Been struggling today until now. Things are shifting and that is good. I no longer hate the narcissist, no longer obsess about what she is doing or did.........because it’s really all about me and my inner self. When I can take care of and focus on my own self, feelings, pan, all that crazy obsession on her goes away and I am free from that. I like how focusing on myself makes the narcissist seem so much less important almost non-existent at times. I no longer have to work so hard to not react.
And remember that, just because you no longer get triggered, doesn't mean they won't call you 'triggered' with as much determination as before, if not more (in a further hope to trigger you... lol). Congratulations!
I was sick to my stomach and actually vomited then I took many breaths and calmed down. Then someone I had done no contact with came to my door. I answered and saw the sad face she made and I said no and closed the door. I was never able to do that before reading and watching your videos while in deep depression. I was very triggered for hours after that and finally my body relaxed and I had such an amazing day after that.
perfectly said...we need to focus on ourself more than trying to control what other people are or do. We need to learn how to be hole, integrated and happy just with ourselves, not relying on anyone else to provide what we need
Why do they have rages out of nowhere they are so cruel making themselves into the victim blaming you and having unpredictable and unprovoked rage that has nothing to do with the conversation. I cut theses people out of my life from now on.
Hi Melanie! You have been such a great comfort to me the past couple of months! Every day I watch several of your videos, and when I'm down I close my eyes and listen to your adorable Aussie accent and let you tell me how to get strong. I have done the 16-day program, your e-books, every video I can find, and I've come a long way already! Today I'm signing up for the Webinar and joining NARP so I can heal all the way through, just like you! I scarcely believe it's possible for me to succeed at this. I have so much damage for so many years. But I trust you, Mel. I believe in your integrity and personal passion for your work. If anybody can take my hand and escort me out of hell, it's you. I hope I'm not your worst one yet!! Hahaha you might be working with me til we are both old and grey, and Tiggy turns white! Thank you my heart friend.
Aww Wildrose, you are SO welcome sweetheart!! Haha you may be surprised at how quick life turns around for you!! and NARP is a lifelong membership so MTE will be there for you no matter how long it takes. Welcome to the Thriver Community xoxox
THANK YOU!! The timing on this was absolutely wonderful- I was sliding back into past resentment and thinking patterns regarding "my" narcissist and this video was just the thing I needed to remind me that I can raise my vibration and get on with my positive life for and by myself :)
Mel, I just love your videos they put everything into perspective. I now feel differently about my trauma and the person that caused it, I only feel sorry for where they are in their journey, caught in negativity and blame. I did attend your webinar and it brought me alot of deep routed believes/trauma that it made me cry but that was so liberating to remove and replace with light. I have a long way to go but you have been helped beyond measure by your kindness and truth. I see alot of what you talk about reflected in a spiritual way, which for me is about a higher self and 'trusting your gut'. You explain everything so clearly and succinctly. You are a blessing to the world and hope and feel I can get to where you are. Although I know that you say there will always be things we have to work through. I am excited. Thank you. Sending lots of love.
Out of all the Narcissistic Survivers videos I've seen...you're makes THE MOST SENSE out if what I dealt with growing up, how that affected me finding abusive and controlling boyfriends and friends. Recently I did a MAJOR cleaning out of people that created drama, only to find what you're describing is really the drama people are looking for control. I let them go and sometimes i feel lonely and wondered if I'm doing the right thing being alone. But what you said about "being our own source" I get that now, I can walk away from the drama and being mistreated and not feel empty and alone I feel empowered and taking charge of my life! Thank you for this video! I feel I'm on the right path now! Just found your channel and will subscribe😉
Hello Muze Rhythm, I am delighted you have found Thriver TV and enjoyed this episode. I would love to show you how to heal from the wounds of having a narcissistic family and how to truly self partner so you won't feel lonely and invite you to watch my free webinar, in which I take you through two healings for yourself. If you would like to do this here is the link www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings to you xoxox
Melanie, I really love you! What you are sharing is so personal. Having experiences with "narcissists" or energy vampires and this video in particular stands out to me. You are telling my story.....and the story of many people...thank you with all of my heart
Once again you nailed it!! We are capable of manifesting our future depending on what vibration we choose to live at. Don't only not hate the narcissist but don't hate anyone. Know what emotions are equated with low vibrations and learn to rise above them into the light. Our purpose on this earth is for one reason and one reason only, we are here to learn and manifest into the most pure being possible. We come from the light and we are its children, the elect of the living father and the sign of the father is agitation and rest. Agitation is meaning the challenges and struggles that come in our life and rest is meaning how do you deal with those agitations in a positive high vibration. Learn to love unconditionally and rise above negative vibrations and you will stop returning to earth because you will have learned the divine truth! Remember that your emotions create vibrations, what we call God(light energy) only understands high vibrations like LOVE, anything that is not a high vibration is opposite of God(dark). This is NOT an easy task because our spirit is carried around in this biological thing we call the human body and the human body is capable of overriding your connection with your inner spirit. I'm hoping I reach the level I seek this time around because there is so much more in the universe that I want to see and learn as a higher being.
