How to Embrace Single Life w/ Intention & Get the Most Out of The Wait

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  • @marvinandjosh1
    @marvinandjosh1 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    One more thing: what I absolutely admire about you is how you are LIVING while being single. I love how you go on vacations by yourself, take yourself to dinner, bought a house, take yourself on dates, etc. Life does NOT have to be put on hold while you wait. He wants you to live life abundantly every single day, not just AFTER you're married. LIVE while you're single.

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yessssss !!! Thank you sis!!

  • @74molly
    @74molly ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wish you well in what you seek. You deserve it. I’ve dated guys in the past. And like many you think “this could be it” til it’s not. Now notice I didn’t say “ the one”. I’ve only had that feeling once. Anyway. I’m in my 40’s. Single, never married no kids. I’m good with that. Would I like to find someone “worthy”? You betcha! Not stressing on it either. As for the kids part. Never wanted any, but didn’t deal break someone with at least one or 2. I say all that to say. Also. Don’t limit yourself to one thing either if you understand what I mean. Some ladies put a shelf life on things. Why? Enjoy doing you, but still shop and look. Never know what you may find that’s put in front of you. MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY early New year everyone! It may start off rocky and unsteady. But we are claiming 2023 for a better time.❤

  • @rbgsista9236
    @rbgsista9236 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    There are a lot of black women who are single and use religion as a scapegoat. If you want it you have to go for it. It's just like saying I got cancer but I'm going to wait for God to get rid of it, God will do his part but you still have to do yours not sit and wait. If dating was easy, everyone would do it, if love was easy then everyone would have it. You have to put yourself out there but you have to do what's best for you. Wish you the best!

    • @Christine_
      @Christine_ ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I fully resonate with this comment. I was intentional and strategic when dating. It wasn't easy but "waiting on my husband" or "waiting for God to bring him to you" does not bring him to you. God will bring him to you but faith without works is what....dead.

    • @rbgsista9236
      @rbgsista9236 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Christine_ Amen!

  • @strictlystarlight
    @strictlystarlight ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for this! In my 30s. I cast this care on the Lord and am spending time with him, he never let's me down.

  • @Thentherewasbim
    @Thentherewasbim ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I find since I accepted my worth isn't tied to my relationship status. I'm no longer obsessed with finding a man. So may think I've given up and am using religion as an excuse to not be proactive. But after spending years running here and there trying to show I'm good enough / wifey material. The peace I now have really does pass all understanding. I don't want to lose that for anyone.
    "Live life at full throttle" - NappyFu

  • @vibing_with_tina
    @vibing_with_tina ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ma’m, I am blown away because why did my pastor this last Sunday touch on God giving us the desires of our heart? One of the things mentioned was the question of who or what do we worship and sometimes the things we worship can be obsessions. The pastor mentioned them in the past having this obsession with marriage until one day they let go and let God and at that point God provided. Hearing that sermon and then seeing this video is nothing but God. The devil has really been trying to bring me down with the idea that there is something wrong with me to have been recently dealing with yet another break up while friends around me are getting married and planning weddings. I am nearing 30 and this was never supposed to be part of my plan, but that’s the problem I had a plan but that wasn’t Gods plan. I know I am not the only one feeling this message, come on now! 👏🏾 🙌🏾

  • @sevenhunt3787
    @sevenhunt3787 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 60,and you Can Do Good By Yourself until God sends you a help mate ,Pray together, no sex that includes oral before marriage. Just start off being friends and respectful ,COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, and HEAR AND ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT YOU HEARD.Sometimes we hear but think differently then what they are saying very important. It's work learning each other.But you have to be honest with what you need from each other. I was married 40 years until his passing. And it was wonderful because I had a Mom who told me this and we did it.And as we grew older the respect we had for each other was needed. We went Dancing, concerts, movies we played dominoes etc.but we were able to do these things together because we were truly friends ,we put God first. And I know God wants you to enjoy life with a help mate Good clean fun ,it's the best.

  • @Vickiepickles1974
    @Vickiepickles1974 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think we need to be okay with being single as well. We need to be okay with being PERMANENTLY single. Not all of us will find a mate and not all of us are destined for it.

