pay, and you get an agreement even for one night? Sahih Al Kafi Imam Al-Bahbodi Volume 3 Number 46. Reported by Al-Husin son of Mohamed of Ahmed son of Ishaq of Sadan , son of Muslim from Aubid, son of Zarah from his father and from Abdullah, Peace with him : “I mentioned Mut'a to him and asked if it is one of the four (permissible types of sexual relations). He (the Prophet) said: Marry a thousand of them (women). They are women who are rented.”
I, as a man, can say I appreciate both of you. However, you women always talk about how a marriage should work from your perspective. I feel like it always goes like this: He must invest, invest, invest. If it's not money, it's time, then attention, empathy, etc. Sisters, you really need to learn to listen, not to each other, but to men. Finally accept men for what they are. Your leaders.
I haven't seen all the episodes of TMC, but out of the few that I have watched, this was the best for me. Real and raw advice. JazakAllahu khayr and I hope Allah swt makes you successful in this marriage mission.
Asalaam. Please what are you sopost to do if you married a Moslem man an after some years you nutise. He pray only the subhy prayer he those not beth the richua bath
At least, sisters are always there to call out sisters for erring. I wish this was both ways. The ummah would have been better if men also call out their wrongs like this instead of supporting one another and tying it to "you women Are to submit" 🤷
I’m in my early 20’s and Alhamdulillah I am married. A lot of girls that I know say the phrase “I want a husband who will guide me towards the Deen”. We all want a pious husband/wife of course, but in saying that, we can not be 100% reliant on our spouse to bring us closer to Allah and the Deen of Islam. We need to first and foremost build a relationship with Allah and guide ourselves towards righteousness, and your husband is there with you as a companion on your journey towards Him. The journey to Allah begins with you and will end with you standing in front of Him and Him alone. And there will be many times where your husband will need guidance from you as well, so we as wives also need to gain beneficial knowledge that will lead the both of you to Jannah. 💗
As someone who isn’t married and is struggling to find someone, I really appreciate this message. There’s times where I get sad that I don’t have a companion but Alhamdulillah I can utilise this time to actually develop my relationship with Allah swt
Well said Farah! Without this foundation many end up trying to understand him when they never attempted to learn themselves and their relationship with Allah first. Of course this works both ways.
Masha Allah u need to teach this people in 40s a thing or 2.
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Unfortunately my friend hubby was good hes now a 24 hour heroin addict and she has no respect cuz of him ..in community belive me she has helped him soo many times but I said its him who who will need 2 change for him self its got 2 be him hes now 44 still on drugs 💉 stealing selling yh shes young girl 2 its hard shes left him now and returned to her country and she didn't look bk shes 21 but people in Muslim communities need 2 stop jugh her maybe thry shud teach there kids not 2 do road kill speeding and drugs these guys ruin lives say no to drugs instead sister they sell it too them then there hooked its a shame my mate has left uk
It needs to be appreciated by both husband and wife, some men say " been home all day what have you done" as if cooking, cleaning looking after children, tidying isn't a job.
And some women be like" I want this I want that....some women can be very ungrateful.
A happy loving marriage works both ways Alhamdulillah.some sacrifices have to be made by both husband and wife.
" some women are ungrateful " understatement of the year 😀
@@thebeesnuts777 Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih al-Bukhari
If your husband say "what have you done "
,sit together and ask what should I do , honestly that will make you happy(so that we can cultivate togetherness and keep it civil).
Most likely ,he will ask for some yummy food or something trivial to keep the presure of the working all day out.
Write it down on a paper with your own request in the same calibre.
The children also learn healthy relationship rather than mindless drama.
The world also be a better place.
@@sunset2.00 to say " what have you done is wrong altogether"
Cuz being a home maker isn't easy.
Most men fall apart looking after child/ children.
Good advice tho Alhamdulillah, JazzakAllaahu khairan.
Fr my dad does that and my mum does way more for us
I’m 43 not married . Alhumdullilah 😌😌😌 . May Allah bless me to get married soon to righteous loving Man that practices the Deen and is close to Allah 😀😀
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Ameen❤❤
Ameen ameen ameen
If you want to marry leave Islam and burn those black fabrics around you!
Better to pray for a kind and patient husband speaking from what fell from heaven for me.