Melanie Tonia Evans nice to see you , been hoovered but not really spent since Easter with kids but I am grey rocking and couch surfing lol. NARCISSIST should not be in care and control of children. Have a clandestine plan and am so in need of this message.
I don't either anymore, I'm immune to it...I know its their problem and not mine...I've become a teflon Don...thank goodness for bad experiences becoming blessings
Having gone through the both, the NARP and Empowered-Self Programs, I love that I can listen to these videos now and simply agree from a new and stronger place. I continue to gain in wisdom while agreeing from a grounded place, as opposed to showing up to these videos in total free fall, stuck in pattern, confused, lost from my true-self, and desperately seeking help! Hurray!!! I'm very happy in the recognition, the opportunity to come aware of real progress in myself. & BTW, I sure hope Abercrombie&Fitch are issuing royalty checks to you for the product placement and advertisement. If Melanie Tonia Evans is wearing Abercrombie this season... WELL, I want to be seen wearing Abercrombie too! ; )
Words can't express my gratitude to you MTE. I have followed your videos over the past few years for my healing. You have been a kind voice, with a strong guiding message, more times then I can count. Many videos I've watched more then once. Many Sat mornings and even more Sat nights, I've turned to your voice while staying in, purposely alone to grow and heal, for the the nurturing and guidance you deliver . It's like magic that your topics are always right where I need to be. Tonight is no different. I am not bothered by narcs anymore. I am not angry. I actually can be loving, for my benefit, vs hating over them. I am so happy and free and empowered. You gave me that. Thanks you so much. This video is perfect. Thank you Zach too!
Aww June, you are SO welcome Dear Lady. I am thrilled the topics are showing up for you just when you need them - I love it when that happens! And Kudos to you for healing and feeling empowered - keep thriving sweetheart and fly high in your Thriver wings. Love and blessings to you xoxox
Thank you. I love you ❤️ Same perspective. We are all broken from broken people. You're the only one responsible for your healing and future. We should stop judging 🥺
STOP HATING NARCISSISTS. Focus on your own wholeness. The whole trick is to get off the rescuer /victim / perpetrator triangle, also called the drama triangle.
This resonates with me 🌹. I used to have so much fear.. The fear is getting out as I have started loving Myself more.🙏. The anxiety and Panic is real. Thank You Melanie ❤️🙏🙏💞💞
I do feel my own POWER, yet i have not developed self confidence and TRUST IN MY SELF. Thank you for teaching& sharing, i am grateful to be learning i am ok to help my DAD in his last days or years from a place of wholeness. I am still being triggered, I AM DETERMINED TO BE A QUANTUMLY WHOLE, " So within, so without" GRATITUDE EXUDES MY BEAUTIFUL LIGHT BEINGS!!
MTE, I've been watching your videos for a few weeks and began NARP last night with the tips, meditations and part of MOD1. I attended the webinar this morning. I realized my partner is a narc one month ago. I have now switched to 90% focus on me, 10% focus on narc and narc research. We are still living together. I have been having severe panic attacks and flash backs for the past 2 weeks that immobilized me. Since yesterday, I have been able to go into my feelings (panic and fear) and relate them to beliefs given to me by my narc father (I am not worthy of love, independence or happiness). I was then able to comfort my child self, self soothe, self partner then release the pain. The panic attacks diminished almost immediately. My ex was an overt narc, and I had an emotional breakdown after that ended, so I have been through this before. I know I will be fine now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I love you dearly for what you have given me, and I am sending you and your team gratitude from the bottom of my heart. I am so excited about continuing on my journey with you and the recovery program. I am so relieved I got such quick results. For anyone looking for healing from this and need relief, listen to MTE. She knows what she is talking about. Just trust and follow what she says without thinking too much. xxx
Beloved Child I am so pleased you went inwards, surrendered to loving and healing yourself back to wholeness, and just started doing it. That is fabulous you have broken through. So much love and continued healing and blessings to you, and please know from the bottom of my heart how welcome you are! xooxox
My severely abusive dad was a Narcissist and later when my mum gained custody I believe she was dissociative with narc traits, especially with me. One or two friends want me back in their lives but I'm fearful about their ability to become vampires with me as I'm very codependant and usually listen well. So I'm taking my time with both of them.
Thank you for this after 2 months of no contact and I receive a message from him. I was tempted to send a nasty reply because he told me to move on and then how lonely he is now and had to adopt a "kitty". I was going to say how old is she? I figured I was too old for him since he is a year younger. Everything you share is so positive and healing. I'm just beginning to understand.
Melanie Tonia Evans I am having such a difficult day now. I want to move on but I have just begun .Still married to ex that I have k own since I was 17 years old. I have been so co dependent because I left my parents home to my alcoholic/narc and never had support to leave. Finally left 2 years ago .Went on a dating site and met a covert narc w/o realizing this until 2 months ago. Now I'm trying to heal from both men. You are so right in saying our source is higher power because I looked at narc as mine.
