Never feel embarrassed about needing help. The first step in improvement is knowing and accepting something is wrong. I'm happy for you, wishing the best.
I am so glad that you made this video! It is so important for men to realise that asking for help is bloody alright! And I'm really happy to hear that you're doing well!
Hi there, My wife sent me this video and I'm familiar with you and Helen and I just wanted to say thank you. I have many of the same problems and this has inspired me to finally get some help. really. thank you :)
Matthew Taylor Completely understand, its very personal, but it is important what you have to say. Keeping your mind healthy is important! Wishing you the best
It's so important that men talk about these things! This will help SO MANY people. I do a bit of work with a mental health charity and we always try to make an effort to reach out to men more, I'm sure sharing this video will have a brilliantly positive impact. :)
As someone who has suffered from depression/anxiety, I can't speak highly enough about counselling & therapy. Speaking to a 'stranger' is so much easier and they're not afraid to tell you what you need to hear. I spent 12yrs in a career where admitting your weaknesses wasn't the done thing, so can complete relate. Great video Maff, nice to see a bloke speaking about these issues
Im a guy, i have been to counselling back in year 10 at school with a school counselor, i spoke to my school nurse about anxiety, when i had mock exams i had panic attacks for every mock exam and i would have to leave and go to the school nurse, she was really helpful, she contacted the school counselor for me and i talk to her about my depression, suicide, anxiety everything really. Then when I finished school i moved onto CAMHS, i had 3 different counsellors at different times, all of them were called dave😂 I stopped having counselling in September last year, im now 16 almost 17 and everything is literally 95% perfect, i just need a job😂 I volunteer at rspca as an animal care assistant, hopefully that will be my job, and in regards to mental health im all good.
i definitely went through the whole " i've got this under control" thing before seeking help. i think it's a common thing- not being able, for a while, to really gauge if you need or want therapy. therapy is such a strong, adult thing to do in my opinion. adulthood isn't about being able to figure out everything/do everything by yourself- it's about knowing how and when to get help, and how to utilize resources. it's about getting to know yourself and embracing support. i like how you mentioned it feel like steps up a ladder. i really appreciate this video and your honesty, it was encouraging.
A few men I know will really benefit from watching this video. Thank you for putting out a positive message for men going to therapy. It can't have been easy for you but believe me, many men will identify with this and hopefully seek help. x
Mental health is nothing to be ashamed of. I think this video will help lots of other guys because you don't often hear this type of advice from men. Well done Maff loved it.
My doctor has recently advised me to try Therapy but I am too scared and nervous to go. Im really struggling with sharing things and it's good to hear it's not just me either. Thank you for this video Matthew. X
I loved this topic. I'm thinking about going to therapy as well because of my anxiety. Good for you for taking this step :) shows how strong and mature you are.
Really glad you made this video. I went to my first counselling session on Friday and have been worried about the taboo surrounding it (haven't told my family). Took me a long time to muster up the courage to go, and I feel like this video has just 10000% reinforced that it was the right thing to do. Thank you!
It was obvious you were not happy a few months ago on Helens Vids. Only in a few. You're a top bloke and this proves that you are by facing your issues. Best of luck mate.
I've been going to therapy on and off since I was 14 and I am now 20. I've had to start going once a week because of recent events. Its not something to be ashamed of because sometimes we just need someone's advice or a 3rd party who doesn't know you to help you with issues! I'm very proud of you for taking that step :) Good job Matthew!!!
Thank you so much for doing this video Maff. You are so right in the sense that guys do not speak about stuff like this enough, its amazing that you've shared your story. I go through similar feelings regarding anxiety and mine comes out as irritation and anger, its a struggle but I've been on the fence about therapy for years due to the price. You've just made my mind up for me! Thanks mate x
Hi Matthew, I can't even tell you how incredible it is to watch and listen to this video about your experiences with therapy. I feel like there's this huge stigma surrounding guys talking about how they're feeling which clearly leads to a lot of issues with mental health. I'm really sad to say that my brother committed suicide last week (just writing that feels really odd), and I just feel like if he'd talked to somebody about how he was feeling this wouldn't have happened. Thank you so much for expressing the importance of talking to people, and releasing the stigma surrounding mental health. It's so important and hopefully your contribution will help a lot of people. Love you and Helen loads, Katie
I've been against therapy for years but seeing this video has suddenly made me feel like I should start at least looking into it/considering it, thanks maff!
Pixie Eames I actually really liked therapy growing up. I wasn't troubled but I did have my occasional troubles and problems (just like everyone) but sometimes it's good just to chat to someone about yourself and honestly listen, what you like what your goals are even if it's all a bunch of positive stuff. You come out with a clearer mind every time.