I've never heard anyone ask 'why should I be grateful?' That's really disturbing. Be grateful coz Allah has asked you to be. Be grateful to your husband and watch your life change. You and your friends are not the aim of life.
I truly believe that living with an unappreciative person is the worst life anyone can have..
Yes, most women are like this
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@@botbeamer shut up Istg
just like my dad, my mum did everything yet he still abused her
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Great video, sisters.
Entitlement is what leads to a lack of gratitude. It's a very scary spiritual disease. When you feel entitled for something, then you feel like you're supposed to have it, and therefore, its impossible to feel gratitude. Entitlement negates gratitude. The more entitled a person feels towards a wider variety of things, the less gratitude they are capable of imbibing for even small things.
Gratitude is born from looking at those who have less than you, who are in a far more difficult position than you, and feeling immensely relieved at your state of affairs despite not being anymore deserving for such abundance than they are. having a wife or a husband is not an entitlement, it is a gift from God.
Realizing that you are not deserving is paradoxically an important prerequisite for gratitude whereas believing that you are deserving results in its opposite. The more deserving you feel, the more entitled you will feel towards what you have, and therefore, taking it for granted instead of having gratitude. All of these secular self-help movements, rooted in that narcissistic "self-love", and becoming a "boss-babe" is all about cultivating this sense of entitlement and deservedness for anything and everything. They think that by building up within you this massive sense of entitlement, you will feel motivated to go and take what you want without self-sabotaging yourself. However, the opposite is true. When you feel entitled towards things, and feel deserving of having it all, you will begin to feel anxious because of the fact that you don't yet have it. This anxiety will be coming from what's called 'status-anxiety', where you judge your own value by comparing yourself to others. This is because you have developed an inflated ego, an entitled sense of self. For you to be deserving, others must be less deserving, and this is how you arrogate yourself above others.
Feminism, unfortunately, cultivates arrogance and narcissism, which falls under the category of tabarruj. This is why, I think, the hadith that most women will be in hellfire becomes true. Feminism has swept the world. It is a movement that is meant to target women in order to shape them because when you control women and what they value and how they behave, then you can control the rest of society. Men will do whatever they think women, particularly attractive women, want because the test of men is to look with desire. Very easily they look at women and judge their value by approval from those women.
Well said, this is the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good/ evil or life apart
From God/ SELF,
Which brought into creation sin suffering death and eternal separation. That’s why Jesus came to make us a new creation, born of The Spirit for righteousness unto eternal life
Beautifully explained apart from the last 5 lines ‘ Men will do whatever they think ..’ etc What did you mean by that last part ? I didn’t understand.
Excellent video sisters Mashallah.
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and remember we're doing this for Allah ta'ala Firstly , it'll make things easier .
This is so good. As a husband, there is a lot I learnt... am learning.
Yes very true. The attitude of gratitude is key. One issue I have is brothers abusing their role/power in marriage. There are many good women but sadly many men see that as a pass to do what they want regardless of right or wrong. Nice women are viewed as weak. It's as if men want a woman to have to get them in shape and to handle their affairs like their mothers. Obedient wives (which Allah orders us to be) are mistreated and exploited. Men seem to only respect aggressive women now which is a problem.
That is dreadful, subhanAllah! Something that needs to be addressed, for sure.
I've been listening to popular podcasts with a large male audience. Literally all complains are about agressive, combative women. And everyone seeking feminine, supportive wives.
Finally someone said it! My mother is so lovely and my dad abuses her 😣
I have seen many abuses in many communities. Any religion. But yes, the Muslim men need not jump on virgin brides like a dog. It turns their brides away from marriage and their husband. Then husbands go on vacation with their male friends leaving their wife at home. Glad my husband is not like those men.
@@NaimaBRobertTVUnfortunately, educating women to be endlessly grateful and supportive makes them self sacrifice to fight for marriage. In the experience of my community this has been long abused and there’s no light at the end of the tunnel as more and more young women start their marriage ready to please the husband for the sake of Allah. Islamic scholars must not turn the blind eye to the lived reality of women. Scholars should equally teach the wives about boundaries in marriage and how to voice their basic needs without assuming that all brothers are grateful and God fearing. How are those young women supposed to answer when a husband blackmails them emotionally and spiritually?
