+Super Librarian Followed closely by MYTH: The fact that you don't have kids/spouse yet is obviously a failing/bad choice on your part. (Like these choices do not involve at least one other human with a free will of their own.)
But like, what if you don't have the resources to get new education, and thus a new job and stuff. It's hard to believe your life doesn't get written in stone
+cybershockandifrit I thin the point is, no matter what, your resources are bound to change eventually, especially if you work at it. It sounds like it comes from an awfully privileged place but patience if possible is a very powerful thing. Best of luck with changing your situation
This is positive and reassuring, but a tiny note. While your life isn't set in stone, its kind of set in a non set cement because of money and lack of socioeconomic mobility. Hey I'm cheery.
My situation is pretty set. There's no way to get housing where I live at the moment and I need better housing in order to work more effectively, but I can't afford it, because I can't work effectively.
+Alderick van Klaveren That sounds like a super frustrating situation and I'm so sorry you're stuck in it! I very, very recently just got unstuck from a really similar situation that had me feeling totally trapped in the death spiral of hopelessness and all-consuming awful. One of the most important things that helped me keep moving even when I felt so trapped was just remembering that all things are temporary (I suspect you know this already, since you used the phrase "at the moment," which kind of emphasizes the impermanence of everything). Things are always changing and will always continue to do so. I hope change comes for you soon and that it all works out for the best!
+Rachael M Thank you. My dad just had to go to the emergency room. He hit a nurse and then he hit me. So it's good to read comments like this and remind me that the world is still an understanding place sometimes.
Scary adulthood thing that I'm kind of going through right now and is...probably not a myth (though admittedly I'm viewing it from a biased first-person perspective): it's hard to get a job that you're qualified to do while in a housing situation you can afford. So as a university graduate with zero experience, the jobs I'm actually qualified to do are...severely limited. And all I want is a couple of years' experience both to have a stronger application to start a PhD and also so that I can feel more comfortable and experienced with lab techniques. So moving out of my mother's home to get a very temporary job with low pay is not really feasible, but nothing relatively local (and I'm considering a maximum of 90 minutes travel time each way) seems to be appearing so... So yeah, unemployment is a terrifying non-myth about adulthood...but probably not permanent, you just need to broaden your horizon, think about different places to apply to and keep trying. Sooner or later one of the places you apply to will be happy to take in someone with no work experience.
Adulthood myth: In order to be a "real" adult, you have to give up everything that's fun, work a terrible job, complain about stuff, and completely give up on childhood dreams in order to make it in the "real" world. Also anything that expresses wonder or childlike engagement is absolutely taboo as a "real" adult because no one will take you seriously. (This one come from personal experience, from personal family members. :< )
I just found this channel today and I'm just binge watching. I'm turning 18 in a few months and have had extreme anxiety about a lot of things that are on this channel because my family isn't exactly qualified to teach me any of this stuff so thank u for easing my panic a bit lol
I thought when the kid said it wasn't wrapped in plastic that you were going to say that that's because the candy's wrapped in a blanket and spanked on the bottom.
Because I never found a career I felt I could reasonably do for a long period of time after graduation, I decided to choose one that I could somewhat enjoy until I found out what I really want to do that could 1) help me pay off my college debt after graduation and 2) support my efforts to go back to school part-time after paying off said debt. Making this decision has left me with a surprisingly positive outlook on the (possibly temporary) career path I have chosen and I've found myself enjoying my classes immensely. It is very true that you will not be doing the same thing forever!! My own parents have been through a few job transitions since they've had me, and they both have college degrees! The idea that life is set in stone is more terrifying than constant change.Thank you so much for addressing this!
hey howtoadult, could you do an episode on making huge scary life decisions? like picking a school (or to not go to school), moving somewhere far away, having a child, running away to sail the world, or anything else huge and risky like that?
Good video and quick wit. A+ I disagree with you on one item, though. Filing taxes is intentionally convoluted and dizzying for the purpose of not being understandable enough to question them. Ugh.
Thankyou guys - I needed to be reminded again at 38 ☺ I cope a lot of Bridget Jones like judgement dinners with family/friends... asking things like "So where's yooour boyfriend then?..."
you should make a video on stupid things that can lead to death, like everyone knows not to put your toaster in your bath, but I only just recently learned that you can die by drilling a hole in the wrong place of a wall or that you should't put a fork in a running toaster. Stuff like that. You know so we don't die doing dumb stuff like that.
Are you not allowed to cry to your mommy anymore? Obviously don't let them solve all your problems but talking to them during a hard time is okay right?
I did my taxes for the first time this year and apart from having to ask my parents what on earth some of the terms meant (ok, all of the terms) it was alright. A huge bonus is that I'm actually getting more in my tax return than what I actually paid in tax this year!! (It's because of the way I pay for heath insurance, I think.) Oh, but don't leave it to the second last day before the deadline like I did... that was a bad decision :P
I think it's super important to remember that you don't have to have an outstanding, super amazing life to have a fulfilling one. Let's face it, we all can't be leaders, and we all can't be extraordinary. Some of us are going to have to be average followers. But that's not to say you have an unfulfilled life. There's nothing wrong with being average.