I loved your openness and bravery in making this video. I work in this sector and it is by no means easy for men to address any difficulties they might have. By putting this out there you're being a brilliant example to others for getting support, keep up the self discovery work it's so important 🖤
There's is a documentary about toxic masculinity called The Mask You Live In and it's about how boys are taught to never talk about feelings and grow up to be prone to violence. It's great, your vid reminded me of it! You should watch, maybe it can help you a bit :) (it's on Netflix here in Brazil, not sure about U.K.)
I love this video so much. I am currently training to be a counsellor and there is not many people will talk about there problems. or talk about them going to therapy. thank you so much for taking your time to record this and put it out there. it makes us counsellors feel we are doing the right thing and opening people eyes to emotions and mental health.
Really respect you for sharing this and being honest. as someone who works in the healthcare industry, I am SO glad that you have found such a good, caring therapist who will go above and beyond. :)
The first step is realising and admitting you're not happy or not in a good place. People can tell you to do things but it's all up to you, yourself. Quite admirable that you can talk about it, especially to a bigger audience. Social media gives this false representation that peoples lives are perfect and fun. That's why when I get anxiety I don't use my phone. I don't open FB or IG because it just makes it worse. Movies, tv shows and/or books help me. Being alone and just not thinking about other people also makes it better for me. Everyone definitely has different coping mechanisms, just best to find out what fits you.
'Helloooo and welcome back! Umm I missed ya' 😂 Maff I do love your introductions! You're the most adorable male TH-camr ever 😊 We all ❤ watching you, I do anyway, you generally make my day when I watch you, you just bring happiness xo
Keep going Maff! You're doing really well by the sounds of it. I went to therapy last year for 6 weeks and I'm so much happier and calmer now! It improved my life and happiness. Thank you for making this video, it will help so many people.
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with depression for a lot of years and I believe that the world needs to understand that it's a problem with a solution. I'm glad that you're better
Making and posting a video like this takes loads of courage for anyone, but I do see how much harder it can be for men/masculine people. Absolutely well done! Best
I love how you're pro-therapy. Theres an awful stigma with Therapy and the people who go to it. I've gone, and I am all about it too. I don't know why society *sometimes* looks down at going to see someone as a weakness. Good luck to you in your mental health journey! Wishing you all good things.
Thank you so much for this video! My other half is just starting therapy with his anxiety and it's so nice to see someone recommending it and that he's not alone 😘
So glad you shared about part of your journey Matt. It's something (I personally believe) males (& females) need to share about, because it helps others to see that it's not "weakness" getting help. It's "bettering" yourself....and helping you (& others) on your journey. Good on ya mate ☺️
Talking about it is great. I think a lot of guys, myself included, hold back and dont speak the truth and then you get angry and feel tense, but its more frustration from bottling it up constantly. I've done that for most of my life and its not good, and now the last year or so i try talking about my feelings more and it has helped massively. Good on ya Matty!
Agree with Helen that this was a GREAT video to make. Matthew, so many men feel stigma about seeing a therapist and it's really re-enforced in our society. Every story matters and I'm sure this video will help people. Your anxiety story is so much more like mine than most anxiety stories. Ever since I've talked to someone I've really found more happiness in my life. Happy you're getting there, too.
I went to therapy when I was 14. There were a lot of things I was going through at the time and it took a while to finally admit to myself and my mom that I needed to talk to someone professional about it. Having someone unbiased and nonjudgmental to talk to is the most helpful thing in the world. Good for you for taking the step 👍🏻
Love the honesty in this. Will be showing to my boyfriend when I get home, as he's been having problems over the last twelve months with bereavement and mental health. It's a hard topic to talk about, lots of respect to you for doing it!
Thank you for this! This is so important! It's helped me understand and think of better ways to help my boyfriend who's been going through a similar situation and I've never been too sure on how to help! Men deserve sympathy and to cry every so often too! I hope this makes him realise he's not alone!
Good lad! I've been through the same thing mate due to my set backs with my head and it really effected my work in a big way and enough for me to lose sight of a few important things and people aswell, the first step is knowing yourself and like you said it almost brings comfort to know it can be worked on and its not alone, and with what you said about site work i totally agree like it was always quite an angry place for me aswel mate and not much respect thrown around and alot of stress for other kinds of workers trying to work, but yeah stay well mate and keep up the good work.
thank you for this video! i've been in and out of therapy for years and it's never something i really wanted to be open about but over the past few months i've come to the realisation that there's no shame in doing what you can to help yourself. i think it's especially hard for men because there's such a stigma around mental illness in men, to the point where men are afraid of going to therapy because of people viewing them as fragile less masculine. really really great that you've decided to put this out into the world, thanks for fighting the stigma ❤
My boyfriend struggles with his mental health & he's finally gone to the GP to get help, I'm so proud of him as I know the first step to trying to get help is always the hardest bit.. Thank you for making this video, mental health is such an important subject that needs to be normalised & talked about way more.