I loved this talk so much. I would like to add my opinion about women outgrowing their good husbands. I think this is probably a societal issue. In most cases women’s freedom and autonomy in the community is not given to them and some never experience it until they get into a healthy marriage. You’re just finding out yourself, learning who you are and what you enjoy in your 30s/40s while your husband has lived life fully and is ready to settle down. The experiences are so different it’s almost impossible for both to want the same things during the same phase. But with awareness and empathy for one another any gap can be bridged
I dont disagree with u,but nowadays women have alot of freedom than how it was b4.Also a woman in her 40s shes done everything why does she stil want to go out with her friends go out eat everyweek n all that.Theres some who want to go holiday with friends after mariage 🤷♂️
We (Muslim women in Western)have to think twice for those who are promoting freedom for their marriage percentage, Subxaana Laah. They got all their desire out of Marriage including having kids.
@@asavlogsalltruthrevealed7483 a lot “more” freedom doesn’t equal having autonomy and feeling complete. There’s still a big gap. Being given legal rights means nothing if patriarchy is psychologically existing in all of our minds.
@@sadiamohamed15 it’s hard to want marriage when you start seeing things clearly for what they are these days. But personally I trust greatly in Allah and that helps me a lot
The key is learning to become more submissive. Submissive to God first and foremost and then submissive to one another in the roles that have been set out by design, by nature. The man is the leader, the provider, the protector, and the woman is the supporter, the carer, the nurturer.
If we don’t take on our innate roles and support one another then it leads to problems. It’s teamwork. But the responsibility is greater on the man in some ways as he is the driver of the ship. If he steers it into darkness he takes everybody with him. If he abandons the wheel then the woman has no choice but to take over. But if she takes over the wheel then she has less time to maintain the ship. Ultimately the man has to master his role and the wife hers and we have to support one another in doing so. We have to look at each others strengths and be willing to work on our weaknesses, seeking help from one another where necessary.
Please address correctly. It is not the spouses who have to be submissive to each other, but the wife who has to be submissive to her husband. This means that she has to believe he is above her. He is better than you and he comes first and he is the head of the family. However, if a woman's ego is as big as a dinosaur, she can't do that.
cool dynamic between the two sisters. I enjoyed the conversation and the flow of topicss very much. Thank you for looking our for us younger, less experienced sisters. May Allah reward you both with abundant iman and stations so that more may be able to benefit from your wisdom and clear instructions. Jazakom allah khair!
-Ichraq.
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"The grass is green whereever you water it" - baaarrrrsss
Jazzakallah sisters, you’re doing a great job.
As salaamu’alaikum warahmatullah
(Responding immediately after the initial discussion) …The example of the ‘kitchen’ and confusion of roles was baffling. Men and women can (and should at least’try’) cook, and some may like or prefer it more than others - so the idea of designing the kitchen and having ‘what you want’ would make sense for a husband who is a chef, as she mentioned, so he would definitely want to have a say in the kitchen design etc. wasn’t sure her point there as she cut off and didn’t make herself clear. JezakAllahu khayr
Patients is the key to success 11:42 salaam sisters may Allah reward your good efforts in letting others wemen in Islaam to know there Duty 11:45am ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
honestly I didn't feel the time when I watch such a great conversation on a significant topic May Allah bless you All Dear sisters
Masha’Allah
Very insightful and knowledgeable insights
Despite being a man,I definitely learned from this topic
I thought the purpose of marriage was a place of peace
It was until I programmed his watch with the prayer times to help him be the best Muslim. 5am! What have you done??!!😂
I trully do not think Muslim men have low expectations....non Muslims?yeah....but Muslim men are generally speaking,cultural....
Maybe in the past they were, but now the men are moving away from culture. There is a rise in a large number of inter racial marriages as men don't really care about the ethnicity of the woman anymore.
Im not surprised Muslim men are marrying non Muslim girls. They are generally feminine, submissive, not too fussed if the man doesn't earn a lot of money and happy to split bills roughly 50-50.
However Modern Muslim women want have these huge list of requirements.
@@Jay-bc7kh we still use walies and the mosques involve themselves as well....I am European married to Pakistani..I'd know....my marriage didn't happen till my parents gave permission....