    • @bak3456
      @bak3456 ปีที่แล้ว

      But that’s sad and it’s ok to be sad about it

  • @KozyKetah
    @KozyKetah ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I absolutely needed to hear this. I'm a 34-year-old single woman and I didn't think I would be in the "single, no kids or marriage" situation (by society's standards) but patience is everything and in God's timing. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom ❤

  • @rosilandnorris8045
    @rosilandnorris8045 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Blessings to you Nappyfu.
    Thank you for these vlogmas as they are very inspiring. I’m a 54 year old widow who has been single and completely celibate for 7 years and counting purposefully!! Yes I want to date and be married again but in Gods way and in his timing.Being single has helped me tune in to not only Me and MYSELF but enhanced me in the Holy word and my personal relationship with God also tap into the Holy Spirit. It has always been there but when you have had distractions that are not of God it can make your mind cloudy and get you off course of what the Lord intends for you. That’s when the relationship with the Holy Spirit comes in and gives you the direction and discernment of helping steer you toward the right path. This/These videos have been divine inspiration and intervention. A sincere thank you.🙏🏽
    Praying for continued joy, faith,strength, love, light and peace in the Lord. 🙌🏾🙏🏽🤗😊❤

  • @tonjamanigo
    @tonjamanigo ปีที่แล้ว +4

    WELPPP!! I prayed for confirmation regarding whether I was being obedient to God and doing what he expects of me and this video is it. I had a long talk with God earlier this year regarding this very thing!! No more unintentional dating. If God doesn't send him, he ain't getting entertained. If he doesn't love God above all else he doesn't even get past an interview. God is not the author of confusion,so if my spiritual discernment isn't agreeing with someone, I am out. It's me and God in my season of singleness and I have more peace, more joy, more love in my heart than I've had in a long time and I love it. Thank you Lord. 🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @rakenyasiders5788
    @rakenyasiders5788 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm with you Sis! Thanks for being YOU! Great video. I'm in the 40's club; working on me while patiently waiting.

  • @cassieg.5444
    @cassieg.5444 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I like how transparent you are about being single in your thirties. I am in my late thirties single and childless as well. I like how you explain to use our time while being single to focus on God and will give your desires of our heart. I enjoy your vlogs as well. Keep up the good work and keep posting these vlogs.

    • @doreenakello-dora
      @doreenakello-dora ปีที่แล้ว

      @Cassie better that way than raising children all by your self

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sooooo much!! 😊😊😊

  • @je.mulannnn
    @je.mulannnn ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoy listening to you. Thank you for your honesty to share all that you do! I appreciate you.

  • @sashahemmingwayy
    @sashahemmingwayy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Why would I?” Real 😅

  • @PoundCakeDiva
    @PoundCakeDiva ปีที่แล้ว

    Serving others is soooo draining. It has been breaking me down for so long til now it has started to make me feel emotionally exhausted

  • @marvinandjosh1
    @marvinandjosh1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This message was absolutely awesome and I SO appreciate your transparency. I TOTALLY agree with you about not needing to 'test the car before you buy it'. God knows my sexual needs (I mean, if He knows how many hairs are on my head, he knows EVERYTHING about me!) so I depend on HIM to find the man that compliments me, even sexually. Being celibate in a world that glorifies sex can be a challenge but I believe there are men out there who want to glorify and honor God just as much as I do. This type of man may be rare but that's a good thing because it helps to 'thin out the herd' and remove men who shouldn't be in your life anyway.