Happy that you're taking care of yourself! I've gone to therapy for a year and a half and it has absolutely changed my perspective and undoubtedly my life!
I so get you Matthew. I've been going to therapy for my severe anxiety and depression since December 2015. It took me a long, long time to actually talk about it. I'm not going to therapy as frequently as I got better, but talking about it was somehow like a therapy in itself :)
I can relate to everything u say maff , I had to get help for my anger and like to think I'm a lot better with the help I've been given . Admitting to anger and anxiety is the first step forward. Keep up the good work and I'm a big fan of yours and Helen's vids 👍🏻👏😉
I really appreciate the fact that you decided to share this with us, I've been in your same situation from half a year now and I think that going to the therapist is really helping. Wishing you the best 😘
Wow I truly hope that you'll inspire other men and women to be more open minded like you had to be. I've been hesitating to go in therapy for my anxiety and now I'm ready to go after seeing this video. Thank you!
I got up and hugged you through the computer screen when I watched this video - it's so fucking cool. I've also sought help with anxiety last year after suffering from it for most of my life. When you find what works for you it's like looking at life through new eyes. So important for young people, especially guys, to spread this message!
bravo to you Maff for speaking out. I go to private counselling to deal with my past/depression/anxiety. Iv been trying to convince my husband who is 28 to go as I feel it will really benefit our marriage. We met, got married and had a baby very quickly and then he had a serious road accident that really affected our relationship. He shut off and isn't realise that talking it through with a stranger could help. He's finally agreed to give it a go and iv showed him this video which has really helped. thanks Matthew x
Thanks Matthew for the video!! I am still in doubt whether I want to go into therapy because of the struggles I have. In one way or another you have encouraged me to take the step!
I started therapy a year ago due to anxiety and clinical depression. When I think back to my first session and how I was then I realise just how much I was struggling, and in ways I never realised. I've now also been diagnosed with OCD, but I at least know myself better now and my therapist is equipping me with the tools I need to deal with my problems. Thank you for talking about this and letting people know that it's OK to seek help. I believe that everyone should try therapy at some point in their life, whether they have mental health issues or not. Everyone needs someone to talk to.
I've been going to therapy on and off for quite a few years and honestly its nothing to be embarrassed about. I respect you for being honest about it, keep ploughing on Maff :)
This video is so important, thank you for being brave enough to share your experience and to urge other men that it is ok to seek help and that therapy can be very helpful. My husband also deals with severe anger issues due to childhood trauma and we have been discussing therapy for awhile now, but since it didn't help him when he was younger he is hesitant to try it again. I can't wait to show him this and see if it would be a push in the right direction! To show him that it can work if you are open and willing to work on yourself.
Thank you for this video, it was incredibly brave of you to share and really helpful to listen to. Glad things are on the up and I hope that they continue to improve for both you and Helen especially with a wedding to plan (please don't let that get on top of you!) GOOD LUCK x
Matthew this took a lot of courage. Thank you for raising awareness by not only focusing on mental health, but anxiety. I have been dealing with anxiety since I was twelve. Everyone always said it was "in my head". Truth is it is in your head and therapy can help you find better ways of dealing with it. Getting help is not a sign of weakness as some are led to believe its a sign of strength. Knowing somethings got to change and doing something about it! Great Job!
I suffer bad with anxiety but have never done anything about it... I am too embarrassed to. But I am slowly learning to accept who I am and not be hard on myself. Totally respect your honesty and made me think about what I should do for me. Thanks Maff.
Shizzas La if you're employed, your employer may be part of a network called Inspire. They will pay for 6 counselling sessions, usually CBT. It's definitely worth it, trust me.
i'm also in therapy for depression, selfdestructive behaviour and anxiety. its slow, so slow, frustrating at times too but eventually we will get there. i've been dealing with this more than half of my life so i have a lot to do to improve. keep it up!
so great to see you've essentially done that hardest thing and seeked help maff ! It's a pretty brave thing to do. Hearing about your struggles at times in your life with anxiety does make me feel better not gonna lie . Anxiety is a very lonely thing . Keep it up , and look forward to more videos from you ! x
My favourite video you've done Maff, really chuffed for you that you're in a comfortable enough place to do this! I can relate so much. Really happy for you that you're getting help!
