I think it’s amazing that you’re talking about this Tim. I’ve found that derealisation is one of the most difficult side effects to deal with when experiencing high anxiety and depression. It’s deeply uncomfortable and unnerving. What makes this worse is that most of the information about derealisation online seems to suggest that this is a psychological disorder that requires medical attention. Not what you need when you’re already anxious and depressed! It’s great to finally come across someone who is able to normalise the experience and remind people that it’s okay, and that it’s a rational neurological response. With time and acceptance, I’ve always found that derealisation dissipates on its own. Thank you Tim.
David, I think you're spot on with that last sentence. It's ironic that the thing that is demanding our attention goes away when we pay it less attention, but that is SO often the case with anxiety as a whole. The more we focus on the symptom the more we amplify it. Thank you for this comment. I'm glad the message in this one resonates.
It's Absoulute hell and the fear and anxiety it creates is why you wake up into consciousness and fret about it still being there because it feels so terrible.
Hi Char. I totally get how disturbing it can be. Take solace from the fact that this feeling can't hurt you and isn't a sign of there being anything wrong with you. You will get the other side.
I see a lot of people suggesting that ignoring DPDR can make it's symptoms go away/subside but I don't feel that's true. I didn't even know the disorder existed until a few months ago but I've been experiencing several fairly severe symptoms for about 10+ years now. (Age 16-26) I struggle mostly with brain fog, memory gaps (both short and long), detachment and what feels like a perpetual struggle to grasp onto reality. Constantly wanting to appreciate life but simultaneously feeling like it's slipping past me.
I totally get what you're saying. It's not purely about ignoring the symptoms. DPDR starts because we feel under threat and dissociation is our mind's way of protecting us from the overwhelming nature of that experience. Unfortunately the derealisation can be so disorienting that it becomes the main thing that then makes us feel under threat. The two aspects of recovering from DPDR are understanding that any derealisation response is nothing to be concerned about but ALSO reducing our general anxiety levels that caused it in the first place. Hope this helps.
Hey Tim, thank you for this video - and all your videos. I haven’t watched them all yet, but each time I watch something, I cry - but in a good way, like I feel relieved and understood. Thank you ❤️
Thank you so so much for this video and in particular the video how to stop panic attacks. I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks for years and recently it’s been unbearable. I’ve tried talk therapy, CBD natural supplements medications etc. with no relief. I searched videos during a recent panic attack in an attempt to help myself and your videos have been unbelievably helpful. I watch this and the panic video often when I feel the dying sensations of panic attacks and you’ve instilled in me an incredible amount of peace. I come to rewatch these videos and I cannot explain to you how much you’ve helped me. I can now rely less and be less of a burden to people around me with your help and understanding of why I feel the way I do and how the brain works. Thank you a million times over. No words can suffice. Thank you. God bless you.
So sorry to hear you've been struggling, but I'm so glad the videos are proving helpful. It's a wonderful feeling when we recognise there has been a shift in our responses (even the small ones count!). It proves to us that these feelings are not permanent and that we can make changes. Once we're heading in the right direction it's surprising how quickly we gain positive momentum. :)
Hi Tim thanks for sharing this video I have this happen too me on a regular basis sometimes i don't realise I'm doing it but I've asked my family people who I work with closely to tell me if I do this it scares me when it happens but this Video has helped me make sense of this as a long term suffering from depression and anxiety and the past few years I feel the pandemic has made it become more regularly
The pandemic has made it a lot harder for so many people. Sometimes the best we can do is simply accept that things will naturally become easier and simpler as we progress out the other side. Also, it's worth realising how well we are doing, even in the face of these challenges. Hope these thoughts help.
My symptoms all started from my first panic attack and then a loop of fear , headaches , dpdr , vision issues such as light sensitivity , once I got ahold of it it got a bit better to manage now working on accepting and calming my nerves … I often wonder how common light sensitivity is 🧐
hello tim, i have a few doubts. kindly answer 1- dp/dr is so distressing that i find it very very difficult to maintain my calm when i feel it 2- after dp/dr i almost get panic attack because i feel so sad i have to go through things like these in my life 3-since the experience is so distressing, (unlike other anxiety symptoms) i am in perpetual fear that i will it again- which leads to self fulling prophecy. 4- i get this like an intrusive thought even in the moments i dont expect or not anxious. 5- lastly since it is an normal anxiety response should i expect it comes every time i feel anxious - since in my case it is comes out of nowhere i think the biggest issue is the first one. kindly help- HOW TO MAKE PEACE WITH THIS RESPONSE,
What if your life is stopped bc of it? Left dysfunctional?! The symptoms leave it impossible to live. Fear and terror pouring through the body. Can't drive etc
Is it possible that those symptoms are now what you most fear? It can be 'one step at a time' stuff but when we accept that as horrible as our symptoms are they won't kill us and will pass, those symptoms start to diminish. Yes, they may take us to the extremes of discomfort, but when we realise we CAN handle that discomfort the fear starts to dissipate. I realise that we can sometimes be in a place where things seem hopeless. Please know they aren't. Keep going and you will come out the other side.