@@andreeaboloca4440 alhamdulliah that's a good thing. Good to see sisters who actually involve their parents and follow the Islamic process.
Too many girls nowadays are on this independent woman nonsense thinking they can vet a man all buy themselves. Sorry but you can't. Hence why they are unhappy in marriage and get divorced quick.
Subhanallah you mentioned philosopher Ibrahim mazlo. Subhanallah.
Nice 👍 well said
On one hand you are saying there's a confusion of roles and I wouldn't want my husband to interfere with my kitchen design as that's my domain (women are not tied to the kitchen sister!) And on the other hand you are saying a companion is there to share the load, so why don't you be clearer in what the roles actually are for men and women as from what you're saying they should be shared. What should be Shared then exactly ? That sounds a bit confusing by your own definition. Unless you are used to addressing the same brain numb sisters you do sort of sound like you are playing back the same record. You're just repeating what you said in your last discussion. Gratitude is two way..not one way..so a husband should be just as grateful for his wife doing a lot of the labour in or out the home.I doubt the 20 years of experience umm talha esp without looking at your own marriage experience. Looking at your background you practically have little experience of a busy pressured household as you don't have kids to raise, you run your own business that you've sort of mixed with dawah....you practically live as a western woman who wears the trousers quite obviously as I can't imagine your husband not raising an eye brow to some of what you are saying!. Sister Naima has made some well informed points that you havnt quite grasped. Couples don't split because they have different tastes in salad..they loose focus on a joint aim, their expectations can change, they have external factors..they get tired and old and people are affected by shaytan too. I've seen this in my work with women.
I agree with the points you have made. The argument presented did not seem to align to the current situations in marriage. The kitchen advise did not sit well with me either. In current muslim marriages husbands are not putting in the amount of time and energy wives have been doing for the longest. I think we have come to the realization that these "roles" are unbalanced. Even if a wife works the majority of the tasks fall on her lap. Where is this sharing of the load and being a helpful partner? Where is the prophetic example for families? Why are men not adjusting to the current reality of running a household? There are so many nuances that are being overlooked in this discussion. The state of muslim marriages are in shambles and I don't think the solution is telling wives to be more grateful nor is it ascribing to blind "roles" with no consideration on what fits best for your lifestyle.
i agree with you. but i assumed she meant that the roles are clear from quran (man as qawam (provider) and woman as supportive companion) ultimately being each other’s peace & support. and as she said the details can be negotiated. the sunnah is clear on both participating in housework and child raising. she was probably just talking about herself when she mentioned the kitchen stuff? (hopefully or else yeah it’s not islamic based that womens domain is kitchen lol)
Men provide Women take house responsibility. that's the obligation & if the woman don't take house responsibility Islamically he is not obliged to provide her. Don't complicate Just split house expense & responsibility 50/50 like western women if Islamic way doesn't suit U😊
Why man refuse to talk to wife altogether? Wants zero communication. What to do?
I feel the ungrateful comes from a place from not enough suffering! if you suffered severely you'd be grateful!
I love this. JazaakAllahu khayran.
How about a spouse who doesn't want you to say Thank you when he buys something to you?
آمین۔ Allah help us all. The advice from this channel is amazing.
Glad you think so!
21:21 onwards such good points with a relevant analogy!
Bismillah pray for me to get over ocd and sins
thx
What is ocd?!
The live got cut off
When a woman wakes up... The man becomes a supporter the children become peaceful. Women face alot of challenges all sorts of them. And allah the almighty is enough... For me.. He hears me.
Baby mmm come here
Salam.
Jazakallah Khayr.
Barakallah Feeķu.
Shukran Jazeeleen.
It makes so much sense
Divine gender roles for men and women are given. For men, their leadership responsibilities are set in religion. For women, their childbearing responsibilities are set biologically. BOTH are God - given
Salaam sisters this is how I like wemen in ISLAAM TO DRESS IN THE PUBLIC ALHAMDULLAH BEAUTIFUL ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤11:47AM❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great interview as usual; it would be superb sister if you could have an interview with Ustadh Hamza Tzortzis the founder & CEO of Sapience Institute (the best Islamic educational institution in my humble opinion) ... specifically on the topic of "dealing with doubts".