Melanie, after 5 years of not seeing my N,. I went through financial divorce proceedings for the duration of this time. N is now being deposed by my attorney and I have been asked to attend if I want to. I am terrified to see my N again and afraid of how it will trigger me. My life has become a nightmare since he deceived and discarded me as if I didn’t exist after many years together. Covert narcissist! The N stands as a monster in my mind. I’m not free, I know. The consequences and the ruins N left in my life are enormous. Thank you Melanie for all your great work ❤️
Hi Truth my heart goes out to you and it was the same for all of us, until we did the inner work of getting that trauma our of our bodies, and then there were no more triggers. That is my highest suggestion for you. Have you checked out my free webinar to learn how to achieve this: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoox
Melanie Tonia Evans thank you. I have the NARP and just started doing the modules again. It’s been hard keeping up with the time it takes to do them but I feel it’s a necessary work.... so God help me
I've heard Melanie reference narcissists as angels in disguise a couple of times now. After and during i suppose, the aftershock, the thing that pained me the most (not focusing on myself at all) was the reality that there was no intention to grow or heal from her trauma and that devastated me. That she would continue living life with so much pain and doing what she does and dishing that pain out and sucking people in and sucking them dry. I am thankful for the wake up call, very thankful for the opportunity to heal and be who I was meant to be.I don't know what this means I am holding on to that I need to release yet, but I don't want anyone walking around in pain and void of soul, I wonder if they are here to sort of be martyrs for the cause of growth and enlightenment that maybe their souls are somewhere safe? I find that thinking about this tends to lead me down a rabbit hole thats not super helpful to my healing right now as it triggers feeling of love for the person that doesn't exist, as the wound is very fresh. I don't hate her and never did, and don't think I could hate anyone. Though I still currently feel pain for her way of existing Just curious on thoughts
I saw this tonight and was just STRUCK by it completely. It doesn't change my course of outward action at all at this point but it just was extremely powerful in terms of my inner world. The only thing I would change or add to it is: When she says she relies on HERSELF as her source, I would say I will rely on GOD or that God is the creator and I align my will to his will for me. I believe we have an eternal CONNECTION with God and with all that is but would never place my egoic limited self identity on equal grounds with The Creator. Spirit is born of Spirt, so yes there is a connection that equalizes on the deepest level but not on the normal human level at all. I believe the Bible backs up exactly what she's talking about (except taking out the new age parts of "evolving" ourselves, reincarnation or trusting self above all. I would replace that with trusting God/Spirit above all). I am going to work on things from this point of view in my own life, healing, boundaries, and view of myself, ex, and others to the best of my ability. I will even pass this on to him (in case it miraculously clicks...but highly unlikely). Thank you for sharing this video with us... This was very moving for me tonight.
I wish I could say I dont have to deal with the narcissistic abuse anymore.. I am doing the work , letting go of past issues and until today I was excellent at grey rock . I have 3 months left on my lease in my apt ,and thought that it was over with my narc neighbor issues.. He died in January after 2 years of making my life a hell, but now his sister is taking over. Its harder to do this work while being triggered everyday like this. The sister just won't let up ,throwing up on my doorstep?Really?These people are sick !! If something doesn't break through soon ,I honestly don't know how much more I can take... Dark night of the soul huh?? Im seriously suffering here.. My parents were narcs and the good part is that this hell has forced me to awaken , and seek the truth. But this is pushing me to a breaking point today . I am continuing to release my issues, but one way or another this has to end soon ... I never could stand being bullied like this.😪😪
Melanie, thank you so much. I rarely smile now but I was smiling while I was watching this video. I am still living with a narc. Living with him, I became depressed and suicidal. I plan to live a solitary life and I'm trying to save money so I can do so. What do you think about living absolutely alone? Just me and my dog.
This was the most helpful speech of all. I have learned a lot about myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for talking about your own beautiful healing process. This has confirmed a few things about me and my own path. Namaste.
What I now realise what this is...and know what’s happened to me, I have a question. ? He is typical in every single way apart from regarding new love supply. He become incredibly vague he has no social media at all, so he isn’t going to rub her in my face so to speak. He has a reputation as a ‘player’ I was warned too 😔 but he treated me like a Queen and lead me on like a genius.
Hi Myra, Hun, this sounds pretty typical to me. The important thing is to honor your intuition. It is so hard to recover from the love bombing that is the narcissistic calling card. I'd love to help you with this- have you taken my free 16 Day course yet hun? www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox
And remember that, just because you no longer get triggered, doesn't mean they won't call you 'triggered' with as much determination as before, if not more (in a further hope to trigger you... lol).
fear = power. took it back, her approach not for me.. but there are some great coaches that I can relate to in the feed.. we are each different.. and in different places.. no judgements.