thank you SO much for making this! i recently got out of a relationship with someone who had similar issues to you and i think he would have benefited so much from just TALKING to someone - and i myself am now thinking of finding a therapist just to help with a few underlying issues ive had over the past few years, it was really helpful to have someone talk about it in a really blase, non-sensationalist way XXX
I think this video is awesome and more people should be honest about going to therapy and how it helps. My boyfriend has suffered with anxiety and depression for years and has recently started going to counselling sessions, it isn't an overnight fix but it is helping. Good on ya both for supporting each other x
I totally understand the suffer, this is so brave. Men are also affected by this shit patriarchal society that we live on "don't show your feelings" you know. Nothing more than positive vibes to you! 🎈
really appreciate your honesty here! and glad to hear you're feeling positive about the therapy! I attended a short cognitive behavioural therapy course for anxiety last year through the wellbeing service in norwich and it was the best decision I made all year! helped me so much. and the therapist inspired me to look into becoming one myself, so now i'm hoping to do my masters degree in art therapy :) definitely believe that if anyone feels they could benefit from some form of therapy they should give it a go
I relate to this video SO MUCH on a personal level. I've suffered from symptoms of both anxiety and depression since the age of 14 (I say symptoms because I haven't been diagnosed with depression). I'm now 19- and I only started going to counselling and seeing a mental health about these issues a month ago. Like you, I'm extremely stubborn and find it difficult to reach out and talk to people about my issues, as well as recognising their is a problem. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't, but it's better than nothing. Thank you for making this video, makes me feel like I'm not the only stubborn git who just wants to troop along until things do get really bad x
So much respect 💖 Mental illnesses are the pits but recognising you have a problem and making the steps to help yourself is so fucking hard! So well done for addressing it ☺ Here's to a happier and healthier future for you x
I totally get what you mean about anxiety, before I went to my counsellor I didn't realise I'd had it since I was about 5/6 years old! It's crazy but makes you feel so much better once you can explain what's been going on. Wishing you the best
Well done maff, very good video to do. So difficult to talk about but so vital to share. This will make a huge difference to someone, that you just don't understand. If only more people told their stories and open up. Best of luck man!
Sometimes anger and sadness get the best of me. Thank you so much for sharing this video. it certainly helps me realize that there's other people out there that are sympatico with my feels on talking about my problems. I feel more likely to go talk to someone instead of iternalizing my feelings now. Thank you.
its so important that you made this video, because its going to help so many men who are reluctant to get help find the courage to go and get help. ot enough men talk about mental illness, yet men still hurt and suffer. good on you maff, we're all very proud of you.
So proud of you Maff! Ive recently just finished my sessions, went in thinking i just had general anxiety, came out diagnosed with general anxiety, depression and OCD aha! But i feel sooooo much better now, therapy really does help!
Really good video, I suffer terrible with aniexty at times and drive the people round me mad when I'm having an episode. Well done you for talking openly about it!
You are one amazing man! me and my partner just watched this and he needs therapy as he has depression and anxiety and he filled up watching this and he does not do this, and he is going go to therapy! thank you, and good luck on your journey darling x
Its so important to talk about mens mental health as well as women's! well done as opening up, its very brave of you, be proud of yourself for recognising a problem and getting help :)
Thank you for doing this video Matthew. It takes quite a few sessions to find out the truth. So please everybody, don't give up if you've just started therapy. As Matthew says, there is plenty of time.
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Never feel embarrassed about needing help. The first step in improvement is knowing and accepting something is wrong. I'm happy for you, wishing the best.
Big props for sharing this man, not enough of us guys seek help when we really need it, wishing you all the best man
Been going with KL for the last 6 months. Self improvement is never a bad idea, and everyone wins. 💕🙌
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I am so glad that you made this video! It is so important for men to realise that asking for help is bloody alright! And I'm really happy to hear that you're doing well!
Hi there, My wife sent me this video and I'm familiar with you and Helen and I just wanted to say thank you. I have many of the same problems and this has inspired me to finally get some help. really. thank you :)
Great video, admitting you need someone to talk to (put it that way!) is the hardest part, even more so for men. Good on you for posting this!
Alisha J I didn't want to broadcast it too much. Only if you're interested in what I have to say.