Sapience institute is not a salafi institute therefore don’t listen to them
@@th-bo6fu I am a salafi and I always get back to our senior scholarsto the topics that deals with anything that is related to the matters of Aqeeda (Tawheed, asmaa wa al seefat ... etc), but what Sapience Institute deal with is secular & liberal strikes on the Deen... and they have some good content that can be utilized within this realm to defend the deen; do they have mistakes?! ... yes, they do ... let us take what is correct and abandon the wrong and also make personal private nasseha if possible.
@@nf7849 it’s clear to that you have opposed the methodology of the salaf in your saying “let’s take the good and forget the bad” this is actually the motto of the ikwanul muslimeen a deviated sect. The prophet said whoever does an action that is not from our affair, it will be rejected. Salafis separate the truth from falsehood and are yon clarity
@@th-bo6fu I prefer not to keep arguing since there is no point in me clarifying to you my position or vice-versa; I ask Allah (SWT) to gather both of us in Jannahat al ferdos and right then Allah will reveal to both of us who was closer to the haq.
Jazak Allah kayran🌸
Mansha Allah tabarikalah jizakalahu kharan sisters
Please do a talk on looks. It is a subject thats being talked about a lot right now. Do women really focus on how handsome a guy is? Is this even islamic? Not everyone has great looks like you see in male models. But still sisters want a guy like that. This is becoming too much of a thing nowadays.
I am proud to Muslim
Neyma how are you
women need to get allowance for cooking and cleaning and raising the ki
Masha Allah
good points. "grass is greener where you water it."
young woman-i want my future husband to be my best friend, my protector, my companion, my lover.
older woman-my husband is like this, that's why I don't want him???
I couldnt continu watching after 10 minutes, it was hurting me. Id like to show this video to my wife, but she will tell me off and make some excuses and deflect it on me.. Men have responsibility and women have responsibilities too, but I personally feel I am let down as a husband.
Mashallah
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😂😂 This is so true and terrible. All of these gratitude quotes but we should NOT be grateful to our husbands🤦♀️
thats why when i read the hadith about them going to the nar or complaining i don't feel sympathy usually especially if I am dealing with something else.
For now I give general reminders that hopefully build to sunna in deeper issues!
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 I think Muslims must remain humble and extend empathy to other Muslims. No one received their book yet so the race is not over. But there is a huge need for reminders. 15 years ago when I got married the discourse around marriage was SO different. It’s sad because marriage is the base of our society so many bad things comes out of bad relationships and divorce. May Allah guide us and have mercy on us.
@SHNEAKO
@SNEAKO DonKing Your thinking what I'm thinking . pt3 debate
Someone has a jinn
Why do women feel the need to expose themselves on the net even if wearing the niqaab, the best hijaab is your house. I don't think you have said anything a man couldn't have said. You can see in the comments how it is a fitna... "I wish my future wife would be like this" laa hawla wa laa qowata ilaa billah...
JazakAllahu khairan for your input!
@@NaimaBRobertTV 👊
Islam has advised "men" first and then women to observe hijab (in its complete sense). So what are men doing here watching a video titled "muslim 'WIVES' need to wake up". Also, inspite of women covering up as advised in islam, if men seem to look at them in a wrong way, then,, she is not held responsible for that.
so women shouldn't appear on the internet at all? they're abiding proper hijab, I don't see the problem...
@@bakedpotatoes5545 so allah says in the qoran "وقرن في بيوتكن ولا تبرجن" meaning to stay in the homes and don't go out without any reason or need and if need may be then u go out covered in correct hijab. There is no doubt that the internet is a far more public and open space then the streets or market places are. The prophet alayhi salat w salam hated the market places for its free mixing, and in the market place is an obvious need.
If there was an actual need for this message to be published she could have written it and published it, they could have spoken with an image on the screen and a sole voice recording that would have been better. And still there is nothing new being said or anything being done men couldn't have done with much less fitna being caused.
We have to face the reality, in the likes and dopamine culture even these so called covered women expose themself and look for attention online. You can see the reactions to this comment where comments of men who say i wish my future wife will be like this is even liked by the uploader.
These people need to recheck their intentions and make tawba, this is a form of tabarajj even if they are in sone way covered.