Hi. I do not want to go on the facebook page because of lack of privacy. I purchased to silver NARP program. I have a difficult time it seems generating a feeling from my body ~ I find its mostly my heart. I grew up with an N father and am beginning to connect the abusive patterns in my life. I am trying to break away from a N abusive relationship and am finding it really difficult. When I am doing the shifting I don’t get a specific event to let go of because there are so many of them. I feel so much pain but when I am shifting it seems feelings and faulty programs arise too. I wonder in Quantum healing will work for me because there is so much crap. If I keep working and shifting will I start to feel more connected to Source. I am probably going about this with my logical mind but I deeply and desperately desire healing and relief to continue my life. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Thank you
Hi Jennifer, I am happy to help. TH-cam is still very public. If you would like private support using the program you can use the NARP Community Forum which is a private resource of the NARP Gold program or you can email support@melanietoniaevans.com. My Support Team would be happy to assist you. Love and blessings xoxox
So will I become indifferent to the suffering on the Earth (children in war zones, hunger , poverty etc) because it doesn’t resonate vibrationally with me if I am completely healed? I’m confused. Empaths care. But if my wounds are healed, those issues aren’t my business and I will no longer resonate with suffering because it isn’t on the same vibration as me? Hunger, war, poverty isn’t my business or won’t bother me anymore because I am healed ? Confused because I don’t want to see anyone hurt or suffering. I realize I may well be powerless over it, but I do think love can heal even if my wounds no longer resonate with trauma or suffering. Or am I not understanding. Empaths Tap into collective pain because they don’t want anyone to hurt, they also tap into love and healing. I do understand how we are co creators and maybe feed the issues by feeling powerless of fearful. Or maybe as you say it’s addictive to tap into suffering and pain. Or rehashing what narcs have done. Sorry to ramble. Xox Thank you xox❤️
Absolutely not seoreh, we don't become indifferent, and rather than drowning in the suffering of it, we have a whole heap of available energy to be a pro-movement to lift consciousness, health, and suffering. That is hugely different from being 'indifferent'. That would be like saying I am indifferent to people suffering narcissistic abuse because I no longer feel the trauma of it in my body. What is our missions, passions and dharmas are SO. And we came to achieve them. Being derailed by the trauma of it does not allow us to do so ... Does this make sense? xoxoox
If I get to a point where I am no longer triggered by narcissist surely that means it is possible to have them in my life? Also I’m guessing it’s easy not to get triggered by narcissists when there is no love involved eg if it’s a family member or romantic partner?
Melanie. Have you ever heard of post traumatic growth? And what are your thoughts on it? Is that the basis for Quantum healing or something totally different?
Lotus M het is niet erg dat je moeite hebt met de Engelse taal,met name (zware) accenten. Zag je eerste opmerking (God bless) staan en een like hebben, dus zo ver niks aan de hand. Wellicht dat je binnen NL via "het verdwenen zelf" netwerk een goede coach kunt vinden om mee te sparren die je kunnen helpen met je herstel. Na narcistisch misbruik voel je je snel niet gehoord/voor de gek gehouden...ervaar je vaak de ene trigger na de andere. Weet dat dit komt omdat er met je bedrading geknoeid is door de narcist...en je jezelf moet resetten. Alle spam eruit en positieve data erin zetten 😉 je bent het meer dan waard!
I' m thinking about this word THRIVING and what it means.... and I don't find a German word for it. When you are lacking s word in your native language this could mean that you are also missing the concept behind this word... just Thinking 🤔😎
be very careful who you open up to about the abuse it could be another narc i made this mistaken when dealing with the criminal justice system i didnt now they are running the show
Narcissist are NOT on a Journey of Healing, they are on a journey of destruction, manipulation, and pain. Stop trying to bring sympathy for them thus causing many weak individuals to go back to their abusers. Unsubscribed.
Been struggling today until now. Things are shifting and that is good. I no longer hate the narcissist, no longer obsess about what she is doing or did.........because it’s really all about me and my inner self. When I can take care of and focus on my own self, feelings, pan, all that crazy obsession on her goes away and I am free from that. I like how focusing on myself makes the narcissist seem so much less important almost non-existent at times. I no longer have to work so hard to not react.
"I no longer need anyone in particular to be my source. I am that source...."
Thanks so much for your encouragement and reinforcement . Rising above narcissistic abuse is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
It's my absolute pleasure sweetheart. Keep thriving you are doing great! Love and blessings to you xoxox
And remember that, just because you no longer get triggered, doesn't mean they won't call you 'triggered' with as much determination as before, if not more (in a further hope to trigger you... lol). Congratulations!
You can’t depend on a narcissist at all. There is nothing there.
Nanny Tucker you know!
We don't realize that we have the power within us all the time.
I was sick to my stomach and actually vomited then I took many breaths and calmed down. Then someone I had done no contact with came to my door. I answered and saw the sad face she made and I said no and closed the door. I was never able to do that before reading and watching your videos while in deep depression. I was very triggered for hours after that and finally my body relaxed and I had such an amazing day after that.
I can’t believe I realized it and said no!!! 👏 for myself
perfectly said...we need to focus on ourself more than trying to control what other people are or do. We need to learn how to be hole, integrated and happy just with ourselves, not relying on anyone else to provide what we need
So true Irene Irene xoxox
Why do they have rages out of nowhere they are so cruel making themselves into the victim blaming you and having unpredictable and unprovoked rage that has nothing to do with the conversation. I cut theses people out of my life from now on.
