After watching that other video, I stopped saying "I'll stop after 5 minutes." Now I set the timer and say "when the timer goes off, I'll evaluate my gas tanks and continue working or stop depending on how I feel. Because I don't want to lie to myself by saying to stop after 5 minutes and then keep going. However, if I'm on a roll, I don't want to stop and break the momentum as it's so hard to get going again. (Plus I'm not very good at estimating how long something will take.)💖🌞🌵😷
I am currently still in Ground Hog Day and have been for years with no light at the end of the tunnel. I desperately need to understand why I cannot get out of bed and face the day. I literally don't see a soul as I live alone and have isolated myself to try and heal but I am somewhat comfortable knowing that nobody will disturb my existence. I am 70 years old and housebound due to various disabilities and constant pain. I have just found your channel and subscribed as you seem to cover and give good advice for people like me. Thank you so much I appreciate you.
As a huge introvert I have to say that in my opinion the isolating to heal thing doesn’t work because we are social creatures who need some form of social interaction to stay sane whether you like it or not. Giving into depressive self isolating tendencies is not going to help you heal. I wish this wasn’t true as I love to be alone lol but I think it is
I love how you say certain things are morally neutral, I'm pretty sure you mentioned that before, it's so easy to feel bad about things, we definitely need to remember that we should feel morally neutral about things too.
You always have such an innovative way of viewing psychology! I would’ve never thought of channeling empathy as a lead-in to motivation/joy. Thank you.
No. It’s not an inability to imagine how it feels when I do the things that I’m supposed to do. It’s that I don’t feel good after doing them. So I have to push myself through negative motivation, which is exhausting. It only gets harder every week. There is no light at the end of the tunnel.
Same. Feeling pleased or motivated is just not possible. They are just unavailable. I could save the world or a toaster, and they still would be. Things change, including how i feel, but at the end of it all, it is the same. A lackage of emotions. I no longer have desires or likes or dislikes.
Watched this 2 times....very helpful. I lost my husband last September and then my close brother 3 weeks later. Subsequent to taking care of my husband I had fractured two vertebrae in my low back and had surgery in November with a very slow recovery. Through all this grieving process I have had zero motivation and struggle doing even the basic activities of daily living. It is now been 4 months and I am seeking out ways to find some motivation even in small spurts like you suggest. Thank you eversomuch for your help. Ang in WA state.
Empathy is a value I have always took pride in holding so close to me, even when I am at my lowest and cannot care for myself I have always effortlessly been able to care for others and you being able to connect the two is so helpful for me, thank you so much.
Aha yep. I knew that I was struggling with the idea that there is something innately wrong with me. The idea that I believe I deserve to suffer wasn't something I considered but it makes so much sense in all of the contexts.
Definately an aha for me. GOD lead me to you I believe. I am right in the middle being stuck and feeling worthless. I've thought about suicide because I feel everyone would be better off if I was gone...and I'm tired.
When explaining my feelings of feeling unsafe, I could see the nurse thinking I was paranoid, until I explained that I have a stalker. So is it depression when you have a chronic disease that has no cure because they don't know what causes it and you have reason for emptiness and hopelessness? 💖🌞🌵😷
I'm wondering if the appearance of this video means you are feeling better? (I sure hope so! Because like you said in this video you don't deserve to suffer!) Sending lots of love 💖 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵. Take care of yourself and each other 😷.
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Did you have an "aha moment?"
Thank you for so clearly speaking to the shame many of us feel and explaining how depression interferes with our imagination! Giant AHA!
After watching that other video, I stopped saying "I'll stop after 5 minutes." Now I set the timer and say "when the timer goes off, I'll evaluate my gas tanks and continue working or stop depending on how I feel.
Because I don't want to lie to myself by saying to stop after 5 minutes and then keep going. However, if I'm on a roll, I don't want to stop and break the momentum as it's so hard to get going again. (Plus I'm not very good at estimating how long something will take.)💖🌞🌵😷
I am currently still in Ground Hog Day and have been for years with no light at the end of the tunnel. I desperately need to understand why I cannot get out of bed and face the day. I literally don't see a soul as I live alone and have isolated myself to try and heal but I am somewhat comfortable knowing that nobody will disturb my existence. I am 70 years old and housebound due to various disabilities and constant pain. I have just found your channel and subscribed as you seem to cover and give good advice for people like me. Thank you so much I appreciate you.
Big hugs 💖
I love you and God loves you more, I hope you have an amazing week and find peace and clarity-
As a huge introvert I have to say that in my opinion the isolating to heal thing doesn’t work because we are social creatures who need some form of social interaction to stay sane whether you like it or not. Giving into depressive self isolating tendencies is not going to help you heal. I wish this wasn’t true as I love to be alone lol but I think it is
I love how you say certain things are morally neutral, I'm pretty sure you mentioned that before, it's so easy to feel bad about things, we definitely need to remember that we should feel morally neutral about things too.
thank you for this video. i needed to hear the words, "you did not innately deserve to suffer." i really appreciate it.
Big hugs 💖
@@CassieWinter thank you
You always have such an innovative way of viewing psychology! I would’ve never thought of channeling empathy as a lead-in to motivation/joy. Thank you.
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No. It’s not an inability to imagine how it feels when I do the things that I’m supposed to do. It’s that I don’t feel good after doing them. So I have to push myself through negative motivation, which is exhausting. It only gets harder every week. There is no light at the end of the tunnel.
Same. Feeling pleased or motivated is just not possible. They are just unavailable. I could save the world or a toaster, and they still would be. Things change, including how i feel, but at the end of it all, it is the same. A lackage of emotions. I no longer have desires or likes or dislikes.
Sometimes I confuse depression with not feeling well. 💖🌞🌵😷
Same
Watched this 2 times....very helpful. I lost my husband last September and then my close brother 3 weeks later. Subsequent to taking care of my husband I had fractured two vertebrae in my low back and had surgery in November with a very slow recovery. Through all this grieving process I have had zero motivation and struggle doing even the basic activities of daily living. It is now been 4 months and I am seeking out ways to find some motivation even in small spurts like you suggest. Thank you eversomuch for your help.
Ang in WA state.
Empathy is a value I have always took pride in holding so close to me, even when I am at my lowest and cannot care for myself I have always effortlessly been able to care for others and you being able to connect the two is so helpful for me, thank you so much.
Thank you
Aha yep. I knew that I was struggling with the idea that there is something innately wrong with me. The idea that I believe I deserve to suffer wasn't something I considered but it makes so much sense in all of the contexts.
Big hugs 💖
I found self-doubt and feeling a sense of helplessness magnifies depression.
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OH MY GOD THANK YOU
Thank you for this information
Definately an aha for me. GOD lead me to you I believe. I am right in the middle being stuck and feeling worthless. I've thought about suicide because I feel everyone would be better off if I was gone...and I'm tired.
When explaining my feelings of feeling unsafe, I could see the nurse thinking I was paranoid, until I explained that I have a stalker.
So is it depression when you have a chronic disease that has no cure because they don't know what causes it and you have reason for emptiness and hopelessness? 💖🌞🌵😷
It can cause depression, yes. But it's always best to get evaluated by a professional if you're seeking to understand your mental health experience.
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I'm wondering if the appearance of this video means you are feeling better? (I sure hope so! Because like you said in this video you don't deserve to suffer!) Sending lots of love 💖 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵. Take care of yourself and each other 😷.
no theres nothing wrong with me but I am very damaged and people can sense that about me so they either try to manipulate me or they stay away.
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Ah Ha. Thank You
Aha !