So no, women do not need to be on the internet at all, but safe and covered in their homes.
ITS NOT WORTH EVEN LISTENING TO WOMEN MUCH LESS THIS VIDEO...
Sahih bukhari..402.
If the wives complained against the prophet..allah will give better wives than them..
Capitalize A in Allah!
lol stop throwing around hadith, who are you
Mu'adh (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) took hold of my hand and said, "O Mu'adh! By Allah I love you, so I advise you to never forget to recite after every prayer: "Allahumma a'inni ala dhikrika, wa shukrika, wa husni 'ibadatika (O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner)."
[Abu Dawud].
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Alhamdulilah, my marriage is great, even though my wife is absolutely nuts, I wouldn’t replace her for anything! 😂
I love this!
@@NaimaBRobertTV Im a single dad 41,If know any sisters who are looking to get married plz let me know.No harm in asking 😂
@@asavlogsalltruthrevealed7483 Would you be willing to come on a live show to find a good sister?
@@NaimaBRobertTV he isn't praising his wife
@@codingiscreativity smh
Gratitude is something that should be shown to your spouse. I wish you would also do a program on men being appreciative and loving towards their wives, something that is very lacking in the brothers these days
As salaam wa leikum the feminist agenda is real all from the shaitan. What ayat speaks on what the Angel's taught m/f how to sow discord amongst m/f by using magic blk and white arts. Rasula told us in ahadiths time will come easier to 💦 then💍.
Why is it with you feminist always saying "But What about men". This is a sign that you are insincere.
Whataboutism is a disease a lot of sisters have.
Whenever men are giving advice I never hear "but What about women"
Gratitude? You know many Muslim men in the West are eating sandwiches from Tesco and wearing same clothes for weeks until they get time to wash. While some practicing women are focused on showing how pious they are outside… it’s not a gender thing, so please don’t try to generalise and build on narrative of women always being the victims and men as the perpetrators.
Also let me add, many men are good people, they are instinctively bread winner’s, they very well know how to look after and treat women with gentle and care. Modern practising Muslim women have way too many expectations, many of them (not all) are hidden idealists and might even possess narcissistic traits, likewise there’s some practising men like this, unfortunately not all. It’s time the Muslim community spoke the truth and changed the narrative of the modern west in which there’s laws focussed more towards women and hardly anything for some poor men that are suffering from domestic violence while practising sister behaves pious outside and beats up her hubby outside or hubby pious in mosque and wife beater at home
Unfortunately men do not show this enthusiasm to learn how to
Improve or solve issues in marriage
Hello from Patrick's mum :) As a revert (in Australia) I am learning so much from TH-cam khutbah. It is nice to learn on this subject from such wise ladies ... Thankyou !!
You are most welcome 🤗 have fun with us. Live is a lesson we are all learning new things every
I'm taking notes for the future 😉
But do the opposite 🤣🤣🤣
@@muhammadmafaz8530 why?
@@khadijahassan7130 just kidding. Barakallah sister
@King Sultan why?
@@khadijahassan7130 😂😂 I sense a matchmaking process
May Allah help everyone here with their marriages! Ameen
Ameen beautiful dua
Ameen
Allahumma Ameen !
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I really enjoyed listening to this and am already feeling grateful to Allah swt for jetting me find this video, may Allah reward you, Ameen
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I wish my future wife would be like these Muslim sister wallah
They are so close to earth and is truthful practicing islam and not wearing islam as a shirt.
I pray Allah give all the muslimiin such noble Muslim women that is behind you through bad and good and always accepts the directions of Allah without any personal issues involved and that makes a marriage stable and everyone knows their place in the family.
1 month ago ??😆
ameen
@@nitrogen4626 innit what the hell
😂okay, whatt
Everyone has personal issues, including you my dear brother. Please let’s have realistic outlooks in life.
My husband is the primary cook of our home and I don’t see anything wrong with it. He enjoys it and is much better than myself at it. I would like to know the proof in Islam where it says a woman must be the cook. Jaz Khairan sisters
I don’t think there’s anything wrong in your case. He enjoys it and you enjoy it so it’s a win win. I think it’s problematic when the women feel she is entitled to not cook. Some sisters say it’s not part of women islamic role to cook but they never mention that they should obey their husbands and if their husbands expect them to cook, they should do it.