Hi Sian, this is a long blog but covers everything sweetheart www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm I hope it helps. xoxox
Hi Melanie! You have been such a great comfort to me the past couple of months! Every day I watch several of your videos, and when I'm down I close my eyes and listen to your adorable Aussie accent and let you tell me how to get strong. I have done the 16-day program, your e-books, every video I can find, and I've come a long way already! Today I'm signing up for the Webinar and joining NARP so I can heal all the way through, just like you! I scarcely believe it's possible for me to succeed at this. I have so much damage for so many years. But I trust you, Mel. I believe in your integrity and personal passion for your work. If anybody can take my hand and escort me out of hell, it's you. I hope I'm not your worst one yet!! Hahaha you might be working with me til we are both old and grey, and Tiggy turns white! Thank you my heart friend.
Aww Wildrose, you are SO welcome sweetheart!! Haha you may be surprised at how quick life turns around for you!! and NARP is a lifelong membership so MTE will be there for you no matter how long it takes. Welcome to the Thriver Community xoxox
THANK YOU!! The timing on this was absolutely wonderful- I was sliding back into past resentment and thinking patterns regarding "my" narcissist and this video was just the thing I needed to remind me that I can raise my vibration and get on with my positive life for and by myself :)
You are very welcome. I'm so glad this resource came in time for you. Love and blessings xoxox
You're brilliant! I'm blessed to have found your material and your insight on healing from all trauma and NPD.
Mel, I just love your videos they put everything into perspective. I now feel differently about my trauma and the person that caused it, I only feel sorry for where they are in their journey, caught in negativity and blame. I did attend your webinar and it brought me alot of deep routed believes/trauma that it made me cry but that was so liberating to remove and replace with light. I have a long way to go but you have been helped beyond measure by your kindness and truth. I see alot of what you talk about reflected in a spiritual way, which for me is about a higher self and 'trusting your gut'. You explain everything so clearly and succinctly. You are a blessing to the world and hope and feel I can get to where you are. Although I know that you say there will always be things we have to work through. I am excited. Thank you. Sending lots of love.
Julie I am so pleased Dear Lady that my information has helped. I so want you to join me here sweetheart - you SO deserve it - we all do xoxox
Out of all the Narcissistic Survivers videos I've seen...you're makes THE MOST SENSE out if what I dealt with growing up, how that affected me finding abusive and controlling boyfriends and friends. Recently I did a MAJOR cleaning out of people that created drama, only to find what you're describing is really the drama people are looking for control. I let them go and sometimes i feel lonely and wondered if I'm doing the right thing being alone. But what you said about "being our own source" I get that now, I can walk away from the drama and being mistreated and not feel empty and alone I feel empowered and taking charge of my life! Thank you for this video! I feel I'm on the right path now! Just found your channel and will subscribe😉
Hello Muze Rhythm, I am delighted you have found Thriver TV and enjoyed this episode. I would love to show you how to heal from the wounds of having a narcissistic family and how to truly self partner so you won't feel lonely and invite you to watch my free webinar, in which I take you through two healings for yourself. If you would like to do this here is the link
www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings to you xoxox
Melanie, I really love you! What you are sharing is so personal. Having experiences with "narcissists" or energy vampires and this video in particular stands out to me. You are telling my story.....and the story of many people...thank you with all of my heart
Aww you are so welcome Nina, I am pleased this video resonated with you hun xoxox
Once again you nailed it!! We are capable of manifesting our future depending on what vibration we choose to live at. Don't only not hate the narcissist but don't hate anyone. Know what emotions are equated with low vibrations and learn to rise above them into the light. Our purpose on this earth is for one reason and one reason only, we are here to learn and manifest into the most pure being possible. We come from the light and we are its children, the elect of the living father and the sign of the father is agitation and rest. Agitation is meaning the challenges and struggles that come in our life and rest is meaning how do you deal with those agitations in a positive high vibration. Learn to love unconditionally and rise above negative vibrations and you will stop returning to earth because you will have learned the divine truth! Remember that your emotions create vibrations, what we call God(light energy) only understands high vibrations like LOVE, anything that is not a high vibration is opposite of God(dark). This is NOT an easy task because our spirit is carried around in this biological thing we call the human body and the human body is capable of overriding your connection with your inner spirit. I'm hoping I reach the level I seek this time around because there is so much more in the universe that I want to see and learn as a higher being.
Beautiful!! Love and blessings to you xoxox
Melanie Tonia Evans nice to see you , been hoovered but not really spent since Easter with kids but I am grey rocking and couch surfing lol. NARCISSIST should not be in care and control of children. Have a clandestine plan and am so in need of this message.
Melanie, what you've shared is quite phenomenal
In itself. Keep up the great work.
Sweet Mel u hav changed my life....I’m so grateful
Awww S P I am so pleased I could help xoxo
Your videos help me heal and fill myself with lighter energy.
Awesome J D I am delighted they resonate with you hun. Keep thriving xoxox
I don't either anymore, I'm immune to it...I know its their problem and not mine...I've become a teflon Don...thank goodness for bad experiences becoming blessings
Melanie you are so amazing! I listen to you everyday. Thank you!!!