+piratequeen94 I like the quote from The Fault in Our Stars when Augustus says in Hazel's eulogy, "Maybe she wasn't loved widely, but she was loved deeply."
I'd like a video on how to get out of debt and/or manage medical bills. Not sure if you've done one on this already and I'm watching the Financial Diet, but yea. Anyway, you're awesome! I definitely wanna put emphasis on the point of western culture and success. Once I got it out of my head that I don't NEED to be big or famous to be happy, I started enjoying the awesome successes in my own life more.
My question is who allowed me to adult? I literally ate a fruit roll up as my lunch at work today, I don't deserve this title and I would very much like to return it please.
I KNOW WHAT YOUR CATCH PHRASE SHOULD BE!!!!!! "Be kind. It's the adult thing to do." I certainly need a reminder of that every once in a while.
+Sciencenerd Uh. Whoa. I do not disagree. :]
- Mike
Myth: YOU MUST HAVE KIDS TO BE HAPPY!
EXACTLY!!
+Super Librarian Followed closely by MYTH: The fact that you don't have kids/spouse yet is obviously a failing/bad choice on your part. (Like these choices do not involve at least one other human with a free will of their own.)
I'm having a full blown laughing fit over that "the kids took my catch phrase" joke
Myth: Becoming an adult means putting aside childish things.
Not a myth by a long shot.
But like, what if you don't have the resources to get new education, and thus a new job and stuff. It's hard to believe your life doesn't get written in stone
+cybershockandifrit I thin the point is, no matter what, your resources are bound to change eventually, especially if you work at it. It sounds like it comes from an awfully privileged place but patience if possible is a very powerful thing. Best of luck with changing your situation
This is my new go-to video for when I'm feeling down. For some reason your energy in this video makes me happy.
The editing/humor in this episode was really engaging and cool! Keep it up guys :3
This is positive and reassuring, but a tiny note. While your life isn't set in stone, its kind of set in a non set cement because of money and lack of socioeconomic mobility. Hey I'm cheery.
Can you do a video on the importance of learning self-compassion, not just gaining self-esteem?
My situation is pretty set. There's no way to get housing where I live at the moment and I need better housing in order to work more effectively, but I can't afford it, because I can't work effectively.
+Alderick van Klaveren That sounds like a super frustrating situation and I'm so sorry you're stuck in it! I very, very recently just got unstuck from a really similar situation that had me feeling totally trapped in the death spiral of hopelessness and all-consuming awful. One of the most important things that helped me keep moving even when I felt so trapped was just remembering that all things are temporary (I suspect you know this already, since you used the phrase "at the moment," which kind of emphasizes the impermanence of everything). Things are always changing and will always continue to do so. I hope change comes for you soon and that it all works out for the best!
+Rachael M Thank you. My dad just had to go to the emergency room. He hit a nurse and then he hit me. So it's good to read comments like this and remind me that the world is still an understanding place sometimes.
Scary adulthood thing that I'm kind of going through right now and is...probably not a myth (though admittedly I'm viewing it from a biased first-person perspective): it's hard to get a job that you're qualified to do while in a housing situation you can afford. So as a university graduate with zero experience, the jobs I'm actually qualified to do are...severely limited. And all I want is a couple of years' experience both to have a stronger application to start a PhD and also so that I can feel more comfortable and experienced with lab techniques. So moving out of my mother's home to get a very temporary job with low pay is not really feasible, but nothing relatively local (and I'm considering a maximum of 90 minutes travel time each way) seems to be appearing so...
So yeah, unemployment is a terrifying non-myth about adulthood...but probably not permanent, you just need to broaden your horizon, think about different places to apply to and keep trying. Sooner or later one of the places you apply to will be happy to take in someone with no work experience.
Adulthood myth: In order to be a "real" adult, you have to give up everything that's fun, work a terrible job, complain about stuff, and completely give up on childhood dreams in order to make it in the "real" world. Also anything that expresses wonder or childlike engagement is absolutely taboo as a "real" adult because no one will take you seriously. (This one come from personal experience, from personal family members. :< )
"Be kind. It's the adult thing to do."
that should be the catch phrase
I just found this channel today and I'm just binge watching. I'm turning 18 in a few months and have had extreme anxiety about a lot of things that are on this channel because my family isn't exactly qualified to teach me any of this stuff so thank u for easing my panic a bit lol
Props to Mike for doing Grace Face at the end.
I thought when the kid said it wasn't wrapped in plastic that you were going to say that that's because the candy's wrapped in a blanket and spanked on the bottom.