May Allah bless your marriage, sis!
@@astrochld4103 If you read the comment before yours about obeying the husband, depending on the context it can be fard.
@@NaimaBRobertTV Amin!
My view on this .. whether your married or not ..a woman or anyhuman being must learn how to cook and how to clean And organize his or her home.
Enjoyable interview! Allah tala protect all marriage’s and strengthen our Imaan.
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Thank you for opening my mind more. Being looking for something that talks about women's responsibility in marriage. Alhamdulillah, I came across this. Jazak Allah khair
Real talk MashaAllah
We all need to give technology and social media a break and regain Emotional intelligence
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The lack of accountability with some sisters in the comments. Trying to shift the blame onto the men. Very common in many women nowadays. May Allah guide them
Jazzakum Allahu khairan for key points that we can apply within new and old marriages and other areas of life too. Very positive
Divorce is permitted in Islam, so is polygyny. The Muslim ummah would be better off if sisters not hesitating to divorce should also not hesitate to polygyny. The collective well-being of the Muslim ummah is far greater than the desires of each individual.
I think what the sister said about the kitchen being her place is a very cultural outlook. I don’t think the kitchen is anyones domain. Some men really enjoy cooking and do so and they are amazing cooks. It doesn’t belong to women. Maybe the issue was he didn’t let his wife choose the design. I think it’s both admirable and attractive when a man can cook.
If the man is working and the woman isn't. It naturally makes sense she cooks if she's at home. If they are both working equally for whatever reason the. It makes sense they both take part. Unless one enjoys it more than the other
Admirable and attractive? Oof so the man works the whole day then he puts on an apron and that's attractive? Idk the kitchen belongs to women due to them staying at home. He can come in from time to time for fun, but it's obviously the womans domain and I believe that not establishing these boundaries causes many issues in marriages
@@hmzzrg5045 both my friend’s and my sister’s husbands work full time and they cook as well. Not because they are forced to but because they actually enjoy it. Is it so hard to comprehend that men actually like to cook and do cook? Some couples even enjoy cooking together which I think is is even more sweet.
@@Mazzie2022 are they the norm?
@@hmzzrg5045 we are talking about cooking. What is abnormal about cooking? There are many many men who cook. I’m sorry if you find it so disturbing that a man actually cooks!
The fact that this has 1.6k likes-- saddens me
This is how Ninja would look like if they were planning an assassination using Skype 😂😂
My dear sister Naima, by Allah you are doing a big service to this ummah. You are helping us sift out our character so we properly emulate the teaching of Islam. I like it when you jump in and stress a point your guest has mentioned. May Allah unite us in Jannah.
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ، عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَسْلَمَ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم " أُرِيتُ النَّارَ فَإِذَا أَكْثَرُ أَهْلِهَا النِّسَاءُ يَكْفُرْنَ ". قِيلَ أَيَكْفُرْنَ بِاللَّهِ قَالَ " يَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَ، وَيَكْفُرْنَ الإِحْسَانَ، لَوْ أَحْسَنْتَ إِلَى إِحْدَاهُنَّ الدَّهْرَ ثُمَّ رَأَتْ مِنْكَ شَيْئًا قَالَتْ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْكَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ ".
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference : Book 2, Hadith 22
🤣 why did Mohammad hate women this much.
@@Al7amdulilah Beautiful hadith, Jazak Allahu Khayr!
Does this also apply for the man who is ungrateful for his wife?
sis talk about this
how to identify abuse in marriage Islamic perspective plz share?
Thank you so much for this beautiful lecture ❤️
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Insightful Al hamdulillah Rabbil Alameen
May Allah SWT grant us all understanding and ease ameen
aSalamAlaikum, you a'll can't do justice to the subject of marriage until we talk about a man's right to have 4 most beautiful women as wives and each one makes his life a little better than it was before. Otherwise, it's just trying to fit the marriage into something that only women benefit from. Good topic and thoughts but NOT quite JUST.
Great video, question.
Is there a concern if one receives too much gratitude that they may believe that they are doing more than necessary and start slacking. Or that they may start to contemplate what the other person is doing and what he/she is bringing to the relationship as they believe they are doing so much but cant see the others efforts.