  • @joycejones4855
    @joycejones4855 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I Agee with you 100% because that’s just what I did I’ve been married now for 21 years and it’s just like when we first met. You have to be patient and wait on God but while you’re waiting design your man or woman to God “now I’m not talking about the same sex marriage. Let God know everything that you’re looking for in him or her even down to our intimacy whereas your drive is High or Low God knows our desires be real with God. I guarantee you’ll know when God puts the right person in your pathway because you’re gonna find yourself saying like I did “ God is he the one? If so can I have him!” we’ve been married for 21 years I’m so happy and blessed. my low self esteem thought that I could only be with men who doesn’t love or care , who didn’t serve God that would put me down. Or because I have 3 children by different men. I was so desperate for marriage that I told myself I’ll marry as soon as he asks! When I jumped ahead of God all hell broke loose. I asked God to forgive me I should of waited. So I asked God to allow this marriage to end with a sincere heart. Things turned around for me so fast. Now I don’t believe in divorce at all because God don’t want us to marry than divorce and remarry especially if either spouse is not deceased I understand but I also don’t think God wants us to be miserable even for the “better or worse!” I really believe and know in my heart that only God allowed me to move forward. This time I prayed and waited on God. I’m married to a man who loves the lord excepted me for who I am without judging loves my sons which they truly love and respect him. Puts me first. Handsome good looking man which I never put that in my letter to God. Who helped me out of debt who put me in a home who drives me around like driving Mrs. Daisy. Been so many places on different islands and cruises never been to the beach until I met him and who sincerely loves me. Check this out when I was minding my own business not even thinking or looking. It was a rainy day I mean pouring down rain as I was heading across town to do the laundry something just told me to do laundry here which we all have our favorite laundromat . So I said ok I’ll go here this particular day no one was there but one gentleman, me and the attendant it was raining like no other. The three of us were talking and laughing I mean having good conversations. Next thing I knew the attendant said out of nowhere saying “ y’all two make a good couple! “ I Said “ girl I ain’t thinking about no man!” He looked at me and said “ we’ll I am taking applications!” I said no thank you! We all kept talking by now the rain has ended as he was leaving he wrote his name and number on paper and handed it to me. I took it and put it in my book right in front of him and kept on folding my clothes. “ Now when God works we just don’t know who he’ll use I never thought it’ll be at the laundromat is where I met him. “ girl I was looking a hot mess that day he saw me at my worst baggy sweat pants tee shirt with holes in it damaged permed hair that was uneven and broken off When God do things it’ll blow your mind. to make a long story short I waited 4 days to call something kept telling me to call. I called and hung up quickly and he calls back we talked for hours he invited me over 3 days later of our conversation for breakfast and “ oh my goodness what a breakfast spread I thought I was at a breakfast buffet. I was like I’ve never seen or perhaps experienced anything like this in my life I was so emotional inside that I couldn’t even eat. I stayed there for little while longer but nibbled of course. But when I got home I kept saying to God is he the one? It’s just to good to be true and that’s how we are when God blesses us we can’t seem to handle it or believe it kind of reminds me of T. D. Jakes book “ can you stand to be blessed!” The more I kept going around him the more I was liking him but what I loved the most of him he taught me how to love him don’t be so quick to share your goodies, get to know my likes and dislikes don’t rush love take our time and to hear him say meet me at church!” comes around my family and when God join us together it was truly him who I give praise too as for the attendant I ask her to be my maiden of honor “ gosh I better stop I feel a hallelujah coming on!
    I hope I’ve encouraged someone today as Nappyfu says “wait on God for your turn 🤗💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Absolutely love this! " There's more than one way to skin a cat " 😁
    Thank you so much for sharing this. I've felt the same conviction over the last couple of years and this is yet another confirmation that I'm on the right track.

  • @Tinesha7
    @Tinesha7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen to allllll of this!! Praying for you and my single daughters as well! Will be praying they also delight themselves in Yah as well, and myself too!

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for sharing how God gives us Grace in all areas when we ask for it. I really needed to hear that.
    The first year of stepping back from dating was rough but year 3 and I'm genuinely the happiest I've ever been. God really is faithful.
    Isaiah 60:22
    22 The least of you will become a thousand,
    the smallest a mighty nation.
    I am the Lord;
    in its time I will do this swiftly.”
    ❤️

  • @SheIsRoyalty1
    @SheIsRoyalty1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I needed thisssssss! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @shullamiteakua
    @shullamiteakua ปีที่แล้ว +1

    May God do much with little! God bless you Grace💕

  • @s.w.8074
    @s.w.8074 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes Ma'am! I'm so there too!!!

  • @AR-bo5ve
    @AR-bo5ve ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much, this video couldn't have come at a better time. It really spoke to me. God bless x

  • @bazagirl402
    @bazagirl402 ปีที่แล้ว

    Preach on my sister lol I agree with you. May the Lord helps us all be obedient to HIM 👍🏾

  • @diamondsintherough7829
    @diamondsintherough7829 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nappyfu, i hope that you find the man designed just for you. that loves you with an intense type of love that would seal a very tender love for Christ within you.

  • @kimberlywaters7473
    @kimberlywaters7473 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well said sis!

  • @JC-vk1ll
    @JC-vk1ll ปีที่แล้ว

    In full agreement. and I thank God for giving you his best.

  • @jenniferceballos5498
    @jenniferceballos5498 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Grace !!! 💜

  • @eyethumfazwe
    @eyethumfazwe ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm new to your channel. Your wisdom and personality made this video enjoyable. Thank you my sister for sharing.

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dating ... been there, done that. There's really nothing new I'm going to learn that I can't learn fully living the rest of my life and focusing on other platonic interactions.
    "Dating" at this point for me would just be a waste of time, energy and money. Like you, something deep inside me knows that anyone I date now won't be it. It simply isn't time as much as I would like it to be.

  • @paradiselivinginpurpose
    @paradiselivinginpurpose ปีที่แล้ว

    Girl you better PREACHHHHHH

  • @Rollinghard7
    @Rollinghard7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Preach it!!!