It's my great pleasure. I'm so glad my videos help Yosmaira. Love and blessings xoxox
Having gone through the both, the NARP and Empowered-Self Programs, I love that I can listen to these videos now and simply agree from a new and stronger place. I continue to gain in wisdom while agreeing from a grounded place, as opposed to showing up to these videos in total free fall, stuck in pattern, confused, lost from my true-self, and desperately seeking help! Hurray!!! I'm very happy in the recognition, the opportunity to come aware of real progress in myself.
& BTW, I sure hope Abercrombie&Fitch are issuing royalty checks to you for the product placement and advertisement. If Melanie Tonia Evans is wearing Abercrombie this season... WELL, I want to be seen wearing Abercrombie too! ; )
As always... SO very helpful. Thank you
My pleasure as always Serena xoxox
Words can't express my gratitude to you MTE. I have followed your videos over the past few years for my healing. You have been a kind voice, with a strong guiding message, more times then I can count. Many videos I've watched more then once. Many Sat mornings and even more Sat nights, I've turned to your voice while staying in, purposely alone to grow and heal, for the the nurturing and guidance you deliver . It's like magic that your topics are always right where I need to be. Tonight is no different. I am not bothered by narcs anymore. I am not angry. I actually can be loving, for my benefit, vs hating over them. I am so happy and free and empowered. You gave me that. Thanks you so much. This video is perfect. Thank you Zach too!
Aww June, you are SO welcome Dear Lady. I am thrilled the topics are showing up for you just when you need them - I love it when that happens! And Kudos to you for healing and feeling empowered - keep thriving sweetheart and fly high in your Thriver wings. Love and blessings to you xoxox
Thank you!!!!
Thank you. I love you ❤️ Same perspective. We are all broken from broken people. You're the only one responsible for your healing and future. We should stop judging 🥺
Thank you, gosh I needed to hear this. I can spot narcissistic people and they still trigger me.
I love you Melanie. Thank you for everything
My pleasure Elyse Marie, love you too xoxox
STOP HATING NARCISSISTS. Focus on your own wholeness. The whole trick is to get off the rescuer /victim / perpetrator triangle, also called the drama triangle.
This resonates with me 🌹.
I used to have so much fear..
The fear is getting out as I have started loving Myself more.🙏.
The anxiety and Panic is real.
Thank You Melanie ❤️🙏🙏💞💞
I do feel my own POWER, yet i have not developed self confidence and TRUST IN MY SELF. Thank you for teaching& sharing, i am grateful to be learning i am ok to help my DAD in his last days or years from a place of wholeness. I am still being triggered, I AM DETERMINED TO BE A QUANTUMLY WHOLE, " So within, so without" GRATITUDE EXUDES MY BEAUTIFUL LIGHT BEINGS!!
MTE, I've been watching your videos for a few weeks and began NARP last night with the tips, meditations and part of MOD1. I attended the webinar this morning. I realized my partner is a narc one month ago. I have now switched to 90% focus on me, 10% focus on narc and narc research. We are still living together. I have been having severe panic attacks and flash backs for the past 2 weeks that immobilized me. Since yesterday, I have been able to go into my feelings (panic and fear) and relate them to beliefs given to me by my narc father (I am not worthy of love, independence or happiness). I was then able to comfort my child self, self soothe, self partner then release the pain. The panic attacks diminished almost immediately. My ex was an overt narc, and I had an emotional breakdown after that ended, so I have been through this before. I know I will be fine now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I love you dearly for what you have given me, and I am sending you and your team gratitude from the bottom of my heart. I am so excited about continuing on my journey with you and the recovery program. I am so relieved I got such quick results. For anyone looking for healing from this and need relief, listen to MTE. She knows what she is talking about. Just trust and follow what she says without thinking too much. xxx
Beloved Child I am so pleased you went inwards, surrendered to loving and healing yourself back to wholeness, and just started doing it. That is fabulous you have broken through. So much love and continued healing and blessings to you, and please know from the bottom of my heart how welcome you are! xooxox
This was a truly empowering video Melanie. Thank you so much 😘 You give hope to me & all others who are not where you are... yet!
i have a fear that I can’t support myself/survive on my own, which I now think was caused by narcissists
My severely abusive dad was a Narcissist and later when my mum gained custody I believe she was dissociative with narc traits, especially with me. One or two friends want me back in their lives but I'm fearful about their ability to become vampires with me as I'm very codependant and usually listen well. So I'm taking my time with both of them.
Thank you for this after 2 months of no contact and I receive a message from him. I was tempted to send a nasty reply because he told me to move on and then how lonely he is now and had to adopt a "kitty".
I was going to say how old is she?
I figured I was too old for him since he is a year younger.
Everything you share is so positive and healing. I'm just beginning to understand.
Hi Catherine, I am so glad my resources are helping. Love and blessings xoxox
Melanie Tonia Evans I am having such a difficult day now.
I want to move on but I have just begun .Still married to ex that I have k own since I was 17 years old. I have been so co dependent because I left my parents home to my alcoholic/narc and never had support to leave.
Finally left 2 years ago .Went on a dating site and met a covert narc w/o realizing this until 2 months ago.