Another point I find is that many women will show gratitude to their husbands followed by more ingratitude behaviour which leaves the husband to question their sincerity and eventually become indifferent to any appreciation shown by the wife, even if its genuine.
A lot of to learn from this convo. Love it.
Most men are simple and straight forward creature
,but we are lacking in the togetherness "cultivation"- that we never do feel the need to try- because their is a mental note that we are in a marriage and nothing more is needed like he is my best bud,so he will alway have my back regardless the effort I do.
We should emphasize the other gender perspective too.
Keep up the great work
What do you know about marriage, mohamed said the man can marry 4 wives, how on earth is that not adultry. Islam is unjust.
Adultery is outside marriage. You can be married up to 4 women in Islam so up to 4 isnt adultery.
Men are naturally polygamous. Western hypocrites instead of practicing polygamy, they go to hookers, escorts and have affairs with their coworkers. So don’t lecture others
I honestly was so curious about what these two women have to say , but the black masks are SO distracting , l can't help but thinking,why?! Seeing people's faces is just natural and it helps A LOT in communication. 🤷
I’m not sure the prevailing culture is suited for marriage anymore. Children are not raised to be spouses, they’re raised to adopt the prevailing cultures dating norms. I do want to be married, but the trade off is such a risk. When the options you have are told to be deceptive “for the greater good” I’m struggling to be optimistic, or even to walk out entirely.. whoever reads this, I do hope you the best, but that’s my thoughts at present.
the majority of the inhabitants of Jannah will be women as well. Allah created more women than men overall, so obviously, majority of the inhabitants of both Jannah and Jahannam will be women.
Shukran for posting.
Do you know Mutâ the temporal marriage for money?
Sahih Al Kafi Imam Al-Bahbodi Volume 3 Number 46.
Reported by Al-Husin son of Mohamed of Ahmed son of Ishaq of Sadan , son of Muslim from Aubid, son of Zarah from his father and from Abdullah, Peace with him : “I mentioned Mut'a to him and asked if it is one of the four (permissible types of sexual relations). He (the Prophet) said: Marry a thousand of them (women). They are women who are rented.”
Trust me no Muslim does that nowadays . That’s a thing Shia sect follow. Also be careful of what you post the information is not authentic source and the prophet would never say that. Women are given high status in Islam
Do you know the temporal marriage Mut'a ? if you pay, and you get an agreement even for one night?
Sahih Al Kafi Imam Al-Bahbodi Volume 3 Number 46.
Reported by Al-Husin son of Mohamed of Ahmed son of Ishaq of Sadan , son of Muslim from Aubid, son of Zarah from his father and from Abdullah, Peace with him : “I mentioned Mut'a to him and asked if it is one of the four (permissible types of sexual relations). He (the Prophet) said: Marry a thousand of them (women). They are women who are rented.”
Audhubillah nope that’s a very weak Hadith it’s not Sahih most Muslims don’t follow that except a few shias
I, as a man, can say I appreciate both of you. However, you women always talk about how a marriage should work from your perspective. I feel like it always goes like this: He must invest, invest, invest. If it's not money, it's time, then attention, empathy, etc. Sisters, you really need to learn to listen, not to each other, but to men. Finally accept men for what they are. Your leaders.
Their audience is women not men
جزاكم الله خيرا
JazakaAllahu kheir
I haven't seen all the episodes of TMC, but out of the few that I have watched, this was the best for me. Real and raw advice. JazakAllahu khayr and I hope Allah swt makes you successful in this marriage mission.
Asc sisters
Great, we're listening intently. Please continue
الحمد لله حاضر وجزاكم الله خيرا
Asalaam. Please what are you sopost to do if you married a Moslem man an after some years you nutise. He pray only the subhy prayer he those not beth the richua bath
At least, sisters are always there to call out sisters for erring. I wish this was both ways. The ummah would have been better if men also call out their wrongs like this instead of supporting one another and tying it to "you women Are to submit" 🤷
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Mash'allah! As a brother, I am so thankful to these sisters!!
Allah,SMT, says that there will be mates both in paradise and hell! A just reward(or punishment) for both.
Points here were communicated so eloquently mashallah. 🥰
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