Matthew Taylor Completely understand, its very personal, but it is important what you have to say. Keeping your mind healthy is important! Wishing you the best
It's so important that men talk about these things! This will help SO MANY people. I do a bit of work with a mental health charity and we always try to make an effort to reach out to men more, I'm sure sharing this video will have a brilliantly positive impact. :)
Leanne Rose couldn't agree more
As someone who has suffered from depression/anxiety, I can't speak highly enough about counselling & therapy. Speaking to a 'stranger' is so much easier and they're not afraid to tell you what you need to hear. I spent 12yrs in a career where admitting your weaknesses wasn't the done thing, so can complete relate. Great video Maff, nice to see a bloke speaking about these issues
This is so important! Well done, we need to open up about mental health and mens emotions more! Great work Maff! No man is an island! 👌💪👊❤
Im a guy, i have been to counselling back in year 10 at school with a school counselor, i spoke to my school nurse about anxiety, when i had mock exams i had panic attacks for every mock exam and i would have to leave and go to the school nurse, she was really helpful, she contacted the school counselor for me and i talk to her about my depression, suicide, anxiety everything really. Then when I finished school i moved onto CAMHS, i had 3 different counsellors at different times, all of them were called dave😂 I stopped having counselling in September last year, im now 16 almost 17 and everything is literally 95% perfect, i just need a job😂 I volunteer at rspca as an animal care assistant, hopefully that will be my job, and in regards to mental health im all good.
i definitely went through the whole " i've got this under control" thing before seeking help. i think it's a common thing- not being able, for a while, to really gauge if you need or want therapy. therapy is such a strong, adult thing to do in my opinion. adulthood isn't about being able to figure out everything/do everything by yourself- it's about knowing how and when to get help, and how to utilize resources. it's about getting to know yourself and embracing support. i like how you mentioned it feel like steps up a ladder. i really appreciate this video and your honesty, it was encouraging.
Respect your honesty maff, an interesting, thought-provoking vid.
A few men I know will really benefit from watching this video. Thank you for putting out a positive message for men going to therapy. It can't have been easy for you but believe me, many men will identify with this and hopefully seek help. x
a strong man isn't afraid to talk about his feelings and what is going on in his head! good on you Maff!!
Mental health is nothing to be ashamed of. I think this video will help lots of other guys because you don't often hear this type of advice from men. Well done Maff loved it.
My doctor has recently advised me to try Therapy but I am too scared and nervous to go. Im really struggling with sharing things and it's good to hear it's not just me either. Thank you for this video Matthew. X
I loved this topic. I'm thinking about going to therapy as well because of my anxiety. Good for you for taking this step :) shows how strong and mature you are.
Really glad you made this video. I went to my first counselling session on Friday and have been worried about the taboo surrounding it (haven't told my family). Took me a long time to muster up the courage to go, and I feel like this video has just 10000% reinforced that it was the right thing to do. Thank you!
It was obvious you were not happy a few months ago on Helens Vids. Only in a few. You're a top bloke and this proves that you are by facing your issues. Best of luck mate.
Massive respect for sharing this Matthew.
Big respect for speaking up on such an important topic maff! Even this one video could help someone struggling. You are ace X
Such a great video, wishing you and Helen the best of luck!
I've been going to therapy on and off since I was 14 and I am now 20. I've had to start going once a week because of recent events. Its not something to be ashamed of because sometimes we just need someone's advice or a 3rd party who doesn't know you to help you with issues! I'm very proud of you for taking that step :) Good job Matthew!!!
Thank you so much for doing this video Maff. You are so right in the sense that guys do not speak about stuff like this enough, its amazing that you've shared your story. I go through similar feelings regarding anxiety and mine comes out as irritation and anger, its a struggle but I've been on the fence about therapy for years due to the price. You've just made my mind up for me! Thanks mate x
Hi Matthew,
I can't even tell you how incredible it is to watch and listen to this video about your experiences with therapy. I feel like there's this huge stigma surrounding guys talking about how they're feeling which clearly leads to a lot of issues with mental health. I'm really sad to say that my brother committed suicide last week (just writing that feels really odd), and I just feel like if he'd talked to somebody about how he was feeling this wouldn't have happened. Thank you so much for expressing the importance of talking to people, and releasing the stigma surrounding mental health. It's so important and hopefully your contribution will help a lot of people.
Love you and Helen loads,
Katie
I've been against therapy for years but seeing this video has suddenly made me feel like I should start at least looking into it/considering it, thanks maff!
Same here, I've never been against it but thought I didn't need it...
Pixie Eames I actually really liked therapy growing up. I wasn't troubled but I did have my occasional troubles and problems (just like everyone) but sometimes it's good just to chat to someone about yourself and honestly listen, what you like what your goals are even if it's all a bunch of positive stuff. You come out with a clearer mind every time.
Well done Matthew, for speaking up about this! You're a legend!
Well done maf!! Takes a lot for someone to talk about stuff like this (and like you said especially for men) inspiring 💖
I loved your openness and bravery in making this video. I work in this sector and it is by no means easy for men to address any difficulties they might have. By putting this out there you're being a brilliant example to others for getting support, keep up the self discovery work it's so important 🖤
There's is a documentary about toxic masculinity called The Mask You Live In and it's about how boys are taught to never talk about feelings and grow up to be prone to violence. It's great, your vid reminded me of it! You should watch, maybe it can help you a bit :) (it's on Netflix here in Brazil, not sure about U.K.)