@@TimBoxMindCoach my body has frozen in terror. Neurologically and vision way offline. Different than fearing the experience itself. Now that has subsided and my brain is completely disoriented, foggy etc. Hypervigilance to the environment too. Not looking for things. The nervous system just reacting.
What do you think about erectile dysfunction occurring during this process/anxiety in general? Seem to have issues with it which is odd considering my age. Been struggling with dpdr for years currently, with anxiety being the main underlying problem of course, only finding out what dpdr is early this year.
Any anxiety issues will inevitably have a knock on physical effect. We don't perform well sexually (if at all) when we feel under threat. In that moment our body isn't trying to reproduce, it's trying to survive. In these instances ED isn't a separate problem in itself, it's more a natural and understandable symptom of high anxiety.
Hi Tim I am struggling with this been going on for months I hate it it makes me feel as if nothing is real anymore I'm missing my family I feel distant from them in a world of myown all the time and feeling dizzy and scared please help me thank you 🙏 😢
June, so sorry to hear what you've been going through. Rest assured this experience is harmless and ultimately finite. Whilst it can be difficult to do when we feel so strange if you can put your focus on the day to day activities and allow the feeling to exist alongside those then we minimise any fear. Once the fear subsides the feeling diminishes as we come back down from our threat response. Hang in there. This will pass.
@@TimBoxMindCoach thank you for your reply 🙏 I will try to do the things you mentioned I'm struggling very badly with anxiety and think it's making me more in tune to the stranger feelings of detachment from reality I'm so grateful for you help thank so much God bless you keep up the good work that you are doing helping people like me 🙏
Without knowing the specific details of what you're going through my general advice is always to recognise that the symptoms are in no way threatening. They can't harm you and you won't go mad or damage your mind by experiencing them. The reason you have no distance between yourself and the symptoms is because something about them seems immediate and impossible to ignore. Your mind is putting them into high focus and ringing the alarm bell about them. The problem is not the DPDR symptoms, it's how alarmed you are becoming about them. Accepting symptoms is not about accepting they will be here forever. It's about accepting they are here now. We can do that once we realise they pose no threat. Then this experience might still be unpleasant or undesirable, but it no longer scares us and therefore no longer engulfs us. Sorry to hear what you are going through and I hope these thoughts help.
I think it’s amazing that you’re talking about this Tim.
I’ve found that derealisation is one of the most difficult side effects to deal with when experiencing high anxiety and depression. It’s deeply uncomfortable and unnerving.
What makes this worse is that most of the information about derealisation online seems to suggest that this is a psychological disorder that requires medical attention. Not what you need when you’re already anxious and depressed!
It’s great to finally come across someone who is able to normalise the experience and remind people that it’s okay, and that it’s a rational neurological response. With time and acceptance, I’ve always found that derealisation dissipates on its own.
Thank you Tim.
David, I think you're spot on with that last sentence. It's ironic that the thing that is demanding our attention goes away when we pay it less attention, but that is SO often the case with anxiety as a whole. The more we focus on the symptom the more we amplify it.
Thank you for this comment. I'm glad the message in this one resonates.
It's Absoulute hell and the fear and anxiety it creates is why you wake up into consciousness and fret about it still being there because it feels so terrible.
Hi Char. I totally get how disturbing it can be. Take solace from the fact that this feeling can't hurt you and isn't a sign of there being anything wrong with you. You will get the other side.
I see a lot of people suggesting that ignoring DPDR can make it's symptoms go away/subside but I don't feel that's true. I didn't even know the disorder existed until a few months ago but I've been experiencing several fairly severe symptoms for about 10+ years now. (Age 16-26)
I struggle mostly with brain fog, memory gaps (both short and long), detachment and what feels like a perpetual struggle to grasp onto reality. Constantly wanting to appreciate life but simultaneously feeling like it's slipping past me.
I totally get what you're saying.
It's not purely about ignoring the symptoms. DPDR starts because we feel under threat and dissociation is our mind's way of protecting us from the overwhelming nature of that experience. Unfortunately the derealisation can be so disorienting that it becomes the main thing that then makes us feel under threat.
The two aspects of recovering from DPDR are understanding that any derealisation response is nothing to be concerned about but ALSO reducing our general anxiety levels that caused it in the first place.
Hope this helps.
Hey Tim, thank you for this video - and all your videos. I haven’t watched them all yet, but each time I watch something, I cry - but in a good way, like I feel relieved and understood. Thank you ❤️
Thank you. I'm so glad they are helping.
Thank you so so much for this video and in particular the video how to stop panic attacks. I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks for years and recently it’s been unbearable. I’ve tried talk therapy, CBD natural supplements medications etc. with no relief. I searched videos during a recent panic attack in an attempt to help myself and your videos have been unbelievably helpful. I watch this and the panic video often when I feel the dying sensations of panic attacks and you’ve instilled in me an incredible amount of peace. I come to rewatch these videos and I cannot explain to you how much you’ve helped me. I can now rely less and be less of a burden to people around me with your help and understanding of why I feel the way I do and how the brain works. Thank you a million times over. No words can suffice. Thank you. God bless you.