Because I never found a career I felt I could reasonably do for a long period of time after graduation, I decided to choose one that I could somewhat enjoy until I found out what I really want to do that could 1) help me pay off my college debt after graduation and 2) support my efforts to go back to school part-time after paying off said debt. Making this decision has left me with a surprisingly positive outlook on the (possibly temporary) career path I have chosen and I've found myself enjoying my classes immensely. It is very true that you will not be doing the same thing forever!! My own parents have been through a few job transitions since they've had me, and they both have college degrees! The idea that life is set in stone is more terrifying than constant change.Thank you so much for addressing this!
hey howtoadult, could you do an episode on making huge scary life decisions? like picking a school (or to not go to school), moving somewhere far away, having a child, running away to sail the world, or anything else huge and risky like that?
Thank you for letting me know about Impostor Syndrome, I didn't realize how common these feelings were.
Good video and quick wit. A+ I disagree with you on one item, though. Filing taxes is intentionally convoluted and dizzying for the purpose of not being understandable enough to question them. Ugh.
This is awesome! Thank you!
But did you get a hoverboard?? #priorities
I got this off twitter but regarding one of those "Don't compare your behind the scenes to others' highlight reels."
Myth: You must have a big expensive wedding and diamond engagement ring.
I don't know what you were talking about at the end lol, but this was a nice (needed) video, thanks! :)
Everyone has insecurities, it's a part of human nature - even our best traits are founded on some more primal irrationality, which isn't a bad thing.
Thankyou guys - I needed to be reminded again at 38 ☺ I cope a lot of Bridget Jones like judgement dinners with family/friends... asking things like "So where's yooour boyfriend then?..."
Seriously needed this today. They told me not to major in English and I did it anyway. Where are all the jobs hiding.
18 years old is when the free trial of adulting starts and 21 years old is when the free trial ends and adulting officially starts
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. The first myth about organ donation is actually one that I had fallen for in the past!
Did the DeLorean have the original flux capacitor or the Mr. Fusion flux capacitor?
+ljmasternoob A very important question. :)
Ben Aaron These are the big questions.
you should make a video on stupid things that can lead to death, like everyone knows not to put your toaster in your bath, but I only just recently learned that you can die by drilling a hole in the wrong place of a wall or that you should't put a fork in a running toaster. Stuff like that. You know so we don't die doing dumb stuff like that.
I got one for you. texting while driving or cycling. it's the most idiotic and unnecessary way to die. except for perhaps drinking and driving.
This video was deliciously awkward.
Whatever that ending was... do it again! Hilarious hahah
I actually like doing taxes. I love filling out questionairs and stuff. Maybe I'm weird XD
Lol, this episode was awesome in more than one way!
What the hell was that ending and how did Emma not fall onto the camera's viewpoint laughing when you did it?!
Love the ending bit haha!
Myth #5 redux: Stop comparing their teaser trailer to your blooper reel. ;)
Nice Gussie Manlove screenshot. :)
+Caitlin O'Connell good catch !
Are you not allowed to cry to your mommy anymore? Obviously don't let them solve all your problems but talking to them during a hard time is okay right?
How many times did you fall out of your chair while doing takes for that "Back away, back away..." bit before you got it right? xD
I did my taxes for the first time this year and apart from having to ask my parents what on earth some of the terms meant (ok, all of the terms) it was alright. A huge bonus is that I'm actually getting more in my tax return than what I actually paid in tax this year!! (It's because of the way I pay for heath insurance, I think.) Oh, but don't leave it to the second last day before the deadline like I did... that was a bad decision :P
I think it's super important to remember that you don't have to have an outstanding, super amazing life to have a fulfilling one. Let's face it, we all can't be leaders, and we all can't be extraordinary. Some of us are going to have to be average followers. But that's not to say you have an unfulfilled life. There's nothing wrong with being average.
+piratequeen94 I like the quote from The Fault in Our Stars when Augustus says in Hazel's eulogy, "Maybe she wasn't loved widely, but she was loved deeply."
wolverinenerdfighter
Exactly. Average doesn't mean you don't have people who love and care about you.
Adulthood is a myth!
It's just an older, fatter, boringer, more stressful form of childhood!
I'd like a video on how to get out of debt and/or manage medical bills. Not sure if you've done one on this already and I'm watching the Financial Diet, but yea.
Anyway, you're awesome!
I definitely wanna put emphasis on the point of western culture and success. Once I got it out of my head that I don't NEED to be big or famous to be happy, I started enjoying the awesome successes in my own life more.
Y'all are awesome! That's all.
I feel like this could of been a podcast!
same glasses as link from gmm haha
My question is who allowed me to adult? I literally ate a fruit roll up as my lunch at work today, I don't deserve this title and I would very much like to return it please.
Mike I like ur warby Parker glasses
here is a myth , the older you get the harder for you to get along with new technology ..
not so much a myth as a topic suggestion: how to be sick as an adult
Don't take this badly Mike, but it looks like you're going a bit gray.
+mustardsfire22 RIP, my dream of being a teenage pop sensation. :(
- Mike
+How to Adult break the stereotype! Grey haired pop stars FTW!
+How to Adult you can still be a Kpop star!
+mustardsfire22 Theory: Mike is our universe's version of Mr. Fantastic!
~ TDG
TheDanishGuyReviews I like this!
Lol!
Myth: life gets worse after high-school.