I love this video so much. I am currently training to be a counsellor and there is not many people will talk about there problems. or talk about them going to therapy. thank you so much for taking your time to record this and put it out there. it makes us counsellors feel we are doing the right thing and opening people eyes to emotions and mental health.
Well done maff! This is so refreshing to see a man saying "hey I need abit of help"
Really respect you for sharing this and being honest. as someone who works in the healthcare industry, I am SO glad that you have found such a good, caring therapist who will go above and beyond. :)
I appreciate that you're making these types of vids! TH-cam needs more videos like these
So much respect for sharing. Never feel you're the only one, so many people have the same struggles. Just talking will help, I'm so pleased for you.
Very personal video to make!! Videos like this help other people so much more than you know. Thank you for being so raw and honest
The first step is realising and admitting you're not happy or not in a good place. People can tell you to do things but it's all up to you, yourself. Quite admirable that you can talk about it, especially to a bigger audience.
Social media gives this false representation that peoples lives are perfect and fun. That's why when I get anxiety I don't use my phone. I don't open FB or IG because it just makes it worse. Movies, tv shows and/or books help me. Being alone and just not thinking about other people also makes it better for me. Everyone definitely has different coping mechanisms, just best to find out what fits you.
'Helloooo and welcome back! Umm I missed ya' 😂
Maff I do love your introductions! You're the most adorable male TH-camr ever 😊
We all ❤ watching you, I do anyway, you generally make my day when I watch you, you just bring happiness xo
Fair play, to talk about this, no harm in asking for help, I've gone to counselling and it's so beneficial, to have that neutral person
Keep going Maff! You're doing really well by the sounds of it. I went to therapy last year for 6 weeks and I'm so much happier and calmer now! It improved my life and happiness. Thank you for making this video, it will help so many people.
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with depression for a lot of years and I believe that the world needs to understand that it's a problem with a solution.
I'm glad that you're better
Making and posting a video like this takes loads of courage for anyone, but I do see how much harder it can be for men/masculine people. Absolutely well done! Best
I love how you're pro-therapy. Theres an awful stigma with Therapy and the people who go to it. I've gone, and I am all about it too. I don't know why society *sometimes* looks down at going to see someone as a weakness.
Good luck to you in your mental health journey! Wishing you all good things.
Thank you so much for this video! My other half is just starting therapy with his anxiety and it's so nice to see someone recommending it and that he's not alone 😘
So glad you shared about part of your journey Matt. It's something (I personally believe) males (& females) need to share about, because it helps others to see that it's not "weakness" getting help. It's "bettering" yourself....and helping you (& others) on your journey. Good on ya mate ☺️
Talking about it is great. I think a lot of guys, myself included, hold back and dont speak the truth and then you get angry and feel tense, but its more frustration from bottling it up constantly. I've done that for most of my life and its not good, and now the last year or so i try talking about my feelings more and it has helped massively. Good on ya Matty!
Agree with Helen that this was a GREAT video to make. Matthew, so many men feel stigma about seeing a therapist and it's really re-enforced in our society. Every story matters and I'm sure this video will help people. Your anxiety story is so much more like mine than most anxiety stories. Ever since I've talked to someone I've really found more happiness in my life. Happy you're getting there, too.
I went to therapy when I was 14. There were a lot of things I was going through at the time and it took a while to finally admit to myself and my mom that I needed to talk to someone professional about it. Having someone unbiased and nonjudgmental to talk to is the most helpful thing in the world. Good for you for taking the step 👍🏻
You're a good lad maff, we need more fellas to come and be as honest and relatable as you- keep up the therapy and best of luck with it x
This is such an important video which many of us, men and women, needed to see. Thanks Maff
Love the honesty in this. Will be showing to my boyfriend when I get home, as he's been having problems over the last twelve months with bereavement and mental health. It's a hard topic to talk about, lots of respect to you for doing it!
Thank you for this! This is so important! It's helped me understand and think of better ways to help my boyfriend who's been going through a similar situation and I've never been too sure on how to help! Men deserve sympathy and to cry every so often too! I hope this makes him realise he's not alone!