So sorry to hear you've been struggling, but I'm so glad the videos are proving helpful. It's a wonderful feeling when we recognise there has been a shift in our responses (even the small ones count!). It proves to us that these feelings are not permanent and that we can make changes. Once we're heading in the right direction it's surprising how quickly we gain positive momentum. :)
Hi Tim thanks for sharing this video I have this happen too me on a regular basis sometimes i don't realise I'm doing it but I've asked my family people who I work with closely to tell me if I do this it scares me when it happens but this Video has helped me make sense of this as a long term suffering from depression and anxiety and the past few years I feel the pandemic has made it become more regularly
The pandemic has made it a lot harder for so many people. Sometimes the best we can do is simply accept that things will naturally become easier and simpler as we progress out the other side. Also, it's worth realising how well we are doing, even in the face of these challenges.
Hope these thoughts help.
She shouldn’t give a shit about it. Wise words.
If only I'd thought of putting it that way. ;)
Thanks Tim.
Awesome video good sir , thank you
Thank you. :)
My symptoms all started from my first panic attack and then a loop of fear , headaches , dpdr , vision issues such as light sensitivity , once I got ahold of it it got a bit better to manage now working on accepting and calming my nerves … I often wonder how common light sensitivity is 🧐
Hi Tim what's your thoughts on kahns comments below as this is most like my experience x thanks
hello tim, i have a few doubts. kindly answer
1- dp/dr is so distressing that i find it very very difficult to maintain my calm when i feel it
2- after dp/dr i almost get panic attack because i feel so sad i have to go through things like these in my life
3-since the experience is so distressing, (unlike other anxiety symptoms) i am in perpetual fear that i will it again- which leads to self fulling prophecy.
4- i get this like an intrusive thought even in the moments i dont expect or not anxious.
5- lastly since it is an normal anxiety response should i expect it comes every time i feel anxious - since in my case it is comes out of nowhere
i think the biggest issue is the first one. kindly help- HOW TO MAKE PEACE WITH THIS RESPONSE,
What if your life is stopped bc of it? Left dysfunctional?!
The symptoms leave it impossible to live.
Fear and terror pouring through the body.
Can't drive etc
Is it possible that those symptoms are now what you most fear?
It can be 'one step at a time' stuff but when we accept that as horrible as our symptoms are they won't kill us and will pass, those symptoms start to diminish. Yes, they may take us to the extremes of discomfort, but when we realise we CAN handle that discomfort the fear starts to dissipate.
I realise that we can sometimes be in a place where things seem hopeless. Please know they aren't. Keep going and you will come out the other side.
@@TimBoxMindCoach my body has frozen in terror. Neurologically and vision way offline. Different than fearing the experience itself.
Now that has subsided and my brain is completely disoriented, foggy etc.
Hypervigilance to the environment too.
Not looking for things. The nervous system just reacting.
What do you think about erectile dysfunction occurring during this process/anxiety in general? Seem to have issues with it which is odd considering my age. Been struggling with dpdr for years currently, with anxiety being the main underlying problem of course, only finding out what dpdr is early this year.
Any anxiety issues will inevitably have a knock on physical effect. We don't perform well sexually (if at all) when we feel under threat.
In that moment our body isn't trying to reproduce, it's trying to survive. In these instances ED isn't a separate problem in itself, it's more a natural and understandable symptom of high anxiety.
Hi Tim I am struggling with this been going on for months I hate it it makes me feel as if nothing is real anymore I'm missing my family I feel distant from them in a world of myown all the time and feeling dizzy and scared please help me thank you 🙏 😢
June, so sorry to hear what you've been going through.
Rest assured this experience is harmless and ultimately finite.
Whilst it can be difficult to do when we feel so strange if you can put your focus on the day to day activities and allow the feeling to exist alongside those then we minimise any fear. Once the fear subsides the feeling diminishes as we come back down from our threat response.
Hang in there. This will pass.
@@TimBoxMindCoach thank you for your reply 🙏 I will try to do the things you mentioned I'm struggling very badly with anxiety and think it's making me more in tune to the stranger feelings of detachment from reality I'm so grateful for you help thank so much God bless you keep up the good work that you are doing helping people like me 🙏
I am drowning and attached to symptoms. I feel there is no distance between me and them. How do I get myself out?
Without knowing the specific details of what you're going through my general advice is always to recognise that the symptoms are in no way threatening. They can't harm you and you won't go mad or damage your mind by experiencing them.
The reason you have no distance between yourself and the symptoms is because something about them seems immediate and impossible to ignore. Your mind is putting them into high focus and ringing the alarm bell about them. The problem is not the DPDR symptoms, it's how alarmed you are becoming about them.
Accepting symptoms is not about accepting they will be here forever. It's about accepting they are here now. We can do that once we realise they pose no threat. Then this experience might still be unpleasant or undesirable, but it no longer scares us and therefore no longer engulfs us.
Sorry to hear what you are going through and I hope these thoughts help.
@@TimBoxMindCoach thanks a lot for helping me 💙💙🙏