Now I'm trying to heal from both men.
You are so right in saying our source is higher power because I looked at narc as mine.
So thankful Mel you are alive and thriving!
I most definitely am Rita! You are so welcome sweetheart xoxox
Melanie, after 5 years of not seeing my N,. I went through financial divorce proceedings for the duration of this time. N is now being deposed by my attorney and I have been asked to attend if I want to. I am terrified to see my N again and afraid of how it will trigger me. My life has become a nightmare since he deceived and discarded me as if I didn’t exist after many years together. Covert narcissist! The N stands as a monster in my mind. I’m not free, I know. The consequences and the ruins N left in my life are enormous. Thank you Melanie for all your great work ❤️
Hi Truth my heart goes out to you and it was the same for all of us, until we did the inner work of getting that trauma our of our bodies, and then there were no more triggers. That is my highest suggestion for you. Have you checked out my free webinar to learn how to achieve this: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoox
Melanie Tonia Evans thank you. I have the NARP and just started doing the modules again. It’s been hard keeping up with the time it takes to do them but I feel it’s a necessary work.... so God help me
I've heard Melanie reference narcissists as angels in disguise a couple of times now. After and during i suppose, the aftershock, the thing that pained me the most (not focusing on myself at all) was the reality that there was no intention to grow or heal from her trauma and that devastated me. That she would continue living life with so much pain and doing what she does and dishing that pain out and sucking people in and sucking them dry. I am thankful for the wake up call, very thankful for the opportunity to heal and be who I was meant to be.I don't know what this means I am holding on to that I need to release yet, but I don't want anyone walking around in pain and void of soul, I wonder if they are here to sort of be martyrs for the cause of growth and enlightenment that maybe their souls are somewhere safe? I find that thinking about this tends to lead me down a rabbit hole thats not super helpful to my healing right now as it triggers feeling of love for the person that doesn't exist, as the wound is very fresh. I don't hate her and never did, and don't think I could hate anyone. Though I still currently feel pain for her way of existing Just curious on thoughts
My power source is God 😊
Great points! I like the one about how you can't shut out everyone.
AWESOME!,! that's the answer...life changing !!!
Thank you Cassandra, I am pleased this resonated with you, keep thriving sweetheart xoxox
I saw this tonight and was just STRUCK by it completely. It doesn't change my course of outward action at all at this point but it just was extremely powerful in terms of my inner world.
The only thing I would change or add to it is: When she says she relies on HERSELF as her source, I would say I will rely on GOD or that God is the creator and I align my will to his will for me. I believe we have an eternal CONNECTION with God and with all that is but would never place my egoic limited self identity on equal grounds with The Creator. Spirit is born of Spirt, so yes there is a connection that equalizes on the deepest level but not on the normal human level at all.
I believe the Bible backs up exactly what she's talking about (except taking out the new age parts of "evolving" ourselves, reincarnation or trusting self above all. I would replace that with trusting God/Spirit above all).
I am going to work on things from this point of view in my own life, healing, boundaries, and view of myself, ex, and others to the best of my ability.
I will even pass this on to him (in case it miraculously clicks...but highly unlikely).
Thank you for sharing this video with us... This was very moving for me tonight.
Good stuff !! You tell the Truth
Dank u God bless you all
I wish I could say I dont have to deal with the narcissistic abuse anymore.. I am doing the work , letting go of past issues and until today I was excellent at grey rock . I have 3 months left on my lease in my apt ,and thought that it was over with my narc neighbor issues.. He died in January after 2 years of making my life a hell, but now his sister is taking over. Its harder to do this work while being triggered everyday like this. The sister just won't let up ,throwing up on my doorstep?Really?These people are sick !! If something doesn't break through soon ,I honestly don't know how much more I can take... Dark night of the soul huh?? Im seriously suffering here.. My parents were narcs and the good part is that this hell has forced me to awaken , and seek the truth. But this is pushing me to a breaking point today . I am continuing to release my issues, but one way or another this has to end soon ... I never could stand being bullied like this.😪😪
Melanie, thank you so much. I rarely smile now but I was smiling while I was watching this video. I am still living with a narc. Living with him, I became depressed and suicidal. I plan to live a solitary life and I'm trying to save money so I can do so. What do you think about living absolutely alone? Just me and my dog.
This was the most helpful speech of all. I have learned a lot about myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for talking about your own beautiful healing process. This has confirmed a few things about me and my own path. Namaste.
Dominique, you are very welcome and I m so pleased this helped. Thank you for you lovely words xxoox
I love you and your videos very powerful and inspirational
Thank you Lana, I"m so glad they help. Love and blessings xoxox
Love this video! Thank you! I hope I get to the place where you are.
My pleasure sweetheart. I'm so glad this helps. Love and blessings xoxox
What I now realise what this is...and know what’s happened to me, I have a question.
? He is typical in every single way apart from regarding new love supply.
He become incredibly vague he has no social media at all, so he isn’t going to rub her in my face so to speak.
He has a reputation as a ‘player’ I was warned too 😔 but he treated me like a Queen and lead me on like a genius.