Respect you for talking about it! Noticed something was up when you were in some of Helen's videos
Good lad! I've been through the same thing mate due to my set backs with my head and it really effected my work in a big way and enough for me to lose sight of a few important things and people aswell, the first step is knowing yourself and like you said it almost brings comfort to know it can be worked on and its not alone, and with what you said about site work i totally agree like it was always quite an angry place for me aswel mate and not much respect thrown around and alot of stress for other kinds of workers trying to work, but yeah stay well mate and keep up the good work.
thank you for this video! i've been in and out of therapy for years and it's never something i really wanted to be open about but over the past few months i've come to the realisation that there's no shame in doing what you can to help yourself. i think it's especially hard for men because there's such a stigma around mental illness in men, to the point where men are afraid of going to therapy because of people viewing them as fragile less masculine. really really great that you've decided to put this out into the world, thanks for fighting the stigma ❤
My boyfriend struggles with his mental health & he's finally gone to the GP to get help, I'm so proud of him as I know the first step to trying to get help is always the hardest bit.. Thank you for making this video, mental health is such an important subject that needs to be normalised & talked about way more.
Happy that you're taking care of yourself!
I've gone to therapy for a year and a half and it has absolutely changed my perspective and undoubtedly my life!
I so get you Matthew. I've been going to therapy for my severe anxiety and depression since December 2015. It took me a long, long time to actually talk about it. I'm not going to therapy as frequently as I got better, but talking about it was somehow like a therapy in itself :)
Thank you for putting yourself out there. Men need to know that communication and self reflection is healthy for everyone
I can relate to everything u say maff , I had to get help for my anger and like to think I'm a lot better with the help I've been given . Admitting to anger and anxiety is the first step forward. Keep up the good work and I'm a big fan of yours and Helen's vids 👍🏻👏😉
I have a lot of respect for you, glad everything is getting better
I really appreciate the fact that you decided to share this with us, I've been in your same situation from half a year now and I think that going to the therapist is really helping.
Wishing you the best 😘
Wow I truly hope that you'll inspire other men and women to be more open minded like you had to be. I've been hesitating to go in therapy for my anxiety and now I'm ready to go after seeing this video. Thank you!
I got up and hugged you through the computer screen when I watched this video - it's so fucking cool. I've also sought help with anxiety last year after suffering from it for most of my life. When you find what works for you it's like looking at life through new eyes. So important for young people, especially guys, to spread this message!
Loved this video. My boyfriend has been going to a therapist aswell and loves it. Having that expert outsider advice is worth every penny!!
bravo to you Maff for speaking out. I go to private counselling to deal with my past/depression/anxiety. Iv been trying to convince my husband who is 28 to go as I feel it will really benefit our marriage. We met, got married and had a baby very quickly and then he had a serious road accident that really affected our relationship. He shut off and isn't realise that talking it through with a stranger could help. He's finally agreed to give it a go and iv showed him this video which has really helped. thanks Matthew x
Thanks Matthew for the video!! I am still in doubt whether I want to go into therapy because of the struggles I have. In one way or another you have encouraged me to take the step!
I started therapy a year ago due to anxiety and clinical depression. When I think back to my first session and how I was then I realise just how much I was struggling, and in ways I never realised. I've now also been diagnosed with OCD, but I at least know myself better now and my therapist is equipping me with the tools I need to deal with my problems.
Thank you for talking about this and letting people know that it's OK to seek help. I believe that everyone should try therapy at some point in their life, whether they have mental health issues or not. Everyone needs someone to talk to.
I'm so glad you're using your platform to address these sorts of topics. Speaking out does not compromise your masculinity
I've been going to therapy on and off for quite a few years and honestly its nothing to be embarrassed about. I respect you for being honest about it, keep ploughing on Maff :)
This video is so important, thank you for being brave enough to share your experience and to urge other men that it is ok to seek help and that therapy can be very helpful. My husband also deals with severe anger issues due to childhood trauma and we have been discussing therapy for awhile now, but since it didn't help him when he was younger he is hesitant to try it again. I can't wait to show him this and see if it would be a push in the right direction! To show him that it can work if you are open and willing to work on yourself.
Thank you for this video, it was incredibly brave of you to share and really helpful to listen to. Glad things are on the up and I hope that they continue to improve for both you and Helen especially with a wedding to plan (please don't let that get on top of you!) GOOD LUCK x
I think this is the first time you've spoken to the camera like your talking to a friend 💖 Well done you for biting the bullet and sticking with it.
Matthew this took a lot of courage. Thank you for raising awareness by not only focusing on mental health, but anxiety. I have been dealing with anxiety since I was twelve. Everyone always said it was "in my head". Truth is it is in your head and therapy can help you find better ways of dealing with it. Getting help is not a sign of weakness as some are led to believe its a sign of strength. Knowing somethings got to change and doing something about it! Great Job!
This is so important. Thank you for sharing this Maff.
I have massive respect for you Matthew 👏🏻💪🏻 mental health is so important, therapist is a good thing 😌
Huge respect for this! I suffer from anxiety too and completely relate to how much therapy helps. Good to talk about this stuff 😊
I suffer bad with anxiety but have never done anything about it... I am too embarrassed to. But I am slowly learning to accept who I am and not be hard on myself. Totally respect your honesty and made me think about what I should do for me. Thanks Maff.