  • @savedbyGodsgraceinJesusChrist
    @savedbyGodsgraceinJesusChrist ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Grace, why is dis only three parts, Hah? 😁Is the next video going to be 2 hours?😁 I feel like, you are limiting the message you are delivering and sharing, my sistah. You just opened our appetites to dis word of encouragement and now it's only one more video.😁

  • @splinta24
    @splinta24 ปีที่แล้ว

    ...going to Maldives, because Grace says so lol!

  • @melvinagdavis6870
    @melvinagdavis6870 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I needed this!!

  • @MsHoneyFly11
    @MsHoneyFly11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I NEED that Coily Baddie sweatshirt in black

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว

      Say less sis, here you you go 🥰 ➡️thatnaplife.com/products/coily-baddie-sweatshirt

  • @union23mom
    @union23mom ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Allow God to use this waiting time to mature you spiritually. Once your husband and children come you have to carve out time for devotion. You will need to know how to pray for your bae and for your kids. Everything you’re going through is preparing you. Pray for your spouse and in God’s timing he will manifest.

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen!!! Thank you so much!!

  • @peh85
    @peh85 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen Amen Amen I needed this!!

  • @doreenakello-dora
    @doreenakello-dora ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is nothing wrong being single. If you rush it and get married to the wrong man you will regret it for the rest of your life. God answers in three ways yes, no or wait. The bible says those who wait on the lord will fly up with wings like eagles. Take your time . When the right time comes it will happen. Don't do what the world tells you to do. Because of getting married to the wrong partner the world has so many single mothers. Marriage ordained by God never breaks no matter what happens.

  • @mjohnson8206
    @mjohnson8206 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bae Bae keep doing what ya doin

  • @alleycatuniquebeauty4274
    @alleycatuniquebeauty4274 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen to that

  • @PrincessNayasha
    @PrincessNayasha ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this. Thank you

  • @courtneylynn4690
    @courtneylynn4690 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen!

  • @cilla4000
    @cilla4000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This my story

  • @fishnchips2423
    @fishnchips2423 ปีที่แล้ว

    In order to get a husband you have to date. Men don't just fall from the sky wedded to you. Said with all great respect to you. If you intentionally don't date then its obvious you will miss the person God has in place for you, if you haven't already.
    In other words, you're in water drowning and you pray for help. God sends someone to help you but you refuse because you are expecting some other type of help, and not the one in your face.
    When age takes over (sometimes) women then pretend they wanted to be single all along when in reality, date, and make it clear what you want in life, the other person will soon move on if that is not what they want. And always remember, don't play wife until you're married as one.
    Have an enjoyable weekend mate.

  • @Silkyslim48
    @Silkyslim48 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good video. ❤️

  • @michellemichelle3545
    @michellemichelle3545 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 51 and if I knew this in my thirties. Sis..................!!!!!!!

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว

      🥰🥰🥰

  • @Christine_
    @Christine_ ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a question if you desiring marriage and children and you mentioned things working "against" it. What types of thing are those? Do you believe that are thing about yourself that are working "against" it?

  • @Pele-m1e
    @Pele-m1e ปีที่แล้ว

  • @shullamiteakua
    @shullamiteakua ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wanted to do 20 at once but it wasn’t an option lol

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow thank you sis!! God bless you!!!

  • @sweetzCA
    @sweetzCA ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you're a woman in your 30s and 40s, single and never married, then that is a sign from the universe that there is a higher purpose for you. Go get that money, build empires, and make the changes that will be much more legendary than walking down an aisle. Christianity hinders us at times.

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well if you’re taking signs from the “universe” then maybe this is not the space for you.

    • @sweetzCA
      @sweetzCA ปีที่แล้ว

      @@86Kera why? Isn't this a natural hair channel? At least it was when I subscribed. I know for sure that I didn't subscribe to a Christian channel.. you can be Christian and make content for everyone or a specific niche, like natural hair, but I would never subscribed for Bible thumping.

  • @FH-wi6ek
    @FH-wi6ek ปีที่แล้ว

    Hahahha you do not look happy. Seems like you are trying to convince yourself. Also why you alone? You that and of a person??

  • @Juggboy621
    @Juggboy621 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YOU GAINED A NEW SUB CUTIE 🫶🏾hope you see this

    • @NappyFu
      @NappyFu  ปีที่แล้ว

      Awww thank you JuggboyE!!! 🥰🥰🥰

    • @Juggboy621
      @Juggboy621 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NappyFu do you have Instagram by any chance you a know it’s me following you