Hi Myra, Hun, this sounds pretty typical to me. The important thing is to honor your intuition. It is so hard to recover from the love bombing that is the narcissistic calling card. I'd love to help you with this- have you taken my free 16 Day course yet hun? www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox
This is a great video 💕
Great video!!
And remember that, just because you no longer get triggered, doesn't mean they won't call you 'triggered' with as much determination as before, if not more (in a further hope to trigger you... lol).
Very good video 👍
fear = power. took it back, her approach not for me.. but there are some great coaches that I can relate to in the feed.. we are each different.. and in different places.. no judgements.
Confirmation helps with healing..
Thank you. ❤❤❤
My pleasure Lotus M xoxox
Wow this just happened to me today.
Like, like, a thousand times like💓
Hi.
I do not want to go on the facebook page because of lack of privacy. I purchased to silver NARP program. I have a difficult time it seems generating a feeling from my body ~ I find its mostly my heart. I grew up with an N father and am beginning to connect the abusive patterns in my life. I am trying to break away from a N abusive relationship and am finding it really difficult. When I am doing the shifting I don’t get a specific event to let go of because there are so many of them. I feel so much pain but when I am shifting it seems feelings and faulty programs arise too. I wonder in Quantum healing will work for me because there is so much crap. If I keep working and shifting will I start to feel more connected to Source. I am probably going about this with my logical mind but I deeply and desperately desire healing and relief to continue my life. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Thank you
Hi Jennifer,
I am happy to help. TH-cam is still very public. If you would like private support using the program you can use the NARP Community Forum which is a private resource of the NARP Gold program or you can email support@melanietoniaevans.com. My Support Team would be happy to assist you.
Love and blessings xoxox
So will I become indifferent to the suffering on the Earth (children in war zones, hunger , poverty etc) because it doesn’t resonate vibrationally with me if I am completely healed? I’m confused. Empaths care. But if my wounds are healed, those issues aren’t my business and I will no longer resonate with suffering because it isn’t on the same vibration as me? Hunger, war, poverty isn’t my business or won’t bother me anymore because I am healed ? Confused because I don’t want to see anyone hurt or suffering. I realize I may well be powerless over it, but I do think love can heal even if my wounds no longer resonate with trauma or suffering. Or am I not understanding. Empaths Tap into collective pain because they don’t want anyone to hurt, they also tap into love and healing. I do understand how we are co creators and maybe feed the issues by feeling powerless of fearful. Or maybe as you say it’s addictive to tap into suffering and pain. Or rehashing what narcs have done. Sorry to ramble. Xox Thank you xox❤️
Absolutely not seoreh, we don't become indifferent, and rather than drowning in the suffering of it, we have a whole heap of available energy to be a pro-movement to lift consciousness, health, and suffering. That is hugely different from being 'indifferent'. That would be like saying I am indifferent to people suffering narcissistic abuse because I no longer feel the trauma of it in my body. What is our missions, passions and dharmas are SO. And we came to achieve them. Being derailed by the trauma of it does not allow us to do so ... Does this make sense? xoxoox
Melanie Tonia Evans yes this makes a lot of sense! Thank you for taking the time to reply, many beautiful blessings
Awesome. Ty. :)
My pleasure Emmie xoxox
If I get to a point where I am no longer triggered by narcissist surely that means it is possible to have them in my life?
Also I’m guessing it’s easy not to get triggered by narcissists when there is no love involved eg if it’s a family member or romantic partner?
Melanie. Have you ever heard of post traumatic growth? And what are your thoughts on it? Is that the basis for Quantum healing or something totally different?
Thankyou somuch sweetie
Waarom is t gemarkeerd? Ik meen het wanneer ik zeg God bless.
because you know you have enough money to move if someone stalks you.
Andere mensen houden mij gewoon weg voor de gek. Ze spotten met me.
Lotus M het is niet erg dat je moeite hebt met de Engelse taal,met name (zware) accenten. Zag je eerste opmerking (God bless) staan en een like hebben, dus zo ver niks aan de hand. Wellicht dat je binnen NL via "het verdwenen zelf" netwerk een goede coach kunt vinden om mee te sparren die je kunnen helpen met je herstel. Na narcistisch misbruik voel je je snel niet gehoord/voor de gek gehouden...ervaar je vaak de ene trigger na de andere. Weet dat dit komt omdat er met je bedrading geknoeid is door de narcist...en je jezelf moet resetten. Alle spam eruit en positieve data erin zetten 😉 je bent het meer dan waard!
I' m thinking about this word THRIVING and what it means.... and I don't find a German word for it. When you are lacking s word in your native language this could mean that you are also missing the concept behind this word... just Thinking 🤔😎
be very careful who you open up to about the abuse
it could be another narc i made this mistaken when dealing with the criminal justice
system i didnt now they are running the show
Ik kan niet zo goed engels praten en versta ook niet zo goed
The narcissists told me 7 years good luck and 7 years bad luck
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Narcissist are NOT on a Journey of Healing, they are on a journey of destruction, manipulation, and pain. Stop trying to bring sympathy for them thus causing many weak individuals to go back to their abusers. Unsubscribed.