Shizzas La if you're employed, your employer may be part of a network called Inspire. They will pay for 6 counselling sessions, usually CBT. It's definitely worth it, trust me.
i'm also in therapy for depression, selfdestructive behaviour and anxiety. its slow, so slow, frustrating at times too but eventually we will get there. i've been dealing with this more than half of my life so i have a lot to do to improve. keep it up!
so great to see you've essentially done that hardest thing and seeked help maff ! It's a pretty brave thing to do. Hearing about your struggles at times in your life with anxiety does make me feel better not gonna lie . Anxiety is a very lonely thing . Keep it up , and look forward to more videos from you ! x
My favourite video you've done Maff, really chuffed for you that you're in a comfortable enough place to do this! I can relate so much. Really happy for you that you're getting help!
thank you SO much for making this! i recently got out of a relationship with someone who had similar issues to you and i think he would have benefited so much from just TALKING to someone - and i myself am now thinking of finding a therapist just to help with a few underlying issues ive had over the past few years, it was really helpful to have someone talk about it in a really blase, non-sensationalist way XXX
I used to go to therapy and have been thinking about going back watching this video has really helped 😊
I think this video is awesome and more people should be honest about going to therapy and how it helps. My boyfriend has suffered with anxiety and depression for years and has recently started going to counselling sessions, it isn't an overnight fix but it is helping. Good on ya both for supporting each other x
I totally understand the suffer, this is so brave.
Men are also affected by this shit patriarchal society that we live on "don't show your feelings" you know.
Nothing more than positive vibes to you! 🎈
really appreciate your honesty here! and glad to hear you're feeling positive about the therapy! I attended a short cognitive behavioural therapy course for anxiety last year through the wellbeing service in norwich and it was the best decision I made all year! helped me so much. and the therapist inspired me to look into becoming one myself, so now i'm hoping to do my masters degree in art therapy :) definitely believe that if anyone feels they could benefit from some form of therapy they should give it a go
I relate to this video SO MUCH on a personal level. I've suffered from symptoms of both anxiety and depression since the age of 14 (I say symptoms because I haven't been diagnosed with depression). I'm now 19- and I only started going to counselling and seeing a mental health about these issues a month ago. Like you, I'm extremely stubborn and find it difficult to reach out and talk to people about my issues, as well as recognising their is a problem. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't, but it's better than nothing. Thank you for making this video, makes me feel like I'm not the only stubborn git who just wants to troop along until things do get really bad x
So much respect 💖 Mental illnesses are the pits but recognising you have a problem and making the steps to help yourself is so fucking hard! So well done for addressing it ☺ Here's to a happier and healthier future for you x
I totally get what you mean about anxiety, before I went to my counsellor I didn't realise I'd had it since I was about 5/6 years old! It's crazy but makes you feel so much better once you can explain what's been going on. Wishing you the best
Well done maff, very good video to do. So difficult to talk about but so vital to share. This will make a huge difference to someone, that you just don't understand. If only more people told their stories and open up. Best of luck man!
Sometimes anger and sadness get the best of me. Thank you so much for sharing this video. it certainly helps me realize that there's other people out there that are sympatico with my feels on talking about my problems. I feel more likely to go talk to someone instead of iternalizing my feelings now. Thank you.
Sending the link to this video to my mate asap, he needs to hear this, such an important message. Must have take so much courage, well said :)
its so important that you made this video, because its going to help so many men who are reluctant to get help find the courage to go and get help. ot enough men talk about mental illness, yet men still hurt and suffer. good on you maff, we're all very proud of you.
So proud of you Maff! Ive recently just finished my sessions, went in thinking i just had general anxiety, came out diagnosed with general anxiety, depression and OCD aha! But i feel sooooo much better now, therapy really does help!
Really good video, I suffer terrible with aniexty at times and drive the people round me mad when I'm having an episode. Well done you for talking openly about it!
You are one amazing man! me and my partner just watched this and he needs therapy as he has depression and anxiety and he filled up watching this and he does not do this, and he is going go to therapy! thank you, and good luck on your journey darling x
I'm proud of you. I hope it gets better and you manage to get through it! It's a good step to take.
I dont know you. But Im so proud of you! You are amazing for doing this video. It must have been so hard... Lots of love from Denmark!
Its so important to talk about mens mental health as well as women's! well done as opening up, its very brave of you, be proud of yourself for recognising a problem and getting help :)
Thank you for doing this video Matthew. It takes quite a few sessions to find out the truth. So please everybody, don't give up if you've just started therapy. As Matthew says, there is plenty of time.